The whole narrative that he went to church so she didn’t think he’d do that was confusing. It’s well known that many pastors have gotten in trouble for touching little kids.
@@kayleesykes2739 that just means they wernt pastors at all cause real true pastors dont touch little kids one thing i cant stand is fake pastors of a church
Did the mother really say “I feel like *i am* the victim” ?! When you fail to protect your children and choose not to believe them when they tell you they’re being assaulted… you’re basically as guilty as the man that touched her in my eyes. Absolutely pathetic.
Not basically, she is as much to blame !! I would hate anyone who didn't belive me about something so serious.ANYONE who knows what's going on and doesn't stop it is 💯 % just as much to blame as the Predator. Her mother was supposed to protect her daughter and keep her safe and she called her a liar to her face, I wouldn't be nice to Her either. she is not a victim the daughter is!!
this is more common than you'd think, unfortunately. my mother behaved the same way when i went to the police about my father abusing me because she didn't believe me.
My deceased parents were selfish, careless and had no sense with their children, they thought about the relatives all day; I come to believe that they were mentally sick!
It’s not going the way I’ll like it to go, my brother passed away, I had to go to his building to check on him. The inspector and exterminator - Pest Control - came out to his apartment Friday morning and found him not responding, so they called the doctor and they examined him and said he was deceased, to call the funeral home. There were a police report made out. The office manager called me this morning , it’s regarding your brother, and told me that I need to come by the building, I asked her is he passed and she said yes, so she sent an patrol to pick me up I am waiting in his apartment until AR Leak pick up his body. I believe My brother suffered real bAd. The exterminator came out to exterminate the apartment, when they entered the apartment, he wasn’t responding, so they call the doctor to examine him and was told to have his body sent to a funeral home. I am just feeling sorry for my brother, he had to be really sick and mentally sick, he had no food in his refrigerator, and had no bottled water in this bad weather, I believe he couldn’t manage his funds - people was taking his money or he was giving his money away to meaningless people that meant nothing to him and I saw a note in his belongings that said he paid his Rent too late - and he had nothing comfortable to sit down on but two kitchen chairs and that was the first time I entered that apartment, he pushed me away since January 2005. I offered to go to his doctor’s, doctors’ clinics appointments with him, shopping with him and helping him, but I guess he was so bad off mentally he just pushed me away. He told me in May 2009 that he had three head injuries. Our parents were not watching their children but always in those relatives’ business and I believe they were mentally ill too..
@@TeaCup1940 they didn’t want to be bothered with their own children but they fooled with the dirty ole low down relatives everyday; they neglected their children all day everyday on a regular basis.
This happened to my daughter her dad is locked up has been for 8 years now she came and told me I hopped on it that same night he has been indicted....parents don't play with your children's emotions or lives period believe them my daughter was 6 and now she's 14
💯💯💯 I don't care who's child it is...I'm going to believe them that very instant. This is one crime when the person who is being told on that I'm absolutely GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT. You're going to have to prove however you need to that you're innocent, police involved too.
The massive differences in how the mother and daughter describe this man is insane. Mom says he's a choir boy, her first love and just a wonderful man. Daughter tells horror stories of a man who stole cars and molested her.
I hate that the mother kept centering her OWN perception of the dad of her instead of focusing on the monster that he was revealed to be and the pain that he caused her child. Heck, his being a choir boy or church boy means absolutely NOTHING when considering all of the perversion that takes place at the hands of church folks.
As a mother, I will never understand not believing your child when they tell you someone is hurting them. I will always believe my child over any one. Idc who it is.
Yeah, and the fact she said because he went to church she didn't believe her kid... ANYONE can be abusing your kid no matter how good they seem. They try to trick you by pretending they are good people on the outside...
To not believe your child when she comes to you and share such despicable behavior on the part of your husband is beyond me. I am glad that the mother did pass two critical aspects of her lie detector test. May this young Lady continues to heal.
The mom is just as guilty as her husband for molesting her child and her not believing just cause she passed doesn’t mean she’s innocent nah she’s just as guilty who ignores their child coming to them about shit like this
I remember I was sexually abused by a friend of the family and nobody believed me. My then older sister was sexually abused by the exact same individual, she was believed & I haven’t respected my family every since then. It’s been about 28 years and I still feel the same way.🙅🏽♂️
Same except it was a family member and I wasn't believed but when my brother came out with the same accusations he was believed......if I was listened to it may have stopped before my brother got harmed.
My “mother” stayed married to my “father” for 31 years after I told her he molested and raped me. Needless to say, I cut off complete contact with them. At 52, I’m still dealing with it.
@melanierobinson4152 Thank You for your kind words. Although Im still dealing with it, my life has been better off without them. Love to you and yours.❤️
I'm sorry that you were failed so miserably! I was molested by my cousin from ages 3 to 5. My father didn't believe "his nephew could do something like that". I haven't spoken to my father in over 10 years.
She didn't believe her daughter because she didn't think "church guys did that?!" Then we hear he was in and out of jail the daughter's entire life. Then he took mom and the daughter on a police chase! Come on, mom, he's no church guy. You choose a creep over your own daughters safety. I'm glad she passed for not giving her daughter to the creep, but you ignored your daughter's cry for help and chose to stay with him. To me, you failed your daughter, I don't care if you passed the lie director test. JMO
@Junji so true, I wonder if some priests become that because they know who they really are and figure they will swear to a life of celibacy thinking they won't offend? I will never believe lack of sex makes a man become a pedophile. Some priests have sex with grown women or men. Great point!
In a way, the mom DID give him permission. She went to her mom and told her what was happening and the mom didn’t believe her which allowed him to continue doing it. Despicable.
Turning a blind eye is also giving permission and enables the abuse. My mum knew that my Dad was sexually abusing me. from the age of 9 to 13yrs old. I was the only one he wanted to take out of my siblings when he was going to leave my Mum when I was 10 years old. Every Friday and Saturday night during that timeframe he would come into the room I shared with my younger Sister at Midnight, wake me up, made me put on my coat-I had to stay in my nightdress and put on my shoes) and take me out of the house to my Mum's Mother house where he had a room to sexually abuse me. This was on top of him coming into the bathroom Monday- Friday (it was opposite their bedroom) when I had my evening wash to assault me. My Mum could clearly see him coming in and out of the bathroom when I was in there. In the end it was only after a children's charity came to my school (1989) and I finally had a name for what my Father was doing, I told someone when I was 13years old. I ended up in care. The consequence for me speaking out was that I was ostricised and rejected by my family. I suffered for twenty-five years of my life with depression and many other problems but Jesus saved me. What was meant for bad has been turn to good. I wrote about a book about my story a decade ago, set up a non profit 11 years ago to provide peer empowerment to other survivors, and I have done a TEDx talk on empowering survivors besides other things. I never got justice for what he did but I know God has not forgotten. Even though I don't have a relationship with my parents I forgive them. Sexual abuse in the black community is often ignored and I knew first the enablement, shaming and blaming that goes on. Denial by those around the perpetrator os often a major cause of it. II have been rasing awareness of this issue for years but I belive there is still a long way to go. I hope Lanette gets all the support and helps she needs to deal with trauma and pain she has experienced.
@Daughter Arise your story/ life is mines, except my s.a. life lasted for 30yrs... plus the drs.. informed me that I have SPECIAL CIRCUMSTANCES!!! My first abuser was also teaching my 2 brothers and I to kill as well( it started when I was 6yo.). My 2 brothers couldn't take the abuse so I was forced to bury them ahead apart, we were in our early 20's.! I'm starting my book now as well. I've been in therapy for over 40yrs. and it just started working in the last 5yrs. A new part of my journey just started as of 11/6/22 when my last sibling past on that day, he was the 2nd youngest... My 1st molester is also my oldest sibling, our brother. This is my first time speaking of this on the internet.......
@@mannygomez5213 shut tf up okay... thank god that you didn't have to suffer what this person has gone through.. you don't care because your parents failed you. But there are people who care. Okay?
That’s a poor excuse for a “mother”. That lady is absolutely beautiful & I hope she can find some peace & heal. She deserves everything good in life!! 💟
Even though she passed I still am disappointed in the mother. You should always believe your children first. Then her refusing to take accountability and lying about why she testified.. come on. To top it off the deflecting onto the father like the daughter couldn’t possibly have a reason to be angry with her.. she failed as a protector and ultimately as a mother. THAT’S why the daughter is mad at you..
There have been some guests who passed their lie detector test, but they are not truly innocent due to the poor choices they make. They would have to live with the shame.
