I never should have cut my long hair... apparently.

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  • Опубликовано: 27 авг 2021
  • I never should have cut my long hair... apparently. Honestly, I have zero regrets and love my new short hair. I wanted to do a deep dive as to why we, as women, are so attached to our long hair. I don't care if people think my long hair is more "beautiful". It's not my job to please people's eyeballs :)
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  • @PennyTovar
    @PennyTovar  2 года назад +5141

    SIKE lol I have zero regrets and love my new short hair. I just wanted to do a deep dive as to why we, as women, are so attached to our long hair. This is not to say that we are not allowed to like long hair. But to analyze why some people become hostile when someone else cuts their hair. Enjoy!

    • @sacha2744
      @sacha2744 2 года назад +68

      Yoo I freaked out when I saw the title. Happy to know that you love your new short hair!

    • @blackwing97
      @blackwing97 2 года назад +15

      @@sacha2744 same she scared me 😭

    • @ameliarosezimlich8972
      @ameliarosezimlich8972 2 года назад +21

      I WAS SO CONFUSED, lol! So glad you're loving your beautiful new cut!

    • @carmenrosa6449
      @carmenrosa6449 2 года назад +20

      Love your new cut, all that matters is what you love. Keep being you ♥️

    • @pezz9684
      @pezz9684 2 года назад +12

      The short hair is definitely amazing!!

  • @mojibien7570
    @mojibien7570 2 года назад +4475

    HOW DO PEOPLE HAVE SO MUCH TIME THAT THEY CAN HATE ON SOMEONE GETTING A HAIRCUT ON THE INTERNET LIKE I HAVEN’T HAD THE TIME TO CLEAN MY KITCHEN SINCE LIKE 2012

    • @DANNYTHEFROG123
      @DANNYTHEFROG123 2 года назад +131

      I bet they haven't trimmed their hair in six years. Or done anything out of fear of judging from others.

    • @anais3580
      @anais3580 2 года назад +62

      I was wondering the same thing. I guess unemployment is at an all time high lol

    • @natalyrausch
      @natalyrausch 2 года назад +57

      Most of these people are literal children and they don’t have much to do since they keep procrastinating on their homework lol

    • @lori3670
      @lori3670 2 года назад +20

      Lmfao so true. Like dude. Get a life.

    • @doriadorable9380
      @doriadorable9380 2 года назад +5

      You look beautiful!!!

  • @potato_salad_sandwhiches
    @potato_salad_sandwhiches 2 года назад +952

    “People would KILL to have your curly hair!”
    Yeah… that’s why she donated it to those who NEED it.
    WHAT IS NOT CLICKING FOR THESE PEOPLE. A HAIRCUT IS NORMAL💀💀

    • @anap3008
      @anap3008 2 года назад +40

      people like to project their insecurities... :c
      (oh! same naaaame!)

    • @kalliepetersonkikibright8365
      @kalliepetersonkikibright8365 2 года назад +11

      I had the same thought when she shared that comment.

    • @disneydiscoverychannel8838
      @disneydiscoverychannel8838 2 года назад +2

      Why would they NEED to have it?

    • @potato_salad_sandwhiches
      @potato_salad_sandwhiches 2 года назад +1

      @@anap3008 hey twin :))

    • @Black.Spades
      @Black.Spades 2 года назад +18

      @@disneydiscoverychannel8838 Because both cancer and chemo are already emotionally very draining, even without the hair falling out. Some people need a wig as support, for a bit of stability.

  • @yolandalove2903
    @yolandalove2903 2 года назад +338

    “Who cares, it’s not my job to be pretty”… Let em know girl.

  • @Michellemcd543
    @Michellemcd543 2 года назад +351

    Lol people are really dramatic over a haircut 😂

    • @Ihatedayslikethis1
      @Ihatedayslikethis1 2 года назад +14

      Queen Michelle 😍😍😍😍. Glad you came to see the level of offense this weirdos took 🤣

    • @chelseanicolecampos3921
      @chelseanicolecampos3921 2 года назад +2

      Love your channel!

    • @itsallperspective7415
      @itsallperspective7415 2 года назад +2

      Then cut your long curly hair if it's just a haircut....

    • @Ihatedayslikethis1
      @Ihatedayslikethis1 2 года назад +10

      @@itsallperspective7415 offense level: replying to a thread from 2 months ago to order a complete stranger to do something 🤣🤣🤣

    • @ErinMott09
      @ErinMott09 2 года назад +20

      @@itsallperspective7415 people can be in support of others cutting their hair, without actually wanting to cut their own🙄 Your comment is ironic considering your username

  • @damagedpages676
    @damagedpages676 2 года назад +1783

    The negativity aside, I can't get over how beautiful this hairstyle looks. It looks absolutely amazing and makes me want to cut my hair again.

    • @jennyrose9454
      @jennyrose9454 2 года назад +9

      I think youd look super pretty based on your pic.
      Plus some women just dont have nice hair when it's too long! Its either too thick or too scraggly or just too much work.
      Do what makes YOU happy and if people aren't happy that youre happy, are they really your friend??

    • @damagedpages676
      @damagedpages676 2 года назад +6

      @@jennyrose9454 aww thank you! I'm just afraid I might end up looking like a lil boy if I got a similar cut to hers but at the same time... I like a challenge XD

    • @zoebrow8221
      @zoebrow8221 2 года назад +3

      Meee tooooo love this cut.

