As a younger guy trying to get advice on navigating life with ADHD has been hard to come by, your channel has been a godsend for me as I relate to almost everything you say, thanks for doing what you do.
Set your intention, work hard, keep smiling. The fact you’re looking for advice is a sure sign you’ll be ok. Dr Barkley’s lectures and advice is a great resource to view on YT for us adhd’ers.
This guy is the most honest and most realistic representation of what it is to live with ADHD. Just keep going and work and find something you care about. Do that, and you’ll find it’s a power nothing can even come close to. Keep going!
Dude your transformation has been insane to witness. You have so much more energy and motivation now from the years past. I appreciate your journey man.
Yes! This man gets it! It is about getting back on the horse. Beating yourself up continuously does not help anybody. Learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward.
I honestly have never heard someone articulate so well the ups and downs of adhd, and especially the inattentive type. I know it’s hard to keep up with the videos and I know you don’t always want to talk adhd, but the occasional video on your insight into things would be very much appreciated. I think I’m actually hyper focussing on your videos at the moment, which could come across as weird 😂🤪🫠 but that is me all over. Find something new that I can relate to, and I’m all over it, until I exhaust myself and become catatonic 🙋🏻♀️😵💫😵💫😆🤦🏻♀️ … Anyway Hi from North Wales, you’re doing a grand job 👍🏻👌🏻🙌🏻👏🏻
We need a cure for ADHD🥺. I can’t drive well because of it, I can’t remember anything especially roads. I can drive somewhere many time and forget about it. I might have to move somewhere else that have public transformation because of this. Seeing this video and the comment section give me hope and kind of encourage me.
My fiancee has helped me immensely in improving my life. She is incredibly generous and patient, and she never makes me feel bad for my issues. She's absolutely wonderful. My problems still exist, but I think it's important to surround yourself with people who help you, rather than make you feel worse than you already do.
At 74 I still can’t find anyone who will diagnose me with ADHD. All the help I get is from young psychologists at my low income clinic who stay for a year or two and then move on to higher paid jobs, I can’t afford any better psychological help. No one has offered any medication or will even diagnose myADHD. If you have any ideas that can help me with my situation please let me know. Your vlogs have opened my eyes to my condition and I am grateful for the help you have already given me! I live in the USA where the psychological help is very good if you are wealthy, but if you lack funds all you get are people who don’t help much and always move on. Thank you for your vlog!
Thank you for this! So true! My routines have developed over many years. If I get off track, it’s ok. I know the routines help so I eventually get them going again.
That 'victim' detail drew me in immediately as it's what I've been working on in therapy. A major build up of state-sustaining victimisation, self-indulgent self-loathing has been a big part of my difficulty with motivation. They're patterns learned in childhood, and ones I have maintained for a very long time. But by following my therapist's latest advice (and really following it this time) and becoming aware the moment i approach any relapse or any time my life falls into chaos and instead of taking my usual victimisation route, I pause, note the behaviour and I immediately weaken it. It's almost a part of my personality at this point, so there are sometimes actual internal struggles to prevent the feeling taking full hold but so far I've been all the better for it. Introspection and self-awareness have never been an issue, to an extent I feel i fall a bit too far on one end. Rumination and self-reflection has made for a large part of my adulthood, but it was never guided or in any way with intentions to address and achieve goals, almost like I took the awareness as enough. Awareness is certainly important, but the next steps are too otherwise it becomes cyclical and chips at your wellbeing. I could truly go on for ages, but my main point was to say thank you, along my ADHD journey (from my suspicions to my diagnosis) you have played an important role in helping me feel understood and helping shine light on many aspects I relate to. Every so grateful as always and congratulations on getting right back on that horse.
