My husband and I are high school sweethearts. We’ve been together 14.5 years (married 9). It’s had its ups and downs, but we could see growth potential in one another when we first started talking. It’s been an incredible adventure to grow up with him. I realize it’s rare, but we are living testaments to how God can bring two people together for His glory in this way at such young ages. ☺️💞
Crazy...I just experienced a similar situation. I had a close guy friend and he had feelings for me, and at the time I thought I had feelings for him. We never officially dated or did any of the intimate stuff that comes with most relationships but our hearts were very tied to one another. I realized the relationship became a God in my life. Since ending it I have learned that I really just liked the attention I got from him and that I will never be ready for a relationship until I am completely grounded in the Lord and I am satisfied with having my boy the Lord in my life. To all the young girls out there reading this, you don’t need a boyfriend to have value. Your identity comes from the Lord and the LORD should be “the one” for you, your future husband is just “number 2.” Don’t grow up too fast, grow in the Lord, draw closer to him, and if it is God’s will he will bring you your husband. God bless you all, I understand the difficulty!
Hey Lily, I understand how it became an idol to you, ive been on the other side of a relationship thats kind of like the way you described it, it was infatuation of some sort at the beginning, though never physical, a real bond existed emotionally, but after ending the unofficial relationship i realized it was just that, an idolization of what i would have loved to be my 'love story' its cringe worthy now, even though as a follower of Christ i tried to 'help' her, but the very nature of the relationship that existed between us nullified any atempt to help, guide or any of the council i gave because we still idolized each other, (put her before God, though of her more than of the Lord, prayed for her instead of seeking communion with the Lord) heck, the very fact that im writing this makes me think about her but i know my priorities, for now, i should not entagle myself with anything or anyone, but seek to be a faithful solder, pleasing Christ. And yea we shouldn't be quick to do things unless we are certain its the Lords will, especially not quick to grow in this sence, but amen to growing closee to the Lord daily, why? Because i know 100% that thats the Lords will in my life, and in the life of all of those who follow Him. God bless 😁
Helpful indeed. My opinion is I'd be very dumb if I didn't know this but I do know this. 2020 has changed me i grew very wise as a womans of God I have really changed.
as a senior in high school now, being someone who never heard their first kiss or even "real boyfriend," lately, the LORD has really put in my heart to wait and to wait patiently until I can actually be committed in marriage, as you mentioned in the video, and that we should never put any relationship before our's with the LORD (refusing compromises that come with dating).
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 And? There’s nothing wrong with being single. You do realize that many of the apostles never married, right? The apostle Paul was never married, and he is one of the most well known apostles in the world because God used him to write almost half of the New Testament. John the Baptist was single and was a strong prophet that called the Jews to repentance to prepare them for Jesus to come. The Lord can build powerful soldiers for Christ when they are single. Your attention is completely focused on the Lord.
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 No. I’m dead serious. I take matters of marriage and dating seriously because I know the Father in Heaven takes them seriously. The Bible also talks about the benefit of being single in the fact that you can grow unhindered in your relationship with God. There’s nothing wrong with marriage, and I pray that God will give me a husband. But we are also called to be content in singleness just like we are called to be content in every circumstance. Marriage is a wonderful, beautiful thing, but just because someone isn’t married doesn’t make them less than, and it doesn’t mean that they are unwanted. In fact, it is a time where you can really grow to become the person God wants you to be. 😄
Amen. To me, dating in high school feels like more of a peer pressure thing than anything else, cause you ain't cool unless you have a girlfriend... So thank you - I needed to hear this cause I've been kinda depressed about all this dating stuff lately and it's taken my focus away from Christ.
Yeah but any girl dosent care if youre nice have a good personality they all care about height looks and în the younger period they dont give a shit if you have a good personality
@@PurpleHal lol I feel like guys don’t care unless you have a “pretty face”. Although you may think you don’t look that bad as a girl, you have to compete with makeup and plastic surgery. Most of the time, yeah girls like to be shorter or the same height as the guy they date. Other than that, what their standards are vary.
At 18 I'm made to feel like I'm a late bloomer or something because I have never dated anyone. But frankly, I know in my heart that I need to first strengthen my relationship with God before letting anyone else into my life.
Late bloomers are best. They appreciate when it happens and learned the skills how to treat their partner better because they care. We also avoid a lot of the garbage and consequences.
Don't let anyone ever make you feel bad about that. I was just like you. 18. Never been kissed never had a boyfriend. Then, I dated a guy because I was embarrassed that I had always been single. Which I now see was so silly. But I thought I must be really ugly since no guy ever wanted to date me. So I let this guy treat me really badly because I was insecure and didn't want to be single again. It wasn't a good situation. He broke up with me and I was devastated. God used it for good and it made my relationship with Him so much stronger, but I wish I had just waited. I met my husband when I was 21, and I wish I hadn't dated anyone before him. I hope this can encourage you ❤❤❤
Another thing that often happens when High Schoolers date is they become very close however after graduation they go to different colleges for wherever reason. This presents a whole other set of problems and distractions. Not to mention broken hearts and trouble keeping up grades. Psalm 37:4 Wait on the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.
There's this one girl in my class: she's a christian, she dresses modestly, she's always smiling and being happy, she's very feminine, and she's SO cute!!! I want to talk to her so badly but she's always surrounded by her friends and also I'm mildy self conscious of my physique. I already decided that I would just focus on myself and stop trying to jump into a relationship, but I just can't imagine missing her, it feels like she's the only girl like her!
I've stayed away from relationships throughout my childhood and school years because I knew I would be immature. Saved me a lot of heartache, especially when you see your friends dating and breaking up left and right and getting involved in petty drama. I am sort of looking forward to getting married someday, though.
So in other words, you avoided dating because you wanted to avoid the negative aspects which come with it. You realize that whether or not you have sex, you still learn how to behave and treat a partner when you are in one, right?
@@Bomtombadi1 That's not what I said. I said I avoided dating during my childhood/teen years because I knew I would be immature. I'm not saying I would never consider a premarital relationship, because I certainly am.
Its not always a bad idea though. I met my fiancé in highschool. Although we definitely had some issues because of our immaturity, it worked out in the end and we are both closer to God for it.
Your case is a result of God's love and mercy, it isn't the rule. Most cases would have people being led to sin and regret. It's a better idea to stick to the original standard of Gid and not awaken emotions too early. Flee any appearance of youthful lusts. It's better by far to relate with young women as sisters and young men as brothers.
Met my husband last 3 months before graduation then married him the summer after, so agreed. Would have married sooner but family was determined we dates for a year first lol
Wish someone had said this to me when I was 14. All I got were flippant comments like "dating isn't everything" or "you're too young to worry about that."
