@@1lafchris No he is just a narcissist that doesn't like being confronted about his behaviour. Therapy only works if you put in the work no matter who you visit or how much you pay. So him asking that question is irrelevant and was just him being passive aggressive.
She’s biased towards Chioma but he was out of line to question her in the way he did but it was deflection. Maybe couples should choose a therapist jointly and the therapist’s role is to make both parties feel like she’s with them, not take sides. She got his back up from the start.
Honestly the best solution is to just swap partners. Deborah and Paul are both driven by money and Jamal just wants a pretty girl who appreciates him so Chioma would be perfect for him.
Paul would tighten Deborah right up. She wouldn’t be able to handle Paul. Deborah’s the only person whose behavior I despise more than Paul. It’s maddening.
Chioma would not be happy with Jamal because he does not pay attention to the girlfriend he already has. As he is always on his phone. I think that The men, and the incompatibility of their relationships are the problem here.
Paul is simply a man..but folks so acclimatised to these modern day flowerman spineless yes men Simps it makes him seem bad and what not .. you want men to lead and take charge well this what it looks like in reality
Paul feels inadequate and uncomfortable with chioma's level head and maturity. So he has to put emphasis on money to feel like a man... Chichi should run, it is not the relatiinship for you babygirl. When you distance he will come with a ring, don't fall for it. You deserve better
This relationship lasted three years because Chioma has decided to put up with attitude.He is trying to destroy her as an indivisual and love starved her because she will not conform.He helps pay the bills so he is not the provider.He has a maid and a sex partner.That all he needs.Chioma needs a relationship.
@@dominicpersaud1155 Don’t engage with them man. Those with this “thot-process” are delusional and think they are the same as men and offer the same value as men by behaving like men without realizing that men don’t want what they (delusionally) think we want.
@Krish Edwards exactly. She doesn’t respect or value him as a man really. If he didn’t have money, she’d just be complaining about that. Women want a rich man with a lot of time on his hands who somehow keeps them charmed 24/7 and who keeps from getting bored with the best sex on the planet and gives them Gucci bags while they pretend to be boss babes that humbly serve the Lord. It’s all cap. Girls like Chioma and most of the ones in the comments will lie and say I’m making things up.
High value men aren’t your friend. They are your authority. But y’all want alpha buddies that cuddle up with you all day while somehow paying all the bills and putting up with you being thots with your girls and on IG 😂
Cam your facial expressions when Paul is speaking is the same as mine 🤔😂 i find the he doesn't answer the questions and deflects, refers back to business and not the personal issues raised.
Paul is doing classic I don’t want to take no responsibility for my part in this relationship where I could be possibly wrong by deflecting and projecting onto the therapist. Which gives him the illusion that he is being assertive but in fact he is very insecure he may be good at making money but has no currency when it comes to intimacy love and affection. Love is very different than money and sex for example love lastsBecause of the intimacy and abundance does not just come from money
Exactly the points I made in next video! Insecurities are shining through most definitely. I’ll be intrigued to see how the next eps turn out. I’m still not convinced it’s entirely real!
@@dominicpersaud1155 You the only one on here who gets it. Love is a delusion. Duty is all that matters. Idgaf about a woman “loving” me because love is just a placeholder for the “role” you’re supposed to play. I want duty, respect, femininity, loyalty, virtue, and a good mother. A woman can receive love in the form of affection, protection, and provision.
Tropical juice I am really looking forward to seeing episode two of you analysing this series I am a subscriber and I’m in my 40s and I believe your channel and what you are doing is nothing more than Stella. Please keep the good vibes coming
It’s actually not uncommon for couples to set couples goals each month. It’s not an appraisal. It’s looking at what goals they want to achieve as a couple or what’s not working so they can address it. It’s recommended by couples therapists but also I know lots of couples who do it themselves.
This popped up on my listings randomly yesterday and I decided to watch it. Your reaction moment to moment was my exact reaction 🤣. Paul doesn't hear ANYTHING if it's not numbers...and is pretty narcissistic and Deborah feels to entitled about nothing. I was stuck after Episode 1 lol.
The woman who dress in black and her boyfriend was late. I've had friends like her in the past. She high maintenance and materialistic. I've been in uncomfortable situation when they belittle their boyfriends in front of people.
Did I just hear “paying 10k for table” I had to edit .....Paul said COUPLES REVIEW like it’s a damn company. The other couple is a Joke, it’s not because it’s her first relationship it’s HER and lack of respect tbh for her man telling his business and not giving a F%%%.
