What You Need to Know About Friends With Benefits (ft. Claudia Sulewski) | Pour Decisions
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- Опубликовано: 5 июл 2017
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Being friends post FWB:
My BEST FRIEND was "with benefits" for two years. Now, I'm married. He has a girlfriend that he's thinking of proposing to. We're still best friends. We're still super close. We still talk about basically anything, INCLUDING sex, and literally the only thing that's changed is that we don't roll around naked together anymore. I have been told by many people that this is highly unusual and the transition is not typically that seamless, however, I do think it's important for my story to be out there so people know that it is possible. You can be friends, then friends with benefits, then just friends again and have your relationship stay fundamentally the same through it all.
I think what really made it easy for us is that we straight-up WOULDN'T work as a couple. I'm kinky, he's vanilla. I'm child-free, he wants a family. I'm polyamorous, he's monogamous. We also communicated. At one point, I legit developed serious feelings for him, and I told him about it. He actually considered joining me in a triad because he was having a super hard time finding a steady girlfriend and thought that maybe I was it. In the end, he couldn't handle sharing, and he told me that it wasn't going to work out because he would always be jealous of my husband. I accepted that. It hurt for a while, but we kept being friends, we kept having the hottest of hot sex, and then, it was like it never happened. It just didn't hurt anymore. I didn't miss him because I still had him. I still do, just not in my bed.
Amelia the Filthy Casual wow this is the coolest most interesting comment I think I've ever read, thanks for sharing honestly
Loved this comment! I had a fwb for about 9 months. But he never wanted to be friends in the first place. Well turns out he just used me for sex. I was in it for both you know, sex and friendship but clearly he wasn't. I still follow him on social media but I don't really care anymore bc he didn't respect me as a friend or cared for me as a friend. Now I have this other fwb and I feel it's different, we also wanna meet up without sex so we don't assume that seeing each other means sex. I think it's a great idea bc I love him as a friend. Sometimes I doubt like do I have feelings or not? I try to deattach a bit and not be to close so it doesn't happen.
This Makes me sad
Y'all are morons
¿ How often were you having sex together ?!
I mean, it probably affects how your feelings develop, and how the 'relationship' evolves, and defines itself ? And thus also affect how easily it can be reverted ?
Candace just feels like one of those people you could instantly be best friends with and that be the best decision of your life.
It's cool to see Claudia in this laid back environment having a chat w u. You guys have good charisma together Candace!
Thank you!! It was so fun!
Yeah totally ended up with feelings and he was like "nope, not into it". And it was horrible. 😫
coffeegirl18 like any lady would. Don't give your energy to someone who ultimately, only wants to get off on you when you deserve some one who worships you.
I love this whole series!!!!! Candace you are so amazing!!!!
Been waiting for this since I heard Claudia talking about filming with you!
Yay!!! Claudia and Candace are my faves!!
Yes Claudia and candace this I've been waiting for since Claudia vlog
Thank you for making a honest video on friends with benefits
I ended up marrying mine.
pythonkatie K lucky, lol
If the sex nut busting is great why not
I honestly am not good at committing so
@@annieleonhardt3779 You not? You want to experience different people?
Thanks ladies for this vid, loved it
This video was on point loved it!! ❤️
I had a fwb that I fell for and we decided to just be friends when I told him what was up... A few months later, after I had moved on, he told me he started to have feelings for me! It was super frustrating because I told him that I wasn't in that place anymore but he wouldn't let it go, so eventually the friendship ended.
Ugh that's the worst - it's always hard when feelings start to get involved but it sounds like you were super mature in handling that situation!
He sud of grab u up and made a keeper out of u. U look like a good woman
That is the most beautiful drink I have ever seen!
Those shakes look so good 😊
I could've had 12
horror story time. had a fwb two years ago. we had been friends for a while then and one night of too much drinks lead to being fwb. from there on lots of texting, hanging out, having fun, drinking and booty-calls basically. all great. drama time as my ex bf and his ex gf found out about us being fwb, boooooy so not fun when your ex tries to mess with your life two years after the breakup. anyways, couple of weeks later fwb and I are still having a great time but I catch some feelings and try to be careful. he, on the other hand, introduces me to his family and some friends as "his girlfriend", so I was like "alright, we're on the same page here". grand finale: he ended it via whatsapp saying that he's not into it anymore, I was like well, okay, lets have a grownup conversation about it, just to get everything straight. nope. he ghosted, blocked me on every social media and basically switched the street when we would see each other in public. I was so f***** pissed and hurt. had a really really rough time because of it - stupid feelings for such an asshole - but right now I am the happiest I've ever been with my boyfriend for over a year now and on some level thankful that that fwb never worked out. could have hurt me much more than it already did. yeah, my share of asshole-encounters
Sarah Gahler n
I was hurt just by reading this oh my God.
Dude your life is a horror movie
it was so cool to see this other side of Claudia!
I just got out of a horrible one. I catch feelings and got jelous when he had sex with other girls and I was so pissed but I never told him I’m jelous but I started to act out to annoy him too then he said he wants to end it and I agreed, I unfollowed him on his social media and deleted whatsapp so I would not have any communication with him. I hate this kind of relationship. It makes you dead inside...
