@@depgabby I never understood it though. I'm also a teenager. Boy's dont mature until they're 25, takes some even longer. So hooking up as a teenager is the equivilant to hooking up with a child. I don't see the fun in that, the intimacy, the experience, it's none existent. It seems childish and often one sided.
I turned my booty call into my boyfriend by accident . I’d make myself dinner then he would join. If I watched tv after he would chime in that he loved the same shows .. he came over often and after some time I told him it was too long to leave his dog at home . So the dog started coming over too . We ended up going on walks daily with the pup ... then one day I babysat for him .. boom now we are married 🤣
You didn’t turn a booty call into a relationship accidentaly, your husband turned the booty call into a relationship and I don’t think it was by any chance, I’m willing to bet he started liking you very early on
The majority of these hooks ups, casual sex, friends with benefits hardly works out...Why put yourself in a situation whose success rate is low? Abstainenace from sex increases the chances of getting a valid commitment & marriage
You just hit the nail. I was happily single for the last 5 years, and a few weeks ago I hooked up with a colleague, now I have all these feelings I don't understand. But it's just like you said, what I want is a relationship, I want matter to someone, is not actual feelings for him.
Being honest doesn't always work out too well. I was honest about what I wanted- a proper committed relationship. The guy happened to be a narcissist so he used it to his benefit, acted like he wanted the same thing, was very supportive and near perfect. And then he got what he wanted, ended it and bounced🤷♀️
Step 1: be an unforgettable lover for the man Step 2: after sex, don’t act you care too much but be warm Step 3: throw in intellectual conversations and fun actions outside the bedroom
The Queen is back. Love you Shallon. Wise advice. You are a religion! Hope you will talk more about self esteem stuff, as we are living in an age when comparison has never been this ubiquitous.
I am late in discovering this channel but I agree with a lot of the things she says. I learnt all these lessons from my own experiences and I can you that they are 💯 truth! Men are simple and straight forward creatures and when someone shows you who they really are, believe them the FIRST time. Don't make excuses for them in a bid to keep them in your life. YOU WILL REGRET IT!
Sound advice: we raise the bar then they'll see us as valuable and worth dating. FWB? That's just another word for booty call and that's all he'll use the girl for. Once you go there he'll keep you there...been there and done that.
You are literally the BEST. I have never heard anyone be so chill and put it out to the world how the girls want it. More power to you. Can't wait to have more such videos from you. You need to talk about these things so girls don't give themselves away. Again. You. Are. Best.
when i say i never comment on youtube videos, i mean it... but this was the most real, blunt explanation i needed and i will recommend this TO ANYONE AND EVERYONE
Usually I skip through long videos of just talking because I get bored and want them to just get to the point but she’s really entertaining to listen to 👍🏼
I remember watching you when I was going into middle school anticipating my first kiss and now I’m an adult and came across this video and It totally threw me for a loop. I can’t help but feel like you raised me lol you’d be so proud 🤣
The only way to prevent being treated like a booty call or hook up is to refuse to have sex with any guy until you're in a committed relationship. Otherwise you're going to get hurt or treated like a means to an end. Or they will just use you until someone who behaves high value and won't give him the time of day comes along and then suddenly he will do anything to be with her because she won't sleep with him. Guys treat us the way we allow it.
Relationship are much more complicated and definitely takes a lot of effort. I started to see an old fling after my breakup and it bought so many old feelings for this fling. I realize that I’m not actually romantically involved but just seeing him makes me question. I had to cut it off knowing that I only needed him to get over my ex and not to make it more than what it is. the only thing is hookup guys never want to leave your side and it turns into a hot mess
This is the BEST video on this issue I've ever seen. I've seen a lot, and I mean A LOT. Thank you so much, your vibe is amazing and I have things so much clearer now ❤
Pro tip: tell him how u feel and if he doesn’t feel the same give him complete space. Don’t answer the little shit he sends u on snap or w/e; give him some time to miss you until he is ready to say what it is.
