I don't think it's anybody's business to disagree with your life experience. Thank you for being honest about your feelings, that's important. I think you are a really good dad.
This reminds me of the morning I left for basic training. My dad ; WWII ,fixed me a full breakfast at 0430 in the morning and we sat and we talked . He pressed a $50 in to my hand and he shook my hand and hug me as I left. That was the first time I realized he was talking to me like a grown man. That was the last thing I remembered when I left his hospital room after I removed life support . Tomorrow is his birthday and I have had this song on repeat while I drank my coffee and thought about him. I hear my last son moving in his room getting ready to head out to work. Thanks dad OGEE 58
First. Above all Thank you for service defending our freedom. I almost never comment on videos... I found your channel today... As a divorced father of 2 as well as a step father who raised 2 more beautiful kids for 13 years, you sharing that you almost wish you hadn't met your dad....... NEVER blame yourself for your dad's decisions. That amazing man(whom legally became you father) without question is the reason you are who you are today.... He may not be your biological dad but in my eyes hes your dad and when the day comes to say goodbye, you will then know he was and will always be your dad... He is the man that guided you to now guide your son to be as man... Much love for your 100 percent honestly on this channel.
Both James and his dad were officers in the British Army: James was a Captain and his dad was a Colonel. The line; "we're just two grown men saying goodbye" was said by James to his dad as he was leaving for the Kosovo war, in the Balkans in '99. At the end of the recording, James and the crew were all in tears. His dad snarked "I'm not dead YET"!! and had to console them all. After releasing this song, James gave all proceeds to the British charity "Help For Heroes", which aims to help veterans. What a champ!!
Hey bro, greetings from across the pond 😊🇬🇧 The background to this song is firstly James and his Dad are both ex-British military. James saw active duty in amongst other places, Kosovo. A few years back James’ Dad was diagnosed Stage 4 kidney Cancer which I’m sure in 99% of cases is a terminal diagnosis. Well at this traumatic time James’ sister composed a pure and handed ut to him, James took this and used it as the basis to this song. He decided to record it rather than speak with his Dad face-to-face (battle-hardened or not even the toughest guys can find heart-to-hearts a tough gig I guess). Due to the success of the song a distant relative of Jame’s dad came forward and after tests it was determined they were a perfect match for a kidney donation procedure, James’ dad underwent the kidney transplant and ALL IS NOW GOOD!! 😊 On a related note Iam Tongi auditioned for 2023’s American Idol with this song after HE’D LLOST HIS DAD, he made it all the way to the season FINALE where he appeared in stage to DUET THIS WITH JAMES ……… and he WON!! Their duet is probably even more EMOTIONAL than this, Best wishes bro 😊🇬🇧🇺🇸
You broke the cycle of bad/absent parenting. Many don’t do that because they grow up too hurt themselves. Your children are very lucky to have you. Congratulations on being one of the strong & caring ones.
My husband and his older brother didn't have a father figure. His bother stayed in the cycle, but for 35 years, my husband has been the best husband to me and then the best daddy to our kids. A few years ago his brother asked how he managed. He said that whenever he had to make a decision he asked himself what would Mom have done and I did the opposite.
James's father was in kidney failure & they couldn't find a donor. James wrote this song as a goodbye to his dad, he shot this video in 1 take & that is his dad. Thankfully after this song was released there was a distant cousin that turned out to be a match & his dad is doing well. Thank you for your service Sir🇺🇲❤️
First, you deserve the subscribers. Next, someone raised you right, and you obviously learned to be a real man - open, honest, and able to share wisdom. This song always hurts. My dad had full onset Alzheimers at 54. I was his caregiver at 19. I never had an adult conversation with him after he was ill. It was a quick onset, and I spent the next eight years visiting his bedside often. He didn't know me, but I knew he liked me - and that is what I cherish still at 60.
@tw9165 thank you. It was rough, but in the end, it made me a better man. I am excellent in a crisis, have abundant empathy and compassion, and am often told that I grew into an exact version of my dad. He was awesome at being human, so it is a good thing.
as a British vet my self I've been in some dark places. But when you can share your emotions with other veterans even things like this video, it certainly makes your life that little bit better even for a short time until the next video. Keep up the good work bro.its nice to no where not alone in this world,
This song of James Blunt’s, “Monsters” was a heartfelt tribute to his father. The video is so powerful because sitting beside James Blunt is his real-life dad, Colonel Charles Blount. who was a former cavalry officer, battling stage 4 chronic kidney disease. The song captures such raw emotions of facing mortality and saying the things we may want to say to a loved one before it’s too late 💗 I can never get through this, without crying..........Thank you for such a heartfelt reaction, & sharing your story 💗 Thanks! 💗
Iam 80 years and take care for my 2 son,s and daugther all by myself,work hard and try to be not only the mom,also the father,they are oke Iam watching them like a lion..I love your comments ,and I am sure you be a very good dad..Kiss from the Netherlands,Rotterdam❤❤
Nobody should be able to judge you for how you feel about your father or the fact that you have no contact with him. You have your reasons and you're doing the best for YOU and your family! Best of luck ❤️
James Blunt and his father were both in the British army (Captain and Colonel, respectively) When they both deployed, "I'm not your son, you're not my father, we're just two grown men saying goodbye" was something they agreed to before seeing each other off to war. They both saw combat in Afghanistan. The proceeds from this went to 'Hope for Heros', a military charity.
Neither of them served in Afghanistan. James served in Kosovo. His father had not only retired by 2001 but his unit the Army Air Corps didn't deploy to Afghanistan until 2006
I don't know where you get your info, but it's completley wrong they never said this to each other while going off to war, and none of the served in Afghanistan, James' father was too old to serve there and was already retired from active service, and James served in the Kosovo war never went to Afghanistan.
From Wikipedia: His father was a cavalry officer in the 13th/18th Royal Hussars and then a helicopter pilot while he was part of the Household Cavalry Regiment. In 1999, Blunt volunteered to join a Blues and Royals squadron deploying with NATO to Kosovo. Initially assigned to carry out reconnaissance of the North Macedonia-Yugoslavia border, Blunt's troop worked ahead of the front lines, locating and targeting Serbian forces for the NATO bombing campaign. The family has a long history of military service, dating back to the 10th-century
Dont let anyone judge your relationship with ur father as they dont know him and yours story. Your the father now and your the father he wasnt for your children. Your a good man and very honest and open. Sending you much luv and respect from across the Atlantic.
