Talking with suicide attempt survivors - Interviews
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
- I interviewed three suicide attempt survivors and we discussed topics such as what lead them to their attempt, advice for people struggling with suicidal thoughts and depression, and why they believe life is precious.
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After many years I came to the conclusion that modern life and the lack of community seem to be the root of nearly every problem. But it feels almost impossible to get out.
I noticed that also, and when I tried to be a part of the community I wasn't wanted. But I do know that they'll actively hurt me, and everyone that supposedly ever loved me will actively hurt me, pretend I don't even exist to them. The soul and spirit of love is missing. People are just going along playing the game. The whole world is sick and we're supposed to pretend it's not. I don't want to die alone and afraid. I feel I will not have a choice soon.
Material affluence has increased 1000 fold but the basic human needs of genuine communication is not met. And computer and related internet is also a root cause
No, there was always mental pain and suffering, has nothing to do with community. Now, there are more of us, less job, more stress, we realized that ''meaning'' is just an another word for BS fairy tales.
Sure lack of support and communication can definitely have an effect on people’s mental health but no, untreated mental illness is the underlying cause of a lot of different issues.. addiction, suicide, etc
You are so right.
Thank you for putting this out there. My god is depression indescribably brutal.
Just knowing I’m not alone helps me at this instant in time
ok zoomer
You’re definitely not alone. Just know we’re all fighting the same battle of life, just slightly different🤷🏼♀️ just try to find something that makes you laugh everyday!
this is so important bc so many people are struggling alone. I tried it and it’s terrible
There are lot of things that no physchiatrist or motivational speaker can make you cope up the situation but one who actually gone through that phase .
I believe you are right and the story has such a strong powerful meaning
Thank you for putting this together.
I like how he praises ‘small victories’. For those of you in deep holes that you feel you’ve been digging yourselves deeper and deeper into for years and will never get out, just know that you can climb the ladder but you’ll move one ring at a time. Please don’t expect instant fixes. Just make each day a new day that offers new, positive change. Perserverance and patience, baby!❤️
As a suicide survivor, I have a different perspective than these 3 people. I have Depression which comes with suicidal thoughts and urges. Every episode. So although it has been 13 months since my last attempt, and I am now in remission and not experiencing Depression currently, I still feel like I won't live many more years. I don't see life as precsious. I see it as a journey. And some people will have a shorter journey than others. Due to suicide. I expect my journey to be short.
Life is precious but more importantly, you’re precious. Clearly no family has made that clear to you but I hope that you can find this asap! I think a little love will change your negative perspective on life.
love creates all addiction, behavioral health issues, not all but most suicides. Doesnt have to be one event or years of not having love felt alone. We are created of love . Dont mean love making. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. We absorb it like sponges even in womb. Whoops, out into a world that clearly cinflicts and with holds on every level. I had plenty suicides from 19 on. Everyone was stunned cause i live a wonderful, cheery life..except? I died like how many times dummo. A stupid choice celebrating a big happy with 151 rum. And hadnt drank in 12 years, no desire. I am dying so decided would hasten that, assure that with hanging myself. My psycholigist shared after that suicide us a big Fuck Off To Everything,/one. Smart guy. That was my last words..finger up in air "Fuck Off" to everthing/one just was tired Tired tired. Would be years later i got to my core cause. My bodies cells held memories to abuse i wasnt really bothered by.was just happening in my days then ,I knew would end somehow. The guy .. god on two legs, trusted by everyone, boys of his own but spent alot of so called special time with me. I have no memory just feeling of terror, evil stuff he did would feel some times out of the blue in my life beautiful. Cut myself and blood would end feelingd. Drawn to alcohol like twice a year to open those doors. See all that as an adult. Decided i would be that boy living it. Would dedtry my adult self. So made a resolute choice i dont need that. All good 4 years but Feelings Powerfull Goodest feelings triggers those feelings. I am cautious not to feel too good. If you jump off the bridge most likely gonna change your mind halfway down. Life, shit piles up, you just reach a place where you are unable to create a day, an hour, minutes to survive. Well, not you but me . everyone is unique. Love is the key and can have all imaginable love but some history of that denied can haunt people and no easy or possible remedy. Personally i tried to get a Space Uber ride😛🙃😁 off this world, but no one accepts earth humans..lol
I don’t know if you’re still around, but I feel similarly. On the outside, most people would say I have so many things going for me. On the inside, I truly feel like my life’s purpose is to make it to the end without taking my own life like God is testing me.
Your words are so real, so honest. I don't want to put any flowery drivel in my reply. So what is it that is making me want to respond? I find it sad when I hear of others who don't seem to find life worthy of living, maybe. I've felt this many times too. I came close to attempting but something pulled me out of it. Maybe that's what I wish for you - for something meaningful to pull you away from any future contemplation or attempt. Because you're human, and you deserve to be happy, and if not happy, at least content.
I hope you're still around and doing better.
You can feel disconnected from people and can’t feel any love from anyone even if you know they care, it’s absolutely horrific to be in such a dark place, it’s very scary, the worst in life to go through
I know know know this feeling for sure! 😣, and it isn’t nice at all, it’s like a black dark cloud is in your mind everyday, and it is horrible isn’t it 😣, I’m so glad that you’re here ☺️🧡🫂, and I’m sending you my love, and peace and happiness to you and to everybody who has commented on this You-Tube Video 🤗, and look after yourself, Love from Ollie in the UK 🇬🇧☺️🫂🥰
@@Olly-1995 Thanks ✌️
@@justmadeit2 That’s okay, and it’s my pleasure mate ☺️🙌🏻🫂, and take care of yourself 🥰
Thank you for this extraordinarily important topic. I’m a member of this club. After two failed attempts I’ll never try again or so I say now but like Robin Williams says it’s always there it never goes away.