100% agreed. In fact allowing yourself to get off the wagon allows downtime where you can relax and not hate yourself for not being productive or breaking routine (ie holiday). Thanks! 👍
Very true, in all respects! I’ve had more wagons than hot dinners, but anyone with ADHD should realise that resilience is actually one of our best attributes by default. We are the very definition of falling down, brushing ourselves down and getting back on that horse! Never give up on giving up. Don’t let your get up and go, go. We do it better than anyone else I know. ❤️
One of my biggest lessons I've learned in life is- you ALWAYS pay a price for neglect. And the things you lost became the price you payed for that neglect. Its relevant in all parts of my life. And I don't always notice when I'm neglecting things. There's so many things to focus on, and so many distractions. It's easy to get lost in the middle of it all, and to be neglecting everything and achieving nothing. That's what I have to work hard at avoiding. Hope all is great over your way Stuart. You have friends. J in Oz
I have to thank you. I am 74 years old and still can’t get any help with my adhd! I am disabled and can’t afford private psychiatric help. All that they give me is young psychologists that don’t address the issue and usually work for the clinic for 1 or2 years and then move on to higher paying jobs. No one has ever offered me medication for the condition or even diagnose me for the condition! If you can help me in any way l would be grateful.
Dude!!! Thank you Sooo much for this video. I’ve spent so many years undiagnosed, and even post diagnosis, beating myself up for my shortcomings. This video is So Refreshing…Radical Self Acceptance is The Key!! (And that’s also the name of a really good book I recently read)😉 Thanks Again. We appreciate you.
I found you in my search for real-ppl finding real-solutions for THEMselves when my son was finally diagnosed. I wanted him to see ppl he could empathize w/ & yet who don’t use their diagnosis as a CRUTCH. Just two days ago he was giving me attitude and dared to say his medication wore off. I responded ADHD isn’t an excuse for any behavior but rather something to be cognizant of and navigate about. I have epilepsy & EVERYthing in my home/computers/life is HIGHLY organized & controlled so my anxiety doesn’t cause aura & focal-seizures (which often result in short-term memory-gaps. I forget things a lot due to the seizures). I HAVE to keep EVERYTHING in its place ALWAYS so at the moment I need it, I don’t start racking my brain trying to find it, which can trigger episodic episodes. Epilepsy is not a crutch; for me it’s become a tool. The state of your home in that one moment would absolutely trigger seizures for me if I had to find something. But seeing your home would be how my son would keep his w/o me. It was really good for me to see so I can not only empathize w/ HIM…but to show him YOUR strategies he might utilize in HIS independent-future.
Hey man! Every word u say hits me right in the heart, i've never met someone close to understanding my way of thinking.. Pls if u have time, hit me up! Cheers
Thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear. This is the first time I've seen someone mention that you'll fall off the ADHD wagon sometimes and that it does't make you a failure. I've been off all of 2023 and I believe I'm getting back in the saddle again. I loved what you said about it being a marathon. Don't stop trying to better yourself with strategies but it's not the end of the world to fall off b/c you'll get back on again. Thanks again!
I did have a meltdown when I realized I have ADHD. I watched a few of your videos and I got a sense of negativity about it. I guess it was part of my self projection. Now I perceive you as someone honest and I need this kind of perspective. 100% accurate and it's applies to all the people alive: ups and downs. Appreciate your channel, you and me friends😎
Thanks for the warm and cosy words. It really helps to know that I'm not the only one who has struggle with the things you mentioned. A specially the problem with "my stuff is all over the place".
Just found your channel Stuart. The short film about ADHD was so spot on I can hardly believe it. You are performing a service here, a big thing, something MEANINGFUL. Congratulate yourself because you are helping people more than many other traditional modes of help.
I love your frank talk about how inattentive adhd feels. I'm combined type and it's just exhausting to have all of the ideas, then promptly forget them all 7 seconds after. I was diagnosed at 42 this year and it really is so important to KNOW that it's adhd, then I was able to chase down the specific issues that I struggle with. Knowing I'm an impulsive gadget buyer has really helped my put things in my cart and let them rest there a while. Then come back later to see if I REALLY need the thing or are just being impulsive. Love your channel, glad you are back on the wagon. I'm still chasing a wagon to get on for my challenges 😅 🌪🌀🌊😏💜
I have left my first comment a few videos back, it... was a slight vent but relevant to the topic. but despite how that single comment may come across, I've become so much better at having the attitude in this video! and I've thoroughly enjoyed... I think it's 5 vids I've watched so far! I love learning about how people handle their ADHD and honestly, uplifting videos like this one are great BECAUSE they aren't just a pity party
after rain ALWAYS comes sunshine! I'm on my way back after a worse period right now. ☺️ today I got that sudden urge to clean my apartment after a few weeks of (knowing what I need to do, however what I do is just look at the counter and then sit on the couch "but now I'm on my way back 😁 Sometimes I lose I just. but always remember after 🌧 always come ☀️☀️☀️☀️🌈🌈🌈
Appreciate the guidance! And taking the time out your day to create a healthy community It’s extremely easy to become a victim w adhd and I appreciate you talkin bout getting back in track and don’t count it as failure
I used to think I have ADHD, but during the past year I read quite a bit and drastically changed my environment, so I noticed that by changing things your life can be drastically improved, especialy when you overcome the materialism addictions and get a job that provides you with more control. Because that is what people with ADHD generally suffer from- lack of control, I feel much better now that I try to concentrate on what I do rather than what I get and that is my desired outcome, hence I feel more in control because now I can get this imperfect outcome that satisfies me.
