I'm Sober ... This is my Story 🦋
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no one should EVER EVER EVER make someone feel guilty for not drinking. that is mind-blowing
Yeah, that is about the dumbest thing I’ve heard
@@Nicolee1973, all my colleagues think and told me I must lead a boring life because I don't drink. They have asked me how can I enjoy myself if I am always sober.
I’ve been judge and made feel guilty A LOT bc I don’t drink. Specially when I go out with coworkers which honestly has made me not want to hang out with people. I don’t judge people who drunk and I don’t like when people judge me for not drinking. It just doesn’t feel nice
@@ChrissieSM yeah and I always wonder how you have any fun being drunk nowadays my friends drink I do not I go out and hang out with them. I’m usually their designated driver and I have just as much fun as they do. Watching drunk people is hilarious.
It’s a real thing in the western world tho, most people can’t comprehend the fact that some people don’t drink, for them you can’t have a social life if you don’t drink.
I'm 46 days sober. No amount of alcohol can replace my clear thoughts and emotions. Thank you for sharing.
You’re doing great!!! That mindset is key!
so proud of you!!
Proud of you ❤ keep going, you got this 💪🏽
Proud of you 🎉❤. Keep up the good work, and just remember, if 1 day at a time is too much, try for 1 hour at a time and go from there. ❤❤❤
Congratulations. I know it’s hard and I also have faith that you will do this! Prayers for your recovery!
I'm clean for 36 years, sober for 23 years, nicotine free for 18 years. 😂 Being sober feels great! Congratulations Tati! 🎉❤🎉
Just about the same for me.
We are all amazing!!!❤❤❤❤
what is the difference between clean and sober. like how can you be not sober but be "clean" ?
@@beemily I guess clean= drug free, sober= alcohol free
@@gigiw.7650 wow congratulations!!!
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I was a IV heroin addict. I died twice, had a stroke, got hep c and my veins are ruined, let alone my mental health. Addiction is awful. You talking about this is amazing. I stopped watching makeup videos for a while, but seeing this from you made me so happy. Thank you. Sober almost 7 years now. Still struggling financially and mentally from my mistakes
One thing addicts know how to do is beat themselves up. Stop beating yourself up! You've beat the worst demon there is. Congratulations!
I saw that you want to make videos, as soon as you get a good camera. I think you could start right now, with your phone camera! People want to hear what you have to say
Congratulations for turning things around. Things will get better for you.
Hey. 45 yo ex IV heroin addict here too--also with seven years sober (05 Mar 2017)!
Got married in 2018, have had the same house since 2019, I beat cancer (since 2022), even quit smoking for more than three years.
Life still sucks sometimes. Often. I'm poor as hell. Anxiety is outta control. I was laid off from my longtime job. However--now we don't have to worry about being sick every day--and that's HUGE.
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I am SO SO SO SO SO proud of you!
I just got out of the hospital yesterday with Pancreatitis from alcoholism. 7 days sober today.
❤ you don’t have to do it alone. Lots of love and prayers headed your way! 😊
You are strong, you are brave, and you can do this! I won't lie and tell you it's easy. I will tell you it's so worth it to know that you are finally in control, not your addiction!
I'm 3 just days ahead of you. Currently, finished 10 days working on day 11. The first week was easy, but the last few days have been hard. I hope you heal fast and stay sober =)
Jesus loves you! Praying for you friend🩷
One day at a time ...just go through the day!! You can and will do it! Hugs and prayers your way
75 And 40 years sober... Way to go Tati!!! I'm so proud of you!!!
❤ Amazing.
That's awesome!!!
Congratulations 🎉
Wow! Congrats!! 🎉❤
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My momma drank years before i was born, while pregnant with me, and years after. She was the most functional alcoholic youve ever met. Most people didnt know she was intoxicated 20+ hours a day. Alcoholism almost killed her TWICE. I was 35 when i first met my momma sober. Im 40 now. She celebrated her 5th year sober on 8/28/2024.
My dad has struggled with alcohol most of my life and seems similar to your mom. My biggest dream is for him to stop drinking. This gives me hope at 33 years old ❤
@marlytraver8844 I'm so sorry you (and your dad) are struggling. She almost died her first time while being hospitalized for a lung infection. Detox almost killed her. Then the second time, it was liver disease.
She's back to normal liver enzymes, and we have the best relationship ever now. There is hope, but hard boundaries can be tough to enforce. And they have to want it.
This is a beautiful story for sure. It’s made me realize though that at 25 years old I have never met my father sober and probably never will 😭
@samanthaallen6501 thank you. And never give up hope. My momma never planned to quit drinking. If it weren't for the illness (bronchitis that led to an unknown lung infection) that landed her in the hospital, she wouldn't have known she could do it.
Thank God she finally got sober, were there any side effects of her drinking while pregnant with you?
I’m 16 years sober (I’m 44 years old). Every time I tell people I don’t drink they look at me like I have a third eye. It was one of the best decisions of my life. Thanks for sharing!
21:25 ‼️ “my life does NOT suck! I am a self made millionaire, former addict, high school dropout” You are an amazing, inspirational human being! ❤
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That’s such gold!! Very inspiring 👏✨
No one should make you feel bad for not drinking. I’m sorry that people made you feel bad for it.
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I hardly ever drink and ppl make me feel bad, and the worst is the service I receive at restaurants!
My friends are retired and drink daily. I drink (beer, probably 3) on the weekend. When I go out and choose not to drink (bc of calories or bc I love my healthy lver) when they question me I feel like maybe I should just say I am on antibiotics but guess what? IT IS NO ONE'S BUSINESS!!!!
It's odd to me people give people crap for not drinking. I've always been on the tee totaler side. I've never had anyone make me feel bad for that. I feel thankful for that.
I was a terrible addict. I've been sober for many years. God is good🤍🕊
Proud of you guys in these comments!!
Congratulations on your sobriety
God is so good! You are an overcomer. What a wonderful testimony ❤
I’m one year sober today. Thank you for sharing your story.
Keep coming back❤
Congratulations!!
I needed to go to rehab before starting my apprenticeship for hair styling. Everyone told me to lie to my boss, make up elaborate stories etc, and one day I woke up and I thought “just be absolutely honest about what you need to do”. I told him straight up, not only did he wait for me to finish rehab but I’m still working for him years later and quite successfully. You’d be surprised how many people will be impressed with your sheer honesty even if you aren’t perfect.
💯 so true! I'm happy for your success!
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Well done, I have been in the industry for over 25years and have seen so many people go off track and don’t ask for help and just stop, congrats xx
Tati you helped me go another day sober because ive been struggling so hard and never imagined someone like you who ive been watching for years would have the same struggle
This is exactly what I was talking about, all walks of people struggle and well known or not, you are important and should get help! Sunshine awaits!
Hold on and be strong - there is so much waiting for you that is good! ❤
STAY STRONG!!! YOU CAN BEAT THIS!!!!!
