I’m Asian, f*ck apps. Workout, eat right, have good hygiene and fashion sense. More importantly socialize and build confidence. Not for women but for yourself. You’ll go far
Not even worth the headache. The better option get rich, use them (pump and dump), next, rinse and repeat. Don't fall in love and get married, they will take everything from you and alimony. Women will always seek the next best thing "hypergamy"
@@wanglee21 that is some red pill incel shit. You can find a great wife. It is def harder in the US, but they are def out there. Find the right person and treat her right
@@rocketman3770 It's just the trend of society today. I would say it's even more prevalent with people who are gym/ clubs/ bar lifers and anyone living life on IG, TikTok, social media. The success rate of a real life long relationship is less than 40% in modern America. Test your luck brother. I have and she lied just to get 50/50 of my assets and alimony. That's what happens when you think your doing the right thing and treating her right.
Dating apps are garbage. As a Asian American man, I was able to land alot of dates with various woman of all colors when doing dating apps but to find out that all dating apps are superficial as fk. I went the old fashion way of just going to the store, libraries, beaches and etc to talk to girls and that is pretty much how I landed more genuine dates. Disappointing to know that Western culture created too many shallow females.
As an Asian male in my early 40s that only had one girlfiend my entire life, which didn't happen until I was in my mid-30s, I checked out of the dating scene all together. The juice ain't worth the squeeze.
Hi. We are almost in the same situation. Im in my early 40s and only had 1 gf in my life, but im currently single. Would i be able to speak to you personally?
@@ignatiusanthonyevangelio2267 I've had a few Gf and I've talked to alot of girls. I'm 5'7 skinny viet. The things I've changed about myself is got contacts, no more braces, new clothing "kevin nguyen / kpop style" , and the girls flock to me. I dont have a problem talking to girls. Although i've also played sports most my life and bartend.
I am an Asian man, in my mid 40. Dated a few women, never had a girlfriend. Finally, I realised single life is the best life for a man to live in modern days. MGTOW is great.
@@ignatiusanthonyevangelio2267 I am an Asian man, in my mid 40. Dated a few women, never had a girlfriend. Finally, I realised single life is the best life for a man to live in modern days. MGTOW is great.
@@N5X1odQ4gTSiwPjSQsucxA Not only that but they really dont get shit from society. They get called out only when they openly shit on Asian men and they act like they are being persecuted. Meanwhile Asian dude walks next to semi attractive non-asian woman in public and get glares/racist comments all the time.
It is not. People should date who they are attracted to (as long as all parties are adults and their mutual interest). Heterosexual men or women arent accused of hating anyone who is the same gender as them because they date someone of the opposite sex.
If those are really his pics...he's out of touch. He's not ugly, but he's clearly not hot, and would be judged so in Asia as well. He not only hasn't put in the time at the gym, but hasn't even tried more easy fixes like his haircut/fashion. He's distinctly average which isn't good enough in today's social media deluded society.
Yeah he’s delusional. He looks like a loser. If I was his friend, I’d tell him to start lifting. Dress better. Get rid of the glasses. Get a nicer haircut. He needs a lot of improvement before saying he wants to date white and latinas. Not even asian girls want you bro
Is weird how every comment says that you have to be buff as a dude to get a date on a dating app you can’t just be regular, when we all know that there’s chicks who are below average who still get dates 😢
OP is definitely punching wayyy above his weight class if he’s been trying this long with little success. I agree with Andrew at the end. OP needs to lower his standards OR bring himself up to the standards that he’s expecting of the girls he wants. He probably saw STPeach’s husband and was like “if he can get a hottie like that then so can I”. Newsflash, that works out for like 1% of the 1% of the 1% of Asian guys. Dress yourself better. Put some muscle on that frame. You don’t need to be Mr. Olympia. Putting just 10 lbs of muscle is totally achievable in a short time frame and will make all the difference in the way you look and carry yourself. Start wearing contacts when you go out or if you have the means get laser eye surgery. Take classes in literally anything. Cooking, dancing, rock climbing, auto repair. Make yourself more than just “skinny nerdy asian guy who went to a good school”, cause honestly… that’s just boring to most 20something girls.
In general too, interracial dating tends to have higher rejection rates too unless you stay at Los Angeles or New York or another huge city Edit: still possible but definitely harder
I dont know if all latina are like this but as a mexican american I dont care about degree or school. My parents always told me what is important is who the person is. Do they treat there mom or sisters right, can they take a joke without getting offended, are they good to other people when no one is looking, would they get along with my family. Maybe because we are very family oriented these are a few things we look at. Degrees, schools, and status can be a bonus but not something tha definds a person. Yeah there are some latinas that care about thise things but we see those people as trying to "climb" the social later. My view might not be for all latinas though. Just what my family values. Because money and status comes and goes. I dont know i could be wrong.
John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Mark 1:15 - “The time is fulfilled,” He said, “and the kingdom of God is near. Repent and believe in the gospel!”
Asian people are also family oriented. He is likely a very family oriented person. It's values that are changed. Though I am vietnamese so I never have issue.
Yep you are correct in thinking you are wrong. Your family is just one neurodivergent, possibly autistic view projected upon you to the point you dont even know what you want or what you're doing with your life. Pretty sad to see. Your PC comment here just serves to mislead others and judging from your pic and name, you are just low iq and it's not your fault.
Honestly, dating in the US is very competitive and it favors women! You can’t be average looking and expect high caliber women. You have to date within your level. I am glad I am gay because I don’t have the societal pressure to settle down and raise a family like straight people do 😂
@@hiddengem4293 Nope lol Not interested. As long as I am happy with the impact that I left while alive, it doesn’t matter if people remember me afterwards. Who is to say that their legacy will even remember them after death
@@gaymer-j Nah. I am Latino. I get attention on the apps because I look and have a similar build like Mario Lopez but gay guys just don’t like to commit. Even when they are in a relationship or married, they are still open lol Straight people will never do that.
Hmong here, a bit overweight, dorky, very obnoxious, not every smart... hell I've never read a book in my life other than comic books. My wife is white/mexican, hot as hell and makes way more $ than I do. How was this possible? Personality bro. That's all it takes.
I notice Southeast Asians tend to be less rigid and more charasmatic than East Asians on average. Even though we look very similar. I say this as an East Asian. For some reason(likely cultural) we have this self consciouness and burden that we carry with us everywhere.
You can confidently say you bring something to the relationship and why she fell for you. Some Asian guys just expect a big tiddy white girl to fall from the sky in front of them.
Of course I'm going to say yes to deleting the apps. Here in the U.S, Asian men are clearly the underdog v.s Black/White/Latinos & remain being underlooked & even unappreciated. Not fair that many of them are being taken advantage of for there $$$.
Unfortunately the negative stereotypes about asian men are still alive and well to this day. As an asian man you need to change your standards and be accepting of other types of women. You just can't be as picky as the guy in the reddit post. You just have to take what you can get. Work on yourselves and play into trends to get more swipes on these apps
The reason the stereotype still exists is because there is just too many Asian guys living the stereotype just walk outside and your see many scrawny Asian kid with glasses looking nerdy as hell with the pot haircuts lol if Ur an Asian guy take that glasses off it do U better.
Dating apps aren't "real". By that I mean, it's all very objectified. It forces you to do that b/c it's all you have to go on. Someone's looks, their career, so on so forth. There's no real connection. Objectification is also why that guy failed. It's not just a pic of pets, but you have to show that you love your pet & that it's your life. It's all about character if you ever get past the other superficial stuff.
Yes. Dont bother with dating apps, you wont be appreciated at all. Work hard, get money, live life, and avoid relationships with women. Why bother trying to get a woman, when you could be living your best life, and without the problems women bring. Edit: if you need sex, just pay for that shit, no shame.
@robinmoulette718 Last I checked, sex wasn't free anyway. Your legs don't just open up before the first date, but of course if you're a slut, then it probably does. 😉
Social can be also a big deal. I had good chemistry with a vietnamese guy and was intending to ask him out. But his Social was ridden with strippers and cars and I felt I wasn't in his interest and I never saw him again. Meanwhile, meeting my husband on a dating app and his Social was mostly food and nerd culture. The OP in question could just not be socially smart or can't interact in a meaningful way. On paper he sounds great, but in person he may not bring any engagement to the table.
