Me too! It's okay, when people really care, but it gets tricky, when someone just wants to keep a conversation going or is hoping for entertainment. There's this special kind of people who even hope you reveal something awkward, so they can make fun of you. In these cases I do a kind of mental aikido. I give them some parody of awkwardness, that's so completely over the top that we can have some fun together. Like saying: "In my first life, I was a stone...it was very boring, just lying around all the time." That gets us to a kind of humoristic "small talk" I really enjoy. And it gives me time to check out how open the other person is to "real" intuitive topics. And what about myself I really want to reveal to the other one. Wouldn't be my strategy for speed dating though. 🙃
Oh, the list is long for me: Bad in group settings Horrible driver Generalised anxiety Not suited to office jobs Social anxiety Bad at relationships Overthink everything Terrible at phone calls Bad at small talk Could keep going but gonna stop now
Same, except I like blabbing on the phone like a teenager, only to people who get me and it’s a mix of mostly me complaining and laughing at my own jokes 🤣
I keep wondering if this thing isn’t some kind of a rare personality disorder. In fact, I keep overthinking all the things that are wrong with me. I also have long conversations in my head with people that I know don’t like me and wondering what is wrong with me.
@@dailywisdomwordsshirleysat4005 for years I suspected I may have some kind of rare mental disorder. It caused me great shame. I then started reading up and realised that none of the conditions fit me. I mean, we have some BPD traits perhaps but it's not a fit. "Just INFJ" it seems.
1. Meditation - Can't do it because it causes overthinking! 2. Social Interaction - I avoid people because I don't like that awkward feeling. So I should practice to get more comfortable...maybe. 3. Self Care - Does loading up on craft supplies for projects that never get done count? Great food for thought David! I will contemplate this in my next overthinking session!
Hey David, I read a meme "being called smart because you have a variety of information on different subjects but in reality it's all surface level intelligence and you don't feel like you're really good at anything" on a infj meme page and this happens to me like all the time. Is it normal for infjs to feel dumb all the time!?? Can you make a video on that???? :)
I think so. My memory is terrible which makes me feel anxious because I can't rely on remembering what I've learnt. Ti being 3rd in function stack = a child !!! However our Ni and Fe has it's own 'smarts'
Omg (INFJ here) if I could ever muster up the courage to speed date, sounds like a nightmare, and someone told me that they like to watch random science videos and told me that the human body had 100 sphincters I would know I found the person I want to see again.
“Maybe don’t start out with talking about I don’t know, the theories of quantum entanglement” I have done this, some people said their brain started hurting.
@@vickiroadman6741 If you don't mind discussion with an INFP, I'd be happy to join. But first let me do some research about... Damn! Lost my train of thoughts!
The FBI I don’t really care if you. My internet activity is actively watched in real time anyway because I’ve been doxxed. I have no privacy. Just surprised to see FBI on an MBTI channel lol. That’s awesome.
Oh man....the meditation part made me laugh so hard. I was thinking, "I hope he goes down a rabbit hole so that I know I am not the only one who does...." Bam. Spot on. When you got to the Amazon shopping part, I was dying of laughter. Thank you for making me feel less alone with how my brain works. These videos are so great. 😂
Infjs and meditation. It took me 6 months not to overthink in a yoga class. While the instructor was telling us not to think of anything. I was thinking "of course I can do it" , simultaneously my mind was racing.... 🙃. Thank you for a clear and funny explanation of us.
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As an INFJ with 30 years of meditation experience, +25 years of teaching meditation, I believe I can share some insight. One first needs to learn to concentrate well before attempting meditation. Once concentration is improved i.e. focusing your thoughts on one thing, expanding it to meditation becomes much easier. Listening to meditation music while practising both concentration and meditation techniques helps, especially those whose minds run amuck. Hope this tip helps. I have a tendency to overeat when stressed, especially if I feel financially insecure - wondering if I'll have enough to ear, due to an early childhood emotional trauma... was hungry for the first three months of my life. Was told the easiest way to deal with it is to surround myself with food. It does work. When I worked for a while as a waitress in a restaurant and was surrounded with food, I lost significant weight, while others gained it. Funny, ha? Just sharing my human imperfections... in the hope someone else can relate and not feel alone.
Glad you made it through the trauma. You are precious. I've lost so much weight and I know how to keep it off in a very healthy way. I don't eat for comfort anymore. No Cravings, no thinking about food, no grazing all day. Yesterday I had my favorite dessert, chocolate custard eclairs. Two of them. Won't have it again for many months. I deal with emotional pain cold turkey, except with prayer. I'm allergic to everything and sensitive, probably a blessing. I see that every day is a new beginning.
Do you space out when small talk going on? I try to pay attention on small talk and i find it so useless and exhausting to do. I try to engage, yet i find the material to be boring or redundant. Its like that question when you are at work and you hate your job....why am i here?
Sometimes I'm Sensory sensitive and other times Sensory blind... Ex. Knowing which songs were playing in the store and if I heard it already while being there, OR putting my mind to a repetitive task that allows me to be imaginative and think of more random facts to talk about while tuning out my surroundings.
I've subscribed to your channel, contents are fun viewing the complexity of our minds and how to most accurately describe it. So precisely described that more often than not, I felt the need to grab a box of kleenex because of the crying laughter of your almost 100% precision of what is going inside me. Hope I can find someone near rhe place I live to help me translate this into the Japanese language. I bet that more than kne Japanese friends, ex colegues and bosses would luke to know " who this is "😂😂😂😂a bunch of contradictions, indecisiveness, socially awkward BUT with a kind heart, oftenly misunderstood😩I know there are quite a lit of videos out there in jpness about INFJ, but I found yours, funny👍And I'll try to search for more cool videos to help my jap fellows getting the funny side of life... since I find them a little... close minded in terms of lack of differences acceptance , pity 👎
Here’s another potential meditation/overthinking solution that might work for some people; visualise a beautiful place you’ve been to (or an imaginary one), focus on making it as detailed as possible including using your other senses to distract it from overthinking other stuff. Once you’ve finished your imaginary picture, sit back and enjoy the image you’ve just created that surrounds you.
Older INFJ here.....and I have to say that one of my favorite things is someone who makes me laugh! You are SO funny! As intense as we can sometimes get, we really do need to break it up by laughing more! So, thanks! And you are right on target! I will be back to hear some more! Love your delivery. Love that you enable us to laugh at ourselves!
Interesting that you mentioned being locked into one's own head. I find myself slipping into a depression because my life has essentially taken away that opportunity. I'm locked OUT of my own head. Too much time in chameleon mode, I guess.