You’ve got this. You go gurl 🎉❤😊
Try diatomaceous earth make sure it's 100% food grade wipes out any cravings
I’m 6 years sober (this week) from 28 years of opiates use/abuse. ❤❤ Will always support & love you Tati
Congratulations. That’s a lot of year’s habits to break, you’re so strong! I hope your life keeps getting better & easier as time goes by
6 years sober from opiates as well, April, congratulations! 💗
Awesome!!! Congratulations on your hard work and taking care of you!❤❤❤
Congratulations!! ❤ that’s amazing
@@kristyluv7925 happy birthday 🙂💕
I really hope you read this. I'm 8 years sober. I was in a very dark place in my life changing country going through divorce that made me lose almost everything, and lost my job all within 6 months. All that threw me in a dark place that made me don't really care about anything including my well being. I know that this may seem unbelievable but around that time I started watching your videos Tati started doing my make up like you and it made me feel better, at that time I watched almost all your chanal videos and started waiting for every new one. I am in a country where rehab is not a thing, and I couldn't tell anyone in my family about my issues. I had to push through it all by myself, my family started supporting me when I was almost at the edge. Your videos and your positive energy helped me a lot at that time, I always want to tell you that and to thank you for somehow helping me. I am in a much better place in my life, found my soulmate and we started a family. I am now an expert in my career and very happy where I am. Thank you Tati ❤
Sober life is a good life.
When I first got sober (03/07/19), I didn’t know what to do with my time. I got into house plants and would buy a new plant every time I wanted to drink. I think in the first 90 days I accumulated 75 house plants lol. It was a lovely and positive new obsession while I was learning how to navigate life sober.
Thank you for sharing your story- just goes to show we DO recover. I’m so proud of you. 💝
That’s an amazing testimony ❤ So proud of you! 👏🏼
This is GREAT advice. Turn your energy and honestly (money) into something wayyy more beneficial. Way to go girl. 🌱
I started gardening when I stopped drinking, and I swear each flower that blooms reminds me good things can come when we focus on cultivating and not numbing. Proud of you!! 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Thank you for sharing. I’m going to share that with my friends struggling with addiction. How beautiful. I will remember this story forever.
I love this. Congrats❤
I’m sober 13 years. At rock bottom, I’d hide in closets so I could drink my vodka in peace. I have three DUIs and have been to jail. Now I help people in recovery like me get sober. Thanks for sharing your story Tati. We do recover!🎉❤
Congratulations 🥳 that’s always worth celebrating
Congratulations. I've been sober for 7 years now. :) I think I've only stayed this way because I got pregnant and had children and thank God I was able to cut all the opiates from my life , and it wasn't a short easy addiction either. Probably since I was around 14 years old. After having my tonsils out I started taking my medicine way too frequently and ended up going down the habit hole.
Love all of you survivors❤
Congratulations ❤
@@jaynedavis3388- thank you so much!
@@shaunameghannyou’re a warrior. What an incredible story- something to be proud of for sure. Congratulations love! ❤️
1754 days sober. I quit drinking to support my husband, who is coming up on 2000 days. We have our sober dates stored in the Pink Cloud app; occasionally, we get curious to see how many days/months/years have passed. Time flies! It was the best thing we ever did for our life, marriage, and family. I rarely comment on videos but I wanted to commend you on sharing such a deeply personal story. I am sure you have helped hundreds or even thousands of people by doing that. Way to pay it forward.
Inspiring! Your support for your husband is admirable, alcohol is a silent killer and life gets much better when you realize how important and meaningful you are when you’re sober!
Any one that judges you for not drinking is not your friend. Your true friends love and support you no matter what.
100 percent!!
Birds of a feather like to flock together!
exactly. I think getting sober also teaches you who your real friends are. you might lose some, but those were people that hung around you because they were in similar toxic patterns. If they don't see you getting sober as sth good, it's best to cut those influences out of your life, even if it hurts to lose someone.
Well, they weren’t friends. She was basically at a networking mixer. It’s was basically a stranger who singled her out and ridiculed her
@@viviangod_win Still not cool for a client or anyone to judge you for not drinking. They were not professional my opinion.
I'm 27 and so lost in life. No money, always broke, no career, no house, no relationships, struggling, trying my best to survive while supporting my elderly parents, body always breaking from all the stress. Really felt like giving up and be done with my life. Felt like there was no future for me.
When I heard that Tati also went thru the same thing in her 20's, it brings me some sort of comfort realizing this would just be another phase in my life that I can sit back and remember one day. Hope the future can offer me some sort of relief from all of these 😂 thank you for the inspiration Tati ❤
Keep going. ❤
I have lived through some pretty hard things that I never imagined I could have and lost those closest to me. I know how hard it is to watch and care for sick parents. IT IS SO HARD. I remebered thinking I couldnt survive it either. I was broke as well, a single parent and widow. But i just kept putting one foot in front of the other. I give myself sometimes small tasks, and allow myself to enjoy the victories of even most trival simple things in life. We are all so much stronger than we realized. Your a good peson for helping your parents and will never have regret that you didnt do right by them. I promise things eventually will get better❤ will be praying for you and your family.
Hi lovely you'll get there. In my 20s I thought I'd be in a box down under by the time I was 30: I had alcohol, opioid & cocaine issues, dysfunctional relationships & bipolar disorder that I was self medicating. Now I'm 39 with a career as a mental health nurse, a home, a son, a fiancé. It can still be difficult & the bipolar gets me down but I've got over the worst of it 😊. I'm thinking of you ❤
I’m in my 40s and if I could go back and tell my 27 year old self where I got to I don’t know I could have believed it. You can do it ❤
Don't give up. Keep going. Bad times will pass, perserveer. You're important to this world.
A year ago on 7/31/2023, I took my last drink of alcohol. I married a man who has over 20 years of sobriety. He helped me quit and I have never been better physically, mentally and spiritually. God IS good - all the time. I am so proud of you and thankful for your transparency. Many hugs.
How did he help you? My BF is a alcoholic and I'd like to help to him if and when he's ready.
@@stephanieturner6692 my bf is too and it breaks my heart to see it happen every day.
I had my last drink the same day as you! I'm 55 and last year, the Holy Spirit delivered me from my addiction to alcohol! God is so good and I also am so thankful for Tati and her story❤🩹🙏🦋
Congratulations 🎉❤
GOD IS GOOD! ALL THE TIME! Hallelujah sister.
I’m 10 months sober. This is my third attempt. Thank you for sharing your story. So many of us hide in the dark. Sharing your story will help people.
hearing you talk about how michelle’s videos helped you during your recovery was so heartwarming, because YOUR videos did the same for me ❤️
I’ve struggled with depression, anxiety, insomnia, and ptsd for years, but the worst was about 6 years ago when I was in college. I was so depressed I could barely get out of bed, but I would also go days with very little sleep, no matter how exhausted I was. I was in such a bad place, that I would regularly contemplate taking my own life. but as stupid as it sounds, your videos were pivotal in getting me through that. sometimes when you’re suicidal, it feels too overwhelming to try and think about the “big” reasons to live (like your family, friends, loved ones, etc.). sometimes, it’s the smallest things that keep you going. for me, it was knowing that each day I would have a new video of yours to watch. your voice was so soothing and you always had the best energy, and it would help quiet my mind for a few minutes. for months, the only way I could fall asleep was if one of your videos was playing in the background. those short 15-30 minutes would make the other 23.5 hours of the day bearable for me.
