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Комментарии • 3,3 тыс.

  • @gimj1_8
    @gimj1_8 2 года назад +2099

    The whole “I didn’t see marriage growing up in my home” argument is played out for college educated women. If you have the discipline and diligence to obtain a degree you can apply the same level of effort to gain knowledge on how to make success of relationships and become a wife.

    • @backstabingpike
      @backstabingpike 2 года назад +51

      ✊✊✊✊

    • @moblack5883
      @moblack5883 2 года назад +133

      yep they see marriage on tv and movies daily. They love the show Basketball Wives but forget the word wives.

    • @albertorynda740
      @albertorynda740 2 года назад +56

      You're right if you're talking to a man ...females can't do this bc they are still dominated by their emotions. So when they find out how men truly think, what they truly want.....they get offended and in their feelings. Then they hit men with shame, insult, guilt, and the need to be right. Just like Kevin says

    • @aesthetiques
      @aesthetiques 2 года назад +95

      "I didn't see marriage", well alright. Neither did men to the same proportion, but you still expect men to be leaders, providers, and protectors. Figure it out. Get some therapy, find a long-term married woman to learn from. Do some work.

    • @antoinelevine2143
      @antoinelevine2143 2 года назад +18

      Exactly, shits annoying!

  • @ryanbaker7404
    @ryanbaker7404 2 года назад +2363

    I’ve never seen an individual so determined and focused to save his culture! I wish you nothing but success, KS!

    • @twashing2006
      @twashing2006 2 года назад +75

      Hmm, great observation. Thanks for the perspective.

    • @westcoast6162
      @westcoast6162 2 года назад +82

      He's definitely not on his "culture", he's trying to get blacks out of their "culture"😆

    • @thegooch7206
      @thegooch7206 2 года назад +123

      @@westcoast6162 exactly because the culture we’re in now sucks ass.

    • @jeremiahdavis3398
      @jeremiahdavis3398 2 года назад +29

      God bless him

    • @moshebgr8
      @moshebgr8 2 года назад +87

      @@westcoast6162 that's not our culture. That's an adopted behaviour which is destructive which leads our people nowhere slowly and painfully.

  • @wakinglife7065
    @wakinglife7065 Год назад +72

    Broke my heart when he said I’ll be dead by then. Rest in heaven Sir

  • @_CHRlS_
    @_CHRlS_ 2 года назад +502

    "I'm single. I got a boyfriend though" you already know where this is headed 😂😂

    • @MrEJF02
      @MrEJF02 2 года назад +29

      I said the same thing. From the start I knew this would be bad WTF

    • @Scam-ish
      @Scam-ish 2 года назад +23

      Yeah its so sad she said she found someone on the same page ,like its hard to find a man who wont' marry you if not required. And watch her get pregnant and change her expectation . This is so common, women start off with one expectation and then mature, change that expectation expecting the man to also evolve. We typically hold women to the original agreement.

    • @Relax-ge2uf
      @Relax-ge2uf 2 года назад +4

      She scheming

    • @eviLempire2013
      @eviLempire2013 2 года назад +20

      I’m sure she meant single as marital status.

    • @AlexxxCrossss
      @AlexxxCrossss 2 года назад +5

      @@Scam-ish she said she doesn't want to be married because her bf doesn't want to be married

  • @OscarGeronimo
    @OscarGeronimo 2 года назад +1563

    This sh-t is scary. Not just about how women think now, but how we have been influenced as men.
    I'm a creative guy and I grew up with a modern single woman and a mostly absent dad and I've never thought about this before Kevin, and I've realized I'm not Ok. I'm REALLY behind. I don't have it, what am I gonna do now? So many years wasted... at least I got some skills in music, but not ones that are highly demanded like playing guitar.... this is leaving a bitter taste in my mouth and a unbearing heaviness in my gut, but it is sobering, better than living the delusion.
    I have to figure what to do now. Wish me luck.

    • @ronaldjones1274
      @ronaldjones1274 2 года назад +161

      I'm with you man. I'm gonna keep with the music however I saw a youtube video for men in our situation that suggested coding is one of the best things for men that are behind to get on track fast financially because you can earn as you learn.

    • @rockyshores5840
      @rockyshores5840 2 года назад +85

      you can fix this. i had a writing hobby, and went on to study chemical engineering. now i do technical sales and get writing gigs here and there. even in bad years i break six figs.
      my point being, that musical talent can give you a creative outlet and make you a nice side income to supplement a hard skill. i think you have a good start and should not feel bad about where you are. think long term, find a program thats difficult and lucrative. it's a ten year process, but you'll probably live to 100, so start now.

    • @Tential1
      @Tential1 2 года назад +43

      Good luck man. I feel you. I definitely just didn't pay attention to finding a mate, I thought it would be easy. I f'd up hard and hit the lotto right away and thought "oh, dating is easy, women are cool". And now it's very irritating realizing just how unprepared I was.

    • @diligentsun1154
      @diligentsun1154 2 года назад +50

      gotta use EVERYTHING you know.
      from laundry to grocery shopping.
      to include extended fasting.
      reading.
      develop an understanding of Law
      and Medicine.
      and 'government'.
      simultaneously.
      there must be another New Renaissance!
      it's almost time.
      find out all you can about first aid, and war strategy.
      communications.
      etcetera.
      you might be 'broke', but you won't be 'dumb' or 'boring'.

    • @drakoan
      @drakoan 2 года назад +75

      I grew up the same and even as a kid I could tell something wrong was happening. Over time I found myself increasingly confused and missing essential tools and understandings of how to be a man. I am now 40 and still working to correct and expand who I am as a person.
      The nonsense I was taught about romance has probably done me some of the most harm, all I can do now is grow better.
      I really appreciate the people suggesting options like coding, brothers of all types have to help each other out of this social crab bucket.

  • @dmariie17
    @dmariie17 2 года назад +303

    There are so many black women who are “educated” yet so out of touch with reality and how the world really works. I’m glad Kevin opened my eyes because I was going down this path myself.

    • @waynedwyer1326
      @waynedwyer1326 2 года назад +21

      Educated is a stretch .. having a degree just means you stuck it out .. especially these useless psychology or marketing degrees

    • @fiestygoddess9504
      @fiestygoddess9504 2 года назад +4

      @@waynedwyer1326 and what degree do you have?

    • @waynedwyer1326
      @waynedwyer1326 2 года назад +7

      @@fiestygoddess9504 Bachelors..

    • @janellbazile782
      @janellbazile782 2 года назад +1

      Agreed...

    • @jampacc
      @jampacc 2 года назад +4

      @@fiestygoddess9504 you're a PhD huh? Lmaoooooo 💀

  • @lawalemmanuel6027
    @lawalemmanuel6027 2 года назад +380

    Ladies please don't deny your children the benefit of a family and a father.

    • @emmanuelboakye1124
      @emmanuelboakye1124 2 года назад +3

      👍👍

    • @kellypeppers4367
      @kellypeppers4367 2 года назад +29

      men marry the women u have kids with

    • @lawalemmanuel6027
      @lawalemmanuel6027 2 года назад +21

      @@kellypeppers4367 Women please don't use pregnancy to trap a man..
      We all know how this stuff works...

    • @tianam.964
      @tianam.964 2 года назад +12

      @@lawalemmanuel6027Men, please don't ejaculate into women you think will use the pregnancy to "trap" you.
      We all know how sexual reproduction works...

    • @DB-115
      @DB-115 2 года назад +13

      Fam..my cousin just gave birth by artificial insemination. No male parent figure in the picture. I'm like "why?" And she's 42. Like WTF. Who in their right mind would want to start parenthood by being a single mom? Makes no sense to me. Get a pet & call it a life.

  • @acruz7294
    @acruz7294 2 года назад +503

    I’m grateful for KS. My children’s father and I are working to reconcile to get our family back in order. Our son’s behavior has improved for the better. I’m looking forward to the positive results to come.

    • @_LilacRoses
      @_LilacRoses 2 года назад +9

      I wish I had this opportunity

    • @tinuke-mo1ke
      @tinuke-mo1ke 2 года назад +24

      Good for you. Boys need their fathers

    • @EightFrancs
      @EightFrancs 2 года назад +22

      And from now on, make sure you treat both of those males with respect.

