What Causes The Panic Attack Cycle 2/3 How to Stop Panic Attacks
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In this video you’re going to learn how to stop having panic attacks. You’ll learn what you’re doing that makes them come back. You’ll learn the difference between a trigger and the real cause of panic attacks. And then you’ll learn the 3 steps to stopping panic attacks from coming back.
But there is a straightforward process to stop recurring panic attacks. As Nick Wignall says “Once you understand what panic really is and how it works, it’s possible to completely free yourself from it.”
So let’s talk about what leads to panic attacks so we can understand how to stop them.
Because, you see, panic is all about feeling in danger when you’re actually safe. A panic attack is anxiety about anxiety, it’s a loop that feeds itself.
(1) A panic attack is often triggered by a physical sensation)- something like your heart pounding or your stomach feeling queasy. And this may have been triggered by a performance review at work or something that reminds you of your past. Trigger is any event or sensation or feeling that takes your anxiety up a bit. It’s anything that you/your body interpret as being dangerous.
Panic Attacks are different than anxiety attacks and you can learn how to stop them.
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Wow.
I have been having therapy sessions, but nobody has ever explained to me what exactly IS that is happening within me through all that process.
No matter how much people (including myself) tell me that it is okay to feel that way, I now understand where it all comes from, and how, which is crucial to me to accept it and work harder to get through it.
Thank you so much for explaining everything so thoroughly and for being so helpful. ☺🤗
Take care 🦋
That's awesome. Learning about the algorithms that our minds operate by is so helpful.
I'm just another faceless mook on the internet... BUT I've had "freak out moments" from time to time most of my life... Usually, it's for nearly stepping on a venomous snake, or over the prospect of getting into a fetid swimming pool after an alligator so the pool guy doesn't quit his job... or some other reason one would commonly ask "What the Hell am I doing???"
BUT we've always just called it a "freak out moment" because anxiety or a moment of outright and absolute terror is probably a reasonable response... SO when I get the occasionally irrational "freak out moment" we just let it pass and end up making a big joke of it... "Gnarth's having a freak out moment... nothing to get too excited about."
...AND I can laugh at it... I can laugh at myself. I've wondered what the hullabaloo has been about regarding panic attacks... AND from the sounds of the vid', I kinda get it. If you just don't work too hard at wrestling with it, it's not a big deal any more... It really CAN BE just a freak out moment... AND like everything else, once embraced as a temporary emotional turmoil, it'll go away all on its own.
That's not to discount or dismiss just how miserable it can be flailing about or screaming and crying or having a "shit-fit" as it were... I've not only had a variety of freak-out moments, but I've born witness to a few... the sweats, shakes... and all... It's just to suggest, that maybe it's okay to "freak out" occasionally... Let it pass and catch your breath... and as inconvenient as it might get, you CAN get back to your day approximately as normal.
I'd color it "self care"... for what it's worth. (...and feel free to take me with a grain of salt... of course...) ;o)
@Evan Hodge If/when I get them organized in a manner conducive to a written form, I will get into it... May need a co-writer to build and refine the thing to be more than a series of mostly me losing my f***ing mind on the page... as it were... and others seeming to poke fun...
Currently, I tend more to share them as I can best recollect in a more verbal anecdotal form... BUT it's a work in progress... AND I invite others to laugh at the mental imagery of me flailing and screaming like a little girl when I mistook a hummingbird for a giant wasp and nearly threw myself off a three-story scaffolding... or some other silliness I've gotten myself into with an inopportune "shit-fit"...
...AND I don't recommend "Flowery Hawaiian Shirts" on tall scaffolding in the springtime... at least not until the lady of the house has put out the damn hummingbird feeders.
Those little bastards get HANGRY! ;o)
Same here
I do x
does anybody else get an extreme tingling sensation when having a panic attack? it starts in my hands and ends making its way throughout my entire body to where i can't feel my face. like that feeling when your leg or arm falls asleep, but more intense.
I also get the tingling that starts from my hands.
Yes and I never started getting it until my more recent panic attacks. I start feeling the numbness and then I freak out which kickstarts the actual attack 🙃
Absolutely! There's hope to stop the cycle. I have had panic attacks for 35 years. And through reading and educating myself I have reached the other side of this. I am 59 years old now and very rarely have an attack. I learned how to break the cycle. It is possible.
Yes - and cold at finger ends and even the top of my head
Siii, lo tengo, llega a tal punto que no puedo mover mis brazos
Anyone else already feeling more calm knowing that whatever is in part 3 will be really helpful and reassuring!
I was expecting that in this video.
I was trying to figure out why I am feeling a little better after watching these and I believe it may be the sense of HOPE!
Yeah because this didn't tell me shit.