Omg soo true, i did this without even knowing what I was doing, i told my fwb that i wanna stop what we’re doing because i have a crush on someone and i wanna focus on him. And wow...he’s obsessed with me now! He keeps texting me sweet stuff and he keeps saying how sad this makes him even though he was the one at the beginning of our fwb thingi that said he didn’t want anything serious!
Be sure of his feelings though, maybe he just doesn't want to stop fucking u right away, so he is lovebombing. If u really get serious with him, then maybe he would loose interest in u. It's just my assumption though. He might be really into u.
I’ve probably listened to this video 10x...it’s just what I need to hear when needing to deal with these type of men...I mean immature boys 🙄 and a reminder that it’s fine to be single and happy!
I have been binging your videos since yesterday and I have absolutely fallen in love with your channel!! You give such amazing advice and as a mom with 3 young daughters i need to know ALL this stuff like yesterday, haha
I recently heard of a new dating trend called “cuffing.” Based on my research I have found that it is when people (mostly men) form romantic relationships just so they won’t be alone in the cold winter months. Do you think these cuffing couples are actually in love or are they just fuck buddies until spring rolls around?
I’m young (just turned 18) & I can definitely tell you that cuffing is just another word for dating & “cuffed” means you’re in a committed relationship. “Cuffing season” specifically is what you’re talking about. & I’ve never heard of “curving season” but maybe that’s just because I live in nyc & our slang is different .
No it's coz ppl get bored in colder parts of the world so you want company more often. So you have more incentive to put the effort into one person vs swapping around on tinder. I don't think it influences the length of the relationship vs one that starts another time. Some may be convenience but so can summer relationships.
I love this video. I hooked up with someone who I knew I wasn't going to have a relationship with but I did develop feelings. I was OK with just hooking up, but I always had to go to him. After a few times where he literally didn't answer his door or follow up with an invite to watch a movie, I quit. A few months later he was going through some kind of midlife crisis. He started being really mean to me and I didn't know why. He was barking at me to go get every man/neighbor who said hello to me. And he gained a bunch of weight. The other night after not hooking up for seven whole months, someone asked me how he looked in some sunglasses. Of course I wanted to say he looks great in everything. Before I could say anything he said, "I'm waiting for the cut-down." Why? What the hell even happened? He won't tell me. So I've taken to avoiding running into him. It still hurts and I wish I could meet someone else, even just to hook up. The problem is that I'm really choosy. I know it doesn't sound like it because this guy is a jerk. But I find myself attracted to very few men which is unfortunate because I have a high sex drive. I'd like to know how to move on.
Ahh she saved me, she prevented me from starting a relationship that would've broke my heart instead and I'm healing up from ex, and the new guy I said no to him Thanks to her she helped me prevent a breakup thank you
This video was the first one of yours that I’ve ever watched. And ho lee schit. You’re amazing. I love your insight on things. Looking forward to watching more of your videos!
Solid advice on being honest and letting the man know how what she wants. You mentioned guys should he the ones to initiate "the talk", but if a guy recorded the same video you did here covering advice for men trying to do the booty call to relationship conversion, he would advise the man to wait for the woman to bring up advancing to a relationship because women are turned off by men that are too emotional. 9 times out of 10, a man will not ask for a relationship because of this. Just food for thought.
I like you. Your funny as hell. You know; masculine as I am, I enjoy girl talk actually because I learn a lot about women. I'm a big fan of knowing women and the woman's body all around. I learn alot and frankly if you ask me besides having life, I think women are the greatest gift that men could ever receive. I think a woman's challenges and complexity makes a man better as long as he pay attention to what he is doing. Its amazing how feminine energy can improve masculine energy. Weather if he is doing something right or wrong overtime, it gives him clarity and understanding where she is coming from.
I agree with your steps, as the logic behind them is sound. However, I can not agree with someone knowing if the want to be in a relationship with you or not that fast. In the beginning everyone is playing nice, especially the party that wants the relationship. You need to give the other person time to show you who they truly are, which will take time.
