I agree with you 100%: my wife and I have been married for 32 years, we follow 4 rules #1 When we argue it is only to learn and not to win, #2 do unto others as you will have them done unto to you,#3 we always speak the truth to each other and what that means is not only we you speak, but also when you hear the truth to acknowledge it.#4 a tree does not grow under another tree, so we each have our own space to grow and develop. I am encouraging my son to follow you, because your principles are my beliefs as well. You are truly a blessing to humanity.
You have a beautiful mind. If humanity would follow this and some other rules we would have a better life on Earth. Right now it seems that humanity only learns through suffering and pain until it will be understood how it works better for everyone.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am 58 and single, but this is because I have always "loved" men that did not love me. At same time I know that I only thought I loved them (My past is too complicated to explain). So until I get this sorted out, I will remain single. But when I do, I will have your words to help "design" the love that is best for me and the other person. Thank you and be safe Sending you and your wife love from Fallbrook California
Very true. Accepting your partner's influence and respecting their freedom is very important. Pick relationships where u can accept the person's interests and flaws in the long term (we all have them); learn to communicate well with that person and have a lot of humor with them - something to decellerate arguments. Learn about the other person and expect that kind of respect back. I have been with my partner 13 yrs, married for almost 3, and these rules of respect and kindness toward each other are what keep us together even when we had no money, when one of us is struggling, etc. We have a lot of good memories, but a lot of our favorite and most funny stories come from struggles we went through together. Still making more of those stories. I hope everyone finds at least one person to share parts of your life with like this. Jon is right thst it is fun :)
So true. This is the best kind of love. My husband and I have been together for almost 19 years and we never even had a fight once. We went through really hard time together, but both of us are totally independent from each other and we never take out our frustrations on each other. We are together because we want to be together, not because we have to. If he left, I would definitely miss my best friend, but my lifestyle would not change very much...
You and your life and experience is a great Lesson for everyone who is with an open mind and heart.. you are inspiring the universe... I am from India Coimbatore Tamil Nadu and I follow your advice and tips on house building, small farming and gardening... thank you...
Wow, such a vulnerable and beautiful story. This is the first time I have ever heard anyone describe the love of marriage and it sounds blissfully. May you continue to enjoy love. Thank you so much for this deeply enlightening talk.
💜 thank you for sharing your anecdotes, insights, thoughts & wisdom with us! salud! my personal history w/love, crushing, lust, relationships, depression & anxiety is similar. very, very difficult and is still a very difficult part of my life. but, we're wiser and more experienced now! & i learned vipassana meditation. life experiences w/self knowledge & awareness really help! ✌️ thank you wise elder! we see each other out here on Earth :)
Jon... Your wife is very blessed to have you... and you her Yes you are shy and reserved but in a very respectful way As I grow older....I like this shy and reserve type. They are well mannered, respectful n sensitive soul... Life got too much of dramas... At the end of the day.. the home has to be peaceful n harmonious or else why bother to get married. Never married n am still single.. I would brave my mid life to be married once and say yes been there and done that during my retirement 😀😀😀 live happily n contented.... *building castles in the air maybe* haha
The way you live is definitely the right and truly the most rich way any human can live. I work on big yachts and I've seen true earthly wealth. It holds no comparison to how you live. Nor do the rich have peace as you have. Those who live on the land have a true inner wealth that can't be found anywhere but in nature. Keep spreading the good news! I'm developing a small piece of land now to withdraw from this harmful system. Can't wait to live with less and yet much much more. Peace out brother!
Jon, I feel like you're my parent figure, I learned and still learning a lot from you. I had no idea how it feels to have a father. Thanks, may God protect and guide you. . To Him (God) belongs whatever is in the sky/ beyond the sky and whatever is on the earth and whatever is in between and whatever is underground. Ta-Ha:6
From the grand Elder the la Parama: You are a hero Jon. The relation between the man and the woman is call consort...No-one own any-one. The man is equal to woman and the woman is equal to man. Consort Alliance is the true relation...Call Her Consortia and she call her man Consortio or Consort for both man and woman...Here is something funny love means lave, lava, this means to wash. so I love you is I wash you..Loving you forever is washing you forever.
Well....John ...after listening to you,I was able to define love. Love is a feeling you need to share and in return you'll receive it. At times you have to give it first before feeling love. Loving somebody is not ownership, it is more like giving oneself voluntarily. Loving somebody is a happy and beautiful feeling but it doen't mean there is no sacrifices. I am a Filipino by the way. Good luck to you.
I'm resonating with your philosophy so much I'm watching all your videos. Ive been married twice and now living alone with my dog. People today are so confused on their natural roles for happiness. I believe You have to love yourself first.
I think good things come to those that wait! The choice of life partner is so crucial and can result in family and children so ….. taking your time is sometimes a good approach, if you want a sustainable family unit and after children leave the nest (if that ever happens?) life long happiness….. I won the love lottery! 😎 27 years …. But not counting!
