As someone who has dealt with anxiety and stress in the past and still faces it sometimes, I appreciate you for opening up and sharing your own experience. I believe that Mental Health should definitely get its due recognition in the Indian society because many of us face one or the other mental health issue in our life at some point of time. To anyone who's is reading this comment, just remind yourself everyday that you're stronger than all your problems and that you are worthy.🌸
Was my 1st attempt this year & I gave mains, IT FEELS AS IF YOU TOLD MY EXACT STORY!! Mains didn't go well, especially GS1 (messed up geog questions), and my 4-5 answers in paper 2&3 were total gibberish. I started getting anxiety headaches and lost interest in everything due to that guilt. The guilt that I could've revised properly, and written better GS answers. I start crying suddenly in random situations. Once I forced myself to hangout with friends and I returned from a trip midway! (friends got furious, I couldn't tell them my condition). This used to happen before prelims as well, suicide ideation thing, restlessness, etc. After I wrote mains, I had that imposter syndrome that I don't deserve anything. I went to a general physician, but now I'm looking to seek a specialist's help. Thanks for this, I could resonate with everything you said!
@@suryanshupadhyay7926 hi suryansh as you told us about your story I am also facing the same problem, I do study everyday but i feel I not be able to do it.
You are the most genuine person I have had ever listened to. There is something unique and fresh about the way you go about things in your life. I will always be regular with your videos. You are going places. Way to go.
You know what after listening to your story I just feel like I'm not alone on earth with such issues. Your story gives me a lot of strength. Thank you for sharing.
aur hame lagta hai sirf humari zindagi k laude lage hue hai.... humara dukh sabse bada hai.....but you showed and the comment section shows sab apni apni ladaiyan lad rahe hain.... thank you so much bhai for this video
I'm glad I found your channel! I'm a CSE aspirant too. I think almost every aspirant goes through this phase but not everyone can come out and express! Thank you for sharing this. Tbh you give a ton of positive vibes everytime I open your channel! Keep doing what you do! I hope you clear this year with a good rank. All the best brother♥️[Not gonna call you sir even after you become an IAS officer. You're more like a big brother to all of us] Thank you once again for starting this channel!
hello Dr Shivin!As I write this message out , you have already joined the services as an IRS officer. I am currently preparing. You may never come across this comment and I’m sure whatever I say shall be nothing new or unique. But I still want to go ahead and say it. You saved my life. On days I didn’t even know that I needed saving. I hope to one day meet you as an officer myself and thank you in person for all that you’ve done and the inspiration that you have been. I hope you stay blessed and go ahead to achieve so much success and happiness in your life . My warmest regards and good wishes for all your future endeavours :)
Thankkkkyouuu so muchhh! Can't believe how can be someone so informal in this preparation in RUclips only. This is my 1 video and after seeing this I can see you as my mentor 🥺❤ I am new to your channel 🙋♀️
this is the same anxiety ,fear of failure , identify crisis that you're having anynoums name on RUclips but why sir you are a doctor ,well read , cracked preliminary exam ,just face the world sir wish u all the best for future endeavours
Thank you so much sir ❤️❤️. I use to express myself in front of mirror, speaking out loud and looking for an answer to my problem, crying when things get stick in my head and these things doesn't pull me back . Instead I find more better than earlier.
no words to express myself listening to your experience. I can also relate to it to some extent. Rest i can say for now is best wishes. Hope to hear from you soon that u qualified.
excellent...clarity of thought n expression. My daughter is preparing n such videos must be seen n understood by family also to be supportive towards your child in understanding the pressures of such exams. God bless.
What I have got to learn from this wonderful video is ..it's ok to be kind to yourself..nd accept the bitter reality.. And it really take guts to talk about your insecurities in a public platform especially when you are into this journey..we all love you shivin.. always grateful for you selfless service.. ❤️😊🙏
Thankyou sir for this video, I have started preparing since july 2022 and since date of exam is coming closer, my anxiety levels are effecting the quality of study also, i not able to sleep properly At this time hearing about the importance of mental health from some one who has cleared the exam is really peaceful
Usually hm apni baate islye dusro ko nai smjha paate bcz jo rythm may mind m baate chalrhi h feel hoti h jese sayad ye chz sahi nai chalrhi ya sayad ye chiz ko agla smjh hi nai skta ..actually thoughts ko words nai milpaate....for eg. As u told "backup doesnt means just another competetive exam" .ye baat I cudnt make my parents understnd..bt as I m proceeding through ur videos also reading the comments below .it feels tht I m not alone...n jaan k achi lagrhi ye chze♥️
Never ever think about suicide brother, even if upsc thing doesnt work out you will be a very very good doctor, and do give all the attempts life is not too short to try new things , today it is upsc tommorrow it will be something else, because at the end of the day we will be better and knowledgable person from our previous self.