I look forward to watching this video tonight.
My life has no value anymore. I am so so sick and I suffer torment day after day I have lost everything and there is no help for me. I survived suicide attempts 20 years ago and I won’t try again because it never worked and I don’t want to be in a worse state than I’m already in and still have to be here to suffer. I just want my life back, I need healing in my brain, neurological systems, neuroendocrine peptides, sleep, rectum, stomach, intestines, colon, skin, bones, teeth, eyes, sweat glands, body temperature regulation, sleep etc I just want healing and hope. I can’t keep going like this. August 2022 was the last time I was normal, I need my body to heal I have lost everything since this started
Nana banana, my heart goes out to you. May I offer Psalm 23 to you? The Lord is your Shepherd He is all that you need. He sits with you in green grass. He walks with you beside quiet waters. When I cried out to Him in my desperation, He answered. He will do the same for you.
I hear you, I really do. It sounds like your body is letting you down. And that sounds so painful to go through. But what is it I hear, beneath your words of illness? That need for healing and hope. That part of you, that's the strong part. Illness can't touch it. And that's where your personality shines, and offers the world so much, like stories and wisdom and empathy. I hope things have improved in some ways for you since you posted this!
If I could get proper sleep, eat healthy and exercise daily it would help but I struggle so hard with these basics.
I'm sorry. Just try to walk a bit each day, try hard. You're worth it just don't give up
I exercise, watch what I eat and used to sleep properly. Nothing happened. I still want to off myself.
me too 😅
That guy in the hat is absolutely incredible. So wise. Such clarity.
For somebody to just show up at my door would be wonderful. People know I’m having a hard time but no one shows.
I'm sorry. What I mean is that it is so wrong that each person hurting and alone don't have a few people who takes the time to show up for them. But that seems to be what our society is like in these modern times - so many people are on their own. Get pissed off at that with me - fight to survive just to show this terrible system that it won't win.
I would've showed up if I knew you. I hope you're doing well.
Thank you guys for sharing your story. I do understand that when you're depressed you do feel like a walking zombie with no purpose and it is specially hard when people don't like you it is really tuff. But I know I will get through this. God bless you all and much love and prayers.
I made a suicide attempt thirty-five years ago and I know someone who made a successful suicide. I am glad to be alive. I was anxious. I thought that suicide was only for depressed people. I thank the people in the video for their bravery and honesty. My anxiety was intense. I was forced to stop working by my parents. Wrong move. My dad wanted me to stay home so he had someone to yell and holler at. I just couldn’t take living in a dysfunctional family. After getting discharged from the state hospital, I went to a crappy halfway house which didn’t help. I received a full time job and everything got better.
I'm struggling really hard right now and watching this kind of helped but it only puts a band-aid on the devastating pain and hurt I feel deep within. I just lost my dear father who passed away a week ago, we were closer than anyone I've ever had and known in my life (a former pastor), I lived with him most of my life and now I'm in my mids. I was married once when I was in my 20's and he left me but then died in his 30's. My mother died around the same time my former husband left me which was in the early 90's. So it was my father and me against the world. He was truly my very best friend and now he's gone. Of course, I know death is inevitable because it will happen to us all but just as the old adage goes, you're never really prepared for it. So true! When it happens, a piece of you dies along with that person who you admired and looked up to and counted on daily to make things better. To add, because I had to care for my dear father and eventually put him in a nursing home, medicaid took everything I was to have when he passed. Now I have nothing to live on for the first time in my life and facing homelessness around the corner if I can't come up with the funds to pay for the mortgage, electricity/water and telephone/wifi. In the midst of all of this sorrow and pain, I haven't had the chance to properly mourn because the world goes on along with the chaos that comes with it. The world is built around money, nothing more, nothing less. I've contacted my father's church and other churches in our community but they don't care to help and have turned their backs on me. My beloved father would be beyond appalled and so deeply hurt if he knew this about his own church family to say the least. Bottom line, no one cares and that's the problem with the world and today's society. If I had the funds, I would be helping anyone and everyone I could especially if it meant that I could save them from being homeless! In a nation with such an abundance of wealth, NO ONE should go homeless! So look around, not only on Y.Tube but in your own community/town and you'll see this which is beyond heartbreaking and unnecessary! Those who choose to turn a blind eye to one who is need of help will have to stand before God one day and answer to Him. Bless these people in the video as I pray for them and all throughout the world who are in need of help from another. May we all find the happiness and peace we seek in this world and in our lives. Love and Blessings to all
You have my sincere condolences,please be strong I know it's hard.i lost both my parents and brother.i was devasted.time does help heal.im not trying to preach ,I'm not a perfect CHRISTAIN,I sin everyday.you don't want to commit......?it's a sure ticket to hell.i will pray for you,you also pray.You have meaning on this earth.You will be loved.things will get better.if you want to talk please hmu ..
That sounds terrible! But always remember, that you've got this. You are strong enough to persevere, trust me.
As I began to read your story, I had to look to make sure I had not written it myself! My Dad also passed, literally 7 years ago today. He was also a pastor. Several other points in your story also mirror mine. The one thing that is different is that I'm a little further ahead in years. I will share what helped me the most:
1. I have rescued several pets who became my family. Until you can find a way to support yourself, even visiting a local dog or pet shelter might help provide some comfort while also giving another living being some love. You could also visit people in a Nursing Home. When you refocus on serving someone else, it can help alleviate some of the temporary sadness and discomfort.