You are right. Men will not eliminate a sexual option even though he is not interested romantically. Women have to understand that they are not one and the same. If your sexual value doesn't match your romantic value you need to step back and raise your romantic value. You gotta figure out how to be his emotional drug then like you said PULL BACK. Be cocaine. Good in small doses and you can't feel need or withdrawal if it's always available 😉
I'm from India & I love these things about u American natives that uh guys are soo so much open & Frank no matter what's the thing u guys will speak up soo confidently 🤗😉
I love love love your discourse, you are fun and stunning! I dont do friends with benefits he has to take me on many dates and invest himself emotionally and financially for my desire and trust to increase. In university my major was Women's Studies I love how well read you are. I wrote my guy an email saying "Our exchanges are all about you, this aint working for me, this is what I need from you.. ... ..." Then he called and asked about my day etc.... A prof of mine said "Men need to be taught how to be civilized" I disagree I think being single it is great because I can put all my energy on my dreams and meet new people. But been with a loving guy can be good too.
Catching feelings is worst when the guy tells you straight up its just a hook up... I'm currently on a dating detox... I need to check myself before trying to date I attract creeps😭
So glad I found your channel. So much great advice. I love the way you think and how you presented it. I've learned so much from this one video. I liked and subscribed before the video was over. Thanks for being super awesome and incredibly helpful. Everything you said is exactly what I needed to hear.
I had that. He said " this is not just about sex" your special after we hooked up. even after we slept together soon. It was on my terms. Then he would be like oh not tonight a few times. He would turn me on then stop. Think I think he put me in a different category. Which is nice, but he also said I travel alot and I may not stay here in your town and I want to be upfront. I LIKE you so much and I want us to date. But it's not fair to you if I leave. I DONT want you to get hurt and I dont want to get either. Major mind fuck. SO I pulled back and then a few wks past and he said maybe you should date other people. I Dont want you to but " your important". SO I broke it off. And I cant stop thinking of him cause he took action then said oh but you deserve more than what I can give you. A form of sincerity and manipulation all rolled into one. So bottom line....yes I felt how it would be when someone wants you the pursuit, the putting it all out there no guessing. BUT look at the follow up too.
I don't understand "casual" sex.. Going to bed with someone you dont approve for a relationship is a waste of time and this chemistry is strange and embarassing.. Do you pretend you are having a relationship?
The hookup culture is a nightmare
I feel the same. My friends seem to never benefit from it
For sure. It’s just people using each other for sex.
as a teenager, it's pretty nice when you're my age
@@depgabby I never understood it though. I'm also a teenager. Boy's dont mature until they're 25, takes some even longer. So hooking up as a teenager is the equivilant to hooking up with a child. I don't see the fun in that, the intimacy, the experience, it's none existent. It seems childish and often one sided.
Well honestly it’s our fault. We just need to collectively deny sex!
"Behind every crazy woman, there is a man who made her feel that way" OMG YES YES YEEESSSS! I HAD this exact conversation yesterday hahahaha
So true. Feeling upset is a very rational, logical consequence of being treated badly.
Or narrcisstic parents.
Yesssss
The most underrated youtuber, honestly.
💯 agree!
Agreed.
For sure
The nipple thing caught me completely by surprise but it makes SO MUCH SENSE.
Me too
Sooooo much sense. No wonder I was like “I love you now and will take care of you foreeeever 😯😯😯” then he left me but that was over a year ago.
Saaaame!