He has installed her as a housemaid that is his love language.He feels entitled as the provider etc. and he feels like that is love.He clubbing and feting in his business meeting and Chioma is feel neglected.
All high value men feel this way because all women want high value men. Just like pretty girls feel entitled to high value men. Everyone is selfish, men and women.
Definitely more realistic idea! Chioma and Jahmal move on together with their humble mature realustic selves with graitute. Paul and Deborah move along together with their materialistic dilusional unrealistic selves.
Both couples are mismatched but people are going in more on Paul but Chioma also has some issues with how she communicates and expresses herself. The therapist made the situation worse through the interventions used. In relationships, both parties have to assess their faults and their behaviour as individuals and within the relationship. Chioma keeps complaining but why is she still with him? Paul possibly isn’t ready for a relationship. I can’t get started on commenting on Deborah and Jamel because there’s too much to say.
Men like Paul lure you in. Secure you. Classic abusers. They get you to a place where they are confident about your love for them, then switch up on you. By the time he changed on her, she was so invested and attached to him that she can see the changes but thinks she’s the problem. And he ensures that every time she says something, he has a response that puts her back in a place of self doubt and thinking she’s crazy...
I don't think Deborah is a diva, I think she's underwhelmed by the sub-par treatment Jamal is giving her and because she doesn't know how to free herself, she's resentful. She's not asking for much really - basic respect, quality time, affection and attention when they are together. It is only respectful, when talking to someone, to pay attention to the conversation and not be listening to podcasts in the background, it's only respectful to ensure you are on time to meeting someone. She's not saying he is late on a one off, he is PERPETUALLY late, which to her gives the impression that meeting her is always less important than whatever he is doing. He's treating her like trash, it's a shame people just see the surface. He doesn't treat her like a priority and she's underwhelmed by his immaturity. "Quality" time, it's in the word - it's not quality if he treats it as second best and isn't connected whilst he's with her. I also can see where she's coming from - Girls discuss EVERYTHING. It's just a clash of genders.
While Deborah does come off as gold-diggerish to many, I Love this perspective. It is time for men like Jamel to take accountability for their actions!
@@JM-bx2vg I think in Paul’s case, he is withholding affection because she will not submit, so he is trying to break her (not gonna work on this woman). I generally agree with you though, but my statement is also generally true.
@@JM-bx2vg And it’s extremely difficult to build true wealth and be loving. As someone who owns a business and works 100+ hours a week, keeping up with the needs of a woman is...not easy nor is it necessarily beneficial for my success.
Finally. I was waiting for someone to talk about quality time. Many people were focusing on the red flags of Paul and Deborah but the fact that Jamel is not in consideration of his woman's desire for quality time is also a problem. I feel like all three feel entitled in some way. Chioma is the only healthy person in this cycle, but she needs to GET OUT of this toxic attachment she has to Paul.
I feel that both relationships are incapable foundational wise. Paul doesn't multitask well, and won't listen to his partner's needs, she is not a more image minded, housewife which is what he wants. Jamal is being petty, addicted to his phone, late, and lacks accountability. He switched up his behavior, after a while of being together. She wants more out of the relationship, what she was receiving before hand consistently. Also, You can have multiple love languages .
couple reviews are good in the sense of making sure everything is paid and sorted, especially when living together, children and bills are involved. stops it seeping into day-to-day life. i picked it up from Patricia bright and it helps with organising the home and expectations
Maybe Jamal is not spending as much time with you because the relationship is all about your needs and you comparing and despairing to what your girlfriend has I can really see that this is your first relationship I don’t think you’re ready for any relationship I think you need to find out who you are because if you need to measure yourself and your relationship to your best friends you really don’t know who you are. I think this relationship should end Jamal needs to find a more emotionally and mentally mature Woman and what I would like to say to me is that if a girl looks good on the surface that’s a bonus but not the main ingredient for a good relationship because the more I listen to this young lady I realise maybe that’s what enticed Jamal in the first place One year enough for this relationship it’s over. You are both very different wavelengths Jamal you’re flogging a dead horse
first of all, we can all agree that sometimes we take our single life for granted lol just saying. The first couple the guy isnt listening at all, his ego is over the roof which makes him neglect his woman, all she wants is some love and romance she's fiery and wants her flame lit up whhich really he should be able to provide. the second couple, the guy needs to break up with her, that girl isnt ungrateful and actually looking at her boyfriend like he should be her dad, BIGMAN break up with her, if you can see this, Youre dating a problem not a girlfriend, respect yourself, you got goals bro
I saw someone said in another reaction video that Paul was answering questions and trying to keep his career under wraps like he was the owner of Apple or Microsoft 😅😅
Paul should just date himself. Best business partner he will ever find. Old Naija man mentality repackaged with oyibo lingo. Debra is hard work. Her first relationship and she seems to want it to fulfil her fantasy about what a relationship is.
