Sometimes I hesitate to say anything at all because: the one thing said was I’ve been accused of faking being a RN, I’ve been told I don’t know what I’m talking about, and I’ve been told that they r sure that the doctors an individual has is taking care of the medical side of things......and on and on. I share things because of my education, and I truly just want to help. I am disabled and have several life threatening illnesses which have caused me to have to be on medical leave. So I’m in my own home with home health nurses who come out to do the stuff that I cannot do on myself. I know what it’s like to be a nurse, and I know what it’s like to be the patient. So I had hoped that my opinion would matter to those suffering in any way. I just want to help. But yes I’m so happy that she listened to us when we were pleading for her to get it looked at. I’m so happy she did. Low platelets can be life threatening.....especially when the person has a serious medical issue in addition to the low platelets. I’ve seen patients go into cardiac arrest and the platelets being so so low is most likely why resuscitations not successful. I also love how everyone in the comments are being so kind and understanding. This one guy that I followed called Peewee-toms on his RUclips channel.....on top of the fact of his having one of the most deadly as well as most rare type of cancer, he had trolls on his page saying it was all a fake and lie for attention. Well, they ate their words because at 24 years old, peewee passed away. I guess they now see that he wasn’t faking an illness. He has been a true example to everyone. He was one of the most positive people that I’ve ever ever met. His testimony really helped me to stop moping around and using my disability as an excuse to not do anything.
I'm living with one of the few still incurable cancers for over five years now. I'm still happy, optimistic and have a very fulfilling life. I think I'm blessed with a rare real life super power.
@@aprilthomas1489 Oh, so many things. I support my wife, who had breast cancer two times (and who supports me as well), I'm active in a local support group helping other cancer patients, I'm politically active in my town, I'm helping a small business owner researching clinical studies, I'm creating a small business around analogue large format portrait photography, I'm planning for an own RUclips channel, and, and, and ... It's not always easy because my immune system is heavily corrupted by the cancer and thus I need to be cautious and have to get a two-hour infusion every week. The chemos, radiation and stem cell transplantation have resulted in a severe case of chronic fatigue, the main reason why I cannot work full-time anymore. I cannot move much because the cancer has, among other effects, fractured my spine four times (and broken six rips). But all that does not stop me from thoroughly enjoying my life.
@@Dahrenhorst that is absolutely beautiful. Everyone's body will fail eventually. Some sooner than others but it doesn't matter how long we are here. What matters is how we live our lives, how we feel in our lives, and how we help others feel. That sounds very cliche but I know how true it is. I have severe depression and I get suicidal and I have been near death. Your deepest subconscious or some might say it's your spirit speaks to you when you get to that place. It tells you what is important in this life. And you are confronted with the choices that you have made and the effort that you have or have not put forth. I think that when you come to that place you won't have regrets.
Keeping a positive attitude is sooo important. I was disabled 21 years ago by 2 different surgeons. Most of the ppl with my condition are bed ridden. By the grace of God and a positive attitude I'm mobile thus far. Never give up.
Yes! When platelets get below 10k people can just start bleeding internally. My mother had a hemorrhagic stroke because hers were very very low and would not increase even with transfusions
I have friends who are living with their parents in their 30s, never moved out and I was gone 3 weeks after I graduated high school. Everyone is different. I very much like having my own space.
I moved 250 miles away when I was about to turn 21, then at nearing 28 I moved back home to my hometown but having my own home, in the same neighborhood as where my parents live (and where I grew up) almost 1,5 years ago now I moved within the neighborhood (due to renovation work approaching where I lived before) and now live in the next building from my parents who still live in my childhood home, it’s so nice to live close to each other without living with each other, especially now during the pandemic when my parents and I have been able to socialize as a family through the whole pandemic as we made a very tight social bubble with each other from the beginning. I’m 35 now, approaching 36 and have always had a great relationship with my parents and we help each other a lot too.
I lived at home until I was 28, I’ve been living on my own for a year now and I love it but I also loved living at home.. I still go home almost every weekend and spend that night there but I couldn’t imagine moving back in with my mom and brother again haha.
As a mother, I’ve wondered about your parents as well. It might be a cultural difference; in Mexican American culture, families are extremely close, sometimes even toxically so. 🥲
I really think it‘s a cultural thing. For example I grew up in Germany and moved out of my family home when I was 19. 😅 and all of my friends, cousins, etc. also moved out between the ages of 18 and 21. But my parents are still there for me no matter what and we have a great relationship
I don’t think it was a question of if you lived with your parents but more of why are they not more present with you at some of these appointments when you are going through the hardest time of your life is all 💜
Because she is an adult. There comes a time when your parents are no longer in a parenting role. There comes a time when your parents reclaim their lives, and you are no longer the whole of their world. Because for some people the hardest times are when they rely on themselves the most; their friends, and yes, their parents...but mostly themselves. Her parents are not there because she doesn’t want them there, because she’s a grown up. Don’t assume your need level is the same as Romee, and don’t assume her parents don’t care enough.
@@alijane6675 Dude fuck that, she's like 23-24 years old going through the toughest time in her life. When it's something this big, you're never too old or too "grown-up" to rely on someone else.
My daughter is chronically ill and still lives at home as an adult. We have given her space and freedom to be an adult. She needs the support of her family as her future is very unknown. I’m with her at every appointment and take copious notes. I brought her into this world but I will not give upon her. I couldn’t have one moment of rest if she didn’t have someone to support and watch her throughout the day.Drs have stated she cannot be left alone. This is our battle and we will take it on for as long as it takes to find answers.
