This is what social media should be! This is a community. Not people talking shit to each other for no reason but sharing personal stories and building each other up. This channel is my favorite because it feels so intimate and real. I love the integrity it has and that your channel doesn't buy into everyone else's "favorites" and make up stuff. I needed something different and didn't know it until now. Thanks, Rachel.
6 months ago after battling with anxiety I moved to London on my own from my home town which is about 3 hours away by car. I never really comment on RUclips videos but I relate so much to the title. I too live in a tiny studio, on my own, no friends around me. But when I realise why I'm here and how well i've done to move away at 19 and overcome what i have had too, my tiny studio and 4 four walls around me make me feel the most alive. Keep up with these videos Rachel, been watching from the start, would love to do the same one day. ... Love from LDN Dan :)
I always find your vlog trully inspirational! I went through something similar. A few years ago I had a group of friends that I thought were my best friends and was terrified of losing, but I never felt fully accepted or that I could be myself around them. I live in a small town and didn't know anyone who liked the same music, films, books... that I like, so later when I joined twitter I discovered that I wasn't alone which made me realized that being myself sould be accepted and loved not judged. So for my own self steem I decided to stop being friends with those people and, yes, I spent a lot of time alone without friends but I was SO, SO happy becaue I came to love myself inside and out and once I did that I started to meet amazing new people and to get new friends that loved me for who I was 100%. Getting to know and love one's self leads to amazing things, don't let the fear of being alone stop you. Thank you Rachel for always speaking about these interesting topics. Love you!!
Rach, you absolutely nailed it. Its truly inspiring how you actively take the opportunity of being a youtuber/blogger to reach out and enrich us; the advice you give perfectly articulates the struggles us 80/90's babies face right now, and its the type of advice equivalent of the 'gift that keeps on giving'. Much love x
+claudia nsy I heard something on TV that I really liked, how we are the generation with no history nor attachment and that we need to be more aware of our future
I can totally relate to you on being an overly-attached friend/girlfriend. In my previous relationship I saw my ex almost everyday, it became a routine. Then, I moved to a different country and it taught me how to be alone and I learnt that I really enjoyed being on my own. But being alone is only possible when I am surrounded by great friends and now my amazing bf. I think, because these relationships are so fulfilling, I am happy. And because of that, being alone becomes quite enjoyable too. Thanks for being our big sister
rach, pls pls do a car talk about moving to a big city by yourself. i may be doing that soon and i'm a bit scared :/ this is such a mom vlog, we're like your bbys lol :3 the pep talks are lovely to hear at 4am :D
+Erin Louise Harrison Yes! Except my move wasn't that big - I was already commuting to the city lots before I made the move. I have yet to make a huge move far away, such as across the country. I've been lucky (or safe?) about that. Instead of mom, I like to think more of like the sister you and I haven't had :) Thanks for always tuning in xx
such an important self reminder I needed in a dark time like this. I always loved solitude - but would be criticized by others ( mainly men I did not want to be in relationships with) or "friends" that I am a miserable being and that how can I not want their company - something is off with me. However the older I get the more I realize that the balance in life is what adheres and makes sense to YOU and ONLY YOU. People pleasing never got me anywhere...but rather backfired on my wellbeing in the end. Keep up the vlogs :)
This talk was so wonderful! I fell in love with my best friend- then he broke up with me for someone else, but had lied to me about it. It was a really crazy time in my life, I thought I was my own person before but this really shook me, personally, and made me realize how much of myself was deeply ingrained in another person; I thought the situation was 'different' because we had been best friends for 3 years first and had grown into each other, but at the end of the day that didn't change the dynamic of dependence. This episode really comes as a reflection to the past year of my life and I greatly appreciate it! I love being by myself now, it's so rejuvenating, and I'm so glad you've put something out there that supports us all! Here's to onwards and upwards
+Caitlin Nelson I love this. Strong people can be shooken up with series of events and that derail us from being ourselves. Shiit situation.... sorry bb girl. Glad you picked it back up and are on the path to finding your grounds x
Ty for being so candid in this video & I love that you advocate being alone is ok. I was friends with a girl for 2 years who was a rumormonger and turned some other friends against me. At that time it hurt, but I stayed classy and instead of raising my voice, I distanced myself from them. My friend circle became smaller and more quiet, a shock in the beginning bc I was used to joking, laughing and hanging with this group after classes (I live away from home). With the grace of God, I have a strong and supportive family, but sometimes I feel like I don't have friends that can hang with to go here, there, everywhere, who are also trustworthy and amazing and cool and whatnot. At these times, I remind myself of how unhappy I was with them [when they started rumors] in spite of all the jokes, laughs and giggles and that has been my saving grace. In time, I made it a point to make sure that I break this cycle; just bc this girl/group has treated me unfairly doesn't mean I will turn around and treat somebody else that way. To this day, this experience remains significant bc growing up I was never the kind of girl to fall prey to bullies or girls that lash out at innocent girls, like me, bc they aren't happy with themselves.