2. If you don't have work, then find something that's easy to do for awhile. Something that provides an income without being emotionally or physically demanding. It will give you time to check out of your sadness for those hours you're there and check in to something purposeful which will give you sustenance.
3. Journal. It doesn't have to be pretty or perfect. Journal on napkins in a restaurant. Journal in a dollar store notebook. Journal on your computer. Whenever you feel sad, glad, angry, joyful, or experience memories, just sit down and let it flood out onto the paper (virtual paper). First, it will help release the energy. Next, it will provide you a personal road map as to how far you've come or patterns of thought when you look back. You don't have to even re-read it if you don't want to, but it will help release the emotional energy and give you some relief.
4. Use call lines. Join groups online. Visit local groups if there are any. Visit your local library! They might have groups. The point being - go where there are people. Even if it's just getting yourself a cheap coffee at a local coffee shop and sitting there to read or write. It can break up the monotony of staying home alone and that cycle of energy that makes the days seem long when they are actually all the same - 24 hours. Go "shopping" even if you don't buy anything. Take a walk in the park. Watch free movies on YT! Even funny ones like "I love Lucy" "Shirley Temple" or the "Three Stooges". These will give you an occasional laugh and help boost those brain chemicals to lift your mind and heart.
5. Read the Psalms. Some are good, and some are written when the author was distraught. You might be able to identify with him. For the joyful ones, allow yourself to feel the goodness or the lightening of your heart.
6. Realize that sadness is universal. There is nothing none of us have felt that hasn't been felt by many others before us. What you are feeling is common to humankind. You are not alone. That being said, know that you will also make it through this and the grief will feel less intense over time. Things will change. Even if they come and go, life is short. One day your time will come, too. So just sit and allow yourself to value the moment you are in. God provides. Accept others' charity. Call local charity groups and see if they can provide some temporary help.
You will make it. If there was a way for us to chat, I'd be happy to chat with you or listen. But God will listen - 24/7/365 as you know. Lay your burdens down at His cross, and He will lift you up.
The man in red shirt is just so cool. The living mention of the fact that you really can be happy, smiling etc. just give it another chance. To anyone struggling keep fighting. I know this feeling, like without you the world's the same, with you it's the same, but it's not true. You just don't want to know or forgot how many people you made remember you, mistakes are acceptable, concentrate more on your good deals
Beautiful souls! Thanks for sharing your stories and your hope! God Bless!!!❤❤❤
This was awesome, very well put together. Courageous, kind folk.
I hope all 3 of you feel better.
The end of my life is in sight. I'm 32, there's no hope for me and I'm absolutely beyond exhausted at this point, it's better for me to end my suffering. I've thought about the eventualities and to end my life makes the most sense (struggling with Cerebral Palsy for which there is no cure and in fact it can only get progressively worse with time in spite of physio and whatever other options may become available to me like one more surgery, though that is highly unlikely; I'm tired of my job and my life in general and I have been for a long time; 'coping' and 'positivity' based on nothing means nothing); most likely I'll be dead in a month, maybe two. I'm tired of pointless distractions and the problems that pertain to this life: there honestly is no way out (believe me when I say I've thought of every potential 'positive' and it's really no positive at all and even if it genuinely was it's just not enough to motivate me to continue to live). People can call me selfish if they want but if they went through it themselves I guarantee they wouldn't last long-I'll be out of here soon and I'm glad about it.
I'm so glad you're all still here.
I don't think suicide is a easy way out once you commit suicide you just had enough of life
Yeah, calling it easy way out is kind of absurd.
@@dimmacommunication Well if you're facing a terminal illness and have months to live....a right to die is the way to go and/or hospice. Why would you go through so much pain?
@@TerenceWynn-bw2li To be honest most people don't even understand how life is with pain,real pain.
I had it and it's not even living, you can't even work, you just wish it could end.
@@dimmacommunication See...so if you're suffering with something like cancer it makes sense to want to end it.
Not sleeping makes me way worse
My brother had numerous attemps at suicide with the second last attemp her m having to learn to walk again and a colostomy bag...12 months after that he succeeded in a brutal suicide...it has torn our whole family apart to the point we are jo longer a family...RIP Corey🙏❤️🥰love you my brother
@shannonricketts4628 I’m 😰so very sorry. My brother attempted 3x last year. He’s still here with us and seems to be ok but he seemed ok before all of this.
This is a beautiful video. I closed my eyes and listened. The advice was sooo good.
Really great discussion
I hate when people think suicide is the easy way out. Taking your own life is actually the hardest decision a person will ever make.
I don't think of myself as a suicide survivor, I'm a suicide "failure".
I hear these younger people talking about how life is important, and it probably is for them, but, when your older (I'm 63), life doesn't feel important anymore.
I'm really angry with myself for failing... and people who are paid to talk to me, social workers, don't get that I am too bloody old and tired to keep trying to care. I saw a comment somewhere here about voluntary euthanasia. If that was available for someone like me, I'd sign up in a heartbeat.
Taking your own life isn't easy , I don't really understand how people say it
I’m with you. I’m 55 and I’m sick of being heartbroken time after time.
I’d decided a while back that 75 was my limit but the way the world is going and how lonely I am ima ready now.
I failed too, because someone found me. If I had a gun, at the time, I wouldn’t be here right now. The misery remains.
I'm 50 and homeless and I'm going to continue to live for what, exactly?? It's just been getting worse and worse for about 3 years. If you're homeless, you should automatically be given the option for voluntary euthanasia as there are no resources to end the suffering; it is no fun being outside overnight in 20 degree weather. I agree with everything you have said. I'm also a suicide "failure". I have spent 2 years homeless and on some spiritual quest. What I determined is that this is just a material world based on greed. If you don't make enough money to afford your rent, you become homeless and suffer. Then, as you get older, there are less people around and way more pain in your body. I'm sure its not like this for everyone, but its my reality.