The same perspective here, actually i think if love restricts your freedom, dreams and happiness, it's not love at all. Just enjoy your life, take your own way even at that time you're lonely. During your journey, someone will *drop* :) in your life who is able to listen to u, understand u, share the same feelings and opinions w u. Always enjoy to watch any videos from mr.jon ♡
Most people don't know how to love themselves, let alone other people. You know what they say - if you can't stand being alone then you must be in bad company. "Love is our true essence." "We are all beads strung together on the same thread of love." “If we deny love that is given to us, if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss, then our lives will be empty, our loss greater.”
Hi Jandai, a very insightful video, and hearing of your experience of love. I think we start of thinking love is a certain way or feeling from the examples we had around us from family or friends, or from movies and books, and a lot of guess work :) I think and this is from my observations and experience is that love is not something you can section of into pieces, meaning; say I meet John and we start dating then we fall in love, now if I was to meet Ben and we have an attraction I would have to ignore that as I am supposed to be in love with John. so that is how love is devided up, like you can love only this one person and no other person except your parents or family or children. but if you say you love Ben that is frowned upon.to me that is not what LOVE is, to me LOVE does not pick and choose and section off and say me only or else. also I think the suffering that we attach to love needs to be looked at again, why? because LOVE is very closely connected with freedom it needs to move freely, the suffering comes from trying to box LOVE into compartments with conditions. I would say that suffering comes from what you thing love is, to what LOVE really is, and when you discover what REAL LOVE is there wont be any suffering with that kind of LOVE.No one should ever be afraid of LOVE thinking that to love you have to suffer. we need to unlearn what we have been taught about love, and learn to see what REAL LOVE is through new eyes and define it for ourselves. No ones definition of love fits everyone. so you have to discover your definition of LOVE for you and live that, and those whose have the same definition will gravitate to each other :) Thank you a gain Jon Jandai for your video
I share the same thoughts about love. Thank you for making this video Jon. I do not meet very many women, I'm not shy but the women seem to be. Very difficult to meet face to face. No one yet wants to hang out at camp and make good energy with creation. As I try, no success, it is difficult to navigate., suffering and my body is aging fast now as a result. . I was married for 30 years, now single for 5, yes there is freedom but relationships are difficult for the modernized human. Most are not willing to have suffering and happiness together. a willingness to play,
enjoy pun pun love experiment share ... discovering new love designed by one another, wonderful, mindful ,caring and respectful, worth trying and enjoy becoming a better human being... kab kuhn kab Jon for your soulful ,mindful , fun sharing love 🙏... liv n light n peace n lovament... :)
God bless you Master Jon for sharing your experience on love matters. God bless you for staying a virgin no matter the circumstances. you have wisdom. of God I send blessings to you and your family from Kenya.
You mentioned about feelings, mindfullness, emotion, n etc... Vipassana taught us not to react to any thing, and we go deep into our sub conscious mind, to take control of it. Every thing rises and must go away. nothing is permenant, annica , we just do not react to it and let it pass away, because it will go away and if we don't react to it then it passes away n we don't feel it. we will then find peace in mind. if we react it can be verbal and worst physical and it becomes violent. in this way if we do not react to it then we have peace in mind....
This is true--if you can also give yourself love to soothe the pain that arises. It is not just attention but compassionate attention that addresses the causes of pain.
thank you sir jon for this beautiful words of wisdom. i understand you a lot because at the moment i feel what you felt before. because of my diifferent understanding about relationship..im more on premitive times when all people are in 2020 already.. :).. but im right on not to dwell so.much on searching because in life, its not the.really the most.important thing
Love is respect, freedom, learning to live happily, enjoying to grow together, supporting eachother, agreeing to join love and suffering together. Love with consciousness and mindfulness.
This should be translated in every language of the world and broadcasted globally. If everybody loved like him, there wouldn't be any more war on Earth! God bless you Jon! 😘🙏😉🤗💖😁😄
I wish I could meet you. You have so much wisdom and life experience. You are a great teacher. Do you have a program where you invite foreign visitors and teach them to farm at your farm??
Jon Jandai Life is Easy Thank you Jon. I will get all my stuff ready and save my money so I can go when covid gets better. I found more info since I watched most off your videos last night for hours. Because of covid I moved to my moms house and she has a yard that is over taken by weeds. I was already thinking of starting a food garden because things are very scary here in the USA but your channel brought me a little peace and a lot of hope and inspiration! I wish I could grow papayas here in California but I might have to settle for cantaloupe 😉
where about you lived in Thailand. I am also into water since 2008. I have used micro nano bubbles to do many water projects equal farming , agriculture and many more. I am very interested to make drinking water for the mass.
The problem is. This thing is not practical in real life. Especially in the city. After marry and having kids, the women need to stay home. If women try to work outside house + take care the children, it will be so exhausting and need many work. The man itself cant take care the children becouse of work. One need to be at home and one need to get the money. You can talk like this Jon Jandai becouse you are a farmer, you dont need to work to get food. You can take care the children when you have free time. But in the city? No. No time and energy to take both activity. One need to stay home and one need to work get money
Hello It is nice to know you here I would like to build an earthen building that look exactly like Ox Cart shape Do you know any of your friends or people who want to live as your life is living ? Please ask them to come and help building my dream house with me in Siem Reap Province, Angkor Wat, the Kingdom of Cambodia!
