Moved out and left my abusive partner for domestic violence today. The best 12 hours of work I did for myself in a long time. A state away and finally free. This song hits hard
Take care of yourself sweetie, where ever you are. You are Devine and deserve every bit of real happiness and love this world has to offer you just need to remind yourself of this everyday. ❤ sending you so much strength
I like how, at the end, the ribbon is broken but it’s still tied to her wrist. I think it means that she's free, but she still needs time fully cast off the marks of that relationship and heal.
More like the ribbon is her freedom, that men thought they could latch on to for their own dirty needs and use her! That ribbon is really pretty on her hands on the end! She had to unfortunately cut away, hide away, or pain a part of herself...just to get rid of those dirty people.. But now she's free, with her beautiful ribbon as a sign of bravery and beauty of the feminine returning! 🍉🕜💯
I’m kind of used to the fact that each new song you release ends up being the best song I have ever heard, but I am still astonished by how visually stunning these music videos are
this music video was actually artistically taken from the creator Marcy Dawns short film the ribbon, that she made in 2019, and she had gotten no credit for it
As an escapee of domestic violence, the progressively angrier “never making good on silent threats so that he knows that I have nothing” hits so hard. A little told side of domestic violence is when the victims are aware of the abuse, but they accept. I accepted the love that I thought I deserved because somehow his destruction looked beautiful. A cage can be pretty and binding handcuffs can feel comforting if you love the person holding the key.
This is a beautiful song. My father used to do this. It's strange how the men that do this never hit one of the two-by-four studs behind the drywall with their fists. They always magically miss They never break their hands or hurt themselves. They never hit anything really solid. It's always just an expression of rage to intimidate and instill fear and never actual rage. When I was little, like 5 or 6, my father would come home drunk and pick me up by my shirt and slam me into the wall at his face height and yell at me with the most angry mean face that I've ever seen to this day - I'm an old man, now. And, my head and sometimes my shoulders would leave a hole in the drywall. I remember being so happy to patch it - like a kid play learning a trade from their father so that they could be like them. But, now as an old man looking back, maybe it was more about covering up what happened. It happened until I was 16 and finally bigger and stronger than him and he was afraid of me hitting him back.
I'm glad you survived this. Please, remember to be kind to yourself. It never heals completely, having an abusive parent. But we can take care and keep watch so that we never become the slightest thing like them.
I may have already left this comment, but I want to point out how drastically different Paloma's tone is when she sings the chorus for the last time. I love how this demonstrates her gentle passivity turning into rage, and I have so much respect for this artist---for both her lyricism and her stance as a trans-inclusive feminist. ♥️
as someone who still flinches when someone yells or slams their hands on a desk too hard, every day is one step further away from him. this song will be coming with me for the rest of the journey.
This song is beautiful. Last year I finally cut off my father. The line “I tried all the parenting” hit really hard for me, because I did and it didn’t work. “Never making good on silent threats so I know that I have nothing” is so accurate. My father used to threaten to kill me constantly and I stayed because I thought he would hurt me or my siblings or himself. If anyone has a parent like mine, leave. they won’t love you because you take care of them. This song is amazing, thank you Paris Paloma.
The red ribbon made me thing immediately about the red string of fate from Asian folklore! “The Red Thread of Fate (Chinese: 姻緣紅線; pinyin: Yīnyuán hóngxiàn), also referred to as the Red Thread of Marriage, and other variants, is an East Asian belief originating from Chinese mythology.[1][2] It is commonly thought of as an invisible red cord around the finger of those that are destined to meet one another in a certain situation as they are "their one true love". The two people connected by the red thread are destined lovers, regardless of place, time, or circumstances. This magical cord may stretch or tangle, but never break. This myth is similar to the Western concept of soulmate or a destined partner.” This makes the severing of the ribbon so much deeper because not only is she choosing freedom but she’s deciding against faith and folklore that he IS NOT her soulmate. 💥 she chooses her own destiny.
I left my abusive ex 3 months ago and I finally feel free. He used to try and scare me by beating the walls and I used to stay up crying, promising myself I’d eventually leave. Eventually once he actually did hit me, I stole my cat and ran away, it was the scariest but most freeing moment of my life. Music gave me a lot of the strength I lost throughout that relationship until I was brave enough to leave. Thank you for the wonderful music paris, keep it up.