What you said about working on yourself is SO TRUE!! The time when i live in paris alone, even though it was a short 3 months, was when i started realising who i am and began to love myself and appreciate who i am and what i can offer to the world. I love that car chat. Thank you Rachel!!
I've been through a break up this year, and I def can relate to letting go of having to "keep up" with everyone and everything and really learned to be my own best friend. Only you really know what's going on with you your entire life, so it makes sense to nourish your intellectual, emotional and spiritual self.
Your car talk is my absolute favourite. I can't thank you enough for all the precious words and all the videos you made. I completely agree with you. My favourite phrase is "let it be". It applies for life and for relationships. People come and go, so it's okay to let certain ones go. And for life, we can't control everything so just be yourself and try your best and let it be. Hope you, and whoever is reading this, is having a wonderful day and an amazing year💕
I am currently going through a "rough" time. I didn't chose the right studies, and I'm the kind of person who has to be passionnate about what they do. I'm not so I'm sad, i've lost any kind of motivation to do anything. I moved from North of France to South, all by myself. I have applied for a new program which i know will keep me busy and push me in the right direction, towards what i really want to do. I am aware that it's just momentary and that everything will eventually get better. The thing is to now get things done, get out more, step out of my comfort zone. I am slowly trying. Your vlogs and videos have inspired me so far, thank you for that! Have a nice day :)
Thank you SO MUCH for this Rachel! This has definitely been a lesson that I have been trying to learn over the past few years. Just coming to terms with the fact that you have to be enough for yourself - it's not a romantic idea by any means, but definitely a realistic and vital concept to understand and embrace. It's just so great to hear it coming from you; sometimes it takes hearing things from another person to really drill it home, you know?
Aw you live so close to me!! I recognize those streets in the background haha (I live in foothill ranch/mission Virgo area). I loved this video! I recently moved to Paris by myself for four months despite not knowing anyone, having any way to meet anyone, or even being able to speak the native language. The whole move was such a journey of learning how to step outside of my comfort zone, meet new people (in the oddest of circumstances), and most of all, becoming confident and comfortable in being alone. It is so important to be used to being on your own and figure out who you are and develop yourself as an individual, rather than seeking out your identity through friends, family, or social media. With my experiences, I can definitely confirm that spending significant amounts of time alone is one of the best things you do to grow emotionally and spiritually. Thanks so much for this video!
+moon clique Props to you for making that big of a move on your own! If you don't mind me asking, what was the move for? Did you just decide you wanted a blank slate, or was it something for school or work?
+coast ward I was in my freshmen year of college and was tired of simply just going to school and living somewhat of a stagnant life so I decided to take a leave of absence and live somewhere out of the box and I found housing in Paris so that is where I went :) So it was a combination of looking for a blank slate and adventure for the time being
I haven't had a terrible breakup but I moved far away from my best friends in the entire world and have been feeling lonely for the past year. I'm shy, quiet, and an introvert so spending time with other (new) humans is tough for me. Sometimes - or a lot of the time actually - I beat myself up about it and many other things. I liked this car talk especially because you mentioned using your alone time to better yourself and find your true self. I always need that reminder when I'm feeling guilty for not wanting to go out or spend time with other people. Also, if I can add my two cents: there's a difference between being alone and being lonely. Most of us are lonely but none of us are alone. Thanks again for the car talk Rachel!! xx
This is so relevant right now!!! Not the relationship part, but this made me realize it is to be ok to be alone and how important it is to take care of yourself. Thank you
So amazing how all of these pep talks totally lift my mood up ugh I love your vibe and pep talks SM! also it would really help if you can do a pep talk on not comparing yourself to others or putting yourself down by wishing you had someone else's life..it's something I struggle with A LOT and it would be lovely for you to talk about!
i was best friend with this girl. she cares so much bout me until she just really come in into my love life. she arrange everything, calling my boyfriend's mom. i never do it before and saying bad things bout my boyfriends. until me and my bf had a big fight. she always been there for me. then me and my bf having a deep conversation and then i realize. i just wasting my time with her. like we always spending money, going anywhere, not studying eventough the next day is exam, she didnt really gave me a good advantage for my future. this is college i need to mantain and set my future but being around them just playing. then i left. she was so angry until she mock me, bully me, cursing me, but i know wht i did. with my bf, we are setting a future. i got a lot of lesson from him not from her. this is a rough world. and i need to maintain myself. luv this video really expressing wht i want to tell to everyone luv
just when I thought the birthday pep talk and the car talk with Weston was empowering, this talk definitely makes you by far my favorite RUclipsr. you are such an inspiring person.