I'm sending this to someone tomorrow !!
Yeah I tried to be fwb with my ex... now we've been in a serious relationship 6 years, and plan to marry in the future xD
can u give me advice on that?
same
How does that lead to a relationship
Friends with benefits relationships is all about using someone without repercussions about someone's emotions!
Friends with benefits relationships are used as excuses to protect their own emotions, just to ignore someone else's emotions!
Then dont engage wjat wrong with u? Mind your own business and stop acting like you are clean! Rolling eyes
Mine FWB ... Working good. Seamless
Obsessed with this series!
Thank you!!
Already the first question answers bothered me cause like fwb is a deal between friends. It can and imo should start with the conversation before going for a sex thing that can hurt one person. In my fwb relationship that worked beautifuly. It was my friend who asked me if considering the fact I am a single and really busy in that moment (too busy for dating and in too compliicated situationd) I do not miss sex. And that's were the conversation started so both of us had a time to rethink all pros and cons and if we even want to get involved in that kind of relationship before anything had happened. But about all the others thing in the video i totally agree and thank you for making that video.
Great video
Can friends with benefits be stuff that's not sex? Although I guess that's something you talk about together when deciding to start something like that, huh? But I'm honestly curious if a fwb relationship exists where there is no sex, just cuddling, kisses, and maybe the occasional other stuff without actually sex.
Lilli Ross i think that there should be coz i am in one currently.
Killer Toons I want that...
yesm i still have that
Ofc u can
I love sex and its a must for me
I tried being fwb with my ex I was with for 2 years. we broke up after finding out I was pregnant and terminating the pregnancy (was NOT my choice, was forced into it by him and his family... sadly.) I resented him but didn't want my body count to go up. he became clinging and started calling me at all times of the day leaving voicemails and ended up staying at my place all night. I had to fake a relationship to shake him off. he would show up at my work and just watch me my entire shift. would follow me home from friends and work. I had to end up threatening to get police involved...
Thanks ladies for the info..i feel confident going into this fwb thing..wish me luck!!
How'd it go?
Imo it's better to be fully in love than being " friends" and Hook up. Otherwise, it takes a toll on you unless you're so desensitized to the pain and confusion
Any advice on FWB in a group of lesbian/bi girls? Like everyone seems to know everyone, but it is an easy way to meet ppl... Sometimes dating an ex's ex is weird, but why not, right? How do you prevent awkwardness when you just hang out as a group?
@@user-rm1dd8ll4d haha
Please make more FWBs videos, I think it's the new trend.
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It hurts me a lot I feel like I’ve been put to the side
i haven't been in that situation
In this as in everything else, be honest with yourself and everyone else and it will work.
Or you'll end up alone and depressed like me, you know win win.
Friends with benefits relationships causes people to feel discombobulated!
I'm down for it
My ex broke up with me after two months of relationship, now he wants the friend with benefits but the problem is he usually doesn't reply to my text, only when he wants he responds
Candice you look so pretty!! 😍😍😊😊💓💓
How about make everything consensual...
I dont want a friends with benefits and i dont want to sleep around but after a year being alone and celibate i ended up sleeping with a friend and i dont regret it i was going through a lot kf pain and i couldnt turn down the temptation. But his not good for me and bow i gonna keep my distance i dont want that type of relationship. Im struggling now im so thirsty and i am dying tk satisfy my womanly needs but im being so prideful and staying away from guys i know god will provide for me.
Been dealing with fwb only to be told 2 years later that he didn’t want to be in a relationship ( I respect his decision) but I hurt that he expressed this to late (after) I caught extreme feelings for him. I’m mad at myself for investing and pursing it. We weren’t just having sex. Many times we traveled and weren’t intimate. I’ve been at no contact with him . My heart is hurt and my spirit is crushed
I will be your fwb your very pretty .were are you from?
Friends with benefits relationships causes problematic circumstances!
No it doesnt just set ground rules from the jump. Everything be kool. If you cant fuck your friends who can you fuck espichally if there a very attractive cute lady
great
I was once with a guy who was like this could go into being a relationship or just friends or fwb. he never was specific. he then got upset when I found out he was on dating sites and I had gotten mad. he told me it was never going to evolve into anything more than fwb. I was so heart broken. the way he talked to me and we would go out all the time. to end like that. ugh it was terrible
Watching this... I need to talk with my FWB. We haven't done anything yet, due to conflicting schedules, but we're openly texting about it. The problem is that he is firm in the fact that he wants to be FWB, but he's talking about cuddling and calling me pet names. I'm open to being FWB, but I'm not sure if he's being honest with himself
Zafire Shadows he could be honest. Don’t you like to cuddle any cute kitten ?
@@stuarthastie6374 Yeeeeah, no. He wanted a girlfriend without the label. Then he got clingy and weird, so I had to cut him off.