I fully understand all you have went through but more important so long we have done something that benefit the mass. Misery are brought upon by ourself. I practise Vipassana meditation by oenka. I attended the course in lumpung chiangmai and also in phitsannulok. Please if you can go for this 10 days beginner Vipassana meditation. I am sure you will merge a new person.
thx Jon! here is my 2 cents opinion: true love is not self seeking... it is other centered. we can see that in nature - bees pollinate the flowers, flowers gives nectar to bees as food; rain falls to land that gives life to plants, animals, birds, and every living creatures; - not all water get absorbed, some water flows to river that sustain life to water creatures, then flows to the ocean... in every stage, water evaporates as cloud to become rain and cycle again; we breath out carbon dioxide that plant needs - plant gives oxygen that we (human) breath in - a never ending cycle of giving etc etc... if the body of water stops flowing the cycle of giving also stops (example Dead Sea - it only receives water but not gives! - as far as I know there's no living creatures in there, as the water itself is very salty); - these are the realities I can see. love needs more than 2 people to complete that cycle of giving. According to study, when only two people are in love, adoring and mirroring each other - later on it will become narcissistic. Once a baby is added in the family - one spouse becomes jealous because the attention of the other half is divided (attention he receives is not 100% anymore).
First of all it was biological attraction between man and woman, it is Not Love. Love is how tolerance you can go with someone and accept his or her reality and improve through encouragement together. This depends on how a person grow up, so children having bad example in life will make them divorce or quarrel easily. Children grew up from broken family will think Love is owning someone like put a bird in cage, instead True Love is like feeding the bird and make sure it continue to be free, trust and intimate with us. There is NO contract more beautiful than sincerity to serve. Man made contract is a suffering. By the way I think your curiosity gives you many good answer, you are someone looking for answer.. SO TRY Jesus or the Bible. Just as you ask us to try the things you discovered.
with all due respect , mr. Jandai does not seem 2be in need of any christian bible . LovingKindness , Compassion , Inquiery as to understand suffering in human Life (the benefit of the Dharma by daily practise ) are encompassing the teachings of the NT , which can be disputed anyways cos of kingJamesbible- versions being KingJames stuff , not Source material . Yeshua might well have been roaming the Indian subcontinent for a good while , b4 bringin it all back home to Palestine :) in Essence there are no contradictions in Yeshuas & the Buddha s teachings
Good morning Jon..same day just after your lonliness video.. I will tell you what my eyes and ears ..See of you... You have again put the Woman on a pedestal... That is your weakness..shy..and You believing you are ..poor .... You are Wealthy in so many ways... but you need More women in your life.. You say you are Free as she is...but you are Chained to Your Weaknesses... Your eyes speak Greater Sadness... Try to Bring in your mind that You Are the Equal of your partner... Not the lesser of the two !! So. the house you call home..Cannot be home Until More Human Sounds are Filling it. Not quarrels... But the sounds of movements..and dishes and sounds of cooking..singing..and laughter. You are doing as I have done Denied Your Body Joys..Kind sex heals..calls. the mind and body to Join in unison to Sing songs only the soul understands...sex is a spiritual ceremony between 2 peoples at one time... More than 2 in sex causes. like an overdose of potentcies the brain cannot handle..except to cause each participant to pass out with exhaustion..and not Pleasured orgasms. Pleasure is missing f or your body Jon...what has your body done to and for you Jon that You decided to deny it what you know it calls for ? My self punishing of denying my body Pleasures it has earned working for me...well...it is so late..my body Has to Scream At me in my sleep now...for me to say.... Oh My Dear Body Yes I will Pleasure You. for you have been Only Good to me.... Jon. start knowing women by dancing with them..or asking the woman if she will slow dance with you. Slow dancing is a nice way to know intamicy...and to understand. touching..sitting close.. you have a wife who has Helped You to Agree to Her ideas...and You have confirmed such out of Adorations of her being above and over you. Your choices thru your shyness. You are saying you do not mind her being with other men..because If You choose to ..she says it is ok with her..Because she Knows You Are Too Shy to be even near a woman !!! Jon. your ..wife.... knows she will Always. have a roof over her head..and food etc..and soon you will hear the whispers of Abuses she. no doubt shall start experiencing...and Hiding from you by her staying away until the traces of bruises disappear from her flesh. Whom as another man dhal cherish. Her ???? Knowing Her Weakness for Sex. I tell you this your ..wife... has a Very High Libido...and she uses your shyness. to Freely. Please Herself...Because you do not understand that she sees you as maybe uninterested because of your Fears of sexual Passions you keep denying both of you. Does she repell from your touch Jon? If she does there is Something about it that is Not Normal. Sex is not 1 thing it is many...it is Love ..it is a Toy shared by 2 bodies to Pleasure Both and it may be for relaxiation..fun...or a need to remove stress Lovingly...Sex is a Natural kinds of several body massages...it feeds a healthy heart that in turn feeds a healthy body..it is exercises that build good character..it brings forth smiles and bright eyes...it is for any time it is desired as long as it is not interferring with needed work... Sex is a gift that done with kindness keeps on giving...and sometimes the. teasing by waiting to share it causes mostly the male to become overtaken with the needs to just rest a bit more...because the male response to sex is like a kind of Blessed Exhaustion. I was a very aware sex partner..and I would feel solo Great that I had Pleasured my mate..that it Revitalized me for the day because it gave Me Pride in Pleasuring him that way. I put