What’ is the nipple thing
But it’s such a turn on!!!! 😫😫😫 now I’m like WOW if I didn’t do that I wouldn’t be in love after good sex
I turned my booty call into my boyfriend by accident . I’d make myself dinner then he would join. If I watched tv after he would chime in that he loved the same shows .. he came over often and after some time I told him it was too long to leave his dog at home . So the dog started coming over too . We ended up going on walks daily with the pup ... then one day I babysat for him .. boom now we are married 🤣
Wow....I hear ya2😁
You didn’t turn a booty call into a relationship accidentaly, your husband turned the booty call into a relationship and I don’t think it was by any chance, I’m willing to bet he started liking you very early on
Yea it was never a fwb you guys just hooked up fast. Congrats tho
This is so cute. We can't help who we fall for 🤷
So cuteee!!! 🥰💞
Friends with benefits? More like friends with detriments smh. In most of these relationships, you’ll lose more than you’ll ever gain 😭
The majority of these hooks ups, casual sex, friends with benefits hardly works out...Why put yourself in a situation whose success rate is low? Abstainenace from sex increases the chances of getting a valid commitment & marriage
Tucker is literally the name of the guy I’m here about 😂
🤭😂😂😂😂😂😂
I prefer the opposite, find a boyfriend then hookup w him. Works out every time 👌 100% success rate.
I totally agree!!
That is respectable and classy.
Yeah except when he has a small weenie and now you’re stuck with it 😞 you gotta test drive the car before you take it home 🤷♀️
the funny thing is that most guys don't want relationships, and if they do, its someone Im not even attracted to lol
🤣
Awe I love her energy. You can tell she’s the type of woman who takes up for other women. I love a woman who sticks by her fellow sisters.
You just hit the nail. I was happily single for the last 5 years, and a few weeks ago I hooked up with a colleague, now I have all these feelings I don't understand.
But it's just like you said, what I want is a relationship, I want matter to someone, is not actual feelings for him.
You raise the bar by not being so easy. The hook-up culture is ruining the relationship culture.
"i'm a redblooded american girl. i need to get down" lol sounds like an anthem!
Being honest doesn't always work out too well. I was honest about what I wanted- a proper committed relationship. The guy happened to be a narcissist so he used it to his benefit, acted like he wanted the same thing, was very supportive and near perfect. And then he got what he wanted, ended it and bounced🤷♀️
Narcissists are real. Been there.
Narcissistic are the separate cases. Nothing really works with them, it's never gonna work. Nobody should be ever in relationship with narcissistic
Good riddance!
Ugh I freaking love you, I wish I had someone like you to get margaritas with😭💔
Yess I need this woman to be my best friend 😊🤣
Step 1: be an unforgettable lover for the man
Step 2: after sex, don’t act you care too much but be warm
Step 3: throw in intellectual conversations and fun actions outside the bedroom
The Queen is back. Love you Shallon. Wise advice. You are a religion!
Hope you will talk more about self esteem stuff, as we are living in an age when comparison has never been this ubiquitous.
Or just don’t bother with guys at all 🤷♀️
Nothing wrong with men , not all of them are the same.
@@Nothingreallytoseehere ahhhh....like a breath of fresh air. THANK YOU
“We have goootttt to raise the bar, ladies” Preach!
Right now the bar is beneath our feet.. it is a pathetic situation!
"people aren't monsters..." *Whispers* "...most of them."
Me too Shallon. Me too
I am late in discovering this channel but I agree with a lot of the things she says. I learnt all these lessons from my own experiences and I can you that they are 💯 truth!
Men are simple and straight forward creatures and when someone shows you who they really are, believe them the FIRST time. Don't make excuses for them in a bid to keep them in your life. YOU WILL REGRET IT!
This is the first video of yours that I watch and girl... you are a genius! I’ve been looking for this type of channel for so long!
Sound advice: we raise the bar then they'll see us as valuable and worth dating. FWB? That's just another word for booty call and that's all he'll use the girl for. Once you go there he'll keep you there...been there and done that.
