My Pre-teen and Teenage Years as a Late-Diagnosed Autistic
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- Опубликовано: 15 окт 2024
- I struggled a lot socially and communicatively during my pre-teen and teenage years as an undiagnosed autistic girl. Sensory issues also prevented me from participating in activities which may have otherwise been beneficial. Me being “just another weirdo” was me trying my absolute best to act normal.
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Thank you for sharing your story.There are so many young people right now who are going through what you went through who would benefit from hearing this.I hope that your video gets lots of views.Great job!
Thank you and thanks for watching! 🙂 Young people growing up now with social media have to be so resilient, having so little privacy & the constant fear of public humiliation on such a grand scale. My heart really goes out to them!
Another Gen X here. For the past 2 years I’ve been reading, watching videos, etc. about autism. I believe 100% I’m autistic. I had a very similar childhood, although I only had a few bullies. I was mostly quiet and introverted, sensitive to emotions and animals. I listened to all sorts of music, but got bullied for listening to female artists (I’m a guy). I heard the word gay many times but never understood what it meant in context to the other insults. What was gay about listening to female musicians? I also had almost no friends, just a few acquaintances in high school. Instead of meltdowns, I had shutdowns. I would become mute. One of my 6th grade teachers talked to my mom. I overheard this teacher say I wouldn’t graduate high school because I wouldn’t talk. My mom believed I had hearing issues. She was right in that regards, but being deaf doesn’t explain my behaviors or thinking that aligns with other autistic experiences. Thank you for your wonderful video. We need more Gen X autistic community for support.
It’s great to see another Gen X’er here! From what I’ve seen, a lot of us autistic people from that generation experienced similar challenges, from the bullying & social isolation to a lack of understanding & educational accommodations. I’m sorry for the negative things you experienced. Life can definitely improve once we self-diagnose because that’s where it begins to all make sense. Thank you for watching! 🩶
15:11 "Cute... little sh1t." Oh I love you explaining your experiences. I can relate soooo many ways despite I am a male being...
Thank you for watching!🙂
Final edit (lol sorry): thank you for an excellent video. Sad in the direct sense, but also the historical sense - there's much to dislike about the 2020s but life for younger autistic people has definitely improved or at least moved into a place where there's the _potential_ for improvement. Sure violence is worse and drugs are way worse and music's a million times worse, but nobody should have to live your school life.
Related tangent (lol) - Nietzsche was fixated on the idea of eternal recurrence: the idea that you have to live your entire life in every detail over again an infinite number of times. Not just the good and not just the bad, with no changes of any kind. His thinking was that being aware of that possibility would lead us to make the most of life going forward, overcome ourselves and move steadily toward 'the superman'. If I had the option of opting in to that, I definitely would, even though it means my entire family dies thinking they raised me wrong lol it sounded at the end like you were coming down on the side of "if I had the choice to _not_ repeat everything I'd choose that" - but is that really where you'd land on that question? Just out of sheer interest.... if you had to live your _entire life_ - not just the bad bits but all of it - exactly the same again, would you be up for it? (I don't think there's a choice in truth: it's either true or not.... and Poincaré was of the view that it actually _was_ possibly the case.)
- original comment before final edit : no need to read it unless you're bored.... the essence is just "yeah I agree with what you said and thank you and I'm sorry you went through that", only more long-winded lol
Hi xxxxxx sorry to give in to my bad habit of commenting before finishing the video, but I can't help but be outraged by the sheer hypocrisy of these people.
On the one hand they're cancelling you for telling the truth to someone who needed to hear the truth - and better from you than from some predator looking to fool around - and on the other hand they're linking music to sex! School's so traumatic sometimes..... but I was listening to Karen (Proudly Autistic) earlier and she made a point she's made before, which strikes me as 'her big idea' and it's this: that in an alternate universe where we were diagnosed that young, _it might not have been the case that being labelled as autistic in [insert year here : 2000 for you lol] would have made for better life outcomes across the board_
OK I'm going to listen to the rest of the video. Thank you for being brave: I know that's a cliché but in this case it's perfectly obvious that this is a hard thing to do but you see importance in showing advance empathy for all the other people with a hurt and indignant inner little girl deserving of a voice.