Wow Steve’s story sounds eerily similar to mine. I’ve had panic disorder and depression because of it for years. I’m working on trying not to fear the bodily sensations but man it’s hard. The heart racing and shortness of breath is the worst. For anyone out there afflicted with this… I WISH YOU PEACE STRENGTH CALM AND HUGS ❤️
I agree. I was meditating the other day and had a similar experience as Steve. I started having a panic attack. Felt the shortness of breath, rapid heart beat, all of it. I let myself feel like and kept telling myself it'll pass and when it passed I had a feeling of peace knowing I felt my way through it without judging it. Wishing you the best, keep at it and remember it's not actually dangerous. It's okay to feel uncomfortable right :)
Shortness of breath is the worst experience
@@cm16533 Thank you 😊
Yes it got to where I was obsessed for lack of a better word with my heart rate, pulse & sweating. It took me way too long to learn to manage it, especially when you have parents & people around you that don't understand what you're going through or can relate. You grow up not learning how to cope with stress & that you're just supposed to power through whatever's happening to & around you.
@@caroldowning7671 Ive been experiencing that as well, an obsessiveness over my heart rate, im sorry youre going through this!
Does anyone else end up in tears after each one ? It’s crazy because I never cry ever..but with panic attacks It gives me such a fright and I’m so angry it’s happening and I end up totally bawling at the end which makes this so much worse lol
Man same! I dont cry at all but this stuff has brought so much depression i cant help it
Same!! , i always say “why”? It’s so mentally and physically exhausting
Been struggling with panic attacks while driving, can’t even be at a red light without my chest pounding. I’ve lost job opportunities and don’t know how to make them stop. Was in therapy for 8 months and pretty much was told to “deep breathe”, it didn’t help. Waiting for your video next week so I can finally regain my life.
Thats when I get mine also.
You are not alone!
Not so much as deep breathing as slow breathing. Exhale longer than inhale. When u get a panic attack...if u can...move
Hi Thrifty, deep breathing is simply a coping mechanism.
You want an overcoming mechanism.
It’s called understanding.
This will set you free for life.
Right now you are living death instead of living life.
Reason is that the “panic” is controlling you.
It moves you to live a dead life.
All you need is to know who you are,
So that you can see who you are not ie. this “panic” person mess.
If I may ask, where do you think you got your identity from?
I have never related more!! Driving to work has been the hardest part of my day! Look up agoraphobia! It’s the feeling of being trapped and no way to escape! This is how I feel at red lights too!!!
When i had panic attacks one of the things that increased my anxiety is the fear of being mentally disturbed,i had no idea how common panic attacks are and that its just a flight or fight response.When i realized its natural it helped me a lot.
Yes!! I’m always scared that I’m going crazy and then that thought spirals
I'm almost in tears reading everyone's comments . Your truly are helping us understand what we are going through. This is helping so much thank you 😊
I have been binge watching your videos, and you are changing my life. I stopped two panic attacks today dead in their tracks. Truly thank you for what you are doing 💗
She is literally an angel 💜
Worst thing about panic attacks is how they spread from 1 or 2 events into every area of your life 😢
I've been having panic attacks since 2017. For 4 years I spent my days wondering how bad my eye prescription got this bad, not realizing it was derealization/derealization. It turned into panic disorder, I was having anxiety attacks all the time, it was like a diagram where it keeps spiking and ends with a panic attack, goes down and starts accelarating again to end with panic attack again. For 4 years I've lived like this. At one point, I was at such a low point that I wanted to die but I couldn't even do it, afraid that my lonely mother would be really sad. There is a difference between accidents or illnesses and a grim choice. You bring up a child, you spend sleepless nights to take care of them, you listen to their problems and you try to solve their problems, you watch them grow, you tell them that you love them... and then they end up killing themselves. Nothing you've ever said and done were enough to stop them from doing it. How could I do that to her? How could I find that right in me to do that to her? But I was so tired of everything that I wished I was right about having a heart attack instead of a panic attack. At least she could say "it was fate" if I really died of a heart attack. That thought made it seem like the only painless way to end all. And ironically, I stopped having panic attacks. Because I stopped being afraid of it, and welcomed it for I did not care about my life anymore. I did not care if I died, it would be even better that way, I thought. So it stopped. I haven't had any for a year now. If I ever feel like I'm gonna have an anxiety attack and presumeably a panic attack later, I just think it isn't the end of the world and it's not gonna kill me. Even if it does somehow (which is bs because panic attacks do not harm you), but even if it does somehow, I am still okay with that. We're all gonna die one day and I've been there before. I've looked at death in the face and found it more comfortable than the surge of terror and suffering we call life. Either way, it's okay. So I don't have panic attacks anymore and I'll live as long as I can within the boundaries of my nature. Don't worry and cry about everything, life is not worth shedding those tears.