Thank you so much ! Yesterday I discovered your channel and wished for a video on mental health. I am dealing with similar things not too worse but similar symptoms. I jumped into this exam thinking I'm emotionally mentally very strong but sadly I was so wrong. Still I have time I will figure out what to do. I'm relieved to see it's normal among other aspirants as well. I will fix my issues and then Start preparation. Thank you !
Thank you sir 🙏 Being girl from small village and uneducated family background , it was difficult for me to take professional help.. Wasted 3 yrs in this phase but finally come out of it stronger
Yahi sab chl rha tha doc sahb kareeb ek hafte se sabkuch out of track ,yad aaye ap ,aapne ek had tak solution de bh dia ,feeling much relax doc sahab ....ma se dua h ki aapka interview clear hojae isbar aur ap ias bankr isi tarah wapsi kare aur kahe hello this ias doc sivin. Namskar
Bhai aapke es video ne Dil ko chhu liya hai.. 2019 me near prelims meri preparation kaafi theek chal rahi thi.. delhi me rahte huye long term me students apani health ko hi care take nahi karte.. bhul jaate hai jabki sabse first mental and physical health hi aati hai.. Delhi ka mahaul kaafi dull hota hai specially in winter season.. foggy afternoon.. evening and nights sab time Sun toh disappear hi milega.. mujhe us time Typhoid ho gya tha.. and mild anxiety aane lagi thi.. etna knowledge nahi tha ki ye sab kya ho raha hai.. and kaise deal karun.. mein hardly padhta gya.. and anxiety kaafi jyada ho gayi.. fever alag tha.. tab knhi google karke ek psychologist ko dikhaya tab pata lga severe depression ki aur aagya hun.. ab medicine hi lene hoge and stigma etna jyada hai es cheez se ki mujhe lga.. kya ho gya bc ye sab.. mind me all time thoughts running the.. bhaisab agar koi aware hokar usi time break le le.. kuchh din relax ho jaye ya medicine start me hi lena shuru kar de to bach jayega jaldi hi.. mere case me late ho jaane se severity etani jyada ho gayi thi ki 3.5 years ho gaye hai study to chal hi rahi hai per ab jakar track per again aa paya hun.. hats off ki aapne es topic per light daali hai.. Study ke sath music, hobby, fun, exercise, fruits, vegetables nutrients lene must hai.. Delhi me students dhabhe per se tiffin lete hai.. ghatiya quality ka khana zero nutrients ka milta hai..
@@naina0418 No no.. ye pura sach nahi hai.. Upsc only exam hai ek achhi life ke liye.. but desh ke baaki log jo bureaucracy me nahi hai wo sab bhi khushi se jee rahe hai.. so back up rakhna chahiye ek achha taaki life me ekdum down me nahi aana pade and study kl enjoy karte huye.. ki aapko etna jaanne ko mil raha hai.. fir bina result ke pressure ke prepare karna chahiye taaki aapke selection ke chances jyada ban sake.. aise jo b chalta hai maximum chance hai wo kuchh naa kuchh upsc se gain kar jata hai.. all d best.. maine jo experience kiya hai uske according bata raha hun.. be planner.. be mature and be positive.. it's possible to clear this exam.
@@DynamicRaghu12 age? You will give all six attempts. What is your back up. I got stressed and left prep because I felt I didn't do justice and was not able to cram so much. Age is on higher side.
@@naina0418 I'm now will be turn 32 in december.. obc aspirant hun.. ye attempt dunga again saari positivity acquire karke.. and if need huyi toh next bhi.. 25-26 years service upsc se mil jaye tab bhi enough hai.. at least hope chhodne se toh.. back up mein.. IT se hun.. abhi knhi training join kar li hai..