    • @cisaiah2402
      @cisaiah2402 2 года назад +21

      Very, VERY rare these days, I applaud you👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @leonardthompsonjr3948
      @leonardthompsonjr3948 2 года назад +6

      Amen! Best of luck to you guys

  • @JGRG07
    @JGRG07 2 года назад +15

    He is absolutely right. I have so many black aunties and cousins that are old, broke, and unmarried

  • @LiveLeveLeviL
    @LiveLeveLeviL 2 года назад +913

    “I honestly don’t believe i am qualified to be anyone’s wife, especially to a man who deserves a good woman..”
    Said no woman EVER.

    • @bababamooo906
      @bababamooo906 2 года назад +48

      Never ! Vvomen are too self-centered and selfish for that

    • @downbad2874
      @downbad2874 2 года назад +27

      I’ve never heard any gender say this

    • @stephanward3142
      @stephanward3142 2 года назад +9

      Facts ....
      Its a paradigm shift coming
      The barbarian is almost at the gate....

    • @goldenmommy1383
      @goldenmommy1383 2 года назад +9

      I feel like that...I have a couple tears in my eyes 👁️ right now.

    • @RandomPerson-nd2ey
      @RandomPerson-nd2ey 2 года назад +22

      It's funny that you said that. My wife had this "Book of Letters to my Future Husband" which was basically a diary from the time she became a teenager.
      In it, she wrote about not feeling that she qualified for a good husband anymore because she didn't line up with the ideals in this way or that (in her opinion).
      She passed my standards and I was a bitter picky prick when it came to standards of what I was looking for since I had recently been divorced...
      Point being that she was qualified (even to my strict standards) and believed she wasn't. We met over 13 years ago now and she's still a great wife and mother to our kids.

  • @tdogg65
    @tdogg65 2 года назад +247

    I have no problem with black women not wanting to be married, but don't bring children into this and have them grow up to further mess up the community.

    • @TheXman19
      @TheXman19 2 года назад +11

      Facts, Only in our community do we feel it is ok, or better to raise children in a single parent house hold. This sh** is crazy. SMH

    • @CobraR1993
      @CobraR1993 2 года назад +3

      Spot on!

    • @locblacsales5744
      @locblacsales5744 2 года назад +1

      Big facts 💯

    • @912deborah
      @912deborah 2 года назад +6

      Our community fukked either way.

    • @doctordetroit4339
      @doctordetroit4339 2 года назад +1

      That ship has sailed bro

  • @SophiaFaris
    @SophiaFaris 2 года назад +21

    Lady, your money will NEVER double in 36 years in a savings account, the INFLATION during the 36 years will bring down the value of your cash to nearly 10% or less than its current value today, and that is in the best-case of scenarios.

  • @willnotplay5464
    @willnotplay5464 2 года назад +410

    It be crazy to hear a woman say she wants kids but not marriage.. Like wtf.. You want to be a single mom from the gate?? Like is a badge of honor🙄

    • @sistrenyogigal3813
      @sistrenyogigal3813 2 года назад +23

      It makes so sense

    • @trustme7660
      @trustme7660 2 года назад +49

      Have you check dating apps countless single mothers saying they are looking to settle down

    • @smalltownqueen5574
      @smalltownqueen5574 2 года назад +16

      That's crazy, I would not recommend that she be a single mother, she think she struggling now..smh

    • @jnetwork3232
      @jnetwork3232 2 года назад +12

      @@trustme7660 lmfao ain’t no Niga around the rainbow want a milf with kids lol hearts not cold just saying

    • @alfredliggins8510
      @alfredliggins8510 2 года назад +3

      @@sistrenyogigal3813 they don't want the responsibility of working at it

  • @JusTheKing.
    @JusTheKing. 2 года назад +204

    Feminism REALLY did a number on black women. My goodness..

    • @jnetwork3232
      @jnetwork3232 2 года назад +25

      Don’t worry they’re strong and independent wamen they’ll get through just fine

    • @fredflinstone6601
      @fredflinstone6601 2 года назад +20

      On all women

    • @red03bull
      @red03bull 2 года назад +3

      Been saying that for years now

    • @GoogleUser-hp8qe
      @GoogleUser-hp8qe 2 года назад +31

      Meanwhile, the non-Black women who PUSHED feminism are at the coffee shop, spa, gym, restaurants or with their children while their husbands work.
      I’m a housewife and when I go to these places on a regular Tuesday morning I’m usually the only Black woman who isn’t working there.
      Black women are missing out on ACTUAL FREEDOM.

    • @unknowninfinium4353
      @unknowninfinium4353 2 года назад +3

      Its Subversion too.

  • @brandinshaeffer8970
    @brandinshaeffer8970 2 года назад +146

    I'm 49 & married. The girlfriends i have around me who prioritized their career over creating a family are now in my age range and some of the most depressed, sad, bitter, disillusioned people you can imagine.

    • @haroldkeil8582
      @haroldkeil8582 Год назад +5

      Who will take care of them in their old age??

    • @ricklewis6295
      @ricklewis6295 Год назад +3

      That's sad they going to die alone cause instead of being parents they wanna be god parents until they get old

    • @realdavidpayne
      @realdavidpayne Год назад +23

      My sister is 43 and single and taking Instagram pictures like she’s 25. It’s a damn shame.

    • @Khaseenwar09
      @Khaseenwar09 11 месяцев назад +2

      ​@realdavidpayne
      Damn! 😂

    • @celestejacobs7386
      @celestejacobs7386 9 месяцев назад +1

      Kids are not for everyone.

  • @dtub10
    @dtub10 2 года назад +527

    She's got the "Subtle Ego" energy and she's passive. Kevin giving points with proof and all she does is try to exclude herself from a fact based statistic that she falls into off her own explanation of her situation. The biggest mistake people make is thinking life is a game when in reality, we really have to move about with intention because we ALL will be old way longer than we'll be young. Time don't stop man.

    • @jonjones7137
      @jonjones7137 2 года назад +34

      This word entrepreneurs is just thrown around callously today...

    • @joshuasterling2144
      @joshuasterling2144 2 года назад +21

      @@jonjones7137 I used to sell candy on the side when I was a kid in school. Me=entrepreneur...lol

    • @joshuasterling2144
      @joshuasterling2144 2 года назад +3

      @@culturematters4157 I am sure at the time you re enforced your independent mindset and thought you were going to become rich...lol

    • @jonjones7137
      @jonjones7137 2 года назад +6

      @@joshuasterling2144 ok.....ok...so my paper route at 11 was an entrepreneur starter kit. I see now gentlemen....thank you.

    • @SEDRICKHENDRIXTHEGAMER
      @SEDRICKHENDRIXTHEGAMER 2 года назад +5

      Big facts bro

  • @moblack5883
    @moblack5883 2 года назад +363

    When Kevin starts talking retirement funds that loses a lot of these women. They don't come from homes with parents who have pensions. This is a foreign idea to them. They can't see that far in advance.

    • @wcmcghee2
      @wcmcghee2 2 года назад +67

      They don't come from kingdoms with kings, queens, and princesses, and yet they have no problem understanding and thinking they are queens and princesses...

    • @moblack5883
      @moblack5883 2 года назад +21

      @@wcmcghee2 yep! instead of her talking about a baby she needs to be picking up an education so she can make more money. 40k in 2022 is nothing!

    • @NoreLyne
      @NoreLyne 2 года назад +5

      @@moblack5883 education will leave her homeless , draining in huge debt just to please her boss .. she needs to be creative and make money differently

    • @RepuBlicOfChaD
      @RepuBlicOfChaD 2 года назад +27

      I have a pension, Roth IRA, and 457B plan. I max out what I can in those accounts. When I mention retirement to females they have the 1000 cock stare and have no idea what I'm talking about. Sad.....

    • @Iamjoeycross
      @Iamjoeycross 2 года назад +21

      Funny irony. A lot of men won’t retire either. We’re just built to keep working tho so it will affect women more than most average men.

  • @289dancer
    @289dancer 2 года назад +10

    why are people upset with this man? he is making so many solid points.

    • @MrBstuy
      @MrBstuy 5 месяцев назад

      Some women are allergic to accountability. Some other women only want to hear what makes them feel good.

  • @NWO_Dissident
    @NWO_Dissident 2 года назад +747

    This woman's priorities are all over the place. She'll be a golden girl roommate.

    • @superdave8248
      @superdave8248 2 года назад +28

      True, but I'll give her this much credit. She is taking what KS is telling her to heart. And I think by the 10 minute mark she already knows she is screwed.

    • @636racer
      @636racer 2 года назад +25

      golden girl…more like bronze 🥴

    • @straighttalking6902
      @straighttalking6902 2 года назад +6

      Lol

    • @purplegirl8036
      @purplegirl8036 2 года назад +8

      Golden girls is the best tho 😆

    • @theglowe45
      @theglowe45 2 года назад +6

      Oh hell that's the quote of the night 😂😂😂

  • @numbersletters3886
    @numbersletters3886 2 года назад +674

    This guy is brilliant, finally someone sticking up for us........

