@Dammyvin Entertainment Service YESS IS TRUE WE HAVE TO PRAY ABOUT IT BECAUSE EVERYONE'S RIGHT TIME IS NOT THE SAME WE HAVE TO BE PATIENT BECAUSE JESUS WAS PATIENT AND HE ENDURES TILL THE END
@Dammyvin Entertainment Service IN MY CASE I PRAYED AND WAITED PATIENTLY FOR 4 YEARS AND MET THE RIGHT PERSON WITCH AM THANKFULL TO GOD AND WE HAVE TO WORK ON OUR GOD GIVEN PURPOSE TO BE THE BEST VERSION OF OURSELVES WHERE THE NAME OF GOD WILL BE GLORIFIED EVERYDAY AND FOR EVERYTHING THAT MEANS GOOD ,BAD AND UGLY AND ONLY THOSE WHO ENDURES WILL BE USED FOR GODS PURPOSE AND HIS KINGDOM AND I CAN TELL YOU IT AINT EASY
Takes both sides to grow up and put wants and needs a side. Not about one’s self it’s a marriage takes work on both sides. Blaming sexes and pitting against each other is the problem. All gear is what both want well bills food and work a given. Most people don’t want to work that hard and why it fails. Always looking at grass greener on the other side
What I think he what I think he meant meaning who will abuse you in some way because abuse is not just physical it could be verbal it could be he's impatient or he orders his woman around abuse can be portrayed in different ways if I manipulate my woman then that's a certain thing of abuse because I'm abusing that the act of manipulation I could never hit her or curse her out but I can use manipulation and I learned that from a woman because she studied psychology
And he was talking about the man that's used to getting what he want when he wants from any woman those type of men can have anything that they want and those type of men are usually intimidative
Nope! I once gave a man a chance when he was down hoping I could help build him up but he only brought me down with him. Never again! I think that’s Theres a certain level of stability you should have even just for yourself before you even think about wanting to bring someone else in your life to be a partner
Im not interested in just helping him fulfill HIS dreams. Im more than a helper and I have my own dreams too. But I guess I dont matter, just help and serve him.
As a single mom, I raised my son to be a leader, First taught him to put GOD first, second get an education,he graduated with a degree, he has a full time job, has his own place for 5 years now, he has his own car, he’s 29 years old,. He doesn’t need a woman to help him achieve those thing’s? He’s already established himself, So when he meets a good woman who has established herself also, the two of them can go on and established great things Together. My point is young men, young women, become the best version of your self first, before you look for a spouse.
@@josephmiller1518 a woman is not there to make a man great or greater. Only God will make a man or woman great and greater. So if her son is standing on his own already and looking for a lady who has made it too, they both can be greater if they humble themselves and seek the will of God for them. If you are not walking in the will of God, you are not considered as walking towards greatness. Greatness is defined by God and not by the things you have.
Without a man or father figure, I'm sorry, he might still dissapoint you. That same God expect you to have submitted to your man and help meet his needs, just as he is expected to LOVE you, as Jesus Christ loves the church. Single mums or dads are strange to tell Most High God...if it wasnt necessary, he wouldn't have created the woman.
@@efemzyekun900 his dad past away . Please don’t assume. You have no idea what you’re talking about. Of course he ‘s going to make mistakes in life. With or without a father figure in his life. That’s apart of life.
@@jaelux8692 I'm so sorry for assuming the worst against you. Please find it in your heart to forgive me...I wish you and your son the very best in life. I shouldn't have been so insensitive. Sorry sis.
He's saying that if a man is already well established he may not feel like he needs a loving partner to build with. This can be true in some instances but some men want to share life with a special woman because while some men may have achieved success in our lives we understand that having the right woman who we are equally yoked with will allow us to enjoy life more abundantly.
He will know his worth, he will understand he has options, you will be easily replaceable, it will be his world. This is true, but I wouldn’t call that abuse I would call that his rewards for investing and respecting himself. But I agree with this man, if you find him before he is great and you help him reach his potential, he will show exponentially more gratitude towards you than he would towards a bimbo who got with him once he was already established. If I had a daughter I wouldn’t want her to be so shallow as to get with a man who already has millions. I would want her to find an ambitious man that shows her respect and help him on his journey
There's always room to grow...money will show his real character. How many women are disposed by the very men they struggled with. I once heard a preacher say a poor man has no choice but to be humble, give him money then you will know who he really is.
Give him money and u will know she never loved him, is both sided. Y'all are looking for Prince charming but y'all won't ask urself am I prince charming standard. Bunch of grownup babies
Ummm, I want a man that has his shit together. Not a man who I am expected to constantly motivate and get him off his butt. I seen many so called "perfect" men who are respectful. Women don't lower your standards but remember if you want a high quality man you got to become a high quality women 👌
You are not single by choice. You are single coz you are stranded.... unfortunately that type of man you are looking for, is not looking for you. Otherwise, you wouldn't be talking like that
A successful man who’s making money and is good looking is much more prone to cheating. He has options. And you better believe more attractive women then you will show him attention. A man on the come up will value you much more because he knows you are with him for all the right reasons. Because you actually care about him and love him. That’s what you need to be looking for. A man who’s trying to figure it out. He doesn’t want to live with his parents, he’s trying to find ways to get ahead in life and he’s down to work hard to get there. Be there from the beginning, don’t just wait at the finish line. The journey is always the best part.
