I'm Getting A Divorce So Let Me Vent & Come Shop With Me At Target lol
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- Опубликовано: 21 июн 2024
- Answering the commonly asked about questions on my divorce. Hope this helps another woman out there who may be going through some stuff as well cause no ones life is perfect. Links to my outfit of the day and items from the Target shop with me are below. They are affiliate links and it REALLY helps this single mom out if you shop through my links :) Thank you!!!!
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Mai is so dedicated to decluttering, she decluttered her ex😂 Seriously though, I admire how you are handling all of this. My parents split right before I started high school, and I have so much respect for single parents. It’s hard work. I wish my parents asked me and my brothers what we wanted when it came to the schedule. My advice would be to ask your sons what they want when it comes to holidays and the schedule (as long as they are old enough to understand the situation). I personally felt far more comfortable at my mom’s (the step-mom hated me at my dad’s) and I wish my dad would have let me go to my mom’s more instead of forcing me to be at his home. It built a lot of resentment and was too confining.
my mom would say "when you discover you're riding a dead horse, the best course of action is to dismount."
FWIW I've always admired how you don't sell your kids or (ex-)husband, and I now admire how you still won't sell them or your divorce details. Your channel provides a lot of value without depending on those who can't consent to have their privacy broadcast, and it's a reason I'm a fan. May the best happen to you all.
I've heard the advice before that its good to refer to your ex as "my kids dad" or "their dad" when talking to other people because it helps train your mind to be looking at the situation from that perspective. Not focusing on the failed relationship but rather what his rule still is.
It does give people the idea you're still together tho and you usually have to clarify your not together to new people. So ex makes it easier sometimes.
Best thing my parents ever did was divorce when i was a kid. My parents get along so well being divorced they live across the street from eachother haha. We had two happy households to call home and now at 30 I have the best relationship with both my mom and dad. Some people are just meant to be great co-parents. ❤️
Love to hear this!!! thanks for sharing :)
Couples therapist here! Sometimes going to couples therapy highlights what is going wrong and that it isn’t fixable for whatever reason which I don’t think couples go in expecting. I try to caution couples about how the outcome of couples therapy might not be what they initially intended 😬
As a child of divorce I think how you’re handling this so far and the way you speak about your ex is really positive. Remembering that your kids happiness is number one and being civil to each other makes the whole situation better. Also the friendly reminder, no child ever wants to see/hear you disparage the other parent so hold those feelings back in front of them. If possible. ❤
No do not call your self a baby momma. Just use EX. You were married.
Agree. Baby mama sounds trashy imo.
As a kid who came from a household where I WISHED my parents would divorce- my parents relationship was so TOXIC! & it negatively affected me so much even until now (they’re still together) You’re 100% right. No point in living in a household where nobody’s happy. ☹️
So Sorry you had to go through that :( hope you're able to find a way to heal now 💕
Same. My parents should have separated long before they actually did. “For the kids” is moot when it’s a negative affect.
Love this perspective.
@@MaiZimmy definitely still healing! I had a lot of deep rooted trauma show up in my 20’s literally thinking “I’m fine & healed now” got married in my early 20’s & I find myself almost repeating whatever I saw in my parents relationship. I’m luckily very self aware, went though therapy & I am a spiritual person (I consider myself a Christian) and through a combo of relationship with Jesus, therapy & generally working to be better! ✨💕 wish you all the best 🥰
Same here! My parents are still together even though they should be divorced. I even talk about my parents like they are divorced. Do what will make everyone happy.
Good for you having a positive outlook on a shitty time in your life that will pass. Love that you keep your kids and private information private not a lot of RUclipsrs do and you have my respect for doing that.
I’m technically an adult child of divorce as my parents didn’t divorce until I was 20. But it was so traumatic the way the pitted us against each other, still do 10 years later. I don’t care that they aren’t together, I just don’t want to be in the middle of their drama anymore. You’ve been so intentional of being positive about your ex and I really respect you for it.
I find you talking about your journey so helpful. To be real about the good and the bad of it all. Keep the DIL videos coming 😊
As someone who did marry the boy she has been with since she was 14 I can say its not been easy. People have this misconception that we must have the perfect relationship since we have been together forever but its been hard. Neither of us are the same people we were 20 years ago and we have changed together and separately over the years. In the end I would absolutely do it again but I won't pretend its been smooth sailing the whole time.