@@naina0418 i know personally kuchh dost hai jinki jab selection ki hope bhi kisi ko nahi thi tab bhi rise huye hai.. and proper IAS bhi liya hai.. bs apani mistakes ko dhayan me rakhna hai.. and calm cool hokar aage badhna hai.. baaki ye Bhai help kar rahe hai.. unse seekhte raho.. don't lose hope.. take a break.. take a deep breath.. ek backup le aao again jut jaao pure man se.. 😊
Thanku so much sir today itself I am feeling too much bad 😞....i left my all friends because i want to share the think that i am preparing for upsc ...they all will 💯 think that this will not gonna be happen I knew it that's why I don't tell anybody But because of this I feel very lonly..i can't share a small think about upsc to anyone...too much small thinks takes me to the region where I feel too much upset and the second step is crying And i Even Don't know why I am crying Today from your video i realise that it is very simple think thanku so much for realising me ..i think It helps me a lot when again I feel like this condition
i am prepraing for this exam but still enjoying my life i am doing my best that is what i want yr take it as exam with seriousness but dont take it as life
I don't know why but am started crying after watching your video...whatever I want that somebody come and tell me or what I want to listen you said exactly that ..kudos to your efforts nd tnku for talking to such a sensitive and imp topic..love and respect for you💖
Thank you so much for the video 🙏🏻 I just thought I am the one who is a damn frustrated but realised many people face issues may be more serious than that of ours. I am newly wed! The new family is supportive. But also they had cliched expectations. Due to extreme expectations and ego issues in the new family I developed fear, frustration, anger, stress, irritation, vulnerability and all sorted of negative emotions. I also started to fumble and stammer. Now they have quite understood what it is to be an civil service aspirant. Yet the wound of that experience is engraved deep down. I tried consulting doctors but I couldn’t get much help from them!!
If people like you are not getting selected then who actually are getting ? Thankyou so much sir for speaking about some aspirants who themselves don't speak about it !
The problem is that most of the people suffering from mental health issues during upsc prep are not financially stable. Some of them are even in debt. How do these people deal with their problems?
Thanku so much Shivin Sir I am a Big fan of you and Your videos literally and now you are my Virtual UPSC mentor Thanku thanku so much for this Amazing content .......and I learn from one thing in this video is DO something for others is also feel relax .🥰😇🙂 Bhagvaan aapko Hamesha khush rakhe
Hey .I don’t know your name but I can feel and relate with your state. I am a 2021 graduate too from medical college and aspiring for upsc. U r really giving very genuine advice.best of luck for your upcoming mains exam results.don’t worry just focus on urself na nhi go koi baat nhi .just believe on the long term goal.and my optional is anthropology too.btw would like to b in contact with you regarding study matter.
I failed in pcs mains....and I was getting unwanted messages and calls from some distant friends on WhatsApp....I'm not a nosy person, I never ask anyone about their results....I donno, why people get more impatient than you and keep on telling you that the result is out....As if I don't know !!
Psychologist par trust nahi ho paa rhaa, dar lagta hai jane se, roz rone ka man karta hai 2 saal hi hone pe aagae...2021 prelims kharab kar diya, 2022 wala bhi.....esi sthiti me dimag productive kese ho sakta hai.....esa lagta hai ki apko koi samaj hi nahi paega, ek psycatrist bhi nahi.....ye problem drugs se thik nahi hogi par i know doctor medicine hi dega, infact 1 mahine khayi bhi hai antidepressant....jeene ka vakai man nahi karta......esa lagta hai jabardasti jeeye jaa rhae hai....mar jaenge toh log kamzor bolenge, or gharwalo ko bhi bohot dukh hogA or shyaad unhe bhi duniya ki sunni pade.....par jo dukh roz khud ko ho rhA hai usse ladte nahi banta.......plsssss bhagwan esi samsya kisi ko na dena🙏
@@Magic_Insight itss okk time sab heal kar dega khud pe bharosa rakhna.....or har waqt umeed khojte rehna...believe me hamara mind ese hi kam karta hai....ise bas waqt chhea or kuch nahi
Its my second attempt, living alone since two yrs, itni jyada anxiety ho rahi h, i am unable to do my normal chores, pdhne k liye motivation nhi , muje jeene k liye motivation chahie, i don't know whats happening with me😢 suicidal thoughts, getting triggered by anything....muje ese lgra m pagal ho jaugi😢😢
I can't thank you enough for this content, this coverage, about such an imp issue. seriously thanks man. Good health and happiness to you always. Also, could you pls suggest some org or doctors from which one can seek professional help for anxiety and depression. I am really appreciative of my family and their support, but I can't talk to them about this, so if u could pls suggest.