I’m in a much better place now, but you will ALWAYS have a lifelong supporter in me… simply because you were there when it felt like nobody else was (whether you knew it or not). never underestimate your own gift and the immense impact you have on so many of us. we love you, and thank you for letting us into little pieces of your life for so many years ❤🫶🏻🦋
👏🥹 Well said. 💯
This is beautiful, you’re so strong!
I can’t relate to falling asleep to her voice too. There were moments in my life I didn’t know what to do with myself or how to keep going and those 20/30 min indeed brought me joy.
I’m so happy you’re here and you fought ❤ keep going warrior, you being in this world is important!! ❤
Nothing you said sounds stupid. It sounds amazing!
I'm still so relieved she's back because she does the same for me!
After almost 20 years of addiction, I’m 1 year and 3 months sober. Thank you my dear Tati for opening your heart to us so we can do the same.
congratulations! Thats amazing
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So proud of you!! 👏🏼 amazing job
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I'm not sober but will be one day. You are such an inspiration Tati. Love you sooo much!
Once you decide that you are ready for recovery, know that you can succeed!! I wish you all the best, be safe and healthy in the meantime! ❤
You can do it ❤❤❤
Best wishes, friend. One day you won’t carry this burden.
I believe in you❤
You can do it prayers
63 years old and clean since I was 23. You just seem so truly happy to have all this off your chest. So happy for you and James both. Good vibes coming at you! ✌️✌️✌️
Youre not just a former addict youre a RECOVERED addict. Dont down play your journey and sobriety. Ever. Its a daily choice to stay sober and such a huge accomplishment and strength. No matter what people think. It takes strength and courage and determination. Im so freaking proud of you and james! ❤❤
In that system you never say recovered. You always say you’re recovering.
@@Sunflower_Catsit isn't recovered it's just a matter of not drinking addicts are never fully recovered
You could not be more wrong - please don’t tell people what they should call themselves that have been through the journey. You evidently have not. You are NEVER recovered.
@@laurenruccio5835exactly
I am currently dealing with alcoholism, and Tati this video was so unexpected but it truly spoke to me and I believe God is using you to help others 💖 You truly inspire me to fight for my sobriety! 😇
Please, for yourself and those who love you, fight.
Keep fighting to be sober.
My brother in law, whom I adored, died suddenly in November last year. I'm still devastated and my sister is bereft. He's left a huge hole in our lives.
You are so valuable and so precious, please fight.
All my love xxx
If you’ve never attempted recovery, it’s tough sometimes but very worth it! Apologies for the unsolicited advice, but recovery isn’t one size fits all. Sometimes an inpatient center is the best option, sometimes out patient, some people stay sober with just NA or AA and some can do it with a one on one therapist. If one doesn’t work for you, try another one. Either way, as long as you keep trying, you’ll be okay.
Tati did not acknowledge God the Father or Jesus in her healing journey..She acknowledged Phan.....Something is off in her story..
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10:09 😇🙏🏼💞
@@janemadarang7453 There is nothing off in her story. You don't have to have religion to get sober.
As a detox nurse, hearing someone who works in substance abuse blame the addict is absolutely heartbreaking. As someone with 2 parents for addicts that’s heartbreaking. Substance abuse and mental health tie together, people use substances to cope with the overwhelming feelings or substance abuse induces mental issues. Addiction is a disease. Coming out with your story, makes you more human to people who watch you through social media. Substance abuse inspires me so much, and it’s inspiring seeing people get clean and change their life. It may take a few time and that’s okay! When you’re ready, the help is here!
So many addicts are addicts because of addiction. Nothing in their life made them do it. A few were inspired by boredom. We ALL had issues, childhood traumas, but not all search for a quick pill solution. So, yes, I do blame the addicts for addiction.
Agreed. When I heard that someone working with addicts thought "addicts are the worst" it broke my heart. I used to work in a rehab clinic with both inpatient and outpatient clients and they were my favorite part of the job.
You see them come in and many are grouchy and angry and didn't think they need to be there but had been court ordered there... Then after a couple of weeks you start seeing the change in them where they're grateful and helpful and more kind and it just keeps growing. That was my favorite part.
My partner is 5 years sober and the change from alcoholic to recovering alcoholic is dramatic. I don't know how I got so lucky to be tied to a recovering alcoholic lol. Which seems strange to say but, he's the best human I have ever known.
@@bosnian_beautyI think that what you fail to recognize is that addiction is a disease of the brain. A disease is a disorder of a structure or function in a human, animal, or plant. To put it very plainly, their brain is broken. They have kind of a "broken feedback loop" (as my SO puts it) that makes them believe that the drug or alcohol is the solution to all of their problems. They become preoccupied with the thoughts of their intoxicant and when they don't get it and they go into withdrawal they have negative and sometimes life threatening physical changes and side affects.
Someone who does not have the disease of addiction is not an addict. There are people who can drink repeatedly to the point of intoxication for extended periods of time and then just quit and have no preoccupation or withdrawal symptoms afterwards. And there are those who cannot. The difference is that one has a disease and the other does not.
Thank you for saying this I'm a mental health nurse & prior to becoming a professional utilised substances to deal with my bipolar & undiagnosed ADHD. Now I'm on controlled stimulants ironically I no longer feel the need for substances or alcohol. I think this is a big issue for us with undiagnosed ADHD.
@@bosnian_beauty addiction is a disease. Nothing can force them to do substances, but to say nothing in their life made them do it is just ignorant. Just because it’s possible to manage trauma in a healthy way doesn’t mean it’s easy. Substances are dangerous. You can have your whole life together and one experimental night can ruin it, that substance can grab a hold of your life and it does. Do you think it’s easy living in today’s world? You cannot live the way you want unless you can afford to, and most people can’t afford to. Most people work pay check to pay check with no rewards, nothing to look forward to besides that substance. It’s a hard world and you should be a lending hand instead of blaming others, when clearly you don’t understand the means of addiction.
Been clean (coke) for 5ish years now, the reason I got sober was because we had some fent mixed in with our coke and the group of us woke up to one of us dead and it scared me straight into rehab. I hate that someone had to die for me to get sober but I also know that without that moment I'd probably be dead too. You have been an important icon in my life even before I went down the rabbit hole, you were a light in my deep dark depression, I love makeup and it gets me through hard days. Tati, you are my Michelle. Thank you for everything, including sharing your story.
PLEASE don't ever be ashamed of being clean and sober. Tati, I am SO PROUD of you.
