WEEKLY VLOG 🩷🏋🏽♀️📚 trying new recipes, trying to stay motivated while in a rut, interviewing?!
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- welcome to another week in my life as a full time content creator!! was lowkey going through it this week bc of my period if you couldn’t tell but was still trying to stay on top of things & stay motivated! LOVED all the recipes we tried this week too 😋
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What do you do for work? I am currently a content creator full-time, but I am also a CPA & spent 2 years at a big 4 firm. Currently figuring out career next steps!
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Honestly the anxiety around the job situation is so relatable and I’ve been stuck in the same thought loop before. It might help to try and think less in terms of absolutes-you can always change your mind! Take a job, leave, find a part time job, try something new with your content-as long as you are following what is right you in the moment, it’ll work out. The only bad decision you can make is letting someone else make a decision for you. 💛
YESSS trying so hard to remind myself of that!! I naturally think in absolutes a LOT so it’s a hard habit for me to unlearn but seeing someone else remind me of it will help me catch it more. And that last sentence is EVERYTHING, couldn’t agree more 🩷 thank you
Volunteer! Yes! That kept me sane in my job search. I volunteered at my local botanical garden and a bird/wildlife preserve. It gave me structure to my week and contact with other like minded, environmentally passionate humans 🙂 my job is in nonprofit marketing now, in an unrelated field, but it cemented my desire to work with nonprofits!
Omg that sounds amazing!! I love that :) so happy for you!
Abby, I just want to say that as a LONG term subscriber (freshman in college days) and someone who heavily relates to your thought patterns / anxiety - there will always be “what ifs” and there will always be pros and cons of any job. You have said many times that you want to have a season of life where you just exist, do what feels right, and live in the present. I think this is your ideal opportunity to do that. I am a small business owner and trying to find my place on social media as well, and I do work a very part time in person running my business, so I am in a similar season of life as you trying to do something unconventional and I also struggle with the unknowns of the future. Something I have been working on, and that I think would be good for you, is to pray about and do what feels right for this moment/season of life. Don’t think as much about what will happen long term or if you can do what you’re doing now forever (Within reason, obviously as adults we have to look into the future and ensure we will have our needs met and be stable, but I mean in terms of the exact logistics of things). You can always pivot and make a change. Don’t be afraid to let yourself explore this!
“Don’t be afraid to let yourself explore this” needed that 🥹😭 sending you all the love & encouragement as you navigate this uncertain but (I’m hoping) rewarding time! I am so used to having a “next thing” lined up so I’m really trying to unlearn that it’s a “necessity” when it’s not!
Hey Abby! I'm definitely not qualified to give advice (I'm still in college) but I just wanted to say that I love your content! I've listened to every podcast episode and still watch old videos of yours. Something you said in an episode still sticks out to me "just because it's manageable doesn't mean it's sustainable." If you feel like your mental heath is at risk, you don't need to keep "giving it a shot" there is always the option to go back to content creation full time, but you need to do what is sustainable for you and your well being. You are such a light on the internet and I don't want to see your light dim for the sake of others. Do what makes you happy!
Thank you so much for the support & for that reminder!! I def think I get so in my head when I don’t keep myself as busy because i (for some reason) equate not being productive to failure which makes me think of all the other things I could/should be doing instead. Thank you for your kind words 🩷🩷🩷
girl this whole vlog was so comforting and honest and i loooove that and then there’s the griffin studying bit that took me outtt 😂😂😂 much needed for sure! keep your head up girl! i see so many of us commenting about having similar thought patterns and it’s nice that you’ve opened up that discussion! your videos are meaningful and fulfilling for that very reason
Hahaha he was like I’ll get some b roll for ya 🤣 thank you for your kind words 🥹
I completely relate to the anxious feelings. I’m really in a season of trying to put in the effort to what I want but trusting that God will work it out at the end of the day. I think that being a substitute teacher or adjunct professor would be perfect for you.
Yesss great mindset to have! I’m def considering subbing for the next school year to get a taste of teaching before diving fully into it if nothing else comes up btwn now and then :)
So many of us totally get what you mean about job situation!!! I am only 2 weeks break between jobs and going mental! I think we just don’t know how to relax, which is so common! I think we just have to accept that some of us are just highly wired and feel uncomfortable not to have enough to do or not enough structure. I love personally 9 to 5 and routines. I think it’s extremely interesting subject and would be grateful if you could have more videos about it. Love all your videos!!!