    • @sandy_carpetsthesecond5013
      @sandy_carpetsthesecond5013 2 года назад +5

      @@jennyrose9454 Pf- Doesn't cutting your hair shorter give the illusion that your hair is thicker, though?

    • @jennyrose9454
      @jennyrose9454 2 года назад +3

      @@sandy_carpetsthesecond5013 I think it usually does yes.

  • @alinam6962
    @alinam6962 2 года назад +534

    'It's not my job to be pleasing to other people's eyeballs!'
    YES PENNY GO PENNY! CONFIDENCE IS BEAUTY

  • @wes4744
    @wes4744 2 года назад +257

    They really don’t realize how high maintenance long hair is, ESPECIALLY long curly hair!! That is NOT easy. My hair is around the length yours used to be and I honestly contemplate chopping it off sometimes too. Another thing that isn’t easy is that people always compliment my hair NOT me. So imagine how I felt as young girl growing up with people just complimenting the beauty of my hair and not me myself. Recently I cut bangs though, and that was VERY empowering 😊.

    • @Puttingthejaneinplain
      @Puttingthejaneinplain 2 года назад +1

      This!!!

    • @viabreu9413
      @viabreu9413 2 года назад +1

      Same, same!

    • @joykaralyn
      @joykaralyn 2 года назад +5

      This! I just got a pixie cut. I haven't even updated profiles yet. My hair wasn't even long (a little bit past shoulder length) and I was so tired of it. Still figuring out my new cut but def worth it. Feels like I've always had it, completely comfortable with it.

    • @wes4744
      @wes4744 2 года назад

      @@joykaralyn Yesss! So happy for you 😫, it must look so good!!

    • @water_lili_arts
      @water_lili_arts 2 года назад

      Ikr

  • @thatoneguyfromthatoneplace9515
    @thatoneguyfromthatoneplace9515 2 года назад +247

    As a guy with very long hair, it pisses me off when people say I have to cut it off. Its my hair and I can do what I want with it. The same goes for you or anyone. Do what YOU want. Power to you

    • @felixsegg9124
      @felixsegg9124 2 года назад +1

      YASSSSS ✊🏻😌✨✨

    • @ES11777
      @ES11777 2 года назад

      Yeah but a guy with very long hair looks weird and gross af. A man’s hair should not be longer than a woman’s hair just like a man’s boobs shouldn’t be bigger than woman’s boobs. 🤭🤧

    • @wackwack4381
      @wackwack4381 2 года назад +3

      @@ES11777 bro what??? Please keep your weird and nasty comments to yourself. Nobody agrees with you

    • @fk1386
      @fk1386 2 года назад

      They just mean you have to cut it off to get laid easily, not that you have to cut it off. Sub-text is everything!

  • @MiremItziar
    @MiremItziar 2 года назад +430

    *_"the final reason... because it's my hair, because it's what I wanted to do"_*
    YEEEES PENNY! 👏🏼 YES! 👏🏼

  • @xmarss501
    @xmarss501 2 года назад +389

    Why everyone is ignoring the fact that she donated her hair?!
    As long as she’s happy with it , she will always look beautiful.

    • @rhodesgrec1648
      @rhodesgrec1648 2 года назад +4

      Before she's was pretty, now she's gorgeous asf

    • @ceriecemarie9912
      @ceriecemarie9912 2 года назад +2

      Excellent point! I forgot to mention that.

    • @mavocado
      @mavocado 2 года назад +12

      I’m shocked to the people saying “what a waste”.. she wasn’t happy with the length anymore, she wanted a change feeling weighed down by it physically and mentally. That change she made for herself was something good, not only for herself, but for whoever is receiving that beautiful healthy hair she worked so hard on, giving someone some happiness that she just gave herself, and giving herself a transformation, while also giving that to someone else! It’s truly beautiful and I’m so proud of her for breaking out of that shell that she felt so trapped in, she’s glowing with confidence!

  • @sadfurby2376
    @sadfurby2376 2 года назад +314

    "There are so many people who could have been born female and appreciated long hair".....do they know men can grow their hair out...and historically have? Since the dawn of time?💀 pathetic.

  • @misbahailia3345
    @misbahailia3345 Год назад +69

    She looked like a mermaid with long hair. Now she looks like a fairy. 💖

  • @Nnusa90
    @Nnusa90 2 года назад +207

    "It's not my job to be pretty, it's not my job to be pleasing to other people's eyeballs"👏👏👏

  • @ayeshas5178
    @ayeshas5178 2 года назад +381

    I cut 20 inches off recently. I was enjoying my new look until my people started saying the exact same hateful things to me... I NEEDED this video today

    • @Likelyfairy
      @Likelyfairy 2 года назад +15

      I bet you look beautiful and as long as it was ur choice ❤️❤️❤️

    • @luckyDancer100
      @luckyDancer100 2 года назад +9

      Do what you want. You can’t make everyone happy. What’s most important is your happy with your haircut.

    • @rima.mv2147
      @rima.mv2147 2 года назад +6

      For real when I cut my hair they keep telling me that I look like someone’s Auntie

    • @jennyrose9454
      @jennyrose9454 2 года назад +5

      I'm sure you look pretty but more important feel better...and they are either jealous or brainwashed.

