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Weddings are supposed to be a joyful celebration of love, but sometimes the planning process can turn into a nightmare. In this video, we explore the phenomenon of entitled bridezillas - brides-to-be who become obsessed with having the perfect wedding and demand special treatment from everyone around them.
We'll share real-life stories of entitled bridezillas and the outrageous demands they made on their family, friends, and wedding vendors. From insisting on a specific brand of champagne to banning guests from wearing certain colors, these bridezillas took their wedding planning to the extreme.
But why do some brides become entitled bridezillas? We'll delve into the psychology behind this behavior, including the pressure to conform to societal expectations, the desire to control every aspect of the wedding, and the fear of disappointing others.
Finally, we'll discuss some strategies for dealing with entitled bridezillas - whether you're the bride herself, a member of the bridal party, or a wedding vendor. We'll offer tips on setting boundaries, communicating effectively, and keeping perspective during the wedding planning process.
If you've ever witnessed a bridezilla in action or want to avoid becoming one yourself, this video is for you. Join us as we explore the dark side of wedding planning and learn how to navigate it with grace and humor. Don't forget to like and subscribe for more videos like this!
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As a widow, that last one hit hard. She went to see her late husband's grave. If it hadn't been that long, seeing it again would have made the grief fresh. Bride had NO RIGHT to tell a grieving widow that she was wrong in being late. A good friend would have said, "That's okay, I understand, don't worry about it. Need a shoulder?"
Yeah, if it was my friend, I’d be there with her at this graveside, holding her and bawling my eyes out too
100% it being about her wedding is no excuse. That's supposed to be a best friend but she's treating her like shit
The bride definitely shouldn’t have snarkily told her that she didn’t want her running off again, that was uncalled for, but I do agree that it wasn’t the appropriate time to visit the cemetery. I think the better option would have been to stay an extra day and mourn.
It just feels weird to visit in the middle of activities. As much as the bride should’ve been empathetic to the bridesmaid, the bridesmaid should’ve thought of how everyone else would feel. My issue is with visiting in the middle of activities knowing how you’re probably going to feel afterwards and still making that choice.
Wasn't even her friend, it was family. She should've already known how hard it was to have lost him in the first place. What a bitch
She also should've been absolutely worried that she didn't answer her phone. I've been the stressed out bride (kudos to those who keep it under wraps) but my stress level would've hit the roof if I didn't know where my best friend was.
Nah girl, the chocolateer and her photographer BF were used, plain and simple. Bridezilla only wants to stay friends to get you again for her baby shower.
Yup! The bride just wanted something for nothing. She used them. Not a good person. I would had left with my chocolate. It can always be melted down. Lol
Agree
i kinda hope the BF kept the video for his portfolio but did not give a copy to the bride and groom. it's not like they paid for it anyway. there was an "understanding" between the bride and the chocolatier friend that she could bring her BF and he would film the wedding, and in return, the two of them would be seated in the same room as the guests since they themselves were supposed to be guests. chocolatier and videographer did not get guest seating, therefore the bride and groom should not get their video (or the table full of sweets but i assume the friend still brought that out in an effort to uphold her side of the deal).
that's why they should run away from her 🤣
@@barbarabonnette2705,
Or sold at a reduced price (but still high enough to make a profit)...
When my sister was getting married I asked her what colour she wanted my hair - I always have weird colours but she is very traditional and likes a certain aesthetic. Bless her heart she told me "you could shave half of it off and dye the other half rainbow sparkles. So long as you're there I don't care" - I went for red as I knew that was always her favourite on me.
Awe, that's sweet.
I think you should have gone for the half shaved rainbow sparkles lol
Awww you have a sweetheart for a sister ❤
You both were so sweet ❤️
Thank you all. Its going rainbow again this weekend lol! Gotta have it looking cool for those Christmas pics xx
The only proper response to the cousin/bridesmaid late for dinner would have been: "Are you okay? I'm so glad you are able to be here."
Bright red hair is not “strawberry blonde” or “ginger” I imagine a bright cherry (unnatural) color 😂 but I agree with the comment Charlotte read 👌🏻
THANK YOU
I also assumed the bride was upset because it was primary crayon red and not a natural color.
me too I'm thinking flame red or clown orange, not a beautiful natural red, no one would complain about that.
Same. I was picking up Ariel Barbie hair vibes, not our beautiful Charlotte’s red. So I’d say both the bride and bride’s maid may be at fault here.
Imma need to see photos of this persons hair to make an accurate assessment 😂
The girl sitting in the other room. The bride totally knew what she was doing. She took advantage of your kindness. Probably also had her photographer cancel (or she saw they actually cost money) so she changed her mind about inviting your boyfriend. Even the wedding coordinator was a friend. This was just one cheap ass bride.
Yes, the bride was definitely taking advantage of her generous friend. Hopefully it didn't jade her because the friend seems like a really good person.
Totally, the boyfriend was doing his job and totally visible all the time, the desert table was the talk of the party, the bride didn't forget, this was on purpose. Maybe she thought the sweets table should have been free and was offended she charged.
That is definitely what happened.
That couple allowed them selfs to be completely used as doormats. I would have walked the instance i was put in a seperate room. The gall!
@@Bonde7280 Themselves** Instant** If you're going to shame the people who were taken advantage of instead of being mad at the cunt bride for taking advantage of others, at least have the decency to check your grammar before clicking the reply button.
Originally, bride said the bf couldn't come because of budget. All of a sudden the bf is invited and is conveniently a videographer/photographer. He gives his services for free to increase his portfolio. The friend puts together a dessert table for a discounted friend price. The bride knew what she was doing. Sounds like she used her friend and her friend's bf to get free and discounted services, and the fact that she didn't remedy her being seated in the reception shows how much she cares about the friend.
Imagine criticizing your friend for visiting her dead husband on an occasion where you’re getting a husband.
Hear me out. Why did she choose that trip to go see him? Knowing it can sour her mood? She could have gone on a different time.
@@sakeenahmustafa5739Because the wedding probably brought up a lot of emotions. But she was trying to be strong for her friend. She’s not a robot
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@@sakeenahmustafa5739 Maybe she doesn't have money to just fly off to NY whether she wishes so of course once she is there, she would go to his grave.
@@shayla106 true that bit if she knew location/wedding will likely bring up such emotions, she could have declined. I am not saying her friend cpuld bot have been more understanding, but she's essentially souring the experience for others in a way.
I’m personally so angry for the girl who made the chocolate and dessert table. How horrible. That pain and embarrassment must have been incredible.
Yeaaa. There is no amount of wedding day stress that would make me leave my friend in ANOTHER ROOM, that is bonkers. Can't imagine how hurtful that must have been.
Yes they should offer to pay for the video!
And pay the desserts full price since they treated her like a stranger/business only
The bride shouldn't get a copy at all of the video! She doesn't deserve it!
That girl & her boyfriend were used, taken advantage of, by the bride, because they offered something she could get for free from them.
I’m sorry, the friend knew she didn’t have a table for vendors. She wasn’t having any of them sit and be fed. She knew. Don’t let her use the fake “I was too stressed” excuse. She just didn’t want you to pull out and not give her the desserts or the free video.
Why do I suspect boyfriend was only invited *after* Bride discovered he's a videographer, and she thought she could get a free or low-cost video by folding them into the scam?
@@kristinw2600 Why? Because you're correct!
@@kristinw2600 I believe this to be true, but I also feel part of it was because she knew her friend wouldn't have a seat in the main room... Horrible, what she did to her friend and yet, she benefited greatly. Had the boyfriend not needed to build is business, he would have convinced her to leave, if he cared about her. Seems they felt stuck to the situation, which was most unfortunate. I'm wondering if he dis build the video and just not given it to her?! That would have been my suggestion in how they were treated!