@ I’m not even going to begin to assume that I know your situation or what you’re going through. I’m also not going to sit here and try and tell you how to think. You have something to give the world whether you believe so or not though. I hate seeing people suffer. I was there, like you, on the streets for a long time. And you know what? It was the freest I have ever felt. I’m also a member of this unfortunate club that so many of us belong to. Being pressed to your limits is a terrible thing. I’m a total stranger to you, I don’t know where or who you are, but you’ll be in my thoughts today.
No one is a burden seek help I lost 2 loved ones and no problem is worth you leaving us. Please talk to someone and don't give up we need you here. ❤️ You might want the easy way out but the truth is u take a piece out of our heart with you when you take away your own life. Be here for your loved ones you are loved !!! Life is full of obstacles but fight to get through it don't give up please!!! 😔😭😢
Damn for years ago. We need more people like you
Great video. Really enjoyed listening ❤
Great video, surprised you don’t have more subscribers!
Thanks a bunch!
Even if people have friends, not everyone is willing to be available when people are feeling challenged. Empty words and promises won't help. If you say you're going to be there, be there. If not, all you do is reinforce the reason for doing it.
Also, even people with friends - I really don't believe that everyone would have others who truly care and who would miss them. Our society has changed with social media and is changing more with AI. No one asks to be born. We are given life, but we are not all brought into a loving family.
I think it's good that these individuals shared. However, everyone's story is different. I believe that if people don't want to be in the world that we should provide a way out for them that's supported. Why should it only be individuals with physically terminal illnesses that are permitted to access support?
For some there is no real support. Conversations are only for a moment, but they don't last and they don't solve most of the real issues.
I agree with you. A humane society would allow a way out that is not cruel or devastating, because it doesn't have to be. People don't keep their word. They don't want to be there with you through the hard times. People say the person that was in so much pain that they had to force themselves to go against every biological instinct in their brain and body to die of their own volition are selfish. I say the people that expected them to day while showing them every single day that they couldn't care less if we live or die are the selfish ones. I just got out of a four year relationship with someone I've known for 20 years. He is fully aware that I've been struggling with suicidal thoughts and have the means to use them, but he says nothing. Not a single word, or a single hug. I'm a joke to people.
@@memyselfi2005 I feel exactly the same as you. There needs to be a way out. Everyone is different. I am homeless, lost everything because I trusted a demon. No family. It's cold outside. There is nothing left to live for. I'm 50, done everything. I swear the universe has dealt me so many blows, it wants me to unalive.
Some people carry horror stories so dark and twisted that they could rival a grand macabre tale, filled with haunting details and unimaginable suffering. Yet, through it all, pain becomes a relentless teacher-and by God, you’ll learn.
I don’t want another failed relationship. I don’t want to be alone anymore
Relatable, the hurt from a broken relationship is the hardest thing in the world if you ask me. The love is the best when you have it but when it's gone, was it really even worth it to suffer this much 💔. Here if you wanna vent.
Human beings evolved to live in Matriarchal Tribes, not marriages. I suggest researching matriarchal tribes to learn how the human family is supposed to be structured.
Humans are meant to live in tribes made up of multiple generations, tribes that stay together for life.
Your loneliness is a product of our incorrectly structured families.
@José de Jesús dude, that's not helpful at all.
@@makaveli8745 Truth matters. We live in a society that brainwashes us from childhood that happiness comes from falling in love and getting married. We are being sold a lie, and so many kill themselves over failed relationships. It's insane.
Have you ever researcrd matriarchal tribes? It's a family system where marrage is not practiced. It's a family system that works so much better than what we practice in the modern age.
Our human dysfunction is caused by marriage. Sex is a drug, and structuring our families around a sexual relationships is *DUMB.*
There's a better way to live, a *proper* way to live, but most people are so obsessed with playing Romeo and Juliet, that it's hard to get them to see things clearly, just like a drug addict hooked on a drug.
Family is Fundamental. Our dysfunction is a product of our incorrectly structured human families. It's the Truth.
@@makaveli8745 you are awesome
Attempted 3 times now. I’m 20 years old from the uk. I’m having flashbacks almost every night on top of being harassed and the things I’m having flashbacks about repeating. Not only have I begged for helped numerous times which feels degrading and riddled in guilt, not only to myself but the people dealing with it, but the most successful thing I’ve managed to achieve is being put on a 1 and a half year waiting list to be let back into therapy. Mental illness is rampant in my family. My mother is bipolar, dad is bpd (who has also attempted suicide, he hung himself and luckily my grandad found him and cut him down, when I was little. Due to my mothers abuse and antics.) and I’m well… just utterly f***ed. 😆 I don’t know how many times I can explain to people that I cannot make it for that long, which sounds selfish I know. Self help doesn’t work. The system doesn’t work, but that’s okay because, hey! Atleast people can receive joy from my struggles. I know it’s very amusing to some. Even to my own family members. I cannot cope, and no matter how much I try I cannot get away. People just need an escape and in turn receive scrutiny and mockery, yet when they succeed in those attempts it’s a tragedy. World is a pretentious, virtuous, self righteous shithole and although I’m still here, I’m not. Which apparently doesn’t matter. A dead body costs less than therapy. In this instance talk is not cheap. I wish I could find this level of empathy in real life. The only time I have is when a little old man and his dog found me on a bridge, talked me down from it and let me walk with them. The only hope I have that’s keeping me going is the possibility that one day I can run into him again and thank him. I don’t believe in religion or higher beings, but if there is such thing as an earth angel it was that man. Maybe one day I’ll find more strength, kindness and courage and have the privilege to be that man rather than the opposite. It’s easy to say “1st world problems” whilst feigning ignorance to the concept of ‘the 4th world’, which is a very real issue with catastrophic effects. Wishing you all the best of luck on your journey.