"I'm a now 24 year old woman and it's not mentally healthy for me staying at my parents' for a long period of time.." Same with me. Maybe not because of our different lifestyles in the first place, but mainly because they are my parents, and I'll always be their child for them (and I'm 20 years older than you! ) - it's difficult to get out of or not fall back into certain behaviour patterns then, I think for both sides. And I feel much more independent when I'm on my own, which does feel healthier and better for me.
@@ccxcxz4377 Well, I can not speak for everyone else, just for me, but yes: for me, that is not an option. I just notice that when I visit my parents for a few days during christmas holidays, for example, it already starts to feel uncomfortable at some point and I am glad when I'm back home again.
@@honeyoyinfalola6870 I would express bad or uncomfortable feelings in general, and I do so from time to time. Like when there's a conflict or I have a problem with what somebody says or how he (or she) behaves. I do not feel uncomfortable in general with my parents, I love them and I like to spend time with them. So what I said in my comment before sounded worse than it is. Maybe there are times when being together with my parents for a longer time, say a few days or so, is okay and feels good. But again and again there are times when I need distance from them. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But that's an issue that I personally have with myself and my parents, and I am sure it's not a problem for evereyone else.
oh gosh, I get the not living with my parents anymore sooo much. I feel you - I really love my parents, but our lifestyles don't fit anymore. Recently, I stayed with them for quite some time due to Covid because I live alone and it was rough at times, just because we developed differently 😁 mentally, I also need time away from them despite the fact we deeply love each other. Also, it is super common for young adults in Europe to be living by themselves. You go girl, wish you all the best 😊
So glad you took the advice and called your doctor last week 😃 you are looking well, your skin didn't look tired from this end of the camera lol. Take it easy and wishing you all the luck on this new treatment plan x
You truly inspire me Romee. Keep living your life to the fullest. You are a champion and with your determination and positive attitude you will beat cancer. My son is also 24. He had Hodgkins Lymphoma and went through chemo and a stem cell transplant. He is in remission for two years and has completed his 4 year honours degree in computer science last month and he also wrote a thesis as well. His overall percentage is 84 %. He starts his full time job in July of this year. He is living with us now until he saves enough money to move out. Like you, he likes to be independent and I'm sure he won't be staying with us too long. Stay strong. I am rooting for you!! Big hugs from Toronto Canada.
I am 26 and had to move back in with my parent's and it has been hard on all of us. Unfortunately, I have spent a lot of time in the hospital last year and accrued some nasty medical medical bills and have ongoing medical problems. That is the only reason I live with them. They are super supportive but it has caused some issues and I constantly feel guilt and shame of on living with and relying on them at my age. I really respect that you are making it on your own and are not dependent on your parent's. You are so strong and you have the support you need when you need it. Keep going strong beautiful lady 💜
Don't feel bad for living with your parents again. You seem to live in a country where you have to pay a lot for medical treatments? I guess (and hope) that this is not so difficult in the Netherlands so this helps young people in the Netherlands to stay independend also as a student. So don't feel bad of yourself if the health system in your country makes independence kind of impossible for you.
So good to see you looking much better this week! And that you went to the ER! I hope you are hanging in there, please know that we are rooting for you all the way! When you are ready for your next world tour, please pencil us in for your visit to South Africa! 😁😂💕
I’ve seen your parents! To be honest, I wouldn’t want to be in my daughter’s videos. I think it’s great that you’re young and independent, and realize that it’s best to care for yourself. It makes one feel better about everything when you have to get up and move. You’re such a lovely young woman! 🥳💗🍭
I wish I was as brave as you!!!! I have been an open book about my cancer with family and my FB family..or antone who asks. I am from Charlotte Fla. USA and I am 70 years old. I learned I had colon and liver cancer in August of 2015. It was at stage 4 when it was found. I have been on chemo in one form or another, ever since. I have had transfusions due to low platelets and low blood counts. Thank to the love and support from people like you. Friends and family who have meant the world to me. I crochet or watch videos while getting chemo. My prayers are with you..please stay strong and remember Laughter is the Best Medicine. PM me anytime and chin up ❤
I’m glad you got checked out with the petechiae (blood spots) and epistaxis (bloody noses). I also thought oh gosh, with your platelets but was glad to see all the comments by the time I watched it and that you were going to be checked out. It hit me hard knowing you got a transfusion as I started donating blood the beginning of this year and here in the US the Red Cross where I go asked me to donate Platelets instead if I could due to need and my blood type and being CMV Negative. I have donated 6 times since March and plan to donate twice a month as I am able, for people just like you Romee 😊❤️🩸
You are totally right staying by yourself. In Europe it's anyway more common that young people with age 20 more or less leave there parents home and stay by themselves. every parents aim is having kids they are independent and able to manage their own life. Wish you good health :-*
LOL, "Think we may need to talk about that..." Oh you make a fellow Dad proud. Your parents did a good job raising you to be independent and strong. 70.5K 100k just around the corner.
Not a fellow Dad, but I do agree! I hope this young man is watching and will sit down long enough to have that talk. Romee, please be sure you want to be exclusive with this guy don't let him rope you into things you're not feeling. Just because he's exclusive, doesn't mean you must be if you're not feeling it. Date who you want to girl! BUT, if this guy is a gem? Do it, girl 💚💚💚
I’m American and my two favorite shows are also this is us and greys! I just wanted to say that you are very inspiring and beautiful inside and out. Sending all the love and good vibes from across the pond! Oh and I know how you feel about living with parents. My parents are quite toxic so I moved out at a young age.