I’m newly sober, and stuff keeps popping up, little signs that I’m on the right track. You sharing your story is one of them. Thank you, Tati ❤
me too!!
Keep going ladies it only gets better!
A suggestion AA. Watch and listen to those that have done it. I have 9.6 years of solid sobriety.
Tati is another example of consistency and integrity in sobriety!
I had no idea at 45 I would wind up a wino. My children were off to college and I said to myself, “ My turn”!
However, I became scared. Why? I was not able to control my drinking. I did not trust myself. I will never forget it. Tati and I have 13:22 the end was similar to Tati. 😢😮
Now, hope and help is there for anyone! The courage and resilience as one decide to turn the Titanic around is the greatest gift you will receive for you. You are worth it.
I feel grateful and am thankful to those that showed me the way.
Let AA love you until you can love yourself. ❤😅😊❤
Being sober is an incredible thing to talk about. Proud of you for talking about this in your safe space. You are glowing.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss
I truly never thought I'd see a sober day. I was drinking 1.75L of vodka every 48 hours by myself. (I'm 5'8" and 110lbs soaking wet to put that into perspective)
I developed chronic pancreatitis, I ended up drinking so much all my organs were swollen, my eyes and nails were yellow and my kidneys were failing etc
I'd get hospitalized, get IVS, hydrated, they'd get me normal... I'd get out, go home and go right back to drinking.
Finally, I was hospitalized 5-25-22 for internal bleeding. They fixed me up and my doctor (who had been the same doctor the last 6-7 ER trips for drinking) said 'Do you have a bucket list?" I was like "yeah, why?"
He said "if you're going to keep drinking the way you have been, you may want to start checking some of those things off ..and while you're at it, finalize any plans you have for your boys to be taken care of when you do die because it's around the corner"
And then he walked out...
The harshest reality check was him basically being like "yep, you're going to die so be sure to do xyz"
That was the last time I had a drop and have been sober ever since. #wedorecover
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Wow. That is the harshest but also most compassionate reality check I've ever heard.
Wow, that is truly inspirational! Bless you on your continued journey! I know it couldn't have been easy to get through that level of detox. You must be an amazingly strong person and have a great team of people to help you heal! ❤
@@devonhealy4553 I appreciate your kind words. Admitting I had a problem TRULY was the first step. Because I took care of my family, I held a job, I paid my bills etc... Alcohol is so socially accepted that I was thinking I deserved those drinks ya know? The difference was it was ACTUALLY killing me, if I didn't drink.. I couldn't function.
So glad to be sober and feels good not to wake up feeling like death every day lol
I know someone who’s drinking at that exact same rate. How long did you drink to that extent before you got sick?
I have been sober 16 years. My son was the reason I went to rehab, he needed a stable parent and present parent. We lost his dad 3 months after I started this journey to the same thing I was battling. 8 years later, my daughter was born 11/14/15, 8 years to the day my sobriety. She truly was a gift that I know wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for sobriety.
Wow!!! 16 years!! That is absolutely wonderful. I know getting and remaining sober can be difficult. Especially with the way that society looks at people with addiction issues. It’s a shame because I really feel like addiction is a disease and people with other diseases aren’t treated that way. Congratulations on 16 years of sobriety!! ❤❤
I'm so sorry you have gone through so much, especially so soon into your journey through sobriety. I am happy you are still here though, and I hope life continues to bless you with beautiful gifts like it did on your anniversary.
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Nicole Angemi, who is a pathologist & Internet personality, wrote this:
“Alcohol is poison. Drinking is the fine art of poisoning yourself just enough to feel good, but not enough to die.”
I love this. Thanks for sharing that!
That is a true and powerful statement!🤔
My Dad died aged 51 in the ICU because his liver disintegrated from all the alcohol he drank. My Mum subsequently met another guy a bit younger than her. They were going to marry (I adored him as a potential Step Dad) but my sister caused issues and they split. He met and married someone else and the new partner got him into drinking. They also split after a few years of marriage and a couple of kids. His son went to visit him one boxing day and found him dead at the bottom of the stairs. Turns out he'd got hammered the night before and fallen down the stairs and it killed him. He was 51 too. I've never had much tolerance for drinking as it triggers acid reflux and migraines for me, and I can totally relate to being made to feel like a social leper for not wanting to drink and it really p**s me off. Like you're made to feel like a party pooper, the miserable one, you can't possibly have a fun night if you're sober etc. The only un-fun thing about being the sober one on a night out is watching the people you're with losing control and vomiting. I can be a fun person without alcohol, I don't need it to be funny or jolly.
Thank you Tati for sharing your past - nothing to be ashamed of, in fact I have even more respect for your candour and celebrate your recovery. ❤❤❤
@@finleysmom-o8z Truth!!!!!
Omg I love her!!
Thank you Tati. I am that one person you are helping. I needed to hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. 🦋 I’ve been a follower for years. This video means a lot. “This is what normal ppl do” but it’s not / shouldn’t be normalized to drink poison. I admire your vulnerability & willingness to share your story.
I’m in recovery from IV opiates & have been a substance abuse counselor for 6 years. I now own a women’s sober living house. I didn’t think I could love you any more but I do. Your strength is astonishing & your heart is beautiful! 🩷congrats to you & James! Can’t wait to hear his story.
I love this ❤
Congratulations on your sobriety! When strength isn’t enough, discipline will kick in. Incredible job ❤
That’s amazing! My brother has a similar story with alcoholism. He is now a substance abuse counselor and runs a sober living house (he just doesn’t own it but they placed him there to lead it).
Congratulations to you!
That’s beautiful. I too went the same route, always wanted to help others in that way fight it.
I’m 27 and 3.5 years sober. Thanks for sharing your story 💕 we need to normalize sobriety. The only way to get through it is in community with others ❤
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Yes!! 100%
I don't struggle with addiction, but my husband does, and I completely agree with you that sobriety should be normalized. I wish people didn't feel so ashamed to share their experiences. The strength it takes to overcome addiction is something that should be praised.
Yes! Instead of normalizing drinking, we need to normalize sobriety! ❤
I have been sober for 4 years, 9 months, and 11 days. I never thought it was possible - alcohol was everything to me, until after dozens of attempts to quit, it finally clicked and I realized it had the power to take everything that was actually important away from me. Congratulations on your sobriety, and thank you for using your platform to share your journey! ❤
That's awesome!!! Keep going!!!
Thank you for sharing. Awesome!!
So proud of you! ❤
Sober 14 years, best thing I've ever done for myself.
My dad was 27 years sober when he passed away. I was 13 years old when he hit bottom and quit drinking. He went to AA meetings all the time and continued to until he passed. Please don’t be ashamed. I am so proud of you. The first weekend he quit was the AA convention in Tulsa. It was divine intervention I think. Love you Tati. Keep up the good work.
I’m sat in the uk at 10am rn necking a bottle of vodka , this comment hit hard and will stick with me ….
