No. Therapy to talk about your hoarding for sentimental keepsakes is NOT a stupid idea! Your mother passed when you were very young, your inate nature tells you to cling on to the things she loved to keep her memory from fading. It's very normal. So is juts talking it out with someone. I'm so glad you've addressed the stigma behind ballet and are aware of the negative weight culture that follows it. Especially if Darcy & Pearl stick with it, better to understand & recognize that it is a very real problem now to watch for and avoid getting caught up in it when they are impressionable teens! As always, great sit down & chat video❤
This top dress looks soooooo beautiful on you!!! 🥺🥺 I’ve watched you since the “Brit crew” days but as I’ve got older I’ve stuck with you the most, whereas I maybe didn’t watch you the most back then as I was younger? I started religiously watching when you started doing “the weekly” and haven’t looked back! I truly adore watching you Louise.
She's just so comforting to listen to. I've been watching for about 9 years now, I have her on in the background whilst doing other things, or I watch when I need some cheering up :)
Sounds like a good idea to talk through the clutter thing if it's weighing heavily on you. Please don't invalidate your own concerns! Its not dramatic if it's important to you, it's important. Love having you chat away in the background while I'm sorting out the flat!
I’m 24, my lovely mummy died a month ago. Her birthday is on the 29Th April. I’ve followed Louise since she gave birth to Darcy and I’ve been catching up on videos about coping with grief and your mummy dying too. Didn’t think I’d need those so soon. Thank you Louise♥️
I’m so sorry to hear this, I am sending you lots of love. Your beautiful mummy will be forever by your side ❤️ I lost my mom in November just gone xxxx
As if my 33 weeks pregnant self just cried at you saying aloha sprinklerinos 😭😪😭😪 brings me back to my teenage years. Been watching you since you started RUclips and I just can't handle that little throwback 😭😂❤🥰 Love you Louise 💕
Louise, I am a huge fan of therapy. I look back at the difficult times in my life, and I'm SO glad I chose to speak with a professional. How could your mother's death NOT affect you in many ways.... some you can't even link back to her. I'm so proud of you!💞💖
I don't know if this will help, but I saw a great tip once about how to make getting rid of things easier - basically you create a special memories scrapbook, take photos of those special items and document the memory that it triggers for you, so you don't loose the connection - just the item
Once the ‘clutter’ is gone, you will not miss it. Rather than throwing things away, rehome, recycle or reuse them so they’re not wasted and still appreciated, a lot more appreciated than in your cupboards 😊
I did ballet when I was younger (7-14yrs) and was never concerned about my weight, it never even crossed my mind that it could be an issue. I never heard a teacher mention anyone’s weight and none of the girls in class talked about their bodies, we were just there to have fun.
yes same here! I imagine if it were to become an issue, it would happen later down the line if you wanted to pursue it professionally - then there might be some negative attitudes towards body image, but doing ballet up until 16 or so as a hobby, it never came up
I always feel guilty getting rid of gifts because I feel like I’m being ungrateful. One thing that’s helped is thinking why did they give you the present? They wanted to bring you a bit of joy in the moment, they didn’t want the item to be weighing you down. I think about a gift I’ve given someone, I wouldn’t want them to hold onto it for years if they didn’t really like it. I still feel guilty but I tell myself it’s served it’s purpose and the person wouldn’t want me to hold on to it and then quickly get rid of it before I can think too much about it!
Louise! I love your content! Been a fan from Day 1 and you are still someone I watch. You are so positive and bubbly (even when you are feeling down you show the real side of life)! Your content is so refreshing! So excited for all your NEWNESS!!
I always danced. The usual ballet, tap etc and musical theatre and this was so good for me! Gave me a great friendship group and made the transition from primary to high school easier because I had a solid friend group outside of school! Also really helped me with my mental health and is a great way to exercise and look after your body in a healthy way
I completely agree with how good it is that life seems to be returning! Everyone seems to be so much happier and the vibe is just so much nicer. I didn’t realise how much I missed just the sound of people laughing and enjoying themselves as I walked through town! That’s something I wouldn’t have thought twice about before the pandemic
I also lost my mum at a young age (7) and i am also obsessively and irrationally attached to things that people give me. I have 4-5 boxes in our spare room filled with stuffed animals and teddies from my childhood that my mum gave me. i'm 28, i have zero need for them and they could go to children who would love them. but a combination of my neuro-divergence in personifying things (giving them names and personalities and then making myself feel guilty that they'll think i don't love them etc toy story basically) and my attachment issues making me think if i throw them away i'm also throwing my mother away. So its really nice to hear someone else talk about this. thank you Louise
I know this sounds cringe, but it always gets better. It’s hard, really hard, but there’s always a downhill after an uphill. Your mom sounds like she was a wonderful woman.
Woken up feeling really anxious and overwhelmed, being in my last year of University everything feels so intense scary right now, alongside everything going on in the world. This video has made me teary to be honest, I instantly felt this wave of calm come over me as you spoke Louise and I just wanted to say thank you ❤️ In reality though you have been such a safe space for me throughout the pandemic I would like to say thank you for that too, I wish you and your family the best ❤️❤️❤️
Maybe it’s different at the private full time ballet schools but I had dance classes for most of my childhood and it wasn’t anything about weight or looks at all. It was super casual and just about having fun and dancing with friends, I can’t even think of one occasion when appearance was mentioned at all.
I’m in Australia and did ballet tap and jazz when I was little like (5-6) and my then ballet teacher actually told me I was “too solid” for ballet, I was 5 🤣 safe to say I never did ballet again.
I had the same thing. I started ballet at 5 years old and continued until I was 18. My dance teachers were both lovely, it was a family run business and anyone girls, boys , children, adults , no matter what size or shape were accepted. It was always about dancing for fun!