I'm praying for a fast recovery for you. I'm currently dealing with OCD since the pandemic started and it's been hell. Also had to move back home because I wasn't able to take care of myself without severe ocd attacks. I'm more than happy to be your friend if you ever need to speak to someone. I'm a Taurus too lol.
Her English is excellent although I would say her accent is more American than English. In my experience most Dutch people speak perfect English without strong accents or at least the ones I met. And as Romee says they grow up watching American TV. People from Northern European countries speak great English and the more south you go the worse the English gets like Italy and Spain etc.
I really want to let u know u have been awesome! I had been feeling sick for the past year without a diagnosis. I saw your videos about your fight with cancer and it made me feel braver now to live through this. Thanks! U are an inspiration. May God bless you and I know u will win this battle.
Hi Romee! ✌🏽💙Nathan here. I live in Atlanta, GA and wanted to send you love and light from way over here. Thank you for sharing your life and story with all of us strangers. You're strong, beautiful and really funny. I know that I'm just a random person but hopefully getting hello's and good vibes from all of us continues to give you strength and makes you smile when you're having a bad day. I appreciate you answering questions but also want to say that you don't owe us any explanations. We are here to support You because we care. Peace and Love to you sweet one!
You addressed that beautifully with the parent situation my daughter is the same age as you I wouldn't want her to lose her independence because she is sick I think your right its more healthy it keeps you stronger I pray for you everyday much love and respect to you as a parent im very proud of you and your accomplishments
As a Mom myself, you are an amazing young lady. I know they're there & understand how you feel. Tomorrow my Church will be praying for you & your families!!!💗✌❣ #GraysIsLife# lol
Love your explanation of positive mental thoughts. Also about getting rid of negative energy. You know what you need and you have to listen to your body. Xxx
Her England is flawless. At first before I knew her back story, I wondered why an American girl was doing a video from a European country. Truly amazing
I can hear that she's not a native English speaker, but she obviously has a good ear for languages. Her vowels especially give it away. I'm Norwegian, btw.
About Greys anatomy : i agree with you i think there should not be another season because i felt like this last season would be a nice ending:) i wanted to wish you luck with everything!
I can't believe people were asking about the "situation" with your parents!! I have been watching your videos since your diagnosis and I remember them being in several of them even if it was just their voice in the background. Bottom line it isn't anyone else's business but I am glad you were able to hopefully put those comments to rest. You are so intelligent and strong Romee!! You are constantly in my prayers!!
I think that people should understand that you're a grown woman and seem to like living on your own. Of course that doesn't mean anything is wrong between you and your parents. I am glad you are feeling well.
I loved how you said that not living with your parents actually makes you stronger! This is so true, I moved out young and it was good for me. With an illness there would be a tendency to want to be babied but in the long run not good for you.
My son John did 9 months of brutal chemo for high grade osteosarcoma in his left tibia, then he went through limb salvage surgery last March during lockdown. He's been on crutches for 2 years now, he is now 21. We knew we were in for a battle, we emotional planned for what we could imagine, that helped, his friends helped keep his mind occupied, he played video games when he could think. He lived on Taco Bell too! So did half the oncology floor, lol, John says he compartmentalizes, he put it all in a place and just doesn't think about it. Our dog is a furry angel and has offered so much comfort, and the nurses on the oncology floor were so wonderful too. I recently read about the CARE protocol, COC it's a cocktail of 4 drugs that are being repurposed for cancer treatment. They are common drugs, that have been around for a long time, people that are diabetic and have high cholesterol already take 2 of these drugs. Patients, with their doctors approval use this protocol alongside their current treatment regimen. I'm just throwing this out there incase you hadnt read about it yet. I will keep you in my prayers🙏🙏🙏 that's what is getting me through all of this. Much love from Philadelphia 😘😘😘
So glad I stumbled on one of your videos, Romee. So glad you have a good support system of friends and family! Your strength and positivity are so impressive and when I think of the load of drugs that you get in treatment, it blows me away. I've been on and off brentuximab for a few years for a treatable but incurable (and very rare) cancer and even though I only get it every 3 weeks, it really kicks me at times. Maybe being almost 76 has something to do with it possibly? In my head I'm half that age but the rest of me knows it's a lie, LOL! Be well, stay strong and please keep posting as you feel able.
I get it, when I was 20 I became very unwell/ disabled and needed my Mother to care for my personal care needs. My parents were amazing but my mental health suffered, I had to dissociate and kind of mentally resort to the role of a child to cope. I was mentally so much stronger when I left home and was on my own two feet metaphorically. My fiance (who I met 5months after becoming unwell) would help when I would have a relapse and he is my husband now and still is amazing! When you are unwell as in the literal care of your parents the roles do resort back to that of a child and a parent. That never happens in a relationship - I'm still a wife, Mother and partner and it's much healthier. I'm so happy that you have a budding romance to keep you smiling and keep your mind off your health!
Romme your one amazing 24 year old woman. I love watching and listening to you and want you to know you really inspire me a 47 year old disabled woman.. I never even thought about. My behaviour when I stay at my parents opposed to staying in my own home. Yes i think when i stay at my moms i regress to that little girl again yet covid has provid to me i can cope with all the health issues that have cropped up on my own and i push through the pain etc a lit better when I'm alone. Thankyou for showing me what a strong person I've become, now if only i can find a guy that sees me first and not my disability I've cracked it. Wishing you all the best. God bless you much love Alison from Bristol xxxxx
We've seen your mom and dad a few times! your mom is a hair stylist who cut your friends hair,and your dad takes you to the doctors often people need to take notes or something, plus at 24 you should be living away from your parents! that doesn't mean you aren't close. .I'm glad you have plenty of support at your call though. you look good Romee thank you for sharing your life with us.