Its true its only way , anxiety is fear , you put yourself in fear for everything , they want to be in anxiety Tv phone everything you see everyday Make Anxiety Disorder the sistem is to make you to be with anxiety
So relatable.. I recently started having these episodes of anxiety,it all started with me worrying excessively about my health every little sensation would terrify me and then I got to realize that it's my intrusive thinking and rumination causing me distress so with a lot of effort I slowly learnt how not to fear these sensations the thoughts and was better off the last few months though had some bad days..but was doing good. Recently few days back it started again and it got worse way too much like the moment I get reminded of the anxiety the panic I have another episode and this is exhausting I can feel even the slightest increase iny heart beat and leads me to checking my pulse etc..which again increases the panic do it's like getting caught up in a vicious cycle.. And we really can't tell if it's anxiety or a panic attack..
@@priyaghosh9940you described what I experience perfectly. How are you these days friend?
My anxiety has been super high the past 6 months or so. I had a bad panic attack at work and had the medics called. Really embarrassing. The point when you come out of it and know you caused such a ruckus is really shameful. I haven't had a big one since then, but lots of little episodes where I'm in control but feel like I'm about to lose it. Fun stuff, man. I've been self medicating which is not good, and feel like I'm just stuck in a cycle.
When I feel the anxiety coming on, I get terrified of having a panic attack, sometimes fear getting a stroke, then often dissociate to try to make it go away. If it happens too often, I burn out and fall into a deep depression. I would love to stop this cycle! Thank you for posting these videos to help the world. I am filled with so much gratitude that I have found your channel.
Same here
Yes!! I get this too and honestly the dissociating is terrifying I feel like there’s a dark for over my full body. I hope it feels better cause you’re not alone!
I've always had a lot of anxiety. Then I had my first panic attack while trying to fall asleep while anxious. It lasted ALL night. Then they just keep coming and coming... And now I fear going to bed. Every night another attack and I try fighting it and breathing deeply and "relaxing" to no avail. Now, I do have a Dr. appointment BUT.... Last night I turned on a guided sleep meditation and just allowed the panic to roll over me and consume me. Was finally able to fall asleep.
Amber , I get the same way sometimes . I have been on medication for 3 years now . And I still get them once and a while . Even with medication . So far this year alone I have had 3 . Not to bad . But not great either .
How are you know I am going through this now? What did you do to stop them?
Proud of you, suffering from this now and have been for a while not a nice feeling at all
With everything going on in this new world we live in, anxiety/panic/depression sufferers have taken a hit with their mental health. These videos help us SOOO MUCH. Thank you!
This was very interesting and very helpful. I have a chronic panic disorder and severe health anxiety so the cycle of panic and fear never truly goes away. I have a fear of heart attacks/strokes/clots etc so the symptoms of anxiety, which can be similar in a lot of cases, cause me to panic. Often. It's a nightmare inside my brain.
Shit … I definitely have this , been happening to me for past 3 months
Same here 😓✋
I am having this issue for the past 2.5 years. And struggling to go out this cycle😢
I've ALWAYS felt so strange that wherever I was looking for help (internet, doctors, psychologists) the advice was always to get my breathing in control by doing breathing exercises which was super weird for me because I always felt like they made me feel extra uncomfortable.
The last thing I wanted to do when I was having anxiety is focussing on my breathing. It made me go crazy.
Finally someone is explaining and making sense of this uncomfortable relationship that I had with breathing exercises. And honestly after all these years of professional help, this is the best advice I've ever heard.
It’s weird advise cause your breathing is part of the problem
I'm 100% with you. I try to control my breathing to make it stop which makes me panic more. I hope you are doing much better now.
Have you ever seen in movies when they breathe into a bag because they are anxious? I actually tried that and it helped- I realized I was hyperventilating- you can also do it with just your hands cupped over your mouth- you breathe in and out and it forces you to slow down your breathing. I am the same as you and have a really hard time focusing on my breathing because it can make me feel dizzy and woozy. Breathe out fully first and that can help.
ikr? when I tried to breathe deeply in the middle of panic attacks, I felt even more light headed and nearly fainted
So true. I thought i was only reacting like this. Every time i focus on my breathing, i start doing it mechanically rather than automatically and get a panic attack
I’ve been struggling with awful panic attacks for the past year or so, and everybody keeps telling me I’m overreacting or I just need to “take deep breaths” and “calm down”
It’s nice to feel validated in that advice never helping and actually making it worse
Thank you :D
Yea, no big deal. I had my first one at 50. Thought i was dying. Was going to end it all, but woke up the next morning.