You’re absolutely right! Are you expected to find some broken down, dirty, dusty man and than you build him up? And once you do that..he’s gone LOL. Find a man whose already done the work - not perfect- and has his shit together
Having a decent job and a car are basic qualities expected of every adult period. Most men are out here trying to gain assets and make investments, build generational wealth. Women aren’t asking for much at all and damn sure not perfection
the question is are they willing to become that helper.... because as a man, who is self-aware, I strive to pull out my greatness without a lady.... courtesy God.... 😌
You don't get it bro. The place of God is sacred. The speaker is saying 'you need a physically body to progress quicker' There is no substitute to starting from the base. We all need one at least.
@@amosojo4608 @Josh Ijeoma with the right GODLY woman, you can pull greatness out of each other. Help each other grow old together. Also manifest into the one, that you BOTH want to be. 🤲
I can have a man that is already great but also understands that I can add to his greatness..If God has worked on you.. I applaud that transformation. Noone is perfect but two imperfect yet mature people can help each other and do great things together.
@@warrick7689 John 3:16 for God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever shall believe in him will not perish but have life in abundance.
Met my man when he was 21 in university I was 24 I worked he didn't he studied ...he's tall and I thought he had a lovely face and he spoke nicely to me 30 years later still speaks nicely to me ....I'm blessed
You need a man that meets your needs. Don't let anyone tell you what to settle for because what you don't like today you won't like tomorrow and relationship will fail
Ladies ladies ladies. Can you hear him load and clear? Look for someone that can complete you and you can complete him too. Someone that you can't do without each other. That's Compatibility and Love
They didn't say body builder. Do some push ups a few days out your life and you'd have some..... although plenty of men don't even have to workout to have visible muscles.... a gift from testosterone and biology.
but someone that got all his life together before you is morelikely to not cair about you specially a successfull man, because in order to get to this degree of sucess he needed to make a lot of mistakes, to be betrayed, to fall down and then get up again to get where he is right now, the last thing he wants is to fall down again and destroy years of work because he made the wrong choice with the women he chose, specialy in a divorce systeme like america so the solution is to not trust any women and juste get envolved with them and the one that would follow everything he says would be the main one, men think with probabilities and the best women for him is one that would follow his lead and adjust with his life style
No , he will not abuse you anyway, but when a man have everything before you meet that man, he will never take you serious, just like what the speaker says
A perfect guy can never want them.Always stick with who has been there from time....women don't have realistic checklists,unlike men that look for the basics
At this point I will encourage all women to do what is best for them! My goodness, every damn day, it’s another man telling us what to do and how to live!
Thst is what I have always thought. That is why young love works the best. They build a life and memories together as they mature. I've seen it in my family. It becomes unbreakable.
What if u meet tht man wen he's 50? One wud expect tht he is at least somewhat established?? He has to hav his shit together by this time. Im grt at this age so he better b grt already then we can build a future based on balance...coz if aint grt by 50... he's a bum.
Absolutely NOT! A young woman and a young man need to discover and find themselves INDIVIDUALLY…on their OWN journey. Go through the fires and trials of life ALONE. That will create a stronger self-identity not relying on others to tell you where to go. Once you’ve taken the individual journey, than you’re better prepared to join another. If you look in the US, the Bible Belt states lead the country in youngest marriages AND in divorce
How many men have accepted a women who was previously broken, accept her past, accept her baggage and helped build her back up in life only for her to be become that new person who doesn’t want him anymore. It goes both ways.
@@dedricklane4899 I agree, bad and good every where. Although, men do it far more then women. So many men they r with a woman they can have but once they up, they move on to the woman they want😖
Nope, you want a man who loves God, prays, reads the word, shares the word with you, protects you and has a job or business for security, and has vision.
I had a short man who loved me and thought I was sexy I judged his physical looks and I thought I want him to be taller I Lost that Man I am still single but I learned my lesson I will NEVER look for Mr perfect no more preach teach 🙌🏾🙏🏾💯
I had a man like that and when he got to the level he wanted to reach he cheated on me and left with another women and started a family. I haven’t been in a long term relationship since and that was over 13 years ago. I give up on love it doesn’t exist. I also believe that we need to stop giving hope to singles bc everyone is not going to get married and have a family. They may not even find a person in 2022. Be ok with it not being what you envisioned.
WELL DONT BLAME HIM.BLAME YOURSELF FOR NOT KEEPING YOUR LEGS CLOSED. A TRUE CHRISTIAN WOMAN KEEPS CHASTITY UNTIL MARRIAGE AND THEN GIVES IN INTIMATELY..!!!
