Adoptee Addresses Myka Stauffer "Rehoming" Her Autistic Child | Kat Blaque
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Adoptee Addresses Myka Stauffer "Rehoming" Her Autistic Child
Her saying she adopted this Asian child because she thought he would be shy and quiet feels gross to me....
It is gross!
she basically had this weird sick cute asian child fetish and she didn't even care about his severe condition which she had been warned by the doctor about and she didn't care because views!
Cash grab 100%
She had an imagination of how this child would be and how she would be the one to change this autistic child to a normal behaving kid. It's so gross.
Because that's her stereotype of what she thinks Asians are.
"I was expecting a shy guy that wants love and cuddles..." she sounds like she's shopping Jesus christ. the way she talks about an actual human baby is so like....detached. so clinical and overly neutral. it's unsettling
Yeah, it just sounds like she just made up a personality for him without ever meeting him in person which is...weird, because he's a person. Who she hadn't met at that point.
She's a narcissist. A child doesn't fit with her needs to be the focus, to make cringe video content and have that kid fit into what she wants to do.
lol she thinks ANY child will be like that? Every child is a screaming ball of emotions, that yes, can be quiet, and want love and cuddles, but will have those moments of screaming, meltdowns and tantrums.
It's disturbing. Did she not realise that you don't get to pick your child's personality when you adopt them? You could adopt a freaking 17 year old young adult right before they "age out" of the system and in six months to a year they could have a totally different personality, because human beings grow, change and develop all the time (and, being real, having some stability and hopefully emotionally mature and open adoptive parents after years in the foster system will change you -- ideally for the better). Unless you were adopting a 20-odd year old, you don't know what personality someone is going to have when you meet them, and even older step-parents don't "adopt" their adult step-kids! It demonstrates a complete lack of preparation, insight or readiness for adopting a young child.
Also your right why didn't she hire a nanny that had experience with autism,probaly because she wanted to be the star of the show and not share credit,but in the end a nanny would of been better than rehoming
“Rehoming” is what happens when you’re too sick to take care of a pet. Not what happens when you decide a child is affecting your RUclips aesthetic. Disgusting. Don’t take on responsibilities you aren’t willing to fulfill.
It's also extremely dehumanizing language. You "re-home" dogs and cats when they get difficult. You don't treat children that way.
Oh, she still wants a disabled child, just not too disabled.
PREACH!
@@Celebrian666 Literally🙄
I adopted my dog two years ago as a healthy puppy, she developed has a host of other medical issues after I adopted her. I am a college student but I am working hard part time to pay for her vet bills. I get up at 5am so I can walk her. I will never give up on her. I could not imagine her being someone else’s. When I took her home from the shelter I knew I was making a 10- 15 year commitment to being her caregiver. I cannot believe that family rehomed a child because things got hard and it didn’t suit her anymore. I just cannot.
“Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child”
Perfect 👌
So true. Not every person is capable of caring for a child. But every child needs that person that loves and cares for them no matter what.
I 100% believe parenting should require a license. Granted this would require a much-improved foster and adoption system, but that needs to happen anyway.
Why I'm aiming to help other moms before
Also the whole 'united house can stand'
Human race - we win together
@@mitchh3092 In an ideal world I might agree, but in the real world such licenses would be used to discriminate against certain people who are deemed not fit to have children for reasons they can’t control. It would get eugenics-y fast.
No. I refuse to call it rehoming. She abandoned that child. They abandoned that child because they were unwilling to accommodate them😠
So basically they got the child for PR and then they used him until it was no longer beneficial to them, and tossed him out like leftovers.
I cannot begin to express how absolutely revolting this is. Their actions were just unneccesarily callous. It's one thing to be an asshole, but to drag an innocent child into your assholery and destroy their lives just because you can is absolutely unacceptable. What in the absolute fuck is going on nowadays?
Yes, please everyone stop using that word. The only time I've ever used the term Rehome is in reference to pets. We are talking about a living human child here.
I agree about the word "Rehoming". You rehome pets.
Exactly. There’s a difference between doing your absolute best and relaxing early on it would be unfair to both children involved and contacting them former foster parent or adoption agency ASAP.. but you can’t just be like “mehhh I don’t want it anymore” after 3 god damn years. That was his freaking mommy :(
I hate it being called rehoming, I hate it even for dogs! If you agree, sign forms and sign your name to say you will look after, love and care for a sentient being, be it a tortoise, a fish or a fucking human child, you do it. You look after them. I'm not sure how you can give someone away, not with a clean conscious.
i'm not even a minute in and i hate what this woman is saying about her child. "I imagined he'd be different!!" well, no shit it didn't work out. She wanted a doll, not a child. Unfortunately, I feel like that's not an uncommon mindset for parents to have...
Totally the same! If I was hearing someone talk about a dog that way I would be concerned for the pore dogs future. To talk about a human being like that should have been enough to stop any adoption.
yeah you can't really go into adopting and "expect" anything, just like you can't give your biological baby back because they didn't get blue eyes.
thats such a toxic mindset even for biological children. you dont get to expect something, devotion or character wise, of a child just because you birthed them or singed papers that made you their parents.
i cant believe a woman who already had 5(?) children still made that thinking mistake when adopting
You took the words right oit of my mouth. At some point in life I would greatly like to adopt because there are already enough children who need parents. situations like this disgusteded me because you don't make preset ideas of your kids you get to know them for the people they are and give guidance and support. Adoption is already difficult an option for some people and Yo me it's just a spit in the face.
Probably some racism mixed in there with the way she described wanting him to be.
I hate her. I really do. “Are you done?” “Huxley is having ANOTHER fit” “he’s probably having a meltdown”, uh, what the hell??? She is not qualified whatsoever. This disgusts me.
That is gaslighting like crazy. My parents did that to me when I was a kid and had meltdowns in social settings. They would ignore it to death and punish me. 24 years later, come to find out, I had undiagnosed autism. My parents never took the time to look into it and thought I was being shy or wanted attention (when really attention made it worse).
The most disgusting part of this is that she knows how to comfort Huxley and explain to him when he did something that is wrong. There is a clip of her comforting Huxley by squeezing his arm and explaining that he shouldn't bite people. She knows how to handle him, but she deliberately does that out of a malicious intent.
She didn't want to have Huxley understand and learn, she was trying to show everyone how "good of a mom" she is for "putting up with him". What a disgusting piece of excrement.
Edit: Spelling.
Her own kids were sucking their fingers too but she didn't duct taped their fingers. I hope she gets charges, loses her parental rights and get long time in jail. She's such a narcissist. She wants good looking kids, good looking house etc, Huxley didn't make her channel "glamorous" so she got rid of him. EVIL!
Huxley is better looking than her sons IMO, and certainly her husband who looks like a garlic with hair.
@@Phenrex youre assuming intent though. Do you know the mother enough to asume that is the case, other than of course the youtube videos.
There may be more outside the carmera lense that gave her family pause about the adoption.
However, I will also be honest, I dont know enough about the situation to fully give people that condemnation. Until I know, innocent till guilty.
Edit: NM the trip to Bali is a nail in the coffin
She talks about getting a child the way one would choose a dog. "This breed is supposed to be cuddely.That breed is easy to train..." newsflash: this doesn't even work for dogs. Most definitely not for a human beeing. Absolutely disgusting.
I also think that "numerous medical professionals" have felt that you are completely unfit to be a parent (both btw) and should be nowhere near a child.
It isn’t the slightest bit on to think about a dog that way either. They aren’t toys either, they have every right to be the way they are and loved the way they are too. They way people think of animals as existing because of what they can do for people is disgusting.
There are some genetic dispositions in any of us that lightly predetermine our behavior, with a huge emphasis on lightly. The rest comes from our experience and personality.
Same goes for dogs a specific breed has specific genetic dispositions yet the personality they form can differ a lot from the expected result.
@@Stachelbeeerchen the genetic disposition in dogs, however, is far more reliable and specific due to decades upon decades of selective breeding. You *can* give a list of breed specific traits that apply to the vast majority of that breed because outliers are typically not allowed to reproduce. We, of course, do *not* apply this method to humans as we recognize how disturbing, harmful, and dangerous that is, leading to a lot more variety and less predictability in traits. Obviously, experiences in life may also change how traits present, but a dog who has always feared other dogs will likely continue to always fear other dogs, whereas a dog who had an adverse experience create a fear of dogs has a higher likelihood of recovering the former friendly demeanor they once had.
@@System_Spark ^
“Protect his privacy” ok like they didn’t parade him around the internet to gain tons of money
Oh to be so close to the point of your problematic behavior and to completely miss it 🙃 and that is giving them the benefit of the doubt-which I don’t
exactly! such hypocrisy.
They are still monetised and up. Imagine growing up and realising that your family ditched you and kept making money of you
GeorgieBB I’m so pissed off. I saw you have 888 likes and someone liked not it’s 889. At least I can like now because it’s already uneven.
@@mushy470 yes even worse He dont See a dime of IT aswell used Money from other people since they gave her Money for Huxley to raise
He was never "her" child in her eyes. She always referred to him as their "adoptive son" and the others as their "bio-kids". They have no trouble doing this because he was never considered a real part of their family... Sickening as someone who grew up in foster care.
Wow. She and her husband are like rotten onions. Every time you peel away a layer, you find rottenness underneath.
I am sorry you experienced this. I love my children equally, the one that has my DNA and the one that doesn't.
See Chao as an asian transracial adoptee she absolutely disgusts me
As an adoptee whose an only child, that's probably one of my biggest 'what id' fears.
i just want to point out that the wife is getting the brunt of the blame here and the husband is just as much to blame for this. they’re both awful.