Edit - first of several most likely - you're onto something with the music thing. It's not necessarily that we _must_ gravitate to a particular thing - it's more that we're not being swept along with the social approval aspect of musical taste, which is obviously an absurdity on its face. As a teenager I was listening to Michael Tippett's "The Ice Break" and Luciano Berio's "Laborintus II".... didn't try to 'convert' my school friends who were all into whatever the heck it is these people listen to lol but I think you've hit the nail on the head - it's the lack of interest _on a musical level_ in conforming to (or even knowing) what was popular. And while music's 'just an interest', it's quite a big deal, because if you're already perceived as weird, and then on top of that your culture is a totally different one, it's little wonder you come to be seen as even weirder. Now of course, fast forward to 2024 and there isn't really any particular 'culture' any more: people listen to all sorts of different things. The idea of everyone knowing all the same songs, TV shows and so on is no longer as powerful as it once was, and I have no idea whether that's a good thing or not. Perhaps for autistic people it's overall a net benefit.
Right, no more pausing I promise! Enjoying the video, just keep getting these "must jot down" thoughts, which is a bad habit. Sorry for constant walls of text.
Your efforts are valued though: this topic's hard, and we all dwell on it. Far from being 'robots' we're among the most reflective people anyone can meet, always contextualising and recontextualising events of the past to fit new information so as to not be unfair to people.
As for Karen's view on the alternate history idea, I think she's 100% right: if I'd been labelled autistic in 1980, I'd have been in big trouble, even worse than what unfolded..... which isn't to say it was all bad, far from it, and no doubt the alternate history version would have been a mixed bag too, just in a 1980s 'special school' instead, probably on all sorts of stupid drugs. (More than in normal universe!)
Right, unpausing: I want to know how that traumatised kid ended up so well-adjusted!
Aaaargh really struggling with this impulsivity lol gonna tie my hands soon ^^ love the pun about "I like big books and I cannot lie" lol and as for 'big words', don't wanna come off as riddled with contempt for our allistic friends, but in what universe could unfamiliar words _ever_ be a bad thing? I had no clue what the heck "alexithymia" was when I first discovered RUclips autism content, but I wasn't sat there going "tsk typical 'big words', I hate these people" lol I was like hmmm ok.... so 'a' for 'without', 'lexi' like lexicon, 'thymia' hmmm nope drawing a blank, don't speak Greek......... very interesting experience. In fact we learn all sorts of new vocabulary and we can plug that stuff in to other words in the future! Now I know if it's got a 'thym' in it, it might be about feelings. (The irony of not recognising 'feelings' in that word isn't entirely lost lol)
And that's not because we're smarty-pantses: I can show people how I put shoes on if they ever think _that_ lol we're just _wired differently_ I guess but in this case it's far from a 'disability', which doesn't make it a 'super-power' either.......... I hate to say it, but 'normal'? Surely (DING!) encountering unfamiliar words should, in a normal healthy _homo sapiens_ be a source of pleasure not whatever it is the people who say 'hmph big words' are feeling.... drawing a total blank: envy? shame? no not really either of those things....... no clue.