I lost my dad too but under different circumstances, nobody can fathom how awful it is losing a parent unless they have ,
I’m so sorry for your loss and Thankyou for spreading awareness as it literally can save lives
Wow, it’s like you just wrote about my life, except I’m from NYC. My dad wasn’t the only alcoholic, ALL of his 8 siblings were too, but so were their parents and grandparents before they all passed away. However, the miracle of all miracles, after my dad got sober, one by one they ALL got sober! ♥️ They ended the generation cycle of dysfunction that could have taken all their kids too. BUT we experienced their sobriety and learned about the heredity of the disease of addiction, thanks to AA, and avoided going down the same path. Once something normalized became something very abnormal and something to pay very close attention to in our own lives. I used to drink casually, but it was never something I liked.
I loved going to AA with my mom. We still go to the Thanksgiving meeting as a family.
@lifeofgabs804 it’s never too late to stop, until it’s too late. You can still choose a different path! Every single day is a new opportunity. I believe in you. ❤
I sat here with tears in my eyes, Tati. I am 59. My boyfriend of 1 year is an alcoholic, who got sober 3 months ago. I am so proud of him, as I am of you. It is not easy to do, but I fought beside him, and I think I met the Love of my life in him. Are we scared? Hell yes! But I know it is worth it. Both of us feel like we have never been happier, like, EVER. So life DOES get better! Thank you Tat!!!❤
What makes an alcoholic an alcoholic?
I’m a therapist and used to work in addiction recovery…it makes me absolutely furious that your therapist friend said that and felt that way toward people she was supposed to be helping. It’s a tough field to work in and certainly not for everyone, but what she said doesn’t represent how the majority of us feel.
Honestly, she sounds like a poor friend and perhaps a poor therapist.
I hope she is a therapist for people who have no chance of being addicts, affected by anyone who is an addict or has a loved one who is an addict. Sounds like she doesn’t necessarily have the skill set to be a therapist. Maybe coding is more for her. Something that doesn’t require empathy.
I stopped drinking about 8 years ago when I started practicing Islam. I lost all my friends because I didn't drink and go to clubs anymore. Its sad that people who drink can't have fun without alcohol and judge the ones who don't drink. When did alcohol become a normal thing? it's a neurotoxin that slowly kills. I'm grateful for Islam and all the positive change that brought into my life.
Tomorrow is officially one year sober for me and it feels great! I just decided I didn't want alcohol in my life anymore, I wasn't a huge drinker but I was just done with it! The amount of people in my personal life who have showed concern with my choice to be sober is so strange to me, it's something to be celebrated not something to be judged for! To anyone just starting on their sober journey, keep pushing forward because it's so worth it!
Congrats! That's huge.
Congrats 🎉
5.5 years clean and sober.
BEST LIFE EVER xxx
I’m 26 years old and have never been willing to experiment with drinking or substance use. With severe addiction raging through both sides of my genes, I’ve always known that I would probably never come out of it on top. It absolutely blows my mind how frequently people judge me for this decision (at this point I just say that I’m allergic to avoid it all together) so I have nothing but respect for the people that put in the effort to take control of their lives like this. Congratulations on your hard work and sobriety.
I’m 37 and alcoholism runs in my family. Both grandfathers and uncles (mom’s brother and dad’s brother). My parents didn’t drink (my dad used to before he met my mom, but I don’t think it was full blown alcoholism). My brother doesn’t drink and neither do I. At least not much. Probably been about 4 years since I last had alcohol. I also don’t like the taste (when I would have something it would be something sweet like a mudslide). I’m honestly not sure I ever had someone shame me for choosing not to drink, and if they did it just never bothered me. Even when I went to a friend’s wedding years ago and we were all given champagne to toast the couple, I just used my water. A friend sitting next to me drank my champagne and he actually sounded impressed that I didn’t drink.
Unfortunately, there is such a stigma around drinking (especially in the US)… you are either shamed for not drinking or shamed for drinking. Neither should happen. People who choose not to drink for whatever reason, but especially knowing addiction runs in the family are strong for standing up to the societal pressures. Those who quit and get the help they need are incredibly strong for recognizing the problems and being brave enough to say “I need help”. I never knew my grandfathers as alcoholics; they both quit drinking before I was born - so I guess not only does alcoholism run in my family but also the strength to quit/stand up to it.
Same here, never been a drinker. It's been insane how much explanation people demand for someone not drinking.
@@CelticStar87 Thank you for sharing this. I think it's wonderful how you look at your family's situation and see your relatives as people who possess the tremendous strength it takes to fight addiction. I think anyone who battles addiction should be praised for that. You seem like a strong and courageous person yourself, and I'm glad to know that people like you exist in this world.
I’m telling you that the absolute best thing you could do!!!
Good call on not even experimenting with it all. Especially with a family history of addiction. You’re not missing much lol
Thank you for your honesty. I’m a little over 3 years sober and some days it feels like I could never ever go back to drinking. So hearing you say it came out of nowhere after 5 years, is a huge eye opener for me and reminder to stay vigilant with my sobriety. Thanks for this!
I am 49 days sober. Alcohol took more from me than it gave back. It took my happiness, my health, my family and friends... I am the happiest I have been in a long time. Thank you so much for sharing with us
also my daughter changed my photo and name on youtube, thats why it is the way it is lol
Great job. You got this.
49 days is amazing! sending all the support your way :) I feel the same - even my worst day sober is still 1000x better than my best day when I was still drinking
One of my biggest fears when taking the step to sobriety is that “nothing will be fun anymore” or “I will be boring” but the reality is that Sobriety opened so many doors for me. It brought me the biggest joy of my life (my four year old), it showed me how incredibly strong and powerful my mind and body truly are I had a whole c-section with NO PAIN MEDS in recovery, I’m so proud of that, and this whole journey.
There isn’t a day where I miss my old life, and there hasn’t been for years.
Today I am 2409 days clean, and sober.
Thank you for opening up, and sharing- I just know your story will save someone, if not a bunch of someones.
Girl a whole c-section?! You’re a straight savage! Did they try to numb the area at all or did you just raw dog the pain?
@@danielleleven7676 oh they won’t do a C-section without a pain blocker, but in the recovery process I refused all pain medications. Sorry if that was confusing.
Congrats Tati that’s incredible!! Been sober for 7 years and it’s changed my life. We love you and thank you for sharing your story❤
Good for you 🥳
Proud of you! 👏 congrats
So probably of you tati ,its not an easy thing to share ,my 38 year old daughter is 1year 7months sober xx
Thank you everyone!❤️
Over a year sober after over a decade of alcoholism. Best choice I’ve ever made. Everything changed for the better. It gets easier as time goes one. Stay strong if you are just beginning your sobriety journey. One day at a time ❤️❤️
Congratulations to anyone sober in the comments! You should be so proud. If someone is struggling, you got this! You're stronger than you know. Addiction is not an easy thing to overcome. Sending lots of hugs out there. I'm sorry people don't understand that there is so much more to it.