Le cruset it good. Also staub is good! Staub usually lasts for years - commercial grade
i remember the time you were interviewing for your internship in texas! exciting! it's so interesting to see the application process :)
feels like a LIFETIME ago, truly!!
Thanks for always being so real and raw! And thanks for the study motivation Griffin! I’m studying too!
Good luck to you with whatever you’re studying for! 🫶🏼
@@AbbyAsselin thanks girly!! Trying to be a behavior analyst! So the BCBA exam! It’s a killer
I recommend All-Clad stainless steel pans. I cook a lot and those have been the best pans I have used.
Abby thank you for talking about your job search and being vulnerable. I think it's natural to want to find jobs/opportunities that are "fulfilling". I feel like I am a lot like you when it comes to how you think and how it affects you mentally. One of my friends told me that I plan too far into the future (I think it's anxiety), and that kind of relates to how you were talking about the 2 jobs and potential interviews. I am also on the job hunt after graduating with my bachelors. It's been a little over a year, and no luck. I'm currently working a minimum wage job to pay bills and have made the decision to get my masters. I hope this leads me in the direction I want, and I have better opportunities. Your RUclips and podcast has helped me a lot with post grad life.
I totally feel that! Def feel like I try to plan everything as much as I can to feel in control as I don’t do well with uncertainty. Wishing you the best & I hope your masters opens all the doors for you - appreciate your support 🩷
Abby I really really really love your contents so so so much and I was eagerly eagerly waiting for this vlog you are my inspiration and I will support you till end🥰💖✨
Hi Abby! Love the video ☺️
A note about jobs is take your time to enjoy where you’re at and make the most of it while you can.
I just turned down two offers that paid more than what I make because I realized the benefits and freedom my current job gives me would be taken away and it wasn’t worth it. Trust your gut instincts in whatever decision you make! 💛
Good for you - thank you for sharing 🩵 & glad you loved it & thanks for the encouragement 🥰
Stainless steel pans are so good, I’ve had mine for a year now and still look brand new! Costco has some amazing ones!
Def gonna look into some stainless steel ones!!
oh no i used to have horrible cramps mine are better now but i know the feeling i usually put a heating pad on my stomach and ice my back! ill totally tell you to try acupuncture :) it helps soooo much
Oooo I would love to try acupuncture! I do love heating pads for sureee
and I totally get why you feel you need to take a break from podcasting I am currently taking a break from content creating just because I have a lot going with school for the next couple of weeks and I really need to focus on that and not overwhelm myself.
Aww abby I completely understand the period cramps I get really bad period cramps where I honestly feel like I am going to throw up they are the worse so sorry you get them. Maybe I should look into getting a heating pad.
They help a lottttt!
I have a stainless steel pot and pan set from Costco that is so easy to clean! And it comes with like every size you need
I’ve def heard good things ab the Costco ones!! I wish I could get them w my WS gift card lol 🤣
Get stainless steel pans!! You can scorch stuff on the bottom and then boil water and it comes right off. The ones we have are dishwasher and oven safe. We are obsessed with them!
Are this pans nonstick? Or how can they be nonstick? If you don’t mind me asking 😊
@@claudiavasquez1368 yes! You have to let them heat up first until a drop of water beads on it! As long as what you are putting on the pan can create its own liquid it won’t stick. The only things we have to use nonstick spray or butter/olive oil for are eggs, pancakes, etc.! The ones we have are made in the US and have a lifetime warranty on them too! People have literally had these pots and pans for 40 years and will still rave about them. They do have a learning curve but they are amazing once you get the hang of it!
I do that with my caraway pans when things harden and it def makes the cleaning process way easier! But dishwasher safe stainless steel sounds elite 🤌🏼
@@AbbyAsselin throwing them in the dishwasher is honestly so elite 😂 the ones we have also have lids that fit inside so everything stacks nicely!