To me I still think the wife is way more awful than her husband since she's the one making all the youtube videos about Huxley. Also, she constantly talks about how jealous she is when Huxley hugs her husband and gives him attention, and how Huxley never does that with her. She's the most controlling and she was trying to make a better connection with Huxley.
A man should still man up and not let her be that way
Agree! In the start he was like "Myka has tried so hard SHE makes so much effort" as if the whole process was her hobby or something. Seems to me he's not taking responsibility so there was too much work load on her!
anna kleopatra the “man” probably enjoys the clout and money. Your gender doesn’t determine your morals. She should’ve known better as a BIOLOGICAL mother to not use children for monetary gain. Absolutely vile people no matter the bystander (husband) or the abuser (wife) so cruelly disgusting. 🤮
I agree, they are parents. Both of them.
the word re-homing rubs me the wrong way. like something you'd say about a pet.
Right! It's upsetting af.
That person would put a pet down because it does not fit their livestyle.
Although these people are disgusting, I feel like I need to add that "re-homing" or "re-housing" are terms frequently used in foster care (I'm a former foster youth). These people absolutely suck, but the treatment of foster and adopted children as pets and toys goes far beyond just them, it's a whole worldwide issue
Seriously though. Like he’s a damn chihuahua.
I once had a cat from an asylum and I felt bad that ofter 3 months I couldn't handle her.
That child is owed millions of dollars.
Can the state or someone sue the family?
and a family who doesn't exploit him
TRUTH
rose novel Every fucking cent they made from exploiting him and they should no longer be allowed on social platforms. This is ridiculous.
@@monabling8807 you know, this situation could become bigger. China could interviene?
asking a kid "are you done?" in that tone when they're breaking down and in tears is a great way to tell them that they aren't allowed to feel how they do
I had that happen once in elementary school, needless to say "NO! I wasn't done thanks to you badgering me."
Italian parents always do that...
@@alessandrocoppede3066 i don't think that has much to do with being italian, just being abusive (i often hear parents say this here in greece too though)
@@symeonsays yeah but mediterrenean cultures tend to be less aware of these pedagogic principles than, say, northern european ones
Same. My mom does it to this day. And I don’t feel safe to feel my own feelings anymore.
"Rehome" is an awfully weird way to spell "abandon the vulnerable child you promised to love and care for because he was a mild inconvenience to your lifestyle."
Ah but the truth doesn’t have the catchy ring to it that brings views 👀
It is, but I think he's better off with a different family. He needs a home that can care for him and that actually loves him, and is not only able to give him what he needs but also willing to do that. So many people see adopted children as disposable when they're just not. I hope this woman is never able to have any other children ever again, biological or otherwise.
As someone who has ADHD and gets overwhelmed and has 'meltdowns' when that happens, if my parents filmed me crying and overall just completely emotionally struggling then posting it on the internet, I would "re-home" myself
Same happened to me. Why do people feel the need to do it? Especially when the parent causes the "meltdown".
Same here, I have ASD and ADHD who suffers Anxiety, I couldn't imagine my parents doing something like this.
I agree, as a person with ADHD. Whenever I would break down, I’ve had my birth father berate me. And it’s to the point where when he told me that I was being weak for crying when it annoyed him at the age of six, I’m now eighteen and my mental trauma gets so bad that I tend to get anxious whenever I interact with my father. I understand it’s not the same as having adoptive parents, but I’ve always felt tortured by the fact that I can never feel safe around my own father. Not once since I was a child have I felt like I didn’t need to lie to his face. I’m honestly convinced he has unresolved mental disorders because he tends to switch the way he feels for no reason. And while ppl that have disorders that include manic changes in emotions aren’t bad, my father has never learned for his mistakes. He’s apologized for getting mad at me over little things, but when it really counts, he never understands or even tries to.
At this point in my life, I know I won’t ever have the relationship I want with him. But I have constantly been told from my mom (who I love) that she feels bad that I can’t have a relationship with him. But it’s not much of a relationship to begin with when I have gotten anxious to the point of almost of having a panic attack over seeing my father in person, and that I have to tell myself that he doesn’t care because it would only hurt me more if I believe he does. At this point saying that I love him feels like a chore because when I know he can’t accept me for who I am, it’s hard to say I love him too.
This situation is absolutely awful - my son is neurodivergent and he has meltdowns. He is my son and I couldn’t be more proud of who he is and the young man he has become. Talking to this toddler like she did is not ok. It’s awful! She obviously doesn’t “get it”. It’s like telling a toddler eat this food you don’t like or play with this toy you hate… it doesn’t make sense. Poor kid. I hope he is loved and hugged and accepted for who he is 100%. Everyone deserves unconditional love 💜💙💚
it's such an upsetting situation. it's the white saviour mum mixed with wanting a disabled child not so they can have a loving home but so you can pat yourself on the back. her saying she basically wanted a quiet child who wanted to be coddled all the time like he was no different from a dog or something was so gross
this is the same white people who go on mission trips oversea and use POC and especially children as inhuman props in photos
um, I have never met or seen a "quiet" child. She wants a plant, not children. We will know more when the kids are grown and they can explain how their mom is a sick narcissist.
All of the videos I've seen of him he just acts like a regular kid
@@lesabri A terrarium probably, since most plants need watering.
@@KatBlaque 0:38 The child is making eye contact...usually people with autism cannot do this. Even with therapy, this isn't something such a youngster could master in such a short amount of time.
Interesting how she automatically expected this Chinese child to be shy and quiet... Basically she was expecting an asian stereotype.
She wanted a doll, not a kid. Absolute fool. Children are a lot to handle, no matter the race.
THIS
shy, quiet and compliant specifically. guess he was missing the compliance
@@Kareragirl no matter the race, no matter the neurology, a kid is ALWAYS a huge commitment
@@imsorryrumham7686 Facts no printer
it’s obvious also that she wanted like , a “cute meek Asian baby” and then Huxley wasn’t that stereotype and she didn’t want him anymore
Damn, unfortunately true 😥
Yep that shit was literally racist too
That gets me so fucking angry
Racist. And Probably ableist too. She likely thought that Huxley being autistic would just add to him being a "meek and shy gentle wittle babey " and a plus of her being "lovely superhero autism mommy!!" and blatantly neglected any research
Insane because he is a human not a pure bred dog......
I knew a young man who was rehomed six times before the age of 11 due to ADHD. His last father spent $100’s of thousands on treatments and therapies. But it still wasn’t enough to undo the damage done in his first 11 years. Sadly the young man committed suicide at age 26. His father is devastated.
Oh my :(
Damn. Poor thing.
Oh shit 💔
did you say ADHD? ADHfuckingD? That's just... I was diagnosed in my 50's after decades of struggle and once you know you have it, it's easy to work with. What, the parents didn't want to spring for the meds or spend a couple hundred dollars on some shelves and baskets that would make it easier to keep their room neat and organized?
Fuck.. I'm forever grateful both my parents and half my other relatives all have ADHD. I can't imagine growing up and my own family not understanding the struggle my brain went through each day, or even recognizing that what was happening, I had zero control over. :(
“are you done?” disgusting
I know right! When I saw her saying that I was like.. why aren’t you trying to figure out what’s bothering him to comfort him.
my mom would say that too me a lot (or just walk away from me until i "calmed down") and that was literally the worst feeling I can imagine. UGH it sucked so much. Im not even autistic though if I was it wouldve been 100x worse.
@@unoriginal1086 My mom always did that and still does, which doesn't help my Aspie brain, at all. Then again, she was always pretty... distant, in a lot of ways. 😕
Sometimes I have brief panic attacks that take my breath away and I need to pause and try to control myself. I can’t imagine how it would feel to literally be in emotional and physical PAIN, only to have your mother say “are you done yet?”
You would think that for somebody who already had a couple kids that she would have some EMPATHY she is just awful...
"we've been trying to protect his privacy and his rights" but you weren't doing that when you recorded his 'meltdowns' for the world to see. white saviour complex is dangerous.
Martyr complex too. There are people who do this exact thing to their bio kids because of martyr complex. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martyr_complex
"Look at how awful things I have to live through because of this child! I am such a strong and brave victim! Revere me!"
Autism martyr moms really are just the worst
My thoughts exactly
Exactly, they did not care about his privacy. They care about their privacy.
I was fenna say this!!
Worst part is the terrible fits she shows its just a kid acting like a kid. I'm so disgusted.
They're actually part of his autism. He's not having a tantrum to be stubborn, he's just unable to process what is happening in that moment and that's how he deals with it. When you have an autistic child you learn how to help them process and come out of that state.
Her saying ‘are you done!?’ Makes me SICK, they don’t deserve children
!!! it was so gross
Omg I know when I heard him cry mildly I was like "she gave him up because she couldn't handle THAT?? How does she handle ANY child?? They all cry and throw fits"
@@renoloverxoxo I imagine that if they really loved him and wanted to raise him they would have done the research, done everything they could do to understand autism, and would've had a better idea of how to correctly handle these situations. They just wanted the money.
Their biological children will be scarred too knowing what their parents did. They’re going to think their parents could abandon them at any time.
I doubt it.
The "parents" obviously treated Huxley like "not their child", so I don't think the kids even saw him as a sibling; through no fault of their own, of course but reflecting the feelings and actions of their parents (which is what usually happens with kids, until they start forming their own concepts and opinions).
Yes, yes yes.
Defunitely.
she actually documented the fact that she was seeking out a special needs child and asked her subs to donate to the adoption fund. definitely a huge cash grab. she is a heartless monster.
literally! how do you want a special needs child and say youre ready for all that entails and then not want to deal with it. doctors actually WARNED her and she said “no this is the one” and said it essentially went “one ear and out the other” like girl you knew what you were in for
They should have to pay the donations back, and give every dollar of money made from Huxley into a trust for him or other financial package to help care for him.