@@oswaldoj.7307 You don’t know who you’re addressing. What goes on between my legs is my business. You’re a dried up honary person with a comment like that! I feel sorry for you wife!
the fact that my wife and kids needed me to be successful is the reason i became successful. when a man is treated like a king, he will preform like a king.
I agree with everything except the partner part! You are to lead her and she is to trust you to do so. She can inspire you when she sees you are not at you max potential. She is loving caring and knows you are prepared to give your life to protect her. She feels safe and taken care of and she is relaxed. She is a Proverbs 31 woman!!!
@@JerrySmith-ih9rd exactly! If you don't become the woman that the guy you're looking for would want. You'll have to settle or he will, and neither of you will be happy
That’s what I sow Denver needed perfection or a rich person just attractive loyal respectful we all have flaws I don’t mind if someone has some ways about them or even a few issues but this generation ain’t it
I'm a great man, I don't need to bruise a women, I seen that happend to my mother, I bought a home at 26, I'm 29 now, no kids, and I make over six figures. My issue is I have women who try to me to MISUSE. I still want someone i can bulid with a partner. I'm not looking for someone I have to rescue. A man with nothing can abuse a women. Happenings alot everyday
I learned to chill. Nobody has it all! I learned that making demands and having expectations is ridiculous.. I went back to school and now- IM HOLDING THE KEYS. My man? He's a loyal beautiful man! He doesn't owe me anything!! We have no kids- no stress- no debt. We travel- and pay cash for everything. No drama!!
It's so sad that a lot of y'all missed it. He's simply saying a man that has everything built, where would you fit in that man's life. He also most likely feel like he has endless options (which he does) and can get along just fine with or WITHOUT you. Oppose to y'all building TOGETHER.
You're actually missing the point. You're interpretation of what he saying as a man is diehard than what women are hearing. Men do get more options with success. Women are born thinking they have many more options just for being a woman. Hypergamy.
Yes, you need to build him up, carry him, motivate him, love him, appreciate him and serve him for more than a decade and then once he has everything he desires he still abuses you emotionally and leaves you for another woman. Telling lies about how you cheated on him, or how you neglected your home chores while he knows you have 0% desire or opportunity to cheat and working 12 hour shifts daily to support him and your child and the chores he is referring to was actually his that he offered to do infront of witnesses. I never asked for perfect, no-one is perfect, I only asked for love and support matching my love and support.
He said “You need a man who desperately sees you as a helper” And “Not a man who’s already great” This is the funniest video I’ve seen yet. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 y’all DONT take this seriously… PLEASE don’t go chasing desperate men!!!
But the first marriage in the Bible shows that the man had everything. God saw that he was alone, and that it wasn't good. So, he brought animals to him to name and the man saw no companionship in all the animals till a special one was created for him. In marriage, women are for companionship, and a man must have had all resources intact to fuel that companionship, according to the Bible.
Exodus 21:10 ► “If he takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights” Ladies here is a scripture from the Bible that gives the context of biblical marriage. Although it’s in reference to when a man would take a additional wife being already married as was the custom in the “Old Testament” , the concept still applies. This scripture states that if a man took an additional wife the Food, Clothing, Marital Rights (Sex), and Shelter (shelter is not explicitly stated but in those times women didn’t work so it was clearly understood a man provided the home) that was given to the first wife could not be diminished just because he took an additional wife. So we clearly reason the first wife was given all these resources within the marriage agreement. You read nothing here about a woman helping a man provide her with the basic resources needed to start a marriage. A man would not take or even be allowed to marry a woman without showing he could provide for her. A wife being a “helpmeet” means that throughout the marriage the wife supported the husband in various ways that contributed to the well being of the family, but NOT in providing the basic elements needed for a man to attain a wife! Big difference! These men you listen to in church are nothing more than “Pimps of the Pulpit” deceiving people. Read and know your Bible for yourself!
Im 51 now. I have a wife now in the second chapter of our lives. I have heard all my life how much women want a man that has more then them. Its been drilled in and is accepted. Have more money, the better house, the better car, the better body just to qualify. Now we hear how much women want equality. Good for the new men coming up in this world. She can bust her ass just to qualify for you
A perfect man doesn't need a woman. A woman seeking this will only ruin the perfect man. Then she's disappointed because he's no longer perfect. I have yet to hear counselors give advice to single women if they are ready to be the good wife as well as seeking the good man. We already have minds made up. Guys - blonde 36-24-36 Girls - tall, handsome, money These ingredients only go so far in a relationship.
Keep telling the truth brother these women need to hear it they are so delusional.. they go on these dating websites and they plug in all the things they want and they expect to be able to find that in a guy so delusional
Your negativity is what caused you to be still looking for that man. Women sucks about priorities , they'll destroy a perfect home for some quick dick. I know cause it happens to me
Not true we try to build with a man and that hasn’t work because his ego wagon couldn’t and won’t take it until after he fucked up and then want to come back because you are the good or the best woman
I think by "abuse you" he means the man might be emotionally neglectful. He might feel like you need him more than he needs you and so you will accept all.the bs he us.putting you through. But end of the day, women need to use their judgment to determine if the guy is right for them
What??? These pastors need to stop… women been screwing themselves dating dude with “potentials” that never realized, he does have to be great but I don’t need no desperate guy to use me to build him then realize he’s too good for me now that he’s arrived.. the great guy will pass me by if I’m not what he’s looking for but I would not have wasted any money or energy on him.. this word is not from the lord… sorry a desperate dude needs Jesus not me..I ain’t no savior🤣🤣
THE RIGHT PERSON IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE PERFECT ONE
Correct!