This was my opinion about middle school dating when I was in middle school. But when I was in high school, I thought I was mature enough. Nope, but by God's grace I did not get a girlfriend in high school. Now, I'm 21. I have never had a girlfriend, but I'm glad about that. It got me to focus on Jesus first, and I still struggle with feeling like I need to get married right away. However, I am a lot more mature now. I know that when I get a girlfriend and eventually wife (assuming God blesses me that way), Jesus will be at the center of the relationship.
I am a Christian who started dating at 16 and honestly I don't regret it. We made it to age 20 before she broke up with me and I thought I was gonna marry her. Yes I was immature in some ways but we stuck to the faith. It didn't work out in the end but that experience of that loss pushed me to lean on God in ways I never thought possible
That was God turning your captivity for your good, it doesn't mean that was what he originally intended. That was his mercy towards you. I can guarantee that he much more willed that your emotions weren't awakened so early in the first place and yiu had spent those 4 years chasing him harder from the onset. Gid brought you inti the fold with that loss but you didn't need the loss, yet his mercy towards you was evident. Brother take a word of wisdom from someone who made mistakes over and iver again... follow God with all your heart and follow no other persin especially a woman until you're certain Gid has prepared you abd is leading you to get married. Also speak to your pastor about any relationships or feelings. It's your shepherd's job to look after you
When you think your going to marry someone at such a young age its hard to ever get over them. You sound like you are mature now. Hopefully you find the right wife.
One of the biggest factor i was in an immature relationship was because i didn't have love and affection from my parents, though i never blamed them for that. I broke up with my ex and now I'm serving the Lord as a youth.
When teens start dating in high school, it sets up a pattern of codependency. They always have to be in a relationship from there on out. They have a hard time being independent. They also choose unhealthy partners as a result.
And you're part of the problem. Marriage and relationship ships are key. We need to stop telling kids to do what thebworld says. We need to encourage Godly marriages. Hormones are raging whether you like it or not. Expecting kids to ignore those hormones for 10-20 years is not working. It's idiotic. Raise your children to find a Godly spouse and get married. (Just like out parents and grandparents did) it's time the church realizes that biology is real. We could obliterate sex outside of marriage if we didn't demonize teen marriages.
And isn't the poinnt of marriage to be co dependent??? Maybe we should stop teaching kids that they "don't need no man" irvwhatever and explain why they do. And why boys need a woman. Independence is not a virtue.
My high school sweetheart and I are still together, married now. We started dating my sophomore year. It’s been nearly 10 years and we dated for 6. Now he is about to be a youth pastor. If you truly keep following Christ and put Him first in the relationship, it can work.
Currently I'm a sophomore, and I've recently asked out a girl my age I have had a crush on since freshman year. I Introduced her to my local youth group, and I'm praying for a relationship to last forever, and to put God first.
Met my husband when I was 12, I only had one other serious boyfriend in high school and I knew God told me not to date him and I wish I would’ve listened, but I’ve now been married for 3 and half years and we have a little girl together. Waiting on God’s timing is hard but disobeying Him hurts so much worse. He is so faithful though!
This is what I learned after getting heartbroken last year. I should not be inlove yet because it will distract me. Instead of being productive and building my life and doing my priorties, I was lost and unproductive for being inlove. There is so much to learn and know in life before entering into a relationship.
Although I think there’s exceptions, in general it does seem better to wait until you’re older, because often people are not mature enough to date while in high school. There’s this one person I met, who didn’t give his children an age when they could start dating, but when they where mature enough. Now parents aren’t perfect and there’s flaws in this, but I think the idea is better. My friend who was mature starting dating at 14!! Dated for I think 5 years and got married. Although I’m general I’ve seen a lot of teen relationships fall, because they don’t have a purpose, are not mature enough and don’t have God at the center of their life. So I’m general I think it’s better to wait until you’re older, but I think there exceptions as well😊❤️
I completely agree! I have previously decided not to date in high school before seeing this video, but it was still good to feel more "backed up" for my decision! 😊
I wish my parents would hear you when I was a teenager. I didn't care about dating when I was in the high school (I was just too ugly, too shy and too "godly" to be considered a dateable material) but my mother constantly shamed me for not doing my best (as in: being seductive/sensual) to "catch a man" and my dad kept telling me that if I do not lose weight (I was 135 pounds) then no guy will ever want me...he praised me for my "good shape" when later I struggled with anorexia though. I felt so bad for them and ashamed of myself, that I made up a lie at the age of 25 and told them that there is actually one guy interested in dating me (in reality, he could not care less whether I was alive or not). The truth is that I am 37 now and nobody ever cared to ask me for a date (if I omit two manipulative guys who just wanted to get laid)- and for this, my mother thinks that I was not even worthy to be born to her. [deep sigh]
I'm very sorry to hear that happened to you, sister 😯 people shouldn't judge others based on their relationship status. It doesn't matter if you have never been asked on a date or if you never will be asked on a date (though if you do truly desire to get married in the future, i pray that YAHUAH willing you'll be able to find a good, righteous man to be with ❤) what matters most is that you live life according to The Most High's will. And that you live life trying to follow the path of truth in this life, living life with true honest love in your heart. And if people shame you for not conforming to the ways of the world, pay them no mind. Just continue to treat them the way you want to be treated and stand firm in truth. I'll be praying that you have peace, dear sister ❤
I hear what you're saying but remember what Lord Jesus Christ Our Savior the Son of God said. He said "Don't call anyone on earth Father for you have only one Father in heaven and don't call anyone Teacher because you already have one Teacher. You are to be brothers and sisters. Jesus Christ the Son of God is the true Teacher, go read His word. If you asked Jesus Christ about what Daily Disciple talked about He would say "anyone who loves mother, father, brother, sister, wife or children more than me is not worthy of me." "Whoever has left mother's, brothers, sisters, father's, wives and children because of me will surely be rewarded." This is available in the Gospel.
New International Version “If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters-yes, even their own life-such a person cannot be my disciple. Luke 14:26
Matthew 10:37, ESV: Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Matthew 10:37, KJV: He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
Amen! This is great advice! Don’t ever think that a relationship is going to make you a more whole person, or fix your situation. The only person that can make you whole and help you is God. A relationship isn’t a requirement to being a teenager. Don’t force one just because others are. Have patience. The lord has a plan for you. If you follow his word, you will find someone when you are both ready.
I made the mistake of not waiting out of desperation. I ended up In a relationship with someone I hardly liked or had anything in common with just for the sake of having that “first kiss”.