I prayed for you in the last holly days we had really from my heart and by God will you will be fine.... Miracles occur I believe in that.... Hope we hear good news soon... Love u
Hi Romee. I love Greys, too. Too many main characters have left but Amber, I heard, was coming back. I'm proud of you, you are strong! Be safe and take care. Great video. 💖💖
Love This is Us and A Million Little Things. Disappointed in Grays this year (I have watched every episode since it began). Prayers for your treatments and remission!
I just love your answers. Your absolutely right. If your home your going to do things for yourself and stay stronger. I like that. You got this. I'm praying for you. Of course your parents care and are in your life. I've seen them in your videos and you are telling us what they are saying. Stay strong.
You are so charming and the balance in your life is obvious. Lucky guy, he better be very special for you to share your time and limited energy. Here I go sounding like a mother, sorry! Oh, yes, As The World Turns fan of many years..are the episodes still available there? Agree This Is Us has excellent writing, acting and a look into real family issues, love Kate reaching the school choir! Be well 🦋 from Florida.
You are just literally the cutest sweetest most positive person!!! Love your videos, and your honesty and vulnerability. Youre so relatable and inspiring in so many ways. Thinking of you and sending you positive energy!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I totally understand your parents not wanting to be in videos. I can not imagine how upset they are about your sickness. Not everyone can pretend on camera. I totally get it.
Hey, totally feel the same way about my parent. I cannot live with them anymore since first moving out. The distance is making the relation healthier 😅 Also good luck with your thesis 💜
Glad you got the platelets sorted we found out about platelets when Daughter came in one day she'd been on a skate board and fell off her leg was black and blue from hip to ankle i said you never done that falling off a skate board so we took her to A&E they did tests not sure what was going off so sent us to childrens hospital her platelet level was 10 we had to go weekly then to hospital to check her levels, no contact sports at school etc, this went on a long time when she broke out in red spots we knew her platelets were low finally diagnosed with chronic ITP Idiopathic Thrombocytopenic Purpura had to have her spleen removed to sort it out she's been fine since . if the red spots rash comes back get the platelets checked again. All the Best Romee
Thank you god for the nurses in the comments who noticed your symptoms and let you know!
Sometimes I hesitate to say anything at all because: the one thing said was I’ve been accused of faking being a RN, I’ve been told I don’t know what I’m talking about, and I’ve been told that they r sure that the doctors an individual has is taking care of the medical side of things......and on and on. I share things because of my education, and I truly just want to help. I am disabled and have several life threatening illnesses which have caused me to have to be on medical leave. So I’m in my own home with home health nurses who come out to do the stuff that I cannot do on myself. I know what it’s like to be a nurse, and I know what it’s like to be the patient. So I had hoped that my opinion would matter to those suffering in any way. I just want to help. But yes I’m so happy that she listened to us when we were pleading for her to get it looked at. I’m so happy she did. Low platelets can be life threatening.....especially when the person has a serious medical issue in addition to the low platelets. I’ve seen patients go into cardiac arrest and the platelets being so so low is most likely why resuscitations not successful.
I also love how everyone in the comments are being so kind and understanding. This one guy that I followed called Peewee-toms on his RUclips channel.....on top of the fact of his having one of the most deadly as well as most rare type of cancer, he had trolls on his page saying it was all a fake and lie for attention. Well, they ate their words because at 24 years old, peewee passed away. I guess they now see that he wasn’t faking an illness. He has been a true example to everyone. He was one of the most positive people that I’ve ever ever met. His testimony really helped me to stop moping around and using my disability as an excuse to not do anything.
@@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289 I followed peeweetoms too! RIP! Lovely soul!
What did this "god" have to do with it?
@@edsmith438 thank you
@@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289 I'm fairly sure he was 32 when he died. I followed him too. It made me sad how some people though he was lying. :(
I'm living with one of the few still incurable cancers for over five years now. I'm still happy, optimistic and have a very fulfilling life. I think I'm blessed with a rare real life super power.
What feels fulfilling about your life?
@@aprilthomas1489 Oh, so many things. I support my wife, who had breast cancer two times (and who supports me as well), I'm active in a local support group helping other cancer patients, I'm politically active in my town, I'm helping a small business owner researching clinical studies, I'm creating a small business around analogue large format portrait photography, I'm planning for an own RUclips channel, and, and, and ...
It's not always easy because my immune system is heavily corrupted by the cancer and thus I need to be cautious and have to get a two-hour infusion every week. The chemos, radiation and stem cell transplantation have resulted in a severe case of chronic fatigue, the main reason why I cannot work full-time anymore. I cannot move much because the cancer has, among other effects, fractured my spine four times (and broken six rips). But all that does not stop me from thoroughly enjoying my life.
@@Dahrenhorst that is absolutely beautiful. Everyone's body will fail eventually. Some sooner than others but it doesn't matter how long we are here. What matters is how we live our lives, how we feel in our lives, and how we help others feel. That sounds very cliche but I know how true it is. I have severe depression and I get suicidal and I have been near death. Your deepest subconscious or some might say it's your spirit speaks to you when you get to that place. It tells you what is important in this life. And you are confronted with the choices that you have made and the effort that you have or have not put forth. I think that when you come to that place you won't have regrets.
Beautiful
That’s great! A positive attitude really makes a difference. Stay strong!
If I had a Superpower Romee I would use it to stop everyone's Suffering such as yours . Stay strong x 💖
I'll second that, Hicky.