@@davidmayberry3190 and to buy a lot of lovely stimming toys
@@princessmanitari4993 I don't even know what that means, is it things that provide stimulation for people with autism?
Yup at least in my state, having a special needs child or a child with mental illness will double the amount you get.
How come everyone is just saying Myka? She is married. Myka and James her husband put their adopted son back up for adoption. He deserves all of the backlash as well.
it seems it's more acceptable for men to abandon children for some reason
because she is behind the youtube channel and appeared as though when she was unable to exploit him on said channel they sent him. Her channel was the catalyst
@@MCMXCDX you are literally not allowed to adopt a child if you are not married. So it is a choice two people have to make. I don't see where his responsibility should be less than hers..
@@NotANoob27x7 Single, unmarried people actually are allowed to adopt children. Not in all cases, of course. Some countries don't allow unmarried people to adopt (if an international adoption is taking place) but most, if not all, US states allow single-parent adoptions.
+Sato Saotome A lot of people don’t know that. Not everyone is looking into adopting a child. Like I said in another comment, the mother is the forefront of the drama, that’s why she’s getting more of the blame. She’s also the one running the family channel while her husband is doing his own thing on another channel.
An important note. She wanted a kid with special needs, she knew exactly what she was getting into
I honestly can’t emphasise how hated this woman is in the autistic community .She is the reason why autistic people need more representation in the media and not ridiculed or caricatured and used as some sort of token character in novels written by white middle-class women.
"If you're going to adopt a child you need to be ready for anything" YES! As an autistic guy with autistic kids, I've said this so many times. If you don't want an autistic kid (or a queer kid or a kid with disabilities or whatever else) DON'T HAVE KIDS. You aren't going to be a good parent.
Right!? Like, basically any expectations you have for how you want your child to be are inevitably going to end up with you being "disappointed" and it also shows that your mindset going into the experience is concerned 100% with yourself, your happiness, your little fantasy of how your life is going to play out. But... You're *creating another whole-ass conscious being*. You can't be thinking like that
!!! yes. if you aren’t ready to take care of a gay, autistic, trans, etc child then you shouldn’t be attempting to have a baby or adopting!
Yup. You can kinda guess like "hey this chance is higher" for certian things if it is biological though. Like "hey. My brother is autistic. The chance my kid will be too is bigger." Or anything if you have it in the family it being bigger.
I kow that as an autistic bisexual who had depression for entire childhood, i know my kids will likely have it too. And the chances of queer is also higher. It's also a reason i personally don't want kids. I don't want to put a kid in the world who is depressed for years. And i don't know if i can handle a baby let alone if the screaming will be after a baby, eventho as a child i did that.
@Q E Super right wing republican is a choice, tho. Not like being queer, trans, or disabled, or autistic.
@@dutchik5107 The doctors and adoption agencies literally told them he's autistic and he has a cyst on his brain that will add extra complications, so it was more than just a "chance."
Shaming any child for expressing big feelings (“tantrums”) is disgusting. I’m so glad he got out of their home.
This. All of this.
Kids have difficulty expressing their emotions, autistic or not, and tantrums are how they express their emotions. Tantrums happen when a child feels that what they want cannot be expressed or that something has not been communicated to them in a way they understand. She is clearly the wrong kind of person to raise a child.
@@floofzykitty5072 Espeically since he was non-vocal it's not that hard to understand HE CAN'T EXPRESS HIMSELF WITH WORDS. Like he expresses himself through actions, and not through words like their other children would.
@@adara4635 not only non vocal - but learning to at least passively understand a second language and alien culture and environment. Poor thing must have been so confused, and now just when he's settled in, he's being shipped off to another family.
It is. Like I cant handle loud noises which is exactly why I am not having kids lol
I hate how she handled his meltdowns so much. Not just recording it and whatever, but she wouldn't stop touching or talking to him during, which sucks for people with sensory issues. I have autism, and although I am an extremely cuddly person, even that would annoy the hell out of me. I like quiet hugs when im calming down afterwards, but most people hate contact altogether. It just bugs me that she expects a toddler to cater to her needs because *he's* the "weird" one.
I'm the same way, if I am going through a meltdown I just like to be by myself, I don't want a hug, I don't want to be touched, I just want to be alone.
@@wastedproductions45 same, I'll come and curl up in your lap after for comfort, but during I cannot stand being touched.
To be fair, I don't think she knew he was autistic by then from what I understood.
Well to be fair, a parent isn’t just going to leave their toddler by themselves during a meltdown because if she did that you guys would think she’s being neglectful 🙂
@@Ishouldnthavebeensopublic that's not what the OP is saying at all. Of course you don't leave a child in that state, but you also don't overwhelm them with talk and noise and physical contact that is clearly distressing the child. You can be present for your child without aggravating the situation.
You can't adopt a human and then throw him out onto a farm like a stray dog. Or return them like a faulty Amazon purchase.
Edit: My older brother is autistic. My mum had complications during pregnancy when she had him. He didn't speak until he was 5. When he learned to speak, he found cameras and people singing Happy Birthday to be scary and triggering. My mum never once gave up on him.
Even though the nearest autism therapy centre is several hours away, she didn't give up on helping him understand the world. This was pre-internet days. She read books and taught him to know his name by making him look at her and say his name.
He's a certified nurse now. He loves EDM music. He's the greatest brother anyone could ask for.
What if Huxley was her biological son? Where is she going to dump him in that case? Like you said, they're affluent. They can get him all the help he needed. But no, I guess a comfy Bali trip was more worth it.
Shouldn’t be done to any living beings!
@@KagomeYasha023 exactly! Although sometimes with pets, there's more hoops to jump through especially when it comes to relocation.
Edit: Hi, sorry about everyone taking the dog part too literally. It's just common where I am where people abandon their pets and no one will fine or arrest the people involved. I don't endorse it at all. It's also the reason I support adopting pound dogs or street dogs versus "pedigree" breeds. All my dogs are rescued from centres or streets.
Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.
@Kat Blaque sorry I kept editing and the heart flew away. This matter just infuriates me as I cannot imagine my brother being taken away from me.
@@KagomeYasha023 these people were wrong for what they did but you said it shouldn't be done with any living things but sometimes it's for the best to give something up. But like I said they shouldn't have used the child to make money. If you get offended I mean no harm.
you must not know dick about starkid I wouldn’t even treat a pet like that
We need to stop calling it rehoming. She didn't rehome him, she human trafficked him.
It does seem like a really weird word to use, it gets my hackles raised... they're the type to use 'conscious uncoupling'
Stefanie Redfield re-abandoning
@Kai Evans is it? they profited immensely from the whole ordeal.
@Kai Evans Wouldn't surprise me if they really did ask for money from the other family. Wouldn't surprise me one bit, and that would be human trafficking even though it might not be in the stereotypical sense of the word.
Stefanie Redfield thank you, it’s killing me, I can’t stand it.
This story has been circulating around Chinese adoptee groups I'm in and it all makes our blood boil. I feel so incredibly sad for this child. A lot of us were abandoned on street corners and doorsteps as infants for being the wrong sex or for having developmental or physical issues. That shit already traumatizes you. And then a lot of us live for months to years in orphanages that don't have enough caretakers per baby and don't have enough money to feed, clothe, and take care of all of us properly. That traumatizes you further. And then you get adopted into a home of strangers, ripped from everything you've known your entire short little life. And that in itself is traumatizing. And then to be integrated into a family for THREE fucking years and then abandoned (because that's what this is) again. A child that has autism and Reactive Attachment Disorder and other issues. That child will have severe trust and attachment issues, more than he already did. As he grows up he may learn to cope with things but trauma has a sneaky way of catching up with you and affecting you in subtle but sometimes debilitating ways. I don't care how wonderful his new parent(s) is, that shit will stay with him for a long time, if not for the rest of his life. It makes me so sad and angry. I really feel for this child.
As a fellow Chinese adoptee, I feel the same way and I cannot believe she has the audacity to exploit Huxley and try to make her viewers feel bad for her for abandoning him
Breaks my heart that this has happened :( the clips of him “tantrum” I just wanna hold him
I am a Chinese adoptee, and I knew right away that she had gone into that adoption unprepared and for the wrong reasons. When you adopt a child, you are bringing them into your family as an EQUAL member. You, as a parent, must be prepared to support that child through any conditions they may have just as you would for a biological child.
You know what’s stupid the way she narcissistically Absorbs the attention like she is a world trade survivor and wants to thank people for their support ... oh my someone is living in a bubble. I have reason to think she made money off Huxley by selling him on the dark web her true god is money
As an autistic; they're also literally making it worse by leaving him. Since how more unsafe a child feels, how more he feels like he isn't home or being neglected, how more meltdowns will happen and he'll barerly make contact with someone else. I know this, because in my (lucky) case, me and my parents moved to greece back and forth, and i was angry and depressed all the time. Because i didn't feel like i had a home, and i didn't feel understood. All i hope for is that this beautiful wonderful kid, gets some amazing parents that will take care of him the way he should be taken care off. He deserves the world. And reminder; if you lightly take the kid out of their comfortzone for a couple of years, they'll easily become very social. My mother did it by taking me to stores i loved! (Toy stores, art stores) and then slowly towards art classes and all. (:
Several things that sicken me even more about them:
1. On their adoption application, there was a section asking if they would be okay with adopting a special needs child, and it had a list of disorders for them to check which they would be content with. They checked off EVERY disorder/sickness/condition on the list.
2. Prior to adopting him, Myka posted in an adoption FB group asking what were some special needs conditons that are easy to manage, and ones that aren't visible to the naked eye.