Currently 23, have been on some dates, but never felt properly in place with those people or even ready for a relationship. Still waiting. The time comes when the time comes my friends
As a teen in highschool, thank you for this. Most of my friends started dating in middle school. In fact I have been pressured by boys into dating since SECOND GRADE. But of course I always refused. I have never ever dated, or even held hands or hugged a boy, whether romantically or platonically 😅. But I never let my friends (or anyone) peer pressure me into dating. In fact I've told myself that I'll only start dating after I graduate college and get a job. And I will stick to that no matter what *anyone* thinks 🙌
So perfecting said my guy. I had a friend that was not crazy. And I warned her many time to not date because there is no reason behind it. I would’ve loved to have sent this to her back then. But it’s to late now. So I hope I can use this to save others on that path. Thank you so much for saying this.
You date to get married, or you date to break up. That’s what I told my little sister and honestly to my shock she went all high school NEVER dating or with any “situationships”
This right here I wish I heard this as a teen all those years ago would have saved me from a painful first marriage The Lord is a blessing though and even break men can be use by Him
“Can’t you do all this stuff in a friendshii context?” Not exactly, it’s actually really difficult. Lots of guys and especially teens can -easily- latch onto forms of prolonged attention. I might argue that there are few guys who can be friends with girls on a deeper emotional level without catching feelings (or a “dangerous” attachment of some kind), especially with conventionally attractive girls. Men’s natural desires and needs that get met through others is something that needs to be addressed in this conversation because, “I mean yeah,” is probably not the common response to your question. Maybe they would say “Yeah, but it’s really hard.” But hey maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic who falls in love any time a girl looks at me idk 🤷♀️
I would agree with the sentiment that you should be cautious of dating until at earliest around senior year or 17/18, but I think your approach isn’t angled at the right ideas to help solve many problems.
@theWarHammer True but you still don't have to date them. The hormones and catching feelings from too much attention is real, but you can save yourself a lot of heartbreak and dumb decisions by not officially tieing yourself to someone as their boyfriend or girlfriend, only to break up when you're no longer interested or your relationship is damaged.
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 Feelings are important and everyone should be in touch with their own emotions so they can be processed in a healthy way. Dissociation is not a good method
I didn't date in high school but still believe that it's still possible to date in high school and find the person you're going to marry then. I have a friend that got engaged at 18 and married at 19 now married with 3 kids for 25yrs. We all mature at diff rates so can't say it's the same for everyone
Dating is fun does not have to be serious. I dated and don't regret one bit. Not everything has to be twisted and complicated. I leaned how to talk and communicate with the opposite sex. Great memories! My brothers kingdom spouse was found as a teen and married as young adults. Now with grandkids. God didn't send my spouse until a little later. and that's OK. Loved my teen years. I was blessed with real great friends and a boyfriend that's was good to me.
I'm 42 years old, I wish I would have heard this from my peers when I was in high school. I didn't date at all in high school but I wanted to so badly and I feel inadequate because I never had a boyfriend. Looking back I praise God for him protecting me from myself. I thank God for his wisdom and his protection and fulfilling love.
i was in avid in middle school, but didn’t do it in my freshman year. however i got an invitation to join for my sophomore year. ended up joining and met this girl who is christian and her dad is even a pastor. haven’t dated yet but i think i just might
Thanks for the advice and warning I'm about to enter high school and I feel like I needed to hear this message. Also thanks for the videos that have helped me in my walk with the Lord thus far In my life. ✝️
Yes I do agree. But sometimes ain’t like that. Like me. I met her when l still a kid and I asked God and he said she was the one I’m going to marry. Just wait on God to bring you the person he wants you to marry.
First of all I love seeing and listening to another fellow child of God spread His love and word to the world! While I, as a born again believer, do agree with most of what you're saying, I would also say ultimately it is up to the convictions God places in the individual hearts in those asking this question and those who they trust to ask. For me personally I grew up in a very stable Christian family as missionaries in another country; when we came back to the states in 2015 we met a family and became great friends with them and the oldest son and I both had a thing for each other. Out of respect for our parents and knowledge that we were still teenagers in high school, we didn't pursue anything beyond a friendship until our parents asked if we felt anything for each other. After talking to both my parents and his, both parents agreed that we were being mature enough to be in a healthy relationship, but still needed certain boundaries. We broke up about 6 months later because we realized we were doing great in our individual lives but had problems communicating non-threatening issues in our relationship. Our parents were actually surprised that we had issues, but came to understand that we both had to make the hard decision in order for us both to grow in our relationships with God and with each other- just as friends. I know most teenagers don't show that kind of awareness in their relationships, but I believe that because my parents trusted the convictions God gave me about that particular relationship they in turn trusted me to learn myself when I was ready for a relationship with a man. I didn't get into another relationship with a man until freshman year of college, but that ended soon because we felt much more comfortable just being friends. I haven't been in that kind of relationship since then, but in this time of waiting in singleness I've learned to focus more on God and my walk with him. In the meantime while I wait for the man God will put in my heart and life, I've also learned that going on a date every once in a while is not going against the waiting. I'm only 22, so I could be waiting for a long time, but choosing to ignore any relationship until marriage is limited the opportunities and possibilities God will give me to find the right man. Though it might seem all random and long (thanks to anyone who actually read all of this haha) I thought it would be good to share it. Have a blessed day!
Agreed! I am nearly 22, never been in a relationship, but I know far more than most people my age (even more than some Christian married couples!) about communication and marriage. Thanks to my mom for being so intentional with teaching me. I feel v prepared to go into a relationship but also content with being single too ♡
I feel like i could use this in my life even tho im 21... focusing on God and getting better at communication and listening and reactions to problems and situations and keeping God at the center of my life. To also mention loving God first.
I didn’t date until I was 20 and I’ve never understood why teenagers think it’s a good idea to date at such an awkward, immature age. It wasn’t prohibited for me, I just thought it a stoopid idea.
My church has a tradition of platonic, zero commitment dates starting in the teen years as a way to help people get to know the brothers and sisters of opposite sex and how to treat them, at least in the countries where dating is the norm. These are double or group dates centered on conscientiousness, fun activities, inter-ministry connection, friendship, and pure, positive attention for sisters especially. Since members of our church come from all walks of life, they often need training in how to pursue godly relationships with the opposite sex and this is often the first step. But when it comes to focusing on one person, yeah, there's little point until you're ready for marriage.
Guy's don't do what I did and listen to this video romantic relationships wont satisfy your desires in high school I committed depraved stuff which honestly Im ashamed of but glory to god for showing me the light even as an apostate I did fornication thinking that would make me happy but no I just felt unclean and we ended up breaking up. But I thank god for lifting my burdens I said towards god "God Please Lift This Heart ache this feeling is gnawing at me and I so ever thank you lord you loved me even as a fool" That night I cried while smiling and I was able to move on overnight and stopped all my wicked deeds masterbation fornication disobedience gone glory to god and that was only a few months ago praise our mighty savior Jesus he is all we need in this life and the life after.