One of the most important songs of our time. i just got a chance to say goodbye to my dad. I have two brothers one decided to join me the other did not. Both made the right decision for themselves. The one that went thought he was going there to forgive my dad for my dad's sake. What he doesn't realize is that forgiveness is really for the forgiver. It's a gift we give ourselves to stop being angry and sad and enjoy our lives without the regret of not having a dad. God Bless you in whatever you decide to do. You deserve all the happiness in the world
Thank you for this one, your comments about your father totally hit home. They helped me, Blacklisting your father for the things he has done is not an easy road and knowing that I am not alone gives me strength.
This video reaction is the best yet. "I didn't have a father growing up" shows that it is the universal truth that we emapthise. Without a father, you know what a father is.
We all have a road to follow. We choose to have people that support our choices and help us through life. You found people who love you and l believe made you the man you are. I think they helped raise a great man. No doubt
I really admire your vulnerability. It’s rare to see that from men on social media, & it shows so much strength. You’re undoubtedly helping many by sharing your story in such a real way. ❤️💕
As emotional as this makes me... Seeing James and seeing people in this case of course especially men I myself don't know the bond myself. Family bonds in general. I understand it for other people but not for myself. Total strangers happen to feel closer, more relatable to me. For my experience looking at my parents. Better don't have them than have bad ones. Not everyone should have or be allowed to have kids. Hug to you man.
This was a tribute to his dad. At the time of his recording this his father was dying. There was a lot of love between the two as you can see in the video. I am sorry that isn't the case with you and your dad.
Havent spoken to mine in 20 years, like you i also know where he lives but i will never make amends. Some things can never be forgiven. I was blessed to have a step father for 30 wonderful years who treated me as his own, it is he who i grieved for and he who i will always see as my father.
No matter the man he was, or monster he may have been, always remember, its because of his seed is the reason you are here. HE IS! The reason we are watching you and the reason you have your kids today. I too had a very difficult time with my dad but i realized at age 54 that he too must know and must regret alot of things. We as men never let our feelings out... So for yourself and for him to rest easier when the time comes, one must i think, squash all the internal hatred and let each other know that we forgive them. Its the only way you can heal and help another also heal. I see your hurt, i see your frustration and deep down i can see your pain. Its not to late .... be the bigger man and at least let him know no matter what you forgive him. Much love from the caribbean.
the thing that always gets me is when his dad holds James' arm and rubs it with his thumb. Like you know everything you need to know about what kind of man and father he is in that simple action.
Hi from Australia, you are a wonderful person for sharing your story, the truth will set you free❤. My dad wanted a son and he got two daughters, I was the second born, so he never wanted me, he put all of his time, energy and money into my sister, growing up he never told me he loved me or even showed it and up til this day, I have had four children, I live blocks from my sister and he still doesn't visit me or my children, he calls my sister weekly and never calls me. I had a lot of resentment for a long time, than my mum died, she was my best friend and I had a clarity moment. I realised that life is too short, and I wasn't going to die being the one in the wrong. So I let it all go, I call him one a fortnight and when he is at my sisters, I will go see him. Holding on to so much anger, never did me good, now I can die knowing I tried, I was in the right. Now I have a terminal illness, and I'm so glad that when I go, I will not be going with all that hate in my heart, letting it go, made me a better parent and I learnt from my dad's mistakes, I make sure my children know that they are loved and they are all treated equally. I'm only 41 and since forgiving and being this better person, I am now beating this illness and it's for my children that I hang on every day. This is the first time I have watched your channel and I'm now subscribed. Don't let the past weigh you down, you are the better person, you have his address, write him a letter, tell him how you feel and forgive, you will feel lifed and even if he doesn't respond, you know that you have done the right thing. And you learnt from him, how not to be a father, you have become a better dad than he could have ever been. I wish you well for the future ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’m sorry you are going through all of that. You sound like an amazingly strong person. I’m so glad to hear you are beating your illness! With your big heart, your family is lucky to have you.❤
THANK YOU!!!! Thank you for the entertainment you provide. Thank you for your service in defending the best damned country on the planet! Thank you for enduring the ptsd that you do because you defended this country. Simply. Thank you.
No thank you!!!! You are doin big things my friend…. You have already helped me more than you know… you restored a little bit of my faith in humanity….
Very emotional 😢 all children deserves a good father around unfortunately not all have that in their life's but there's always someone you can find to look up ❤✌️
Just found your channel, really appreciate your content. You had 8k subs when you made this video that was a month ago, you have double that one short month later. Well deserved, please keep the amazing content coming.
You are a better and best dad because you give your kids what you didn't had. thank you for being a good dad. My son only met his dad when he was 13yr old. but today he is the only one that helped him after his dad had a seizer and paralyzed. So forgive and forget. It make you a better person
We should not have to feel bad or second guess the choices we make. By not letting toxic individuals in your life and being a responsible and loving human being you have turned into a great man. I can tell by the way you talk about your wife, your children, the things you stand for and the things you won't tolerate such as laying your hands on a woman. Congratulations for your subscription success. You deserve it. Much love my friend.
I can relate. Parents are people too, & they make bad decisions. Just remember, You are the better part of him & the love you feel, the yearning you long for is already there in your heart. Take this love & wrap it around your family & yourself. I had to learn to toughen up & see my dad's hate towards me, I blamed myself for too long., but as time went by, I realized my dad's hate was his hurt & guilt & that it wasn't me, it was his own mind clogged up with layers of misery he could not get past. You are here for a reason, to conquer this loss & turn it around for you & him. Continue to write to him, because in his last days, he will know the truth..the truth being He avoided his responsibility due to a cold heart & a clogged mind., but yet you still was there for him. Just know we survive this & it just makes you stronger in your love to your family & to yourself. Let go & as the song says, I'm not your son, I'm not my father, we are just 2 grown men saying goodbye. You are the link, that will break the vicious cycle of his mental incompacity. Thank you for your service & thank you for keeping the love in your heart for us all to see. Hugs & salute to you ❤
After James served in Kosovo, he was a captain in the queen's cavalry. Both he and his dad were serving Officers. James shows his emotions through his songs and voice. His father is old school, stiff upper lip. He pats James' arm at the end of video. They wanted James to use autotune, he refused as he wanted it to be real and raw. It was filmed in one take. At the end all the engineers were in tears and his dad had said "why is everyone crying, I'm not dead yet". James's dad apparently used the phrase you're not my son, I'm not your father when James was deployed to Kosovo. His dad received a kidney transplant from a distant relation on the other side of the world and survived. That's his real dad in the video.
