Why Do We Hurt The Ones We Love Most
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- Опубликовано: 4 авг 2024
- We all hurt each other and the question is, why do we hurt the ones that we love the most? Is it because of vulnerability? Let's find out. Dr. Paul has 3 steps for us choosing love instead of hate:
1. Assume the best about that person
2. Practice humility
3. Use your creative mind to find ways to build other people
Watch and Enjoy!
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Blessed are those who can remain silent and still able to smile even if they are greatly distracted, hurted or angered.
Elangbam Roshan, it does take practice to perfect.
i know Im asking randomly but does anybody know of a tool to log back into an Instagram account..?
I stupidly forgot my account password. I would love any assistance you can offer me!
@Micah Rowen instablaster =)
@Milo Johan thanks so much for your reply. I found the site through google and Im in the hacking process atm.
I see it takes a while so I will reply here later when my account password hopefully is recovered.
Aww thank you
Wow, this was just what I needed to hear! Thank you.
Awesome Allie - so pleased that it resonated with you. DrPaul
I would think that getting our feelings hurt so often would desensitize us, but it doesn't.😞
Linda, we are human, it doesn't work that way. Look for the good and positive, it is there.
I love your channel and made me think.
Thank you and keep up this fantastic and helpful job you do to all of us. Thank you
Thank you for the kind words, Katalin Kovacs. I am honored to be on your team!
Story of my life. Making people hate me. Just need a fresh start
steven white, I hope you can engineer one.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV my little nephews gona be a engineer I'll see what he cN do for unk
I love the 2nd step. "I prefer to be open than to be right" This is a very very mature standing in an argument. It shows the other person, you are not trying to prove a point but simply trying to be helpful and understanding.
Memer. Dad, hey, thanks for watching and commenting. Glad you are here.
I needed this today. Thank you so much.
Max A., you are welcome.
Love this! It is hard to do, but it will surely make life more peaceful for the person who chooses love.
It really does, glad you are here.
Thank you for this.
I've noticed I can be quick to assume the worst. I searched up 'how to stop being mean' as even though I'm an adult I find it easy to slip into bad habits; today I was on the family exercise bike and my dad asked me what speed I was going after I said it wasn't as intense as High impact cardio. I immediately got upset but I realised that his question was asking a fact.
I watched this video and you made me realise I was assuming the worst, refusing to hear him out, and rejecting him as I knew it would hurt! I have decided to turn over a new leaf and I've wrote down the steps of loving and hateful behaviour so I can better notice it and cool off. I apologised to my dad and he is such a softie he says he thinks it's a great idea to look to be kind :)
Bronwyn Knox, that is awesome. I think there are more positive days ahead for you.
Dr. Paul your videos are amazing. It has really helped me. Much love from Kenya.
Glad you like them!
Thank you for such a useful video!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for this video!
You are so welcome!
Nice! This is gonna help saving my relationship with a friend!
Reinis Debners, awesome, glad it is useful
Excellent and super helpful video!
Glad the found value in the video, Gina McGrew. Thanks for watching.
This video has helped me forgive someone that didn't even feel sorry for what they did but now I understand why they would have done it
I am so glad you understand better and found it in your heart to forgive, winnie maobe. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
I definitely loved this video. That's exactly what God does, He loves us, He forgives us and He sees the best on us.
Absolutely! Thanks for watching.
This video was awesome, thank you
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you Dr. Paul. Thank U thank U
Thanks again Sonia - so glad you're watching (and sticking with us here!) DrPaul
You are sooooo right about choosing love over hate to make things better. I learnt this yesterday because my husband picked a huge fight with me and criticised the life out of me which he often does but I’m on a journey to improve my responses to his fight picking and I noticed that when he came to reconcile and apologise to me I could have chosen love and just accepted it and moved on and he would’ve moved on but the anger in me and upset in me decided to choose hate and bring up what he did that I didn’t like and a whole new argument started! I could’ve avoided that by taking his apology as a big positive step for him to being regretful that he was mean to me in the first place! By the way this journey that I’m on is really inspired by you! I’m keeping a journal and writing everything that I’m learning and grateful for in these negative experiences that I get. And I am also improving a lot in general because even that argument went a lottt better than it would’ve in the past because I had implemented a lot of what I learnt from previous arguments 😂
Shay J, honored to be a part of your journey. Good luck to you and your husband.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you!
