My mom and dad divorced when I was seven years old. She went on to remarry six more times. After awhile, you just become numb and don’t trust anyone again. I’m sixty-three now. My only child died in an accident twelve years ago.
Wow! I am so sorry to hear about all that you had endured. I am also sorry to about the passing of your child. Even though it was 12 years ago, does a parent truly ever get over the passing of their child? My heart goes out to you. I don't know what your relationship with Jesus looks like, but I know that he longs to have a relationship with all of us and takes no pleasure in the perishing of the wicked as he wishes to see all come to salvation in him. When we come to Christ, repent and place our trust in him, his assurance is that he will give us peace, joy and rest. He is close to the broken-hearted and a present help in time of need. I am praying for you.
When I listen to the anecdotes and stories from kids' perspectives, I resolve within myself to work on myself as a mature adult and healthy inner child, before I get involved in a relationship, get married, have a child and have to go through divorce when the two parents are too immature in the relationship to nurture the love of the couple and shelter the child from emotional trauma. The child deserves love and protection in a nurturing way. The testimonies break my heart.
I agree with you. In addition, if we chose the type of partners that God recommends in his word then chances are more likely, based on a similar moral and ethical foundation, in Christ, that the marriage word stand the test of time. And also, that it will be a healthier marriage, happier, purpose driven, goal orientated marriage, setting a more conducive environment to rear children with godly characters, good morals, ethics and virtues based on biblical truth and more productive members of society. if the foundation is built incorrectly then how will the rest of the house stand? We have to start building on Christ, the rock of all ages and this starts with rearing godly kids, and to rear godly kids, you need godly parents abiding to the marriage structure as God had instituted in his word. Its when we stray from that, then we get what we just witnessed in the documentary.
I’m going through this right now and the hardest thing is the fact my WIFE gave up. Literally, figuratively, sexually etc etc and doesn’t understand the I am doing everything in my power to change her mind because I have faith that things can be mended and fixed for the sake of our family.
This has been one of the instances where society is wrong, people should have the right to divorce as long as they don't have children. After children were born the marriage should not be about two adults anymore, but about the kid. As someone that has been raised by a single mother and did a lot of reading about this phenomenon, I can say that single mothers are the cancer of the society. There is hard to come with something that equals the harm done by single mothers, to their kids and to society. Boys are not meant to be raised by women, boys need guiding from strong men, they need to be teached how to control their feelings and how to be strong as men. A man raised by a woman is a danger to society and the fact that over 60% of the inmates are the result of single mothers says everything. If we want a healthy society the first thing we need to do is to make sure our children are raised right...
I agree in part with what you wrote, however, the two adults should always put God first in their marriage, then their partner, and then the children. We love our children and try to raise them to be productive and happy. But, if we focus all our energy on the children, something else will suffer and it’s usually the marriage.
@@savahbejin7511 God doesn't exist and marriage goal is children. If you don't plan to make children, you shouldn't even marry. Sad that people as stupid as you have the right to an opinion, this is what is wrong with democracy, stupid people should not be allowed to offer opinions, they just waste everybody time.
People have to think that they can split up one day, kids or not they have to be consequent and do what make them happy, people who stay together just for the kids are stupid and prefer to stay unhappy than enjoy life. Have kids is just a selfish thing to force parents to stay together forever.
Look at these kids. Look at the maturity in their voices and the words they use. Many of these words come from the parents, therapists, or other adults´s mouths. This is NOT something to be proud of because they are NOT meant to know these words. They are not meant to grow so fast and by the way, let´s bury the fact that the overwhelming majority of jail population, of drug addicts, of people in all sort of serious problems, are children of divorced or single-house families. I am shocked on how you need a license to drive, you need to pass exams to go to college, but to do the most important thing a human can do, which is life creation, there are no tests, no exams, no licenses. I am an atheist nor a leftist but I believe people who are not married and proven to have a solid mental and emotional foundation should not be allowed to have children. Harsh measure, I know, but it would save lives. I wonder how these kids will do when they are adults, and it breaks my heart that I only need to read statistics to find out.
What is the point of this. Every parent with any common sense knows how difficult a divorce is on kids. Is this suppose to quit Everyone in staying in a bad marriage
I wont want the video i can just say if i live another 20 years with this pain i can get a medal but ill just suffer like i did now, i am a failed experiment of 2 nonmature individuals my only purpouse is to be a lesson for them
if we chose the type of partners that God recommends in his word then chances are more likely, based on a similar moral and ethical foundation, in Christ, that the marriage would stand the test of time. And also, that it will be a healthier marriage, happier, purpose driven, goal orientated marriage, setting a more conducive environment to rear children with godly character, good morals, ethics and virtues based on biblical truth and more productive members of society. if the foundation is built incorrectly then how will the rest of the house stand? We have to start building on Christ, the rock of all ages and this starts with rearing godly kids, and to rear godly kids, you need godly parents abiding to the marriage structure as God had instituted in his word. Its when we stray from that, then we get what we just witnessed in the documentary.
Just be careful with your new found "happiness" and "freedom" after the divorce. You might be ready to move on, but if you have children, they're going to be pretty fractured. You pretty much lose your sense of "home" forever. Children have no power or control.
My mom and dad divorced when I was seven years old. She went on to remarry six more times. After awhile, you just become numb and don’t trust anyone again. I’m sixty-three now. My only child died in an accident twelve years ago.
Wow! I am so sorry to hear about all that you had endured. I am also sorry to about the passing of your child. Even though it was 12 years ago, does a parent truly ever get over the passing of their child? My heart goes out to you.
I don't know what your relationship with Jesus looks like, but I know that he longs to have a relationship with all of us and takes no pleasure in the perishing of the wicked as he wishes to see all come to salvation in him.