I loved this video. But my dilemma is that I never go out, ever. I have very few friends who are married and settling down with children etc. (I'm in my 30's). I'm not at that stage in my life because I never go out to meet new people. Anyway, we had our Christmas night out with work a few weeks ago and we had arranged to go into town afterwards. I was excited. Then when the moment came the two other friends were texting each other at the table, and making faces about going out, then decided they didn't want to go out. It had been planned for a while. I guess I just then figured out that I really am on my own. I was so disappointed. Hurt too at the childish behaviour. But it's a lesson learned. Thanks for your video. 💕✌🏻️
Hi Rachel, Thank you for the beautiful message. Even though the car is only a portion of what I'm currently going through right now I really needed that pick me up. Dealing with school, work, relationships, the new year, and even just self evaluating myself in becoming a whole happy person is what I truly needed for the upcoming year as this year has been very rough on me... But its slowly starting to pick up and definitely need that motivational words from you. Thank you so much! Happy New Year!!
It really resonated with me when you said about not finding people to replace parts of yourself and that you should find it within. I have a great boyfriend who is my absolute best friend and we've been going strong for 5 years, but other than him i have no close friends. I go out a lot with my family and i love the people i work with. Losing my friends was entirely down to me not choosing to be with them, pretty much all of my friendship group from school got i to drugs and parties from a young age and that didnt feel right to me. Now, i see them updating on facebook going out every weekend and it hurts sometimes. It stings when i hear people talk about how great their friends are. I guess it'll take time but getting down about having no friends is such a waste of energy.
+Louise T last december (which i JUST realised was exactly when this very video was uploaded- omg) I met someone, completely spontaneously, who gave me many experiences and feelings i had never had before in only a span of 3 days. he was traveling the world and that day was his second day in my country, but was only a stopover. we're friends now and this is a relationship i treasure because i felt like he was someone i had needed to meet in my life then. a timely encounter. one thing i felt most strongly initially was yearning, because he was the kind of person i want to be but am still not. it took a while for me to figure out that simply desiring to be someone else does not magically transform me. i'd have to be introspective and find out the exact areas to improve on. i need to love myself in order to become a better version. the temptation of automatically looking outwards to other people for characteristics we covet but do not possess (yet) is very tangible and seductive, but it's not gonna help for self-growth. being open to interactions with people esp in social circles of personal interest (arts for me) lets you meet more people whom you're likely gonna wanna emulate, but instead of simply admiring people for being themselves, we should direct that energy inwards and constantly grow to be the person we like to be.
Literally perfect timing as my boyfriend/bestfriend is leaving to the army for 3 years. Im willing to wait for him and he said we will get through this. Now i will have plenty of time to learn to be alone and focus on my own needs and happiness while he gets back.
I just wanted to say thank you for keeping it so real on RUclips. I feel like it's really hard to come across youtubers who speak about these little things in life and genuinely see the greater good in people. You're a great inspiration to those who are lost and are trying to find themselves! (like me) Thank you for this very much needed pep talk you beautiful soul!! ❤
thank you for sharing Rachel! I forced myself to go travel alone for half year, and luckily figured myself out for that time. This is never end journey for every individual. this is so cool that you initiate this kind of conversation :)
this is such a good pep talk! Ive just moved to London and find it both amazing and so scary and intimidating at the same time! So nice to hear things like " we are all in this together! You rock Rachel! Keep it up girl xx
I really wish you could vlog like this all the time. Maybe not like a daily thing, but a weeks worth of your coolness in one vid a week. Lol I know you're super busy but I love these videos because of you reflect and how you advice. It soothes me to know I'm not alone and I'm not "weird" for thinking the very thoughts that you also apparently have.
Here I am in 2018 only now just finding your videos and binge watching them all! Your videos are so raw and so beautiful and in the short amount of time i've been watching them I already feel inspired by your words. Thank you
I was WiFi-less in Mexico all last week during the Holidays and just now catching up on all your vlogs!!! You are AWESOME Rachel! From your realness to your style to everything you choose to share with us, you have such a beautiful creative soul! Love the #cartalks
Thank you for this Rachel. I spent the last year getting over the first person I fell in love with. You learn how hard it is to truly be okay with yourself. And loving yourself as much as you loved that person is the most important thing to learn. Gonna miss your daily vlogs, xoxo from mission viejo! Haha
+miike2112 It took me yearssss to get over the first person I fell in love with (3 guys after that). Breakups will never be easy, but you definitely learn and grow from your experience with a person you gave a part of yourself to. See it as an open door to explore new options, mindsets, and love (not just to another human, but yourself) Much love and warm hugs xx
I'm just now able to catch up with the rest of your vlogs, this is the first one I'm watching today and this is so helpful and relatable! Always love watching your video's when I need a boost, some motivation or just some insight in things I didn't even know I needed insight for (haha what a sentence) THANK YOU! xxx
Hey Rachel I am really touched about this video you made how to live alone.Because this is the first year I am in USA and I can't speak any English when I first got here and I have been struggling and feel embarrassed a lot.I can't drive and I can't speak well either so I always depend on other person and when that person hurt me and left me,I feel so bad and cannot live.I started confused who I am and everything become so scary. I started anti social.But since I started staying home more I think a lot and I think no matter can I speak English or not,I still wanna talk to people even tho use my body language.There is no shame for that.I still who I am just change another country to live.
