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I am glad that there is someone like you out there ! These days contents are all about views no matter what if they are not real. Beside people who do non-sense stuffs to "irritate" other curiosities , there others who create things which they think nobody will know the truth ! Thank you !
@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan, you can never know what other people are thinking. It's impossible. So why try with your mind? Their thoughts are not your thoughts so you don't have to think negatively about yourself. It does you no good to think other people are negatively thinking about you.
Currently living in Japan and in an international marriage with a Japanese man myself and I wanted to say thank you so much for your mature and No BS videos! I have had a lot of friends sending me some clips of these street interviews lately making comments like “Wow, I didn’t know this about Japan / Japanese people!” They often ask me if it’s true as well, as if I’m some kind of expert just by living here. 😅 They definitely don’t realise that the street interview genre on the whole is always highly edited and the interviewers are only going to select the answers that fit the narrative they want for their video. I’m going to be sending your videos in response to these messages from now on! As for my own personal experience - I’ve known and still know Japanese people who have cheated or been cheated on and it is absolutely not simply shrugged off by their friends and family. In one example, a married couple in our immediate circle of friends separated because one of them was caught cheating. Once we all found out, most of us stopped hanging out with or speaking to the cheating spouse. Like you said in your video, Japanese won’t say to your face that they’re disappointed in you - but they’ll for sure let you know through their actions.
Doesn't matter if they edit it or not. Street interview as a form of gaining information on society is flawed from the start. It's 5 minutes thinking to figure out why, but apparently most people don't think.
As someone who lived in Japan for 14 years (and married a Japanese woman), these street interviews are likely not representative of the populace at large.
Exactly, I find myself jumping into the comments section of those channels trying to explain to people that these are hand-picked interviews or extreme cases.
I only lived there for half that but I found that Japanese people were all... people: Glorious. Terrible. Selfish. Kind. Faithful. Slutty. But most all of this stuff is aimed at RUclips weebs and Manosphere dorks who think Anime = Japan. They're not going to accept that life in Japan is going to be pretty much the same dull repetitive experience as it is back home
I'm American. My sister and her husband were both cheated on by their previous partners. My friend got cheated on a couple times. Yeah, cheating happens everywhere. It sucks. The street interviews about the cheating being common and the high body counts made me think I was looking at it wrong. Maybe it's not a big deal. No. It is a big deal. When you spend time with someone it is a big part of your life. If you find out they cheat and you break up, all of that time you spent was wasted. That would make anyone angry.
You brought up a great point. Not thinking it is cheating and being okay with it are two different things. I moved to Japan a couple of years ago and my girlfriend is one of those people that doesn't consider it cheating. But when I explained that I did think it was cheating and had no interest in going, she was extremely happy. She said that while it may not be cheating, if the man doesn't go he seems more respectable and it's easier to build a strong relationship.
The statement might also be related to the fact that the word "浮気" (infidelity) in Japanese differs from the word "cheating" in English. The character "気" in 浮気 refers to the mind or spirit. Some might say, "Going to an 風俗 may not be considered cheating, but I would never date a man who goes there, and I dislike them intensely." I am a Japanese man, and most of my friends do not visit such places.
The Japanese government should crack down on these RUclipsrs as soon as possible by establishing laws. Just like Trump tried to regulate fake news on social media
The interviews arent " Fake ". the only problem with the interviews is they are interviewing in places where the " Cool Kids " hang out so all of the responses are going to be reactive. At the same time these are the places that the people watching those videos will be going when they visit japan: shibuya , roppongi, shinjuku, osaka. i personally think they arent that bad if you already know that these certain areas are going to have more open people.
I wholly agree. Still, you can't dismiss those people either. Like it or not, those "cool kids" are part of Japanese society. Those interviews have value.
You’re absolutely right. Street interviews as a genre are extremely edited as well. For the most part, the creator is only going to use answers that fit the narrative they want for their video. They’re not going to use short, contradictory or “average” answers because those aren’t the responses that generate clicks and comments on a video. There are some unbiased, honest street interview channels out there where people do post all answers across the spectrum but they’re maddeningly hard to find.
Haha, I mostly agree with her opinion, but as a young Japanese man, I'll add a few things. 1. "Do you want to date a foreign man?" "Hmm, yes!" This answer given by many Japanese women is also likely to be Tatemae. 😂 They say they are interested in dating foreigners, but they have no intention of studying English. 2. In addition, many young girls today consider love and marriage to be different things. What Japanese women look for in a man to marry is not love, height, or muscles. First of all, cleanliness, income, and Profession. Then, education and height. They may have the desire to date a foreign man at least once. But when they think about marriage, how likely is it that your Japanese girlfriend will choose you as her final partner? :) 3. "Prostitution is not cheating." Now, what do you think when you hear Japanese women say this? Do you think it's a simple remnant of patriarchy? I'll tell you the hidden message in this. On the other hand, it also means that "women working in brothels are not cheating, so even if they get a boyfriend, they intend to work secretly." Are you confident that you can tell that your girlfriend is not a prostitute? Other messages include "I don't want to be a permanent sexual partner after marriage, so please find other women to be with me instead." After I give birth to a child, I will "stop being a woman and become a mother," so you "stop being a man and become an ATM." This is why the rate of sexlessness in Japan is so high. From here on, as you all know, they are expected to work hard like Japanese men. Please remember that I said that "Japanese women want their spouses to have a Profession and income."
I am 34 and I am from England. I have had the same girlfriend since I was 16. I have friends who have cheated on many of their GF's over those years. I think cheating is an independent choice thing. Loyalty is very important to me. Whether you are a friend/family or partner.
Thank you for clarifying Asagi. These street interviews musrepresent the reality of Japan rooted in social culture (tatemae) and historical changes (Kamakura and Edo periods). Even now the situation is complex and ever-changing. Love your channel and hope you accomplish awesome things this year❤️👏👏
Most of these interviews are heavily edited and influenced. Not just japan related. The internet if full of videos like "americans are dumb" or "gen Z doesn't understand rock music" and the likes. These never give an honest representation of the topic, but work with extreme opinions, mostly as clickbait. What is important to know 1: these usually happen at places where the interviewer can expect extreme answers. Want to show that _young people_ are irresponsible? Go to a campus on the party week! (campus on a party week =/= young people) Want to show the population is conservative? Ask questions in front of a Kentucky church! (the crowd at a mass on sunday =/= the population)
2: the middle ground answers are usually edited out. It can happen that the majority of the interviews are not even used, only those selected few which support the message, and are clickbait-y enough. 3: very often the interviewers asks leading questions, which are cut out. Like, telling alternative viewpoints on topic, persuading the "victim" for minutes, before asking the question. THe leadup doesn't make it into the interview, only the actual question. Having said that! I cannot agree with "I don't think there's any way you can avoid cheating 100%" What the hell? It is definietly avoidable. Either fix your original relationship (so that cheating doesn't make sense anymore), or break up before cheating.
Aba and Preach made a retraction video on their JP street interview video in the past. basically, "Yeah we shoulda known better, they do the same disingenuous stuff in the US and Canada" Your videos are changing minds and clearing misconceptions
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan I don't know why people think Japanese people cheat the most. Like the US has an epidemic of fathers finding out their kids aren't theirs after some medical emergency needing blood tests, with some states requiring blood tests now to sign birth certificates. I may have been a weeb as a teen but never thought these stereotypes were true, but all these "normal" people seem to think Japan is this strange bizzarro land. Its embarrassing.
@@durandus676aba and preach are the two of the most dumb human being I've came across on youtube. They pick any controversial video and comments without understanding the context. Their intellect is limited to making random statements Watchung a clip
I am a Japanese American and I really only know 4 Japanese women who resides in Japan. 3 out of the 4 are cheating or have cheated. They have admitted that to me. They were all really nice women. I would have never guessed
I would heavily consider their ages, where they live, and what their hobbies are. For example, if they’re all in their 20’s, live in Tokyo, and often enjoy the nightlife, then I wouldn’t consider those women as indicative of Japanese women as a whole.
@@beijingbikinibottom I mean, he said "really nice women", so presumably they don't seem like the "cheat at a nightclub" type. And so what does that mean? So the test is, if you find similar Americans, in age, social status, income, education, etc, how many of those would answer street interviews with "I don't think my boyfriend paying a hooker is cheating" or "A cheater? that's me!" The asymmetry means that the default assumption should be that the actual cheating is also asymmetrical. If you want to argue otherwise, the burden of proof is on you. If you want to argue that the different cultures have different ways of expressing themselves, and that somehow doesn't influence the rates, then the burden of proof is on you. If there's no data, you can't just say "no data, therefore we assume cheating rates must be equal despite street interviews and personal experience not seeming equal". That's not the rational conclusion. That's copium, just like this video, no offense.
One wonders why you personally attract and become friends with this type of person. If we look at published papers studying infidelity, the rate in the US is slightly higher (21%) vs Japan (under 20%). So statistically, you would be more likely to know an American that is unfaithful than a Japanese person. South Korea's rate of infidelity is over 50%. So seems like an issue with the type of person you are to be in a social circle of adulterers than a reflection on the country.
@@lekhakaananta5864 The number of people on street interviews who would answer however you want depends on how much you want to edit your video. Otherwise, based on street interview videos, the average American can't even name a woman.
I wouldn't necessarily call the interviews fake, but the interviewer lot of the time seems to have leading questions that make most of those people at the end say something like cheating being okay.. And should also note that almost always the people on the video are ones who are still in university so the marriage or any serious dating usually is out of the picture for another 5 years at least so they might not even understand the realities yet.