You are literally the BEST. I have never heard anyone be so chill and put it out to the world how the girls want it. More power to you. Can't wait to have more such videos from you. You need to talk about these things so girls don't give themselves away. Again. You. Are. Best.
when i say i never comment on youtube videos, i mean it... but this was the most real, blunt explanation i needed and i will recommend this TO ANYONE AND EVERYONE
Usually I skip through long videos of just talking because I get bored and want them to just get to the point but she’s really entertaining to listen to 👍🏼
😳 the nipple thing... makes so much sense
never felt so understood PREACH QUEEN
Very good points! Ur amazing. I like how you actually roll on a stream of consciousness instead of trendy edits. Ur the real deal.
I remember watching you when I was going into middle school anticipating my first kiss and now I’m an adult and came across this video and It totally threw me for a loop. I can’t help but feel like you raised me lol you’d be so proud 🤣
Sad in service of healing! Love this and will remind myself 💖
I love the analogy you make about chasing guys is like chasing a car.😂😱😡what am I going to do if I catch it.
"Guys are like golden retrievers" HAHAHAHAHA
ugh, i just love your videos so much! they are always so interesting
Girl I love your channel, you speak the truth and I love your content! New stubbie from nyc !
The only way to prevent being treated like a booty call or hook up is to refuse to have sex with any guy until you're in a committed relationship. Otherwise you're going to get hurt or treated like a means to an end. Or they will just use you until someone who behaves high value and won't give him the time of day comes along and then suddenly he will do anything to be with her because she won't sleep with him. Guys treat us the way we allow it.
this video personally attacked me and woke me up on several ways holy I needed to hear this bc my brain is a train wreck
I love you and how you’re so brutally honest! ❤️
Omg.... "a douche named Tucker" I love you! Lol
This REALLY slapped me awake with some reality that I needed. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!
Wow, this is the kind of advice that so many of us needed to hear. Step back and check your reality!
I've just sent a hookup of mine to hell about a week ago but still watching this 😅 Some words of wisdom have been spoken in this video!
Hahaha same😂😂😂
Relationship are much more complicated and definitely takes a lot of effort. I started to see an old fling after my breakup and it bought so many old feelings for this fling. I realize that I’m not actually romantically involved but just seeing him makes me question. I had to cut it off knowing that I only needed him to get over my ex and not to make it more than what it is. the only thing is hookup guys never want to leave your side and it turns into a hot mess
I like that you just say the truth not the things we want to hear
This is the BEST video on this issue I've ever seen. I've seen a lot, and I mean A LOT. Thank you so much, your vibe is amazing and I have things so much clearer now ❤
Haven't even watched the video yet, I'm just in shock you knew my EXACT situation
Pro tip: tell him how u feel and if he doesn’t feel the same give him complete space. Don’t answer the little shit he sends u on snap or w/e; give him some time to miss you until he is ready to say what it is.
Omg soo true, i did this without even knowing what I was doing, i told my fwb that i wanna stop what we’re doing because i have a crush on someone and i wanna focus on him. And wow...he’s obsessed with me now! He keeps texting me sweet stuff and he keeps saying how sad this makes him even though he was the one at the beginning of our fwb thingi that said he didn’t want anything serious!
Be sure of his feelings though, maybe he just doesn't want to stop fucking u right away, so he is lovebombing. If u really get serious with him, then maybe he would loose interest in u. It's just my assumption though. He might be really into u.
I wish i could've found you sooner, but this was the perfect time. you are now my life coach.
*I've been in a situation where I wanted to turn a hookup into something more, and your video offers helpful guidance.*
I really like you Shallon....You are so confident & candid and make me feel like your right in my livingroom discussing things w my bff💕
I’ve probably listened to this video 10x...it’s just what I need to hear when needing to deal with these type of men...I mean immature boys 🙄 and a reminder that it’s fine to be single and happy!
I LOVE YOUR EXPLANATION OF THIS! so on point.