dinner on the back burner..or turned it off when ok..to continue cooking after. fun sex. It happened when he was under a car or truck and just his lower torso was available to me...he could Not refuse me...and it was Safe for no-one was around...and he just laid there Smiling and sighing..and I brought him a beer or coffee..and we used to smoke just cigarettes after sex. I was young and wild ..but I also worked very hard too. I was Never much for ..timed sex.... it was Never a NO! to him until he started watching smutty videos..and got Abusive sexually... that I started to Refuse...and he told me he Wanted More than I was ...and that he Never loved me..he just loved the s e x. I gave him..but it became tiresome because there was not enough passionate roughness in it! He got Very Rough..and I did the same to him but he did Not like That!!! I tried to reintroduce him to natural wild Passions..but. he chose other. Abusive Sexual Avenues... Well you say you want to talk to women about sex...poverty has Nothing to do about sex ..Real Love etc.... Personally. ...I would share you with a harem..because I believe You Need Family. and lots of. well mannered kids...Not Bratts..! You I Believe Can and Would Love and be Kind 100% to each ..wife...in it. No jealous wife in a harem...and Freedom to Appreciate each one ..so long as You can manage the time to spend together as a Loving household and seperately as each wife requests your. body for pleasures and having your children. If you would be sterile by nature or choice..then you must say so for the health of each woman's mind and heart to be True to you..and the health of the harem. When Life is True even the earth rejoices...more so with babies..but also without them. Pregnancy should be agreed upon before sex...Never afterthought...that causes stress and. bad emotions in the relationships all round. Just 2 people are also more than one...Because every changing emotion brings out a new persona..! Much Loves to you Jon...and Dance Jon..slow dancing holding closer and closer.. if you cannot speak at first..just hum and make happy sounds of Joy. like inhaling her scented perfume and saying how it is so Beautiful a fragrance.... Or take her hand and ask to go walking..smiling at her and telling her Her Beauties she has. Just start with her face and touching her face and hair... as you speak it will Please Her to hear it and You for being brave to say it. !! Romance Jon .... Real Words ..Real gentle touches and kisses on her cheek..just like in the movies..only kinder and Patience Jon..because in order for any Flower to Blossom..You Must Feed It Carefully . Never over water with Adorations..that can become an overkill of sorts ! You Must Matter Too...not always 50 50...sometimes 10. 90 ...sometimes just quiet holding and nestling..so that both bodies are not expected to do anything more than Enjoy each others company. Much Loves. Moi from Maine USA. I have left my mistakes in spelling Because. I am far from perfect Jon..and I have an excellent use of. the American English language . you should Relax more Jon..you are yet do shy nut so Brave .Smiling at you Jon..because you are yet so Innocent..and That Is A Great Quality . Much Loves to and for You Jon..I hope many women will just write to you here..and help you to know we are all as You Are ..Humans
Hello It is nice to know you here I would like to build an earthen building that look exactly like Ox Cart shape Do you know any of your friends or people who want to live as your life is living ? Please ask them to come and help building my dream house with me in Siem Reap Province, Angkor Wat, the Kingdom of Cambodia!
You're a great man. Much love and respect to you from Africa.
I agree with you 100%: my wife and I have been married for 32 years, we follow 4 rules #1 When we argue it is only to learn and not to win, #2 do unto others as you will have them done unto to you,#3 we always speak the truth to each other and what that means is not only we you speak, but also when you hear the truth to acknowledge it.#4 a tree does not grow under another tree, so we each have our own space to grow and develop.
I am encouraging my son to follow you, because your principles are my beliefs as well.
You are truly a blessing to humanity.
Masha Allah Awesome
You have a beautiful mind. If humanity would follow this and some other rules we would have a better life on Earth.
Right now it seems that humanity only learns through suffering and pain until it will be understood how it works better for everyone.
Wow
That's profound
You're one in a few million
Bless you
That's the true meaning of love .
To get married does not mean owning each other.
Respect ,freedome is very imp in love.
Thank you Sir.🙏
Thank you for sharing your story. I am 58 and single, but this is because I have always "loved" men that did not love me. At same time I know that I only thought I loved them (My past is too complicated to explain).
So until I get this sorted out, I will remain single. But when I do, I will have your words to help "design" the love that is best for me and the other person.
Thank you and be safe
Sending you and your wife love from Fallbrook California
Very true. Accepting your partner's influence and respecting their freedom is very important. Pick relationships where u can accept the person's interests and flaws in the long term (we all have them); learn to communicate well with that person and have a lot of humor with them - something to decellerate arguments. Learn about the other person and expect that kind of respect back. I have been with my partner 13 yrs, married for almost 3, and these rules of respect and kindness toward each other are what keep us together even when we had no money, when one of us is struggling, etc. We have a lot of good memories, but a lot of our favorite and most funny stories come from struggles we went through together. Still making more of those stories. I hope everyone finds at least one person to share parts of your life with like this. Jon is right thst it is fun :)
So true. This is the best kind of love. My husband and I have been together for almost 19 years and we never even had a fight once. We went through really hard time together, but both of us are totally independent from each other and we never take out our frustrations on each other. We are together because we want to be together, not because we have to. If he left, I would definitely miss my best friend, but my lifestyle would not change very much...