I hope the boyfriend kept the video for his portfolio but did not give it to the bride. Her treatment of a supposed friend was awful. If I had been OP I would have left and taken the desserts with me.
I would have taken the chocolate with me! Yeah I’m petty.
The story about the bridesmaid, "Hayley" being late because she went to see her late husband's grave hits home deeply for me. I lost my wife in January 2021. It's been 2.5+ years since I lost her, but you may trust me when I tell you that grief is a taskmaster. Even after this long, I have moments and even days when grief strikes like a fist in the mouth. You cry, whether you want to or not. The pain is visceral and very real. It tempers how you look at every part of your life, sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.
Im sorry for your loss
I'm really sorry to hear that. That kind of pain is one my biggest fears, losing a loved one. I hope you can find some joy in the fact that you found true love, something that many people don't get to experience for a single day of their lives. Stay focused on the gratitude over grief as best you can. The super sad reality is that we all will lose our loved ones or they will lose us first, depending on the order of death that no one ever knows is coming. That's why we must give extreme thanks for each day and the lovely experiences we get to collect along the way.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
It will be 15 years November 20th since I lost my husband to suicide. I still have my bad days, even though I am in another relationship. The Tuesday before Thanksgiving was our wedding day; Nov.24 was our anniversary. He died on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, and his funeral was on our 26th anniversary.
@@luanngordon8639 Thanks for the condolences. I'm so very, deeply sorry for your loss as well. For both of us, the 24th of the month will always be hard one. For me, Oct. 29th was our anniversary. It's also the birthday of one of my daughter from whom I'm estranged. So the entire end of this path month turned into a hot mess. Thing was, I was thinking I was getting a handle on things. Man! was I ever wrong. Now I'm back to feeling like all I'm trying to do is keep my head on straight and not let it explode. Anyway, my heart goes out to you. It's easier for me to feel able to send strength than to muster it for myself. Kind of weird, huh?
@@Dragonsinger71Thank you it is not at all weird. Sometimes it is easier trying to mask our own grief
Don't ever apologize for your feelings. They are valid
I think that everyone struggles more during the important days (anniversary, holidays, etc)
Praying for you and your family during the upcoming months
"We have to get over this idea that the world revolves around our wedding."
Statement of the Century 👏 😅🤣
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2nd story: OP, you were used. She got free or reduced services out of you. That's the only reason she reached out to you after so many years.
Bingo. Happened to me but in a different way and at that wedding she used others even worse. Awful
As someone who used to dye their hair bright colours and was a bridesmaid, I checked in with the bride about what she wanted for the wedding months in advance. She didn't care what colour it was, she was really cool, but I was also cool with having a natural colour for a few weeks. I would never just dye my hair firetruck red right before the wedding...
I was wondering the same thing. Does she mean candy apple or fire truck red? Probably also wondering if friend did it just to try and get some added attention. It’s odd to make drastic changes right before someone else’s big event.
Exactly!!
Same here, like was it Ronald McDonald hair or just like Charlotte's hair?
This is how I thought of it, we aren't sure the shade of red and there is absolutely a difference between Charlotte's beautiful red and bright, fire engine red.
Not even a bridesmaid, just a regular guest and still didn't go with bright colored hair to a wedding. The second I knew I was invited, I let my color fade and went blonde for a bit.
Bright colors just ain't it, especially for bridesmaid, unless the couple specifically sais they don't mind.
We don't know for sure, but the way the story sounds they were probably talking bright bright red and not a natural ginger like Charlotte. If it was just ginger it's pretty dumb, but firetruck red I absolutely understand not wanting to have for pictures.
Honestly, a true friend would've asked if she wanted company to the grave or an ear afterward if she needed to talk. She had other things on her mind and was probably swept up in all kinds of emotions that made her lose track of time. I can't even say it's understandable that the bride would be upset because it isn't. She's clearly not a good person and I hope nothing ever happens to her husband because she's such an unfeeling kind of person she probably did it.
If I plan a special event and one of the people invited hijacks it for whatever purposes I would be upset too.
@@flitsertheoHijacks it? She did no such thing, her husband died...let that sink in...he died and she was mourning. Anyone who doesn't feel compassion for her is a narcissist. Ofc the bride could feel upset, but with compassion, she would have set that SELFISH impulse aside, hugged her friend and left it at that.
@@moonstrukk126She was mourning and the whole world had to mourn with her. Sorry but you can't mourn every person that dies on this planet.
@@flitsertheo You dound like a very wise hooman
How hard is it to just be kind?
I just told my friend's daughter I'm proud of her for calling off her wedding. Her fiance told her not to invite her grandparents and great grandma because he "didn't want an old people's home vibe" at the wedding or in the pictures.
She said it wasn't about the wedding, it was about finding out he's cruel and has shallow values.
She dodged a bullet for sure
I'm getting married in 5 months, and during my WHOLE ENGAGEMENT your videos have been a good mean to keep myself in check - I do not want to be a bridezilla !! My bridesmaids and bridesmen have even been calling me "Bridechilla" 😂
I love you Charlotte !
I’m imagining a cute lil chinchilla in a bride’s dress now. Thank you for this happy image!
You have found the opposite of "Bridezilla"
❤️
Best way to be! Just remember, things can and will go wrong. It's how you react to them that can make or break the day. Take a deep breath, soak in all that is going on around you. It will go by so fast, and half the stuff you won't even remember! Congrats on your engagement!
U such a bridechilla!!!
What really gets to me about the last story is that the widow is only 33 years old! That's really so young to be widowed; they probably had barely begun what they imagined would be 50+ years together and instead she's visiting his grave! Bride is insensitive, rude, thoughtless, self-centered witch, who should consider herself blessed if she gets a long married life
thank you yes! I cannot believe the people on here defending the bride! What selfish, angry people we have become. If she'd disappeared & was late to the wedding then maybe be a little peeved but a stupid DINNER after the bachelorette weekend? Bride is a self-absorbed a-hole who doesn't deserve her friend. ALSO - it was a destination party so bride had to have known her friend's husband was buried there & made no accommodation to support her friend? GTFOH
Exactly. OP owes her friend a huge apology and better hope she never comes to really understand what her friend experienced.
What do witches have to do with all that though? 😳😒
My mum’s cousin was widowed on her wedding day. They finished the ceremony and before the priest could introduce them and Mr. and Mrs. Whoever, he fell over, dead of a sudden heart attack. (Undetected birth defect.) She was 19. I’m not sure how old he was, but probably around 20ish. So yeah. It happens sometimes.
@@alexiswilliamsinc It's not even her friend, it's her cousin. She did this to someone who is literally family. I'd hate to see how she treats her friends.
These videos remind me how lucky I was to be a part of my besties wedding. All of us bridesmaids were different heights and sizes, I even had unnatural red hair and a tattoo that was visible in my dress. She didn't care about any of it, just wanted those closest to her to share her day 🖤
I need to meet this friend. The depth of her loyalty and dedication to her friend and her job (adding value to her word and keeping her name untarnished); I'll appreciate you as a friend!
I'll also keep you in business; ooooh, chocolatiers are THE BEST to have in your life!
“The bride informed me that my boyfriend could come as my plus one, but if he did, I would be moved from the head table”
She was originally supposed to be on the HEAD TABLE, how could the bride/coordinator have forgotten her??
Right?! That really makes the situation so much worse, as how would the coordinator not have known about her? And if she was a good enough friend to originally have planned to be sitting at the head table, how could you not find a spot for her in the main room?
I have a feeling bride just said that to make the friend feel like she was important to her, but she ws never really going to have her at the head table at all regardless of what was decided.
@@melissadibacco8937 Ya, usually its the wedding party at the head table and this girl wasn't in the wedding party so it would make no sense to have her there. I think she invited her because she knew she was a chocolatier, and her husband does videos. I bet if she didn't offer her services, she would have gotten uninvited.