Never pick a man over your kids because your kids come first. That's why there are some parents that have failed to protect their kids from child molesters and that's sad. Protect your kids no matter what I don't care who it is rather it's your family or friends.
The "mother " said she didn't believe her child because "he would never do that" wtaf? Molesters don't have a tattoo saying pedo. Then she says she a victim, she doesn't deserve her daughter. I pray this beautiful young lady can move on & live a safe healthy happy life. Stay safe everyone 🙏❤
She believed she had a good man because he went to the church, but he was in jail when she was pregnant and in jail after the birth. At what point do you realize hes probably not a good man.
I feel this. I wrote my mom a letter when I was in 7th grade and put it in her purse. It started when I was 8. Not only did it happen to me but to several other family members. She said we were all liars. She told me it was because I was wearing short shorts and t shirts. I WAS A CHILD.
this is so upsetting and i am so sorry you had to go through this love, i had a friend that confessed her trauma of it as well and it happened while she was wearing a onesie. she was completely covered and for her to say it was because of "shorts n t shirt" is so wrong when it happened to my friend while she was COMPLETELY covered up.
I'm so sorry babygirl. You deserve a better mom. She did you wrong and had no right saying she's the victim. Your mom may have passed the polygraph test but she still let you down big time. I wish you nothing but the best and that I hope this gives you a little closure.
I’m imagining her as a little girl and what that must have been like - to know what your own father is doing is wrong. How afraid she must have been, and how nervous she had to feel before telling her mother. Then, to be called a liar. What does that do to a child? How do you recover from that? Sprinkle in a little police chase, both parents in prison, and a long stint in a juvenile facility when she’s entirely innocent. Victimization after victimization. I’m shocked at how much warmth and wisdom she radiates in spite of it all, and I hope she surrounds herself with people who love her and protect her.
My heart goes out to the survivor. I’m an incestual sexual abuse survivor, myself, and my perpetrator was my father, also. I’m so glad she was able to get some closure and hopefully she is able to heal. I never told anyone about what my dad was doing to me and my mother married my father and willingly conceived me with him in the hopes that I’d be born a girl and she KNEW he had been tried and convicted of indecency with a minor. I fear if I’d have told my mother what my father was doing to me that she’d have felt the same way as the mother in this story, “He swore he’d never do that again!”, “Are you sure he wasn’t just being affectionate?”, “Are you just mad at him for something and trying to get him in trouble for something he didn’t do?” My mom passed away in 2010 and I never told her what happened to me as a child. I was molested and nearly raped by her nephew/my cousin and even though she had me examined by my pediatrician and did go to the police she decided that instead of getting justice for me that my cousin could just get some counseling and all would be right with the world. I wasn’t protected then and I doubt she would have pursued prosecution of my father if she knew what he’d done and how long he’d been doing it. I’ll never know for certain.
@@suzannerust8658 It’s a struggle but I -AM- healing. I have a loving partner and an amazing therapist so I have a great support system. I’m just glad that Steve did an episode about this. All too often people aren’t opposed to someone speaking about being sexually abused/assaulted but when they explain that their perpetrator was a relative, let alone their biological father, suddenly people don’t want to hear about it and there’s unspoken shaming that happens. Survivors don’t get to choose their perpetrators, but the topic makes people uncomfy. I actually live in terror of certain people (like my in-Laws) finding out about what happened to me because I don’t want them convincing my partner not to be with me or if we get to fulfill our dream of fostering-to-adopt a kid I don’t want there to be people putting it in my partner’s head that I’m going to hurt our child because my father was my perpetrator. Thankfully my partner knows quite well that I’d never in a trillion years do such a thing because I know, firsthand, the mental and emotional anguish that causes. We’ve already had one foster child for a short time (he was returned to his parents) and I was nothing but motherly to him. People just have weird ideas sometimes like incestual abuse survivors automatically becoming perpetrators themselves. 🤷🏻♀️ I’m also queer identified which only makes matters worse. I just walk with my head held high and know it’s not my shame to bear.
@@QuillBleu82 This is awful. My niece was sexually assaulted by someone my sister had living in their home. My niece started acting out and I knew something was wrong. I called my niece and posed questions to her in a way that would give me a hint that something happened, I drove from my state to the state where my sister resides, I picked up my niece, she told me everything, I called my sister, she immediately said my niece was lying. We went to the police station, the police went and picked him up, he confessed and went to prison. Up to this day, I don't deal with my sister, I want nothing to do with her. My niece is now gay, she told me she couldn't be with a man after what she went through, I'm wondering if that was the same way you felt.
Sad! She was let down in the worst way, by the 2 people that's supposed to protect her. The mother dismissing her daughter's claim and not believing her. When it comes to molestation, even the most respectable people are not exempt from being under suspicion. Those are not the type of allegations any real parent would ignore. As for her so-called father, he's completely sick. I hope he gets what he deserves.
When she started "crying" i literally became pissed and when her daughter walked away after she started crying i physically nodded bc she os smart and knows she just tryna guilt trip her
Now the mother lives with her and is getting money from her when she didn’t even raise or provided a decent place for her to stay. That’s so sad and honestly I hope she can break away and get some space from her “mother”
@@miarideout5401 Giiiirl....it was her saying SHE was a victim....puhlease, go lay in quicksand, lady! Her daughter is such a STRONG BLACK WOMAN because of her "mother" ...but, by using her as an example of what NOT to do!
why is the mom so confused on why her daughter is angry with her??? she completely dismissed her daughters cries for help, do you expect her to go line dancing with you? be serious.
A mother who doesn’t believe that her kid has been molested by the father isn’t a good mother at all . She basically chose her man over her own child . I know there were plenty of story episodes like this , but this one was just taking the cake . Even though she passed her test , she still failed her daughter by not believing she was molested and not protecting her .
Poor sweet heart I'm sorry for your pain and suffering at the hands of your own father and I hope you and your mom can grow together and heal you both were his victims and both need to not let him get one more moment of your lives you both deserve freedom and peace
My heart was beating so fast on this particular lie detector test as a mother I just couldn’t believe she would knowingly allow this 😭 thank you god she passed and hopefully they can move forward positively . And I’m praying for this child 🥺 you should always believe your daughter ! Periodt
I am also a victim of S.A by my mothers husband, it started when I was 11 y.o until I was 13 and when I become an adult and had my kid I told her bc she was watching my son and I feared something happening to my baby and she didn’t believe me at all. So I understand what this girl is going through. This is why us victims stay quite, ppl don’t believe or even want to help us. 😢
For this young woman to had gone through this level of trauma, she has turned into a respectable, beautiful, well spoken, and caring lady. The average person would have been bitter and would have given up on life and would have walked away from both parents....I pray she get the healing that she needs and deserves. My prayers are with her
I wish I could just hug this poor girl, she's so beautiful and you can tell she has self esteem, trauma issues from the abuse, I hope she gets therapy, and love she deserves...
Omg. This is so heartbreaking and hits home for me. The moment when she said that sometimes she just don't want to be around her mother, it made me tear up. I do wish that mothers could understand how their child is damaged from situations like this. It's not that we don't love them, but there's hurt, betrayal and so much more and sometimes many of us just never cope with the situation or cope in our own ways.
The mother is a classic narcissist. She says she wants a closer bond with her daughter but also calls her jealous and disrespectful. She doesn't take seriously or understand the gravity of how badly she failed her daughter. The mother has no shame. She is selfish and cold hearted and projects her own failings onto her daughter. She has no real love for her daughter. She cares only for her image, for her own interests and for having the moral highground, I wouldn't be surprised if she allowed her daughter to be harmed because she is secretly competitive with her.