Hey Stuart. I'm sorry to hear that you get negative comments. Your channel & content is well thought out, genuine, thorough, and it's very clear it comes from a place of integrity. I'm sure there aren't many of us with ADHD who haven't constantly beaten ourselves up about lack of consistency...& frustration with knowing (in theory) what to do, but struggling so much with putting it into practise. Getting back on the horse ,& being reflective & self aware is definitely the best way to go. There are so many out there in the world who " do" but don't "think or reflect". When any of us go through the shame, guilt & frustration of having frequent FAILs... We gotta remember that a "FAIL" is a Frequent Attempt In Learning. Your channel, honesty & encouragement is greatly appreciated! Thank you!
Man I needed this. I felt great for awhile and then something happened and thru me off for acouple weeks. Havnt felt the same lately but I'm inspired to get back to my routines and back to myself again.
Loved the video, and of course that is not a failure, when focused on something, other less important stuff (at that time) get out of rutine, it is normal. To expect everything to always be organized, that's problematic
I love your videos and I love your attitude and philosophy on things. I suspect we can fall into a victimhood mentality due to childhood experiences where we were subject to emotional trauma and weren’t able to do anything about it, and we need to address that as well as we are able to; but continuing to have a victimhood mentality as adults doesn’t serve us, or anyone close to us.
Sounds just like me! I have however also spent way too much of my life lambasting myself for "falling off the wagon". For me it's all about one day at a time until the day I die. There is no cure or recovery as such, it's just managing each day as it comes along, seeing improvements sometimes and sometimes falling off the horse ( no big deal!) but carrying on, not being hard on yourself, not comparing yourself or trying to fit into the crowd but feeling ok about finding the environment/s that work/s for you. One little step at a time. There's no rush.
Hi Stuart. I’m 33, been recently diagnosed with ADD and started to be medicated a few weeks ago. I’m totally in the same mindset as you. Being diagnosed is a bit of a sad and confusing process at times, but overall I feel like I finally know why I am the way I am, and how I can move forward to better myself. It’s incredibly hard right now. But I believe in my ability more than ever now to create the life I want to have and to be the person I know I can be. I’m able to let go a bit of all the shame, self pity and learned helplessness. But not out of a ‘get your shit together’ place. More out of a ‘I deserve to live a great life’ place, because I wanted to not be alive for so long. That’s where you and I may differ a little in our philosophies. But honestly watching some of your videos it has been like looking in a mirror, and I want to thank you for that 🙏
great advice we with adhd have a bond everything you said I am up down all around when im on point its amazing and well off track i hate but has to happen but im on track more then not and that is great no victim here ever
Thanks for this video. Im currently trying to quit my meds, and its rough. Trying to function normally without the help of medicine its super hard and makes you wonder if you are really worth something without them, this is a good reminder that i have to keep pushing forward, at some point my health will be back to a more neutral state and i will start learning again how to function by myself. Keep it up guys!
Hello Stuart my name is Neill I'm 39 and just been diagnosed with mixed type adhd which makes sense as I haven't kept job longer than 3 years lol anyway guys I found Stuart videos extremely helpful especially the podcast type videos I'm seriously considering starting RUclips too to make content documenties on adhd and ocd as iv been diagnosed myself less 2 weeks ago
So glad you are back "on the wagon." ADHD can be exhausting. I've learned a lot about how I can better work and live from people like you. I hope the break gives you an even stronger reset. P.S. My laundry pile is worse than yours, lol!