I started archery when I was 12 and it was so good to have during my teen years. There weren’t many of my peers around but the mindset and having something that was away from school was so great
i’ve been doing ballet for over 10 years and i’m met the most supportive and caring people though it!! i’ve never had to deal with any weight / shaving concerns because the community is so body positive x
That's good to know! My daughter is nearly 4 and I'm keen for her to stay little as long as possible! The appearance/weight thing has put me off but also the costumes and makeup I see too. (No judgement of anyone else,just my personal preferences for my child) We were watching gymnastics on tv this weekend and she showed an interest so thankyou for sharing your positive experience!
I have started studying dance (including ballet) as part of my uni course. I absolutely love it. There has been no pressure about body shape or size from any of my teachers. Most teachers are pretty good these days. I’m glad your girls enjoy it because I wish I had started earlier.
Hi Louise I love your content.. been a big fan for YEARS and have entered the world of motherhood with you, feel like you are a big sister to me and I love watching your videos and sometimes put on your old videos just for comfort. Never stop. Love you lots
Huge hugs and hearts to you and your sweet family! I also started ballet at 10 and it was a wonderful experience that did give me focus, friends, a wonderful connection to my body and music through those pre-teen/teen years.
I love that Darcy is loving ballet! I did theater all through my childhood and teens and it was such a positive and pro-social activity for me. When I did dance, even though the teachers didn’t say anything about body size or appearance, I felt very uncomfortable being a larger size than the other girls and always having to see us in our skivvies next to each other. Now As an adult I’ve found a wonderful dance community which isn’t about appearance at all and I’ve found so much love for my body here!
It makes me feel so warm knowing that you’ve been such a constant in my life from when I was a kid to now being in my twenties - I’m a bit behind you on the life track but genuinely felt like I’ve grown up beside you and it’s so lovely to hear about everything going on in your life behind the scenes. You always feel so down to earth and real when you talk to us and it does feel like catching up with an old friend! You really are one of the best eggs! 🥰
Ive done ballet since I was 4 and the weight stigma does crop up everywhere. BUT ballet is so magical I would never ever not have wanted it in my life ❤️ hope that reassures you even more Louise x
Ah Louise, I love to see you pop up in my recommended no matter the topic. I don’t always comment, but appreciate you varied content and feel quite motherly toward you. As a 53 year old, it just seems like I’ve watched you grow and mature (although your video with Tyler describing your incident with your “bubbly tummy” in Florida still makes me laugh and has impacted my family to this day, since my girls and I talk bubbly tummies all the time). You’re a positive light in this crazily negative internet (especially over this past year) and I appreciate you!
I appreciate the little things so much more. We went out to a restaurant and sat outside in the sun to eat and I couldn't stop going on about how amazing it was! I also cannot wait to get my haircut. It feels like one of the most exciting things ever!
Such a great point about the difference between not pleasing everyone and not upsetting anyone. That’s such an important distinction to make when putting yourself out there! There’s a world of difference between not being to everyone’s taste and actually causing harm/damage. A lot of internet users would do well to remember that 😅
Hello I’m an oldie but goldy and also a therapist specialising in bereavement. I just wanted to say I really recognise what you said about holding on to things because if the early loss of your mum. I’ve dealt with this exact issue in my practise and really want to encourage you in your quest for some counselling. I think it could really help ! Delayed and prolonged grief where the death occurred when people were much younger often sets all sorts of behavioural patterns in place and it sounds like you’re ready to have a loon at done if yours and figure out what you keep and what to move on from . Kind of like a behavioural decluttering! Good luck xxx
Amazing, I started concealing a few months ago and I wish I’d done it years ago. It’s given me so much freedom to express myself. It’s expensive but really needed.
I love everything about this video. We’re not doing as well in Canada as you are in the UK and I’m living through your cheery face. Hoping to be able to say “this is so nice” to someone on a patio soon!
I’m a Taurus too and I find it so hard to get rid of stuff. Especially my daughter’s! So I really appreciate you talking about that as I’ve wondered if I’m the only one! My grandma always told me to keep things to “remember” or if it was a gift I feel terrible getting rid of it.
Something that really helped me change my hoarding mindset and declutter was Marie Kondo's book - The life-changing magic of tidying up. My main take away in regard to what you talked about was thanking the thing, or person if it was a gift, in my mind. It sounds weird but truly helps let go in a positive way with gratitude.
For me, 2021 has been worse than 2020. I coped really well during the first lockdown and the reopening of stuff last summer. But since December, I've really really struggled. My anxiety is through the roof, my depression really hit hard again. Hoping the glorious summer sun will make things easier for me soon. And just as an aside, I've been a viewer since 2013 and you always manage to make me forget the shit that's going on in life for however long a video of yours is.
I literally gasped when you said Aloha Spriklerinos 🙈💕 so excited! Been watching for years and years and I'm still hooked!! Love these long chatty ones hope to see more xx
Putting our daughter in a dance school was the best decision we ever made for her. She has been there since she was 5 and is now nearly 13. I like you wanted her to have a focus as she got older and it has definitely given her that. She dances 4 days of the week doing all different styles and has found her absolute passion ❤️
Oldie but goldie and fellow Taurian here, I had no idea that being attached to material things was a Taurus trait, I've never understood why I felt so guilty about getting rid of clothes and items🤷🏽♀️
Louise, we’ve been to Disney twice since it opened back up. I reassure you, there’s nothing to fear! There’s no fireworks or much parades or anything at the moment, but the magic of Disney is till present. Disney is very strict on their mask policies. The lines can look at little intimidating because of the social distancing, but they’re not as long as they seem. I feel like everyone deserves a vacation at this point, but only if you’re comfortable in doing so. A little dose of Disney goes a long way, and has helped my household tremendously just to go to a place we love!
The internet was a dark place last year I 100% agree. I ended up taking a step back from it all, really curating my youtube and also deleting my Instagram as it was too much for me. Xxx
I drove by my local park today and there were so many people out and about playing basketball, volleyball, walking their dogs, having picnics, etc. I almost cried because it just looked so lovely and lively and freeing. I've missed seeing life like that 💗
This is so sweet of you: "If you are a viewer, please do NOT send gifts because I'd like you to spend your pennies on yourself. Cards and letters are welcome."
