Thank you for helping me to understand that emotional abuse is never acceptable! I will never allow my inner child to be subjected to situations that I already know are toxic. I'm taking my power back in 2022!
When you had us picture our child and you said "just see this little kid trying" My child heard that and I started to sob. She's still just trying. Trying to make sense of this crazy world. Trying to fix things in her head, trying to predict the next gaslighting attempt, the next angry outburst the next group shaming. The world is reflecting my abusive childhood and probably a lot of other people's childhoods too.
It’s amazing how simple logic it is to just leave what downs us. Yet we hold ourselves to perfect our “lessons”. I have to leave an abusive neighborhood with toxic neighbors, and yet I sit in it because I think I should be grateful for this house and ‘comfort’ my dad left me with. Yet it is also laced with the abusive past memories of what I had to endure a lot here as a kid. I’m all of that: lost, alone, anxious. Thanks for the upload 💖🌟
You can still be grateful for the house, use it manifest you somewhere else you will feel is good for you. I wish you well in your journey of letting go.
I'm so sorry you are in that hurtful situation. I can relate. Hope you find the courage to change what needs to changed for your heart to heal and be happy.♥️
The difference between a pattern leaving or not, is dependent on your attitude towards the pattern . if you're treating the pattern with loving-kindness acknowledgement and acceptance and being the parent and the space, then the pattern leaves. But if you keep resisting the pattern by any egoic self preservation mechanism, like denial.etc. It remains.
Denial is what i think that I was doing not realizing it. Gaslighting .. then he is nice .. i get pulled back in deny it and it starts again. Now I know.
Left my shitty job w shitty people in a shitty town & moved way down south and found an UNshitty life! Getting out of the cesspool & taking the shower to rid myself of all the shit, I have found the ME I have been looking for, and damn, I fucking love her!❤️💪🏼😎
The fact you said as empathic people we are so good at forgiveness and viewing from the other person's faults. We forget we were the ones who were put in those terrible situations. ❤💋❤
I did a CBT course called Overcoming Social Anxiety Disorder by a Dr. TAR (Thomas A. Richards) and it is awesome, all of it!, but one of the most important sessions for me were the ones that dealt with Letting Go of the Negative Past. (And not beating myself up). Yes, letting go can be a tough one to learn how to do (it can also be easy) but it's well worth learning. Remember this, "My life is literally only ever right Now and the future is what I do next in this very moment". So drop the old shit off any time and carry on.....concentrating only on the good stuff. Do it whenever you need to. Do it so often it becomes your normal state of what I call Existdance. 🙂
I was liking this video in the first 30 seconds! lol It makes me think of deciding to work in family law after nearly 20 years of being locked in it through my personal family drama with a high conflict ex. So much trauma was endured during those years. I knew a lot from my experiences, but working in family law afterwards kept me entrenched in the abuse that I endured in my personal family situation. I thought that I would be able to help others avoid the same drama, but really it just dragged my healing process on and on and on and on because I was constantly triggered. I eventually knew I needed to get out of it, but always thought that I needed to use my past experiences to help others. You know that saying that goes something like: "what you endure is what you are here to help others with"?? Yeah, well NO! I actually don't need to do that. One of the other reasons I stayed was because of how much time I had invested in family law (8 years) and increasing my salary. I'm not a stranger to starting over - I've done it many times before... but this time I wanted to "make it work" and finally see myself climbing that ladder like "normal" people! LOL Well... I don't actually need to do that either! Six weeks ago I finally left family law and the legal field altogether (I actually hate conflict!) and I am so grateful to myself for taking advantage of the opportunity to do so. I'm happily in the process of yet another career change. :)
I wanted to acknowledge you in this. I'm a paralegal and if I were going to continue participating in the legal field I would go to law school next (unfortunately there are very limited career paths for paralegals and our pay is still based on what we get out of lawyers --- this needs to transform too. Medicine has a lot of career paths that don't require you to go to med school and the law needs to do the same, IMO), but the system is so broken and adversarial that I'm just not interested. I think as we raise our consciousness we outgrow the need to fight and fix. I no longer think it's my job to hang in there. I hope that helps!
No matter what job you hold, if abuse occurs, you don't have to take it. Have the offender stop their tirade and tell them that in interaction of abuse is not OK , warning them that you will stop the interaction. We have to get out of the mind set that any kind of abuse is OK, its NOT. BE COURTEOUS AND RESPECTFUL YET FIRM ON WHAT YOU WILL ACCEPT.
You're right. Be present with the pattern... without an abuser around!!!!!!!! It takes a long time to allow the enabling behavior to pass because people don't know what they are experiencing. The environment you have yourself in, Kyle to be safe and expanded and free to find this language is important. I think abusers master manipulation and evoke difficult feelings of shock, aww, and guilt leaving other people in a perpetual cycle of confusion and dependance. ( it is weird AF). You are helping release those patterns of confusion, dependance, and manipulation. I appreciate you.