When we come to Christ, repent and place our trust in him, his assurance is that he will give us peace, joy and rest. He is close to the broken-hearted and a present help in time of need. I am praying for you.
When I listen to the anecdotes and stories from kids' perspectives, I resolve within myself to work on myself as a mature adult and healthy inner child, before I get involved in a relationship, get married, have a child and have to go through divorce when the two parents are too immature in the relationship to nurture the love of the couple and shelter the child from emotional trauma. The child deserves love and protection in a nurturing way. The testimonies break my heart.
I'm in tears, it's deeply sad how they absorb all feelings and get hurt too in the middle of adult issues.
I believe if men and women followed traditional gender roles than the marriage would be much stronger. Less chance for kids to suffer.
I agree with you. In addition, if we chose the type of partners that God recommends in his word then chances are more likely, based on a similar moral and ethical foundation, in Christ, that the marriage word stand the test of time. And also, that it will be a healthier marriage, happier, purpose driven, goal orientated marriage, setting a more conducive environment to rear children with godly characters, good morals, ethics and virtues based on biblical truth and more productive members of society.
if the foundation is built incorrectly then how will the rest of the house stand? We have to start building on Christ, the rock of all ages and this starts with rearing godly kids, and to rear godly kids, you need godly parents abiding to the marriage structure as God had instituted in his word. Its when we stray from that, then we get what we just witnessed in the documentary.
Divorce was a thing back then too. I agree to a point but sometimes people are just bad people
Wow ... what maturity. The little lad in front of the Christmas tree in particular blows my mind.
It's not natural for young children to be that mature. Your childhood effectively ends in these moments, no matter what age you are.
I’m going through this right now and the hardest thing is the fact my WIFE gave up. Literally, figuratively, sexually etc etc and doesn’t understand the I am doing everything in my power to change her mind because I have faith that things can be mended and fixed for the sake of our family.
I'm all for staying together for the kids. Enough of this bs called 'divorce'.
This has been one of the instances where society is wrong, people should have the right to divorce as long as they don't have children. After children were born the marriage should not be about two adults anymore, but about the kid. As someone that has been raised by a single mother and did a lot of reading about this phenomenon, I can say that single mothers are the cancer of the society. There is hard to come with something that equals the harm done by single mothers, to their kids and to society. Boys are not meant to be raised by women, boys need guiding from strong men, they need to be teached how to control their feelings and how to be strong as men. A man raised by a woman is a danger to society and the fact that over 60% of the inmates are the result of single mothers says everything. If we want a healthy society the first thing we need to do is to make sure our children are raised right...
I agree in part with what you wrote, however, the two adults should always put God first in their marriage, then their partner, and then the children. We love our children and try to raise them to be productive and happy. But, if we focus all our energy on the children, something else will suffer and it’s usually the marriage.
@@savahbejin7511 God doesn't exist and marriage goal is children. If you don't plan to make children, you shouldn't even marry. Sad that people as stupid as you have the right to an opinion, this is what is wrong with democracy, stupid people should not be allowed to offer opinions, they just waste everybody time.
People have to think that they can split up one day, kids or not they have to be consequent and do what make them happy, people who stay together just for the kids are stupid and prefer to stay unhappy than enjoy life. Have kids is just a selfish thing to force parents to stay together forever.
This is heartbreaking man
💔 This hurt. Alot.
Affects...
I can relate to this 1000 percent 😢😭😭😭😭
Look at these kids. Look at the maturity in their voices and the words they use. Many of these words come from the parents, therapists, or other adults´s mouths. This is NOT something to be proud of because they are NOT meant to know these words. They are not meant to grow so fast and by the way, let´s bury the fact that the overwhelming majority of jail population, of drug addicts, of people in all sort of serious problems, are children of divorced or single-house families.
I am shocked on how you need a license to drive, you need to pass exams to go to college, but to do the most important thing a human can do, which is life creation, there are no tests, no exams, no licenses. I am an atheist nor a leftist but I believe people who are not married and proven to have a solid mental and emotional foundation should not be allowed to have children. Harsh measure, I know, but it would save lives.
I wonder how these kids will do when they are adults, and it breaks my heart that I only need to read statistics to find out.
What is the point of this. Every parent with any common sense knows how difficult a divorce is on kids. Is this suppose to quit Everyone in staying in a bad marriage
I wont want the video i can just say if i live another 20 years with this pain i can get a medal but ill just suffer like i did now, i am a failed experiment of 2 nonmature individuals my only purpouse is to be a lesson for them
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Childhood Trauma and the process of Healing ~ Daniel Mackler utube
if we chose the type of partners that God recommends in his word then chances are more likely, based on a similar moral and ethical foundation, in Christ, that the marriage would stand the test of time. And also, that it will be a healthier marriage, happier, purpose driven, goal orientated marriage, setting a more conducive environment to rear children with godly character, good morals, ethics and virtues based on biblical truth and more productive members of society.
if the foundation is built incorrectly then how will the rest of the house stand? We have to start building on Christ, the rock of all ages and this starts with rearing godly kids, and to rear godly kids, you need godly parents abiding to the marriage structure as God had instituted in his word. Its when we stray from that, then we get what we just witnessed in the documentary.
The most important is to be happy, better divorce than stay with the wrong person. This is not kids problem
And yet, the ones getting the most pain are the kids. But hey! the important thing is for the parents to be happy! yay!!!
PS: I am being sarcastic.
Just be careful with your new found "happiness" and "freedom" after the divorce. You might be ready to move on, but if you have children, they're going to be pretty fractured. You pretty much lose your sense of "home" forever. Children have no power or control.
"This is not kids problem" apparently it is ONLY kids' problem when parents are selfish pigs