I'm in this situation now. Going on 24 years. He was 18 and I was 19. We are now 41 & 42 😢
Wait just curious are you guys still together or no?
@Bianca-wx7zb yes 22 years now.
@christinaoshaughnessy1974 oh no, why the tear?
Mai you are so friggen awesome! I am a child who grew up with parents who divorced very amicably. So much so that my dad who moved out, still came over for major holidays (Christmas and thanksgiving) and even would go out for friend dates with my mom. As I grew older my mom told me my dad wasn't a good husband (won't share the details but it was pretty bad) and I'm so thankful she put up with some of her resentment just so that we got to have our dad at all the holidays and we weren't being forced to "pick which parent" to spend with. Seriously would love to see you include some videos what you do when your kid free! I mean this is the first time you've been single in 17 years! 😍🥰😃
I love watching you. I’m currently in a psychology class and we got to a chapter where my professor said in this stage of life (the stage were both in) is when most couples either grow together or grow apart. ❤
Nope not spending $60 on jeans with holes. Holes come with wear I need my knees and jeans to cover all of my legs.
Thank you for continuing to share your life!! I think you’re giving your boys something amazing by giving them a happy mama! 💜
You look amazing! ❤
I deeply respect your take on keeping things private, and how you are trying to keep a positive attitude, you are such a sweet woman, wishing you the very best ❤️
Thank you so much!!
This video format of questions with errands is brilliant! I love the vlog feel. I'll hang with you doing anything but loving the food journey ❤️Keep it up Mama!
It's so much better to have happy parents! You are going to thrive once you get through this painful patch. So happy to see you and sending you a thousand hugs!! 💘💝💖💓💞
LOVE when I get a notification that you have posted. ❤️
I love your great attitude and from a divorced person I can tell you you will have your down days. Go for a walk and cry if you need to. I felt much better and I was better to my 3 as well. Take care of yourself!!
😢 I’m sorry for your troubles. I hope your life is filled with incredible happiness in the future.
Thank you
Sending you love and hugs and you have a community of women who care about you!
Girl I’m pregnant with our first and feeling like divorce is inevitable. I’m sure EVERY separation feels like it’s happening at the most inconvenient time possible, but damn this really sucks. ❤
I broke up with my sons dad when i was 6 months pregnant. We hadn’t been together long and we didn’t get married but it was still hard and a lot of high emotions. It really sucked but after years of quietly fighting mostly because of his ex (gf/wife he got after us) since shes been gone for this past year we get along great. She caused a lot of extra drama and that relationship really humbled him and now hes nice to me. My son is 7 now and all he knows is two homes and we talk up how lucky he is he gets two bedrooms two families two birthdays two Christmas’ and two happy parents. My son only knows this as normal and it doesn’t feel like a broken home because we co parent so healthy. If you are seeing the red flags now run and run fast. The big question i asked myself was “if i wasn’t pregnant would i stay?” And the answer was a huge hell no so i left it wasn’t worth the toxic environment i was in. Find family or friends to help you so you have support but don’t lie down and try and make it work if you arnt happy 💕
Did you end up getting a divorce or was it just your pregnancy hormones
@@TheSunBringsJoy not just hormones but unable to leave
With you being happier outside of the marriage, you have the ability and time to work on yourself to be the best mom when get your boys.
Now you learned and can finally go out and form a healthy relationship with new people and you even got a mini family from him. You’re killing it!
I so admire you for keeping your private life private. So many today put everything that happens to them on social media. Prayers 🙏 and love ♥️ coming your way.
I'm so impressed by the way you're handling this major change in your life. The bad and sad days will, hopefully, be few and far between if you stay positive and maintain a good relationship with your ex. Your boys love you both and it would hurt them to hear anyone badmouth either of you. I hope you can find affordable counseling options. You are an amazing woman and I wish you every good thing in life. Much love! XXOO ❤️
Mai, I think I can say that all us are totally behind you and totally supportive of you❤. You are one of the most funniest, beautiful, intelligent woman and that is why I love watching you. Having the kids 50% of the time I get it that’s gonna be hard we are all here for you. this is a new chapter of your life. It’s gonna be tough sometimes, but not all the time. NEW chapter of my life here I come you can do this girl!