If you are east Asian male the stereotype is nerdy, smart, socially awkward, weak, with solid job. Dispel the negative attributes by working out and getting a visible 6-pack, work on your arms and shoulders as white/Latin women like dudes with big, wide shoulders, and a v shape torso. Just think about a pro soccer or pro tennis player type.. Have some active photos of yourself Jogging in a tank top, join a social, or sports club with white or Latino men and post those photos to show you have social skills and learn from these guys.. Basically, show you are not weak or socially awkward, the Bain of most east Asian men that are 7 or below on the looks scale..
It goes both ways. White women refuse to date Asian men which limits their dating pool and they wonder where are all the good guys at? If they only date White guys then they'll realize a lot of them are dating Asian women.
And why shouldn't he exactly? Are you saying that there are simply not enough white or Latina women who would be willing to give a typical Asian a chance? Are you ok with that? It's fine if you are, but then don't deny that you're a racist hypocrite who's ok with white and Latina women discriminating against him because of his race just because they "can", but scoff at him doing the same thing but toward his own race (admittedly, we don't know how he'd feel about black or other types of brown women, so I'm not saying the guy is necessarily a saint either). Own your sexual racism proudly.
I hate to say this but flaunting an Ivy League degree isn't gonna get you anywhere. It's literally what you do afterwards. I cannot emphasize this enough. If after you graduated college and you're doing well, maybe started a company, maybe you're in med school, or just passed the bar exam, working for a decent firm and have built a stable life, then yes people will credit your success partially to you doing well in college. But if all you can say is, 'I went to Harvard' and that's it, people will wonder why you're still stuck on square one because it'll likely be because of who you are as a person and not your school, which actually can backfire if you're also dealing with women who have similar education levels and are actually making progress. You just won't make the cut...
In this day and age, people are becoming more entrepreneurial and making more money without an IVY league education let alone a college degree lol Look at all these people making money off OF lol
@@DiamondFlame45 You're missing the point, the reason why they're talking about Ivy schools is because of underlying status. It signals that you were selected that by a prestigious school but unfortunately that's only the start. Real life happens afterwards. Also this video is talking about a guy, the demographic of making a lot of money on a platform like OF is skewed heavily towards women in their early to mid 20's. OF essentially devolved into freelance porn. Being an entrepreneur is also such a broad, catch-all term these days, that it's kind of become meaningless. Like if you say you're an entrepreneur, people still don't know what you actually do, unless you tell them specifics.
You’re overthinking it. Some people might be turned off by an Ivy League education, some people might not care at all, but for the ones who do care, it’s definitely a plus. People generally do like being able to brag a little bit about who they are dating. It definitely helps with parents to have some kind of status related attribute to share about your potential future spouse.
But the guy they are talking about in the video is into interracial dating. So that also means that his rejection rates will be higher than usual. And if he’s doing dating apps, then his rejection rate might be worse than it already is since the apps are superficial for everybody. And in my opinion, dating success really boils down to having courage to talking to a potential date, building chemistry, asking for the number, plan the first date, hope the date goes well and continue onward. And I’m also going to keep it real by saying the numbers game is pretty important these days because people kinda have high expectations in general and there’s always competition.
Dating apps for a guy is the equivalent of a guy trying to make the NBA. You could be a 50/40/90 player but if you're 5'5 you have ZERO chance based off just looking at you. Thats how the girls you wanna match with view guys on dating apps, they have so many options cause the ratio of males to females is in their favor. Unless you a top prospect you cant afford to be picky like that asian guy is being
idgaf bout my success on dating apps, i just think of it as simply talking to people, practice conversations for real life. it's all based on how u approach it although im still kinda salty that i was a rose for this one fine ass chick and managed to fumble it lol
Dating apps exacerbate and magnify all the negatives and women are positively reinforced to go after the top 10 percent of men as far as height, money, looks, racial preference, age etc.
There are far more men on dating apps than there are women. Plus, many women, including myself, have had enough creepy messages to be very hesitant about meeting up with any guy on there. So, not only are the demographics lopsided, but many guys have terrible photos and almost nothing on their profile. Have a warm, fun profile, and state your relationship goals. Have a woman friend take and choose your photos.
Really, this. Might not apply for every single woman user, but a lot of people respond to profiles that feel genuine than almost wordless bathroom muscle shots
Fish and salmon can easily have more protein than beef. Im Asian, I went from 130 - 170lb working out. 0 pull-ups to 60. 275lb bench. It’s really not that hard. It actually pretty simple if you eat enough. Crazy how opposed some of our brothers are to something so easy tbh…
Naaaa Asian men dont need to date apps, just broaden your horizons. Def not surprised hes not struggling. There's women that like Asian men like myself so pls
@@yehengmusic3521 I mean travel around and see different types of women. It can't hurt. You might find the difference in culture is more welcomed than you expect
Yes, forget the dating apps.....go out and meet real people and go about your own life. The right girl will present themselves to you if you really want a relationship. Beauty is more than what's you see in an app. I'm 5-5.....i had no trouble finding a real woman.
As a Black man this is a most interesting conversation. In my community, the discussion is about going back to school, opening a business, and improving your standing in society. It’s the complete opposite here. The talk is about being less an academic looking and improving your outside appearance. Blows my mind.
😂😂 he’s in for a rude awakening. There are countless beautiful women of all etnicities and he limited himself to 2. This lad needs to go see places in lieu of his four walls
Biggest problem for Asian guys on dating apps is that they stress their "husband qualities" rather than their fun qualities. Career, income, "fixing things around the house" are all things that are attractive to a mother-in-law, not a girlfriend. Talk about your passions and hobbies, not your ability to fund a 401K.
Hard for me to say, this one .. I've been on/off dating apps since 2018, & still haven't found much success. That, or the few girls who've "liked" me aren't really my type. Thing is, being on it without necessarily using it as much - means that your visible & on the market. However, constantly deactivating your profile on/off eliminates your presence. I'm a British-Filipino with blue eyes here in London & have already tried Tinder, Match & Hinge. I'm 5'9 & used to do kickboxing & lift weights, & specialize in art/design & IT/Tech .. And this dude is right - searching on dating apps does become stressful even after a short while. I also feel London is still very competitive for East/SE Asian men, despite significant developments in media representation. I still don't think us guys are favored as much as guys of other races here.
Asian men just don't fit the Western stereotype of what is an attractive man. Just look at the media (especially mainstream movies and see how few times (if any) are Asian men is portrayed as being attractive. It's just the facts.
Yeah man. It's tiring. Have you considered upgrading to Hinge+? Living north of England, as a Chinese guy, I feel like my matches have increased since I upgraded to Hinge+ last month
@@marlonlo9661 And that's why its important for guys like me to come to the fore & let people know there are big exceptions. If only I could get featured somewhere on some channel or podcast or TV, I will go crazy & say my peace. Consider me like a grittier version of Henry Golding.
Stop the feeling of being needy! You have to be confident and just don’t show girls that you need them. Reverse psychology always work. The truth of the matter is women have biological clock not men. We can have children at 70 . Just love yourself and travel more! Attitude matters to women!
@@jammer0856is true white dudes kill it in tinder trust me I worked in tinder offices . We have the data blk men do very bad regardless of the stereos types I guess overhyping a people doesn’t work if h ugly
Do men ever ask women what they want, or do you seek out advice from other dudes? Marketing 101 (I own a marketing biz): Seek information from your target audience. You want to date white and Latina women? Get involved in those communities. In person, because dating apps are superficial and they suck. David at 10:00 took me out with the Chinese Mom comment 🤣. I made a short here: ruclips.net/user/shortsQXjkWO_yr8I, critiquing the original American Born Chinese graphic novel. Got a tonne of hate on this video (many comments were flagged/deleted) from mostly men who were mad at me for speaking out against old school eastern Chinese values. Chinese immigrant parents do not understand western dating culture! Great critique overall. But never lie about your height, because what else you lying about? Women hate meeting men who say they are 6 on the apps and then meet them and the guy is shorter than her. Be honest and own it. I'm 5'11" (truly) so whenever I meet a man who claims he's 6, and then is shorter than me, he's a liar. By the way, I say all this to be helpful, take it or leave it. There are lots of women who are afraid to comment on this channel because of all the bullying. But like FBs, I am also passionate about helping my community as well, so here we are.
