Hey Forrest and Rick! I've been listening a TON to your guys' podcast over the past couple months, and man they're amazing. Just wanted to comment to say I really appreciate what you two are doing, and you've had an enormous impact on my life and so many others. Thank you!!
The monumentally -meaningful information being discussed is appreciated. *What Rick says about us not being responsible for how the other person feels is essential and took me more than 50 years to learn.* In the range of non-abusive and non-neglectful behavior, all other behaviors can evoke a *variety* of feelings in a variety of people. In other words the same clothing, the same comment, the same facial expression, the same belief, the same faith, the same laugh, the same question or challenge all come from one source (ourself) but evoke different emotions and feelings in the listeners or observers. We are not responsible for how the listener or observer feels as a result of our laugh or our opinion or our emotions or our faith or our clothing. They are responsible to examine whether their emotions are based on false beliefs and whether their reaction is based on false beliefs -or instead on their authentic core values. We do not cause other adults to have emotions unless we are being emotionally abusive or physically abusive or egregiously neglectful. They have emotional responses and intellectual responses to things that are done for which other people have a variety of differing emotional and intellectual responses. The key is that the person who is feeling a certain way in response to a certain stimulus must examine whether the way that they feel is valid for them, is valid at all, or is based on a false belief that was implanted in them through childhood abuse and neglect.
We are loving this book! My husband Bob and I have been listening to it on audible and we are enjoying the wisdom! Very easy to understand and apply in our relationship and it’s so great to hear Rick’s voice reading his own written words!! Great discussion on it here too! 😇❤️🤙🏼
Thank you so much for your work and guidance on these key life lessons and struggles. As a healing codependent and people pleaser this is invaluable. Thank you again. 😊
I am so very grateful to you both for the amazing podcasts and the gentle approach you have in dealing with such delicate and intimate issues. I have learned so much these past couple of months and look forward to learning more here and by reading your books! Thank you both!!
Can't wait to read both Rick's and the book both of you co-wrote. If I can also recommend a book, which my therapist recommend - 'How To Be An Adult'. It's like a jam packed user manual on how to become a healthy, functional and sincere human being.
Excellent talk and professional teaching podcast Thank you We all need to work on this subjects of relationships with our selves and others with effort and even boundaries to balance all God given gifts about them ⭐️❤️🙏🕊. Please send the name of the books again.
I had an interaction recently and something I said was taken in the wrong way and I was blamed for making them feel badly. I did not do that.. they felt the wY they wanted to.
Random (or perhaps very loosely related to the subject of relationships): did it / does it ever feel weird referring to Dr. Hanson by his first name? 😂 I don’t think I ever addressed my late parents by their first names (though I didn’t have a professional reason to do so).
Yeah he was 100% dad until we started working together. Then he became "Rick" or "Dr. Rick Hanson" in pitch emails, and somewhere in there it just started to feel a bit odd to call him "dad" all the time when we were doing interviews with his peers 😅. Now it feels about 50/50 during interviews. He's "dad" whenever we're in private.
Hey Forrest and Rick! I've been listening a TON to your guys' podcast over the past couple months, and man they're amazing. Just wanted to comment to say I really appreciate what you two are doing, and you've had an enormous impact on my life and so many others. Thank you!!
Really appreciate this man.
Ian looking forward to reading the book. Thank you for all you’ve done to make our lives better.
The monumentally -meaningful information being discussed is appreciated.
*What Rick says about us not being responsible for how the other person feels is essential and took me more than 50 years to learn.* In the range of non-abusive and non-neglectful behavior, all other behaviors can evoke a *variety* of feelings in a variety of people. In other words the same clothing, the same comment, the same facial expression, the same belief, the same faith, the same laugh, the same question or challenge all come from one source (ourself) but evoke different emotions and feelings in the listeners or observers. We are not responsible for how the listener or observer feels as a result of our laugh or our opinion or our emotions or our faith or our clothing. They are responsible to examine whether their emotions are based on false beliefs and whether their reaction is based on false beliefs -or instead on their authentic core values. We do not cause other adults to have emotions unless we are being emotionally abusive or physically abusive or egregiously neglectful. They have emotional responses and intellectual responses to things that are done for which other people have a variety of differing emotional and intellectual responses. The key is that the person who is feeling a certain way in response to a certain stimulus must examine whether the way that they feel is valid for them, is valid at all, or is based on a false belief that was implanted in them through childhood abuse and neglect.
Thank you so much. Your podcast helped me a lot.
We are loving this book! My husband Bob and I have been listening to it on audible and we are enjoying the wisdom! Very easy to understand and apply in our relationship and it’s so great to hear Rick’s voice reading his own written words!! Great discussion on it here too! 😇❤️🤙🏼
I really love this channel. The topics u cover are so important. I’m definitely getting this book!💞
Great episode and Rick's new book sounds interesting! This podcast is wonderful.
Both of you are awesome! Thank you for your work.
Another amazing conversation! Thank you
Thank you so much for your work and guidance on these key life lessons and struggles. As a healing codependent and people pleaser this is invaluable. Thank you again. 😊
I am so very grateful to you both for the amazing podcasts and the gentle approach you have in dealing with such delicate and intimate issues. I have learned so much these past couple of months and look forward to learning more here and by reading your books! Thank you both!!
I'm so glad I found your channel. Subscribed & binging :)
Can't wait to read both Rick's and the book both of you co-wrote.
If I can also recommend a book, which my therapist recommend - 'How To Be An Adult'. It's like a jam packed user manual on how to become a healthy, functional and sincere human being.
Excellent talk and professional teaching podcast Thank you We all need to work on this subjects of relationships with our selves and others with effort and even boundaries to balance all God given gifts about them ⭐️❤️🙏🕊. Please send the name of the books again.
I thought Elizabeth would be part of this podcast since she's included in the photo with Forrest. I was disappointed she wasn't there.
We should do one with the three of us sometime, that would be fun.
I was disappointed too! Yes, one with the three of you would be awesome!!
Rick Your books should be translated in Spanish as well. If you need help with that let me know. Are your books in Scribd? Can’t wait to read them.
I had an interaction recently and something I said was taken in the wrong way and I was blamed for making them feel badly.
I did not do that.. they felt the wY they wanted to.
Random (or perhaps very loosely related to the subject of relationships): did it / does it ever feel weird referring to Dr. Hanson by his first name? 😂 I don’t think I ever addressed my late parents by their first names (though I didn’t have a professional reason to do so).
Yeah he was 100% dad until we started working together. Then he became "Rick" or "Dr. Rick Hanson" in pitch emails, and somewhere in there it just started to feel a bit odd to call him "dad" all the time when we were doing interviews with his peers 😅. Now it feels about 50/50 during interviews.
He's "dad" whenever we're in private.
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