Loved Iam, but you can't beat James Blunt. His style, intensity, timing, etc. make this the most emotional song I have ever heard. Iam made me cry, but his style is more casual and although it was intense, it didn't beat out James I think the writer can usually give us a better version.
@@jackwhitbread4583 Yes. I felt SYMPATHY for Iam. I felt bad for him because I knew he was hurting, but James makes us empathize with him and makes his pain our own. When James sings the song, I am right back at my mom's deathbed. Iam touched my heart - but James shatters my soul.
Such a beautiful song. I had parents but they abandoned me and my brothers and sisters. We were shipped off to an orphanage. Some kids would scare us and say that there were monsters in the closet and under the bed. I still have problems sleeping because of that. This for some reason makes me think of my childhood. 😢
Thank you for your service to your country and to those lucky children of yours who have a father in their lives who understands the important responsibility he has to them. You're a good and valuable person. Be at peace!
thx for your honest reaction. Soz for the loss of the love or your father. I hope you will manage to cope with that and you and your father have the strength to conquer your differences.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I was raised by my " stepfather ". He really was the only father I knew since I could remember. My biological father came into my life when I was 13. And like you, I always wondered if I should've let him into me life to begin with. He wasn't ever there for me; even after "reuniting " . I don't know your full story; but you did mention that you had someone to look up to . After many years of biological dad continuing to let me down; I decided to tell him ... that I would always be willing to be a part of his life, but it was up to him to reach out to me. I couldn't keep on hoping that he'd be a father to me. It hurt too much. We owe ourselves self respect. Even if that means we have to break ties with family/friends. It's not easy; nor is it selfish but it's necessary for your own mental health .
My father and I have a distant relationship sadly but I’ve used it to ensure I’m close to my son and am there for whatever he needs. This is a fantastic tribute. How James got through it in one take is amazing.
My relationship with my own father broke many years ago. I hadn’t spoken to him for the last twenty five years. He died in August. This song hit me really hard-not from regret but from wishing I could have had a father who loved me and whom I could have loved. Don’t feel any shame in your feelings, brother.
James and his dad are really close. The “I’m not your son, you’re not my father” part is due to a British ‘stiff upper lip’ love between a father and son, both former military, so they train the emotions out of you. My dad is the same, but I know he loves me. This at the time was James expressing his feelings before his dad passed away of kidney cancer, but thankfully he did in fact “chase the monsters away” with this song. A relative saw this and donated their kidney and years later Blunt Snr is still alive. And all the earnings of this song went to ‘help for heroes’ charity. ❤ Love your reaction, it lifts my heart to see people cry at these songs, especially men. You deserve all your subscribers and more.
As someone who only has his grandfathers influence to learn on, I'm sorry you went through something like I did. I am in the opposite though, my mother way never there for me. I lived a life with an already broken father and no mother. It isn't a life I would wish on anyone.
Praying that you get all the help and All the financial assistance you need to accomplish your goals.This song hits home to a lot of men and differently to others.Mr.Blount’s father was gravely I’ll until death..But he got the transplant he needed and recovered!! I listened to and watched your honest reaction.As a woman,my Fathers was so mean to me,and treated me horribly. I feared him for the first 14 years of my life.Fear turned into pure Hate.Later in life he mellowed out, we made peace, and I tolerated him until he passed when I was 63years old.At his funeral, I couldn’t squeeze out not one tear for him.We had no bond at all.Please continue to love on your children and show them the right way!❤❤❤ 0:00 1 p.m. Wednesday July 12
It takes a special kind of man to be a Daddy; it's the hardest and most rewarding thing any man could ever achieve. For the children of men who could see that truth, my heart breaks.
Your biological father must be cold as ice. Its evident that you had a great man to have guided you, for you to speak as a loving father about your children's future. I love your reaction
Truth be told I didn't have any type of father figure really to look up to growing up. But I did learn from the mistakes of my father. He showed me what not to do. lol So I guess I can be thankful.
james wrote this song because his father was needing a kidney transplant and it wasnt looking good of him receiving one. his father was in stage 4 kidney failure. james recorded this in one take and its his father sitting next to him.
Bro I beg you. Accept that even though your father might not have given you what you wanted, you learned from him how not to be. That's worth something. My dad didn't talk to my grandfather for 35 years until he died. Now my father has lost his opportunity to come clear and relieve the emotional package. He is an absolute wreck unable to show emotion because it would actually destroy him. My father gave me enough reasons to turn my back on him but leaving is at least for me the bigger loss. Heavy stuff jadajada anyway. Have a great time and best of luck ❤
It is true that sometimes it's best to sever bonds with people that act with an ill heart. But a father is a figure that has a great weight in our mind. And having any negative feelings towards that, it's a hindrance that's very hard to remove. It's my gut feeling, that your father still lives in your heart, draining it in the background. There's no reason to invite a negative influence to your life, but it's never too late to forgive, really forgive, and show kindness. Even if there's a dragon in front of you. You are responsible for your peace of mind, do what you must. Nice video, take care!
Hello. THIS was the first time You showed up on my screen, but I have heard this song several times. THIS time I was sad for you instead of the emotional video. I am so sorry that you are still in obvious pain, about your absentee parent.. Life can be so extremely unkind. I am 73, chose to marry a guy who ended up making me miserable for many years), stayed in it because we had children (another huge mistake), finally divorced, after 25 years in a home that I loved, it burned to the ground taking everything, and the unthinkable is that I had two daughters and lost both of them to iilless many years apart. If it wasn't for my faith in God, I know I would live in misery from all I have been through. Instead I chose to keep going and find joy and fun with God by my side. I do still have my firstborn son who is wonderful. I believe that we all have a Heavenly Father who is with us throughout our entire lives. The older I get, the more I understand that God is my Rock and He does answer prayers. We just have to listen for them. May you find the release from the emptiness and sorrow of your past, and rejoice in your children who are with you. Take care and thank you for your service to our country. 🤗🙏💙❤🇱🇷
So much love to you and your family ❤ You are a breath of fresh air here on this platform. And I can connect in some ways to your upbringing and your feeling in this song.