*Behind every "crazy girl" , is a MAN that made here that way* .... YES! This phrase is everything! And had me Dyinnnng 🤣
You spoke to me so clearly in this video, you are so well spoken especially to women💯
I have been binging your videos since yesterday and I have absolutely fallen in love with your channel!! You give such amazing advice and as a mom with 3 young daughters i need to know ALL this stuff like yesterday, haha
I recently heard of a new dating trend called “cuffing.” Based on my research I have found that it is when people (mostly men) form romantic relationships just so they won’t be alone in the cold winter months. Do you think these cuffing couples are actually in love or are they just fuck buddies until spring rolls around?
Only until spring . In the summer time it’s called “curving season” . In the fall and winter it’s called “cuffing season”
Wow thanks for these dating updates
I’m young (just turned 18) & I can definitely tell you that cuffing is just another word for dating & “cuffed” means you’re in a committed relationship. “Cuffing season” specifically is what you’re talking about. & I’ve never heard of “curving season” but maybe that’s just because I live in nyc & our slang is different .
Cuffing season is winter friends with benefits.
No it's coz ppl get bored in colder parts of the world so you want company more often. So you have more incentive to put the effort into one person vs swapping around on tinder. I don't think it influences the length of the relationship vs one that starts another time. Some may be convenience but so can summer relationships.
I love this video. I hooked up with someone who I knew I wasn't going to have a relationship with but I did develop feelings. I was OK with just hooking up, but I always had to go to him. After a few times where he literally didn't answer his door or follow up with an invite to watch a movie, I quit. A few months later he was going through some kind of midlife crisis. He started being really mean to me and I didn't know why. He was barking at me to go get every man/neighbor who said hello to me. And he gained a bunch of weight. The other night after not hooking up for seven whole months, someone asked me how he looked in some sunglasses. Of course I wanted to say he looks great in everything. Before I could say anything he said, "I'm waiting for the cut-down." Why? What the hell even happened? He won't tell me. So I've taken to avoiding running into him. It still hurts and I wish I could meet someone else, even just to hook up. The problem is that I'm really choosy. I know it doesn't sound like it because this guy is a jerk. But I find myself attracted to very few men which is unfortunate because I have a high sex drive. I'd like to know how to move on.
Ahh she saved me, she prevented me from starting a relationship that would've broke my heart instead and I'm healing up from ex, and the new guy I said no to him Thanks to her she helped me prevent a breakup thank you
This video was the first one of yours that I’ve ever watched. And ho lee schit. You’re amazing. I love your insight on things. Looking forward to watching more of your videos!
Solid advice on being honest and letting the man know how what she wants. You mentioned guys should he the ones to initiate "the talk", but if a guy recorded the same video you did here covering advice for men trying to do the booty call to relationship conversion, he would advise the man to wait for the woman to bring up advancing to a relationship because women are turned off by men that are too emotional. 9 times out of 10, a man will not ask for a relationship because of this.
Just food for thought.
“Your body doesn’t know if its a baby or a douche named Tucker” 😂
🤣🤣🤣
this is so good! you are so real.
I like you. Your funny as hell. You know; masculine as I am, I enjoy girl talk actually because I learn a lot about women. I'm a big fan of knowing women and the woman's body all around. I learn alot and frankly if you ask me besides having life, I think women are the greatest gift that men could ever receive. I think a woman's challenges and complexity makes a man better as long as he pay attention to what he is doing. Its amazing how feminine energy can improve masculine energy. Weather if he is doing something right or wrong overtime, it gives him clarity and understanding where she is coming from.
You re really beautiful and clever.
I agree with your steps, as the logic behind them is sound. However, I can not agree with someone knowing if the want to be in a relationship with you or not that fast. In the beginning everyone is playing nice, especially the party that wants the relationship. You need to give the other person time to show you who they truly are, which will take time.
Dude I love my fwb, like I love him & I'm scared to speak up, bc he was my friend before & now I don't want to ruin that either
Now after having a child and actually breast feeding I can say this makes so much sense deadbang 💯💯
Don’t hook up until you’re in a committed relationship.
That's true & that's a fact
Omg you're so funny and keep it real. I'm definitely subscribing.
