thank you for making this video. although there is not much new thoughts for me here (i've been on my journey for understanding and loving my self for a long time now), it's the best written and articulated video on the topic I've ever came across. It feels like it covers everything top to bottom: the origin, the essence and potential recovery from this trauma. thank you so much for a much needed sense of solace
I still recall my little five year old self screaming in the road and collapsing to the pavement crying as I watched my mother coldly drive away , seeing my baby sister standing, looking at me ,from the back car window . My Mother was a schizoid personality and did many disgustingly damaging things to my inner child -I now am relationship challenged . 😢
I have been fired from a job before because i didnt know how or when to ask for help. I didnt know that i was allowed to ask. Looking back, it seems so obvious, that i really do not believe that others would ever want to help me.
I cried having to listen to my traumas so well articulated. It felt very validating but deeply unsettling. I do recognize the balance I have to find with self reliance and treating relationships like a dance.
I'm only in the beginning but i want to add, that when a securely attached person is dealing with an avoidantly attached person, that some of these symptoms and signs will pop up, because that is the story they are trying to tell you. That you are anxious and needy and they are normal. Many avoidants normalize their views. Don't allow another's lack of intellectual humility convince you something is wrong with you. They don't know what theyre missing.
Wow. This was powerful. Coincidentally, i have been contemplating the trauma of birth recently. It was interesting to hear your take on it and how it has an effect on our psyche. I also loved how you addressed that it is impossible to be perfect and embracing the paradox this presents is part of healing.
Thank you!! I am glad it resonates and landed at the right time. And yes we are all learning how to swim in this very imperfect world as very imperfect human…!
My mother not only gives me the silent treatment but DENIES it. As she sees it, I'm choosing to be awkward/demanding. It has left a big wound. I always used to patch things up, but not the last 4 years. I dont think she cares much. My dad and brother believe her victim narrative
thank you for making this video. although there is not much new thoughts for me here (i've been on my journey for understanding and loving my self for a long time now), it's the best written and articulated video on the topic I've ever came across. It feels like it covers everything top to bottom: the origin, the essence and potential recovery from this trauma. thank you so much for a much needed sense of solace
Thank you so so much for your kind words!!!! Means a lot to me.
I still recall my little five year old self screaming in the road and collapsing to the pavement crying as I watched my mother coldly drive away , seeing my baby sister standing, looking at me ,from the back car window . My Mother was a schizoid personality and did many disgustingly damaging things to my inner child -I now am relationship challenged . 😢
I have been fired from a job before because i didnt know how or when to ask for help. I didnt know that i was allowed to ask. Looking back, it seems so obvious, that i really do not believe that others would ever want to help me.
But seeing it now marks the first day for the rest of your life! Great insight.
I cried having to listen to my traumas so well articulated. It felt very validating but deeply unsettling. I do recognize the balance I have to find with self reliance and treating relationships like a dance.
Thank you for your feedback, means a lot. Sending blessings to your healing path !
I'm only in the beginning but i want to add, that when a securely attached person is dealing with an avoidantly attached person, that some of these symptoms and signs will pop up, because that is the story they are trying to tell you. That you are anxious and needy and they are normal. Many avoidants normalize their views. Don't allow another's lack of intellectual humility convince you something is wrong with you. They don't know what theyre missing.
Thank you for sharing!
This resonated very deeply and is beautifully written, thank you Imi!
Thank you for your beautiful comment too, it means a lot to me :)
Wow. This was powerful. Coincidentally, i have been contemplating the trauma of birth recently. It was interesting to hear your take on it and how it has an effect on our psyche.
I also loved how you addressed that it is impossible to be perfect and embracing the paradox this presents is part of healing.
Thank you!! I am glad it resonates and landed at the right time. And yes we are all learning how to swim in this very imperfect world as very imperfect human…!
I love your channel, and your book Intense emotions ❤
Thank you ☺️ and I love my audience and readers 😍
Helpful. Thanks.
I am glad ! 😌
My mother not only gives me the silent treatment but DENIES it. As she sees it, I'm choosing to be awkward/demanding. It has left a big wound. I always used to patch things up, but not the last 4 years. I dont think she cares much. My dad and brother believe her victim narrative
I am really sorry and that sounds like an awfully isolating experience
This is amazing. Nice work.
Thanks a lot!
Wow!
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My God!