Would YOU let your partner have a man/woman best friend?
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- Опубликовано: 1 окт 2024
- Is it really about trust? I'd love to read your thoughts. I use the terms he/him/guy/man/male and she/her/girl/woman/synonymously.
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I have a best friend that is a guy, and I'm married....we have been friends for 35 years plus....that being said, as much as I love him I don't gossip about my marriage to him or give him any kind of in because I know if I do, he will try to cross that line, it's human nature...We both have to work very hard at keeping everything strictly platonic. My husband is involved in everything and we have the trust there. Why am I still friends with him? Because I am literally the only person he has in his life that knows what he went through growing up and nobody else can really relate....and vice versa....he knows all the abuse I suffered as a child because it was him that I ran to since third grade. Now with all that being said, should he ever find a woman who gets him and can be there for him, and if she asks me to step away, I sure will do he can be happy. We live on different sides of the country as well so it's not like we are going to the movies or having best friend dates or anything.
I believe friendships between men and woman are possible but must have limits. They are different friendships than with the same sex. It’s especially hard for woman and men to be best friends with each other! There should be limits even if the two are single, but if one of them is not single, that friendship must have boundaries. Having male or female friends through family or friend of a friend is usually good, someone you see once in a while, in a group, a gathering or wedding. Wishing them happy holidays, congratulating them on an engagement, job promotion, baby, wishing them the best in life etc. These are all great, and I would be okay if my man did these things with his female acquaintances but honestly nothing more than that. It is not necessary for him to want anything else with another woman, if he is serious about one already whether they are getting to know each other, engaged or married! For me, it would be the same way with my male acquittances. It is not appropriate for a taken man or woman, to hang out with the opposite gender on a regularly basis, like going to the movies, eating out, being alone… it’s wrong. Either the other person will start to develop some feelings and want to make a move or both of them will do something they’ll regret. This is how affairs and divorces happen.
I want to say yes, my partner could have a female as best friend bc I don’t want to be jealous, insecure, hindering someone from forming the relationships they want to have or restrict his life or behaviour in any way but in all honesty, I don’t think it would work for me in the long run. I don’t know what it says about me but I would most likely have a problem with my man having a woman as best friend.
I know there are lots of women having male friends but that has never happened to me, no man has ever taken an interest in me trying to be just a friend. So I don’t see myself being in a relationship and then go out making a male my best friend. I simply don’t know how that works. I’ll stick to my girlfriends.
This to me is very simple. My personal answer is ... NO. Opposite sex friendships when in a relationship only leaves room for temptation especially if theres disagreements in the relationship and at some poimt there will be. Temptations can lead to cheating so its overall not healthy for the relationship.
having male/female friends should be fine but not your best friend. I have a friend (male) which I have known since we were 4 years old. we are close and since he got married I am also frends wth his wife. and I talk to his wife more often (phone). But we dont share these super duper personal thinhs with him. Why would I.. :)
I really like a lot of the things you’ve said and appreciate the insight/perspective you gave as a guy. Overall I’m enjoying your videos, keep it up 👌🏼
I never believed that guys and girls can be friends, but i think some people see it has a controlling issue its not that there fine with there partner having a frie d of the opposite sex but more so that they don't want to tell them you can or can't ha g out with such and such. I live in Quebec Canada and I feel like a lot of Quebec's have that free mentality way of thinking and that if you say don't do this or that they take it has you being abusive and controlling. Which I understand cause I use to see it that way too.. Until an Arabic men explained to me that it's far from that and just a sign of respect and now I see that people who don't understand that concept or level of respect have not truly matured or learned enough to know that it's anything but controlling. 🙏
My best friend is a strait man, i met him way before my husband. I introduced them to each other as soon as i could. My husband is now also very close to my best friend. Unfortunately he moved to Mexico, but i still consider him my best friend. Hi from Denmark
I totally agree with you. If i would have a boyfriend, yes I would trust him but not another girl. If he hasn't enough guy bestfriends then he'll have me.
peut étre dans l'occident il y a cette mentalité (et je pense que vous y connaissez mieux qu moi), mais chez nous ça ne marche pas amitié entre sexe un certain temps j'avais des filles que j'ai prises pour amies et je croyais que c'était ça
mais après un certain moment j'ai compris qu'elle étaient amoureuses et elles voulaient plus que l'amitié
et dans notre société et dans les relations en sexes differents le plaisir sexuel entre souvent au milieu
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