3. I've seen healthcare pros comment on so many videos, and they all say that there's NO way THAT many professionals told them "Hey he's too much. I suggest rehoming him"
4. Myka was a nurse before a vlogger. So you would think if anyone had the qualifications and patience necessary for a child like Hux, it would be a nurse who's also a mother. I do believe her medical license was revoked for some strange reason though
5. They flat out abused Huxley. They duct taped his thumb to keep him from sucking on it, she wouldn't hug him when he wanted love and embraced, and they made him go to bed earlier than their own kids so they could "have special family time" with them
The whole thing disgusts me, and I don't see how ANYONE can still be fans of theirs. How do you forget or forgive someone for giving away their child?
I think it's because she fits the "basic" white girl mold. Instagram worthy house, religious, #bossbabe, stay at home mom, rose gold white and grey decor, long blonde wavy hair, half ass apology and thinks that because they made this half ass apology video that they'll get points for being honest, human, and admitting their mistake and "grief"
If they had an ounce of dignity they would relinquish all the money from any videos surrounding him to either Hux directly or a charity for adoption.
I abaolutely detest the whole boss babe mom life young blonde phony IG trend, I'm ready for it to die.
I am glad that Hux got away from these psychopaths though, I hope he has a new mom who gives him all the love he deserves
SPECIAL FAMILY TIME ‘ur not a part of the family’ goddamn
That 'special family time' is really upsetting. An adopted kid is your own kid, like it got from your own womb and sperm. I wonder if she would have given one of her biologically childs for adoption if it was too much to handle because of a mental disorder.
I can't help thinking about that woman's biological children and how scary and confusing it must be to see their parents get rid of their brother one day as if he's a defective toaster. Were her children warned about this? Did they get a chance to say goodbye? Or was Huxley just gone one day without explanation?
I'd say those kids better pray they're never diagnosed with special needs. But lets be real. Myka would never "re-home" one of her perfect little blonde biological kids.
This couple is disgusting. They purchased a foreign, ethnic child to use as a prop in their vlogs. They exploited him for internet clicks for three years. And then they got rid of him the moment he stopped being a cute little baby and started having complex problems that required extra care. And they expect their viewers to feel SORRY for them!?
I hope this viral story results in them being black-listed from ever adopting another child in any country.
I was thinking the same thing. Are they now going to be afraid that if they're not perfect for Mommy, they'll get thrown away, too? She and her husband (who doesn't seem to be taking nearly as much flak for this as he should be, since he's just as culpable) are utterly disgusting. Her fake crying was so obnoxious I wanted to slap her; she couldn't even summon real tears when she talked about getting rid of her son like he was a pet. (Seriously, words like "rehome" and "forever home" are what animal shelters use, ffs.)
The fact they talked about it as if they are the victims in this situation as if they didn't adopt a child knowing he was severely disabled but still did it and played with his emotions and abused him and then later "rehomed" him???? What the fuck
That's an excellent point and I agree - however I have a gut feeling that the biological children were made to understand on some level that he was different than them. I honestly don't know which scenario is worse.
Right! I wonder if the kids are asking "would you ever give me away"?
I'm on the Autistic Spectrum and it's so frustrating to think about that. You're right, this woman would never "rehome" her biological children, but they won't understand that fully. Instead they see "when there's something wrong with their sibling, they get taken away". It's already so difficult for children with disabilities to process the ways in which they're different and to talk about it with other people. If you feel like you'll be taken away if you reveal that you're different, that's a road for catastrophe.
I hope this isn't the case, but if any of those children have any kind of disability, I wouldn't be surprised if they started self-harming from a young age. These parents are awful.
What I also find frustrating is what would probably happen. If one of the biological children had a disability and revealed these anxieties, the parents would lie to them. They wouldn't even think of it as a lie, if the double standard were ever brought up, the parents would authentically explain it in a way that makes sense to them. What's frustrating is that the children will believe, because children believe their parents. They will go through life believing whatever lie it is that their parents fed them. It will take them decades to understand what happened and to deprogram themselves. At some point they'll have to realise that they've been brought up by racist assholes and their entire life has been consumed by this lie. Of course they might never realise that, but that's not any more reassuring.
Filming your child in distress instead of being there for him - "We've been trying to protect his privacy"
A child is for life not just for Christmas.
Why I decided nit to have children. I knew since I was very young, I am not right to be a parent. I was sexually abused from age 2-5. The results from that, made me know I could not give kids what they deserve. At 36, I do not regret it every day.
@@iciajay6891 you will have children... with me.
Or for VLOGGING
Icia Jay if only more people were honest or had significant forethought to decide the same thing we wouldn’t have so many unfortunate kids with terrible parents, glad you’ve made it to 36 despite that event that should never happen as part of your childhood
Well said
I’m autistic. And I live a couple of counties away from them, and I offered to adopt him. Because I know how to help an autistic child grow up properly. Of course I was immediately denied. But I hope this child is okay.
Hope the little guys alright
that is so kind of you to even offer. wow. i really hope the poor kid is somewhere where his caretakers will give him the help he needs. being neurodivergent is hard enough.
thank you for trying. I hope he finds a place he is loved.
as an autistic this makes me so happy 🥺🥺
What was honestly the most disturbing thing is when questioned if she would do the same to her bio children, she said something like "well if all the therapies didn't work out and all the intervention didn't work, we'd get their needs met" like....no, Myka, that is abandonment. It's not "getting their needs met" you are literally dipping out of their life and abandoning your children.
where did she say this??? that's so....messed up....
I'm not sure if that's worse or better than "no I wouldn't, because they're my blood and I care about them more". Like if she'd said that it would still be shit because she played with a child's life to get the aesthetic of being a caring woman adopting a special needs POC, using them like a prop when she could never love them like her own child. But at least it would be clear she has love and empathy for SOMEONE...
@@talisa222 She didn't say it in a video, she said it in a comment but I'm not sure where. I think you can find if you look on pages or videos people are doing on this case.
Wait, but didn't medical profs RECOMMEND a different family to accommodate his needs? She has 5 other kids, I imagine 24/7 care at home isn't possible. If finding a family that's equip to provide for his special needs and is willing to provide that full-tiime care I feel like it's better for him to be there than with Myka and her husband
@@sabrinanaser9327 she gave birth to another kid after she had him and was planning on adopting another China baby. She was told he has special needs and was gonna be difficult and she was mad at people who warned her, she knew exactly what she was getting into. She would never do that to any bio kid and adopted kids should have the same rights and respect as bio kids. Adopted children already have trust and abandonment issues, abandoning a child after he has spent years bonding with you is fucking evil and disgusting and has life-long negative impacts. The stauffers are rich and can definitly afford his therapy (she was wearing an over 6000 dollar watch while complaining about spending a few hundreds on his therapy ffs). When you adopt (or become a parent really) you have to be ready for the worse, she literally signed up for it and has admited she wanted a special needs kid. I suggest you read more on adoptees and their issues (the book primal wound explains the abandonment part well).
Every penny they made off him needs to be seized and put in a trust for him. Being pariahs is too good for them.
This is why child actors in the entertainment industry have strict rules about how their pay can be handled by their parents, so that they aren't exploited like this. Those rules exist because too many child actors have had all their money taken by their parents and been left with nothing -- that's textbook exploitation. Huxley's been through far, far too much.
They need to give him so much more money than just what they made from the videos - the money their followers donated for his adoption too. And money for therapy to work through the issues they caused.
Right? I mean, I *aspire* to be a pariah in Bali, yo 😂!
My daughter has adhd and is hyperactive all the time and screams all days, I still love her. This makes me so mad that they shipped him away just because he didn't fit their life.
Those two need to be imprisoned for fraud. Did authorities ever find the child?
One more thing: the watch she's wearing while complaining about the price of his speech therapy, is actually $6300, not $1000. Just so gross.
$6,300 for a watch and she is dumb enough to brag about it. Some people can't even put food on the table.
@@christopherjames9843 luxry is one thing
Wasting money is anouther
This is like buying a pizza made out of gold, its unedible but think about the flexing
How will everyone know that im rich if i dont waste money?
I’m adopted from China and I have autism and I agree being adopted is confusing because I will probably never know my birth parents but that’s okay because I love my adopted family because they wouldn’t give up on me
I'm really glad for you x
I’m an autistic adoptee too, I could probably track down my parents because I have their first and last names, but as a queer (panromantic demisexual) and trans guy, I know my home country would probably be too conservative and they may not accept me so I wouldn’t want to deal with that, I love my adopted family the most because they want me and would also never give up on me, thanks for sharing your story too
I'm glad that your family is a supportive one, just as one should be!
These people are absolutely vile. It is painfully clear that they chose to profit off the "marketability" of family vlogging, adoption, and pseudo-support of those with different needs than the "average" person. Then, once they made less money, got less joy, had less "positive" experiences with their SON, they reject him? Undeniably DESPICABLE. Use this as a lesson to call out those who have ulterior motives in raising children or frankly doing anything else.
I think RUclips should not allow people monetize videos with kids under 13. At least not if they're one of the main characters in the video.
@@t_ylr This. Or a re that any money you make of kids %75 should go into a trust for them. One the parents cannot touch. It is legit profiting of of children who can not consent to it.
See, first you can't deny the fun these people have with showing their "international adoptions" first off they love looking like benevolent saints. But they aren't willing to go all the way
The second a parent records their child crying for content i know what kind of person they are
YES
Glad I didn't grow up with my parents using social media my stepmother would have exploited the shit out of my meltdowns to play victim.
I can't imagine as an adult someone filming me during a meltdown. Let alone as a child or a child with autism.
You know, as a mom, I appreciate other parents who are willing to show that it isn't all cuddles and giggles. You are still a parent when your child is struggling with something, and we don't always know how to deal with it in a healthy way, so that kind of content can be helpful. But you can see the difference between the parents who have compassion for their child and those who don't. This chick should never be allowed to have kids, this is sick.