As an INFJ, I found that meditation brings me more anxiety than other activities. People told me I didn't try "hard" enough (can you force meditation, though?). Instead, I choose to take my thinking mind into a yoga session (Se inferior LOVES it), put some music on, bake and cook. That's my kind of meditation :) When I overthink, I tend to let it out into writing all emotions down, then tend to, once again, that Se inferior! In time I find it comforting (food helps, lol).
I suck at speaking and expressing myself, my emotions. The funniest thing - one of my biggest dream is to be a storyteller and inspire people. what an irony
I joined Toastmasters (I highly recommend this!) I discovered that while I suck at expressing myself in the moment, but when I take the time to write it out in a speech format I am very good at storytelling. Toastmasters gives you a relatively safe environment to work on your actual speaking skills with actual constructive criticism and support. One note though is that not every Toastmasters group is created equal, go to a few meetings in your area, and find the group of people you enjoy the most. My group in Texas was amazing, I've found a few ok groups in Washington, but I'm still looking for my right fit.
A 20 minute video, just as I'm about to go to bed? Really? All good, I can stay up and watch this... Wait, are you going to bring up 'bad at going to bed on time'? Ok I'm feeling singled out already...
Oh you poor thing! Meditating! I was cry-laughing. I’ve been meditating for ten years, everyday, as an INFJ. And everyday, my brain is just like yours. Without fail. I sit through it and eventually my brain calms down. I relate it to a kid burning off every last bit of energy before bed in a furious rush of activity. It’s like my brain is doing as much as possible because it knows it’s almost time for “bed” (meditation). But here’s the kicker - after the words stop forming my thoughts, images take over and I go through the entire blaze of brain activity again with images instead of words. And when that’s done, finally, my brain is quiet and I feel an out of body sensation (yet in-body sensation at the same time) and it’s peaceful. It’s a good solid 45 minutes of sheer brain-running activity with about 15 minutes (if I’m lucky) of calm peace. And it’s worth it. When I first started, I would go to two-hour sittings at a Zen Buddhist Temple on Sundays. For about three years, it would take me an hour or more before my brain stopped running. Glancing at people around me, who were breathing deeply and looking so relaxed, it seemed like everyone else in the room had reached zen A LOT faster than me. Which led me to wonder if I was doing it wrong and if I should take a meditation class again, or read a book about it. Or maybe I needed to be outside while meditating? Maybe a bell would help? Music? Chanting? What am I going to make for dinner? Am I just wasting my Sunday mornings?! Who am I?! ;) Anyways...great way to exhibit the extra time and effort it takes to quiet the active mind. ❤️
I laughed 😂😂😂😂😂at the meditation part it's me during meditation, but sometimes when both my heart and mind are stressed, they tend to cooperate and I manage to meditate....love this, makes me feel that I'm validated and it reminds me that I'm not alone...
INFJ's Rock!!! There are so many things to love about all of you! I am a Infp and my brain will never ever turn off either. When you all are Awkward I think it's extremely cute and makes me love my fellow INFJ's even more!!!
I am so glad to know it is because I am an INFJ my brain never stops, even when I am sleeping! I am always being told I "overthink" everything. I am also very glad to have found you because hour videos ate the only ones I can relate to. That said, I read three to five books at a time (fiction.and nonfiction) to keep my mind from going around like a carousel. It works.
Ouch... I’m now going to send this to my husband because it’s a accurate representation of everything I took several days to over explain when we approached our strengths and weaknesses.
You are really funny! I am always thinking of worst case scenario of a situation and how I would deal with it, over and over and over and over in my head.. Lol...
Socializing is exhausting for me and small talk is terrifying ....nothing stops overthinking but sleep unfortunately. I think what helps us is just accepting yourself the way you are😎
A friend of my brother makes me food whenever he's making himself food (when I'm dogsitting at his parent's house) because he knows I likely haven't eaten. Even if I tell him that I'm not hungry, he'll keep nudging (both metaphorically and physically) the food towards me until I eat it.
Even when i went snorkling in Eilat (south Israel), even when my head was under water looking at fish, my mind was still over thinking in a loop....the only way to focus for me is either do work or listen to other people's problems and trying to solve them...
I really appreciate what you are doing here, because you are conveying information in an entertaining way (I absolutely hate it if it is presented in so dry and dull a fashion - I had already hated it back in school). That really helps one remember what you are presenting (an INFP thing, because if Fi dominant is excited about something, that greatly helps Ne subdominant along). Keep up the good work, because that also helps me understand one of my other modes much better.
Dearest David I truly enjoyed and appreciated this video. I can only admit every example you gave, I am guilty of, except I don’t date. Gave up 10 years ago. However, when I meet new people, I out of extreme nervousness blurt out my moto of I have to learn 3 new things every day, or the day was wasted 😬 by then everyone already have the far away look, so I from then on, just nod and listen and get the hell away as fast as I possibly can. And hope to never see them again... Why why why do we as INFJ’s always have to go to straight useful facts- conversations and scare the hell out of people? I don’t even want to mention the sky rocket overthinking 🙈 Oh boy the online shopping and the all the cancellations minutes later. Guilty as hell 🥴 Thank you for always making me feel so much better and not alone with my weird craziness. Have an amazing week 🌾
I meditate as described in the Bible, I read a text and I meditate on that to get a message from it. I find it very comforting as I tend to overthink things anyway.
Haha. That is me meditating. Gave up on meditation and have found that my brain is at its emptiest when I'm busy working on something that needs lots of concentration. Socialising- rather not. Self care - maybe, when everyone else is happy
When I get overthinking, I listen to inspirational and encouraging music; with songs like "Human Condition" by Unspoken or "Beloved" by Jordan Feliz. In fact, I started making playlists on YT for myself. Then, I thought about how many others who might feel the same way, so I made my playlists public. I thought, if the music that helps me, helps someone else, how awesome would that be? I really hate useless conversations. I'm usually one who doesn't speak, unless I need to or have something important to say. When I met my (now) husband, he would talk and I would listen. And, we did end up having some deep conversations. Now, he's pulled me out of my shell, and he's learned to talk a lil less and enjoy listening. It's funny, but sometimes it happens that way. Buying stuff. Well, I've never used that as a way to compensate for my emotions. It just makes your house more full of stuff and your bank account empty. I hate shopping, so it makes it a lil easier. I just ask myself, honestly, is it a "want" or a "need." Instead, I try to concentrate on something, like my budget, or just creating something. There are times when overthinking, or emotions, can get in the way of my sleeping. However, I have found ways to overcome them. One way, I supplement my diet with the vitamins I need; such as, vitamin D3 w/K2, potassium & magnesium via electrolytes, B12, and others to help my body to go to sleep naturally. You have to find what works for you. Everyone has it in them to find a way to cope with all life's hurdles. It may just take a little bit of time to figure it out. Until then, just take one day at time.