I'm a mom of a 16-year-old who recently started dating her best friend who's also 16. My daughter was born in a Christian family. The boy came from a Hindu family and decided to accept Jesus at the age of 12 when someone gave him a flyer about salvation. To cut the story short, his family accepted his conversion and don't force him to join any Hindu prayers or rituals. Both seem to adhere to the Christian faith but the boy is obviously still a baby Christian. He told my daughter that he'll only date for marriage and nothing else. He's really into her and they seem to go along really well. He's planning to join her at the church youth group this year and his parents agreed to drop and pick him up. My issue is, are they're still too young to date? However, in hindsight, I wouldn't be here had my grandmother not dated my grandfather at 16. She had my dad at 17. Had they not fallen inlove with each other, I wouldn't be here right now. They're going out in a few days time to hang out with another couple at an arcade. . Both come from Christian background too. I'm tempted to talk to the boy to remind the boundaries and limitations of dating. My friend said don't do that as I might scare the boy away. My daughter is adamant that he won't be scared away that easily. I'll be sticking around the same area but will not be in the actual arcade to supervise them. It would be awkward for them to enjoy. Am I doing the right thing? My husband isn't happy with the dating and wants them to break up. But the thing is, they go to the same high school and will be in two subjects together. They're both in senior high now (grade 11) and she said she won't break up with him. I get my husband's point of view but I also want my daughter to be honest with us. I'd rather have her date him in the open than to secretly date and do things that aren't meant to be done. I'd rather know where she is and guide her as she traverses the teenage romance, then for her to learn from others the wrong lessons in love. Am I doing the right thing?
Being in relationships without having a relationship with God ended up having me broken inside, abused andaddictedto drugs. But i got right with God and he put those broken pieces together and now im just working on me which i should have done a long time ago. But God wrote my life not me, so i know he has a breakthrough for me coming and i am happier with just me and him than I'll ever be with anyone else ❤ one day he may present someone for me but thats doesn't even cross my mind anymore. I learned i had to focus on his calling not mine. Life is waay i mean waay better 😊
i think motivation is the important part because i’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and we started dating in 9th grade but she was my first ever girlfriend and i’m firmly rooted in my faith and so is she
Well.. I don't think that applies for everyone. I meet my husband when i was 15 and I got married at 16, because i was ready for this spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Thank God I have a beautiful happy family with 4 kids and I am 20. I don't believe that there is anything wrong with marriage at this age as long as your parents and his agree on this.
My husband and I have been together since 15 :) we've been together 14yrs and just had our first child. Our friends have been together since 13 and are together for 12yrs now. Not all high school relationships are doomed or are holding you back
GENTLEMEN!! Hear here!! Work on yourself and get refined and in time they will chase YOU! Be patient, it will pay off when you can have whatever pick you want.
As a teen, I would never. Only because I know that's it bound to end plus there aren't any Christian guys near or around my age in my church (there are two that are like a year younger than me but we're good friends and that would be awkward 😬)
Highschoolers should be thinking about marriage in the future. They can start saving money for a family, and I know of many people have been really close friends in highschool, and then got married at 20.
Learning to adult was a bit of challenge but I got married while I was in high school. Then again, that also means I missed out on some good lessons because I've literally never lived on my own as an adult.
I do agree, but only to an extend. I also know super godly couples that started in highschool. There already was a level of maturity in them that made it work. They are married now. So I've seen mature 16 year olds, and immature 40 year olds. I think it's much wiser to truly learn how to listen to God a d recognize his voice so you can deduce what He wants you to do. I think that is better than creating these new "societal" standards (how well intended or even Christian as they may seen) that are supposedly lead the right way.
I started dating at 15, and I’ve been blessed enough to be with the same guy. However, we have made a lot of mistakes because of our emotional and spiritual immaturity. I would not recommend it, but being self aware and focusing on God first helps 🙂
While I didn't date in highschool, you can still get in trouble with other things, which teens roll their eyes at. Also a lot of young teenagers I met have one reason, "I'm lonely." My guy, go to God and ask for godly friends. Your loneliness doesn't have one solution: girl/boyfriend.
It was a little amusing (for lack of better word) seeing everyone date so seriously in high school only to break up a year or two later
People lasted for years in your school?! Lol people only lasted for days in mine😂
@@so.eonee489 you know the vibe!😂
Same lol
Yep that was me haha
Seriously highschool romance is a joke.
My husband and I are high school sweethearts. We’ve been together 14.5 years (married 9). It’s had its ups and downs, but we could see growth potential in one another when we first started talking. It’s been an incredible adventure to grow up with him. I realize it’s rare, but we are living testaments to how God can bring two people together for His glory in this way at such young ages. ☺️💞
Crazy...I just experienced a similar situation. I had a close guy friend and he had feelings for me, and at the time I thought I had feelings for him. We never officially dated or did any of the intimate stuff that comes with most relationships but our hearts were very tied to one another. I realized the relationship became a God in my life. Since ending it I have learned that I really just liked the attention I got from him and that I will never be ready for a relationship until I am completely grounded in the Lord and I am satisfied with having my boy the Lord in my life. To all the young girls out there reading this, you don’t need a boyfriend to have value. Your identity comes from the Lord and the LORD should be “the one” for you, your future husband is just “number 2.” Don’t grow up too fast, grow in the Lord, draw closer to him, and if it is God’s will he will bring you your husband. God bless you all, I understand the difficulty!
Hey Lily, I understand how it became an idol to you, ive been on the other side of a relationship thats kind of like the way you described it, it was infatuation of some sort at the beginning, though never physical, a real bond existed emotionally, but after ending the unofficial relationship i realized it was just that, an idolization of what i would have loved to be my 'love story' its cringe worthy now, even though as a follower of Christ i tried to 'help' her, but the very nature of the relationship that existed between us nullified any atempt to help, guide or any of the council i gave because we still idolized each other, (put her before God, though of her more than of the Lord, prayed for her instead of seeking communion with the Lord) heck, the very fact that im writing this makes me think about her but i know my priorities, for now, i should not entagle myself with anything or anyone, but seek to be a faithful solder, pleasing Christ. And yea we shouldn't be quick to do things unless we are certain its the Lords will, especially not quick to grow in this sence, but amen to growing closee to the Lord daily, why? Because i know 100% that thats the Lords will in my life, and in the life of all of those who follow Him. God bless 😁
wow, thank you for this 🥺😔
Helpful indeed. My opinion is I'd be very dumb if I didn't know this but I do know this. 2020 has changed me i grew very wise as a womans of God I have really changed.
I can relate soo much to your story. Thank you ! 💕🙏🏾
Yeah absolutely. I've seen too many get into relationships and end up breaking up in the end.
as a senior in high school now, being someone who never heard their first kiss or even "real boyfriend," lately, the LORD has really put in my heart to wait and to wait patiently until I can actually be committed in marriage, as you mentioned in the video, and that we should never put any relationship before our's with the LORD (refusing compromises that come with dating).