I am a parent, and I am a child. Some of my children grew up without me. Why wasn't I there? Because I couldn't be who they needed. I was so broken and they would have been too. I love them, I always did and I wanted everything for them. I so hope they forgive me. I don't know your story but I hope this helps a little. Speaking as the child of parent I was distanced from before he passed, If you can find it within yourself to accept that the guy who made you possible couldn't be the man to make you the man you have become, you will begin to heal from this. You are enough, you always were. For yourself, forgive him. Take care, Tash
Paused the video to make a rare comment. You said all sons want to know their Dad is proud of them and all Dad’s want to make sure their sons are ok and will be successful in life (paraphrasing). Might I humbly suggest that a Dad is also looking at his children, daughters and sons, and praying to the heavens that when his time comes they will be proud of him. If I’m being honest, if you raise your kids right, you know they’ll be alright. When medical issues hit and you don’t know how much time you have left, the singular validation of your life can only come from your kids. Just my opinion.
Damn, as a man that didnt have guidance from my father growing up, this song hits hard. All I want for my children to know that I loved and guided them the best I could.
I was lucky my Dad was not perfect but he was lovely and definitely a man's man, he passed a couple of decades ago and my biggest regret was not visiting and seeing him enough in the latter years of his life. He was in Burma during World War 2, fighting the Japanese in the jungle, quite near the Bridge on the River Kwai and when I went to Thailand in my early 20's, my Dad asked me to go and pay my respects to the war dead, prisoners of war buried near the bridge, so I went in his stead. The Thai's recognised my British accent and the whole tone of the visit changed to one of utmost respect for my father fighting for that regions freedom from the Japanese, as the Thai's lost 1000's that were just thrown into the river by the Japanese, so I travelled on the train over the bridge that the POWs had built and I sat with the monks in the jungle for a bite to eat, a visit and a moment in time I will never forget.
Watching your reaction again because the first time took me by surprise; this big, strong man being able to cry because he felt it. And listening on, your words of advice to raise kids - "teach your son to be the man you want your daughters to marry". Well, not an exact quote, but it means a lot to me. I only have one of each, a girl and a boy, and if I can teach them anything, it would be those words. I came back here for a reason and found it. Thank you.
I also didn't have a father figure growing up, yesterday I met my half brother for the first time, he is 10 Years younger than I am, my father abandoned my mother when I was 2, I never knew my father at all, I found out yesterday when I met my half brother that he died a few years back, I felt so sad and I don't know why, I was visiting my mother on the weekend with my daughter, we decided to get tattoos, we walked into the tattoo shop, they had afternoon openings, when I talked to the artist, he asked my name and when I told him he said ,that was his grandmother's name, I asked him who his father was, it was also my father, not knowing my father left a hole in my heart that will never mend, my mom did the best she could. And now I just found a half brother ❤ I'm in my 50s and never had a relationship with my father, but this song crushed me. 😢
My oldest son never met his father and it bothered him until he met a half brother and half sister via social media and found out that his dad was "not a nice person". When he found out what kind of a man his father was he thanked me for not exposing him to the abusive person his biological father was (I never trash mouthed him). If your bio dad is truly not a nice person, concentrate on your children just as you are doing and let him go. If it's just a personality difference then try to make amends and apply a little tolerance for someone just different than you. Life isn't forever. Once he's gone there is no making amends.
Some of us grieve for the father we had... And some us grieve for the father who was never there. By his choice, by circumstance..or because he simply was not capable of being a daddy. Maybe some fathers set unintentional boundaries because they instinctively know they cannot or won't be a good parent. It's up to us to find the person that best fills that gap. Don't give up.
don't worry about the passed. Be thankful for your mom who raised you to be the kind person that you are. What if you change James words and replace dad with mom. I raised my son alone and I am so proud of him for the man he become.
My bio dad questioned if I was even his & then his wife treated me like shit. My mom met the man I called dad when I 2 & as far as I'm concerned that is my dad period. Any man can be a father, it takes someone special to be a dad.
Don't wait brother. He may never make that first step. Be the man your father should've been. Show him how it's done and go to him. Forgive him for everything and ask his forgiveness. Tell him you love him--make your peace before it's too late. Once he's gone, you'll never have another chance, and you'll regret it for the rest of your life if you don't. Glorify God by honoring your parent and he'll glorify you both. Good luck
I know exactly what you are conveying about your dad. My kids have an awful dad and as they grew up it is more evident than ever that they saw all of his monstrous actions and his malignant narcissism. He is and always was severely abusive and its a struggle for all of us even 35+ years later❤😢
I don't think it's anybody's business to disagree with your life experience. Thank you for being honest about your feelings, that's important. I think you are a really good dad.
This reminds me of the morning I left for basic training. My dad ; WWII ,fixed me a full breakfast at 0430 in the morning and we sat and we talked . He pressed a $50 in to my hand and he shook my hand and hug me as I left. That was the first time I realized he was talking to me like a grown man. That was the last thing I remembered when I left his hospital room after I removed life support . Tomorrow is his birthday and I have had this song on repeat while I drank my coffee and thought about him. I hear my last son moving in his room getting ready to head out to work. Thanks dad
OGEE 58
Hit me hard with this one! Thanks for sharing
First. Above all
Thank you for service defending our freedom.
I almost never comment on videos... I found your channel today...
As a divorced father of 2 as well as a step father who raised 2 more beautiful kids for 13 years, you sharing that you almost wish you hadn't met your dad....... NEVER blame yourself for your dad's decisions. That amazing man(whom legally became you father) without question is the reason you are who you are today.... He may not be your biological dad but in my eyes hes your dad and when the day comes to say goodbye, you will then know he was and will always be your dad...
He is the man that guided you to now guide your son to be as man...
Much love for your 100 percent honestly on this channel.
"Let there be no darkness in your heart". Good advice for everyone
Both James and his dad were officers in the British Army: James was a Captain and his dad was a Colonel. The line; "we're just two grown men saying goodbye" was said by James to his dad as he was leaving for the Kosovo war, in the Balkans in '99. At the end of the recording, James and the crew were all in tears. His dad snarked "I'm not dead YET"!! and had to console them all. After releasing this song, James gave all proceeds to the British charity "Help For Heroes", which aims to help veterans. What a champ!!
Hey bro, greetings from across the pond 😊🇬🇧 The background to this song is firstly James and his Dad are both ex-British military. James saw active duty in amongst other places, Kosovo.