Yes, at times self care. I try to not over due it. Be patient with myself. We need to Remember to accept ourselves. Be ourselves . Then, most life challenges (like eating, socializing, motivating, etc.) Acould be less of a struggle. Hopefully we will run across with those with like minded. I've learned and accepted that I will be a loner at times, and I am Soooo Very grateful to find another person on this earth that gets me. Far and few, but it is possible 🙂
DAVID!!! Thank you. Sometimes I get excited and want to write something before the end so I remember...bahaha but after watching the whole video..I so needed to hear this. Thank you so very much. :)
Guided meditation is the ONLY way I can SOMETIMES meditate. If I’m stressed out there’s just no way. The overthinking is actually why I’m horrible at directions. I make it a point to observe how to get from point A to point B but, somehow, something catches my eye, it prompts a thought and it’s just downhill from there. By the time I come out of my ‘trance’ we’ve already arrived.
How would people watch this video and not know what a INFJ. Great video as usual. I really appreciate knowing I'm not some freak who is alone. People like you help me understand others are like me. For years I thought I was mentally ill or something was wrong with me. I didn't want to tell people about how my mind work. Or how much of a empath I am. Feeling everybody's emotions so much. Or how my mind would stuck in these horrible mental loops. Where at times I could barely sleep for days. Have been times I would lay in bed. Just start crying about being stuck deep in a mental loop. Trying to stop. Thinking why is this happening. Times it was so bad. I thought of killing myself. Thinking something is so wrong with me. People would say just stop thinking so much. Like it is that easy. I would try too. Or I would talk to people about what is on my mind. Alot of times I could feel them judging me harshly. Like I'm defective. I was telling this girl I was dating. About all the problems in the world. How I can't ignore suffering in other countries. That I didn't understand why people don't care. They should care. She told me why do you worry about all of this. It is just how it is. Normal people do not worry about this shit. Stop telling me this shit just shut up already. Stop being so weird. I almost cried. I just looked at her said ok. You don't have to be so mean. I would never be this mean to you or anybody. I felt so small and honestly it hurt really bad. I just got up and went home. I actually cried on the way home.
Yep, the overthinking goes on in the background - constantly - laughed hard at the meditation skit (spot-on). Listening does help get out of that loop, for me, on the rare opportunities I'm with someone who'll get beyond small talk. Love your "No you're right..." t-shirt!
@@DavidBadurina I was going to comment try meditating right before you brought up meditating lol. In the middle of attempting to meditate, I will stand up, start walking around the room and start talking to myself. Wait, aren't you supposed to be meditating?? Sit back down.
Thank you, I really wanted to cry because these felt so much like things that have really hurt me and I have gone in loops about them. But then I would laugh at your truly terrific puns. Be well❤
You're example of trying to meditate is spot on! That's exactly how I was the first few times I tried before learning some tricks to stop the mind chatter
Running used to help me zone out. I'm stuck in a 'ice cream + overthinking = break out in hives due to stress' rut. A constant loop day in and out. I know running is my answer but I just... I can't.
First time I've heard about the over thinking. Drives me crazy. Every one tells me about my OT. I'm seeing a counselor and next week is about my OT. Thanks for discussion on this. I work on curbing the OT. Every thing you describe is correct. Different directions at the same time. Etc. Didn't know others experience this also. I don't allow anyone to take advantage of me anymore, and I'm a mature person still in the thick of life.
Wouldn't it be Cool if we had our own club and could meet and greet? Because All I attract is Freakin Narcissist!!! So Draining.... I live alone deep in the wilderness, Peace be with you all
…over 100 sphincters…you can probably control yours… 😳😂😆 Omgggggg! I love that not only do I learn so much from your videos (in general, not specifically about sphincters and poop) but you also crack me up! He is meeeeeee! 🤣 You’re the best, David!
I feel your pain. I ACCIDENTALLY taught myself to concentrate by listening to some Audiobooks. After, no kidding, six months, I realized I was slowly staying more focused and could pay attention slightly better...so in a nutshell, I tricked myself into concentrating by listening to one voice narrating a book. I've now worked my way into audiobooks ABOUT Buddhist mindfulness and meditation, and so far so good.
I liked the Uranus joke, funny. I can go places and get along and conversate and "mingle" fine. But not all the time, not every time, not most of the time. The mention of the self deprecating humor is so spot on! I'm very good at that...😏 Also the how are you question is 110 percent correct. It isn't run of the mill hi and bye type question. It is the how are you really doing, deep down, when it is just you and whatever circumstances you've got going on kind of question. Self care is tricky. Music, nature, those certain people who light up my face just being around the corner from them. And I am working on my self talk, yet again. I say or think something negative towards or about myself, I negate it with 1) the truth which is good or 2) what will become my truth as I get the help needed and work on it in my own time as well. I will say to people close to me I know I can be difficult to handle at times and I appreciate you putting up with me. Got to be real, honest, and genuine in my words and actions... Thank you for your videos. I thoroughly enjoy them as I can see myself in the way you present things and I also am given the opportunity to learn more as well
Some of my best moments from being an Ni dominant, are when a new idea or concept suddenly comes to me. Those are great! I love my ability to think creatively and analyse complex situations. Unlike solving a crime mystery, which I suck at, I’m good at looking for the overarching principles or factors in any situation, then working up from them.
Maybe we’re bad at meditation but it really gives my “monkey mind” a rest. I can’t meditate by myself but listening to a guided meditation is so calming and I can shut off my overthinking for a short while - bliss!
Thank you so much! I laughed a lot, especially at the meditation - thing. It's so true! I meditate regularly. On some days it's fine, on other's...no chance. Imagination is my key to inner calmness. Meeting a wise inner person, who helps me to focus. Traveling inside my mind. In the outer world long walks through nature are helpful for me. I will think a lot walking...but over time I got to the point, where I'm just out there and enjoy.