I never comment on anyone's video but listening you today feels like someone hearing me.... It's been 3year I'm trap in this preparation and couldn't appear in prelims because of half preparation 2023 is going to my first attempt Or maybe last one also This preparation is so lonely and exhausted I've no friend to talk to and I've gone through a very very bad relationship issues that push me towards depression..... Age 26 no job experience no backup Below average student Sometimes we can't explain what we are going through and people also can't understand Thanks for this video buddy You'll crack exam for sure
i can totally relate to you buddy, about to be 25 in the same boat, but all I can say is hang in there and give your best but also know when to let go. It is something i tell myself
@@pb29647 Exactly this loop whole of the opportunity cost that i might clear next year then next next year and next.. so on is the worst. UPSC should limit the attempts at 3 for the good of our youth, making it sound like an ATTEMPT and NOT 1 more year gives the people an impression of playing a game and they continue playing it.
I'm also a upsc aspirant and I m facing all these issues having problem in concentration, anxiety ,sleepless night ,feeling of worthlessness and don't how to deal with it seeing it video got great relief
Just wants to sat Thank you ! I can't express of my view how much you helped me. You say lots of things in just 20 min . Please please if any way to contact you. Dr. anonymous ❤️
I ruined my life in UPSC preparation. because in COVID period I had to leave Delhi and went into depression & penic attack because my preparation was disturbed which was continuously from last 3 years and failour of my all last attempts,I was very sure that in 2020 I will must clear prelims but in stress I did not appear in exam my all efforts went in vain ,feelings of worthless ,pain in whole body .
Its fine , you are very strong and definitely you will overcome from the situation.....ho sake toh apni feelings or self ego k beech m differentiate karte rehna, kya pata humara ego hi hume iss buri sthiti me bandhe rakhe ho....btw me bhi isi trial me laga hu
Sir is baar aapka upsc clear ho jayega ye tanu ne kaha hain sach nahi hua to Mera naam badal dena because god will give you the fruit of your hard efforts
This guy is taking upsc to next level.
As someone who has dealt with anxiety and stress in the past and still faces it sometimes, I appreciate you for opening up and sharing your own experience. I believe that Mental Health should definitely get its due recognition in the Indian society because many of us face one or the other mental health issue in our life at some point of time.
To anyone who's is reading this comment, just remind yourself everyday that you're stronger than all your problems and that you are worthy.🌸
Was my 1st attempt this year & I gave mains, IT FEELS AS IF YOU TOLD MY EXACT STORY!!
Mains didn't go well, especially GS1 (messed up geog questions), and my 4-5 answers in paper 2&3 were total gibberish. I started getting anxiety headaches and lost interest in everything due to that guilt. The guilt that I could've revised properly, and written better GS answers. I start crying suddenly in random situations. Once I forced myself to hangout with friends and I returned from a trip midway! (friends got furious, I couldn't tell them my condition). This used to happen before prelims as well, suicide ideation thing, restlessness, etc. After I wrote mains, I had that imposter syndrome that I don't deserve anything. I went to a general physician, but now I'm looking to seek a specialist's help.
Thanks for this, I could resonate with everything you said!
I cleared Mains!!!!!!!
1st attempt, without coaching.
From suicidal thoughts to clearing mains in 1st attempt. I can't believe it!
@@suryanshupadhyay7926 All the best wishes to you. Remember to appreciate each and every win, like completing one chapter to one stage.
God bless you.
@@suryanshupadhyay7926 hi suryansh as you told us about your story I am also facing the same problem, I do study everyday but i feel I not be able to do it.
@@suryanshupadhyay7926bro plz help me
@@suryanshupadhyay7926 felt so good reading your comment.May you all your wishes come true.
You are the most genuine person I have had ever listened to.
There is something unique and fresh about the way you go about things in your life.
I will always be regular with your videos.
You are going places.
Way to go.
My key takeaway - ‘you have the right to make mistakes’
You know what after listening to your story I just feel like I'm not alone on earth with such issues. Your story gives me a lot of strength. Thank you for sharing.
aur hame lagta hai sirf humari zindagi k laude lage hue hai.... humara dukh sabse bada hai.....but you showed and the comment section shows sab apni apni ladaiyan lad rahe hain.... thank you so much bhai for this video
I'm glad I found your channel! I'm a CSE aspirant too. I think almost every aspirant goes through this phase but not everyone can come out and express! Thank you for sharing this. Tbh you give a ton of positive vibes everytime I open your channel! Keep doing what you do! I hope you clear this year with a good rank. All the best brother♥️[Not gonna call you sir even after you become an IAS officer. You're more like a big brother to all of us] Thank you once again for starting this channel!
