I've always been told by my wife regarding my tone. From having a tone everytime a trigger comes over me. The tone becomes yelling. From Self-compassion, I realized that having a tone is not an auditory issue. Rather its similar to shouting which is a behavioral manifestation on unmet needs on being heard. With self compassion which includes presence and my own needs. I think I can now always apply self compassion. If not before the trigger or during, at least after.
i am going to comment on this before i forget.. it seams like i accept those parts of me that others don't.. i can see how perfectionism is a good thing.. i can also see how control or being responsible is a good thing.. i can also see how being critical is a good thing.. i will use an example for that.. when i went back to school one of the first classes i took was Critical Thinking.. it taught me how to question everything.. i like that..
Hey Google this medicine needs to be taken to Ukraine for the POWs and the men that were castrated, they have survivors syndrome a lot of them hate there selves they need the compassion the most It's Paramount, please help
This is so weird. Like the monopoly of who gets to commercialize technology and science literally terrorized whole populations for no reason. And like we can't even get to having robust conversations about what is self reliance, self sufficiency, independence, self determination. And please do it in a weird superficial way. Like computers could have been the equalizer and please don't use it in a superficial way. Although were is computer s made. Like the monopoly on climate change equipment and monopoly of healthcare is insidious. What is this conversation?
Wholly Fuck! Does the label “she/her” adjacent to the doctors names mean how she “identifies” herself? One day we’ll look back at this phase and laugh. That is just so sad.
@@jackiecarter5193 Dr. Neff should have insisted they not label her. We’re not blind or deaf if we’re here, clearly this is a women. No one cares about your personal identity. That’s why it’s called personal. Facts, not feelings.
@@sarialshami1490 The first thing my parents taught me when I first leaned about the internet is never use your real names or identity. The internet is a predatory hunting ground. So your comment makes it clear that you are a good example of why it’s unsafe. Creep.
@@bestself2438 Am I suppose to feel insulted now after call me a creep?! Or like you made a smart comment? Well They taught you well to be scared and live behind the screen, there is something called hacking I dont need your real name. I was just reading your comment and I was like why this nick name is mad, maybe Dr.Neff wanted that. We live in time where is transgender even my boss she finishes her e mail with her/she. I am still nice I didnt insult you or called you names like you did. Good luck in your life And practice compassion to yourself then to people.
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I've always been told by my wife regarding my tone. From having a tone everytime a trigger comes over me. The tone becomes yelling. From Self-compassion, I realized that having a tone is not an auditory issue. Rather its similar to shouting which is a behavioral manifestation on unmet needs on being heard.
With self compassion which includes presence and my own needs. I think I can now always apply self compassion. If not before the trigger or during, at least after.
If your compassion does not extend to yourself then it is incomplete.
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your book helped me SO much, thank you!
i am going to comment on this before i forget.. it seams like i accept those parts of me that others don't.. i can see how perfectionism is a good thing.. i can also see how control or being responsible is a good thing.. i can also see how being critical is a good thing.. i will use an example for that.. when i went back to school one of the first classes i took was Critical Thinking.. it taught me how to question everything.. i like that..
Why the comment so toxic? Im very thankful forrm this video. I love you ❤
Very helpful! Thank you!!
Thank you. More like this please
Superb
Nathaniel Brandon for a more precise definition of real self esteem , my great doc got it wrong
How about a program for prisoners
You forgot the 4th "f" ,fawn. I'm a flight fan, personally.
Hey Google this medicine needs to be taken to Ukraine for the POWs and the men that were castrated, they have survivors syndrome a lot of them hate there selves they need the compassion the most It's Paramount, please help
Wow what an interesting position but I don't envy your job, with that companies reputation.
This is so weird. Like the monopoly of who gets to commercialize technology and science literally terrorized whole populations for no reason. And like we can't even get to having robust conversations about what is self reliance, self sufficiency, independence, self determination. And please do it in a weird superficial way. Like computers could have been the equalizer and please don't use it in a superficial way. Although were is computer s made. Like the monopoly on climate change equipment and monopoly of healthcare is insidious. What is this conversation?
Say what..????😳
Wholly Fuck! Does the label “she/her” adjacent to the doctors names mean how she “identifies” herself? One day we’ll look back at this phase and laugh. That is just so sad.
Puts me off listening. Totally nuts. I will be so glad when we put all this stupidity behind us.
@@jackiecarter5193 Dr. Neff should have insisted they not label her. We’re not blind or deaf if we’re here, clearly this is a women. No one cares about your personal identity. That’s why it’s called personal. Facts, not feelings.
Its so sad that you dont put your real name ( dont hide beind best self)
@@sarialshami1490 The first thing my parents taught me when I first leaned about the internet is never use your real names or identity. The internet is a predatory hunting ground. So your comment makes it clear that you are a good example of why it’s unsafe. Creep.
@@bestself2438 Am I suppose to feel insulted now after call me a creep?! Or like you made a smart comment? Well They taught you well to be scared and live behind the screen, there is something called hacking I dont need your real name. I was just reading your comment and I was like why this nick name is mad, maybe Dr.Neff wanted that. We live in time where is transgender even my boss she finishes her e mail with her/she. I am still nice I didnt insult you or called you names like you did. Good luck in your life And practice compassion to yourself then to people.
Self compassion makes you lazy
You dont understand her theory.
24:30 You’re confusing hedonism with compassion. And that insight doesn’t make it easier.
I would imagine you’re not very compassionate towards others either 🥺
talks at google are bullshit
why?
That’s an easy off-the-cuff comment, as compared to years of Dr Neff’s valuable study 🤷🏼♀️