Why The Narcissist and The New Supply Might Still Be Together
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Let the narc and the new supply stay together and enjoy each other's negative energy.
Exactly because that’s all it is
Ok
100%
Let them enjoy themselves period why because we didn’t think ourselves as Barca selfish nor negative more so feel pity on the supply yes we feel someway ijs now unless it’s personal beef or the supply step out of line that’s different
Yep. They are walking on a big highway to hell with their carnal& materialistic goals...All those lying about their identity and in small things- whosoever lies is actually serving the devil( son of lies).
I only pray to get delivered from that kind of anger- bitterness etc
So its about forgiving- letting go and truly let God.
Best is to NOT Look back. Not even peak
If they are still together, it is because the new supply doesn’t have a shred of self esteem or self respect. How sad!
Here's the irony. The woman that is the doormat accepting the cheating in the end will be left eventually because the narc loses all respect for them..
Happens ALL the time
FACTZ people who have never experienced this cannot understand...the abuser gets tired of the doormat
"They are both toxic." That sums up the dynamic of the relationship between a narcissist and his/her new supply. At one point in time, we were that but then we wised up.
Yep my toxicity is lessening thanks to me being paired w a narc I was like they ain’t level me up or teach me nothing incorrect they thought me to have boundaries to love my self unconditionally and selfishly I would say oh I love myself surely not damn enough to go thru the push n pull emotional/mental torture of the experience 🤦🏾♀️ 😅
Who cares let them be together,good
wise brother, "you can't heal in the same environment that hurt you." thank you
Being the "Grade A" supply is not a badge of honor, it means that a Narcissistis is feasting. Feasting on the good energy and the lack of boundaries or self Awareness of ones self-worth & true value.
Not a badge of honor at all
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And the regret after the whole episode. You be like, “What a waste of time!” What an experience though. You live and learn and never look back.
Perfectly stated.
I thank God every day turning on the lights and showing me what I was really involved in and so grateful that He alone got me up out of that mess🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽steal healing but I’m no longer in agreement with that nonsense
Let the Narc go to the old supply. They are both on the same levels
Every flower they pick, it dies!
Dayum… that’s profiund
@@madamejaysynstarotoriginal My ex would pick flowers and give them to me! It's subliminal!
IM DAMN SURE NOT JEALOUS I LEFT HIM 5 YEARS AGO AND NEVER LOOKED BACK 🤞👌✌️.
I like this video and how you made some of the points you did.
“Why would you be jealous of a doormat? Why be jealous of someone who is with an ABUSER?”
I used to have this problem but this makes a big difference!!
You’re definitely welcome
We always have to recognize the characteristics in ourselves before we see it in other's🪞 “We are all connected; To each other, biologically. To the earth, chemically. To the rest of the universe atomically.”
Yes. I experience the same thing. The new supply brought him a car, 85 inch TV, and furniture. A woman can not by a man.
Amen 🧡
Amen. I used to know a woman that did that. The is both are codependent.
They both are codependent of each other.
And when that money runs out there will be a bigger simp to buy even more.
Yep. It doesn’t matter who their with. They’ll treat them all the same. It sucks but it is what it is. ❤
Well new supply bought him a car giving him money and paying his rent. He's comfortable they gonna be a year together. His karma will come....just living my life focused on my child.
It always looks good on the outside it be hell behind closed doors
I agree thank you for your videos they are helping me so much
But if a narc traits came out with you they are gonna come out with the new supply, it’s just a matter of time
@@Spruill526 I agree not my business anymore on to a new life and welcoming better moments
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They not normal, it's a must you block em. That no contact hit different, especially when u really don't care no more. It be fun when they got somebody to cheat on. When u gone, ain't no fun it be strait suffering for they ass.
Exactly no one to project those feelings on to
@@operationnarcnemesis2383 Exactly!
my brother you were BORN to do this!!!
Thank you I appreciate that champ💯
Jesus heals y’all. I went through all of this. Invite the Lord into your situation, and soon enough He will restore you.
You are definitely right I had to ask to be delivered and he did 🧡
That's how I got rid of mine. Had the cry out prayer told God I don't want this anymore. Literally the next day I put him out. Was random & off guard. Took my power back. No argument or anything. Just stupid comments like idk what happened? Bruh you know what hell you put me through I'm Done. Narcissist love playing victim. Master pretenders & manipulators.
One of the scariest moments with my narcissist is when he came back home in the middle of the night on some type of drug or alcohol. I don't know what it was. All I know is that he was being disrespectful, it was my apartment he had never paid a dime. I told him he needed to leave. he got up in my face and refused to go. I was like you need to leave, we had our 1-year-old here... I was scared because at this point he had been physical with me, I was only 115 lb back then because this is before I started working out, plus I'm only 5'5. He's 6'2 and 185 lb of muscle, he's also a mixed martial artist. so I started praying in the name of Jesus you will be rebuked in the name of Jesus I rebuke this unholy Spirit and cast it out on his holy name under the blood of Jesus that has sacrificed himself for me and for the good of this planet in the name of Jesus and why did this narcissistic m*********** start chanting in the name of Satan! in the name of Satan! over and over again it was terrifying but I held my own and I was like Satan will never overcome the strength in the faith of Job through the will of God! And it's time for Satan to take his dusty tail and slither on about this road! And trust he did leave. I'd held my own. I pulled out my cross and everything. we do all syncretic spirituality around here, I work with ancestors as well. I need to pray right now, I'm sitting literally just 3 ft from where it happened. every time I said in the name of Jesus, he would come back and say in the name of Satan and stare at me and he was spitting in my face with his nasty ass breath. That's the other thing, we were together for years and I never tongue kissed him one time. we were together for 8 years. And I love showing that type of intimacy, it's because he never wanted to kiss me. I don't know if it's because he was insecure or what but. f*** him. serpent tongued
SOOOOOO TRUE 😮💨😮💨🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Yes 💯
They have NO 💡in them.
