9 Years Post First Stage Phalloplasty | Managing Expectations In Surgical Outcomes

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @FinnTheInfinncible
    @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +3

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  • @bnanaz
    @bnanaz Месяц назад +17

    Hey Finn, I'm 37 and 11 weeks on T and based in London. Your channel is such a valuable resource for me as you started your transition around the same age. I wanted to say you nailed it when you said that you just wanted to be a normal bloke. I remember saying in my appointments that I didn't want to be the most masculine carpet carrying dude in the room haha that I just wanted to just be a boring average guy and just exist. Thanks for not disappearing and being visible still :)

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +1

      Love this! Carpet carrying dude!!! Congrats on 11 weeks my friend 😁. Thank you for your lovely comment

  • @kathleendorman3221
    @kathleendorman3221 Месяц назад +9

    I was a regular watcher some time ago. I somehow was unsubscribed and you fell out of my algorithm. So glad I found you again. My eldest child is transgender MTF and I believe healthy trans people on the internet is so beneficial. Lord knows we get enough bad news! Thanks for telling your story!

  • @Si1v3r70ung3
    @Si1v3r70ung3 Месяц назад +2

    This came out a month before my chests first year anniversary of joyous teet yeeting. Once i was out of all the post op checkups, my new chest and nipples really became just normal and i can forget what it was like before. I am just a hairy guy now and i love hearing from you, so much father along and forgetting. You are the man you've always wanted to be and that is beautiful. I need creators like you sharing their junk so i can really know if phalloplasty is territory what I'm willing to put my body through or not. Thank you so much for having your willy on the Internet for education.

  • @zenstrain6647
    @zenstrain6647 Месяц назад +7

    The sleepy baby next to you! ❤
    Thanks for continuing to share Finn.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +2

      He's such a sweetheart isn't he! I have to slightly angle the camera because he ends up rolled on his back with all his bits on show 🤣🤣
      Thank you for your lovely comment 🙏

  • @DRockTransMan
    @DRockTransMan Месяц назад +6

    Great update Finn! Gets me thinking I should make an update video. You’re right, it’s so easy to disappear after all the surgeries are done and you’re just living life. But, it’s important to provide information on the long term results of lower surgery. Take care!

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад

      Hey lovely man! Yes, it's so easy to disappear and of course we should be able to. I'd never want anyone to be forced to be visible. The trouble is, there are so few of us older trans men, and even when we are visible we are still cut out of the public eye so it's so good when those that can, choose to stay visible and keep posting. It's important for people to see that aging happily is possible, to see what their future looks like, and of course that we exist!!😁

    • @DRockTransMan
      @DRockTransMan Месяц назад +1

      @@FinnTheInfinncible Yes, not sure when I became an “older trans man” but here I am!😂 Happy to stay visible and share my little story if it helps anyone on their journey.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад

      @@DRockTransMan haha! Me either! I think anyone over 25 is automatically now old and becomes invisible 😂

  • @gmcdon
    @gmcdon Месяц назад +2

    Must say that I flit in and out of your videos every few years. I remember your first stage vividly. I remember you talking about your feelings back then. I’m chuffed to bits for you Finn, really glad to see you happy and settled and be where you wanted to be from the start

  • @manchitas3531
    @manchitas3531 Месяц назад +5

    Love you to pieces, Finn. You are such a pure-heart soul!

  • @amyayars-evans4666
    @amyayars-evans4666 Месяц назад +6

    I remember when Finn Jr came home!!! 😂 Can't believe he is 9!

