For Harriet giiirrrrlll Kevin Hart has a whole secret life he indulges in to try to make him forget his horrible childhood. He and his wife swing with the white couple that he got into the car accident with. Nose candy and all that. Kevin Hart is far from okay. If he does not address his issues he will have a breakdown
Im not a Kevin Hart fan but it seems to look like you are finding reasons not to like em, and based off of how you look you are very predictable, you are brainwashed with negativity
Celebrity moms get asked about their kids constantly in interviews. “How is it juggling family life and work life?” Men rarely get asked these questions because no one thinks twice about workaholic dads who don’t see their kids for months at a time. A mom who overworks and travels a lot, is abandoning her children, a father who overworks and travels a lot, is just providing for his kids
Those men usually have a stay at home wife who takes care of the kids and also women are naturally more attracted to caring for their kids than men are. Women will and will always be naturally more attached to kids they have. Women are the ones who are pregnant with the child for 9 months and then stay home to recover and breast feed the child. All of that produces more bonding compared to men.
@@femininechaos4931 were not talking about the strength of the bonds but rather the EFFORT that is put INTO those bonds. If anything that's more reason men should in a way want to put more effort into creating and maintaining their bond with their children. Catch up fuckers. Men wanna be so competitive with anything else. You ain't worried she the better, more memorable parent? You not worried they think she cares about them more? You ain't worried they might be right about that?!
How to Faint That not “society” that’s facts about animal biology. Look at other animals. The males are always less engaged in parenting than the females. We are no different, it’s natural.
I think we black folks have a really skewed view of “OK”. I constantly hear my parents spanked/beat me and “I turned out ok.” Or my parents didn’t explain things to me/talk to me but “I’m ok.” My childhood was (varying degrees of) traumatic but look, “I’m ok and I don’t need therapy.” I’m like are you sure though? Sure you aren’t a drug addict, you have a job, and/or you’re not in jail. But if that’s all we need to be considered “ok”, we’ve set the bar tooooo low. Let’s try to be consistently WHOLE and balanced and not just ok.
Thats exactly the mentality i dont want to push on my kids. We in the black community can have such a low standard of "turned out alright" that we negate traumas we inflict on our children and self as "part of life" and dont take the time/dedication to properly heal.
TheGoreeTruth I agree with you on that. I had a pretty decent childhood but I did not turn out ok. I still needed therapy. So I can only imagine the state of people who have had more traumatic experiences than I did. My ex husband thinks he’s ok and he really is not.
Yeah that's not impressive. I used to have to wake up a 5, 5:30 for work and wouldn't get back until 6 or 7. I don't think that should be a point of pride...
"You cant achieve your way out of childhood wounds and trauma", should be gifted in needlepoint or poster form to every adult the moment they leave home.
@Emma XTC Lots of emotional and sexual fusion in those "mama's boys" relationships. Usually mom doesn't have a close bond with her own husband or doesn't have a man and her son fills that void.
I think both are almost equally important. If he treated his ex terribly then of course, red flags, but the same can be said for mom. I can't respect or be with a man who regularly disrespects his mom, even if he is kind to me. It's just not attractive
@@justcallmeteacup4711 Depends on who their mother is. If a man's mother is a horrible person he shouldn't feel obligated to respect her just because she's his mother
Off topic but I really appreciate the black intellectuals you often name drop and include clips of in your videos. It really helps me educate myself and keep an eye out for their ideas and talks and also leads me to more black intellectuals
I was gonna say when she mentioned the woman who was giving the Ted talk about the neuroscience of childhood trauma I was like yay shes black yaassssss
"Ellen's politics are rich woman" As a member of the LGBT community, thank you for that. Ellen needs to be addressed for her problematic issues. Also, I think you're spot on with your comments regarding Hart's narcissism, pride, and martyr-ism.
Kevin knows what he’s doing . He has yes men in his corner . The friends will not advise Kevin of right and wrong ...Kevin literally feeds their families
Timah R. Lol why are you bothered, dear. Most people would bare and grin to a dick employer. It is what it is. The only reason why he stood for it is because Kevin is his source of income. I didn’t imply I wouldn’t do the same.
The "I'm the hardest worker therefore I'm successful" narrative is so old and untrue. We DO NOT live in a meritocracy. On another note. It's hard to be a good/great dad if you are not there 80% of the time. Kids want and need their parents with them for them to bond and feel safe.
I don't think that what people get out that kind of quote. It's more like, if you work as hard as you can, you are highly likely to be successful. Which is true imo. It's not ALWAYS, but the majority of the time it is true. If it's not true, then there's no point in trying in the world if you think that you can never be successful. People also mix up success and wealth. You are successful once you're happy, NOT wealthy.
Maria but it’s not true at all. Do you really think Jeff Bezos works anywhere near as hard as the packers in his warehouses? Poor people work HARD. Only the tiniest minority become successful.
@@katherinemorelle7115 like I said before, it depends on what you define as successful. If getting into the top 1 percent of the population is your idea of success, then you're going to be extremely disappointed in life and you might as well end it or live in misery, right?
@@katherinemorelle7115 Also, although you might not think Jeff Bezos life is hard, we don't live his life. We can never know the mental and physical toll a job like his has. Maybe all he does all day is relax in a pool, or maybe he spends every moment in an office taking calls and going to meetings. You will never be in a position like that.
@@koronteh807 yeah and I didn't find it funny. I love Dave Chappelle's comedy. What puts me off of Kevin is that he REPEATEDLY CHEATS and laughs it off.
As soon as I found out he cheated on his first wife with his second wife, made a comedy show about it, then cheated on his "McRib" (second wife) with some random woman, I was over him and his whole act. Congrats on your drive and success- you're a crappy person and I hope your older children don't internalize the damage you're doing around them.
Person A we weren’t even discussing if it was funny or not . Your original comment was Kevin Hart making jokes about cheating turned you off to his comedy . Nor were we discussing if he’s a good person . I agree with you , him cheating is horrible to not only do to his wife but his 2 kids at the time. As I stated before he’s a ,comedian he’s going to talk about his life and find a joke in it wether it makes him look good or not .
Kashfi Ahmed She always mentions “heterosexual” relationships like girl majority of relationships are heterosexual so no need to keep mentioning it. Or is she a lesbian?
Lesbihonest the credit we give men for being good fathers is the lowest baseline for mothers. You're right that it stops them from being great fathers cause they're applauded for doing basic things. For example, we applaud dads for doing their daughters hair even though getting your child dressed is a basic parenting move
PREACH!!!!! Idk why men are allowed to have a hall pass when it comes to their duties as fathers... a mother could never afford that kind of leniency, and it shouldn't be that way.
@@anthonymede9216 Even tho I do agree with your statement, I dont think that's what the comment is about. We as people give fathers soo many passes and act like fatherhood is something that isn't necessary. Its toxic and that's why many men dont feel the need to be fathers, we act like dads aren't a crucial part of our kid's lives.
@@anthonymede9216 but the fact that some mothers arent quality human beings is like a big problem to people. Shes expected to be better. But fathers not being good people is normal and expected. He is who he is and we cant change him.
Sunny Bae I mean, get held accountable by who? What entity? It was the oscars(white/gays) who pressured him for so called anti gay tweets. Actions not victimhood is what Black Americans need.
He doesnt know how to just be and connect with his kids. The “hustle” is an escape because he has a twisted view of what it means to be a father and raise a child. Its more than food on the table and roof over the head albeit an expensive roof and expensive food, still not enough. They need guidance, presence, love
Emma XTC right very good insight hes doing what he knows how to do well (make money) while ignoring his weakness (parenting). If he really wanted to boss up and break the cycle he would become great at both. His children cant perpetuate this legacy he’s creating if he remains absent n their lives. They will squander it because he isnt instilling any values in them
Preach girl. A man can’t “help” parent their own children. It’s their job to participate. Please stop overpraising men for fulfilling their responsibility.
This commentary is the reason why men should NEVER open up to a woman. This lady is not a psychologist and she mentioned no accountability on the woman's part of contributing having unstable single parent homes. It's always the man's fault. Smh
Alexis Massey, I’m a little confused by your comment of “.....no accountability on the woman’s part”. Are you inferring that the woman made Kevin cheat?
@@obsidyenneg4333 No. I believe cheating is wrong and Kevin should be held accountable for cheating since that's the case. However, It seems Harriet is very biased towards men. Harriet major criticism of Kevin's father with little criticism of Kevin's mother and wives is evident of that. I'm sure the women in Kevin's life are accountable..after all his mother raised him and his wives decided to marry him. They all seem materialistic which is probably a reason why Kevin feels like he has to be a workaholic.
People blaming Biology for “women being more naturally inclined to taking care of children” are the same ones who can barely remember one lesson from a high school Bio class. Studies have proven that gender roles are more sociological than biological. You’re free to have your opinions though. Just bear in mind that they’re not facts 🙏🏿✨
Kaamiishuu U Women breastfeed men don’t so it’s better for her to stay home, women also have maternal instincts just like females of other species take care of their young, so should human females
B Boo Yes. Finding joy in non productive moments must be possible, since it’s the full-time struggle of the sick and disabled. Love of self and others is the only thing I know of that helps attain an inner peace. -A sick/disabled person obsessed with achievement.