I feel like in a way, the "mother" gave the "father" permission. The daughter told her what was happening, yet the "mother" didn't believe nor do anything about it; to me that it her giving the "father" permission. Honestly hope the daughter just stays away from her. Hope she is able to find peace and seeks help for her trauma
Was molested from 11 to 14 by my uncle who’s five years older than I am. My mom and my grandma found out and I was told I could not tell anyone because my grandpa would kill him. At that point I didn’t trust them to keep him away from me so I moved six days away with my dad who I never live with. My mom to this day says it shouldn’t bother me I should just let it go and I can’t possibly still be psychologically affecting me at 54 however she is wrong I have a level of anger because my mom still has everything to do with my uncle she supports him 150% and she’s mad at me because I don’t and when I try to talk to her about the by borderline personality disorder she tells me that is just bullshit from the psych doctors trying to get more money and I should not have a problem I should just let it go and I have a serious problem with that and I feel for anyone else whose parents are like my mom was
STAY AWAY FROM YOUR MOTHER AN FAMILY GET YOU SOME HELP, YOU DESERVE PEACE, PRAY PLACE GOD 1ST.. LOVE YOURSELF THIS WASN'T YOUR FAULT YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF MORE.. ❤️
I am soo sorry this has happened to you. I pray you can find the strength to give all your past trauma and sufferings to God. Our Lord and Savior has love just for you, love that isn’t judgmental, love that is pure and sincere. I currently am going through a case involving my 10 yo daughter who was 8 when she was SA by her 12 yo (who is now 14) cousin during a party. I watched my baby change drastically, and I’ve blamed myself. I have no support from my family, the abuser he’s getting all the support while my daughter and I are basically being ignored. I’ve chosen to give it to God, it was the best choice ever. We had an out of body experience, I had to deliver my baby from this violating spirit that has been talking to her at night. IT WAS WORK!! BUT OUR FATHER WORKED HARDER!! The devil has been working HARD since we delivered her, he’s been coming for me. He thought he had my baby and he’s upset I’ve played a part in helping her. I pray you can find a Church family to support you, also a good counselor. We did counseling for a while and she’ll continue just not as often. I promise you the love of Jesus helped set my baby free. I pray you can get this love and healing our Father has for you through Christ. I will keep you in my prayers 🙏🏽❤️
This is a good example of how the state should protect its children. They saw the drawing, they got to the truth and then they discover her own uncle is trying to kill her and they protected her from that. It’s sad that I’m surprised they saved this girl, but I’m so happy they did.
@@ladiiblue2u634 I'm 46 now. I couldn't find closure through anyone. Just had to do some soul searching and close it myself. ❤️ Made me a much better parent.
I pray that you were able to get the help that you needed in dealing with that. I am sorry for any young girl that goes through this type or any type of abuse. 😥
She said a “church man wouldn’t do that” like he wasn’t in jail, while she was pregnant and had her, I’m pretty sure a church man wouldn’t be in jail☠️ that’s sick she should have believed her 💯
‘Mother” Can I have those papers for family?” Steve “No, you don’t get nothin from me” Good job Steve 👍🏽 Instead of apologizing, telling her she loved her and she wants to step up Now as a mother she was only thinking about herself again. That mother can eat sh!
Children come first !! 😀 - my mom did this to help me ! I am a victim too - bless you Steve for showing this ! I know now I am not alone in my emotional battle
My mom didn't believe me either. I even had the surgeon tell my mom what he corrected that my birth father destroyed. (I was slowly bleeding to death from my backside) I finally had to have corrective surgery. The Dr told mom that I was the worse he'd ever seen. You CAN be strong after this. Mom STILL DOESN'T believe me. She's 76, I'm 57. My sons were also molested by my birth father. She doesn't believe them, either. I told them I do, and that I'm sorry.
Some people DON'T DESERVE to be parents!! This is ABSOLUTELY SICKENING!! How can you not believe your own flesh and blood?! You gave birth to this beautiful young lady!! I can't say what I REALLY want to say to you freaking COWARD!! To this beautiful young lady? I PRAY you get the help you need to get you through this traumatic situation. LOTS of love, hugs and prayers from Kansas... 🙏💞🙏
This daughter doesn't need to be supporting her mother. Where was she when her daughter needed her? She's never supported or cared for her daughter but now she expects her to take her into her home and support her. Absolutely not, she needs to throw her ass out and tell her to stay out. She can and will make it without her and have a better life. She owes her mother NOTHING and that is what she needs to give her.
imagine that the father got 20 to 40 years because of what he did but the mother gets 11 months leaving the child grow up with the nightmares of what happens like everyday Halloween for her
The fact that the mom is crying like she’s the victim here is pissing me off. Idc at the end of the day she’s a terrible mother bc your 9yr old daughter told you this man was abusing her and you didn’t believe her???? A damn shame and she better be grateful that her Daughter is even trying to work on their relationship bc she doesn’t deserve it.
I am currently 39 weeks pregnant, and it's been a horrible experience that I will never repeat. The thought of anyone hurting a single hair on this child's head at whatever age makes my blood boil. I will unlive anyone for my child, how can you call yourself a mother if you would let someone hurt yours???
Being involved in church does NOT make you a good person nor exempt you from being a predator. She brought up the fact that he was deacon as if it’s supposed to mean something. As sad as it is, predators are EVERYWHERE. It’s YOUR JOB to protect your kids.
You can never be too careful. I am a single mother and have been for 5 years, My child was under 3 years old when my ex left. He would not have been able to voice to me in a manner that he understood most likely if I ever had someone in our lives Who abused him. For many reasons I stayed single, but that was one of them. There was no need. That is a lot of trust to put into another human being. People call me over protective, I call them under protective and careless. These are babies and children's minds and souls at stake. We are the guardians. God gave us these gifts to protect with our lives.
I can relate to her. I was molested by my biological father when I was 9 yrs old. The worst memory I have ever today. The thing is my mom believed me. When I told her he was gone right then and there. Today I do struggle with the depression cand anxiety due to what happened and it messed my whole life up. Today I have 2 kids and 1 on the way and I am so careful who comes around my kids. I protect my kids fr everyone. I'm strict to a point but I'm always going to protect my babies. It happened to my grandma, my mom, my oldest uncle, my youngest uncle, me and my little sister 3 yrs ago. Its definitely messed up but I'm so glad I'm nothing like my dad.
@@ayaoptimystic3455 what are we not suppose to? Like are we not allowed to try to move forward with our lives? Like I don't want to use my past on what happened to me to define who I am or what I can't do. For those who say this tbh I think is not right for even saying that like tbh I'm thinking how dare you. You think we're gonna just sit around and not have any type of life? Absolutely not. If you never had it happen to you (which I would never want that to happen to anybody) then you don't understand but it's more common sense. Everybody deserves to be happy when they are comfortable. Nobody asks to be molested it just happens. Its a horrible thing but it happens.
@@ayaoptimystic3455 I may be damaged but I'm not broken. My kids are perfectly fine thanks. They are happy. I raise them myself and I teach them to be appreciative and to love and be kind to others. Don't tell me what I don't and do deserve. Your selfish for even saying a word to me or to anybody about anything. I'm not everybody. I didn't have my kids because I "miserable" cause that's not the case. You need to watch who you talk to and stop judging people when you have no idea what your even talking about. Have a nice day.
@@ayaoptimystic3455 That was a silly comment 😂. why would they not continue to live their lives ? Judging by that comment you seem like someone who would defend an attacker.
This story is so sad. I just did a story about a 12 years old girl who went missing and days later the police found out she was 9 months pregnant. Her father and aunt ran a church that was like a cult. To this days she was never found.
Poor woman, the most disturbing SW episode I've seen so far. I have a 9 year old niece. She lies a lot. But my sister, if my niece told her something like this happened, she would, as a mother, automatically believe her. If my niece came to me saying something like this happened, I would also automatically believe her. The mother let this poor woman down
Her mama remind me of people I used to know. Just oblivious when it suits them and a self proclaimed victim every other time. Meanwhile they are really the root cause......😢 The way her daughter describes her feelings towards her mother, I can relate. I literally cannot stand the sight of that womans face. Deleted any picture of my mother's existence that I could, from my home, my phone, my life. 💯.
These moms and dads that don’t believe their kids and pick their spouse over their own children baffles me. I’ve never understood it. They tell them that they are liars and horrible things and then are shocked when their kids want nothing to do with them.