"I don't want to feed my trauma anymore" - exactly what I plan to say to my live in partner who broke up with me over the weekend and has completely taken his mask off to not give a shit to lie, drink till he's sloppy drunk around my kids, spending the weekend away not knowing where. I was thinking about how this similar to my last relationship right at the end where his mask came off and behind it was a hall of mirrors, my patterns got my here I thought. Then I came on RUclips to listen to music and your video was the first thing 🫂❤ first time in days where I felt a sense of peace watching your video. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for this Kyle. I freeze and can't think when sidelined by someone attacking me verbally, only after can I draft a novel of what I should have said. I am getting much better at being non-reactive when I am PREPARED for a confrontation but the unexpected is still a challenge. I AM a frightened 5 year old and when I imagine her she is alone all the time to deal with the world without any training.🥺 Afraid of anything new and unexpected, routine is my comfort.
i hear you! rehearsing potential conflicts internally can be addictive though in create loads of 'fight or flight' energy on a regular basis. im still learning about this too
I'm a freeze type too . We weren't equipped with self protection and get stuck, I totally hear you. My three year old inner child hugs your 5 year old child and we do à dance on top of our abusive/neglectful caretakers heads. They didn't know any better, we do, we can heal now. Healthy self assertion we can!
Thank you... I have been so caught up in thinking that I am running away from my responsibility in things by letting them go.... Thank you for helping me see my little girl self and to take care of her now.
This comment triggered something in me. Do you think when we're younger we are punished for protecting ourselves the only way we know how? If we're being yelled at by an adult or laughed at & our (my) reaction was to unleash anger, I would get punished for it. I imagine most kids do, if we, say for instance, back chat, accidently swear etc. I am 37 now & I can't deal with confrontation maturely. I cry, I shake, I mix up my words, but about an hour later, I am angry at how stupid my response was because I have spent that last hour thinking of how great I could have been had I just held my composure. I almost wanna go back to the person who caused me to feel that trauma & be like....."Say what you said to me an hour ago, I have a response now" Haha!
I can’t wait to surrender hahah thank you so much Kyle, it’s been so grounding going through my life since I found your work a month ago ❤️❤️❤️Im quitting my business I started because you helped me see my inner child is still trying to work to be liked by my mom, I’m following my heart and I feel so much more empowered I could cry, In fact I WILL cry 😂😂❤️❤️✨
That’s where you become the protector “parent” of your child self in those situations. Change the story for that child who was abused. Find where it first started and change the story to the opposite. You become the parent and change what happened in place of the parent or abuser who couldn’t make the right choices for your past child self.
Yes Staying is the addiction and the false sense of ...... If I stay I Will heal it... Self abuse I am endingg this long exhausting chapter of the wounded child healer..
this hits the mark. used to work as a customer service rep before. Always thankful for your contents. and btw, you always show up right when there is a question that is unclear to me and yet I know it is important. Your vid show up and teach me what i need to learn then. I believe thanks is also fitting for that. :)
Interesting!! Never thought of it this way. Hmmm. Pretty deep tho simple. Time to meditate on letting trauma go n not thinking I hv to stay in the shitty situation to bring it up n heal
I really appreciate the perspective here, Kyle. Your challenge of the assumption that she was "safe' caused a paradigm shift for me. That we don't have to face our demons to heal them... what a healthy perspective.
I'm greatful for this video and seeing the things I've chose to overcome and also ignore. Still overcoming with much suffering and grief, although in the inside, I'm smiling looking forward to knowing I'm aware and observing, with what needs to be done. Resolution not repetition.. trauma is not my life and nor is the treatment of what's not serving peace and joy. God help those of us who have a hard time to find an outlet! The physical affects me more than the emotional, mental or spiritual atm.. Thank you Kyle for your all the help you have given and sharing!
Part of the tragic horror of life is realizing how many people can't leave even after they realize this Well that's it for me, I was just dropping by to deliver this cheerful, optimistic note, I've got some small animals to bbq now
So I just quit a job last week because the clients and my co-worker and boss were abusive. The boss was abusive like my mother….aka he could explain or minimize things to make me feel like I was the crazy one. I had to stop and think…what is it that I want to experience in my daily life? Peace. And that job did not meet that criteria. You can have a disagreement with someone and still feel peace because you know you are in a safe space. Anyway, my two cents 😉
If you've ever just woken up one day and realized you were going to leave a toxic relationship, then you realize you didn't run away from it. You reached a new level of vibration and suddenly the things you allowed yourself to go through were of "the old you". New you doesn't take that shit. Remember that!