Ugh, I am your new follower on your channel. I like your vlog because of the simplicity and I just feel that from the way you talk and gestures, I feel like I am seeing myself and I can relate more. But then I saw this video and duh, I am so agree with you! I am also very attached to every relationship I've been through. But I just had my worst break up a few months ago and at first it feels like hell. But now, I am trying to enjoy my time being alone. This break up makes me want to make myself busy rather than mourning. So I completely into my work and I feel like I should search for my call. I work on television and I feel like I wanted to explore myself more. I was wondering to make a vlog too. But slightly haven't decide. I think it's true, sometimes got hurt makes you looking more for yourself.
I just want to say that this video was very impactful for me. I spend a lot of time alone wondering if I'm a huge loser or why I don't have more friends or more things to do but this video and your message reassures me as well as inspired me. It's been such a pleasure getting to know you more via #31daysofthatschic and I really appreciate your perspective and thoughtful words. Thank you, Rachel!
Hi I love what you say in general about life living and learning with or without someone or something just who cares live your life the way it is and you make me feel great to listen to you 😘
It's nice that you are able to voice out your opinion and you are not afraid of anyone bashing you out. I admire that. I hope one day I will be able to do the same. I adore you, Rachel, you're like the big sister I never had.
Sending love your way, Rachel! My admiration and respect for you grows with each of these videos that you make. Never have I connected with a RUclipsr this much. Thanks again for such genuine advice.
At the end, you may have been talking to your future self, but I felt that message was for me (my name is also Rachel). I totally needed that. Thanks Rachel :)
Rachel before you stop vlogging could you please have an intense/personal talk about how you got to where you are today. I'm currently going through some personal changes regarding my college and career goals. I just want to know if you are happy with what you are doing, is Visual/Art Directing always what you've wanted to do? Is it a challenging job? Etc etc pretty please! I feel like listening to someone who has their life set out, will make me get a grip with mine! Xx
+Rinji Lawati I'm thinking about doing something more interactive and open this up to be a bigger conversation. There's been a lot of points I've talked about throughout this entire month that answers a lot of your questions :) particularly the 'birthday pep talk' video. But yes, if you can tell by the person I am, I wouldn't be something if I didn't want to do it. This, right here, what you're seeing, is a lot of work that I put into making these videos each and every day. Everything is challenging. You have to push through competitive EVERY industry you're in. If you're looking for an easy black and white answer, I don't have it. Watch the other video if you haven't - it might help xx
I've been having trouble getting to know myself and really having moments where I can be truly alone spend time getting to observe and analyze the way I really operate and think. This is especially hard, personally, because I have a long term boyfriend so I'm never quite alone. I'm by no means suggesting that I want to end things with him, because I don't. But, I'm feeling kind of confused as to how to approach getting to know myself while having a significant other who I love in my life. Has anyone ever been through something like this?
Rachel that was beautifully said, I couldn't agree with you more! Please give some advise on how to become a freelancer when you don't really have many contacts, do you advise doing work for free?
This is what social media should be! This is a community. Not people talking shit to each other for no reason but sharing personal stories and building each other up. This channel is my favorite because it feels so intimate and real. I love the integrity it has and that your channel doesn't buy into everyone else's "favorites" and make up stuff. I needed something different and didn't know it until now. Thanks, Rachel.
6 months ago after battling with anxiety I moved to London on my own from my home town which is about 3 hours away by car. I never really comment on RUclips videos but I relate so much to the title. I too live in a tiny studio, on my own, no friends around me. But when I realise why I'm here and how well i've done to move away at 19 and overcome what i have had too, my tiny studio and 4 four walls around me make me feel the most alive.
Keep up with these videos Rachel, been watching from the start, would love to do the same one day.
... Love from LDN
Dan :)
I always find your vlog trully inspirational! I went through something similar. A few years ago I had a group of friends that I thought were my best friends and was terrified of losing, but I never felt fully accepted or that I could be myself around them. I live in a small town and didn't know anyone who liked the same music, films, books... that I like, so later when I joined twitter I discovered that I wasn't alone which made me realized that being myself sould be accepted and loved not judged. So for my own self steem I decided to stop being friends with those people and, yes, I spent a lot of time alone without friends but I was SO, SO happy becaue I came to love myself inside and out and once I did that I started to meet amazing new people and to get new friends that loved me for who I was 100%. Getting to know and love one's self leads to amazing things, don't let the fear of being alone stop you. Thank you Rachel for always speaking about these interesting topics. Love you!!
Rach, you absolutely nailed it. Its truly inspiring how you actively take the opportunity of being a youtuber/blogger to reach out and enrich us; the advice you give perfectly articulates the struggles us 80/90's babies face right now, and its the type of advice equivalent of the 'gift that keeps on giving'. Much love x
+claudia nsy I heard something on TV that I really liked, how we are the generation with no history nor attachment and that we need to be more aware of our future
I can really relate to your talk and 100% agree!
I can totally relate to you on being an overly-attached friend/girlfriend. In my previous relationship I saw my ex almost everyday, it became a routine. Then, I moved to a different country and it taught me how to be alone and I learnt that I really enjoyed being on my own. But being alone is only possible when I am surrounded by great friends and now my amazing bf. I think, because these relationships are so fulfilling, I am happy. And because of that, being alone becomes quite enjoyable too.