    • @nightowl0901
      @nightowl0901 2 года назад

      Same with me and my grays. People went mad

  • @orangesundaes8613
    @orangesundaes8613 2 года назад +194

    I dont know but I had hair below my butt and went for a pixie cut at home because I was just so frustrated with it. With the tangles, with how painful it was when you tug on it while you are sleeping, how it got caught on everything, the hours spent to maintain it, and especially the attachment I had to it. When I cut it, it was one of the best feelings I've ever had - I felt like I melted off dead weight off my shoulders as cliche as it sounds. Showers are now so much more satisfying; I can run my fingers through my scalp with shampoo so quickly and easily and it feels so good. Drying is even quicker. I no longer value myself based upon the length of my hair. It also brings out some features I had on my face that I didn't know I adored. If you feel like you want a haircut, go for it ladies! Hair will absolutely grow back even if it takes time. It will make you feel a sort of peace and give you a new change to your routine! Challenge yourself to try new styles with a new haircut! Have fun and good luck.

    • @gusmonster59
      @gusmonster59 2 года назад +12

      I have done the same thing. I had hair past my waist. I was tired of the weight, the forever to dry, the pain washing it. You go and LOVE your short hair! Woot!

    • @ollie1753
      @ollie1753 2 года назад +1

      I have cut my hair short three times in my 30 years of living, and all three times it was just a breeze having short hair 😂 but honestly my heart belongs to long hair ♥ it's currently WL and I'm trying g to grow it to HL

    • @Giooooooo809
      @Giooooooo809 Год назад

      You don’t know what?

  • @trecianorth78
    @trecianorth78 2 года назад +92

    When I had short hair, the most common response from other women was "I love your hair! I wish I was brave enough to do that". I never lacked male attention. Now I'm growing it out because *I* want to.

  • @galatea5455
    @galatea5455 2 года назад +592

    I feel so sad for the girl who puts all of her value and self-worth into the hands of men and what they "like" about a woman. Very sad.

  • @jadeybug12
    @jadeybug12 2 года назад +57

    It’s clear that some of these folks wanted to vicariously live through Penny and her long, curly hair. So when Penny did want SHE wanted to HER OWN BODY, they felt like spoiled their fantasies. Thankfully Penny is fully aware of projecting and jealousy, and SHE loves her short hair. ❤️

  • @theeqweenkirby
    @theeqweenkirby 2 года назад +42

    "It's NOT my job to be pleasing to everybody's eyeballs" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
    LOVE that!

  • @karly.asshhh
    @karly.asshhh 2 года назад +303

    Short curly hair + simple eye look + red lips + white clothes = my dream aesthetic

    • @ilariaf.7421
      @ilariaf.7421 2 года назад +3

      That's the ultimate "natural chic" look!! (I hope this makes sense lol)

  • @Stardust27
    @Stardust27 2 года назад +349

    “It’s not my job to be pleasing to other people’s eyeballs” preach sis

  • @SherryMarie2
    @SherryMarie2 2 года назад +25

    Girl this is a whole case study and college thesis! You look great both ways, but you’re correct, it’s about how you FEEL. Great job 👏🏼

  • @kibummmm
    @kibummmm 2 года назад +41

    I really love how you turned this into an analysis on how society views women's hair. Everything you said is spot on and we should all be free to make choices about our own bodies rather than have pressure from society to fit into a certain standard. And this is coming from someone who genuinely loves long hair xD

  • @OldTinLizzy
    @OldTinLizzy 2 года назад +564

    When you said "It is not my job to be pretty" I literally pumped my fist in the air and said "YESSS PENNY!" Preach it, girl. P.S. I love your new haircut.

  • @nataliezuniga943
    @nataliezuniga943 2 года назад +788

    I'm sitting here with a mustache, leg hair bout 2 inches long, and a unibrow. Peniel, you and your sister Salem have sincerely taught me many lessons about loving myself and my Hispanic features. You should be proud of yourself for setting an example of self prioritization and self love. Hateful commentors haven't watch a deep thoughts deep condition video and it ~shows. Much love 💛✊🏽

  • @Jennarti2
    @Jennarti2 2 года назад +25

    I'm 52 years old and I wish I had had your perspective regarding beauty standards at that age. Thank you! I'm sending this link to my niece who is a beauty and I want her to think like you!

  • @LauraSanchezz
    @LauraSanchezz 2 года назад +40

    “It is not my job to be pleasing to other people’s eyeballs” I love it!!!! And protein
    Growing out of holes on your head haha that’s great!!! Penny you are awesome!!!!

  • @killedkenny2725
    @killedkenny2725 2 года назад +306

    "it's not my job to look pleasant to other people's eyeballs"
    YES why are people even offended by your apperance, so ridiculous

    • @nickn2794
      @nickn2794 2 года назад +9

      Those girls feel attacked by what she did, because unconsciously (or not) they've always felt like owning a superior femininity/beauty because of long hair (or wanted to reach that goal to feal superior) and now see that ideal of femininity/beauty undermined.

    • @sarithajagajith6568
      @sarithajagajith6568 2 года назад +1

      @@nickn2794 i don't think we should try to impress or satisfy others. They don't even care about us.