    • @pleaseNthanx
      @pleaseNthanx 2 года назад +24

      ABSOLUTELY!!

    • @richmack4194
      @richmack4194 2 года назад +6

      @@goldthief4748 more or less is about the black family

    • @kiriende3691
      @kiriende3691 2 года назад

      @UCdsCm3wEOm22PgXV5WTx0VA Really?

    • @antoinelevine2143
      @antoinelevine2143 2 года назад +29

      It's a must you stick up for yourself, it's extremely cowardly allowing this brother to carry the whole load. If we move as a unit imagine the changes we'll see.

    • @MRBIGDEEDOWNHEREINTX
      @MRBIGDEEDOWNHEREINTX 2 года назад +1

      Hell yeah

  • @Neddie2k
    @Neddie2k 2 года назад +52

    Just to give another dimension to the benefits of marriage, I lost my cousin about 18 months ago, he was married with 4 kids, it has been tough for the wife since then, but she reaches out to the extended family of her husband for support with school fees and sometimes money for food.
    If she wasn't married to my cousin, I doubt, she will get the same level of consideration she and her kids get from me and other family relatives.
    There is a clear difference between a wife and a partner, when a husband passes, the wife is still a member of the family, when a partner passes, the surviving partner has to move on.

    • @bigstacks1463
      @bigstacks1463 2 года назад +5

      Excellent point. That was my mom's experience when my dad passed away. Me, my brother, and my father's siblings all contributed to looking after her, socializing with her, and making sure her home was maintained properly. Mom's family lived many states away, so dad's family served as her primary social network. She has passed away now, but she was well taken care of by a large family network.

    • @KeiwarrenLuke-u6l
      @KeiwarrenLuke-u6l Месяц назад +1

      So true

  • @Transportador33
    @Transportador33 2 года назад +351

    For the folks that went to college, think about this for a moment..... Whilst in college, how many foreign students did you find in your Sociology class, Psychology class? Why is it most foreign students go into STEM or Law? They aim for the highest level because back home that's the only means by which you can own a house or eat. Be mindful of what's really going on in the market, chase the jobs that PAY, and pay considerably more as you go along.. You can get an entry level Amazon warehouse gig, go learn how to do EDI, warehousing rules and practices, rise to $100k plus in 3 to 5 years. No degree required. That mechanic at Porche?.. clocks $60k walking in, over $120k 4 years later. This bullshit about loving your job is a fkn lie. Love what the $ from your job let's you do. I'm 6 figures over 10 years and the job won't even let me retire (I tried), cuz there's literally no one they can find to replace me.

    • @Iamjoeycross
      @Iamjoeycross 2 года назад +25

      To the last point, I’d negotiate a walk away package for yourself if you have that type of leverage or ask for 200k LMAO. But to your first thoughts, everything you said requires a plan and strategy. Most ppl don’t even know what they will do tomorrow, let alone after 4 years of college. They just go to campus and let it fly. Smh.

    • @Transportador33
      @Transportador33 2 года назад +42

      @@Iamjoeycross that's the hurtful part. My buddies and I (foreigners) came in with plans and targets. Most of my American friends were chasing tail at Spelman next door.

    • @The-Oneness11
      @The-Oneness11 2 года назад +26

      I agree. I studied stem. Although I didn't go into a field in my major I focused on jobs that paid well with advancement. I also didn't go on to get a masters degree because I didn't want extra debt. I literally started at my job at 28 in the seasonal position making less than 20,000 a year to now making 70,000 after only 5 years. I was very ambitious and only focused on doing what I needed to do to advance and make more money.

    • @slickrick8046
      @slickrick8046 2 года назад +31

      @@Transportador33
      Most attorneys are lucky if they’re making $40k to $50K a year. Lol. And every STEM degree isn’t worth the same because those degrees are industry driven and you don’t need a 4 year degree for some of those jobs.
      But yea, I always chuckle when someone says they have a philosophy, social science, history, or some other basket weaving liberal arts degree.

    • @blackout7743
      @blackout7743 2 года назад +21

      Exactly ! My friends wanted to be production workers chasing girls on the line. I hung around the maintenance mechanic guys picking their brains. I went to a training program for mechanical maintenance and now make 30k more and mow they say it changed 😂. If I leave now with the experience and certifications I can request top pay 70-100k. Now they chase the girls and those girls chase me.

  • @webbsinferno3242
    @webbsinferno3242 2 года назад +438

    Something I was thinking about at the gym this morning related to the probability vs possibility thing KS often talks about, and why men seem to have a better handle on it than women: how many of us dudes growing up wanted to be pro athletes? And how many ACTUALLY go on to be pro athletes. A very small percentage. Idk about y’all, but I know when I was playing the big 3 sports growing up, I swore I coulda been pro. I worked my ass off, got up early, wore jump soles (you a real one if you remember those!), but no matter how hard I worked that PROBABILITY is fuckin low. And no one ever let you forget it. So, at a young age, I had to come to terms with the fact that, this might not be the way I make money growing up, lemme at least get a plan B, C, D etc. Sure there’s a POSSIBILITY, but not likely. I feel like maybe that plays a role in why men seem to have a better grip on probability vs possibility. Does that sound crazy?

    • @imdon8920
      @imdon8920 2 года назад +22

      You are right on the money. Except for the word feel usage.

    • @reese85
      @reese85 2 года назад +45

      We all had those dreams until someone called us trash and that we wasn’t goin to make it lol

    • @webbsinferno3242
      @webbsinferno3242 2 года назад +15

      @@reese85 lmao. Facts

    • @Papikristo
      @Papikristo 2 года назад +58

      Yes and a lot of us also know we won't be marrying super models. By 18.

    • @theeel420
      @theeel420 2 года назад +34

      I thought I was the next Roy Jones Jr until I got my ass kicked

  • @lorenzobaines6222
    @lorenzobaines6222 2 года назад +12

    This video made me reminisce of how sharp he was. He was always giving hard cold truth. Bitter salt to some but he never cared. Because he was showing love. It didn't seem that way at the time. I look at how he used intelligence in a world where a Black man shouldn't know how to use it. He was really a teacher and taught so many. He was direct. He tore through the veil of b.s. we are used to. He showed the blind the path to knowledge if they wanted. Many didn't. But I was one who did. I shared many similar views as him such as truth over fantasy with women. His voice was calm but his words were silver bullets to the heartless. He was took the podium and captivated our collective consciousness. He needles the single minded women who had never been questioned before by a well-spoken, well groomed intelligent Black man. He stood there for every man though. He said what we all felt collectively. I now want to thank him. He risked villain status with women for us. Brave is an understatement. His words were acid to the ears of the bottom feeders of society. But to us he was brilliant. He is a martyr now. Undisputed. Rest easy

    • @darryl1378
      @darryl1378 4 месяца назад

      Well spoken 🙏🏾

  • @Hunterisms
    @Hunterisms 2 года назад +243

    He gives reality checks to these women, and breaks down financial situations so soundly. I think I am picking up more game than the woman he's talking to.
    No🧢. Keep dropping gems unc💪🏽

    • @silkshirt17witdajhericurl80
      @silkshirt17witdajhericurl80 2 года назад +3

      This the one.!

    • @menopillion9853
      @menopillion9853 2 года назад +26

      Kevin knows most of his callers won't benefit. He is talking through them, to reach those who ARE willing to listen and imorove.

    • @jnetwork3232
      @jnetwork3232 2 года назад +10

      Frfr we thought we ain’t got shit against these “modern” women hell nah our game raised up the second we redpilled

    • @thetraveler1182
      @thetraveler1182 2 года назад +6

      @@menopillion9853 He's not talking through her, she cannot understand the Game that he is putting down. This is her fault, there is no excuse in this Information Age to resist the urge of seeking out how money is made. *I BET* that if you went on her Instagram you would find, girl trips, designer clothes, probably some Kevin Gates "quotes" and it's sad.
      No excuses these days. Folks need to getting retirement packages started yesterday, ROTH IRA's, 457B's, timely investments into the S&P 500, etc... *STAY AWAY FROM THAT BITCOIN TALK* if you do not have 50k that you can lose, that is not the game for you and you missed the rush for Bitcoin.
      Education in how money works is everything towards getting out of poverty.