@@DavidJohn37-zx1er Thankyou so much David! Apologies, I’ve only just seen this. I’m in a much calmer mind frame at the moment and only just noticed quite how erratic this comment was lol. I was freaking out at the time, not only with this video resonating so much but I’d also just found out that I was being discharged from my gp, due to ending up out of the catchment area. I find self reflection to be a great tool (a lot more so than many of the current options available tbh) in not only recovering from turmoil, but understanding other people too. Life feels a lot less isolating that way. I’d love to be in the position to make a difference one day… personally, I believe that being at war with yourself only ever leads to war with others & vice versa, that’s enough motivation to accept everything and keep moving on…most of the time. Just need to put the care, persistence as you said and work in to keep ahold of that when dealing with those dark moments…if not for my own sake just quite yet, then for the sake of the people that do care. Again, thankyou, I appreciate the effort and time a lot and I’ll be thinking on it for sure. Best wishes to you mate!
@@DavidJohn37-zx1er Apologies in advance If that was a bit of a scattered reply. I’m half asleep atm haha, was listening to some music to drift off to and noticed the notification.
Wow the first young man sounds like me and exactly the same symptoms but even after hearing these stories I’m still on my 10 things I have to do before I blow my head off, have 8 to go, I have a psychologist and talk and text with her all the time, she knows I want out and the pain to stop and she’s trying her hardest
I feel so alone...I have struggles woth syicidal thoughts, I just feel and know nobody truly cares.l about me..or me being here. Except my kids.
It should be mandatory in therapy sessions to have to listen to and watch the aftermath of loved ones left behind. Some have posted to YT their 911 calls after finding their loved one and they're saving lives. So many have commented how it's made them change their minds and hold on. You don't rid your pain, you just pass it to others and sometimes it's too much for them to bare. So please remember this and listen to the 911 calls and watch the stories other ppl have put out there just for you in hopes of saving your life. Even strangers find you important enough to share the worst time in their lives with you
No it shouldn't be mandatory, you would be doing nothing but guilt shaming them
God bless, comfort, and heal each one of you, from inside out and head to toe. He will never leave you. ❤
Great topic. Ive tried 5 times!!?? Right, 8m not a quitter!!! But im so very thankful i failed repeatedly.... Keep on trucking!!!
Lonely nobodies always bull shit on line. 8x and you survived??? What a pathetic Ioser…crying for attention. Piss off.
Thank you for this video....❤
I was treated with rage and being pushed away, excluded.
It is a cruel miracle that I am even alive.
I am done dealing with other people
I am mostly alone now. It is okay,
At this point solitude beats the chance of ever being pushed away like I was, ever again.
People hurt. All I wanted was a hug, all I ever needed was a hug.
I am not gonna fight for a hug anymore, I'll just figure out this career thing I am trying to get on its feet
I get to work on things I like, alone, away from other people. I'll get money, one day I'll have somewhere permanent to live.
It wont satisfy the need for physical and emotional closeness with other people, but when I think of it, I'd rather die from the cardiovascular effects of not having that, than ever deal with humans and the trauma they can inflict.
It just sucks that all the guides on how to survive this type of thing implies the person has anyone around them capable of supporting/willing to support them.
Some of us are all alone, I lived in an illusion of not being all alone. I've deleted my socials since, I don't want to stare at those faces living their peaceful and warm lives and not even taking 10 minutes to come by, give me a hug and say it is going to be okay. I am past that condition now, my purpose is to seek happiness in isolation, success in pure spite for these people.
Some of these people I have been there for when they were suicidal way back, they must have forgotten me. I don't believe in favours or brownie point economies, but I kind of expected at least some of them to be there for me when shit got tough.
I guess this life is just that road I must travel, and I am the only person on it, I am alone in the pursuit of a fulfilling life, of peace and stability, of understanding, if not by others, at least by myself.
Guess I'll write a guide on how to survive life, that doesn't assume that emotional and physical intimacy, support and purpose are accessible to the endangered individual.. when I got someplace to live that feels safe.
"How to transcend hope and purpose: A social animal's guide to surviving without the support of others"
Some sources say suicide affects at least 6 other people intimately. Well those 6 other people must be adorning their scalps with their rectums, and I cant even name them anymore. My dad, maybe? But my dad is a major asshole. My sister? She barely even remembers I exist. I, the snapped rope and my survival instinct conclude in unison that I must do this for myself, not for anyone else, that caring and empathy is a vestigial thing, leftover from a time where people could not survive alone. I must be strong and callous, and learn to feel happy and content without anyone around me, for years, as many years as I have left on this planet.
Life gives lemons you make lemonade, but when life drowns you in solitude, try to grow gills no matter how impossible that sounds.
Don't treat peope like they are sick or broken or below you, or that you have all the answers to their probelms "if they would JUST...xzy". Ppl acting superior to me just made me want to push them away as I felt like they were treating me inferior and the "help" felt controlling
Sorry that you look at it that way. People just want to help in any way they can. You stop trying to help after a while when you realize it's pointless, and then it's "nobody cares about me" so it's like a no win situation
@@Stephaniewasherewhat basis are your comments? Sometimes people want to 'help' just to feel like a 'helper' and feel like they've 'helped' so feel like a 'good' person. Example: a relative sending endless long letters about how much the relative cares about the person they're writing to.