You are a great human being. May you clear this mains, interview because country needs good officers. All the best
hello Dr Shivin!As I write this message out , you have already joined the services as an IRS officer. I am currently preparing. You may never come across this comment and I’m sure whatever I say shall be nothing new or unique. But I still want to go ahead and say it. You saved my life. On days I didn’t even know that I needed saving. I hope to one day meet you as an officer myself and thank you in person for all that you’ve done and the inspiration that you have been. I hope you stay blessed and go ahead to achieve so much success and happiness in your life .
My warmest regards and good wishes for all your future endeavours :)
whosoever you are , you are a genuine guy and you will definitely succeed my brother
Glad I found this video, last two years have been tough for me, especially for my mental health. This video was really helpful, thank you❤.
I was running highly anxious but after watching.. Feeling beeter shivin Sir.. Heartfelt thanks to you for being there for us 🍀🌱
Was literally staring at the ceiling and having stressful thoughts and doubts regarding life as your notification popped up. Thank you! :)
Your subscribers are skyrocketing 😮
Your videos are gold for serious candidates
Exactly
Your story felt extremely personal to me.. it was as if I’m listening to myself for most of the video! Thank you for sharing this. I needed this!
Thankkkkyouuu so muchhh! Can't believe how can be someone so informal in this preparation in RUclips only. This is my 1 video and after seeing this I can see you as my mentor 🥺❤ I am new to your channel 🙋♀️
this is the same anxiety ,fear of failure , identify crisis that you're having anynoums name on RUclips but why sir
you are a doctor ,well read , cracked preliminary exam ,just face the world sir
wish u all the best for future endeavours
Thank you so much sir ❤️❤️. I use to express myself in front of mirror, speaking out loud and looking for an answer to my problem, crying when things get stick in my head and these things doesn't pull me back . Instead I find more better than earlier.
Appreciate your openness and efforts to spread awareness and break the stigma!
I just want to say "THANK YOU SIR" from bottom of my heart. ❤️
I really wish you get where you want to be in your life..your videos are honest and helpful more than any toppers talk
My Best wishes to you, because maybe the country needs an officer like you . We need such balanced minds.
no words to express myself listening to your experience. I can also relate to it to some extent. Rest i can say for now is best wishes. Hope to hear from you soon that u qualified.
Always remaining down to earth and renunciation, with positive outlook, will make every person healthy.
Huge respect to you. May you achieve heights cuz people like u r hard to find. Your words act as therapy itself.
excellent...clarity of thought n expression. My daughter is preparing n such videos must be seen n understood by family also to be supportive towards your child in understanding the pressures of such exams. God bless.
Thank you for making me feel that I'm not alone
What I have got to learn from this wonderful video is ..it's ok to be kind to yourself..nd accept the bitter reality..
And it really take guts to talk about your insecurities in a public platform especially when you are into this journey..we all love you shivin.. always grateful for you selfless service.. ❤️😊🙏
You are a blessing to us. Thanks a lot for this. I don't have words to explain that what this video is meant to me.
What a timing brother, watching this on world mental health day 🥳
Felt connected to everything you shared. Really appreciate every efforts put by you.
Thankyou sir for this video, I have started preparing since july 2022 and since date of exam is coming closer, my anxiety levels are effecting the quality of study also, i not able to sleep properly
At this time hearing about the importance of mental health from some one who has cleared the exam is really peaceful
Usually hm apni baate islye dusro ko nai smjha paate bcz jo rythm may mind m baate chalrhi h feel hoti h jese sayad ye chz sahi nai chalrhi ya sayad ye chiz ko agla smjh hi nai skta ..actually thoughts ko words nai milpaate....for eg. As u told "backup doesnt means just another competetive exam" .ye baat I cudnt make my parents understnd..bt as I m proceeding through ur videos also reading the comments below .it feels tht I m not alone...n jaan k achi lagrhi ye chze♥️
Absolutelyyy lovedd this! So glad I came across this video. First time visiting your channel but this is definitely not going to be the last!
I really Appreciate your step of coming forward and sharing these important issues openly... Stay blessed brother👏🤞
Never ever think about suicide brother, even if upsc thing doesnt work out you will be a very very good doctor, and do give all the attempts life is not too short to try new things , today it is upsc tommorrow it will be something else, because at the end of the day we will be better and knowledgable person from our previous self.
this is very truly and honest video...real for any long term preparation
Thank you so much ! Yesterday I discovered your channel and wished for a video on mental health. I am dealing with similar things not too worse but similar symptoms. I jumped into this exam thinking I'm emotionally mentally very strong but sadly I was so wrong. Still I have time I will figure out what to do. I'm relieved to see it's normal among other aspirants as well. I will fix my issues and then Start preparation.