Just what I needed today! Had a fight with my sister Nd now feeling so bad about all that I said..your videos are amazing doc💕
I'm so glad! You and your sister can repair this.
This video meant a lot to me thank you
Honored to be on your team and have you at the channel, Alex Gordon.
Thanx so much. Excellent.
Shireen Hendricks, thank you for watching and commenting. Glad to have you on the channel.
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭oooooh Dr Paul what you're saying is soooo true😭😭😭😭😭😭 you bring tears to my eyes when you speak because your teachings gently help me overcome obstacles in my way to healing 💐I'm so grateful I came across your channel 🙏
Joanna M., I am glad you found us also. Please share away so others can join in.
Sure will 👍🤍🙏
This was great. I really wished I found this before yesterday because these points were so on point. I really need to reconstruct my state of mind
We can't go back, only move forward, Lisa Oscar. I am sure they will help in the future and then you will be able to say, "I did it!"
I hope you are doing better now.
I wish I would've watched this about a month ago.... Live and learn I guess.
Great video!
Rachael Louise, thanks for watching.
So helpful thank u.
Lee, you are welcome.
That video was for me. Greatest content
Thank you, Trinity Light.
Thank you so much.
You're welcome!
I just realized that I developed my personality as a suit of armour. In the company of others I always act bright, cheerful, joking, clowning around ... it's my buffer against the world.
Also it gives the illusion that I'm happy, whole and unhurt.
We always had to hide how we really felt as children - so all this energy has gone into creating a persona that people would like.
However this is fake - and the vulnerable child is beginning to come back into existence.
Makes for a much more authentic "me" - and it also reaches into the souls of others ... enabling them also to be Who they really are.
Life's such a journey!
S.J. K., great comment. There are so many layers of ourselves. Rooms that only some people get to see and others that everyone is invited into. Glad you are here at the channel.
This helped me understand myself more, i always thought that i am a bad person
Gogobts Army, I am glad you can connect. You are not a bad person and we can help turn around that perspective.
I agree with your assessment and analogy of the basic concept.
Sometimes we wear the armor to protect ourselves, but also to protect others we are responsible for. I understand exactly what you are trying to convey. Hormones play a large part of the roles in these protective roles within the family unit. Although both male and female can put the "armor" on in order to protect themselves and/or others, some feel responsible to protect those in the family that are not able to protect themselves. Sometimes it can reach a level of total disregard for their safety. It would be nice for everyone to remove there armor and open up, learn to accept the world for what it is and use our mental facilities to construct positive interaction, but unfortunately we do not live in a perfect world and other depend on the "armor" for security.
We assemble the armor as we grow up in a harsh environment and the armor is designed to meet those vulnerabilities (warranted or not). Not all armor is the same. Some may just wear a breastplate or leg guards. Depending on the person and there inner fears and the fears they have for whom they love.
I truly wish this was as simple as you suggest and I love the analogy for a basic concept to identify the emotional defenses we develop over life and I agree that many are unwarranted, unjustified speculations about future events, but these have been instrumental in our survival and the survival of future generations. As we see the media, TV programs and social media sustain a constant fear based bubble all around us, we tend to stay in this frame of mind.
Tom Buck, thank you for your thoughtful comment. Gives us something to ponder.
This video means lots for me ... 🥺
2112 ANJALI GUPTA, thank you, honored to be on your team.
I came across this video.I’m going through it right with my friend.She always done a lot and I always been a jerk to her..
Ulices Aguilera, sounds like you are becoming more self-aware, that is great. Your friendship will probably benefit.
My tongue is my problem, I keep saying hurtful, selfish things all the time...and it happens only with my family. They always put up with my childish tantrums. Lockdown and being around them all the time doesn't help me much, I argue with them a lot.I just want to change for better. All those vicious things I said to them.... I'm afraid of karma hitting me back . This video is great... Thankyou
Muzna, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I am glad you are in our community.
I searched for why love hurts and Im glad I found this
I'm honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV, Bourwong Nicharee. Glad you found us, too.
This just saves my relationship.
Good luck, Rachel. Honored to be on our team.
This is so me.. this is why I lost my husband. I felt every argument was an attack versus trying to understand his point of view. I wish I had learned this a while back. I was angry and lacked vulnerability. 😩 I also was a hurt individual.
Whitney Cotton, and you learned something. It is part of your journey and you are better prepared for the future. You got this!