The new supply was my cousin/ best freind she was a narc these two monsters deserve each other I hope they stay together they be leaving some one else alone 👌
I was definitely codependent in my last relationship and struggled with abandonment, but I am on my healing journey now 🙏🏼 love your channel, plz pray for me.
You are not alone!!! 🙌🏽
@@Moveforward6 tysm 🙏🏼🩷
I'm not necessarily codependent but I'm autistic, and I thrive off companionship. I also have a Gemini moon. but I love being alone. I really am independent and I'm a leader. That's what makes me difficult to get along with for some people. narcissists hate me because I tell them to get the f*** out of here after a while. they also hate me cuz they can't really get those responses due to my autistic personality, I can just kind of get back into my rote mode😂 The funny thing is I wasn't even diagnosed with autism until after I broke up with my narcissistic baby's dad in 2016. I was almost 37 years old before I was finally diagnosed with autism. evidently that puts me a higher risk for being in a relationship so cluster bees, and I've got it almost every single person I've dated has had either narcissism or sociopathy, usually both.
I'm blessed to have gotten messages from the Most High, even about things that were never discussed. With that, I turned my back....NO CONTACT!
6 years free of Narc abuse -- I am self-loving as much as I can -- Total No Contact. He moved away and I'm so happy he did. Truth is the thought of ever bumping into him again is still fearful to me......I still question my emotional strength if that were to ever happen. They do leave a mark, no doubt. At least I can see them coming much faster now!!!! Thanks for your post! "Another Day, Another Win"
p.s. I'm still researching and learning from Narc Abuse sites because I'm still healing. In a good place -- but still struggling that people really live in the narc mode -- it's still perplexing.
They definitely do leave a mark and the more education you get the better it’s really what sets you free and yes these horrible people exist
The npd and i worked the same job and when we ran into eachother i ignored him and act as if he didn't exist in my world and i think that created another injury to him, but i would not speak to him if i did see him
The npd and i worked the same job and when we ran into eachother i ignored him and act as if he didn't exist!
The npd and i worked the same job and when we ran into eachother i ignored him and act as if he didn't exist, in which i think caused a narc injury but i would not speak to him if i did see him and they hate to be ignored, irrelevant!
I reached out to the new supply/ wife that the narc is trying to get ahold of me by contacting my family. The new supply tells me that the narc can do what he wants as long he pays a light bill. 😂 Yeah now I see why he married her.
I have a video on that never reach out to supplies it never ends well
girl😂 mine tried to tell me that I was a dumbass broke bitch😂😂😂😂 I'm like honey I'm sitting on a whole 401k and have a portfolio that he doesn't know anything about. she doesn't either, cuz that's none of their business. I just laughed when she told me that I was broke. I tell him that I'm broke because I see him for exactly who he is.
I knew he was a sociopath within an hour after hanging out with him. hell no I'm not going to tell him I have money. I told him that I'm broke and that I'm struggling. 😂
I don't give a good goddamn what his new 23-year-old girlfriend from Russia thinks😂 then she started telling me that he is her soulmate and he really loves her. I was like "b**** he's broke! how are you going to try to insult me using the same adjective that describes your boyfriend? 😂 He's not doing s*** for you or for me so get over him. go find yourself a good man who could take care of you." she was like honey he's not broke he takes care of me!😂😂😂😂 My man buys me groceries, my man brings me flowers. (I swear I hate this b**** is broken English, and she had the nerve to try to call me illiterate. I should send you the verse where I destroyed her lyrically😂😂😂)
I was like did your man tell you that those groceries are from his mom's food stamp card that she sent out from Philly? lol did your man tell you that he pumps dog food on the block? did your man tell you that he's on drugs and beats women? she was like none of that is true (it ALL is trust me because he's in my crew which is the only reason I even dealt with him, we're in the same gang😂 but she's never hustled and doesn't know a damn thing about that life so she thinks that he's normal).
she went in to say "boo I will send my man over there to beat your ass". I calmly replied "boo I will get your man shot, don't f*** around with me. I'm not a little kid. do you want to die over this idiot? Play stupid games play stupid prizes. Don't ever jeopardize a black man's life as your prop and pawn."
she's always posing pictures of black dudes posting with money/guns/drugs, pics of her holding guns and shooting on her IG "karinamhl" this little b**** is 23 years old from Russia and thinks she's a gangster. she said to me "you're a fake gangster wanna be black girl, I'm actually half African so I AM half black".😂😂😂 I was like b**** you're NORTH african. You're not half black, you're half BERBER. get the f*** out of here. I seen pictures of her dad, he's definitely not black. he got lighter skin than my own dad. And her mom is white. her mom is only 3 years older than me and I thought her mom was like 60 something years old, I swear to f****** God.