Thank you !
same problem
Thank you sir 🙏
Being girl from small village and uneducated family background , it was difficult for me to take professional help.. Wasted 3 yrs in this phase but finally come out of it stronger
How did you come out of it?
Yahi sab chl rha tha doc sahb kareeb ek hafte se sabkuch out of track ,yad aaye ap ,aapne ek had tak solution de bh dia ,feeling much relax doc sahab ....ma se dua h ki aapka interview clear hojae isbar aur ap ias bankr isi tarah wapsi kare aur kahe hello this ias doc sivin. Namskar
Bhai aapke es video ne Dil ko chhu liya hai.. 2019 me near prelims meri preparation kaafi theek chal rahi thi.. delhi me rahte huye long term me students apani health ko hi care take nahi karte.. bhul jaate hai jabki sabse first mental and physical health hi aati hai.. Delhi ka mahaul kaafi dull hota hai specially in winter season.. foggy afternoon.. evening and nights sab time Sun toh disappear hi milega.. mujhe us time Typhoid ho gya tha.. and mild anxiety aane lagi thi.. etna knowledge nahi tha ki ye sab kya ho raha hai.. and kaise deal karun.. mein hardly padhta gya.. and anxiety kaafi jyada ho gayi.. fever alag tha.. tab knhi google karke ek psychologist ko dikhaya tab pata lga severe depression ki aur aagya hun.. ab medicine hi lene hoge and stigma etna jyada hai es cheez se ki mujhe lga.. kya ho gya bc ye sab.. mind me all time thoughts running the.. bhaisab agar koi aware hokar usi time break le le.. kuchh din relax ho jaye ya medicine start me hi lena shuru kar de to bach jayega jaldi hi.. mere case me late ho jaane se severity etani jyada ho gayi thi ki 3.5 years ho gaye hai study to chal hi rahi hai per ab jakar track per again aa paya hun.. hats off ki aapne es topic per light daali hai.. Study ke sath music, hobby, fun, exercise, fruits, vegetables nutrients lene must hai.. Delhi me students dhabhe per se tiffin lete hai.. ghatiya quality ka khana zero nutrients ka milta hai..
This exam brings depression. Be surrounded with good people.
Don't prepare for this exam. It is draining.
@@naina0418 No no.. ye pura sach nahi hai.. Upsc only exam hai ek achhi life ke liye.. but desh ke baaki log jo bureaucracy me nahi hai wo sab bhi khushi se jee rahe hai.. so back up rakhna chahiye ek achha taaki life me ekdum down me nahi aana pade and study kl enjoy karte huye.. ki aapko etna jaanne ko mil raha hai.. fir bina result ke pressure ke prepare karna chahiye taaki aapke selection ke chances jyada ban sake.. aise jo b chalta hai maximum chance hai wo kuchh naa kuchh upsc se gain kar jata hai.. all d best.. maine jo experience kiya hai uske according bata raha hun.. be planner.. be mature and be positive.. it's possible to clear this exam.
@@DynamicRaghu12 age?
You will give all six attempts.
What is your back up.
I got stressed and left prep because I felt I didn't do justice and was not able to cram so much. Age is on higher side.
@@naina0418 I'm now will be turn 32 in december.. obc aspirant hun.. ye attempt dunga again saari positivity acquire karke.. and if need huyi toh next bhi.. 25-26 years service upsc se mil jaye tab bhi enough hai.. at least hope chhodne se toh.. back up mein.. IT se hun.. abhi knhi training join kar li hai..
@@naina0418 i know personally kuchh dost hai jinki jab selection ki hope bhi kisi ko nahi thi tab bhi rise huye hai.. and proper IAS bhi liya hai.. bs apani mistakes ko dhayan me rakhna hai.. and calm cool hokar aage badhna hai.. baaki ye Bhai help kar rahe hai.. unse seekhte raho.. don't lose hope.. take a break.. take a deep breath.. ek backup le aao again jut jaao pure man se.. 😊
Thanku sir.....u are doing great job.....u are true gem for struggling aspirants 🙏
Thanku so much sir today itself I am feeling too much bad 😞....i left my all friends because i want to share the think that i am preparing for upsc ...they all will 💯 think that this will not gonna be happen I knew it that's why I don't tell anybody
But because of this I feel very lonly..i can't share a small think about upsc to anyone...too much small thinks takes me to the region where I feel too much upset and the second step is crying
And i Even Don't know why I am crying
Today from your video i realise that it is very simple think thanku so much for realising me ..i think It helps me a lot when again I feel like this condition
share with me...i will understand u completely!!