  • @smalltownqueen5574
    @smalltownqueen5574 2 года назад +93

    I hate to say it, but he's right. If she dont want to get married, and is not making six figures, and cant invest good, thirty years from now, she will have some problems. I'm single at 54 and disabled. I'm at my wits end because its hard for me to work. I didn't plan on my back going out. I went to college. I wanted to get married in my 20s, 30s, and 40s but it didn't happen. It's so many black women that didn't marry, and is in a bad situation in their 50s and 60s. Get married young lady, and build with your husband. Build that business with him, that's the best advice I can give you, because a college education will not guarantee nothing, especially if your not making six figures.

    • @MagimonOfficial
      @MagimonOfficial 2 года назад +4

      Ma Dukes this you or nah 🤔

    • @br3wskee
      @br3wskee 2 года назад +4

      I hope they're listening.

    • @houstonveganchick5659
      @houstonveganchick5659 2 года назад +4

      I can't find a man to build with. Its been hard since the pandemic hit. Seems like all the guys are in survival mode.

    • @KarateWrestler205
      @KarateWrestler205 2 года назад +6

      Damn that’s crazy because as a black man I’d been advised by literally everyone to never get married so this is becoming a hard trend I know I’m gonna be fine because I plan to never retire I love my career it gives meaning to my life

    • @peteparadis1619
      @peteparadis1619 2 года назад +7

      You a fool.. I’m fixing to retire at 65 a $millionaire after a late divorce cost me $700k, but, I’ve had it with working, there’s nothing left in the tank at 65, yours will be empty at 65 too, you are NOT special.. Find other things to do than work, you can’t work forever, your health will fail and that’s a wrap.. My income will be about $100k, I ain’t looking back, screw working..lol

  • @DIYD
    @DIYD 2 года назад +71

    As a social worker homelessness is real, large and deep. some of us are one medical bill away from it. the shelters are packed!

    • @jwa7378
      @jwa7378 2 года назад

      That's why I'm working my ass off

    • @o.c.g.m9426
      @o.c.g.m9426 2 года назад +6

      Facts n I work in a female shelter....got em from 23 to 85....

  • @LTJuni0r
    @LTJuni0r 2 года назад +119

    If most women don’t attach themselves to a man, many of them will have to be roommates or housemates with other women. Only a few will have the income to live alone forever.

    • @NoWayToHell
      @NoWayToHell 2 года назад +9

      @@NoreLyne I was in Amsterdam not long ago, and yes I have seen multiple people in that situation. No sense of the future.
      Some drowning in student loans and yet living such luxurious lives .. what a pity

    • @bigfoot7323
      @bigfoot7323 2 года назад

      WOOD RIDER

    • @juanseaforth5111
      @juanseaforth5111 2 года назад +10

      In the next 15-25 years we’re going to have a high population of homeless women in this country and unfortunately no one will be able to help them.

    • @Dell7788
      @Dell7788 2 года назад +13

      Some women do Have the income but will thier bodies hold up long enough? My sister's are single vet make 80k or better and they work like my dad but will never retire like my mom. Men are raised to work until they die but women aren't. So at 50+. Still working and men pool shrinking, what are they going to do? It's time to just get along with a guy and ride it out. Most can't even cook so why would a good man pick you

    • @Dell7788
      @Dell7788 2 года назад +1

      @Marie Baker true but they have thier husband's savings or pension or fruits of his labor. A non married woman won't have that and will work longer.

  • @mgtowbro917
    @mgtowbro917 2 года назад +398

    Most women can't imagine being broke and homeless. I wish we could interview some of these older women and have them testify to these young women.

    • @lertub
      @lertub 2 года назад +27

      Yup 👍 my sister is a poster child for this. If it were not for our mother my sister would be homeless.

    • @Ruckerpark98
      @Ruckerpark98 2 года назад +1

      Nall just got back a few months before the average at best video that’s when women were honest and unfiltered.

    • @b.goddess1940
      @b.goddess1940 2 года назад +27

      You’ll definitely start to see older moms and single daughters along with any kids all shacking up in one house just to survive

    • @christiankalala840
      @christiankalala840 2 года назад +1

      That would be great!

    • @mrobertson687
      @mrobertson687 2 года назад +4

      That’s a good idea… but are they actually going to listen

  • @tamaravasselin8978
    @tamaravasselin8978 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks!

  • @iamAwesomo1994
    @iamAwesomo1994 2 года назад +275

    it's like talking to a toddler. he tells her all this bad news and she got a smile on her face like "that ain't gon' happen, kevin stop playin'"

    • @xEMOANHATARON
      @xEMOANHATARON 2 года назад +16

      Man… Talking to these wxmen… There’s a lot of things they really just don’t get… It’s alarming. They’ve been going through most of humanity like this.

    • @BradTaylorBass
      @BradTaylorBass 2 года назад +18

      I don’t know if this comment was supposed to be funny, but it truly is. The “Kevin stop playin” is loud as hell during this video clip

    • @menopillion9853
      @menopillion9853 2 года назад +21

      They all think they are different, yet they are all doing the magical thinking.

    • @NoreLyne
      @NoreLyne 2 года назад +12

      no those are her inner demons smiling .. Kevin irritates them

    • @jeffinmathew7857
      @jeffinmathew7857 2 года назад

      😂🤣

  • @AndroidTheLeader
    @AndroidTheLeader 2 года назад +101

    The book 'The Millionaire Next Door' revealed that a vast majority of American millionaires had average education, ran traditional businesses, and were from traditional families - men were either the sole or primary earner and women were mostly homemakers. Commitment towards marriage and traditional values was the common denominator among most of the American millionaire families.
    The American private college industry has successfully fooled Americans into accumulating heavy student loans and getting all sorts of degrees that are usually not a good return on investment. Many sensible young American men are opting for trade school instead of college, but young American women continue to believe that a college degree (along with a heavy student loan, of course) is their passport to an "independent, empowered" life.

    • @user-xw4vg1vy5e
      @user-xw4vg1vy5e 2 года назад +1

      Good comment!

    • @unknowninfinium4353
      @unknowninfinium4353 2 года назад

      Wow. Dude. I did not know this man.

    • @peteparadis1619
      @peteparadis1619 2 года назад +4

      True, I work with plenty plant workers on the Mississippi River making $120-150k with trade school degrees or none.. It can be done in today’s world

    • @carl5438
      @carl5438 2 года назад +4

      The Richest Man in Babylon is also a good read as well. Free on RUclips.

    • @LadyS723
      @LadyS723 2 года назад +3

      Thank you, and to add to that the degrees that most people go to college for they don't even get a career in that field...

  • @lindseyjordan1226
    @lindseyjordan1226 2 года назад +22

    As far as careers, being a Dental Hygienist is WAY overlooked. You get your associates degree and start out making 80k-100k depending on the state you live in. In Virginia, it’s about 87k a year…With only 12-15k in debt from a community college, it’s not bad! You can make your own schedule depending on the dental office.

  • @sc1433
    @sc1433 2 года назад +97

    Finally a man that advocates for marriage

    • @greatestever7623
      @greatestever7623 2 года назад +16

      problem with that is there aren't many marriage materials women around we in the only fans and fuckery era

    • @dontgiveinfo
      @dontgiveinfo 2 года назад +18

      many women want to be married, but they don;t want to be wives

    • @scrateshooter
      @scrateshooter 2 года назад +1

      MGTOW
      Disregard females, acquire salvation
      Romans 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.

    • @912deborah
      @912deborah 2 года назад +3

      Yet he is a twice divorcee. Make it make sense

    • @dontgiveinfo
      @dontgiveinfo 2 года назад +3

      if the world was different. i also would love this, but women have accepted the false doctrine that satan has whispered in their ear. Men, all they can do now? is step back and see the disaster happen

  • @lyftuberninjaworkaholic7524
    @lyftuberninjaworkaholic7524 2 года назад +46

    She is a good level-headed sister, great conversation. No disrespect of any sort. I wish her well.

  • @christelletremaine8900
    @christelletremaine8900 2 года назад +29

    This video encouraged me to be realistic about the fact that I am going to be living in poverty if I don't get my retirement situation together now. Thanks, Kevin. Another uncomfortable, needed truth.