The loveliest staff to my Sunday morning. Louise on ✔️ cup of tea ✔️ and some toast ✔️ thank you Louise for always bringing the cosiest of feels and being so open and honest in your videos 💕
I danced for ten years from age six (mostly jazz and tap) and they were some of my best childhood memories! I made friends out of school, gained a lot of confidence and it also helped with staying active. I look back on those years with such fondness and so I am so happy to hear that Darcy is doing ballet classes. She has grown to be such an elegant little lady. I know you've mentioned Pearly is energetic as ever, which makes me think that dance will be such a great outlet for her to run about and express herself. It's so great to hear you are feeling excited about life. Hopefully the Disney trip goes ahead safely and you can reunite with Marie!
I've found myself recently re watching Louise's olden yet golden videos to ease my anxiety of the world opening back up and feel nostalgic. I got a notification for this video and hearing
I tend to take breaks from watching RUclips, but It is like catching up with a friend when I watch you. You're a breath of fresh air to watch because no matter how long of a break I have, you're always your own authentic self and I love that! I definitely love the chitty chat videos. I think it's really great that you are seeking therapy for struggling to let go of things, therapy is so great for everyone. I always say to people who are struggling, please go and see a therapist, because it really helps. Thankyou for your positive video, I feel like I needed it😊
I’m loving this old style video, having a good week this week, just secured my dream job before even graduating university! Life is good right now which is a nice change! X
Make sure to get vaccinated, Louise! 💉 Covid-19 is far worse the second time. My sister had it twice, she's a nurse. I believe immunity only lasts about 3 months. So glad you made it through okay. 💗💗💗
Dawn, from the Minimal Mom, just made a really good video about decluttering. "I can't part with stuff!?! What's going on in our brain..." I highly recommend it, I found it very useful.
I actually can not put into words how much I bloody love you Louise Pentland. You, without doubt, are my favourite "friend I'll never meet" You're just frickin fabulous!
I’m not sure if this is because I’m not a content creator but during the first lockdown I felt completely different about social media, a lot of the people I follow and who follow me (mostly just people I know though) seemed to start posting more hopeful things, sharing more positive mental health/ inspirational posts to stories etc and it seemed overall lovely! However, i can understand the major difference between that and actually being a content creator and feeling like always having to do/ say the right things on your platform and I did notice a large decrease in positivity and happiness overall on social media in the second lockdown!
I love both style videos but I think the sit down chit chat waffle on videos have a special place in my heart because that's also how I process and do things so its so nice to just have you on while I'm having a hinch in the kitchen haha
Oldie but goldie! (I really want and ObG badge haha) Holding onto things can link to childhood trauma. I recently had counselling and the collecting and placing emotional connection on things links too. Defo worth talking through with someone. Once you acknowledge it and learn about it, it becomes a lot easier to overcome.
Aaaaloha sprinklerinos ✨ Also I'm in the dance/theatre industry - ballet is changing, theatre is changing, ballet is actually amazing for learning how to appreciate all the wonderful things the human body can do. No matter your shape or size you feel beautiful. Even in elite ballet you have to be strong enough to dance all day every day, and the emphasis on weight is shifting. Some old school teachers might be harsh still by they need to get up with the times
I loved how honest you are Louise. I also had a clutter problem still do but not as bad and i used to crying and emotional to actually donate or get rid of anything. I had counselling about my mum too which i dont think was related to the clutter problem but it helped to make me realise a few things. I just think i have learnt to realise that the clutter isnt important and i do try to have a good clean out a few times in the year. ❤
I am so proud of you for getting rid of clutter. It's kind of hard mentally to let go of things, but it's also freeing. :) I like to go through things like once a year and do a purge, but I still feel like I have too much.
I have struggled with anxiety for 10 years on and off and I put a lot of emotional value in material things because I was afraid of change and objects were something I could "control" I've had counselling and CBT and it has helped, it's very brave of you to even consider, I'd say go for it!! Also I've danced (ballet, tap, etc) since I was 5 and I'm 23 now and its been a lifeline so good for you physically and mentally! 💃🏻xxx
Oldie but goldie crew here!! Absolutely love having a proper good catch up with you and finding out what's new with you. You look gorgeous and so happy ❤️❤️ xxx
I used to watch you all the time. I’ve started binge watching all of your videos and getting updated and wondering why in the world I stopped watching you?! I truly love your amazing personality ❤️
I’m feeling appreciative for no longer feeling guilty about wanted to stay at home! I love to meet up with friends on go on play dates with the kids but I’m a total introvert and am loving spending time at home and not constantly feeling like I ‘should’ be doing something! X
Lovely catch up Louise ❤️ My guess (well, hope really) is that the summer project (colourful things you can buy) is a clothing range, got my fingers crossed for that! My two girls (now grown up) danced all the way through their teens and still dance now (aged 28 and 25, so that stuck!). They made wonderful friendships and when things were tough at school sometimes, their dance crew were a different set of friends and a different environment which was great. They also joined in dance shows which gave them confidence. xx
I've never commented before but all those negative perceptions about ballet got me riled up and I have to say something! I did ballet for 14 years from the age of 4 up until the age of 18 (I'm now 25 and miss it) and it was the absolute best thing I did growing up! It was my main form of exercise during my teenage years but didn't feel like exercise because it was fun. But it wasn't just about that: it was an opportunity to socialise outside of school, it taught be discipline and perseverance, it gave me something to work towards (no pressure exams in June and concerts in November). It also gave me fantastic time management and organisational skills: I did two ballet classes and one jazz class a week (I think it was about 5 or 6 hours a week over 3 nights), which I also had to balance with concert band practice (I also played the flute) one night a week, and homework and study, especially as I got older. Never was there any pressure about bodies and weight and there were girls of all shapes and sizes at my school. In fact, ballet made me love my body during my teenage years (while still experiencing normal teenage awkwardness) because of all the amazing things it could do! It was after I stopped doing ballet when I finished school and moved away when I started feeling uncomfortable in my body because I started spending more time on social media. Sorry for the very long comment, I just needed to say something about this. Ballet doesn't have to cause body issues! I'm so glad your girls have found a love for ballet and I hope it's something they can hold onto a cherish as they get older like I did! xx
As a professional organizer of my own business I know that having a decluttered, clean open space is freeing emotionally and physically for all. Take it as slowly as you need to but remember that these are just things, the memories attached to them are what stays with you always.