My Dearest, you have created another Anthem that rallies the Sisterhood to draw strength from within ourselves so that we may help others as we help ourselves rise from male dominated oppression. I have been waiting since 1972 for someone to take up the musical mantle after Helen Reddy (RIP) gave us I Am Woman. Fifty-one years is a lifetime, but the wait for you and others of your generation has been worth it. My simple “Thank-you.” does not seem enough when it sits here in one small post, but coupled with millions of other words of gratitude from millions of other women hopefully makes you feel how much your efforts mean to us. Thank-you. ❤
You know, mankind's closest relatives are the common chimpanzee & the pygmy chimpanzee, aka the bonobo. Common chimps are violent, patriarchal & heterosexual; in contrast, bonobo females are bisexual in practice, but they're really lesbians who only have transactional sex w/ males if another female isn't around. They only bond w/ females, & bc they only bond w/ females, bonobo culture is a matriarchy in which males have little power. Status among females is determined by a female bonobo's appeal to the alpha females. Bonobos have zero tolerance for male aggression, & if a male hits or tries to rape a female, all that she has to do is vocalize her distress, & the other females will come flying, gang up on the male, beat the hell out of him & drive him out of the troupe. They don't mess around, either; the females aren't killers, but they have been known to rip digits & even penises off of offending males. Bc they dominate the males so much as a result of their sexual attraction to each other, there is virtually no violence in bonobo culture, except w/ regard to taking care of business w/ aggressive males. No rape, murder or infanticide. In contrast, life for a female chimp is pure hell; the males physically abuse them, kill their infants to get them to go into heat & then rape them. Humans & common chimps do not properly express a gene that lowers male aggression; most bonobo males do. And in the only IQ competition between the species, the bonobos won, in part bc the male chimps couldn't stop fighting w/ each other long enough to accomplish the task at hand, & in part bc bonobos are super smart in add'n to being much more docile. Female bonobos spend the majority of their sex lives w/ other females, so their birth rate is much lower than that of common chimps; however, the rate of survival to adulthood is approx the same bc bonobo males don't kill offspring. How many children will not grow up bc of male violence in the Middle East & elsewhere? In many ways, the bonobos are culturally more civilized than humanity, & it seems that a Sapphic matriarchy is the key to world peace. Bonobos & common chimps share a common ancestral group that was cut in two by the Congo River, & the separate populations went their own way evolutionarily. Acc to scientists, a mutation occurred that resulted in a shift in bonobo female genitalia & they discovered that they were orgasmic w/ each other, but not w/ males, hence the reason for the tight female bonds that allow them to physically dominate males even though the average bonobo male is larger than the average bonobo female. (Common chimps are just apparently non-orgasmic, poor girls). The point to all of the foregoing is that I don't think that straight women are capable of throwing off the hetero yoke that men have on them. They're just not wired to bond sufficiently w/ other women to form a truly powerful sisterhood. I look at straight women as highly evolved female chimps & lesbians as highly evolved bonobos. Humans have the genes of a number of archaic homo species in their genomes, & I imagine that gay women reflect the genetic contribution of an extinct species that was organized along the female-dominated bonobo model as opposed to the common chimp patriarchal model. Thus, it seems to me that women are doomed to bitch about what assholes men are w/o being able to do much about it as long as they are so attracted to men that they will throw themselves under the bus to have them in their lives & drag other women w/ them.
I like how in this son your hair isn't tied up, like it was in your song "labor." You aren't restrained, in your natural state connecting to nature in a tranquil forest, finally at piece.
This masterpiece is the perfect breakup song. Because it does not feed into sadness, a hopeless gaze. But it pours power and assurance into every single one of us. "but he has nothing" Yes - You reap what you sow!
i dont know if this is intentional, but i like how the red ribbon is like a more commandeering version of the red string of fate, being used to trap and imprison instead of connect.
She is just such a delightful breath of fresh air on the music scene. She absolutely deserves wider popularity but for now Im enjoying being in this little club too.
I love how, if you don't look too closely at the video and don't listen too closely to the lyrics, this song + video actually seem quite idyllic, but its only when you look closely you see what's going on under the surface, just like with real abuse situations
I’ve never experienced abusive men in my life. I have an amazing husband that’s the complete opposite of this. But I cry listening to this. My heart hurts for women who have gone through this. Men have caused so much pain. I hate it.
There are some things that have happened in my life that I’ve never been able to describe in words, only feelings…but Paris always manages to scream the words for me. In her lyrics I hear everything I’ve always needed to hear, yet never been able to vocalize. Thank you for being a light in the darkest of places, Paris❤️
Just by seeing the 'walking up the stairs' I instantly had flashbacks. As a teenager, it was my cue to go into my room and be out of the way. My father would come back from work and spends hours and hours in his garage, drinking, and at 7-8pm when he would finally decide to come inside the house, he was ready to yell at everything and everyone. My mom tanking the worst of it. Gosh I hated this period of our lives.