Those street interviews are just showing a side of Japan that we rarely see reported by its very same society, part of that culture of concealing things that can disturb society as a whole, but that doesn’t mean the problems aren’t there.
Define rarely... These interviews are a dime a dozen and far larger than any innocuous videos exploring the countryside in Japan. This mindset that you are seeing the "secret underbelly" of Japan is flat wrong. You are seeing humans being humans, of which they are the same everywhere to some degree. It's your own fault if you didn't know what humans are capable of and thought geographic region defined that.
We here in the USA are fighting the same battles. This video is refreshing and encouraging; I've been studying everything I can that is Japanese, for several weeks now. This video was a great help.
I think that a lot of the girls and women who replied prostitution is not cheating is because they are or at one time were prostitutes themselves, many when they also had boyfriends. Prostitution is sooooo common among women in Japan when they are young. Even if it is not a formal brothel, there is so much "sugar daddying" and "compensated dating". I have personally dated many Japanese women that has this experience. No I was not "using their services" when I met them.
I noticed that after takeshi, many people started too with the street interview content, and its most of the time the same 4-5 topics they use to generate views.
I lived in Japan for 8 years have a japanese wife and 2 kids with dual citizenship USA/Japan. And overall cheating is relatively common for women and men. And almost all japanese women I spoke with considered being with a prostitute not ideal but if there was no emotional connection then NOT cheating. DO NOT let others know about the affair so as to not shame your wife/husband. And obviously do not get some disease. That is pretty much it. It is humorous how many "experts" on here claiming anything else.
If memory serves me right, I think Meshida San shared a survey from a Japanese condom company about countries with the most cheating partners. Japan was not in the top 10. Although he also makes videos about cheating, a lot.
@@kevinreily2529nope! All the data points to the rates in America being similar to Japan, with white Americans cheating slightly less (iirc around 21%) and blacks higher maybe around that 25-26% mark. America is another country where bad news only gets reported. For example we're apparently dumb... but white American school kids test scores are on par with Japanese school kids. From a white American perspective the Japanese are definitely a bit more lax about cheating but it's gonna depend on the person and community. Same with America, attitudes in Idaho gonna be different from NYC.
He did do that I came across him before this channel. Yeah he does talk about cheating which can give wrong misconception about Japanese but is something to be aware of
The story about prostitution in Japan and the fact than married men who go to prostitution and women have no choice to accept this is common to many country.
Maybe they wouldn't have to if their wife gave seks often. One thing asagi isn't addressing is that many women in Japan stop having seks after marriage and children. Of course, this isn't unique to Japan, but it's very common.
@@pekkapihlava4434 That's only some of the marriages though. Even if you find suitable partner, the life in bedroom will eventually slow down or stop completely for most couples which in turn can lead to the unhappy marriage if one has higher expectation than the other.
@@frorasu3949 This is so ignornant. What do men do to put the intimacy back into the marrigae? Why would a parent place themselves before a child? Men are so jealous of the attention their own children get that they make up so many excuses to justify being community D.
@@touma-san91 That can go for the entire relationship you start to fight more, you change, etc etc. Also there is some couples that have awesome bedroom time but soon as they're done they fight like cats and dogs. Only thing I can say is all relationships are work, but like any work you do the investment pays off of long-term.
Great job that you tackle that misinformation. I saw those videos and I was like "lol no way that's true". I am traveling to Japan for the first time ever this month. I am so excited!
I think what bothered most people about these videos was not the fact that Japanese people cheat. Of course they do and there was no evidence in the video to suggest Japanese people cheat more than other cultures. Of course select interviews were edited and omitted to convey a certain narrative for clicks/views. That’s obvious. What was troublesome was the way almost everyone in the video would giggle and laugh - whether they were the cheaters or were cheated on, they all giggled. There was no feeling of regret, sadness, melancholy, etc. It almost made it seem trivial, but I think this highlights the differences in culture when it comes to showing genuine emotions. That’s my take.
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As far as Taka’s interview, I don’t think it’s fake but it’s also not a representation of the whole country. If you really don’t understand Japanese culture or know anything about it, as a foreigner you’d definitely frown on Japanese saying it’s OK . I once asked a Japanese friend about it before like back in 2019 out of curiosity. He implied that if it just s*x without emotion involved it’s not counted as cheating. As long as it’s clear for both parties, he’s exact words were”it’s like sports.” 🤯 But of course they won’t let their partners know. I couldn’t comprehend back then but as I get to know more about Japanese culture I begin to understand where they are coming from. Also, even in Korea (older generation) wives give their husbands money to go to club to have s*x. My former Korean boss told me. 🤯
Most, over 90% of street interviews are fake and make me sick, and I don't watch those type of videos. They lack substance, research, and good amount of preparedness. They just go to the "best" and "populated" spots like Shibuya, Roppongi, Shinjuku, etc to get opinions very quickly.
I really dislike those videos as they give westerners false expectations about Japanese. These RUclipsrs only pick the ones that them the most unusual answers. When they ask the golden question ''so would you date a foreigner'' they say yes most of the time but in reality it isn't true. Many have had the thought but most of the time they want to stick to their own kind which is understandable. Japanese people avoid giving negative answers, that's why you often hear what you want to hear.
Ashley Madison ranks Canada as its top country for users. Japan isn't even in the top ten. If we're looking for countries in which cheating culture is more readily apparent, Japan pales in comparison to Australia, the U.K., Colombia, Mexico, Hong Kong, the U.S. Portugal, etc..
A few things, Ashley Madison is an English website it makes sense that Japanese people wouldn't use it. Second it's technically illegal to cheat in Japan and you can be sued for it. I'm sure this makes it less likely that people sign up and willing put their name out there.
@@KeithMorgado The interesting thing is that AM does have a Japanese user base. I remember seeing it advertised there....with a misspelled website 'arnadison' I think it's been corrected now. As youmight know, adultery is also punishable by extreme measures in some muslim majority countries...which also have AM user bases. Do you recall when AM's database got breached about 10 years ago? Many users in S.Arabia of all places were in a bit of a panic according to my students from the middle east.
In a society where people seek "romance" and "dating" that's gonna be hard. The moment the relationship is challenged by hardship, people will second-guess themselves and assume their partner is not "the one". They'd think to search again because it's easy with all the social media and dating apps. The only places where marriage is still sacred is in religious countries.
Im happy being single I guess its better than wasting my time on dishonest people and their unnecessary bullsh*t which will only make my life more miserable
For that last part you states about single people going to prostitution more, I don’t know if this is true. The reason why they are most likely single is due to the fact they are unattractive or don’t have money. In modern days women only want the most attractive men or have a lot of wealth. Therefore I can conclude most of these single men are not even able to afford prostitutes nevertheless a girlfriend. Usually the men who have disposable income are able to afford them. It’s the same with wealthy women in Japan paying for male prostitutes. The average or broke won’t be wasting their money on food for a one night.
🤣This also happens among the passport bro sphere in the philippines...they go to philippines and make an interview to make it appear that Vast majority of Filipinas want Foreigners and don't date their Local men... One Western Expat even claim that Western men are rock stars in the philippines.... And this same expat Vlogger end up with a Single mom Filipina...
Man the amount of passport bros posts referencing these street interviews is horrendous. Thanks for actually shining a light on how inaccurate they are
4:17 So, people are talking behind the back to avoid confrontation. Cowardness is an international problem, not just Japan. I live in Germany, my family is from Lithuania, i traveled through many European and Asian countries, often Mongolia or Siberia and people like to void confrontation everywhere, because it is easier. People are like water, taking the path of least resistance.
Even after considering the points in this video, it sounds like the "misconceptions" still have some fundamental truth to them though. For example, the last point was basically a concession. There's a test you could do. Can you flip it around and find content creators getting these answers on the street in America? I'm haven't seen any street interviews in the US where people say they know so many cheaters, or admit they themselves are cheaters, and then say that if their BF finds a hooker they wouldn't consider it cheating. And using Tatemae doesn't explain away the misconception entirely. Yes, it is possible that cheating rates are similar everywhere, and Japanese culture simply reacts to questions about it differently. But that is only one way of thinking about it! It could be that the reactions of people around you influence the prevalence of cheating. People react to incentives and fears. As an illustration, if people know their friends would be openly hostile knowing you're a cheater, then more people are going to convince themselves to not cheat, as opposed to thinking that the worst consequences you'll see is that your friends talk shit behind your back and maybe slowly stop hanging out with you. That's just an example for illustration. The real point is that if an entire cultural environment is different, the aggregate can have some bigger effect. The burden of proof would be up to the side claiming that Tatemae doesn't have an effect on cheating rates, because the simple Occam's razor option is that a cultural bias in hiding hostility should have an influence on how people make their decisions, when they weigh their pros and cons. If people think they face less consequences of cheating, or any other crime, I realistically expect the rates for those things to go up.
I was in Tokyo for awhile, and I from my time there I can say that Japanese people in general are very proper and conservative compared to my home country. I could never believe a video that says they cheat more, or that they accept cheating as okay. It just doesn't track with my daily experience there.
My ex was very good at pretending to be meek while not being so. Won't go into detail, but she was living with a man while dating me. Women are not trustworthy in any country, and Japan is no exception. There are no guardrails left in Japan for limiting the selfish behavior of women. Maybe Japan is not the worst, but I'd say Thailand is pretty bad. Cheating is kinda expected in Japan. I once had a engagement ring on my finger and some girls flirted with me and one of them wanted to be in my harem. Joke or not... I found the concept disgusting, and this was in 2005-2006. But knowing what I know about women now, I probably should have taken advantage (except for STD risk, drama risk, chance that she's crazy, chance that she has baby rabies and want a haafu - never know), because I know my Thai ex-gf would have. I am not saying the average person in Japan is definitely worse than Westerners, but that doesn't say much. Japan has no guardrails left. A woman could be a yamato nadeshiko and end up as a hostess-prostitute in Tokyo because she doesn't wanna work at 7-11 and earn 1000 JPY per hour, which is somewhat understandable. Prostitution is probably way worse now with the economic downtown.