@@DavidBadurina I've watched number one, and boy is it ever true. Now I'm going to settle in with some home made keto naam bread and watch the second two which I assume will be true as well :)
I just woke up and I have not stopped laughing. You are as awkward as me. Pretty sure I'm gonna not talk anymore. It was painfully funny. "Uranus is really big and they say it smells bad" 🤣🤣🤣
Oh my, the speed dating random thoughts escaping ....nightmare come to fruition!!! 🥴🥴😱🥴😱🤐🤐🤐 The countless times I’ve beat myself up to zip my lip after an awkward conversation because superficial talk is a foreign language from another planet that I’ve never been able to learn. That must mean I am the 👽
Thank you so much for describing your experience with 'attempting to meditate'!! This exact thing happened to me. Afterward, I looked around the room and knew I didn't process this like everyone else. They all looked like were on quaaludes. I had the opposite reaction.
Thank you David for putting it so clearly🙏🏻 Love the spicy humor and relate 1000% to all the awkwardness... I'm really learning so much about myself through you videos... And... I'll try not to overthink them...😂😂😂 Probably will fail on that, but the intention is there... 🙃🙏🏻🤭🤭🙏🏻
I’m new to your channel and found this video really healing! I love discovering new INFJs and remembering that I’m not alone, as I’ve spent most of my life tuned in to understanding others but plagued by the sense that I’m not particularly understood. Annnnd at the end of the video I went on an Amazon book shopping spree, and I don’t regret it ;)
I've had coworkers comment on my random facts that just blew them away, or they're annoyed with me because I found a pop-culture thing and wanted to share it...🖖FOR THE SHIRE!!!😂😂🍻🧙♂️🧝♂️
I'm sitting here hoping I don't ramble as much as you do but I'm also realising that when I'm trying to explain something that I have a lot of thoughts on to an audience I'm comfortable with I definitely do.
In my hs days, in order to make myself mind clear is to do martial arts, jogging. Just to shut my mind. Like..... 7hrs. Physically exhausted but mentally relax. Then i can go to sleep and wake up early. In terms of social interaction. From hs till im 34 now. I gain this attitude to just dive into it. Expose myself (its hard and ridiculous, infj only understand this) "No pain, no gain" I also make sure to know my circles (i hate extroverts Btw. "The stares" and "talk to the hand" when they wanna brag and be around me works well for my well being). In the self-care part, a mirror or artwork, or looking at my mother or sister and ask them how do i look will do the trick since they're the ones that knows me well that i like the honest opinions (momma knows best). I told myself that if i wanted to better myself and have a decent social life is to dive deep in social interaction even though its too hard for me. I get to know patterns, people (not necessarily a friend since i have few) The inspiration is to accept yourself and work non-stop negative or positive as a learning process. Im still suck at these 3 things. I make sure to present myself and give what i can to better where i go. Everyone is entitled to give their own opinions but i make sure to set what i cant take in order to be productive.
Am I the only one that has started to overthink my overthinking, only to overthink how I am overthinking about my overthinking?
I just overthought that very thing ...
Maybe I'm not an INFJ - I clocked one less "overthinking"!!!! 😃
@@educationalbrowsing8913 lol we are definitely overthinking our overthinking at this point!
I was doing just that when I read this comment. . (I'm mentally exhausted)
I hear you.
Yep. I hate when someone says. "So tell me a bit about yourself". That never goes well for me.
This is so relatable 😂. I’m like how much time do you want to dedicate to me answering this question?
Me too! It's okay, when people really care, but it gets tricky, when someone just wants to keep a conversation going or is hoping for entertainment. There's this special kind of people who even hope you reveal something awkward, so they can make fun of you. In these cases I do a kind of mental aikido. I give them some parody of awkwardness, that's so completely over the top that we can have some fun together. Like saying: "In my first life, I was a stone...it was very boring, just lying around all the time." That gets us to a kind of humoristic "small talk" I really enjoy. And it gives me time to check out how open the other person is to "real" intuitive topics. And what about myself I really want to reveal to the other one. Wouldn't be my strategy for speed dating though. 🙃
fiona scheibel Yes!!! Exactly. I never know where to start or where to stop!
If someone asks me that, you could very well listen to crickets instead... 🤔
Like the common questions asked during a job interview. "Tell me your strengths and weaknesses". Needless to say, I'm still looking...
Oh, the list is long for me:
Bad in group settings
Horrible driver
Generalised anxiety
Not suited to office jobs
Social anxiety
Bad at relationships
Overthink everything
Terrible at phone calls
Bad at small talk
Could keep going but gonna stop now
Same, except I like blabbing on the phone like a teenager, only to people who get me and it’s a mix of mostly me complaining and laughing at my own jokes 🤣
I keep wondering if this thing isn’t some kind of a rare personality disorder. In fact, I keep overthinking all the things that are wrong with me. I also have long conversations in my head with people that I know don’t like me and wondering what is wrong with me.
How about filling in forms? I hate that.
@@dailywisdomwordsshirleysat4005 for years I suspected I may have some kind of rare mental disorder. It caused me great shame. I then started reading up and realised that none of the conditions fit me. I mean, we have some BPD traits perhaps but it's not a fit. "Just INFJ" it seems.
@@Coneman3 I don't mind forms too much as don't involve people lol
1. Meditation - Can't do it because it causes overthinking!
2. Social Interaction - I avoid people because I don't like that awkward feeling. So I should practice to get more comfortable...maybe.
3. Self Care - Does loading up on craft supplies for projects that never get done count?
Great food for thought David! I will contemplate this in my next overthinking session!
Haha thanks Barb!
Oh my gosh! I have enough art supplies to open a store and ha e the same peoblem.
Hey David, I read a meme "being called smart because you have a variety of information on different subjects but in reality it's all surface level intelligence and you don't feel like you're really good at anything" on a infj meme page and this happens to me like all the time. Is it normal for infjs to feel dumb all the time!?? Can you make a video on that???? :)
same!
I think so. My memory is terrible which makes me feel anxious because I can't rely on remembering what I've learnt. Ti being 3rd in function stack = a child !!! However our Ni and Fe has it's own 'smarts'
Omg (INFJ here) if I could ever muster up the courage to speed date, sounds like a nightmare, and someone told me that they like to watch random science videos and told me that the human body had 100 sphincters I would know I found the person I want to see again.
“Maybe don’t start out with talking about I don’t know, the theories of quantum entanglement”
I have done this, some people said their brain started hurting.
It’s one of my favorite topics! Haha.
Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh. My problem.
LOL.....that would be me.....theories of quantum entanglement.....wish someone would like to discuss that with me!
@@vickiroadman6741 If you don't mind discussion with an INFP, I'd be happy to join. But first let me do some research about... Damn! Lost my train of thoughts!
But that is where I started
I heard the words "Self depreciating humor" and I was immediately interested.
I'm all about it!
The FBI??
@@My-Name420
Yes?