Don't think anyone's mentioned this, but at around 2:32 (I think), the vocals in the background sound like you're listening to an argument in the next room over. I don't know if that's the intention, but it's wild how realistic it sounds if it was.
I know this song is about a relationship, but it makes me think of my abusive older brother. He used to hit the walls, and us, plus much worse. The tie is severed now that he died, but I still have the scars, both literally and mentally. This song makes me feel like maybe I can fully severe those ties someday.
LYRICS: He's punching walls again Cohesive arguments evade him Eggshell temperament No emotional regulation Hysterical baby, his gaze always evades me Doesn't know he is paving The road for my escape way every time I scratch another line I used to think of him a caring thing Knuckles on his drywall I've tried all of the parenting Descent into hysterically Rippin' into ribbons The things he knows he isn't And severing ties Funny rationality What would positions in power be? Led by feelings that seemingly change hourly I'm floored you ever got there And when he snaps out of it He drones in monotone, on a power trip With telltale blood still running in his coward lips From raising strokes that he hopes I'll cower in I used to think of him a caring thing Knuckles on his drywall I've tried all of the parenting Descent into hysterically Rippin' into ribbons The things he knows he isn't And severing ties Never making good on silent threats So that he knows that I have nothing Never making good on silent threats So that he knows that I have nothing Never making good on silent threats So that he knows that I have nothing Never making good on silent threats So that he knows that I have nothing Never making good on silent threats So that he knows that I have nothing Never making good on silent threats So that he knows that I have nothing Never making good on silent threats So that he knows that I have nothing Oh, but he has nothing I used to think of him a caring thing Knuckles on his drywall I've tried all of the parenting Descent into hysterically Rippin' into ribbons The things he knows he isn't And severing ties I'm severing ties Severing ties
Your music heals me. As someone who’s been in extremely toxic relationships with men that I know now to be disgusting human beings, this song is a war cry for me. No more abuse. Thank you for all these masterpieces
I have never heard someone put into song such a specific feeling. When you’ve been there it’s so raw and healing to listen to your music. Seriously, thank you.
my favourite artist of 2023! I’m obsessed with the imagery in this video. I love how powerful your lyrics are and your voice is beautiful. I NEED a full album.
Like how you can interpret the songs in different ways in lined with your own context... really allows the listeners to relate painfully yet therapeutically heard in some way
The celebration near the end expresses something I feel is distinctly feminine - the reclamation of power. You're gorgeous, your music is gorgeous and I am in awe 🥺❤️
The way that the lyrics land in this song are so clever and confident. The internal rhymes, the way they ebb and flow... they get so stuck in my head 😁
I’ve just heard the second verse!!! from raising strokes that he hopes I’ll cower in!!!! 😭 that has 4 different meanings to me. How do you understand how I feel after all the trauma I have gone through ❤ you are healing me thankyou xx
I'm OBSESSED and so grateful that you put your words to music. You give us power and you share the pain and touch every aching place inside. Thank you.
This is a beautiful song. I don't have enough words to describe the weight of your words, that feeling of catering to someone who would never do the same and lashes out. Beautiful heavy heartache filled with hope.
Ah, I see my divorce story is in song form now. Paris Paloma videos are like a step into another world. The lighting, the imagery, the ambience, the characters, all of it is cinematic in such a cool way while this incredible voice delivers cold as stone words and visceral descriptors. It's just amazing. So much talent here, and so much talent behind the scenes with these videos. Nicely done!
you are positively amazing! beautiful voice, brave and meaningful lyrics, superb videos! just found your music and i can't stop listening. thank you for your art!
the song is incredible and the video is so stunning!! all the movement (the dress!!), the still moments, the parallel shots, all the colours with the bright red ribbon 😍✨️ so good
Paris I love you with my whole heart 💔 Your music makes beautiful statements. Women I know are talking about you all over the world. You're different than most artists. You are not a one-hit wonder you're an every-hit wonder. Thank you I appreciate you so much you are a role model. I hope I can see you in concert one day!
every song you post is like youre in my head, i live with my abusive stepdad still and this is such a good song and really vibes well. he has punched too many holes in our walls.