I actually like Chioma's openness but I don't like the fact that Paul doesn't really have much to say but always picks on everything Chioma says in a negative way. Chioma is really strong to be with his type of person... God!!!!!
@topicalJuice can you be Paul’s therapist? 😂😂 Because honestly I think men like him can only change from hearing out another man’s point of view. That’s if he will be listening of course 🙈🙈 Your face when he said “couple’s review” I died 😂😂💀 Oh yes!! Alpha men don’t act like that. He’s a disgrace 🙈 I see a lot of insecurity and materialism in him. That’s a bad combination in a person..😫 Deborah needs to stop ✋🏾 speaking for all women😹 we ain’t all like that. Please. You’re not suppose to air out all your relationship business to your friends... Especially NOT family stuff! But its her first relationship maybe she will learn from it.
The heffa in the black dress is more worried about her friend relationship than her own 😒 if i was her man i would have said "go date her boyfriend because I'm not him". And like everyone keep saying the woman in the pink is too good for her guy because he can't see the full value she brings to their relationship. 🗣NEXT CASE.
The therapist is suppose to be asking the questions he's sitting there asking questions he need to let the therapist do her job he is a straight up narcissists he won't answer the questions and he tries to divert to something else or start blaming her instead of taking responsibility for the things she feel he is wrong about
What’s Chioma doing with Paul... she’s too good for that guy, girl bounce!!!!! I’d die before I date someone like Paul and Deborah needs to chilllll mehnn😩
Paul had a point when the therapist was asking irrelevant questions like what does he do for a living. It has nothing to do with the flow of the therapy or the underlying issues so he felt judged and got defensive saying “what does what I do for a living have to do with anything? The therapist could have been a lot more helpful by supporting this couple to hear each other’s points more and to try to understand each other. There was no positives. They’ve been together for 3 years so something must be working. This type of therapy is not good because it highlights the issues without trying to find solutions, doesn’t use the right interventions, brings couples further apart, and alienates one person rather than making them feel like the therapist wants them to succeed. I would work with this couple but I wouldn’t sit there and let them tear each other apart. People’s opinions of Paul are partly influenced by his words and partly by how the therapist is working with them. Chioma said some disrespectful things in both episodes especially about his sister but nobody in any of the reaction videos has said anything about this. In a relationship, it takes both parties actions, thoughts, and behaviour for it to operate positively or negatively. Just my thoughts as a Counsellor.
Hiya. Which school of thought do you practice in? And wat would you suggest for them. (Also got to remember the production time find value in the tearing apart so might have encouraged passive responses from the therapist)
Hahahaha I think peeps are being a bit too hard on Paul. He is a very simple guy and is honestly not putting forward one thing and being something else (unlike Jamel...) He wants a trophy wife. That simple. Their challenge would not exist if Chioma was a woman that wants to be kept and he is of the school every woman would appreciate being kept. That's simply what it is
Paul is taking about Pastor. So how come he has not married Chioma??? They living together and having relations. How is the Pastor condoning that???? This is root of their problem, the union has not been blessed and will never work.
Chioma and Jamel are the least toxic and may have a better chance if they were together, Deborah and Paul seem somewhat toxic to me and may have a better chance if they were together. Chioma and Jamel want a love aspect, Paul and Deborah love money. This is just my opinion, but hey! They all need TIME to be their individual couples i.e. not calls after a certain time UNLESS it is an emergency. These are issues that can be fixed, providing they want to fix them. Peace
These women appear to me to have low self esteem and are desperate because these men are trash and are quite upfront about it. If I was dating Paul I wouldn’t make it past the first date, he’s very arrogant, disrespectful, insecure and trying to compensate with money. He’s also aggressive and disrespectful to the therapist as well as his lady. Not a real man.
Hmm not sure, but are you muting and deleting comments? I seem to have one of my comments disappear on the Adam Deacon vid. Wasn't trolling, or being disrespectful, but if civil discourse isn't welcome, then let me know, and I'll bounce.