  • @Kaylee2012
    @Kaylee2012 2 года назад +243

    “I would kill to have long hair” Ok but their hair’s length still isn’t going to affect your hair’s length so why are you so mad about it?

    • @jadagibbs9519
      @jadagibbs9519 2 года назад +5

      OMG THANK YOU. If they actually wanted it, they should’ve CRAWLED to the garbage. (Where they should be)

    • @catmeowmeow1662
      @catmeowmeow1662 2 года назад

      @@jadagibbs9519 she donated it

  • @fishtaylfertility
    @fishtaylfertility 2 года назад +41

    Penny: It's not my job to look pleasing to other people's eyeballs!
    Also Penny: Looks drop-dead gorgeous 🔥

  • @JannelleOShaughnessy
    @JannelleOShaughnessy 2 года назад +487

    “I DEFINITELY WAS!” 😆 so many cultures believe energy etc is stored in the hair, and honestly it makes a lot of sense that you have been making so many shifts in your life that it was time to release that old energy that was no longer serving you.
    You’re beautiful Penny. Inside and out. Looking forward to witnessing what’s to come with this new energy. ❤️

    • @siedoublertotheaaa7099
      @siedoublertotheaaa7099 2 года назад +4

      Yes yes and yes!!! Im a true believer of cutting mine when its time to let go. I cut my locs after going through a bad breakup .. next time ill just do a apple cider vinegar wash first to see if it Helps lol

  • @caljacobs3287
    @caljacobs3287 2 года назад +131

    Not to mention Martin’s reaction if they are so concerned about the “male gaze”. Cheers to a man who respects his wife and finds her hotter than everyone else despite the length of her hair 🥂🍻🤗
    Give me a break people. If you’re jealous just say so. 🙄

  • @nesrinenes4016
    @nesrinenes4016 2 года назад +26

    She looks so much happier and confident. Props to her for being such a queen

    • @ceoa
      @ceoa Год назад

      She looks more mature, and still gorgeous.

  • @daisy209
    @daisy209 2 года назад +11

    I love, love, LOvE how your hair turned out!!! I personally like having short hair myself too. It's comfortable, convenient and just feels so breezy. My husband actually prefers when I cut my hair into a cute layered bob. So no, not all men prefer long hair on women.
    Girl, ur hair was gorgeous when it was long, but its also gorgeous cut short, and u rock the hell out of it!!!!!! U look beautiful, and u
    also look so confident too, I'm loving it. ✌️

  • @iris_saenz
    @iris_saenz 2 года назад +352

    the cut really accentuates her facial features, she looks gorgeous and it suits her very well.

    • @sianeegett3037
      @sianeegett3037 2 года назад +12

      Exactly it looks so cute on her

    • @Aethelhadas
      @Aethelhadas 2 года назад +1

      Exactly, I would totally cut my hair if I had a pretty face. My hair sort of compensates haha

    • @twinsweare2
      @twinsweare2 2 года назад

      Agree~

  • @jessieupton4643
    @jessieupton4643 2 года назад +490

    Shouldn’t we be celebrating how liberated and happy someone else is? Building them up! Sharing in that joy. Penny, you are incredible! Because you are you!

    • @chunli1143
      @chunli1143 2 года назад

      apparently not because people not happy so they hate seeing others happy

    • @josiieize2.051
      @josiieize2.051 2 года назад +1

      YES we should!!!

    • @presleecarson532
      @presleecarson532 2 года назад

      Amen

    • @itsallperspective7415
      @itsallperspective7415 2 года назад

      When 1000s of random women on the internet give an opinion maybe that's just general consensus and not hate?
      She will be in her 30s by the time her hair is back to that length. If my sister choped her curls I think I would cry.
      All that self expression and confidence all to look like a forever 21 mushroom.

    • @josiieize2.051
      @josiieize2.051 2 года назад +2

      @@itsallperspective7415 So what, what 1000 strangers have to say about someone else - I really don't get it. Let the woman be, let her shave it all off for that matter! There are ways of saying things, and calling someone a Forever 21 mushroom doesn't sound particularly nice. I hope your sister does whatever she wants with her hair, and I hope you will be rooting for her if that time comes. Choosing what to do with your own vody because of strangers' consensus is absolute nonsense, think before you speak next time

  • @cassieackerman2371
    @cassieackerman2371 2 года назад +12

    Love the short hair on you, it looks so fun and I feel like it suits your personality. Good for you for staying true to yourself and your individual style :)

  • @carina-nonbinary
    @carina-nonbinary 2 года назад +6

    I cried watching this because it really hurts when even people who otherwise are very open and supportive fall for the lies of society and don't want to admit it. And because you put it so perfectly and it healed a little bit of my broken self love

  • @namrata9235
    @namrata9235 2 года назад +182

    "Dead protein that grows out of holes out of my head" is EXACTLY what I'm gonna say instead of 'hair' from now on.