For what it's worth, my family and I escaped my dad 7 years ago and have never been happier. He only didn't beat us because my mom cracked him over the back with a baseball bat the one time he tried. Hang in there, you'll find your way out. Make friends, you'll need them to help you get out when the time comes.
This song is an absolute masterpiece, I haven’t stopped listening to it since it came out. Everything you create is absolutely beautiful and so meaningful. Thank you! 💜
This is so beautifully done. She is such an amazing artist ❤️ I've been so excited for this to drop and woke up and listened to it right away. The way she tells stories with her music and videos evokes so much emotion. Touching on the things that all women can connect with and understand unfortunately.
Paris please read this! I love and I thank you for being alive. You stand up and let the world know the truth about life. You are my favorite artist! I want to go to your concert one day! You are an idol to me! ❤
Your music is just experimental enough for me to love it on the second listen. Like I always have to come to the realization I loved the song lmao. That just means it's not following the formula which I like.
I never thought I would find a song that perfectly describes my ex. Is it sad to admit that this song makes me cry, I wish I could have found this song sooner and I wish I had never met him maybe then I wouldn't feel so broken.
I cant tell you how gut wrenchingly painful and rage inducing it is to hear this song and want with every fiber of your being to scream this song until your vocals chords snap, but can’t because you live with an absolute man child you used to love, so you just sit there as he throws his temper tantrum with this blasting in your ears, screaming internally. I also can’t find words to say how much I love this song, and how freeing it is to have a song that expresses what I feel so well.
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Moved out and left my abusive partner for domestic violence today. The best 12 hours of work I did for myself in a long time. A state away and finally free. This song hits hard
Take care of yourself sweetie, where ever you are. You are Devine and deserve every bit of real happiness and love this world has to offer you just need to remind yourself of this everyday. ❤ sending you so much strength
you are strong, you are free ♥ all the best to you
I’m so glad to hear you made it out. I wish I all the best, and much happiness to come :)❤
I'm so proud of you!! I can't imagine how hard that was. Keep moving onwards and upwards. I wish good things your way and empowerment every day💜
YOU'RE FREE!!!!! Thats what matters. Clothes, jewelry, furniture all of that can be replaced. You escaped and I am SO proud of you.
“I’ve tried all the parenting”…..god that’s powerful
I like how, at the end, the ribbon is broken but it’s still tied to her wrist. I think it means that she's free, but she still needs time fully cast off the marks of that relationship and heal.
More like the ribbon is her freedom, that men thought they could latch on to for their own dirty needs and use her!
That ribbon is really pretty on her hands on the end!
She had to unfortunately cut away, hide away, or pain a part of herself...just to get rid of those dirty people..
But now she's free, with her beautiful ribbon as a sign of bravery and beauty of the feminine returning! 🍉🕜💯
I love her in the video though she’s always leading him by her ribbon. The ribbon was always hers. She was reclaiming it.
I’m kind of used to the fact that each new song you release ends up being the best song I have ever heard, but I am still astonished by how visually stunning these music videos are
Still doesnt understand how the channel isnt more popular when its this good and the song is used everywhere
this music video was actually artistically taken from the creator Marcy Dawns short film the ribbon, that she made in 2019, and she had gotten no credit for it
@@JeanetteDufrisne Is it available anywhere? I couldn’t find anything about it. Or do you know if the creators of this video had direct access to it?
@@JeanetteDufrisneim confused because the lyrics are synced perfectly?
i know right
As an escapee of domestic violence, the progressively angrier “never making good on silent threats so that he knows that I have nothing” hits so hard. A little told side of domestic violence is when the victims are aware of the abuse, but they accept. I accepted the love that I thought I deserved because somehow his destruction looked beautiful. A cage can be pretty and binding handcuffs can feel comforting if you love the person holding the key.
Ugh this comment 😭
Explained perfectly im in the same boat
You wrote at least one great lyric within just this one comment here! Hey how do I follow you?🎉
This is a beautiful song. My father used to do this. It's strange how the men that do this never hit one of the two-by-four studs behind the drywall with their fists. They always magically miss They never break their hands or hurt themselves. They never hit anything really solid. It's always just an expression of rage to intimidate and instill fear and never actual rage. When I was little, like 5 or 6, my father would come home drunk and pick me up by my shirt and slam me into the wall at his face height and yell at me with the most angry mean face that I've ever seen to this day - I'm an old man, now. And, my head and sometimes my shoulders would leave a hole in the drywall. I remember being so happy to patch it - like a kid play learning a trade from their father so that they could be like them. But, now as an old man looking back, maybe it was more about covering up what happened. It happened until I was 16 and finally bigger and stronger than him and he was afraid of me hitting him back.