Aaaand I got Moroccan in my bloodline, too! THAT WAS THE HILARIOUS PART WHEN I PULLED OUT MY 23 AND ME AND WAS LIKE LOOK 😂 same shit. lol I don't even represent it because Moroccans used to take slaves from sub-Saharan Africa and sell them to Spain! 😂
get the f*** out of here anyways, I ain't talking about this racial s*** when we got some abusive m*********** trying to run game on us. this b**** is dumb as hell. I'm 43 years old and literally used to ride out with elm Street piru and I've been on the streets since 1993. she's calling me a fake gangster because I'm white. I'm like b**** this is Oakland hoe, get the f*** out of here. thinks people can't get put into gangs because they're white😅😂 And this whole time I've been telling you that he needs to get out of this lifestyle that he's in. That's the only reason he was being mentored by me in the first place! cuz I'm an OG at the set and he came through on some b******* and I tried to tell him he needed to step his game up and elevate, I was trying to help him get set up with a stock portfolio and show him how to invest real money but he told me that he's about this street life. that he's on some RNS and he's not going to change. he got aggressive and was like you are not my mom quit trying to police my behavior I've been hustling on these streets I don't give a f*** if I end up dead or in jail I'm about this life. And when he told me that, I was like fine. cuz I got sick of gangs by age 19 I was out of that lifestyle. not to say that I've left it completely, cuz they're my family. but at the same time, I made a life for myself outside of that cuz I got approve that transformation can happen. I got little kids looking up to me, and friends and family as well. gangs should be used as a transitory support system for people coming from broken situations, not as an ideal to strive towards.
this little b**** got fake lips and she calls me grandma! I said b**** what are you going to look like when you're my age after two kids naturally the way I had mine? I don't think she'll ever be able to have any type of snapback😂 meanwhile I'm doing pull ups😂 My lips are still looking AITE 😂 at my age NATURALLY, I'm in much better shape NATURALLY than she is on her worst day with all the surgeries that she already had done by age 22. SMFH I might sell boastful, but that's because I'm defending myself against all her b******* projections. not that I need a reminder or self validation, but I do speak truth. 😂
she's a real sick narcissist, I can't stand her. she's stalking my IG that has the same handle (pugetwitch) as this account right now. her and my dude that I didn't even shack up with, I clownt him to begin with which is why this whole thing started. now they're both stalking my page.
I told him I didn't want to be with him and he lashed out and was like "b**** nobody wanted to be with you!" 😂😂😂😂 (lies) "my new girlfriend better than you" (more lies). Man, she looks like a bootleg bratz doll, she got so much plastic surgery with a BBL and her lips done and all that s***. she's like 5 ft tall and weighs twice of me.
I might be 42 but my kids are not old enough to make me a grandma yet, I got 10-year-old and a 5-year-old, and I will beat the f*** out of that b****. I lift weights and I practice martial arts. 😂
Wow that’s what happened with me since 2020 march triangulated with the ex we so called for offical 2021 engaged blah blah separated april 2022 got back on sept 2022 tax time the ex loaned the narc money when we was off she back in tne pic I did me too however the ex supply pops up to my door 6/2023 showing text messages of the narc reaching out things not related to money and talked about me like a dog I audio recorded this visits and defended myself by saying I’m stingy because I take care of myself and that the narc talks about everyone the whole world including me and the supply to her face the narc got piss and said I’m talking about her being broke to the crazy ex no bih I stood up for myself up she was piss 2 days later I discarded I had enough fool reallt think the old supply proving they been doing more then a loan it was sht already building which the narc already knows she like oh you using the ex an excuse to leave me ik you really ain’t want me I surely didn’t
New supply usually be weak minded.
@@rashaerichey9344water seeks its own level.
I agree this may be a long healing journey.. Narcs are self sabotaging and worthless. I care too much to deal with someone who could careless.
I have to say one thing. Sometimes people stay as long as they do because we're major empaths not co-dependant . I'm 52 and this is the first toxic abusive narcissistic relationship I've ever been in and first person I've ever lived with. I don't do roommates, nor let anyone I'm dating move in with me until now. I'd say I think ALL co-dependants are empaths, but not all empaths are co-dependent. I just found your vids, thank you SO much for being so brutally honest, you delve deep, and hit the tiny narcissistic nail blindfolded! I'm glad I'm as strong as you going no contact. It's been 5 months, I'm still going strong after a 5 Year relationship of him cheating, stealing, relapsing on his meth and heroin and finally punching me in the face last August for asking him for the 💯 time where does he go every night, why am I finding cock rings, condoms, toys?? I don't do abuse though so i called the cops and got a restraining order. As a paramedic, I heal people, but I'm done trying to change people for the better. Never works. I love your words and I really am enjoying your music now too ☺️. I pray for you and hope you get all the great things and chances in life you deserve. 🙏🙏🙏
Oh and we knew each other since kindergarten. That's why I let it go on so long, I tried to help a friend as well as a fiance later. If he can destroy a good friend like that, I feel sorry for the strangers he meets.