I thought exactly the same
Hearing her say, "are you done" with no love in her voice, whatsoever, when confronting that poor baby's "meltdowns" is scary. She should've never had that baby or any children in the first place, but I hope this little one has found an actual loving home.
Agreed. The tone of her voice was one of control and frustration, with no empathy or love. Gave me the shivers.
Dislexual
Narcs see their children as extensions of themselves so she doesn’t see him, just her failure to control his behavior.
He hasn't. He is in a foster home with 2 moms and one is pregnant.
@@sonnetmorrison1469 suposedly they wont tell us who and they didnt do it threw the foster or adoption system cause huxley is not in the states system meaning she did a family to family transfer which the state frowns upon as it normally is a front for human trafficking
Exactly my thoughts too! There are much better ways to convey a similar thought without sounding so cruel. "Are you feeling better, honey?" For example
Meltdowns are so exhausting and traumatic. She seems to view them as bad behaviour. His meltdowns are a result of his sensory needs not being met and kind of her fault. She taped his thumbs and then gave him no other way of recieving sensory input.
That's abuse!!!!!
@@tranquility1967 it is yes
If I walked into one of my home cases and saw taped thumbs, I would be obligated to report it. Most kids suck their thumbs, so why couldn't Huxley? So glad he's not with these horrible non-parents any more.
I'm glad they rehomed him, they're terrible parents. "Are you done?" That's not how you deal with an autistic meltdown. What is this about missing part of his brain? What?
Not to mention that neurotypical kids who are internationally adopted take YEARS to develop the fluency in their new language to process and express their emotions. These kids usually don't "learn a new language"; they become "forced monolinguals" who lose their native language as they struggle to communicate in a different language. It's like the new language is overwriting their native language. Some kids can handle that transition and successfully learn to think in the new language, but others wind up in a situation in which they don't really have a native language. :-(
When you add the complicating effect of intellectual disability and ASD... it's likely that poor H had no idea what Myka meant by saying "Are you done?" in that cold, scornful voice. She shouldn't be allowed to adopt a dog, much less a human being.
The thing that should've happened is that someone should have realised before the first year was up that they were abusive, callous assholes and put them in jail where they can't harm any more children, including their own. That's what would have happened in a just world.
I wasn't against the "rehoming" either. They weren't worthy of being his parents. It doesn't matter how much money they have, they aren't a the right parents for this boy.
@@astrinymris9953 Thank you for pointing this out. I have a non-neurotypical child that I love beyond all reason and would never, ever give up on. Ever. So I do know a little bit about living with a child with different sets of needs. But even so, I didn’t think about how a foreign adoption of a child with ASD would impact their language acquisition and development. That is a huge complication, and I can’t even imagine how hard this little boy’s life is.
@@pinkmonkeybird2644 yeah like she could at least try to learn a little bit of his language (not saying she has to be fluent just a little) just to help with day to day stuff but I guess that too hard
No one has pointed out to how this will affect her other children. Huxley is the one who will feel it the most. But now the other kids will look at them and wonder if they 'misbehave', will they have love still?
They probably already feel that way having a narcissist for a mother. They’re only as good as what they can provide for their mother.
@@heartsmyfaceforever8140 so true. You can actually see the kids acting all the time.
Lol I wonder if she uses it as a threat. "if you don't behave ill send you away just like the other one". Fuck this woman
Lord, I never even considered that. Wow.
I never thought about that and I was already disgusted but now...
myka's expectations for this child REALLY rubbed me the wrong way. how she kept emphasizing that she was expecting him to be quiet and shy and passive??? idk i may be reaching a little far but it just seems a little too on the nose relying on stereotypes of asian people
You’re not reaching at all. It’s extremely racist, just like certain men with fetishes for Asian women based on racist “geisha” stereotypes of Asian women being obedient and subservient. Shit is very real
She may also have thought autistic people are shy and reserved and have no critical thinking skills. She found out that was wrong and gave up on him. We are not broken 😭
She wanted a disabled child. I can't stand them saying they didn't know how extensive his needs would be when they specifically asked for a disabled child.
Also, she claimed she had to do this because he was violent and her other kids were afraid of him, yet in every video they're playing with him and not acting scared. One of her daughters would comfort him while Myka just yelled at him.
That's the thing, she was later caught posting on adoption forums previous to all the shitshow asking which was the less bothersome "condition" for a child to have and how long was the life expectancy for some certain cerebral illnesses in children.
She got Huxley thinking he had a form of brain cancer and that he had a life expectancy of just a couple of years, and she was ECSTATIC, she was fucking STOKED that she would get this kid who would help her foster this identity of a benign holy mother figure that provides a home for an unfortunately ill kid who didn't had too much left to live. But then when the papers were all set an dine, she got updated that it wasn't brain cancer, but the kid was just autistic and that he wouldn't die at all...
On that video, while she talks about that point, she's crying.
And not like "crying" joyously like she did on other videos talking about her "little guy" and how excited she's to finally meet him, she's literally crying heartbroken tears, and distressed of the news that now she's stuck with this kid for longer than she had planned and she couldn't get out immediately. This wasn't what she paid for.
She even says "well, he's not returnable... So we just have to love him and I bet this will be a worth it learning experience for ME" during this whole thing, SHE was the center of it all, her feelings were the only ones getting hurt here, she was the only one feeling betrayed. And hey, maybe the fact that the poor kid started to lash out ended being beneficial to her in the end. Now she could "re-home" him without feeling guilty, because her kids were getting hurt, even when she repeated again and again to the cameras that her "little guy" wasn't returnable, oh no you guys, she's just a mama bear trying to protect her real kids. Now, Huxley will have a reputation of "conflictive" thanks to her, I just hope the people at the orphanage saw through it all. Also I don't doubt Myka's biological children feeling too happy after what they saw their parents do "wait, you can return kids??? Are we next??? Is mom gonna get rid of me if I misbehave????"
Kids don’t come equipped with the sick shit their parents internalized, they’re just tiny humans. That’s heartbreaking for all the children involved, obviously especially for Huxley who received the brunt of the abuse, but the bio children watching their parents abuse and abandon a child in their home, no amount of a parent assuring a kid they’d nEvEr do that to them is gonna undo the damage all of this did to all of these children.
“What if I have a disability or I get sick or I act out, and mom and dad decide they’re tired of me and don’t love me anymore?” Great job parents. Normal thing to put on your kids.
If their parents yelled at him than maybe they weren’t afraid of Huxley’s trantrums, but theirs
Yeah tbh I wish she got all the kids taken from her. Jesus she acts more than a child than all of the kids combined.
@@natsukifan8736 I really feel like if you go out of your way to acquire a kid, then return them like defective merchandise and don't have some real receipts, like the kid is genuinely trying to murder everyone in the house, CPS should look into any other kid in the house, too.
I'm deeply disturbed by a woman who claimed three years ago that a child isn't returnable, and then "returns" that child three years later. That poor child; the trauma he will have gone through is heartbreaking. I couldn't imagine returning a dog to a shelter after having them for three years, let alone a child.
I'm disturbed by family blogging channels anyway (I find them ALL deeply exploitative and insensitive to their children and their children's' privacy). I don't want to put my dog on camera for fear of exploiting her (hell, I even keep her name private). My DOG has more privacy online than human children.
These kids will be suing. It's disturbing that they were not ashamed to put this online.
They didn’t “return” their child to the presumably neglectful orphanage he came from. They found a new and better-suited family for him. I’m not saying it’s right that they are “rehoming” him, but the vast difference between returning him to a prior poor situation, vs finding a BETTER situation for him, should really not be disregarded.
@@sarahhilton7681 he is unfortunately in foster care now and not with a new family.
Their crocadile tears when they explain that they have to abandon their son because he throws fits at 3 - incredible.
Can we just... not vlog kids? Like ever?
Croutonic
I wish it was illegal. 😡
Agreed!
Literally. I hope it becomes illegal.
Ppl want money so it'll never stop
Im actually conflicted about this bc I do follow one family vlog that is also about homeschooling and adoption. Ive been their follower for 5/6 yrs now, ive watched the kids grow but also not feel like im invading their privacy. The parents (esp the mom) takes extra care and attention on what she puts out esp when concerning the kids. I’ve learned so much about parenting and adoption through her channel.
She currently has 8 kids, the two oldest are her bio kids and the rest were adopted, I honestly could not imagine not having any of the kids in that family. They look like they complete their puzzled family. Oh and one of her adopted kids also has special needs.
I do strongly wish there is stricter rules/guidelines regarding these vlogs so the kids are not exploited.
The way she expected that literal kid to be absolutely perfect and an “ideal child” is disturbing. The double standards too, I’m sure her white neurotypical kids have had similar “fits” and when they did it she definitely didn’t downright disown them.
No but god's know how she badly treats those fits. Mark my words in 10 years we'll watch videos of the kids describing their traumatic childhood she and her husband gave them
Child actors have a union to protect them. RUclips children have nothing. I think the Child actor situation has problems, but they at least aren’t portraying themselves and all their intimate details for the whole world, at least they play a character. These RUclips kids are so exposed and only have the poor judgment of their greedy parents to make their decisions for them. So sad
And the money is for them, not for the parent
I asked that question for years. Where’s the protection for these kids? I would get blocked and silence because I’m being a kill joy. No, these kids have no control over their lives. Being used by their parents to fund their lifestyles. It’s sick to me.
@@Solunatic02 its even worse than reality tv because its the parents shoving cameras in their kids faces.
Im waiting for the day an adult who was filmed as a part of a family vlogg, decides to sue their parents for invating their privacy and posting it online, and for making them work their entier childhoods. YT is a job, the kids dont have a say in if they want to film they dont have a say in wether their embarassing momments are posted for the world to see. This is going to blow up once these kids are older and start fighting back against this practice.