  • @francelysabreu5237
    @francelysabreu5237 2 года назад +438

    I love how you coming out with the psychological defense mechanism. My major is psychology and I love seeing you speak about these issues 💕 you’re beautiful

    • @PennyTovar
      @PennyTovar  2 года назад +61

      Every single "hate" comment always has a very complex psychological profile, and I find it fun to try and decode it lol

    • @caryrobles2278
      @caryrobles2278 2 года назад +3

      🙌

    • @beberivera7011
      @beberivera7011 2 года назад +1

      @@PennyTovar very well done👏🏽😍

  • @bexamcca
    @bexamcca 2 года назад +4

    I needed this. I love everything about this video and can relate to all of it. Yesterday I went from long, curly hair that would get caught in my bum cheeks in the shower to hair so short it’s shaved at the neck. The change is affecting me physically and emotionally that I could write a book to explain. I don’t love the cut, but I don’t regret going short. I do, however, completely love your look. Cheers to no more neck pain! I’ll be following you now to find out how to manage short hair. Thank you.

    • @elizabethgalaida5880
      @elizabethgalaida5880 Год назад

      The fun thing about short hair is that, if you don't love the cut, it doesn't take long before you can go get a different cut. There's lots of variety in short hair, and you can find the cut you love. Best wishes in finding the best look you love.

  • @LiveOutLoud87
    @LiveOutLoud87 2 года назад +4

    I love Penny and the positive messages she puts into the universe. GO PENNY GO girl you are doin the dang thing

  • @joellesfails
    @joellesfails 2 года назад +295

    Women and girls who say they'd kill for long curly hair clearly have never had long curly hair. It does look beautiful but it's time consuming. When I started CGM I became so out of shape bc working out meant I'd have to wash my hair more often and wash days were so time consuming. I cut my hair shoulder length and stopped really caring if my curls were stretched out after putting my hair in a bun to go for a run. Sometimes I look back at pictures of me with my long hair and yeah, it was really pretty. But there's more to life than maintaining the prettiest version of yourself.

    • @lizaminasyan9255
      @lizaminasyan9255 2 года назад +6

      agree 100%

    • @louisano3778
      @louisano3778 2 года назад +1

      You don’t even have curly hair

    • @TracyD2
      @TracyD2 2 года назад +20

      @@louisano3778 Perhaps maybe she styled it straight in this picture. People have been known to do that.

    • @louisano3778
      @louisano3778 2 года назад

      @@TracyD2 it looks like she barely has waves to me and calls it curls but possible

    • @conmart02
      @conmart02 2 года назад +2

      As you get older (and your back and neck remind you of this constantly,) the curly girl wash and style regimen can be physically overwhelming.
      I gave up on diffusing very early on and even scrunching out the crunch is now a major “fill in the blank” for me to do!
      I only hope the rest of the world thinks it’s worth all the effort I put into this “natural hair” of mine. I’m certainly beginning to ponder if it is....

  • @claudiacedeno2894
    @claudiacedeno2894 2 года назад +167

    "In their smooth brain" smoothest, most educated comeback EVER love it

  • @juliesanders2488
    @juliesanders2488 2 года назад +5

    This is the first video I’ve watched of yours and I was dying laughing and extremely impressed all at the same time! Love your sense of humor. And, I absolutely LOVE your haircut!!! Yes, you had beautiful, long hair, but the short hair is stunning on you!! I can see your light, sparkly personality shining through. Anyway, loved everything you had to say! I’m gonna watch more of your hair tutorials now, lol.

  • @kimmymundell34
    @kimmymundell34 2 года назад +5

    I appreciated this so much! I cut my hair recently and had anxiety over what others thought or would say, I actually do like it short, and appreciated the comment about it's not my job to look pretty for others..... Set yourself free 😄

  • @GenaMarie
    @GenaMarie 2 года назад +450

    👏🏼👏🏼 that ending though 🙌🏼

  • @nataliesoutlet
    @nataliesoutlet 2 года назад +265

    YAS PENNY YEEEESSSSS 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @XDdu73
    @XDdu73 2 года назад +2

    Penny, i LOVE where your content has been going lately. this video was great and the haircut looks amazing on you

  • @anni3805
    @anni3805 2 года назад +1

    I’ve been a fan of yours for a while now, and I’m honestly so grateful to have found you. You were a key to me finding confidence in myself in high school, and now (despite still having plenty of self esteem issues) I feel comfortable experimenting, pushing myself to cut my hair about a year ago, and dressing in clothes I would’ve never been caught dead in during high school, learning that society’s gaze isn’t as important as your own. All of this while learning how to take care of my skin and hair. 🥰 love you so much Penny, thanks for being so awesome.

  • @karinaalix5702
    @karinaalix5702 2 года назад +86

    "It's not my job to be pretty or appealing to other people's eye balls" 🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @vtc5296
    @vtc5296 2 года назад +188

    My A&P teacher said “it baffles how we as a species determine the standard of beauty based off of dead things. The only living thing we look at when we see a person is their eyeballs. Hair, dead. Skin, dead. Nails, dead”. It stuck with me forever.

    • @jessicag.905
      @jessicag.905 2 года назад +4

      🤯 mind blown at this realization

    • @losthope98
      @losthope98 2 года назад +1

      Skin dead... wha

    • @MsTriara
      @MsTriara 2 года назад +6

      Pretty sure your skin isn't dead, fam.

    • @curlyemmm1232
      @curlyemmm1232 2 года назад +2

      @@MsTriara I think it’s more like our skin is always replacing itself kinda thing.

  • @ashliefleig
    @ashliefleig 2 года назад +11

    “It’s not my job to be pleasing to other people’s eyeballs.” This right here. That’s the whole enchilada right there.