I wish I would stop getting comments like this lool you’re not to know but really frustrating having to explain that I do NOT delete comments. RUclips deletes them if they deem it offensive whatever you’ve said RUclips doesn’t like it 🤷🏽♂️
@@TopicalJuice Cool. My bad. Not sure what I could have said, as I pick my words carefully for this exact reason. Maybe "Noel Clarke" has just become a red flag lol
Okay bro, so a beta male is someone who is second hence beta, second to the female subservient to the female and always siding to females points and femininity. Kinda like what you do with Chioma. An alpha male is the one who leads the household, and yes, Paul is clearly the Alpha but his girl doesn't want to submit completely so he needs to find a woman that will submit
They should just switch girlfriends Deborah is perfect for Paul a gold digger that will do anything he says as long as he splashes on her and he will do all of that and be happy.
Paul has listening and comprehension issues. Id rather be single that date someone like Paul.
He prefers to go to a church 🚩🚩🚩 so she can be told to submit to his nonsense lmaooo
YUP
Probably a black church, out a black woman in the white woman's seat.
And I'm not religious but I'd rather go to a black church too loool
Exactly 💯...he knows they will tell her to submit to his bullshit in church.
He's a narcissists
Paul is always questioning the therapist - why? The man is so arrogant!
He thinks he's getting scam
@@1lafchris No he is just a narcissist that doesn't like being confronted about his behaviour. Therapy only works if you put in the work no matter who you visit or how much you pay. So him asking that question is irrelevant and was just him being passive aggressive.
She’s biased towards Chioma but he was out of line to question her in the way he did but it was deflection. Maybe couples should choose a therapist jointly and the therapist’s role is to make both parties feel like she’s with them, not take sides. She got his back up from the start.
Soooooo arrogant it's so annoying
@@JM-bx2vg Exactly 💯
Honestly the best solution is to just swap partners. Deborah and Paul are both driven by money and Jamal just wants a pretty girl who appreciates him so Chioma would be perfect for him.
Lmfaooo😭💀
Yooo!!! Faxxx thoo!
So true 😂
Paul would tighten Deborah right up. She wouldn’t be able to handle Paul. Deborah’s the only person whose behavior I despise more than Paul. It’s maddening.
Chioma would not be happy with Jamal because he does not pay attention to the girlfriend he already has. As he is always on his phone. I think that The men, and the incompatibility of their relationships are the problem here.
Chioma is too good for Paul kmt😩
She's a bully and pretender
She is way too good 🤝
I agree, Paul is too controlling and never listens!
@@Theguyman .....
Paul is simply a man..but folks so acclimatised to these modern day flowerman spineless yes men Simps it makes him seem bad and what not .. you want men to lead and take charge well this what it looks like in reality
Paul feels inadequate and uncomfortable with chioma's level head and maturity. So he has to put emphasis on money to feel like a man... Chichi should run, it is not the relatiinship for you babygirl. When you distance he will come with a ring, don't fall for it. You deserve better
I’m curious, what do you think she “deserves?” I ask because I don’t understand how you can “deserve” something you haven’t earned.
Absolutely...she should run and never look back.
@@Underratedcommentator is that you Paul...looool
@@mesther3191 D’OH! I’ve been caught!
This relationship lasted three years because Chioma has decided to put up with attitude.He is trying to destroy her as an indivisual and love starved her because she will not conform.He helps pay the bills so he is not the provider.He has a maid and a sex partner.That all he needs.Chioma needs a relationship.
@Sally Ann he makes way more than her idiot
@@dominicpersaud1155 Don’t engage with them man. Those with this “thot-process” are delusional and think they are the same as men and offer the same value as men by behaving like men without realizing that men don’t want what they (delusionally) think we want.
@Krish Edwards exactly. She doesn’t respect or value him as a man really. If he didn’t have money, she’d just be complaining about that. Women want a rich man with a lot of time on his hands who somehow keeps them charmed 24/7 and who keeps from getting bored with the best sex on the planet and gives them Gucci bags while they pretend to be boss babes that humbly serve the Lord. It’s all cap. Girls like Chioma and most of the ones in the comments will lie and say I’m making things up.
High value men aren’t your friend. They are your authority. But y’all want alpha buddies that cuddle up with you all day while somehow paying all the bills and putting up with you being thots with your girls and on IG 😂
Well said, they need to separate. Chioma would b happier. For real.💯💯😊
My guy Paul is too money hungry we need to stop chasing materialistic things 24/7
Big facts 💯
"we"!???🙄
you are dumb, the guy is hardworking and wants to reach somewhere in life, people want to be successful but don't know what it takes
Guys like Paul are too much head stress.