When I watched the series and it got to the part about the cheating scandal and Kevin said he didn't have his boys with him to keep him in check as if that were a valid excuse for voluntarily sleeping with another woman, I turned off the TV. He's a grown man. How many grown men does it take to keep another grown man in line?
He cheated on his first wife too. Keeping that man in check would just have to be a full time job. Zero accountability and a sense of entitlement is strong with this man.
Unfortunately I think black people are made to believe that they need to work so much harder to prove that they are "One of the good ones". It is a perfect storm for a workaholic lifestyle.
My father suffered from that mentality but he knew it. He tried so hard to make sure his children didn't end up doing the same. I didn't understand this about him until I was well into adulthood and I'm so grateful. He was able to instill self-worth in his children while knowing he was lacking in his own. He never really got over it either.
It’s not just black men, in the US we work a lot period. Other countries take breaks, naps, shorter work days, more vacation, etc... those things are generally frowned upon in the US. Also, black people are generally working from a disadvantage position and usually have to work harder to overcome socio-economic racism to achieve wealth. It’s not about being the good ones, it’s about helping to put your family in a better position economically. Kevin Hart grew up poor, his kids will not. His kids won’t need to work as hard as he does, they’ll have access to better education, healthcare, opportunities, etc and so will the rest of his family (if he shares his wealth). Sure he could scale back, but we can’t fault him for putting his family in a better position.
Kaskus when in reality it’s a tragic paradox to try so hard to not be the racist stereotype of the broke and absent deadbeat dad that you work yourself to death only to end up being an absent father that is providing everything financially only to realize your children need you and your time far more than anything money can buy. I don’t mean this to be accusatory or shaming anyone, it’s genuinely sad. I’m white but even my father was often absent do to bring a workaholic when I was very young. It was a blessing and a curse when my mother left and went MIA for a few years, it made my dad realize that being someone’s sole parent and support system requires quality time more than anything else. Kids remember who was there, and who was steady and reliable.
@@claudiao7743 true But you can't hold anyone accountable for something that was not done to you. Or towards you. That's the job of his wife. And true friends that are around him. Not his groupies.
No it isn't. It's full of shit, she's clearly attacking black men. This commentary is the reason why men should NEVER open up to a woman. This lady is not a psychologist and she mentioned no accountability on the woman's part of contributing to broken homes. It's pathetic and it serves black men right not to have empathy for women because you guys lack empathy for men.
We also need to stop justifying toxic and dysfunctional behavior. It seems like a lot of times many of us justify bad behavior with that’s just how Mother is or that’s just how father is. When in reality Minnie are narcissistic abusive and downright toxic. We go on as adults thinking the way we grew up was the norm when in reality we are growing up in dysfunctional household.
growing up in a dysfunctional household prepares you to go into a dysfunctional world. its 2020. 2018-2019 were for the easily offended fuckfaces like you but now we are back to not giving a fuck about yo dumb ass stupid ass can we all get along ass gumdrops and rainbow shittin ass no life havin ass sjws
@@siriouscalibre4823 What it really seems to do is help to facilitate this dysfunctional world. Hurt people hurt people so if everyone walks around growing up in dysfunction and not addressing it then you just end up with more and more jacked up people. No matter how whole your home is you will always run into messed up things as you grow up and those whole and non dysfunctional family members can help you to navigate and learn how to move through that and past it. Having a whole family is not a bad thing.
I definitely felt like things weren’t right when he met with his dad. You can feel the tension and the resentment on Kevin’s end. I think that his lack of showing his true emotions goes into his father telling him “don’t be a b****” which he has definitely internalized in his adulthood. I also feel Iike he overcompensates with his dad when giving him money because deep down he wants that acceptance from his dad that he didn’t get as a child.
@NotSoRomantic Everyone fucked up by their parents swears they turned out OK, nobody wants to believe themselves to have suffered needlessly and to be a worse person rather than a better one for it.
I'm not sure about this because he said he talked to his father and his father owned his part in not being there for Kevin. Also I don't think Kevin is doing anything different from a lot of kids who become the first person in their family to accumulate large amounts of money they take care of their family financially. His father is ill and I think he honestly just wants to be positive with his father and forgive him. Again wanting acceptance from your parents / people you care about and love is a normal thing.
I think Kevin paid those people off when it first happened it was said that that they were gonna sue Kevin but it had something to do with insurance so they had to sue him. He did leave the scene and it was a witness their that said Kevin look at him and said wtf are you doing here and told his people to tell him to get away. The situation is still on going that’s why he didn’t speak on it. I do find it strange it took him or his people 2hrs to call for help.
I love your criticism of workaholic culture! I work in social services and everyone works overtime, skips lunch breaks and guess what.. they burn out!! They become exhausted and get worse at their job! Getting rest, taking care of your mental health and having a personal life is really necessary for your quality of life. Thank you for pointing that out
Next Documentary: Kevin faces the issues that he's running from. He spends time healing himself and his relationships with the people he loves. He grows and brings growth to the people around him... and the title? "A Change of Hart".
I suffered from mental illness for most of my childhood, my adolescence, and my early adulthood. It caused me to obsess over my work and school and to shut myself off from most things I enjoyed.All it taught me was that stress and unhappiness do not build character, working on yourself and admitting your problems does.Do NOT accept survival as your baseline. Life is SO MUCH better than that.
I thought it was interesting when his dad came to visit and Kevin never said this is my sister. He said this is my dad's daughter. There's clearly a thing there.
I mean, that’s the only thing I’d expect him to call her since she’s from one of his dad’s other families and they’d just met. There’s nothing there other than an understandable lack of familiarity.
As someone with the same situation going on it's really difficult to connect and just say this is my sister or brother when you've never met this person before but the title alone says you're supposed to relate to one another a certain way or your supposed to have a certain relationship. Its something that can't be forced, it rarely turns out well when it is.
That’s his dad’s problem. If he wouldn’t have spread his sperm everywhere maybe there would be some sort of familiarity. In all honesty she’s a complete stranger at this point.
This sounds like the go to narrative for every masculine redemption story ever made. I'm glad you watched it so I don't have to. Working hard does not mean workaholic. Those are two different things. The work product of a workaholic has a very different outcome and motivation than an authentically driven work ethic.
“you can’t achieve your way out of childhood trauma” whew!!! i’ve never been like a 9-5 workaholic but i completely drove myself MAD in my first years of college (18 cr. hrs. w/ LOADS of extracurriculars).
Sis as a fellow black person , I will say this , dont throw stones if you potentially live in a glass house , hes damaged like the collective of our brothas and sisters, he just has money. Unless you are completely WHOLE, YOU YOURSELF, LIKE ME , ARE IN NO POSITION TO JUDGE. I WILL SAY HE WAS WRONG FOR THE IGNORANT COMMENTS ETC
I think he overcompemsates for alot of things and has a constant need to feel like the man. I was horrified at the way he talked to his friend and that no one of his other friends or his 'rib' intervened until it got physical.
Because hes low-key feminine for a guy, short and often felt insecure about money, looks etc probably got cheated on or rejected by women short term in relationship...now that he has money, the fame, the 'looks' he feels like he can have any and everything yet still tryna keep a pristine reputation around him but we all knew once the cheating allegations came out that all That fabrications just fell apart around him but ofcourse cause he has a team they can easily relift the vail of lies and illusions causing him to sell his soul even further. Generally I think kevin is a good guy...maybe too much of a people pleaser buthe has a good heart... Heheh Kevin 'Hart'.... But he really needs To just open up his heart and be real with himself and whats going on around him...all that fake shit can literally make a person go insane man.
Kevin seems to be running FROM failure instead of experiencing joy from his art. I agree with you 100% on the workaholic mentality, and Will Smith is correct that you can’t succeed your way out of your childhood drama/issues. He is seeking validation OUTSIDE of himself because he feels empty INSIDE....without money. I call this conditional Self-Worth complex-
Many of us would greatly benefit from counseling and therapy. Our community is our people as a whole need to heal. However that would also mean we need universal health insurance that actually supports mental health. And it would also be nice to have black therapist so you can go and get therapy and counseling from someone who can actually relate to you.
Amen! I saw my longtime therapist yesterday. She was like girl you’re good, you can stop coming, and I’m like “but wait, can I still call you for a tune up every now and then?” No matter how “ok” we are, we all need a mental wellness check from time to time.
Centennial just because a therapist is black doesn’t mean they’ll understand where you’re coming from.. I’ve had a black therapist tell me some off the wall shit..
Yes I didn't like how after the cheating scandal his friend said no one is allowed in their circle anymore, just those men. So they can't bring anyone else to hang out 🤦🏾♀️. They can no longer socialize with others. And his friends didn't step up and say, "You need to check yourself You have a pregnant wife at home".