  • @Moosh207
    @Moosh207 Месяц назад +4

    It's a beautiful gift we give to ourselves when we quieten the noise in our heads. So proud of you and the endless capacity you have to believe in yourself and the patience you had while processing through all of the difficult challenges you faced along the way. And there were some big big challenges, from peeing every ten minutes to having big blood clots.. You got through them all (with trained medical supervision of course) and arrived at your vision of where you wanted to be. And now you continue to pay it forward ❤️ I'm really happy to hear that there is another team in London and more surgeries are taking place for people. Thats really good news

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +1

      Ah Michele what a lovely comment, thank you, it's been so wonderful to share it all with you ! How fab to find a comment from you

    • @Moosh207
      @Moosh207 Месяц назад +1

      @@FinnTheInfinncible it's always lovely talking to you too Finn 💜

  • @kinda888
    @kinda888 Месяц назад +1

    I just watch your video 10yrs ago your like 10 months on T during that time.. I'm 39 right now and I'm on my 2 months of testosterone.. I hope you upload more video because we both start out testosterone shot at the same age. I'm from Philippines anyway.

  • @Foundinthewoodsbushcraft
    @Foundinthewoodsbushcraft Месяц назад

    Hey Fin, Love you to pieces you've done massive things for the community. For that, you are well-known and much respected 💯. I just want you to know we love Finn Finn.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад

      What an absolutely wonderful comment to find today, thank you so very much for this

  • @georgemouse6778
    @georgemouse6778 Месяц назад +1

    Fantastic. All the best in your new home.

  • @kardwise9714
    @kardwise9714 Месяц назад +7

    53 now and still have not been able to afford the time off needed for lower surgery, but perhaps one day. Your story gives me hope. As your story has always gave me.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +2

      I love that I give you hope. You have no idea how much that means to me
      It's so hard managing transition and life isn't it? Especially something as massive as lower surgery. I hope one day you find a way to make it work.

  • @oliverg6864
    @oliverg6864 Месяц назад +2

    So well spoken as always Finn!

  • @Ryan__7926
    @Ryan__7926 Месяц назад +1

    🎉🎉🎉 Congrats and Happy Anniversary, Finn! You are such a lovely soul and I’m grateful for the information and energy you share here on RUclips. I always feel cheered up after one of your videos. 😄

  • @stefaniedecoster2772
    @stefaniedecoster2772 Месяц назад +2

    Expertly shared & beautifully said as usual Finn. I first saw one of your video's in my recommended list when you were in the run-up to stage 1 and never stopped watching your channel. And what a lovely friend I gained too! Sending love from along the river IJssel in the Netherlands (haven't spotted any sheep today to send you a picture of) and sniffs and purrs from Paxton x

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +1

      Ah what a lovely message! I love that the universe connected us! Sending much love and high paws from Pip!

  • @satunbreeze
    @satunbreeze 22 дня назад

    This video helped me realize that I care more about having a phallo penis more than I care about being able to stand to pee. Ive been having such a problem with consolidating the fact that most phallo surgeons refuse to do phallo on people with urethral hookup who want to spare the bat cave, and while I would absolutely love to be able to stand to pee, I dont think its NECESSARY for me. I think if I had to choose, I would just like to have the tdick buried and call it a day. If I cant have my perfect ideal, I think thats my second best option. Thank you for making this video. Listening to you and other trans guys talk about their experiences always helps me understand myself better.

  • @RaefonB
    @RaefonB Месяц назад +5

    So glad you call it phalloplasty and lower surgery - "bottom surgery" never sounds right to me, puts the wrong pictures in me head! :D
    (Anonymous) Q: Are you likely to need another op to replace the erectile device in the future? And have doctors advised anything special about the recovery period, etc. (as you'll be a bit older)?
    (Anonymous) Q: How are your arm and hand doing where they took the graft from, any pains/post-op loss of sensation/grip strength change?

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +4

      Hello my friend! I couldn't agree more, bottom surgery sounds so weird!!! These are great questions, I will do a 6 years post implant vlog and answer these, thank you!

    • @RaefonB
      @RaefonB Месяц назад

      @@FinnTheInfinncible Cheers. Take care of yourself and have a good weekend, mate.

  • @teijaflink2226
    @teijaflink2226 Месяц назад +1

    Congratulations and you look and seem like a totally normal 50 year old bloke, awesome that you are finally happy and content with yourself.