Getting advise from the marking audience only works if it is honest. I do agree going to these places. I took on classical dance (salsa and the like) and there are mostly women here. It is odd being a single guy here though.
Funny reply. The reason is because most men know that women dont know what they want themselves as "most" run on emotions and not logic. Even my own mother knows not to trust what comes out of her mouth
@@Drownedinblood🤣 That’s Andrew Tate/Jordan Peterson influencer bro sh!t. Those men don’t care about you. They just want to sell you books, online courses and merch in exchange for toxic male mentality dating advice.
Not every asian guy is an Incel like you. Most women who are interested in me are Turkish, white and Latinas. Those are the women who respond to me, maybe some filipinas too.
In my opinion, you can burn fat way faster than building muscle, so if one can put in the work to melt the fat, it can give the illusion that one put on more muscle. Building muscle will be a chore since you gotta eat in surplus and lift heavier weights all the time. It can be difficult to maintain
I can’t go to Cambodia. If I go to Cambodia my grandfather will arrange a marriage behind my back like he did to my uncle. That relationship broke when their oldest kids was ten, now I’ve got to watch my little cousins go through life without a mother. That shit’s not always the answer.
My advice date the old fashion way go out and meet people no dinner dates. Women just try to use you for your food. And attention. If you were Chris Brown. You will get it on the first day. No dinner date. Just level up your life. Love you bro. ❤
It's hard to meet people in real life. I've been cold approaching and I do sooo much better on dating apps. Cold approaching, most girls don't like it and meeting people through friends/work has never worked for me
@@jialian93maybe you’re too aggressive with the cold approaching or not coming across confidently enough. Plus, what success stories you got from dating apps bro?
Delete dating apps. Better to meet in person. My eldest brother in the mid-eighties ended up meeting and marrying a white girl who fell for him (in theater, since my brother was the lead actor in musicals of a small theater company). He was an arrospace engineer, now retired and a widower. A Japanese doctor married a white realtor maybe in the sixties or fifties and they had two beautiful children. (They were my aunt's neighbors in San Jose). Both son and daughter had Japanese features with light colored eyes. My cousin who looked Filipino married a white girl in the sixties or seventies. They divorced, then he narried a Colombian and they have two sons. Wilfred Steven Uytengsu studied in USC and met and married a white girl. A Chinese American dancer (family is from Hong Kong) in NYC married a beautiful Russian American girl. That's why I say meet them in person. The bassist(?) of One OK Rock married Avril Lavigne's sister. They can get them. They just have to know how to do it, and it's not through apps or online.
LMFAO my cousin needs to put his books in a Trader Joe’s canvas bag and carry them iron cross style 🤣🤣🤣 he doesn’t need to hit the gym - he needs to hit puberty 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dating apps just brings potential matches. You still need to put in the effort to not only screen but also learn and search. Did you really expect the apps to just serve you up matches with little effort on your end?? Dating takes effort and intent- whether on the apps or offline. Apps are tools- they need to be used and operated effectively to give you a result.
I met my Asian boyfriend on Reddit. (Am a Caucasian woman.) He’s the best thing I have ever found on the internet ❤. Apps are DESIGNED to keep you thirsty and single, guys. Don’t give up!
I used CMB in Taipei for the first time last year. I swiped right on like 40 girls, and I matched with 27 girls within 48 hours. I’m only 5’7” and not even Taiwanese or Chinese. And, I don’t speak Mandarin. Learn to take good photos, fellas.
All these years I had no luck with dating apps until God show me something different and yes I met women from outside of the United States and they are very different cause you don't have to be rich or be a successful person in college!! The two girls I met are very different!! I have a nice heart and that is what they are looking for!! They both are Asian girls and very sweet and I am so happy because I prefer them than girls here in the United States!!!!😊 I hate tatoos and I don't care about having muscles!!
I am unsure because I am keep on getting women from different countries. Mostly in the Philippines and countries too. Percentage wise in the United States is very low for me. Percentage in the foreign countries are high unless it is a scam. I am Chinese who is attracted to foreign women. Percentage of Chinese women is very low who are attracted to me.
Yes, it's very true that you won't have much luck as an Asian man who's looking to date in the U.S. You'll have better luck in Eastern European countries.
Never been on regular dating apps. I was on a specifically geek dating site. The matches on there were abysmal too! Basically no one! Actually there was one woman, 31 years old, she only had one photo & it looked decent. Turns out, it was an outdated pic! Why the hell do people do that? Lol Later on, she put more recent photos & I was shocked. In any case, someone in their 30's should not look like their 50's. Needless to say, that ended quickly. I understand that typically White woman age much faster than the other races of women, but that was unprecedented. Apparently, the concensus is that even on a geeky/nerdy dating site, the prospects are dogshit!! Lol
Yup dating app is waste of years. Dating app messes the mind. Date the average gal and learn to love them. This happens when you love yourself first. Don't limit yourself to preferences. Be open to all women. Otherwise time passes by fast, and you will be alone without your own family.
Maybe things are different for other people and other times, but I used Coffee Meets Bagel in 2016 and it worked wonders. I was single for years until then and I saw almost immediate results. I got several matches and all but one of them was great. Within a year or so, I met my now wife. I am hardly Ernest Khalimov or anything, I am fat, poor considering the area, and bald and I was fine.
dude is just an average guy who has over indexed on metrics his whole life with career and education but has nothing that helps with developing initial interest
I’m thinking it just takes good conversation with people he likes and asking for the number in a confident way. I’m sure if he plays the numbers game, his confidence will build overtime because there’ll always be the next to ask for a possible date
Not a bad thing to have preferences. But if that cuts down on your options, don’t complain. These apps are mainly timing and luck. Doesn’t reflect on your value as a person.
Yes, social skills is very important when meeting people in general. Next, he needs to know his audience of women. Is he looking for wild or nerdy? In this case, I'm guessing nerdy or wholesome so he needs to change his glasses to more a modern look that contours to his face or go contacts. Workout but not necessarily muscular. He needs to dress better - no need for expensive clothes or always in suits. There are clothes that make a man look good with the right color balance including shoes. Does he play an instrument since he's Asian? include a photo of him playing one. He only needs a good photo of his dog in good light. For the wild type, switch to contacts. No need for tatts but at least get some tan on his skin. He will need to muscle up and learn some hip-hop dance move because he will find them at clubs/parties. Photo of him pointing towards the water is all wrong. Is he teaching somebody what a waterfall is, or showing the world it's his first time witnessing one? Instead, same camera position but him sitting facing and enjoying the waterfall. There are lots more but I don't want to type too much.
There is an Asian dating coach that specializes in connecting Asian men with white women. His RUclips channel is ABCs of Attraction. I think he has a website too. This guy may have more luck using a matchmaker than dating apps.
if your asian never download a dating app again unless your in asia, your best chances are going outside or if your under average geomax right now!!! after making some money of course
Generally most women are looking for white or latino or black. The fact that the guy in this video is 5’11 and has a good job and works outs and has hobbies(hiking and his dog etc) and he still has a hard time dating means the average asian guy doesnt stand a chance.
the average asian men has the lowest SMV next to indian men, except for korean men they have a higher SMV if they maximize their looks with some surgeries to look a bit less asian
A lot of people like the culture but don’t necessarily want to date the people. Example: maybe a white guy or an asian guy likes hip hop, but that doesnt mean they want to date black women. 2nd example: maybe theres white girls that like kpop/anime/gets chinese tattoos on their bodies, that doesnt automatically mean they want to date or have sex with korean/japanese/chinese guys
@@shadowdraqon2479 I'm ngl if a better looking kevin nguyen type asian dude with tattoos got on dating apps but had a worse job and education I think he would be doing just fine. Dating apps are superficial in nature and although this dude has his life together, if people don't find him attractive then all that ivy league education doesn't mean much, maybe not until you're in your mid 30's and people are more eager to settle down. I'm not saying Asian men aren't disadvantaged to a certain extent on the apps but I think the dude in the video needs to work out a bit, look up some fashion advice vids, possibly get a different haircut, etc. before truly blaming the hinge or tinder.