I agree That made me feel sketchy too. They have to keep their employers secrets or else they won't be able to pay their bills and an outsider could mess that up. Why would they want to repeat the mistakes of their fathers
@@214InnocentGirl20 I couldn't even get on her simply because she was with him while he cheated on his wife. No one deserves to be cheated on but it's hard to feel sorry for her because of this. But at least his "true" friends, not his employees, should have called him out since he found his "true" love.
Tea Todd seems like he doesn’t have any true friends. It’s weird that all his “friends” are his employees but I don’t feel sorry for her at all not only was she with his before his divorce was finale she taunted Torrie on Instagram a lot
I agree with you but that's not his "friends" place to check him for preventing him to cheat on his wife she knew who he was and what she was getting into. But because she felt she had a one up on Torie she though she had the diamond vagina. Life humbled her up very quickly.
It's so inspirational to me that disgusting and irresponsible amounts of wealth can turn anybody into an apathetic monster regardless of race, gender, religion, or sexual orientation 💖 Money really is power, and power really does blind people to systemic discrimination and marginalization, even the kinds that the rich person had previously experienced themselves 💖💖💖
I don't care for Kevin or his wife, I felt like this doc didn't need to be this long and he's trying to shove a fake or fakish reality down out throats.
nope just showing u where he comes from and what his motivation is to work so much. if u dont like it good for u. its the united fuckin states u have the right to yo opinion until u trash on sumone else. thats when fights break out if u havint noticed dumbass
Sirious Calibre are you okay? lmao read what you said and then you wrote lmao jesus christ😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😩 and if its good for her...then why did you comment 🤭
Thank you for referring to Dr Harris TED TALKS. ACEs are very real and play a huge role is dysfunction. I work in the Social Services field and really appreciate you making reference to ACEs.
LMAO Kevin and Eniko are both liars as far as when they got together. I remember the past year or so I watched a RUclips video regarding an Instagram post that Eniko made that said something to the effect of the wonderful number of years that they have been together --but then a follower commented and pretty much said something to the effect of: "Ummm, you might want to delete this post since Kevin was still married during the time frame that you're speaking of.". For example, her post went something like she was celebrating how they had been together for 7 or 8 years..... Kevin Hart had been divorced for 5 or 6 years. I mean, his wife Torrei says they were still married when he and Eniko got together, we all can do simple math, so at this point they should just stop all the lying about how they got together or just don't speak on it at all.🤷🏾♀️
I dont know if we're talking about the same channel that made a video about it, but Lovelyti2002 did a really good job getting videos and screenshots of comments from everyone involved.
Playing Devil's advocate here for a second... Yes married is married & Don't bite my head off, but I believe they were separated and had been living separately when they got together. I'm not saying it's not still wrong. But I do think it's a distinction that matters.
I think Eniko really did think she was pretty enough to make Kevin keep it in his pants. You would think that someone that looks like her would have healthy self-esteem, but nah. She really is trading in her self-respect everyday in exchange for financial security and celebrity.
J.E. Pierson Why do you think that? Has Eniko said that? Or do you just assume that because she is pretty? Sounds like you’re just projecting anger or jealousy onto this woman you don’t even know. And how is she trading in her self-respect by being with Kevin? Staying with a cheater doesn’t mean your trading in your self-respect. Beyonce stayed with Jay-Z didn’t she? And she has her own money. “You would think someone that looks like her would have healthy self-esteem but nah” wow, what a dumb thing to say. Someone being pretty doesn’t mean they have high self-esteem. So are mildly attractive people supposed to have low self-esteem? This whole comment is just a mess
When you didn’t know you needed smthg so desperately! I have always felt this but never in these words. This is why I’m adamant about not making a big deal about fathers doing the right thing.
What about the men who are good great fathers, but you can say the same about women, it's just funny how no one like to address that there a lot of women not in their child's lifes also. Just saying but you should encourage all good or great parents plus we can't comment on other people relationships if we don't know them personally
Stop having sex with the TYPE of men YOU choose. If you stop choosing bad men, bad men will notice and strive to become better men. Women have rewarded bad men for centuries... Congratulations on the product you women have created.
@@timmikaatel8363 Stop with the lies! If a man wanted to do good by women and the children that they produce, he would do it on his OWN. Its called having good character which is developed INTERNALLY not coerced through someone else's actions. How do you have time to tell women to make better choices in mates but will NOT tell men to make better choices period? Your hypocrisy invalidates whatever weak argument you tried to make. Lesson: Stop holding women accountable for a man's behavior. Period!
What really pisses me off about Kevin Hart is the whole "it's just a joke" defense about his homophobia when it's really not. He got in the most trouble for saying he'd smash a dollhouse over his son's head if he caught him playing with one. He tried to pass this off as a joke because it's an extreme statement, and he probably wouldn't go so far as to do that, but what he didn't pass of as a joke was the sentiment behind the statement itself, which is that he has bigoted hatred toward gay people and would retaliate against his son if he were to be gay. He said he'd consider himself a failure as a father if his son were gay... all of these remarks further damaging homophobic stereotypes and lies that gayness is a choice, or a result of parents being too soft, and assert that gay sons are an affront to their fathers and that gayness, or any behavior that is considered too feminine in boys, is innately wrong, shameful and warrants parental rejection or violence.
BoneMeringue Very well said. His tweets weren’t only homophobic, they were emblematic of the kind of toxic masculinity, that shames boys for being too soft and feminine, and teaches them, that gender roles are carved in stone. That’s the part that I found really heartbreaking.
Same. Those dumb "I won't do this because is gay" jokes are childish and forgivable. But when you talk about violence against you own kid for doing something traditionally "feminine", sorry but that's atrocius. Didn't Tracy Morgan "joked" on a similar way? Something about stabbing his kid if he talked like gay or something? What kind of "it gets better" can a gay black kid expect with these black fathers talking that kind of shit?.
BoneMeringue I 100% agree. And even if he really did say it as a joke, that proves he is not versed on the history of violence inflicted upon people for BEING gay. Which it tickles me that a black man of any background couldn’t relate to that at all? It was not uncommon and still is not uncommon for a person or couple to be beaten and tortured simply for kissing each other or even just existing. The same is said of black people no matter the background. One would think :/ its like a white person joking about beating his son for “acting black”. No please
My cousin married one of Kevin’s brother’s. What I understand is that they had different mothers, and they have virtually no relationship, as his brother has no relationship with their father, and feels bitter towards him for not being there. He also wants a relationship with Kevin, now that he is famous, and even showed up to one of Kevin’s shows asking for money... Seems like his brother takes after his father.
Kevin is a narcissistic bully. His Ego will be one of the reasons for his downfall. Not that im wishing that on him. Being broke atleast you know who your true friends are. Just sayin.
I think it also shows an extreme value on autonomy individuality and monetary success. I think as a black community we have an aversion to perceive weakness. That is a cancer that needs to be cut out! We are all broken and we all NEED each other. We are vulnerable weather we like it or not and we have to come to terms with our relational aspect and how work can’t fill that hole. It made me sad and afraid, and I love how uplifting your channel is in contrast to mainstream idea of success and health. Also I think we need to learn how to celebrate good work done and learn of to rest so we can continue to make great work. It mirrors Perry’s ideology.
Umm, why do we continue to prop up these problematic AF black men? I'm so over it. Also, wow he was an exact replica of his mom. They look like the same person.
Kevin Hart gives me TI when he begins to talk. They are both like toddlers trying to formulate sentences to sound intelligent and impress their parents. Besides I really could not take this Documentary anymore seriously once I heard that Mo' Better Blues soundtrack in the background.
Green Mills a dat you a worry bout my grammar? Stay there majoring in minority . Some a you have nothing better to do with your time on Al Gore internet 😏
More men need to "hustle" with the presence for they kids. Women are breaking their back, carrying the weight on their shoulders to accommodate and support the aspirations, visions and goals of their husbands/boyfriends. Much prayer to him and his family.
Honestly, that docuseries was so depressing to watch. I got the sense that, deep down he knows he’s constantly working on “the next big thing” as a way to distract himself from ongoing fears of inadequacy/fading into obscurity, but lies to himself and says it’s just his strong work ethic. Plus, the way he reacted to the reviews for Night School was very telling. He just seems so broken. I hope one day he acknowledges his wounds and seems professional help to begin the journey of healing.
I agree for today but 20 years ago you didn’t have access to celebrities and less evidence to analyze their well being unless you were in closer proximity than behind a computer screen
It took a long time for Will Smith to realize that and he also has a strong wife to help support that. Its personal growth that everyone isn’t willing to accept cause you have to look within yourself a lot of people are not trying to face themselves.
One thing I noticed is the presence of alcohol in almost every scene. Even the name of his crew is "Red Cups". Also in scenes with his children he's holding a drink. Work and alcohol seem to be his fuel.