@@fjorddenierbear4832 Don't lose hope man. I'm from Indonesia, and women here are (relatively) sane. Cheating is rare. All because the people are religious. Yep. Their piousness is far from perfect, but at least it's at an enough level to maintain a respectable society. I hope the west and Japan can regain their old values and fix these filths from their society.
@fjorddenierbear4832 The allure to the money is the reason and not a disregard for values. They genuinely convince themselves that it is just a job and ingrain that into their mind. It's a defense mechanism. Japan's government is directly responsible for the lack of opportunities leading to young men and women feeling this is the only way to make a livable wage without becoming a サラリーマン. In fact with the advent of things like Fantia, OF, etc etc... it's becoming a worldwide problem.
@@Haunt888 A lot of observations about Japan stop at the surface level like that. Even in that context, heading to places like Osaka in the evening where people are more relaxed will show the externally "prim and proper" thing can vary.
Its interesting how different prostitution can be perceived depending on the circumstances. I know of several groups of foreign workers where their wives back home budget in the need of their husbands to go to prostitutes. They actually wanted them to go because they were concerned that them being alone and not getting any action may make them prone to look for a gf and maybe even leave the wife and kids.
Thsoe women self esteem and worth are beneathe their feet. Ain't no way that i will budget for a man to be use our household money for "fun". Either he is selling community D and sending back the money or he can move in with whoever garden tool he is slumming with.
Trust doesn’t come from communication. Trust come from giving values to each other. You don’t bring values your partner will cheat when chances come. You can call him out but nothing will change
I will also point out some other historical things just to make things even more complicated. In the Heian Period which preceded the Kamakura Period and was the first "golden age" whose culture defined Japan for centuries, there was also a lot of cheating. However, it's also clear that cheating was something they frowned upon. Both men and women could have their reputations ruined if they got caught cheating or even just sleeping around, and in aristocratic circles one's reputation was the most important thing anyone could have. I also want to just slightly push back on the belief that women were considered "unclean." While that is actually true, and historical Japan was a very male dominated society, girls were seen as very valuable for at least two reasons. 1. They were a family's ticket to a better life. It was fairly hard for a man to move up the social ladder and earn a better life for himself and his kin, but women could be married into a higher ranking family much more easily and thus, the Heian nobility took great care of their girls. It's admittedly a little mercenary but the fact remains women were considered highly valuable. 2. When it came to the leaders of the great shrines at Ise and Kamo, only a woman, specifically an imperial princess, was allowed to officiate as the main priest, or rather priestess, of these shrines. To say nothing of the role that girls play as shrine maidens. Just some extra thoughts to add to highlight that yes, these kinds of topics are indeed very complicated.
Lmao, exactly. I hate those street interviews. It's only watched by people who want to believe that drama though. A person with normal brain will naturally understand that cheating happens everywhere and it's not common more elsewhere. I have been with a Japanese man for years, he is the most honest and loyal man I have ever met. Was dating non Japanese guys before, I got always cheated on. So now my Japanese partner fights hard to help me get over the trauma that people he has nothing in common with did to me. I know as part of my healing process I had to block all of these street interviewer and completely stop watching them so my brain won't be biased exactly because of my past experiences. I'm glad youtubers like you are still here to help me fix my point of view.
I think it is pretty rare simply because people are busy and, once out of our teens, we are simply not that motivated to just get nookie. This is in addition to the obvious risks and negative feelings one would have. I've lived in Japan for over 30 years.
Live in Osaka and have made lots of friends in and out of work over the last 4 years. Most of them cheat and are quite open about it. Age ranging from university age to my coworker who has been married most of his life and is almost 60 years old… Maybe it’s just as common in America but I’ve never met so many people openly admit it until I came here.
This is why I don’t trust surveys in general, the majority of people aren’t interested in taking them and this is even more true for something like a street interview with your face exposed. It takes a certain kind of person to say yes to those interviews, not necessarily in a bad way, but they don’t represent most kinds of people you’ll meet in daily life.
I love Japanese interviews because I’m teaching myself Japanese and I want to visit/move there sometime but I am really glad you covered this topic. When I saw the interview in reference, I was so shocked!
As a very sad example, I'm Brazilian and under my personal experience, cheating happens quite a lot around here and it must be the same in the western world. My grandpa has been cheating on grandma for their entire marriage and she knows it, but doesn't leave probably because of a severe lack of self esteem. Recently, it came to my knowledge that my father isn't actually my biological father, so one more cheater in this personal experience, my mother. Recently I've found myself on a really tough and sad moment in life 'cause my ex girlfriend (been with her for 3.5y) cheated on me as well. I really don't think we are better than Japanese society in that regard.
I was married and divorced (yep she cheated) from a Japanese as well as dated in Japan a long time before marriage. Sorry you don’t like the label but face it, there is no loyalty to your partner in Japan. Cheating is just accepted by all. You can even sue your spouse’s lover in court to get them to stop. You earned the label of the country with the least morality for a reason. Own it!
The infidelity law doesn't mean much. Even if your spouse cheats and gets fined 3m yen that wouldn't be much if you consider that divorce doesn't care if your wife was unfilial. She will still get custody of your child and 50% of your assets.
I think the sad thing is more likely the following. And its personal experience.... Japan, with its rich cultural heritage, provides an interesting case study. Japanese society is often characterized by high levels of conformity, a strong sense of duty, and a collective mindset. In relationships, these societal pressures can manifest in several ways. For instance, there's often a strong emphasis on marriage and family as pillars of social stability. This can lead to situations where individuals feel compelled to stay in unsatisfying relationships or marry due to societal expectations rather than personal desire. The concept of "Gaman" (perseverance or enduring the seemingly unbearable with patience and dignity) might also play into how individuals handle dissatisfaction in relationships, potentially leading to a stoic tolerance of issues rather than addressing them directly.
It’s very interesting that all I hear is no one is in relationships, the birth rate is very low and everyone is lonely yet these street interviews say the complete opposite.
Your comments are pretty sensible, but I do think there is some difference in Japan compared to most western countries. There a couple of instances that come to mind: 1. My friend got married with a Japanese girl and her mother advised her to look past an infidelities that he may have. I thought that advice was surprising. I think she said as long as he supports you financially, it's OK. 2. from a girl I was dating. She said that her ex-husband used to visit prostitutes. I asked her if she minded and she said that the thing she didn't like was that he told her. Also, I do agree that "celebrities" are held to much higher standards on cheating and almost anything else. It's not just cheating. I met a guy (Shinobu) who used to be in Da-Pump but had to leave the band because of a DUI charge.
i think japanese are polite but are not respectful enough. cheating would not occur if youre respectful to your partner. respect is earned and also if you are tempted by a young attractive person just say no because you respect your commitment
After watching your video I think that these are not really misconceptions but the way you said it make it seem to me that these points are somewhat correct. Im older than you and I have never experienced cheating in my life. I heard once about a friend who did it and I was pretty shocked. To me it's unthinkable. However this depends a lot on the country. The US might be very different.
Its funny that 3 of the youtubers youve mentioned in your videos i follow them including Aba&preach. When i 1st learn about cheating & tateae in Japan it did shock me but glad you discuss a lot of Japanese topics. Oddly enough i started following the other 2 youtubers until months after i got cheated by a chinese
@5:50 yeah the VA for Cloud in FF 7 Remake had to step down because he got caught cheating. For context he's played Cloud for over 15 years. If anything this makes Japan seem more like heaven. A country that punishes people for cheating 😮.
This difference is based on the culture being individualistic or collectivist. In individual cultures, "fear of being different than the average" is usually punished by self-accusation, and being ashamed. That is, the source of the "punishment" often is internal. In collectivist cultures, the same fear and being different is usually punished by fear of public shame. The source of punishment is externally linked. None of these are healthier, just different.
That only shows that people in the public eye need to fear for their reputation. It doesn't say anything about how an ordinary housewife might expect an ordinary non-famous salaryman husband to behave.
I remember watching Jay Leno’s “Jaywallking” when I was a kid. Most street interviews or polling is not only very subjective, but highly edited in order to push the narrative towards a certain direction. Example: in the US, local media will interview thousands of people in a single day. But they only show the idiots, because it gets clicks and views on both traditional media and new age media. But all Thats my opinion. Also: Japanese Godzilla>Pink Godzilla.
it's just like those street interviews that shows american's that don't know basic geography. As much as i don't like american nationalism and things like that, i refuse to believe those answers to be true. It looks like cherry picked to rage bait us or something like that.
First by interviewing people in the street you already have a certain kind of people who only agree to an interview in the first place. Standing there for hours and basically getting rejected 95% of the time you have to take what you get, what surely is far from representative. But by the nature of the people who agree to an interview in the first place probably not the most convential answers. Then, if you have absolutely no shame like some TV channels do, you also can cut it down to the most stupid answers and make the people appear even weirder or dumber. But I think most of these street interviews in Japan is just: you stand there two hours and only get 5-10 people in front of the camera in the first place.