I’m sorry. It’s a terrible feeling to lose your spouse. I hope you managed the stress of it and broke through
This was really good topic..... Nice work dude...
Thanks Ajit L - so honored that you are watching! DrPaul
This was really helpful. Unfortunately, I am emotionally reactive and when it came to my (now) ex husband, I tended to assume the worst about him when triggered and I would react from a hateful standpoint. My words were vicious and my intent, when I felt hurt by him, was to hurt him right back. Our marriage had other issues of course, however the shame I have surrounding this very unhealthy contributing factor will likely never go away completely.
I always wonder if I hadn't been so emotionally reactive, if we could have made it...😞
Czech MBte, When we know better, we do better. Learn from what happened in this relationship and use it to make sure that future relationships do not go down the same road. Forgiveness is needed for others and yourself.
Yes your relationship would've made it if you weren't this way
thank you
you are welcome.
I used love and I was treated like a door mate...I think you have to use discretion and not allow someone to treat you poorly that is called assertion..
If they do, treat it as information and act accordingly.
I loved it
Kenneth De castro, glad to hear it.
what about if you choose indifference to avoid getting hurt ?
like you dont choose hate or love you choose to mentally block the stimulus in order to not feel anything ? Would love to hear your insight about that
linvy kriselle, I used to have this an option, but then after more experience, I took it out. I think if something is not done with love, then it is hate, because it doesn't bring us closer together or seek to understand the other person. Hate is a strong word, but I think you can understand.
I wish my wife would watch this video. But, I will work harder to choose love all day long. Great lesson.
Maybe over time seeing how you respond, she will want to watch with you, Jim Barnhart.
I wish my husband would watch it!
My boyfriend wears his all day with Me. I don't know how to fight for us. He is my everything. Do you have any suggestions?. Please
Just put it on some time she will listen or she won't
Just love your spouse as they are dealing with them & don't leave them
I always choose love, the other day a woman from the streets started yelling at my baby and me and wishing horrible things for her and calling my baby the b-word, my baby is 6 months old! Yet all I did was tell her to go on her way and I wished her well and hoped that whatever was causing such hate that it get better. My husband has called me stupid, worthless, I don't think right, I do everything wrong, along with all the names on the book. I tolerated that for 4 years until one day I just couldn't. I yelled back. Up until then I did everything I could to make him and keep him happy. Early morning coffee with homemade bread JUST out of the oven, ironing ALL his clothes, food is on the table hot and ready to eat, I take kids to daycare so he doesn't have to even though he's self employed and could easily take them himself. I work all day, but before work everything better be clean, and food better be ready, I pick up the kids. He gets upset when we spend more than $50 in groceries for a family of 4 and gets upset when I didn't get something he specifically wants at that particular moment and yells at me because I didn't bring everything! Yet he can go and spend $100 on clothes and not think twice. I have tried it all. I love him and do things because I love him and would love to see him happy. I don't like seeing him grumpy or upset in any way. The last time I yelled back he pushed me and threw cheese at me, and said my food was disgusting and threw his plate across the floor and told me to pick it up. I don't know what to do anymore.
Alma T, In psychology terms we would say you are experiencing abuse, mental and when pushing you, physical. This is not right and I think you understand that. Marriage should be a partnership of working together, especially when a family is involved. Please reach out to someone for support and help.
It's been a year are you well ? Your amazing and strong 💪 you and your children deserve to feel safe and happy. 15 years in a turbulent relationship ... There are many pieces of advice I wish some one had told me .. please yourself first your kids and husband will be happy if your happy ... The name calling and shit really effects you more than you think ... Cause I bet you repeat arguments in your head this gets worse you confuse yourself and get stressed out. It extremely effects kids at any age .
Ring family members discuss the kids, outings, pets anything happy .
@@keeptrying_not2late2change ❤️
Choose love
Always, The Bardi's TV. Thank you, I love your simple message.
Thank you so much for your work. Really inspiring and simply educational.
I have a question. I have realized that I have anger management problems and I am convinced that if I want to feel better about what people say and do (in this case, my wife), I need to look into myself instead of trying to change others. But since I am talking about my wife, do I need to tell her that I am trying to change? I don't expect her to try to help me because as I said I have decided to change myself. But is there anything I should let her know about? Is it a good idea to inform her that I have decided to
1. take actions to manage my anger and reduce my irritability
2. look into myself instead of expecting her to understand me
Memer. Dad, I would let her see what is happening. She will notice if the behavior is different from what has been occurring. Actions speak louder than words. If you need an accountability partner, then you may want to share with her and ask her to do certain things if she sees you slipping into old ways.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you very much for your answer.