I went through a lot when I was a teenager and I always say I'm ok , I wasn't affected until I talk to people who've never been traumatized and ONLY then I realize I'm fucked up emotionally
I initially was a Kevin Hart fan but after watching most of his comedy specials I realized that he keeps mining the same aspects of his life for jokes. His short stature, his infidelity in his first marriage, his kids, his parents and the trauma he experienced growing up. I like comedians that can tell the weird jokes AND jokes about current events, politics, etc. I was officially done with his after watching him on The Shop on HBO. He kept over-talking everyone and dishing life advice (just, no) and belittling Lil Naz X's experience as far as coming out of the closet. Kevin needs to take a break, a really long break, and get himself together before he loses it publicly like so many other celebrities have (Mariah Carey, Kanye, etc).
evangeline i remember that routine where he talked about smacking his kid for doing something feminine (maybe i’m remembering wrong tho, but i vividly remember him talking about smacking his kid over something). Everyone was laughing, and as a latina woman who was never hit as a kid, it made me feel so uncomfortable
JCV yea! i feel like i heard about that and could never agree with hitting kids over not only something so minor but anything at all. another fun thing was his treatment of lil nas x when he came out!
@@Oldpangolin it's not matter if she stayed or not. Kevin knows hes not husband material. Non monogamous men need to leave women alone and be honest. If women still decided to mess with them then that's their fault.
True that. Am I mad because you’re a narcissistic player? No but I am mad that you pretend to be a family man when you are in fact a narcissistic player
I can relate to the workaholic mindset. Sometimes, I neglect myself. I did it to the point where I gained 40lbs in 2 years. Just so I can graduate on time.
I haven’t watched it and will not. The idea of watching a “reality” show starring a known and current cheater who married the woman he cheated on his previous wife with, just doesn’t appeal to me at all. Period.... But I always enjoy your assessments 🙏🏻🌈🌈
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You are beautiful. Just wanted to say.. take care
Damn I wish I can afford it
For Harriet giiirrrrlll Kevin Hart has a whole secret life he indulges in to try to make him forget his horrible childhood. He and his wife swing with the white couple that he got into the car accident with. Nose candy and all that. Kevin Hart is far from okay. If he does not address his issues he will have a breakdown
My ptsd really acting up at this video... lmao
Im not a Kevin Hart fan but it seems to look like you are finding reasons not to like em, and based off of how you look you are very predictable, you are brainwashed with negativity
*You can’t achieve your way out of trauma* Will Smith said a whole word there
Afrobelle 86 mhm 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
WOW!!
Baby a whole word
Afrobelle 86 but you can grow to understand why things happened and move on
Will Smith has learned alot with Scientology it seems like or better yet through the laws of Attraction
Celebrity moms get asked about their kids constantly in interviews. “How is it juggling family life and work life?” Men rarely get asked these questions because no one thinks twice about workaholic dads who don’t see their kids for months at a time. A mom who overworks and travels a lot, is abandoning her children, a father who overworks and travels a lot, is just providing for his kids
Those men usually have a stay at home wife who takes care of the kids and also women are naturally more attracted to caring for their kids than men are. Women will and will always be naturally more attached to kids they have. Women are the ones who are pregnant with the child for 9 months and then stay home to recover and breast feed the child. All of that produces more bonding compared to men.
@@femininechaos4931 "women are naturally attracted to taking care of their kids" Nah...
@@femininechaos4931 were not talking about the strength of the bonds but rather the EFFORT that is put INTO those bonds. If anything that's more reason men should in a way want to put more effort into creating and maintaining their bond with their children. Catch up fuckers. Men wanna be so competitive with anything else. You ain't worried she the better, more memorable parent? You not worried they think she cares about them more? You ain't worried they might be right about that?!
How to Faint That not “society” that’s facts about animal biology. Look at other animals. The males are always less engaged in parenting than the females. We are no different, it’s natural.
Aliyah J. Thank u👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I think we black folks have a really skewed view of “OK”. I constantly hear my parents spanked/beat me and “I turned out ok.” Or my parents didn’t explain things to me/talk to me but “I’m ok.” My childhood was (varying degrees of) traumatic but look, “I’m ok and I don’t need therapy.” I’m like are you sure though? Sure you aren’t a drug addict, you have a job, and/or you’re not in jail. But if that’s all we need to be considered “ok”, we’ve set the bar tooooo low. Let’s try to be consistently WHOLE and balanced and not just ok.
TheGoreeTruth whew! Preach!
Thats exactly the mentality i dont want to push on my kids. We in the black community can have such a low standard of "turned out alright" that we negate traumas we inflict on our children and self as "part of life" and dont take the time/dedication to properly heal.
TheGoreeTruth I agree with you on that. I had a pretty decent childhood but I did not turn out ok. I still needed therapy. So I can only imagine the state of people who have had more traumatic experiences than I did. My ex husband thinks he’s ok and he really is not.
I couldn’t have said it better!
You said it beautifully 💓
“He wakes up at 6:00 am”
So does any high school student
Linguini 🤣🤣🤣
And my 5 & 9 year old. Bus comes at 6:50 😭😂
Linguini right!! I wake up at 415!! Next lol
@@Forever_yours44 I'm up at 445 everyone. And start at 530. He not the only one. Next!
Yeah that's not impressive. I used to have to wake up a 5, 5:30 for work and wouldn't get back until 6 or 7. I don't think that should be a point of pride...
“Work is not therapy” *SAY IT AGAIN LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!*
Unless you work as a therapist of course.
@@warrenmorgan304 Even therapists need therapy 😁
"You cant achieve your way out of childhood wounds and trauma", should be gifted in needlepoint or poster form to every adult the moment they leave home.
Whoopsy Daisy This is a mood for real.
A definite meme....
Amen!
This is a serious quote!!!
Whoopsy Daisy sad but true
He loved his mom but doesn't respect black women. That's why I always say trust a man by how he treats his ex not his mom.
Ooh that's good 👏👏
@Emma XTC Lots of emotional and sexual fusion in those "mama's boys" relationships. Usually mom doesn't have a close bond with her own husband or doesn't have a man and her son fills that void.
so very good
I think both are almost equally important. If he treated his ex terribly then of course, red flags, but the same can be said for mom. I can't respect or be with a man who regularly disrespects his mom, even if he is kind to me. It's just not attractive
@@justcallmeteacup4711 Depends on who their mother is. If a man's mother is a horrible person he shouldn't feel obligated to respect her just because she's his mother
Off topic but I really appreciate the black intellectuals you often name drop and include clips of in your videos. It really helps me educate myself and keep an eye out for their ideas and talks and also leads me to more black intellectuals
Agreed.❤️
Just Call Me Teacup agreed
I was gonna say when she mentioned the woman who was giving the Ted talk about the neuroscience of childhood trauma I was like yay shes black yaassssss
Same. All those clips were amazing
This ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️!! Please keep doing this.
"Ellen's politics are rich woman"
As a member of the LGBT community, thank you for that. Ellen needs to be addressed for her problematic issues. Also, I think you're spot on with your comments regarding Hart's narcissism, pride, and martyr-ism.
Kevin Hart needs to acknowledge that his workaholic attitude is for HIM and HIS ego, not for his family.
Sheridan Tully yes also he’s running from himself for real
Sheridan Tully whether it’s for him or them are they not benefiting from his sacrifice
I do not agree, nor do i disagree.
@@kasimtime8478 only in materialistic things. And maybe a roof over thier head. But family bond goes further than being a workaholic.
i wonder if he’s running to a therapist to fix his issues
Kevin knows what he’s doing . He has yes men in his corner . The friends will not advise Kevin of right and wrong ...Kevin literally feeds their families
Chi Non He pays the personal trainer as well. So, yes he does feed his family. If he didn’t he would have left after Kevin disrespected him on camera.
You have to watch the documentary in its totality first
@@feyrol42 Yea because we all know you wouldn't stand for it.
Timah R. Lol why are you bothered, dear. Most people would bare and grin to a dick employer. It is what it is. The only reason why he stood for it is because Kevin is his source of income. I didn’t imply I wouldn’t do the same.
Michael Jackson syndrome. Yesmen saw him to his grave.
The "I'm the hardest worker therefore I'm successful" narrative is so old and untrue. We DO NOT live in a meritocracy.
On another note. It's hard to be a good/great dad if you are not there 80% of the time. Kids want and need their parents with them for them to bond and feel safe.
I don't think that what people get out that kind of quote. It's more like, if you work as hard as you can, you are highly likely to be successful. Which is true imo. It's not ALWAYS, but the majority of the time it is true. If it's not true, then there's no point in trying in the world if you think that you can never be successful. People also mix up success and wealth. You are successful once you're happy, NOT wealthy.
Maria but it’s not true at all. Do you really think Jeff Bezos works anywhere near as hard as the packers in his warehouses? Poor people work HARD. Only the tiniest minority become successful.
@@katherinemorelle7115 like I said before, it depends on what you define as successful. If getting into the top 1 percent of the population is your idea of success, then you're going to be extremely disappointed in life and you might as well end it or live in misery, right?
@@katherinemorelle7115 Also, although you might not think Jeff Bezos life is hard, we don't live his life. We can never know the mental and physical toll a job like his has. Maybe all he does all day is relax in a pool, or maybe he spends every moment in an office taking calls and going to meetings. You will never be in a position like that.