It 100% depends on the area they are filming. Obviously, people who frequent the red-light district will cheat more frequently than other places in Japan. I imagine if these same interviews were done in rural Japan, or Kyoto, the response will be very different. My Japanese bf is from Osaka, and comes from and grew up in an area of Osaka where the majority living there have a low socio-economic status. Cheating was common there, prostitution was common and he himself doesn't think of it as cheating. He had many friends who frequented brothels, and many female friends who prostituted themselves for money (out of necessity, not because they wanted to). 100% it depends on where the interview is held. That being said, those kinds of things DO happen in Japan, BUT those sorts of interviews are specifically holding interviews in areas where those sorts of behaviours may be more common and cherry picking their answers.
Their channel name is pronounced "Aba and Preach" not "A.B.A and Preach" ^^ I agree with you for the most part, you even showed people the examples of Japanese society shawning cheaters in severe manners. One interesting thing though, we would all presume prostitution is for single men however it seems the sex industry in Japan is declining and people are actually having less sex. This phenomenon is not just limited to Japan, herbivore men as it's called there. Men in modern societies are simply opting out of relationships and sex all together and this will only get worse in the future, because nobody is willing to tackle the underlying issues. Additionally in Japan work culture seems to be a big part of the problem. I often wonder if something could radically change the situation because otherwise this phenomenon will only continue to snowball in the future.
Personally, I don't like the interviews on those channels you mentioned. They make it seem like, "most people do this in Japan," when that's far from the truth (I've lived in Japan over 18 years now). I will say, though, men in Japan who have a "mistress" - even while married and a father - is perhaps more common and acceptable than in the west. I drank with a Japanese man, one night, several years ago and he was quite open about his married plus mistress life. I still find it hard to believe that a father could do that. I'm sure his wife must have known, or at least suspected, what was going on. Lucky for him his wife wasn't a western girl; he would have copped a frying pan over the head at the first hint it was going on. So! don't come to Japan thinking that every woman, married on single, is waiting for you.
Agreed, not everyone does it but they don't seem to think it's as bad as we do. A good analogy might be pot - in America most people don't use it but they think it is acceptable enough to use it, but the Japanese are rather shocked by this since it's illegal there.
As someone who is Japanese and lives in Tokyo, I've seen a lot. These interviews are not fake. Maybe you're just not familiar with this side of our culture, but it's definitely real, and it plays a huge role in the Tokyo lifestyle. Consider yourself lucky that you've been sheltered from it.
Just how I see it but i feel like Japan tolerates "discreet" cheating but in turn are hyper critical if it gets out. You can say that about other places too but there seems to be a culture in Japan.. (prostitution, soap lands, love hotels, etc)
Cheating will happen everywhere. The more "free" a society is, the more rampant it will be. I can appreciate how cheating in Japan is a punishable crime, and it speaks to the fact that a loose society--and I mean loose as in, low morality, people doing whatever they want and think there should be no consequences (like Americans)--a loose society will fail. Culture is everything, and if a culture is dead, so is your society. I respect this law. People obviously can't control themselves. Asagi, why in the world would a Ukrainian win the title of Miss Japan? This is very disappointing. If I were Japanese, I would be insulted. I am sure many Japanese didn't like it; I am sure of this. I am going to have to ask my gf about this now.....（笑）
One of the weird legalities of married couples with kids in Japan is that even if the wife is having an affair, the custody of the kid is returned to the wife, not the husband.
More like brain dead legislation that goes "divorce=mother gets sole custody, no exceptions". Smarter legislation that takes into account the actual family situation would go a long way.
The problem is simpler. Interview broadcasters can select respondents and edit answers. The purpose is to guide viewers. What women want is eternal love, and no one wants their partner to cheat on them. What they say is an acceptance, not a wish.
As someone who lived in Japan. It's very Japanese to save face. That video was actually pretty much what I heard and saw in terms of cheating and brothel culture. It's more accepted to cheat but not talk about it as much. Those interviewees were honest in my opinion but of course not every single Japanese thinks the same (although views are often homogenous and collective).
Although those street interviews talk about cheating, the more I learned about Japanese culture, the more I also realised it differs a lot from the Christian/Western wordlview in it's perception of sexuality itself. There are so many bars in Tokyo and Osaka, which offer kinda sexuality, like nothing physical but just young women in short skirts with high pitched voices talking and flirting with the costumer. This is so much more of a thing than what I experience in Europe. When I went to Japan, it struck me how much anything is on one hand very sexualized and on the other hand very prude. I don't mean to be an expert, I just want to share my perspective on what it felt like as an European seeing your culture. It's just very different especially in that aspect, like the rules and what's considered sexuality and so on. So I came to believe that probably a Japanese person means something very different when they use the word cheating. It's therefor also very interesting, because I see many problems lurking or even fleshing themselves out in the West with it's porn industries and the sexualization of everything, as well as in Japan with thier low birthrates and the slow emancipation of women. Problems which require deep thinking about it, because I'm certain they're tide to the culture. So I'm glad that two very different cultures which still are sympathic to one another are appoaching those problems and maybe we can solve one or the other.
I figured and I'm not amazed by the amount of people who are gullible to this type of content. Cheating is worldwide. Cheating should not be acceptable worldwide. And the prostitution topic is just wild to me .😅 Thanks for addressing this.
Let’s say long distance relationship with Japanese woman’s doesn’t work at all, I got cheat by my Japanese ex girlfriend and she just didn’t care about it, she was looking for foreigners 😒 but it sounds like she was never happy…so honestly it’s her problem not mine…but I wish that someone might find out about what she’s doing, karma it’s very sweet!
"just because they don't call you out or say what you're doing is wrong doesn't mean they accept it." Well, actually yes it does. That's tacit acceptance. They might not think it's okay, but by letting it slide then they are engaging in tacit acceptance. "The standard you walk by is the standard you accept."
What she means by guilty is that Japanese law allows for compensatory damages from a cheating partner and a person he or she is being unfaithful with. I am not saying that people do it all the time, but it's codified.
I think its just because people are interested in Japan. There are so many accounts with just day to day Japanese things like language and phrases and trends etc. and people have thousands of followers. I'm from Ireland and there are no Irish street interview channels because nobody cares. I can't imagine an Irish person having a channel about things we do and say and anyone being that interested.
I am so pleased to hear your opinion, I had my doubts about the validity of some of those street interviews. It did seem a little Faked, I'm also grateful for the education.
I can't believe people watched countless anime where the girls will beat the shit out of the MC when he cheats and then say, "Yep, Japanese are okay with cheating".
Sorry, hard disagreement on the last time part. Even just staying in tottori, nara etc. It is very obvious cabaret, girls bar etc target middle age men workers aka married. Most young men I met simply cannot afford that kind of lifestyle and use dating apps or go to clubs. I remember an average looking guy in osaka saying he was dating three girls. Cheating is kind of normalized. Celebrities always judged harsher so bad example.
Thank you for this video! I really hate all the street videoblogs with their pretentiousness of giving the followers “precious insights” about Japanese society.
❤it was interesting you said you didn't consider prostitution cheating until recently. what caused you to change your mind? and why do Japanese women not consider it cheating? it has always been considered cheating in nearly every culture. i find it wild that in Japan it wasn't. the fact you thought it was ok for so long until recently. and you aren't even a married old Japanese lady from 1980s to a salary man. You look quite young and modern, so it says there's more to this if you even thought so, until recently.
Sorry about the click baity title But I really think this needs to be heard because recent social media are too much about untruthful content for entertainment value.
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I am glad that there is someone like you out there ! These days contents are all about views no matter what if they are not real. Beside people who do non-sense stuffs to "irritate" other curiosities , there others who create things which they think nobody will know the truth ! Thank you !
How are you so honest? I love your lectures.
Good job.
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@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan, you can never know what other people are thinking. It's impossible. So why try with your mind? Their thoughts are not your thoughts so you don't have to think negatively about yourself. It does you no good to think other people are negatively thinking about you.
Currently living in Japan and in an international marriage with a Japanese man myself and I wanted to say thank you so much for your mature and No BS videos! I have had a lot of friends sending me some clips of these street interviews lately making comments like “Wow, I didn’t know this about Japan / Japanese people!” They often ask me if it’s true as well, as if I’m some kind of expert just by living here. 😅 They definitely don’t realise that the street interview genre on the whole is always highly edited and the interviewers are only going to select the answers that fit the narrative they want for their video. I’m going to be sending your videos in response to these messages from now on!
As for my own personal experience - I’ve known and still know Japanese people who have cheated or been cheated on and it is absolutely not simply shrugged off by their friends and family. In one example, a married couple in our immediate circle of friends separated because one of them was caught cheating. Once we all found out, most of us stopped hanging out with or speaking to the cheating spouse. Like you said in your video, Japanese won’t say to your face that they’re disappointed in you - but they’ll for sure let you know through their actions.
This^^^^
Doesn't matter if they edit it or not. Street interview as a form of gaining information on society is flawed from the start. It's 5 minutes thinking to figure out why, but apparently most people don't think.
As someone who lived in Japan for 14 years (and married a Japanese woman), these street interviews are likely not representative of the populace at large.
Exactly, I find myself jumping into the comments section of those channels trying to explain to people that these are hand-picked interviews or extreme cases.
The most aren't, but people are in the west are so poor at media literacy it's easy to manipulate them.
I only lived there for half that but I found that Japanese people were all... people: Glorious. Terrible. Selfish. Kind. Faithful. Slutty.
But most all of this stuff is aimed at RUclips weebs and Manosphere dorks who think Anime = Japan. They're not going to accept that life in Japan is going to be pretty much the same dull repetitive experience as it is back home
Yah, I feel like the tendency of interviewing young non-working people on the streets already gives a surveying bias.
How you feel is not good evidence tho.
I'm American. My sister and her husband were both cheated on by their previous partners. My friend got cheated on a couple times. Yeah, cheating happens everywhere. It sucks.