I am sorry this happened to you. This was very beautifully written
In the end they always prove how weak they are....
I'm glad you survived this. Please, remember to be kind to yourself. It never heals completely, having an abusive parent. But we can take care and keep watch so that we never become the slightest thing like them.
❤
I may have already left this comment, but I want to point out how drastically different Paloma's tone is when she sings the chorus for the last time. I love how this demonstrates her gentle passivity turning into rage, and I have so much respect for this artist---for both her lyricism and her stance as a trans-inclusive feminist. ♥️
as someone who still flinches when someone yells or slams their hands on a desk too hard, every day is one step further away from him. this song will be coming with me for the rest of the journey.
You’re not alone in the journey 💕
This song is beautiful. Last year I finally cut off my father. The line “I tried all the parenting” hit really hard for me, because I did and it didn’t work. “Never making good on silent threats so I know that I have nothing” is so accurate. My father used to threaten to kill me constantly and I stayed because I thought he would hurt me or my siblings or himself. If anyone has a parent like mine, leave. they won’t love you because you take care of them. This song is amazing, thank you Paris Paloma.
Labour came out when I left my abuser. You always release a new song whenever I waver. Thank you. I left him and I am free
To all you fellow survivors, I love you all and I'm glad we made it.
anyone else has a feeling that the guy in her videos is the kindest, sweetest soul ever, playing the bad guy? :D
Probably 😂😅
The red ribbon made me thing immediately about the red string of fate from Asian folklore! “The Red Thread of Fate (Chinese: 姻緣紅線; pinyin: Yīnyuán hóngxiàn), also referred to as the Red Thread of Marriage, and other variants, is an East Asian belief originating from Chinese mythology.[1][2] It is commonly thought of as an invisible red cord around the finger of those that are destined to meet one another in a certain situation as they are "their one true love". The two people connected by the red thread are destined lovers, regardless of place, time, or circumstances. This magical cord may stretch or tangle, but never break. This myth is similar to the Western concept of soulmate or a destined partner.” This makes the severing of the ribbon so much deeper because not only is she choosing freedom but she’s deciding against faith and folklore that he IS NOT her soulmate. 💥 she chooses her own destiny.
I left my abusive ex 3 months ago and I finally feel free. He used to try and scare me by beating the walls and I used to stay up crying, promising myself I’d eventually leave. Eventually once he actually did hit me, I stole my cat and ran away, it was the scariest but most freeing moment of my life. Music gave me a lot of the strength I lost throughout that relationship until I was brave enough to leave.
Thank you for the wonderful music paris, keep it up.
Omg you are so strong !!
My Dearest, you have created another Anthem that rallies the Sisterhood to draw strength from within ourselves so that we may help others as we help ourselves rise from male dominated oppression. I have been waiting since 1972 for someone to take up the musical mantle after Helen Reddy (RIP) gave us I Am Woman. Fifty-one years is a lifetime, but the wait for you and others of your generation has been worth it. My simple “Thank-you.” does not seem enough when it sits here in one small post, but coupled with millions of other words of gratitude from millions of other women hopefully makes you feel how much your efforts mean to us.