Asian men arent the most popular. Its still a very small subculture. And if they did like korean men, it wont be just any korean guy. It would be the idol or bts type guys, who are definitely not the norm
Some of the apps are scams. Like adult friend finder has a ton of knockoff sites with the same backend and similar front ends with different domain names and front end templates but the same js. Same bots and paid women on them too. Then to message for a day it costs like $17. You can't just pay for everything.
The guy is probably too selective. However, he has to understand......same goes for the ladies as well. Sometimes you can't have everything.....so.....work with what you have and do the best you can. Life is short.....nothing is guaranteed even if you meet the right woman.....get married.....start a family......you might have a happy ending or a sad ending. Life. Who knows. Just Sayin'
All men not in the 5% should be off dating apps. 99.9% of the women on there only have _one_ thing to offer so don't take it so bad if you're not offered it or feel like you are missing out. A lot of them on there need a life saver from poor life choices or old carefree lifestyle, don't be that guy and don't be bullied into thinking that's misogynistic if you don't accept them. Don't be fooled by the shiny objects and the natural desire/need for intimacy. For the average man, time cannot be wasted. Your youth is spent building your life and _becoming_ the man that women may notice. Is it misandrist when women say a man isn't really even a man until he's at least 35? There is no such thing as building together now, women claim they can do it on their own with their made up title positions (that were proven non essential during the pandemic and will be again when something worse comes along), let them.
asian men should get off dating apps, especially the ones who send money to random strangers just so they get sweet words to boost their egos. they need to get real word experience and learn to deal with rejections, setbacks, and unexpected things.
So now that he knows the qualities of being 5'-11", Ivy League educated, fit, active, multilingual, pet loving, etc. aren't enough to get him what he wants, he should focus on the qualities and factors that will. Don't use a screwdriver when the task calls for a hammer!
No foodie date men, don't be a sucker and only allow one drink each. Don't date the gold-diggers, single moms, bananarangs for long term, just short term fun.
I also was a little confused on the exclusion of Asian women on there, but I guess you like what you like. I do well on dating apps even though I hate being on them, but I'm an Asian woman, so I imagine the experience is a bit different from the other side. I would agree with Andrew's advice, like 6 dates in 3 years is insanely low.. I think knowing what you're looking for and what you're putting out there in terms of photos is important. I purposefully don't put any photos that look risqué and write I'm looking for a serious relationship so guys know I'm looking for something real, which probs helps a little, although a lot of guys don't read the bio anyway :/ but you can only do what you can do.. maybe even if he had a female friend of the demographic he's looking for look it over or something, that would help as well..
Guy needs to go out and find a girl out and about. You're never going to win in the apps dept unless you're very good looking. Like others have suggested work out get in shape dress well and learn how to socialize. Whatever you do don't be a doormat.
white women dont care as much about your career lmao i feel like so many asian guys assume they know what white girls like because they live in a white centric society but they still have a very asian mindset. as an adoptee, if you want to attract white women, you need to let go of a lot of cultural norms that you grew up with unfortunately. that means assimilation. its easier if you grew up in a pwc because then you're probably halfway there. i feel like adoptee guys tend to have better success with white girls for example, because well, thats their natural environment. Its not just about your looks or career or even race. its also culture. this is ofc, assuming youre not into the koreaboos/weeb girls. who i personally think tend to be more racist than the average yt girl but thats just in my experience.
Asian guys have all the opportunities to find white/latino ladies in the 6...I'm white and see it often. They look legit, not ..."Who's looking at us", like some other mixes...just say'in , don't hate the observer...
Latina here, and he's a catch.... but he could also do well in Mexico! They love highly educated Asian men!! Love love LOVE!!! But if he wants Americanized white and Latinas ... could be a reach.... but doable! Plus you can be slim as long as you have edgey fashion sense and catch that 🐈⬛🐱😻😻😻💖 But I agree with Andrew, the more dates you go on the more you learn how to navigate social situations. Don't limit yourself.... Sometimes guys want to meet a virginal model on the first date! That's not realistic .. 😮
I’m Asian, f*ck apps. Workout, eat right, have good hygiene and fashion sense. More importantly socialize and build confidence. Not for women but for yourself. You’ll go far
100 facts..
Not even worth the headache. The better option get rich, use them (pump and dump), next, rinse and repeat. Don't fall in love and get married, they will take everything from you and alimony. Women will always seek the next best thing "hypergamy"
@@wanglee21 that is some red pill incel shit. You can find a great wife. It is def harder in the US, but they are def out there. Find the right person and treat her right
@@rocketman3770 It's just the trend of society today. I would say it's even more prevalent with people who are gym/ clubs/ bar lifers and anyone living life on IG, TikTok, social media. The success rate of a real life long relationship is less than 40% in modern America. Test your luck brother. I have and she lied just to get 50/50 of my assets and alimony. That's what happens when you think your doing the right thing and treating her right.
@@rocketman3770Not harder in us. If you found correct formula
It's better to date someone that you meet outside than go meet someone on a dating app.
Dating apps are garbage. As a Asian American man, I was able to land alot of dates with various woman of all colors when doing dating apps but to find out that all dating apps are superficial as fk. I went the old fashion way of just going to the store, libraries, beaches and etc to talk to girls and that is pretty much how I landed more genuine dates. Disappointing to know that Western culture created too many shallow females.
Good luck with that..
@@Kazo3708lol you make it sound like it’s impossible
Yes, he should delete dating apps. Studies showed 80% of women goes for less than 10% of the men there.
Yup. Apps are for fun and one night stands
As an Asian male in my early 40s that only had one girlfiend my entire life, which didn't happen until I was in my mid-30s, I checked out of the dating scene all together. The juice ain't worth the squeeze.
Hi. We are almost in the same situation. Im in my early 40s and only had 1 gf in my life, but im currently single. Would i be able to speak to you personally?
@@ignatiusanthonyevangelio2267 I've had a few Gf and I've talked to alot of girls. I'm 5'7 skinny viet. The things I've changed about myself is got contacts, no more braces, new clothing "kevin nguyen / kpop style" , and the girls flock to me. I dont have a problem talking to girls. Although i've also played sports most my life and bartend.
I am an Asian man, in my mid 40. Dated a few women, never had a girlfriend. Finally, I realised single life is the best life for a man to live in modern days. MGTOW is great.
@@ignatiusanthonyevangelio2267 I am an Asian man, in my mid 40. Dated a few women, never had a girlfriend. Finally, I realised single life is the best life for a man to live in modern days. MGTOW is great.
@@peterbanh1364 you're a loser bro
It’s a red flag when anyone excludes their own people from their dating pool and this guy needs to understand that.
Exactly. If you hate your own people, whqt does that say about yourself?
There's a whole lot more Asian women do the exact same thing.
@@Ron-px2svand they still get good results
@@N5X1odQ4gTSiwPjSQsucxA Not only that but they really dont get shit from society. They get called out only when they openly shit on Asian men and they act like they are being persecuted. Meanwhile Asian dude walks next to semi attractive non-asian woman in public and get glares/racist comments all the time.
It is not. People should date who they are attracted to (as long as all parties are adults and their mutual interest). Heterosexual men or women arent accused of hating anyone who is the same gender as them because they date someone of the opposite sex.
If those are really his pics...he's out of touch. He's not ugly, but he's clearly not hot, and would be judged so in Asia as well. He not only hasn't put in the time at the gym, but hasn't even tried more easy fixes like his haircut/fashion. He's distinctly average which isn't good enough in today's social media deluded society.