Omg that's so sweet
Yes, I’d join you if ok? My hubby died within eight weeks of pancreatic cancer ♋️ that literally attacked his whole body 💜
This was relly nice spotten!!😄😄😄
Keeping a positive attitude is sooo important. I was disabled 21 years ago by 2 different surgeons. Most of the ppl with my condition are bed ridden. By the grace of God and a positive attitude I'm mobile thus far. Never give up.
@@El-yu9hs Thank You
Thank God for everyone 🙏 telling her to call her Doc. ❤
Yes! When platelets get below 10k people can just start bleeding internally. My mother had a hemorrhagic stroke because hers were very very low and would not increase even with transfusions
When i was doing cancer treatments i had nobody to help me but it forced me to keep going....the mind is the strongest tool we have!! God bless!!
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I have friends who are living with their parents in their 30s, never moved out and I was gone 3 weeks after I graduated high school. Everyone is different. I very much like having my own space.
I was gone in three days.
Same , I moved out the moment I started university and my relationship with my parents has never been healthier.
I moved 250 miles away when I was about to turn 21, then at nearing 28 I moved back home to my hometown but having my own home, in the same neighborhood as where my parents live (and where I grew up) almost 1,5 years ago now I moved within the neighborhood (due to renovation work approaching where I lived before) and now live in the next building from my parents who still live in my childhood home, it’s so nice to live close to each other without living with each other, especially now during the pandemic when my parents and I have been able to socialize as a family through the whole pandemic as we made a very tight social bubble with each other from the beginning. I’m 35 now, approaching 36 and have always had a great relationship with my parents and we help each other a lot too.
Me too, I know I’m better off having my own space, they won’t really like it that I’m moving back out though
I lived at home until I was 28, I’ve been living on my own for a year now and I love it but I also loved living at home.. I still go home almost every weekend and spend that night there but I couldn’t imagine moving back in with my mom and brother again haha.
As a mother, I’ve wondered about your parents as well. It might be a cultural difference; in Mexican American culture, families are extremely close, sometimes even toxically so. 🥲
True. There is healthily close and then unhealthily close.
Mexican here!...it's been on my mind too, was wondering what was happening with your parents.
I really think it‘s a cultural thing. For example I grew up in Germany and moved out of my family home when I was 19. 😅 and all of my friends, cousins, etc. also moved out between the ages of 18 and 21. But my parents are still there for me no matter what and we have a great relationship
Yeah, I’m from Latin America too, and I also was wondering about their parents and the rest of her family
I'm from Latin America, and my parents and I do not live together and have established boundaries, so idk but I think its a family-to-family thing.
I don’t think it was a question of if you lived with your parents but more of why are they not more present with you at some of these appointments when you are going through the hardest time of your life is all 💜
YES
Exactly
Because she is an adult. There comes a time when your parents are no longer in a parenting role. There comes a time when your parents reclaim their lives, and you are no longer the whole of their world. Because for some people the hardest times are when they rely on themselves the most; their friends, and yes, their parents...but mostly themselves. Her parents are not there because she doesn’t want them there, because she’s a grown up. Don’t assume your need level is the same as Romee, and don’t assume her parents don’t care enough.
@@alijane6675 Dude fuck that, she's like 23-24 years old going through the toughest time in her life. When it's something this big, you're never too old or too "grown-up" to rely on someone else.
My daughter is chronically ill and still lives at home as an adult. We have given her space and freedom to be an adult. She needs the support of her family as her future is very unknown. I’m with her at every appointment and take copious notes. I brought her into this world but I will not give upon her. I couldn’t have one moment of rest if she didn’t have someone to support and watch her throughout the day.Drs have stated she cannot be left alone. This is our battle and we will take it on for as long as it takes to find answers.
"I'm a now 24 year old woman and it's not mentally healthy for me staying at my parents' for a long period of time.." Same with me. Maybe not because of our different lifestyles in the first place, but mainly because they are my parents, and I'll always be their child for them (and I'm 20 years older than you! ) - it's difficult to get out of or not fall back into certain behaviour patterns then, I think for both sides. And I feel much more independent when I'm on my own, which does feel healthier and better for me.
same, and it is completely normal!
If you're in your 40s, living with your parents isn't even an option... You're simply too old...
@@ccxcxz4377 Well, I can not speak for everyone else, just for me, but yes: for me, that is not an option. I just notice that when I visit my parents for a few days during christmas holidays, for example, it already starts to feel uncomfortable at some point and I am glad when I'm back home again.
@@MM0941 do you think you would ever express them what you’re feeling to you’re family and hope you’re okay !🤗
@@honeyoyinfalola6870 I would express bad or uncomfortable feelings in general, and I do so from time to time. Like when there's a conflict or I have a problem with what somebody says or how he (or she) behaves. I do not feel uncomfortable in general with my parents, I love them and I like to spend time with them. So what I said in my comment before sounded worse than it is. Maybe there are times when being together with my parents for a longer time, say a few days or so, is okay and feels good. But again and again there are times when I need distance from them. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But that's an issue that I personally have with myself and my parents, and I am sure it's not a problem for evereyone else.
oh gosh, I get the not living with my parents anymore sooo much. I feel you - I really love my parents, but our lifestyles don't fit anymore. Recently, I stayed with them for quite some time due to Covid because I live alone and it was rough at times, just because we developed differently 😁 mentally, I also need time away from them despite the fact we deeply love each other. Also, it is super common for young adults in Europe to be living by themselves. You go girl, wish you all the best 😊
So glad you took the advice and called your doctor last week 😃 you are looking well, your skin didn't look tired from this end of the camera lol. Take it easy and wishing you all the luck on this new treatment plan x
I'm so glad you went to the hospital after the comments on your last video, thank goodness you did. You're an inspiration. Keep well. x
You truly inspire me Romee. Keep living your life to the fullest. You are a champion and with your determination and positive attitude you will beat cancer. My son is also 24. He had Hodgkins Lymphoma and went through chemo and a stem cell transplant. He is in remission for two years and has completed his 4 year honours degree in computer science last month and he also wrote a thesis as well. His overall percentage is 84 %. He starts his full time job in July of this year. He is living with us now until he saves enough money to move out. Like you, he likes to be independent and I'm sure he won't be staying with us too long. Stay strong. I am rooting for you!!