A few years back James’ Dad was diagnosed Stage 4 kidney Cancer which I’m sure in 99% of cases is a terminal diagnosis. Well at this traumatic time James’ sister composed a pure and handed ut to him, James took this and used it as the basis to this song. He decided to record it rather than speak with his Dad face-to-face (battle-hardened or not even the toughest guys can find heart-to-hearts a tough gig I guess). Due to the success of the song a distant relative of Jame’s dad came forward and after tests it was determined they were a perfect match for a kidney donation procedure, James’ dad underwent the kidney transplant and ALL IS NOW GOOD!! 😊 On a related note Iam Tongi auditioned for 2023’s American Idol with this song after HE’D LLOST HIS DAD, he made it all the way to the season FINALE where he appeared in stage to DUET THIS WITH JAMES ……… and he WON!! Their duet is probably even more EMOTIONAL than this,
Best wishes bro 😊🇬🇧🇺🇸
You broke the cycle of bad/absent parenting. Many don’t do that because they grow up too hurt themselves. Your children are very lucky to have you. Congratulations on being one of the strong & caring ones.
My husband and his older brother didn't have a father figure. His bother stayed in the cycle, but for 35 years, my husband has been the best husband to me and then the best daddy to our kids. A few years ago his brother asked how he managed. He said that whenever he had to make a decision he asked himself what would Mom have done and I did the opposite.
People may disagree with what you said, the truth hurts sometimes. To see 3 military men in one video...thank you for your service !
James's father was in kidney failure & they couldn't find a donor. James wrote this song as a goodbye to his dad, he shot this video in 1 take & that is his dad. Thankfully after this song was released there was a distant cousin that turned out to be a match & his dad is doing well.
Thank you for your service Sir🇺🇲❤️
His father years before donated a kidney which now put him in a bad situation
Thankyou for your service!!
After the song ended the entire crew were in tears. James' Father, the only one not crying, said "What are you crying for I'm not dead yet"
It was actually his sister who wrote most of it as a poem to their father and he put it to music. It's a truly beautiful piece of art.
First, you deserve the subscribers. Next, someone raised you right, and you obviously learned to be a real man - open, honest, and able to share wisdom. This song always hurts. My dad had full onset Alzheimers at 54. I was his caregiver at 19. I never had an adult conversation with him after he was ill. It was a quick onset, and I spent the next eight years visiting his bedside often. He didn't know me, but I knew he liked me - and that is what I cherish still at 60.
fuckkk. I'm really sorry u had to go through something like that, sooo. young!
@tw9165 thank you. It was rough, but in the end, it made me a better man. I am excellent in a crisis, have abundant empathy and compassion, and am often told that I grew into an exact version of my dad. He was awesome at being human, so it is a good thing.
as a British vet my self I've been in some dark places. But when you can share your emotions with other veterans even things like this video, it certainly makes your life that little bit better even for a short time until the next video. Keep up the good work bro.its nice to no where not alone in this world,
Thank you for your kind words brother!
This song of James Blunt’s, “Monsters” was a heartfelt tribute to his father. The video is so powerful because sitting beside James Blunt is his real-life dad, Colonel Charles Blount. who was a former cavalry officer, battling stage 4 chronic kidney disease. The song captures such raw emotions of facing mortality and saying the things we may want to say to a loved one before it’s too late 💗 I can never get through this, without crying..........Thank you for such a heartfelt reaction, & sharing your story 💗
Thanks! 💗
Thank you for the information and insight!
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I know you wanted a father growing up, but you are now the father in that song. One day your kids will sing this song in their hearts for you.
Thank you your reaction video. From one vet to another, I see you!
Thank you, brother! I see you too!
Iam 80 years and take care for my 2 son,s and daugther all by myself,work hard and try to be not only the mom,also the father,they are oke Iam watching them like a lion..I love your comments ,and I am sure you be a very good dad..Kiss from the Netherlands,Rotterdam❤❤
Nobody should be able to judge you for how you feel about your father or the fact that you have no contact with him. You have your reasons and you're doing the best for YOU and your family! Best of luck ❤️
James Blunt and his father were both in the British army (Captain and Colonel, respectively) When they both deployed, "I'm not your son, you're not my father, we're just two grown men saying goodbye" was something they agreed to before seeing each other off to war. They both saw combat in Afghanistan. The proceeds from this went to 'Hope for Heros', a military charity.
Just to say, the family name is Blount. James reduced it down to Blunt.
Neither of them served in Afghanistan. James served in Kosovo. His father had not only retired by 2001 but his unit the Army Air Corps didn't deploy to Afghanistan until 2006
@@jedislap8726That's true, James was in Kosovo.
I don't know where you get your info, but it's completley wrong they never said this to each other while going off to war, and none of the served in Afghanistan, James' father was too old to serve there and was already retired from active service, and James served in the Kosovo war never went to Afghanistan.
I'm so sorry you never had the love of your dad. You are a fine man without him.
From Wikipedia: His father was a cavalry officer in the 13th/18th Royal Hussars and then a helicopter pilot while he was part of the Household Cavalry Regiment.
In 1999, Blunt volunteered to join a Blues and Royals squadron deploying with NATO to Kosovo. Initially assigned to carry out reconnaissance of the North Macedonia-Yugoslavia border, Blunt's troop worked ahead of the front lines, locating and targeting Serbian forces for the NATO bombing campaign.
The family has a long history of military service, dating back to the 10th-century
Dont let anyone judge your relationship with ur father as they dont know him and yours story. Your the father now and your the father he wasnt for your children. Your a good man and very honest and open. Sending you much luv and respect from across the Atlantic.
One of the most important songs of our time. i just got a chance to say goodbye to my dad. I have two brothers one decided to join me the other did not. Both made the right decision for themselves. The one that went thought he was going there to forgive my dad for my dad's sake. What he doesn't realize is that forgiveness is really for the forgiver. It's a gift we give ourselves to stop being angry and sad and enjoy our lives without the regret of not having a dad. God Bless you in whatever you decide to do. You deserve all the happiness in the world
Thank you for this one, your comments about your father totally hit home. They helped me, Blacklisting your father for the things he has done is not an easy road and knowing that I am not alone gives me strength.
This video reaction is the best yet.
"I didn't have a father growing up" shows that it is the universal truth that we emapthise. Without a father, you know what a father is.
Be the father . We love you in the UK London ❤❤❤❤❤
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Hey mate, you are clearly a top bloke and an excellent Dad. Keep your values close mate they define who you are. Bless you.
We all have a road to follow.
We choose to have people that support our choices and help us through life.
You found people who love you and l believe made you the man you are.