A crash course through life's calamities is in "A Series of Unfortunate Events" . Key note: the parents are not nearly as absent as it seems and they are both gently guiding and protectively guiding and this greatness shines through the excellence in the kids. Linear time presents a very short sighted view of the world we are actually in. Emancipation is everyone's birth right.
There are a few people that I am forever grateful to have met, heard or read…..you are one of them, Kyle Cease. Thank you 🙏🏻 for making sense and for showing us how to empower ourselves. Greetings from Tehran. 🌹🌹🙏🏻🌹🌹🌹
thank you so much for this. im just learning to do this for myself. and i am really excited about how it feels to not put myself in shitty situations, instead putting myself into the best situations, and just letting shit come up and let it leave, i dont have to respond to them at all. its so fucking great!!!
It is a matter of perception. You see something is hurting you, you decide you are worth more than that. You tell Universe: I am worth better than this. And you move yourself away from the negative, hurtful situation as to show Universe you mean what you say - that the situation you are leaving is not acceptable. You can choose to see it as running, or you can choose to view it as making empowered choice. Only once you decide to view it as, Hey, I made and acted out of empowered choice will it become easier to work with the energy of empowered choice. Then you become capable of doing it more, then eventually come to where you don't have to do it as much because you are seeing things ahead and no longer putting yourself in situations that will bind you negatively. All sight and decisions become empowered. Or at least more than not.
KYLE!!! THANK YOU!! THIS IS THE ONE! THIS IS THE VIDEO I WILL SHARE AS HITTING THE "AH HA" BUTTON FOR ME!! After all the videos, after 10 years of pain! After touching the tip of it! This is the message that cleared it up for me! Bless you brother! Thank you. I resonate with Maiah's situation! This message was the one. Thank you Kyle and Maiah for sharing!
This is so timely for me. I have kept putting myself back in denial, sacrificing myself for what? More disrespect, inconsideration, and verbal abuse. It's time to move on and out!
I’m so grateful that I found you! Lol or maybe your channel. I feel, I don’t know what I feel!! Embarrassed. I just went through an abusive encounter at work With a elderly man with Damentia, I made this excuse, that because this is my job taking care of the elderly that its exceptable to be verbally and mentally abused. In my head I’m thinking we’ll he didn’t hurt me physically no damage done!!! The words this man threw at me Were Demeaning, awful words that had me Shaking and crying! and I’m making Excuses for that. When you said “think of a child being treated like that “ I felt ashamed for not seeing what I’ve done to my child self, I’m in shock I have to stop this pattern from Reoccurring I appreciate the share what a lesson you both gave to me.🙏
Again epic talk And THANK YOU. Currently leaving a domestic violent situation . Listening to this while packing. I keep repeating the talk over and over again. So sad I allowed my inner child to be abused in this situation. I’m so sorry little me. I love you. We’re leaving.
This is so good when you said keep feeding yourself drugs then say I’m a drug addict that hit home with me eating I have to change some things in order to heal the pattern of me over eating or eating unhealthy. This is so on time I started juicing today it’s like he universe is speaking to me
Thank you for this video. I currently live with my parents. I am paying off debt so I can move out. I work a job that is far from ideal but I know I can handle a bit longer. Working on paying off last line of credit and manifesting a job in a field I care about. I just don’t care about building storage units. Anywho, I am working on my inner child, but see how staying in the environment makes it harder to heal. I paid off my second to last credit card and I felt nothing! I should have been excited. Because I want to live life and heal, I am working to payoff my last debt item. But I see how I live in fear, waiting for the other shoe to drop or whatever it is to happen. Can’t wait to move out, for the last time. ❤️
I'm in a similar situation to you. Although I can't afford to move out of home, even without debt or anything to pay off. So I am stuck with parents who I utterly adore & I know they love me too. I actually feel guilty for knowing they caused so much trauma though, my Dad's moods, his yelling used to scare the ish outta me, it still does & I'm a grown ass woman, like......his presence just has me in a perma state of anxiety. I'm mad at my Mum for allowing my Dad & brother to be so aggressive towards me as a child, I was always looking to her for protection, it was all about not making the men angry though, I know she was/is scared too, hence why she does nothing. I can't heal in this environment. Even with full time hours I can't afford to live by myself, comfortably. I don't blame my parents, I know they had their trauma too, but if I try & talk about any of this with my Mum, all I get is the "I did my best", "You kids always blame the parents when you put us through hell too", "You're grown up now, you know the difference between right & wrong, stop blaming us" etc....... Needless to say as I start wanting to heal myself my parents just give me the....."Ffs shut up with all that nonsense" kinda attitude!