Oh…. You’re right. I was giving the bride the benefit of the doubt, but this was intentional. I forgot about the head table comment. That was very cruel.
I think, that when the bride mentioned bright red hair, she was not referring to any natural looking colors, but that bleached and then stained stoplight red you get with Manic Panic and other similar staining products. Also, I loved what you said about being more compassionate. "Everyone is fighting their secret battles that you know nothing about. "
That's what I was thinking too! When I was a teenage brunette, I dyed my hair bright magenta. And I can imagine that if I was supposed to be in a bridal party in some form or another, that would have been quite a shock. I can kind of understand if it was a very unusual color why it would upset the bride. I think the friend could have waited until after the wedding? I mean it's hair dye not surgery. But of course, it wasn't very classy on the bride's part to post this to Facebook either🤷🏽♀️
My thoughts exactly, I would not be happy about that either. She dyed it bright red, not just red and knowing you had an important event coming up you could at least have waited a week for your friend. Such a bright red hair would draw to much attention to yourself and I group it into the same category as wearing white to a wedding, especially when you'll be so close to the bride.
That's what I thought too, and personally so wouldn't have appreciated that either. I would have wondered what it meant that this person choose to dye her hair bright hair just before my wedding, because it doesn't feel random.
I made a comment an hour ago and I just got to this one. I'm glad I'm not the only one who caught that. Not once was ginger mentioned, just bright red. Definitely not the same!!!!
I came to the comments to say this. I hope Charlotte sees it!
I've been the step-daughter in the "step-mother" story. It is horrible and has caused me a lot of pain in my adult years and makes our family very strained.
13:09 the realization that she had to fly to see her dead husbands grave meaning it would likely be a really long time since she’s gone to see it. Seeing a neglected grave of a loved one can make you feel guilty…
You know, for the dessert table one, it's strange how the bride remembered her childhood best friend and her best friends boyfriend as workers, but not as wedding guests. Plus it sounded like, when confronted at the wedding, she was trying to throw the wedding coordinator under the bus without taking responsibility, like she was taking fault without taking blame.
Exactly. At that point, OP and her boyfriend were at the wedding providing a SERVICE, which they should be compensated for. The compensation was originally that they would get to, Yknow, actually attend the wedding. But since that didn’t happen, yeah, they should be reimbursed. If the bride TRULY feels guilty about it, she should have no problem with that.
It’s sad this girl didn’t say well if I have no where to sit my and my man are rolling out so let your coordinator know the dessert table is back there. You’re welcome for all the free stuff chow !!
@@TheHedgehogGiraffethey got played, how do you not see that?
An evil mean girl from school (obviously very jealous, she can remember how talented this girl is) yet conveniently FORGETS a seat for you and your generous boyfriend at dinner. No no no, you were taken advantage of by a beech that has hated you since she met you and this was her time to hurt you, because you haven’t caught on to her yet. She is a monster dear. ❤
I’m not editing, hopefully you understand I’m not directing it at you. No, not my intention, I’m directing it at the topic at hand.
The entitlement has reached high levels apparently
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Oh…. She didn’t forget to assign you a seat... Honey, she saw you and your boyfriend as the help and so you weren’t prioritized 🙄
Being a widow myself, I literally would have slapped her, left the restaurant, got an early flight home and never spoke to her again. Absolutely heartless.
Me and my brother weren't invited to my father's second wedding, I actually found out they got married due to a picture at my grandparents' house. It was painful because she was not a good step mother. And this was years ago, I'm an adult now, and I just have a "decent" relationship with her because I don't want drama and I now know that my dad didn't do anything about it back then, won't do anything about it now. But still, I was around 10 y/o when it happened. Now 33.
I was a professional baker/cake decorator. I did my friend's cake at a discounted rate (two tier for 80-100 people with a small grooms) for 170. I made a small profit, but I was also a bridesmaid and she was so grateful and excited. I was seated at the head table (with the other important wedding party) and thanked the whole night.
If I had made something had a discounted rate and then didn't even have a fucking seat??? Then that wasn't a gift. You owe me more money. This was basically an exchange of I attend, you get discount. But she didn't even get to attend. Get. That. Money, your boyfriend too
Yes! Very well said!
DAMN STRAIGHT! I don’t know why I didn’t even think about it from that perspective but, yeah. Technically speaking she was “in breach” of a verbal agreement. The girl was invited and (just like someone attending) she offered a gift that was equivalent (or more in this case MUCH MORE) than the cost the couple incurs for your seat. Considering her work would have likely covered the cost of two seats(her & bf’s) and then some…I’d do up 2 Standard Bills…1 for the sweets table, etc. and then 1 for the standard rate for a wedding photographer (with similar skills to the bf’s). Send them to the couple (or if someone else paid for the wedding then send it to them) certified mail along with a letter stating the services were offered ONLY because you were an invited guest and the same applied for the photographer. Since once the services were completed, it became clear that you were NOT, in fact, an invited guest. That you were listed and identified to the Event Coordinator as a vender, and that you COMPLETED your part of the deal. Even after the debacle, the sweets table was a success and the wedding video was completed. Point out the standard rate for services rendered and request for payment upon receipt as it has been ___months since the wedding. I also would specify that the, proofs and wedding album that was agreed on will be delivered AFTER Full payment.
Document it all and take that sneaky b..ch to court if she don’t pay.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾EXACTLY
Want your wedding video? PAY UP!
Exactly! Every part of this screams intentional.
There is no doubt in my mind that the bride from the chocolatier story only asked her to be there as a vendor. Straight from the beginning it sounds like she knew her friend would give her a discount or she wouldn't have to spend time finding someone to do the dessert table and that is the only reason why the OP from that story was invited.
"It's not like she was going to meet some dude. Well, actually she was, but he's dead" 😂🤣 this broke me laughing
I remember reading the last post on AITA and it turned out that the woman late to dinner did not live in this state, she was only there for the bachelorette stuff - meaning she doesn't normally get to visit her husband's grave 🙃 that would be the end of the friendship for me
"My middle stepdaughter doesn't like me, so I'm going to cut her out of the wedding without my fiance knowing." Gee I wonder why she doesn't like you
Wonder why her family cut her off too. 🤔
If you're marrying someone whose daughter you hate so much you don't want her picture taken at your wedding - don't marry them.
Good way to cause trouble in the new marriage for cutting out new hubby's daughter, doesn't matter if you don't like the daughter, be civil,don't come between a parent and their children, you'll loose.
@@cathipalmer8217 I predict this marriage won't last 2 years. If hubby finds out it may not make it through the reception.
@@rolandhansen812 You are generous. I predict divorce proceedings start after one year!
Also, I am a wedding coordinator, fixing issues like seating for unaccounted for guests and things like that is our job!
Reminder- you go to a wedding to support the couple. That’s it. You’re there to be a friend. There is no expectation to look good. People dress up to show respect.
My friend had me as a bridesmaid. I do bright coloured hair all the time. 😂 She asked me to redye it a few days before the wedding.... SO ITD BE BRIGHT AF! She was having a "colour burst" themed wedding(everything and everyone was in bright colors and the deco looked like color explosions!) And wanted me to do my hair touch ups i had planned after the wedding before! We sat down, chose the color, and she loved my neon hair!
Story #2: The "friend" straight up used her! I would have found a couple of extra chairs and made room! There is no way I would have stayed in another room and cried while waiting to finish my job as her dessert caterer. I would have gone up to the bride and said "We need to fix something fast or I leave now with my boyfriend!" I guarantee seats would have been found!
Story #3: Groom needs to run! Notice she mentions that she is estranged from her family. Now she's saying members of his family don't like her. Who is the common denominator? Instead of trying to make amends on a special day, she wants to deepen the divide! She is the problem!!!