Taking deep breaths and “calm down” has never in 4 years helped me. The facing it part and leaning into my anxiety when I feel it is the only thing that has worked so far just gotta keep practicing until I stop feeling scared of them
Hearing Steve's story has brought me to tears. I also grew up with a abusive alcoholic father. The saying "I'll give you something to cry about" is something my parents use to say to me as a child. I was a very sensitive kid growing up and I took whatever someone would say to me to heart. When I turned 18yrs old I turned to drinking just like my father to numb what I've been feeling my whole life. When I was 24 I was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer and my kidneys were failing, I was told that I might not make it thru treatment because my kidneys were failing and the size of the tumor. My cancer treatment was very traumatizing to me and I was devastated when I was told I would never be able to have my own children. Its been 10yrs since my diagnosis and I have been cancer free since . Now I suffer from extreme anxiety that I've had since childhood. I barely leave the house these day only to go to the doctor appointments. I recently started therapy to help me with my anxiety and heal from my childhood trauma. Sorry if my writing is all over the place, it's hard for me express myself especially in such a public way like youtube.
Don't be sorry for sharing your story.
I wish you good luck on your way.
im so proud of u for making it this far!
sending hugs 💕 I've been going through in the same situation as yours and it's really tough
You’re very strong for sharing this part of your life, many blessings and affection your way :)
You are loved and you deserve to enjoy your life, write down each night before going to sleep in a diary a few things you’re proud of you that day and what you’re greatful for . Really helps .
Tried to explain this cycle to my last psychologist. He freaked out and said my mind shouldn’t be responding to my bodily symptoms and wanted me to get an mri. Fair to say he was not helping the symptoms.
You are the ONLY therapist who has actually gotten to know me more than anyone without talking to me directly. I’m shocked to know all this information. Better than any medication I’ve been on. My panic disorder is exactly as you’re explaining. You have a gift. Can I sign a waitlist to be a patient of yours? It would be an honor to be treated by you. Your videos are so amazing I can’t imagine what actually working with you directly is like
I have been having panic attacks for over a 3 years and it really did affect my life in a bad way, I went to multiple doctors and none of them have ever told me to go and see a therapist because in my mind I thought I have a heart problem or a stomach problem. I wasted 3 years of my life because of this and now I'm looking for a good therapist to go to and end this misery.
I go through cycles. Some days are better. I had a recent increased in my meds. I try to learn something new every day.
Had a real time experience on shrooms where I had a panic attack, realized the cause, the source of it, and simultaneously how to control it. It was the most liberating experience I’ve ever had.
Psilocybin is an excellent teacher for some issues like this. I have wanted to try it for years with micro dosing to help reverse the habit. I'm so happy you have found peace
@@feralmagick7177 I agree I would obviously recommend taking things at your own pace, perhaps even going to a ceremony and do therapy. What helped me most during all the different experiences was flowing and just learning all about what flow really is. It just connected the dots in my head to realize you have to be willing to be fully accepting of everything before your mentality can change, or to “go with the flow”. It’s almost like a having to walk through hell to get to heaven type of thing.
I was invited to join my wife for a job interview over dinner (kinda odd, right, but I agreed to join). We were traveling in beautiful Utah, visiting this office, and we settled on a fairly big restaurant that evening for our meal. The table ended up being 6 people in total instead of just the 3 we had originally planned. We were seated in a booth, and I was on the far inside, pressed against the exterior window of the restaurant. The dinner was fairly awkward, and I felt increasing physical sensations welling up in my body as a panic attack began to set in. I suspect it was a fear of feeling trapped (both being blocked in by strangers in the booth and the entire situation itself). My hands started to tingle. My face felt flush. My gut CHURNED. I felt a dizziness set in that convinced me I was going to pass out at the table. I because to catastrophize these feelings, and their implications for my wife's job interview should it happen. I sat there as long as I could stand it, until I felt that I was on death's door itself and excused myself from the table. I rushed to the bathroom, desperate to regain my composure. When that didn't work, I stepped into the cold Utah air, and in 5 minutes, I felt like I was past the worst of it. I sat outside for 10 minutes, feeling like a miserable failure that couldn't just sit at a table for one meal without breaking down. To this day, when I begin to worry I might have a panic attack, I flash back to this dinner. It's amazing how it takes so little for our brains to convince us that we are in mortal danger, and for us to buy that lie, and begin the feedback loop that spirals us out of control.
All of this to say...I'm looking forward to part 3 =)
I totally relate and had nearly the same experience. Horrible and yes, help is on the way. Lets get to Part 3!
I had something similar, multiple times. Most of the times it happened in crowded shopping mall. Its one of the worst things I´ve experienced. One time, it happened to me in a car. My wife was taking me to a hospital and I jumped out of a car while car was still moving. I felt next to a road, I was paralyzed, couldnt move my body, I was in a total stone-like paralysis, couldnt breathe or feel my heart. I thought that I was dying, for real. I really though this was the end of me. My wife was holding my hand. I was looking at her and at the stars. Then ambulance arrived. I was having a panic attack, I was hyperventilating and it was the worst thing that happened to me in my life. My next panic attacks were not strong like this. Still awful, but this one was life changing. I died that night, and was rebirth again. I know how it shounds like, but its like it was for me.