Thank you. May the universe bless you and your family.
I wish I could have a face to conversation with you. Keep doing what you do. Stay cool dude.
You and your life and experience is a great Lesson for everyone who is with an open mind and heart.. you are inspiring the universe... I am from India Coimbatore Tamil Nadu and I follow your advice and tips on house building, small farming and gardening... thank you...
Wow, such a vulnerable and beautiful story. This is the first time I have ever heard anyone describe the love of marriage and it sounds blissfully. May you continue to enjoy love. Thank you so much for this deeply enlightening talk.
may the Almighty God Bless you indeed for the powerful words that are connected to word of God
Thank you very much for your works
💜 thank you for sharing your anecdotes, insights, thoughts & wisdom with us! salud! my personal history w/love, crushing, lust, relationships, depression & anxiety is similar. very, very difficult and is still a very difficult part of my life. but, we're wiser and more experienced now! & i learned vipassana meditation. life experiences w/self knowledge & awareness really help! ✌️ thank you wise elder! we see each other out here on Earth :)
Jon... Your wife is very blessed to have you... and you her
Yes you are shy and reserved but in a very respectful way
As I grow older....I like this shy and reserve type. They are well mannered, respectful n sensitive soul... Life got too much of dramas... At the end of the day.. the home has to be peaceful n harmonious or else why bother to get married.
Never married n am still single.. I would brave my mid life to be married once and say yes been there and done that during my retirement 😀😀😀 live happily n contented.... *building castles in the air maybe* haha
The way you live is definitely the right and truly the most rich way any human can live. I work on big yachts and I've seen true earthly wealth. It holds no comparison to how you live. Nor do the rich have peace as you have. Those who live on the land have a true inner wealth that can't be found anywhere but in nature. Keep spreading the good news!
I'm developing a small piece of land now to withdraw from this harmful system. Can't wait to live with less and yet much much more. Peace out brother!
So well explained Jon sir, you and your wife compliment each other. The Idea of love is to multiply joy :)
Jon, I feel like you're my parent figure, I learned and still learning a lot from you. I had no idea how it feels to have a father. Thanks, may God protect and guide you.
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To Him (God) belongs whatever is in the sky/ beyond the sky and whatever is on the earth and whatever is in between and whatever is underground. Ta-Ha:6
Wise words Sir. Thank you, for sharing.
Love and respect from india you are doing very good work for us helping to people happy and easy life
A married couple must love and suffer together. Otherwise, deep resentment builds up. Thanks, Jon! Xoxo
From the grand Elder the la Parama: You are a hero Jon. The relation between the man and the woman is call consort...No-one own any-one. The man is equal to woman and the woman is equal to man. Consort Alliance is the true relation...Call Her Consortia and she call her man Consortio or Consort for both man and woman...Here is something funny love means lave, lava, this means to wash. so I love you is I wash you..Loving you forever is washing you forever.
you struck the cord with me, grow up as such. Thank you for sharing your story
I love your story am a single person who share your story
Well....John ...after listening to you,I was able to define love. Love is a feeling you need to share and in return you'll receive it. At times you have to give it first before feeling love. Loving somebody is not ownership, it is more like giving oneself voluntarily. Loving somebody is a happy and beautiful feeling but it doen't mean there is no sacrifices. I am a Filipino by the way. Good luck to you.
Thank you for sharing your thought about love. This is very inspiring. - From Indonesia.
I'm resonating with your philosophy so much I'm watching all your videos. Ive been married twice and now living alone with my dog. People today are so confused on their natural roles for happiness. I believe You have to love yourself first.
I love you so much brother. God bless you and give you good health. I feel the same way. My love to your family... From India.
I think good things come to those that wait! The choice of life partner is so crucial and can result in family and children so ….. taking your time is sometimes a good approach, if you want a sustainable family unit and after children leave the nest (if that ever happens?) life long happiness….. I won the love lottery! 😎 27 years …. But not counting!
Your love story is nice.......you are a role model for living easy life!!
The same perspective here, actually i think if love restricts your freedom, dreams and happiness, it's not love at all. Just enjoy your life, take your own way even at that time you're lonely. During your journey, someone will *drop* :) in your life who is able to listen to u, understand u, share the same feelings and opinions w u. Always enjoy to watch any videos from mr.jon ♡
So lovely man!
Most people don't know how to love themselves, let alone other people. You know what they say - if you can't stand being alone then you must be in bad company. "Love is our true essence." "We are all beads strung together on the same thread of love." “If we deny love that is given to us, if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss, then our lives will be empty, our loss greater.”