Anyway unpausing _again_ - hope you haven't waded through *all this* - final edit is going to go at the very start and just say "thank you, very interesting video" lol
Sorry struggling to stay off the pause button....... very sorry for the SA episodes you experienced. There's no excuse for it. Those schools weren't fit for purpose. They must have been aware. But what really beggars belief is that society would still regard _you_ as the one 'having difficulties with empathy' while you've known first-hand that people will want sexual contact even with people whose response to their 'overture' is obvious fear.... and that moreover and observer _of_ that state of affairs will intuitively blame the one being victimised. If that's empathy I don't want it. Maybe a more clinical, logical appraisal of _behaviour_ is a better foundation for our emotional responses to events. But it's more than that: if you'd been the observer you wouldn't have sided with the perpetrators to the extent that you felt anger and resentment toward the victim! That goes way beyond conformity into something frankly pathological. It's one thing to remain silent while 'we' shoot white phosphorus into Fallujah but quite another to literally turn around and actively choose to dislike a 12-year-old girl for objecting to being molested by adults.
You smile and laugh a lot and your jokes are hilarious, but we're not oblivious to the seriousness going on here. I'm very sorry you experienced any of this, and very glad that you're how you are, in that you can survive it and integrate it into an identity healthy enough to serve as a very real role model for other people. x
@@ThesilBmfm I’ve so often heard people say how they wish they could relive their teenage years & I always think “No, way. You couldn’t pay me enough.” Just those years though. I haven’t thought much about the rest of it. It’d be good to relive the time with my dogs, especially if I could make different choices and spend even more time with them.
I left out a lot of how religion shaped my life during early childhood & teen years, but it played a huge role. If I had been diagnosed early in life given my environmental circumstances, I can only imagine a very bleak outcome. Probably as you said with “special” school and medications, ending badly later on.
I had to move very far away and struggle to become as well adjusted as I managed to be, which isn’t all that great but could be much worse. A sense of humor helped.
@@Sensory0verlord you don't _have_ to deep-dive the religion question given the focused nature of your channel, but if it's something you're interested in talking about, I for one would *love* to consume some God content!
Have you dabbled in other religions and various other ways of thinking? I know some of us try many things. I very nearly became a Hindu just over a year ago, to the great irritation of my friend whose son we went to see over Christmas and she just _knew_ I was going to do the Hindu bit, only to be aghast to see me chit-chatting with her son's partner's mother about Zen Buddhism instead lol
Not knowledgeable just eclectic in a dumb way. Ditto politics: if you'd told me in 2015 that I wouldn't _always_ be an anarcho-capitalist I'd have been angry lol
Is your relationship to the religious tradition you grew up in nuanced or entirely negative? I don't mind shitting on the Scofield Bible so if you want to go hard, there's an audience. I bet a lot of the militant atheists would eat it up. And the trad-caths and orthodox LARPers lol
That's not to shit on _Alabama_ though. (Not only because of the Mises Institute either lol)
Appalachia is my people so I'm automatically a little bit ethno-nepotistic in your favour. (Doesn't mean _you_ don't have a right to go full JD Vance though if you choose to! Being part of the tribe means we get to be mean in ways people who aren't don't.)
Do you think your sense of humour was in part formed _by_ your early life when you were learning how to do it? Or maybe an autism thing? Or 'just' unique to your personality?
(My childhood notebook left me by my Mum mentions wordplay, punning and laughing at the crap I was coming out with very early on, so maybe it's part of autism.... but small sample size and personal bias.)
I love it by the way! Already told more than one person about "I like big books and I cannot lie" lol
@@ThesilBmfm I’ve actually been working on that this week! Since it’s a sensitive topic, I’m taking a little more time, but I’m definitely planning on posting about religion/faith soon.
Also, I think my sense of humor is unique to me as part of my personality, but I may use humor as a coping mechanism sometimes. Oh well. It’s healthier than a lot of the alternatives.
@@Sensory0verlord It feels like a certain style of wordplay/punning is one of the legs of the spider.