Yep, can TOTALLY relate to your story. I still don't like crowded spaces or loud noisy places. I have gone for touch therapy (aka massages lol) that has helped with built up tension in my body. I also read my Bible and pray regularly. I often forego on outings or meetups when I feel like I just need some downtime to watch a movie, go for a walk, gardening, listen to music. But I still make some time to do fun things with friends.
Wow An explanation, powerful one on how the cycle only increases if you fight it
I read once with anxiety watch it and observe it like a chess game
Be the observer
You are filling out the picture and adding more insight on how to have mastery over this symptom
Thank you so much
I love this
I have never known this until after having watched this video. Whenever I feel a panic attack coming on I always think, "wait! Not now! Every is fine! You aren't actually in trouble! Nothings even happened yet!" And i continously try to convince myself that there's no reason to feel anxious because I've been told "its all in my head and you can control your own thoughts and feelings" so I try to keep my breathing steady and tell myself its all fine and it never works. I thought I was doing something wrong! Id be breaking down crying and having to tell people that I'm actually completely fine, I just can't stop myself from crying. And it's all because I feared my oncoming anxiety! I thought it was because I was afraid of people with authority telling me I was in trouble but this makes so much more sense when I look back at my panic attacks. They really come in full force when I start thinking "oh no, I'm about to have an panic attack and then I'm going to start crying uncontrollably and then they're going to think I'm unprofessional or a child and I won't be taken seriously ever again."
Edit: changed anxiety attack to panic attack (haven't gotten used to calling it by its correct terms yet)
i had my first non-weed induced panic attack on february 4th 2022. whenever i had a panic attack while i was high, it would freak me out even more because the derealization would set it. i would describe it as "realizing you're in a coma dream, but not being able to get out of it." which is terrifying. after the panic attack in february i was in a constant state of derealization, and then had the terrifying intrusive thought that nothing was real. that i was the only real thing/person in my life. after 2 1/2 months of being terrified of that thought, i started to get over it. and then another terrifying intrusive thought came in that complimented the previous one. now i am in a cycle of trying to convince myself that my life is real and everyone around me is real and it's so exhausting. i have a panic attack at least once a day and it's now may 1st.
therapy is expensive and i have no health insurance so i have to do all of this work on my own, but i am so ready to let this part of me go. i am tired of constantly being in battle with myself and i/m going to get through it. thank you for your videos and all of the information you are giving us for free. may the universe bless you with all of your wants and needs. thank you
I recently had my first episodes of panic attacks in my life and this video completely explained my panic attack experiences. I’ve been driving for years and never had any problem with driving. However, in the last few months since my first episodes of panic attack while driving, I’ve been having more panic attacks while driving, probably because I’d been trying to tell myself to calm down while driving, which inadvertently gave myself a panic attack. A panic attack itself isn’t dangerous but it feels dangerous when the panic attack comes while I’m driving though. How do I reverse this?
Why can’t I see the next video? The third part of this series?
Comes out next week
Yes. Panic attacks can be overcome with therapy.
This explanation made my cry with happiness at the recognition of that cycle within me.
I don't suffer from panic attacks, but I used to have episodes of "near-rage," (full on rage is a dissociative state where people aren't entirely aware of what they're doing, but I am aware) which for me begin with feelings of anxiety, sadness, and above all, shame and powerlessness. I don't put myself or anyone else in danger, but I emotionally beat myself into a pulp because I'm so angry at myself.
It's a vicious cycle like what you described for panic attacks, except that it's feelings of self-loathing that lead to shame, that lead to me wanting to destroy the source of my pain (which is me), but I can't destroy myself, so that's another failure that induces shame, which induces self-loathing, on and on until I'm exhausted.
I have learned in recent years that noticing the tell-tale thoughts and taking a time out or meditating is a huge help in stopping the cycle before it begins. Loving myself and letting go of small failures is also really important.
Thank you for all the insight and clarity you provide regarding mental health.
Worth pointing out (not to argue, btw... just to add) that anger and rage are "self preservation" emotional states, often brought about through some form of fear response... It can be filed under the "fight" part of "fight/flight/freeze" responses to threats... in the primordial evolution of our psychology.
I've been the blind rager. It's been years of useless advice about "time outs" and "counting exercises" until I was excellent at math, but still struggled to keep my temper under control when someone just casually "pushed my buttons"...
I'm in a better mental space, now... BUT it took longer than it should have, and it was more difficult that it should've been...
Now, I'm not going to suggest that you (or anyone else) is exactly like me. It's only that somewhere inside, there's a fear component... even just an insecurity... from whence the rage often comes. Exploring that might be helpful in resolving the weird and screwy Rubik's Cube that is our deeper inner selves and whatever it is we feel we have to protect so viciously as to turn into a "violent beast that feels cornered and must lash out"...