Yeah, the friend treated her as an employee, that's why she put her with the vendors and didn't even remember to count her to the reception. It's not a mistake of the day, all the seats are counted and paid, if she didn't have a seat then the bride didn't pay for it.
Edit to correct a tiny grammar error cause some youtube users get really upset by those for some reason, and yet I keep seeing "you're" and "your" being used wrong (now that is a annoying mistake).
Agree 100%! The chocolatier and her videographer boyfriend were far kinder than the bride deserved. I would send her bills for the FULL costs of the services. When she asks why, I would explain that, since she obviously didn't think of you as real friends, she no longer qualifies for the friend discount.
@@lisamelroy2855 I'd have toppled over my "party favour" and left.
Story #2: The bride would have gotten a invoice from me! My time is money.
I would have left when told it wasn’t being fixed and charged full price.
Story 2. I would have packed up the chocolates and left, while my boyfriend would have "lost" the video. This was not a mistake. It was a deliberate attempt to abuse the friendship.
If it was a mistake, bride would have fixed it right away.
Exactly my thoughts!
Agreed. I would have been saying "Oh, we are just vendors? Then I guess we shouldn't be providing gifts. Make up your mind!"
@@patrickbuick5459 If they were just vendors, I would have given her a bill for everything.
100% agreed. Hell, if I'm an invited guest with a table spot I would MOVE chairs and tables to be somewhere else - it cannot be that hard to squeeze in only two people. No one sits at their seat 100% of the time any way.
The video should not be given to the bride at all, she doesn't deserve it!
Story 2 - This particular wedding was inflexible. Most weddings factor in extra seating. Having an exact number of guest can be difficult to predict.
I've been to a wedding where the bridal party wasn't expecting us to show up. My father asked the bride if it was okay for us (mom, dad, 3 kids) to attend the reception. The bride said yes. Then we went to the wedding photo location (a public park with an amazing view) for few hours then went to the reception. Fun times.
Yes, there were lots of extra seats at the reception. So, 5 extra bodies wasn't hard to fit in. They just required a table to be designated a children's table though (a children's table of "kids" from ages 12 to 15). I suppose it was designated as such so the wine with 0% alcohol by volume was served instead of the regular bottles, lol.
Then again, we were "close" family members... despite this being the first time we met, lol. She is my father's brother's eldest daughter. A few years later, I meet her again at her sister's wedding. *Shrugs*
When my best friend since first grade got married, she was convinced I was not coming down even though I was only two hours away. Shes more like a sister to me. Anyway, I was asked to be in the wedding. I was so excited to share this day with her. To be honest I thought I was going to be the Maid of Honor as I had already decided that she would be mine if I ever got Married. When I and our other friend that has been friends for a long time got here were in the wedding however it was not as I thought it would be. Someone else that she had known for way less was the Maid of Honor. Now I get it that the MOH and the Best Man were there because they were the couple that introduced them, but I have to say that really hurt. I have been friends with her since kindergarten. I have never brought this up and maybe I should, but I feel like it's so long ago now that I really can't. I don't know.
For the second story I would’ve took the whole dessert table and left. I would’ve asked my bf to delete the video or charge her for it.
I just thought of that idea too lol. I'd be like: Okay, no dessert for you. All for me if you're not feeding me.
PLOT TWIST: There were two seats reserved for "vendor" (as she said she didn't want them to know they were friends), and the wedding planner assumed those were seats for her. She took their seats.
Okay, but if the wedding planner was also a friend, didn't she also get a seat? I don't think the bride was actively malicious, but both the bride and planner were neglectful. The friend has every reason to be deeply hurt.
@Sara Solomon no the wedding planner wasn't given a seat. The bride had arranged for the friends to be seated under the identity of "vendor", as they didn't want everyone to know they were friends.
The bride would have said that, though
@@sarasolomon4812 The bride wanted her chocolates and then be sneaky and blame the coordinator. She is sketchy!
@@donnapauley8183 exactly
For the chocolatier I’ve worked a lot of weddings for catering. There is almost always extra chairs in the venue and could be added to a table. On too of that most event coordinators don’t eat or sit with the guest. They monitor and keep track of the receptions time and activities happening. They will usually be running back and forward through majority of the reception keeping everything on time. Also tables and seating are triple checked by not only event staff but the catering staff too, so that’s super hard to miss.
Nah, the purposefully left her out.
I have been on a marathon on these for so long I cannot see straight anymore lol. I just discovered you and I love your content + personality. Thank you for existing, and sharing other peoples dramas for me to indulge in. 👀
As someone who didn’t hire a wedding planner and can sometimes be quite scatterbrained herself, let me tell you I let no one forget we had vendors that needed to be taken care of during the celebration. My mom didn’t seem to catch initially that vendor meals are common if they’re there all night. This first bride didn’t forget, she just didn’t care.
Seems the bride conveniently forgot every single thing to include the “friend” to the actual wedding at all. Seems she got her wedding filmed and dessert for cheap or free and decided her “friend” was best kept excluded from everything except working for close to free. How sad.
PLUS extra help doing setting up the room, etc. SOOO used
One of my besties was a bridesmaid and she had a blue streak in her hair, right in front. She offered to dye it back to her natural auburn. I said absolutely not!!! I love my friend and her fun hair was a part of her playful personality. Now, years later, my kids and I love looking at our wedding pics. 🎉
RED looks great in pictures! I personally want as much colors popping as I can have in my wedding photos
As the daughter who was excluded from her fathers second marriage (I’m from his 1st) I hope he leaves her. I’ve spent almost 40 years trying to build a relationship with my father while his wife constantly resents my existence, which has even extended to my children. It cuts deep and I feel if you are in a relationship with someone with children you treat them as the precious gifts your partner does. They deserve to be loved and respected too.
I'm so sorry that you, and your sweet babies have to suffer from the pettiness, selfishness, and shortsightedness of that woman. Is she hiding her interference from him, or does she hold enough sway over him that he is knowingly choosing her, and blocking you from his life? Either way, he is making a huge mistake. While I know it wouldn't fix things, but I have been in your shoes, and things often turn out where you could end up with a surrogate set of parents/grandparents. I hope your dad gets a good perspective, and sees what a horrible mistake he's made, and if she won't/can't change, he won't waste any more time on her. God bless.
I’m really sorry that you’ve been fighting so hard for a relationship and met with resistance and resentment. My story is different, and I’m absolutely not telling you what to do or how to feel. I’m just sharing my own experience with estranged family.
When I was little, apparently we were close to my grandparents. Grandpa left, and his new wife outright forbid him to have contact with any of his previous family. This was probably because the new wife was previously his mistress and knew exactly how much she could trust him (not a bit).
I literally only remember that he’s tall. I couldn’t pick him out of a lineup. I have no idea if he’s alive or not, and tbh I really don’t care. Apparently I was upset as a child, but I don’t really remember any of this. I’ve had tons of unofficially adopted grandpas (including some of his brothers) that did all the grandpa stuff, teaching me about life, going to school plays, graduations, etc. I consider them grandpas. Family and blood aren’t necessarily the same thing. One of these brothers (my great uncles) was very special to me, and I still miss him. He passed while I was away in college. My brother and I were listed as surviving grandkids in the funeral program, and we were honorary pallbearers (plenty of beefy men around to do the actual carrying, but we went behind them in the procession).
He was my grandpa for all intents and purposes, especially considering he didn’t have to step in the way he did. My bio grandpa that cut ties with his entire family…absolutely zero desire to re-meet him or know anything about him. I actually haven’t thought about him in many years. He simply doesn’t matter enough for me to care enough. I don’t hate him. I nothing him.