Wowww!!! I was just asking God about this and has been something I struggled with. Didn't want to feel I was running away from the triggers bc I wanted to heal them and was afraid if I left the pattern would show up again. Thank you for this 💜💛❤️. Soo very much!!! The part about safety was an aha for me too... is your inner child safe? Your future? Your ascension?
Power of piano accompaniment to your video sharings...hire an awakening/awakened piano player and let them flow with you. Powerful impartations, healings and breakthroughs.
So, if you can't leave because of financial or other reasons, what does that mean? That it's not the trauma that is still holding you there? Maybe it's a simple answer. I know I should leave, I want to leave, but nothing seems to be working out to allow that to happen, and I'm just curious about that. I have a pattern of beating myself up when my efforts don't manifest results. What are you supposed to do when an outcome that should reasonably be expected to produce a certain outcome does not produce any outcome?
I would like to know the answer to this. As it is I was feeling confident that housing benefits would come and it seemed like it did... But it was just more papers for a waiting list. So... Im just waiting. And being eaten by despair and trying to understand how someone with low self-esteem processes such a thing.
What if you keep leaving "harmful" situations only to find yourself in similar situations again and again? How do you release the energy bringing you into the situations once and for all?
i was staying in the shitty situation , tolerating the shitty situation thinking thats how I heal my trauma. Invested and Poured over books that were directed at emotional abuse. Lawd! This relationship brought loads of stuff up for both of us. I was working on mine he wasn’t working on his all it was showing me is to leave the shitty situation for the trauma to heal!? (Forehead slap) the moments i thought i was making strides and shifts he’d trigger me again and it would throw me back 100 feet and there i was back in the shitty situation trauma blaring at me again.
It seems to me this is a boundary issue. She’s allowing abusive behavior to continue because she doesn’t feel worthy of respect. I would never let my employee be treated abusively. Calmly tell the caller if they can’t be respectful you will hang up. Then HANG UP!
sir I sexualy abused by someone in my childhood and I become gay can I change that or I want to accept the way as iam and I need to heal? I'm in a twinflame relationship
I listen to so many of his information. .. I just don’t I understand why you have to go back to you it childhood. I am way pass that . I learned to survive as well as thrived. We are not product of our childhood unless we choose that .we are Gods children
In 1991 I moved from my home town to a place 1600 miles away. I spoke to my mom once or twice a week and visited 1-2 a year. She was always abusive, emotionally and verbally. One Mother's Day, of all days, I called her midmorning, within 12 seconds of the phone call she had me in tears, so I hung up on her. My little boy looked at me and said "Mommy, why do you call her when all she does is make you cry?" My chin hit the floor. I never called/visited her again. Here it is 15 years later, my phone number has not changed since and she has never called me back. My life is so much better without her in it. Out of the mouth of babes... Thank you Kyle much love Angie O
We are often more compassionate towards those who abused us then we are towards ourselves.
Thank you for helping me to understand that emotional abuse is never acceptable! I will never allow my inner child to be subjected to situations that I already know are toxic. I'm taking my power back in 2022!
~This~. Empowerment is the theme. Thank you 💜
>>You get what you tolerate>>
Yes
When you had us picture our child and you said "just see this little kid trying" My child heard that and I started to sob. She's still just trying. Trying to make sense of this crazy world. Trying to fix things in her head, trying to predict the next gaslighting attempt, the next angry outburst the next group shaming. The world is reflecting my abusive childhood and probably a lot of other people's childhoods too.
I felt this comment so much
Same here .... closed my eyes and just started balling
Yessss so true❤️❤️❤️ love this
The gaslighting i endured for so long when i had no idea what it was but stayed in it always trying to defend myself .. to no avail.
It’s amazing how simple logic it is to just leave what downs us. Yet we hold ourselves to perfect our “lessons”. I have to leave an abusive neighborhood with toxic neighbors, and yet I sit in it because I think I should be grateful for this house and ‘comfort’ my dad left me with. Yet it is also laced with the abusive past memories of what I had to endure a lot here as a kid. I’m all of that: lost, alone, anxious. Thanks for the upload 💖🌟
You can still be grateful for the house, use it manifest you somewhere else you will feel is good for you. I wish you well in your journey of letting go.
You can move but rent the old house.
I'm so sorry you are in that hurtful situation. I can relate. Hope you find the courage to change what needs to changed for your heart to heal and be happy.♥️
Wow! That's a huge personal recognition. Take a moment to appreciate that bravery.
Or download ;)
It's amazing that women are always so concerned with being safe
I did this to myself for years. Now I have major PTSD and I'm in massive pain. Get out. there are endless possibilities
The difference between a pattern leaving or not, is dependent on your attitude towards the pattern .
if you're treating the pattern with loving-kindness acknowledgement and acceptance and being the parent and the space, then the pattern leaves. But if you keep resisting the pattern by any egoic self preservation mechanism, like denial.etc. It remains.