I told my family about being assaulted and they all looked away. Nobody would make eye contact or talk about it only my grandma said well it's too late now to say anything because we can't take him to court
If I was a juror if the world put a so-called not Mother in prison for jealousy over her own child because she just got to have a man syndrome as always the case I would wrote her guilty and send her upstate
I don't know what statement she made that blows my mind the most, she said he was a good guy then in the next breath said when she had her daughter he was in prison, but failed to say what he was in prison for, or the fact she didn't think church guys would "do that"
There’s PLENTY of mothers who would not believe that their partner was able to molest their children BUT they still kick them out of the household until it is proven that they did not. Which is hard to grasp a mother calling their 9 year old a liar when they’re showing all the signs of abuse. Lying, being disobedient, lashing out? That isn’t just teenage / childhood angst. It is a proven FACT that children act more than they say because often times they are unable to understand the abuse they enduring when it’s occurring plus it’s a “trusted” authoritative figure who convinced them it was normal or that they’d get in trouble. Children are not able to comprehend sexual activity which is why we have the laws that we do regarding it. So their brain will make them go on defense mode by lashing out, being disobedient, and lying because that’s the only thing they know how to get people to back off. Once they comprehend the wrong, they tend to speak out or they lash out even more. Most survivors of childhood SA do not speak towards it until they’re in their 50’s if they’re not forced to by an investigation that started by a loved adult. Also, if your partner is in and out of jail, robbing cars, and is an all around bad dude? Him being part of a “church” is solely a front. Jesus did die on the cross for our sins but it’s not something as simple as “forgive me Jesus” and he does. You have to repent not for selfish intentions of getting in to heaven but repent because it’s what ultimately the right thing to do. There are also sins that you can NOT be forgiven. While mass majority of the sins can be forgiven, the ultimate one that you can NEVER be forgiven for is using the lords name in a blasphemous way. For instance, committing all these crimes while claiming Jesus is your right hand. OR what is more commonly seen, misrepresenting God’s word for selfish gains.
Your child is mad at him but she’s mad you didn’t believe her . For her to say she couldn’t believe a church guy could do that … if a deacon is going to jail that’s not the type of church guy I want praying for me 😢
How you can even take her in after what she failed to do has me baffled !! She’s using your kindness for weakness because she can’t get her life in order stepping up to the plate and taking and building a strong relationship with the daughter !! Very sad !!😢
The "I didn't believe that he/she would do that" line always makes me mad. This is your CHILD!! Put them first!!
The whole narrative that he went to church so she didn’t think he’d do that was confusing. It’s well known that many pastors have gotten in trouble for touching little kids.
@@kayleesykes2739 Rightttttt!!!!!
Children First has always 100% been Steve WILKOS' MOTIVATION!!!
Always got to believe your child, some mothers make me so mad 😡
@@kayleesykes2739 that just means they wernt pastors at all cause real true pastors dont touch little kids one thing i cant stand is fake pastors of a church
Did the mother really say “I feel like *i am* the victim” ?! When you fail to protect your children and choose not to believe them when they tell you they’re being assaulted… you’re basically as guilty as the man that touched her in my eyes. Absolutely pathetic.
Not basically, she is as much to blame !! I would hate anyone who didn't belive me about something so serious.ANYONE who knows what's going on and doesn't stop it is 💯 % just as much to blame as the Predator. Her mother was supposed to protect her daughter and keep her safe and she called her a liar to her face, I wouldn't be nice to Her either. she is not a victim the daughter is!!
this is more common than you'd think, unfortunately. my mother behaved the same way when i went to the police about my father abusing me because she didn't believe me.
The second her daughter told her she was 100% liable for every assault from that point on. What a poor excuse of a mother.
@@eishakaay6990 bitch this Philly what's up u don't know my story
@@andreaholder3417 did I stutter? I said what I said.
This story makes me sad. Her mom is a selfish and careless person. I hope her daughter finds peace. She’s a deserving person.
My deceased parents were selfish, careless and had no sense with their children, they thought about the relatives all day; I come to believe that they were mentally sick!
@@lorettahines7936What did they do?
It’s not going the way I’ll like it to go, my brother passed away, I had to go to his building to check on him. The inspector and exterminator - Pest Control - came out to his apartment Friday morning and found him not responding, so they called the doctor and they examined him and said he was deceased, to call the funeral home. There were a police report made out.
The office manager called me this morning , it’s regarding your brother, and told me that I need to come by the building, I asked her is he passed and she said yes, so she sent an patrol to pick me up I am waiting in his apartment until AR Leak pick up his body. I believe My brother suffered real bAd.
The exterminator came out to exterminate the apartment, when they entered the apartment, he wasn’t responding, so they call the doctor to examine him and was told to have his body sent to a funeral home.
I am just feeling sorry for my brother, he had to be really sick and mentally sick, he had no food in his refrigerator, and had no bottled water in this bad weather, I believe he couldn’t manage his funds - people was taking his money or he was giving his money away to meaningless people that meant nothing to him and I saw a note in his belongings that said he paid his Rent too late - and he had nothing comfortable to sit down on but two kitchen chairs and that was the first time I entered that apartment, he pushed me away since January 2005. I offered to go to his doctor’s, doctors’ clinics appointments with him, shopping with him and helping him, but I guess he was so bad off mentally he just pushed me away.
He told me in May 2009 that he had three head injuries. Our parents were not watching their children but always in those relatives’ business and I believe they were mentally ill too..
@@TeaCup1940 they didn’t want to be bothered with their own children but they fooled with the dirty ole low down relatives everyday; they neglected their children all day everyday on a regular basis.
Pppp
We've gotta stop rolling the dice with our kids. If your child tells you something, you believe them!
And even if you don’t, you STILL takes steps to fix the issue. 😡
Some parents have made poor choices to begin with, and regrets show up later on. Even when they make the right decision, they have to fix the damages.
This happened to my daughter her dad is locked up has been for 8 years now she came and told me I hopped on it that same night he has been indicted....parents don't play with your children's emotions or lives period believe them my daughter was 6 and now she's 14
💯💯💯 I don't care who's child it is...I'm going to believe them that very instant. This is one crime when the person who is being told on that I'm absolutely GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT. You're going to have to prove however you need to that you're innocent, police involved too.
@@729CT it’s sad you can’t even trust the men who have kids with. Some of these monsters have NO CRIMINAL RECORD so you never know smh
The massive differences in how the mother and daughter describe this man is insane. Mom says he's a choir boy, her first love and just a wonderful man. Daughter tells horror stories of a man who stole cars and molested her.
He could have been both.
I hate that the mother kept centering her OWN perception of the dad of her instead of focusing on the monster that he was revealed to be and the pain that he caused her child. Heck, his being a choir boy or church boy means absolutely NOTHING when considering all of the perversion that takes place at the hands of church folks.
I wouldn't trust the mother around me anymore. I'm sure she still has contact with him 😕
@@mariejiminez1733I think that too. He probably is two faced. He has to be or how could he have gained her trust and then molested the poor daughter.
Wonderful men are in and out of jail lmao 🤣 The mom is delusional!!!
As a mother, I will never understand not believing your child when they tell you someone is hurting them. I will always believe my child over any one. Idc who it is.
Same
Period 🤌🏻
Yeah, and the fact she said because he went to church she didn't believe her kid... ANYONE can be abusing your kid no matter how good they seem. They try to trick you by pretending they are good people on the outside...
To not believe your child when she comes to you and share such despicable behavior on the part of your husband is beyond me. I am glad that the mother did pass two critical aspects of her lie detector test. May this young Lady continues to heal.
Her mother is a despicable mother....I would as a daughter, let my mother go. Forever.
The mom is just as guilty as her husband for molesting her child and her not believing just cause she passed doesn’t mean she’s innocent nah she’s just as guilty who ignores their child coming to them about shit like this
I remember I was sexually abused by a friend of the family and nobody believed me. My then older sister was sexually abused by the exact same individual, she was believed & I haven’t respected my family every since then. It’s been about 28 years and I still feel the same way.🙅🏽♂️
I don't blame you. You don't have to forgive them.
Male or female family friend.
P.S.: Ghost their asses for life
ᴅ᷈ᴏ᷈ɴ᷈ᴛ᷈ ꜰ᷈ᴏ᷈ʀ᷈ɢ᷈ᴇ᷈ᴛ᷈ ᴛ᷈ᴏ᷈ ʜ᷈ɪ᷈ᴛ᷈ ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ᴇ᷈ ꜱ᷈ᴜ᷈ʙ᷈ꜱ᷈ᴄ᷈ʀ᷈ɪ᷈ᴘ᷈ᴛ᷈ɪ᷈ᴏ᷈ɴ᷈ ʙ᷈ᴇ᷈ʟ᷈ 🔔ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ᴀ᷈ɴ᷈ᴋ᷈ ʏ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴜ᷈ ᴀ᷈ɴ᷈ᴅ᷈ ɪ᷈ ᴡ᷈ɪ᷈ʟ᷈ʟ᷈ ᴀ᷈ʟ᷈ꜱ᷈ᴏ᷈! ɴ᷈ᴇ᷈ᴡ᷈ ꜰ᷈ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ᴅ᷈ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ɢ᷈ꜱ᷈🤫 ᴡ᷈ɪ᷈ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ ʏ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴜ᷈ ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ ᴀ᷈ ᴍ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴍ᷈ᴇ᷈ɴ᷈ᴛ᷈*# privately🕵️♀️ 💬💬💲ㄚ✶ᚓ║█♱𝟏𝟕𝟕𝟐𝟐𝟓𝟒𝟏𝟓𝟎𝟏📲█║❍✭✧♣️⍟☚☚♥️ ❗❎n᷈o᷈ W᷈h᷈ât᷈s᷈äp᷈p᷈❗📲█║❍✭✧♣⍟☚☚ ❗ɴ᷈ᴏ᷈ ᴡ᷈ʜ᷈âᴛ᷈ꜱ᷈äᴘ᷈ᴘ᷈❗
I don't blame you. Sorry that happened to you.