I think is more about the stigma that exist around content creation as real job, you are doing great I love your content, Ultimately you need to do what it right for you not only taking in an account how you feel is about how whatever you are doing is making you a whole rounded person in the aspects that are important to you, ❤❤ sending you hugs and good luck on job hunting
I def think you’re right - I just cannot let go of the stigma sometimes in my head & I don’t think it helps when I inadvertently consume content on tiktok that bashes on content creators 🤣 thank you so much
i've probably said this but i really like your house
Hi Abby :) Loved your video! I have caphalon stainless steel pans and they are a dream once you learn how to use them. Super healthy for you and last a while
Ooo will look into those TY 🩷
I spent months doing research before upgrading our pots and pans a few years back and ultimately ended up getting a set from the brand Circulon online at Costco. They're hard anodized non-stick. It's been almost 3 yrs and I have zero complaints about any of them! The review that really sold me was an older woman saying she had her first set of Circulon for 25 yrs and repurchased them again knowing this set would probably last longer than her 🤣💀
Im looking for new pans and this sold me! lol
Omg that review stop 🤣😭 UGH I wish I could use my Williams Sonoma gift card that I got on those!!!! Maybe I can get the Costco pans and use the gift card on something else if I don’t find one I like at WS lol
You know what? I think one can only benefit from applying to different jobs and maybe working in different fields. This idea that you have to stay in your field or job for 40 years is outdated. But I am saying this as someone who works in a profession (teaching) which is meant to be your end-all 😂 I feel like if I was in a 9-5 field I’d like to be explore different options and maybe even abroad! I’ll try to find a position at a German school abroad but I do sometimes mourn the missing opportunities in this field. But at the same time I’m VERY secure (no possible job loss, well paid, fixed pension). There’s pros and cons to everything. Sometimes I wish you could just have everything 😂😂
Good luck on any future job interviews!!! I hated those omg
Abby, have you ever thought about becoming a workout instructor? Your thoughts remind me of Jenna Palek when she left her corporate job!
Yesss I think I’d def enjoy it! My only hesitation is I could really only see myself being an instructor at f45 but I wouldn’t want it to ruin my desire to go myself bc it’s the first workout I’ve truly loved going to 4-5x a week 🤣🤣 and I think I have to have a trainer certification for f45 so def would need to consider if it’s worth the investment!
As a Recruiter in corporate retail, I recommend going into the interview as a professional conversation. It’s a 2 way street and everything happens for a reason. If it’s not your time, oh well. Keep interviewing. All in God’s plan.
That’s definitely a mindset I’m trying to adopt!! Thank you 🩷
Love my Misen stainless steel pans! Also, I am in a similar situation as you when it comes to accounting firm experience and searching for more of an accounting role. I started working for a top-ten accounting firm in audit at the same time you started and I left in September 2023. I have been actively applying and interviewing ever since with no luck unfortunately. The job market for accounting right now is extremely competitive so I have applied to everything that I could possibly qualify for and that I would potentially enjoy. For reference, I have my Masters of Accountancy and my CPA. If you are seriously wanting an accounting position, I would recommend applying to everything that sounds interesting. I hope you find what you are looking for! ❤
Omg I’m so sorry that it’s been tough for you to find something :( I totally understand it though. Literally the only things available in accounting are the positions that no one really wants bc of the demands.. seems really difficult to find anything else in industry. Sending you love and appreciate you being here 🩷
Sorry this is long but I’d say go with what your gut and heart are telling you than your brain. Your brain will put you easily into the spiral that you seem to be in right now. It’s ok to take chances because any decision that you make will lead you to a different and maybe even better position.
I think if you view creating content as a creative outlet rather than a monetized one, then go with your heart!
I love you being honest with us and authentic because literally this time last year I was in the same boat. It took some reflection and time to forgive myself in feeling guilty in my decision but I feel blessed for where I am now. your happiness and everyday life is the most important thing.
Stay positive as best you can! You have this loving community, husband, friends and family who will be there for you through it all. Give yourself grace too! ❤
you’re SOOO right, my brain def makes me overthink things most of the time and can ruin a lot for me lol :’) thank you for your advice 🩷 & I’m so happy you are in a better place now 🫶🏼
All Clad!
Since you like coffee, have you ever thought about being a barista? Even part time? I've done that for the last three years and it's been SO great (stressful at times, but as long as you work with strong people it's okay!!!) for my mental health because I've gained a bunch of friendships from it. I think even part time would help the anxiety, but as a 24 year old graduating in December, I absolutely understand the stress. Much love!!