Denial is what i think that I was doing not realizing it. Gaslighting .. then he is nice .. i get pulled back in deny it and it starts again. Now I know.
Left my shitty job w shitty people in a shitty town & moved way down south and found an UNshitty life! Getting out of the cesspool & taking the shower to rid myself of all the shit, I have found the ME I have been looking for, and damn, I fucking love her!❤️💪🏼😎
The fact you said as empathic people we are so good at forgiveness and viewing from the other person's faults. We forget we were the ones who were put in those terrible situations. ❤💋❤
In my case, I was told to be the forgiving one.
I did a CBT course called Overcoming Social Anxiety Disorder by a Dr. TAR (Thomas A. Richards) and it is awesome, all of it!, but one of the most important sessions for me were the ones that dealt with Letting Go of the Negative Past. (And not beating myself up). Yes, letting go can be a tough one to learn how to do (it can also be easy) but it's well worth learning. Remember this, "My life is literally only ever right Now and the future is what I do next in this very moment". So drop the old shit off any time and carry on.....concentrating only on the good stuff. Do it whenever you need to. Do it so often it becomes your normal state of what I call Existdance. 🙂
I was liking this video in the first 30 seconds! lol
It makes me think of deciding to work in family law after nearly 20 years of being locked in it through my personal family drama with a high conflict ex. So much trauma was endured during those years. I knew a lot from my experiences, but working in family law afterwards kept me entrenched in the abuse that I endured in my personal family situation. I thought that I would be able to help others avoid the same drama, but really it just dragged my healing process on and on and on and on because I was constantly triggered. I eventually knew I needed to get out of it, but always thought that I needed to use my past experiences to help others. You know that saying that goes something like: "what you endure is what you are here to help others with"?? Yeah, well NO! I actually don't need to do that. One of the other reasons I stayed was because of how much time I had invested in family law (8 years) and increasing my salary. I'm not a stranger to starting over - I've done it many times before... but this time I wanted to "make it work" and finally see myself climbing that ladder like "normal" people! LOL Well... I don't actually need to do that either! Six weeks ago I finally left family law and the legal field altogether (I actually hate conflict!) and I am so grateful to myself for taking advantage of the opportunity to do so. I'm happily in the process of yet another career change. :)
I wanted to acknowledge you in this. I'm a paralegal and if I were going to continue participating in the legal field I would go to law school next (unfortunately there are very limited career paths for paralegals and our pay is still based on what we get out of lawyers --- this needs to transform too. Medicine has a lot of career paths that don't require you to go to med school and the law needs to do the same, IMO), but the system is so broken and adversarial that I'm just not interested. I think as we raise our consciousness we outgrow the need to fight and fix. I no longer think it's my job to hang in there. I hope that helps!
No matter what job you hold, if abuse occurs, you don't have to take it. Have the offender stop their tirade and tell them that in interaction of abuse is not OK , warning them that you will stop the interaction.
We have to get out of the mind set that any kind of abuse is OK, its NOT. BE COURTEOUS AND RESPECTFUL YET FIRM ON WHAT YOU WILL ACCEPT.
You're right. Be present with the pattern... without an abuser around!!!!!!!! It takes a long time to allow the enabling behavior to pass because people don't know what they are experiencing. The environment you have yourself in, Kyle to be safe and expanded and free to find this language is important. I think abusers master manipulation and evoke difficult feelings of shock, aww, and guilt leaving other people in a perpetual cycle of confusion and dependance. ( it is weird AF). You are helping release those patterns of confusion, dependance, and manipulation. I appreciate you.
"I don't want to feed my trauma anymore" - exactly what I plan to say to my live in partner who broke up with me over the weekend and has completely taken his mask off to not give a shit to lie, drink till he's sloppy drunk around my kids, spending the weekend away not knowing where. I was thinking about how this similar to my last relationship right at the end where his mask came off and behind it was a hall of mirrors, my patterns got my here I thought. Then I came on RUclips to listen to music and your video was the first thing 🫂❤ first time in days where I felt a sense of peace watching your video. Thank you 🙏
So much sense... ironically the people on the other side of this doesn't even recognize the abuse they are projecting.
Thank you for this Kyle. I freeze and can't think when sidelined by someone attacking me verbally, only after can I draft a novel of what I should have said. I am getting much better at being non-reactive when I am PREPARED for a confrontation but the unexpected is still a challenge. I AM a frightened 5 year old and when I imagine her she is alone all the time to deal with the world without any training.🥺 Afraid of anything new and unexpected, routine is my comfort.
i hear you! rehearsing potential conflicts internally can be addictive though in create loads of 'fight or flight' energy on a regular basis. im still learning about this too
I'm a freeze type too . We weren't equipped with self protection and get stuck, I totally hear you. My three year old inner child hugs your 5 year old child and we do à dance on top of our abusive/neglectful caretakers heads. They didn't know any better, we do, we can heal now. Healthy self assertion we can!