I've been reading an old notebook (from the 1970s) my Mum left me and she gives explicit details of 'intentional Spoonerisms' and made-up phrases. Quite possible that's fairly normal for infants/babies and _we just never grew out of it_ - either that or her son wasn't 'gifted' (although naming a minor stomach upset "The Turkey-Lash Gonge" showed early flair lol)
Birdberry made a new low today on its way down to the log-Fibonacci secret level below £5. Short and chill but I've got a slightly irrational attachment to a company I have no real interest in, just because it has BIRD in the name (it doesn't lol)
Incidentally after what you told us in the above video, you have infinite leeway if you decide to tell jokes about things that are genuinely sacred to people. Let's be honest, when people belittle us for using 'big words' or tell us we need to 'apply ourselves' or something, they're mocking something sacred too (the core of life-sustaining dignity) so it's only fair. (Of course I'm not h'actually the one who gets to hand out the God-mode tokens so don't listen to _random wallpost guy_ )
Bobby’s “Everything is the Devil to you, Mama!” rant put words I needed to my childhood repression… I SO APPRECIATE your description. Individuation treated as infernal influence (and being subject to threat of damnation) is COERCIVE and DEBILITATING! Proud we’re still here, Kindred! Been uniquely awesome people the WHOLE TIME, regardless of approval! Blessings!🕸️✨
Yesss! 💯 spot on. Absolutely no good comes from blaming the devil- the ultimate scapegoat for those who lack accountability, refuse responsibility, and the willfully ignorant. I’m also glad we survived and kept our authenticity! ❤️
Thanks for being so open & honest regarding growing up as an undiagnosed neurodivergent individual. I grew up during the 80s too. I can completly relate. As a fan of Japanese Anime & Manga, I love your Demon Slayer tee. Please do a future video of your favourite anime series & movies, or any anime/manga merch you own. Watching in the UK. 🇬🇧
Thank you for watching! That’s a great idea for a video especially since some of my favorite characters could be seen as having neurodivergent traits (Violet Evergarden).
Thanks for sharing. I can relate to a lot of it, social experiences, meltdowns, medication, and liking things not of the norm. I was born in 87 but my experience was similar. 7th grade to 12th is a time i wouldn't want to relive, but thankful i got through it because of a few good, like-minded friends.
Thanks for watching! 🙂 A few good friends can definitely help make tough times more tolerable. I’m just glad there was no social media when I was a teenager!
The gen-x references were great to hear. There seem to be so few of us gen-xers on this platform in the autistic community.
I was obsessed with Duck Tales and 3-2-1 Contact. My little underdeveloped brain thought I would be able to have my own money vault to swim in someday. I didn’t experience much bullying, but I also didn’t try to socialize, and never had close friends (just a few classmates that tolerated me.)
“I love big books and I cannot lie” was a very clever pop culture reference and had me laughing.
Ah, a fellow gen-xer! 🙂 I currently have the Duck Tales theme song stuck in my head. Those were both great shows.
I’m glad you didn’t experience being bullied. It’s so damaging to one’s mental health & nervous system.
Second the "I like big books" gen x!
@@Sensory0verlord People don't realize the life long mental and physical damage it does to the brain. You're not still upset abut something in 7th grade, you had your brain damaged...
Also, the Ducktales theme plays well over everybody wants to rule the world.
@@anthonyrowland9072 Definitely. Unless you’ve experienced some kind of emotional trauma, it’s hard to comprehend how deeply damaging it can be. I can say with certainty that it hurts more and for longer than a broken ankle.
@@Sensory0verlordAny thoughts on Square One TV?
Edit: in the late 80s, Nick At Nite showed reruns of Laugh-In, and I learned a lot about the 60s from that.
"Severely misinformed " hah! This so me! A burning desire for correcting other people !