I get it...I don't talk to anyone about anything if I can help it....I've learned that the "help" is biased and often serves the person 'helping' more than the person needing help...like "call this number"...."do this thing"....which becomes "we did help you and you didn't listen or do it....(blah blah)". I often find it's those trained in counselling or medical for your proposed condition that are the worst....like they "know" the answer because they "know" you, and you must receive their only offer of 'help' which often makes it worse.
@@Stephaniewasherehonestly, sounds like so many people I know, your comment.
Please do stop trying to "help" if the 'help' is just wrong and unhelpful which is clearly obvious in that it's not working. Suggestion: think about the KIND of help being offered instead of just automatically going in with the kind of 'help' that "must be the answer".
I guess 'helpers' can call anything they want "help" can't they and it's justified.
By the way, it's not "look at it that way" is it? Which implies a choice doesn't it. Life difficulties aren't a choice, neither are having to deal with misprescripts '.
It's about the Impact of needing help, like real needs, but not getting help and instead getting placated by pretend help from single mindedness and bias.
Pointless it may be for the 'helper', yes, if the wrong 'help' impacts the 'helper' in any small way....to quote you back to yourself: "sorry that you look at it that way".
If the concern is the person who needs "help" then it matters not if it's a "no win situation" for the 'helper'...is it about the 'helper' winning anyway???
If the person trying to be 'helped' 'thinks' "nobody cares about me" wth does that matter? How would the helper know what they think anyway. Perhaps it's just annoying to the helper that the person didn't 'get helped'by them so they must come up with some self rationalisation to deflect their lack of 'helping' ability and blame the victim.
RIP Chester. You were a Hero. You always will be.
The silver lining is NOT always there. Everybody is fighting a battle that the rest of us cannot see.
wow special and brave people its not easy to talk about , and hearing stories and talking to people that been through some kind of mental illness, rape, abuse physically or mentally or any will understand you more then someone that never experience it,,it made me feel finally someone that understand me and itmade me feel less alone ,,even a professional that study your issues wont even understand you, so it doesn't matter if your poor, rich or skinny,fat,friend, stranger, two soul that felt some kind of pain feel like instinct,, after 8 years its stranger and hearing others with similar issues,got me out of my depression,, probably never gonna be 100% the girl i was before all my trauma but atleast i love leaving again and being a mom , i appreciate more just the little stuff, now i got my tools i can still have a beautiful life, i feel less victims now,the reason i when through that is to help someone like me someday,i know when the say am ok is not true i said that 8 years and like the guy say just show up ❤❤❤
My 30 year old son has told me that if his life doesn't get better by 50 he will commit suicide. Most of the time he didn't talk about it but I knew it was there. I can tell if he's down. He doesn't want to talk about and outpatient care is too expensive, lots of co-pays.
I think he knows I am here for him.
I hope things do get better for him, and you're an amazing parent for being there for him.
I am also a Suicide Survivor died for 6 mins in 2019 and again was put on a Ventilator July 10, 2024 still struggle every day with a lot of physical issues and 5 brain surgeries where I am dizzy and now recently diagnosed with POTS I still am in a dark world and homeboy which makes life extra hard
I can totally relate to the first young man!!
I have been there last year more than once I lost my husband and I'm still here and dont know why.
Bereavement is so difficult. Your so much stronger than you believe you are. Im happy your still here🤍
you need to talk!!
Because Jeh God wants you here...Hang in there...
I honesty believe it’s possible or to rationally conclude it’s better to end my life without any depression being involved. I’ve come to a point in my life where I can use logic and reason to estimate that the chances of me achieving the one thing I need in my life to feel happy and fulfilled are very, very close to zero. I’d previously realised this and clung onto hope, but my failure to realise a freak opportunity that came along out of the blue last year that blows anything else I’ve ever experienced out of the water has me convinced I missed my last chance (getting too old to capture that kind of lightning twice). I’ve had a good run and there are many good things in my life, but there comes a point where even doing nice things gets old when it’s against a background of basic needs not being met.
So yeah, it ought to be time to quit, but I’m having to hang around because my Dad would never recover if I threw the switch. It’s carrying on living when I don’t want to that’s causing my depression, not the other way round. No choice though - gotta keep on keeping on. Just not sure if I’ll ever be able to function enough to get back to work - takes all my strength and a heavy reliance on ‘distraction vices’ like RUclips just to keep my mind away from the reality I no longer want to live in.
I can't tell you how many times it just ends in arguments when I try to talk. Not to mention, I get guilt tripped sometimes, too, lol
What if you don't have anyone to listen? My mom and siblings couldn't care less
There are suicide phone lines.
A stranger can be easier to talk to.
Life can change in an instant, for the better.
I care about you, please try if you can to make that call.
Love from England 🇬🇧
Nice interview bro
Thank you, man!
The pain is too much..... How will it end?
It’s particularly hard for me because I don’t have any friends I could talk to or hang out with. I am completely alone. I have been for so long. I can’t anymore
Their message is truly uplifting! I was hoping their facebook would be in the description 😊
I just saw this video my first time. It's February 14, 2024 4am. I don't see where the contact info is for those people. I hope they're still available. I forgot to add id rather talk to a person not a hotline because one of the times I've called a whole bunch of people showed up cops and I told them I won't end my life if I can have someone kind to hear me out however you only get like 10 minutes then forced to hang up and call back but get a different person to re explain everything.
Who is the guy in the hat that says people can call hasn’t get a hold of him if they’re struggling? And how do you get a hold of him?
Such kind people.
I envy those who succeed in suicide. No more guilt, pain and suffering for them.
Yah between chronic pain .. and just where I am at .......really not worth it anymore.
7:10 - 7:21
made me cry.