The parents of child stars can be very very nasty and abusive as well. Children are just so unprotected in general.
She acted like she "hired" an actor that ended up not "fitting her taste" then "fired" the child
Children aren't employees or money gainers, they are kids. Raise them properly and respect those children. And this also goes for parents that already have famous kids and exploit those children for money.
Even worse, at least a child actor would have at least a percentage of their earnings in a Coogan account so their parents can't take everything they make. Huxley has nothing to his name for all the money he earned them.
@@kevinfox298 true true. Man, it just makes me upset like why are people like this
These people don't seem to understand what children are. Children are supposed to be money gobblers not money makers. They need an adult to pay for things like medical, entertainment, food, education, etc. Other needs adults must conform to for their children are giving them positive attention and doing things that are good for their personalities. I once asked my mom if she regretted adopting me and she said if she didn't have to deal with my annoying, crazy self her life would be boring and she'd be either dead or stuck in bed all the time unable to move. How can people like these in this video be the way they are?
Right? It’s like the return on investment wasn’t worth it to them. Such a shitty, detached eyes to treat a human being.
The "fit" he was having was a tantrum I'd PAY for my kid to have. He was sooo quiet while having a "fit"!!! SHE'S A SICK HUMAN!!!! SICK, SICK, SICK!!!!
@Nicole Jessica Omg RIGHT! At BEST that was frustration! My kid just screamed and yelled soooooooo long the dang Military Police checked on us. I do know I won't "REHOME" my kid though!!! I couldn't imagine twins @nicole Jessica!
I thought to myself “He is barely crying!” Crazy!
"Missing part of his brain." The amount of anger that hit like a lighting bolt in that moment. I'm a late diagnosed autistic and just-- wow. He's not "missing" anything. Poor baby, I hope his new home is way better and he has the love and care he deserves.
Actually he literally is missing part of his brain. That’s why they talk about the stem cell treatment. He just also happens to be autistic.
Doesn’t change that her whole attitude is disgusting but just thought I’d clarify that she wasn’t using that as a figure of speech.
@@ezra55595 Oh, thank you! The videos were out of context a lot and I don't follow the family. Thanks for clarifying. 👍
But even then, you don't describe and say dehumanizing shit about a child with a disability, especially in your home vlogs. The fact that he's Asian enflamed it. I also have ASD and grew up in a very cold, ruthless world with no compassion or desire to understand. It takes me back to a dark place, seeing this filth.
@@77bearpeerless77 That wasn’t dehumanizing that was like the literal medical condition, he had several issues like that. He didn’t only have a part of his brain missing, he experienced multiple stroke while he was in the womb. Doctors even told her(really, *them* as she does have a husband) it was possible he would NEVER be able to live or take care of himself. They told her repeatedly that he had issues from even BEFORE birth, add onto that his autism and its obvious how gross their behavior was because the way she treated him when she had been told he would NEVER be like other children, and putting him in corners and letting him cry miserable because he’s loud and difficult to work with...which is obvious because he’s not just an autism sufferer(again, from a medical perspective) he has severe brain damage and trauma from before birth to even after birth.
@@alexcastro7665 I think you took what I said out of context. I'm well aware of the situation and why Huxley is special needs and will forever be that way. What I was referring to was the blatant disregard and antagonistic language they used to _describe_ Huxley, which _was antagonistic_ along with video evidence of negligence. That's what I meant.
It really makes my skin crawl to see her in the child's face mocking him for his meltdown. I am autistic (I was undiagnosed until adulthood). The home needs to be a refuge, or at the very least, a place where one can sometimes be left in blessed solitude, to let the child's mind work its own wonders. Instead she's following him with a camera trying to make him perform and getting angry & mocking him when he doesn't. That's the absolute worst atmosphere for someone who already has sensory overload to the point where he's having meltdowns. The world is a hard enough place for autistic kids (& grownups) without being raised to feel like that kind of treatment is what is deserved.
Hard to tell how this will work out psychologically. But it will disturb their ideas of trust, love, family very profoundly, that's for sure.
"wait ten years" u dont even hav to wait ten years mary kate and ashley hav gone on record to say they wouldnt wish their childhood on anyone
I don't blame them; the creepiness of Hollywood's treatment of their child stars aside, there were literally pedophiles who had websites counting down to their 18th birthday.
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Pretty much the same thing happened to Sophie Turner (Sansa Stark). I remember seeing threads on “Game Of Thrones” IMDB, where people were celebrating her “finally” turning 18. It was disgusting.
@@PhoenixRising87 I'm sorry I know this is horrible but how are they pedophiles if they want to know when they're legal?
@@LaLaLaLaLifeFabyu Because before then they were already sexually attracted to them while they were kids. That is pedophilia. They just waited until they were of "legal age" to try to make their move on them. Predator--Prey mentality.
@@LaLaLaLaLifeFabyu because it basically means they were still sexually attracted to her whilst she was underage and their only barrier (not even of personal moral one, but more likely a societal one- they knew people would call them out in it) was that she wasn't yet legal
celebrating her 18th birthday means they could comment on her body sexually without getting backlash for it; it doesn't mean they only found her attractive once she was an adult
it's a major issue that a lot of child stars are overtly sexualised throughout their childhood and teen years, and without much protection
She was making all the crying gestures and facial expressions, yet not once did I see an actual tear fall. Three years later? THREE. YEARS. LATER?!?!? It's just so gross...so inexplicably gross.
Yes and she went from in tears to talking normally, she's a narcissistic bitch
Perfectly coiffed, the two of them sitting in pristine white, ready to make excuses after a nice vacation in Bali... >:-(
She’s a proud graduate of Laura Lee University.
"I was expecting a shy guy that wants love and cuddles" have you ever met a neurodivergent person?
Exactly!
Some of us do like being held, it's usually a pressure stim.
@@eccentricmusings563 oh ofc! I'm mostly going off of my experience since I'm neurodivergent myself /nm /gen
@@buriedinblackk oh valid. My autism is on the end of the spectrum where I enjoy being held as a stim so I was just adding my own experience.
Of course she met one, she just didn't "see" them
This is abuse.
Showing him as some kinda villian
The husband should not escape the public anger
These are evil ppl
Neurotypical parents villainizing their autistic children make me so. Fucking. Angry.
she was wearing a $6400 cartier watch while asking for donations.
A watch that costs that much is an IQ test. She failed.
Kevin Hosford you can have a brain and still buy extravagant things. That being said, she’s vapid
@@mossattacks9191 We can judge people for spending that kinda money on things though. The functionality and quality of the thing doesn't justify the price tag; it's a statement of wealth, which is gross.
You can’t make this stuff up
You can’t make this stuff up!!
Apparently they were caught looking for another kid with “easier disabilities that people wouldn’t think of as easy” hate to see THAT
If they think autism is a "hard" disability to deal with I don't even know what they think is gonna be easy.
I do believe these people are vile, but you have any sources for that? It's important to know the facts before having an emotional response. False rumors are often started in situations like these when people are being publicly burned at the stake so to speak.
Konradas Miloševičius There are legit screenshots on Facebook. Check the posts with large numbers of comments about them. You can’t fake her whole account being in adoption groups asking about adopting more special needs children. After I heard it, I went and searched myself...it’s there.
@@anaphielas Here is the source: instagram.com/p/CArPQ5zjVw2/. Please don't assume someone is having an emotional response just because ableism sounds unbelievable to you.
There are, unfortunately, a lot of folks who see people as cookie cutter when they have the same disability. They may have the same symptoms, but their personalities are not "autistic". Disabilities aren't an identity, and until everyone figures that out, this garbage is going to continue.
Children do NOT belong on the internet like that, it's dangerous. Children can be manipulated into thinking that the stranger on the door is nice and can be trusted, especially when the stranger knows so much about the child. Their name, their birthday, their favorite toys, ANY information is at risk of being used by kidnappers to find and manipulate the kids. NEVER EVER uploading images of my child. Maybe when they've grown up a little I can post an old baby picture of them, but not at the actual age when they're that defenseless.
What jumped out to me was that Myka wanted to "cure" him with some expensive stem cell treatment, saying that a part of his brain is missing, and the way she talks to him. All that makes it clear to me that she doesn't know what she is talking about. She doesn't understand. She doesn't seem to want to understand.
Part of his brain being missing honestly isnt even the biggest problem..there was a little girl who had half her brain removed(truama or something i dont remeber) and she still was cognative and her brain re made connections to control the other side of her body. The brain is pretty good at re wireing things in small children if a portion is missing or damaged. His autism was never going to be fixed with stem cell therapy, his attatchment disorder was never going to be fixed by it either. Even if the brain cells grew back, most of the issues would remain.
Being abandoned by my parents because of my “difficult behavior” was my biggest fear as an autistic child. My mother used to threaten it when I had meltdowns, and even though she never went through with it I still struggle with long term abandonment issues and trauma. I can’t even imagine actually going through that, actually being given up for who I was, as a four year old kid.
That's a sick threat to make. Your mother may not be as shitty as this youtuber but that's still abusive behaviour, I'm so sorry you had to live through that.
As someone who had an awesome, supportive mom, I’d like to personally volunteer to fight all of the world’s abusive, gaslighting parents in a Denny’s parking lot.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. You deserved better.
Long Schnozzed Tribesman I know I’m not meant to feed the trolls but if you actually mean this, you need to reassess your life. Difficult kids are usually because of the PARENTS and/or attributes that they cannot control. Get fucked.
"Are you done now?" She acts so annoyed. Ugh, lady, he is your son, it's your job to figure out why he is so upset and help him!