Same except it was a family member and I wasn't believed but when my brother came out with the same accusations he was believed......if I was listened to it may have stopped before my brother got harmed.
My “mother” stayed married to my “father” for 31 years after I told her he molested and raped me. Needless to say, I cut off complete contact with them. At 52, I’m still dealing with it.
@melanierobinson4152 Thank You for your kind words. Although Im still dealing with it, my life has been better off without them. Love to you and yours.❤️
I am so sorry
I'm sorry that you were failed so miserably! I was molested by my cousin from ages 3 to 5. My father didn't believe "his nephew could do something like that". I haven't spoken to my father in over 10 years.
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Oh my. So sorry
Tired of these parents making themselves the victim.
I thank God my Mom didn’t. When her husband molested me the 2nd time she shot him. Rip Mom you are forever my rock and best friend🙏🏾😇❤️
@@teeteefantroy9760 I hate that happened to you but I’m happy your mom stood up for you.
For real
The story of the cops finding that pic and poem sent shivers up my spine
She didn't believe her daughter because she didn't think "church guys did that?!" Then we hear he was in and out of jail the daughter's entire life. Then he took mom and the daughter on a police chase! Come on, mom, he's no church guy. You choose a creep over your own daughters safety. I'm glad she passed for not giving her daughter to the creep, but you ignored your daughter's cry for help and chose to stay with him. To me, you failed your daughter, I don't care if you passed the lie director test. JMO
Thank you
Let’s not forget to mention that priests pastors etc are always getting bailed for this exact stuff
@Junji so true, I wonder if some priests become that because they know who they really are and figure they will swear to a life of celibacy thinking they won't offend? I will never believe lack of sex makes a man become a pedophile. Some priests have sex with grown women or men.
Great point!
@@marcellarainahking9246 your welcome
@@the-finn exactly!!
In a way, the mom DID give him permission. She went to her mom and told her what was happening and the mom didn’t believe her which allowed him to continue doing it. Despicable.
ᴅ᷈ᴏ᷈ɴ᷈ᴛ᷈ ꜰ᷈ᴏ᷈ʀ᷈ɢ᷈ᴇ᷈ᴛ᷈ ᴛ᷈ᴏ᷈ ʜ᷈ɪ᷈ᴛ᷈ ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ᴇ᷈ ꜱ᷈ᴜ᷈ʙ᷈ꜱ᷈ᴄ᷈ʀ᷈ɪ᷈ᴘ᷈ᴛ᷈ɪ᷈ᴏ᷈ɴ᷈ ʙ᷈ᴇ᷈ʟ᷈ 🔔ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ᴀ᷈ɴ᷈ᴋ᷈ ʏ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴜ᷈ ᴀ᷈ɴ᷈ᴅ᷈ ɪ᷈ ᴡ᷈ɪ᷈ʟ᷈ʟ᷈ ᴀ᷈ʟ᷈ꜱ᷈ᴏ᷈! ɴ᷈ᴇ᷈ᴡ᷈ ꜰ᷈ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ᴅ᷈ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ɢ᷈ꜱ᷈🤫 ᴡ᷈ɪ᷈ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ ʏ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴜ᷈ ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ ᴀ᷈ ᴍ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴍ᷈ᴇ᷈ɴ᷈ᴛ᷈*# privately🕵️♀️ 💬💬💲ㄚ✶ᚓ║█♱𝟏𝟕𝟕𝟐𝟐𝟓𝟒𝟏𝟓𝟎𝟏📲█║❍✭✧♣️⍟☚☚♥️ ❗❎n᷈o᷈ W᷈h᷈ât᷈s᷈äp᷈p᷈❗📲█║❍✭✧♣⍟☚☚ ❗ɴ᷈ᴏ᷈ ᴡ᷈ʜ᷈âᴛ᷈ꜱ᷈äᴘ᷈ᴘ᷈❗
Turning a blind eye is also giving permission and enables the abuse. My mum knew that my Dad was sexually abusing me. from the age of 9 to 13yrs old. I was the only one he wanted to take out of my siblings when he was going to leave my Mum when I was 10 years old. Every Friday and Saturday night during that timeframe he would come into the room I shared with my younger Sister at Midnight, wake me up, made me put on my coat-I had to stay in my nightdress and put on my shoes) and take me out of the house to my Mum's Mother house where he had a room to sexually abuse me. This was on top of him coming into the bathroom Monday- Friday (it was opposite their bedroom) when I had my evening wash to assault me. My Mum could clearly see him coming in and out of the bathroom when I was in there. In the end it was only after a children's charity came to my school (1989) and I finally had a name for what my Father was doing, I told someone when I was 13years old. I ended up in care. The consequence for me speaking out was that I was ostricised and rejected by my family.
I suffered for twenty-five years of my life with depression and many other problems but Jesus saved me. What was meant for bad has been turn to good. I wrote about a book about my story a decade ago, set up a non profit 11 years ago to provide peer empowerment to other survivors, and I have done a TEDx talk on empowering survivors besides other things. I never got justice for what he did but I know God has not forgotten. Even though I don't have a relationship with my parents I forgive them.
Sexual abuse in the black community is often ignored and I knew first the enablement, shaming and blaming that goes on. Denial by those around the perpetrator os often a major cause of it. II have been rasing awareness of this issue for years but I belive there is still a long way to go. I hope Lanette gets all the support and helps she needs to deal with trauma and pain she has experienced.
Your long ass essay. Nobody reading all that.
@Daughter Arise your story/ life is mines, except my s.a. life lasted for 30yrs... plus the drs.. informed me that I have SPECIAL CIRCUMSTANCES!!! My first abuser was also teaching my 2 brothers and I to kill as well( it started when I was 6yo.). My 2 brothers couldn't take the abuse so I was forced to bury them ahead apart, we were in our early 20's.! I'm starting my book now as well. I've been in therapy for over 40yrs. and it just started working in the last 5yrs. A new part of my journey just started as of 11/6/22 when my last sibling past on that day, he was the 2nd youngest... My 1st molester is also my oldest sibling, our brother.
This is my first time speaking of this on the internet.......
@@IAMDEPRESSED2023 And nobody cares about what you went through.
@@mannygomez5213 shut tf up okay... thank god that you didn't have to suffer what this person has gone through.. you don't care because your parents failed you. But there are people who care. Okay?
@@IAMDEPRESSED2023 all my best wishes with you ❤️
This mom is really sick to my stomach I felt bad for the daughter!! Stay safe and have a great day!!
Side note: the daughters skin is GORGEOUS 🤎
That’s a poor excuse for a “mother”. That lady is absolutely beautiful & I hope she can find some peace & heal. She deserves everything good in life!! 💟
Bitch Philly u don't know the whole story
Agreed
Yall call anybody beautiful.
Cap!
She is a beautiful woman. I was in the same situation as she but my brother raped me and my parents didn’t believe me
Even though she passed I still am disappointed in the mother. You should always believe your children first. Then her refusing to take accountability and lying about why she testified.. come on. To top it off the deflecting onto the father like the daughter couldn’t possibly have a reason to be angry with her.. she failed as a protector and ultimately as a mother. THAT’S why the daughter is mad at you..
There have been some guests who passed their lie detector test, but they are not truly innocent due to the poor choices they make. They would have to live with the shame.
"I feel like I am the victim"
No, your daughter's the victim not you 💯
That statement made me so mad when she said that like wow
Never pick a man over your kids because your kids come first. That's why there are some parents that have failed to protect their kids from child molesters and that's sad. Protect your kids no matter what I don't care who it is rather it's your family or friends.
That part!!!
That poor girl, pain exudes from her, I hope she has peace about the situation now. Sending good vibes 2 her
The "mother " said she didn't believe her child because "he would never do that" wtaf? Molesters don't have a tattoo saying pedo.
Then she says she a victim, she doesn't deserve her daughter.