Thank you
People talking doesn’t help. You need to put yourself through it. You are alone in the world but it is ok.
Defund the governments of the world.
I have called the suicide hot line more than once they have a recording that ask which option do you need they
Life is no where near precious. I didn't ask to be here and I don't want to be here.😢
You still feel this way
That's right life isn't precious it's a long non ending shitshow that's monotonous what planet do y'all live on btw
it feels boring and not interesting at all.
When You Beg For Help And No One Listens.
Call a hotline. Go to the hospital. Talk with people online... in the comment section. People care more than you know. I recommend therapy. Hang in there. Be well 🙏❤️
Alone 24/7 Broken Pelvis (Faulty Spiked Gate)
No Cooker Bed Furniture.Lost Job.
Dread Waking Up,Imprisoned In Empty Flat.
I can pray. Sometimes we have no choice but to pray for ourselves or for others because no one is coming and the pain is insidiously evil, vile and mercilessness. Each moment existing is so hideous I know it's hard to pray to a God who allows such cruelty to take our minds, souls and bodies to such depths of despair. It's like "There can't BE a merciful, loving, forgiving God."
Then it's like every prayer I can pray I pray for hours -mostly begging for sleep. I speak the name of Jesus when I can barely move my lips or use my vocal chords. It's no fun talking about it though. It,'s a real downer. We don't have the intestinal fortitude to bear our own suffering well so why would we expect anyone else to want a piece of that action. Jesus comfort, relieve and console those of us who are on the verge of losing our minds except in deepest sleep and grant us sleep if not deliverance. Miracles are within Your power both in this life and through death. Rescue us if You're real. We have no choice but to believe You are.
Show your power. Hear my prayer.
@Mercilessnessiseverywhere Thank You For Thinking Of Me&Your Kind Reply.
I'm a suicide attempt survivor.
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I'm happy that your still here with us!
You can reply to me if you need to talk!!
@@lemonchan2013 I was molested by my sister and cousins from age 5-9 and was mentally and verbally abused by my mom my whole life. Still a virgin and never had a girlfriend and scared to look people in the face.
@@shylonkado9857oh wow… have you ever sought out counseling? You need to talk to someone. ❤️
I’ve tried to kill myself and i failed but I did learn from my past mistakes. I will win next time
i’m very sad you have to go through that
Can you not cut between the stories. It just seems like a really odd choice and makes it harder to follow
I think you're awesome
None of them had NDE???
That’s not what this video is about.
Some of them were probably not near death. I think sometimes, these attempts are more of a cry for help. For example, taking a handful of pills when they had access to bottles.
Stop having kids, people! Spare them all the pain & suffering in this cruel world we live in. How would you feel if your own child took their life?
This is the best reply I have ever heard.......
I agree. This is a horrible rock we live on... :(
I love children but I think the whole human race should just not exist. Humans should have never been created. NEVER! WORST IDEA EVER. PEOPLE GO THROUGH SO MUCH PAIN.
@@lemonchan2013lemon chan I want to talk
@@ahmedalhamadi1231 what’s up?
I've met many ppl who's survive a suicide!
5:30❤ 7:10🙂 3:50 same 9:00🫠
Other people are not responsible for your happiness.
No wonder world became dull and lonely with people like you around you do realise that words are free so try being nice tell to somone hi how are you how you doing all by the way no one asked you to make them happy so your coment is meaninglles
God can help/heal/relieve/deliver you from the spirits of death/suicide/sadness/depression/other mental issues/trauma/despair/fear/etc... And as
also with the RIGHT therapy/counseling/medications and if needed hospitalization can all help. Repentance/Prayer/Fasting/Reading the Bible/Cry "Out to God desperately for HELP". God created ALL thee helps for MAN to be able to HELP PEOPLE. GOD GAVE THEM THE WISDOM and KNOWLEDGE TO HELP. Trust God. He is waiting
I don’t want to fail my attempt
Do not attempt!!!
If you're in the USA:
www.fcc.gov/988-suicide-and-crisis-lifeline
Other countries:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines
@Eidelmania Call one of the lines in the above links and talk to someone qualified to help!! It can get better. Just give one of those lines a call and give it a try.
You can reply to me if you need to talk!!
You can reply to me if you need to talk!!
Hope you guys are still here.
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Yes, definitely distract them.
Struggling alone without God makes people fall onto despair. Go inside a Catholic church and kneel in one of the pews in front of the Holy Tabernacle and ask God to show you if He is real. His peace will come upon you and change everything. He promised that if we seek Him with a sincere heart we WILL find Him. And He IS there. ❤
Nope. He's only in the holy of holies.
It's at the very end of the tent.
The veil was torn though.
He got out.
He made a way to Him through Christ
Now it's at death you will find Him and that come fast enough for many in dire circumstances so vile they are unthinkable. Instant death all around for those who suffer unspeakably. Jesus end the mercilessness.
All i wanted was a women to show me some tlc but it was too much for her to show me. Its sad sad indeed.
Need to do something please about surviving attempts an how world stigmatization makes you feel like you wish it would have worked. I shot myself in face with shotgun an came to minus most my face ….. so shot myself again threw the chest an still alive.. after years my family just don’t don’t want to deal with Avery different me(brain damaged). So they want nothing to do with me or help . I lost everything I’ve worked for 40 years. Gonna happen again!!
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I trayed subside a server
I'd like to hear what those of us who survived a loved one committing suicide have to say! You know, like when your Mom kills herself and leaves you without a Mom....too bad we can't ask wtf that was all about. Don't people think about the effect this has on those they left behind? Do they think about the person who will find their body? no because they only care about themselves, we're the real survivors here! but they don't have any more pain - nope, we get to have that for the rest of our lives. They're just a bunch of self absorbed cowards and they can rot in hell. We all have problems, get your shit together like the lady in red. Her I can respect. Don't anyone even tell me not to be angry....I feel how I feel and I said what I said.