Don't worry, I'm not the one that goes through your search history....Thank goodness.
The FBI I don’t really care if you. My internet activity is actively watched in real time anyway because I’ve been doxxed. I have no privacy. Just surprised to see FBI on an MBTI channel lol. That’s awesome.
Mee too! ✋🖖
“Not everything has to be an awful moment locked in your own head.” Wow. I rewound that four times. Feeling that comment. Thank you.
but it sure feels like it, ugg lol
Oh man....the meditation part made me laugh so hard. I was thinking, "I hope he goes down a rabbit hole so that I know I am not the only one who does...." Bam. Spot on. When you got to the Amazon shopping part, I was dying of laughter. Thank you for making me feel less alone with how my brain works. These videos are so great. 😂
Infjs and meditation. It took me 6 months not to overthink in a yoga class. While the instructor was telling us not to think of anything. I was thinking "of course I can do it" , simultaneously my mind was racing.... 🙃. Thank you for a clear and funny explanation of us.
As an INFJ with 30 years of meditation experience, +25 years of teaching meditation, I believe I can share some insight. One first needs to learn to concentrate well before attempting meditation. Once concentration is improved i.e. focusing your thoughts on one thing, expanding it to meditation becomes much easier. Listening to meditation music while practising both concentration and meditation techniques helps, especially those whose minds run amuck. Hope this tip helps.
I have a tendency to overeat when stressed, especially if I feel financially insecure - wondering if I'll have enough to ear, due to an early childhood emotional trauma... was hungry for the first three months of my life. Was told the easiest way to deal with it is to surround myself with food. It does work. When I worked for a while as a waitress in a restaurant and was surrounded with food, I lost significant weight, while others gained it. Funny, ha? Just sharing my human imperfections... in the hope someone else can relate and not feel alone.
Glad you made it through the trauma. You are precious. I've lost so much weight and I know how to keep it off in a very healthy way. I don't eat for comfort anymore. No Cravings, no thinking about food, no grazing all day. Yesterday I had my favorite dessert, chocolate custard eclairs. Two of them. Won't have it again for many months. I deal with emotional pain cold turkey, except with prayer. I'm allergic to everything and sensitive, probably a blessing. I see that every day is a new beginning.
" empty your mind ", thimble and ocean springs to mind !!!.
Indeed!
Do any other INFJs have a difficult time remembering sensory details from small talk? Even if you care about the person?
Yes
Yes, indeed. It's a real handicap
Ya
Do you space out when small talk going on? I try to pay attention on small talk and i find it so useless and exhausting to do. I try to engage, yet i find the material to be boring or redundant. Its like that question when you are at work and you hate your job....why am i here?
Sometimes I'm Sensory sensitive and other times Sensory blind...
Ex. Knowing which songs were playing in the store and if I heard it already while being there, OR putting my mind to a repetitive task that allows me to be imaginative and think of more random facts to talk about while tuning out my surroundings.
David is making 2020 a litter easier for me despite the year's craziness. You are seriously motivating us.
I'm glad to help!
I've subscribed to your channel, contents are fun viewing the complexity of our minds and how to most accurately describe it. So precisely described that more often than not, I felt the need to grab a box of kleenex because of the crying laughter of your almost 100% precision of what is going inside me. Hope I can find someone near rhe place I live to help me translate this into the Japanese language. I bet that more than kne Japanese friends, ex colegues and bosses would luke to know " who this is "😂😂😂😂a bunch of contradictions, indecisiveness, socially awkward BUT with a kind heart, oftenly misunderstood😩I know there are quite a lit of videos out there in jpness about INFJ, but I found yours, funny👍And I'll try to search
for more cool videos to help my jap fellows getting the funny side of life... since I find them a little... close minded in terms of lack of differences acceptance , pity 👎
Here’s another potential meditation/overthinking solution that might work for some people; visualise a beautiful place you’ve been to (or an imaginary one), focus on making it as detailed as possible including using your other senses to distract it from overthinking other stuff. Once you’ve finished your imaginary picture, sit back and enjoy the image you’ve just created that surrounds you.
Older INFJ here.....and I have to say that one of my favorite things is someone who makes me laugh! You are SO funny! As intense as we can sometimes get, we really do need to break it up by laughing more! So, thanks! And you are right on target! I will be back to hear some more! Love your delivery. Love that you enable us to laugh at ourselves!
ugg that is me trying to meditate, lol, thanks for the laugh. 100% spot on!
You are so welcome! :-)
Interesting that you mentioned being locked into one's own head. I find myself slipping into a depression because my life has essentially taken away that opportunity. I'm locked OUT of my own head. Too much time in chameleon mode, I guess.
Stay strong out there my friend. You are not alone!
As an INFJ, I found that meditation brings me more anxiety than other activities. People told me I didn't try "hard" enough (can you force meditation, though?). Instead, I choose to take my thinking mind into a yoga session (Se inferior LOVES it), put some music on, bake and cook. That's my kind of meditation :) When I overthink, I tend to let it out into writing all emotions down, then tend to, once again, that Se inferior! In time I find it comforting (food helps, lol).
I tried meditation. I couldn't clear my mind. I couldn't sit still either.
LITERALLY my experience with meditation. So happy to discover I'm not the only one!
I suck at speaking and expressing myself, my emotions. The funniest thing - one of my biggest dream is to be a storyteller and inspire people. what an irony
I joined Toastmasters (I highly recommend this!) I discovered that while I suck at expressing myself in the moment, but when I take the time to write it out in a speech format I am very good at storytelling. Toastmasters gives you a relatively safe environment to work on your actual speaking skills with actual constructive criticism and support. One note though is that not every Toastmasters group is created equal, go to a few meetings in your area, and find the group of people you enjoy the most. My group in Texas was amazing, I've found a few ok groups in Washington, but I'm still looking for my right fit.
@@jennistone6515 That's amazing! I'll definitely check it out, thanks
Same here. Suck at expressing or even talking to people. Yet I want to write and read for children. Just the thought scares me into a panic.🌘.
Mari Anna , since you like to tell stories , could you tell me a bedtime story ???...!😄😁😄
My father used to tell me “you’re alright, girl, the world’s all wrong.
Yes!
A 20 minute video, just as I'm about to go to bed? Really? All good, I can stay up and watch this... Wait, are you going to bring up 'bad at going to bed on time'? Ok I'm feeling singled out already...
Haha sleep! Check it out in the morning! :-)
Same. I literally have to make myself go to bed. 🙃😜😏
Of course we get locked in our own heads...it’s where all my best friends live 😜
(Things #1 & #2 combination)
This is the most accurate depiction of what goes on in my head! Wow!