Big hugs from Toronto Canada.
I am 26 and had to move back in with my parent's and it has been hard on all of us. Unfortunately, I have spent a lot of time in the hospital last year and accrued some nasty medical medical bills and have ongoing medical problems. That is the only reason I live with them. They are super supportive but it has caused some issues and I constantly feel guilt and shame of on living with and relying on them at my age. I really respect that you are making it on your own and are not dependent on your parent's. You are so strong and you have the support you need when you need it. Keep going strong beautiful lady 💜
Don't feel bad for living with your parents again. You seem to live in a country where you have to pay a lot for medical treatments?
I guess (and hope) that this is not so difficult in the Netherlands so this helps young people in the Netherlands to stay independend also as a student.
So don't feel bad of yourself if the health system in your country makes independence kind of impossible for you.
I'm glad you're better after going to the hospital! ❤️
So good to see you looking much better this week! And that you went to the ER! I hope you are hanging in there, please know that we are rooting for you all the way! When you are ready for your next world tour, please pencil us in for your visit to South Africa! 😁😂💕
I’ve seen your parents! To be honest, I wouldn’t want to be in my daughter’s videos. I think it’s great that you’re young and independent, and realize that it’s best to care for yourself. It makes one feel better about everything when you have to get up and move. You’re such a lovely young woman! 🥳💗🍭
Hi Romee! Your strength, humour, positivity and zest for life inspires me to appreciate life. Thank you for being you! ♥️
I wish I was as brave as you!!!! I have been an open book about my cancer with family and my FB family..or antone who asks. I am from Charlotte Fla. USA and I am 70 years old. I learned I had colon and liver cancer in August of 2015. It was at stage 4 when it was found. I have been on chemo in one form or another, ever since. I have had transfusions due to low platelets and low blood counts. Thank to the love and support from people like you. Friends and family who have meant the world to me. I crochet or watch videos while getting chemo.
My prayers are with you..please stay strong and remember Laughter is the Best Medicine. PM me anytime and chin up ❤
Sending you lots of love and light! 💙
@@nathanclark5587 Thank you so much 🤗
Sending you so much love!❤️
damn girl, you really said fuck cancer!!! 5 year survival rate for stage four colon cancer is like 14%
@@misseselise3864 it hasnt been easy but I have always been a fighter .. Thank you 🥰
I’m glad you got checked out with the petechiae (blood spots) and epistaxis (bloody noses). I also thought oh gosh, with your platelets but was glad to see all the comments by the time I watched it and that you were going to be checked out. It hit me hard knowing you got a transfusion as I started donating blood the beginning of this year and here in the US the Red Cross where I go asked me to donate Platelets instead if I could due to need and my blood type and being CMV Negative. I have donated 6 times since March and plan to donate twice a month as I am able, for people just like you Romee 😊❤️🩸
Thanks for the Update :-) We love you. Glad you went to the Hospital and got the transfusion. Hugs.
I am so glad you have a strong network of people you can rely on to help you when you need them
You are totally right staying by yourself. In Europe it's anyway more common that young people with age 20 more or less leave there parents home and stay by themselves. every parents aim is having kids they are independent and able to manage their own life. Wish you good health :-*
Btw your English is very impressive 👏
Your English is perfect! Wishing you the best from the USA.
I didn't even realise she wasn't a native
Great to see you Romee and living life like a very independent woman💪🏼❤️
Hello from Sydney Australia your so sweet stay strong and remember cancer hates Positivity your in my prayers 🌻🌈🌻
I love the way you think and the way you take care of yourself, body and mind. Keep strong!
That's great 😊 and I'll love to know more about yourself
LOL, "Think we may need to talk about that..." Oh you make a fellow Dad proud. Your parents did a good job raising you to be independent and strong. 70.5K 100k just around the corner.
Not a fellow Dad, but I do agree! I hope this young man is watching and will sit down long enough to have that talk. Romee, please be sure you want to be exclusive with this guy don't let him rope you into things you're not feeling. Just because he's exclusive, doesn't mean you must be if you're not feeling it. Date who you want to girl! BUT, if this guy is a gem? Do it, girl 💚💚💚
I’m American and my two favorite shows are also this is us and greys! I just wanted to say that you are very inspiring and beautiful inside and out. Sending all the love and good vibes from across the pond! Oh and I know how you feel about living with parents. My parents are quite toxic so I moved out at a young age.
I'm praying for a fast recovery for you. I'm currently dealing with OCD since the pandemic started and it's been hell. Also had to move back home because I wasn't able to take care of myself without severe ocd attacks. I'm more than happy to be your friend if you ever need to speak to someone. I'm a Taurus too lol.
Romee
I love how honest and spontaneous you are. Thank you 😊
Your English is better than that of many native speakers!
I think it's great you live alone, especially if you have family and friends when you need them.
And she has no accent at all !!
Romee's good English accent is due to the numerous mugs of tea she drinks🤣
I agree. Her English is perfect.