The struggle is real! Always suppressing that urge to inform, educate, or correct.🤐😆
It was my Dad's records which got me hooked on Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Black Sabbath and co in the 90s. And yes, like you, I was the odd ball for being stuck in the 70s. No-one else I knew listened to that stuff, but I couldn't get enough of it - hooray for Oxfam and the other charity shops which had records for affordable prices. Funnily enough it was only much later that I looked at the words of some of my most favourite songs. I never used to consciously listen to the words, I used to tell myself I didn't care about the words, it was the music I loved (as though the signing wasn't really part of the music??) But then many years later I actually listened carefully to the lyrics of Comfortably Numb. Wow. Alcohol and PInk Floyd lead to being Comfortably Numb, I WAS Comfortably Numb, not feeling, total immersion in the music. Lying flat on my back on the floor with the music turned up really loud. But not really not feeling. In fact an intense welling up of emotion. Not feeling self conscious, not feeling alienated, but almost an out of body connection with the music, full body emotional feeling. Not sure what feeling though, don't know what label to put on it, but very powerful. Music pushes buttons in my brain that nothing else can and it means the world to me. My tastes have widened considerably since the 90s, but have never fitted into pop culture. There's nothing I like better than playing and listening to music. And it would have been great to have met someone who had similar tastes and enthusiasm for music at the time to share that with. In fact that's one of my ambitions - to try and find myself a musical tribe so I can finally share my passion with some other people who care about music too. It's very interesting to see how many of the autistic youtubers have instruments behind them in the room. Pianos, guitars on the wall, were flute teachers, write songs... and I was recently reading about music therapy and how powerful ti can be for helping autistic kids - the notion being that it's a language and a way of communicating which is able to facilitate interaction and dialogue between people without the need for words. Like a more direct brain to brain, machine-code-like communication rather than a superficial level programming language which a spoken language could be seen as. Like music is a hard-wired, innate mode of communication which is deeper and more primal than spoken words. Fascinating (in my opinion at least 🙂). And I wonder if autistic people have a more heightened experience of music, whether the connection goes deeper. Or whether it's just a question of monotropism and becoming fixated on a sort of music and listening to it over and over again, more than other folk? Is it just that music is my "special interest" and that's why it feels so profound and important to me?
One thing I've realised recently is that there are loads and loads of people for whom music seems to mean very little. I don't think I'd really grasped that concept until fairly recently - that there are plenty of people who are not deeply affected by it or need to listen to or play music. i'm thinking that's an interesting theory of mind glitch on my part - I really thought that if only someone was exposed to music properly in some way, they would see the light and would be as moved by it as I feel I am. But it really seems that's not the case. There are people who don't give a toss and my brain finds that vey strange.
Thank you again for making me think.
@matthewbucktrout3291 I think the emotional and physical feelings from music (goosebumps, a lump in the throat) is called musical frisson & not everyone experiences it. One theory is that people who do experience it have the ability to become cognitively immersed in the music and/or are more open to experiences. I definitely do experience frisson with certain songs. Comfortably Numb is one that causes me to physically feel a number of sensations (kind of ironic, I guess. Or maybe not since they’re not uncomfortable 😆). I also think that a lot of music that is consumed by the masses isn’t very technical nor the lyrics very deep (a lot of new country, for example). I don’t connect with it cognitively, therefore I don’t experience any sensations. I’m much more inclined to listen to music that causes frisson. Tunes can be catchy like ear worms, but that’s a totally different thing related to echolalia.
Thank you for getting me thinking about this! Now I’m gonna go make a frisson playlist. 😃
@@Sensory0verlord 🙂 Let me know what's on the playlist you come with please, that would be fun to listen to.
Do you know The Levellers? (grungy English band from the 90s and earlier too I think) - The album Levelling the Land is a favourite of mine - fun musical style and good lyrics for getting into a defiant, I'm going to do things my way sort of mood, quite political, which you may like (or not I guess, depending on your political views).
I've been listening a lot to Tracy Chapman recently. She has quite a few songs which are quite deep lyrically and discuss lots of issues I'm trying to get my head around. My particular favorites include "Telling Stories" "Bridges" and "Crossroads". In fact there are loads of them I like and I'm pretty poor at remembering the track names.
How about Simon and Garfunkel for frissons?