    • @o.c.g.m9426
      @o.c.g.m9426 2 года назад

      Look into T.D.F's. Target Date Funds...these are retirement funds aka ROTH IRA's that you invest into. I opened mines through Vanguard in 2019 for 2055. Max it out every year $6,000. Good luck ✊🏿

    • @mrcharles4636
      @mrcharles4636 2 года назад

      Also check out drip investing

  • @OnMyChillz247
    @OnMyChillz247 2 года назад +149

    Homelessness is more realistic for alot of these women's future than they think I ran into a homeless guy a few weeks ago who was a retired doctor he had no kids and he had been divorced decades ago he was an elderly guy said he's been Homelessness a little over 2 years now and he said exactly what kevin be trying to tell these women he eventually ran out of money his divorce kind of dipped into his retirement money and the last bit of money he had been living off of was the money he got for selling his car and is house

    • @user-xw4vg1vy5e
      @user-xw4vg1vy5e 2 года назад +11

      Wow!

    • @lertub
      @lertub 2 года назад +18

      My sister would be homeless if it were not for our mother . I see this in my family and women I work with.

    • @avon2alpha676
      @avon2alpha676 2 года назад +41

      A man will become homeless before a woman becomes homeless.I’m not saying theirs no homeless women. The court system will usually side with the woman. This is why the doctor became homeless, but I bet if you would’ve ask him if his ex wife is homeless as well. He may of said no she got to keep the house due to the life style he provided.

    • @bxcellent_87
      @bxcellent_87 2 года назад +8

      This is some true life scary shit to hear as a man 💯

    • @b.goddess1940
      @b.goddess1940 2 года назад +14

      @@lertub yep my mother in law is BANKING on my husband taking care of her in retirement..she was shocked when he told her you most likely will NOT be retiring until your physically disabled and then you will live together with your daughter (who is single)

  • @jaeprince6080
    @jaeprince6080 2 года назад +136

    I had to stop saying I was an entrepreneur cause it sounded so foolish . Now im just walking in my Purpose and focusing on making multiple streams of income

    • @backstabingpike
      @backstabingpike 2 года назад +26

      Changing the name doesn't change the outcome 😉

    • @eriksanchez7286
      @eriksanchez7286 2 года назад +1

      good luck

    • @jaeprince6080
      @jaeprince6080 2 года назад +5

      @@backstabingpike you missed the part where Im actually taking action instead of putting a title in my bio like most people

    • @fireinjunred
      @fireinjunred 2 года назад

      @@jaeprince6080 he has the joker as his icon bruh, you shouldn’t have responded
      But I feel you I’m doin the same

    • @jnetwork3232
      @jnetwork3232 2 года назад

      Real shot bro we gotta humble ourselves first to get to the top

  • @roderick2722
    @roderick2722 2 года назад +30

    Say man, besides hating. People need to give this man KS his flowers while he’s here, because I don’t see nobody else fighting this hard to save people who don’t think they need to be saved from this sick modern culture!

  • @_Nawbro
    @_Nawbro 2 года назад +132

    The reason is “FREEDOM” they don’t want to feel obligated to one man, that way..if another comes along with a brighter smile and a bigger bank she can sabotage the current relationship and then monkey branch without feeling guilty 👌🏾

    • @D4RKH1M0THY
      @D4RKH1M0THY 2 года назад +7

      💯

    • @downbad2874
      @downbad2874 2 года назад +6

      Many do many just with the wrong man

    • @newttheripper
      @newttheripper 2 года назад +2

      💯

    • @shycat6
      @shycat6 2 года назад +10

      "FREEDOM" ain't free! Somebody has to pay. No decent man wants to pay for a woman who wants "FREEDOM"

    • @renzo7503
      @renzo7503 2 года назад +3

      Exactly!!!

  • @f1aziz
    @f1aziz 2 года назад +162

    She's a bright and shining example of manifesting destiny delusion.

  • @VeritasRedacted
    @VeritasRedacted 2 года назад +76

    When Kevin counted down the Salary and she got lower than 50k my jaw dropped. I expected the lady to stop him at like 70k at least with her confidence and credentials

    • @keithburch3238
      @keithburch3238 2 года назад +7

      Especially in Chicago, Ill

    • @5822huron
      @5822huron 2 года назад +5

      She makes nothing.. Something ain't right

    • @robertlunderwood
      @robertlunderwood 2 года назад

      She has two meaningless degrees.

    • @chongli3007
      @chongli3007 8 месяцев назад

      Small brained , picked a useless profession. Can't make this stuff up

  • @P31B
    @P31B 2 года назад +84

    Having hope and optimism has its benefits, as it keeps you from giving up on life too early, but without a healthy dose of reality, people will not take the action needed for reachable and realistic goals. Kevin is helping bringing both men and women back to reality so that when it is all said and done, we lived a life worthwhile.

    • @trapsoulbeats3074
      @trapsoulbeats3074 2 года назад +4

      Men are already in reality

    • @jessekoepp3928
      @jessekoepp3928 2 года назад

      Men never left reality, nice try spreading the blame though.

  • @barrylittle2969
    @barrylittle2969 2 года назад +109

    Kevin gets so much HATE for trying to put Black women on the right path.
    Here, he is telling her something that her father should have told her. And the haters will still demonize him for it.🙄

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад +5

      Kevin need to put BM on the right path, it's not his place to lecture BW. Why do you think the NOI has its structure.

    • @biz1boom
      @biz1boom 2 года назад +25

      @@EliteBelleZoe1 Not his place to lecture BW? What? This is part of the problem with our community. BW don't want to be held accountable by anyone. If anyone has the right to "lecture" BW it's black men. You don't hold each other accountable and no one else can tell you anything. I'm so glad my wife is not like these modern women of today. Yall need serious help.

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад +4

      @@biz1boom They need help dear, I've been happily married 24 years.

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад +1

      @@biz1boom My opinion you have yours

    • @aldendiaz1165
      @aldendiaz1165 2 года назад +12

      @@EliteBelleZoe1 I doubt your happily married, because I don't think even your husband can lecture you if you think KS can't lecture other BW which makes me think you're the man of your house...You're projecting here and you don't even realise it

  • @tabbethadobbins1
    @tabbethadobbins1 Год назад +10

    He’s correct about the $2.4M number.
    I’ve done the calculation- and $2.4M is equivalent of drawing down $96k annually (at 4%). And $96k of todays money is not $96k of future money after that many years of inflation (by the time a 28yo is a 65yo ready to retire).
    He has the numbers quite right.

  • @marianomanto
    @marianomanto 2 года назад +126

    The panorama is getting grim for a lot of women. My cousin is 36 and desperate. All of her friends have a man and children, she is alone. She doesn't earn enough to pay rent so her parents help her, but her parents are over 60 by now and about to retire. She is doomed.

    • @Danjirus
      @Danjirus 2 года назад +61

      She's strong and independent, she will be ok.

    • @lennard5393
      @lennard5393 2 года назад +13

      Learn a trade? I like women on stripper poles.

    • @charchar5887
      @charchar5887 2 года назад +8

      Damnnnn!🙆🏾‍♀️ it’s peak for her

    • @jnetwork3232
      @jnetwork3232 2 года назад +8

      @@Danjirus 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @banditlegal7452
      @banditlegal7452 2 года назад +25

      I bet she has a type. She wouldn't want to be with one of the blue collar workers (truck drivers, plumbers,, electricians etc..)making good money

  • @Arroway2357
    @Arroway2357 2 года назад +175

    She was astonishingly calm and respectful throughout. Like, the bar is so damn low, but here we are.

    • @prelude12341
      @prelude12341 2 года назад +3

      unicorn, in that respect only.

    • @roodick85
      @roodick85 2 года назад +11

      That attitude is probably the worst. Absolutely no drive to get anywhere just meh

    • @asthethirdworldinnorthamer4168
      @asthethirdworldinnorthamer4168 2 года назад +3

      True. I applaud her for that.

    • @benrex7775
      @benrex7775 2 года назад +1

      She was very passive, but she stayed in the conversation. That passiveness is not something I would want in a wife.

    • @benrex7775
      @benrex7775 2 года назад +1

      @Norah Elaine All elementary school teachers I know are normal, not this passive. But sometimes situations cause you to be different than you normally are, be it the pressure that Kevin asserts or that she is tired or that she is on medicine...

  • @diamondjack-cooper5322
    @diamondjack-cooper5322 2 года назад +3

    AMEN,your man is your JOB. This is eye opening!
    I needed to hear this message today.

  • @LW4816
    @LW4816 2 года назад +195

    Man, my dad knock the snot out of me when I wanted to study art and computer animation. Then I became a cardiologist...it's great, rewarding, and has a secure future. I see all my cousins living the delusion that they'll strike gold with their "entrepreneurial" ideas and it's so hard to shake them out of that mindset... and if you try to they get offended.

    • @user-xw4vg1vy5e
      @user-xw4vg1vy5e 2 года назад +2

      Wow, do you do heart surgery?