Why. WHY do new brides take their so’s kids from another wife so personally??? He’s not with her anymore. The child isn’t married to him. I just can’t comprehend the selfishness of someone like this, or why on earth it’s so common! I have one aunt married a man with 2 twin boys. She treated them like her own. And when she found out he had a daughter in another state he wasn’t in contact with, she went “heck no! That daughter is not gonna grow up without her dad” and invited her to visit immediately. She’s so close with all of them.
For some reason, my dad's mom hates my mom, who he's been married to for over 20 years. She also hates me too because I remind her of my mom, and she made this clear when I was still a child. I'm not my parents' only child, I'm their second daughter, and she loves my other sisters and my brothers. As the excluded child, it really hurts. I will never truly know what I did wrong in her eyes, and that really sucks.
I know how you feel. My dads current wife doesn't like me but can't give me a good reason why. I try to stay in touch but she tells him not to answer the phone when I call and throws away cards I send. It really sucks. Sending 🥰
My cousin was a total bridezilla-to-be...she was super chill until she became engaged and then all hell broke loose. Costs started ratcheting up, her attitude started ratcheting up, the drama ratcheted up. And then everything became me me me, this is MY day. To even unreasonable bridezilla lengths. Her fiance is this amazing dude, we all love him and he's perfect for her in the sense that he knows how to squash the drama-queen in her quickly. He sat her down and told her that she'd become intolerable, gave her all of the examples and proof and said he still loved her and wanted to spend his life with her and have kids with her. But, she'd blown her shot at a wedding. She could keep the rings, they'd go on the honeymoon, but there would be no actual ceremony/dinner/reception. (This was all prior to invites going out, so not a catastrophe). She blew up like the she-hulk! He stood his ground and refused, there would be no wedding and it was 100% because of her behaviour. She pulled every crying-tantrum trick she could and he would not have it. He said the alternative is, he leaves her and breaks his own heart but that he wouldn't reward her horrible actions by giving into what she wants. They've been together 11 years now and are so happy and such a "goals" couple. I think she just needed to be checked maybe? Either way, he offered to have a massive ceremony on their 10 year anniversary....she asked if they could take a kick ass expensive vacation instead and invite a few friends just to party. Everything worked out, but her friends are still saying she should've left him. I'm guessing he gave their boyfriends ideas they didn't like maybe.
Wow, good for him!
Wow, good for him!
Did they get married without a ceremony?
Ha, gold!
Good on him! I'm glad she eventually came around. Honestly need someone like this in my life to keep me on track :p
I love your red hair. It's really beautiful with your skin tone so it depends on what color she considers bright red
Last one is really disturbing!
How unempathetic can people be to have absolutely no compassion with other people who most likely were hurting yet still composed themselves and showed up (even if late)!
FFS how horrible a person can some AHs be?!
I will never understand why some brides feel so strongly about their friends changing their appearance around their wedding (hair cuts/hair dying, gaining or losing weight, tattoos or pircings, and others). It's a wedding, not a runway, they aren't models for your pictures and you aren't their agent or contractor (despite some of yall insisting on writing contracts for your SPeCiAl dAy!), so they don't need your permission or approval!!
There is such a weird culture of "this is the brides one and only special day and everything has to be just her way cuz she is a princess".... The whole point is meant to be that you love your new spouse and want to celebrate that with other people you love...? And like, life doesn't stop after a wedding, save some energy for the rest of your marriage?!
Yeah, this is so weird to me. Wedding photos aren't about being perfect in every conceivable way, it's about remembering a day that is important and remembering the friends who were there for you. I don't choose my friends based on how they'd look in wedding pictures and I want them in the pictures because they are special people to me, not because they look like stepford wives.
These people have clearly lost the point of having a wedding celebration.
I both agree and disagree. I'm old fashioned, and was taught about common courtesy to ask ahead of time if they'd be ok with drastic changes to your look (if you're in the wedding party). You're in their pictures forever, and they are paying for them and hanging them in their home, so in my opinion it's only fair to do the best you can to look the way they visioned (respectfully. There are extremes that are not acceptable).
@@not_you_i_dont_even_know_you Totally agree. It's my wedding later this year and everyone's like: "What should I wear?" and I'm like idk, pyjamas if you want - I just want you all here. If it all looked perfect, it wouldn't be my friends and family in those pics, that's for sure lmao
Amen 👏 say it louder for the people in the back!
I took "bright red hair" as in red (the primary colour) not ginger. I personally went blonde for my best friends wedding (I used to be lilac back then) and whilst she told me she wouldn't have cared, I thought it was the right thing to do and am happy i did it - but to each their own ❤
Glad I wasn't the only one who thought this. I don't think it's "ginger red" but "pillarbox red," which, when freshly dyed, stands out SO much! Sure, she can do what she wants with her hair, but if you know the bright red is going to stand out in every single photo (and, yes, probably clashes with the dress the bride chose and maybe even bought for you), it's at least polite to ask.
This. “Bright red hair” isn’t a pretty ginger, auburn, or strawberry blond. It is RED red. It’s THE red. Red sharpie. Which I do think is also quite pretty, but not a color you spontaneously dye your hair right before you stand up in someone’s wedding.
Yeah I'm thinking are we talking Manic Panic cherry red or L'Oreal Auburn Sunrise because. Those are two very different kinds of red.
I was imagining fire truck red
I’ve literally watched like 30 of your videos back to back, stoned and playing Toy Blast. You entertain the shit out of me
I am insanely jealous of your hair colour! It's a gorgeous colour don't understand why ANYONE would have a problem with it!
Yes Charlotte's hair is gorgeous but I don't think that's the color she dyed it to. It is probably a red like a strawberry because she said bright red. It probably a dye like the pink blue purple dyes so it will definitely stick out.
That last one hits somewhat close to home.
I lost my parents at 23 years old and had a kid one month later. They are buried in the state where I grew up and my sister still lives there. About two years later I asked her to take care of my kid so I could properly spend time at our parents' graves and actually mourn, which took me long to start. She was like: well how long is it going to be? And: can you like hurry? It's not like I have more time to spend there on average.
I will always resent her for this.
so sorry to hear. this. I would hesitate to even do a favor for her. I'd honestly write her a letter, hand written, not emailed. and explain why you think that was wrong. you can tell her others agree with you (i, gor one!) that was very cold hearted!
Um u can mourn and grieve anywhere. After 2 yrs i understand spending time at cemetary. Your 2yr old could go w you. Take toys and playpen or stroller and when baby naps u have personal time. U dont need a sitter
It never fails to floor me how uncomfortable and weird people get around someone who is grieving...I'm so sorry your sister reacted that way! I think your request was completely understandable.
@Midnight Moon you realize two year olds tend to get pretty distressed when they see their moms cry, right?
1122e😂
I'm reminded of the time a woman in my group of friends who loved to go swing dancing complained to everyone else that I needed to LIGHTEN UP or STAY HOME when I was on crutches after surgery to remove melanoma from my foot. I enjoyed the music, sat off to one side at the club, had my eyes on the band most of the time, chatted with the occasional dancer friend who joined me for a drink & a break, and didn't (could not) dance for at least 12 months due to how the surgery impacted my foot. Apparently the fact that I was at the club but not dancing was making her feel bad and she thought I should just stay home so she wouldn't feel bummed out by my crutches and lack of participation. Some people are just narcissists who cannot allow other people to just BE REAL. My condolences to anyone who discovers that they have a "friend" like that!
Ah the old how dare disabled people exist in public where I have to look at them. That's always fun. I'll never understand how a disabled person simply existing is so distressing to some people. If their psyche is that fragile then they are the ones who shouldn't be leaving the house.
I married one, lol. Since divorced.
bless you i hope all is well now. that was absolutely a horrid thing for that woman to have said. i really hope it wasnt told to you by someone else, because they instigated that if so.