Yeah he’s delusional. He looks like a loser. If I was his friend, I’d tell him to start lifting. Dress better. Get rid of the glasses. Get a nicer haircut. He needs a lot of improvement before saying he wants to date white and latinas. Not even asian girls want you bro
Is weird how every comment says that you have to be buff as a dude to get a date on a dating app you can’t just be regular, when we all know that there’s chicks who are below average who still get dates 😢
OP is definitely punching wayyy above his weight class if he’s been trying this long with little success. I agree with Andrew at the end. OP needs to lower his standards OR bring himself up to the standards that he’s expecting of the girls he wants. He probably saw STPeach’s husband and was like “if he can get a hottie like that then so can I”. Newsflash, that works out for like 1% of the 1% of the 1% of Asian guys. Dress yourself better. Put some muscle on that frame. You don’t need to be Mr. Olympia. Putting just 10 lbs of muscle is totally achievable in a short time frame and will make all the difference in the way you look and carry yourself. Start wearing contacts when you go out or if you have the means get laser eye surgery. Take classes in literally anything. Cooking, dancing, rock climbing, auto repair. Make yourself more than just “skinny nerdy asian guy who went to a good school”, cause honestly… that’s just boring to most 20something girls.
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It is good when men can cook too 🍳.
Uh, isn't he a nurse? And he wasn't the best looking guy when he married her, and I think he's gained weight since then.
In general too, interracial dating tends to have higher rejection rates too unless you stay at Los Angeles or New York or another huge city
Edit: still possible but definitely harder
Pro tip: meet people at events with common interests
Hobbies > Dating Apps
I dont know if all latina are like this but as a mexican american I dont care about degree or school. My parents always told me what is important is who the person is. Do they treat there mom or sisters right, can they take a joke without getting offended, are they good to other people when no one is looking, would they get along with my family. Maybe because we are very family oriented these are a few things we look at. Degrees, schools, and status can be a bonus but not something tha definds a person. Yeah there are some latinas that care about thise things but we see those people as trying to "climb" the social later. My view might not be for all latinas though. Just what my family values. Because money and status comes and goes. I dont know i could be wrong.
John 3:3
Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
Mark 1:15 - “The time is fulfilled,” He said, “and the kingdom of God is near. Repent and believe in the gospel!”
Asian people are also family oriented. He is likely a very family oriented person. It's values that are changed. Though I am vietnamese so I never have issue.
Yep you are correct in thinking you are wrong. Your family is just one neurodivergent, possibly autistic view projected upon you to the point you dont even know what you want or what you're doing with your life. Pretty sad to see. Your PC comment here just serves to mislead others and judging from your pic and name, you are just low iq and it's not your fault.
Honestly, dating in the US is very competitive and it favors women! You can’t be average looking and expect high caliber women. You have to date within your level. I am glad I am gay because I don’t have the societal pressure to settle down and raise a family like straight people do 😂
So you don't want to continue your legacy, your seed, your last name?
@@hiddengem4293 Nope lol Not interested. As long as I am happy with the impact that I left while alive, it doesn’t matter if people remember me afterwards. Who is to say that their legacy will even remember them after death
@@hiddengem4293nice try attempting to manipulate this guy to worship women
@@DiamondFlame45well said
@@gaymer-j Nah. I am Latino. I get attention on the apps because I look and have a similar build like Mario Lopez but gay guys just don’t like to commit. Even when they are in a relationship or married, they are still open lol Straight people will never do that.
I deleted it. Been on 3 dates when I had it (4-6 years). Never really took it serious anyways.
It’s all a big game in the dating scene. Just understand Asian men will be playing on the highest difficulty compared to other races.
Women only play the tutorial though.
Hmong here, a bit overweight, dorky, very obnoxious, not every smart... hell I've never read a book in my life other than comic books. My wife is white/mexican, hot as hell and makes way more $ than I do. How was this possible? Personality bro. That's all it takes.
Right on, brotha!!
I guess there are people with no personality. 😂😂😂
I notice Southeast Asians tend to be less rigid and more charasmatic than East Asians on average. Even though we look very similar. I say this as an East Asian. For some reason(likely cultural) we have this self consciouness and burden that we carry with us everywhere.
@@nonhan1801 Probably from East Asian parents being more strict and having high standards.
You can confidently say you bring something to the relationship and why she fell for you. Some Asian guys just expect a big tiddy white girl to fall from the sky in front of them.
Of course I'm going to say yes to deleting the apps. Here in the U.S, Asian men are clearly the underdog v.s Black/White/Latinos & remain being underlooked & even unappreciated. Not fair that many of them are being taken advantage of for there $$$.
which is why we shouldn't give a damn about some things for USA
Unfortunately the negative stereotypes about asian men are still alive and well to this day. As an asian man you need to change your standards and be accepting of other types of women. You just can't be as picky as the guy in the reddit post. You just have to take what you can get. Work on yourselves and play into trends to get more swipes on these apps
Wrong it’s not your fault it’s their fault
He said hes only interested in white and latina women....he easily knocked down a lot of options for himself.
The reason the stereotype still exists is because there is just too many Asian guys living the stereotype just walk outside and your see many scrawny Asian kid with glasses looking nerdy as hell with the pot haircuts lol if Ur an Asian guy take that glasses off it do U better.
Dating apps aren't "real". By that I mean, it's all very objectified. It forces you to do that b/c it's all you have to go on. Someone's looks, their career, so on so forth. There's no real connection. Objectification is also why that guy failed. It's not just a pic of pets, but you have to show that you love your pet & that it's your life. It's all about character if you ever get past the other superficial stuff.
Stay off dating apps. They're a goldmine for narcissists. Meet someone organically instead. Real chemistry.
dang i want to hang out with the fung bros, the conversations would be so fun
Idk why but I remember the original fung bros looking different. Maybe their channel got passed on
To excel in dating apps, u hv to be good looking, doesn't matter if u are rich, successfull or tall.
Good looking "white"
@@topical6896 i dont think so, cuz there are many good looking white dudes who are struggling too.
Dating apps can be waste of time. Women play games
Yes. Dont bother with dating apps, you wont be appreciated at all. Work hard, get money, live life, and avoid relationships with women. Why bother trying to get a woman, when you could be living your best life, and without the problems women bring.
Edit: if you need sex, just pay for that shit, no shame.
If that's the case why even pay for it? Use your hand...Most lncels do any ways👍
@robinmoulette718 Last I checked, sex wasn't free anyway. Your legs don't just open up before the first date, but of course if you're a slut, then it probably does. 😉
Social can be also a big deal. I had good chemistry with a vietnamese guy and was intending to ask him out. But his Social was ridden with strippers and cars and I felt I wasn't in his interest and I never saw him again. Meanwhile, meeting my husband on a dating app and his Social was mostly food and nerd culture. The OP in question could just not be socially smart or can't interact in a meaningful way. On paper he sounds great, but in person he may not bring any engagement to the table.
Do you like asian guys?
Most people don't do well on these dating apps. Even if a lot of people are interested in you, they usually aren't a match.
If you are east Asian male the stereotype is nerdy, smart, socially awkward, weak, with solid job.
Dispel the negative attributes by working out and getting a visible 6-pack, work on your arms and shoulders as white/Latin women like dudes with big, wide shoulders, and a v shape torso. Just think about a pro soccer or pro tennis player type..
Have some active photos of yourself Jogging in a tank top, join a social, or sports club with white or Latino men and post those photos to show you have social skills and learn from these guys..
Basically, show you are not weak or socially awkward, the Bain of most east Asian men that are 7 or below on the looks scale..
Seems like he's limiting his own dating pool options from the jump. lol
It goes both ways. White women refuse to date Asian men which limits their dating pool and they wonder where are all the good guys at? If they only date White guys then they'll realize a lot of them are dating Asian women.
And why shouldn't he exactly? Are you saying that there are simply not enough white or Latina women who would be willing to give a typical Asian a chance? Are you ok with that? It's fine if you are, but then don't deny that you're a racist hypocrite who's ok with white and Latina women discriminating against him because of his race just because they "can", but scoff at him doing the same thing but toward his own race (admittedly, we don't know how he'd feel about black or other types of brown women, so I'm not saying the guy is necessarily a saint either). Own your sexual racism proudly.