    • @fredflinstone6601
      @fredflinstone6601 2 года назад +6

      My daughter went into computer animation. Couldn’t talk her out of it.

    • @b.goddess1940
      @b.goddess1940 2 года назад +50

      Selling wigs and lashes isn’t going to retire most “entrepreneurs”

    • @LW4816
      @LW4816 2 года назад +18

      @@user-xw4vg1vy5e no, general cardiology

    • @viperviper5
      @viperviper5 2 года назад +4

      Yep so true c90. I see a lot of delusional thinking in young and old people today.

  • @metaleater9
    @metaleater9 2 года назад +129

    Give Kevin his likes, They're free god damnit.

    • @frank2bad
      @frank2bad 2 года назад +9

      People should like the video if they Like the video. I do agree ks is awesome. But telling people to just like the video because they are free isnt a good reason to give them.
      so people give the likes if you like the content.

    • @banditlegal7452
      @banditlegal7452 2 года назад

      Don't have to be blasphemous and using the name of the Lord in vain!

    • @ronj7658
      @ronj7658 2 года назад +1

      @@banditlegal7452 what lord?

    • @banditlegal7452
      @banditlegal7452 2 года назад

      @@ronj7658 u read the first comment?

  • @poppa1050
    @poppa1050 2 года назад +9

    teaching financial literacy is definitely a need in our society

  • @Samanthajoysbeautychronicles
    @Samanthajoysbeautychronicles 2 года назад +103

    Much respect to Kevin and his outlook on life, no matter what race you are he puts everything into prespective.. many women are missing the importance of his message. I believe I've become a more balanced person, wife and mother since tuning into his shows.

  • @MadamsTrapHouse
    @MadamsTrapHouse 2 года назад +72

    Wow these birds WANT TO BE SINGLE MOTHERS! How are you not looking forward to a wonderful man and kids like it’s mental illness I’m so glad me and my man found each other! If you grow up without it why would you want your kids to have the same thing like omg!

  • @DreamGyrl360
    @DreamGyrl360 2 года назад +13

    "You think you have time..."
    That's something I ALWAYS say to these young people.
    Because I'm 41.
    But yesterday I was 22 lol so I promise YOU DON'T HAVE TIME

    • @dcg590
      @dcg590 2 года назад

      Wow I couldn’t have said it better! Wasn’t it just yesterday my husband and I got married in April 1999? Hope you have a good day dreamgyrl!

  • @Ameatamaru
    @Ameatamaru 2 года назад +22

    I turned 30 this year. I've been on an extraordinary grind to secure a future

  • @melaningoddess2731
    @melaningoddess2731 2 года назад +68

    It seems like she's with a man that dont want to marry her; that's why she's pushing the narrative of "for tax purposes." Reality just hit her.

  • @cogean
    @cogean 2 года назад +5

    Kevin has given me an entire new outlook on what I need to do in order to become the man worthy of life I want next to the woman I want.

  • @markivrimusic5610
    @markivrimusic5610 2 года назад +45

    It's so common for people to be unaware of the changing seasons of life and the passing of generations end up misusing their time and opportunity

  • @__khadijahhhh
    @__khadijahhhh 2 года назад +136

    Spot on! I’m so glad I found this mans channel. I hope more women swallow the hard pills that Kevin gives and come to the light. If you’re educated but unmarried, you’re no different than the project chick. We the only women who love struggle, this the curse we need to end!

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад +5

      Ma'am if KS is a life saver for you, than you lack guidance all around. KS is not saying anything new, his talking point are 30 plus years old. I don't know your life but your parents or grandparents never spoke with you about life?

    • @BradTaylorBass
      @BradTaylorBass 2 года назад +39

      @@EliteBelleZoe1 this is a disingenuous comment. She was expressing her appreciation and you came with the negativity and SIGN language. Smh.

    • @twongreen9968
      @twongreen9968 2 года назад +2

      Unfortunately most want most women who do all this hating ain’t really even hitting on shit u can tell by there pic they over weight and washed up

    • @twongreen9968
      @twongreen9968 2 года назад

      @Emari Sweet🧁 yea when ur daughter turned 18 she was pn her knees

    • @Ruckerpark98
      @Ruckerpark98 2 года назад +13

      Good job sis! Don’t let these single baby mamas discourage you. They are just mad that they are done. Everybody will not be saved sis🤷🏾

  • @relentlessone7775
    @relentlessone7775 2 года назад +12

    I listened to KS tell another woman this back in December. I thought "I make good money", "I'm good with money", "My retirement will be fully funded". But I didn't want this wisdom to pass me over so I did a quick check on a retirement calculator... I'll have a shortfall! My job offers qualified 403b and 457b plans. I promptly opened those accounts and maxed out allocations to these accounts. Sure my deposits are smaller but that not an issue. Pre-tax dollars that make more money in curated funds than in the IRS's possession and a low interest savings account. Thank-you, Kevin for the wake up call! Now I have peace of mind that my retirement will be fully funded.

    • @carl5438
      @carl5438 2 года назад +3

      I am going to start putting into a Rothe IRA to add to my retirement portfolio as a result of this lesson.

  • @donegood8712
    @donegood8712 2 года назад +67

    Gentlemen, if you want a traditional lifestyle with wife and family, please keep your options open, wide open to all other groups of women. Fact, life is hard, and if selecting the wrong type women, life can become extremely hard. Eyes Wide Open!!

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад +4

      Indeed, I think BM should just date out! There seems to be alot of vitriol towards BW so go where you wanted.

    • @ebenezeramare1
      @ebenezeramare1 2 года назад +1

      @@EliteBelleZoe1 aight, any criticism is vitriol to you ig

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад +5

      @@ebenezeramare1 Just date out, according to BM the other women are better so date them!

    • @pitbossea
      @pitbossea 2 года назад

      I’m going to the Philippines

    • @ronj7658
      @ronj7658 2 года назад +2

      @@EliteBelleZoe1 they are better though, at least they want to be married.

  • @gregoryguerrier963
    @gregoryguerrier963 2 года назад +72

    In my opinion Kevin's work is a genuine attempt at saving the black community. However, I believe at this point it is a lost cause. When you listen to this video and realize that the majority of women in this community carry this mindset as a man you have to make a decision for your own survival and the survival of your legacy. Today's society has given women from all ethnicities a chance to show the world who they really are. I don't think these women can be saved nor should anyone attempt to save them. I think this is who they are. This is the majority now. This majority has no interest in being a wife or having a family. Men should accept this for what it is and take their effort, time, protection, resources, provision, and seed elsewhere.

    • @houstonveganchick5659
      @houstonveganchick5659 2 года назад +4

      Hi Gregory, I'm not sure where these women come from, but not all women are like this. There are women like me who do aspire to be someone's wife; however, I encounter the same challenges that men do.

    • @briana.g.7412
      @briana.g.7412 2 года назад

      Gregory, I hope you're Black saying this, because it would be very disrespectful to come on a black man's channel trying to help his people and you tell us to our faces that you think we're a lost cause. This is the kind of disrespect we endure every day in various ways from other cultures.

    • @houstonveganchick5659
      @houstonveganchick5659 2 года назад +9

      @@briana.g.7412 whether he is black or not, he's pretty much regurgitating what black men are saying in the comments about these black women. I see no issue. Just my opinion, please don't shoot me.

    • @gregoryguerrier963
      @gregoryguerrier963 2 года назад

      @@briana.g.7412 I'm black.

    • @gregoryguerrier963
      @gregoryguerrier963 2 года назад +4

      @@briana.g.7412 I see the situation from a different standpoint than most people. It's not even 100% women's fault. In my opinion the real reason that this situation has happened and has been allowed to continue is because of men. There are too many high performing men in the community that willingly accept poor behavior from their women instead of walking away. Nothing will change unless this changes.

  • @kingnothing8482
    @kingnothing8482 2 года назад +10

    This is why Kevin is the best on this platform at this conversation no one else ever brings up retirement and how crucial it is to stick together. How could you not wake up after hearing this? Either you’re not really listening to him or you’re in denial

  • @williamh.gatesiii8183
    @williamh.gatesiii8183 2 года назад +60

    At least she tells the truth, unlike these other women. I give her that.