I pray this beautiful young lady can move on & live a safe healthy happy life.
Stay safe everyone 🙏❤
They should have a tattoo on there forehead saying “pedo” “rapist” “murder”
She believed she had a good man because he went to the church, but he was in jail when she was pregnant and in jail after the birth. At what point do you realize hes probably not a good man.
“We met in church and then he went to jail but I didnt believe my daughter”
T. R. A. S. H.
Its all about ME ME ME with this “baby mama” 👹
Exactly. In and out of jail from the moment she got pregnant with the daughter, yet he could never commit THAT kind of crime. 🙄
I feel this. I wrote my mom a letter when I was in 7th grade and put it in her purse. It started when I was 8. Not only did it happen to me but to several other family members. She said we were all liars. She told me it was because I was wearing short shorts and t shirts. I WAS A CHILD.
Wow I'm So Sorry That This Happened To You
I’m am so sorry for the trauma that you and your family members went through.
I am so sorry this happened to you. You did nothing wrong and deserved to be protected!!!
I'm sorry that happened to you.🌹
this is so upsetting and i am so sorry you had to go through this love, i had a friend that confessed her trauma of it as well and it happened while she was wearing a onesie. she was completely covered and for her to say it was because of "shorts n t shirt" is so wrong when it happened to my friend while she was COMPLETELY covered up.
I'm so sorry babygirl. You deserve a better mom. She did you wrong and had no right saying she's the victim. Your mom may have passed the polygraph test but she still let you down big time. I wish you nothing but the best and that I hope this gives you a little closure.
ᴅ᷈ᴏ᷈ɴ᷈ᴛ᷈ ꜰ᷈ᴏ᷈ʀ᷈ɢ᷈ᴇ᷈ᴛ᷈ ᴛ᷈ᴏ᷈ ʜ᷈ɪ᷈ᴛ᷈ ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ᴇ᷈ ꜱ᷈ᴜ᷈ʙ᷈ꜱ᷈ᴄ᷈ʀ᷈ɪ᷈ᴘ᷈ᴛ᷈ɪ᷈ᴏ᷈ɴ᷈ ʙ᷈ᴇ᷈ʟ᷈ 🔔ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ᴀ᷈ɴ᷈ᴋ᷈ ʏ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴜ᷈ ᴀ᷈ɴ᷈ᴅ᷈ ɪ᷈ ᴡ᷈ɪ᷈ʟ᷈ʟ᷈ ᴀ᷈ʟ᷈ꜱ᷈ᴏ᷈! ɴ᷈ᴇ᷈ᴡ᷈ ꜰ᷈ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ᴅ᷈ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ɢ᷈ꜱ᷈🤫 ᴡ᷈ɪ᷈ᴛ᷈ʜ᷈ ʏ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴜ᷈ ɪ᷈ɴ᷈ ᴀ᷈ ᴍ᷈ᴏ᷈ᴍ᷈ᴇ᷈ɴ᷈ᴛ᷈*# privately🕵️♀️ 💬💬💲ㄚ✶ᚓ║█♱𝟏𝟕𝟕𝟐𝟐𝟓𝟒𝟏𝟓𝟎𝟏📲█║❍✭✧♣️⍟☚☚♥️ ❗❎n᷈o᷈ W᷈h᷈ât᷈s᷈äp᷈p᷈❗📲█║❍✭✧♣⍟☚☚ ❗ɴ᷈ᴏ᷈ ᴡ᷈ʜ᷈âᴛ᷈ꜱ᷈äᴘ᷈ᴘ᷈❗
I’m glad she had the strength to tell the cops the truth especially after her mother not believing her
I’m imagining her as a little girl and what that must have been like - to know what your own father is doing is wrong. How afraid she must have been, and how nervous she had to feel before telling her mother. Then, to be called a liar. What does that do to a child? How do you recover from that? Sprinkle in a little police chase, both parents in prison, and a long stint in a juvenile facility when she’s entirely innocent. Victimization after victimization. I’m shocked at how much warmth and wisdom she radiates in spite of it all, and I hope she surrounds herself with people who love her and protect her.
Well said.
Protecting a man over your kids.The mother is just as guilty as the father.
My heart goes out to the survivor. I’m an incestual sexual abuse survivor, myself, and my perpetrator was my father, also. I’m so glad she was able to get some closure and hopefully she is able to heal. I never told anyone about what my dad was doing to me and my mother married my father and willingly conceived me with him in the hopes that I’d be born a girl and she KNEW he had been tried and convicted of indecency with a minor. I fear if I’d have told my mother what my father was doing to me that she’d have felt the same way as the mother in this story, “He swore he’d never do that again!”, “Are you sure he wasn’t just being affectionate?”, “Are you just mad at him for something and trying to get him in trouble for something he didn’t do?”
My mom passed away in 2010 and I never told her what happened to me as a child. I was molested and nearly raped by her nephew/my cousin and even though she had me examined by my pediatrician and did go to the police she decided that instead of getting justice for me that my cousin could just get some counseling and all would be right with the world. I wasn’t protected then and I doubt she would have pursued prosecution of my father if she knew what he’d done and how long he’d been doing it. I’ll never know for certain.
I'm sorry that those people didn't believe you but I hope you're healing
@@suzannerust8658 It’s a struggle but I -AM- healing. I have a loving partner and an amazing therapist so I have a great support system. I’m just glad that Steve did an episode about this. All too often people aren’t opposed to someone speaking about being sexually abused/assaulted but when they explain that their perpetrator was a relative, let alone their biological father, suddenly people don’t want to hear about it and there’s unspoken shaming that happens. Survivors don’t get to choose their perpetrators, but the topic makes people uncomfy. I actually live in terror of certain people (like my in-Laws) finding out about what happened to me because I don’t want them convincing my partner not to be with me or if we get to fulfill our dream of fostering-to-adopt a kid I don’t want there to be people putting it in my partner’s head that I’m going to hurt our child because my father was my perpetrator. Thankfully my partner knows quite well that I’d never in a trillion years do such a thing because I know, firsthand, the mental and emotional anguish that causes. We’ve already had one foster child for a short time (he was returned to his parents) and I was nothing but motherly to him. People just have weird ideas sometimes like incestual abuse survivors automatically becoming perpetrators themselves. 🤷🏻♀️ I’m also queer identified which only makes matters worse. I just walk with my head held high and know it’s not my shame to bear.
@@QuillBleu82 This is awful. My niece was sexually assaulted by someone my sister had living in their home. My niece started acting out and I knew something was wrong. I called my niece and posed questions to her in a way that would give me a hint that something happened, I drove from my state to the state where my sister resides, I picked up my niece, she told me everything, I called my sister, she immediately said my niece was lying. We went to the police station, the police went and picked him up, he confessed and went to prison. Up to this day, I don't deal with my sister, I want nothing to do with her. My niece is now gay, she told me she couldn't be with a man after what she went through, I'm wondering if that was the same way you felt.
Sad! She was let down in the worst way, by the 2 people that's supposed to protect her. The mother dismissing her daughter's claim and not believing her. When it comes to molestation, even the most respectable people are not exempt from being under suspicion. Those are not the type of allegations any real parent would ignore. As for her so-called father, he's completely sick. I hope he gets what he deserves.
Just because someone goes to Church doesn’t mean they aren’t Satan in disguise
Y'all bitches don't know me this Philly don't fuck with me
Satan ain't got nothing to do with the evils of man
@@adelinewurzer4533 he does tho
That MAN knew what he was doing, doesn’t have ANYTHING to do with Satan. HIS CHOICES,WERE HIS CHOICES.
Amen
When she started "crying" i literally became pissed and when her daughter walked away after she started crying i physically nodded bc she os smart and knows she just tryna guilt trip her
Now the mother lives with her and is getting money from her when she didn’t even raise or provided a decent place for her to stay. That’s so sad and honestly I hope she can break away and get some space from her “mother”
“NO, you don’t get nothing from me”😭 period steeeve!😭😭😭
I’m appalled by this “mother” of hers
right...makes her face want to slap my hand...hard af🙄
@@Dvorah__X especially when she wants credit given the fact that she testified. That’s not enough. U didn’t even believe her from the beginning
@@miarideout5401 Giiiirl....it was her saying SHE was a victim....puhlease, go lay in quicksand, lady! Her daughter is such a STRONG BLACK WOMAN because of her "mother" ...but, by using her as an example of what NOT to do!