@@hayvebromier2158Latin women don’t discriminate against Asians at all, this is clearly a him problem
I hate to say this but flaunting an Ivy League degree isn't gonna get you anywhere. It's literally what you do afterwards. I cannot emphasize this enough. If after you graduated college and you're doing well, maybe started a company, maybe you're in med school, or just passed the bar exam, working for a decent firm and have built a stable life, then yes people will credit your success partially to you doing well in college. But if all you can say is, 'I went to Harvard' and that's it, people will wonder why you're still stuck on square one because it'll likely be because of who you are as a person and not your school, which actually can backfire if you're also dealing with women who have similar education levels and are actually making progress. You just won't make the cut...
In this day and age, people are becoming more entrepreneurial and making more money without an IVY league education let alone a college degree lol Look at all these people making money off OF lol
@@DiamondFlame45 You're missing the point, the reason why they're talking about Ivy schools is because of underlying status. It signals that you were selected that by a prestigious school but unfortunately that's only the start. Real life happens afterwards. Also this video is talking about a guy, the demographic of making a lot of money on a platform like OF is skewed heavily towards women in their early to mid 20's. OF essentially devolved into freelance porn. Being an entrepreneur is also such a broad, catch-all term these days, that it's kind of become meaningless. Like if you say you're an entrepreneur, people still don't know what you actually do, unless you tell them specifics.
You’re overthinking it. Some people might be turned off by an Ivy League education, some people might not care at all, but for the ones who do care, it’s definitely a plus. People generally do like being able to brag a little bit about who they are dating. It definitely helps with parents to have some kind of status related attribute to share about your potential future spouse.
But the guy they are talking about in the video is into interracial dating. So that also means that his rejection rates will be higher than usual. And if he’s doing dating apps, then his rejection rate might be worse than it already is since the apps are superficial for everybody. And in my opinion, dating success really boils down to having courage to talking to a potential date, building chemistry, asking for the number, plan the first date, hope the date goes well and continue onward. And I’m also going to keep it real by saying the numbers game is pretty important these days because people kinda have high expectations in general and there’s always competition.
Dating apps are in the same category as nightclubs.. DO NOT make use of them if your not a GigaChad..
Dating apps for a guy is the equivalent of a guy trying to make the NBA. You could be a 50/40/90 player but if you're 5'5 you have ZERO chance based off just looking at you. Thats how the girls you wanna match with view guys on dating apps, they have so many options cause the ratio of males to females is in their favor. Unless you a top prospect you cant afford to be picky like that asian guy is being
Isn’t the general ratio like top 10% of men get 90% of the dates?
@@ssibal.inu1Chad Pareto 😅
Yep. Unattractive guys of all races have a hard time online
idgaf bout my success on dating apps, i just think of it as simply talking to people, practice conversations for real life. it's all based on how u approach it
although im still kinda salty that i was a rose for this one fine ass chick and managed to fumble it lol
Dating apps exacerbate and magnify all the negatives and women are positively reinforced to go after the top 10 percent of men as far as height, money, looks, racial preference, age etc.
There are far more men on dating apps than there are women. Plus, many women, including myself, have had enough creepy messages to be very hesitant about meeting up with any guy on there. So, not only are the demographics lopsided, but many guys have terrible photos and almost nothing on their profile. Have a warm, fun profile, and state your relationship goals. Have a woman friend take and choose your photos.
Really, this. Might not apply for every single woman user, but a lot of people respond to profiles that feel genuine than almost wordless bathroom muscle shots
Fish and salmon can easily have more protein than beef. Im Asian, I went from 130 - 170lb working out. 0 pull-ups to 60. 275lb bench. It’s really not that hard. It actually pretty simple if you eat enough. Crazy how opposed some of our brothers are to something so easy tbh…
Naaaa Asian men dont need to date apps, just broaden your horizons. Def not surprised hes not struggling. There's women that like Asian men like myself so pls
@@yehengmusic3521 what does that sound like I mean? Date different types of people
@yehengmusic3521 who's says they just have to be European honey? And by European do you mean Yt?? Lol I date everyone
@@yehengmusic3521 go on holiday?
@@yehengmusic3521 I mean travel around and see different types of women. It can't hurt. You might find the difference in culture is more welcomed than you expect
Never used a dating app. I found the women in my life the old fashioned way, by getting out there in the world and meeting them.
Honestly, that beats a dating app every single time. Being on a dating app is almost like chasing after a fantasy date, really
Yes, forget the dating apps.....go out and meet real people and go about your own life. The right girl will present themselves to you if you really want a relationship. Beauty is more than what's you see in an app. I'm 5-5.....i had no trouble finding a real woman.
As a Black man this is a most interesting conversation. In my community, the discussion is about going back to school, opening a business, and improving your standing in society. It’s the complete opposite here. The talk is about being less an academic looking and improving your outside appearance. Blows my mind.
Apparently nowadays as an Asian person, looking nerdy or your stereotypical Asian successful guy is not appealing.
No mystery. Going against stereotypes.
Dang he only likes 2 ideal types of women but excludes everyone else to see if he will connect with them well such as with compatibility
😂😂 he’s in for a rude awakening. There are countless beautiful women of all etnicities and he limited himself to 2. This lad needs to go see places in lieu of his four walls
Biggest problem for Asian guys on dating apps is that they stress their "husband qualities" rather than their fun qualities. Career, income, "fixing things around the house" are all things that are attractive to a mother-in-law, not a girlfriend. Talk about your passions and hobbies, not your ability to fund a 401K.
Hard for me to say, this one .. I've been on/off dating apps since 2018, & still haven't found much success. That, or the few girls who've "liked" me aren't really my type. Thing is, being on it without necessarily using it as much - means that your visible & on the market. However, constantly deactivating your profile on/off eliminates your presence. I'm a British-Filipino with blue eyes here in London & have already tried Tinder, Match & Hinge. I'm 5'9 & used to do kickboxing & lift weights, & specialize in art/design & IT/Tech .. And this dude is right - searching on dating apps does become stressful even after a short while. I also feel London is still very competitive for East/SE Asian men, despite significant developments in media representation. I still don't think us guys are favored as much as guys of other races here.
Asian men just don't fit the Western stereotype of what is an attractive man. Just look at the media (especially mainstream movies and see how few times (if any) are Asian men is portrayed as being attractive. It's just the facts.
Yeah man. It's tiring. Have you considered upgrading to Hinge+? Living north of England, as a Chinese guy, I feel like my matches have increased since I upgraded to Hinge+ last month
@@marlonlo9661 And that's why its important for guys like me to come to the fore & let people know there are big exceptions. If only I could get featured somewhere on some channel or podcast or TV, I will go crazy & say my peace. Consider me like a grittier version of Henry Golding.
@@hello838 Honestly it was ages ago when I tried Hinge, I'm thinking of getting back on it over Tinder but I wonder if its just gonna be the same.
Stop the feeling of being needy! You have to be confident and just don’t show girls that you need them. Reverse psychology always work. The truth of the matter is women have biological clock not men. We can have children at 70 . Just love yourself and travel more! Attitude matters to women!
Dating apps are great if you’re a white man . If you’re not then oh well lol
Hahaha, I use to think thesame!!
@@jammer0856is true white dudes kill it in tinder trust me I worked in tinder offices . We have the data blk men do very bad regardless of the stereos types I guess overhyping a people doesn’t work if h ugly
@DraculaButtfker this is true!!
Exactly!! Also same applies for clubbing & travel, if you are anything else you are wasting your MEAT
i met all my ex girlfriends and eventually my wife on dating apps. and im not white
Do men ever ask women what they want, or do you seek out advice from other dudes? Marketing 101 (I own a marketing biz): Seek information from your target audience. You want to date white and Latina women? Get involved in those communities. In person, because dating apps are superficial and they suck.