The bit about overthinking was the funniest thing I’ve ever seen. Probably because it hit too close to home.
Oh you poor thing! Meditating! I was cry-laughing. I’ve been meditating for ten years, everyday, as an INFJ. And everyday, my brain is just like yours. Without fail. I sit through it and eventually my brain calms down. I relate it to a kid burning off every last bit of energy before bed in a furious rush of activity. It’s like my brain is doing as much as possible because it knows it’s almost time for “bed” (meditation). But here’s the kicker - after the words stop forming my thoughts, images take over and I go through the entire blaze of brain activity again with images instead of words. And when that’s done, finally, my brain is quiet and I feel an out of body sensation (yet in-body sensation at the same time) and it’s peaceful. It’s a good solid 45 minutes of sheer brain-running activity with about 15 minutes (if I’m lucky) of calm peace. And it’s worth it. When I first started, I would go to two-hour sittings at a Zen Buddhist Temple on Sundays. For about three years, it would take me an hour or more before my brain stopped running. Glancing at people around me, who were breathing deeply and looking so relaxed, it seemed like everyone else in the room had reached zen A LOT faster than me. Which led me to wonder if I was doing it wrong and if I should take a meditation class again, or read a book about it. Or maybe I needed to be outside while meditating? Maybe a bell would help? Music? Chanting? What am I going to make for dinner? Am I just wasting my Sunday mornings?! Who am I?! ;) Anyways...great way to exhibit the extra time and effort it takes to quiet the active mind. ❤️
This is fantastic Clara! Inspiring me to keep tryin! Thank you!
I laughed so hard during the examples "oh man i so do that" !!! what a representation!!!
Glad you liked it!
Your speed dating skit had me shaking with laughter (and INFJ recognition). That would TOTALLY be me in that nightmarish situation! :-D
I laughed 😂😂😂😂😂at the meditation part it's me during meditation, but sometimes when both my heart and mind are stressed, they tend to cooperate and I manage to meditate....love this, makes me feel that I'm validated and it reminds me that I'm not alone...
INFJ's Rock!!! There are so many things to love about all of you! I am a Infp and my brain will never ever turn off either. When you all are Awkward I think it's extremely cute and makes me love my fellow INFJ's even more!!!
I am so glad to know it is because I am an INFJ my brain never stops, even when I am sleeping! I am always being told I "overthink" everything. I am also very glad to have found you because hour videos ate the only ones I can relate to. That said, I read three to five books at a time (fiction.and nonfiction) to keep my mind from going around like a carousel. It works.
Ouch... I’m now going to send this to my husband because it’s a accurate representation of everything I took several days to over explain when we approached our strengths and weaknesses.
You got this!
Too far too fast. Story of my life. I am the open book INFJ...I scare people. 😳
Also, not triggered. 😝 Amazon loves me.
I'm going to buy that monkey picture .. I'm just saying. :-)
David Badurina ...going to? Man, mine is already shipped. 🤷♀️ But seriously, great video. Thanks for bringing us another smile this morning! 😁
Me too!
Right on, "scaring" people due to being "real" is quite something! :)
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson Now, what does that tell us about the folks who do get scared? 🤔
Many greetings from an INFP. I feel you.
You are really funny! I am always thinking of worst case scenario of a situation and how I would deal with it, over and over and over and over in my head.. Lol...
Thanks Leigh! Glad you liked this one! Remember it's not always as bad as it might seem!
Socializing is exhausting for me and small talk is terrifying ....nothing stops overthinking but sleep unfortunately.
I think what helps us is just accepting yourself the way you are😎
A friend of my brother makes me food whenever he's making himself food (when I'm dogsitting at his parent's house) because he knows I likely haven't eaten. Even if I tell him that I'm not hungry, he'll keep nudging (both metaphorically and physically) the food towards me until I eat it.
I'm that way with my INFJ. Sometimes I wonder if I come across as too pushy.🥺
Even when i went snorkling in Eilat (south Israel), even when my head was under water looking at fish, my mind was still over thinking in a loop....the only way to focus for me is either do work or listen to other people's problems and trying to solve them...
I laughed thru this whole video! Thanks for taking a lighthearted approach to all of these truths. Great job!
Thank you! 🙏☺️
Yep,that's how it goes with meditating, rofl😬
Right!? Let's just take time to laugh at ourselves about it. :-)
@@DavidBadurina Exactly 💯! I have found/learned that it's the healthiest way🤪💕😊
That meditation part hit different 😂🙄
Little close to home? ;-)
Your description of your speed dating had me DYING!!!! That’s 100% something I would do! 🤦🏻♀️ INFJ life! Lol.
Haha right!? :-P
Your videos are very lovely, thank you. I'm a very unhealthy INFJ, and the content you have is helping me quite a bit. And also super fun to watch.
I'm so glad!
I really appreciate what you are doing here, because you are conveying information in an entertaining way (I absolutely hate it if it is presented in so dry and dull a fashion - I had already hated it back in school). That really helps one remember what you are presenting (an INFP thing, because if Fi dominant is excited about something, that greatly helps Ne subdominant along).
Keep up the good work, because that also helps me understand one of my other modes much better.
your meditation vignette was amazing!
I laughed so hard because it's all so true. Btw, my sphincter is doing well.
Honestly I was quite concerned about your sphincter. Thank you for sharing! ;-)
You hit the nail on the head with this list. You are also extremely funny and made my day. Thank you.
Welcome!
Dearest David
I truly enjoyed and appreciated this video.
I can only admit every example you gave, I am guilty of, except I don’t date. Gave up 10 years ago. However, when I meet new people, I out of extreme nervousness blurt out my moto of I have to learn 3 new things every day, or the day was wasted 😬 by then everyone already have the far away look, so I from then on, just nod and listen and get the hell away as fast as I possibly can. And hope to never see them again...
Why why why do we as INFJ’s always have to go to straight useful facts- conversations and scare the hell out of people?
I don’t even want to mention the sky rocket overthinking 🙈
Oh boy the online shopping and the all the cancellations minutes later. Guilty as hell 🥴
Thank you for always making me feel so much better and not alone with my weird craziness.
Have an amazing week 🌾
I meditate as described in the Bible, I read a text and I meditate on that to get a message from it. I find it very comforting as I tend to overthink things anyway.