Thank-you. ❤
You know, mankind's closest relatives are the common chimpanzee & the pygmy chimpanzee, aka the bonobo. Common chimps are violent, patriarchal & heterosexual; in contrast, bonobo females are bisexual in practice, but they're really lesbians who only have transactional sex w/ males if another female isn't around. They only bond w/ females, & bc they only bond w/ females, bonobo culture is a matriarchy in which males have little power. Status among females is determined by a female bonobo's appeal to the alpha females. Bonobos have zero tolerance for male aggression, & if a male hits or tries to rape a female, all that she has to do is vocalize her distress, & the other females will come flying, gang up on the male, beat the hell out of him & drive him out of the troupe. They don't mess around, either; the females aren't killers, but they have been known to rip digits & even penises off of offending males. Bc they dominate the males so much as a result of their sexual attraction to each other, there is virtually no violence in bonobo culture, except w/ regard to taking care of business w/ aggressive males. No rape, murder or infanticide. In contrast, life for a female chimp is pure hell; the males physically abuse them, kill their infants to get them to go into heat & then rape them. Humans & common chimps do not properly express a gene that lowers male aggression; most bonobo males do. And in the only IQ competition between the species, the bonobos won, in part bc the male chimps couldn't stop fighting w/ each other long enough to accomplish the task at hand, & in part bc bonobos are super smart in add'n to being much more docile. Female bonobos spend the majority of their sex lives w/ other females, so their birth rate is much lower than that of common chimps; however, the rate of survival to adulthood is approx the same bc bonobo males don't kill offspring. How many children will not grow up bc of male violence in the Middle East & elsewhere? In many ways, the bonobos are culturally more civilized than humanity, & it seems that a Sapphic matriarchy is the key to world peace. Bonobos & common chimps share a common ancestral group that was cut in two by the Congo River, & the separate populations went their own way evolutionarily. Acc to scientists, a mutation occurred that resulted in a shift in bonobo female genitalia & they discovered that they were orgasmic w/ each other, but not w/ males, hence the reason for the tight female bonds that allow them to physically dominate males even though the average bonobo male is larger than the average bonobo female. (Common chimps are just apparently non-orgasmic, poor girls). The point to all of the foregoing is that I don't think that straight women are capable of throwing off the hetero yoke that men have on them. They're just not wired to bond sufficiently w/ other women to form a truly powerful sisterhood. I look at straight women as highly evolved female chimps & lesbians as highly evolved bonobos. Humans have the genes of a number of archaic homo species in their genomes, & I imagine that gay women reflect the genetic contribution of an extinct species that was organized along the female-dominated bonobo model as opposed to the common chimp patriarchal model. Thus, it seems to me that women are doomed to bitch about what assholes men are w/o being able to do much about it as long as they are so attracted to men that they will throw themselves under the bus to have them in their lives & drag other women w/ them.
Your comment made me tear up. Thank you for fighting so gdamn hard for the following generations.
Thank you for being you.
the chills i got when i realized the beat was mimicking the punching sound. i’m obsessed with all your songs, you’re easily one of my favorite artists
Fuuuuuck....
OMG SAME I didn't realize it too! It makes so much sense now
I like how in this son your hair isn't tied up, like it was in your song "labor." You aren't restrained, in your natural state connecting to nature in a tranquil forest, finally at piece.
This masterpiece is the perfect breakup song. Because it does not feed into sadness, a hopeless gaze. But it pours power and assurance into every single one of us. "but he has nothing" Yes - You reap what you sow!
I just discovered this talented young woman 10 minutes ago and I think I'm already a fan for life.
For me it was yesterday! Definitely obsessed. She’s so young to write with so much insight and clarity. It’s amazing.
i dont know if this is intentional, but i like how the red ribbon is like a more commandeering version of the red string of fate, being used to trap and imprison instead of connect.
All your songs have a different vibe and they are so good. I feel like your music heals because it doesn't lie or butter up emotion. It's raw
She is just such a delightful breath of fresh air on the music scene. She absolutely deserves wider popularity but for now Im enjoying being in this little club too.
I love how, if you don't look too closely at the video and don't listen too closely to the lyrics, this song + video actually seem quite idyllic, but its only when you look closely you see what's going on under the surface, just like with real abuse situations
I’ve never experienced abusive men in my life. I have an amazing husband that’s the complete opposite of this. But I cry listening to this. My heart hurts for women who have gone through this. Men have caused so much pain. I hate it.
There are some things that have happened in my life that I’ve never been able to describe in words, only feelings…but Paris always manages to scream the words for me. In her lyrics I hear everything I’ve always needed to hear, yet never been able to vocalize. Thank you for being a light in the darkest of places, Paris❤️
“Poetry is the way we help give name to the nameless so it can be thought.”
-Audrey Lorde
this and Labour - my gosh
@@MsAuditiesfr. If loving someone is labour, m WALK TF AWAY
Just by seeing the 'walking up the stairs' I instantly had flashbacks. As a teenager, it was my cue to go into my room and be out of the way. My father would come back from work and spends hours and hours in his garage, drinking, and at 7-8pm when he would finally decide to come inside the house, he was ready to yell at everything and everyone. My mom tanking the worst of it. Gosh I hated this period of our lives.
Don't think anyone's mentioned this, but at around 2:32 (I think), the vocals in the background sound like you're listening to an argument in the next room over. I don't know if that's the intention, but it's wild how realistic it sounds if it was.
The dread i feel when i hear his heavy footsteps coming up the steps at the beginning of the song is palpable
I know this song is about a relationship, but it makes me think of my abusive older brother. He used to hit the walls, and us, plus much worse. The tie is severed now that he died, but I still have the scars, both literally and mentally. This song makes me feel like maybe I can fully severe those ties someday.