For me which songs do it for me depend on what mood I'm in to start with to a degree. And then consciously or subconsciously the choice of music then amplifies the mood or tries to change it.
You tube is great for discovering new music too don't you think? If you search for something you like and then let youtube suggest a playlist. I've found loads of groups I would never have found otherwise like that. There's probably even a way to share youtube playlists directly I guess.
Maybe I'll have a listen through my Led Zep collection. The one track that springs to mind in particular that used to cause frisson for me was "All my Love" from the "In through the out door" album. I think that album was probably my favourite at the time.
Anyway, I could get carries away and go on far too long, which is often where things then fall apart, so I shall wish you happy listening and look forward to hearing what you chose.
Matthew
@@matthewbucktrout3291 I haven’t heard of The Levellers, but I’ll give them a listen. Simon & Garfunkel definitely give me chills with their perfect harmonies. They’re probably the first music I think of in association with frisson.
Our childhoods were amazingly similar. Same time period. Opposite genders of ourselves and our siblings
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I listened to all of it in all ears. I found the 'knee-trodding' thing in the car where your father though it was because of the car, it broke me into laughter and the thing about your mom saying it was because of demons when a bad thing happened and a miracle when a good thing happened was also funny. I'm sorry if unkowingly offended you in sone sort by feeling like this. Take care
No offense taken whatsoever! My dad & I both thought the car thing was funny too. I try to find the humor in things whenever possible. It makes life so much more enjoyable 🙂
I find you interesting to listen to. I have seen videos that I can't wait till they end. You were a brave child because you didn't follow trends.
Thank you! 😊 I really appreciate the compliment since I have a tendency to ramble & go on side quests.
I'm glad i found u. Thanks for sharing ❤
Thanks for watching! 😊
Amy Grant, 7 Hells! LMAO, me too!
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I read a lot. We got a TV late so I wasn't into popular culture. I liked a German band called Alphaville. And Sinead O'Connor. And Billy Joel. They weren't very popular. Later in high school I got into Metallica also.
8th grade was the worst year for bullying for me (since preschool).
I remember Tom Cruise was the most popular locker picture for girls in my Junior High. I didn't have anyone up in my locker. They asked me if I was a lesbian too because I wasn't into dating yet. I was very confused.
I didn’t have cable tv until I went to college, only what we could pick up with an antenna, so I missed out on quite a bit there. 7th-8th grades were probably the worst for me too.
It’s probably a good thing that I was oblivious to what people said about me most of the time. And the auditory processing disorder probably jumbled up the parts that I did hear. 😆
@@Sensory0verlord Yeah, a lot of people say junior high or middle school is the worst. I think the new hormones kids are getting makes it difficult.
That’s really impressive to me that you started out liking Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd😎✨
I needed to grow into that music.
“I like Big books and I cannot lie”😂 Im intimidated by big books. I admire intense readers.
School felt like jungle law mixed with strict rules. I loved learning, had an easy time making friends but I didnt understand drama and I got bullied a lot. Being “good” in School was not cool. And for me my intellect was my way of being less problematic in my family. Be a good girl.
Your story resonates with me.
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Truth is you annoy their demons😉🔥😎⭐️
Being smart always makes you an outsider.
Started zoloft at 18 too..
now Im on half a dose sertraline. SSRI is dangerous garbage😳
Polyester is horrible and I now understand why I was constantly uncomfortable 😂
I’m not sure I would’ve stumbled across Pink Floyd & Led Zeppelin on my own that young. My brother definitely influenced me! 🙂
I’m intimidated by non-fiction! It’s extremely difficult for me to read. I think that’s because I visualize as I read & need descriptive imagery.
You describe school very accurately! Your experience is relatable also. Agree about SSRIs. They don’t work for me- sleeping 12 hours then lots of stimming/fidgeting while awake. I eventually tapered off completely & later switched to bupropion with much better results.