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I gave up on his bs the first time he cheated on his wife and made jokes about it
Person A
But felt some type of way when SHE wanted to do the same. 🤦🏽♀️
Person A he’s a COMEDIAN. I don’t know what else you expected him to do , and I don’t even like Kevin Hart .
@@koronteh807 yeah and I didn't find it funny. I love Dave Chappelle's comedy. What puts me off of Kevin is that he REPEATEDLY CHEATS and laughs it off.
As soon as I found out he cheated on his first wife with his second wife, made a comedy show about it, then cheated on his "McRib" (second wife) with some random woman, I was over him and his whole act. Congrats on your drive and success- you're a crappy person and I hope your older children don't internalize the damage you're doing around them.
Person A we weren’t even discussing if it was funny or not . Your original comment was Kevin Hart making jokes about cheating turned you off to his comedy . Nor were we discussing if he’s a good person . I agree with you , him cheating is horrible to not only do to his wife but his 2 kids at the time. As I stated before he’s a ,comedian he’s going to talk about his life and find a joke in it wether it makes him look good or not .
“It’s funny how in hetero relationships, suffering is a prerequisite to love” preach it sista! Love your content!
That's a blanket statement. WTF are y'all dating?!
Kashfi Ahmed She always mentions “heterosexual” relationships like girl majority of relationships are heterosexual so no need to keep mentioning it. Or is she a lesbian?
So gay relationships are not dysfunctional? Is she gay? Can she attest that there is less suffering in gay relationships?
The Bougie Wine Chick She is heterosexual so she speaks on heterosexual relationships. It's not that hard.
Lesbihonest the credit we give men for being good fathers is the lowest baseline for mothers.
You're right that it stops them from being great fathers cause they're applauded for doing basic things. For example, we applaud dads for doing their daughters hair even though getting your child dressed is a basic parenting move
So good.
Exactly
Sorry this is off topic but Green looks amazing on you!
Agreed! I always loved the green chair behind her as well. And the green sweater with the pink eyeshadow is such a bomb look!
So true! And I love her braids!
Man eyeshadow never looks that good on me. ❤️😭
PREACH!!!!! Idk why men are allowed to have a hall pass when it comes to their duties as fathers... a mother could never afford that kind of leniency, and it shouldn't be that way.
@@anthonymede9216 Even tho I do agree with your statement, I dont think that's what the comment is about. We as people give fathers soo many passes and act like fatherhood is something that isn't necessary. Its toxic and that's why many men dont feel the need to be fathers, we act like dads aren't a crucial part of our kid's lives.
@@anthonymede9216 but the fact that some mothers arent quality human beings is like a big problem to people. Shes expected to be better. But fathers not being good people is normal and expected. He is who he is and we cant change him.
It seems if one takes care of home they are allowed a hall pass in their eyes
that’s what I’m saying. Men are allowed a pass when it comes to being a parent.. meanwhile, women aren’t
Anthony Mede Why did you feel the need to single out black mothers? When the original comment never mentioned race? 🤔
I'm crying when his publicists goes "You're not MLK. That was the wrong move." 😂
I wonder why Kevin Hart was not held accountable for his “jokes” against black women?
Because literally everything and everyone else is important, but black women never are. That is what society teaches us and what it supports.
I was done with him after that. I couldn't believe he made such demeaning jokes against dark skin women knowing he had a young dark skin daughter. 🤯
Sunny Bae
I mean, get held accountable by who? What entity?
It was the oscars(white/gays) who pressured him for so called anti gay tweets.
Actions not victimhood is what Black Americans need.
And about his own parenting
Has he ever made jokes about black men?
Kevin: If my friends were there, I wouldn't have cheated.
Kevin's Friend Who Was THERE: *sets up camera*
That's a bad excuse
& then his friends said “I wish we were there to protect him and prevent him from situations like that” he’s literally a grown ass man!
Agreed. Kevin Hart is FAR from okay but he doesn't want to admit it.
#facts
Kevin Jones his $ grew his ego too big to admit the truth
@@Lil08103 well said
"Work smarter not harder. " -Scrooge McDuck
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@@itskalledkarma78 ?
He doesnt know how to just be and connect with his kids. The “hustle” is an escape because he has a twisted view of what it means to be a father and raise a child. Its more than food on the table and roof over the head albeit an expensive roof and expensive food, still not enough. They need guidance, presence, love
Emma XTC right very good insight hes doing what he knows how to do well (make money) while ignoring his weakness (parenting). If he really wanted to boss up and break the cycle he would become great at both. His children cant perpetuate this legacy he’s creating if he remains absent n their lives. They will squander it because he isnt instilling any values in them
numerouno 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Honestly if you are working this hard but not being there for his kids isn't cool either they just look at you as a food and house person not a father
numerouno amen 🙏🏽
You’re blaming someone who didn’t grow up with a good father instead of attacking the cycle
Preach girl. A man can’t “help” parent their own children. It’s their job to participate. Please stop overpraising men for fulfilling their responsibility.
Exactly! Don't praise a fish for swimming. That's the bare minimum lol
This commentary is the reason why men should NEVER open up to a woman. This lady is not a psychologist and she mentioned no accountability on the woman's part of contributing having unstable single parent homes. It's always the man's fault. Smh
Alexis Massey, I’m a little confused by your comment of “.....no accountability on the woman’s part”. Are you inferring that the woman made Kevin cheat?
@@obsidyenneg4333 No. I believe cheating is wrong and Kevin should be held accountable for cheating since that's the case. However, It seems Harriet is very biased towards men. Harriet major criticism of Kevin's father with little criticism of Kevin's mother and wives is evident of that. I'm sure the women in Kevin's life are accountable..after all his mother raised him and his wives decided to marry him. They all seem materialistic which is probably a reason why Kevin feels like he has to be a workaholic.
Alexis Massey Stop projecting your own life experiences on complete strangers, and then presenting your own personal, subjective opinions as fact.
People blaming Biology for “women being more naturally inclined to taking care of children” are the same ones who can barely remember one lesson from a high school Bio class. Studies have proven that gender roles are more sociological than biological. You’re free to have your opinions though. Just bear in mind that they’re not facts 🙏🏿✨
I need you to say this louder for the kids in the back
@Agatha z I believe so
Kaamiishuu U Studies have shown women are more nurturing and compassionate therefore more maternal than men which is needed to care for babies
Kaamiishuu U Women breastfeed men don’t so it’s better for her to stay home, women also have maternal instincts just like females of other species take care of their young, so should human females
@Agatha z This! A lot of people have this sort of black and white thinking, when most of life is usually some shade of grey.
We must strive to be more than just “ok” We must strive to be whole.
Completely agree. Surviving isn't thriving.
This !!!!
Gem 💎
Exactly why I am so particular about who I spend my time with.
"it's not okay to just survive. You need to thrive." - Duchess Rachel Meghan Markle
We need to find joy in our non productive moments too.
You said a mouthful!!!!
B Boo that part!
SPEAK!!
Ruru Home its like post traumatic slave syndrome
B Boo Yes. Finding joy in non productive moments must be possible, since it’s the full-time struggle of the sick and disabled. Love of self and others is the only thing I know of that helps attain an inner peace. -A sick/disabled person obsessed with achievement.
When I watched the series and it got to the part about the cheating scandal and Kevin said he didn't have his boys with him to keep him in check as if that were a valid excuse for voluntarily sleeping with another woman, I turned off the TV. He's a grown man. How many grown men does it take to keep another grown man in line?
And as if they don't have their own lives and wives to take care of. That was so immature.
He cheated on his first wife too. Keeping that man in check would just have to be a full time job. Zero accountability and a sense of entitlement is strong with this man.
These are valid REASONS... Have you ever heard of the word 'ADDICTION?'
Unfortunately I think black people are made to believe that they need to work so much harder to prove that they are "One of the good ones". It is a perfect storm for a workaholic lifestyle.
My father suffered from that mentality but he knew it. He tried so hard to make sure his children didn't end up doing the same. I didn't understand this about him until I was well into adulthood and I'm so grateful. He was able to instill self-worth in his children while knowing he was lacking in his own. He never really got over it either.
Kaskus I’m definitely not one of those blacks.
We are hurting as a collective
It’s not just black men, in the US we work a lot period. Other countries take breaks, naps, shorter work days, more vacation, etc... those things are generally frowned upon in the US. Also, black people are generally working from a disadvantage position and usually have to work harder to overcome socio-economic racism to achieve wealth. It’s not about being the good ones, it’s about helping to put your family in a better position economically. Kevin Hart grew up poor, his kids will not. His kids won’t need to work as hard as he does, they’ll have access to better education, healthcare, opportunities, etc and so will the rest of his family (if he shares his wealth). Sure he could scale back, but we can’t fault him for putting his family in a better position.
Kaskus when in reality it’s a tragic paradox to try so hard to not be the racist stereotype of the broke and absent deadbeat dad that you work yourself to death only to end up being an absent father that is providing everything financially only to realize your children need you and your time far more than anything money can buy. I don’t mean this to be accusatory or shaming anyone, it’s genuinely sad. I’m white but even my father was often absent do to bring a workaholic when I was very young. It was a blessing and a curse when my mother left and went MIA for a few years, it made my dad realize that being someone’s sole parent and support system requires quality time more than anything else. Kids remember who was there, and who was steady and reliable.