Her English is excellent although I would say her accent is more American than English. In my experience most Dutch people speak perfect English without strong accents or at least the ones I met. And as Romee says they grow up watching American TV. People from Northern European countries speak great English and the more south you go the worse the English gets like Italy and Spain etc.
I really want to let u know u have been awesome! I had been feeling sick for the past year without a diagnosis. I saw your videos about your fight with cancer and it made me feel braver now to live through this. Thanks! U are an inspiration. May God bless you and I know u will win this battle.
I was the same about living with my parents after college. I love them, but I just needed my freedom, space, etc for my mental health.
Hi Romee! ✌🏽💙Nathan here. I live in Atlanta, GA and wanted to send you love and light from way over here. Thank you for sharing your life and story with all of us strangers. You're strong, beautiful and really funny. I know that I'm just a random person but hopefully getting hello's and good vibes from all of us continues to give you strength and makes you smile when you're having a bad day. I appreciate you answering questions but also want to say that you don't owe us any explanations. We are here to support You because we care. Peace and Love to you sweet one!
You addressed that beautifully with the parent situation my daughter is the same age as you I wouldn't want her to lose her independence because she is sick I think your right its more healthy it keeps you stronger I pray for you everyday much love and respect to you as a parent im very proud of you and your accomplishments
Such a humble being! Thinking of you, you’ve got this SUPER WOMAN ❤️💪🏻🙏🏻
As a Mom myself, you are an amazing young lady. I know they're there & understand how you feel. Tomorrow my Church will be praying for you & your families!!!💗✌❣
#GraysIsLife# lol
Love your explanation of positive mental thoughts. Also about getting rid of negative energy. You know what you need and you have to listen to your body. Xxx
You should do an updated q and a!! Love this style of video!
Her England is flawless. At first before I knew her back story, I wondered why an American girl was doing a video from a European country. Truly amazing
I also thought she was either an American or a Canadian. Her grammar is also spot on.
I can hear that she's not a native English speaker, but she obviously has a good ear for languages. Her vowels especially give it away. I'm Norwegian, btw.
About Greys anatomy : i agree with you i think there should not be another season because i felt like this last season would be a nice ending:) i wanted to wish you luck with everything!
I can't believe people were asking about the "situation" with your parents!! I have been watching your videos since your diagnosis and I remember them being in several of them even if it was just their voice in the background. Bottom line it isn't anyone else's business but I am glad you were able to hopefully put those comments to rest. You are so intelligent and strong Romee!! You are constantly in my prayers!!
You're impressive, in that you know yourself so well. Also, you're pretty amazing!
I think that people should understand that you're a grown woman and seem to like living on your own. Of course that doesn't mean anything is wrong between you and your parents. I am glad you are feeling well.
Wonderful I'll like to know more about yourself 😉
I loved how you said that not living with your parents actually makes you stronger! This is so true, I moved out young and it was good for me. With an illness there would be a tendency to want to be babied but in the long run not good for you.
Your relationship with your parents sounds totally healthy to me. So many adult children seem unable to stand on their own two feet nowadays x
"Living with my parents is... let's just not do that." Haha same 💕
When you sick you always want mom love. I know I want my mom if I have cancel and I'm 38
Glad u went to the ER. Love q&a videos
My son John did 9 months of brutal chemo for high grade osteosarcoma in his left tibia, then he went through limb salvage surgery last March during lockdown. He's been on crutches for 2 years now, he is now 21. We knew we were in for a battle, we emotional planned for what we could imagine, that helped, his friends helped keep his mind occupied, he played video games when he could think. He lived on Taco Bell too! So did half the oncology floor, lol, John says he compartmentalizes, he put it all in a place and just doesn't think about it. Our dog is a furry angel and has offered so much comfort, and the nurses on the oncology floor were so wonderful too. I recently read about the CARE protocol, COC it's a cocktail of 4 drugs that are being repurposed for cancer treatment. They are common drugs, that have been around for a long time, people that are diabetic and have high cholesterol already take 2 of these drugs. Patients, with their doctors approval use this protocol alongside their current treatment regimen. I'm just throwing this out there incase you hadnt read about it yet. I will keep you in my prayers🙏🙏🙏 that's what is getting me through all of this. Much love from Philadelphia 😘😘😘
Every person from Netherlands that I know have always had really good English. It's a blessing you guys have.
So glad I stumbled on one of your videos, Romee. So glad you have a good support system of friends and family! Your strength and positivity are so impressive and when I think of the load of drugs that you get in treatment, it blows me away. I've been on and off brentuximab for a few years for a treatable but incurable (and very rare) cancer and even though I only get it every 3 weeks, it really kicks me at times. Maybe being almost 76 has something to do with it possibly? In my head I'm half that age but the rest of me knows it's a lie, LOL! Be well, stay strong and please keep posting as you feel able.
I'm so glad you got that sorted out! I was worried about your platelets!
I get it, when I was 20 I became very unwell/ disabled and needed my Mother to care for my personal care needs. My parents were amazing but my mental health suffered, I had to dissociate and kind of mentally resort to the role of a child to cope. I was mentally so much stronger when I left home and was on my own two feet metaphorically. My fiance (who I met 5months after becoming unwell) would help when I would have a relapse and he is my husband now and still is amazing! When you are unwell as in the literal care of your parents the roles do resort back to that of a child and a parent. That never happens in a relationship - I'm still a wife, Mother and partner and it's much healthier.
I'm so happy that you have a budding romance to keep you smiling and keep your mind off your health!
