Pastor B, my niece and I came to TFHOC March of 2023. I felt like God said to park here for a while. Since I have been attending, I have felt like it has always been good rich soil. My heart broke for you and your family when you shared with the church what was happening with you and your family. I am so sorry you have had to go through such devastation and brokenness. I don’t look at you with pity but with awe and admiration because you are more than a conqueror. You are stronger, wiser, and oh the oil that is on you, is ministering globally to a world in need of a Savior. Your life is preaching volumes. I love you dearly. And I am praying for you and your family.
One of my girlfriends took me to see you on my birthday when you spoke at Lakewood during the HARDEST times in my marriage, and you helped me see "the Bible ain't boring boo boo," and I read it again and again and I haven't put it down. I will FOREVER love you for that HUGE seed. ❤
Currently going through the hardest season of my life with the most intense heartbreak! I friend told me to listen to this podcast and I feel so blessed and seen. My fiancé told me he didn’t want to get married the day before our wedding in November, but he still wanted to be together and work things out. We went through with a “spiritual” ceremony in front of of our families. Since then, he has become so angry at me and all I want to do is fix everything. Thank you Bianca for sharing your story because I see myself in you! I am finding the strength to leave and also continue to pray for him, in order to pursue what God wants me to do.
Pastor Bianca, divorce is really hard when you fight for your marriage. But in the end I turned to MY LORD and my Sisters in Christ...have helped me through this Journey. Praying for you Pastor B, Hugs and Love sent your way.💜🙏💜
Oh that line around 16 minute mark about having the order wrong just touched my soul. God then spouse. That is not said enough. Thank you for your candor and willingness to share!!
Thank you so much for your vulnerability and openness in navigating through a hard season going through divorce. Your emotions are what I experienced in mine the confusion and loss of something you never expected would happen. God is ever present and faithful in these moments. He will redeem what’s been broken and restore what’s lost. God bless you abundantly with blessings and peace beautiful woman of God❤
I have been watching your church online for the past couple years after hearing your message on IF. As a twice divorced woman myself, thank you for being open and honest about your situation. Divorce, definitely in the Christian faith is looked at in such a negative light. The woman at the well story got me through so much shame that I was drowning in through my journey of divorces. We love you Pastor B!
We love you Pastor Bianca for your Transparency! The last scripture spoke volumes to me! the Lord gave me that scipture in season life. Me and my husband since we teaching youth and don't have any children of our own. But thank you for your words.
I cried for you while watching this, and I also celebrated you. You are in my prayers and i remember the words you once said, “ there is purpose to your pain” those words helped me through the death of my only child, my son Daniel. I love you sister Bianca.
Praying for you @Bianca Juarez Olthoff You are such a shining example of keeping your eyes on Jesus in all seasons 🙌🏼😊❤️ Thank you for your ministry and praying for you and with during this time. Thank you for being vulnerable. Life is messy but Jesus is very real ❤️❤️❤️
I love you and I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I appreciate your honesty. Please continue to take care of yourself and never let anyone dim your light because it has already reached so many of us.
I went through something very similar in 2020, after 23 years of marriage. My divorce was final last month. At some point, alone in my bed, the Lord made Isaiah 54 come alive to me. I am still clinging to that word. Thank you for sharing your story!
Hey Bianca thank u for being so open and honest about the last two years of your life and what u went through. U are my favorite speaker and will always be my favorite speaker. U have really encouraged me to not give up on my dreams. I’m so grateful that u have had community and family and friends and professionals during this time that is so so important. I wish I had Leaned on my community more when my husband walked out. He had ulterior motives into why he married me. My divorce as in 2013 and sometimes I still struggle with what did I do should I have fought and stayed but marriage is a two way street and if one isn’t willing to fight then why try is my thoughts. Being vulnerable takes courage and that sis is what u have a lot of courage. Thanks again for the ministry that God has called you to and thank u for not giving up on that.
My heart broke for you woman of God but I know you serve our Lord who is close to the broken hearted in times of trouble. You will be fine, your tears will cease and you will rejoice from here on. Amen
I will keep you in my prayers for God to continue to heal you! You are brave in being so honest about your journey. You are a woman of God and he will carry you through this storm. Im sorry you are hurting right now. I know God will complete his perfect plan for your life. Sending you gentle hugs ❤
Wow. So sorry that your going through this but it sounds like and feels like God is doing such an incredible work in you during this hard season. Thank you for being brave enough to share.