Hi Jandai, a very insightful video, and hearing of your experience of love. I think we start of thinking love is a certain way or feeling from the examples we had around us from family or friends, or from movies and books, and a lot of guess work :) I think and this is from my observations and experience is that love is not something you can section of into pieces, meaning; say I meet John and we start dating then we fall in love, now if I was to meet Ben and we have an attraction I would have to ignore that as I am supposed to be in love with John. so that is how love is devided up, like you can love only this one person and no other person except your parents or family or children. but if you say you love Ben that is frowned upon.to me that is not what LOVE is, to me LOVE does not pick and choose and section off and say me only or else. also I think the suffering that we attach to love needs to be looked at again, why? because LOVE is very closely connected with freedom it needs to move freely, the suffering comes from trying to box LOVE into compartments with conditions. I would say that suffering comes from what you thing love is, to what LOVE really is, and when you discover what REAL LOVE is there wont be any suffering with that kind of LOVE.No one should ever be afraid of LOVE thinking that to love you have to suffer. we need to unlearn what we have been taught about love, and learn to see what REAL LOVE is through new eyes and define it for ourselves. No ones definition of love fits everyone. so you have to discover your definition of LOVE for you and live that, and those whose have the same definition will gravitate to each other :) Thank you a gain Jon Jandai for your video
I share the same thoughts about love. Thank you for making this video Jon. I do not meet very many women, I'm not shy but the women seem to be. Very difficult to meet face to face. No one yet wants to hang out at camp and make good energy with creation. As I try, no success, it is difficult to navigate., suffering and my body is aging fast now as a result. . I was married for 30 years, now single for 5, yes there is freedom but relationships are difficult for the modernized human. Most are not willing to have suffering and happiness together. a willingness to play,
Jon
There is absolutely everything GREAT AND GOOD ABOUT being a virgin at 30, that really is a fantastic accomplishment.
this man deserves a nobleprize
Love you Mr. Jon Jandai. You are my life's teacher. I loved to live like yours. Lives simple, but very happy.
enjoy pun pun love experiment share ... discovering new love designed by one another, wonderful, mindful ,caring and respectful, worth trying and enjoy becoming a better human being... kab kuhn kab Jon for your soulful ,mindful , fun sharing love 🙏... liv n light n peace n lovament... :)
God bless you Master Jon for sharing your experience on love matters. God bless you for staying a virgin no matter the circumstances. you have wisdom. of God I send blessings to you and your family from Kenya.
Love it thank you
You mentioned about feelings, mindfullness, emotion, n etc... Vipassana taught us not to react to any thing, and we go deep into our sub conscious mind, to take control of it. Every thing rises and must go away. nothing is permenant, annica , we just do not react to it and let it pass away, because it will go away and if we don't react to it then it passes away n we don't feel it. we will then find peace in mind. if we react it can be verbal and worst physical and it becomes violent. in this way if we do not react to it then we have peace in mind....
This is true--if you can also give yourself love to soothe the pain that arises. It is not just attention but compassionate attention that addresses the causes of pain.
I'm shy too but with your video I'm now inspired to try to find a lady willing to live together with those perspectives. Thank you.
Sir, you insipired other people.that was amazing.
Be yourself and use open communication, everybody 😉
Advice I learned the long way.
Keep doing what you do and live, Mother’s Earth Lessons
U r divine 🙏🏽
Jon Jandai: "Life is easy"
Us: What about love?
Jon: 6:18
Underrated comment 🤣
😂😂😂😂 made me laugh
To love with control is like filling a bucket with a hole in it
thank you sir jon for this beautiful words of wisdom. i understand you a lot because at the moment i feel what you felt before. because of my diifferent understanding about relationship..im more on premitive times when all people are in 2020 already.. :)..
but im right on not to dwell so.much on searching because in life, its not the.really the most.important thing
Cool x
I wish more men would understand this.
Love is respect, freedom, learning to live happily, enjoying to grow together, supporting eachother, agreeing to join love and suffering together. Love with consciousness and mindfulness.
That’s true and I really like it to learn more and experimenting and joy of each other’s removed jellus and give respect.
This should be translated in every language of the world and broadcasted globally. If everybody loved like him, there wouldn't be any more war on Earth!
God bless you Jon!
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I learn more
your why of love is the right way
I agree with you ka
Love you sir
I wish I could meet you. You have so much wisdom and life experience. You are a great teacher. Do you have a program where you invite foreign visitors and teach them to farm at your farm??
We normally have workshops often but now we can't .When the covid get tired we will start again.
Jon Jandai Life is Easy Thank you Jon. I will get all my stuff ready and save my money so I can go when covid gets better. I found more info since I watched most off your videos last night for hours. Because of covid I moved to my moms house and she has a yard that is over taken by weeds. I was already thinking of starting a food garden because things are very scary here in the USA but your channel brought me a little peace and a lot of hope and inspiration! I wish I could grow papayas here in California but I might have to settle for cantaloupe 😉
You are fun
You have enligthened me about relationship.. hoping men thinks like you .
Because of tedx, now i followed you and idolize you jon
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where about you lived in Thailand. I am also into water since 2008. I have used micro nano bubbles to do many water projects equal farming , agriculture and many more. I am very interested to make drinking water for the mass.