Yes I have!! I have been keeping myself pretty busy with youtube so i haven’t really thought to pursue true part time things yet (I’ve been thinking in absolutes, either get a 9-5 or keep just doing content). I’m so glad it’s been great for you!! and congrats on graduating 🩵
I think the fact that you’re so worried about counting yourself out of content creation means you had enough time. The 9-5 corporate situation is always there. It sounds like pursuing teaching is the goal and right now there’s time to do that with the social media situation
I quit my public firm without notice because it was a very toxic environment and my stress level was so high because of it. I worked in tax too. I had no plan. I interviewed for a month and nothing. God worked it out and I ended up with two offers and I was able to choose the best offer and I love my job now in finance. It's 8 hour days WFH low stress but high reward. You will find what you're looking for what is meant for you in time keep interviewing keep applying and it will happen.
I’m so happy for you for choosing what’s best for yourself & trusting the process 🩷 thank you for the encouragement
Hey Abby, I can totally understand your struggle with the job search! Are you still going to therapy? I don't want to push it on you in any way but I find it really helpful to talk about those things with a therapist and it is a great opportunity to work on how you talk to yourself and learn self-compassion :)
I am not! My last appointment was early March, but it’s just my last one bc that’s when my insurance coverage for therapy ended from my last job. I can def do drop in appointments as needed but since it’ll actually cost $ it’s something I’m trying to be very selective with!! I’ve briefly talked about self compassion in therapy but I think it’s something I prob need more work with!
Volunteer or work part time first! I (and I’m sure the rest of your audience too) totally understand how content creating full time could get in your head, especially with the solitude of it all. Also, not to put words in your mouth but when you mention the realities of content creating it sometime looks like you feel guilty for voicing your thoughts since you are so grateful for having this as an option- if that’s the case please relax about it and don’t feel guilty for being honest! To me it also shows that you care so much about the content you put out in the world
Thank you so much for all your kind words & input!!! I’m def going to start looking into more part time things/volunteer opportunities for that extra fulfillment. appreciate you bc I do feel guilty talking about it just never really recognized that as how I was feeling 🙃
What exam is Griffin studying for? Best of luck!🎉
The CFP exam :)
I think we are very similar in needing to be busy to be fulfilled, I think do what is best for you NOW, life is always changing 🤍 It sounds like a job might be more fulfilling for you currently - nothing is permanent so if you hate it you don't have to stay at the job either!
so true!!! Def something I’m trying to navigate, like I think it will always be a part of me but also need to learn to accept slower seasons & allow myself to soak it up & enjoy the process/change! Thank you for the encouragement 🫶🏼
Do you know who Kristee vetter is? She’s gone back and forth a little bit with corporate job and content creation! I’ve always appreciated that she was grateful for RUclips but knew her career aspirations were not that but she does both well now it seems
Yes!! Love her 🫶🏼
Your husband Griffin looks like Travis Kelce! Also, make sure ella doesn't spend too much time with your period cramp snuggly thing since eucalyptus is toxic for dogs.
Yes def!! I always put it up when I’m not using it & she just likes to cuddle towards it when I’m on the couch with it 😆 and omg he’s had a few people tell him that hahahah I kinda see it!
Maybe the void you have is in your church community. Maybe God is giving you space to get more involved with others and spreading the Word? just a thought. I’ve been having the same thing as I work from home FT and I’m itching to get out. I’ve been feeling God’s tug and always come up with excuses due to my social anxiety, etc.
Good point!! Yes working from home full time def can make you feel stir crazy, so I totally get that tug
Don’t push your religion on other people
So many of us totally get what you mean about job situation!!! I am only 2 weeks break between jobs and going mental! I think we just don’t know how to relax, which is so common! I think we just have to accept that some of us are just highly wired and feel uncomfortable not to have enough to do or not enough structure. I love personally 9 to 5 and routines. I think it’s extremely interesting subject and would be grateful if you could have more videos about it. Love all your videos!!!
SOOO true, everything is SO go go go all the time it can feel like you’re doing something wrong or just be so much easier to get in your head when you don’t have a million things keeping you busy. appreciate ya 🩵