Thanks for being our big sister
rach, pls pls do a car talk about moving to a big city by yourself. i may be doing that soon and i'm a bit scared :/
this is such a mom vlog, we're like your bbys lol :3 the pep talks are lovely to hear at 4am :D
+Erin Louise Harrison Yes! Except my move wasn't that big - I was already commuting to the city lots before I made the move. I have yet to make a huge move far away, such as across the country. I've been lucky (or safe?) about that.
Instead of mom, I like to think more of like the sister you and I haven't had :)
Thanks for always tuning in xx
I LIVE for these car talks!! It's always exactly what I needed to hear
such an important self reminder I needed in a dark time like this. I always loved solitude - but would be criticized by others ( mainly men I did not want to be in relationships with) or "friends" that I am a miserable being and that how can I not want their company - something is off with me. However the older I get the more I realize that the balance in life is what adheres and makes sense to YOU and ONLY YOU. People pleasing never got me anywhere...but rather backfired on my wellbeing in the end. Keep up the vlogs :)
This talk was so wonderful! I fell in love with my best friend- then he broke up with me for someone else, but had lied to me about it. It was a really crazy time in my life, I thought I was my own person before but this really shook me, personally, and made me realize how much of myself was deeply ingrained in another person; I thought the situation was 'different' because we had been best friends for 3 years first and had grown into each other, but at the end of the day that didn't change the dynamic of dependence. This episode really comes as a reflection to the past year of my life and I greatly appreciate it! I love being by myself now, it's so rejuvenating, and I'm so glad you've put something out there that supports us all! Here's to onwards and upwards
+Caitlin Nelson I love this. Strong people can be shooken up with series of events and that derail us from being ourselves. Shiit situation.... sorry bb girl. Glad you picked it back up and are on the path to finding your grounds x
Ty for being so candid in this video & I love that you advocate being alone is ok. I was friends with a girl for 2 years who was a rumormonger and turned some other friends against me. At that time it hurt, but I stayed classy and instead of raising my voice, I distanced myself from them. My friend circle became smaller and more quiet, a shock in the beginning bc I was used to joking, laughing and hanging with this group after classes (I live away from home). With the grace of God, I have a strong and supportive family, but sometimes I feel like I don't have friends that can hang with to go here, there, everywhere, who are also trustworthy and amazing and cool and whatnot. At these times, I remind myself of how unhappy I was with them [when they started rumors] in spite of all the jokes, laughs and giggles and that has been my saving grace. In time, I made it a point to make sure that I break this cycle; just bc this girl/group has treated me unfairly doesn't mean I will turn around and treat somebody else that way.
To this day, this experience remains significant bc growing up I was never the kind of girl to fall prey to bullies or girls that lash out at innocent girls, like me, bc they aren't happy with themselves.
What you said about working on yourself is SO TRUE!! The time when i live in paris alone, even though it was a short 3 months, was when i started realising who i am and began to love myself and appreciate who i am and what i can offer to the world. I love that car chat. Thank you Rachel!!
I've been through a break up this year, and I def can relate to letting go of having to "keep up" with everyone and everything and really learned to be my own best friend. Only you really know what's going on with you your entire life, so it makes sense to nourish your intellectual, emotional and spiritual self.
+blackandwhitewords Yes yes yes x 1000
Your car talks are amazing. Such a beautiful human. It's cool to know we all go through the same things and we aren't crazy for feeling some way
Your car talk is my absolute favourite. I can't thank you enough for all the precious words and all the videos you made. I completely agree with you. My favourite phrase is "let it be". It applies for life and for relationships. People come and go, so it's okay to let certain ones go. And for life, we can't control everything so just be yourself and try your best and let it be. Hope you, and whoever is reading this, is having a wonderful day and an amazing year💕
I am currently going through a "rough" time. I didn't chose the right studies, and I'm the kind of person who has to be passionnate about what they do. I'm not so I'm sad, i've lost any kind of motivation to do anything. I moved from North of France to South, all by myself. I have applied for a new program which i know will keep me busy and push me in the right direction, towards what i really want to do. I am aware that it's just momentary and that everything will eventually get better. The thing is to now get things done, get out more, step out of my comfort zone. I am slowly trying. Your vlogs and videos have inspired me so far, thank you for that! Have a nice day :)
Thank you SO MUCH for this Rachel! This has definitely been a lesson that I have been trying to learn over the past few years. Just coming to terms with the fact that you have to be enough for yourself - it's not a romantic idea by any means, but definitely a realistic and vital concept to understand and embrace. It's just so great to hear it coming from you; sometimes it takes hearing things from another person to really drill it home, you know?
dude I really appreciate your existence. I wish we could hang out, you're definitely someone i'd want in my circle.