people are not empaths, some people have higher levels of empathy, but usually people who identify as empaths are actually traumatized, and what they perceive as empathy is emotional hypervigilance. I'm very glad that you have left the abuser.❤
@@HoneyBadger938 I did the same thing for somebody that I dated back through high school, well I didn't date him, but I had a huge crush on him. he was too old for me back then. I met back up with him over 10 years later, when I was 30 and he was 38. he was telling me he needed a place to stay because his ex-girlfriend was abusive and had threatened to shoot him. he told me he had just got out of jail because she created a false narrative and accused him of attacking her, but in reality it wasnt solely on her. he was trying to tell me that she was crazy though, (they both are 😂) he showed me pictures of her, she was a big ass f****** Hawaiian girl covered in tattoos with a prison tattoo of a pistol on her throat (trashy), he showed me the golden shower p*** that she did, he showed me her social media where she talked about bullying people, beating up people, selling drugs to high school kids and watching them OD while she lol... I basically believed him about this chick. many years later I found out that him and her were both using drugs, they both did the golden shower p***, he was physical with her and she retaliated, she was only 23 years old and he was 37! he had conveniently left out all of that part of the story. smh but I'm a nosy b**** so it didn't take long for me to figure it out, and it all the dramas started when I began holding him accountable and asking him about his past situations. he began saying I was making up stuff, he started all that gas-lighting s***. he started hiding in my bathroom all the time and I called him out for using crystal meth in there and he was denying it, I was like bro I used to sell that s*** in the '90s I know all about it. I was working as a substance use disorder therapist at the time, working remotely as a program manager for a hospital appear in Seattle. he really thought he was fooling me but. yeah I can't keep going on about it cuz I'll get too upset. He's been out of our lives since 2017. I recently felt the trauma bonds creep back in when I met this young man, incredibly good looking young man. but he is not just narcissistic, he's sociopathic. it's been difficult dealing with him, but I have really grown since leaving my daughter's dad years ago. it was much easier for me to break these trauma bonds, I was trying to tripping off them when they started cuz I knew this guy was no good for me but at the same time coming just felt like a magnet. Plus I'm autistic and I just kept telling myself I know he's a narcissist and a sociopath but I need to study him because he's so textbook. lol he's just a textbook example. talks about how he loves to hurt people, talks about how he fantasizes about violence come and talks about how he likes doing crimes. etc. I wanted to help him but he's 30 and beyond the point of help. I thought he went non-contact after I was gray rocking him, I've called him out on all this narcissistic s*** and he knows about it because I played videos for him in the past. 😅 so he doesn't want to stick around to be held accountable. I thought he blocked his number. yesterday he decides to play some games, he hasn't texted me in a few months. I got a call from his old number yesterday asking me who I was, asking if this was some other girl? I just laughed and I was like you know who this is. And then he started sweet talking me, back in the day we called it honey dripping, his voice changed up lol he tried to sound all sexy. I was like meet me at the spot at 7:00. cuz I was going to be there with a different homie (at the skatepark)😅 of course I knew he probably wouldn't show up, and he didn't. I tried to call him at 7:30 and ask him where he went come in he was just like who is this? And I told him my name and he was like. I'm not going to meet up with you. And then he hung up on me😂😂😂😂😂
@@Pugetwitch excellent point.
Your body will tell you. You will have feelings of frustration, anger, confusion and lets not forget just plain ignoring ourselves and our bodies. Codependency is the life blood of the relationships with NPD and their subsequent partners. In my age group (over 60) there are a lot of women who will be happy to be the mommy and chef for the 60 year old attractive narc. Remember all it is to them are the three S's - Sex, Supply and Services. As long as these needs are being met then the narc will show up especially for the pot on the stove. Women our age are beautiful, strong and desirable. We do not need to be stuck in this cluster f.... meeting the narcs needs. Stay single ladies and go get your hair done. 😀
I love this service Sex n supply is what must be on pt to be the main more consistent supply the one they will show off and or post everyone else may not cut it but the ones with the triple SSS will be exposed damn I didn’t see it until you said service cooking keeping ha company keeping her bed warm someone who cares about her needs n wants sex and general supply yep that services it all
See I just turned 27 and my narc was 35. But all of this resonates regardless of age. He was breadcrumbing me, but if he were to actually marry me, I’m certain it was only going to be for the 3 s’s.
@@madamejaysynstarotoriginalyeah. You will be easily replaced to for a pickmesha.
It’s disgusting. I am totally turned off by the thought of the narcissist as a big baby. These women have deep wounds.
“I wouldn’t care if I never see or hear from my narc ever again in my life…." 😂😂😂I feel the same way! Thank you for the gift of nightmares and ptsd to process for years to come! I’m good!
I struggled with this as well because the new supply was thrown in my face whenever he got the opportunity to. He also bought a new 6 bedroom house. I was all alone living in the same house.
However, the fact that he couldn’t keep my name out of his mouth for 1 year straight let me know things aren’t so perfect like he wants it to seem. Going no contact was one of the best decisions I ever made! 🎉
Amen Amen AMEN! That six rooms house gives a woman six rooms to run and cry herself to sleep in.
@@Pugetwitch For real! It’s a 6 bedroom new construction house of horrors! I’ll pass on that. 😂
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Be sure that that house he got, means he’s broke as fuck right now. I’ve never seen people so bad at managing their money like narcissists.