Hi Stuart you’re content has helped me a with whole a range of things and Actually your videos were a big part of my understanding of myself and actually getting diagnosed last October my whole life has changed drastically with the Medication but most of all the education that you and others have provided to work off and I owe it to you for the dedication that you put into your videos I have actually achieved so much in between this time and I could say that it is possibly the best time in my life so far I am sure other people find your content as informational and insightful as I have and you deserve to be thanked for It !
I just found your channel. Thank you! Just one thing. I refuse to let myself think that falling off the wagon is a failure. I try to think of these as learning experiences instead because I refuse to beat myself up over not being perfect. Instead I analyze what went wrong and decide if I need to change anything. My house is a disaster area right now. I don’t like it, but I know I’ll get it pulled back together, so I try to be patient with myself. I’m working towards more of a minimalist life to help in the long run.
Good to see you’re doing good man. I check in periodically and was wondering if you saved up for your house. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 8. I was always made fun of as a kid and into my early twenties, not included (partially my fault), and always felt different. I was made fun of for being in “special classes” and dropping out of college. I am 28 now and I’ve owned my house for 3 years and I just landed my first 6 figure job. I can’t help but find satisfaction, knowing I am doing better than most of people the people that made fun of me.
😆 my my place looks like this right now because I just moved. But it's slowly getting back into some order. 😄 Also with starting a new job just this past month and a half ago also as a housekeeper at a local college where the atmosphere is way better for me my supervisors are better my coworkers I work with are better and I am accommodated well. Plus they have a very generous sick day policy and holiday pay, benefits are not the best but are better than what I had before. So things are looking up for me also man. I'm forming new routines and better ones because of it.
Its always good to see your videos and the walk and talk. So informative and insightful, and u have a wonderful way of getting our your message in a clear and consise way. Yes, I guess I do beat up on myself, and feel I should be doing better. I do want to know why I feel like I do and why I go through what I go through. And I am truly grateful for channels like yours that give insight and hope for a better me. Thank you so much for sharing your expertise. Stay well. PS love the background.
This is a honest good video, i feel so depressed and lost i quit nicotine last summer i got shocked how it messed me up,stopped regular alcohol too, i developed eczema and whats depressing is i was told i dont have adhd 15 years ago and now i found out i got adhd went to psychiatrist and get diognised currently on meds for 35 days and i realised i self medicated with weed for my emptional dysregulation and stresa and tobacco for 10 12 years and coffeee now i just use meds and coffeee 2 3 glass a day, i am having hard time like emotions on a rollercoaster, my academic career ruined and i always worked in relatively free jobs wqitering etc but now i dont even know if i can do that anymore ,im so tired of feeling noverwhelmed and nobody apart from professionals or people without adhd will understand me :( if your out there with a severe adhd wher3 you cant function like a responsible adult do not be afraid and judge yourself harshly,you arent alone and you just need to learn and observe. I feel sad ... cuz all adhd videos mostly made by achiever adhd dudes and they mostly are having mild adhd so it makes us severe adhd people look even worse ...
I've lost 2 years from my life cause of ADHD am still in my last year of high school my family doesn't believe me and no one cares Am trying I really am trying but I just can't do it sometime,am 20 years old and I've already lost everything my family my self respect my future everything is destroyed Am stuck,scared and have no idea on what to do
I liked this😊.. 🤔probably because it's more directed to problem solving and solutions.. well, i know its not what you said, but felt like... even if you don't have the motivation, strength or so one and you fall down for whatever reason, you eventually get back up, if you don't give up on trying.. oh, but I also liked the part that you're not that perfect😅 just to know that Mr perfect has some flaws aswell😆
*waves from the Wirral * Newly diagnosed here. Just wanted to ask do you (or anyone reading this) recommend telling work about having ADHD? Cos I'm not sure what accomodations they could make, unlike say dyslexia where colored paper could help.