Aw you live so close to me!! I recognize those streets in the background haha (I live in foothill ranch/mission Virgo area). I loved this video! I recently moved to Paris by myself for four months despite not knowing anyone, having any way to meet anyone, or even being able to speak the native language. The whole move was such a journey of learning how to step outside of my comfort zone, meet new people (in the oddest of circumstances), and most of all, becoming confident and comfortable in being alone. It is so important to be used to being on your own and figure out who you are and develop yourself as an individual, rather than seeking out your identity through friends, family, or social media. With my experiences, I can definitely confirm that spending significant amounts of time alone is one of the best things you do to grow emotionally and spiritually. Thanks so much for this video!
+moon clique Props to you for making that big of a move on your own! If you don't mind me asking, what was the move for? Did you just decide you wanted a blank slate, or was it something for school or work?
+moon clique That's so inspirational. Thank you. I've always wanted to live in a big city, like Paris, and a message like this is so so motivating !!
+coast ward I was in my freshmen year of college and was tired of simply just going to school and living somewhat of a stagnant life so I decided to take a leave of absence and live somewhere out of the box and I found housing in Paris so that is where I went :) So it was a combination of looking for a blank slate and adventure for the time being
moon clique That's so awesome. Good for you for going against societal expectations and grabbing life by the horns.
I haven't had a terrible breakup but I moved far away from my best friends in the entire world and have been feeling lonely for the past year. I'm shy, quiet, and an introvert so spending time with other (new) humans is tough for me. Sometimes - or a lot of the time actually - I beat myself up about it and many other things. I liked this car talk especially because you mentioned using your alone time to better yourself and find your true self. I always need that reminder when I'm feeling guilty for not wanting to go out or spend time with other people. Also, if I can add my two cents: there's a difference between being alone and being lonely. Most of us are lonely but none of us are alone. Thanks again for the car talk Rachel!! xx
This is so relevant right now!!! Not the relationship part, but this made me realize it is to be ok to be alone and how important it is to take care of yourself. Thank you
So amazing how all of these pep talks totally lift my mood up ugh I love your vibe and pep talks SM! also it would really help if you can do a pep talk on not comparing yourself to others or putting yourself down by wishing you had someone else's life..it's something I struggle with A LOT and it would be lovely for you to talk about!
You constantly make me feel like I'm not the only person going through challenging things and your advice is always super helpful.
i was best friend with this girl. she cares so much bout me until she just really come in into my love life. she arrange everything, calling my boyfriend's mom. i never do it before and saying bad things bout my boyfriends. until me and my bf had a big fight. she always been there for me. then me and my bf having a deep conversation and then i realize. i just wasting my time with her. like we always spending money, going anywhere, not studying eventough the next day is exam, she didnt really gave me a good advantage for my future. this is college i need to mantain and set my future but being around them just playing. then i left. she was so angry until she mock me, bully me, cursing me, but i know wht i did. with my bf, we are setting a future. i got a lot of lesson from him not from her. this is a rough world. and i need to maintain myself. luv this video really expressing wht i want to tell to everyone
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just when I thought the birthday pep talk and the car talk with Weston was empowering, this talk definitely makes you by far my favorite RUclipsr. you are such an inspiring person.
I loved this video. But my dilemma is that I never go out, ever. I have very few friends who are married and settling down with children etc. (I'm in my 30's). I'm not at that stage in my life because I never go out to meet new people. Anyway, we had our Christmas night out with work a few weeks ago and we had arranged to go into town afterwards. I was excited. Then when the moment came the two other friends were texting each other at the table, and making faces about going out, then decided they didn't want to go out. It had been planned for a while. I guess I just then figured out that I really am on my own. I was so disappointed. Hurt too at the childish behaviour. But it's a lesson learned. Thanks for your video. 💕✌🏻️
Hi Rachel, Thank you for the beautiful message. Even though the car is only a portion of what I'm currently going through right now I really needed that pick me up. Dealing with school, work, relationships, the new year, and even just self evaluating myself in becoming a whole happy person is what I truly needed for the upcoming year as this year has been very rough on me... But its slowly starting to pick up and definitely need that motivational words from you. Thank you so much! Happy New Year!!
It really resonated with me when you said about not finding people to replace parts of yourself and that you should find it within. I have a great boyfriend who is my absolute best friend and we've been going strong for 5 years, but other than him i have no close friends. I go out a lot with my family and i love the people i work with. Losing my friends was entirely down to me not choosing to be with them, pretty much all of my friendship group from school got i to drugs and parties from a young age and that didnt feel right to me. Now, i see them updating on facebook going out every weekend and it hurts sometimes. It stings when i hear people talk about how great their friends are. I guess it'll take time but getting down about having no friends is such a waste of energy.