So holding someone accountable for their mistakes makes women man-haters apparently. And y’all thought we were the sensitive ones.
Claudia O didn’t you know? Accountability is the new racism/sexism? *sarcasm* 🐸☕️
It is because its not any of your business just because he in the spot light do mean You're entitled to your input and his life situation.
Deangelo Thompson actually, when you make a documentary about yourself you’re literally subjecting yourself to criticism and opinions😂
@@claudiao7743 true But you can't hold anyone accountable for something that was not done to you. Or towards you. That's the job of his wife. And true friends that are around him. Not his groupies.
Deangelo Thompson if we’re talking about the neighbor down the street then I’d agree with you but this is a very influential person that has reach.
Okay the green sweater and green couch is the scene I never knew I needed to see.
Priscilla O yess!
This channel is a gem
It is.
Truly
Samukele Lubisi yes 🙌🏻
Yup!
No it isn't. It's full of shit, she's clearly attacking black men. This commentary is the reason why men should NEVER open up to a woman. This lady is not a psychologist and she mentioned no accountability on the woman's part of contributing to broken homes. It's pathetic and it serves black men right not to have empathy for women because you guys lack empathy for men.
We also need to stop justifying toxic and dysfunctional behavior. It seems like a lot of times many of us justify bad behavior with that’s just how Mother is or that’s just how father is. When in reality Minnie are narcissistic abusive and downright toxic. We go on as adults thinking the way we grew up was the norm when in reality we are growing up in dysfunctional household.
PsychedPerspective yessss all of what u said👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
growing up in a dysfunctional household prepares you to go into a dysfunctional world. its 2020. 2018-2019 were for the easily offended fuckfaces like you but now we are back to not giving a fuck about yo dumb ass stupid ass can we all get along ass gumdrops and rainbow shittin ass no life havin ass sjws
I learned very early in my adult life that just because you were raised a certain way doesn’t make it right
@@siriouscalibre4823 What it really seems to do is help to facilitate this dysfunctional world. Hurt people hurt people so if everyone walks around growing up in dysfunction and not addressing it then you just end up with more and more jacked up people. No matter how whole your home is you will always run into messed up things as you grow up and those whole and non dysfunctional family members can help you to navigate and learn how to move through that and past it. Having a whole family is not a bad thing.
Sirious Calibre Bruh? Where did that hostility come from? You gotta relax man
"I tried to work it away, but that just made me even sadder. I tried to keep myself busy. I ran around in circles think I made myself busy."
"I'm doing this for my family"
Walter White said the same thing.
And was honest about it💯
indigog0 - Indigo Ross Comedy this!!!!!👌🏾
In the last season he admits to Skylar he did it for himself because he wanted to do it though,
I definitely felt like things weren’t right when he met with his dad. You can feel the tension and the resentment on Kevin’s end. I think that his lack of showing his true emotions goes into his father telling him “don’t be a b****” which he has definitely internalized in his adulthood.
I also feel Iike he overcompensates with his dad when giving him money because deep down he wants that acceptance from his dad that he didn’t get as a child.
It's also why he feels the need to demean other men like he did supposed friend on that pla6
@NotSoRomantic Everyone fucked up by their parents swears they turned out OK, nobody wants to believe themselves to have suffered needlessly and to be a worse person rather than a better one for it.
kim, fix this comment because its sooooooo true!
Jesus be a whole therapist chair
I'm not sure about this because he said he talked to his father and his father owned his part in not being there for Kevin. Also I don't think Kevin is doing anything different from a lot of kids who become the first person in their family to accumulate large amounts of money they take care of their family financially. His father is ill and I think he honestly just wants to be positive with his father and forgive him. Again wanting acceptance from your parents / people you care about and love is a normal thing.
Dude left two ppl trapped in a car after an accident. His first concern was to save his image. I can't get past that.
Lady M has he ever spoken about that? Why aren’t criminal charges being filed for leaving the scene??🤔
@@183Itsme He probably paid them to shut up. I personally have heard no more about it. Kinda got swept under the rug....
This is the way to roll. I love him for that. Good dude.
I think Kevin paid those people off when it first happened it was said that that they were gonna sue Kevin but it had something to do with insurance so they had to sue him. He did leave the scene and it was a witness their that said Kevin look at him and said wtf are you doing here and told his people to tell him to get away. The situation is still on going that’s why he didn’t speak on it. I do find it strange it took him or his people 2hrs to call for help.
FLdancer00 What about my comment said that I believe anything someone tells me Period?? Buzz off please and thank you 🙂
I love your criticism of workaholic culture! I work in social services and everyone works overtime, skips lunch breaks and guess what.. they burn out!! They become exhausted and get worse at their job! Getting rest, taking care of your mental health and having a personal life is really necessary for your quality of life. Thank you for pointing that out
WhenYouWishUponaStar Yes!
Next Documentary: Kevin faces the issues that he's running from. He spends time healing himself and his relationships with the people he loves. He grows and brings growth to the people around him... and the title? "A Change of Hart".
SEND HIS TEAM A PROPOSAL FOR THAT DOCUMENTARY!! 😂👏🏾
Omg this 👏🏾😂
That's amazing!!
Don't hold your breath girl.
Brianna Hawkins lets pray for that and keep putting that in the atmosphere 🙏🏽
“Ellen’s politics are ‘rich woman’” I spit out my coffee!!
RogueCodes
OK!!!!!
This docu-series was GASLIGHTING 101.
It REALLY was and so obvious, I rolled my eyes so much I had to cut it off.
Narcissism
possibly... but an entertainer has to get publicity... it is what the job requires.
My eyes rolled back so far they got stuck for a while.
“Her politics are rich woman” lmao YES
Mariana M
I SCREAMED!!!
And OK Boomer.
Joking aside, her audience consists mostly of white women. Diversifying her audience wouldn't hurt her.
Me: *hasn’t watched video yet*
Also me: I agree
😂😂😂😂
Me too
Or the documentary, I still agree 😂🤣
Same.
“he didn’t even have the decency to get outta bed” the way i screamed
elija. I legit died when I saw that!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀
I suffered from mental illness for most of my childhood, my adolescence, and my early adulthood. It caused me to obsess over my work and school and to shut myself off from most things I enjoyed.All it taught me was that stress and unhappiness do not build character, working on yourself and admitting your problems does.Do NOT accept survival as your baseline. Life is SO MUCH better than that.
As a person who also struggles with mental illness, thank you so much for writing this.
Yes! Thank you for this! It’s nothing but the truth.
Thanks 😁✌🏾
spiritxdancer thank you
I’m glad you covered this because I’d rather not watch the series.
Wow... skipping research uh? lol
I thought it was interesting when his dad came to visit and Kevin never said this is my sister. He said this is my dad's daughter. There's clearly a thing there.
I mean, that’s the only thing I’d expect him to call her since she’s from one of his dad’s other families and they’d just met. There’s nothing there other than an understandable lack of familiarity.
As someone with the same situation going on it's really difficult to connect and just say this is my sister or brother when you've never met this person before but the title alone says you're supposed to relate to one another a certain way or your supposed to have a certain relationship. Its something that can't be forced, it rarely turns out well when it is.
I bet she wants to connect to him and have that big brother little sister relationship but he’s so detached it would be damn near impossible
That’s his dad’s problem. If he wouldn’t have spread his sperm everywhere maybe there would be some sort of familiarity. In all honesty she’s a complete stranger at this point.
if there a big thing she would not be welcome stupid
This sounds like the go to narrative for every masculine redemption story ever made. I'm glad you watched it so I don't have to. Working hard does not mean workaholic. Those are two different things. The work product of a workaholic has a very different outcome and motivation than an authentically driven work ethic.
“you can’t achieve your way out of childhood trauma” whew!!! i’ve never been like a 9-5 workaholic but i completely drove myself MAD in my first years of college (18 cr. hrs. w/ LOADS of extracurriculars).
Lmao he don’t realize how much he JUST like his father. Stuck and stubborn
Sis as a fellow black person , I will say this , dont throw stones if you potentially live in a glass house , hes damaged like the collective of our brothas and sisters, he just has money. Unless you are completely WHOLE, YOU YOURSELF, LIKE ME , ARE IN NO POSITION TO JUDGE. I WILL SAY HE WAS WRONG FOR THE IGNORANT COMMENTS ETC
Caram3lKYD “We’re not brotha’s and sista’s”... I wish y’all would stop saying that corny ass shit
That's what he's running away from.
Caram3lKYD seems to me you’re interpreting in your perspective that i am judging when I did clear observation.
Caram3lKYD also don’t assume someone isn’t whole when it’s clear observation. Thanks 😊
And I dont believe for 2 seconds Kevin was actually sorry for his homophobia. He doubled down for months. He is being disingenuous.
Exactly!!
HA! I completely forgot about that. Now that I think of it, I completely agree with you. He was just playing the P.R game. He feels no remorse.