Exactly!👏
Factz!!
@Dammyvin Entertainment Service YESS IS TRUE WE HAVE TO PRAY ABOUT IT BECAUSE EVERYONE'S RIGHT TIME IS NOT THE SAME WE HAVE TO BE PATIENT BECAUSE JESUS WAS PATIENT AND HE ENDURES TILL THE END
@Dammyvin Entertainment Service IN MY CASE I PRAYED AND WAITED PATIENTLY FOR 4 YEARS AND MET THE RIGHT PERSON WITCH AM THANKFULL TO GOD AND WE HAVE TO WORK ON OUR GOD GIVEN PURPOSE TO BE THE BEST VERSION OF OURSELVES WHERE THE NAME OF GOD WILL BE GLORIFIED EVERYDAY AND FOR EVERYTHING THAT MEANS GOOD ,BAD AND UGLY AND ONLY THOSE WHO ENDURES WILL BE USED FOR GODS PURPOSE AND HIS KINGDOM AND I CAN TELL YOU IT AINT EASY
The biggest problem in relationships is that people expect others to be perfect for them, but don't work on being perfect for others.
Takes both sides to grow up and put wants and needs a side. Not about one’s self it’s a marriage takes work on both sides. Blaming sexes and pitting against each other is the problem. All gear is what both want well bills food and work a given. Most people don’t want to work that hard and why it fails. Always looking at grass greener on the other side
Nailed it!!
Magic word!!!
Amen!!! That's the thing. Both MUST contribute to each other's life.. but the "I need you" thing.. ok sugar, do I need you?!
That part!
Wow The assumption that a man who has his shit together will automatically abuse you is crazy.
That's absolutely not what he said. Are you deaf or do you lack comprehension?
Right 🫠🥴
What I think he what I think he meant meaning who will abuse you in some way because abuse is not just physical it could be verbal it could be he's impatient or he orders his woman around abuse can be portrayed in different ways if I manipulate my woman then that's a certain thing of abuse because I'm abusing that the act of manipulation I could never hit her or curse her out but I can use manipulation and I learned that from a woman because she studied psychology
And he was talking about the man that's used to getting what he want when he wants from any woman those type of men can have anything that they want and those type of men are usually intimidative
I have to admit...
Nope! I once gave a man a chance when he was down hoping I could help build him up but he only brought me down with him. Never again! I think that’s Theres a certain level of stability you should have even just for yourself before you even think about wanting to bring someone else in your life to be a partner
I don’t want a man who wants me because he needs me. I want him to be my equal and need each other and work together.
Im not interested in just helping him fulfill HIS dreams. Im more than a helper and I have my own dreams too. But I guess I dont matter, just help and serve him.
As a single mom, I raised my son to be a leader, First taught him to put GOD first, second get an education,he graduated with a degree, he has a full time job, has his own place for 5 years now, he has his own car, he’s 29 years old,. He doesn’t need a woman to help him achieve those thing’s? He’s already established himself, So when he meets a good woman who has established herself also, the two of them can go on and established great things Together. My point is young men, young women, become the best version of your self first, before you look for a spouse.
If he already has has his life in order then what great things can a women build with him?
@@josephmiller1518 a woman is not there to make a man great or greater. Only God will make a man or woman great and greater. So if her son is standing on his own already and looking for a lady who has made it too, they both can be greater if they humble themselves and seek the will of God for them. If you are not walking in the will of God, you are not considered as walking towards greatness. Greatness is defined by God and not by the things you have.
Without a man or father figure, I'm sorry, he might still dissapoint you. That same God expect you to have submitted to your man and help meet his needs, just as he is expected to LOVE you, as Jesus Christ loves the church. Single mums or dads are strange to tell Most High God...if it wasnt necessary, he wouldn't have created the woman.
@@efemzyekun900 his dad past away . Please don’t assume. You have no idea what you’re talking about. Of course he ‘s going to make mistakes in life. With or without a father figure in his life. That’s apart of life.
@@jaelux8692 I'm so sorry for assuming the worst against you. Please find it in your heart to forgive me...I wish you and your son the very best in life. I shouldn't have been so insensitive. Sorry sis.
They clapped and went right back to looking for that perfect man
🤣😂🤣😂 you ain’t neva lied
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I am dead. Too funny
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They say the struggling men will abandon you when they get money. Now they say established men will abuse you 🥵😱🤯.
Right..hard place or a rock! Lol
Folks have no idea what the heck they are talking about. That’s why you have all of these opinions everywhere.