Chiang Mai . www.punpunthailand.org
@@JonJandaiLifeisEasy I been to chiangmai many times. I so to the samantha meditation centre. I like chiangmai very much.
This guy is like me in many aspects
Oh godness! You know what i think , Mr John
Same thing I want, lets see
The problem is. This thing is not practical in real life. Especially in the city. After marry and having kids, the women need to stay home. If women try to work outside house + take care the children, it will be so exhausting and need many work. The man itself cant take care the children becouse of work. One need to be at home and one need to get the money. You can talk like this Jon Jandai becouse you are a farmer, you dont need to work to get food. You can take care the children when you have free time. But in the city? No. No time and energy to take both activity. One need to stay home and one need to work get money
Teacher's Jon...please respon. how to explain to our wife to change purpose of life.
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love is release it is not a sentence,
Hi Jandai, iI am Near from Vietnam.
I wish one day I can find the person who is just like you
Hello
It is nice to know you here
I would like to build an earthen building that look exactly like Ox Cart shape
Do you know any of your friends or people who want to live as your life is living ?
Please ask them to come and help building my dream house with me in Siem Reap Province, Angkor Wat, the Kingdom of Cambodia!
I wish I can help you but I don't know how.
@@kimtengtee5876 🙂 thanks for kind of me but you don't have to
I fully understand all you have went through but more important so long we have done something that benefit the mass. Misery are brought upon by ourself. I practise Vipassana meditation by oenka. I attended the course in lumpung chiangmai and also in phitsannulok. Please if you can go for this 10 days beginner Vipassana meditation. I am sure you will merge a new person.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Why paypal do you have to spam multiple loud ads of the same thing in this quiet peaceful video 🤯
Love is all but dead in the Western World.
thx Jon!
here is my 2 cents opinion: true love is not self seeking... it is other centered. we can see that in nature - bees pollinate the flowers, flowers gives nectar to bees as food; rain falls to land that gives life to plants, animals, birds, and every living creatures; - not all water get absorbed, some water flows to river that sustain life to water creatures, then flows to the ocean... in every stage, water evaporates as cloud to become rain and cycle again; we breath out carbon dioxide that plant needs - plant gives oxygen that we (human) breath in - a never ending cycle of giving etc etc... if the body of water stops flowing the cycle of giving also stops (example Dead Sea - it only receives water but not gives! - as far as I know there's no living creatures in there, as the water itself is very salty); - these are the realities I can see.
love needs more than 2 people to complete that cycle of giving. According to study, when only two people are in love, adoring and mirroring each other - later on it will become narcissistic. Once a baby is added in the family - one spouse becomes jealous because the attention of the other half is divided (attention he receives is not 100% anymore).
First of all it was biological attraction between man and woman, it is Not Love. Love is how tolerance you can go with someone and accept his or her reality and improve through encouragement together. This depends on how a person grow up, so children having bad example in life will make them divorce or quarrel easily. Children grew up from broken family will think Love is owning someone like put a bird in cage, instead True Love is like feeding the bird and make sure it continue to be free, trust and intimate with us. There is NO contract more beautiful than sincerity to serve. Man made contract is a suffering.
By the way I think your curiosity gives you many good answer, you are someone looking for answer.. SO TRY Jesus or the Bible. Just as you ask us to try the things you discovered.
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with all due respect , mr. Jandai does not seem 2be in need of any christian bible . LovingKindness , Compassion , Inquiery as to understand suffering in human Life (the benefit of the Dharma by daily practise )
are encompassing the teachings of the NT , which can be disputed anyways cos of kingJamesbible- versions being KingJames stuff , not Source material .
Yeshua might well have been roaming the Indian subcontinent for a good while , b4 bringin it all back home to Palestine :)
in Essence there are no contradictions in Yeshuas & the Buddha s teachings
Good morning Jon..same day just after your lonliness video.. I will tell you what my eyes and ears ..See of you... You have again put the Woman on a pedestal... That is your weakness..shy..and You believing you are ..poor .... You are Wealthy in so many ways... but you need More women in your life.. You say you are Free as she is...but you are Chained to Your Weaknesses... Your eyes speak Greater Sadness... Try to Bring in your mind that You Are the Equal of your partner... Not the lesser of the two !! So. the house you call home..Cannot be home Until More Human Sounds are Filling it. Not quarrels... But the sounds of movements..and dishes and sounds of cooking..singing..and laughter. You are doing as I have done Denied Your Body Joys..Kind sex heals..calls. the mind and body to Join in unison to Sing songs only the soul understands...sex is a spiritual ceremony between 2 peoples at one time... More than 2 in sex causes. like an overdose of potentcies the brain cannot handle..except to cause each participant to pass out with exhaustion..and not Pleasured orgasms. Pleasure is missing f or your body Jon...what has your body done to and for you Jon that You decided to deny it what you know it calls for ? My self punishing of denying my body Pleasures it has earned working for me...well...it is so late..my body Has to Scream At me in my sleep now...for me to say.... Oh My Dear Body Yes I