First, TW, I guess (really dark and depressed thoughts). Thanks, came at the right time for me also. But I for my part seem to have so little stuff that makes it worth picking myself up. Been fighting for so long, feeling so unloved, as if I am the sole problem of my family and so on that sometimes, I wonder why I still do this. That life would be no different without me. I'll see if smth picks me up again since without a reason, I don't see why I should do it with everyone beating me down again and again over the last years. I'm 28 now, got treatment and my diagnosis with 10 (Hyperactive-Impulsive or C) and meds wrecked me at first, so we quit them and now I try to get help again. No support, though, no free spots, nobody caring in my family or giving me the feeling they don't. No ideas where to go from here. I hate ADHD :( Sorry for the rant. Actually just wanted to say thanks for the video, but as always, I impulsively write and cry too much. Seriously hoping it gets better for you and everyone else. Not sure about me :( EDIT: My issue is not being a victim, my issue is ME causing issues ALL THE TIME and bothering other people who would be better off without me/my existence. So that's the issue :( I DO make mistakes and am too crappy and all that. I'm not a victim, I'm someone who fought all of their life , but everyone mostly makes me feel like they'd be better off without me, so D:
Me at the age of 8 or 18 or 28 or 38: "I cause issues. Everybody is bothered by me. They´ll do better without me." Me at the age of 58: "They cause issues. Everybody bothers me. I´ll do better without them." - Don´t blame yourself all the time. Let THEM do their things and do you do your things. Maybe it´s not YOU not fitting into this society, maybe it´s the society not fitting to you. And have a closer look on all the good things in you - creativity, humour, empathy,.....
Optimistic and solution oriented that's what I want to be like It's okay to fail [ which i do very often] But quitting is not an option Give a fuck about only those things which are actually going to make you better [ imp things only] Keep working even if you don't want to Working gives you confidence Your work is the only thing which can lean upon ,when noone is there with you. This is _to myself Keep _ working_fuck_people
Wait, so you can just walk through someone else's sheep field over there? Are they community sheep? How does that work. Yes, I was super distracted on this video lol.
As a younger guy trying to get advice on navigating life with ADHD has been hard to come by, your channel has been a godsend for me as I relate to almost everything you say, thanks for doing what you do.
for some reason I just wanted to just push you along man dont let no one bring you down use this adhd brain the best you can its not all bad
@@swedacashregisters thank you, you too, we’ll get there in the end!
Set your intention, work hard, keep smiling. The fact you’re looking for advice is a sure sign you’ll be ok. Dr Barkley’s lectures and advice is a great resource to view on YT for us adhd’ers.
This guy is the most honest and most realistic representation of what it is to live with ADHD. Just keep going and work and find something you care about. Do that, and you’ll find it’s a power nothing can even come close to. Keep going!
Dude your transformation has been insane to witness. You have so much more energy and motivation now from the years past. I appreciate your journey man.
Yes! This man gets it! It is about getting back on the horse. Beating yourself up continuously does not help anybody. Learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward.
This helps me in difficult times!
Be not afraid of going slowly, be afraid only of standing still. - Chinese Proverb
First time I’ve heard this awesome Chinese Proverb thank you 🙏
I honestly have never heard someone articulate so well the ups and downs of adhd, and especially the inattentive type. I know it’s hard to keep up with the videos and I know you don’t always want to talk adhd, but the occasional video on your insight into things would be very much appreciated. I think I’m actually hyper focussing on your videos at the moment, which could come across as weird 😂🤪🫠 but that is me all over. Find something new that I can relate to, and I’m all over it, until I exhaust myself and become catatonic 🙋🏻♀️😵💫😵💫😆🤦🏻♀️ …
Anyway Hi from North Wales, you’re doing a grand job 👍🏻👌🏻🙌🏻👏🏻
Welcome to the club! 🤣 In other words, many of us do the exact same thing!
Hahahahahah same darlin
We need a cure for ADHD🥺. I can’t drive well because of it, I can’t remember anything especially roads. I can drive somewhere many time and forget about it. I might have to move somewhere else that have public transformation because of this. Seeing this video and the comment section give me hope and kind of encourage me.
My fiancee has helped me immensely in improving my life. She is incredibly generous and patient, and she never makes me feel bad for my issues. She's absolutely wonderful. My problems still exist, but I think it's important to surround yourself with people who help you, rather than make you feel worse than you already do.