Thank you... I have been so caught up in thinking that I am running away from my responsibility in things by letting them go.... Thank you for helping me see my little girl self and to take care of her now.
It's ok to protect yourself!
This comment triggered something in me. Do you think when we're younger we are punished for protecting ourselves the only way we know how? If we're being yelled at by an adult or laughed at & our (my) reaction was to unleash anger, I would get punished for it. I imagine most kids do, if we, say for instance, back chat, accidently swear etc. I am 37 now & I can't deal with confrontation maturely. I cry, I shake, I mix up my words, but about an hour later, I am angry at how stupid my response was because I have spent that last hour thinking of how great I could have been had I just held my composure. I almost wanna go back to the person who caused me to feel that trauma & be like....."Say what you said to me an hour ago, I have a response now" Haha!
I can’t wait to surrender hahah thank you so much Kyle, it’s been so grounding going through my life since I found your work a month ago ❤️❤️❤️Im quitting my business I started because you helped me see my inner child is still trying to work to be liked by my mom, I’m following my heart and I feel so much more empowered I could cry, In fact I WILL cry 😂😂❤️❤️✨
That’s where you become the protector “parent” of your child self in those situations. Change the story for that child who was abused. Find where it first started and change the story to the opposite. You become the parent and change what happened in place of the parent or abuser who couldn’t make the right choices for your past child self.
Yes
Staying is the addiction and the false sense of ......
If I stay I Will heal it...
Self abuse
I am endingg this long exhausting chapter of the wounded child healer..
Thanks Kyle and Maya! This was really pertinent for for where I'm at right now.
Thank you Kyle. You truly are the gift that keeps giving.💗
this hits the mark. used to work as a customer service rep before. Always thankful for your contents.
and btw, you always show up right when there is a question that is unclear to me and yet I know it is important. Your vid show up and teach me what i need to learn then. I believe thanks is also fitting for that. :)
Interesting!! Never thought of it this way. Hmmm. Pretty deep tho simple. Time to meditate on letting trauma go n not thinking I hv to stay in the shitty situation to bring it up n heal
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Been struggling with a decision. Now I am reminded to follow my alignment.
I really appreciate the perspective here, Kyle. Your challenge of the assumption that she was "safe' caused a paradigm shift for me. That we don't have to face our demons to heal them... what a healthy perspective.
I'm greatful for this video and seeing the things I've chose to overcome and also ignore. Still overcoming with much suffering and grief, although in the inside, I'm smiling looking forward to knowing I'm aware and observing, with what needs to be done. Resolution not repetition.. trauma is not my life and nor is the treatment of what's not serving peace and joy. God help those of us who have a hard time to find an outlet! The physical affects me more than the emotional, mental or spiritual atm.. Thank you Kyle for your all the help you have given and sharing!
Your clarity is beyond x
Minute 6 it made sense,... thank you
Part of the tragic horror of life is realizing how many people can't leave even after they realize this
Well that's it for me, I was just dropping by to deliver this cheerful, optimistic note, I've got some small animals to bbq now
So powerful, Kyle. I can’t wait to join you this weekend! 🥰🙏❤️✅💯😎
I AM the beauty of the moment I AM creating ❤️🦥🌱🪂🥳ease, expansion, growth, my choice 🌱🌾🌱🌱💖
So powerful! I do this a lot where I watch the situation jnstsad of seeing the child, thanks kyle!
You get what you tolerate--- unless you are a child. Then you are a prisoner. 😭
So I just quit a job last week because the clients and my co-worker and boss were abusive. The boss was abusive like my mother….aka he could explain or minimize things to make me feel like I was the crazy one. I had to stop and think…what is it that I want to experience in my daily life? Peace. And that job did not meet that criteria. You can have a disagreement with someone and still feel peace because you know you are in a safe space. Anyway, my two cents 😉
If you've ever just woken up one day and realized you were going to leave a toxic relationship, then you realize you didn't run away from it. You reached a new level of vibration and suddenly the things you allowed yourself to go through were of "the old you". New you doesn't take that shit. Remember that!
Oh My God this was so damn powerful.
A crash course through life's calamities is in "A Series of Unfortunate Events" .
Key note: the parents are not nearly as absent as it seems and they are both gently guiding and protectively guiding and this greatness shines through the excellence in the kids.
Linear time presents a very short sighted view of the world we are actually in.
Emancipation is everyone's birth right.
There are a few people that I am forever grateful to have met, heard or read…..you are one of them, Kyle Cease.