I also lost my mum when I was quite young and have only just started going to theropy to unpack how it effected me and honestly it's the best thing I've ever done, a lot makes more sense now. When you feel ready to do it, especially if you are thinking of it Id truly recommend it 💜 P.S your outfit is gorge 😍😍
Hearing that intro again made my day! I'm very much love a chatty catch up video, I was French plaiting my hair when I was watching this which takes so much concentration I need something I can just listen to so this was perfect! Also with the ballet thing, I was never a dancer but I was a gymnast and it was such a positive thing for me, even though its a similar environment body image wise, it's always about finding the right place to do it and it sounds like you have
Thank you for opening up the video with “ALOHA SPRINKLERINOS”! I have missed hearing that so much! Yes since the start of this whole pandemic I have been a huge ball of stress and I have been watching RUclips just to try to keep my mind off of the stress I have been feeling. Crying has also been a friend of mine too.
Love the chit chat style videos! I love hearing about children starting their dance journey because I loved dance so much, my only real regret was not carrying dance on through my teen years.
One of my favorite tips for decluttering that really helped me: if you can replace it in 20 minutes (quick run to a shop) or for under $20 ... then holding onto it "just in case" is not worth the mental space of my brain holding onto where that item is stored/kept or cleaning around it. Hope that helps!
Oldie but goldie here! 🙋🏼♀️ Still watching every week almost 9 years later, and will continue to watch as long as you continue to post content! I agree that last year did feel very negative online, especially with cancel culture being so prominent and certain content creators coming under fire... However it does feel much more positive now! Sending you lots of love Louise and keep going with the decluttering! I find it difficult too, but have found it very therapeutic during the pandemic! Hoping you’re able to go on your Disney holiday and I can’t wait to see the Disney content! Xx
I did feel that way last year on social media yes I work for a essential store part time and I was getting way more not so nice experiences with costumers for no reason I think because everyone’s tensions were so high from everything. I’m glad you all recovered from Covid Xxx
I absolutely love what you had to say about your daughters being involved with ballet and the potential body image implications that come with that. I grew up in theatre (which has similar stigmas of body size) and I often think back to my childhood and how being in that environment effected my self perception. I absolutely agree that the benefits of being involved in something I was passionate about was well worth it, but even if the studio they're in facilitates a positive environment, these stigmas absolutely pervade into the room. The best thing you can do is to acknowledge these unconscious biases and mindsets and foster open communication (which it sounds like you do). Don't know if this helps ease your concerns, but I always get excited to see people talking about how hobbies that have positive impacts can still come with negative learned beliefs. Addressing that there's an issue is the first step towards making a more inclusive and healthy world for our kids to explore Btw, the new website looks so swish!!
I did ballet between the ages of 3-18. Weight never came up at all, it was always more about knowing your body as it is and knowing how to feel comfortable and in control of it. I will say, when I stopped during my freshman year of college, I had to learn how to get in regular exercise so that I felt energized/healthy. I had been dancing for my whole life and I didn’t view it as exercise even though it obviously was, just fun. That did cause me a bit of a crisis when I had to relearn my ideas of what exercise was and how much of it I needed in order to feel my best. But all in all, I loved my time in ballet! ~Jenny
I did a lot of dance growing up, all the way until I was 18. It was really fun, and I loved having a hobby and a fun way to stay in shape, but it definitely did bring up body issues. It was never explicit, like no one told me to lose weight or that I had the wrong body type or anything, but I was still constantly comparing myself to the other girls around me and feeling wrong/out of place because of my body. I think that dance can amplify any issues with weight that children that age do often go through, but in most places nowadays dance isn't the cause of it. I would just say to make sure to have those sorts of conversations and make sure that they are willing to talk about it if anything comes up. I think you are already doing fantastic at that, and I hope your girls continue to find joy in dance!
“ALOHA SPRINKLERINOS” I literally smiled so hard when you said that Louise! 😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
Me too!! 💖💖💖
I did a little happy jump ! 💗
it felt like a hug, so comforting!
Yea that was the best hello! 🤩
I think we all did 😍
“Aloha Sprinklerinos” brings back all the warm fuzzies! ❤️
No. Therapy to talk about your hoarding for sentimental keepsakes is NOT a stupid idea! Your mother passed when you were very young, your inate nature tells you to cling on to the things she loved to keep her memory from fading. It's very normal. So is juts talking it out with someone.
I'm so glad you've addressed the stigma behind ballet and are aware of the negative weight culture that follows it. Especially if Darcy & Pearl stick with it, better to understand & recognize that it is a very real problem now to watch for and avoid getting caught up in it when they are impressionable teens!
As always, great sit down & chat video❤
This top dress looks soooooo beautiful on you!!! 🥺🥺 I’ve watched you since the “Brit crew” days but as I’ve got older I’ve stuck with you the most, whereas I maybe didn’t watch you the most back then as I was younger? I started religiously watching when you started doing “the weekly” and haven’t looked back! I truly adore watching you Louise.
Loved the throwback intro! ❤️ Looking forward to these new chapters of life/work and projects for you ❤️ sending love & hugs xx
She's just so comforting to listen to. I've been watching for about 9 years now, I have her on in the background whilst doing other things, or I watch when I need some cheering up :)
Agreed!
Me too
Sounds like a good idea to talk through the clutter thing if it's weighing heavily on you. Please don't invalidate your own concerns! Its not dramatic if it's important to you, it's important. Love having you chat away in the background while I'm sorting out the flat!