" Why do we fall Bruce?...So that we learn how to pick ourselves up. "
At 74 I still can’t find anyone who will diagnose me with ADHD. All the help I get is from young psychologists at my low income clinic who stay for a year or two and then move on to higher paid jobs, I can’t afford any better psychological help. No one has offered any medication or will even diagnose myADHD. If you have any ideas that can help me with my situation please let me know. Your vlogs have opened my eyes to my condition and I am grateful for the help you have already given me! I live in the USA where the psychological help is very good if you are wealthy, but if you lack funds all you get are people who don’t help much and always move on. Thank you for your vlog!
Welcome back man
Thank you for this! So true! My routines have developed over many years. If I get off track, it’s ok. I know the routines help so I eventually get them going again.
Hey welcome back
Not following your own advice. This is part of ADHD. Love your videos 👏
That 'victim' detail drew me in immediately as it's what I've been working on in therapy. A major build up of state-sustaining victimisation, self-indulgent self-loathing has been a big part of my difficulty with motivation. They're patterns learned in childhood, and ones I have maintained for a very long time. But by following my therapist's latest advice (and really following it this time) and becoming aware the moment i approach any relapse or any time my life falls into chaos and instead of taking my usual victimisation route, I pause, note the behaviour and I immediately weaken it. It's almost a part of my personality at this point, so there are sometimes actual internal struggles to prevent the feeling taking full hold but so far I've been all the better for it. Introspection and self-awareness have never been an issue, to an extent I feel i fall a bit too far on one end. Rumination and self-reflection has made for a large part of my adulthood, but it was never guided or in any way with intentions to address and achieve goals, almost like I took the awareness as enough. Awareness is certainly important, but the next steps are too otherwise it becomes cyclical and chips at your wellbeing.
I could truly go on for ages, but my main point was to say thank you, along my ADHD journey (from my suspicions to my diagnosis) you have played an important role in helping me feel understood and helping shine light on many aspects I relate to. Every so grateful as always and congratulations on getting right back on that horse.
100% agreed. In fact allowing yourself to get off the wagon allows downtime where you can relax and not hate yourself for not being productive or breaking routine (ie holiday). Thanks! 👍
We all will make it! sometime.. somehow.. definitely!
Don’t give up on yourself. That applies to you my friend.
Here for this. Following as of now.
Very true, in all respects! I’ve had more wagons than hot dinners, but anyone with ADHD should realise that resilience is actually one of our best attributes by default. We are the very definition of falling down, brushing ourselves down and getting back on that horse! Never give up on giving up. Don’t let your get up and go, go. We do it better than anyone else I know. ❤️
One of my biggest lessons I've learned in life is- you ALWAYS pay a price for neglect. And the things you lost became the price you payed for that neglect. Its relevant in all parts of my life. And I don't always notice when I'm neglecting things. There's so many things to focus on, and so many distractions. It's easy to get lost in the middle of it all, and to be neglecting everything and achieving nothing. That's what I have to work hard at avoiding. Hope all is great over your way Stuart. You have friends. J in Oz
I have to thank you. I am 74 years old and still can’t get any help with my adhd! I am disabled and can’t afford private psychiatric help. All that they give me is young psychologists that don’t address the issue and usually work for the clinic for 1 or2 years and then move on to higher paying jobs. No one has ever offered me medication for the condition or even diagnose me for the condition! If you can help me in any way l would be grateful.
Well, no shame in that, friend. That's the basic idea of being ADHD like us. I appreciate that you get it together enough to help others like you.
Thanks for the great message and transparency! Love your content!
Dude!!! Thank you Sooo much for this video. I’ve spent so many years undiagnosed, and even post diagnosis, beating myself up for my shortcomings. This video is So Refreshing…Radical Self Acceptance is The Key!!
(And that’s also the name of a really good book I recently read)😉
Thanks Again. We appreciate you.
I found you in my search for real-ppl finding real-solutions for THEMselves when my son was finally diagnosed. I wanted him to see ppl he could empathize w/ & yet who don’t use their diagnosis as a CRUTCH. Just two days ago he was giving me attitude and dared to say his medication wore off. I responded ADHD isn’t an excuse for any behavior but rather something to be cognizant of and navigate about.