It’s precisely why I stay off Twitter…the toxicity there from people who feel so offended and put out by the mere existence of someone who has a brain that can form their own opinions…combined with the ego to think that it’s all about how THEY feel…
Ugh…I too empathise with those people who discover those they consider friends are that way.
And the only feeling I have to those people who treat their friends that way and are either ignorant/oblivious, or worse wilfully manipulative - is NOT hate or anger…just PITY
I stood up for a friend at her wedding. I was the only single bridesmaid. The other bridesmaids brought their SOs and were all seated at a table together. I was seated at a table by myself with one more couple who didn't speak to me and left shortly after, leaving me all alone at the table. My friend came to speak to me briefly, then left to continue to greet her guests. That was all the attention I got.
That last story really pissed me off! My dad died when I was 17 and I was a bridesmaid at a wedding 2 years later. It literally didn't hit me until I was sitting at the main table during the reception that I would never have a father/daughter dance. I am sure that girl didn't realize at the time that visiting her husband's grave would effect her, and at least she still showed up. I immediately wanted to leave the room and be anywhere else, but I stuck it out because obviously that was not my moment, but I know the bride would have been completely understanding if I had left. (Also it would have been one of the least dramatic things that happened, as another bridesmaid fainted halfway through the ceremony.) Long story short, some of these brides need a reality check.
My middle cousin was the first to get married in my generation of the family. While I have never wanted a wedding myself I still felt that sense of loss during the wedding and took time to myself here and there to just feel and process everything. My dad had died a few years before but he was never the one I wanted to walk me down the aisle, I wanted my grandpa who died when I was 13 to walk me down the aisle. Death and disability are similar in the fact that it is an ongoing grieving process and sometimes we are caught off guard by the realization that we will never be able to do or experience certain things.
My father died when I was six and occasionally I get that thought too, especially when I’m invited to weddings. I do have an almost stepfather though (me and my mum are engaged but not married) but I feel like I want to have the father/daughter dance with my uncle (my dads twin brother). Since I was so young I wasn’t allowed to go to the funeral and I’ve only been to my dad’s grave a couple of times cuz each time I get super depressed and am just out of it for the next couple of hours to a day. In short, completely on the widows sight and I’m sorry for both reddit OP’s loss and RUclips OP’s loss.
I completely get this.
My grandfather died when I was about 10, we were very close.
I was too young to understand at the time though.
It wasn’t until I was 15 my other grandfather (who I wasn’t close with) passed away, I was unbelievably distraught.
My mum was worried because it was an odd reaction given I had no relationship with him.. thankfully she realised quite quickly what was going on.
That wrecking ball moment of grief really does hit you out of no where and most people don’t understand.
Same here with never having a father daughter dance. That's one of my reasons I eloped with my now husband
"Everyone is fighting a secret battle that you know nothing about." Profoundly true. ❤️
The woman visiting her late husbands grave is totally understandable. She said they all flew there so she probably doesn’t get many opportunities to visit her husbands grave. She was there celebrating someone getting married so it makes sense why she would get emotional when visiting her late husbands grave, if she was emotional and upset then her being late was probably the best option, the bride would have been more annoyed if she turned up to the restaurant crying. It also could have just been a traffic issue or anything else. So what she was late to dinner, there were 7 other people there.
lol the first story.... meanwhile, I almost always have brightly coloured hair, and when I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding, I had fire engine red hair. I remember either telling her I could dye it a more normal colour or asking her to let me know what colours she approved of, and she was just so confused about why anyone would care about my hair being red and said the choice was mine either way. (I change my hair often enough that it really wouldn't have been a problem to go brown for a few weeks, but of course I appreciated that she allowed me to have freedom to be myself)
Re: The boyfriend being the videographer and the bride not giving them a table: I was a wedding photographer and I was properly given a table with my friends, but the food vendor also made a whole table for me in the dessert room (which was separate because things were on display) so I could eat and decompress in silence before taking more photos. I'm always amazed at how there are some brides of vendors who aren't nearly this kind.
The fact the Bride can't feel empathy for the Widow is mind-blowing! Her vows sick & in health.... This is part of your vows, crazy she didn't appreciate the love the widow had for her husband.
I knowww. I'm surprised the cousin is going to the wedding at all. I just can't imagine how heartbreaking that would be to lose your husband so young and be forced to sit through wedding after wedding as all your friends and family get married around you. Every single time it would remind you of your wedding day and how it was a happiest day of your life and how much you miss him. My heart really does break for her. That bride is literally acting so selfishly. I just can't imagine being that un-empathetic. If I was the bride and in this situation I just can't imagine being that heartless.
Charlotte! Adopt me as a sister or something, and for all these NTA people, I want to be your friend. You damn, level headed, genuine souls. I love you.
The last story about the cousin that went to see her late husband's grave... Empathy is a lost human trait in our day... People no longer have the ability to truly empathize with others.. we are so consumed with "ourselves" and what we want to care about others.. what a sad way to go through life
They are in their 30's, can't they act like adults?! So selfish and self center people have become. I constantly have to remind my kids/grandkids they are not the center of my universe and the world does Not revolve around them when they get pissy or demanding of me.
I agree. I wonder if it has to do with social media, the world we grow up in where everyone is so focused on themselves and their own comfort and their own feelings, completely forgetting that the world doesn’t revolve around them. I’ve noticed even driving and interacting, people have kind of lost their care and consideration of others. Every day we go somewhere, and my young sons hold the door open for strangers. They’re like 7, 9. So many grown adults walk right through, don’t say thank you or acknowledge that someone did them a kindness. It’s sad. But it makes me appreciate my kids they’re awesome.
Also ironic how op said she’s the one who wasn’t think about everyone else, when she’s the one who isn’t being considerate of her cousins problems
The visiting grave story. She was late, but she came. Move on. She flew to a place were her husband was buried. She probably couldn't deal emotionally knowing she was in town without saying hi. Not to mention the stress of wedding knowing how her dream day turned to becoming a widow 😭 The sister said to post this so the o.p would get ripped a new one. 🍻❤✌ legend
And the bride should've known damn well that her friend was a widow and her husband was buried in the NY area. I wonder if she purposely planned the trip to NY just to rub salt.
@@gloriaalex11 I think the bride was 100% only thinking of herself and how things effect her.
You know, I felt like if the bride would have just accepted the excuses, it would have been fine. You air your grievance, the other makes an excuse, and water under the bridge. Or is the bride that desperate to have the last word.
And who has dinner at 5 pm in New York, anyway??? I don`t think most restaurants even serve dinner at this time...
I understand that the bride was upset about her being late but she still shouldn't have said that. Sad thing is friend was probably thinking about her and her bachelorette too, she was probably so distraught that she didn't pick up the phone so they don't have to worry about her and focus on the dinner instead, besides she let her know that she was gonna be late it wasn't like she went straight up no show on her. Bride is definitely the A hole in this situation. Also, personal opinion but I wouldn't have made my friend who was widowed my bridesmaid. I would still want her in my wedding but not as my bridesmaid because I don't want to open old wounds that probably hasn't truly healed yet by making her walk down the aisle and watch me get married front row. She doesn't need me drudging up old memories by having her be there for the preparations, but that's just me.
when my now husband and I got married we both agreed to invite his ex wife and children - and a beautiful day was had by all - no drama or hostility just love and fun
You are so wise Charlotte ! 😊
Leading up to my brother's wedding we went through guest list several times. We had a chart, we had a custom made board with table numbers assigned to all the guests. And we still forgot to include two guests on the board. Thankfully we are adequate people and bride and groom took charge of the situation and we just put two more chairs to one table. I guess some people are just assh*
Well also they had a wedding planner right? So how didn’t they notice? It’s messed up.
