Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria [CC]

That thing where someone says your idea won’t work or leaves you out of a group thing and your face goes hot and the entire world seems to be crashing down around you.
Yes, it is normal.
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[@skygarden]

"...let us know that it's ok that we have 'messed up'. It may make us ache, but it will hurt a lot less than you telling us angrily that we were 'wRonG' and leaving it at that. Because a lot of the time we don't understand why what we were doing was 'wrong', because it's logical to us - but it may be illogical to you. So a lot of times it's not even wrong, it's just d i f f e r e n t."

[@caseyj1144]

I was in entertainment & modeling 11 years with RSD but for some reason it doesn’t hit with auditions like it does interpersonally - I know a lot of stats about the industry and that if they invite you in they already like you, and not getting one audition if they liked you makes it more likely you’ll get the next they call you in for (in a compounding way as they get to know your work, range and personality). Maybe that doesn’t help at all, but the fact that it’s a blunt industry was really helpful to me bc I knew where I stood. GOOD LUCK YOU ARE GREAT

[@vals3922]

Awe, just seeing this, but your kind words are so sweet and this is so relatable. It's a daily struggle for sure. So many fields are a struggle too as you say. I'm a new nurse & it hits home. Thank you for putting this out to us :) Big hugs 🤗

[@ranc1977]

I dunno.
I don't like her approach that we dismiss our intuition and common sense. It is NT nonsense.
We will end up fawning to crazy professors, job management, being sheep and slave to corporations so that we buy things to impress people who don't care if we live or die next day.
I don't like the attitude that we stay neutral and silent when someone is abusive and when there is mobbing. Nor the "advice" said in video that we become hysterical and try to reason and be "assertive" with predatory types who are based on antagonism, pathological lying and narcissistic view that people are divided in alfa (someone with disinhibition and pathology) and submissive types (someone who is quiet and friendly) and then end up stuck in codependency and trying to make pathological predatory types to love and accept and understand us - by our complaining and naggings and explanations - which they do not give a damn to hear nor understand.

[@sarahleony]

Well that hit right in the feels!i had never heard of this condition. I can definitely identify with some of that, I always attributed it to social anxiety etc. Will be reading about more!

[@parislove5735]

I still haven't figure out the self confidence thing. So this has been exhausting. Love your videos, they've been really helpful! :D

[@disabled.autistic.lesbian]

It's okay it takes a long time! And I definitely still struggle with it :)

[@Thought.I.Was.Clever]

This is spot on. Like word for word. And all of your video content is great.

[@Teefs001]

Your videos are so well done! Truly informative but followable like a conversation, without the need of excessive jargon. The vids make my new diagnosis feel less daunting and more affirming to it put into words that I can use to help myself/others. Hope more people find this channel!

[@watchingthebees]

You should have told your teacher “have you heard of Anthony Hopkins?”

[@disabled.autistic.lesbian]

This sentiment was said to me again recently and I did respond with that actually! But I didn't know about him or any other autistic figures other than Mozart and Temple Grandin at the time...

[@sohv1s]

So that's why I felt always so bad when somebody told me is was doing something wrong. My mother must have noticed it because she never punished me with house arrest or taking my toys away. She did punish my sisters because they didn't care but just a talk was enough for me.

[@disabled.autistic.lesbian]

YUP!! I do a lot of teaching and I always try to reprimand as kindly as humanly possible and include things that they're doing great at in there so it hurts less. I always feel bad because, typically, the ones who need reprimanding are the sensory-seeking ND kids and therefore they get yelled at the most and it hurts the most for them. But I try my best :)

[@rose1527]

Yeah my parents still did that lol. It was extremely hurtful and would usually end with me crying. My mom sometimes could tell when I was beating myself up enough that I didn’t need a lecture, but my dad never did.

[@annadivergent2439]

Whoa, this is totally what I experience 😭

[@adamzak6055]

Yeah RSD is hard. I see tue strugles on a daily basis