The street interviews about the cheating being common and the high body counts made me think I was looking at it wrong. Maybe it's not a big deal.
No. It is a big deal. When you spend time with someone it is a big part of your life. If you find out they cheat and you break up, all of that time you spent was wasted. That would make anyone angry.
I hope you or other individuals don't
You brought up a great point. Not thinking it is cheating and being okay with it are two different things. I moved to Japan a couple of years ago and my girlfriend is one of those people that doesn't consider it cheating. But when I explained that I did think it was cheating and had no interest in going, she was extremely happy. She said that while it may not be cheating, if the man doesn't go he seems more respectable and it's easier to build a strong relationship.
The statement might also be related to the fact that the word "浮気" (infidelity) in Japanese differs from the word "cheating" in English. The character "気" in 浮気 refers to the mind or spirit. Some might say, "Going to an 風俗 may not be considered cheating, but I would never date a man who goes there, and I dislike them intensely." I am a Japanese man, and most of my friends do not visit such places.
@@sdsddaiOkay but why is it not considered cheating?
ある日街頭インタビューのビデオを見てから私のRUclipsはその類のビデオ推薦で溢れました。センセーショナルな回答をする人だけを編集して偏見を植え付け日本人として侮辱されている気分になりとても嫌でした。彼らはアジアにおけるSEXPATを増すことを助長し金を儲けています。私は本当にそれが嫌いです。
Womp womp
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自分のコンテンツが社会や他人に与える影響のことを全く考えていないように見えますね。
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan全く同感です。インタビューしてる人も、確信犯ですよ。
The Japanese government should crack down on these RUclipsrs as soon as possible by establishing laws.
Just like Trump tried to regulate fake news on social media
The interviews arent " Fake ". the only problem with the interviews is they are interviewing in places where the " Cool Kids " hang out so all of the responses are going to be reactive. At the same time these are the places that the people watching those videos will be going when they visit japan: shibuya , roppongi, shinjuku, osaka. i personally think they arent that bad if you already know that these certain areas are going to have more open people.
I wholly agree. Still, you can't dismiss those people either. Like it or not, those "cool kids" are part of Japanese society. Those interviews have value.
You’re absolutely right. Street interviews as a genre are extremely edited as well. For the most part, the creator is only going to use answers that fit the narrative they want for their video. They’re not going to use short, contradictory or “average” answers because those aren’t the responses that generate clicks and comments on a video.
There are some unbiased, honest street interview channels out there where people do post all answers across the spectrum but they’re maddeningly hard to find.
Lmfao for real. Like what do you expect asking people in Kabukicho.
interesting
Kind of like those interviews at long beach California where everyone is dumbass potheads 😂
Haha, I mostly agree with her opinion, but as a young Japanese man, I'll add a few things.
1. "Do you want to date a foreign man?" "Hmm, yes!" This answer given by many Japanese women is also likely to be Tatemae. 😂 They say they are interested in dating foreigners, but they have no intention of studying English.
2. In addition, many young girls today consider love and marriage to be different things. What Japanese women look for in a man to marry is not love, height, or muscles. First of all, cleanliness, income, and Profession. Then, education and height.
They may have the desire to date a foreign man at least once. But when they think about marriage, how likely is it that your Japanese girlfriend will choose you as her final partner? :)
3. "Prostitution is not cheating." Now, what do you think when you hear Japanese women say this? Do you think it's a simple remnant of patriarchy? I'll tell you the hidden message in this. On the other hand, it also means that "women working in brothels are not cheating, so even if they get a boyfriend, they intend to work secretly." Are you confident that you can tell that your girlfriend is not a prostitute?
Other messages include "I don't want to be a permanent sexual partner after marriage, so please find other women to be with me instead." After I give birth to a child, I will "stop being a woman and become a mother," so you "stop being a man and become an ATM."
This is why the rate of sexlessness in Japan is so high. From here on, as you all know, they are expected to work hard like Japanese men. Please remember that I said that "Japanese women want their spouses to have a Profession and income."
I am 34 and I am from England.
I have had the same girlfriend since I was 16.
I have friends who have cheated on many of their GF's over those years.
I think cheating is an independent choice thing.
Loyalty is very important to me.
Whether you are a friend/family or partner.
Thank you for clarifying Asagi. These street interviews musrepresent the reality of Japan rooted in social culture (tatemae) and historical changes (Kamakura and Edo periods). Even now the situation is complex and ever-changing. Love your channel and hope you accomplish awesome things this year❤️👏👏
I still remember what happened to Aya Hirano. As an American it was eye-opening to see how Japanese society treated people who sleep around.
How sir
Most of these interviews are heavily edited and influenced. Not just japan related.
The internet if full of videos like "americans are dumb" or "gen Z doesn't understand rock music" and the likes.
These never give an honest representation of the topic, but work with extreme opinions, mostly as clickbait.
What is important to know
1: these usually happen at places where the interviewer can expect extreme answers. Want to show that _young people_ are irresponsible? Go to a campus on the party week! (campus on a party week =/= young people) Want to show the population is conservative? Ask questions in front of a Kentucky church! (the crowd at a mass on sunday =/= the population)
2: the middle ground answers are usually edited out. It can happen that the majority of the interviews are not even used, only those selected few which support the message, and are clickbait-y enough.
3: very often the interviewers asks leading questions, which are cut out. Like, telling alternative viewpoints on topic, persuading the "victim" for minutes, before asking the question. THe leadup doesn't make it into the interview, only the actual question.
Having said that! I cannot agree with "I don't think there's any way you can avoid cheating 100%"
What the hell? It is definietly avoidable. Either fix your original relationship (so that cheating doesn't make sense anymore), or break up before cheating.
"Gen Z doesn't understand rock music" equals facts. Sorry bro, haha
Most people are degenerates
Aba and Preach made a retraction video on their JP street interview video in the past. basically, "Yeah we shoulda known better, they do the same disingenuous stuff in the US and Canada" Your videos are changing minds and clearing misconceptions
I'm really glad that smart social media personalities like them are reacting to my videos and sharing my POV 😄
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan I don't know why people think Japanese people cheat the most. Like the US has an epidemic of fathers finding out their kids aren't theirs after some medical emergency needing blood tests, with some states requiring blood tests now to sign birth certificates. I may have been a weeb as a teen but never thought these stereotypes were true, but all these "normal" people seem to think Japan is this strange bizzarro land. Its embarrassing.
@@durandus676aba and preach are the two of the most dumb human being I've came across on youtube. They pick any controversial video and comments without understanding the context. Their intellect is limited to making random statements Watchung a clip
I am a Japanese American and I really only know 4 Japanese women who resides in Japan. 3 out of the 4 are cheating or have cheated. They have admitted that to me. They were all really nice women. I would have never guessed
I would heavily consider their ages, where they live, and what their hobbies are. For example, if they’re all in their 20’s, live in Tokyo, and often enjoy the nightlife, then I wouldn’t consider those women as indicative of Japanese women as a whole.
@@beijingbikinibottom I mean, he said "really nice women", so presumably they don't seem like the "cheat at a nightclub" type. And so what does that mean?
So the test is, if you find similar Americans, in age, social status, income, education, etc, how many of those would answer street interviews with "I don't think my boyfriend paying a hooker is cheating" or "A cheater? that's me!"
The asymmetry means that the default assumption should be that the actual cheating is also asymmetrical. If you want to argue otherwise, the burden of proof is on you. If you want to argue that the different cultures have different ways of expressing themselves, and that somehow doesn't influence the rates, then the burden of proof is on you. If there's no data, you can't just say "no data, therefore we assume cheating rates must be equal despite street interviews and personal experience not seeming equal". That's not the rational conclusion. That's copium, just like this video, no offense.
One wonders why you personally attract and become friends with this type of person. If we look at published papers studying infidelity, the rate in the US is slightly higher (21%) vs Japan (under 20%). So statistically, you would be more likely to know an American that is unfaithful than a Japanese person. South Korea's rate of infidelity is over 50%. So seems like an issue with the type of person you are to be in a social circle of adulterers than a reflection on the country.
@@lekhakaananta5864 The number of people on street interviews who would answer however you want depends on how much you want to edit your video. Otherwise, based on street interview videos, the average American can't even name a woman.
@@rainzerdesu Keep wondering, since you have nothing better to do. I guess in your eyes no one else can form any opinions other than yours.
I wouldn't necessarily call the interviews fake, but the interviewer lot of the time seems to have leading questions that make most of those people at the end say something like cheating being okay.. And should also note that almost always the people on the video are ones who are still in university so the marriage or any serious dating usually is out of the picture for another 5 years at least so they might not even understand the realities yet.
Those street interviews are just showing a side of Japan that we rarely see reported by its very same society, part of that culture of concealing things that can disturb society as a whole, but that doesn’t mean the problems aren’t there.
Define rarely... These interviews are a dime a dozen and far larger than any innocuous videos exploring the countryside in Japan. This mindset that you are seeing the "secret underbelly" of Japan is flat wrong. You are seeing humans being humans, of which they are the same everywhere to some degree. It's your own fault if you didn't know what humans are capable of and thought geographic region defined that.
what are you talking about, people have been going on on the internet about how Japanese people cheat more for like the last decade
We here in the USA are fighting the same battles. This video is refreshing and encouraging; I've been studying everything I can that is Japanese, for several weeks now. This video was a great help.
We cant even define what is a woman, lol.
I think that a lot of the girls and women who replied prostitution is not cheating is because they are or at one time were prostitutes themselves, many when they also had boyfriends. Prostitution is sooooo common among women in Japan when they are young. Even if it is not a formal brothel, there is so much "sugar daddying" and "compensated dating". I have personally dated many Japanese women that has this experience. No I was not "using their services" when I met them.