Even it means you're forever single by 50 😂
25 and never dated. I’m trusting in the Lord to bring me and my husband together if it be His Will.
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 And? There’s nothing wrong with being single. You do realize that many of the apostles never married, right? The apostle Paul was never married, and he is one of the most well known apostles in the world because God used him to write almost half of the New Testament. John the Baptist was single and was a strong prophet that called the Jews to repentance to prepare them for Jesus to come. The Lord can build powerful soldiers for Christ when they are single. Your attention is completely focused on the Lord.
@@themadlass5584 Do you speak sarcasm?
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 No. I’m dead serious. I take matters of marriage and dating seriously because I know the Father in Heaven takes them seriously. The Bible also talks about the benefit of being single in the fact that you can grow unhindered in your relationship with God. There’s nothing wrong with marriage, and I pray that God will give me a husband. But we are also called to be content in singleness just like we are called to be content in every circumstance. Marriage is a wonderful, beautiful thing, but just because someone isn’t married doesn’t make them less than, and it doesn’t mean that they are unwanted. In fact, it is a time where you can really grow to become the person God wants you to be. 😄
Amen. To me, dating in high school feels like more of a peer pressure thing than anything else, cause you ain't cool unless you have a girlfriend... So thank you - I needed to hear this cause I've been kinda depressed about all this dating stuff lately and it's taken my focus away from Christ.
Yeah, it ain't gonna work at all in the first place if it's forced.
Yeah but any girl dosent care if youre nice have a good personality they all care about height looks and în the younger period they dont give a shit if you have a good personality
@@PurpleHal lol I feel like guys don’t care unless you have a “pretty face”. Although you may think you don’t look that bad as a girl, you have to compete with makeup and plastic surgery. Most of the time, yeah girls like to be shorter or the same height as the guy they date. Other than that, what their standards are vary.
Bros before ho-
@@tiredoftheworld4834ngl, tall girls are freaky. U ain't catching me dating Goliath's sister lol
At 18 I'm made to feel like I'm a late bloomer or something because I have never dated anyone. But frankly, I know in my heart that I need to first strengthen my relationship with God before letting anyone else into my life.
25 and never dated. The Lord protected me throughout high school and college. 🙋🏾♀️
Amen brother, same here.
Don't waste your time. Enjoy youth while it lasts
Late bloomers are best. They appreciate when it happens and learned the skills how to treat their partner better because they care.
We also avoid a lot of the garbage and consequences.
Don't let anyone ever make you feel bad about that. I was just like you. 18. Never been kissed never had a boyfriend. Then, I dated a guy because I was embarrassed that I had always been single. Which I now see was so silly. But I thought I must be really ugly since no guy ever wanted to date me.
So I let this guy treat me really badly because I was insecure and didn't want to be single again. It wasn't a good situation. He broke up with me and I was devastated.
God used it for good and it made my relationship with Him so much stronger, but I wish I had just waited. I met my husband when I was 21, and I wish I hadn't dated anyone before him.
I hope this can encourage you ❤❤❤
I just had this conversation with my 13 year old daughter!
She wasn't asking to date, it was more of a preemptive conversation.
Another thing that often happens when High Schoolers date is they become very close however after graduation they go to different colleges for wherever reason. This presents a whole other set of problems and distractions. Not to mention broken hearts and trouble keeping up grades. Psalm 37:4 Wait on the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.
There's this one girl in my class: she's a christian, she dresses modestly, she's always smiling and being happy, she's very feminine, and she's SO cute!!! I want to talk to her so badly but she's always surrounded by her friends and also I'm mildy self conscious of my physique. I already decided that I would just focus on myself and stop trying to jump into a relationship, but I just can't imagine missing her, it feels like she's the only girl like her!
I've stayed away from relationships throughout my childhood and school years because I knew I would be immature. Saved me a lot of heartache, especially when you see your friends dating and breaking up left and right and getting involved in petty drama. I am sort of looking forward to getting married someday, though.
Thank God we never tasted fornication.
@@ashflint23 😅 hallelujah 🙌.
LMAO bunch of hypocrites 😂 just don't get marry lad it's not worth it these days.
So in other words, you avoided dating because you wanted to avoid the negative aspects which come with it.
You realize that whether or not you have sex, you still learn how to behave and treat a partner when you are in one, right?
@@Bomtombadi1 That's not what I said. I said I avoided dating during my childhood/teen years because I knew I would be immature. I'm not saying I would never consider a premarital relationship, because I certainly am.
Its not always a bad idea though. I met my fiancé in highschool. Although we definitely had some issues because of our immaturity, it worked out in the end and we are both closer to God for it.
Your case is a result of God's love and mercy, it isn't the rule. Most cases would have people being led to sin and regret. It's a better idea to stick to the original standard of Gid and not awaken emotions too early. Flee any appearance of youthful lusts. It's better by far to relate with young women as sisters and young men as brothers.
Met my husband last 3 months before graduation then married him the summer after, so agreed. Would have married sooner but family was determined we dates for a year first lol
Wish someone had said this to me when I was 14. All I got were flippant comments like "dating isn't everything" or "you're too young to worry about that."
This was my opinion about middle school dating when I was in middle school. But when I was in high school, I thought I was mature enough. Nope, but by God's grace I did not get a girlfriend in high school.
Now, I'm 21. I have never had a girlfriend, but I'm glad about that. It got me to focus on Jesus first, and I still struggle with feeling like I need to get married right away. However, I am a lot more mature now. I know that when I get a girlfriend and eventually wife (assuming God blesses me that way), Jesus will be at the center of the relationship.
Wow you seem very desperate there buddy. God will likely not give you lover anytime soon.
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 You don't know that and I don't know that.
How is the walk going?
I am a Christian who started dating at 16 and honestly I don't regret it. We made it to age 20 before she broke up with me and I thought I was gonna marry her.
Yes I was immature in some ways but we stuck to the faith. It didn't work out in the end but that experience of that loss pushed me to lean on God in ways I never thought possible
That was God turning your captivity for your good, it doesn't mean that was what he originally intended. That was his mercy towards you. I can guarantee that he much more willed that your emotions weren't awakened so early in the first place and yiu had spent those 4 years chasing him harder from the onset. Gid brought you inti the fold with that loss but you didn't need the loss, yet his mercy towards you was evident. Brother take a word of wisdom from someone who made mistakes over and iver again... follow God with all your heart and follow no other persin especially a woman until you're certain Gid has prepared you abd is leading you to get married. Also speak to your pastor about any relationships or feelings. It's your shepherd's job to look after you
When you think your going to marry someone at such a young age its hard to ever get over them. You sound like you are mature now. Hopefully you find the right wife.