Passive aggressive patronising Paul. All the signs of in a relationship that could turn very abusive once married
Absolutely
Paul is way too defensive and closed minded. He seems very set in his ways and is not willing to listen, understand and evolve.
Very,very controlling man who's totally full of himself. He clearly respects no one.
How chioma has done 3 years with this guy I dunno, I couldn't do it.
He buys her expensive gifts, so she tolerates the bad behaviour.
I don’t know how she managed 3 yrs but I can understand why she’s still here trying to fight.
Cam your facial expressions when Paul is speaking is the same as mine 🤔😂 i find the he doesn't answer the questions and deflects, refers back to business and not the personal issues raised.
I’m literally thinking what the hell 🤔😂 just deflecting at any opportunity
Yess! Mouth Agape in Awe... with Deborah, his cringes are classic #yaUndaStand 🤣
Paul should just be with his clients because he seems to love his job more than her.
As he should.
He is also causing problems in the meeting by trying to dig at the lady leading the meeting. Full blowed NAR
Thank you, I was wondering why no one was talking about that..he is clearly displaying all the attributes to a T
Paul is doing classic I don’t want to take no responsibility for my part in this relationship where I could be possibly wrong by deflecting and projecting onto the therapist. Which gives him the illusion that he is being assertive but in fact he is very insecure he may be good at making money but has no currency when it comes to intimacy love and affection.
Love is very different than money and sex for example love lastsBecause of the intimacy and abundance does not just come from money
Exactly the points I made in next video! Insecurities are shining through most definitely. I’ll be intrigued to see how the next eps turn out. I’m still not convinced it’s entirely real!
who gives a fuck about love lol, you people want high-value men or what to be high value but dont know what comes with it
@@dominicpersaud1155 You the only one on here who gets it. Love is a delusion. Duty is all that matters. Idgaf about a woman “loving” me because love is just a placeholder for the “role” you’re supposed to play. I want duty, respect, femininity, loyalty, virtue, and a good mother. A woman can receive love in the form of affection, protection, and provision.
Tropical juice I am really looking forward to seeing episode two of you analysing this series I am a subscriber and I’m in my 40s and I believe your channel and what you are doing is nothing more than Stella. Please keep the good vibes coming
Means a lot bro! Episode 2 is uploading right now hopefully be out by 8:30pm latest!
@@TopicalJuice Thanks. Although I’m not a bro I’m a female
A narcs emphasis is his image, what others see of them, what they portray as in character.
Man like Paul said monthly review appraisal🤣🤣
That was cracking me up 🤣🤣🤣
It’s actually not uncommon for couples to set couples goals each month. It’s not an appraisal. It’s looking at what goals they want to achieve as a couple or what’s not working so they can address it. It’s recommended by couples therapists but also I know lots of couples who do it themselves.
This popped up on my listings randomly yesterday and I decided to watch it. Your reaction moment to moment was my exact reaction 🤣. Paul doesn't hear ANYTHING if it's not numbers...and is pretty narcissistic and Deborah feels to entitled about nothing. I was stuck after Episode 1 lol.
Loving these reaction videos!! Waiting for episode 2 😭😩
The woman who dress in black and her boyfriend was late. I've had friends like her in the past. She high maintenance and materialistic. I've been in uncomfortable situation when they belittle their boyfriends in front of people.
Did I just hear “paying 10k for table”
I had to edit .....Paul said COUPLES REVIEW like it’s a damn company. The other couple is a Joke, it’s not because it’s her first relationship it’s HER and lack of respect tbh for her man telling his business and not giving a F%%%.
The couples review part shocked me🤣🤣
He has installed her as a housemaid that is his love language.He feels entitled as the provider etc. and he feels like that is love.He clubbing and feting in his business meeting and Chioma is feel neglected.
All high value men feel this way because all women want high value men. Just like pretty girls feel entitled to high value men. Everyone is selfish, men and women.
Nah your judgement is good man 😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Definitely more realistic idea!
Chioma and Jahmal move on together with their humble mature realustic selves with graitute.
Paul and Deborah move along together with their materialistic dilusional unrealistic selves.
Both couples are mismatched but people are going in more on Paul but Chioma also has some issues with how she communicates and expresses herself. The therapist made the situation worse through the interventions used. In relationships, both parties have to assess their faults and their behaviour as individuals and within the relationship. Chioma keeps complaining but why is she still with him? Paul possibly isn’t ready for a relationship. I can’t get started on commenting on Deborah and Jamel because there’s too much to say.