Thank you 🙏🏻 for making sense and for showing us how to empower ourselves. Greetings from Tehran. 🌹🌹🙏🏻🌹🌹🌹
I have not felt this kind of safety discussing something like this. Thank you helping me see what I need to validate. 🙏
thank you so much for this. im just learning to do this for myself. and i am really excited about how it feels to not put myself in shitty situations, instead putting myself into the best situations, and just letting shit come up and let it leave, i dont have to respond to them at all. its so fucking great!!!
It is a matter of perception. You see something is hurting you, you decide you are worth more than that. You tell Universe: I am worth better than this. And you move yourself away from the negative, hurtful situation as to show Universe you mean what you say - that the situation you are leaving is not acceptable. You can choose to see it as running, or you can choose to view it as making empowered choice. Only once you decide to view it as, Hey, I made and acted out of empowered choice will it become easier to work with the energy of empowered choice. Then you become capable of doing it more, then eventually come to where you don't have to do it as much because you are seeing things ahead and no longer putting yourself in situations that will bind you negatively. All sight and decisions become empowered. Or at least more than not.
Wow. That was an awesome talk. So powerful. Thankful for you. 💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏
Thank you!
KYLE!!! THANK YOU!! THIS IS THE ONE! THIS IS THE VIDEO I WILL SHARE AS HITTING THE "AH HA" BUTTON FOR ME!! After all the videos, after 10 years of pain! After touching the tip of it! This is the message that cleared it up for me! Bless you brother! Thank you. I resonate with Maiah's situation! This message was the one. Thank you Kyle and Maiah for sharing!
Does this make sense to you? YES KYLE LOVE YOU THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR TRUTH WITH US. 🙏🏻
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This is so timely for me. I have kept putting myself back in denial, sacrificing myself for what? More disrespect, inconsideration, and verbal abuse. It's time to move on and out!
I left a situation where I felt unsafe, unprotected unloved but being alone was far far worse
I’m so grateful that I found you! Lol or maybe your channel. I feel, I don’t know what I feel!! Embarrassed. I just went through an abusive encounter at work
With a elderly man with Damentia, I made this excuse, that because this is my job taking care of the elderly that its exceptable to be verbally and mentally abused. In my head I’m thinking we’ll he didn’t hurt me physically no damage done!!! The words this man threw at me
Were Demeaning, awful words that had me Shaking and crying! and I’m making
Excuses for that. When you said “think of a child being treated like that “ I felt ashamed for not seeing what I’ve done to my child self, I’m in shock I have to stop this pattern from Reoccurring
I appreciate the share what a lesson you both gave to me.🙏
Lynn, I used to have this at work too! I want to give you big warm hug. We're going better places now Lynn x
Doing the work of refusing to accept abuse from a 100 year old mother and the patterns lose their grip on me (70 years old). Never too late. Love
Again epic talk And THANK YOU. Currently leaving a domestic violent situation . Listening to this while packing. I keep repeating the talk over and over again. So sad I allowed my inner child to be abused in this situation. I’m so sorry little me. I love you. We’re leaving.
Thank you, Kyle. Been practicing to truly let go in 2020 and it’s getting better and better each day. 🥂😘
It takes courage.
Cheers everyone.
I needed to hear ALL of this. Thank you for the question as well as the answer!!!
🙏Thanks all of you for sharing this
ps there are some readings on a playlist here about letting go and boundaries, unaccetable behavior
This was a good one
Ouch! Thank you.
this helped me see my inner child so clearly, and prompted tears...thank you, kyle. you are such a gift 💕
Thank you so much 💜
Wow' my mind is blown!!! Thank you Kyle 🙏
I absolutely love everything you explained!!!
Thank you for this!!!
Time spent with you is always so worthwhile! Thank you!💝🙏💝
This is so good when you said keep feeding yourself drugs then say I’m a drug addict that hit home with me eating I have to change some things in order to heal the pattern of me over eating or eating unhealthy. This is so on time I started juicing today it’s like he universe is speaking to me
Thank you so much I discovered you a long time ago I am looking at your videos day and night now it’s time now to watch you love you dearly ❤️❤️
ty thiz made me cry, love you
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❤️👍very very good thanks finally one who speaks the truth, you need to leave to heal!!!
Bam! 💥🙏💕 So on point, thank you…blessings!