@@Dvorah__X ooo I forgot she said that. Literally disgusting
@@miarideout5401 Extremely...so sad
Its disgraceful how the mother pretends to be the victim. She doesn't deserve her daughter!
why is the mom so confused on why her daughter is angry with her??? she completely dismissed her daughters cries for help, do you expect her to go line dancing with you? be serious.
A mother who doesn’t believe that her kid has been molested by the father isn’t a good mother at all . She basically chose her man over her own child . I know there were plenty of story episodes like this , but this one was just taking the cake . Even though she passed her test , she still failed her daughter by not believing she was molested and not protecting her .
This poor girl her voice is so sweet I wish you had a better mother your so strong
So much pain
Poor sweet heart I'm sorry for your pain and suffering at the hands of your own father and I hope you and your mom can grow together and heal you both were his victims and both need to not let him get one more moment of your lives you both deserve freedom and peace
My heart was beating so fast on this particular lie detector test as a mother I just couldn’t believe she would knowingly allow this 😭 thank you god she passed and hopefully they can move forward positively . And I’m praying for this child 🥺 you should always believe your daughter ! Periodt
The fact that the mom didnt belive her daugther, It makes me so sad
I am also a victim of S.A by my mothers husband, it started when I was 11 y.o until I was 13 and when I become an adult and had my kid I told her bc she was watching my son and I feared something happening to my baby and she didn’t believe me at all. So I understand what this girl is going through. This is why us victims stay quite, ppl don’t believe or even want to help us. 😢
Stop taking your kid to her
@@iamnunya7074 my son doesn’t go to her anymore. He’s 14 now . This was when he was born
@Kadeja Mccutchin I’m mixed. Colombian, African, Portuguese and native
@Kadeja Mccutchin just because she ain't your race means her abuse doesn't matter? Don't all lives matter hun?
@Kadeja Mccutchin why would you say that? That is so ignorant.
The mother only testified against the husband/ father to lesson her own charge, and time in jail. Disgusting lady.
Unfortunately, this is a fact
For this young woman to had gone through this level of trauma, she has turned into a respectable, beautiful, well spoken, and caring lady. The average person would have been bitter and would have given up on life and would have walked away from both parents....I pray she get the healing that she needs and deserves. My prayers are with her
I’m so sorry for this poor woman!! The mother is a jerk how in the he’ll is he such a great person but in and out of jail???
I wish I could just hug this poor girl, she's so beautiful and you can tell she has self esteem, trauma issues from the abuse, I hope she gets therapy, and love she deserves...
Omg. This is so heartbreaking and hits home for me. The moment when she said that sometimes she just don't want to be around her mother, it made me tear up. I do wish that mothers could understand how their child is damaged from situations like this. It's not that we don't love them, but there's hurt, betrayal and so much more and sometimes many of us just never cope with the situation or cope in our own ways.
The mother is a classic narcissist. She says she wants a closer bond with her daughter but also calls her jealous and disrespectful. She doesn't take seriously or understand the gravity of how badly she failed her daughter. The mother has no shame. She is selfish and cold hearted and projects her own failings onto her daughter. She has no real love for her daughter. She cares only for her image, for her own interests and for having the moral highground, I wouldn't be surprised if she allowed her daughter to be harmed because she is secretly competitive with her.
I feel like in a way, the "mother" gave the "father" permission. The daughter told her what was happening, yet the "mother" didn't believe nor do anything about it; to me that it her giving the "father" permission. Honestly hope the daughter just stays away from her. Hope she is able to find peace and seeks help for her trauma
Such an intelligent and wonderful young woman !!
Hope she is doing well
Thank you Steve!!! The mother is an piece of work man. The nerve man!!! And the father what an joke!!!!
Those are some awesome lie detector test results!! Love you Steve!
Another Jerry Springer Show, Fake.
@@ows8426 wrote this comment and liked it like you did something huh 🤣
Just The Fact That Your First Instincts Was To Not Believe Your Own Child Was Everything I Needed To Hear.
She was a very brave little girl. She actually told right away yet wasn't believed. Truly 😔.
Was molested from 11 to 14 by my uncle who’s five years older than I am. My mom and my grandma found out and I was told I could not tell anyone because my grandpa would kill him. At that point I didn’t trust them to keep him away from me so I moved six days away with my dad who I never live with. My mom to this day says it shouldn’t bother me I should just let it go and I can’t possibly still be psychologically affecting me at 54 however she is wrong I have a level of anger because my mom still has everything to do with my uncle she supports him 150% and she’s mad at me because I don’t and when I try to talk to her about the by borderline personality disorder she tells me that is just bullshit from the psych doctors trying to get more money and I should not have a problem I should just let it go and I have a serious problem with that and I feel for anyone else whose parents are like my mom was
I too developed Borderline personality disorder I was misdiagnosed as bipolar at first. It happened from about 3 to 13.
STAY AWAY FROM YOUR MOTHER AN FAMILY GET YOU SOME HELP, YOU DESERVE PEACE, PRAY PLACE GOD 1ST.. LOVE YOURSELF THIS WASN'T YOUR FAULT YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF MORE.. ❤️
I am soo sorry this has happened to you. I pray you can find the strength to give all your past trauma and sufferings to God. Our Lord and Savior has love just for you, love that isn’t judgmental, love that is pure and sincere. I currently am going through a case involving my 10 yo daughter who was 8 when she was SA by her 12 yo (who is now 14) cousin during a party. I watched my baby change drastically, and I’ve blamed myself. I have no support from my family, the abuser he’s getting all the support while my daughter and I are basically being ignored. I’ve chosen to give it to God, it was the best choice ever. We had an out of body experience, I had to deliver my baby from this violating spirit that has been talking to her at night. IT WAS WORK!! BUT OUR FATHER WORKED HARDER!! The devil has been working HARD since we delivered her, he’s been coming for me. He thought he had my baby and he’s upset I’ve played a part in helping her. I pray you can find a Church family to support you, also a good counselor. We did counseling for a while and she’ll continue just not as often. I promise you the love of Jesus helped set my baby free. I pray you can get this love and healing our Father has for you through Christ. I will keep you in my prayers 🙏🏽❤️
This is a good example of how the state should protect its children. They saw the drawing, they got to the truth and then they discover her own uncle is trying to kill her and they protected her from that. It’s sad that I’m surprised they saved this girl, but I’m so happy they did.
My babysitter did this to me when I was 6. My mom never believed me.
Omg I am so sorry. I am praying for your healing and you get closure.
And you got a new subscriber
@@ladiiblue2u634 I'm 46 now. I couldn't find closure through anyone. Just had to do some soul searching and close it myself. ❤️ Made me a much better parent.
@@ladiiblue2u634 Thanks luv.. ❤️
I pray that you were able to get the help that you needed in dealing with that. I am sorry for any young girl that goes through this type or any type of abuse. 😥
She said a “church man wouldn’t do that” like he wasn’t in jail, while she was pregnant and had her, I’m pretty sure a church man wouldn’t be in jail☠️ that’s sick she should have believed her 💯
@@igobylayna right
Sad she asked for the papers instead of asking for a hug from her daughter
‘Mother” Can I have those papers for family?” Steve “No, you don’t get nothin from me” Good job Steve 👍🏽 Instead of apologizing, telling her she loved her and she wants to step up Now as a mother she was only thinking about herself again. That mother can eat sh!
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Yeah she’s 🗑 for that
@@Christof_The_Great17 garbage
Children come first !! 😀 - my mom did this to help me ! I am a victim too - bless you Steve for showing this ! I know now I am not alone in my emotional battle
I hope this beautiful young lady finds peace and feels how it is to feel truly safe.
My mom didn't believe me either. I even had the surgeon tell my mom what he corrected that my birth father destroyed. (I was slowly bleeding to death from my backside) I finally had to have corrective surgery. The Dr told mom that I was the worse he'd ever seen. You CAN be strong after this. Mom STILL DOESN'T believe me. She's 76, I'm 57. My sons were also molested by my birth father. She doesn't believe them, either. I told them I do, and that I'm sorry.
I'm so sorry that you experienced such trauma. After your father did that to you, Why were your kids around your father?
You let him have your kids?