@@aet4519 😂😂
He's saying that if a man is already well established he may not feel like he needs a loving partner to build with. This can be true in some instances but some men want to share life with a special woman because while some men may have achieved success in our lives we understand that having the right woman who we are equally yoked with will allow us to enjoy life more abundantly.
The key is to get with your man early and build together.
Amen!!!! This man reminds me of Dr Myles Munroe… he even sounds like him! Bless you Brother
They abuse you when they need you..And he thinks you have it all together..Basically women need men with good sense, and full of compassion and love..
He will know his worth, he will understand he has options, you will be easily replaceable, it will be his world. This is true, but I wouldn’t call that abuse I would call that his rewards for investing and respecting himself. But I agree with this man, if you find him before he is great and you help him reach his potential, he will show exponentially more gratitude towards you than he would towards a bimbo who got with him once he was already established. If I had a daughter I wouldn’t want her to be so shallow as to get with a man who already has millions. I would want her to find an ambitious man that shows her respect and help him on his journey
There's always room to grow...money will show his real character. How many women are disposed by the very men they struggled with. I once heard a preacher say a poor man has no choice but to be humble, give him money then you will know who he really is.
A Godfearing man should be her goal. A man already great with a godly character and contented will not abuse her.
Facts
Very True.
Give him money and u will know she never loved him, is both sided. Y'all are looking for Prince charming but y'all won't ask urself am I prince charming standard. Bunch of grownup babies
Well if . The preacher . Said it . Then. It's real.
FACTS what they don't know is they will have to google that Mr perfect
Ummm, I want a man that has his shit together. Not a man who I am expected to constantly motivate and get him off his butt. I seen many so called "perfect" men who are respectful. Women don't lower your standards but remember if you want a high quality man you got to become a high quality women 👌
You are not single by choice. You are single coz you are stranded.... unfortunately that type of man you are looking for, is not looking for you. Otherwise, you wouldn't be talking like that
That man doesn’t want u tho
Why would he want you though?
A successful man who’s making money and is good looking is much more prone to cheating. He has options. And you better believe more attractive women then you will show him attention.
A man on the come up will value you much more because he knows you are with him for all the right reasons. Because you actually care about him and love him.
That’s what you need to be looking for. A man who’s trying to figure it out. He doesn’t want to live with his parents, he’s trying to find ways to get ahead in life and he’s down to work hard to get there.
Be there from the beginning, don’t just wait at the finish line. The journey is always the best part.
You’re absolutely right! Are you expected to find some broken down, dirty, dusty man and than you build him up? And once you do that..he’s gone LOL. Find a man whose already done the work - not perfect- and has his shit together
I already had that, and all he did was take and take and take from me till I had nothing left.
Ladies, meet the perfect man for you. Men in the pulpit are now expecting women to lower their standards to goblin-levels.
Lmao!!!! Right
Couldn’t be more truthful. Alcoholic and she saved my life. God I love her.
Having a decent job and a car are basic qualities expected of every adult period. Most men are out here trying to gain assets and make investments, build generational wealth. Women aren’t asking for much at all and damn sure not perfection
Your comment full of decency but went wrong when you Said women. Is your opinion and not women's opinions, mis
Amen. Thank you, God, for this word.
the question is are they willing to become that helper.... because as a man, who is self-aware, I strive to pull out my greatness without a lady.... courtesy God.... 😌
As you should. Adam had purpose already before Eve came in.
Amen!!!
Hallelujah!!! 🔥
You don't get it bro. The place of God is sacred. The speaker is saying 'you need a physically body to progress quicker'
There is no substitute to starting from the base. We all need one at least.
@@amosojo4608 @Josh Ijeoma with the right GODLY woman, you can pull greatness out of each other. Help each other grow old together. Also manifest into the one, that you BOTH want to be. 🤲
I can have a man that is already great but also understands that I can add to his greatness..If God has worked on you.. I applaud that transformation. Noone is perfect but two imperfect yet mature people can help each other and do great things together.
We hear you Beyonce. Upgrade him sis.
Remember the world murdered the only perfect one that was ever here
Real😎💯🔥🔥🔥
Can't go fuckin anywhere without the fuckin Jesus people in the comments.
@@warrick7689 John 3:16 for God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever shall believe in him will not perish but have life in abundance.
Jesus Christ the king of kings and lord of lords ,🙏🏾
@@chuckdee1189 magic sky man isn't real but enjoy wasting your life in service of what's essentially a giant profit machine
Met my man when he was 21 in university I was 24 I worked he didn't he studied ...he's tall and I thought he had a lovely face and he spoke nicely to me 30 years later still speaks nicely to me ....I'm blessed
You need a man that meets your needs. Don't let anyone tell you what to settle for because what you don't like today you won't like tomorrow and relationship will fail
PERFECT. Thank you!!!!!!!!
Ladies ladies ladies. Can you hear him load and clear?
Look for someone that can complete you and you can complete him too. Someone that you can't do without each other. That's Compatibility and Love
All these relationship experts. Lol
Everyone is an expert in relationships. It’s sickening.
That don't know shii. Like it's problematic to be a grown man with muscles.