I think they helped raise a great man. No doubt
You are Absolutely amazing it is wonderful that you can open up an express your feelings. Keep it going. ❤️
I really admire your vulnerability. It’s rare to see that from men on social media, & it shows so much strength. You’re undoubtedly helping many by sharing your story in such a real way. ❤️💕
Thank you so much!!
As emotional as this makes me... Seeing James and seeing people in this case of course especially men I myself don't know the bond myself. Family bonds in general. I understand it for other people but not for myself. Total strangers happen to feel closer, more relatable to me. For my experience looking at my parents. Better don't have them than have bad ones. Not everyone should have or be allowed to have kids. Hug to you man.
This was a tribute to his dad. At the time of his recording this his father was dying. There was a lot of love between the two as you can see in the video. I am sorry that isn't the case with you and your dad.
Havent spoken to mine in 20 years, like you i also know where he lives but i will never make amends. Some things can never be forgiven. I was blessed to have a step father for 30 wonderful years who treated me as his own, it is he who i grieved for and he who i will always see as my father.
No matter the man he was, or monster he may have been, always remember, its because of his seed is the reason you are here.
HE IS! The reason we are watching you and the reason you have your kids today.
I too had a very difficult time with my dad but i realized at age 54 that he too must know and must regret alot of things.
We as men never let our feelings out...
So for yourself and for him to rest easier when the time comes, one must i think, squash all the internal hatred and let each other know that we forgive them.
Its the only way you can heal and help another also heal.
I see your hurt, i see your frustration and deep down i can see your pain. Its not to late .... be the bigger man and at least let him know no matter what you forgive him.
Much love from the caribbean.
the thing that always gets me is when his dad holds James' arm and rubs it with his thumb. Like you know everything you need to know about what kind of man and father he is in that simple action.
Hi from Australia, you are a wonderful person for sharing your story, the truth will set you free❤.
My dad wanted a son and he got two daughters, I was the second born, so he never wanted me, he put all of his time, energy and money into my sister, growing up he never told me he loved me or even showed it and up til this day, I have had four children, I live blocks from my sister and he still doesn't visit me or my children, he calls my sister weekly and never calls me. I had a lot of resentment for a long time, than my mum died, she was my best friend and I had a clarity moment. I realised that life is too short, and I wasn't going to die being the one in the wrong. So I let it all go, I call him one a fortnight and when he is at my sisters, I will go see him.
Holding on to so much anger, never did me good, now I can die knowing I tried, I was in the right.
Now I have a terminal illness, and I'm so glad that when I go, I will not be going with all that hate in my heart, letting it go, made me a better parent and I learnt from my dad's mistakes, I make sure my children know that they are loved and they are all treated equally. I'm only 41 and since forgiving and being this better person, I am now beating this illness and it's for my children that I hang on every day.
This is the first time I have watched your channel and I'm now subscribed.
Don't let the past weigh you down, you are the better person, you have his address, write him a letter, tell him how you feel and forgive, you will feel lifed and even if he doesn't respond, you know that you have done the right thing. And you learnt from him, how not to be a father, you have become a better dad than he could have ever been.
I wish you well for the future ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’m sorry you are going through all of that. You sound like an amazingly strong person. I’m so glad to hear you are beating your illness! With your big heart, your family is lucky to have you.❤
I just found your channel today and I am already in love with you. I can feel your heart and compassion. Keep it up!!!!
Thank you so much!
THANK YOU!!!! Thank you for the entertainment you provide. Thank you for your service in defending the best damned country on the planet! Thank you for enduring the ptsd that you do because you defended this country. Simply. Thank you.
No thank you!!!! You are doin big things my friend…. You have already helped me more than you know… you restored a little bit of my faith in humanity….
Not only is this song heartbreaking, but seeing the pain on your face as the song went on broke my heart. I feel you man. ❤
Very emotional 😢 all children deserves a good father around unfortunately not all have that in their life's but there's always someone you can find to look up ❤✌️
Thank you for reacting ❤. I would also recommend No Bravery and The Greatest. That you for reacting 👍
Just found your channel, really appreciate your content. You had 8k subs when you made this video that was a month ago, you have double that one short month later. Well deserved, please keep the amazing content coming.
This one gets me
He did this in one take too, which is damn impressive while crying
You are a better and best dad because you give your kids what you didn't had. thank you for being a good dad. My son only met his dad when he was 13yr old. but today he is the only one that helped him after his dad had a seizer and paralyzed. So forgive and forget. It make you a better person
We should not have to feel bad or second guess the choices we make. By not letting toxic individuals in your life and being a responsible and loving human being you have turned into a great man. I can tell by the way you talk about your wife, your children, the things you stand for and the things you won't tolerate such as laying your hands on a woman. Congratulations for your subscription success. You deserve it. Much love my friend.
Thank you for this reaction, I love this song. Tomorrow will be the 5 year anniversary of my father’s death. I miss him every day (he was a good one).
The tears are real in this. His dad had no idea why camera ppl, and staff, were all crying during this take
I can relate. Parents are people too, & they make bad decisions. Just remember, You are the better part of him & the love you feel, the yearning you long for is already there in your heart. Take this love & wrap it around your family & yourself. I had to learn to toughen up & see my dad's hate towards me, I blamed myself for too long., but as time went by, I realized my dad's hate was his hurt & guilt & that it wasn't me, it was his own mind clogged up with layers of misery he could not get past. You are here for a reason, to conquer this loss & turn it around for you & him. Continue to write to him, because in his last days, he will know the truth..the truth being He avoided his responsibility due to a cold heart & a clogged mind., but yet you still was there for him. Just know we survive this & it just makes you stronger in your love to your family & to yourself. Let go & as the song says, I'm not your son, I'm not my father, we are just 2 grown men saying goodbye. You are the link, that will break the vicious cycle of his mental incompacity. Thank you for your service & thank you for keeping the love in your heart for us all to see. Hugs & salute to you ❤
Thank you for your kind words!
Thank you so much for your service love from Canada 🇨🇦
After James served in Kosovo, he was a captain in the queen's cavalry. Both he and his dad were serving Officers. James shows his emotions through his songs and voice. His father is old school, stiff upper lip. He pats James' arm at the end of video. They wanted James to use autotune, he refused as he wanted it to be real and raw. It was filmed in one take. At the end all the engineers were in tears and his dad had said "why is everyone crying, I'm not dead yet".
James's dad apparently used the phrase you're not my son, I'm not your father when James was deployed to Kosovo.
His dad received a kidney transplant from a distant relation on the other side of the world and survived. That's his real dad in the video.