Men like Paul lure you in. Secure you. Classic abusers. They get you to a place where they are confident about your love for them, then switch up on you. By the time he changed on her, she was so invested and attached to him that she can see the changes but thinks she’s the problem. And he ensures that every time she says something, he has a response that puts her back in a place of self doubt and thinking she’s crazy...
So her and her friends are having boyfriends competition.. and she loosing 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣we need to parody this!
Upset Chioma is talking about Finace, He proceeds to brag about multiple accounts and crypto accounts he hes got... Man is trying too hard .
Bruv, your "mouth drops" are classic!! Do you see yourself doing them!? 😆🙌🏿😆 I stan!!
I don't think Deborah is a diva, I think she's underwhelmed by the sub-par treatment Jamal is giving her and because she doesn't know how to free herself, she's resentful. She's not asking for much really - basic respect, quality time, affection and attention when they are together. It is only respectful, when talking to someone, to pay attention to the conversation and not be listening to podcasts in the background, it's only respectful to ensure you are on time to meeting someone. She's not saying he is late on a one off, he is PERPETUALLY late, which to her gives the impression that meeting her is always less important than whatever he is doing. He's treating her like trash, it's a shame people just see the surface. He doesn't treat her like a priority and she's underwhelmed by his immaturity. "Quality" time, it's in the word - it's not quality if he treats it as second best and isn't connected whilst he's with her. I also can see where she's coming from - Girls discuss EVERYTHING. It's just a clash of genders.
While Deborah does come off as gold-diggerish to many, I Love this perspective. It is time for men like Jamel to take accountability for their actions!
The best bits is Topical Juice reactions 🆙️🆙️🆙️🆙️ you are full of potential 💯💫❤💚
How does she put up with Paul🤯
Soooooooo toxic hope he looks back at the episode and try to evaluate himself
Money
We at 25k
WE ARE! Very grateful 📈
I can't stand how rude Paul was to Denise 😩
I think business and logic has become Paul’s cover up and even possibly a substitute for the compassion he lacks
I find Paul’s need for control very toxic chioma is such a lady online
I loved your reaction! Keep 'em coming
The that was my reaction to when Paul said he has a couple review every 28 days he must be her boss not her man
Exactly 🙄 it's a monthly personal productivity meeting like you have, at work 😬
Seems like y’all want alpha high value puppies
@@Underratedcommentator You can be loving and make p at the same time you know🤦🏿♂️ it's not a one thing or the other like Paul is making it seem 😂.
@@JM-bx2vg I think in Paul’s case, he is withholding affection because she will not submit, so he is trying to break her (not gonna work on this woman). I generally agree with you though, but my statement is also generally true.
@@JM-bx2vg And it’s extremely difficult to build true wealth and be loving. As someone who owns a business and works 100+ hours a week, keeping up with the needs of a woman is...not easy nor is it necessarily beneficial for my success.
Paul is too funny 🤣🤣😭😭😭
Once every two weeks is not enough for any relationship
Episode 2 needs to be done!?
I’m out atm but I filmed it earlier! Will get it out today hopefully 🙏🏽
Man I hate watching reaction videos but this was fun can’t even lie 🤣big up man 🙏🏾
When Paul talks about the things, only that he hears, and takes it and runs with it, is called selective hearing. That equals a narc trait....
Oh wow
Finally. I was waiting for someone to talk about quality time. Many people were focusing on the red flags of Paul and Deborah but the fact that Jamel is not in consideration of his woman's desire for quality time is also a problem. I feel like all three feel entitled in some way. Chioma is the only healthy person in this cycle, but she needs to GET OUT of this toxic attachment she has to Paul.
Just had to subscribe after this video!!! your vibesss😭😂
Only watching the series through your reaction videos >
You the realest that's why! Make it look like we're reacting at the same time 🤣♥️
I feel that both relationships are incapable foundational wise. Paul doesn't multitask well, and won't listen to his partner's needs, she is not a more image minded, housewife which is what he wants.
Jamal is being petty, addicted to his phone, late, and lacks accountability. He switched up his behavior, after a while of being together. She wants more out of the relationship, what she was receiving before hand consistently.
Also, You can have multiple love languages .
This is the comment!! Amen.
They first few years in a relationship should be the honeymoon period
#Pink dress is so beautiful and she has a body to die for!!
Celebrate the wins and the loss together, its a partnership.