I’m 24, my lovely mummy died a month ago. Her birthday is on the 29Th April. I’ve followed Louise since she gave birth to Darcy and I’ve been catching up on videos about coping with grief and your mummy dying too. Didn’t think I’d need those so soon. Thank you Louise♥️
I am so sorry to hear this! Sending big hugs from Chile, you're not alone ♡
Sending you a lot of love and peace Olivia xxx
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you love & strength in this difficult time ❤️
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I’m so sorry to hear this, I am sending you lots of love. Your beautiful mummy will be forever by your side ❤️ I lost my mom in November just gone xxxx
As if my 33 weeks pregnant self just cried at you saying aloha sprinklerinos 😭😪😭😪 brings me back to my teenage years. Been watching you since you started RUclips and I just can't handle that little throwback 😭😂❤🥰
Love you Louise 💕
i hope everything goes well
@@tx865 thank you so much ❤🥰 xx
Only a few minutes in but yes, the online world was horrific last year! People picked on ANYTHING and EVERYTHING! 😅
It rlly has been !!!
Yes!!!!!!!!!
And you videos gobs made it worse
I realize it's kinda off topic but does anyone know a good place to stream new series online?
Louise, I am a huge fan of therapy. I look back at the difficult times in my life, and I'm SO glad I chose to speak with a professional. How could your mother's death NOT affect you in many ways.... some you can't even link back to her. I'm so proud of you!💞💖
You know its guna be a goodie when Louise has notes!! Love a wee chit chat video! Happy Sunday everyone! Hope you all have a fab day xxx
I don't know if this will help, but I saw a great tip once about how to make getting rid of things easier - basically you create a special memories scrapbook, take photos of those special items and document the memory that it triggers for you, so you don't loose the connection - just the item
Once the ‘clutter’ is gone, you will not miss it. Rather than throwing things away, rehome, recycle or reuse them so they’re not wasted and still appreciated, a lot more appreciated than in your cupboards 😊
I did ballet when I was younger (7-14yrs) and was never concerned about my weight, it never even crossed my mind that it could be an issue. I never heard a teacher mention anyone’s weight and none of the girls in class talked about their bodies, we were just there to have fun.
yes same here! I imagine if it were to become an issue, it would happen later down the line if you wanted to pursue it professionally - then there might be some negative attitudes towards body image, but doing ballet up until 16 or so as a hobby, it never came up
I always feel guilty getting rid of gifts because I feel like I’m being ungrateful.
One thing that’s helped is thinking why did they give you the present? They wanted to bring you a bit of joy in the moment, they didn’t want the item to be weighing you down. I think about a gift I’ve given someone, I wouldn’t want them to hold onto it for years if they didn’t really like it.
I still feel guilty but I tell myself it’s served it’s purpose and the person wouldn’t want me to hold on to it and then quickly get rid of it before I can think too much about it!
Louise! I love your content! Been a fan from Day 1 and you are still someone I watch. You are so positive and bubbly (even when you are feeling down you show the real side of life)! Your content is so refreshing! So excited for all your NEWNESS!!
I always danced. The usual ballet, tap etc and musical theatre and this was so good for me! Gave me a great friendship group and made the transition from primary to high school easier because I had a solid friend group outside of school! Also really helped me with my mental health and is a great way to exercise and look after your body in a healthy way
I completely agree with how good it is that life seems to be returning! Everyone seems to be so much happier and the vibe is just so much nicer. I didn’t realise how much I missed just the sound of people laughing and enjoying themselves as I walked through town! That’s something I wouldn’t have thought twice about before the pandemic
I also lost my mum at a young age (7) and i am also obsessively and irrationally attached to things that people give me. I have 4-5 boxes in our spare room filled with stuffed animals and teddies from my childhood that my mum gave me. i'm 28, i have zero need for them and they could go to children who would love them. but a combination of my neuro-divergence in personifying things (giving them names and personalities and then making myself feel guilty that they'll think i don't love them etc toy story basically) and my attachment issues making me think if i throw them away i'm also throwing my mother away. So its really nice to hear someone else talk about this. thank you Louise
I know this sounds cringe, but it always gets better. It’s hard, really hard, but there’s always a downhill after an uphill. Your mom sounds like she was a wonderful woman.
Woken up feeling really anxious and overwhelmed, being in my last year of University everything feels so intense scary right now, alongside everything going on in the world. This video has made me teary to be honest, I instantly felt this wave of calm come over me as you spoke Louise and I just wanted to say thank you ❤️ In reality though you have been such a safe space for me throughout the pandemic I would like to say thank you for that too, I wish you and your family the best ❤️❤️❤️
Maybe it’s different at the private full time ballet schools but I had dance classes for most of my childhood and it wasn’t anything about weight or looks at all. It was super casual and just about having fun and dancing with friends, I can’t even think of one occasion when appearance was mentioned at all.
I think with any of these kinds of hobbies, it's finding the right place/environment.
I second this! Made some great friends through dance all the way through my school life
I’m in Australia and did ballet tap and jazz when I was little like (5-6) and my then ballet teacher actually told me I was “too solid” for ballet, I was 5 🤣 safe to say I never did ballet again.
@@RicciDamiani lol how rude what a mean lady
You’re the right size, whatever size you are. That wasn’t a nice thing for her to say
I had the same thing. I started ballet at 5 years old and continued until I was 18. My dance teachers were both lovely, it was a family run business and anyone girls, boys , children, adults , no matter what size or shape were accepted. It was always about dancing for fun!
I started archery when I was 12 and it was so good to have during my teen years. There weren’t many of my peers around but the mindset and having something that was away from school was so great
That is so cool! I would have loved to do archery!
i’ve been doing ballet for over 10 years and i’m met the most supportive and caring people though it!! i’ve never had to deal with any weight / shaving concerns because the community is so body positive x
That's good to know! My daughter is nearly 4 and I'm keen for her to stay little as long as possible! The appearance/weight thing has put me off but also the costumes and makeup I see too. (No judgement of anyone else,just my personal preferences for my child) We were watching gymnastics on tv this weekend and she showed an interest so thankyou for sharing your positive experience!