Loved Iam, but you can't beat James Blunt. His style, intensity, timing, etc. make this the most emotional song I have ever heard. Iam made me cry, but his style is more casual and although it was intense, it didn't beat out James
I think the writer can usually give us a better version.
I liked Iam's version but this is the one that makes me cry. I felt empathy for the kid but James is just next level and I can feel his pain.
@@jackwhitbread4583 Yes. I felt SYMPATHY for Iam. I felt bad for him because I knew he was hurting, but James makes us empathize with him and makes his pain our own. When James sings the song, I am right back at my mom's deathbed. Iam touched my heart - but James shatters my soul.
Such a beautiful song. I had parents but they abandoned me and my brothers and sisters. We were shipped off to an orphanage. Some kids would scare us and say that there were monsters in the closet and under the bed. I still have problems sleeping because of that. This for some reason makes me think of my childhood. 😢
For those of us that never had a father this song hits really hard.
Thank you for your service to your country and to those lucky children of yours who have a father in their lives who understands the important responsibility he has to them. You're a good and valuable person. Be at peace!
Nice words sir. Enjoy your family. X
thx for your honest reaction. Soz for the loss of the love or your father. I hope you will manage to cope with that and you and your father have the strength to conquer your differences.
because you are a honest and a real person
This song shows that we are human and we do need Love to survive❤
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I was raised by my " stepfather ". He really was the only father I knew since I could remember. My biological father came into my life when I was 13. And like you, I always wondered if I should've let him into me life to begin with. He wasn't ever there for me; even after "reuniting " . I don't know your full story; but you did mention that you had someone to look up to . After many years of biological dad continuing to let me down; I decided to tell him ... that I would always be willing to be a part of his life, but it was up to him to reach out to me. I couldn't keep on hoping that he'd be a father to me. It hurt too much. We owe ourselves self respect. Even if that means we have to break ties with family/friends. It's not easy; nor is it selfish but it's necessary for your own mental health .
I hear ya bud, I had a father he is gone now but I never had a mother figure growing up. I know what it's like to wish there was both.
שיר מהמם.כל כך מרגש.ועוצמתי❤❤אהבתי את התגובה שלך🫶🫶🫶
Thank you!
Listening to your voice with reason, logic, respect and depth is like butter. Love what your doing. Keep going.
Yupp me and my Dad didn't speech for 20 years! hes gone but i still wish he had bin a better Dad, Bless you man!
My father and I have a distant relationship sadly but I’ve used it to ensure I’m close to my son and am there for whatever he needs. This is a fantastic tribute. How James got through it in one take is amazing.
Thanks for your honesty. We need more men like you in this world.
To be able to share as you have shows some real guts brother...God Bless You !
My relationship with my own father broke many years ago. I hadn’t spoken to him for the last twenty five years. He died in August. This song hit me really hard-not from regret but from wishing I could have had a father who loved me and whom I could have loved. Don’t feel any shame in your feelings, brother.
My dad was not a part of my life. When I listen to this song, I think of my mom, she is the one who chased the monsters away.
James and his dad are really close. The “I’m not your son, you’re not my father” part is due to a British ‘stiff upper lip’ love between a father and son, both former military, so they train the emotions out of you. My dad is the same, but I know he loves me. This at the time was James expressing his feelings before his dad passed away of kidney cancer, but thankfully he did in fact “chase the monsters away” with this song. A relative saw this and donated their kidney and years later Blunt Snr is still alive. And all the earnings of this song went to ‘help for heroes’ charity. ❤
Love your reaction, it lifts my heart to see people cry at these songs, especially men. You deserve all your subscribers and more.
As someone who only has his grandfathers influence to learn on, I'm sorry you went through something like I did. I am in the opposite though, my mother way never there for me. I lived a life with an already broken father and no mother. It isn't a life I would wish on anyone.
Praying that you get all the help and All the financial assistance you need to accomplish your goals.This song hits home to a lot of men and differently to others.Mr.Blount’s father was gravely I’ll until death..But he got the transplant he needed and recovered!! I listened to and watched your honest reaction.As a woman,my Fathers was so mean to me,and treated me horribly. I feared him for the first 14 years of my life.Fear turned into pure Hate.Later in life he mellowed out, we made peace, and I tolerated him until he passed when I was 63years old.At his funeral, I couldn’t squeeze out not one tear for him.We had no bond at all.Please continue to love on your children and show them the right way!❤❤❤ 0:00 1 p.m. Wednesday July 12
Thank you so much for the kind words and for you sharing your story. This song and everyone’s responses have resonated very deeply in my heart!
It takes a special kind of man to be a Daddy; it's the hardest and most rewarding thing any man could ever achieve. For the children of men who could see that truth, my heart breaks.
Your biological father must be cold as ice. Its evident that you had a great man to have guided you, for you to speak as a loving father about your children's future. I love your reaction
Truth be told I didn't have any type of father figure really to look up to growing up. But I did learn from the mistakes of my father. He showed me what not to do. lol So I guess I can be thankful.
james wrote this song because his father was needing a kidney transplant and it wasnt looking good of him receiving one. his father was in stage 4 kidney failure. james recorded this in one take and its his father sitting next to him.
You should listen to James Blunt's song No bravery. I feel like that is a real statement about war. No glory, just sadness. 💔
This 💯%
I myself had some bad experiences on the seas as a merchant mariner, but nothing but love to you brother.❤ talk to him before it's late
Bro I beg you. Accept that even though your father might not have given you what you wanted, you learned from him how not to be. That's worth something.
My dad didn't talk to my grandfather for 35 years until he died. Now my father has lost his opportunity to come clear and relieve the emotional package. He is an absolute wreck unable to show emotion because it would actually destroy him.
My father gave me enough reasons to turn my back on him but leaving is at least for me the bigger loss.
Heavy stuff jadajada anyway.
Have a great time and best of luck ❤
Thank you for reacting to this video and thank you for sharing your story
It is true that sometimes it's best to sever bonds with people that act with an ill heart.
But a father is a figure that has a great weight in our mind. And having any negative feelings towards that, it's a hindrance that's very hard to remove.
It's my gut feeling, that your father still lives in your heart, draining it in the background.
There's no reason to invite a negative influence to your life, but it's never too late to forgive, really forgive, and show kindness. Even if there's a dragon in front of you.
You are responsible for your peace of mind, do what you must.
Nice video, take care!