16:53 SuperPower❗❗❗ Super heros always come from adversity. ***_They cant regenerate light...because it's NOT IN THEM!!! THAT IS POWERFUL👍🏾👏🏾💪🏾💥
Amen 🙌🏾
Have fun, no jealousy felt here. There will be more mew supplies while they are together.
Yesss indeed!! These videos have helped me sooo much. Moving on from my narcissist mom. And I thank god I cut ties with her completely. Blocked no contact. 3 decades of verbal abuse is a enough. 2 months of cutting her off, & it definitely will be forever. She will never change nor hold herself accountable. 💯🚫
This was facts 😮
I had to pray 🙏🏾 and walk away from it at that moment. I stayed in prayer 🙏🏾 and I don’t think I could of done it without it, but that’s what I turned to 🙏🏾 and Got Myself Up Out Of There 🙏🏾
I’m so bless to be out that mess
Finally found on accident the voice of knowledge that confirmed all that was n never will b again thankful for u sir 🙏❤
God will let you go through it until your ready to grow from it. Trust your intuition, that's God tryna save your life and yes most of the time you will be alone because YOU have to do the work.
Wow this makes so much since ... Why he is still with her because I wouldn't put up with his b.s I'm not afraid to be alone and stand on my own two feet... Thank you for this video
I’ll be listening to these videos everyday until I’m healed all the way man … it’s insane i had a GRADE A 100% female Narc man wow just listening to these in gaining my self esteem back
I’m definitely glad I was relatable and could help you bro 💯
A hoover is an insult to a healed person its not a compliment at all. A hoover from my ex made me more upset than anything else so I had to remind him " I don't liiike you" I shut him down at every turn and he stopped. Thank God.
Definitely 🧡
I agree it CAN be done. Especially knowing what was it.
But it is so difficult.
I stumbled across a video which caused me to start listening to several of your other videos. You have such a calmness in your voice and such a respect towards others. These videos are just a start for you. You have a higher call to minister to people or should I say lead people to healing and deliverance.
oh my God I picked up on that too, I literally just left him a comment a few minutes ago and encouraged him to move forward if he doesn't have his degree, I'm going back at age 42 to do construction management after working in mental health care for a decade. he definitely has a gift.
No exemption to their destruction, they destroy whatever they touch
“Hearing my name in his voice” That part! Definitely a trigger and I be in my feelings my emotions then😢
Self-love is my biggest issue right now
Who cares why the demon is still with the new dummy, just stay far away from that evil devil in descize.
Facts..
I'm listening and I am having s setback......I am crying... this trauma bond is no JOKE 😭 I was doing well,..but I can't stop missing the abuse....I know that I can overcome but man it hurts.....thank you for this video. . And yes the emotions are still tied....I needed this
You’re welcome
get outside of yourself by taking your focus of the pain, fill your day w/bettering u, study personal development, writing, music, mental strength, goals, body, gym, career, hobbies, travel, school, helping the less fortunate, start a business, voluntee at museums, homeless, youth or animal shelters, tutoring, positive things to fill your day.
I’m a Co dependent that’s why I was there for 19 years
I was Co dependent that’s why I stayed 19 years my eyes starting to open wene I developed mental health problems. I guess I wasn’t a grade a supply then cause I started to say you’ve caused me mental health problems and moved home only stayed weekends till she discarded me
👸go to the gym park nature smell fresh air every day study practice the: art of detachment & how to have an abundance mindset bc all grown-boys are replaceable!!!
You said a whole word.
About us educating ourselves. That’s the 1st step, then getting the strength and courage to get out of the situationship
I got hoovering too after over a year of no contact. And i felt so indifferent inside because I do not know that person, it is and always was a stranger.
However, my love to someone who never existed, the role that narc played, that love was and still is so real. There is no person that my love is applied. That’s what still sends chills down my spine.
Damn they really do leave a mark but we do too we are unforgettable as well because deep down they know the good ones
You’re such a blessing & god lead me to this
Thank you definitely glad I could help 🧡
Never heard someone explain it so well master's at perception management
They are living a fairytale life, he told someone he was "happy". That's bs because I was NOT taking him back. I began to ask questions, he was not truthful. He married this person 9 mos after us. She lived in an apartment, needed a job. That's a good way of putting "doormat". It hurts but I am blessed to have gotten out of that. He's hoovered and I do believe she hoovered me early on. He is an abuser, I know he is because when it came to being held accountable, he was not about it. Practicing self love. The only thing he really was good for was fixing things but people were fixing things for me before him. I blocked both he and his wife from my social media pages. Got a hoover on his bday, after he'd been married, which he's crazy sending from another number. Healing is hard but I'm better off by myself. I do know wherever he goes/does is destruction, it's a pattern he carries.
You're so right!!! ....like in the Bible ( Super natural gifts were obtained or bestowed upon those that faced the most adversity)
NO CONTACT!! Before I even came across this channel, number was BLOCKED!! If you’re done YOU ARE DONE.
My brother the way you speak brings me such an emotional relief how you are so calm when many victims of Narcissist we're outraged thank you for your words of wisdom and how you present them
Man I has sooo much time to be angry and I was for a while but after I discarded her I spend a year alone on the road,I did a lot of healing and self reflection,gym and I wrote a lot of music about my story ,I just had the time and the outlets to put my anger elsewhere
Great content. The mirroring is beyond awful. Carefully decorating a new life with, "I came to see you not be you" because damn I've been through a lot of shit. No contact with ex narcs aLwAyS.
