2 Things You Must Understand About the Disclosure Process

Can you imagine not having the freedom to make the best decision for you because you didn’t have all of the information? Adults deserve to have choice and agency over their lives. That’s precisely why navigating disclosure after infidelity is crucial. The betrayed partner deserves transparency about what happened so they can be empowered with the freedom to choose a path forward. Today, Laurie Bryson, LPC shares the critical importance of disclosure being more than just a retelling of events, but rather a way for the betrayed partner to regain dignity and choice.
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[@jimobrien6903]

Great content here. It's just too bad that the unfaithful spouse is very rarely going to seek out this information. I would bet in most cases than not if the unfaithful is seeing this it is because us the betrayed has sent it to them.

[@mysticmama_3692]

Yep. I sent it to my husband. However...he does look up and watch videos on his own to listen to while he's alone at work. He's also sent me some videos...although, not nearly as many as I have sent to him.

[@jimobrien6903]

@@mysticmama_3692 that's pretty good at least that he does that

[@mysticmama_3692]

This video was spot on for my situation. Just had D-Day #2 about a week ago after i had been doing relatively well with dealing with the first one. It is so agonizing to be kicked back to the starting line. While im greatful my husband finally felt safe enough to give me the information...it doesnt make it any less difficult to have to restart everything all over again. Im exhausted. I just want him to lay it all out so i can process and move on. Doing this is keeping me stuck in utter despair. I dont even want intimate details (i cant handle knowing the sexual aspect...it would just create more unnecessary triggers), just a general understanding of what happened. Im tired of waiting for the other shoe to drop and feeling like hes still lying to me because every time hes told me that he told me everything....turns out there was more. Its just exhausting.

[@matthewoneil209]

Omg I’m going thru this exact thing with my wife.

[@baryl3969]

The unfaithful person could never get pass this stage. He would never tell me the entire truth and kept hiding things and said that was his way of protecting me. It only added to the hurt and the pain he already caused. Then more information would come up over time as I asked and those things would traumatize me. I ended up going through a cycle of endless trauma over and over and he would only get angry and hide things. I became a mess in my world. I had to leave him and sought help and healing. His shadow still lives in my life as I move on with my life but at least I have the words to describe my pain now.

[@Peterswet]

And when disclosure is cloaked in repeated denials and lies, the betrayed will doubt forever there veracity of what's been told . If you can't truly humble yourself and tell your spouse what you owe them... The truth.... Then do both of you a favour and just walk.
Your damaged and selfish and your opinion of yourself is far above what you think of your betrayed spouse.

[@CCont9]

❤️❤️ thank you! Very much needed!

[@jeauxg.6444]

Thank you for this.

[@Ladybug80852]

@ I dont believe you ever uncover all the truth. I think the unfaithful spares some details to save what they can of their embarrassment and hope you can forgive them by not disclosing everything. Do you want the real truth to be right or do you want the half truth to possibly save your marriage. I cant answer that for myself.