Tati,
Thank you for sharing your story.
My mom was just as much of a chronically online girlie as I am and we gabbed about you and did makeup together.
She tragically passed in July and my first reaction seeing your sobriety story was to message her. 😢 Tati, my mom would be SO proud of you.
Thank you for being apart of some of my favorite memories with my mommy. ❤
So sorry about your mom ❤
@@kb3744 Ty 🙏🏻
Sorry to hear about your mom 🫂
I was an active alcoholic for 10 years (from age 20-30). I had 3 years sober and then relapsed. Now I'm on day 5. Oh, how I wish you had made this video sooner, because, just looking at the comments section, there are SO MANY people like myself who have gone through what you have. We never would have judged you. Addiction is hell and getting sober is the hardest thing most people ever have to go through, most often multiple times. But it's so worth it. Sending all the love.
Hang in there ❤
My kids recorded me being drunk, I was drinking for years , after seen that video I never touched alcohol, was so embarrassing n so sad,,was without it for 3 years now!!! Good luck!
It's ok. Give yourself some grace. Forgive yourself.
Sending all my love and support to You! I can't imagine the struggle, but I love seeing the success. ❤
I'm rooting for you, glad to hear you got to break out of the cycle again! I hope you can get back to where you were in your sobriety, one day at a time ♥
As a mental health counselor who did a lot of my training in substance use disorder treatment- thank you for normalizing this and speaking out
I want to add- I am so so sorry you heard mental health professionals speak that way. I hope people see this and know that not all of us think or feel that way. We know that addiction isn’t a choice- and we know that more often than not it is a way to get through immense pain and suffering. You’re not alone and not all therapists will view you as “the worst people who walk this earth.” That breaks my heart
I have my own sober journey 11 months ❤️ well done Tati
Well done to you too ❤
11 months sober is amazing!! Here’s to a lifetime more to go!! Congratulations ❤❤!!
Good for you! I'm 9 years sober from hard drugs and 2 years sober from alcohol ❤ Thank you for sharing!
My mom died of alcoholism in 2020 and now she’s missing her grandbabies grow up, something my mom would have loved to see. I saw her struggle and go to rehab over and over and over. My mom was a great mom with a horrific disease, a disease that won. I miss her every day. Thank you for sharing your journey, and congratulations on the daily fight to stay sober. 💜
I hug people on a sober journey the way I would a cancer survivor. So proud and grateful they are alive.
Tati thank you for this! Message recieved loud and clear.
I have been struggling with depression for years and I can't seem to find my way out.
I also have childhood trauma. I had a career. I was going to get married...
But everything crumbled. He cheated on me. I lost interest in everything... including living. I hated myself.
My body couldn't take it and now I have an autoinmune illness.
I've been fighting to get back on track. The antidepressants haven't helped me.
But I found in makeup some kind of comfort and joy. This community is very strong and uplifting.
And yes, there are a lot of people that needed to hear your message.
So thank you Tati for your honesty. We are really proud of you!
We will always be here for you :)
Ive been looking for someone in the comments who says they suffer from depression, I hate this life, i hate myself, im not suicidal but i wouldnt care if God took me tomorrow. I have been sedentary for 5 years. I dont even want to leave my room anymore. I need to find a way out of this pit, i have an amazing husband of 30 years, 5 AMAZING kids and 4 beautiful grandchildren who even on the darkest days light my world up. If you read this could you pray for me or send me good healing vibes. Sending you the same, reading all and praying. ❤ Thank you.
I hear you ❤
The same here but on my work things got worse and I have now social phobia and PTSD, well probably due to what happened. Never ever had a support system I needed 😢
I'm here for you. Not having a support system is the last straw. I haven't had one since I was a child
But you know what? It' s up to us to want to survive and fight really hard for it.
Even now that I'm in my darkest days I try to find a reason...and I fail most of the times. But I try again...
My only hope is that whatever the outcome is, I dream of something better. A tiny ray of light...
But remember you are not alone. We are here for you whenever you need.
We will get through this. we are not alone
Bless you
Bless you wherever you are
It looks like you have all the reasons you need to get through this.
Most of us can only dream of having your support system
So hang on and fight for them
2:41 Tati you are even more impressive than I thought. I can’t believe that you managed to maintain your sobriety with the cancellation & especially the lawsuit
10:30 Never forget that the church ain’t a museum for saints, but a hospital for sinners. Jesus loves you always Tati ❤️
Amen
Very well said!!
I have never heard that saying but I love it! ❤
Tati, Jesus loves you more than any man, woman or child ever could. Never give up on Him. He wants to use you in even bigger ways than you could ever imagine. Ephesians 3:20-22
Beautiful 🙏
As of Aug, 27 I am 6 years sober from opioids. I think what you did is very brave and more people should what you have done, never be embarrassed because it’s something to be proud of.
I’ve been sober for 20 months - lost my husband to cancer, had 4 kids - 2 teenagers, and twin almost 2 year olds. Addiction is so real and going to rehab saved my life and my family. Watching you speak was so inspiring, I really resonated with you and I’m so glad you are using your platform to educate and provide motivation for so many of us who outwardly continue to heal, but more importantly for the viewer who is masking their struggles but are scared just like we once were. I’m proud of you Tati - it takes courage and strength to change the world, and I believe your dark times was God changing you to be who He planned for you to be. Much love beautiful! ❤
Sobriety is definitely something to celebrate and being a recovered addict is nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you for sharing your story in your own time.
Tati thank you for sharing!! I just celebrated 8 years clean from a pain pill addiction. It took me to my knees. God bless!! You are an inspiration
Congrats!!!
Tati, I've been here for almost 10 years, before and after addiction, I'm almost one year sober now! This video made me so emotional because your make-up videos were filling my void as a struggling teenager and got me back into make-up when I chose sobriety as an adult. Thank you for sharing your story!
Okay I just finished the entire video and WOW!!!❤ Ma'am you have touched my heart!! I'd like to share, I just lost my mom.. it's days away from being 1 month and I have addiction issues.. I have remained SOBER (9 years) and clean (8 years) and it's bc of my mom I am. She got me out of deep despair many times and finally I did MY part to get myself out and I WILL HONOR MY MOMMA by staying SOBER and CLEAN for her and myself. She's watching me and I have to make her proud.🤍🕊
Thank you for sharing your story and thank you for allowing me to share mine with you. I will keep you in my prayers. You have just touched my heart in a way I didn't expect, thank you and God Bless you!!❤🙏🏻😘
She's so proud of you and always with you🤍🕊. I'm also so proud of you❤!!
Lost my dad in 2020 to his battle with addiction after 12 years and I can’t tell you how much it means to hear your recovery story. So proud of you Tati. God is Good.
I love when creators talk about sobriety. There are so many people out there struggling with addiction. Sharing your story makes them feel less alone ❤
Wow Tati - you are breaking so many taboos and breaking so many walls and helping so many people! How can you be so strong and vulnerable at the same time? So graceful and feminine and tough at the same time? So emotional and rational at the same time? Your videos are nothing less than life changing. Thank you for trusting us with your experiences. We appreciate you!