Anything you can do to build your self confidence (without straying too far into arrogance of course... lolz) can probably help... BUT specifically identifying and building around whatever nner fear/insecurity you might harbor will likely do the most actual good over the longer term...
AND yes, meditation is a fine thing. It can even help here... BUT it needs some direction to get at whatever innermost fear is spawning the rage... Whether you only meditate to make sense of it, or you find a meditation that faces it down and exercises it away... well... that's up to you. It might also help to get classes to remedy some "self preservation" concerns... Maybe someone worries about their ability to defend themselves, so Ju Jitsu or Boxing or Wrestling classes and practice would help... AND maybe the inner concern is ordinary survival, so classes that deal with the tricks and techniques for wilderness first aid or primitive fire making or bush craft skills can be a net gain...
My point is that fear is often about something of the "unknown" and education tends to be the remedy. Maybe this helps... Maybe it only helps someone. I can only hope to shorten someone's journey and maybe make it simpler and easier for them than it was for me... ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 I truly appreciate you sharing your experience and pointing out the contribution of fear and anxiety to rage or near rage episodes. I completely agree with you. For me, it came primarily from a fear of failure, as well as of abandonment and isolation (in addition to the shame/self-loathing thought pattern I described).
In examining how this all plays out inside my head--the characteristic patterns of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that spiral me into such a state of fear/anger--I've realized that these fears are irrational given my circumstances. I have no reason to fear failure, both because I'm confident in my abilities and because I've failed before and still ended up fine. I have no reason to fear abandonment nor isolation, because the people who love me will not leave me for no reason.
A book that really helped me work through these issues was "Rage" by Ronald Potter-Efron.
@@senseofmindshow Thanks... AND yeah, Potter-Efron's a pretty solid read. Among the more helpful books in my formative years (with occasional re-reads since) was "A Book of Five Rings" by Miyamoto Musashi, wherein he says, "All things are difficult in the beginning." (among other bits of wit and wisdom)
In any case, I'm glad we seem to have an accord. I was only adding a supplement to your original thoughts and experience. Hopefully this thread will help someone who might still need as they roam through the Comments... ;o)
YES! Adding an explanation is very helpful.
I literally come back to this video every time I start to feel some panic seeping in for me and this video reminds me what’s going on behind the scenes and I immediately feel better. This video and series are a gem. Thank you
This video is so helpful, this is the cycle I’m currently stuck in but didn’t fully understand why etc. makes so much sense now and can’t wait for pt 3!!
Why are the other 2 videos in the panic attack series hidden?
I started to laugh at my attacks and ask if that's all it got. From that moment it went less frequent and went away.
Putting it simply, your content and delivery are wonderful and trustworthy! Thank you for all your effort on our behalf.
this series has been so helpful. full blown panic episodes for the last 2-3 weeks, several a day. you explain them so that i uderstand what i am doing along with my brain. i feel so much better cause i understand the reason they happen. blessings.
I've learned more here than I have in over 10 years of psych care. I'm so happy I found this channel!
WOW it really felt like a real life therapy session watching your
video or even better ! U are here saving people's lives here from anxiety. Lots of love ❤❤❤
I'm working on diet and exercise. Been eating only whole foods this whole month and I feel so much better. Working out intensely and resting and recovering as needed. Thanks doc love you
I cant even begin to explain how much your videos have helped me in such little amount of time. Years and years of searching about mental health, seeking a healthier lifestyle for myself, and no other therapist have made me feel so safe and better, than you. And this aint even therapy, I know. But your videos are so educational, in such an empathic way, that I trully connect to them. Thank you sm ♥️
This 3 part series was awesome and never did I realize how many folks are affected by Panic or Anxiety and have had no one to explain as you have. Thank you 🙏 I’m a new subscriber and I identified myself with “Steve”. I accepted and embraced my “Panic Monster” and I became stronger, but it still lurks around every once in a while. This was an amazing explanation 🙏
Thank you immensely for this series. It's helping me a lot. Well wishes from Sweden!
This video feels like it’s been made for me! I’ve never been able to understand why I’m feeling all things I’m feeling before a panic attack! Thank you so much for educating us and making these videos ❤️❤️
100% correct. Deep breathing makes it much worse and dizzy.
Listening to you explain this I had a breakthrough moment of understanding. I’m going to start a new approach by saying “it’s ok to feel this”. Thank you so much 💜
Wow this hits at the core of the problem. Very helpful!
You just described 100% what i have been going through on a daily basis for 20 years, ive seen many professionals about it and this is the first time anyone has explained it accurately. Thank you.
This series of videos are helping me understand myself better and I can't be thankful enough
After 2 years of experience this I have finally found a video explaining exactly my problem!! Thank you so much!!