I love your channel so much and always look forward to a new video. Sometimes people just aren’t meant to be and that’s ok. ❤
My mum and dad divorced when I was about 7. Best thing they ever did. They are both incredibly happy in new relationships and it meant I have 4 parents who all get a long very well. We have all been able to enjoy the same gatherings and milestone events. Couldn't be more grateful.
Prayers hun. You are absolutely gorgeous! You go girl! You are going to be fine. His loss!
My heart hurts for you Mai but I'm so proud of you for doing what's going to be best for you and your kids long term, and I admire your strength so much!
Been waiting for this!!! Thank you so much for sharing
Choosing happiness is so important!❤❤ The boots and dress looked soo good on you!! 🔥 🔥
You have such a fantastic attitude!!it’s definitely the right thing to do, whatever makes you all happier overall,it’s brilliant that you are amicable too,sending hugs xx
really respect and appreciate you being open and honest about your divorce!! feels like there is a stigma or shame around it when there SHOULD NOT be especially given how common it is these days. and because of how it is the best decision for you & your kids. i grew up in a household with parents with a TOXIC relationship and it was awful. good for you for making the tough decision that will be the best for them in the end.
Woah amazing video. Was patiently waiting for a Q&A. Lots of love from Canada🥰
Girl, you look radiant! Not that you didn't before but you look refreshed. Turning over a new leaf never looked so joyous. :) I'm glad you're having more good days than bad and are being proactive in thebdirection of your life. Cheers!
Hi Mai! I’m sorry you are going through this but glad you were strong enough to make the decision to be happy! Hope the rest of the process goes well (as much as possible) and it stay amicable! Take good care!
SOOOOO SORRY your grandparents went through such a tragedy. Happy they have survived and thrived.
My parents didn't divorce until I was 30 and it was 17 years overdue. Thank you for doing the thinking and doing the right think for your family unit and especially the right thing for your kids
You go girl, You have such positive vibe I’m sure you will get through this.
I love watching your videos and how transparent you are.
Loved watching! I love that you answered questions for someone noisy such as myself. You seem happier.
Girl that home finds aisle is called the aisle of shame and we all love it and are here for it. Lol
We love a strong Independent queen! My parents separated later in life (when my siblings and I were already adults) and EVERYONE was so much happier after the fact...wish my mom had the strength to have done it sooner. You are making the best choice for you and your family. Keep the videos coming, we will continue to support you! You got this Mama!
Thanks you for sharing with us. It's a tough time but you seem to have such a positive attitude. Wishing you the best of luck x
Let me just say you look AMAZING! You can easily see the difference on your face, in the way you’re actually taking care of yourself, etc. You are literally glowing. I’m sure it’s hard to read that but I really mean it. You deserve to be happy and so does your ex and your children. And let me also say as a kid from divorced parents, they are better off growing up with divorced parents who are happy and thriving. They will have happy childhoods filled with love. They won’t understand it now but you are right, in 20 years they will thank you. I’m so sorry, this is so difficult ❤ And I also wanted to say, if I had married my 15 year old bf I dunno wtf it would be like. Sure, it works for some people but that is not the norm. You got this, mama!
Hi Mai. THANKS SOOOO much for sharing all of this with us. Means A LOT to me. Love & hugs. God bless. All the very best.
You are handling this awesome! You’re a strong and powerful woman ❤ I am married and we chose not to have kids but I am very thankful that my husband is not my high school sweetheart lol. That works for some relationships but I’m just glad that I met my spouse when I was in my late 20s.
Thanks for the retail therapy! Saves me some money living my life through you.
Also can you do a quick chat about your fitness routine. I would like to see a realistic way of working out for busy moms
You are 💯right! My parents divorced when we were all adults in our 30’s and it was so traumatic. No filter bc we were adults so they involved all of us. I know that me and my sisters and my mom all wished it happened much earlier. We would’ve had a very different upbringing and everyone would’ve probably been happier. The high school sweetheart things is pretty spot on. I don’t know any that survived from my high school😬. Love your videos and love shopping and getting some cleaning motivation from you!💜
Cheers to healing ❤️🩹 that heart and hopefully having some flirtatious fun as a grown ass woman in your 30s, Mai! I know it probably feels like a long way off, but if he was your first and only, there’s a whole life ahead of you, girl!