  • @hannahbeachy3813
    @hannahbeachy3813 2 года назад +3

    I love this hair. You're adorable, this haircut has so much character.

  • @knightthezero
    @knightthezero 2 года назад +104

    Imagine caring so much about the hair of someone who doesn’t know you and you will never meet in real life 😂

  • @nea1186
    @nea1186 2 года назад +66

    “Dead protein that grows out of holes on my head “ lol your so legit !!

  • @catiesteas
    @catiesteas 2 года назад +10

    That’s literally the cut I always wanted, and I gave myself that cut two years ago. I loved it fully, and now I’m growing it out again. It’s so spunky! And I loved it and got lots of compliments!

  • @lilwildlilbitparis8055
    @lilwildlilbitparis8055 2 года назад

    I love your new short hair!! It looks great and there are so many new styles you can do with it.

  • @nla5307
    @nla5307 2 года назад +81

    The long hair was aaaamazing on you, this shorter hair cut makes you look timeless. Classic. You absolutely rock both.

    • @emiliaescobar7652
      @emiliaescobar7652 2 года назад +3

      Yes, she looks Fabulous with long hair/short hair, & she probably would look Fabulous Bald too! Great video!

  • @suheilbaez1028
    @suheilbaez1028 2 года назад +284

    I can’t believe people freaked out over this ! Your cut looks great and u are still beautiful with or without long hair.

    • @lastjob2011
      @lastjob2011 2 года назад +10

      Ladies and gentlemen we have the perfect example of how social media has ruined society!
      Arguing over a grown a$s woman who cuts her own damn hair.

    • @shellyg824
      @shellyg824 2 года назад +8

      @Joyce Duncan people have always shared unnecessary opinions with me in person, social media just makes it easier to be anonymous

  • @Tutiez1
    @Tutiez1 Год назад +3

    I have never felt more feminine than when I buzzed my hair. I feel so much more myself without the length.

  • @Heartbeat9
    @Heartbeat9 2 года назад +4

    I cut my waist length hair earlier this year for the same reasons, and the effing TANGLES. Couldn’t deal anymore. The products are too expensive to have to use so much every single time I wash my hair as well 😩 Best decision ever. I’m planning on cutting even shorter soon as well, I can’t wait! And your haircut looks amazing! There’s so much versatility to curly hair, we are blessed 🤍

  • @funkypunky8227
    @funkypunky8227 2 года назад +131

    I can't believe people still have nasty things to say when women cut their hair. It's just hair! I've shaved my head three times in my lifetime so far and It's such an experience.

    • @florl.delgado4093
      @florl.delgado4093 2 года назад +5

      Me too, once. Loved it!!

    • @desertrat5543
      @desertrat5543 2 года назад +5

      Right. People got so offended when I did it. Like it was a personal attack. 🥴

    • @dulcea9815
      @dulcea9815 2 года назад +6

      Did it twice. Those who loved me accepted it. Those fake MF disappeared. I’m not about to internalize they issues.

    • @AdamarisCraftsss
      @AdamarisCraftsss 2 года назад +3

      @@desertrat5543 I know right! I can’t understand why strangers get upset over another stranger cutting their hair 🤦‍♀️ my mom has the exact same mentality. She gave us soooo many insecurities by always making comments on our appearance.

    • @hidamisolivofelix922
      @hidamisolivofelix922 2 года назад +3

      Right it’s so annoying. Move tf on it’s not your hair. It literally grows back anyway💀💀

  • @DANNYTHEFROG123
    @DANNYTHEFROG123 2 года назад +86

    I love the cut. People are weird about other people's hair. I am sad for the person who buys extensions just to attract a man.

    • @Squeegees123
      @Squeegees123 2 года назад +3

      Huh? Your statement is a contradiction in and of itself lol.

    • @iluvzurara2
      @iluvzurara2 2 года назад +9

      @@Squeegees123 well it is sad that she’s using extensions for external (specifically for male) satisfaction 🤷🏻‍♀️ and her reaction to penny’s cut was weirdzzz

    • @areolagrandespoop7269
      @areolagrandespoop7269 2 года назад +1

      @@Squeegees123 tf?

  • @brandymaya4457
    @brandymaya4457 2 года назад

    By far the best video I’ve seen on here in a long time. Preach it. Love this energy.

  • @MA1.5
    @MA1.5 2 года назад +163

    I’ve done dramatic cuts like that before and it really does feel like a fresh start. So much energy goes into growing and maintaining long hair, when you’re ready for the chop it’s like a rebirth. You look great!!!

  • @madabouthollyoaks411
    @madabouthollyoaks411 2 года назад +164

    People be wylin over long hair I really don’t get it, Hair is just hair. “People could’ve been born female and enjoyed it” LMAOO WHAT??

    • @PennyTovar
      @PennyTovar  2 года назад +75

      I literally almost fell out of my chair when I read that comment too xD I actually feel really bad for them, I hope they are able to find their own happiness someday.

    • @eypu999
      @eypu999 2 года назад +26

      They’re acting like only women grow hair or summ

    • @natalyrausch
      @natalyrausch 2 года назад +8

      @@eypu999 there’s definitely guys in my life with longer hair than me lol
      guys always do this thing where they think they’re incapable of doing what women do. They can wear make up, they can have long hair, they can wear tight clothes… the only ppl stopping them are their own damn selves.