I noticed that after takeshi, many people started too with the street interview content, and its most of the time the same 4-5 topics they use to generate views.
yeah, to get passport bros to click in
@@akaywololo Truth
@akaywololo When I was less secure I was an aspiring (aka broke) "passport bro" and always binged these videos to try and prepare. lol
Ah this trend started before Takeshi through the likes of Nobita and other Japanese youtubers although he popularised a lot of it more recently
@lou00006 agree with you, although Nobita changed the direction of his content, but after takeshi many copycats appeared.
I lived in Japan for 8 years have a japanese wife and 2 kids with dual citizenship USA/Japan. And overall cheating is relatively common for women and men. And almost all japanese women I spoke with considered being with a prostitute not ideal but if there was no emotional connection then NOT cheating. DO NOT let others know about the affair so as to not shame your wife/husband. And obviously do not get some disease. That is pretty much it. It is humorous how many "experts" on here claiming anything else.
I love how you are straight forward when dealing A subject.
If memory serves me right, I think Meshida San shared a survey from a Japanese condom company about countries with the most cheating partners. Japan was not in the top 10. Although he also makes videos about cheating, a lot.
In America I bet it’s 50%. If it is 25% in Japan, that’s very low compared to many other countries.
@@kevinreily2529nope! All the data points to the rates in America being similar to Japan, with white Americans cheating slightly less (iirc around 21%) and blacks higher maybe around that 25-26% mark.
America is another country where bad news only gets reported. For example we're apparently dumb... but white American school kids test scores are on par with Japanese school kids.
From a white American perspective the Japanese are definitely a bit more lax about cheating but it's gonna depend on the person and community. Same with America, attitudes in Idaho gonna be different from NYC.
He did do that I came across him before this channel. Yeah he does talk about cheating which can give wrong misconception about Japanese but is something to be aware of
The story about prostitution in Japan and the fact than married men who go to prostitution and women have no choice to accept this is common to many country.
Maybe they wouldn't have to if their wife gave seks often. One thing asagi isn't addressing is that many women in Japan stop having seks after marriage and children. Of course, this isn't unique to Japan, but it's very common.
@@frorasu3949that happens when marriage is more important than finding a suitable partner.
@@pekkapihlava4434 That's only some of the marriages though. Even if you find suitable partner, the life in bedroom will eventually slow down or stop completely for most couples which in turn can lead to the unhappy marriage if one has higher expectation than the other.
@@frorasu3949 This is so ignornant. What do men do to put the intimacy back into the marrigae? Why would a parent place themselves before a child? Men are so jealous of the attention their own children get that they make up so many excuses to justify being community D.
@@touma-san91 That can go for the entire relationship you start to fight more, you change, etc etc. Also there is some couples that have awesome bedroom time but soon as they're done they fight like cats and dogs. Only thing I can say is all relationships are work, but like any work you do the investment pays off of long-term.
Great job that you tackle that misinformation. I saw those videos and I was like "lol no way that's true". I am traveling to Japan for the first time ever this month. I am so excited!
I’m glad that you’re addressing this because I’ve been having similar thoughts about this lately.
I think what bothered most people about these videos was not the fact that Japanese people cheat. Of course they do and there was no evidence in the video to suggest Japanese people cheat more than other cultures. Of course select interviews were edited and omitted to convey a certain narrative for clicks/views. That’s obvious.
What was troublesome was the way almost everyone in the video would giggle and laugh - whether they were the cheaters or were cheated on, they all giggled. There was no feeling of regret, sadness, melancholy, etc.
It almost made it seem trivial, but I think this highlights the differences in culture when it comes to showing genuine emotions. That’s my take.
As far as Taka’s interview, I don’t think it’s fake but it’s also not a representation of the whole country. If you really don’t understand Japanese culture or know anything about it, as a foreigner you’d definitely frown on Japanese saying it’s OK . I once asked a Japanese friend about it before like back in 2019 out of curiosity. He implied that if it just s*x without emotion involved it’s not counted as cheating. As long as it’s clear for both parties, he’s exact words were”it’s like sports.” 🤯 But of course they won’t let their partners know. I couldn’t comprehend back then but as I get to know more about Japanese culture I begin to understand where they are coming from. Also, even in Korea (older generation) wives give their husbands money to go to club to have s*x. My former Korean boss told me. 🤯
Most, over 90% of street interviews are fake and make me sick, and I don't watch those type of videos. They lack substance, research, and good amount of preparedness. They just go to the "best" and "populated" spots like Shibuya, Roppongi, Shinjuku, etc to get opinions very quickly.
I really dislike those videos as they give westerners false expectations about Japanese. These RUclipsrs only pick the ones that them the most unusual answers. When they ask the golden question ''so would you date a foreigner'' they say yes most of the time but in reality it isn't true. Many have had the thought but most of the time they want to stick to their own kind which is understandable. Japanese people avoid giving negative answers, that's why you often hear what you want to hear.
Ashley Madison ranks Canada as its top country for users. Japan isn't even in the top ten. If we're looking for countries in which cheating culture is more readily apparent, Japan pales in comparison to Australia, the U.K., Colombia, Mexico, Hong Kong, the U.S. Portugal, etc..
A few things, Ashley Madison is an English website it makes sense that Japanese people wouldn't use it. Second it's technically illegal to cheat in Japan and you can be sued for it. I'm sure this makes it less likely that people sign up and willing put their name out there.
@@KeithMorgado The interesting thing is that AM does have a Japanese user base. I remember seeing it advertised there....with a misspelled website 'arnadison' I think it's been corrected now.
As youmight know, adultery is also punishable by extreme measures in some muslim majority countries...which also have AM user bases.
Do you recall when AM's database got breached about 10 years ago? Many users in S.Arabia of all places were in a bit of a panic according to my students from the middle east.
Can someone actually find a partner who they can trust, especially now with all the social media platforms? 🤔
In a society where people seek "romance" and "dating" that's gonna be hard. The moment the relationship is challenged by hardship, people will second-guess themselves and assume their partner is not "the one". They'd think to search again because it's easy with all the social media and dating apps. The only places where marriage is still sacred is in religious countries.
Of course. More possibilites to get to know folks actually make the search easier.
Im happy being single I guess its better than wasting my time on dishonest people and their unnecessary bullsh*t which will only make my life more miserable
It requires practice and patience, but I believe it's possible just like I did 🤗
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan I hope so 🙂
Thank you for doing this. I was hoping for someone to be honest about this and not go for the easy clickbait
For that last part you states about single people going to prostitution more, I don’t know if this is true. The reason why they are most likely single is due to the fact they are unattractive or don’t have money. In modern days women only want the most attractive men or have a lot of wealth. Therefore I can conclude most of these single men are not even able to afford prostitutes nevertheless a girlfriend. Usually the men who have disposable income are able to afford them. It’s the same with wealthy women in Japan paying for male prostitutes. The average or broke won’t be wasting their money on food for a one night.
🤣This also happens among the passport bro sphere in the philippines...they go to philippines and make an interview to make it appear that Vast majority of Filipinas want Foreigners and don't date their Local men... One Western Expat even claim that Western men are rock stars in the philippines.... And this same expat Vlogger end up with a Single mom Filipina...
I'm pretty sure women from Philippines are the ones who get affected the most... 😩
Man the amount of passport bros posts referencing these street interviews is horrendous.
Thanks for actually shining a light on how inaccurate they are
This kinds of videos are extremely valuable, thank you for sharing your experience.
4:17 So, people are talking behind the back to avoid confrontation. Cowardness is an international problem, not just Japan. I live in Germany, my family is from Lithuania, i traveled through many European and Asian countries, often Mongolia or Siberia and people like to void confrontation everywhere, because it is easier.
People are like water, taking the path of least resistance.
Even after considering the points in this video, it sounds like the "misconceptions" still have some fundamental truth to them though. For example, the last point was basically a concession.
There's a test you could do. Can you flip it around and find content creators getting these answers on the street in America? I'm haven't seen any street interviews in the US where people say they know so many cheaters, or admit they themselves are cheaters, and then say that if their BF finds a hooker they wouldn't consider it cheating.
And using Tatemae doesn't explain away the misconception entirely. Yes, it is possible that cheating rates are similar everywhere, and Japanese culture simply reacts to questions about it differently. But that is only one way of thinking about it! It could be that the reactions of people around you influence the prevalence of cheating. People react to incentives and fears.
As an illustration, if people know their friends would be openly hostile knowing you're a cheater, then more people are going to convince themselves to not cheat, as opposed to thinking that the worst consequences you'll see is that your friends talk shit behind your back and maybe slowly stop hanging out with you. That's just an example for illustration. The real point is that if an entire cultural environment is different, the aggregate can have some bigger effect.
The burden of proof would be up to the side claiming that Tatemae doesn't have an effect on cheating rates, because the simple Occam's razor option is that a cultural bias in hiding hostility should have an influence on how people make their decisions, when they weigh their pros and cons. If people think they face less consequences of cheating, or any other crime, I realistically expect the rates for those things to go up.
I was in Tokyo for awhile, and I from my time there I can say that Japanese people in general are very proper and conservative compared to my home country. I could never believe a video that says they cheat more, or that they accept cheating as okay. It just doesn't track with my daily experience there.
My ex was very good at pretending to be meek while not being so. Won't go into detail, but she was living with a man while dating me.
Women are not trustworthy in any country, and Japan is no exception. There are no guardrails left in Japan for limiting the selfish behavior of women.