I have epilepsy & EVERYthing in my home/computers/life is HIGHLY organized & controlled so my anxiety doesn’t cause aura & focal-seizures (which often result in short-term memory-gaps. I forget things a lot due to the seizures). I HAVE to keep EVERYTHING in its place ALWAYS so at the moment I need it, I don’t start racking my brain trying to find it, which can trigger episodic episodes. Epilepsy is not a crutch; for me it’s become a tool.
The state of your home in that one moment would absolutely trigger seizures for me if I had to find something. But seeing your home would be how my son would keep his w/o me. It was really good for me to see so I can not only empathize w/ HIM…but to show him YOUR strategies he might utilize in HIS independent-future.
Hey man! Every word u say hits me right in the heart, i've never met someone close to understanding my way of thinking.. Pls if u have time, hit me up! Cheers
Thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear. This is the first time I've seen someone mention that you'll fall off the ADHD wagon sometimes and that it does't make you a failure. I've been off all of 2023 and I believe I'm getting back in the saddle again. I loved what you said about it being a marathon. Don't stop trying to better yourself with strategies but it's not the end of the world to fall off b/c you'll get back on again. Thanks again!
THANK you! I just found you and you help me so much. I share you with others and colleagues! 🙂
Definitely needed this video today. Thanks
I did have a meltdown when I realized I have ADHD. I watched a few of your videos and I got a sense of negativity about it. I guess it was part of my self projection. Now I perceive you as someone honest and I need this kind of perspective. 100% accurate and it's applies to all the people alive: ups and downs. Appreciate your channel, you and me friends😎
My heart is at the right place, u've got yoursel a new sub
Thanks Stuart. You really help me alot.
Well said!! Failure is not an issue!! It’s a matter of hanging tough!! You are superb
Thank you for being "Authentic" 💜 🙃 xo
You my friend are not only an Inspiration but someone I can relate to and aspire to be in a mindset.
Welcome back. I find your channel so helpful and am great full for your videos.
Me too, big time.
Hey Stuart 👋 After a long time! Nice to see you brother!
Thanks for the warm and cosy words. It really helps to know that I'm not the only one who has struggle with the things you mentioned.
A specially the problem with "my stuff is all over the place".
Just found your channel Stuart. The short film about ADHD was so spot on I can hardly believe it. You are performing a service here, a big thing, something MEANINGFUL. Congratulate yourself because you are helping people more than many other traditional modes of help.
We missed your videos man!
I love your frank talk about how inattentive adhd feels. I'm combined type and it's just exhausting to have all of the ideas, then promptly forget them all 7 seconds after. I was diagnosed at 42 this year and it really is so important to KNOW that it's adhd, then I was able to chase down the specific issues that I struggle with. Knowing I'm an impulsive gadget buyer has really helped my put things in my cart and let them rest there a while. Then come back later to see if I REALLY need the thing or are just being impulsive. Love your channel, glad you are back on the wagon. I'm still chasing a wagon to get on for my challenges 😅 🌪🌀🌊😏💜
thanks for sharing the real stuff!! I can definitely relate to this!
I needed this. I've been off the wagon the past 6 months and have been so hard on myself, which makes it even worse.
It actually came at the perfect day because today is a day where things are changing for me 🥰
Thank you a lot for creating these videos, Stuart. I’m very inspired by the way you dare to share important and personal stuff about your life.
Stuart! S000000000 Good to see your work again! You've been MISSED Terribly! Welcome Back and Congratulations on getting back on that Horse!
I could handle the failures until my wife and daughter left me. I'm an emotional disaster now. I still make my bed in the morning, usually.
I have left my first comment a few videos back, it... was a slight vent but relevant to the topic. but despite how that single comment may come across, I've become so much better at having the attitude in this video! and I've thoroughly enjoyed... I think it's 5 vids I've watched so far! I love learning about how people handle their ADHD and honestly, uplifting videos like this one are great BECAUSE they aren't just a pity party
after rain ALWAYS comes sunshine! I'm on my way back after a worse period right now. ☺️ today I got that sudden urge to clean my apartment after a few weeks of (knowing what I need to do, however what I do is just look at the counter and then sit on the couch "but now I'm on my way back 😁 Sometimes I lose I just. but always remember after 🌧 always come ☀️☀️☀️☀️🌈🌈🌈
You don't know how much you helped me with that because of where I am right now in my life, I really needed to hear that message, thank you Stuart 🥰
Appreciate the guidance!