A friends-with-benefits kind of sounds like you're just using each other. I've had guys Say that to me and I always retort with and what benefit would there be for me sir? for me sex is never just a physical thing cuz I'm a female and an emotional empath, so intimacy is necessary to get me there if you know what I mean. But that's what makes the world go round we're all different. In my experience when a guy says he wants FWB, really he only wants the benefits part. It reminds me of being a volunteer prostitute. I just think it's ridiculous to call it casual sex. sex is rarely casual there's always emotions because we're humans. humans have emotions
Those fucking milkshakes!
Wait. I thought when you do FWB you still can go out on a date with them or cuddle :o wtf is that haha
Question: If you've been on a few dates with someone else do you have to break it off immediately with your FWB??
You don't but you do need to be honest with both yourself and your FWB about what's going on and how you might be feeling. And if at any point you start to feel "guilty" or like you're "lying" then you really should break it off.
Leo Pachis do you have any morals?
Leo Pachis You have to be honest!!!
no
Obv because that's cheating
Women control access to sex and men control access to relationships. Communication can = FWB
You seem to have a set idea, and anecdotal evidence to support it.
I had travelling companions with benefits and we were still friends afterwards. They lixed the protection which was a bit of a hassle. Without the benefits maybe i would have left them to their own devices. Once i had two at the same time we travelled in India for a month. Travelling a lone was much easier.
So you don”t know all and everything
Today's society failed to see otherwise on what friends with benefits relationships could do to a human being!
Friends with benefits relationships treated love as if it never existed and should never existed!
And yet you were "victim" please lady no male will believe that
Cold-War FOOL I'm so a victim, you perverted heathen!
Seems so complicated; why not just have a relationship?
Friends with benefits. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
I used to be a victim of friends with benefits relationships!
Victim!!! Please lady....It takes two to tangle.
There are three types of women in this world...Those that can have a FWB relationship...those that can't...and those that think they can but really can't. 99.9999% of women fall into the last two categories.
l84Cabo m
I had one that was great she got jealous cause i tryed to fuck her friend. Gonna miss those blow jobs pussy pounding sessions all over the house.
Don’t do it. Just don’t do it!
Hello I just met a woman online she started to assuming I will make a family with her but I’m not interested making a family. I’m happy married with my wife. How do I have her be on the same page staying friends with benefits?
bruce mann jr How can you expect a woman you're committing adulterous affair with to be on the same page?!
bruce mann jr Friends with benefits relationships are made for men who wants to be lazy and trifling!
bruce mann jr Friends with benefits promotes promiscuity, prostitution, STDs, and suicide!
bruce mann jr Friends with benefits are like serpents!
In other words, friends with benefits slithering in the grass and poisoning you with venom!
The music is annoying and distracting
Because we will in a group home and people tell us we can be together
Me and my boyfriend he asked me if we could be friends with Benefits
ine one want to hookup
And thats why MGTOW is growing.
Cold-War FOOL MGTOW isn't growing, you dense-headed buffoon!
. What are you, those type of women that ran over the block? Your man probably think that you are his women, but in reality its just he's turn.
Friends with benefits relationships shouldn't be treated as normal!
He no longer respects me and there is no communication. It's time for me to end it and it will be hard because I know I will feel lonely
It's ok. You will find happiness elsewhere
🙄🙄🙄
But the true gold digger will never leave !
So basically friends with benefits is low key overrated, you’re still gonna get your feelings hurt in the end
Cant i am a savage
In other words, emotionally and psychologically confused!
Why buy the cow when you could just get the milk for free...
Oh stds I didn't even think about that! Lol 😆
i wish i was relevant enough to be on this show i wanna be friends w u SO BAD s
If your body is a Temple why even have premarital sex.
Friends with benefits relationships causes doubt, low self-esteem, trust issues, and worthlessness!
That cake is disgusting!!
I don't understand why people think that friends with benefits relationships are normal!
They are the lust sexual energy attraction you share for eachother see who can orgasm more its great. All my fwbs always fall for me or wid up actually being my steady girl it never fails. Lol
Jeremy Rosa HEATHEN!
Jeremy Rosa Orgasm has nothing to do with it!
Jeremy Rosa There's biblical scriptures against FWB (Friends With Benefits) relationships!
Big dislike on your mindset girls
Friends with benefits relationships are inexcusable and unacceptable!
Friends with benefits relationships are also disrespectful!
No its not it like doing porno with out a camera unless your fwb agrees to make a few with you😈
Jeremy Rosa SICKO!
There's nothing normal about friends with benefits relationships!
what´s your problem?
Is sex not a special thing anymore? Claudia is the same age as me (21), and I am still am a virgin by choice. Sex shouldn't be something that should be had with no strings attached. If everyone is really that thirsty, then just choose to do things solo.
who says it should or shouldn't be? alot of these "rules" are just made up by ourselves
I think it's up for their choice what to do in their sex life, miss virgin by choice.
P.s. Stick to concept of virginity is a bit unhealthy just so you know. Be careful and stuff
wow you sound so asian LOL , i'm asian and people here are like you . Not me though , i think that is bs
No I'm not Asian. I just have values about this subject despite my age and the culture I live in.
you have YOUR values. there is no absolute rules for sex. for some people its a big deal....for others its casual fun. it doesnt make a person better or worse if theyve had sex or not. what you want to do with your body shouldnt mean you judge others for what they want to do with theirs.