They didn't say body builder. Do some push ups a few days out your life and you'd have some..... although plenty of men don't even have to workout to have visible muscles.... a gift from testosterone and biology.
The ones giving advice to us is doing what they are telling us not to do..
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I’m so glad that I’m NOT one who believe everything I here from other’s opinions about who and what I want for myself!
He will abuse u anyway, if he is an abuser.
but someone that got all his life together before you is morelikely to not cair about you specially a successfull man, because in order to get to this degree of sucess he needed to make a lot of mistakes, to be betrayed, to fall down and then get up again to get where he is right now, the last thing he wants is to fall down again and destroy years of work because he made the wrong choice with the women he chose, specialy in a divorce systeme like america so the solution is to not trust any women and juste get envolved with them and the one that would follow everything he says would be the main one, men think with probabilities and the best women for him is one that would follow his lead and adjust with his life style
No , he will not abuse you anyway, but when a man have everything before you meet that man, he will never take you serious, just like what the speaker says
Wow
Wow if u bitter just don't comment. If u were abused I'm sorry for that but don't come here to ruin the message.
@@jovelhamilton601 facts are facts the msg is not ruined. Intact money will let you know who he is quick enough. Imagine wasting time for nothing.
O yes. God please bless me with that man who is needing me as his woman and you as His rock and strength.
If a guy is abusive then he ain't perfect, 😂
Thats why he said heres where you going to get dissapointed
This comment miss everything the guy was saying.
I don’t know but he sounds and present like the legend Dr.Myles Monroe
Deep wisdom and teaching as well
Praise God
They never ask why would perfect guy want them?
🗣🗣🗣 I don’t think they heard you sir
You right, though I think he clarified that if a woman goes for a perfect man, who has everything, then he doesn’t need you & can potentially use you
A perfect guy can never want them.Always stick with who has been there from time....women don't have realistic checklists,unlike men that look for the basics
Noone is looking for a perfect man though🤷🏿♀️ You seem bitter 😭
And they could never come up with a good answer 😂😂
At this point I will encourage all women to do what is best for them! My goodness, every damn day, it’s another man telling us what to do and how to live!
Nice one what of those who are helpers, and the guy gets comfortable and forgets the helper.
I help build A man dream. After reached his dream. He left for for and others women's . Betrayal to the highest level.
That’s what these men do. They use you until they get what they want and then think they are too good for you after. Never help build a man ever
Thst is what I have always thought. That is why young love works the best. They build a life and memories together as they mature. I've seen it in my family. It becomes unbreakable.
What if u meet tht man wen he's 50? One wud expect tht he is at least somewhat established?? He has to hav his shit together by this time. Im grt at this age so he better b grt already then we can build a future based on balance...coz if aint grt by 50... he's a bum.
Absolutely NOT! A young woman and a young man need to discover and find themselves INDIVIDUALLY…on their OWN journey. Go through the fires and trials of life ALONE. That will create a stronger self-identity not relying on others to tell you where to go. Once you’ve taken the individual journey, than you’re better prepared to join another. If you look in the US, the Bible Belt states lead the country in youngest marriages AND in divorce
@@ziaansaricca8jx396 if you’re searching for men in their 50s who are well established, you’re the bum
Ayyyyy men!
Conversely,
The last thing I need is a strong independent woman!
Dependence is the glue that gets us through!
There is no appropriate explanation for a man " abusing you"!
Dude is on point! When we don’t have a family we don’t want or need much.
7 out of 10 after finishing help him find his potential...he cheat or leave and move on🙃
How many men have accepted a women who was previously broken, accept her past, accept her baggage and helped build her back up in life only for her to be become that new person who doesn’t want him anymore. It goes both ways.
@@dedricklane4899 I agree, bad and good every where. Although, men do it far more then women.
So many men they r with a woman they can have but once they up, they move on to the woman they want😖
@@Aya.82 I think that’s just life
Doesn't he sound like Myles Munroe??? Great teaching!!!
So, men who are already successful are gonna be abusive? That's stupid.
Most are
@@lunisedelinoir6937 By what statistics? Yours?
Lol it’s actually true😂
@@old_dan Gods
@@lunisedelinoir6937 All I read is, "I'm making shit up" in your reply.
The word is desperately sees you as helper!....He is 💯 right
Nope, you want a man who loves God, prays, reads the word, shares the word with you, protects you and has a job or business for security, and has vision.
He could have all of that but outside of church, he is an abuser
@@stan020265 anyone who loves and fear God would never do that
@@alexisessa4612 👏🏾👏🏾
Right. I don't know one woman who is looking for a perfect man🤷🏿♀️
If the man Godly man..life will be fantastic otherwise he will abuse no matter what. People who love God and fear God live constant peace and Joy!🙏🙏🙏🙏
I had a short man who loved me and thought I was sexy I judged his physical looks and I thought I want him to be taller I Lost that Man I am still single but I learned my lesson I will NEVER look for Mr perfect no more preach teach 🙌🏾🙏🏾💯
Ladies you better listen to this man. The men on their purpose are on another level.