Thank you so much for your openness and transparency. I’m deeply sorry for the unimaginable challenges you’ve faced. Please know that I’m keeping you, your ex, and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Your honesty and vulnerability are truly inspiring, and your strength and kindness have been a gift to everyone around you. I’m incredibly grateful for you!!
❤Thank you Pastor B for being open and sharing your testimony and giving women hope and grace .thank you for showing us that God can restore anything and anyone regardless the situation and that even though our prayers don’t get answered how we want them to it doesn’t mean God is not listening to us,and that God‘s plans are always going to be greater than our plants and he will be always ourprovider and our vindicator. May God continue to bless you and we love you, Pastor B❤
You rock sister!! I had the pleasure of meeting you recently here in Vegas at a women’s conference & I was so impressed with your grace and humility. I can see the pain you’ve endured has produced so much purpose & the richest, most powerful version of you is coming to life now!! I’m here for it… let’s go there sister!!❤
I’m so sorry Bianca. My heart grieves with you. I divorced earlier this year so I understand every bit of this heartbreak. My prayer is that first and foremost you grieve with God for there is no greater comforter. Take time to sit with your sadness. I often described this as trying to empty an ocean. It can feel that way. As my therapist told me if you must schedule your cry sessions but pour it all out. Give it to Him. He can handle it all. And most importantly make room for all his goodness because he’s got something so good it’s beyond your wildest dreams. I can’t wait to hear you share how God walked you through this and blessed you with a man sent by him. I know that’s hard to believe right now but I’m believing this for you my sister in Christ ✨ Know you are deeply loved, admired and prayed for. Keep going ❤
Thanks for sharing! I walked out a similar situation in my own divorce. Fighting for it, knowing God can change things, but knowing you can’t change someone else. I can tell you on the other side of this it gets better. I’m 9 years post divorce I was married for 13 years God does heal all things. Praying for you. Being alone with a good support system helps! ❤ God loves you and you are a blessing to so many!
Pastor B- ever since I heard you speak at TFH Vacaville, then met you in person there, I felt so naturally connected to you. Over the years, the more I watched you preach, speak, and listened to your podcasts, I can relate to you so much like you're my long lost soul sister. You once prayed over me in Vacaville years ago for God to give me a way out of my abusive marriage. I had been praying for my husband's salvation and deliverance and for my marriage to be saved, but my (ex) husband chose otherwise. Despite years of praying, begging, fighting, crying, and suffering, I too was forced into aloneness and to become "single again" due to my STBX husband's choices. It's a betrayal and pain I'm struggling to overcome and reconcile in my walk with God. I'm so sorry you're going through this unexpected wilderness season along with me and so many others. Although, unfortunately, I'm not as blessed as you are with such an amazing support system at your side. I'm all alone, no friends or family to pick me up or help me pick up the pieces.
Mine was finalized Aug 2nd and I feel you in every way possible. Thank you for speaking about it because I stayed way to long before I woke up to the same truth ❤
Pastor B, I am living a similar situation; this is so healing for me, crying with you. Thank you for being so vulnerable, knowing that it’s to mend other people’s hearts. 💛
I heard you for the first time at Lakewood church in Houston Texas at a marriage conference in 2021. My husband and I were really going through some tough times and your words resonated deeply! Thank you for the way you teach Gods work…so on point and you don’t sugar coat it😊 I love it!! I wish there were more pastors like you!! Please post on your website if you’ll be taking a tour to the Mother Land of Jerusalem so my husband and I can join the tour. You’re amazing Pastor B!! Keep your head up cuz God’s got some might blessings in store for you🫶🏼💕
Bianca, I can so sympathize with you. I am in the same season currently after almost 18 years of marriage my husband is still pursuing divorce. We have been separated since 2022 and will probably be divorced soon. It is hard when you pray and fast and think God will heal it and he doesn’t. Like you however I do not blame God or think he has changed because he chose not to save my marriage. I still love Him and all things work together for the good or those who live God and are called according to his purpose. On that we can stand! We have a faithful husband in Christ! God bless you sister and thank you for sharing ❤
Praying for you You can never know how much you sharing is hard but a blessing and encouragement to so many You shine and show Jesus in such a incredible way I found you when you did podcast with Candace Cameron Bure and have found this podcast and your church on RUclips. I am a pastor wife who you have touch and help in so many ways can't thank you enough Praying for you daily
I am sorry you're going through this. For the longest time I've called you my internet best friend, so while you cry so will I and when joy comes from restoration, I will celebrate with you. God bless you!