David at 10:00 took me out with the Chinese Mom comment 🤣. I made a short here: ruclips.net/user/shortsQXjkWO_yr8I, critiquing the original American Born Chinese graphic novel. Got a tonne of hate on this video (many comments were flagged/deleted) from mostly men who were mad at me for speaking out against old school eastern Chinese values. Chinese immigrant parents do not understand western dating culture!
Great critique overall. But never lie about your height, because what else you lying about? Women hate meeting men who say they are 6 on the apps and then meet them and the guy is shorter than her. Be honest and own it. I'm 5'11" (truly) so whenever I meet a man who claims he's 6, and then is shorter than me, he's a liar.
By the way, I say all this to be helpful, take it or leave it. There are lots of women who are afraid to comment on this channel because of all the bullying. But like FBs, I am also passionate about helping my community as well, so here we are.
Getting advise from the marking audience only works if it is honest. I do agree going to these places. I took on classical dance (salsa and the like) and there are mostly women here. It is odd being a single guy here though.
Funny reply. The reason is because most men know that women dont know what they want themselves as "most" run on emotions and not logic. Even my own mother knows not to trust what comes out of her mouth
"don't ask a fish how to catch fish" is what you'd hear.
@@Drownedinblood🤣 That’s Andrew Tate/Jordan Peterson influencer bro sh!t. Those men don’t care about you. They just want to sell you books, online courses and merch in exchange for toxic male mentality dating advice.
@@Drownedinblood that’s what dating guru dude bros who want to make money off of you say. It's very easy to make $ off men with dating insecurities.
LOL love the images of Lorde randomly
Lmao mostly looking for whyte or latina women. Hes the peak modern Azn male. Refuses to date women his own looks level. Wants blonde stacies.
Not every asian guy is an Incel like you. Most women who are interested in me are Turkish, white and Latinas. Those are the women who respond to me, maybe some filipinas too.
It’s hard to get muscles and takes a lot of time too
I go to gym regularly for health reason mainly
If you have shitty genetics that is.
In my opinion, you can burn fat way faster than building muscle, so if one can put in the work to melt the fat, it can give the illusion that one put on more muscle. Building muscle will be a chore since you gotta eat in surplus and lift heavier weights all the time. It can be difficult to maintain
If asian dudes starts lifting weights it would solve 80% of all their problems in the dating market
@@yehengmusic3521 hence why I said Asian dudes needs to lift.
It’s more about developing a fun and pleasing personality than it is about developing muscles
@@kimleemoonplus why need to visible muscles
when all you need is just strength
Go overseas
I can’t go to Cambodia. If I go to Cambodia my grandfather will arrange a marriage behind my back like he did to my uncle. That relationship broke when their oldest kids was ten, now I’ve got to watch my little cousins go through life without a mother. That shit’s not always the answer.
Despite me being iffy about this sort of thing, this is increasingly becoming a viable solution for me
@@Nara.Shikamaruwho said u had to specifically go to Cambodia? It's not the only country outside the west.
My advice date the old fashion way go out and meet people no dinner dates. Women just try to use you for your food. And attention. If you were Chris Brown. You will get it on the first day. No dinner date. Just level up your life. Love you bro. ❤
It's hard to meet people in real life. I've been cold approaching and I do sooo much better on dating apps. Cold approaching, most girls don't like it and meeting people through friends/work has never worked for me
@@jialian93maybe you’re too aggressive with the cold approaching or not coming across confidently enough. Plus, what success stories you got from dating apps bro?
Delete dating apps. Better to meet in person. My eldest brother in the mid-eighties ended up meeting and marrying a white girl who fell for him (in theater, since my brother was the lead actor in musicals of a small theater company). He was an arrospace engineer, now retired and a widower. A Japanese doctor married a white realtor maybe in the sixties or fifties and they had two beautiful children. (They were my aunt's neighbors in San Jose). Both son and daughter had Japanese features with light colored eyes. My cousin who looked Filipino married a white girl in the sixties or seventies. They divorced, then he narried a Colombian and they have two sons. Wilfred Steven Uytengsu studied in USC and met and married a white girl. A Chinese American dancer (family is from Hong Kong) in NYC married a beautiful Russian American girl. That's why I say meet them in person. The bassist(?) of One OK Rock married Avril Lavigne's sister. They can get them. They just have to know how to do it, and it's not through apps or online.
LMFAO my cousin needs to put his books in a Trader Joe’s canvas bag and carry them iron cross style 🤣🤣🤣 he doesn’t need to hit the gym - he needs to hit puberty 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Studies show that everyone doesn't use Apps, get outside and mingle.
Dating apps just brings potential matches. You still need to put in the effort to not only screen but also learn and search. Did you really expect the apps to just serve you up matches with little effort on your end?? Dating takes effort and intent- whether on the apps or offline. Apps are tools- they need to be used and operated effectively to give you a result.
thisssss
What’s your definition of effectively
20% of men get 80% of women. Asian males not really top 20%. I have very little success, it’s okay. Just keep making yourself better for yourself.
I met my Asian boyfriend on Reddit. (Am a Caucasian woman.) He’s the best thing I have ever found on the internet ❤. Apps are DESIGNED to keep you thirsty and single, guys. Don’t give up!
Are you fat white woman or dorky geeky white woman? Because if so you don't count.
Andrew the guru of dating apps 😅😂
All men should delete dating apps
I used CMB in Taipei for the first time last year. I swiped right on like 40 girls, and I matched with 27 girls within 48 hours. I’m only 5’7” and not even Taiwanese or Chinese. And, I don’t speak Mandarin. Learn to take good photos, fellas.
But did you get to bang?
Only dating app asian guys should be on is tantan. All other apps in North America kill your confidence.
Dating app is a struggle😢
All these years I had no luck with dating apps until God show me something different and yes I met women from outside of the United States and they are very different cause you don't have to be rich or be a successful person in college!! The two girls I met are very different!! I have a nice heart and that is what they are looking for!! They both are Asian girls and very sweet and I am so happy because I prefer them than girls here in the United States!!!!😊 I hate tatoos and I don't care about having muscles!!
1. Be more open.
2. Lift more weights, dress better
3. Do some in person approaches too. Dont rely only on the app.
I am unsure because I am keep on getting women from different countries. Mostly in the Philippines and countries too. Percentage wise in the United States is very low for me. Percentage in the foreign countries are high unless it is a scam. I am Chinese who is attracted to foreign women. Percentage of Chinese women is very low who are attracted to me.
Yes, it's very true that you won't have much luck as an Asian man who's looking to date in the U.S. You'll have better luck in Eastern European countries.
Dating apps suck! Dont waste your money as majority on these apps are low value women.
Never been on regular dating apps. I was on a specifically geek dating site. The matches on there were abysmal too! Basically no one! Actually there was one woman, 31 years old, she only had one photo & it looked decent. Turns out, it was an outdated pic! Why the hell do people do that? Lol Later on, she put more recent photos & I was shocked. In any case, someone in their 30's should not look like their 50's. Needless to say, that ended quickly. I understand that typically White woman age much faster than the other races of women, but that was unprecedented. Apparently, the concensus is that even on a geeky/nerdy dating site, the prospects are dogshit!! Lol
Both of you are still single?? Let's GO Fung Bros!!
Yup dating app is waste of years. Dating app messes the mind. Date the average gal and learn to love them. This happens when you love yourself first. Don't limit yourself to preferences. Be open to all women.
Otherwise time passes by fast, and you will be alone without your own family.
the avg gal wants a good looking guy, thats an issue. the avg gal has many picks in person and in online dating. the avg guy is generally screwed.
Maybe things are different for other people and other times, but I used Coffee Meets Bagel in 2016 and it worked wonders. I was single for years until then and I saw almost immediate results. I got several matches and all but one of them was great. Within a year or so, I met my now wife. I am hardly Ernest Khalimov or anything, I am fat, poor considering the area, and bald and I was fine.
dude is just an average guy who has over indexed on metrics his whole life with career and education but has nothing that helps with developing initial interest
I’m thinking it just takes good conversation with people he likes and asking for the number in a confident way. I’m sure if he plays the numbers game, his confidence will build overtime because there’ll always be the next to ask for a possible date
Not a bad thing to have preferences. But if that cuts down on your options, don’t complain. These apps are mainly timing and luck. Doesn’t reflect on your value as a person.