Facts
Noone is looking for a perfect men🤦🏿
There aren’t any men that have everything as you say perfect man . Thank you
I had a man like that and when he got to the level he wanted to reach he cheated on me and left with another women and started a family. I haven’t been in a long term relationship since and that was over 13 years ago. I give up on love it doesn’t exist. I also believe that we need to stop giving hope to singles bc everyone is not going to get married and have a family. They may not even find a person in 2022. Be ok with it not being what you envisioned.
WELL DONT BLAME HIM.BLAME YOURSELF FOR NOT KEEPING YOUR LEGS CLOSED.
A TRUE CHRISTIAN WOMAN KEEPS CHASTITY UNTIL MARRIAGE AND THEN GIVES IN INTIMATELY..!!!
@@oswaldoj.7307 You don’t know who you’re addressing. What goes on between my legs is my business. You’re a dried up honary person with a comment like that! I feel sorry for you wife!
@@oswaldoj.7307 Pervert!
Amen that real 100percent facts I know thats alot to work understanding.. no such thing of perfect man
He speaking to Barbara the Builders who will be left at the construction site after she builds him up financially! 🤣
the fact that my wife and kids needed me to be successful is the reason i became successful. when a man is treated like a king, he will preform like a king.
We no longer preach Christ in church. Now we’re teaching how to catch a spouse.
Why?
We know all enough of Christ and been preaching since he left and still single mothers. It’s time for a change
IM SO GLAD YOU SAID THIS....
I agree with everything except the partner part! You are to lead her and she is to trust you to do so. She can inspire you when she sees you are not at you max potential. She is loving caring and knows you are prepared to give your life to protect her. She feels safe and taken care of and she is relaxed. She is a Proverbs 31 woman!!!
Mr Perfect died in 2003! Rest In Peace Curt Henning! 💯
I love how he made his point without being misogynist…nobody is perfect anyway, so how can one even expect that..
I'm not looking for perfection. But I demand respect and loyalty and have yet to find it. Destined to be alone. It's better than being hurt
What do you offer in return?
Look inward. It is there where you will find what needs to be fixed. Don’t live a lonely life.
@@JerrySmith-ih9rd exactly! If you don't become the woman that the guy you're looking for would want. You'll have to settle or he will, and neither of you will be happy
That’s what I sow Denver needed perfection or a rich person just attractive loyal respectful we all have flaws I don’t mind if someone has some ways about them or even a few issues but this generation ain’t it
WhT are you doing wrong ?
He speaks with the passion and the voice of Dr. Myles Monroe..
I'm a great man, I don't need to bruise a women, I seen that happend to my mother, I bought a home at 26, I'm 29 now, no kids, and I make over six figures. My issue is I have women who try to me to MISUSE. I still want someone i can bulid with a partner. I'm not looking for someone I have to rescue. A man with nothing can abuse a women. Happenings alot everyday
Agreed. A man with nothing can do a lot of abuse, especially when the woman has it together and he doesn't. I don't agree with this preacher.
I learned to chill. Nobody has it all!
I learned that making demands and having expectations is ridiculous..
I went back to school and now-
IM HOLDING THE KEYS.
My man? He's a loyal beautiful man!
He doesn't owe me anything!! We have no kids- no stress- no debt.
We travel- and pay cash for everything.
No drama!!
I am never looking for a man when they come to me. And it's up to me to decide to be interested in them. I don't look they find me.
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Straight facts brother well spoken 👏
Well Boaz was already fully equipped before coming across Ruth.
He sure was just missing his rib which was Ruth
wow I never thought about this before. he's right though. sharing this message its very important to realize this fact
It's so sad that a lot of y'all missed it. He's simply saying a man that has everything built, where would you fit in that man's life. He also most likely feel like he has endless options (which he does) and can get along just fine with or WITHOUT you.
Oppose to y'all building TOGETHER.
You're actually missing the point. You're interpretation of what he saying as a man is diehard than what women are hearing. Men do get more options with success. Women are born thinking they have many more options just for being a woman. Hypergamy.
I believe it's the person and who they are, not if they are established. It's about the character of a man no matter what!
He’s right !
AMEN AMEN AMEN MY BROTHER. GOD-BLESS 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
WHERE CAN YOU FIND THIS IN A BIBLE THAT IT IS A WOMAN'S RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE A MAN OUT OF A PARTNER WHO IS REALLY NOT READY TO BE A MAN?
Yes, you need to build him up, carry him, motivate him, love him, appreciate him and serve him for more than a decade and then once he has everything he desires he still abuses you emotionally and leaves you for another woman. Telling lies about how you cheated on him, or how you neglected your home chores while he knows you have 0% desire or opportunity to cheat and working 12 hour shifts daily to support him and your child and the chores he is referring to was actually his that he offered to do infront of witnesses. I never asked for perfect, no-one is perfect, I only asked for love and support matching my love and support.
He said
“You need a man who desperately sees you as a helper”
And
“Not a man who’s already great”
This is the funniest video I’ve seen yet.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
y’all DONT take this seriously…
PLEASE don’t go chasing desperate men!!!