    • @lily5952
      @lily5952 2 года назад +19

      @@natalyrausch I feel that it's more complicated than that. Sure, you can say that men are largely preventing themselves from doing whatever but it's the social constructs that really prevents people from doing certain things. Bottom line is that the patriarchy hurts both men and women, because of the rigid roles we are pressured to stick to. Sometimes these roles are so rigid that it could pose a threat to your safety if you defy them.

  • @marronmargarite8893
    @marronmargarite8893 2 года назад +1

    lOVE IT!!! You radiate confidence and that "je ne sais quoi". Beautiful

  • @kiaras.5200
    @kiaras.5200 2 года назад +1

    I absolutely loved this video and how you explained everything, literally brought me to tears 🥺 you look amazing no matter what as long as YOU are happy. Much love 💞

  • @anallelireyes1805
    @anallelireyes1805 2 года назад +56

    i love how this video is so educational on how messed up our society is but many people will still not understand a single thing that was said & still hate on others

  • @Marie-hu7xd
    @Marie-hu7xd 2 года назад +109

    I love that you took all the negativity, analysed it and used them to teach others about feminism! I love your haircut and even more your confidence!

  • @loraleeneg9839
    @loraleeneg9839 2 года назад +2

    I just cut my long curly hair that I've had for others for years and it felt so freeing to let go. I'm glad for you and it looks great!

  • @mysmilesarah
    @mysmilesarah 2 года назад

    New subscriber gained! You've said out loud so many thoughts that have been in my head for years. Thank you!

  • @roxanne4746
    @roxanne4746 2 года назад +87

    I literally lost all my hair to alopecia and I'm living for the haircut. IT'S. YOUR. BODY. And you look amazing.

    • @onemorelight593
      @onemorelight593 2 года назад +1

      try rosemary oil

    • @eunoia222
      @eunoia222 2 года назад +1

      @@onemorelight593 alopecia isn't something you can fix with rosemary oil.

    • @tia5374
      @tia5374 2 года назад

      @@onemorelight593 wtf do some research first

    • @roxanne4746
      @roxanne4746 2 года назад +1

      Calm down yall it's not that deep. It's nothing I haven't heard before and it doesn't offend me lol. I have tried just about everything including injections. I also have lupus which gets in the way. Haven't had hair for over 5 years so I'm used to it. The doctors believe once my lupus is under control, it would be easier to treat the alopecia.

  • @allisonh2340
    @allisonh2340 2 года назад +95

    I showed my boyfriend and told him I wanted the same hair, it's stunning and suits you perfectly. It's funny that people think you actually give a dang what they think of your hair lmao this video is da bomb

  • @meaghanjones9244
    @meaghanjones9244 2 года назад

    Hell yes! WOO! You look so happy with your dope new hair!

  • @liltruchita
    @liltruchita 2 года назад +2

    YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS! Perfectly articulated, I have said it on each platform and I will continue to say it, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! You made this change for YOU and YOUR quality of life. You look STUNNING and I am so happy to see you so happy xoxoxooxo love you Penny!

  • @guadaluperios5700
    @guadaluperios5700 2 года назад +166

    Yo I wish “Influencers” could be like Penny she spreads positivity and you learn something from her videos. The people who we call “Influencers” now in day spread negativity and is shaping our society to trash. I just got to say thank you penny also Salem I enjoy her videos and honestly there one of the few you tubers who are making a difference 💙

  • @bibliophilecb
    @bibliophilecb 2 года назад +251

    I always laugh when I hear the comment that “men prefer long hair.” First of all obviously, who cares? But second of all my husband actually prefers short hair (if I ever get a pixie I think he’ll start happy dancing). Is that stopping me from growing it out again? No because it’s my body and we both know that (and he thinks I’m beautiful anyway), but men aren’t a monolith!! They have different preferences!

    • @katefarr2036
      @katefarr2036 2 года назад +16

      My husband just wants me to be okay with what my hair looks like and not be in crisis. He has preferences, but ultimately, it’s my hair. I didn’t ask him when I dyed it green. I didn’t ask him when I went blonde. I didn’t ask him when I took six inches of dead hair off and got my waves and curls back. It isn’t his hair, and if he’s that invested, he can buy a wig I may or may not wear.

    • @bibliophilecb
      @bibliophilecb 2 года назад +11

      @@katefarr2036 yeah exactly! My husband supports me no matter what I do with my hair. Like, when prompted he’ll say he loves short hair but if I respond with “cool but I’m growing my hair out” he goes “great! It’ll look gorgeous on you!” Etc etc

    • @bbygrlpt2
      @bbygrlpt2 2 года назад +5

      Long hair looks pretty but it isnt worth it. At the end anyone who loves you will love you and like you however no matter how you look

    • @hwren9845
      @hwren9845 2 года назад +3

      @@bbygrlpt2 Yep. Every couple of years I let my hair grow long and it's such a pain to detangle, dry, and style. Plus it sheds everywhere and makes a mess. Whenever I get fed up and cut it to shoulder length I always get the same comments saying, "omg noooo your hair was so pretty; what man is going to like you now??" but, ironically, I get more attention from men when my hair is shorter because it suits me more lol. People are so rude and nosy for no reason.