@@Mama_Bear524 Been reading enough of these now to know bride probably just wanted the chocolate table and the wedding video - not the actual people at her wedding.
My husbands 5 friends, not invited because everyone in his family rsvp (they all showed up) went to the reception. They were all in uniform, formal, an it was on base so they just walked in. We found them all an extra table and food. That’s how you treat friends.
Ikr, would it have killed them to find 2 extra chairs? >_
@@Fiona2254 Yes! Beautiful.
In the gypsy traveller community, it's normal to visit the graves of close family to put flowers etc over the days before the wedding, the bride often even goes to pay her respects and put flowers (sometimes even her bouquet) at the graves of her mother, grandmother (whoever she was closest and dearest with) on the wedding day itself, it's very important
That is such a beautiful tradition! Just wanted to say that I'm pretty sure the G word is widely viewed as a slur these days and I often see people asking for it not to be used. Roma is a more politically correct term but not all Romani people identify as Roma.
@@thamertanner5448 In Eastern Europe they are Roma, they are a different people really. Their culture is very different. In the UK we are quite happy with gypsy traveller, we're of Irish descent. There are terms we have for non-gypsies which I'd probably best not get into! Terms like 'gyppoes' and 'travellers' are used as insults by other people, they're very offensive
I could tell you some great stories about my family! But I'd be rambling on for hours 😄
@@LunaLightbringertechnically just the word "gypsy" is a slur, because... well.. none of us are from Egypt 😅 which is what the term comes from. Europeans being idiots.
The red hair 😂😂😂😂 there was a point in my life when my whole “bridesmaid roster” were natural gingers. I loved the idea of how gorgeous that would be (but also those were all the people at the time
I wanted as my bridesmaids lol. Ended up having a very small quick wedding and my only bridesmaid was my sister, a ginger, so I guess my dream came true 😂)
I was a catering manager who did weddings for years. This is pretty common. Sometimes it’s something petty like this. Others it’s bc the server made a mistake (like spilled wine on someone). Sometimes it was bc the host were just horrible people. I always accommodated the host when they didn’t want someone there. It’s just easier. I’m surprise she couldn’t find something for her to do in the back. Only, once did I tell a customer no. It was when the FOB told me that the event was religious and he didn’t want any openly gay servers working the reception. He told me this at the reception. I told him that it was the hospitality industry. if I were to enforce that then there would be almost no one left to work the event.
Oh babe the bride used you for your dessert table. I woulda left with everything I made so dang fast
Same, no freebies for ungrateful people
I would've taken the food first then left
Yep, would have packed my shit up and left… I would also tell BF she doesn’t get the video
See, the thing that one bride doesn't understand about her cousin is that while she's happy partying, her cousin is thinking about how close she is to the grave. While she's happy and smiling, her cousin is thinking about how she'll never see her husband smile again or laugh or be able to do anything. Hayley can't just put those memories and feelings aside because it's overwhelming. I couldn't imagine being selfish enough to not understand that.
She could have stayed one day longer and spend it visiting her husband´s grave though... not doing it during OP´s special event. I would do it that way. Then instead of explaining OP, why she did it and being late, she GHOSTED HER. This looks even more selfish on her side. Cause OP did not mind her to visit the grave, just asked her to be back on time. To which she agreed, but ended up not doing. Grieving is painful, but if you have empathy, you know that you can put your grief aside for a moment, for somebody you care, for somebody who is alive there and who thinks that you are worthy to be part of important life events.
@Julienna SK Ghosted? She showed up just a little late. Also, if you're already in the city, why wait to go see the grave? That doesn't make sense.
@@Julienna Do you know her personal circumstances? The grave was far enough to need to fly over there. That alone implies money for the flight home and the hotel room. What if she doesn't have the money for that? What if she had to work next day? People have a life, other things to do, and sometimes, those things cannot be posponed. How many people do you know whose boss would leave them take a day? What if she has children and the person looking for them can't do it a day more? Think. People have a life to do more things than just partying. The bride should have been empathetic. Not only was her friend, but her cousin. And she didn't "ghosted" her. She went to the dinner, a little late, but went. She texted her she would be late and composed herself to not be crying at dinner. If she would have been on time but being a wreck, I'm sure BRIDEZILLA would have a meltdown because "HOW DARE YOU TO HAVE FEELINGS ON MY BACHELORETTE PARTY!" If BRIDEZILLA was a little empathetic, just a little, then she wouldn't be offended that her bridesmaid, bestfriend and cousin couldn't make it on time giving the circumstances. It was a dinner, not the actual weeding.
@@Julienna This wasn't one event, this was a bachelorette trip that took days. That was already a lot to ask for. You can't micromanage someone's life for multiple days just because you're on a bachelorette trip. The cousin wanted a few hours alone to grieve in private, and arrived late to one dinner. It wasn't some
huge important event like the reception. Maybe she couldn't afford to stay one more day or couldn't get more days off. We don't know, but it's too late for that. The bride should've just let it go after the fact. The way she titled it "Did her own thing" says a lot.
It not like the cousin broke down over a break up or went to see an ex. She was crying over the death of her late husband. "Put grief aside" is not how that works. I encourage you to do some research on how loss affects the brain.
Guests are going through life events of their own, not only experiencing the bride's life events. So maybe some people have the privilege of pausing their lives and setting aside their human needs for an few hours. But the more events you squeeze into a wedding, the more you have to lower your expectations. Guests aren't paid background actors in a production.
I'd agree more if the cousin had made a scene at the actual ceremony.
@@Julienna she was a few hours late, not like she skipped the entire trip. Since it definitely wasn't just the two of them there, what the hell even is that big of a deal? her friend shows up from the cemetery and the bride starts lecturing her on "time management"? I would've kindly told her to fck off with her entitlement and her damn party.
I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding party of all very alt people with tattoos, piercings and colourful hair. The bridesmaids and bride have decided (with zero pressure from the bride) that we are going to dye streaks of the wedding colours into our hair for the wedding
When she read “he’s” choice the way it was incorrectly used rather than “his”. Low key hilarious. Charolette is comedic and hot. Killer combo.
Bridezilla stories - cautionary tales for everyone if someone acts super entitled run, run away and never return!
Best advice ever!
I found out that my father got married from my aunt, on Facebook. My dad's wife, decided it wasnt important for him to tell his own kids, that he was getting married. She also through a father's day party and didnt invite my fathers own kids. For some reason, she had something against my fathers kids, since day 1. I gave up on trying to be in my father's life.
That is very sad
Yes same happened to me. I found out my dad was married from my brother a week after the ceremony. His wife wanted it kept from me.
For the longest time I thought Charlotte dyed her hair red. I LOVE her haircolour and she just get's it natural?! It's not fair!! 😭
Love you, Charlotte!
I married a man whose daughter hates me 15 years ago. She wore black to our wedding, told all the guests what a terrible person I am, etc. The bride had every right to keep a snotty jealous jerk out of her wedding. I regret not doing the same.
The only thing that my best friend cared about for her wedding (regarding me specifically) was that I was standing next to her as her maid-of-honor. Thought that was supposed to be the point...
So sweet!
Same! I offered to cover tattoos and the bride said, but they're part of you?! Why would I care? 😭😍
About Haley: Here's another spin: Maybe when she got to the gravesite to put down flowers, talk to her late husband, the memories of thier lives together washed over her like a flick at the movie theater and she got upset wanting to see him again, hear his voice again, wanting to have him back in her life. If I'm being told that someone in my group is coming but went to a graveyard, First thing I'd do is put my hand up and say "Say no more! Take all the time you need, just let me know when I need to get the carton of Heavenly Hash/Rocky Road/Mint Chocolate Chip/Cookies and Cream ice cream in the gallon size, OR go to Ben and Jerry's and get a Vermonster: Thirty scoops of ice cream plus addins."