To witness the songs of this generation being dropped in real time is a fucking privilege. Praise be to Paris Paloma from all of the gods
This song rips my heart out. From the very fist line I could have written myself about my own marriage. Can't hear it without bawling.
LYRICS:
He's punching walls again
Cohesive arguments evade him
Eggshell temperament
No emotional regulation
Hysterical baby, his gaze always evades me
Doesn't know he is paving
The road for my escape way every time
I scratch another line
I used to think of him a caring thing
Knuckles on his drywall
I've tried all of the parenting
Descent into hysterically
Rippin' into ribbons
The things he knows he isn't
And severing ties
Funny rationality
What would positions in power be?
Led by feelings that seemingly change hourly
I'm floored you ever got there
And when he snaps out of it
He drones in monotone, on a power trip
With telltale blood still running in his coward lips
From raising strokes that he hopes I'll cower in
I used to think of him a caring thing
Knuckles on his drywall
I've tried all of the parenting
Descent into hysterically
Rippin' into ribbons
The things he knows he isn't
And severing ties
Never making good on silent threats
So that he knows that I have nothing
Never making good on silent threats
So that he knows that I have nothing
Never making good on silent threats
So that he knows that I have nothing
Never making good on silent threats
So that he knows that I have nothing
Never making good on silent threats
So that he knows that I have nothing
Never making good on silent threats
So that he knows that I have nothing
Never making good on silent threats
So that he knows that I have nothing
Oh, but he has nothing
I used to think of him a caring thing
Knuckles on his drywall
I've tried all of the parenting
Descent into hysterically
Rippin' into ribbons
The things he knows he isn't
And severing ties
I'm severing ties
Severing ties
Your music heals me. As someone who’s been in extremely toxic relationships with men that I know now to be disgusting human beings, this song is a war cry for me. No more abuse. Thank you for all these masterpieces
Subjective, but every one has their experience
I have never heard someone put into song such a specific feeling. When you’ve been there it’s so raw and healing to listen to your music. Seriously, thank you.
"Never making good on silent threats so that he knows that I have nothing"
Chills
my favourite artist of 2023! I’m obsessed with the imagery in this video. I love how powerful your lyrics are and your voice is beautiful. I NEED a full album.
Yeah my favourite too but she has to share jointly with Ren and Chinchilla , so much good stuff out there
The video idea was actually taken from another creator, her name is Marcie Dawn and she hasn’t gotten any credit for it
As an adult, going through so much abuse from men, everything you put out is amazing.
Before she releases yet another music video we need to know where she gets her dresses. I'm obsessed. ❤
Like how you can interpret the songs in different ways in lined with your own context...
really allows the listeners to relate painfully yet therapeutically heard in some way
The joy and sorrow of this reality...
"Never making good on silent threats so that he knows that I have nothing. Oh but he has nothing!"
The celebration near the end expresses something I feel is distinctly feminine - the reclamation of power. You're gorgeous, your music is gorgeous and I am in awe 🥺❤️
Why are these songs all so hecking relatable...
I’ve already been singing what I know on repeat these last few days, can’t wait until it’s released!!
as a fellow drywall, i appreciate this message to save all drywalls from further damage
My front tooth was the last thing he ever broke- I let him pay to fix it, and the next day I was GONE...
i just stopped crying after a parent fight, i dont know how i feel, but this song made me feel better.
The way that the lyrics land in this song are so clever and confident. The internal rhymes, the way they ebb and flow... they get so stuck in my head 😁
You are all loved. The end of the woods is near. ❤
The hug from an unknown stranger. Makes it feel okay again. Thank you
This music video has healed something in me that I didn't realize needed healing. Thank you.
THIS!!! After soooooo many years, I'm starting to feel like myself, a new enlightened version. 🙏🏻🖤
Paris’s music is so awesome. It’s raw, it gives the feeling of being in a wild forest or of Vikings, and the originality she has is beautiful.
Loving the Lewis Chessmen addition! Vibeeeyyyyyyy
Who else is so proud to be of the “ before 100k subscriber club”??
Ahh I’m so excited
Thank you. I saw myself in this video.
I’ve just heard the second verse!!! from raising strokes that he hopes I’ll cower in!!!! 😭 that has 4 different meanings to me. How do you understand how I feel after all the trauma I have gone through ❤ you are healing me thankyou xx
You are such a masterful poet. Your songs are hopeful, yet haunting. I've shown them to my mom and we are both obsessed.
I'm OBSESSED and so grateful that you put your words to music. You give us power and you share the pain and touch every aching place inside. Thank you.