I told her about my decision but not in so much detail. So far, it’s working out great because I feel every time I feel the urge, I just remember your tips and I slide my feelings the way you explained. I must sound like a serial killer haha
I needed this... Me and my gf broke up last night because of me I fought with her and her mother because I don't know what to do cause she wants us to broke up... She got mad at me and stopped talking to me
ViperCODM, I am glad you got what you needed. Hang in there.
all the ways that leading us to hate determined my feelings and reasons of my behaves to people i love. but i don't think i would be able to change that thoughts even if i wanted to because i feel like if i gave them any positive signs it would mean i can get hurt or get criticism from them and it is the last thing i want to get.
but when i say something bad and see their sad face or even making them cry.. i will be sad as well too. and this doesn't change at all, nobody is happy including me. i don't know what should i do but im so sick of it. and the idea of they assuming me as not caring person while im hating myself is not helping at all.
I would recommend my Positivity Power-Up Course to teach you ways to handle the criticism and negativity and learn some new ways of thinking.
i hurt the people i love the most and i feel like i’m a terrible person. i hate myself. i didn’t even thought that seriously. i don’t know why i thought that.
Luca Szabo, You aren't a terrible person. We all mess up and you need a do over. Ask nicely and show them by your behavior that you can be trusted.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you!
It is a great speech and great idea with wonderful positive thoughts, BUT how we should react if the other person keeps take advantage our love and keep trying to use us? It looks like impossible to make the other person to loos their own armor and from under it they keep attack us...... also in the same time, waiting from us to keep approach them with love and open heart, pretend they didn’t even hurt you.
Zsuzsanna, you're tapping into a whole new area. Here's another video that might address that somewhat - ruclips.net/video/fvUAGR-czwk/видео.html Thanks for watching! DrPaul
It make it easier if you drop your defences and take their comments and let them pass .realize this is not about you choose not to be offended. YES Offence is a choice. And it is the Hate side of what he is talking about. Do not respond to hurtful coments with an other hurt full comment. Like my Mother use to tell us when we were kids" two wrongs will not make a right." It is not right for them to resonded with something that hurts you and it is just as wrong to resoped to them with hurtful comenets because they did it first. Choose to forgive them because you love them. And responded with love .and if you can't remember the saying "If you can't say somrhing nice do not say nothing at all". And when you get yourself back under conterol go give that person a hug and say I love you.
I totally understand I’m in the same situation if your talking about teens they don’t understand and the brain development is not yet until their twenties and believe me it’s like stepping on eggshells around them. I understand the armor though we need to be stronger against the bad weather. If this is husband I would take a marriage class together if he or she is willing and a parenting class. My husband and I realize after seven years we still have so much work because sometimes we forget to strengthen the stake that hold the tent up. Zsuzanna I hope you found peace by this time.
it doesn’t tell why i hurt the people i love
mika, if you need some one on one help, consider scheduling a time to see what services we have available by going to www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall. Thanks.
How do you find that balance between choosing love and thinking the best about someone and being naive? Do we continue to choose love and forgiveness when their action(s) scream disrespect?
Vanessa Carter, not necessarily. Sometimes boundaries are needed for us to progress.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you!
in a relationship i always believe fault is commited by both sides...my problem is that i have a friend got introduced with her 17 years ago and had a very close relationship and were so happy together...it was 5 years ago she started hurting me maybe cause of jealousy cause the person he wanted to start relationship with proposed me...that was when she started distancing from me..a friend i used to talk and see daily and spent hours disappeared all of a sudden ...she didnt call me or text me even once a month...i tried to stay stable and didnt pretend im needy or any thing but acted the way she did although i hurt so much inside...my problem got worse and dobbled when i had to break up with that person too...he didnt wanna leave me but i had to...now its 5 years last but i still suffer from her and cant forget it ...she tried to change and changed really but not compeletely thats why i cant trust her and remove that "armery"..i dont wanna hurt anymore and i cant leave her...what can i do?