Thanks for being so open and real❤
i am prepraing for this exam but still enjoying my life i am doing my best that is what i want yr take it as exam with seriousness but dont take it as life
Hey
This was so useful
Thank you
Thank you so much
Wish you all the best
going for therapy, was the best decision of my life. thanks for being upfront.
I don't know why but am started crying after watching your video...whatever I want that somebody come and tell me or what I want to listen you said exactly that ..kudos to your efforts nd tnku for talking to such a sensitive and imp topic..love and respect for you💖
Listening to you feels like therapy itself!
Brother I just want to thank you wholeheartedly for making this video.
Thank you so much for the video 🙏🏻
I just thought I am the one who is a damn frustrated but realised many people face issues may be more serious than that of ours. I am newly wed! The new family is supportive. But also they had cliched expectations. Due to extreme expectations and ego issues in the new family I developed fear, frustration, anger, stress, irritation, vulnerability and all sorted of negative emotions. I also started to fumble and stammer. Now they have quite understood what it is to be an civil service aspirant. Yet the wound of that experience is engraved deep down. I tried consulting doctors but I couldn’t get much help from them!!
Thanks doc ! I am facing these issues and this is really imp that you discuss ! At some point of time i was going to seek therapy
If people like you are not getting selected then who actually are getting ? Thankyou so much sir for speaking about some aspirants who themselves don't speak about it !
The problem is that most of the people suffering from mental health issues during upsc prep are not financially stable. Some of them are even in debt. How do these people deal with their problems?
It will be better to make some money first and then dive into upsc with that savings.
Your voice is so good👌#It reflects that you are an awesome human being#I will pray ki ap select ho🙏
I just discovered your channel and your video about mental health issues is really good. My best wishes for your results 🌼☘️
Thanku so much Shivin Sir I am a Big fan of you and Your videos literally and now you are my Virtual UPSC mentor Thanku thanku so much for this Amazing content .......and I learn from one thing in this video is DO something for others is also feel relax .🥰😇🙂 Bhagvaan aapko Hamesha khush rakhe
Quite relatable. Thanks and lots of support to you.
Thank you 🙏😌
You are 💎
thnkyu very much Shivam
this was much needed sir .. I am glad to find your channel. thank you very much.
Hey .I don’t know your name but I can feel and relate with your state. I am a 2021 graduate too from medical college and aspiring for upsc. U r really giving very genuine advice.best of luck for your upcoming mains exam results.don’t worry just focus on urself na nhi go koi baat nhi .just believe on the long term goal.and my optional is anthropology too.btw would like to b in contact with you regarding study matter.
The way he expressed 🧡
I failed in pcs mains....and I was getting unwanted messages and calls from some distant friends on WhatsApp....I'm not a nosy person, I never ask anyone about their results....I donno, why people get more impatient than you and keep on telling you that the result is out....As if I don't know !!
One thing just say: THANK YOU : ) ✨
Dua karti hun ki sab sehat salamat rahey Or sab kamyab ho 💖🤲🏻🙏🏻
Really brave dude. Respect.
Sir you are so strong that you came out of the heart break up
Bhai love your videos. You are gonna be superstar sooner or later for sure.
You did it sir✌️🥰
Thank you 😊. Good wishes to you ❣️
thank you..May God bless you🙏
Psychologist par trust nahi ho paa rhaa, dar lagta hai jane se, roz rone ka man karta hai 2 saal hi hone pe aagae...2021 prelims kharab kar diya, 2022 wala bhi.....esi sthiti me dimag productive kese ho sakta hai.....esa lagta hai ki apko koi samaj hi nahi paega, ek psycatrist bhi nahi.....ye problem drugs se thik nahi hogi par i know doctor medicine hi dega, infact 1 mahine khayi bhi hai antidepressant....jeene ka vakai man nahi karta......esa lagta hai jabardasti jeeye jaa rhae hai....mar jaenge toh log kamzor bolenge, or gharwalo ko bhi bohot dukh hogA or shyaad unhe bhi duniya ki sunni pade.....par jo dukh roz khud ko ho rhA hai usse ladte nahi banta.......plsssss bhagwan esi samsya kisi ko na dena🙏
I know it's been a year, how are you doing in your life right now?