Pastor B, I went through something very similar and didn't ever plan to be divorced. It does take both people in the relationship and it hurt me when I had to decide and it took me so long to finally decide and my kids ended up being affected. I felt every part of your story.
The Bible says, God will be our Ishi which means husband. I am so glad that you did not quit leading people for the simple fact that you are single as a matter of fact, I believe it qualifies you more because you have to depend more on God than anyone else. I am so proud of you.
Since I saw and heard You from the first time last season on the Candance Cameron Bure podcast I have been loving you so so MUCH... (not in that way he he. But the way You are as a person :) ) I love your way of beeing as a person, as a pastor (the way you preach. I'm not a christian, but I do miss people here where I live to preach a sermon like You). Cheering on You and wishing You all the best for the future.
Dear- just prayed for you. I strongly suggest you get in touch with singer and pastor Cielo Ortega. She went through a very tough and public divorce process and I would love you to see how God has restored her and her ministry. The Lord is with you!
In 2022, my husband of 29 years walked out one weekend. Forced aloneness. A year later he filed for divorce which was finalized in 2024. I too have a hard time even saying the word divorce or even ex husband. God bless you for your openness in sharing. I cried with you during this episode.
I have been a single mother for years now and that was one of the things the Lord first showed me in so many ways. When you know of His love....❤Hosea 2:19-20 NASB1995 [19] I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me in righteousness and in justice, In lovingkindness and in compassion, [20] And I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord. Isaiah 54:5 NASB1995 [5] For your husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.
I'm only 11 minutes in and our stories sound a LOT alike. My ex-husband cheated and then divorced me, but only after he and his dad narcissistically abused me for 10 years and then divorced me bc "I love you but I want children," and then proceeded to hand me divorce papers that read as if he never loved me.
Onwards and upwards!! Your experience will help many and you will meet a partner who will be at your level and you both will continue to blossom together. Maybe his name will be Paul ironically 😂.
YOUR ABSOLUTELY 💯% ON KEY ....... HOW DO .... FULLY COMMITTED... YOUR TESTIFY MY PERSONAL JOURNEY EXCEPT.... MUCH LONGER started 2008 ""YOUR LEADING WELL THANKYOU""
Praying for you @Bianca Juarez Olthoff You are such a shining example of keeping your eyes on Jesus in all seasons 🙌🏼😊❤️ Thank you for your ministry and praying for you and with during this time. Thank you for being vulnerable. Life is messy but Jesus is very real ❤️❤️❤️
Pastor B, my niece and I came to TFHOC March of 2023. I felt like God said to park here for a while. Since I have been attending, I have felt like it has always been good rich soil. My heart broke for you and your family when you shared with the church what was happening with you and your family. I am so sorry you have had to go through such devastation and brokenness. I don’t look at you with pity but with awe and admiration because you are more than a conqueror. You are stronger, wiser, and oh the oil that is on you, is ministering globally to a world in need of a Savior. Your life is preaching volumes. I love you dearly. And I am praying for you and your family.
One of my girlfriends took me to see you on my birthday when you spoke at Lakewood during the HARDEST times in my marriage, and you helped me see "the Bible ain't boring boo boo," and I read it again and again and I haven't put it down. I will FOREVER love you for that HUGE seed. ❤
Thank you for being a voice for what so many of us in pastoral roles, leadership roles are or have experienced. My heart broke hearing this podcast
Currently going through the hardest season of my life with the most intense heartbreak! I friend told me to listen to this podcast and I feel so blessed and seen. My fiancé told me he didn’t want to get married the day before our wedding in November, but he still wanted to be together and work things out. We went through with a “spiritual” ceremony in front of of our families. Since then, he has become so angry at me and all I want to do is fix everything. Thank you Bianca for sharing your story because I see myself in you! I am finding the strength to leave and also continue to pray for him, in order to pursue what God wants me to do.