#workout
#life
#kindness
#nofear
Congratulations keep going!
THE OLD NARC DEMONS THAT WAS IN MY LIFE MADE IT EASY FOR ME TO WALK AWAY AND NOW THAT I KNOW WHAT I WAS DEALING WITH MY LORD I GET PLEASURE OF STAYING AWAY AND KNOWING THEY ARE GETTING THEIR KARMA THANK YOU GOD FOR KEEPING YOUR HANDS ON ME NOW I'M HEALING AND IM AT PEACE AND JOY!! PRAISE GOD!!🙏🙏🙏😃
Amen
First, I do not care what him and his toy are doing. Second, they would have to be so insecure and willing to be a door mat, lose their own self, and believe they could change the situation. Much flagged my spirit, emotional neglect, extreme secrecy, shallow. His toy, I had to laugh, even used my pics, photoshopped them and put herself with him. Sad, insecure "victim" or eqaually toxic. So glad I am OUT of the nightmare. But I was strong, and patiently, with mercy and compassion, detaxhed, stopped doing what I had, and he finally left! I did not know hiw "dangerous" he was and so I did it my way. No contact now for close to 4 months. At peace. Lesson learned. I give all the credit to Hashem (God) and His hand in my life. Also these videos help keep me strong when I feel down. What is done in the dark will always be brought to the light. These types are predators/parasites that need your life force to live.
This video helped me alot man! Thank you! My ex girl was making me feel crazy in the first 2 weeks
No problem bro! 💯
Just over 2 mos no contact, my journey is just beginning. Its horrible knowing all this and remembering all the lies and how it felt to find out yet still miss him constantly.
You are a blessed and highly favored beautiful man of GOD ‼️👏🏾
Keep 'em comin'. 🥰🧡
Thank you 🧡
That's exactly who my ex narc is with a codependent person now. I already understand & has healed from this mostly. I wish I could like this video 5x because you are definitely speaking the truth. I took my power back & I think God that I woke up & God protected me. I unfortunately have a kid with him BUT I don't see him & he's not around for our child because I have boundaries in place through the court & I don't fall for the hoover anymore. I called him or his stuff now & I know how to cause Narcissistic injury to him now so he stay away now. Our child don't ask for him or anything & definitely not lacking. The new supply has reached out to me venting about their situation a few different times. She's experiencing a Worst version of him than I did. She also has a kid with him now. Trauma bonded thinks the kid is why she needs to stay. She don't realize she has the upper hand But lack of self love etc.. so she's still with him. Can have all of that. Some stay for the children I Left not only for myself but Definitely because of my kid. Don't want my child growing up with parents in the house in a toxic environment thinking that is what love is & suppose to look like. Nope rather mine see mommy happy, healthy & in a peaceful household. I chose US over him. Best decision I could of made. I'm grateful for this experience with him though got a beautiful child my only 1 & this experience opened my eyes to my lack of self love & helped me remember who tf I Am. I will not settle for less than ever again. Whether it be a relationship, job, treatment whatever. I remember who I am & my worth. I forgot for a while which is how I ended up in that situation but Won't catch me slipping again. And we know that all that happens to us is working for our good if we love God and are fitting into his plans. Romans 8:28 I see what God was telling the years Before this & I'm grateful he protected me & mine though it. I see the purpose now.
Thank you for your calm counsel. These monsters drive people to Suicide
You have helped me SO MUCH...this is one of the most perplexing and hurtful things anyone can endure. I've been so embarrassed that I can't get over this asshole. It's true...you get a hoover, but then it goes back to the same abuse and dismissive behavior so fast. I like to challenge myself in my healing process...I'm getting so much stronger, but I'm not 100%. God, eating well, exercise, music, friends, family and TONS of education and self-love help!
I love that you said it's ok that it takes time because there's emotion involved. Sometimes I'm so hard on myself because I can't fully move on, but I forgive myself and know this is beyond my light and understanding. They are deeply hurt and destructive people.
Again thank you i am a narc savior its been 2years single i took my power back and closer too God like you said we all got a long healing journey ahead of us.Thank you so much and how can i find your music ❤️
You’re welcome and go to any music platform and search Terrell Andretti
My humble opinion,as a imperfect humans, we fail alot ,but the diference between the Narc and us is that we have God in our side, get close to him (James 4:8),,and he ll take care of everthing, PLEASE PRAY TO GOD harder everytime we have a negative thoughts, about the Narc or everthing, and you ll see and feel much better ,in your life ,take one day at the time ,trying to keep u busy on something that you have passion about it ,walk ,in the nature, breath, cry if you want it ll help to feel relief,,that personally had help me ALOT, with the healing process, ,I feel much better and happy than last year thanks to my amazing heavenly Father, ,than when I had that terrible situation,God is in control ,give him the change to help you he'allready win our battles trust and beleve it!🙏💙
Amen🧡
Just found ur channel , I'm a year no contact , my only problem is he lives close by so I occasionally run into him, recently seen him with new supply face to face, and yes at first there was sadness bit I realised most of the sadness was for the new supply because I know what he will put her through, and ur right , u can't be jealous of someone u know is being abused, and ur right again if they stay longer its because they have less boundaries than u had , thank you for ur channel x
I am catching up on your videos. My ex narc tried calling me and then had nerve to show up and knocked on my door. I did not answer. crazy. You are keeping me strong!! God Bless you
Thank you definitely glad I could help
We need you and your content. Please continue to help us...much appreciated
Thanks 🙏🏾
You’re welcome 😊
This video is extremely underrated!!!!