mariah marmar, first I want to say that I'm honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV. Secondly, I want to express sympathy for your situation - it's so hard to pick between 2 loved ones. Third, I'm not sure I can give you the full answer here in the comments. I will tell you that the best people to be around are those who build you up, love you unconditionally, and add positivity to your life. Forgiveness is always a good thing (it serves you more than them), yet sometimes it's best for our mental health to keep a distance from those who hurt us intentionally or often. Here is a video on forgiveness, if you would like to watch it: "How To Forgive Someone Who Isn't Sorry" - ruclips.net/video/RxxmKXQKoOQ/видео.html
If you still struggle to know what to do in your situation, I'd like to offer a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches, who can share some ideas to help you make a decision. If you want to schedule a call, please go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
My feelings here are so complex. Has anyone ever gotten so _tired_ of someone they see constantly? I feel we see my mom's sister more than my two other aunts (her sister in laws), and I think I'm annoyed because...they're my favorites over the maternal aunt. I get to see the aunt I'm most annoyed with (secretly) than the aunts I enjoy, and I guess I feel that's not fair. It's her, her, her, her, her. Sisters can be SO annoying, even as moms (with the sisterly comparisons, you know). Besides, I think I resent their relationship a bit because I'm a brother with only sisters, and I feel brothers are less important to sisters? You know, brothers are for brothers and sisters are for sisters? Like I said, it's complex. Is it possible how I'm feeling is actually normal, so I'm not being a bigot toward my one and only blood aunt (without her knowledge)?
You are never wrong about your feelings. They are yours and it sounds like you are craving some things that you are not getting now.
Link doesn't work for the book. Thank you.
Looking into it now, DJ29Joseph. Thanks for letting me know.
What if there’s such a thing as being too vulnerable and being too honest? I try to open up but that ended up hurting others more.
Thank you for watching and trying to understand, Lydia Joy. I can see a possibility of being "too" vulnerable or honest. In that case, try to measure if the listening person is ready to hear what you want to share. If they seem hesitant or overwhelmed by your information, perhaps it is time to pull back a bit. Think ahead about what might be too much information and don't say it unless you know the person is ready to hear it. If there are things that you really want to talk about in order to solve an issue, and don't know anyone who you can share it with, you might consider talking to a counselor. We have a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches available. If that sounds like it would be helpful, you can schedule a call here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Live On Purpose TV thanks, but I am seeing a therapist this Thursday. I haven’t seen one in months which is why I resorted to watching this video and asking. Thank you for the answer and I’ll try this from now on :)
@@wybie.riley8 Wonderful. : )
Now I see what I do clearly.. thanks I needed this .. I always choose hate. No wonder my family relationship is in this state. I wonder ... I find it so much more easy to be kind and considerate towards others compared to my family. Towards my family I just can't be kind. Its so hard. I feel like I hate them sometimes but I wonder why.. they are all so nice.. ah. 🤦♀️
toli bello, you might need some outside help to get in touch with where the feelings are coming from.
yes
Cheryl Whitestone, you are welcome.
I am choosing love.
Well then what if you keep loveing a person who keeps cheating on them and we cry every time but we easily forgive every time how can we balence being smart and choosing love
Conaday Sweet, we decide what we will live with and what we won't. There will come a time when our words don't mean much and we need to be true to ourself.
I put my Dad out of my life and I said I don't care I don't love him I can't stop hurting it hurts so bad I just feel like a a**hole what do I do?
Sky Linder, please talk to someone. There might be reasons to let go of this relationship and it sounds like you need help working through your decision.
It's never too late
@@saleemdesai4708 until it is ...
I always look at the bright side of someone and give second third fourth etc chances, I try to be helpful to the extent of putting my needs aside for another day. I end up being used as a doormat 🤨
Janet Spiteri. I wonder why you feel as though you are a doormat? Do you not want to do the thing you are doing? Are you expecting something back? Try to do things because you want to or because it will bring you joy. Take a look at some of the other videos on perspective. Thank you for commenting.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thinking about it, it's bcoz I do things bcoz I feel they are expected of me and I also feel I'm taken for granted. Thanks for all your replies. Merry Christmas to you and your family 😊
Merry Christmas to you, Janet Spiteri. What if you didn't do those things you really don't want to?????? Think about it.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you, you've got the for wheels turning, I'll be pondering a while. All the best 😊
I got a couple the night in drunken armor
The night and abused armor, :(
Thank you for watching.