@@Sensory0verlord I really want to get off them. Last dose is the hardest to taper. Im gonna do it.
Your brother sounds very cool! Or his taste in Music 😁
I find the same with multiple character storyline fiction big books. I’m like “Who is that again? The cousins wifes long lost hobbit friend who turned into a bird” whaaaaat. Im always so confused.
@@MIOLAZARUS I get confused with the characters sometimes too! That’s one reason I love fantasy fiction with all the helpful maps & family tree charts. 😆
@@Sensory0verlord oohhhhh that’s so cool!
If I ever venture into that genre I Will need some recommendations.
I read Harry potter but only the first book then saw the others as movie adoptations. Love that Universe!
your resourcefulness and humor is adorable - i thought butts were poop factories as well. human reproduction still grosses me out. sorry about your highshool bullying - again, similar story here. THERE SHOULD HAVE BEEN ADULTS THAT WE COULD TURN TO. a freeze response is very common to unwanted attention. have you looked into religious trauma?
Thank you!😊 I agree - there should’ve been adults to help. In my situation, I believed it would only make matters worse if I told on them. Who knows. I have looked into religious trauma, and I definitely experienced that. It even gave me nightmares. Stopped being religious & the nightmares stopped.
@@Sensory0verlord I stopped going to church but the nightmares persist😆
Those kids were so innacurate. Corey Haim was definitely the lebian choice. Poor Corey. God rest his soul
He was just the first name that popped into my mind. I liked both of the Coreys back then.
The fact that those kids used that as an insult shows their ignorance. I wasn’t hurt by what they called me once I looked up the definition. I just thought, well that’s inaccurate. I was more embarrassed that they laughed at me for not knowing.
@@Sensory0verlord I remember that feeling. I think, for me, it was the intent to hurt that hurt the most. Bullying is usually lame, not clever at all, but the message is "we don't like you and we want to hurt you and we approve of each other and feel good about wanting to hurt you" or that is how it felt to me
@@livenotbylies That’s exactly the way it feels to me too. I’ll never understand that kind of mentality.
@@Sensory0verlord I think by identifying somebody as "other" they strengthen their identity as a group. Tribalism. I think in traditional cultures with tight knit communities, we would have been safer, but in the transactional, standardizing, institutional environments of modernity, sorting out in-group from out-group has become very dangerous for people who are different
@@livenotbyliesOr we would be too different in traditional cultures and cast out.
OMG! Can we be besties? I want to respond to so much of this video. So I kept editing every time you mentioned a new relatable subject:
That “I like big books and I cannot lie” joke. Jeez, are we the same age?! 😂
Using big words in the Southern US is not received well. Neither is using a non-southern accent! The kids called me a Valley Girl or a yankee.
Same with the demon thing, there a lady at our church who said I was a lesbian and a witch when I was 16 and gave my best friend and I a book about demonic influences that scared the crap out of me.
Also went on Zoloft at 16. I had a meltdown at Chick-fil-A were I was working after taking it for one month.
The skater boys. ❤❤ 🥵 ❤❤ I didn’t understand the look at his butt thing either because eww! but the hair and the clothes and the stoner vibe! ❤❤❤
My school was also redneck central in GA. I had a few friends in high school that were like me. Did you ever watch the show Freaks and Geeks? If you haven’t, you totally should. Also the new show about a set of twins called “HighSchool” if you haven’t see it. ❤
Hi new bestie! It’d be really funny if we were long lost pals who met at church camp in the 90s.😆
Also accused of being a witch. Had my dragon poster & wizard necklace burned because it was “dabbling”🙄
Yes, I’ve seen Freaks and Geeks! Really good show from what I remember & a very accurate representation of my high school years as well. I find Derry Girls pretty relatable also! (The Cranberries♥️)
I’ll have to check that out. Are you on other things? Discord, TikTok…
@@Elvenroyale I’m on TikTok as skogensheks (it means witch of the woods 😆)