Your videos make me smile everyday! Thank you!
That first one BAFFLES me there was no mention of a vacation or ANYTHING to try and make up for that.
I got the idea it wasn't Ginger, but red. RED!
Again, and? What if it's RED? If someone with RED hair is enough to destroy your wedding, you should have worked more on it.
Story 2 is making my blood boil . The friend should have left with a bill , and the bf should have left good pics out of the package. ( It's a mix up !)
We know how well the marriage will be going .
So, funny story about bright hair at a wedding.
I was a plus one to a wedding and my date was in the bridal party. He was one of the groomsmen.
All of the groomsmen and bridesmaids wore white with accents of blue or pink, respectively. The bridesmaids were asked to wear blue or pink wigs, which was fun!
I dyed my dates beard blue and my hair was ALREADY blue, so I just freshened it up.
I wore a blue and white dress, mostly blue, but I thought it looked really fun and the bride told me I looked so cute! So cute, she asked me to w o r k at her wedding. I just met her lol
"Since you look like you could have been part of the bridal party anyway, would you make cotton candy for the guests and make sure they all grab a program?"
Lady, I *am* a guest!
But I thought it was kind of neat to be part of the show and said sure, and made cotton candy in the blazing sun for an hour. She came over eventually and said, "that's great, we're gonna start in about 20 minutes so you can go sit down," which in itself was kinda wild because I literally didn't know anyone there except my date, my BOYFRIEND. And he had disappeared a while ago with the rest of the party and I sat through a strangers wedding by myself.
It wasnt horrible and she wasn't horrible but by the end I was starving because there wasnt anything for me to eat due to my stupid allergies. Usually theres SOMETHING for me to eat, I'm not picky, just riddled with allergies lol
But I didn't complain, I knew id get to eat eventually.
Anyway, I ended up feeling like my boyfriend invited me because he had to fly from another state and didn't want to make the drive by himself so asked me to join him.
Knowing full well I drive a manual and HE can't.
I drove the whole way there and back, worked at a wedding because I looked like staff and left a banquet hungry lol
Red heads look amazing in Pink. Look at Shiv Roy in Succession, on her wedding day. She wore the most amazing soft pink cocktail dress and she looked like MAGIC.
I'll never understand how these bridezillas had friends to begin with,
I truly don't believe that weddings bring out the worst in people because they're stressful but rather because shitty people feel like they have justification to be even more shitty because it's "their special day"😒
I dyed my hair right before a wedding. I was in a lot of photos because I was dating the best man. I didn’t think about it and I ended up apologizing because I stood out in photos and I was embarrassed I did that without thinking. She was okay with it but still. I won’t do that again.
Tbf, I wouldn't apologize or be embarrassed because of my hair color and how I dye it. Everyone knows I change colors often and they don't have any problem with it. And I've never met a bride that is a bridezilla and wants guests, maid of honor and best man do and look how she wants.
If anyone thinks that I would stand out because of my hair color, say it and I'll gladly not take professional pics. 😅
@@dhaliablack2804 That would be fine but if you are someone that doesn't dye your hair bright red then suddenly you do right before their wedding then it seems to be done on purpose to get attention.
@@seeya205 nope. I wouldn't do it for attention, i would do it because i want to and nobody needs to care. Don't see a big deal here. Someone dyes hair or gets a new haicut, we compliment it and that's all. If someone makes a big deal because of it at a wedding, then they are too much.
I dyed my hair bright pink from black years ago when i went with my ex to his cousins wedding and nobody knew me because we were dating just for a few months and nobody made a fuss about HAIR. That is plain stupid if you do. Only the bride and the groom were the center of attention, no matter how anyone else looked. That's how it goes with normal people who don't detail every single little thing at a wedding.
@@dhaliablack2804 Just because you do it, doesn't mean it's right! Most people wouldn't say anything to you but they are thinking how rude and disrespectful you are. LOL
@@seeya205 LOL, sorry to surprise you, but it's a different mentality and we don't care about those little stuff and those type of stuff are not rude or disrespectful here. The only thing we consider rude and unacceptable is wearing white if a bride has a white wedding dress.
It's hair, deal with it.
"We have to get over this idea that the world revolves around our wedding."👌🏻🤣
girl, I watch alot of your video in diffrent social media and I'm gonna said, I love you and you're reaction a lot
When I got married one of my bridesmaids wanted to lighten her hair. The hair stylist bleached it and it was white. It almost glowed. She was horrified. I never thought twice about having her in my wedding party.
That last story is really sad. Her friend is obviously still grieving the lost of her husband and this AH bridezilla friend is so self-centered. She's late but she still attend despite her pain and sadness. I would have just left and never be friends with such a horrible person. I'm 33 and I couldn't imagine losing my husband. I feel so sorry for the widowed friend. 😭💔
Right!!! Imaging being at the BACHELORETTE for someone else after losing your husband and having to pretend to be happy for them the whole time?? Sounds like hell on earth
The kicker was calling it a "time management" issue. Her attitude screams of someone that tells people "stop being depressed you big baby"
If one of my friends was going through this, it would be hard for me to keep partying the whole time. I would've asked her if she needed someone to go with her and comfort her and THEN go get food. Or just let them be. Clearly this woman was still in mourning. Plus, she's there celebrating someone's marriage while mourning the loss of her own.
If the grieving widow was in no mood to party she should have declined participating in the bachelorette party.
@@flitsertheoWe get that you lack empathy and believe that humans are a bunch of machine. She probably wanted to be strong for her cousin and try to make her happy but grief can be like a wave. However , I understand selfish people like you wouldn’t understand.
To the first story of the bridesmaid dyeing her hair: My stepmomma literally bought me a wedding outfit to match my at the time bright blue/green split dyed hair. Her and my dad took me and my dad wedding outfit shopping and got me a light blue button-down shirt and a fly with blue-green birds and my step-aunt sewed colourful masks for everyone, getting me a baby blue one with hearts matching the colour of the shirt I was wearing as well as getting matching masks for my dad and stepmomma, it was all beautiful!
We also had multiple kids there, my step-cousins being an infant and around 7y/o as well as my stepbro being around 10y/o and my cousins being around 7 and 11 y/o and they all were having a blast!! All in all it was a beautiful day, we were staying at my step-granny’s house and had the party there as well in her garden with a folk-band my parents and whole close family loves there as musicians!
I was 17 at the time as well as my other stepbro and we all enjoyed the day with my step grandparents hugging me at the registry office and telling me we’re now officially family on paper as well resulting in a group hug with my younger stepbro included.🥰
My friends bridesmaid/future sister in law is a ginger who wore a blush pink dress, and she looked stunning! I have always loved red hair and have reddish tones in mine that i feel blessed to have. Red hair is gorgeous ❤
I can't imagine Charlotte being a bridezilla. She's so sweet, funny and seems to be a great person. She's our petty queen, i only imagine her being a beautiful and amazing bride!😂♥️
I can't wait to see her get engaged... no rush.
I think that after seeing sooooo many bridezilla posts that she would be more tempered to handle most of the issues that would come up and be more likely to laugh about it than freak out about them...
@Dina Silva, Charlotte has MANY petty bones but none of them are bridezilla bones... I think she would say what she wants, MONTHS in advance! Just can't wait for the diamond ring to be flashing!!! ❤😁
And if she even thought about getting Bridezilla, Mike would tease her out of it.
She may not have a bridezilla bone but she plays the character really well 😂🤔 You should check the short she and mike made on Marc and Austen's channel... it was hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The bride in the 2nd story sounds like the type of person that manipulates and uses people to get exactly what she wants. Forgive her, but do NOT maintain a relationship with her. She's obviously putting her wants and needs before other people's feelings, and will continue to do so.