Wait, so love takes just 2 steps? Might save me some time.
Don't make it harder than it is. Thanks for watching.
I'm just trying to find something to help my numbed mind state
I'm drugging two of my best friends tomorrow, I don't know but they don't chose me over other people so I'm going to
I just want affection and a hug
Don't worry
Phagnut PN, I am not sure what you mean by drugging someone, that should never happen, ever. Be a friend and you will have one.
Hello
Michael, Hi.
If I allow myself to be vulnerable and choose love, I will not only get hurt I will have to come to terms with how shitty I am and try as I might I can't change. If the people I hurt see me vulnerable or open, they will use that as an invitation to attack me and unleash all their resentment. I don't think I can handle that.
Angel, you might find some other feelings besides hurt. You could make some closer connections.
play at 1.25 speed.
Thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV, Brian J. Wood.
I didn’t grow up with my parents so I grew up with my Nina and she took care of me. She give me everything and is so nice to me my whole life, but I’m always annoyed of her and mad at her like everything she does irritates me now. Why do I feel this way? Sometimes she cries to me why are you nice to your parents and not me , and to be honest I really don’t know why. I hate myself why am I so mean to her? She loves me so much and I still feel un loved and not valued, It’s like I don’t want her love.
Bethany Estrada, thank you for watching, and I think it's great that you see a problem and want to fix it. I have a question for you to ponder, and please do not answer it here - this is just for self-reflection: Has your Nina done or said something that hurt or irritated you in the past? I'm mean something big, not small annoying things. Maybe you are having a difficult time letting that go. Please consider watching some of my other videos after you think about the question. I don't know your exact situation, so these are suggestions I thought might be relevant:
"How To Let Go And Move On" - ruclips.net/video/DYGPKWbE2Ro/видео.html
"How To Forgive Yourself & Learn From Your Mistakes" - ruclips.net/video/zp4a8gA99Xw/видео.html
"How To Say Sorry For Hurting Someone You Love" - ruclips.net/video/0iNknc8Rtoc/видео.html
"How To Stop Being Irritable" - ruclips.net/video/cSKztL40TH8/видео.html
"5 Quick Ways To Stop Being Irritated So Easily" - ruclips.net/video/kODrutZpsHo/видео.html
"How To Forgive Someone Who Isn't Sorry" - ruclips.net/video/RxxmKXQKoOQ/видео.html
I guess i am starting to love you sir 🥰; you might be a person easy to love but not everybody is so 😁. Maybe you are neither in the real life.
Sorry, it was a joke. I didn't mean to be rude.
Actually what we love is the truth you reveil to us . And all the other public speakers. Much of them ( those who speak on internet), beeing men of god, they use to say that actually the holly spirit talks through them. They also use to say that we have to keep in mind that even the lousiest human beeing we have in front of us, he or she still have "the image of god " built inside ( that means the potential of beeing a good person; the religious teachers considers that no one of humans was designed by the creator to be bad).
No offense taken, doroteea zorici. I appreciate you being here on the channel. :)
Well this was a comment
I don’t know if this was really what I was looking for...
I want to hurt people close to me, sometimes physically but mostly emotionally. I’ll tell people all their flaws and the most rude things I can think of until I see that it is truly hurting them. And the more hurt they get the more I continue. It gives me a weird feeling that I don’t know how to explain, but it’s a pleasant feeling.
Dima is a tree. Nova, from your comment I can tell you know that this behavior is not helpful in your relationships, please get help and see a counselor.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV
Same with me, why is it not normal?
Dima is a tree, I hope you seek help for your pain and that you stop hurting those that love you. God bless you.🙏❤️
Narcissist?
How long should one continue choosing love in a relationship context, when you feel hurt by your partner. Should you tell your partner that you r hurt. This was helpful.
Faithful Fay, I am so honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV. Thanks for trying to understand. I cannot make the call for you, but I can tell you your options: There should be no form of abuse - emotional, verbal, or otherwise. If this is happening, ask your partner if they are willing to get counseling. If they are, and you see improvement and want to continue in the relationship, then that is beautiful. However, if they continue to abuse you, you might want to love them from afar so that you no longer get hurt. Either way, you can still choose love.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you so much. This makes a lot of sense. Thanks for reverting.
I hurt someone that didn't deserve it
Sounds like it is time for an apology. You got this.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV . I am going to apologize...... I have been conflicted about it for months