Paul is a Uncle
His face expressions😂
Paul needs to date his business he ain’t got no love for home girl
I agree with you 💯
couple reviews are good in the sense of making sure everything is paid and sorted, especially when living together, children and bills are involved. stops it seeping into day-to-day life. i picked it up from Patricia bright and it helps with organising the home and expectations
29:02 took me out 🤣😂😂🤣😂💀.......love your reaction and 35:41.....let’s keep going 😭
Maybe Jamal is not spending as much time with you because the relationship is all about your needs and you comparing and despairing to what your girlfriend has
I can really see that this is your first relationship I don’t think you’re ready for any relationship I think you need to find out who you are because if you need to measure yourself and your relationship to your best friends you really don’t know who you are. I think this relationship should end Jamal needs to find a more emotionally and mentally mature Woman and what I would like to say to me is that if a girl looks good on the surface that’s a bonus but not the main ingredient for a good relationship because the more I listen to this young lady I realise maybe that’s what enticed Jamal in the first place
One year enough for this relationship it’s over. You are both very different wavelengths Jamal you’re flogging a dead horse
Paul is gaslighting her all the way. Its tiring.
It's his first time on camera and he thinks he's getting scam = chaos
first of all, we can all agree that sometimes we take our single life for granted lol just saying. The first couple the guy isnt listening at all, his ego is over the roof which makes him neglect his woman, all she wants is some love and romance she's fiery and wants her flame lit up whhich really he should be able to provide. the second couple, the guy needs to break up with her, that girl isnt ungrateful and actually looking at her boyfriend like he should be her dad, BIGMAN break up with her, if you can see this, Youre dating a problem not a girlfriend, respect yourself, you got goals bro
I saw someone said in another reaction video that Paul was answering questions and trying to keep his career under wraps like he was the owner of Apple or Microsoft 😅😅
Episode 2 is insane as well and these two couples need to swap 😂 the two money hungries and the two nice ones.
Exactly what I’m thinking 😂
Paul should just date himself. Best business partner he will ever find. Old Naija man mentality repackaged with oyibo lingo.
Debra is hard work. Her first relationship and she seems to want it to fulfil her fantasy about what a relationship is.
Deborah stop watching Disney and get real
And stop watching your friends relationship too
Why would Paul say to his girlfriend to ask her he’s toxic
This Paul guy is full of himself jeez
Some mother's do have em. Frank Spencer. That's Paul for you.😎
Watching some of this, glad I single lol 💯✌🏼😘
I actually like Chioma's openness but I don't like the fact that Paul doesn't really have much to say but always picks on everything Chioma says in a negative way. Chioma is really strong to be with his type of person... God!!!!!
its funny how you react when it comes to paul and chioma...LMAO the exact same way i reacted,lol
Is this real though?
Look at her body language right from the start 🤯
U from manny or london
Part 2
@topicalJuice can you be Paul’s therapist? 😂😂 Because honestly I think men like him can only change from hearing out another man’s point of view. That’s if he will be listening of course 🙈🙈
Your face when he said “couple’s review” I died 😂😂💀
Oh yes!! Alpha men don’t act like that. He’s a disgrace 🙈 I see a lot of insecurity and materialism in him. That’s a bad combination in a person..😫
Deborah needs to stop ✋🏾 speaking for all women😹 we ain’t all like that. Please.
You’re not suppose to air out all your relationship business to your friends... Especially NOT family stuff! But its her first relationship maybe she will learn from it.
The heffa in the black dress is more worried about her friend relationship than her own 😒 if i was her man i would have said "go date her boyfriend because I'm not him". And like everyone keep saying the woman in the pink is too good for her guy because he can't see the full value she brings to their relationship. 🗣NEXT CASE.
Deborah needs a sugar daddy...she does not understand relationship.Gifts and going out is all she wants.Jamal and Choima need to meet
People aren’t interchangeable...