Thank you 🙏🏾
Life isn't cookie cut... You are right. There are several variations of experience. Thank you again for sharing yours with us.
The inspiration you share is the pick me up i needed today! I do know i have every capability i need, but the reminders are so appreciated!!!
You Are Telling The Truth Amen 🙏🏽 All Strong FACTSSSS!!!!They Are Both Narcissist There Relationship Is Very
TOXIC Sad Part Is I Have 2 Children By Him And Now They Have A Baby I’m Trying My Best To Keep My Children Out That MESSY SITUATION
Yea that makes it harder but just make sure there is love there on your part and as they get older they’ll see
@@operationnarcnemesis2383 Amen 🙏🏽 Agree💯
Yes! An affair recovery video lead me to the concept of Narcissistic Abuse. Thank you for how you deliver this content. I have been able to use this info to change my life. I had no idea! Thank you
It took me 52 years to figure this out good on you and for helping others out. I wish the wisdom comes to others sooner but this is a complicated puzzle that the ones who need to know will be perplexed enough to seek knowledge! As I did and many others and the light bulb moment .I found out through the internet and many others as well! 😊
I've been with one for 38yrs and I'm so disappointed that I missed it, you are so on point so I thank you for the hands up cause it set me on point and I know how to handle the situation now, thank you so much ball in my court!
Brother, I really appreciate you speaking from your heart ❤️
I was with my ex narcissist husband for a lil over 30 years. We haven't talked ( no contact at all for a year now ). I'm happy he has a new supply. He met her around the end of our relationship so that's why he was able to leave me and I was good with the break up. I was ready to get out of the craziness. I hope his new supply last but I don't think she will be able to keep him happy. She is the complaining type of person, about her kids and job and whatever else. I would hear his conversations on the phone with her. She was always calling him while we were still living in the same house as so called friends. He said they were just friends from work. I knew he was lying but I was ready to get out of the relationship so it didn't bother me. I just hope he continues to keep finding new supply and forget me, totally, if they don't last 🙂.
Congratulations on your freedom
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Thanks. I did over 30 years of my life trying to work with this man and nothing helped. I have had enough of the narcissist mind games. Again I didn't even know what that was so because I prayed so much thru all those years I had God's Peace and Strength to get me thru those years. Then God showed me in dreams that my ex had planned to harm me now, so it was time to let go all together.. I'm happy within or rather God's truly healing me and I'm moving on now. I hope the best for him and have no hate for him. God bless you brother and you keep going strong. Your still young and don't need to waste years on your ex. God bless you. Thanks for your reply. Appreciate it
Man, you clarified a huge doubt I've been having about myself 🙏❤️... Thanks a million man.
Your videos help me get back to logical thinking. I start ruminating uncontrollably sometimes then wondering about him and the new supply. Wish I could stop thinking about him. You are right about the hoover because i waited almost 6 months to get a hoover right when i thought i was getting healed.
Pray every night .It was bad for me I asked to be released from this spirit.I felt it leaving my chest,I kid you not! The next day I felt wonderful.Good luck and you will be ok😊
Idk if you will see this cause I’m going from most recent videos to older but you are truly truly helping me with this process of healing I’ve been struggling with. My child’s father has been going back and forth between myself and his previous child’s mother because she’s the codependent person you speak of…. every time he’d come back around with the love bombing after I say I’m done I kept breaking and falling back in love with that hope smh. God this hurts so much because I really really loved him……but this is just so draining. I’ve been all around my house organizing, decluttering, redecorating, focusing on our son, to just get by each day……I just really hate the situation and it’s so hard not to have a heavy heart knowing they will probably never change, at least not for me.
I know it’s a hard situation but it’ll get worse hanging on,you just have to find you again and get back to that and be the best mother for your child he’s not going to change for you or anyone else no matter how good they make it look
You sound like the co-dependent also. You both do. You both are going back and forth with him. Also, how did your relationship with him begin? Was he with the first baby’s mother? Were you the new supply ?
I’m praying for your situation. I get it, it’s hard.
A true codependent will suffer to not be alone … sad
I could care less about what they are doing on fakebook 😂😂. I have blocked him on everything and my page is private
Good job!💯
@@operationnarcnemesis2383 I’m pretty sure he’s still watching
@@Batman1194 They are. My page was private too but he still knew everything I posted. That’s why I deleted the page.
@@cnbri30 how did he know? How did he get passed the block. I blocked him on everything and any profiles associated with him. How can I find out who’s viewed my profile and page? I’ve even blocked mutual friends or flying monkeys.
@@cnbri30 can you tell us how you know he was still watching after blocking him.
This relationshit left me with feeling that new guy is somehow stronger then me, because they are in long term relationship and got married, so that's how I concluded it.
No sir check out my video why the narc and new supply might still be together
I totally understand you when you said you got triggered when you heard her voice ! Thank u for sharing
I was the codependent so we lasted 8 yrs. The marriage went to shit the first month.