We love you Pastor B! You’re so encouraging and have no idea how many women and believers you are helping with your vulnerability! ❤
Pastor Bianca, divorce is really hard when you fight for your marriage. But in the end I turned to MY LORD and my Sisters in Christ...have helped me through this Journey. Praying for you Pastor B, Hugs and Love sent your way.💜🙏💜
We LOVE you Bianca. We LOVE you.
Oh that line around 16 minute mark about having the order wrong just touched my soul. God then spouse. That is not said enough. Thank you for your candor and willingness to share!!
Thank you so much for your vulnerability and openness in navigating through a hard season going through divorce. Your emotions are what I experienced in mine the confusion and loss of something you never expected would happen. God is ever present and faithful in these moments. He will redeem what’s been broken and restore what’s lost. God bless you abundantly with blessings and peace beautiful woman of God❤
I have been watching your church online for the past couple years after hearing your message on IF. As a twice divorced woman myself, thank you for being open and honest about your situation. Divorce, definitely in the Christian faith is looked at in such a negative light. The woman at the well story got me through so much shame that I was drowning in through my journey of divorces. We love you Pastor B!
Pastor Bianca you are so loved. Continue to shine in this new stage. God is with you.
Bless you, Bianca! You got this!!
We love you Pastor Bianca for your Transparency! The last scripture spoke volumes to me! the Lord gave me that scipture in season life. Me and my husband since we teaching youth and don't have any children of our own. But thank you for your words.
I just wanna say, I love you Pastor Bianca.
Thank you for your authenticity and bravery ❤ praying for you
We love you Bianca!! Thanks for your transparency.
Prayers for you. Thank you for being so authentic with all of us. You are loved ❤️🙏🏻
I cried for you while watching this, and I also celebrated you. You are in my prayers and i remember the words you once said, “ there is purpose to your pain” those words helped me through the death of my only child, my son Daniel. I love you sister Bianca.
Praying for you @Bianca Juarez Olthoff You are such a shining example of keeping your eyes on Jesus in all seasons 🙌🏼😊❤️ Thank you for your ministry and praying for you and with during this time. Thank you for being vulnerable. Life is messy but Jesus is very real ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for your openness. This is heartbreaking but so real ❤
I love you and I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I appreciate your honesty. Please continue to take care of yourself and never let anyone dim your light because it has already reached so many of us.
I went through something very similar in 2020, after 23 years of marriage. My divorce was final last month. At some point, alone in my bed, the Lord made Isaiah 54 come alive to me. I am still clinging to that word. Thank you for sharing your story!
Hey Bianca thank u for being so open and honest about the last two years of your life and what u went through. U are my favorite speaker and will always be my favorite speaker. U have really encouraged me to not give up on my dreams. I’m so grateful that u have had community and family and friends and professionals during this time that is so so important. I wish I had
Leaned on my community more when my husband walked out. He had ulterior motives into why he married me. My divorce as in 2013 and sometimes I still struggle with what did I do should I have fought and stayed but marriage is a two way street and if one isn’t willing to fight then why try is my thoughts. Being vulnerable takes courage and that sis is what u have a lot of courage. Thanks again for the ministry that God has called you to and thank u for not giving up on that.
My heart broke for you woman of God but I know you serve our Lord who is close to the broken hearted in times of trouble.
You will be fine, your tears will cease and you will rejoice from here on. Amen
I will keep you in my prayers for God to continue to heal you! You are brave in being so honest about your journey. You are a woman of God and he will carry you through this storm. Im sorry you are hurting right now. I know God will complete his perfect plan for your life. Sending you gentle hugs ❤
We are with you Bianca. We stand with you with our shields of faith up in protection. The best is yet to come!!
Wow. So sorry that your going through this but it sounds like and feels like God is doing such an incredible work in you during this hard season. Thank you for being brave enough to share.