I relapsed from a behavioral addiction this year after losing a couple people in my life then 3 more after the relapse. I’m currently doing my 90 meetings in 90 days. So thank you for sharing your story and inspiring me further to stay sober! ❤
So proud of you for starting over ❤
It’s worth it, no many how many times, to get right back up and put one foot in front of the other as best you can until you are once again the best you can be. I PROMISE. ♥️🦋♥️
We are all human and mistakes happen, I am happy to see that you haven't given up and are putting in the work to keep going. You got this!
I'm clean and sober since 4/20/2013.
I'm very happy for you, Tati! Keep up the good work. 💜🤟🏻
to tati and everyone who commented on this to share your journeys, i’m proud of you all for being so strong ❤
Reading the comments, I can't help but be overwhelmed by all the positive energy and love you are getting. Stepping outside of your comfort zone, and being extremely vulnerable, is resulting in directly helping so many people, and you are doing it with kindness and empathy. I'm extremely impressed by you and happy that I stumbled on to your page, late one Saturday night, about eight years ago. I was immediately hooked and have been enjoying your content ever since. Keep enjoying all you've achieved and I can't wait to see what's next!
Thank you Tati for leaving the comments open on this video. So many people will benefit from seeing other people’s stories as well as your own in the video.
im working on going sober, this story couldn't have come at a better time. In tears, LOVE YOU!
You've got this. You can do it! I'm proud of you!
@@simplyheather865 I’m actually gonna cry, thank you so much! And I hope you get through whatever battle you’re facing in life ❤️
Keep at it. It's hard but totally worth it. Sober for 7 years and I was convinced I was not worth getting sober. I'm so happy now.
You got this!!!! ❤❤❤
You can do this! It's going to so hard. People say take things one day at a time. But days can be so long. So, one thing that helped me was taking things literally hour by hour. Baby steps. Some people can just stop. others it takes time and that is ok!! Everyone has their own journey and timeline. I truly wish you the very best. Just remember. You are worth it. You are worth the struggle of getting sober.
I had a drug problem for 5 years, was clean for 2 years, relapsed for 1 year, now clean again for 2 years. It scares me so much that I ever relapsed. I have a 1 year old now. He saved my life ❤
So proud❤ I work at a homeless shelter and though I already knew this, it's reinstated that it doesn't matter if it's 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years. Everyone's sober journey is so important.
Me watching this as I’m struggling with my sobriety. You’re inspirational🤍
Keep fighting ❤
You're stronger than you know. Don't forget you're not alone and there are always other sober people in the world to support you 💗
Praying you stay sober today. God bless you.
Stay strong it’s all worth it!
Start w one day, then two...baby steps , next thing you'll be having your 1 ur anniversary ..you got this!
I just got out of rehab 2 weeks ago. I understand your struggle. People stopping me think it’s just something you can easily overcome. Sadly it’s not that easy. I struggle everyday. Thank you for your story. This is this first comment I ever post on anyone’s video. Your story helps me know that I am not alone. Thank you.
Keep up the good work - you can do this!💓
You’re not alone! This old lady in northern Washington state is thinking of you and hoping all the best for you! Stay strong you are a hero to take control of your life!❤
The struggle is real. Thanks for sharing. You're worth getting sober. Everyone is. You got this. (7 years sober and convinced I'd never make it this far)
you’re not alone. u can do this 🖤
Thank you for sharing! You are so brave to open up. I wish you a long happy life! I sent you a warm hug from DR ♥
As a child of an active alcoholic and addict, you are powerful. I know that those two nights that you didn’t die I truly believe God protected you… he knew one day you would have such a powerful message to share to the world. You have purpose and hope you never again forget that! I pray that one day my mom will have the strength to choose a different path, and until that day I pray for that same protection over her. It makes me extremely proud of you for standing tall and shouting to the world that this is who I am, and those trial made me stronger. Continue to shine bright in this darken world. We need those kinds of 🌅🌅🔦flash lights helping others who are lost. ❤ may God bless you and keep you. 🥰
I may have never drank like that, but I applaud you for being honest, and being yourself. It stinks that people have belittled you for being sober and not wanting to drink. I am proud of you for being honest and open with people.
My parents are 10+ years sober from hard drugs. Addiction runs on both sides of my family so I chose not to drink or smoke, and as a 28 year old sometimes I’m still looked at funny for it. Judging someone for NOT drinking is so weird like, sorry I don’t want to poison myself for a few hours of feeling good?? I agree that alcohol is so normalized & shoved down our throats, it really makes me sad and uncomfortable. I am so so proud of you. You are so strong, I’m so glad you are still here REGARDLESS of your influence in the beauty community because you simply deserve to be here, happy & healthy. Thank you for sharing your story. ♥️
I am 28 too and it is ridiculous how much alcohol is a part of our society, especially around our age and a little earlier in our twenties. It’s actually so insane if you really sit back and think about it. Like everyone has a beer or a glass of wine, people drink when you meet up with friends, when you go to a concert, when you go on a date, when you watch a football game with the “guys” when you are in college especially it is crazy as fuck, when you go to work occasions, Christmas parties ect. It’s so sad honestly. I am a recovering addict, not from alcohol, and it’s crazy how there’s a liquor store on every single corner, literally, and the entire country completely freaks out about marijuana and there’s people sitting in prison for years and years for possession of a small personal amounts of marijuana on them…. It’s crazy. And there’s people out there who have killed a family from drinking and driving from having their 7th dui and they just kept getting probation over and over and a slap on the wrist…. Ugh it’s sad.
Unfortunately the people that make you feel funny about it the truth is just based on diet and nutrition and aging and chemicals they won't be here as long as you!!! Live your best life and show future generations that the path is much clearer when your present. Addiction creates alot of valuable hindsight but you can't fix things in the right now. Kudos to you!
Sobriety is something to celebrate 🙌🏻 🎉 so proud of you!
My dad suffered for years with narcotic addiction. He got clean and sober about 20+ years ago and spent the rest of his life (he passed April 2023) helping others with addiction. He owned and ran several private transitional homes and sponsored so many in recovery. At his celebration of life over 250+ people showed up and shared how he saved their lives.
Talking about struggles with addiction is so so so incredibly important. You never know when something could help someone else and change the course of their life for the better .
Recovery is not an easy road but it is so worth traveled!
Wow what an incredible man your father was. ❤❤so many blessings came from his dark days. Thank you for sharing.