I have started studying dance (including ballet) as part of my uni course. I absolutely love it. There has been no pressure about body shape or size from any of my teachers. Most teachers are pretty good these days. I’m glad your girls enjoy it because I wish I had started earlier.
the ahola sprinklerinos just gave me a throwback to 2013 jesus christ🥺🥺😭♥️
Hi Louise I love your content.. been a big fan for YEARS and have entered the world of motherhood with you, feel like you are a big sister to me and I love watching your videos and sometimes put on your old videos just for comfort. Never stop. Love you lots
Huge hugs and hearts to you and your sweet family! I also started ballet at 10 and it was a wonderful experience that did give me focus, friends, a wonderful connection to my body and music through those pre-teen/teen years.
Oooo, what a treat! I love all your videos, but a chatty catch-up is always extra special 💕
I love that Darcy is loving ballet! I did theater all through my childhood and teens and it was such a positive and pro-social activity for me. When I did dance, even though the teachers didn’t say anything about body size or appearance, I felt very uncomfortable being a larger size than the other girls and always having to see us in our skivvies next to each other. Now As an adult I’ve found a wonderful dance community which isn’t about appearance at all and I’ve found so much love for my body here!
It makes me feel so warm knowing that you’ve been such a constant in my life from when I was a kid to now being in my twenties - I’m a bit behind you on the life track but genuinely felt like I’ve grown up beside you and it’s so lovely to hear about everything going on in your life behind the scenes. You always feel so down to earth and real when you talk to us and it does feel like catching up with an old friend! You really are one of the best eggs! 🥰
Ive done ballet since I was 4 and the weight stigma does crop up everywhere. BUT ballet is so magical I would never ever not have wanted it in my life ❤️ hope that reassures you even more Louise x
Ah Louise, I love to see you pop up in my recommended no matter the topic. I don’t always comment, but appreciate you varied content and feel quite motherly toward you. As a 53 year old, it just seems like I’ve watched you grow and mature (although your video with Tyler describing your incident with your “bubbly tummy” in Florida still makes me laugh and has impacted my family to this day, since my girls and I talk bubbly tummies all the time). You’re a positive light in this crazily negative internet (especially over this past year) and I appreciate you!
I appreciate the little things so much more. We went out to a restaurant and sat outside in the sun to eat and I couldn't stop going on about how amazing it was! I also cannot wait to get my haircut. It feels like one of the most exciting things ever!
Lovely to see you so happy and enjoying life. You are always a ray of sunshine. Thank you
Such a great point about the difference between not pleasing everyone and not upsetting anyone. That’s such an important distinction to make when putting yourself out there! There’s a world of difference between not being to everyone’s taste and actually causing harm/damage. A lot of internet users would do well to remember that 😅
Hello I’m an oldie but goldy and also a therapist specialising in bereavement. I just wanted to say I really recognise what you said about holding on to things because if the early loss of your mum. I’ve dealt with this exact issue in my practise and really want to encourage you in your quest for some counselling. I think
it could really help ! Delayed and prolonged grief where the death occurred when people were much younger often sets all
sorts of behavioural patterns in place and it sounds like you’re ready to have a loon at done if yours and figure out what you keep and what to move on from . Kind of like a behavioural decluttering! Good luck xxx
Amazing, I started concealing a few months ago and I wish I’d done it years ago. It’s given me so much freedom to express myself. It’s expensive but really needed.
I love everything about this video. We’re not doing as well in Canada as you are in the UK and I’m living through your cheery face. Hoping to be able to say “this is so nice” to someone on a patio soon!
I just listened to Grace and Mamrie’s “How You Been?” podcast and now I am off binging Louise videos! Always brings me so much joy.
I totally feel you on the decluttering struggles! Definitely in the same boat where I think about things!
I’m a Taurus too and I find it so hard to get rid of stuff. Especially my daughter’s! So I really appreciate you talking about that as I’ve wondered if I’m the only one! My grandma always told me to keep things to “remember” or if it was a gift I feel terrible getting rid of it.
Something that really helped me change my hoarding mindset and declutter was Marie Kondo's book - The life-changing magic of tidying up. My main take away in regard to what you talked about was thanking the thing, or person if it was a gift, in my mind. It sounds weird but truly helps let go in a positive way with gratitude.
I would love a Louise Pentland x In the style collab!! Lovely floral midi dresses, midi skirts, cardigans, maybe a few lovely pjs 😍
For me, 2021 has been worse than 2020. I coped really well during the first lockdown and the reopening of stuff last summer. But since December, I've really really struggled. My anxiety is through the roof, my depression really hit hard again. Hoping the glorious summer sun will make things easier for me soon. And just as an aside, I've been a viewer since 2013 and you always manage to make me forget the shit that's going on in life for however long a video of yours is.
I literally gasped when you said Aloha Spriklerinos 🙈💕 so excited! Been watching for years and years and I'm still hooked!! Love these long chatty ones hope to see more xx
Putting our daughter in a dance school was the best decision we ever made for her. She has been there since she was 5 and is now nearly 13. I like you wanted her to have a focus as she got older and it has definitely given her that. She dances 4 days of the week doing all different styles and has found her absolute passion ❤️
Oldie but goldie and fellow Taurian here, I had no idea that being attached to material things was a Taurus trait, I've never understood why I felt so guilty about getting rid of clothes and items🤷🏽♀️
I wish I could have a video like this playing all day, everyday. Find it so relaxing, could listen to you for hours 🥰
Sprinklerinos 😱 feels like we gone back 5+ years 💜 i love it!
My nan passed away in 2007 ive still got her old nokia 3410. 🥰
Louise, we’ve been to Disney twice since it opened back up. I reassure you, there’s nothing to fear! There’s no fireworks or much parades or anything at the moment, but the magic of Disney is till present. Disney is very strict on their mask policies. The lines can look at little intimidating because of the social distancing, but they’re not as long as they seem. I feel like everyone deserves a vacation at this point, but only if you’re comfortable in doing so. A little dose of Disney goes a long way, and has helped my household tremendously just to go to a place we love!