Glad you are able to get along with your ex. Wow you were together for a long time. I did not marry my high school sweetheart and now looking back glad I did not. I met my hubby when I was 32 and we married 1.5 year later. We definitely went through stuff previously so when we met we both were clear on what we wanted in a relationship and life. Now married for 11 years! I hope 2023 will be a great year for you! Glad you are in a divorce support group!
I don't understand why a man would divorce a woman like you - very beautiful, fun and pleasant to be around, who cares so lovingly for family and household. I don't think he can find any better! But I really cannot relate to these divorce things (fornunately never happened in my family). I just want to tell you that you are wonderful woman and you deserve a man who will value that.
You look better and happier!! Good for you!!
I've been following you for years and been behind on videos. Sending you love ❤️
I'm so happy you seem to be doing so well! I got divorced when my daughter was 4 (now 12) and it was the best decision I ever made. We just are better friends than a couple. We have a very amicable relationship with a 50/50 custody split and it has been great. I ended up meeting an amazing guy pretty quickly who also is divorced with 50/50 split custody so we always have a week together and then a week with our kids doing our own thing. Keep doing you and being amazing, its so empowering having full control over your life.
Wishing you the best and hope you're doing well financially!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
lol @ being depressed rather than paying these high therapy prices. sending love and encouragement. you're doing the thing!
Omggg you are in DFW! Gurl a meet and greet would be so cool!
Love this style….sorry you’re going through this. Prayers & hugs
Therapy is soooooooo worth it. Do it do it do it! You can also see an intern type therapist and they are less expensive. Also if you have insurance usually therapy is covered. I’m Canadian so I know it’s different but mine is covered at 80% through work.
That was fun vlog! Good luck in your new path in life. ❤
So I don’t have experience with divorce but just a encouraging thought about holidays…..the holiday isn’t the date it falls on but when you are together with your boys. I had hard holidays during and after college when my sisters got married and started doing every other holiday every other year with our family. It was just my parents and me for many which felt very sad/lonely. I learned to enjoy the actual day if alone and enjoy extra when we were together. I think this all helped me last year with my boys when we last minute celebrated Christmas on Xmas eve bc we knew my husband would be plowing bc of a storm on Xmas day.
You’re handling it all well! Keep that smile on your face😁
Best wishes for you and your boys and ex., things will works out, YOU seem like an awesome lady. Glad you are keeping the details private.
It’s so important to remember things like the Japanese internment camps so I think speaking about it on a non history channel is fantastic so that not only people who specifically are searching for it hear about it. If you feel up to it, maybe you could share a bit more about it, maybe with your mother if she would like to partake or showing some mementos of your grandparents? Though it is of course also understandable if you prefer not to.
Watched your video, sorry your going through a Togo ugh time! You seem like a tough strong woman!!! You will be ok!! Wishing you only the best!!! ❤🙏🏻
I’m sure you thought long and hard before you ended things . No one is able to live in your shoes and know how your feeling. Only you are able to know what’s best for you and your family . Sending love x
So happy to see you happy!!!
Hi Mai! Just wanted to say I love your content and sending lots of loves!
With your divorce math, I'm tempted to get a divorce myself. It would be so good to have 63% of my workload gone 😂
In my experience a good therapist helps a lot because he/she asks you the right questions so that you can understand your own feelings/reactions better and see the situation from an outside perspective. Good friends are awesome but they can only help to a certain extent.
7:35 this right here ❤ I love you! Enjoy your freedom and fun journey ahead.
The healthiest adult relationship I saw as a kid was between my mom and dad, even though they split up when I was a baby. Like I had no memory of them together, but I only had good experiences of us being a unit when we were all together. That said, my mom later married and had my younger half sister, and for a variety of reasons decided to stay in that relationship "for the kids" even though it was a toxic situation that was actively causing pain for everyone involved. It was a pretty extreme comparison, but I think it's better for kids to see parents working together and cooperating, even if it means being apart from each other. I think the happier you and your ex-husband are, the better it will be for your kids and I am sure they will grow up and be grateful for you guys prioritizing happiness over forcing something that doesn't work.
Your amazing!!! Live your best life babe!!!
love ur videos you are so authentic and positive
I think you are doing incredibly!!
Being as amicable as you can be is awsome!