This isn’t even biblical
Bible states man must provide
@@chrisharris2367 Amen Chris! Ladies don’t fall for this Jedi mind trick!
🤦🏽♂️b**** you deaf deaf as hell
You just wanna hear what you wanna hear
But the first marriage in the Bible shows that the man had everything. God saw that he was alone, and that it wasn't good. So, he brought animals to him to name and the man saw no companionship in all the animals till a special one was created for him. In marriage, women are for companionship, and a man must have had all resources intact to fuel that companionship, according to the Bible.
Exodus 21:10 ►
“If he takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights”
Ladies here is a scripture from the Bible that gives the context of biblical marriage. Although it’s in reference to when a man would take a additional wife being already married as was the custom in the “Old Testament” , the concept still applies. This scripture states that if a man took an additional wife the Food, Clothing, Marital Rights (Sex), and Shelter (shelter is not explicitly stated but in those times women didn’t work so it was clearly understood a man provided the home) that was given to the first wife could not be diminished just because he took an additional wife. So we clearly reason the first wife was given all these resources within the marriage agreement. You read nothing here about a woman helping a man provide her with the basic resources needed to start a marriage. A man would not take or even be allowed to marry a woman without showing he could provide for her. A wife being a “helpmeet” means that throughout the marriage the wife supported the husband in various ways that contributed to the well being of the family, but NOT in providing the basic elements needed for a man to attain a wife! Big difference!
These men you listen to in church are nothing more than “Pimps of the Pulpit” deceiving people. Read and know your Bible for yourself!
By almighty God Amen, always your massage saves us in heart & in our life we living in on earth
Even if he’s white, the expression is “tall dark and handsome” lol
Exactly!!!
BIG FAT BINGO FOR THIS SPEECH 👋🏆👋🏆👋❤️💞 He's so right 👍👍
Im successful but not an abuser lol that was extreme 🤣😂 but I get what he saying
It depends with what you call or mean with ( being successful) mr
that's how to truly get a man's love and loyalty.
Amen ❤️❤️🙏
Im 51 now. I have a wife now in the second chapter of our lives. I have heard all my life how much women want a man that has more then them. Its been drilled in and is accepted. Have more money, the better house, the better car, the better body just to qualify. Now we hear how much women want equality. Good for the new men coming up in this world. She can bust her ass just to qualify for you
Very interesting.....is this biblical
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No
No it’s not.
Some people will still disagree with this man😀😀! What a wonderful world we live in!
And the first mistake is they are looking….
Right!!!
Exactly! He who finds a wife, not she who finds a husband.
You have to be in this culture you’ll never find anyone sitting in the house.
💯%Facts No one isn't Perfect
A perfect man doesn't need a woman.
A woman seeking this will only ruin the perfect man. Then she's disappointed because he's no longer perfect.
I have yet to hear counselors give advice to single women if they are ready to be the good wife as well as seeking the good man.
We already have minds made up.
Guys - blonde 36-24-36
Girls - tall, handsome, money
These ingredients only go so far in a relationship.
Keep telling the truth brother these women need to hear it they are so delusional.. they go on these dating websites and they plug in all the things they want and they expect to be able to find that in a guy so delusional
And when the women helps. To build the. Greatness. In him . As a empire. Man. And he decideds. To .run off. What do we do then. ?
Your negativity is what caused you to be still looking for that man. Women sucks about priorities , they'll destroy a perfect home for some quick dick. I know cause it happens to me
Same thing men do when women run off with half of everything. Deal with it.
We need each other in this world men and women.
Am abuser is an abuser with or without money money or no money that person will still abuse u.
Keep lying to women about these fictional abuseive men and make lots of money, good buisness model
Facts!!!!
Straight to the point!!!! I love it!! So true!!
Say it again 💯
No flip the reasoning upside down and look at the positive- beautiful wisdom~~!!!!
But they don't want a partner they want a leader
Amen baby.
The man speaks the truth.
Not true we try to build with a man and that hasn’t work because his ego wagon couldn’t and won’t take it until after he fucked up and then want to come back because you are the good or the best woman
Well every other race becomes successful by doing exactly what this man is talking about.
Amen!! Genesis used the word helpmate=beneficial adversary
Stop getting on women and start getting on these men out here.
I think by "abuse you" he means the man might be emotionally neglectful. He might feel like you need him more than he needs you and so you will accept all.the bs he us.putting you through. But end of the day, women need to use their judgment to determine if the guy is right for them
The best advice for the day!!!
I found my perfect Guy. He has his job,I have my job, I got home and land and money. He got everything I got. But I love him for his imperfect
What??? These pastors need to stop… women been screwing themselves dating dude with “potentials” that never realized, he does have to be great but I don’t need no desperate guy to use me to build him then realize he’s too good for me now that he’s arrived.. the great guy will pass me by if I’m not what he’s looking for but I would not have wasted any money or energy on him.. this word is not from the lord… sorry a desperate dude needs Jesus not me..I ain’t no savior🤣🤣
He better let God pull the greatness out of him