Watching your videos always makes me feel cosy, I don't know how to explain it your just so so lovely and you make me feel calm x
The internet was a dark place last year I 100% agree. I ended up taking a step back from it all, really curating my youtube and also deleting my Instagram as it was too much for me. Xxx
I drove by my local park today and there were so many people out and about playing basketball, volleyball, walking their dogs, having picnics, etc. I almost cried because it just looked so lovely and lively and freeing. I've missed seeing life like that 💗
Glad you’re all ok after the health challenges of January. I hope your holiday dreams come true this year xx
This video is so comforting and nostalgic! I have loved your videos for soooo many years and you continue to be one of my very favorites💗💗💗
This is so sweet of you: "If you are a viewer, please do NOT send gifts because I'd like you to spend your pennies on yourself. Cards and letters are welcome."
Give yourself permission to let things go. It’s amazing.
The loveliest staff to my Sunday morning. Louise on ✔️ cup of tea ✔️ and some toast ✔️ thank you Louise for always bringing the cosiest of feels and being so open and honest in your videos 💕
I danced for ten years from age six (mostly jazz and tap) and they were some of my best childhood memories! I made friends out of school, gained a lot of confidence and it also helped with staying active. I look back on those years with such fondness and so I am so happy to hear that Darcy is doing ballet classes. She has grown to be such an elegant little lady. I know you've mentioned Pearly is energetic as ever, which makes me think that dance will be such a great outlet for her to run about and express herself. It's so great to hear you are feeling excited about life. Hopefully the Disney trip goes ahead safely and you can reunite with Marie!
Chatty vids are my fav! I put them on in the mornings doing my makeup when I have to wake up early for work!
I've found myself recently re watching Louise's olden yet golden videos to ease my anxiety of the world opening back up and feel nostalgic. I got a notification for this video and hearing
I tend to take breaks from watching RUclips, but It is like catching up with a friend when I watch you. You're a breath of fresh air to watch because no matter how long of a break I have, you're always your own authentic self and I love that! I definitely love the chitty chat videos. I think it's really great that you are seeking therapy for struggling to let go of things, therapy is so great for everyone. I always say to people who are struggling, please go and see a therapist, because it really helps. Thankyou for your positive video, I feel like I needed it😊
I’m loving this old style video, having a good week this week, just secured my dream job before even graduating university! Life is good right now which is a nice change! X
Make sure to get vaccinated, Louise! 💉 Covid-19 is far worse the second time. My sister had it twice, she's a nurse. I believe immunity only lasts about 3 months. So glad you made it through okay. 💗💗💗
Dawn, from the Minimal Mom, just made a really good video about decluttering. "I can't part with stuff!?! What's going on in our brain..." I highly recommend it, I found it very useful.
I actually can not put into words how much I bloody love you Louise Pentland. You, without doubt, are my favourite "friend I'll never meet" You're just frickin fabulous!
You’re looking so lovely and happy Louise! Happy Sunday. Personally I stick your videos on whilst I’m keeping busy
I’m not sure if this is because I’m not a content creator but during the first lockdown I felt completely different about social media, a lot of the people I follow and who follow me (mostly just people I know though) seemed to start posting more hopeful things, sharing more positive mental health/ inspirational posts to stories etc and it seemed overall lovely! However, i can understand the major difference between that and actually being a content creator and feeling like always having to do/ say the right things on your platform and I did notice a large decrease in positivity and happiness overall on social media in the second lockdown!
I love both style videos but I think the sit down chit chat waffle on videos have a special place in my heart because that's also how I process and do things so its so nice to just have you on while I'm having a hinch in the kitchen haha
Oldie but goldie! (I really want and ObG badge haha) Holding onto things can link to childhood trauma. I recently had counselling and the collecting and placing emotional connection on things links too. Defo worth talking through with someone. Once you acknowledge it and learn about it, it becomes a lot easier to overcome.
Aaaaloha sprinklerinos ✨
Also I'm in the dance/theatre industry - ballet is changing, theatre is changing, ballet is actually amazing for learning how to appreciate all the wonderful things the human body can do. No matter your shape or size you feel beautiful. Even in elite ballet you have to be strong enough to dance all day every day, and the emphasis on weight is shifting. Some old school teachers might be harsh still by they need to get up with the times
I loved how honest you are Louise. I also had a clutter problem still do but not as bad and i used to crying and emotional to actually donate or get rid of anything. I had counselling about my mum too which i dont think was related to the clutter problem but it helped to make me realise a few things. I just think i have learnt to realise that the clutter isnt important and i do try to have a good clean out a few times in the year. ❤
I am so proud of you for getting rid of clutter. It's kind of hard mentally to let go of things, but it's also freeing. :) I like to go through things like once a year and do a purge, but I still feel like I have too much.
One thing that really helped me, was to know the giver wanted to give you a spark of joy and if letting go gives you that spark then gift achieved!
Good for you, seeking healing Louise! I also found time to reflect during 2020. Happy for you! Never too late ! X
I have struggled with anxiety for 10 years on and off and I put a lot of emotional value in material things because I was afraid of change and objects were something I could "control" I've had counselling and CBT and it has helped, it's very brave of you to even consider, I'd say go for it!!
Also I've danced (ballet, tap, etc) since I was 5 and I'm 23 now and its been a lifeline so good for you physically and mentally! 💃🏻xxx
Oldie but goldie crew here!! Absolutely love having a proper good catch up with you and finding out what's new with you. You look gorgeous and so happy ❤️❤️ xxx
I used to watch you all the time. I’ve started binge watching all of your videos and getting updated and wondering why in the world I stopped watching you?! I truly love your amazing personality ❤️
I always feel so welcome when I watch your videos. As an oldie but goldie, this was like a nice little catch up with a friend.