You are such an inspiration! Your way of dealing with your illness is breath taking. Best wishes 🙏🏼
I'm a Taurus also and
This Is Us is the best show! I love how it goes back and forth in time.
It was really cool to see you answering Q/A. I'm so impressed by your strenght .
You're a strong young woman !!!
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Hi Rome, love your videos so much. Thank you for being so informative. Praying for your speedy recovery.
I feel like you would make such a great travel companion!
Lovely place to look for wonderful people
We love you Romee!!! You got this girl!!!!👍👍🥰🥰😉😉
Romme your one amazing 24 year old woman. I love watching and listening to you and want you to know you really inspire me a 47 year old disabled woman.. I never even thought about. My behaviour when I stay at my parents opposed to staying in my own home. Yes i think when i stay at my moms i regress to that little girl again yet covid has provid to me i can cope with all the health issues that have cropped up on my own and i push through the pain etc a lit better when I'm alone. Thankyou for showing me what a strong person I've become, now if only i can find a guy that sees me first and not my disability I've cracked it. Wishing you all the best. God bless you much love Alison from Bristol xxxxx
I totally get the not living with the parents thing. I get it.
Me too
Me too but I can't afford not living with them😭
So good to see you. I’m so glad you’re doing well! I’ve been praying for you sweet girl.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like they could wrap it up in this season
We've seen your mom and dad a few times! your mom is a hair stylist who cut your friends hair,and your dad takes you to the doctors often people need to take notes or something, plus at 24 you should be living away from your parents! that doesn't mean you aren't close. .I'm glad you have plenty of support at your call though. you look good Romee thank you for sharing your life with us.
Romee I just saw you appear on one of the stories on snapchat!! So lovely to see you getting recognition and more support! Lots of love from Australia
Hello Romee, thank you for update to us, we was so worried about you. Thank you Nurses!
I prayed for you in the last holly days we had really from my heart and by God will you will be fine.... Miracles occur I believe in that.... Hope we hear good news soon... Love u
You have to do what's right for you and only you. Glad to see your feeling better.
Hi Romee. I love Greys, too. Too many main characters have left but Amber, I heard, was coming back. I'm proud of you, you are strong! Be safe and take care. Great video. 💖💖
So glad to hear you are feeling better have a great sleep and see you next time x
Good luck Romee! Hi from Croatia!🇭🇷
Hello to you Petra and Romee from Slovenia 🤗🤗🤗
Hello to Romee & Petra & Marusa, ❤️ from Serbia
@@gummyLiLo Oh take me back to Belgrade. I miss it so much 😍😍😍
Hello to all of u from Kentucky, USA
Pozdraav😍😍
Love This is Us and A Million Little Things. Disappointed in Grays this year (I have watched every episode since it began). Prayers for your treatments and remission!
sending you love , keep going , stay strong !
God bless you! Wish you fast recovery!
I am rooting for you!!!
I just love your answers. Your absolutely right. If your home your going to do things for yourself and stay stronger. I like that. You got this. I'm praying for you. Of course your parents care and are in your life. I've seen them in your videos and you are telling us what they are saying. Stay strong.
You are so charming and the balance in your life is obvious. Lucky guy, he better be very special for you to share your time and limited energy. Here I go sounding like a mother, sorry! Oh, yes, As The World Turns fan of many years..are the episodes still available there? Agree This Is Us has excellent writing, acting and a look into real family issues, love Kate reaching the school choir!
Be well 🦋 from Florida.
Life isn’t fair! You are a beautiful young woman and you don’t deserve to be going through cancer treatment!
Romee, you are beautiful! I pray that your health is restored. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Happy to hear you’re doing OK. ❤️
Your plan is spot on. Short term and long term goals. Stay strong.
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You are just literally the cutest sweetest most positive person!!! Love your videos, and your honesty and vulnerability. Youre so relatable and inspiring in so many ways. Thinking of you and sending you positive energy!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Oh Romee💜 I love seeing your face.
I'm glad. you went in, so many I know are "I'm not going IN!" (older men usually). But also best wishes for a great path.
Best of health for you. Sending prayers and positive vibes. You’re so brave. I hope you get well so you can continue to travel and enjoy your life!
YOU ARE SO STRONG!
I totally understand your parents not wanting to be in videos. I can not imagine how upset they are about your sickness. Not everyone can pretend on camera. I totally get it.
Hey, totally feel the same way about my parent. I cannot live with them anymore since first moving out. The distance is making the relation healthier 😅 Also good luck with your thesis 💜
Love you girlie! So happy you updated us about the emergency room trip! Stay strong! 💪🏼💕
Glad you got the platelets sorted we found out about platelets when Daughter came in one day she'd been on a skate board and fell off her leg was black and blue from hip to ankle i said you never done that falling off a skate board so we took her to A&E they did tests not sure what was going off so sent us to childrens hospital her platelet level was 10 we had to go weekly then to hospital to check her levels, no contact sports at school etc, this went on a long time when she broke out in red spots we knew her platelets were low finally diagnosed with chronic ITP Idiopathic Thrombocytopenic Purpura had to have her spleen removed to sort it out she's been fine since . if the red spots rash comes back get the platelets checked again. All the Best Romee
I’m watching all your videos multiple times so you get more views 🙂🙂🙂🙂
You’re a lovely soul x
So glad you went to the ER and you are feeling better. You are a 💎 stay positive and strong.✌️
Always so happy to see you. Keep up the good work!
wishing all the best to you, longing for positive updates next week!!!!
I would take a superpower of healing to make you better! Much love from Texas! ❤️❤️
Thank you for the Q&A. Great talk.
You're such a strong and awesome person, love watching your videos!