Oh I got the knowledge I'm out of this situation now that I don't put my finger on it takes to you in a couple of other tiktoks in RUclipsrs but I like listening to you because you talk my language
Thank you
My ex covert Narc cheated on me with another covert Narc. I think he thought she was an empath but she wound up baby trapping him. Her cousin told me that she baby trapped him. Apparently this covert Narc woman saw me and my boyfriend of 4 years at a cookout and we were laughing and cuddling, she later told my ex Narc that she saw us and thought to herself, I want that. Then she proceeded to flirt with him and leave notes on his car.. there was increasing tension in our relationship and we split. As soon as we did she told him she was losing her apt and Had no where to go, even though she had a dozen relatives who live in our town. Within months she claimed she was pregnant. He didn’t want the baby because he made a lot of money which she knew and she refused to terminate the pregnancy. They wound up trying to make a go of it, after she had the baby she withdrew intimacy because she wanted a ring and he wouldn’t give her one. He had reached out to me right after she got pregnant telling me he didn’t love her. He wanted to meet me and would call me but I refused. After 14 years of a toxic relationship and no ring, my ex was not able to move up in his line of work and had to retire. As soon as this girl realized she’d have to work she announced she was leaving. He begged me for another chance which I gave him but he turned out to be worst than he was before. He thought he was going to do own a house with her and have me as a girlfriend, meanwhile he had dinner with her behind my back. He told me she had been propositioning him for sex because she wanted to get back together life was too hard as a single parent. He did all cooking, cleaning shopping, laundry. I can’t explain the rage in me over this woman and him. I’ve gone no contact but he stalks me and leaves notes and gifts at my house. Why do they bother us if they can’t be faithful and true
Because they need other people’s energy to survive but their disorder won’t allow them to reciprocate
We are blessed to have you as guidance. Make me understand so much, and that tone of voice of you is so wonderful. Thank you so much ❤️
You are so welcome🧡
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you
You are very welcome
@@operationnarcnemesis2383 Your time/message is appreciated. Thank you again.
@@jada9594 anytime 🧡
Congratulations to you! 👏🏾👏🏾
This man is on fire 🔥 🔥 🔥
You whipping me with these words, painful truth, I been praying to God to reveal my situation. Narcissists Disorder and Codependent. I’m in a repeated cycle.
But…now that you have awareness you can set yourself free🧡
@@operationnarcnemesis2383 Yes, let the fight begin 18years. Whew Chile!!
I really needed this! I was with my kids dad for 4 years and I went through pure hell sometimes and it’s so hard because I can’t go completely no contact because we have kids but I haven’t spoken to him regarding anything other than our kids he’s reached out with the usual BS and I’ve ignored him and he stopped reaching out at night it’s been a week today since the big blow out but I’ve been watching your videos as well as other videos on the subject and praying and getting closer to god and it’s definitely giving me strength 🙌🏽 thank you!
I have two kids with my ex narcissist and we went no contact in 2017. Best decision for me and my kids ever. it's not good to allow your children access to a narcissist.
I'm curious why you think that you should stay in contact with him just because you have kids? That's a big reason to NOT have contact.
That’s the truth brother. Amen. Thanku
"Thanks for the gift"is so true!.
I am codependent with a narc for 26yrs and Im at the fallout stage. its been a tough lesson but had to go through this painful experience I realized now after going to a therapist Thati Im always attracting the same abusive people into my life, and this relationship is really taking a toll on me . I didn't listen to my intuition and i ignored all the red flags that caused Betrayal Bllindness.He needed me to be his controlled doormat so he can have as much supply as he wanted and didn't care because he was sure I would never leave him.He knows that I suffered with abandonment issues and family abuse. And always knows what trigger to use like ghosting for days at a time, I've learned to take the emotions out of it and now im takimg back my control. He is a coward deep down.I learned how to defend myself early from a child,. so no more walking on eggshells. I told him that he's nothing but a cruddy narc and that I dont ever want to be seen with him ever again. He's not worthy of being in my presence. I got a lawyer and im ready to move on from this. I hate How its affecting my son and daughter. Im glade that the creator protected them while they were children and as adults they can process his treatment towards them.They understand That he's unhealthy. You are right when you said they can and will destroy everything in their path. I avoid him as much as i can and he is collapsing from all the narc injurys ive handed to that a$$ . He didnt see this coming I.thank people like you and others who understands this disorder its helping me to get stronger everyday I now apply selfcare, selflove, and learn to be intimate with my self.Like you said they have no light inside of them. I have to learn to use my light to attract good authentic people in my life.
I always said day one “tag you’re it!”
Codependent....wow. This explains it all.
Video request: please do some short videos with your fitness pictures. It motivates me a lot!🔥👍
Will do 🧡
@@operationnarcnemesis2383 thank you for the most recent one. It was 🔥🔥🔥
Thank you new supply or old supply I'm most greatfull it's you an not me iv been ti hell yeah an tye lord saved me amen 🙏
An when I would start asking questions she would immediately say I’m being suspicious.. no I’m just trying to figure this shit out it’s not adding up.
YOU ARE INSPIRING! THANK YOU!
I’m trying to figure out why this is so much harder than any other breakup?? What in the world!!?😢😢 I want this to be over😮💨😮💨😮💨