The way you describe sensations and processes is so easy to understand. This makes navigating the often times vague or confusing journey of healing so much more approachable. Thank you for keeping things so simple yet thorough.. and ACTIONABLE. You are an angel on earth. ((hugs)) 🙏💛
Omg this is exactly what I need. God bless you ❤️ when is the next video coming out?
Thank you for adressing the common misconceptions about "calming down." I know people mean well, but it always drives me nuts. Forcing myself to take deep breaths ALWAYS makes it worse.
Thank you so much for these videos. I first started having them as a teenager, and then the pandemic has made so much of my anxiety compound, causing a relapse. I woke up with a panic attack, and was having one on and off the whole day so I went to the hospital. My HR obviously was high, and since then my brain has associated medical environments and doctors with this danger response, and developed some pretty gnarly white coat. Now every time I go to the doctor my HR and BP are elevated, and I'm trying to break this cycle, because it causes such unnecessary stress that I didn't even have a year or so ago.
I have never had what I experience explaining so accurately. Even more accurately than my own interpretation of my relationship with anxiety and panic. Thank you ❤
I just want you to know what I positive impact you have made in my life. I attend therapy to work on personal issues (and I ADORE my therapist), but you have really helped me to understand general concepts related to mental health and the physical sensations that I experience from my emotions. Thank you.
everyone always just tells me to breathe and calm down and when that doesn’t work i think something actually bad is happening (like a heart attack) especially when my chest becomes tight. these videos have helped so much.
I resonate so well with Steve’s upbringing, and never heard it broken down like that! Thank you for this video ❤️
Had a panic attack a couple of hours ago and came to this series. I didnt realize it was new!! Can't wait for the next video. Thanks Emma.
I'm basically Steve. This is the first video I see explaining precisely what my mental conundrum is about! I can't wait for the third video. Thank you for your content!
Omg thank you. I relate to the bodily sensations part so much and I feel like nobody understands this very well. But for me it's not so much anxious about anxiety, it's more about anxious about something bad happening to me physically. IBS triggers anxiety in me instantaneously. Who wants to live with IBS? It's not pleasant and the anxiety that occurs with it is downright disruptive. It's hard to believe you're okay when your stomach is literally showing you that you're not. And also I get panic attacks from medications, I have medication phobia. If I can force myself to take a medicine, any funny feeling I get afterwards will trigger me. I've had bad experiences in the past that contributed to this fear so it doesn't feel totally unfounded but it is difficult to deal with, especially since the pandemic made it worse. I wonder if you could also explore panic attacks related to specific anxieties and not just being anxious about being anxious. The bodily sensations get me, idk.
Halfway through the video my face was soaked in tears. THank you so much !!
thankyou so much!!! I think your 3 part video single handly stop my panic attack cycle, I hope everything the best for you in this life. much love from Canada.
These videos have genuinely helped me… you have helped me so much you have no idea. Thank you so much
Such a wonderful woman she is! Thankful for Emma sharing her time with us. This is truely helpful.
One thing that kinda helps me a bit is telling myself that I have these feelings all the time, and I’m not dead yet. If it were a heart attack, I couldn’t make it go away by taking deep breaths.
I just can't express my gratitude for you and your content.Literally living with anxiety,thank you so much❤️❤️
I think everyone who experiences GAD/PD should have the opportunity to learn about CPTSD/Childhood Trauma and attachment theory/disorder. This really opened my mind to acceptance, which is an integral part of healing 🙏🏻
THANK YOU! You are the first person I have heard say that about deep breathing! Ahh! people (and therapists)don't get it. I was recently diagnosed with Complex ptsd. I have been having panic attacks while driving since 2012. It is so bad now, I have not driven in a month, and I hate leaving the house. Thank you for your channel, between you, the crappy childhood fairy, and Patrick, it really helped me to understand what has been going on with me ❤️
Emma, thank you so much for this series! This is the best advice I’ve heard on this subject!
Wow! I have felt this way for decades. Finally someone has validated it. Thank you!
I've been misunderstood of why I feeling this way because of the zero knowledge behind anxiety. This leads me to constantly worrying of my anxiety which eventually develop a cycle. This knowledge help me to clear all of that, thank God for this video that you posted.
I just wanted to say ive been having panic attacks every night since last November, I tried neurofeedback and EMDR but still.... I saw this video a couple of days ago and I thought "yeah right"...like something so simple could help me...but it did and IM SO THANKFUL i came accross this channel. THANK YOU SO MUCH
Thank you for explaining it so well.
steve’s story hits close to home. i’ve never had anyone explain how i feel so perfectly
For anyone suffering from this I would absolutely recommend a book called DARE by Barry McDonagh. There’s also an app by the same name with a lot of helpful exercises to help you ACCEPT your anxiety. It changed my whole perspective.