Maybe Japan is not the worst, but I'd say Thailand is pretty bad. Cheating is kinda expected in Japan. I once had a engagement ring on my finger and some girls flirted with me and one of them wanted to be in my harem. Joke or not... I found the concept disgusting, and this was in 2005-2006. But knowing what I know about women now, I probably should have taken advantage (except for STD risk, drama risk, chance that she's crazy, chance that she has baby rabies and want a haafu - never know), because I know my Thai ex-gf would have.
I am not saying the average person in Japan is definitely worse than Westerners, but that doesn't say much. Japan has no guardrails left. A woman could be a yamato nadeshiko and end up as a hostess-prostitute in Tokyo because she doesn't wanna work at 7-11 and earn 1000 JPY per hour, which is somewhat understandable. Prostitution is probably way worse now with the economic downtown.
@@fjorddenierbear4832 Don't lose hope man. I'm from Indonesia, and women here are (relatively) sane. Cheating is rare. All because the people are religious. Yep. Their piousness is far from perfect, but at least it's at an enough level to maintain a respectable society. I hope the west and Japan can regain their old values and fix these filths from their society.
wow they walked passed by you and you concluded that, this dude is a genius 😂😂😂
@fjorddenierbear4832 The allure to the money is the reason and not a disregard for values. They genuinely convince themselves that it is just a job and ingrain that into their mind. It's a defense mechanism. Japan's government is directly responsible for the lack of opportunities leading to young men and women feeling this is the only way to make a livable wage without becoming a サラリーマン.
In fact with the advent of things like Fantia, OF, etc etc... it's becoming a worldwide problem.
@@Haunt888 A lot of observations about Japan stop at the surface level like that.
Even in that context, heading to places like Osaka in the evening where people are more relaxed will show the externally "prim and proper" thing can vary.
Its interesting how different prostitution can be perceived depending on the circumstances. I know of several groups of foreign workers where their wives back home budget in the need of their husbands to go to prostitutes. They actually wanted them to go because they were concerned that them being alone and not getting any action may make them prone to look for a gf and maybe even leave the wife and kids.
Thsoe women self esteem and worth are beneathe their feet. Ain't no way that i will budget for a man to be use our household money for "fun". Either he is selling community D and sending back the money or he can move in with whoever garden tool he is slumming with.
Trust doesn’t come from communication. Trust come from giving values to each other. You don’t bring values your partner will cheat when chances come. You can call him out but nothing will change
I will also point out some other historical things just to make things even more complicated.
In the Heian Period which preceded the Kamakura Period and was the first "golden age" whose culture defined Japan for centuries, there was also a lot of cheating. However, it's also clear that cheating was something they frowned upon. Both men and women could have their reputations ruined if they got caught cheating or even just sleeping around, and in aristocratic circles one's reputation was the most important thing anyone could have.
I also want to just slightly push back on the belief that women were considered "unclean." While that is actually true, and historical Japan was a very male dominated society, girls were seen as very valuable for at least two reasons.
1. They were a family's ticket to a better life. It was fairly hard for a man to move up the social ladder and earn a better life for himself and his kin, but women could be married into a higher ranking family much more easily and thus, the Heian nobility took great care of their girls. It's admittedly a little mercenary but the fact remains women were considered highly valuable.
2. When it came to the leaders of the great shrines at Ise and Kamo, only a woman, specifically an imperial princess, was allowed to officiate as the main priest, or rather priestess, of these shrines. To say nothing of the role that girls play as shrine maidens.
Just some extra thoughts to add to highlight that yes, these kinds of topics are indeed very complicated.
Thank you for sharing your views and clearing things. Thank you for the history lesson as well. Well done 🔥👏🏽👏🏽
Lmao, exactly. I hate those street interviews. It's only watched by people who want to believe that drama though. A person with normal brain will naturally understand that cheating happens everywhere and it's not common more elsewhere. I have been with a Japanese man for years, he is the most honest and loyal man I have ever met. Was dating non Japanese guys before, I got always cheated on. So now my Japanese partner fights hard to help me get over the trauma that people he has nothing in common with did to me. I know as part of my healing process I had to block all of these street interviewer and completely stop watching them so my brain won't be biased exactly because of my past experiences. I'm glad youtubers like you are still here to help me fix my point of view.
I think it is pretty rare simply because people are busy and, once out of our teens, we are simply not that motivated to just get nookie. This is in addition to the obvious risks and negative feelings one would have.
I've lived in Japan for over 30 years.
Live in Osaka and have made lots of friends in and out of work over the last 4 years. Most of them cheat and are quite open about it. Age ranging from university age to my coworker who has been married most of his life and is almost 60 years old… Maybe it’s just as common in America but I’ve never met so many people openly admit it until I came here.
This is why I don’t trust surveys in general, the majority of people aren’t interested in taking them and this is even more true for something like a street interview with your face exposed. It takes a certain kind of person to say yes to those interviews, not necessarily in a bad way, but they don’t represent most kinds of people you’ll meet in daily life.
I love Japanese interviews because I’m teaching myself Japanese and I want to visit/move there sometime but I am really glad you covered this topic. When I saw the interview in reference, I was so shocked!
why would anybody be cool with being a victim of infidelity
As a very sad example, I'm Brazilian and under my personal experience, cheating happens quite a lot around here and it must be the same in the western world. My grandpa has been cheating on grandma for their entire marriage and she knows it, but doesn't leave probably because of a severe lack of self esteem. Recently, it came to my knowledge that my father isn't actually my biological father, so one more cheater in this personal experience, my mother. Recently I've found myself on a really tough and sad moment in life 'cause my ex girlfriend (been with her for 3.5y) cheated on me as well. I really don't think we are better than Japanese society in that regard.
ちゃんとこうやって動画で言ってくださって嬉しいです😢😢😢
ほんとに日本人全員がこういう価値観な訳では無いし動画でインタビューを受けている人達はむしろ少数だと思ってます…
I was married and divorced (yep she cheated) from a Japanese as well as dated in Japan a long time before marriage. Sorry you don’t like the label but face it, there is no loyalty to your partner in Japan. Cheating is just accepted by all. You can even sue your spouse’s lover in court to get them to stop. You earned the label of the country with the least morality for a reason. Own it!
A big problem is very few English understand 建前, in Sweden we have a very similar culture to Japan, we also won't say things to your face.
GREAT TO HEAR RATIONAL THINKING FOR A CHANGE! WELL DONE, VOICE OF REASON‼💯
The infidelity law doesn't mean much. Even if your spouse cheats and gets fined 3m yen that wouldn't be much if you consider that divorce doesn't care if your wife was unfilial. She will still get custody of your child and 50% of your assets.
I think the sad thing is more likely the following. And its personal experience....
Japan, with its rich cultural heritage, provides an interesting case study. Japanese society is often characterized by high levels of conformity, a strong sense of duty, and a collective mindset. In relationships, these societal pressures can manifest in several ways. For instance, there's often a strong emphasis on marriage and family as pillars of social stability. This can lead to situations where individuals feel compelled to stay in unsatisfying relationships or marry due to societal expectations rather than personal desire. The concept of "Gaman" (perseverance or enduring the seemingly unbearable with patience and dignity) might also play into how individuals handle dissatisfaction in relationships, potentially leading to a stoic tolerance of issues rather than addressing them directly.
Thanks for the video. This was helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
It’s very interesting that all I hear is no one is in relationships, the birth rate is very low and everyone is lonely yet these street interviews say the complete opposite.
Your comments are pretty sensible, but I do think there is some difference in Japan compared to most western countries. There a couple of instances that come to mind: 1. My friend got married with a Japanese girl and her mother advised her to look past an infidelities that he may have. I thought that advice was surprising. I think she said as long as he supports you financially, it's OK. 2. from a girl I was dating. She said that her ex-husband used to visit prostitutes. I asked her if she minded and she said that the thing she didn't like was that he told her.
Also, I do agree that "celebrities" are held to much higher standards on cheating and almost anything else. It's not just cheating. I met a guy (Shinobu) who used to be in Da-Pump but had to leave the band because of a DUI charge.
i think japanese are polite but are not respectful enough. cheating would not occur if youre respectful to your partner. respect is earned and also if you are tempted by a young attractive person just say no because you respect your commitment
After watching your video I think that these are not really misconceptions but the way you said it make it seem to me that these points are somewhat correct. Im older than you and I have never experienced cheating in my life. I heard once about a friend who did it and I was pretty shocked. To me it's unthinkable. However this depends a lot on the country. The US might be very different.
you should do your own interview to prove it
Its funny that 3 of the youtubers youve mentioned in your videos i follow them including Aba&preach. When i 1st learn about cheating & tateae in Japan it did shock me but glad you discuss a lot of Japanese topics. Oddly enough i started following the other 2 youtubers until months after i got cheated by a chinese
@5:50 yeah the VA for Cloud in FF 7 Remake had to step down because he got caught cheating. For context he's played Cloud for over 15 years.
If anything this makes Japan seem more like heaven. A country that punishes people for cheating 😮.
This difference is based on the culture being individualistic or collectivist.
In individual cultures, "fear of being different than the average" is usually punished by self-accusation, and being ashamed. That is, the source of the "punishment" often is internal.
In collectivist cultures, the same fear and being different is usually punished by fear of public shame. The source of punishment is externally linked.
None of these are healthier, just different.
That only shows that people in the public eye need to fear for their reputation.
It doesn't say anything about how an ordinary housewife might expect an ordinary non-famous salaryman husband to behave.
Great video Asagi! 👏
I remember watching Jay Leno’s “Jaywallking” when I was a kid.
Most street interviews or polling is not only very subjective, but highly edited in order to push the narrative towards a certain direction.
Example: in the US, local media will interview thousands of people in a single day. But they only show the idiots, because it gets clicks and views on both traditional media and new age media.