And he made no mention of his anti-Black woman tweets.
Right!!
It was jokes, they were funny. You shouldn’t have to apologize for jokes.
I think he overcompemsates for alot of things and has a constant need to feel like the man. I was horrified at the way he talked to his friend and that no one of his other friends or his 'rib' intervened until it got physical.
A. Ahmed That scene made me stop watching. Dude is a dick.
Because hes low-key feminine for a guy, short and often felt insecure about money, looks etc probably got cheated on or rejected by women short term in relationship...now that he has money, the fame, the 'looks' he feels like he can have any and everything yet still tryna keep a pristine reputation around him but we all knew once the cheating allegations came out that all That fabrications just fell apart around him but ofcourse cause he has a team they can easily relift the vail of lies and illusions causing him to sell his soul even further. Generally I think kevin is a good guy...maybe too much of a people pleaser buthe has a good heart... Heheh Kevin 'Hart'.... But he really needs To just open up his heart and be real with himself and whats going on around him...all that fake shit can literally make a person go insane man.
Wrong he's not a dick thy explained what happened in another video not what you saw wasn't everything. Its been parts that were edited out
Bless you for having the patience and empathy to watch this. Everyone is deserving of compassion and understanding but i do not have this for him.
Yesss. I don't have the patience for it
Kevin seems to be running FROM failure instead of experiencing joy from his art.
I agree with you 100% on the workaholic mentality, and Will Smith is correct that you can’t succeed your way out of your childhood drama/issues.
He is seeking validation OUTSIDE of himself because he feels empty INSIDE....without money.
I call this conditional Self-Worth complex-
Kevin’s first wife is beautiful never seen her in motion. I’m not watching that mess but I hope he works thru his issues as we all try to do.
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@@anac5656 Thank you for the recommendation!
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I know right. All the things, I've been thinking she just says. 🤷🏽♀️
Many of us would greatly benefit from counseling and therapy. Our community is our people as a whole need to heal. However that would also mean we need universal health insurance that actually supports mental health. And it would also be nice to have black therapist so you can go and get therapy and counseling from someone who can actually relate to you.
PsychedPerspective / Amen and i urge people / it may take a lot of effort, but see if you can find a Black therapist / who can understand the issues
Amen! I saw my longtime therapist yesterday. She was like girl you’re good, you can stop coming, and I’m like “but wait, can I still call you for a tune up every now and then?” No matter how “ok” we are, we all need a mental wellness check from time to time.
@@dr.dermixgirlmd7479 I so agree! I think we should have regular mental health checks, the same way we have regular physical health checks.
EXACTLY
Centennial just because a therapist is black doesn’t mean they’ll understand where you’re coming from..
I’ve had a black therapist tell me some off the wall shit..
Yes I didn't like how after the cheating scandal his friend said no one is allowed in their circle anymore, just those men. So they can't bring anyone else to hang out 🤦🏾♀️. They can no longer socialize with others. And his friends didn't step up and say, "You need to check yourself
You have a pregnant wife at home".
I agree
That made me feel sketchy too. They have to keep their employers secrets or else they won't be able to pay their bills and an outsider could mess that up. Why would they want to repeat the mistakes of their fathers
He said those men weren’t there to check him so after he cheated he takes them everywhere 🙄
But let’s talk about what his dumb ass wife said
@@214InnocentGirl20 I couldn't even get on her simply because she was with him while he cheated on his wife. No one deserves to be cheated on but it's hard to feel sorry for her because of this. But at least his "true" friends, not his employees, should have called him out since he found his "true" love.
Tea Todd seems like he doesn’t have any true friends. It’s weird that all his “friends” are his employees but I don’t feel sorry for her at all not only was she with his before his divorce was finale she taunted Torrie on Instagram a lot
I agree with you but that's not his "friends" place to check him for preventing him to cheat on his wife she knew who he was and what she was getting into. But because she felt she had a one up on Torie she though she had the diamond vagina. Life humbled her up very quickly.
I don't care for Kevin Hart, I just clicked for your commentary it's intellectually stimulating even when I don't agree no matter the subject
I absolutely agree. Pure mental stimulation.
I don’t like how Kevin talked down to his friend on that jet. He’s forever wack to me for that.
I can't see anything with his face again. That was horrible
That toxic behavior of betrayal I hope to never come across. Beyond disrespect
Didn’t like home before but that was definitely my last straw with him. His behavior during that part was disgusting
I couldn't stand to watch past episode 2... Could someone please sum up the Jet convo between he the friend 👀👀👀
@@jonnielgreenidge4739 what did he do?
Lmfaooo “ Ellen’s politics are rich woman “ 😭😹😭😭👏🏾
that took me out lol
It's so inspirational to me that disgusting and irresponsible amounts of wealth can turn anybody into an apathetic monster regardless of race, gender, religion, or sexual orientation 💖 Money really is power, and power really does blind people to systemic discrimination and marginalization, even the kinds that the rich person had previously experienced themselves 💖💖💖
I don't care for Kevin or his wife, I felt like this doc didn't need to be this long and he's trying to shove a fake or fakish reality down out throats.
nope just showing u where he comes from and what his motivation is to work so much. if u dont like it good for u. its the united fuckin states u have the right to yo opinion until u trash on sumone else. thats when fights break out if u havint noticed dumbass
Sirious Calibre are you okay? lmao read what you said and then you wrote lmao jesus christ😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😩 and if its good for her...then why did you comment 🤭
bricbrac28 listen, Kevin is just plain trash. His wife ain’t no better
@@yendaaaa that's his wife responding🤭
@@SSRIs FACTS!!! He so badly wants to be the will Smith of comedy, just a all around good guy but it's not real
Thank you for referring to Dr Harris TED TALKS. ACEs are very real and play a huge role is dysfunction. I work in the Social Services field and really appreciate you making reference to ACEs.
"It's not like he was robbed at gunpoint, he had sex with someone who wasn't his wife!" I laughed so hard at that 😂
"Ellen's politics are 'rich woman.'"
I screamed-- cuz I scream when I hear The Truth.
Great video! I absolutely love listening to you. Thank you for doing what you do!
You are right-a person cannot do a “documentary” of themself!
LMAO
Kevin and Eniko are both liars as far as when they got together.
I remember the past year or so I watched a RUclips video regarding an Instagram post that Eniko made that said something to the effect of the wonderful number of years that they have been together --but then a follower commented and pretty much said something to the effect of:
"Ummm, you might want to delete this post since Kevin was still married during the time frame that you're speaking of.".
For example, her post went something like she was celebrating how they had been together for 7 or 8 years.....
Kevin Hart had been divorced for 5 or 6 years.
I mean, his wife Torrei says they were still married when he and Eniko got together, we all can do simple math, so at this point they should just stop all the lying about how they got together or just don't speak on it at all.🤷🏾♀️
I dont know if we're talking about the same channel that made a video about it, but Lovelyti2002 did a really good job getting videos and screenshots of comments from everyone involved.
@@teancoffee208
Yep that's exactly where I saw the video I was speaking of.
So you're a Ti Sipper as well!?! ☕🙌🏾
Playing Devil's advocate here for a second... Yes married is married & Don't bite my head off, but I believe they were separated and had been living separately when they got together. I'm not saying it's not still wrong. But I do think it's a distinction that matters.
I think Eniko really did think she was pretty enough to make Kevin keep it in his pants. You would think that someone that looks like her would have healthy self-esteem, but nah. She really is trading in her self-respect everyday in exchange for financial security and celebrity.
J.E. Pierson Why do you think that? Has Eniko said that? Or do you just assume that because she is pretty? Sounds like you’re just projecting anger or jealousy onto this woman you don’t even know.
And how is she trading in her self-respect by being with Kevin? Staying with a cheater doesn’t mean your trading in your self-respect. Beyonce stayed with Jay-Z didn’t she? And she has her own money.
“You would think someone that looks like her would have healthy self-esteem but nah” wow, what a dumb thing to say. Someone being pretty doesn’t mean they have high self-esteem. So are mildly attractive people supposed to have low self-esteem? This whole comment is just a mess
"I didnt need more work, I NEEDED CARE"
Kevin looks like his mom so much that I thought it was him in a wig .
Same
"We suffer because we desire."
-The Buddha
Mckee Ward IV ¨the problem is, we think we have timë
Ale M.alvarez what do you mean?
Idc what he does, I don’t like serial cheaters. Especially ones that cheat on their pregnant partner
Right? It's bad enough to cheat, but to cheat when your wife is carrying your child, that's a whole other level of shitty person.
The credit that we give men for trying to be good fathers stops them from being great fathers 👌🏾
Yoooooooooooooooooooo! ❤️
When you didn’t know you needed smthg so desperately! I have always felt this but never in these words. This is why I’m adamant about not making a big deal about fathers doing the right thing.
What about the men who are good great fathers, but you can say the same about women, it's just funny how no one like to address that there a lot of women not in their child's lifes also. Just saying but you should encourage all good or great parents plus we can't comment on other people relationships if we don't know them personally
Stop having sex with the TYPE of men YOU choose. If you stop choosing bad men, bad men will notice and strive to become better men. Women have rewarded bad men for centuries... Congratulations on the product you women have created.