I've left my abusive husband a week ago with the kids and this song has helped me so much through it all
This is a beautiful song. I don't have enough words to describe the weight of your words, that feeling of catering to someone who would never do the same and lashes out. Beautiful heavy heartache filled with hope.
Ah, I see my divorce story is in song form now.
Paris Paloma videos are like a step into another world. The lighting, the imagery, the ambience, the characters, all of it is cinematic in such a cool way while this incredible voice delivers cold as stone words and visceral descriptors. It's just amazing. So much talent here, and so much talent behind the scenes with these videos. Nicely done!
you are positively amazing! beautiful voice, brave and meaningful lyrics, superb videos! just found your music and i can't stop listening. thank you for your art!
this is the female gaze
I NEED you to collab with Aurora! That would be magical ❤
I know right 😩❤️🌹✨
I will one day come back to this comment and tell myself how proud I am of us for making it out.
This song is so beautiful, and feels so healing. I am severing ties, too.
the song's been stuck in my head since the first clip i saw of it. SO EXCITED
the song is incredible and the video is so stunning!! all the movement (the dress!!), the still moments, the parallel shots, all the colours with the bright red ribbon 😍✨️ so good
I have listened to this at least three times a day since it’s come out😭😭 I can’t get enough
Thank you for this. I’m still tethered to my abusive ex through our child. I’ll never fully sever ties but at least I’m not cowering anymore.
Right there with you momma :(
Paris I love you with my whole heart 💔 Your music makes beautiful statements. Women I know are talking about you all over the world. You're different than most artists. You are not a one-hit wonder you're an every-hit wonder. Thank you I appreciate you so much you are a role model. I hope I can see you in concert one day!
This song is so beautiful ❤ I particularly adore the line "Oh but he has nothing"
haven’t cried this hard in a long time
Genius and needed in this world. ❤
My feelings of excitement over this cannot be expressed with anything other than guttural screams
every song you post is like youre in my head, i live with my abusive stepdad still and this is such a good song and really vibes well. he has punched too many holes in our walls.
For what it's worth, my family and I escaped my dad 7 years ago and have never been happier. He only didn't beat us because my mom cracked him over the back with a baseball bat the one time he tried. Hang in there, you'll find your way out. Make friends, you'll need them to help you get out when the time comes.
Just AMAZING ❤ beautiful beautiful beautiful ❤
This song is an absolute masterpiece, I haven’t stopped listening to it since it came out. Everything you create is absolutely beautiful and so meaningful. Thank you! 💜
Step aside Labour, Yeti and As Good a Reason (for now😉). I've got a new addiction!!
I've tried all the parenting, cohesive arguments still evade him. I'm glad I left him. I was tired of his knuckles on our furniture.
This is so beautifully done. She is such an amazing artist ❤️ I've been so excited for this to drop and woke up and listened to it right away. The way she tells stories with her music and videos evokes so much emotion. Touching on the things that all women can connect with and understand unfortunately.
Every single shot in this music video is like a painting.
I'm in love with this actor 😍 Henry
This is art ❄️
I'm so fn in love with her songs
My jaw on the floor.
Paris please read this! I love and I thank you for being alive. You stand up and let the world know the truth about life. You are my favorite artist! I want to go to your concert one day! You are an idol to me! ❤
Your music is just experimental enough for me to love it on the second listen. Like I always have to come to the realization I loved the song lmao.
That just means it's not following the formula which I like.
you're so healing
Loving the similarity to Aurora's ethereal nature in the dancing ❤
absolutely gorgeous piece
I never thought I would find a song that perfectly describes my ex. Is it sad to admit that this song makes me cry, I wish I could have found this song sooner and I wish I had never met him maybe then I wouldn't feel so broken.
I cant tell you how gut wrenchingly painful and rage inducing it is to hear this song and want with every fiber of your being to scream this song until your vocals chords snap, but can’t because you live with an absolute man child you used to love, so you just sit there as he throws his temper tantrum with this blasting in your ears, screaming internally. I also can’t find words to say how much I love this song, and how freeing it is to have a song that expresses what I feel so well.
Already on my playlist listening to it 100s of timed
Out of the dark corners of the memories I’d wish to forget I scream THANK YOU. I am healing every time I feel your lyrics. ♥️
What lyricist this woman is🤍
Absolutely stunning song. Oh it just reminded me of me getting out of my past abusive relationship. Truly a liberation song.
Omg! She never disappoints
I will never tether myself to violence again