Haha. That is me meditating. Gave up on meditation and have found that my brain is at its emptiest when I'm busy working on something that needs lots of concentration. Socialising- rather not. Self care - maybe, when everyone else is happy
When I get overthinking, I listen to inspirational and encouraging music; with songs like "Human Condition" by Unspoken or "Beloved" by Jordan Feliz. In fact, I started making playlists on YT for myself. Then, I thought about how many others who might feel the same way, so I made my playlists public. I thought, if the music that helps me, helps someone else, how awesome would that be?
I really hate useless conversations. I'm usually one who doesn't speak, unless I need to or have something important to say. When I met my (now) husband, he would talk and I would listen. And, we did end up having some deep conversations. Now, he's pulled me out of my shell, and he's learned to talk a lil less and enjoy listening. It's funny, but sometimes it happens that way.
Buying stuff. Well, I've never used that as a way to compensate for my emotions. It just makes your house more full of stuff and your bank account empty. I hate shopping, so it makes it a lil easier. I just ask myself, honestly, is it a "want" or a "need." Instead, I try to concentrate on something, like my budget, or just creating something.
There are times when overthinking, or emotions, can get in the way of my sleeping. However, I have found ways to overcome them. One way, I supplement my diet with the vitamins I need; such as, vitamin D3 w/K2, potassium & magnesium via electrolytes, B12, and others to help my body to go to sleep naturally. You have to find what works for you. Everyone has it in them to find a way to cope with all life's hurdles. It may just take a little bit of time to figure it out. Until then, just take one day at time.
Good advice ty!
Yes, at times self care. I try to not over due it. Be patient with myself. We need to Remember to accept ourselves.
Be ourselves . Then, most life challenges (like eating, socializing, motivating, etc.) Acould be less of a struggle. Hopefully we will run across with those with like minded. I've learned and accepted that I will be a loner at times, and I am Soooo Very grateful to find another person on this earth that gets me.
Far and few, but it is possible 🙂
YOU'RE BRAIN IS AWESOME!!!!
You just spoke to my soul!!.....and I laughed so hard at the amazon thing, im not actually as strange as I always thought, thank you 🤣🤣🤣
DAVID!!! Thank you. Sometimes I get excited and want to write something before the end so I remember...bahaha but after watching the whole video..I so needed to hear this. Thank you so very much. :)
You are so welcome!
Guided meditation is the ONLY way I can SOMETIMES meditate. If I’m stressed out there’s just no way. The overthinking is actually why I’m horrible at directions. I make it a point to observe how to get from point A to point B but, somehow, something catches my eye, it prompts a thought and it’s just downhill from there. By the time I come out of my ‘trance’ we’ve already arrived.
I would have given you a „yes“ at that speeddating. Extremely funny! Have you ever thought about acting?!
Haha thanks Sabine! I haven’t, I just really enjoy doing this stuff!
How would people watch this video and not know what a INFJ. Great video as usual. I really appreciate knowing I'm not some freak who is alone. People like you help me understand others are like me. For years I thought I was mentally ill or something was wrong with me. I didn't want to tell people about how my mind work. Or how much of a empath I am. Feeling everybody's emotions so much. Or how my mind would stuck in these horrible mental loops. Where at times I could barely sleep for days. Have been times I would lay in bed. Just start crying about being stuck deep in a mental loop. Trying to stop. Thinking why is this happening. Times it was so bad. I thought of killing myself. Thinking something is so wrong with me. People would say just stop thinking so much. Like it is that easy. I would try too. Or I would talk to people about what is on my mind. Alot of times I could feel them judging me harshly. Like I'm defective. I was telling this girl I was dating. About all the problems in the world. How I can't ignore suffering in other countries. That I didn't understand why people don't care. They should care. She told me why do you worry about all of this. It is just how it is. Normal people do not worry about this shit. Stop telling me this shit just shut up already. Stop being so weird. I almost cried. I just looked at her said ok. You don't have to be so mean. I would never be this mean to you or anybody. I felt so small and honestly it hurt really bad. I just got up and went home. I actually cried on the way home.
Thanks for this. You had me laughing throughout because I recognize my behavior as well as the question, why does my brain work this way?
That’s the ultimate question, isn’t it? 😂
LOL!! Couldn’t be more perfect; thank you!
You're welcome!
Yep, the overthinking goes on in the background - constantly - laughed hard at the meditation skit (spot-on). Listening does help get out of that loop, for me, on the rare opportunities I'm with someone who'll get beyond small talk. Love your "No you're right..." t-shirt!
Haha it's a great t-shirt Kevin. Best worn on very specific occasions. :-). Glad you were entertained with my insanity!
@@DavidBadurina I was going to comment try meditating right before you brought up meditating lol. In the middle of attempting to meditate,
I will stand up, start walking around the room and start talking to myself. Wait, aren't you supposed to be meditating??
Sit back down.
I overreact too much I have no idea why I still have hair on my scalp.
Haha that's not a stress thing!
Your profile picture says it all hahaha
Thank you, I really wanted to cry because these felt so much like things that have really hurt me and I have gone in loops about them. But then I would laugh at your truly terrific puns. Be well❤
So glad you enjoyed it!
You're example of trying to meditate is spot on! That's exactly how I was the first few times I tried before learning some tricks to stop the mind chatter
I’ll try again!
Dude,
I find even your humour very relatable. I don't need any explanation to realize your an Infj
Running used to help me zone out. I'm stuck in a 'ice cream + overthinking = break out in hives due to stress' rut. A constant loop day in and out.
I know running is my answer but I just... I can't.
First time I've heard about the over thinking. Drives me crazy. Every one tells me about my OT. I'm seeing a counselor and next week is about my OT. Thanks for discussion on this. I work on curbing the OT. Every thing you describe is correct. Different directions at the same time. Etc. Didn't know others experience this also. I don't allow anyone to take advantage of me anymore, and I'm a mature person still in the thick of life.
Wouldn't it be Cool if we had our own club and could meet and greet?
Because All I attract is Freakin Narcissist!!!
So Draining.... I live alone deep in the wilderness, Peace be with you all
…over 100 sphincters…you can probably control yours… 😳😂😆 Omgggggg! I love that not only do I learn so much from your videos (in general, not specifically about sphincters and poop) but you also crack me up! He is meeeeeee! 🤣 You’re the best, David!
I feel your pain. I ACCIDENTALLY taught myself to concentrate by listening to some Audiobooks. After, no kidding, six months, I realized I was slowly staying more focused and could pay attention slightly better...so in a nutshell, I tricked myself into concentrating by listening to one voice narrating a book. I've now worked my way into audiobooks ABOUT Buddhist mindfulness and meditation, and so far so good.
