The Science of Sexual Fantasies with Justin Lehmiller

Today we have Dr. Justin Lehmiller on the podcast. Dr. Lehmiller is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What you Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Lehmiller is an award winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality.
On this episode we cover a wide range of provocative and fascinating findings from the largest survey on sexual fantasies of all time. Topics include:
The most common sexual fantasies among humans
The most taboo sexual fantasy category
Fantasy vs. desire
Reducing shame for the content of one’s sexual fantasies
The relationship between the fantasy-prone personality and sexual fantasies
The importance of sexual self-actualization for well-being
The benefits of open communication of our fantasies with our partners
Sexual orientation vs. sexual flexibility
The truth behind widely held stereotypes about BDSM
Gender differences in sexual fantasies
What your sexual fantasies say about you
The sexiest superhero
OCD and gender bending
Does size really matter?
Which fantasy is the least likely to work out when it’s actually acted out?
How can more people turn their fantasies into reality in a healthy way?
How can we break the barriers in society that prevent us from properly communicating our sexual desires?
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[@bennguyen1313]

The self-reporting data seems always kinda suspect.. I bet Google and/or major adult web sites have mountains of data on what people ACTUALLY search for when they think nobody is collecting data. I also imagine that future AI would also be able to learn what someone typically watches without ever needing a search prompt. Jordan Peterson has talked about what fantasies say about humans.

[@MrCruckles]

Appreciate you teaching the world

[@heartwisdomlove]

in general men are givers and women are receivers yet in Tantra practices it is very important for both men and women to take turns touching with love as a giver and receiving loving touch as a receiver

[@drnona92]

Great podcast...
My only problem was not being able to play it at a higher speed for some reason :/ .

[@happybubblemanfan]

Hate the idea that you cannot issue a trigger warning. Trauma is NOT the same as being offended by something.

[@nephilimpower1351]

The male victimhood really reeks in this video

[@sarahalderman3126]

I mean it has saturated everything at this point…

[@sarahalderman3126]

I’m sorry but it actually is a problem… psychopath’s are the only people who think this crap is “normal”.

[@arri9507]

what are you on about lady?

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@arri9507try listening…

[@Peter-mj6lz]

Really?