  • @natashamason3328
    @natashamason3328 Месяц назад +3

    Love seeing these celebration vlogs. You should absolutely shout about your results xx

  • @beautyneytiri
    @beautyneytiri Месяц назад +1

    9 years ago though?
    wow intersting!
    i still hear people say that these surgeries aren't developed enough yet.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +2

      Well there are plenty of people having very successful surgeries so they are clearly developed enough!

    • @eneedham789
      @eneedham789 Месяц назад

      They do have pretty high complication rates (75% plus)

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +2

      @@eneedham789 it's a complicated multi stage surgery. Complications happens, but complications are also fixed.

  • @miloraoof7654
    @miloraoof7654 Месяц назад +3

    You have the best T-shirts!!!!

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад

      Thank you! This is one of my own creations! It's in my shop 😁

  • @pequenogaio4771
    @pequenogaio4771 Месяц назад +1

    Hey! Lovely video, as always. Thank you so much for sharing

  • @pyenygren2299
    @pyenygren2299 Месяц назад +2

    Got to love the sleeping dog. 🐶

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +2

      He's so chilled when I film now! He used to try to eat the camera 🤣

  • @musicmad4415
    @musicmad4415 Месяц назад +2

    Hey thank you for another great video, I actually have a question about drama therapy I have’t heard about it and it’s something that sounds like it would be helpful for me but I don’t know a lot about it and how to access it wondered if you have any info 👍 (ps. So happy for you and it’s always so refreshing hearing someone so open an honest )

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад

      Thank you for such a lovely comment 😊
      Drama therapy was terrifying but so helpful! It's basically all about creativity as a way of exploring feelings and letting things out.
      I was very lucky and accessed it as part of a project through gendered intelligence back in early transition. You can sometimes find it offered through charity schemes ,otherwise you will have to pay for sessions , but you may be able to get concession prices.
      I'll link you to some videos I made , they are old but hopefully useful.
      ruclips.net/video/sie5fXef_zo/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/wkfvqycl-Ng/видео.html
      And this is some more information about drama therapy.
      www.badth.org.uk/dramatherapy/what-is-dramatherapy
      I hope this helps!

    • @musicmad4415
      @musicmad4415 Месяц назад +1

      Thank you so much 👍

  • @immersiveexperiences4799
    @immersiveexperiences4799 Месяц назад +1

    so inspring !

  • @martinacassells2661
    @martinacassells2661 Месяц назад +1

    Finn you are a lovely wonderful bloke xx what was you doing on the telly?

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад

      Ah thank you! I was on Channel 4's series Naked Education. Here is some info finlaygames.com/appearing-in-ch4s-naked-education-discussing-phalloplasty/

    • @martinacassells2661
      @martinacassells2661 Месяц назад

      @@FinnTheInfinncible Finn you are just amazing xxx

  • @FTMBro-e9v
    @FTMBro-e9v Месяц назад

    Happy phal* anniversary and Thank you for the update! Could you please tell me some more about the sensation, you said it is desplaced but in another video you said if it gets touched you feel it as a p* and not in the old parts so now I’m confused 😅

  • @satunbreeze
    @satunbreeze 22 дня назад

    I have a question but not related to phallo. Over the years that youve been on testosterone, have you decreased your dose of testosterone since you arent really "actively" transitioning anymore? Like, are you on more of a maintenance dose now, or have you stayed on the original dose that you started at?

  • @robinknight6025
    @robinknight6025 Месяц назад

    Finn OMG ur 50 I'm 55 but I'm just starting out I'm my journey like 4 weeks today on T I watch ur early videos cause it's like we are doing it together ur my inspiration yup yup any way ur in the UK I'm in the US of A and we're both FTM bros lol not trying to be weird damn I'm sounding weird um but yeah ok that was weird well please don't stop the videos and if ur ever in the states we will have to meet and go for coffee and if I to the UK tea and yeah do a bro thing or what not peace

  • @beautyneytiri
    @beautyneytiri Месяц назад +2

    ''i'm just a normal bloke, forgetting that i'm trans''
    yet you wear a trans t-shirt and you have a rainbow thing behind you.
    personally i'm sa transgender/non binary person and i have nothing lgbt related.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +2

      I can forget and get on in my daily life yet still celebrate my identity. I still consider myself part of a community and continue to attend events, prides ect and display rainbows, wears t shirts ect, to show my pride .