My dad used to be a carer for developmentally disabled adults, and these are the kind of people to dump their kid in a home and never visit. Poor baby.
It cut off right before she follows that sentence up with "Are you done being full of yourself"? As the parent of two autistic kids (and just generally by virtue of not being a shitty human being) I wanted to punch her in the fucking throat when she said that.
Did anyone else feel like a wave of relief when Kat came into frame. Like, going from that terrifying “RUclips Family All White” aesthetic to seeing her in her chill colorful room I feel like I just escaped something.
In the beginning she says "mY iMaGe oF hIm wAs tHaT hElL bE CuTe"......Does she think children, especially babies, obey you, do whatever you tell them to, etc.? I really wonder how she took care of her OWN BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN if she's NEVER had to wake up at 3 a.m. cuz the baby was crying, hush the child and help him to stop crying, etc. In the video she LITERALLY ASKS a fking 4 year old if he's gonna stop having a fit. Like, yeah, WONDERFUL PARENTING, the kid UNDERSTOOD what you are saying, 👏👏👏👏👏😑.
She's obviously a pathologically narcissistic mother. I'm seriously worried for her biological kids.
She will only tolerate actual motherhood for her bio children, Huxley is her mealticket to Bali, not her son. He never was.
Kat mentioned that they had a hard time because the kid would get out of bed in the night. But dont all kids do that? I really dont get it. She signed up to get a cute little doll and when she had to actually care for a kid it was too much for her
@@v.e.jansen7720 ikrr
I don't see any difference between this and parents who give up their children for adoption JUST so that they can get the money
Poor kid... Being adopted and then re-homed, that must suck, especially when the reason you were adopted was for financial gain, on top of being on youtube as a child, having your childhood documented...
And on top of that he has attachment issues. He was beginning to trust them after 3 years and what did they do? Throw him away.
he's being readopted into the US, instead of going back to China. I reckon Child Protected Services may have been involved.
Straight up, that family owes that kid money. I hope they set him up with some sort of college fund or something - kids in the entertainment industry have their finances protected, youtube kids need to be give the same protections.
Especially with him being autistic, people on the spectrum don’t like change or being misunderstood of removed from their familiars. This will be traumatizing for him
His trust issues are going to be insane
This lady wanted an accessory, not a child. She got a baby that she thought would make her look woke, that she thought would make her look good..... It's a horrible situation for that little boy, but he deserves a happy life with a family who can care for him and who actually love him instead of just using him for clout.
Yes he's an old handbag to her
As a youtube child, my parents posted my likeness onto the internet for my classmates to relentlessly bully me over
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I’m so sorry ):
I dunno about the non-autistics in the audience, but I can clearly see from those clips that she's causing him pain... she seems so oblivious to it.
I'm not even gonna watch because I know for a fact this is gonna be triggering as fuck to me and I don't want to spend the rest of my day curled up in a ball crying. I'm not even adopted, just a shotgun wedding kid who three decades later found out my issues were because of autism and ADHD. My parents should never have had any children, conditional love is soul killing.
Yep, I'm a parent and only seeing these short clips of how she treats him is already upsetting to me.
I'm not a parent of someone who had autism, but I've worked as a teacher with kids who are diagnosed with autism. It was weird to watch...
Agreed! It hurts me to see it.
Agreed. If my parents recorded me all the time I'd melt down too.
Exactly. They had him for THREE YEARS, not three days. The poor kid formed a bond with this family. They were his family.
What's most disturbing imo is that they were the only family he'd ever known. He grew from a baby not knowing he was different, then they just send him away? In the mind of a toddler that has to be so traumatic. The other children saw him as their brother too, how horrible 😔
The biological kids of that family also must be traumatized... I'm literally afraid for them too..
I can’t find him on her instagram and I’m scrolling all the way to 2016...it’s like she tried to erase his existence from the family...yet kept the old videos with him in it because they bring in viewers...like wtf.
If you're "not ready" for a disabled child, an autistic child, a queer or trans child, etc., YOU ARE NOT READY TO BE A PARENT.
This needs to be said more 100000%
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Unfortunately, most parents arent ready/dont want their kids. It's a big issue with our world because often times early development mistreatment or neglect sticks and is almost impossible to deprogram from an adult or teen.
I think no one is ready for that until they experience it
@@TheCrimebaby yes, it's about not quitting
I'm queer and autistic my mom was more accepting of me being queer but in denial about my autism
As a person on the spectrum this is extremely problematic. It reminds me of when my Dad would tell me not to "talk about my Autism" or that I "don't look Autistic."
I had a family friend say that to me once, saying "Those doctors only told you that to make you feel special."
Because, YES! I totally want to have a disability that makes me feel more awkward around others and insecure about myself and what I do (I'm a photographer) just to feel "Special".
i remember watching vlogbrothers when john green’s first child was born (and i myself was pretty young lol) and being confused when he said he wasn’t going to show his son almost at all on the channel. In hindsight, incredibly glad that the green brothers set that kind of example (for me at least) about putting children in the public eye
Yeah, there was like two videos where his son featured I think (that I've seen at least), and his face was not even on camera, just his voice.
@@AnnekeOosterink he's made a few videos featuring Henry. There was one where they cooked dinner together. Very innocuous stuff. I haven't been watching regularly in a year or two but I haven't even seen Alice.
@@CJMGalaxy He stated he is never going to show her and kind of implied he regretted the Henry videos. I also have never seen Hank's son's face.
Whaaaa??? We saw Henry all the time in the early days. When people started getting judgy and weird and showing up at John's house is when we stopped seeing Henry. I don't blame John at all for never showing Alice. People are nuts.
@@AnnekeOosterink I'm not sure when you joined the Nerdfighter community, but we used to see Henry all the time back in the day. Face and all.
Thats so invalidating "are you done fitting?" Wtf...HES A CHILD! They don't cry for no reason...crying is how they communicate!
Ugh...This is minor, but the fact that she is so inarticulate irritates me. She expects a child from a foreign country with autism to develop language skills at an above average rate. Meanwhile, an adult born and raised in the midwest uses made up words like "fitting" to describe an autistic meltdown.
Agreed. Of all of the revolting things that this couple did, calling his outpouring of emotion as "fitting", absolutely broke me. Such horrible people.
This! Meltdowns and overloads are developmentally appropriate for neurotypical kids that age! What were they expecting adopting a kid on the autism spectrum? This was all about them, never about him and his needs or wellbeing.
Once you adopt it's your child for good in sickness and in health just like a biological child..I hope this adorable young boy is not too badly traumatized by this dreadful family and is now in a loving home
The worst part about it is that the baby is non-verbal so it's one of the ways he HAS to communicate. Disgusting.
The young boy should be given all the millions she earned from him on YT to enjoy with his new family.....his forever family.
53y Autistic here.
Be well.
Agreed ♡
Agreed ♡
The horrible irony is that this boy will grow up with the social stigma towards neurodivergence + the trauma of unsupportive ableist adults in his life and probably struggle to find a social community or employment as an adult, and likely to suffer from poverty...
Unless he is really strong and the new family will be supportive of him for who he is, and help him heal from the cruelty this world throws at autistic people. God help this boy.
I was “rehomed” several times because of people not being able to actually handle having a child or wanting a child of their own etc… and I can only say do not get a child if you don’t know what you’re getting yourself into.
I can only agree with all the things you say
Look at that woman's house. She HAS the money to take care of that child. That baby didn't fit into this woman's aesthetic and she didn't want to "deal" with it. The caucasity.
Money ≠ love. I hope he is in a better home now.
I know people in poverty who are able to get the care they need for their children with autism through school programs so I really don't know how this obviously well off women tried to play the " it's expensive" card.
I can't believe people give them views. You can't even dislike their videos
@@scarletrayer7357 it’s so transparently an excuse because she doesn’t want to do the actually humbling difficult work of raising a child with a disability.
@@snemelka
Well aren't you something special
So...if she and hubby had a bio kid who developed autism, would they “rehome” that child, too?
It would probably depend on how bad it was lol
As an autistic, part of me hopes so. I wouldn't wish them on any kid but especially not on an autistic kid.
Hi I want to jump in and say that no one *develops* autism, we're born autistic.
I’m high functioning autistic with abandonment issues this hits me really hard She was just exploiting him and was expecting to “Fix” him and that that pisses me off to no end
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Hey, from one autistic person to another, I just wanted to educate.
Functioning labels are actually considered extremely harmful to the autistic community and is basically a way of saying "are you more disabled or 'normal'", when in reality people have different symptoms.
That idea makes the autistic spectrum seem like a sliding scale, when in reality it's actually circular, with individual sections squared off for each autistic trait. You are no more or less autistic than any other autistic person. You just have different symptoms, and different degrees of those symptoms. Maybe try searching examples online and then drawing your own one, then seeing where you are on the spectrum!
@@IATEALLTHECHEESE Hello! As an autistic myself too, I also want to add a little "detail" about this. No hate whatsoever either, I just want to educate too!
I used to describe myself as highly functional autistic girl, until I learned where that terminology came from.
Simply put: during the Holocaust, autistic people (along with other groups and minorities, as I'm sure you know) were killed because they counted as disabled.
Now, Nazis saw a way to differentiate between autistics that could potentially be used or exploited, and autistics who "were useless to them because of their condition". They labelled the first group "functional or highly functional", because they were "functional" to them so they didn't send them to the gas chambers.
So, using the word functional and its various combinations like highly functional or low functional or whatever is not based on science and awareness for us (the autistic community).
As my friend I like Cheese pointed out, our spectrum is not a set of stairs, it's actually a circle. You are not more or less autistic than I am, and vice versa.
I hope I have helped.