Some people DON'T DESERVE to be parents!! This is ABSOLUTELY SICKENING!! How can you not believe your own flesh and blood?! You gave birth to this beautiful young lady!! I can't say what I REALLY want to say to you freaking COWARD!! To this beautiful young lady? I PRAY you get the help you need to get you through this traumatic situation. LOTS of love, hugs and prayers from Kansas... 🙏💞🙏
Cause family ain't to be trusted either
This daughter doesn't need to be supporting her mother. Where was she when her daughter needed her? She's never supported or cared for her daughter but now she expects her to take her into her home and support her. Absolutely not, she needs to throw her ass out and tell her to stay out. She can and will make it without her and have a better life. She owes her mother NOTHING and that is what she needs to give her.
imagine that
the father got 20 to 40 years because of what he did but the mother gets 11 months leaving the child grow up with the nightmares of what happens like everyday Halloween for her
The fact that the mom is crying like she’s the victim here is pissing me off. Idc at the end of the day she’s a terrible mother bc your 9yr old daughter told you this man was abusing her and you didn’t believe her???? A damn shame and she better be grateful that her Daughter is even trying to work on their relationship bc she doesn’t deserve it.
I am currently 39 weeks pregnant, and it's been a horrible experience that I will never repeat. The thought of anyone hurting a single hair on this child's head at whatever age makes my blood boil. I will unlive anyone for my child, how can you call yourself a mother if you would let someone hurt yours???
Being involved in church does NOT make you a good person nor exempt you from being a predator. She brought up the fact that he was deacon as if it’s supposed to mean something. As sad as it is, predators are EVERYWHERE. It’s YOUR JOB to protect your kids.
You can never be too careful. I am a single mother and have been for 5 years, My child was under 3 years old when my ex left. He would not have been able to voice to me in a manner that he understood most likely if I ever had someone in our lives Who abused him. For many reasons I stayed single, but that was one of them. There was no need. That is a lot of trust to put into another human being. People call me over protective, I call them under protective and careless. These are babies and children's minds and souls at stake. We are the guardians. God gave us these gifts to protect with our lives.
I can relate to her. I was molested by my biological father when I was 9 yrs old. The worst memory I have ever today. The thing is my mom believed me. When I told her he was gone right then and there. Today I do struggle with the depression cand anxiety due to what happened and it messed my whole life up. Today I have 2 kids and 1 on the way and I am so careful who comes around my kids. I protect my kids fr everyone. I'm strict to a point but I'm always going to protect my babies. It happened to my grandma, my mom, my oldest uncle, my youngest uncle, me and my little sister 3 yrs ago. Its definitely messed up but I'm so glad I'm nothing like my dad.
Yall abuse victims always having kids
@@ayaoptimystic3455 what are we not suppose to? Like are we not allowed to try to move forward with our lives? Like I don't want to use my past on what happened to me to define who I am or what I can't do. For those who say this tbh I think is not right for even saying that like tbh I'm thinking how dare you. You think we're gonna just sit around and not have any type of life? Absolutely not. If you never had it happen to you (which I would never want that to happen to anybody) then you don't understand but it's more common sense. Everybody deserves to be happy when they are comfortable. Nobody asks to be molested it just happens. Its a horrible thing but it happens.
@@dominiquestimmell4732 you're too damaged and empty to give those kids what they deserve. You had them bc you're miserable. You should be ashamed.
@@ayaoptimystic3455 I may be damaged but I'm not broken. My kids are perfectly fine thanks. They are happy. I raise them myself and I teach them to be appreciative and to love and be kind to others. Don't tell me what I don't and do deserve. Your selfish for even saying a word to me or to anybody about anything. I'm not everybody. I didn't have my kids because I "miserable" cause that's not the case. You need to watch who you talk to and stop judging people when you have no idea what your even talking about. Have a nice day.
@@ayaoptimystic3455 That was a silly comment 😂. why would they not continue to live their lives ? Judging by that comment you seem like someone who would defend an attacker.
It seems like she doesn’t want to take accountability for her decisions. Like you didn’t believe her and she remembers that.
Anyone who dismisses and doesn’t defend someone who is innocent is a disgrace.
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This story is so sad. I just did a story about a 12 years old girl who went missing and days later the police found out she was 9 months pregnant. Her father and aunt ran a church that was like a cult. To this days she was never found.
What is the 12 year old girl's name?
@@ieshaanderson1317 Celina Mays
@@truecrimeyoutubehq thanks for responding
Why would a daughter make it up. Believe your child
Church guy in and out of jail. Yeah.
She admitted she didn't believe her daughter.
It’s The “You Get Nothing From Me😂😂
Poor woman, the most disturbing SW episode I've seen so far. I have a 9 year old niece. She lies a lot. But my sister, if my niece told her something like this happened, she would, as a mother, automatically believe her. If my niece came to me saying something like this happened, I would also automatically believe her. The mother let this poor woman down
She didn’t think someone who goes to church would do that? Seriously?!
Whenever your child is abused you have to be there for your child
I just really don’t understand how some people do absolutely nothing when their child says “someone is molesting me” or “someone raped me”
Even now she looks scared she is just holding her hands on her legs . I feel so bad for her
WHY do these victims insist on having relationships with parents who betrayed them?
Probably because they need closure and she feels like she needs it from her so called mother.
That's what I said. It's bc they're trauma bonding and see themselves in these pll now.
Idk but it's weird. Especially knowing her mom's didn't demonstrate 100% remorse.
Prayers and healing for my beautiful sister 🤎🌻🙏🏾
Her mama remind me of people I used to know. Just oblivious when it suits them and a self proclaimed victim every other time. Meanwhile they are really the root cause......😢
The way her daughter describes her feelings towards her mother, I can relate. I literally cannot stand the sight of that womans face. Deleted any picture of my mother's existence that I could, from my home, my phone, my life. 💯.
These moms and dads that don’t believe their kids and pick their spouse over their own children baffles me. I’ve never understood it. They tell them that they are liars and horrible things and then are shocked when their kids want nothing to do with them.
I told my family about being assaulted and they all looked away. Nobody would make eye contact or talk about it only my grandma said well it's too late now to say anything because we can't take him to court
She tried to cry and no tears came out...shocker!
Why isn't the mom in prison? Wow... I feel so bad for her
I think she died I'm glad. That's what somebody the chat said
If I was a juror if the world put a so-called not Mother in prison for jealousy over her own child because she just got to have a man syndrome as always the case I would wrote her guilty and send her upstate
I don't know what statement she made that blows my mind the most, she said he was a good guy then in the next breath said when she had her daughter he was in prison, but failed to say what he was in prison for, or the fact she didn't think church guys would "do that"
Steve got sturdy chairs now lol
You are a beautiful , strong young lady.
Praying for you
These mothers don’t want to lose their man! They ignore everything he does! They believe lies.
There’s PLENTY of mothers who would not believe that their partner was able to molest their children BUT they still kick them out of the household until it is proven that they did not. Which is hard to grasp a mother calling their 9 year old a liar when they’re showing all the signs of abuse. Lying, being disobedient, lashing out? That isn’t just teenage / childhood angst. It is a proven FACT that children act more than they say because often times they are unable to understand the abuse they enduring when it’s occurring plus it’s a “trusted” authoritative figure who convinced them it was normal or that they’d get in trouble. Children are not able to comprehend sexual activity which is why we have the laws that we do regarding it. So their brain will make them go on defense mode by lashing out, being disobedient, and lying because that’s the only thing they know how to get people to back off. Once they comprehend the wrong, they tend to speak out or they lash out even more. Most survivors of childhood SA do not speak towards it until they’re in their 50’s if they’re not forced to by an investigation that started by a loved adult.
Also, if your partner is in and out of jail, robbing cars, and is an all around bad dude? Him being part of a “church” is solely a front. Jesus did die on the cross for our sins but it’s not something as simple as “forgive me Jesus” and he does. You have to repent not for selfish intentions of getting in to heaven but repent because it’s what ultimately the right thing to do. There are also sins that you can NOT be forgiven. While mass majority of the sins can be forgiven, the ultimate one that you can NEVER be forgiven for is using the lords name in a blasphemous way. For instance, committing all these crimes while claiming Jesus is your right hand. OR what is more commonly seen, misrepresenting God’s word for selfish gains.
Your child is mad at him but she’s mad you didn’t believe her . For her to say she couldn’t believe a church guy could do that … if a deacon is going to jail that’s not the type of church guy I want praying for me 😢
Dude theses videos are good Steve thank you there’s a lot of people that need to speak on what has happened to them in the past
THE PART WHERE SHE DIDN'T BELIEVE HER DAUGHTER..............LIKE SERIOUSLY..................
How you can even take her in after what she failed to do has me baffled !! She’s using your kindness for weakness because she can’t get her life in order stepping up to the plate and taking and building a strong relationship with the daughter !! Very sad !!😢