Thank you for sharing 🫶🏼 your transparency is so honorable! You’re in my thoughts and prayers💕
Thank you so much for your openness and transparency. I’m deeply sorry for the unimaginable challenges you’ve faced. Please know that I’m keeping you, your ex, and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Your honesty and vulnerability are truly inspiring, and your strength and kindness have been a gift to everyone around you. I’m incredibly grateful for you!!
I've been in your shoes. And I respect your approach with privacy. ❤
❤Thank you Pastor B for being open and sharing your testimony and giving women hope and grace .thank you for showing us that God can restore anything and anyone regardless the situation and that even though our prayers don’t get answered how we want them to it doesn’t mean God is not listening to us,and that God‘s plans are always going to be greater than our plants and he will be always ourprovider and our vindicator. May God continue to bless you and we love you, Pastor B❤
You rock sister!! I had the pleasure of meeting you recently here in Vegas at a women’s conference & I was so impressed with your grace and humility. I can see the pain you’ve endured has produced so much purpose & the richest, most powerful version of you is coming to life now!! I’m here for it… let’s go there sister!!❤
I’m so grateful for your life pastor B!
I’m so sorry Bianca. My heart grieves with you. I divorced earlier this year so I understand every bit of this heartbreak.
My prayer is that first and foremost you grieve with God for there is no greater comforter. Take time to sit with your sadness. I often described this as trying to empty an ocean. It can feel that way. As my therapist told me if you must schedule your cry sessions but pour it all out. Give it to Him. He can handle it all. And most importantly make room for all his goodness because he’s got something so good it’s beyond your wildest dreams. I can’t wait to hear you share how God walked you through this and blessed you with a man sent by him. I know that’s hard to believe right now but I’m believing this for you my sister in Christ ✨
Know you are deeply loved, admired and prayed for. Keep going ❤
Amazing honesty and integrity - so sorry to hear what you have walked through - 🙏🙏🙏that you will never stop sharing - very teal and inspirational
Thanks for sharing! I walked out a similar situation in my own divorce. Fighting for it, knowing God can change things, but knowing you can’t change someone else. I can tell you on the other side of this it gets better. I’m 9 years post divorce I was married for 13 years God does heal all things. Praying for you. Being alone with a good support system helps! ❤ God loves you and you are a blessing to so many!
Pastor B- ever since I heard you speak at TFH Vacaville, then met you in person there, I felt so naturally connected to you. Over the years, the more I watched you preach, speak, and listened to your podcasts, I can relate to you so much like you're my long lost soul sister. You once prayed over me in Vacaville years ago for God to give me a way out of my abusive marriage. I had been praying for my husband's salvation and deliverance and for my marriage to be saved, but my (ex) husband chose otherwise. Despite years of praying, begging, fighting, crying, and suffering, I too was forced into aloneness and to become "single again" due to my STBX husband's choices. It's a betrayal and pain I'm struggling to overcome and reconcile in my walk with God. I'm so sorry you're going through this unexpected wilderness season along with me and so many others. Although, unfortunately, I'm not as blessed as you are with such an amazing support system at your side. I'm all alone, no friends or family to pick me up or help me pick up the pieces.
Really enjoyed this episode! ❤
Mine was finalized Aug 2nd and I feel you in every way possible. Thank you for speaking about it because I stayed way to long before I woke up to the same truth ❤
Pastor B, I am living a similar situation; this is so healing for me, crying with you. Thank you for being so vulnerable, knowing that it’s to mend other people’s hearts. 💛
We love you Pastor Bianca. Aloha from Hawaii
Love u so so much Pastor B. You r an inspiration and thank u for your transparency. Xoxo
Dang ... HEARING YOUR TESTIMONY... RELIVING THIS PAIN OVER AND OVER AGAIN UNDERSTAND
I heard you for the first time at Lakewood church in Houston Texas at a marriage conference in 2021. My husband and I were really going through some tough times and your words resonated deeply! Thank you for the way you teach Gods work…so on point and you don’t sugar coat it😊 I love it!! I wish there were more pastors like you!! Please post on your website if you’ll be taking a tour to the Mother Land of Jerusalem so my husband and I can join the tour. You’re amazing Pastor B!! Keep your head up cuz God’s got some might blessings in store for you🫶🏼💕
Bianca, I can so sympathize with you. I am in the same season currently after almost 18 years of marriage my husband is still pursuing divorce. We have been separated since 2022 and will probably be divorced soon. It is hard when you pray and fast and think God will heal it and he doesn’t. Like you however I do not blame God or think he has changed because he chose not to save my marriage. I still love Him and all things work together for the good or those who live God and are called according to his purpose. On that we can stand! We have a faithful husband in Christ! God bless you sister and thank you for sharing ❤
We love you. Thank you for your authenticity. I can relate.