Do you care about how those who commit suicide felt? Self-absorbed much?
Guilty because u to blame for your wife .....shane on u
Jesus is the answer!!! Our God, the Creator of the heavens and earth, has broad shoulders and can be your rock!!! In your darkest moments, reach out to JESUS, He’s always there! Believe it, I’ve been there too. He gives you unspeakable joy and a love you’ve never known!
If religion has helped you personally, I’m happy for you, but please don’t try to convert suicidal people. If someone had tried that with me, it would’ve been just one more blow to my trust in people.
@@psixens7580
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with saying to try Jesus to a person standing on the edge of life or death, that’s when He comes to the rescue! Try it and you will see, just call His name, tell Him you need help and He will change your heart and your life! People will try every pill a doctor throws at them, and gripe when it doesn’t work, but I say “try Jesus” and you get offended? There’s something severely wrong with that.
@@psixens7580
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with saying to try Jesus to a person standing on the edge of life or death, that’s when He comes to the rescue! Try it and you will see, just call His name, tell Him you need help and He will change your heart and your life! People will try every pill a doctor throws at them, and gripe when it doesn’t work, but I say “try Jesus” and you get offended? There’s something severely wrong with that.
@@psixens7580
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with saying to try Jesus to a person standing on the edge of life or death, that’s when He comes to the rescue! Try it and you will see, just call His name, tell Him you need help and He will change your heart and your life! People will try every pill a doctor throws at them, and gripe when it doesn’t work, but I say “try Jesus” and you get offended? There’s something severely wrong with that. Jesus is not “religion”, He’s a relationship!
@psixens7580
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with saying to try Jesus to a person standing on the edge of life or death, that’s when He comes to the rescue! Try it and you will see, just call His name, tell Him you need help and He will change your heart and your life! People will try every pill a doctor throws at them, and gripe when it doesn’t work, but I say “try Jesus” and you get offended? There’s something severely wrong with that.
If youre looking for an answer im here to tell you drugs is an option..cope brothers and sisters
I've been thinking a lot about shrooms because I've heard they can help with severe PTSD and depression. But it'll have to be discrete and will be risky because they're illegal where I am. I've done so much healing on my own it's insane, but there's something there. Every time I laugh or smile it comes and it makes me stop. It's not fair. If this is how it's going to be then I don't see any point in continuing because this isn't how life is supposed to be lived. I don't just want to function. I want to be functional but I want to be happy and at peace as well. Completely. I set a purpose to heal because I wanted to know what life could be life when it's all okay. It's not enough to just be at 95%. I'm going to see what I can do about the shrooms.
1st world problems
JESUS CAN SEE YOU THROUGH. SEE THERE'S ONLY ONE OF TWO PLACES THAT WE GO AFTER WE DIE. HEAVEN OR HELL. THERE IS NO PURGATORY OR ANYTHING ELSE. MOST OF US LIVE OUR LIVES AS IF WE DON'T HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT FOR HOW WE HAVE LIVED OUR LIVES.
WE ARE ALL SINNERS IN NEED OF A SAVIOR. GOD CAME DOWN AS GOD AND IN HUMAN FORM AS A MAN IN JESUS CHRIST TO GIVE HIS LIFE TO REDEEM US FROM THE PENALTY OF SIN. JESUS SAID I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH TO THE FATHER BUT BY ME ...
WE CAN ONLY GET TO GOD THROUGH THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. HE IS THE ONLY WAY.
MOST PPL THINK THAT IF I DO ENOUGH GOOD TO BALANCE OUT THE BAD IVE DONE GOD WILL LET ME IN OR THAT GOD WILL JUST FORGIVE ME OF IT ALL WHEN I GET THERE ... THATS THE BIGGEST LIE IN THE ROOM. THATS WHAT THE DEVIL USES TO LULL US INTO DULLNESS.
OH GOD WILL JUST WIPE IT ALL OUT WHEN I GET THERE.... THATS NO WHERE IN THE BIBLE. THAT'S THE BIGGEST LIE IN THE ROOM..... IT'S A LIE FROM THE PIT OF HELL.
THE ONLY WAY TO BE SAVED IS TO BELIEVE IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST AND OBEY HIS COMMANDS. WE CANT JUST SAY WELL ILL COME TO JESUS WHEN IM REALLY OLD OR GET SICK OR SOMETHING. GOD KNOWS WHEN WE ARE SERIOUS ABOUT OUR SINS AND WHEN WE'RE JUST TRYING TO USE HIM TO GET OUT OF OUR PREDICAMENT. HE KNOWS WHEN WE ARE REALLY REPENTING AND WHEN OUR HEART HAS DECEIVED US .... THE BIBLE SAYS WHEN YOU HEAR MY VOICE HARDEN NOT YOUR HEART. THE BIBLE SAYS SEEK YE THE LORD WHILE HE MAY BE FOUND, CALL YE UPON HIM WHILE HE IS NEAR:
LET THE WICKED FORSAKE HIS WAY, AND THE UNRIGHTEOUS MAN HIS THOUGHTS: AND LET HIM RETURN UNTO THE LORD, AND HE WILL HAVE MERCY UPON HIM, AND TO OUR GOD; FOR HE WILL ABUNDANTLY PARDON- ISAIAH 55V5-6
Just Ask Jesus Romans 10:9
That crap doesn't work
@@Adam-Mercer Santa clause is more effective.. at least you get a present