I would feel the same if I had 50/50 custody with my older 2s father. But you have a really positive attitude and that is all you need you will find your rhythm!
That Hass to be the hardest as not having the kids all the time. Good for you girl. I am proud of you for knowing what you want, and need. Take care of yourself thanks for sharing
23:59 divorce dials out soul contracts. You’re a champion. You are light and joy. Handwrite a list of wants and needs.
Sincerely, an expert
Probably my favorite video yet. Good luck, and hope it stays amicable for you. Keep the positive attitude and yummy food --woot
Well awesome talk and answering questions video. Pray you and your little guys are well.
Wow! All those outfits look super cute on you!
so sorry, Mai! glad you're trying to find the silver lining day to day 🖤
I am! Thats all you can do :)
love you and yes your boys will be thankful some day. You have a very good outlook on divorce, keep it up!!!
My aunt and uncle have been together since elementary school. I won't say they have the happiest marriage, but they're still together.
But I KNEW I wouldn't want that for myself. And I agree, it's not right for everyone. You two have been together for a very, very long time. You know what's best for your relationship and your family.
Best of luck to you, and also I'm so getting those boots from Target!!!
in today's society, that is all about "me", so it's really great to hear that you both are trying to make a real effort for sanity and work together for your children. They need both of you regardless of the reasons for the divorce. They will Thank you one day for your strength and boldness in being the mother that they needed to be all those years.
Hang in there and keep loving yourself. In order to be there for others you have to be there for yourself.
Blessings
We want to know why you’re divorcing 😭 no details needed just a couple simple words. It just seemed everything was going good! You had just gone on vacay, now you’re divorcing 😭😭😭 anyway, i found your channel months ago and i must say it’s the only channel i can stand watching declutter videos 😂, I literally go through your page to look for a video I haven’t yet watched 😅
Edit: i kept watching the video, my question has been answered 😂 and may i say I married my boyfriend that i met when i was 16 im 23 now😭😂😂😂😂
In my experience, he usually entertaining other ladies or addictions. Read between the lines 😢
Love this vlog style video!!
Since you own your home, do you have future plans of renovating since you have only your stuff and the kiddos? Have you thought of renovating their rooms to be themed or anything? I love your videos so I watch them first, always. I own a home now and we have painted each room so far with its own theme. It just had me wondering because if you do, I'd love to watch the videos of the process!
I wish people who are in toxic relationships/marriages see this & see HOW WONDERFUL LIFE IS AFTER DIVORCE!!! Some people are just stuck or feel scared to move on..its beautiful guys!! If youre happy, your kids are happy!!! Congratulations!! There will be bumps when the road when the kids start asking & feeling some type of way about their New life but my sugestión is be positive & honest!
Continue to keep your head up. God built you for time like this. 🙏❤️
My parents are divorced and I have an awesome relationship with them (I'm 20 now and they divorced when I was 8) they weren't perfect but it was better for me that they did. As far as holidays went we just sort of had 2 of both. For example I always spent Christmas Eve and morning with my mother and either Christmas evening or the day after with my dad side. I'm not sure how far your family is away from each other but having "2" Christmases wasn't a bad thing. Maybe when your kids get older they can be a part of the discussion too, I know it will be difficult at first but when they start having opinions about that sort of thing maybe it'll make even more special for you and baby daddy lol. Each having your own special traditions y'know 💖💖
Love and Light!
So happy you are doing well 😊
I’m a clinical social worker (now a SAHM) and I highly recommend searching for an MSW associate or MFT trainee for therapy.
I love your vlogs there's so much fun and I enjoy them a lot,. I'm glad you're doing a lot better keeping you you're amazing stay healthy stay beautiful and never forget you're amazing mom.
I loved this talk. Thank you
Been there at age 36 and I strongly recommend you do you and be happy w your decisions. Try to eliminate stress as I got some wrinkles doing that. I learned a lot about myself and now I’m happily married for 18 yrs. You can do it, hang in there!❤
Love your videos and your positivity. I was wondering if you would be willing to discuss more about the 50/50 custody, how does that look? It is literally like you take them to school when week and then your ex? Or is it more weekend and holiday based? Also I’m not sure if it’s different in the states but in the uk if there is a divorce it normally leads to the family home being sold etc? Is this a path you are having to take or will you be staying where you are?