Praying for you
You can never know how much you sharing is hard but a blessing and encouragement to so many
You shine and show Jesus in such a incredible way
I found you when you did podcast with Candace Cameron Bure and have found this podcast and your church on RUclips. I am a pastor wife who you have touch and help in so many ways can't thank you enough
Praying for you daily
I love you so much! I’m so sorry you went through this!!! Thank you for being so transparent, vulnerable and a model for following Jesus! ❤❤❤
I am sorry you're going through this. For the longest time I've called you my internet best friend, so while you cry so will I and when joy comes from restoration, I will celebrate with you. God bless you!
Ooh Noo 😢.. You spoke at the Millers for singles… Wow!
Pastor B, I went through something very similar and didn't ever plan to be divorced. It does take both people in the relationship and it hurt me when I had to decide and it took me so long to finally decide and my kids ended up being affected. I felt every part of your story.
Love the fact that you don't justify.... Accountability.... on the journey...
The Bible says, God will be our Ishi which means husband. I am so glad that you did not quit leading people for the simple fact that you are single as a matter of fact, I believe it qualifies you more because you have to depend more on God than anyone else. I am so proud of you.
Thank you for being honest
Since I saw and heard You from the first time last season on the Candance Cameron Bure podcast I have been loving you so so MUCH... (not in that way he he. But the way You are as a person :) ) I love your way of beeing as a person, as a pastor (the way you preach. I'm not a christian, but I do miss people here where I live to preach a sermon like You). Cheering on You and wishing You all the best for the future.
Thank you soo much for sharing this episode 🥹🥹✝️🙏🙏
Love you B praying for healing for your ❤
🙏🏼 Praying for you
Dear- just prayed for you. I strongly suggest you get in touch with singer and pastor Cielo Ortega. She went through a very tough and public divorce process and I would love you to see how God has restored her and her ministry.
The Lord is with you!
In 2022, my husband of 29 years walked out one weekend. Forced aloneness. A year later he filed for divorce which was finalized in 2024. I too have a hard time even saying the word divorce or even ex husband. God bless you for your openness in sharing. I cried with you during this episode.
Literally living through this right now😢
I have been a single mother for years now and that was one of the things the Lord first showed me in so many ways. When you know of His love....❤Hosea 2:19-20 NASB1995
[19] I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me in righteousness and in justice, In lovingkindness and in compassion, [20] And I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord.
Isaiah 54:5 NASB1995
[5] For your husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.
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I'm only 11 minutes in and our stories sound a LOT alike. My ex-husband cheated and then divorced me, but only after he and his dad narcissistically abused me for 10 years and then divorced me bc "I love you but I want children," and then proceeded to hand me divorce papers that read as if he never loved me.
I just read Isaiah 54 yesterday wow
Onwards and upwards!! Your experience will help many and you will meet a partner who will be at your level and you both will continue to blossom together.
Maybe his name will be Paul ironically 😂.
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YOUR ABSOLUTELY 💯% ON KEY ....... HOW DO .... FULLY COMMITTED... YOUR TESTIFY MY PERSONAL JOURNEY EXCEPT.... MUCH LONGER started 2008 ""YOUR LEADING WELL THANKYOU""
Why did they break up😢
There’s a buzzing in the audio
""INTEGRITY "" bleed through the
Only Jesus is perfect.
Praying for you @Bianca Juarez Olthoff You are such a shining example of keeping your eyes on Jesus in all seasons 🙌🏼😊❤️ Thank you for your ministry and praying for you and with during this time. Thank you for being vulnerable. Life is messy but Jesus is very real ❤️❤️❤️
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