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I'm speechless. This was spot on. Love ❤
Thank you Kyle so much for this video ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you 🙏🏻 You’re Amazing 🤩🦋❤️
Thank you for this video. I currently live with my parents. I am paying off debt so I can move out. I work a job that is far from ideal but I know I can handle a bit longer. Working on paying off last line of credit and manifesting a job in a field I care about. I just don’t care about building storage units. Anywho, I am working on my inner child, but see how staying in the environment makes it harder to heal. I paid off my second to last credit card and I felt nothing! I should have been excited. Because I want to live life and heal, I am working to payoff my last debt item. But I see how I live in fear, waiting for the other shoe to drop or whatever it is to happen. Can’t wait to move out, for the last time. ❤️
I'm in a similar situation to you. Although I can't afford to move out of home, even without debt or anything to pay off. So I am stuck with parents who I utterly adore & I know they love me too. I actually feel guilty for knowing they caused so much trauma though, my Dad's moods, his yelling used to scare the ish outta me, it still does & I'm a grown ass woman, like......his presence just has me in a perma state of anxiety. I'm mad at my Mum for allowing my Dad & brother to be so aggressive towards me as a child, I was always looking to her for protection, it was all about not making the men angry though, I know she was/is scared too, hence why she does nothing. I can't heal in this environment. Even with full time hours I can't afford to live by myself, comfortably. I don't blame my parents, I know they had their trauma too, but if I try & talk about any of this with my Mum, all I get is the "I did my best", "You kids always blame the parents when you put us through hell too", "You're grown up now, you know the difference between right & wrong, stop blaming us" etc....... Needless to say as I start wanting to heal myself my parents just give me the....."Ffs shut up with all that nonsense" kinda attitude!
Wowww!!! I was just asking God about this and has been something I struggled with. Didn't want to feel I was running away from the triggers bc I wanted to heal them and was afraid if I left the pattern would show up again. Thank you for this 💜💛❤️. Soo very much!!! The part about safety was an aha for me too... is your inner child safe? Your future? Your ascension?
Thank you.
So powerful 😭💗
Well said 👌
Thanks Kyle ! Happy day to you and Vivien. 😇🤗🙏
Excellent
Power of piano accompaniment to your video sharings...hire an awakening/awakened piano player and let them flow with you. Powerful impartations, healings and breakthroughs.
I worked with the public for 30 years, including as a Victim Advocate. I absolutely b was retraumatized by vocation.
So, if you can't leave because of financial or other reasons, what does that mean? That it's not the trauma that is still holding you there? Maybe it's a simple answer. I know I should leave, I want to leave, but nothing seems to be working out to allow that to happen, and I'm just curious about that. I have a pattern of beating myself up when my efforts don't manifest results. What are you supposed to do when an outcome that should reasonably be expected to produce a certain outcome does not produce any outcome?
I would like to know the answer to this.
As it is I was feeling confident that housing benefits would come and it seemed like it did... But it was just more papers for a waiting list.
So... Im just waiting.
And being eaten by despair and trying to understand how someone with low self-esteem processes such a thing.
I feel no matter how much work I do , nothing seems to change with anxiety / depression/ negative thinking . So frustrating
Letting go 🎈 🎈🎈
I love you all. And myself
What if you keep leaving "harmful" situations only to find yourself in similar situations again and again? How do you release the energy bringing you into the situations once and for all?
💕Yess ... It's letting go #with☮️🙏🏽🌺
i was staying in the shitty situation , tolerating the shitty situation thinking thats how I heal my trauma. Invested and Poured over books that were directed at emotional abuse. Lawd! This relationship brought loads of stuff up for both of us. I was working on mine he wasn’t working on his all it was showing me is to leave the shitty situation for the trauma to heal!? (Forehead slap) the moments i thought i was making strides and shifts he’d trigger me again and it would throw me back 100 feet and there i was back in the shitty situation trauma blaring at me again.
It seems to me this is a boundary issue. She’s allowing abusive behavior to continue because she doesn’t feel worthy of respect. I would never let my employee be treated abusively. Calmly tell the caller if they can’t be respectful you will hang up. Then HANG UP!
sir I sexualy abused by someone in my childhood and I become gay can I change that or I want to accept the way as iam and I need to heal? I'm in a twinflame relationship
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I've actually unconsciously *staged shitty situations to illustrate to others how this shit *always happens. 😐
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I listen to so many of his information. .. I just don’t I understand why you have to go back to you it childhood. I am way pass that . I learned to survive as well as thrived. We are not product of our childhood unless we choose that .we are Gods children
In 1991 I moved from my home town to a place 1600 miles away. I spoke to my mom once or twice a week and visited 1-2 a year. She was always abusive, emotionally and verbally. One Mother's Day, of all days, I called her midmorning, within 12 seconds of the phone call she had me in tears, so I hung up on her. My little boy looked at me and said "Mommy, why do you call her when all she does is make you cry?" My chin hit the floor.
I never called/visited her again. Here it is 15 years later, my phone number has not changed since and she has never called me back. My life is so much better without her in it.
Out of the mouth of babes...
Thank you Kyle
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