One of the biggest factor i was in an immature relationship was because i didn't have love and affection from my parents, though i never blamed them for that. I broke up with my ex and now I'm serving the Lord as a youth.
Keep it up.
When teens start dating in high school, it sets up a pattern of codependency. They always have to be in a relationship from there on out. They have a hard time being independent. They also choose unhealthy partners as a result.
Lol
No, it doesn’t. I hat book are you reading?
@@Bomtombadi1 no book. I’m a pastoral counselor.
And you're part of the problem. Marriage and relationship ships are key. We need to stop telling kids to do what thebworld says. We need to encourage Godly marriages. Hormones are raging whether you like it or not. Expecting kids to ignore those hormones for 10-20 years is not working. It's idiotic. Raise your children to find a Godly spouse and get married. (Just like out parents and grandparents did) it's time the church realizes that biology is real. We could obliterate sex outside of marriage if we didn't demonize teen marriages.
And isn't the poinnt of marriage to be co dependent??? Maybe we should stop teaching kids that they "don't need no man" irvwhatever and explain why they do. And why boys need a woman.
Independence is not a virtue.
My high school sweetheart and I are still together, married now. We started dating my sophomore year. It’s been nearly 10 years and we dated for 6. Now he is about to be a youth pastor. If you truly keep following Christ and put Him first in the relationship, it can work.
Currently I'm a sophomore, and I've recently asked out a girl my age I have had a crush on since freshman year. I Introduced her to my local youth group, and I'm praying for a relationship to last forever, and to put God first.
@@roborylan7094so freaking sweet
High school is for grades, goals, and friends. 👏 Good word.
High school is for grades goals and good friends for 5 years head start for the future
Met my husband when I was 12, I only had one other serious boyfriend in high school and I knew God told me not to date him and I wish I would’ve listened, but I’ve now been married for 3 and half years and we have a little girl together. Waiting on God’s timing is hard but disobeying Him hurts so much worse. He is so faithful though!
This is what I learned after getting heartbroken last year. I should not be inlove yet because it will distract me. Instead of being productive and building my life and doing my priorties, I was lost and unproductive for being inlove. There is so much to learn and know in life before entering into a relationship.
I'm just trusting God because I don't think I can find the right one on my own. I'm also too young.
Same
Although I think there’s exceptions, in general it does seem better to wait until you’re older, because often people are not mature enough to date while in high school. There’s this one person I met, who didn’t give his children an age when they could start dating, but when they where mature enough. Now parents aren’t perfect and there’s flaws in this, but I think the idea is better. My friend who was mature starting dating at 14!! Dated for I think 5 years and got married. Although I’m general I’ve seen a lot of teen relationships fall, because they don’t have a purpose, are not mature enough and don’t have God at the center of their life. So I’m general I think it’s better to wait until you’re older, but I think there exceptions as well😊❤️
I agree
Only God can make this timing so perfect, I’ve been struggling w feeling like this and this helps a lot man. Thanks for everything brother
I completely agree! I have previously decided not to date in high school before seeing this video, but it was still good to feel more "backed up" for my decision! 😊
Purity study have a deeper relationship with God first
And devastating impact on innocent children 😂
Paul says get married. I agree with him. Demonizing marriage is what's causing so many unwed teen pregnancies.
I wish my parents would hear you when I was a teenager. I didn't care about dating when I was in the high school (I was just too ugly, too shy and too "godly" to be considered a dateable material) but my mother constantly shamed me for not doing my best (as in: being seductive/sensual) to "catch a man" and my dad kept telling me that if I do not lose weight (I was 135 pounds) then no guy will ever want me...he praised me for my "good shape" when later I struggled with anorexia though. I felt so bad for them and ashamed of myself, that I made up a lie at the age of 25 and told them that there is actually one guy interested in dating me (in reality, he could not care less whether I was alive or not). The truth is that I am 37 now and nobody ever cared to ask me for a date (if I omit two manipulative guys who just wanted to get laid)- and for this, my mother thinks that I was not even worthy to be born to her. [deep sigh]
I'm very sorry to hear that happened to you, sister 😯 people shouldn't judge others based on their relationship status. It doesn't matter if you have never been asked on a date or if you never will be asked on a date (though if you do truly desire to get married in the future, i pray that YAHUAH willing you'll be able to find a good, righteous man to be with ❤) what matters most is that you live life according to The Most High's will. And that you live life trying to follow the path of truth in this life, living life with true honest love in your heart. And if people shame you for not conforming to the ways of the world, pay them no mind. Just continue to treat them the way you want to be treated and stand firm in truth. I'll be praying that you have peace, dear sister ❤
@@emmavolpe5488 Amen!
Bro I wish he was my pastor
@Brianna Jenell God can use anybody
I hear what you're saying but remember what Lord Jesus Christ Our Savior the Son of God said. He said "Don't call anyone on earth Father for you have only one Father in heaven and don't call anyone Teacher because you already have one Teacher. You are to be brothers and sisters. Jesus Christ the Son of God is the true Teacher, go read His word. If you asked Jesus Christ about what Daily Disciple talked about He would say "anyone who loves mother, father, brother, sister, wife or children more than me is not worthy of me." "Whoever has left mother's, brothers, sisters, father's, wives and children because of me will surely be rewarded." This is available in the Gospel.
New International Version
“If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters-yes, even their own life-such a person cannot be my disciple.
Luke 14:26
Matthew 10:37, ESV: Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Matthew 10:37, KJV: He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
In a way he is. He's not there every Sunday but you can still learn a lot from him.
Amen! This is great advice! Don’t ever think that a relationship is going to make you a more whole person, or fix your situation. The only person that can make you whole and help you is God. A relationship isn’t a requirement to being a teenager. Don’t force one just because others are. Have patience. The lord has a plan for you. If you follow his word, you will find someone when you are both ready.
I made the mistake of not waiting out of desperation. I ended up In a relationship with someone I hardly liked or had anything in common with just for the sake of having that “first kiss”.
Currently 23, have been on some dates, but never felt properly in place with those people or even ready for a relationship. Still waiting. The time comes when the time comes my friends
Finally someone who understand!
I was just lonely. It wasn't the best idea but I learned as we all do from our mistakes in life.
As a teen in highschool, thank you for this. Most of my friends started dating in middle school. In fact I have been pressured by boys into dating since SECOND GRADE. But of course I always refused. I have never ever dated, or even held hands or hugged a boy, whether romantically or platonically 😅. But I never let my friends (or anyone) peer pressure me into dating. In fact I've told myself that I'll only start dating after I graduate college and get a job. And I will stick to that no matter what *anyone* thinks 🙌
Um dating that late doesn't seem very wise marriage should be a priority as soon as your an adult
Um dating that late doesn't seem very wise marriage should be a priority as soon as your an adult
So perfecting said my guy. I had a friend that was not crazy. And I warned her many time to not date because there is no reason behind it. I would’ve loved to have sent this to her back then. But it’s to late now. So I hope I can use this to save others on that path. Thank you so much for saying this.