+Louise T last december (which i JUST realised was exactly when this very video was uploaded- omg) I met someone, completely spontaneously, who gave me many experiences and feelings i had never had before in only a span of 3 days. he was traveling the world and that day was his second day in my country, but was only a stopover. we're friends now and this is a relationship i treasure because i felt like he was someone i had needed to meet in my life then. a timely encounter.
one thing i felt most strongly initially was yearning, because he was the kind of person i want to be but am still not. it took a while for me to figure out that simply desiring to be someone else does not magically transform me. i'd have to be introspective and find out the exact areas to improve on. i need to love myself in order to become a better version.
the temptation of automatically looking outwards to other people for characteristics we covet but do not possess (yet) is very tangible and seductive, but it's not gonna help for self-growth. being open to interactions with people esp in social circles of personal interest (arts for me) lets you meet more people whom you're likely gonna wanna emulate, but instead of simply admiring people for being themselves, we should direct that energy inwards and constantly grow to be the person we like to be.
Literally perfect timing as my boyfriend/bestfriend is leaving to the army for 3 years. Im willing to wait for him and he said we will get through this. Now i will have plenty of time to learn to be alone and focus on my own needs and happiness while he gets back.
I just wanted to say thank you for keeping it so real on RUclips. I feel like it's really hard to come across youtubers who speak about these little things in life and genuinely see the greater good in people. You're a great inspiration to those who are lost and are trying to find themselves! (like me) Thank you for this very much needed pep talk you beautiful soul!! ❤
thank you for sharing Rachel! I forced myself to go travel alone for half year, and luckily figured myself out for that time. This is never end journey for every individual. this is so cool that you initiate this kind of conversation :)
You seem like such a nice person to be surrounded by. Keep doing whatever you are doing! You are the best Rachel. Happy New Year from Ireland!
this is such a good pep talk! Ive just moved to London and find it both amazing and so scary and intimidating at the same time! So nice to hear things like " we are all in this together! You rock Rachel! Keep it up girl xx
after vlogmas you should do car vlogs!!!!! im so inspired and encouraged by what you have to say to the world. thumbs up for car vlogs yalllll
i love these car talks. absolutely love listening to you talk and share your opinion!!
it was very encouraging to actually hear a little bit of why and how you got to the wonderful place you are now
I really wish you could vlog like this all the time. Maybe not like a daily thing, but a weeks worth of your coolness in one vid a week. Lol I know you're super busy but I love these videos because of you reflect and how you advice. It soothes me to know I'm not alone and I'm not "weird" for thinking the very thoughts that you also apparently have.
Here I am in 2018 only now just finding your videos and binge watching them all! Your videos are so raw and so beautiful and in the short amount of time i've been watching them I already feel inspired by your words. Thank you
this is EXACTLY what i needed to hear right now. like this is scarily on point. thank you tons, my worries are assuaged.
I was WiFi-less in Mexico all last week during the Holidays and just now catching up on all your vlogs!!! You are AWESOME Rachel! From your realness to your style to everything you choose to share with us, you have such a beautiful creative soul! Love the #cartalks
I just binged watched all of your videos and I absolutely love your videos!! Made me so inspired to just not give a single care!!
Omg thank you for that car talk! I was alone in my dorm and listen to you just bright up my day! Thankkkkkkk you!! xx
Thank you for this Rachel. I spent the last year getting over the first person I fell in love with. You learn how hard it is to truly be okay with yourself. And loving yourself as much as you loved that person is the most important thing to learn. Gonna miss your daily vlogs, xoxo from mission viejo! Haha
+miike2112 It took me yearssss to get over the first person I fell in love with (3 guys after that). Breakups will never be easy, but you definitely learn and grow from your experience with a person you gave a part of yourself to. See it as an open door to explore new options, mindsets, and love (not just to another human, but yourself)
Much love and warm hugs xx
I'm just now able to catch up with the rest of your vlogs, this is the first one I'm watching today and this is so helpful and relatable! Always love watching your video's when I need a boost, some motivation or just some insight in things I didn't even know I needed insight for (haha what a sentence) THANK YOU! xxx
I really really needed this. Thank you so very much.
can you make a playlist on Spotify from all your December blogs!! such good music
+chefgirl77200689 Yes please! :)
+chefgirl77200689 Yes!!!! Someone has been keeping track of these on Soundcloud :)
soundcloud.com/carla-p-guimaray/sets/thats-chic-tracks
+Rachel Nguyen Great news! I was about the ask the same! i always end up searching for the music you use in your videos :)
Hey Rachel I am really touched about this video you made how to live alone.Because this is the first year I am in USA and I can't speak any English when I first got here and I have been struggling and feel embarrassed a lot.I can't drive and I can't speak well either so I always depend on other person and when that person hurt me and left me,I feel so bad and cannot live.I started confused who I am and everything become so scary. I started anti social.But since I started staying home more I think a lot and I think no matter can I speak English or not,I still wanna talk to people even tho use my body language.There is no shame for that.I still who I am just change another country to live.
this video was so needed to be out there on the internet. thanks, rachel - you`re a true inspiration!
you have really influenced my life right now these past few weeks. thanks
Ugh, I am your new follower on your channel. I like your vlog because of the simplicity and I just feel that from the way you talk and gestures, I feel like I am seeing myself and I can relate more. But then I saw this video and duh, I am so agree with you! I am also very attached to every relationship I've been through. But I just had my worst break up a few months ago and at first it feels like hell. But now, I am trying to enjoy my time being alone. This break up makes me want to make myself busy rather than mourning. So I completely into my work and I feel like I should search for my call. I work on television and I feel like I wanted to explore myself more. I was wondering to make a vlog too. But slightly haven't decide. I think it's true, sometimes got hurt makes you looking more for yourself.