I am sorry for your loss. I think your dad was a hero! ❤
My stepson’s mom passed away this February at 31 years old due to liver failure from alcohol. He is 11 years old. Single handedly the most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever experienced. A lot of what you said resonated with things we’ve been through with her. I’m so so happy you were able to change your life, you’re an incredible inspiration and I’m proud of you for sharing ❤
Thank you for this, truly. I have 10 years sober, methadone saved my life and my daughters. I was in pain management years ago before the opioid epidemic started and doctors were passing out pills like candy. I was 18 and trusted my doctors. I ended up with a full-blown dependence on opioids. I found out I was pregnant on my 24th birthday and they discharged me even though they knew that if I quit taking the medication I could miscarry. My OB referred me to a methadone clinic and I've been there ever since, I'm forever grateful to the people that helped me get here. But it's something I only share with certain people because everyone can be incredibly judgmental. Treatment is not a one-size-fits-all, everyone needs to do what works for them. My husband has 8 years sober from alcohol and his journey to sobriety was much different than mine, but we made it work and our relationship is all the better for it. After being together in active addiction and the struggles that came with that, the hurdles that we face now are nothing. I'm so incredibly proud of you for being brave enough to share your story 🖤
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽 it’s really hard to talk about pain management journeys specifically, the judgement is so crazy so I’m proud of you 👏🏽 I’m currently still in PM it’s been 6 years but man trying to get medications post-opioid crisis is such a struggle 🙃
congratulations (is that the right term??) on your sobriety and on it saving your daughter. what a wonderful reason to find sobriety. addiction runs in my family. i am not addictive type, but i am opiod dependent due to a car accident. i NEVER take more than i am supposed to and never mix with alcohol. the thought of getting off opiods scares me because i have a very low pain tolerance and multiple other health issues that already affect how poorly i live. bravo for your courage.
Remember though that there are MILLIONS UPON MILLIONS of us who who use pain medication responsibly and would be absolutely bed ridden without it. I am sick and tired of people lumping addicts in with those who use medication as it was DESIGNED TO DO: fight terrible pain conditions.
Dependence on medication is normal by the way. Do not confuse DEPENDENCE with ADDICTED. Two completely different animals. This topic always pisses me off because of the ignorance.
@@safiyyahmuhammad144 oh man, I could probably write a dissertation on all of my opinions surrounding pain management and everything that happened there before and after the opioid epidemic. These doctors have taken no responsibility whatsoever and now instead of learning from their mistakes and using it to help patients, they've continued to be ignorant and uneducated. They're on the opposite end of the spectrum now when it comes to prescribing any type of medication and it's only making the opioid epidemic worse. So many people are in pain and suffering and can't get the medications that they need. My ex has stage 4 renal kidney failure and he can't even get the bare minimum of pain medication that he needs and it's utterly ridiculous. I'm so sorry that you're in that position. I've had the opportunity to go back to pain management for a few years now but quite honestly, I would never step foot in one again. People might think that I'm a junkie or that I traded one drug for another because I'm on methadone but they can have their opinions, I know my truth. Methadone gave me the opportunity to be a person again instead of an empty shell. At my clinic I'm treated like a human instead of an insurance policy. I hope that where you're at, you're treated with kindness and care, everyone deserves that.
Sobriety is not an easy path, but it's worth it. I lost my cousin to addiction, and it's one of the hardest, most insidious diseases I've ever seen. I don't know you, but I'm proud of you, Tati. ❤
I had a cousin pass away a couple of years ago due to waiting for a new liver due to his alcoholism. I believe his dad was also an alcoholic which was so odd because in my dad's family, people didn't really drink. I get the impression it was an open secret?
Authenticity is the most beautiful thing you could ever put on your skin. Praise God that you have been able to be in the most loving and truthful place you could be, thanks for sharing. It makes you seem way more relatable to the average woman.
What a wonderful response.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 “CONGRATULATIONS,” You ARE a REAL INFLUENCER. A great example of A REAL HERO. You are going to be even more of an influencer than ever before. So proud to be part of your community. Love you and James.
I am 3 years sober from 9 years opiate abuse. Mine wasn't a typical addiction. It was situational for sure. I used, to cope with my husband's abuse. I overdosed three times in a matter of 4 months in 2016. A 4th time about 5 years ago and that one put me in the hospital for four days. My oxygen dropped to 70% and i went into multi organ failure. I couldnt walk. I couldn't think straight and the nearest hospital was 40 miles away. I refused to go in an ambulance. Almost like i was hoping i wouldnt make it. I was on oxygen for 6 months after that. Still didn't stop me. I used for another 2 years. Literally the day I got away from him, I never used again. Never thought about it again. I am proud of me. And I'm proud of everyone that's overcome addiction. ❤
My story is so similar to yours. So proud of you! Congratulations 🩵🩵🩵
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You should be so proud! I cannot imagine the trauma but I hope that you’re living a happy and safe life now! You deserve that ❤
I’ve struggled the past 4 yrs myself. I’ve lost both my FIL and MIL (both to cancer and all that entails) and watched my hubby have a mental breakdown. Knowing that others are having struggles or are going through struggles makes me not feel so alone….but there have been many tears.
At the end of the day, we are all human. With many emotions. And we should all be building each other up ❤
Watching now but just wanted to say… been watching you for years. Proud of you for sharing. It’s not easy but it’s so worth it. You never know who you’re going to help!
“I don’t trust anyone who doesn’t drink” is an often used line and philosophy within our culture of alcohol. Peer pressure doesn’t end after adolescence. Choosing wellness can sometimes feel lonely. It’s vastly important to find a sober tribe. Congratulations on your sobriety to you and your loved ones.
I’ve been sober 11 years from opiates. So very proud of you, Tati!
You’re right. People do not know how to act. But, we know how to act! We know how to give praise! ❤
Hi lovely no worries if this too triggering or too much to ask but I've suffered from opioid addiction horribly in my 20s. I now take prescribed 240mg tops codeine (bnf limit) per day for chronic back pain & use it as prescribed but I'm looking to come off it & go on naproxen or another anti inflammatory that isn't opioid based. Could you tell me where I can find a good tapering/withdrawal plan or where I should start? Did you suffer from PAWS at all? Part of me just wants to stop them abruptly but I've done that before & im scared of the pain & low mood (I also have bipolar). I no longer think about opioids but I know my body is physically dependent on the codeine (horrible flu like symptoms if I forget to take it for a day or two).
@@Tified967I don't have the info you're looking for, but I'm sending prayers and good vibes that you find what you need!
@Tified967 Start going down by 5 mg each week. At the end of each week, go down 5 more. When you get to the last 5 mgs, maybe drop by 1 mg each week from then on. I can’t stress this enough: listen to your body. If you REALLY want to be free of this, sometimes you can go down even more mg’s at a time, sometimes less and that’s okay. Most doctors don’t care about your health and will tell you to stay on the drug. It is so bad for the body. You will feel so strong that you got yourself off of it. Keep busy during the day to tire yourself out. If you need meds for sleep, use them only when you absolutely have to. Exercise maybe in a pool since you have back problems or walking-it will help your mind and body and give you natural mood boosting. Nothing that is worth it comes easy. It will be hard but it will pass! And if you’re spiritual, lots of prayer. I should’ve started with that but I hope you conquer this.