I liked the Uranus joke, funny. I can go places and get along and conversate and "mingle" fine. But not all the time, not every time, not most of the time. The mention of the self deprecating humor is so spot on! I'm very good at that...😏 Also the how are you question is 110 percent correct. It isn't run of the mill hi and bye type question. It is the how are you really doing, deep down, when it is just you and whatever circumstances you've got going on kind of question. Self care is tricky. Music, nature, those certain people who light up my face just being around the corner from them. And I am working on my self talk, yet again. I say or think something negative towards or about myself, I negate it with 1) the truth which is good or 2) what will become my truth as I get the help needed and work on it in my own time as well. I will say to people close to me I know I can be difficult to handle at times and I appreciate you putting up with me. Got to be real, honest, and genuine in my words and actions... Thank you for your videos. I thoroughly enjoy them as I can see myself in the way you present things and I also am given the opportunity to learn more as well
Some of my best moments from being an Ni dominant, are when a new idea or concept suddenly comes to me. Those are great! I love my ability to think creatively and analyse complex situations. Unlike solving a crime mystery, which I suck at, I’m good at looking for the overarching principles or factors in any situation, then working up from them.
Maybe we’re bad at meditation but it really gives my “monkey mind” a rest. I can’t meditate by myself but listening to a guided meditation is so calming and I can shut off my overthinking for a short while - bliss!
Thank you so much! I laughed a lot, especially at the meditation - thing. It's so true! I meditate regularly. On some days it's fine, on other's...no chance. Imagination is my key to inner calmness. Meeting a wise inner person, who helps me to focus. Traveling inside my mind. In the outer world long walks through nature are helpful for me. I will think a lot walking...but over time I got to the point, where I'm just out there and enjoy.
This video is spot on. I think you are the male version of myself. I laughed so hard. Thank you
Thanks! 😊
Just what I need on a Sunday morning...I have a feeling its going to be true.
Maybe?
@@DavidBadurina I've watched number one, and boy is it ever true. Now I'm going to settle in with some home made keto naam bread and watch the second two which I assume will be true as well :)
I send this to my INTJ friend. He already knows that I am like this! 😁 Excellent video David! 👌👏
Love that!
I just woke up and I have not stopped laughing. You are as awkward as me. Pretty sure I'm gonna not talk anymore. It was painfully funny. "Uranus is really big and they say it smells bad" 🤣🤣🤣
Hey, I'm always happy when someone laughs at my juvenile jokes.
@11:40 I laughed so hard with the inappropriate fun-fact to fill the small-talk void 🤣 😂
I genuinely enjoyed the hell out of this video. Thanks 😁
Thank you! 😁
LOL, love the meditation example!
Omg, get out of my brain lol. You crack me up! Thank you to you and your sphincter!
My sphincter says your welcome. Also that's not an awkward statement AT ALL.
@@DavidBadurina of course not!!!
Meditate…
Yeah…
Ha!
Ha ha ha… Ha ha ha ha… Ha!
Yeah,
No, doesn't happen for me.
BTW, Well done on this episode.
Exactly! Haha. And thank you!
The sleeping 20 hours, totally guilty. I never understood why. Not even Adderall could wake me up. I would just crash from exhaustion
Haha! I love this video on so many levels beginning with the ‘Over Thinking’ shirt you wore while ‘meditating’ 😆.
Glad you liked it!!
Oh my, the speed dating random thoughts escaping ....nightmare come to fruition!!! 🥴🥴😱🥴😱🤐🤐🤐
The countless times I’ve beat myself up to zip my lip after an awkward conversation because superficial talk is a foreign language from another planet that I’ve never been able to learn. That must mean I am the 👽
I need that "No your right shirt.."😂
Truely great vid. Appreciate you mate.
Thank you so much for describing your experience with 'attempting to meditate'!! This exact thing happened to me. Afterward, I looked around the room and knew I didn't process this like everyone else. They all looked like were on quaaludes. I had the opposite reaction.
Thank you David for putting it so clearly🙏🏻 Love the spicy humor and relate 1000% to all the awkwardness... I'm really learning so much about myself through you videos... And... I'll try not to overthink them...😂😂😂 Probably will fail on that, but the intention is there... 🙃🙏🏻🤭🤭🙏🏻
As an avid reader of all things paranormal and supernatural, I'm hooked on the book~I'm looking forward to its release!
Thanks Melody!
Starts at 3:23
Yeet.
I’m new to your channel and found this video really healing! I love discovering new INFJs and remembering that I’m not alone, as I’ve spent most of my life tuned in to understanding others but plagued by the sense that I’m not particularly understood. Annnnd at the end of the video I went on an Amazon book shopping spree, and I don’t regret it ;)
Hi Ashley! Glad you liked it! Any time something resonates I'm happy! Welcome!
I've had coworkers comment on my random facts that just blew them away, or they're annoyed with me because I found a pop-culture thing and wanted to share it...🖖FOR THE SHIRE!!!😂😂🍻🧙♂️🧝♂️
Nothing like some good sphincter data to get a conversation going! I do this...well, more accurately , I do all three of these things. ..
Sphincter. Lol.
I'm sitting here hoping I don't ramble as much as you do but I'm also realising that when I'm trying to explain something that I have a lot of thoughts on to an audience I'm comfortable with I definitely do.
Yes cannot quiet my mind … ever!
Thank you for your advice.😊
Take care ! 🙂
LOL #2 brilliant! LOL that was brilliant. When you said about the article, and my first thought was where all there would be sphincters in the body.
In my hs days, in order to make myself mind clear is to do martial arts, jogging. Just to shut my mind. Like..... 7hrs. Physically exhausted but mentally relax. Then i can go to sleep and wake up early.
In terms of social interaction. From hs till im 34 now. I gain this attitude to just dive into it. Expose myself (its hard and ridiculous, infj only understand this)
"No pain, no gain"
I also make sure to know my circles
(i hate extroverts Btw. "The stares" and "talk to the hand" when they wanna brag and be around me works well for my well being).
In the self-care part, a mirror or artwork, or looking at my mother or sister and ask them how do i look will do the trick since they're the ones that knows me well that i like the honest opinions (momma knows best).
I told myself that if i wanted to better myself and have a decent social life is to dive deep in social interaction even though its too hard for me. I get to know patterns, people (not necessarily a friend since i have few)
The inspiration is to accept yourself and work non-stop negative or positive as a learning process. Im still suck at these 3 things.
I make sure to present myself and give what i can to better where i go.
Everyone is entitled to give their own opinions but i make sure to set what i cant take in order to be productive.
At 9:01 when he describes his symptoms thats what happens tk me exactly