  • @that__girl_from
    @that__girl_from Месяц назад

  • @stefaniedecoster2772
    @stefaniedecoster2772 Месяц назад +1

    Hiya Finn!

  • @Rose-m1d9d
    @Rose-m1d9d Месяц назад +1

    Hi my love ❤x

  • @TheLord-YT-FTM
    @TheLord-YT-FTM Месяц назад

    I might be the only alpha transman I know of, I am glad you have found yourself, but ive been secretly looking for a fellow transman that comes across as an alpha male, you 100% pass but you come across very gay man, very beta. I use the gym to harden all my features, and I think the only way to be Alpha is to under no circumstances can you picture sex with males, the part that is willing to sleep with men is always beta. Ive slept with men in the pass, but conditioning yourself to be repulsed by such things is alpha. cant be a taker and an alpha.

    • @Toxoid49b
      @Toxoid49b Месяц назад +12

      I basically never comment on anything, but if this isn't the saddest comment I've ever read in my life I honestly don't know what is

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +14

      This is ridiculous. There is nothing wrong with being gay. I am gay! Being gay doesn't make me any less of a man at all.

    • @Nic0Dr4ws
      @Nic0Dr4ws 28 дней назад

      Alright, are you a sigma then if you’re a switch/vers? Just wondering so I can get my alpha hierarchy identity right 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @rainbowtropolis
    @rainbowtropolis Месяц назад +1

    Hello Finn, welcome to my screen again! Lovely as always to see you as well 😊
    Happy 9 year peenivarsary! 🍆 (is that too weird? I hope not, because I'm weird and I like sharing my weirdness with people I like hehe)
    Of course, I always have the weird question! Do you notice any scarring left or does your "down there fur" cover it up?
    I've been thinking about if I want to do any lower surgery, but it all depends on my body being able to handle it at this point (47 with autoimmune issues). I'd love to feel like the real full me I've always felt I am, but my body kind of stands in my way (how ironic huh?)
    I love how you bring up that no cis man is happy with their member, and that's part of life. Wonderful way to describe things!
    Have you expanded on, or recolored your arm tattoo?
    Give Chris and Pip some subscriber loves from Minnesota for me! 🫶

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  Месяц назад +2

      Haha! Nope wishing me a happy peenaversary isn't weird but even if it was I love weirdness and would be honoured to have you share your weirdness with me 🤣
      Good question! Yes I do have some scaring on my pubic area. If I leave my hair short you can see it so I leave it a little longer.
      I still need to get my tattoo finished. The COVID lockdown got in the way and then so did the severe onset on my chronic illness. I'm now a little anxious to get it done as I know it's going to upset 'Fred'! But I will at some point
      It's really hard when our bodies get in the way isn't it? I'm not sure mine would manage surgery now. When my implant needs replacing I'm going to have to face some difficult decisions myself!
      Lovely to hear from you bud. Much love to you from us!

  • @Raynerd
    @Raynerd Месяц назад

    I really admire your perspective. I've been on T for 10 years now. I've had my top surgery, and I've been conflicted about phalloplasty.
    It is something I've wanted for over a decade now, but I'd love to hear more open conversations like this, so I can have some insight. There hasn't been much long-term info out there from guys having this experience.
    There is so much value in sharing your experience!
    If you don't mind, I do have some questions. Only answer if you feel comfortable:
    How do you feel about your arm scar, and do people ask about it often?
    Do your implants ever need to be checked on or surgically replaced after a certain amount of time?
    Do you feel like you might still be happy with the results, even if you couldn't have the impants?
    Thank you for reading my comment, and feel free to let me know if anything I've asked isn't something you'd like to respond to!
    Much love and thanks! ❤
    🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