will Pleasure You. for you have been Only Good to me.... Jon. start knowing women by dancing with them..or asking the woman if she will slow dance with you. Slow dancing is a nice way to know intamicy...and to understand. touching..sitting close.. you have a wife who has Helped You to Agree to Her ideas...and You have confirmed such out of Adorations of her being above and over you. Your choices thru your shyness. You are saying you do not mind her being with other men..because If You choose to ..she says it is ok with her..Because she Knows You Are Too Shy to be even near a woman !!! Jon. your ..wife.... knows she will Always. have a roof over her head..and food etc..and soon you will hear the whispers of Abuses she. no doubt shall start experiencing...and Hiding from you by her staying away until the traces of bruises disappear from her flesh. Whom as another man dhal cherish. Her ???? Knowing Her Weakness for Sex. I tell you this your ..wife... has a Very High Libido...and she uses your shyness. to Freely. Please Herself...Because you do not understand that she sees you as maybe uninterested because of your Fears of sexual Passions you keep denying both of you. Does she repell from your touch Jon? If she does there is Something about it that is Not Normal. Sex is not 1 thing it is many...it is Love ..it is a Toy shared by 2 bodies to Pleasure Both and it may be for relaxiation..fun...or a need to remove stress Lovingly...Sex is a Natural kinds of several body massages...it feeds a healthy heart that in turn feeds a healthy body..it is exercises that build good character..it brings forth smiles and bright eyes...it is for any time it is desired as long as it is not interferring with needed work... Sex is a gift that done with kindness keeps on giving...and sometimes the. teasing by waiting to share it causes mostly the male to become overtaken with the needs to just rest a bit more...because the male response to sex is like a kind of Blessed Exhaustion. I was a very aware sex partner..and I would feel solo Great that I had Pleasured my mate..that it Revitalized me for the day because it gave Me Pride in Pleasuring him that way. I put dinner on the back burner..or turned it off when ok..to continue cooking after. fun sex. It happened when he was under a car or truck and just his lower torso was available to me...he could Not refuse me...and it was Safe for no-one was around...and he just laid there Smiling and sighing..and I brought him a beer or coffee..and we used to smoke just cigarettes after sex. I was young and wild ..but I also worked very hard too. I was Never much for ..timed sex.... it was Never a NO! to him until he started watching smutty videos..and got Abusive sexually... that I started to Refuse...and he told me he Wanted More than I was ...and that he Never loved me..he just loved the s e x. I gave him..but it became tiresome because there was not enough passionate roughness in it! He got Very Rough..and I did the same to him but he did Not like That!!! I tried to reintroduce him to natural wild Passions..but. he chose other. Abusive Sexual Avenues... Well you say you want to talk to women about sex...poverty has Nothing to do about sex ..Real Love etc.... Personally. ...I would share you with a harem..because I believe You Need Family. and lots of. well mannered kids...Not Bratts..! You I Believe Can and Would Love and be Kind 100% to each ..wife...in it. No jealous wife in a harem...and Freedom to Appreciate each one ..so long as You can manage the time to spend together as a Loving household and seperately as each wife requests your. body for pleasures and having your children. If you would be sterile by nature or choice..then you must say so for the health of each woman's mind and heart to be True to you..and the health of the harem. When Life is True even the earth rejoices...more so with babies..but also without them. Pregnancy should be agreed upon before sex...Never afterthought...that causes stress and. bad emotions in the relationships all round. Just 2 people are also more than one...Because every changing emotion brings out a new persona..! Much Loves to you Jon...and Dance Jon..slow dancing holding closer and closer.. if you cannot speak at first..just hum and make happy sounds of Joy. like inhaling her scented perfume and saying how it is so Beautiful a fragrance.... Or take her hand and ask to go walking..smiling at her and telling her Her Beauties she has. Just start with her face and touching her face and hair... as you speak it will Please Her to hear it and You for being brave to say it. !! Romance Jon .... Real Words ..Real gentle touches and kisses on her cheek..just like in the movies..only kinder and Patience Jon..because in order for any Flower to Blossom..You Must Feed It Carefully . Never over water with Adorations..that can become an overkill of sorts ! You Must Matter Too...not always 50 50...sometimes 10. 90
...sometimes just quiet holding and nestling..so that both bodies are not expected to do anything more than Enjoy each others company. Much Loves. Moi from Maine USA. I have left my mistakes in spelling Because. I am far from perfect Jon..and I have an excellent use of. the American English language . you should Relax more Jon..you are yet do shy nut so Brave .Smiling at you Jon..because you are yet so Innocent..and That Is A Great Quality . Much Loves to and for You Jon..I hope many women will just write to you here..and help you to know we are all as You Are ..Humans
You are too bad to talk to a wise man like Jon.
Thank you teacher ❤❤❤
99% of people are together for the wrong reasons
LOVE YOUR WIFE AS GOD LOVED US
What you are discussing is the essential philosophy of marriage under Christianity's representation of Lord Jesus Christ imo (two bodies, one flesh)
dont talk of love, well ive heard the word before...
Hello
It is nice to know you here
I would like to build an earthen building that look exactly like Ox Cart shape
Do you know any of your friends or people who want to live as your life is living ?
Please ask them to come and help building my dream house with me in Siem Reap Province, Angkor Wat, the Kingdom of Cambodia!