    • @jeremiahdavis3398
      @jeremiahdavis3398 2 года назад +5

      And she listening that’s key 🔑 but her mind state is not right she don’t believe in marriage I feel so sad for my community a lot of them think this way

    • @JDMHaze
      @JDMHaze 2 года назад +8

      yeah that's the terrifying part because she's dead serious, a degree in psychology and can't understand the concept of marriage Especially in a household where is she plans on having children

    • @mpumelelobeyers957
      @mpumelelobeyers957 2 года назад

      Fix your face!!! You don't give her nothing... She/people like this are destroying our /the blk community.

    • @williamhodges3941
      @williamhodges3941 2 года назад +1

      What good is her truth when she has a mindset like this?
      😳

  • @l.s.451
    @l.s.451 2 года назад +97

    I got a PHD plays in my head for free!

  • @valejojohnson
    @valejojohnson 2 года назад +22

    Chilling comment Kevin made at 35:00 . Breaks my heart

  • @RainSoundsHealing818
    @RainSoundsHealing818 2 года назад +51

    Mr samuels is speaking the honest truth. Whether they have a college degree or not. They all think the same that marriage isn't important but having kids and struggling alone is considered independent or boss chick. So sad, only if women stop going to school for useless degrees and learn to get along with men. If both partners average earners work and put your money together for survival that's it.

    • @julzbuzz7243
      @julzbuzz7243 2 года назад +2

      The worst ones are the ones with college degrees, believe me😉

    • @davidhall2197
      @davidhall2197 2 года назад +2

      Welcome to my wife's and my world. Love how these girls call themselves queens, bosses, divas and the guys calling each other kings. BS, we're all thrown in this world just trying to survive one day to the next. Like you said, let two average earners get together without all the "titles" and get thru life as best as possible.

  • @Deadcrows1981
    @Deadcrows1981 2 года назад +43

    “I want kids but not to be married.”
    Wtf? You’ll put kids through hell and a disadvantage? How selfish can you be!

    • @goonn337
      @goonn337 2 года назад +2

      black women don't care

    • @kellypeppers4367
      @kellypeppers4367 2 года назад +2

      @@goonn337 black men dont care

    • @goonn337
      @goonn337 2 года назад +1

      @@kellypeppers4367 i care i dont want children out of wedlock

  • @oiradzenitram
    @oiradzenitram 2 года назад +16

    35:11
    He was right. RIP

  • @fifinanti80
    @fifinanti80 2 года назад +28

    This was a father daughter type of conversation.

  • @gmackhere4fun
    @gmackhere4fun 2 года назад +44

    When you asked her what are the benefits of being married. The only thing she could come up with is Finance.
    this is our only value to women. fellas listen and learn

    • @eribunni1499
      @eribunni1499 2 года назад +3

      Isn't that what he was focusing on. His whole message to her was "You need a man to provide for you because you don't make enough money."

    • @gmackhere4fun
      @gmackhere4fun 2 года назад +1

      @@eribunni1499 his line of questioning was only predicated on money because she wanted kids. But come on, u could tell this lady seen no other value in having a man.

    • @eribunni1499
      @eribunni1499 2 года назад +1

      @@gmackhere4fun Ohhh gotcha! I didn't think of it that way. Yeah, if she doesn't have enough to raise her kid then you got another lost black kid on the streets. Really sad.

    • @gmackhere4fun
      @gmackhere4fun 2 года назад +1

      @@eribunni1499 I agree with you Sister. Blessing to u

  • @khuzamalavender2260
    @khuzamalavender2260 2 года назад +3

    Discussions about financial literacy and not just this quick come up crap most people are pushing Are the important conversations we need to have more of.

  • @drama_killer
    @drama_killer 2 года назад +50

    ENTREPRENEURSHIP IS NOT A CAREER!!!! A career is a Doctor, Lawyer, Accountant, a teacher etc. good lord.🤦🏾‍♂️

  • @Why.Just_why
    @Why.Just_why 2 года назад +31

    Despite her mindset, at least her manners and demeanor made for a calm, civil disscusion, which is rare these days especially for KS videos, I respect that.

  • @timboslice9905
    @timboslice9905 10 месяцев назад +1

    35:09 Oooof. He didn’t realize how close he was to that day. I still rewatch his videos now because they had great impact.

  • @bxkmt
    @bxkmt 2 года назад +78

    So true, my sister is pushing 50 and she said this to our mother, "I will live in a shelter if I have to". My mother rolled her eyes and I called her a bird. We have a house, wouldn't it be easier since you are not going to get a man to just pick up the bills in the house? If modern women are anything like my sister, I would run far and hide under the biggest rock I can find.

    • @knowledgegad1294
      @knowledgegad1294 2 года назад +26

      They just wanna live without rules, and structure

    • @MoonHawk01
      @MoonHawk01 2 года назад +12

      @@knowledgegad1294 BANG you said it They don’t want Structure at all let alone accountability

    • @houstonveganchick5659
      @houstonveganchick5659 2 года назад +5

      The best thing to do in this situation is not to run away, but to educate and encourage her to consider finding a 60-70 year old man.

    • @DJYFii
      @DJYFii 2 года назад +6

      @@houstonveganchick5659 you can’t encourage or educate her if she’s not coachable/willing to listen.

    • @ildyivy
      @ildyivy Год назад

      @@houstonveganchick5659that’s why older women can’t pair down. Imagine u as a guy being told u have to pair down at age 50 with a woman who’s 60 or 70. It needs to happen for women wen we are young because it’s too hard to make that adjustment wen u are middle age trying to radically reduce things like being attracted to the person. But they don’t really tell women how serious it is to marry young and now we end up alone as a result. Typically it’s lack of guidance and not being brought up to be groomed for successful marriage.

  • @oliverwhite2038
    @oliverwhite2038 2 года назад +19

    I will be leaving the country when I decide to retire. I refuse to continue to allow the government to take my hard earned cash to take care of women and children that are not mine. I may give up citizenship as well. I can always visit family on a visa if I choose to.

  • @Jerusalemmade
    @Jerusalemmade 2 года назад

    I’M CALLING THIS VIDEO THE WAKE UP CALL 😅

  • @cdub7373
    @cdub7373 2 года назад +19

    We gotta get outta this "hope" mindset & actually start planning & doing work

    • @Del_116
      @Del_116 2 года назад

      Bro I’m a atheist .. I don’t believe in any of that . I just do my shit and try my best with good planning . I’m a realistic

    • @xxhshrebyba
      @xxhshrebyba 2 года назад

      fr

    • @TrainMaster5097
      @TrainMaster5097 9 месяцев назад

      1000% We need to sit down, evaluate, plan and structure our lives.

  • @mighty1661
    @mighty1661 2 года назад +40

    This is probably the best discussion I seen about the dysfunction of the black female outlook on life I know so many black females that think and live just like this lady smh

    • @julianbrown3668
      @julianbrown3668 2 года назад +1

      @@yo3rdtier128 how did he stereotype all blackmen he just said the women he knew. you also started attacking he on his looks and his sexuality ...

  • @kingkillacong
    @kingkillacong 2 года назад +15

    I became a trucker…. Everyone laughed… years letter I own six semi trucks and a freight broker company. Both easily make well over six figures each
    No collage education or debt ❤️

    • @kevonbarnes2431
      @kevonbarnes2431 2 года назад +1

      Hey man, I'm 21 in the military. I'm about to get out and I don't want to go to college. I get paid less than the poverty line in the military. I know I can't support myself with that amount of money once I get ounce. Do you you mind taking the time out your day to explain this to me?

    • @bondy7564
      @bondy7564 2 года назад +1

      @@kevonbarnes2431 Stay in the Military and invest as much as you can. You get free food and lodging. Invest as much as you can while you don’t have expenses such as rent/mortgage, Groceries, Gas/electric, etc.
      It will be hard to invest when you are having to pay all those expenses.
      I served 12yrs in the Army and my biggest regret is not investing until I left. I would have had so much invested and could retire earlier.

    • @404.archives
      @404.archives 7 месяцев назад

      Need an assistant ?

  • @jay-t1030
    @jay-t1030 2 года назад +111

    If we lived in a country where fathers have default custody, would women feel the same about having children outside of marriage.

    • @Iamjoeycross
      @Iamjoeycross 2 года назад +11

      Of course not.

    • @WarriorsCherub999
      @WarriorsCherub999 2 года назад +3

      Thats a good question.

    • @Iamjoeycross
      @Iamjoeycross 2 года назад +27

      If women couldn’t file no fault divorces and get alimony and half, would they still get married? Same type of question.

    • @johncapo2843
      @johncapo2843 2 года назад +17

      all this will stop, if govt cuts off all assistance from unwed women with kids

    • @avon2alpha676
      @avon2alpha676 2 года назад +14

      And this is why they in a win/win situation. I’ve seen men put up the down payment for the house with needed income to pay for it. Wife paid 15 percent of the household bills. Only to be rewarded with the whole house after the divorce. The man ended up getting an apartment and starting over.