The therapist is suppose to be asking the questions he's sitting there asking questions he need to let the therapist do her job he is a straight up narcissists he won't answer the questions and he tries to divert to something else or start blaming her instead of taking responsibility for the things she feel he is wrong about
What’s Chioma doing with Paul... she’s too good for that guy, girl bounce!!!!! I’d die before I date someone like Paul and Deborah needs to chilllll mehnn😩
Paul had a point when the therapist was asking irrelevant questions like what does he do for a living. It has nothing to do with the flow of the therapy or the underlying issues so he felt judged and got defensive saying “what does what I do for a living have to do with anything? The therapist could have been a lot more helpful by supporting this couple to hear each other’s points more and to try to understand each other. There was no positives. They’ve been together for 3 years so something must be working. This type of therapy is not good because it highlights the issues without trying to find solutions, doesn’t use the right interventions, brings couples further apart, and alienates one person rather than making them feel like the therapist wants them to succeed. I would work with this couple but I wouldn’t sit there and let them tear each other apart. People’s opinions of Paul are partly influenced by his words and partly by how the therapist is working with them. Chioma said some disrespectful things in both episodes especially about his sister but nobody in any of the reaction videos has said anything about this. In a relationship, it takes both parties actions, thoughts, and behaviour for it to operate positively or negatively. Just my thoughts as a Counsellor.
Hiya. Which school of thought do you practice in? And wat would you suggest for them. (Also got to remember the production time find value in the tearing apart so might have encouraged passive responses from the therapist)
Paul is trying to be somebody else. An image. He is disrespectful and a whole lot of other thing.
This Paul guy is a legend😂👏🏽
Legend?! 😂 not rating him at all from what I’ve seen
he's not listening
Jemel is confused also. He is not giving quality time (once every two weeks) and not giving gifts. Of course she is gonna be unhappy.
Hahahaha I think peeps are being a bit too hard on Paul. He is a very simple guy and is honestly not putting forward one thing and being something else (unlike Jamel...) He wants a trophy wife. That simple. Their challenge would not exist if Chioma was a woman that wants to be kept and he is of the school every woman would appreciate being kept. That's simply what it is
Paul is taking about Pastor. So how come he has not married Chioma??? They living together and having relations. How is the Pastor condoning that???? This is root of their problem, the union has not been blessed and will never work.
Chioma and Jamel are the least toxic and may have a better chance if they were together, Deborah and Paul seem somewhat toxic to me and may have a better chance if they were together. Chioma and Jamel want a love aspect, Paul and Deborah love money. This is just my opinion, but hey! They all need TIME to be their individual couples i.e. not calls after a certain time UNLESS it is an emergency. These are issues that can be fixed, providing they want to fix them.
Peace
Installed business partner..housewife.
These women appear to me to have low self esteem and are desperate because these men are trash and are quite upfront about it. If I was dating Paul I wouldn’t make it past the first date, he’s very arrogant, disrespectful, insecure and trying to compensate with money. He’s also aggressive and disrespectful to the therapist as well as his lady. Not a real man.
Paul keeps blaming his girlfriend
Paul is toxic on a whole new level
I think you should move out only movie with a man if you've got a ring on it. Because now the guys getting it free
Free ? Its a relationship not a business contract
3:48 cheers and 😩 i just wana grab that foot!
But ima keep watching the video.
Hmm not sure, but are you muting and deleting comments? I seem to have one of my comments disappear on the Adam Deacon vid. Wasn't trolling, or being disrespectful, but if civil discourse isn't welcome, then let me know, and I'll bounce.
He never deletes comments. RUclips probably censored it.
I wish I would stop getting comments like this lool you’re not to know but really frustrating having to explain that I do NOT delete comments. RUclips deletes them if they deem it offensive whatever you’ve said RUclips doesn’t like it 🤷🏽♂️
@@TopicalJuice Cool. My bad. Not sure what I could have said, as I pick my words carefully for this exact reason. Maybe "Noel Clarke" has just become a red flag lol
@@patricefyffepalmerxx I think I see it. I used the term "f***ing a**hole," to describe Noel. YT getting soft. Can't even swear.
😂😂 it’s all good g not your fault just annoying how many comments RUclips deletes and people think it’s me
is like he doesn't process shit wtf lmfaoo how he got this far god knows
I just came to say Paul is NOT an American Alpha 😂 he’s an alpha nowhere!
The 2nd girl I ain't feeling..On this this Disney ting, thinks she's in a rom com.
Reaction video for new Bk chat london 2024 please. 😂
He's so insecure, he's pathetic. Ew how can she sleep with this person. Jamal needs to leave that immature selfish girl.
Okay bro, so a beta male is someone who is second hence beta, second to the female subservient to the female and always siding to females points and femininity. Kinda like what you do with Chioma. An alpha male is the one who leads the household, and yes, Paul is clearly the Alpha but his girl doesn't want to submit completely so he needs to find a woman that will submit
They should just switch girlfriends Deborah is perfect for Paul a gold digger that will do anything he says as long as he splashes on her and he will do all of that and be happy.