Men told us we need them! Because they need us so if we can be alone v having a crap relationship where does that leave them? I adore your power!
I wish I encountered this video earlier.
Damn… this is the best advice I’ve seen in all over RUclips. Facts!
You are right. Men will not eliminate a sexual option even though he is not interested romantically. Women have to understand that they are not one and the same. If your sexual value doesn't match your romantic value you need to step back and raise your romantic value. You gotta figure out how to be his emotional drug then like you said PULL BACK. Be cocaine. Good in small doses and you can't feel need or withdrawal if it's always available 😉
Shallon u are amazing thanks
I’m in love with you jeeeeeez that’s some solid girl power but also from a very practice perspective thank you!!!!
Great advice. Wow. You explained it so well.
I’m crazy and that’s on that. I’m not hiding nothin lol🤷🏼♀️ hahaha love you Shallon
You are so smart Shallon! 😍
I'm from India & I love these things about u American natives that uh guys are soo so much open & Frank no matter what's the thing u guys will speak up soo confidently 🤗😉
Hahaha "a douch named Tucker" 😂🤣
I love love love your discourse, you are fun and stunning! I dont do friends with benefits he has to take me on many dates and invest himself emotionally and financially for my desire and trust to increase. In university my major was Women's Studies I love how well read you are. I wrote my guy an email saying "Our exchanges are all about you, this aint working for me, this is what I need from you.. ... ..." Then he called and asked about my day etc.... A prof of mine said "Men need to be taught how to be civilized" I disagree I think being single it is great because I can put all my energy on my dreams and meet new people. But been with a loving guy can be good too.
One of your best videos. Valuable content
As usual, you are spot on 👍🏽
Catching feelings is worst when the guy tells you straight up its just a hook up... I'm currently on a dating detox... I need to check myself before trying to date I attract creeps😭
I love you for posting these type of videos😘
Everything you say in this i so genuinely enjoyed
Not for nothing but.., Word for word I needed to hear all that in this moment. Lol Thank you! 🙏❤️
Love your videos and honest answers! Great attitude as well
You make me feel Ok with making mistakes
So glad I found your channel. So much great advice. I love the way you think and how you presented it. I've learned so much from this one video. I liked and subscribed before the video was over. Thanks for being super awesome and incredibly helpful. Everything you said is exactly what I needed to hear.
I'm a guy and this has opened my eyes, thanks for telling me all the things not to do ;)
I just need to stop all of it, focus on me and hopefully my husband will finally come.
I laughed so much so true all! So good explanation! Dont play with mother nature!
" a douche named Tucker , we don't know " lol :')
Wow you are so accurate!! I cannot believe I found your videos . I think just like you!!
I had that. He said " this is not just about sex" your special after we hooked up. even after we slept together soon. It was on my terms. Then he would be like oh not tonight a few times. He would turn me on then stop. Think I think he put me in a different category. Which is nice, but he also said I travel alot and I may not stay here in your town and I want to be upfront. I LIKE you so much and I want us to date. But it's not fair to you if I leave. I DONT want you to get hurt and I dont want to get either. Major mind fuck. SO I pulled back and then a few wks past and he said maybe you should date other people. I Dont want you to but " your important".
SO I broke it off. And I cant stop thinking of him cause he took action then said oh but you deserve more than what I can give you. A form of sincerity and manipulation all rolled into one.
So bottom line....yes I felt how it would be when someone wants you the pursuit, the putting it all out there no guessing. BUT look at the follow up too.
This was such a fkn good video Shallon ♥️ THANK YOU
Oh wow ... you speak to me on so many levels ... thank you !!!
I don't understand "casual" sex.. Going to bed with someone you dont approve for a relationship is a waste of time and this chemistry is strange and embarassing.. Do you pretend you are having a relationship?
Well said, why give yourself to someone who doesn’t even value you as a person.
because sometimes a guy is hot and you want a piece of that but he’s not boyfriend material
Love you SO much 💜💜💜