    • @esmeraldagreengate4354
      @esmeraldagreengate4354 2 года назад

      Yep my hubby is not a fan of my long hair but he keeps his trap shut coz we both are adults.

  • @sgines369
    @sgines369 2 года назад +3

    This is AMAZING Penny!!! I chopped my hair to this length last year for all the same reasons and it was incredibly freeing!!! It is still beautiful and I love how much easier it is to maintain. Wash day is a thousand times faster! Let the haters hate because their thoughts don't matter. I hope you keep enjoying it!! I love this look on you!!! ❤

  • @aseguin7806
    @aseguin7806 2 года назад

    One of the best short curly haircuts I’ve ever seen. You look amazing!!

  • @issabelletje
    @issabelletje 2 года назад +47

    We love taking rude comments and making it educational. Yaas, queen!

  • @Bhardy-vn5nb
    @Bhardy-vn5nb 2 года назад +173

    I'm just saying, folks had the same thought process when they were cutting their hair mad short in the 1920s and 1930s. But at the end of the day, Penny's curls are giving bounce, its giving shine, its giving no split ends, its giving hydrated

  • @annastayziaa
    @annastayziaa 2 года назад

    i love this. thank you. i feel the same way after consistently keeping my hair short and getting these same responses from people that were so cruel.

  • @nance_2006
    @nance_2006 2 года назад +1

    I am loving this change. You look and sound happier. Both styles are beautiful.

  • @Neha-zx2hc
    @Neha-zx2hc 2 года назад +43

    I heard this somewhere women who cut their hair and don’t regret it are the women who knows what they want in life. You go girl!

  • @Dalebin13
    @Dalebin13 2 года назад +98

    I just cut my long curly hair. Everyone was “I can’t believe you did that “ I love it my hair now. The way it feels in the shower. Fixing it in ways I never could have before. Who cares what others say and what MEN want!!!!

  • @BrittanyJeanThrifts
    @BrittanyJeanThrifts 2 года назад

    I like you. Dope message. I’m in love with your hair and I’m glad you’re able to let go of the length. Attachment is suffering. Much love to you babes💗

  • @MouniaB
    @MouniaB 2 года назад

    I have been watching you for many years and I truly admire the wonderful brave inspiring person that you are . Thank you for doing what's best for you and not caring about social standards or what everyone has to say. You are beautiful inside and out no matter your hair length. I personally love the new look I recently cut my hair to half its length recently and I know how liberating it is. Keep doing you girl you are amazing !

  • @NothingReallyMatters08
    @NothingReallyMatters08 2 года назад +68

    I can’t believe people feel entitled to judge what you do with your hair. You looked beautiful with you long hair and you look beautiful now. 🤗happy for you!

  • @monabourfed5848
    @monabourfed5848 2 года назад +67

    All the negative comments you have been getting after you took the decision to cut your OWN hair, just goes to show that people will rather ruin someone's happiness taking a decision they never could as a result of deep self-esteem issues than heal and foucus on them selfs.
    People keep staying mad. Slay queen! Never dim your lights to let someone else feel comfortable. Shine as bright as you can!!

  • @chomeeghouri1306
    @chomeeghouri1306 2 года назад +14

    This was such an amazing video Penny. Women do not need to follow trends and stereotypes just to please others especially men. Women should do what makes them happy. By the way whether you have long hair or short hair you always look beautiful and you have a beautiful personality. The haters are just insecure people.

  • @jessicamahar9908
    @jessicamahar9908 2 года назад

    Yessss yes yes Penny hit em with the love and knowledge! This is why I love you and your beautiful soul 🥰

  • @ari-mm7xu
    @ari-mm7xu 2 года назад +44

    its always “but men like ….” in a way for us to make the decision we dont want AS IF THEY HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH OURSELVES AND OUR BODIES

  • @7cleverbuttons
    @7cleverbuttons 2 года назад +23

    as someone with similar long curly hair, i would KILL to look that good in short hair. you look so chic and high fashion.

    • @ilariaf.7421
      @ilariaf.7421 2 года назад +2

      I agree!! She looks so chic with this haircut.

  • @chicameowr
    @chicameowr 2 года назад

    Perfect response Penny! You look so beautiful & badass with your new look!

  • @Ashleybmakingvideos
    @Ashleybmakingvideos 2 года назад

    PERFECT video. I'm glad that you made this video, but sad that you had to. Here's to doing what we want with our hair!

  • @VengefulAngeI
    @VengefulAngeI 2 года назад +81

    I stand by my original comment I had made when I first saw it: You're ROCKING that hair! It suits you beautifully! You look fun, and free, and like a weight has been lifted off of you - because literal weight has been lifted off of you! People look their most beautiful when they're happy - and getting that hair cut off has made you SHINE! 🙌🙌💜🙌🙌

    • @orozcoee01
      @orozcoee01 2 года назад

      YES 🙌🏽 she looks happy and free. My thoughts exactly

  • @anilover10
    @anilover10 2 года назад +28

    I actually prefer my hair short, but I like to grow it out for 3 years and then chop it all off as short as you. People think I'm crazy, and I just enjoy being able to do cool styles with long hair but after awhile it's too much maintenance so I cut it off when it gets too long

    • @neahwalker3804
      @neahwalker3804 2 года назад +1

      I identify strongly with this comment☺️