I’m feeling appreciative for no longer feeling guilty about wanted to stay at home! I love to meet up with friends on go on play dates with the kids but I’m a total introvert and am loving spending time at home and not constantly feeling like I ‘should’ be doing something! X
Lovely catch up Louise ❤️ My guess (well, hope really) is that the summer project (colourful things you can buy) is a clothing range, got my fingers crossed for that! My two girls (now grown up) danced all the way through their teens and still dance now (aged 28 and 25, so that stuck!). They made wonderful friendships and when things were tough at school sometimes, their dance crew were a different set of friends and a different environment which was great. They also joined in dance shows which gave them confidence. xx
I've never commented before but all those negative perceptions about ballet got me riled up and I have to say something! I did ballet for 14 years from the age of 4 up until the age of 18 (I'm now 25 and miss it) and it was the absolute best thing I did growing up! It was my main form of exercise during my teenage years but didn't feel like exercise because it was fun. But it wasn't just about that: it was an opportunity to socialise outside of school, it taught be discipline and perseverance, it gave me something to work towards (no pressure exams in June and concerts in November). It also gave me fantastic time management and organisational skills: I did two ballet classes and one jazz class a week (I think it was about 5 or 6 hours a week over 3 nights), which I also had to balance with concert band practice (I also played the flute) one night a week, and homework and study, especially as I got older. Never was there any pressure about bodies and weight and there were girls of all shapes and sizes at my school. In fact, ballet made me love my body during my teenage years (while still experiencing normal teenage awkwardness) because of all the amazing things it could do! It was after I stopped doing ballet when I finished school and moved away when I started feeling uncomfortable in my body because I started spending more time on social media.
Sorry for the very long comment, I just needed to say something about this. Ballet doesn't have to cause body issues! I'm so glad your girls have found a love for ballet and I hope it's something they can hold onto a cherish as they get older like I did! xx
As a professional organizer of my own business I know that having a decluttered, clean open space is freeing emotionally and physically for all. Take it as slowly as you need to but remember that these are just things, the memories attached to them are what stays with you always.
I also lost my mum when I was quite young and have only just started going to theropy to unpack how it effected me and honestly it's the best thing I've ever done, a lot makes more sense now. When you feel ready to do it, especially if you are thinking of it Id truly recommend it 💜
P.S your outfit is gorge 😍😍
Hearing that intro again made my day! I'm very much love a chatty catch up video, I was French plaiting my hair when I was watching this which takes so much concentration I need something I can just listen to so this was perfect! Also with the ballet thing, I was never a dancer but I was a gymnast and it was such a positive thing for me, even though its a similar environment body image wise, it's always about finding the right place to do it and it sounds like you have
Love "having chit chat" with my Pal Louise ♡
Thank you for opening up the video with “ALOHA SPRINKLERINOS”! I have missed hearing that so much! Yes since the start of this whole pandemic I have been a huge ball of stress and I have been watching RUclips just to try to keep my mind off of the stress I have been feeling. Crying has also been a friend of mine too.
Love the chit chat style videos! I love hearing about children starting their dance journey because I loved dance so much, my only real regret was not carrying dance on through my teen years.
i work in a hairdressers and Louise is that client who lifts your mood up for that 5 minute shampoo 🤍
I love that I’m an oldie but goldy 😂 been watching for 9 years!!🥰
One of my favorite tips for decluttering that really helped me: if you can replace it in 20 minutes (quick run to a shop) or for under $20 ... then holding onto it "just in case" is not worth the mental space of my brain holding onto where that item is stored/kept or cleaning around it. Hope that helps!
The “ALOHA SPRINKLERINOS” brought me back to the good old days and I felt like I had just come back home.
Louise you are a breath of fresh air in my life... Thank you!!😊
Oldie but goldie here! 🙋🏼♀️
Still watching every week almost 9 years later, and will continue to watch as long as you continue to post content!
I agree that last year did feel very negative online, especially with cancel culture being so prominent and certain content creators coming under fire... However it does feel much more positive now!
Sending you lots of love Louise and keep going with the decluttering! I find it difficult too, but have found it very therapeutic during the pandemic!
Hoping you’re able to go on your Disney holiday and I can’t wait to see the Disney content! Xx
I love your longer chatty videos! I always have you on in the background when I'm cleaning my room so it makes me feel motivated to carry on
I did feel that way last year on social media yes I work for a essential store part time and I was getting way more not so nice experiences with costumers for no reason I think because everyone’s tensions were so high from everything. I’m glad you all recovered from Covid Xxx
I absolutely love what you had to say about your daughters being involved with ballet and the potential body image implications that come with that. I grew up in theatre (which has similar stigmas of body size) and I often think back to my childhood and how being in that environment effected my self perception. I absolutely agree that the benefits of being involved in something I was passionate about was well worth it, but even if the studio they're in facilitates a positive environment, these stigmas absolutely pervade into the room. The best thing you can do is to acknowledge these unconscious biases and mindsets and foster open communication (which it sounds like you do). Don't know if this helps ease your concerns, but I always get excited to see people talking about how hobbies that have positive impacts can still come with negative learned beliefs. Addressing that there's an issue is the first step towards making a more inclusive and healthy world for our kids to explore
Btw, the new website looks so swish!!
I did ballet between the ages of 3-18. Weight never came up at all, it was always more about knowing your body as it is and knowing how to feel comfortable and in control of it. I will say, when I stopped during my freshman year of college, I had to learn how to get in regular exercise so that I felt energized/healthy. I had been dancing for my whole life and I didn’t view it as exercise even though it obviously was, just fun. That did cause me a bit of a crisis when I had to relearn my ideas of what exercise was and how much of it I needed in order to feel my best. But all in all, I loved my time in ballet! ~Jenny
I did a lot of dance growing up, all the way until I was 18. It was really fun, and I loved having a hobby and a fun way to stay in shape, but it definitely did bring up body issues. It was never explicit, like no one told me to lose weight or that I had the wrong body type or anything, but I was still constantly comparing myself to the other girls around me and feeling wrong/out of place because of my body. I think that dance can amplify any issues with weight that children that age do often go through, but in most places nowadays dance isn't the cause of it. I would just say to make sure to have those sorts of conversations and make sure that they are willing to talk about it if anything comes up. I think you are already doing fantastic at that, and I hope your girls continue to find joy in dance!
The intro warmed my heart! I love old and new Louise xxx