Also, sorry for my English, I'm from Catalonia and English is only my fourth language. Cheers! 💙
@@laliclaudesol2350 your English is very good, much better than mine (and it’s my second language). I’m not autistic, but I’m glad I got to read your comment so I can be more educated if I happen to meet an autistic person.
For real. Like expecting him to be "quiet and complient." Ended up having more issues then they initially thought and he needed more "treatement"?? Like... No.. He needs love and affection just with a bit more specific understanding and care? You know... Like all children? This disgusted me to the core how she openly admitted to having some sick ideation of being able to 'fix' him and when she realized reality isn't to her liking she decides to throw him out like he's a piece of trash.
This is exactly why I'm never going to be a parent. I'm fully aware that I don't have the physical and emotional resources to raise a kid, no matter the issues. The fact that these people obviously did it for views and money is just sick.
I'm so surprised and horrified. In France, I'm french, once you adopted your child, it's not different than a biological, you can't break the bond legally, social service will never get off your back and make you take responsibility, in front of the children judge (we have a "Children Judge" in France specialized in children abuse) especially. And a case is a family case, if one of your child is mistreated, they will check on the other kids too, even if they are biological and the other is adopted. And the stuff with the youtube channel, if the child appears, he must be paid in a different account and the control of the account is blocked until he's older, otherwise it's children exploitation. I don't know how it works in your country but something is wrong.
I'm American and we don't always have that here. A sad reality is it's based on how good the local department of family and children services is wherever the case is. We've had so many cases fall through the cracks in my own state and it's heart wrenching.
Having to set up a separate account is great for the child’s future. Still may not address whether or not the child actually WANTS to be vlogged, but it’s something.
There's laws to prevent child stars in tv and film from being exploited, but it doesn't apply to RUclips. I think that it should though - because if nothing else, it'll pay for the therapy needed.
@@emjenkins464 even then look at Amanda bynes, Jamie Lyn spears, Jeanette McCurdy. They all got screwed up and then kicked to the curb.
That sounds like a very good system! Greetings from Austria.
"We want to respect his privacy, and his future"
Are you actually kidding me.
The vlogger adoptive parents want to...
They can't be that stupid.
There are clips coming out of her being warned of how severe his case is. She was told but that information "went in one ear and out the other." She was knew what she was getting into, but disregarded it because she wanted to adopt him so badly. If she loved him, she should have taken a moment and realized she couldn't fulfill his needs, but she selfishly decided to adopt and eventually may have traumatized him.
I mean, after she started the narrative on her RUclips channel, could she back out? Hate this stuff
This woman showed more passion and empathy in this video talking about what happened than the parents who gave up their child.
That poor kid. Being abandoned twice is going to be a huge amount of trauma for him as he grows to adulthood :’(
I don't know what's worse, the fact this kid is going to grown up feeling neglected or the fact he could grow up beating himself up over having Autism.
(Speaking as someone who has beaten themselves up for having Autism)
I am someone that happens to have both situations, and in my experience, neglect is way worse than my autism.
She made videos before the adoption saying they knew what his special needs were and she raved about how she was so happy to be adopting him with those needs. She had to convince her husband to adopt and also to adopt special needs because he didn't want to. So, they lied about not trying to get a child with his needs. They fully had fans fund his adoption. She wore a $6500 dollar watch while complaining about 500 a month theraphy for him and that they were changing to a "therapist" for 70 a month instead. They spent 700k home renovation after buying a 600k house after all the increase in revenue his adoption brought them. She duct taped his hands for thumb sucking while the other kids were in the background thumb sucking without being duct taped, put him in his room alone and let the other kids be out, belittled him and his special needs/english delays. They lied saying he had the forever home but it was a foster meanwhile off in bali after giving him up, she lied about being a RN (her nursing license expired back in something like 2013 and she was documented assaulting a pregnant coworker at the workplace) which is a crime (you cannot claim to be a registered nurse if you let your license lapse), she posted in facebook groups asking after giving him up what special needs looked serious but wasn't serious that they could adopt next...
Completely exploited this child. 100% white savior adoption. RUclips absolutely needs to cut into these family vlogs.
They probably didn't have money for that reason so many youtubers shoot just regular people who spend all their money on materials and looking good that they have no money left over for essentials and life things. I seen people with really nice designer shoes and clothes and car but had to live with a toothache or cough for months cause they couldn't afford to go to the doctor or dentist. It's sad 😢
“If you’re going to adopt a child, you need to be ready for ANYTHING. Because thats what being a parent is.” THANK YOU QUEEN 👑
"He is OUR KID"
as someone who wants to adopt a kid, the fact that she gave up and dropped him like that depresses me
"We're trying not to impact his future"
You already impacted it, and the terrible assholes that gave up on him because he was 'too difficult' put up their videos online.
He's probably gonna be able to find them when he's grown up. To be able to see the idiocy of your fake 'parents' recorded on video...I can't even imagine
I am already on the defence with the whole idea that you can "choose" your adoptive child. With pregnancy there can be a number of things that dont go as planned: kids are born with disorders, with disability, with non conforming genders and sexualities, you don't get to choose. Why can you do that with adoptive children, like you were at a store?
Also, I don't know if you didn't mention this on purpose, but they chose this institute in China because the procedure in the us was too long and they wanted a kid quickly. And this agency stated very clearly that they were dealing with children with some kind of difficulty only.
They knew what they were getting into. You can't just quit after 3 years.
YES to all of this
I want to add on to that that literally anything can happen to your child at any given time. Your child could be hit by a car and become paralyzed. They could almost drown, survive, and have some brain damage as a result. You shouldn’t have kids unless you’re ready for anything and everything that comes with them
I kind of feel like they shouldn't have any kids.
By their own admission they also were given a form to indicate which special needs they were willing to work with and they checked “99%” of the boxes.
That said though, I do think to a certain extent that it’s important that adopted kids get a good fit, and so prospective parents do need to use discretion. There are just some homes that are equipped to handle certain children and not others. I think it’s very important that people who are looking to adopt are clear about what they can and cannot handle, which is not what happened here.
I agree with most of your comment, but I don't think it's unreasonable to have certain restrictions on the child you're willing to take on. You're right that anything can go as unplanned with a biological child, which is why I see it as being responsible to set realistic limitations when the choices are given to you.
Also, knowing that he would have to have more care and attention, she has another child. Wtf
Stories like these really show that some adopted parents don’t feel their adopted kids are “their real children”! Guarantee if it was their biological child that had these medical and behavioral issues they wouldn’t have given them up.... they have the resources and access to healthcare, they just don’t feel like using them for him and it’s heartbreaking🤦🏾♀️🥺
I mean, I've heard of parents abandoning their biological children because they were disabled. Don't underestimate people's ableism. I agree that there's an issue with the way some parents view their adopted children though.
If your going to take on a child it’s your responsibility to dedicate and take care of them no matter how they are. And weather or not their adopted you chose to dedicate your time and love to a kid and need to respect them as a person.
They actually posted a letter to Insta or Facebook or some shit and dead-ass admitted they would've given their bio kids all the resources in the world.
The thing is, if you carry a child for 9 months and go through all the pain to give birth to him, you'll have a stronger emotional bond. Also they've known their own kids for more time (it's said that a parent's favourite kid, if they have one, it's the oldest one because they have more memories with them). That doesn't mean they should give him away because he's not what they expected tho... kids are for life. And i'm sure they would have loved him as their own son if they gave him time.
mmmmm... yes, they would @VV. Yes they fucking would. Ableism is ableism.
As an autistic adult: we are not objects. We are not separate from our neurology; we are not people with autism. We are autistic. It is a spectrum. Computer's can have different OS; it is the same with brains. We are not broken, missing pieces, etc. It is not ok to film children, esp meltdowns. They cannot consent and the internet is forever. People do not understand these videos can follow us and harm us far down the road. For excellent non ableist resources, please check out: Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN), Autistic Not Weird, Autistic Women and Nonbinary Network, plus a whole page on why NEVER Auti$m Speaks: medium.com/@KirstenSchultz/a-roundup-of-posts-against-autism-speaks-5dbf7f8cfcc6
i love this comment so much. we need to be listened to more as autistic people.
Agreed. They are really good groups to check out.
Always listen to Autistic voices. 💖
And for the love of God, we are not a puzzle! I want to ralph every time I see that puzzle piece.
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FUCK AUTISM SPEAKS
💛A woman on the spectrum(low on the spectrum but still creates struggles)💛
One of his diagnosis was attachment related though I can't remember exactly word for word what it was. Just that he was having trouble forming attachments with caregivers, which is understandable and happens a lot with children who get given up for adoption, orphaned, ect at a young age.
So with that, and his autism, look at how many times he's attempted to hug and cuddle with Myka.. on one occasion she shoved him right away from her. Really??!
This little boy tried SO HARD to let his "parents" (don't even want to call them that) know that he loved them, when I'm sure it must have been incredibly difficult. This TODDLER put more effort into them, than they put into him. It's depressing.
I just hope he has found a lovely family who's supportive and empathetic to his needs. If he gets an upgrade I'll feel a lot better about the situation.
I'm Autistic and I know that the majority of my "high functioning" behaviors is because of the environment I live in. I can see the high energy environment negatively effecting and it's probably better that he's no longer with that family. I don't know why they prolonged it for 3 years and I'm interested in hearing more about this. I honestly think the family trying to sugarcoat this whole thing is worse for their image because it only raises suspicion.
There's some stuff Kat didn't show that makes me honestly relieved Huxley doesn't live with this family anymore, other than the family vlog exploitation. Like they duct taped his hands as punishment for sucking his thumb. They were abusing him, no question, and while him being abandoned like this after 3 years is horrible, at least now he has a chance of being adopted by someone who won't abuse him.
@@tylerd8289 Jesus if this is true I hope they get their punishment!