You can save others but not yourself sounds very familiar I supposed
I needed this video!!!
This
Why am I just seeing this 😭😭😭
It's so right
This is something that I needed to hear today thank you
You date to get married, or you date to break up. That’s what I told my little sister and honestly to my shock she went all high school NEVER dating or with any “situationships”
I may not have listened but I wish a peer or parent had shared this with me when I was a teen.
This right here I wish I heard this as a teen all those years ago would have saved me from a painful first marriage
The Lord is a blessing though and even break men can be use by Him
Lol 😂
“Can’t you do all this stuff in a friendshii context?” Not exactly, it’s actually really difficult. Lots of guys and especially teens can -easily- latch onto forms of prolonged attention. I might argue that there are few guys who can be friends with girls on a deeper emotional level without catching feelings (or a “dangerous” attachment of some kind), especially with conventionally attractive girls. Men’s natural desires and needs that get met through others is something that needs to be addressed in this conversation because, “I mean yeah,” is probably not the common response to your question. Maybe they would say “Yeah, but it’s really hard.”
But hey maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic who falls in love any time a girl looks at me idk 🤷♀️
I would agree with the sentiment that you should be cautious of dating until at earliest around senior year or 17/18, but I think your approach isn’t angled at the right ideas to help solve many problems.
@theWarHammer True but you still don't have to date them. The hormones and catching feelings from too much attention is real, but you can save yourself a lot of heartbreak and dumb decisions by not officially tieing yourself to someone as their boyfriend or girlfriend, only to break up when you're no longer interested or your relationship is damaged.
All feelings are deceitful. Learn to dissociate and identify and you will see.
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 Feelings are important and everyone should be in touch with their own emotions so they can be processed in a healthy way. Dissociation is not a good method
As a highschool girl I can confirm that it is rare to be friends with a highschool boy who doesn't have "other intentions" or deeper feelings
I didn't date in high school but still believe that it's still possible to date in high school and find the person you're going to marry then. I have a friend that got engaged at 18 and married at 19 now married with 3 kids for 25yrs. We all mature at diff rates so can't say it's the same for everyone
Agree with this 100%. It just depends on your maturity level and what your consciences says (Romans 14).
Dating in highschool was one of my biggest mistakes and regrets
Please you might want to give some more details. Some people believe this is the way to go.
Dating is fun does not have to be serious. I dated and don't regret one bit. Not everything has to be twisted and complicated. I leaned how to talk and communicate with the opposite sex. Great memories! My brothers kingdom spouse was found as a teen and married as young adults. Now with grandkids. God didn't send my spouse until a little later. and that's OK. Loved my teen years. I was blessed with real great friends and a boyfriend that's was good to me.
I had to deal with this heavy. Love to hear others talk about this
I'm 42 years old, I wish I would have heard this from my peers when I was in high school. I didn't date at all in high school but I wanted to so badly and I feel inadequate because I never had a boyfriend. Looking back I praise God for him protecting me from myself. I thank God for his wisdom and his protection and fulfilling love.
Great points! God bless you! ❤
Yes. Absolutely yes. Teaches them how to function in a relationship.
i was in avid in middle school, but didn’t do it in my freshman year. however i got an invitation to join for my sophomore year. ended up joining and met this girl who is christian and her dad is even a pastor. haven’t dated yet but i think i just might
Thanks for the advice and warning I'm about to enter high school and I feel like I needed to hear this message. Also thanks for the videos that have helped me in my walk with the Lord thus far In my life. ✝️
Yes I do agree. But sometimes ain’t like that. Like me. I met her when l still a kid and I asked God and he said she was the one I’m going to marry. Just wait on God to bring you the person he wants you to marry.
First of all I love seeing and listening to another fellow child of God spread His love and word to the world! While I, as a born again believer, do agree with most of what you're saying, I would also say ultimately it is up to the convictions God places in the individual hearts in those asking this question and those who they trust to ask. For me personally I grew up in a very stable Christian family as missionaries in another country; when we came back to the states in 2015 we met a family and became great friends with them and the oldest son and I both had a thing for each other. Out of respect for our parents and knowledge that we were still teenagers in high school, we didn't pursue anything beyond a friendship until our parents asked if we felt anything for each other. After talking to both my parents and his, both parents agreed that we were being mature enough to be in a healthy relationship, but still needed certain boundaries. We broke up about 6 months later because we realized we were doing great in our individual lives but had problems communicating non-threatening issues in our relationship. Our parents were actually surprised that we had issues, but came to understand that we both had to make the hard decision in order for us both to grow in our relationships with God and with each other- just as friends. I know most teenagers don't show that kind of awareness in their relationships, but I believe that because my parents trusted the convictions God gave me about that particular relationship they in turn trusted me to learn myself when I was ready for a relationship with a man. I didn't get into another relationship with a man until freshman year of college, but that ended soon because we felt much more comfortable just being friends. I haven't been in that kind of relationship since then, but in this time of waiting in singleness I've learned to focus more on God and my walk with him. In the meantime while I wait for the man God will put in my heart and life, I've also learned that going on a date every once in a while is not going against the waiting. I'm only 22, so I could be waiting for a long time, but choosing to ignore any relationship until marriage is limited the opportunities and possibilities God will give me to find the right man. Though it might seem all random and long (thanks to anyone who actually read all of this haha) I thought it would be good to share it. Have a blessed day!
Agreed! I am nearly 22, never been in a relationship, but I know far more than most people my age (even more than some Christian married couples!) about communication and marriage. Thanks to my mom for being so intentional with teaching me. I feel v prepared to go into a relationship but also content with being single too ♡
I met the soul mate God had planned for me in highschool. We were lost and then got saved together. And are now engaged out of high school!
Thank you for this advice. I really needed to hear this and honestly I know people who need to hear this.
my husband and I were middle, highschool and college sweethearts.
I needed this so much
Thank you for this, this helps me out a lot, God bless you and have a fantastic day!! 😊😊🙏🙏
Thanks Bro for the advice🙏🙏
Bro I needed this thank you
I feel like i could use this in my life even tho im 21... focusing on God and getting better at communication and listening and reactions to problems and situations and keeping God at the center of my life. To also mention loving God first.
I didn’t date until I was 20 and I’ve never understood why teenagers think it’s a good idea to date at such an awkward, immature age. It wasn’t prohibited for me, I just thought it a stoopid idea.
i Love JESUS CHRIST and HOLY SPIRIT and GOD our FATHER All Glory Belongs to GOD GOD Bless you all ✝️🙏🏻❤️⛪🙌 halleluYAH 💯
Amen, thank You Lord for speaking through this young man, GOD bless you all!!! ✝️✝️✝️❤️♾️
Thanks! Had a debate today in Bible class about Christian dating
Excellent advice.