  • @ddicin7759
    @ddicin7759 2 года назад +11

    Just want to declare my support for the work you're doing, Mr. Samuels. Hope you keep it up

  • @brothaonanadventure3573
    @brothaonanadventure3573 2 года назад +42

    Saw a woman in her late 40s fiddling 🎻 in a food shopping center. Advertised she was a single mother of 3. I spoke with her for a bit, the father was not in the picture and she works full time at a Rose's retail store. She apparently got a raise and no longer qualified for the food stamps she relied on to feed her children. No extended family to depend on in the states, her only skill was fiddling (taught by her FATHER). So she was trying to make up the difference until she could find a second job that would work around her primary job. It was honorable, but very depressing.

    • @mohammadwasilliterate8037
      @mohammadwasilliterate8037 2 года назад +3

      Don't feel sorry for women, they use more government resources than men and live longer, if they struggle it's because they neglected their career thinking a man would pay for their life.

    • @dcg590
      @dcg590 2 года назад +2

      Oh well. She’s the one who went and had 3 kids without a husband.

  • @knowledgeengineer7127
    @knowledgeengineer7127 2 года назад +19

    It brings a magnifying glass to the fact that modern American culture promotes individualistic mentality and lifestyle over marriage, relationships and the family dynamic & community, no matter where they are… whether living in the cities, the country or on an island… men need to protect and provide for women and families & build while women need to nurture raise and teach the children and bond with men… So that all of humanity can move forward…

  • @vamp1506
    @vamp1506 2 года назад +17

    I'm 36 and just bought my first home for my family and renting out my in-law house, I'm already focusing on my future and investments. I'll make sure I have passive income if I ever retire

  • @harveylawrence9601
    @harveylawrence9601 2 года назад +30

    For those who aren’t taking this seriously take it from someone who was homeless. It takes one medical issue to snowball you to the streets. I’m not homeless now and I work everyday to keep building to make sure it never happens again.

  • @poppiepaintings2336
    @poppiepaintings2336 2 года назад +7

    Whats so great about ks is that men have so much to learn from listening to him address women.he is not knocking women down he is helping men up.

  • @jay-t1030
    @jay-t1030 2 года назад +24

    Never heard of the Rule of 72, KS be dropping some serious gems in each video.

    • @moblack5883
      @moblack5883 2 года назад +1

      Get with Fidelity, Merrill Lynch or others and they break it all down to you. Most jobs you can log on to your retirement plan and talk to someone. Its free and they will talk all day answering questions.

    • @passattdise
      @passattdise 2 года назад +3

      Rule of 72 for dividends yield % and number of years at that rate to double your money ( to cover for inflation) is basic Finance 101, been that way since I first went to a University for my 4 yr Finance degree, and took a Finance 101 course in 1976. Very common and basic finance equation.

    • @jay-t1030
      @jay-t1030 2 года назад +1

      @@passattdise I was computer science major not a finance major

    • @Iamjoeycross
      @Iamjoeycross 2 года назад

      He has business/sales licenses bro.

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад

      @@passattdise Indeed!!

  • @b.michaelbrown1117
    @b.michaelbrown1117 2 года назад +2

    Strong families build strong communities.

  • @TalesInAncientBooks
    @TalesInAncientBooks 2 года назад +26

    She has a good attitude despite her lack of awareness.
    She should be careful though as the boyfriend still has time to walk out, get married and have kids. Meanwhile, her window is closing

  • @Itsmemh88
    @Itsmemh88 2 года назад +43

    Once your hear the word “partner” red flag🚩

    • @Iamjoeycross
      @Iamjoeycross 2 года назад +2

      Every single time!

    • @Papikristo
      @Papikristo 2 года назад +1

      What is a partner

    • @Iamjoeycross
      @Iamjoeycross 2 года назад +2

      @@Papikristo two people that start a business together? Or someone who claims the ladder at a firm. LOL. A partner isn’t a wife, that’s for sure.

    • @sistrenyogigal3813
      @sistrenyogigal3813 2 года назад +1

      Facts

  • @stevepeterson6070
    @stevepeterson6070 2 года назад +2

    You sir are my new favorite person on RUclips. Keep up the great interactions/videos.

  • @mr8girth
    @mr8girth 2 года назад +91

    The kool aid red hair says more about her than the degrees and anything she has said!!! She is inappropriate for taking to corporate Christmas party and building relationships with co workers wives outside of work to help you get promoted!!!!!Keep it pushing fellas stay on your grind dont get caught up with women like her!!!!

    • @delldella8554
      @delldella8554 2 года назад +7

      Stay away from those loud hair colors also because the toxic ingredients impact the brain.

    • @Hughsteph
      @Hughsteph 2 года назад +2

      This needs to stop this ain’t the 60’s ..white women add color to their hair and still are married by black men and white men and no one associates her blonde hair with any negative stereotypes.. we’ve got to do better

    • @christinevillanueva54
      @christinevillanueva54 2 года назад +1

      Not a good look.

  • @Retired-jr3qs
    @Retired-jr3qs 2 года назад +4

    She was very respectful. Everything Kevin said was spot on.

  • @GodsFaithfulnessMatters2Me
    @GodsFaithfulnessMatters2Me 2 года назад +2

    I’m 21 minutes in and I have to say he’s absolutely right!

  • @MrOfficer235
    @MrOfficer235 2 года назад +19

    Another fantastic yet sad interview. I wish Kevin would also ask in these types of conversations what is their student loan balance. Their level of debt will immediately shut down any counter they have in regards to saving and investing. They are married to the federal government.

    • @keithburch3238
      @keithburch3238 2 года назад

      Many think having a semi luxury car and overpriced clothes equals success. Many of the women he talks to are already overextended and overweight before age 35. Trouble ahead!

  • @kennethjenkins1094
    @kennethjenkins1094 2 года назад +36

    Young people as a whole do not think about retirement. When I was in a union, there was a young guy that made fun of our concern about out pension. I have heard guys that said they figure they will work until they die. I said what if you can't work. It gets blown off. Many people these days don't think about retirement at all. They think they can work until they die. It's not just young woman. It's everyone! They don't even want to think about it! To talk about it is like your bringing them down with bad news. There are going to be a lot of homeless people in the future!

    • @justinaacorn5721
      @justinaacorn5721 2 года назад +10

      People are scared to die and believe if they plan anything to do with old age or dying is tempting fate.

    • @nonapplicable3055
      @nonapplicable3055 2 года назад +9

      For me, and Im 29, but my thinking is honestly if I don't have a family, whats the point of retirement? To do what exactly? I worked at a retired home, and the quality of life is typically abysmal. Wake up, pills, eat, activity room, pills, eat, nap, pils eat, sleep repeat. For most people, no matter what the economic situation, there's nothing particularly exciting about getting old and managing a boquet of ailments until you stretch life out till its over. Why do you think retirees are significantly more likely to end their own lives? Because they know that they've done as much as they were going to do.

    • @davidhall2197
      @davidhall2197 2 года назад +1

      @@nonapplicable3055 Oh, man. I'm living the dream!

    • @peteparadis1619
      @peteparadis1619 2 года назад

      You’re nuts.. Get therapy

  • @videoman876
    @videoman876 2 года назад +2

    I appreciate you Calvin Samuel because you are fighting for our community

  • @sean9640
    @sean9640 2 года назад +40

    I honestly didn't see the big deal in getting married. As a man I can only see it being used against me in the family court when she decides she's not excited anymore. Marriage used to be permanent, now she's gets have your shirt with a stroke of a pen. No thanks

    • @Nimbereth
      @Nimbereth 2 года назад +4

      Legacy!

    • @EliteBelleZoe1
      @EliteBelleZoe1 2 года назад

      You suppose to keep marriage exciting!

    • @tjandcj123
      @tjandcj123 2 года назад +2

      I appreciate when people are honest about not wanting marriage, they just need to not have out of wedlock babies. No matter how great they are are coparenting the kids still suffer when their parents are not married and living in the same home.

    • @lloydjohnson9824
      @lloydjohnson9824 2 года назад +6

      Yeah but don’t have kids without marriage. Data proves it’s terrible.

    • @user-xw4vg1vy5e
      @user-xw4vg1vy5e 2 года назад +2

      @@EliteBelleZoe1 You people always wanted to be pleased and what not. Marriage is hard but has good times as well, same as life itself.