How are you doing bhai
I know brother
Same feeling 😢
@@Magic_Insight itss okk time sab heal kar dega khud pe bharosa rakhna.....or har waqt umeed khojte rehna...believe me hamara mind ese hi kam karta hai....ise bas waqt chhea or kuch nahi
Its my second attempt, living alone since two yrs, itni jyada anxiety ho rahi h, i am unable to do my normal chores, pdhne k liye motivation nhi , muje jeene k liye motivation chahie, i don't know whats happening with me😢 suicidal thoughts, getting triggered by anything....muje ese lgra m pagal ho jaugi😢😢
Just wow
Well said.... 👍
I can't thank you enough for this content, this coverage, about such an imp issue. seriously thanks man. Good health and happiness to you always.
Also, could you pls suggest some org or doctors from which one can seek professional help for anxiety and depression. I am really appreciative of my family and their support, but I can't talk to them about this, so if u could pls suggest.
Tbh watching this video itself felt like therapy! 💕
This is brave, thankyou ❤
I wish lavkarch tula interview sathi call yava....Thanks a lot...In past 2 days i m just sticking to your channel....
Thank you. You rock brother.
I never comment on anyone's video but listening you today feels like someone hearing me....
It's been 3year I'm trap in this preparation and couldn't appear in prelims because of half preparation
2023 is going to my first attempt
Or maybe last one also
This preparation is so lonely and exhausted
I've no friend to talk to and I've gone through a very very bad relationship issues that push me towards depression.....
Age 26 no job experience no backup
Below average student
Sometimes we can't explain what we are going through and people also can't understand
Thanks for this video buddy
You'll crack exam for sure
i can totally relate to you buddy, about to be 25 in the same boat, but all I can say is hang in there and give your best but also know when to let go. It is something i tell myself
Sailing in the same boat mate , i am about to be 25 and man this sucks.
@@pb29647 Exactly this loop whole of the opportunity cost that i might clear next year then next next year and next.. so on is the worst. UPSC should limit the attempts at 3 for the good of our youth, making it sound like an ATTEMPT and NOT 1 more year gives the people an impression of playing a game and they continue playing it.
Bro same with me I m 26 now and when I failed everyone left me .. I said everyone... No backup no finance really feeling trapped... But not anymore .
I'm also a upsc aspirant and I m facing all these issues having problem in concentration, anxiety ,sleepless night ,feeling of worthlessness and don't how to deal with it seeing it video got great relief
Thank you so much, I needed this video at this point of my life
Wow that's soth i would also advertise openly to end the stigma around mental health
Thank u sir for sharing this ♥️really this is too much helpful for us .
Thank you sir …..what a great videos
You are just awesome bro!!
BRILLIANT thanks alot....
I know u can and u will clear the exam one day my friend.
Best of luck 🤞
You saved my life 😢.
Broooo
Just wants to sat Thank you !
I can't express of my view how much you helped me. You say lots of things in just 20 min . Please please if any way to contact you. Dr. anonymous ❤️
I ruined my life in UPSC preparation. because in COVID period I had to leave Delhi and went into depression & penic attack because my preparation was disturbed which was continuously from last 3 years and failour of my all last attempts,I was very sure that in 2020 I will must clear prelims but in stress I did not appear in exam my all efforts went in vain ,feelings of worthless ,pain in whole body .
13:00 i hate to say this but i am going through all of these things. It's been 4 years and i totally lost myself. Btw thanks for guidance!❤️
Be strong brother
Together we will win over this
@@vanarraja1940 thanks bro !
Its fine , you are very strong and definitely you will overcome from the situation.....ho sake toh apni feelings or self ego k beech m differentiate karte rehna, kya pata humara ego hi hume iss buri sthiti me bandhe rakhe ho....btw me bhi isi trial me laga hu
Thankyou sir for making this video. Thanks alot!💛
This hit me hard.Currently my situation.Feeling even more scared.
Thank You !
Feeling better now and I will go to psychologist if need.
Yeh baat sahi boli ki kisi ko aapki pdiii hiii nhiii h...
Sir is baar aapka upsc clear ho jayega ye tanu ne kaha hain sach nahi hua to Mera naam badal dena because god will give you the fruit of your hard efforts
Thanks bro , really it was a very helpful video at this point of my life🙏 🙌