I'm lucky- I identify as Asian British so I've never had problems attracting girls.
Yes, social skills is very important when meeting people in general.
Next, he needs to know his audience of women. Is he looking for wild or nerdy? In this case, I'm guessing nerdy or wholesome so he needs to change his glasses to more a modern look that contours to his face or go contacts. Workout but not necessarily muscular. He needs to dress better - no need for expensive clothes or always in suits. There are clothes that make a man look good with the right color balance including shoes. Does he play an instrument since he's Asian? include a photo of him playing one. He only needs a good photo of his dog in good light.
For the wild type, switch to contacts. No need for tatts but at least get some tan on his skin. He will need to muscle up and learn some hip-hop dance move because he will find them at clubs/parties.
Photo of him pointing towards the water is all wrong. Is he teaching somebody what a waterfall is, or showing the world it's his first time witnessing one? Instead, same camera position but him sitting facing and enjoying the waterfall.
There are lots more but I don't want to type too much.
You’ve had success on dating apps? just curious
There is an Asian dating coach that specializes in connecting Asian men with white women. His RUclips channel is ABCs of Attraction. I think he has a website too. This guy may have more luck using a matchmaker than dating apps.
Dude's a high tier normie..
He also comes across as a snake-oily tbh.
if your asian never download a dating app again unless your in asia, your best chances are going outside or if your under average geomax right now!!! after making some money of course
Wouldn’t being Asian give you bonus points, because Asian men are the most popular on the market these days. Especially Korean men.
Generally most women are looking for white or latino or black. The fact that the guy in this video is 5’11 and has a good job and works outs and has hobbies(hiking and his dog etc) and he still has a hard time dating means the average asian guy doesnt stand a chance.
the average asian men has the lowest SMV next to indian men, except for korean men they have a higher SMV if they maximize their looks with some surgeries to look a bit less asian
A lot of people like the culture but don’t necessarily want to date the people. Example: maybe a white guy or an asian guy likes hip hop, but that doesnt mean they want to date black women.
2nd example: maybe theres white girls that like kpop/anime/gets chinese tattoos on their bodies, that doesnt automatically mean they want to date or have sex with korean/japanese/chinese guys
@@shadowdraqon2479 I'm ngl if a better looking kevin nguyen type asian dude with tattoos got on dating apps but had a worse job and education I think he would be doing just fine. Dating apps are superficial in nature and although this dude has his life together, if people don't find him attractive then all that ivy league education doesn't mean much, maybe not until you're in your mid 30's and people are more eager to settle down. I'm not saying Asian men aren't disadvantaged to a certain extent on the apps but I think the dude in the video needs to work out a bit, look up some fashion advice vids, possibly get a different haircut, etc. before truly blaming the hinge or tinder.
Asian men arent the most popular. Its still a very small subculture. And if they did like korean men, it wont be just any korean guy. It would be the idol or bts type guys, who are definitely not the norm
5 ft 11 by itself isn’t enough to be attractive. That’s just above average height
doesn't matter if you're Asian or not, it matters if you're good looking or not. Ha!
He needs to download some Asian dating apps, I know plenty of Asian girls who want to marry Asian Americans or Asian Canadians.
Some of the apps are scams. Like adult friend finder has a ton of knockoff sites with the same backend and similar front ends with different domain names and front end templates but the same js. Same bots and paid women on them too. Then to message for a day it costs like $17. You can't just pay for everything.
The guy is probably too selective. However, he has to understand......same goes for the ladies as well. Sometimes you can't have everything.....so.....work with what you have and do the best you can. Life is short.....nothing is guaranteed even if you meet the right woman.....get married.....start a family......you might have a happy ending or a sad ending. Life. Who knows. Just Sayin'
All men not in the 5% should be off dating apps. 99.9% of the women on there only have _one_ thing to offer so don't take it so bad if you're not offered it or feel like you are missing out. A lot of them on there need a life saver from poor life choices or old carefree lifestyle, don't be that guy and don't be bullied into thinking that's misogynistic if you don't accept them. Don't be fooled by the shiny objects and the natural desire/need for intimacy.
For the average man, time cannot be wasted. Your youth is spent building your life and _becoming_ the man that women may notice. Is it misandrist when women say a man isn't really even a man until he's at least 35? There is no such thing as building together now, women claim they can do it on their own with their made up title positions (that were proven non essential during the pandemic and will be again when something worse comes along), let them.
Best decision ever made for my mental health
asian men should get off dating apps, especially the ones who send money to random strangers just so they get sweet words to boost their egos. they need to get real word experience and learn to deal with rejections, setbacks, and unexpected things.
ironically if he was on the gay dating apps like grindr or blued, he'd get a bunch of messages.
eww
Keep the dating apps, but don't solely rely on it. Travel, take a Salsa or Bachata class, volunteer for a Latino organization. Theres a ton on ways
So now that he knows the qualities of being 5'-11", Ivy League educated, fit, active, multilingual, pet loving, etc. aren't enough to get him what he wants, he should focus on the qualities and factors that will. Don't use a screwdriver when the task calls for a hammer!
No foodie date men, don't be a sucker and only allow one drink each. Don't date the gold-diggers, single moms, bananarangs for long term, just short term fun.
Andrew needs to drop a dating app course cause he got 8yoe
Dating apps are shit. Dude has nice credentials, but he needs revamping in looks.
I’m on a dating app and I’ve never had one Asian guy come acrossed it. I’m white female btw
That guy has bad photos and needs a fung bros make over! Hit him up with the fade and line up 🥶
I also was a little confused on the exclusion of Asian women on there, but I guess you like what you like. I do well on dating apps even though I hate being on them, but I'm an Asian woman, so I imagine the experience is a bit different from the other side. I would agree with Andrew's advice, like 6 dates in 3 years is insanely low.. I think knowing what you're looking for and what you're putting out there in terms of photos is important. I purposefully don't put any photos that look risqué and write I'm looking for a serious relationship so guys know I'm looking for something real, which probs helps a little, although a lot of guys don't read the bio anyway :/ but you can only do what you can do.. maybe even if he had a female friend of the demographic he's looking for look it over or something, that would help as well..
Most guys feel they are invisible on dating apps
Guy needs to go out and find a girl out and about. You're never going to win in the apps dept unless you're very good looking. Like others have suggested work out get in shape dress well and learn how to socialize. Whatever you do don't be a doormat.
I feel like deleting myself
white women dont care as much about your career lmao i feel like so many asian guys assume they know what white girls like because they live in a white centric society but they still have a very asian mindset. as an adoptee, if you want to attract white women, you need to let go of a lot of cultural norms that you grew up with unfortunately. that means assimilation. its easier if you grew up in a pwc because then you're probably halfway there. i feel like adoptee guys tend to have better success with white girls for example, because well, thats their natural environment. Its not just about your looks or career or even race. its also culture. this is ofc, assuming youre not into the koreaboos/weeb girls. who i personally think tend to be more racist than the average yt girl but thats just in my experience.
These guys seriously said go to a country just for photos on dating apps 😂
Best way to meet women is through friends or work in my experience. But i’m Scandinavian and work in the healthcare sector😅
Asian guys have all the opportunities to find white/latino ladies in the 6...I'm white and see it often. They look legit, not ..."Who's looking at us", like some other mixes...just say'in , don't hate the observer...
Latina here, and he's a catch.... but he could also do well in Mexico! They love highly educated Asian men!! Love love LOVE!!! But if he wants Americanized white and Latinas ... could be a reach.... but doable! Plus you can be slim as long as you have edgey fashion sense and catch that 🐈⬛🐱😻😻😻💖
But I agree with Andrew, the more dates you go on the more you learn how to navigate social situations. Don't limit yourself....
Sometimes guys want to meet a virginal model on the first date! That's not realistic .. 😮
I think all males kind should just get off dating apps.