@@timmikaatel8363 Stop with the lies! If a man wanted to do good by women and the children that they produce, he would do it on his OWN. Its called having good character which is developed INTERNALLY not coerced through someone else's actions. How do you have time to tell women to make better choices in mates but will NOT tell men to make better choices period? Your hypocrisy invalidates whatever weak argument you tried to make. Lesson: Stop holding women accountable for a man's behavior. Period!
What really pisses me off about Kevin Hart is the whole "it's just a joke" defense about his homophobia when it's really not. He got in the most trouble for saying he'd smash a dollhouse over his son's head if he caught him playing with one. He tried to pass this off as a joke because it's an extreme statement, and he probably wouldn't go so far as to do that, but what he didn't pass of as a joke was the sentiment behind the statement itself, which is that he has bigoted hatred toward gay people and would retaliate against his son if he were to be gay. He said he'd consider himself a failure as a father if his son were gay... all of these remarks further damaging homophobic stereotypes and lies that gayness is a choice, or a result of parents being too soft, and assert that gay sons are an affront to their fathers and that gayness, or any behavior that is considered too feminine in boys, is innately wrong, shameful and warrants parental rejection or violence.
BoneMeringue
Very well said. His tweets weren’t only homophobic, they were emblematic of the kind of toxic masculinity, that shames boys for being too soft and feminine, and teaches them, that gender roles are carved in stone. That’s the part that I found really heartbreaking.
Same. Those dumb "I won't do this because is gay" jokes are childish and forgivable. But when you talk about violence against you own kid for doing something traditionally "feminine", sorry but that's atrocius. Didn't Tracy Morgan "joked" on a similar way? Something about stabbing his kid if he talked like gay or something? What kind of "it gets better" can a gay black kid expect with these black fathers talking that kind of shit?.
BoneMeringue I 100% agree. And even if he really did say it as a joke, that proves he is not versed on the history of violence inflicted upon people for BEING gay. Which it tickles me that a black man of any background couldn’t relate to that at all? It was not uncommon and still is not uncommon for a person or couple to be beaten and tortured simply for kissing each other or even just existing. The same is said of black people no matter the background. One would think :/ its like a white person joking about beating his son for “acting black”. No please
julioagua 💯💯💯
@Abigail Jones you're not being cute, edgelord.
My cousin married one of Kevin’s brother’s. What I understand is that they had different mothers, and they have virtually no relationship, as his brother has no relationship with their father, and feels bitter towards him for not being there. He also wants a relationship with Kevin, now that he is famous, and even showed up to one of Kevin’s shows asking for money... Seems like his brother takes after his father.
Kevin is a narcissistic bully. His Ego will be one of the reasons for his downfall. Not that im wishing that on him. Being broke atleast you know who your true friends are. Just sayin.
You can't be a good parent if you are not present.
ToyaRR thank u👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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I think it also shows an extreme value on autonomy individuality and monetary success. I think as a black community we have an aversion to perceive weakness. That is a cancer that needs to be cut out! We are all broken and we all NEED each other. We are vulnerable weather we like it or not and we have to come to terms with our relational aspect and how work can’t fill that hole. It made me sad and afraid, and I love how uplifting your channel is in contrast to mainstream idea of success and health. Also I think we need to learn how to celebrate good work done and learn of to rest so we can continue to make great work. It mirrors Perry’s ideology.
Ashley Thomas This was worded perfectly and you are now my friend lol 😂 ❤️.
This is good sis. Real good.
This is one of the best comments on this video.🙌 I totally thought about Tyler Perry's "I wrote it all myself" video, when seeing Kevin's workaholism.
Caramel Kisses friends are always welcome!!!
Umm, why do we continue to prop up these problematic AF black men? I'm so over it.
Also, wow he was an exact replica of his mom. They look like the same person.
Kevin Hart gives me TI when he begins to talk. They are both like toddlers trying to formulate sentences to sound intelligent and impress their parents. Besides I really could not take this Documentary anymore seriously once I heard that Mo' Better Blues soundtrack in the background.
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Right! Over talking everyone and don’t make a damn sense
Green Mills a dat you a worry bout my grammar? Stay there majoring in minority . Some a you have nothing better to do with your time on Al Gore internet 😏
Thank you for this comment 😂💯
More men need to "hustle" with the presence for they kids. Women are breaking their back, carrying the weight on their shoulders to accommodate and support the aspirations, visions and goals of their husbands/boyfriends. Much prayer to him and his family.
Eniko’s gonna cry in her Bentley not in a Camry and if she likes it we gotta love it...I guess 🤦🏾♀️
Honestly, that docuseries was so depressing to watch. I got the sense that, deep down he knows he’s constantly working on “the next big thing” as a way to distract himself from ongoing fears of inadequacy/fading into obscurity, but lies to himself and says it’s just his strong work ethic. Plus, the way he reacted to the reviews for Night School was very telling. He just seems so broken. I hope one day he acknowledges his wounds and seems professional help to begin the journey of healing.
He (and many others) need to follow the example of Will Smith who is clearly aware.
Dupe Ajayi right
I agree for today but 20 years ago you didn’t have access to celebrities and less evidence to analyze their well being unless you were in closer proximity than behind a computer screen
It took a long time for Will Smith to realize that and he also has a strong wife to help support that. Its personal growth that everyone isn’t willing to accept cause you have to look within yourself a lot of people are not trying to face themselves.
One thing I noticed is the presence of alcohol in almost every scene. Even the name of his crew is "Red Cups". Also in scenes with his children he's holding a drink. Work and alcohol seem to be his fuel.
I went through a lot when I was a teenager and I always say I'm ok , I wasn't affected until I talk to people who've never been traumatized and ONLY then I realize I'm fucked up emotionally
I initially was a Kevin Hart fan but after watching most of his comedy specials I realized that he keeps mining the same aspects of his life for jokes. His short stature, his infidelity in his first marriage, his kids, his parents and the trauma he experienced growing up. I like comedians that can tell the weird jokes AND jokes about current events, politics, etc.
I was officially done with his after watching him on The Shop on HBO. He kept over-talking everyone and dishing life advice (just, no) and belittling Lil Naz X's experience as far as coming out of the closet. Kevin needs to take a break, a really long break, and get himself together before he loses it publicly like so many other celebrities have (Mariah Carey, Kanye, etc).
Break down in the making. Happening before our eyes.
I was a die heart fan myself but not anymore since a few years now. He’s a disgusting little man, self absorbed
But side note...Come through braids
he cheated on his pregnant wife and said he’d hurt his kids if they were gay. family man of the year
evangeline i remember that routine where he talked about smacking his kid for doing something feminine (maybe i’m remembering wrong tho, but i vividly remember him talking about smacking his kid over something). Everyone was laughing, and as a latina woman who was never hit as a kid, it made me feel so uncomfortable
JCV that’s men for you , they are v!0l3nt and abus!v3
JCV yea! i feel like i heard about that and could never agree with hitting kids over not only something so minor but anything at all. another fun thing was his treatment of lil nas x when he came out!
Malcolm M thanks for your input malcom!
I used to tell myself all the time that I was ok. My childhood was bad, but not as bad as others. I wasn’t and sometimes am not ok.
You perfectly articulated my gripes with Kevin Hart & his circle of enablers (his wife included). I haven’t watched this film and I won’t.
He’s toxic asf just like many others. Our environments and upbringing truly do shape who we are to a major extent.
Ruru Home very truth!!!
PsychedPerspective yelp👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Hes just not husband material and if he would have admitted that from the start, then he could have saved himself and the other women time.
She still stayed though.
@@Oldpangolin it's not matter if she stayed or not. Kevin knows hes not husband material. Non monogamous men need to leave women alone and be honest. If women still decided to mess with them then that's their fault.
True that. Am I mad because you’re a narcissistic player? No but I am mad that you pretend to be a family man when you are in fact a narcissistic player
Frances Johnson But his current wife knew he was a cheater before they even got married, so it’s her own fault.
@@Yt_ShadowBannedme yea I kinda said that already..read my dude
Listen Eniko was reportedly seeing Kevin when he was still married soooooo....
AMYP6 in the documentary they posted dates lol they started dating in 2009 and he was divorced 2011
How you start is how you finish!
When you say “I’m ok” you’re trying to convince yourself that you are.
Kevin Hart: "I want the legacy of our name to mean something."
Me: "Ok, Tywin Lannister. Don't let your kids near any crossbows."
He always seemed like a very insecure individual. I'm not surprised.
I admire his work ethic but he’s a narcissist to me.
I can relate to the workaholic mindset. Sometimes, I neglect myself. I did it to the point where I gained 40lbs in 2 years. Just so I can graduate on time.
I haven’t watched it and will not.
The idea of watching a “reality” show starring a known and current cheater who married the woman he cheated on his previous wife with, just doesn’t appeal to me at all. Period....
But I always enjoy your assessments 🙏🏻🌈🌈