And for anyone that needs to hear this
I believe in you, there will be many setbacks but the fact that you’re here looking at educating yourself about your anxiety means you’re so close to overcoming it - keep it up. We’re in this together.
So very helpful! You explain things in a way that makes so much sense! Thank you for all you do! You are helping so many people, including me, in more ways than you will ever know! 🙏🦋♥️
Wow, I always had trouble distinguishing anxiety attacks from panic attacks but this is really helpful. Just had a panic attack happen to me a few minutes ago and it got much worse when I tried putting on a meditation video because I just kept thinking how ashamed of myself I was for panicking over nothing (my heart rate had increased to 114 bpm while I was just laying down). This has happened in the past and each time I would just get more and more upset by how nothing that you were "supposed" to do could calm me down and I was freaking out over nothing
I’ve only had one panic attack in my life and I thought I was having a heart attack. My chest hurt, I was sweaty and clammy, and I remember feeling like I couldn’t breathe. My mom recognized it as a panic attack because she is prone to them, and she was able to calm me down very quickly.
It was then that I realized how to control my body in that kind of a stress situation, and I haven’t had one again since. I am able to breathe and handle stress through a calming inner dialogue.
Wow I have had very bad panic attacks and so much anxiety since having my first child, and this video just made me feel 20
Times better already.
You have helped me so much. God bless you. This makes so much sense and is exactly what was happening to me. I was put on medication that has helped a lot too.
I’m here the same reason your here, I battle this for years and will be praying for you all. Hopefully we beat this !
Omg thank you soooo much, you are such an blessing 🥺✨
I have severe PTSD and panic attacks living at home with toxic mother
And i realize that every time I have an attack I view it as dangerous and stops me from doing everything I want to do. Because I don’t want to look crazy in public or during a important test.
You have been by far breaking this down more than the help I’ve ever had. I’ve been suffering from anxiety and panic attacks for a couple months and felt like anxiety WAS TAKING OVER! If you can message me, I would pay for some help.. but thank you for your videos !
Man, I wanna see that 3rd video! Thanks for all you do, Emma. Literally, anxiously awaiting!
Same! Waiting for the 3rd
Me too!
Another week of waiting lol I hope it’s the real deal. Thank you for putting this together. It’s spot on and as we can tell from the comments, it’s helping a lot of people.
Where is part one?
This makes so much sense now! You’re truly a blessing. Thank you so much for sharing
It's a real thing. Very helpful information. I used to take medication for it. I went off it. Stopped drinking. Exercise, meditate and try to eat cleanish and it all seems to help in the department.
Thank you so much for your video! I have been struggling with chronic panic attacks for months now, and this video brought light and hope in my life! :(
I have panic attacks one after the other sometimes. It’s incredibly draining and I get soo fearful.
This is probably the best channel on anxiety and panic attacks ever. I am a therapist myself and have also experienced panic disorder so I know this approach works.
You could almost retitle this video. Why males don’t ask for help, and why so many times it is too late when we do. I really can relate and thank you for all the work you do, I truly am grateful for it.
Beautiful! My goal is to choose JOY too! Choose laughter - it is the best medicine. You can't laugh and have a panic attack at the same time. Thank you for sharing! ❤
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I'm trying to find the rest of the videos 1/3 and 3/3 of these. Great work explaining it step by step.
Thank you so much! I didn’t know the difference between panic attacks and anxiety attacks. And I now I am starting to understand why trying to stop my panic attacks makes things worse. I used to deal with chronic panic disorder and it took so long to recover. (Probably took longer because I didn’t understand what would best help at the time.) I recently had some extra stress and anxiety and then some panic attacks. Now the cycle has been worsening. But I think I understand more about why. I am afraid to experience the panic attacks, the after effects of derealization, and the possibility that I could experience chronic panic disorder again. What’s awesome is I already feel so much better for knowing that just being afraid of these things might be causing the issues. I can’t wait for part 3!
How did you recover from panic disorder the first time? Also, you get derealization after the attack? I've had panic disorder for at least 10 years, and derealization hits me first.
You are an angel for me. Listening to this, your words, the way you describe how things work and knowing that I am not the only one going through it and that there’s a way around it make me so relieved. You are a professional at your work and you do with speak with experience. God Bless you with all the peace and happiness this world has to offer.
That makes so much sense. I suffer from anxiety and depression and I was getting low to the point I started fearing getting low again. So I woke up every day anxious about getting low during the day and that I won't have anything to do. As a result, I didn't get low, but I was anxious all the time to the point I decided I preferred getting low than anxious all the time. I sent a message to my brain saying being low is dangerous but in the end, I learnt it's not as scary and stopped being so anxious. But I had to go through the cycle of depression and anxiety, unfortunately.
This was so helpful! Thank you for your work!❤
This is amazing! Thank you so much, can’t wait for next video.