This was such a good topic to cover especially as NYE approaches.
I love this straightforwardness! I hope you keep doing these after December #addicted
I just want to say that this video was very impactful for me. I spend a lot of time alone wondering if I'm a huge loser or why I don't have more friends or more things to do but this video and your message reassures me as well as inspired me. It's been such a pleasure getting to know you more via #31daysofthatschic and I really appreciate your perspective and thoughtful words. Thank you, Rachel!
I will miss these daily vlogs... always looking forward watchin them :)
Hi I love what you say in general about life living and learning with or without someone or something just who cares live your life the way it is and you make me feel great to listen to you 😘
😅😅 Its summer 2019 and I really needed to hear this everything u said is exactly how I've been feeling about my life, Thanks Rachel 🌾
It's nice that you are able to voice out your opinion and you are not afraid of anyone bashing you out. I admire that. I hope one day I will be able to do the same. I adore you, Rachel, you're like the big sister I never had.
Love you Rachel! Your advice and outlook on life is so inspiring!
Thank you so much for your message Rachel, I loved it, it was wonderful.
I'd legit pay you to give me advice like this on the regular.
Got my heart broken on Christmas Day. Watched this helps me even tho just a lil bit. Good post Rach',
the time on your screen was literally the same time on my screen just now! mind. blown.
Beautiful as always rach, truly appreciate you as a being
This made me love you more Rachel! Thank you for inspiring.
Love this video!! Makes me feel so much better. Thank you Rachel!!
Sending love your way, Rachel! My admiration and respect for you grows with each of these videos that you make. Never have I connected with a RUclipsr this much. Thanks again for such genuine advice.
I loved this so much. Very inspiring Rachel x
At the end, you may have been talking to your future self, but I felt that message was for me (my name is also Rachel). I totally needed that. Thanks Rachel :)
i love these car talk
Your videos are so helpful. I'm so glad and grateful that I found this video. keep making more videos!!! (:
Thank you so much for this video! Definitely needed to hear this! Sending love from Australia :)
and for some people, wine at home alone with their cat is celebrating! loved this car talk
Rachel before you stop vlogging could you please have an intense/personal talk about how you got to where you are today. I'm currently going through some personal changes regarding my college and career goals. I just want to know if you are happy with what you are doing, is Visual/Art Directing always what you've wanted to do? Is it a challenging job? Etc etc pretty please! I feel like listening to someone who has their life set out, will make me get a grip with mine! Xx
+Rinji Lawati I'm thinking about doing something more interactive and open this up to be a bigger conversation. There's been a lot of points I've talked about throughout this entire month that answers a lot of your questions :) particularly the 'birthday pep talk' video.
But yes, if you can tell by the person I am, I wouldn't be something if I didn't want to do it. This, right here, what you're seeing, is a lot of work that I put into making these videos each and every day. Everything is challenging. You have to push through competitive EVERY industry you're in. If you're looking for an easy black and white answer, I don't have it.
Watch the other video if you haven't - it might help xx
seriously respect and love u so much!! More talks from you recommended:-)
Yessss to your pep talks Rach.
I love these pep talks!! *inspired
Hey Rach, Love your vlogs and your music :)
love your car talks❤️👌🏻 always so calming😊
Thank you Rachel, thank you!
Wow thank you. Really needed to hear this right now. You have no idea
I really needed this Jan. 2018. Thank you
You inspired me well Rachel♥️.
Self love is where it's at!!!!
just found your channel and i love it:)
Omg. Thank you for this. You are amazing
homegirls unite!! 💜🤘🏼
Love this video, you're gorgeous!!!
I so needed this. Thanks rach
I've been having trouble getting to know myself and really having moments where I can be truly alone spend time getting to observe and analyze the way I really operate and think. This is especially hard, personally, because I have a long term boyfriend so I'm never quite alone. I'm by no means suggesting that I want to end things with him, because I don't. But, I'm feeling kind of confused as to how to approach getting to know myself while having a significant other who I love in my life. Has anyone ever been through something like this?
This is so important. I'm in my 30s and still figuring this out. ;) Thanks for great content!
YOU ARE BRILLIANT!
Really good talk Rachel
Ahh I'm so early!!! Literally been waiting
Same here!! Up too early haha
FEEL ENLIGHTENED 🙌
thanks for this vlog, rachel
Bravo!! Thank you for this chat!
Rachel that was beautifully said, I couldn't agree with you more! Please give some advise on how to become a freelancer when you don't really have many contacts, do you advise doing work for free?
To keep this short. Yes. You work for free
Day 26 of Vlogmas : I don't know how I feel about Vlogmas ending soon :(
ooh Is that Tustin market place?
I'M SO LATE - BUT YOU ARE AMAZING