My church has a tradition of platonic, zero commitment dates starting in the teen years as a way to help people get to know the brothers and sisters of opposite sex and how to treat them, at least in the countries where dating is the norm. These are double or group dates centered on conscientiousness, fun activities, inter-ministry connection, friendship, and pure, positive attention for sisters especially.
Since members of our church come from all walks of life, they often need training in how to pursue godly relationships with the opposite sex and this is often the first step. But when it comes to focusing on one person, yeah, there's little point until you're ready for marriage.
True brother thank you I was looking for if I should thanks giving context and a better understanding god bless you
Guy's don't do what I did and listen to this video romantic relationships wont satisfy your desires in high school I committed depraved stuff which honestly Im ashamed of but glory to god for showing me the light even as an apostate I did fornication thinking that would make me happy but no I just felt unclean and we ended up breaking up. But I thank god for lifting my burdens I said towards god "God Please Lift This Heart ache this feeling is gnawing at me and I so ever thank you lord you loved me even as a fool" That night I cried while smiling and I was able to move on overnight and stopped all my wicked deeds masterbation fornication disobedience gone glory to god and that was only a few months ago praise our mighty savior Jesus he is all we need in this life and the life after.
I'm a mom of a 16-year-old who recently started dating her best friend who's also 16. My daughter was born in a Christian family. The boy came from a Hindu family and decided to accept Jesus at the age of 12 when someone gave him a flyer about salvation. To cut the story short, his family accepted his conversion and don't force him to join any Hindu prayers or rituals. Both seem to adhere to the Christian faith but the boy is obviously still a baby Christian. He told my daughter that he'll only date for marriage and nothing else. He's really into her and they seem to go along really well. He's planning to join her at the church youth group this year and his parents agreed to drop and pick him up. My issue is, are they're still too young to date? However, in hindsight, I wouldn't be here had my grandmother not dated my grandfather at 16. She had my dad at 17. Had they not fallen inlove with each other, I wouldn't be here right now.
They're going out in a few days time to hang out with another couple at an arcade. . Both come from Christian background too. I'm tempted to talk to the boy to remind the boundaries and limitations of dating. My friend said don't do that as I might scare the boy away. My daughter is adamant that he won't be scared away that easily. I'll be sticking around the same area but will not be in the actual arcade to supervise them. It would be awkward for them to enjoy.
Am I doing the right thing? My husband isn't happy with the dating and wants them to break up. But the thing is, they go to the same high school and will be in two subjects together. They're both in senior high now (grade 11) and she said she won't break up with him. I get my husband's point of view but I also want my daughter to be honest with us. I'd rather have her date him in the open than to secretly date and do things that aren't meant to be done. I'd rather know where she is and guide her as she traverses the teenage romance, then for her to learn from others the wrong lessons in love. Am I doing the right thing?
That's why I recommend that you go on dates when you're in highschool, but don't steady date.
Being in relationships without having a relationship with God ended up having me broken inside, abused andaddictedto drugs. But i got right with God and he put those broken pieces together and now im just working on me which i should have done a long time ago. But God wrote my life not me, so i know he has a breakthrough for me coming and i am happier with just me and him than I'll ever be with anyone else ❤ one day he may present someone for me but thats doesn't even cross my mind anymore. I learned i had to focus on his calling not mine. Life is waay i mean waay better 😊
Way to go!💪 Search the marriage guide, it's exciting
@@unyimeobongakpan1214 thank you😊
I really enjoyed this. Thanks man and God bless!✝️
i think motivation is the important part because i’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and we started dating in 9th grade but she was my first ever girlfriend and i’m firmly rooted in my faith and so is she
Well.. I don't think that applies for everyone. I meet my husband when i was 15 and I got married at 16, because i was ready for this spiritually, emotionally and mentally.
Thank God I have a beautiful happy family with 4 kids and I am 20.
I don't believe that there is anything wrong with marriage at this age as long as your parents and his agree on this.
Wow at 16! Where are you from?
Yeah this is great and God bless your marriage but my goodness your situation is a rare one😧
Amen, its hard in these days
I use to HAVE to date as a teen. Now I'm like all I need is Jesus
My husband and I have been together since 15 :) we've been together 14yrs and just had our first child. Our friends have been together since 13 and are together for 12yrs now. Not all high school relationships are doomed or are holding you back
SAME HERE! 15 in high school. Church together. Married at 18. That was 7 years ago! Two kids too! All great
Great advice. My Jesus be my shepherd, Amen🙏
Great advice
I wholeheartedly agree!!!!
Thanks for sharing amen 🙏🏻 needed this message
GENTLEMEN!! Hear here!! Work on yourself and get refined and in time they will chase YOU! Be patient, it will pay off when you can have whatever pick you want.
This came at the right time
As a teen, I would never. Only because I know that's it bound to end plus there aren't any Christian guys near or around my age in my church (there are two that are like a year younger than me but we're good friends and that would be awkward 😬)
More that friends? Careful right there amigo
@@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 ?? I never said anything about more than friends 😂
Highschoolers should be thinking about marriage in the future. They can start saving money for a family, and I know of many people have been really close friends in highschool, and then got married at 20.
Learning to adult was a bit of challenge but I got married while I was in high school. Then again, that also means I missed out on some good lessons because I've literally never lived on my own as an adult.
I do agree, but only to an extend. I also know super godly couples that started in highschool. There already was a level of maturity in them that made it work. They are married now.
So I've seen mature 16 year olds, and immature 40 year olds. I think it's much wiser to truly learn how to listen to God a d recognize his voice so you can deduce what He wants you to do. I think that is better than creating these new "societal" standards (how well intended or even Christian as they may seen) that are supposedly lead the right way.
I started dating at 15, and I’ve been blessed enough to be with the same guy. However, we have made a lot of mistakes because of our emotional and spiritual immaturity. I would not recommend it, but being self aware and focusing on God first helps 🙂
In almost every case it leads to brokenness and regret
With a good teen / parent relationship, I think dating while still living in your parents home is the best time to navigate relationships.
I love this guy.
I needed this advice
I never dated in high school. I’m glad I didn’t. I wouldn’t have been ready for a relationship.
Remain blessed special people
amen to thisssss!!!
While I didn't date in highschool, you can still get in trouble with other things, which teens roll their eyes at.
Also a lot of young teenagers I met have one reason, "I'm lonely." My guy, go to God and ask for godly friends. Your loneliness doesn't have one solution: girl/boyfriend.
I just scroll glory glory🙏🙏
Man I needed this
This was really informative