But all Thats my opinion.
Also: Japanese Godzilla>Pink Godzilla.
it's just like those street interviews that shows american's that don't know basic geography. As much as i don't like american nationalism and things like that, i refuse to believe those answers to be true. It looks like cherry picked to rage bait us or something like that.
First by interviewing people in the street you already have a certain kind of people who only agree to an interview in the first place. Standing there for hours and basically getting rejected 95% of the time you have to take what you get, what surely is far from representative. But by the nature of the people who agree to an interview in the first place probably not the most convential answers.
Then, if you have absolutely no shame like some TV channels do, you also can cut it down to the most stupid answers and make the people appear even weirder or dumber.
But I think most of these street interviews in Japan is just: you stand there two hours and only get 5-10 people in front of the camera in the first place.
@@Guilhermeabcdcorrect.
@@Guilhermeabcd Sadly they have to because that's what gets clicks.
It 100% depends on the area they are filming. Obviously, people who frequent the red-light district will cheat more frequently than other places in Japan. I imagine if these same interviews were done in rural Japan, or Kyoto, the response will be very different.
My Japanese bf is from Osaka, and comes from and grew up in an area of Osaka where the majority living there have a low socio-economic status. Cheating was common there, prostitution was common and he himself doesn't think of it as cheating. He had many friends who frequented brothels, and many female friends who prostituted themselves for money (out of necessity, not because they wanted to).
100% it depends on where the interview is held. That being said, those kinds of things DO happen in Japan, BUT those sorts of interviews are specifically holding interviews in areas where those sorts of behaviours may be more common and cherry picking their answers.
Thank you for giving a normal educations and informed insight into true Japanese culture & society. I’m tired of the shock-value street interviews.
Their channel name is pronounced "Aba and Preach" not "A.B.A and Preach" ^^
I agree with you for the most part, you even showed people the examples of Japanese society shawning cheaters in severe manners. One interesting thing though, we would all presume prostitution is for single men however it seems the sex industry in Japan is declining and people are actually having less sex. This phenomenon is not just limited to Japan, herbivore men as it's called there. Men in modern societies are simply opting out of relationships and sex all together and this will only get worse in the future, because nobody is willing to tackle the underlying issues. Additionally in Japan work culture seems to be a big part of the problem.
I often wonder if something could radically change the situation because otherwise this phenomenon will only continue to snowball in the future.
Personally, I don't like the interviews on those channels you mentioned. They make it seem like, "most people do this in Japan," when that's far from the truth (I've lived in Japan over 18 years now). I will say, though, men in Japan who have a "mistress" - even while married and a father - is perhaps more common and acceptable than in the west. I drank with a Japanese man, one night, several years ago and he was quite open about his married plus mistress life. I still find it hard to believe that a father could do that. I'm sure his wife must have known, or at least suspected, what was going on. Lucky for him his wife wasn't a western girl; he would have copped a frying pan over the head at the first hint it was going on.
So! don't come to Japan thinking that every woman, married on single, is waiting for you.
Agreed, not everyone does it but they don't seem to think it's as bad as we do. A good analogy might be pot - in America most people don't use it but they think it is acceptable enough to use it, but the Japanese are rather shocked by this since it's illegal there.
As someone who is Japanese and lives in Tokyo, I've seen a lot. These interviews are not fake. Maybe you're just not familiar with this side of our culture, but it's definitely real, and it plays a huge role in the Tokyo lifestyle. Consider yourself lucky that you've been sheltered from it.
It’s true sadly 😢
Just how I see it but i feel like Japan tolerates "discreet" cheating but in turn are hyper critical if it gets out. You can say that about other places too but there seems to be a culture in Japan.. (prostitution, soap lands, love hotels, etc)
What surprised me is that it seems like so many Japanese seem to openly admit to cheating on their partners...
I heard sometimes in companies when men go out after work with coworkers and their boss, they go to prostitutes or pressured into going. Is that true?
RUclipsr street interviewers are like media everywhere, the edit to get the most sensational scenes.
Cheating will happen everywhere. The more "free" a society is, the more rampant it will be. I can appreciate how cheating in Japan is a punishable crime, and it speaks to the fact that a loose society--and I mean loose as in, low morality, people doing whatever they want and think there should be no consequences (like Americans)--a loose society will fail. Culture is everything, and if a culture is dead, so is your society. I respect this law. People obviously can't control themselves.
Asagi, why in the world would a Ukrainian win the title of Miss Japan? This is very disappointing. If I were Japanese, I would be insulted. I am sure many Japanese didn't like it; I am sure of this. I am going to have to ask my gf about this now.....（笑）
One of the weird legalities of married couples with kids in Japan is that even if the wife is having an affair, the custody of the kid is returned to the wife, not the husband.
More like brain dead legislation that goes "divorce=mother gets sole custody, no exceptions".
Smarter legislation that takes into account the actual family situation would go a long way.
The problem is simpler. Interview broadcasters can select respondents and edit answers. The purpose is to guide viewers.
What women want is eternal love, and no one wants their partner to cheat on them. What they say is an acceptance, not a wish.
Thanks, Asagi! I wondered about this.
As someone who lived in Japan. It's very Japanese to save face. That video was actually pretty much what I heard and saw in terms of cheating and brothel culture. It's more accepted to cheat but not talk about it as much. Those interviewees were honest in my opinion but of course not every single Japanese thinks the same (although views are often homogenous and collective).
Although those street interviews talk about cheating, the more I learned about Japanese culture, the more I also realised it differs a lot from the Christian/Western wordlview in it's perception of sexuality itself. There are so many bars in Tokyo and Osaka, which offer kinda sexuality, like nothing physical but just young women in short skirts with high pitched voices talking and flirting with the costumer. This is so much more of a thing than what I experience in Europe. When I went to Japan, it struck me how much anything is on one hand very sexualized and on the other hand very prude. I don't mean to be an expert, I just want to share my perspective on what it felt like as an European seeing your culture. It's just very different especially in that aspect, like the rules and what's considered sexuality and so on. So I came to believe that probably a Japanese person means something very different when they use the word cheating. It's therefor also very interesting, because I see many problems lurking or even fleshing themselves out in the West with it's porn industries and the sexualization of everything, as well as in Japan with thier low birthrates and the slow emancipation of women. Problems which require deep thinking about it, because I'm certain they're tide to the culture. So I'm glad that two very different cultures which still are sympathic to one another are appoaching those problems and maybe we can solve one or the other.
As a wise man once said- "Don't trust what women say, trust what women do. "
I'll treat this video like that, and yes I frequent all parts of Tokyo.
relationships in japan are often just social status declaration, and thus, cheating is not seen as a problem since its not build on passion.
Well done! The title is not clickbaity. More real truths about Japan by Japanese is needed.
I figured and I'm not amazed by the amount of people who are gullible to this type of content. Cheating is worldwide. Cheating should not be acceptable worldwide. And the prostitution topic is just wild to me .😅 Thanks for addressing this.
Thank you for making this video, it was really fascinating and i agree that it doesnt necessarily mean MORE people are cheating in japan.
Let’s say long distance relationship with Japanese woman’s doesn’t work at all, I got cheat by my Japanese ex girlfriend and she just didn’t care about it, she was looking for foreigners 😒 but it sounds like she was never happy…so honestly it’s her problem not mine…but I wish that someone might find out about what she’s doing, karma it’s very sweet!
"just because they don't call you out or say what you're doing is wrong doesn't mean they accept it."
Well, actually yes it does. That's tacit acceptance. They might not think it's okay, but by letting it slide then they are engaging in tacit acceptance. "The standard you walk by is the standard you accept."
That said, I agree with the overall point that we can't know about the real rates of cheating between countries, so the stereotype is unfair.
Thanks for this, this made things clearer. :)
What she means by guilty is that Japanese law allows for compensatory damages from a cheating partner and a person he or she is being unfaithful with. I am not saying that people do it all the time, but it's codified.
Thanks for clarifying this, I always pass things by my friend who is originally from Japan to ask him how accurate those street videos are😊
I think its just because people are interested in Japan. There are so many accounts with just day to day Japanese things like language and phrases and trends etc. and people have thousands of followers. I'm from Ireland and there are no Irish street interview channels because nobody cares. I can't imagine an Irish person having a channel about things we do and say and anyone being that interested.
Thanks for clearing that up. I tend to believe that people are pretty much the same all over the world and some times things get lost in translation.
I am so pleased to hear your opinion, I had my doubts about the validity of some of those street interviews.
It did seem a little Faked, I'm also grateful for the education.
I can't believe people watched countless anime where the girls will beat the shit out of the MC when he cheats and then say, "Yep, Japanese are okay with cheating".
Sorry, hard disagreement on the last time part. Even just staying in tottori, nara etc. It is very obvious cabaret, girls bar etc target middle age men workers aka married. Most young men I met simply cannot afford that kind of lifestyle and use dating apps or go to clubs. I remember an average looking guy in osaka saying he was dating three girls. Cheating is kind of normalized. Celebrities always judged harsher so bad example.
NTR being popular and having the best animation say otherwise, grape too is in there in there.
Thank you for this video! I really hate all the street videoblogs with their pretentiousness of giving the followers “precious insights” about Japanese society.
❤it was interesting you said you didn't consider prostitution cheating until recently.
what caused you to change your mind?
and why do Japanese women not consider it cheating?
it has always been considered cheating in nearly every culture. i find it wild that in Japan it wasn't. the fact you thought it was ok for so long until recently. and you aren't even a married old Japanese lady from 1980s to a salary man. You look quite young and modern, so it says there's more to this if you even thought so, until recently.