How great it is to see you to succeed in life with that background! Your kids can be proud with a dad like you!❤
You are so kind
Hello. THIS was the first time You showed up on my screen, but I have heard this song several times. THIS time I was sad for you instead of the emotional video. I am so sorry that you are still in obvious pain, about your absentee parent.. Life can be so extremely unkind. I am 73, chose to marry a guy who ended up making me miserable for many years), stayed in it because we had children (another huge mistake), finally divorced, after 25 years in a home that I loved, it burned to the ground taking everything, and the unthinkable is that I had two daughters and lost both of them to iilless many years apart. If it wasn't for my faith in God, I know I would live in misery from all I have been through. Instead I chose to keep going and find joy and fun with God by my side. I do still have my firstborn son who is wonderful. I believe that we all have a Heavenly Father who is with us throughout our entire lives. The older I get, the more I understand that God is my Rock and He does answer prayers. We just have to listen for them. May you find the release from the emptiness and sorrow of your past, and rejoice in your children who are with you. Take care and thank you for your service to our country. 🤗🙏💙❤🇱🇷
So much love to you and your family ❤ You are a breath of fresh air here on this platform. And I can connect in some ways to your upbringing and your feeling in this song.
I am a parent, and I am a child.
Some of my children grew up without me.
Why wasn't I there?
Because I couldn't be who they needed. I was so broken and they would have been too.
I love them, I always did and I wanted everything for them.
I so hope they forgive me.
I don't know your story but I hope this helps a little.
Speaking as the child of parent I was distanced from before he passed,
If you can find it within yourself to accept that
the guy who made you possible couldn't be the man to make you the man you have become, you will begin to heal from this.
You are enough, you always were.
For yourself, forgive him.
Take care, Tash
Paused the video to make a rare comment. You said all sons want to know their Dad is proud of them and all Dad’s want to make sure their sons are ok and will be successful in life (paraphrasing). Might I humbly suggest that a Dad is also looking at his children, daughters and sons, and praying to the heavens that when his time comes they will be proud of him. If I’m being honest, if you raise your kids right, you know they’ll be alright. When medical issues hit and you don’t know how much time you have left, the singular validation of your life can only come from your kids. Just my opinion.
Damn, as a man that didnt have guidance from my father growing up, this song hits hard. All I want for my children to know that I loved and guided them the best I could.
I was lucky my Dad was not perfect but he was lovely and definitely a man's man, he passed a couple of decades ago and my biggest regret was not visiting and seeing him enough in the latter years of his life. He was in Burma during World War 2, fighting the Japanese in the jungle, quite near the Bridge on the River Kwai and when I went to Thailand in my early 20's, my Dad asked me to go and pay my respects to the war dead, prisoners of war buried near the bridge, so I went in his stead. The Thai's recognised my British accent and the whole tone of the visit changed to one of utmost respect for my father fighting for that regions freedom from the Japanese, as the Thai's lost 1000's that were just thrown into the river by the Japanese, so I travelled on the train over the bridge that the POWs had built and I sat with the monks in the jungle for a bite to eat, a visit and a moment in time I will never forget.
You might like the songs No Bravery and Carry you home. He reflects on the time he served in the British Army is Kosovo.
Every guy I know who has a son and listened to this song, became so emotional..
Watching your reaction again because the first time took me by surprise; this big, strong man being able to cry because he felt it. And listening on, your words of advice to raise kids - "teach your son to be the man you want your daughters to marry". Well, not an exact quote, but it means a lot to me. I only have one of each, a girl and a boy, and if I can teach them anything, it would be those words. I came back here for a reason and found it. Thank you.
Thank you!
I never knew my father or grandparents, only my Mom! In this song, I see my mother! See you soon mom.
I also didn't have a father figure growing up, yesterday I met my half brother for the first time, he is 10 Years younger than I am, my father abandoned my mother when I was 2, I never knew my father at all, I found out yesterday when I met my half brother that he died a few years back, I felt so sad and I don't know why, I was visiting my mother on the weekend with my daughter, we decided to get tattoos, we walked into the tattoo shop, they had afternoon openings, when I talked to the artist, he asked my name and when I told him he said ,that was his grandmother's name, I asked him who his father was, it was also my father, not knowing my father left a hole in my heart that will never mend, my mom did the best she could. And now I just found a half brother ❤ I'm in my 50s and never had a relationship with my father, but this song crushed me. 😢
My oldest son never met his father and it bothered him until he met a half brother and half sister via social media and found out that his dad was "not a nice person". When he found out what kind of a man his father was he thanked me for not exposing him to the abusive person his biological father was (I never trash mouthed him). If your bio dad is truly not a nice person, concentrate on your children just as you are doing and let him go. If it's just a personality difference then try to make amends and apply a little tolerance for someone just different than you. Life isn't forever. Once he's gone there is no making amends.
Some of us grieve for the father we had... And some us grieve for the father who was never there. By his choice, by circumstance..or because he simply was not capable of being a daddy. Maybe some fathers set unintentional boundaries because they instinctively know they cannot or won't be a good parent. It's up to us to find the person that best fills that gap. Don't give up.
Any one can be a father...but it takes someone special to be a dad
don't worry about the passed. Be thankful for your mom who raised you to be the kind person that you are. What if you change James words and replace dad with mom. I raised my son alone and I am so proud of him for the man he become.
My bio dad questioned if I was even his & then his wife treated me like shit. My mom met the man I called dad when I 2 & as far as I'm concerned that is my dad period. Any man can be a father, it takes someone special to be a dad.
I feel you brother. Raise your kids like you weren't. Be strong for them.. You must.. G-D Bless.
Oh, and very cool bow in the back.
Thank you!
Send some people to your channel. Will keep doing it as well. You deserve all the subs in the world ❤❤❤ much love from Washington State
One of the main reasons I joined and went to war was to make my father proud and follow in our families footsteps
Don't wait brother. He may never make that first step. Be the man your father should've been. Show him how it's done and go to him. Forgive him for everything and ask his forgiveness. Tell him you love him--make your peace before it's too late. Once he's gone, you'll never have another chance, and you'll regret it for the rest of your life if you don't. Glorify God by honoring your parent and he'll glorify you both. Good luck
I know this son, your a good man and whom ever raised you did a dam fine job. You've done good kid❤
I really appreciate that!!!
I know exactly what you are conveying about your dad. My kids have an awful dad and as they grew up it is more evident than ever that they saw all of his monstrous actions and his malignant narcissism. He is and always was severely abusive and its a struggle for all of us even 35+ years later❤😢
Takes two to tango