And taking the time out your day to create a healthy community
It’s extremely easy to become a victim w adhd and I appreciate you talkin bout getting back in track and don’t count it as failure
I used to think I have ADHD, but during the past year I read quite a bit and drastically changed my environment, so I noticed that by changing things your life can be drastically improved, especialy when you overcome the materialism addictions and get a job that provides you with more control. Because that is what people with ADHD generally suffer from- lack of control, I feel much better now that I try to concentrate on what I do rather than what I get and that is my desired outcome, hence I feel more in control because now I can get this imperfect outcome that satisfies me.
Really needed to hear this thank you
Hey Stuart. I'm sorry to hear that you get negative comments. Your channel & content is well thought out, genuine, thorough, and it's very clear it comes from a place of integrity. I'm sure there aren't many of us with ADHD who haven't constantly beaten ourselves up about lack of consistency...& frustration with knowing (in theory) what to do, but struggling so much with putting it into practise.
Getting back on the horse ,& being reflective & self aware is definitely the best way to go. There are so many out there in the world who " do" but don't "think or reflect". When any of us go through the shame, guilt & frustration of having frequent FAILs... We gotta remember that a "FAIL" is a Frequent Attempt In Learning.
Your channel, honesty & encouragement is greatly appreciated! Thank you!
So happy to see your growth and success. Content of your video is absolutely relevant and helpful as usual.
This is so helpful thank you so much fir doing this videos
Great to see you back mate.
Man I needed this. I felt great for awhile and then something happened and thru me off for acouple weeks. Havnt felt the same lately but I'm inspired to get back to my routines and back to myself again.
Thank you.
Loved the video, and of course that is not a failure, when focused on something, other less important stuff (at that time) get out of rutine,
it is normal. To expect everything to always be organized, that's problematic
Thanks
I’ve been looking for this kind og content and guide. This is the time I need it more than ever. Appreciate it
Thank you
I love your videos and I love your attitude and philosophy on things. I suspect we can fall into a victimhood mentality due to childhood experiences where we were subject to emotional trauma and weren’t able to do anything about it, and we need to address that as well as we are able to; but continuing to have a victimhood mentality as adults doesn’t serve us, or anyone close to us.
welcome back
Sounds just like me! I have however also spent way too much of my life lambasting myself for "falling off the wagon". For me it's all about one day at a time until the day I die. There is no cure or recovery as such, it's just managing each day as it comes along, seeing improvements sometimes and sometimes falling off the horse ( no big deal!) but carrying on, not being hard on yourself, not comparing yourself or trying to fit into the crowd but feeling ok about finding the environment/s that work/s for you. One little step at a time. There's no rush.
Hi Stuart. I’m 33, been recently diagnosed with ADD and started to be medicated a few weeks ago. I’m totally in the same mindset as you. Being diagnosed is a bit of a sad and confusing process at times, but overall I feel like I finally know why I am the way I am, and how I can move forward to better myself. It’s incredibly hard right now. But I believe in my ability more than ever now to create the life I want to have and to be the person I know I can be. I’m able to let go a bit of all the shame, self pity and learned helplessness. But not out of a ‘get your shit together’ place. More out of a ‘I deserve to live a great life’ place, because I wanted to not be alive for so long. That’s where you and I may differ a little in our philosophies. But honestly watching some of your videos it has been like looking in a mirror, and I want to thank you for that 🙏
Thank you!
great advice we with adhd have a bond everything you said I am up down all around when im on point its amazing and well off track i hate but has to happen but im on track more then not and that is great no victim here ever
Thanks for this video. Im currently trying to quit my meds, and its rough. Trying to function normally without the help of medicine its super hard and makes you wonder if you are really worth something without them, this is a good reminder that i have to keep pushing forward, at some point my health will be back to a more neutral state and i will start learning again how to function by myself. Keep it up guys!
Hello Stuart my name is Neill I'm 39 and just been diagnosed with mixed type adhd which makes sense as I haven't kept job longer than 3 years lol anyway guys I found Stuart videos extremely helpful especially the podcast type videos I'm seriously considering starting RUclips too to make content documenties on adhd and ocd as iv been diagnosed myself less 2 weeks ago
So glad you are back "on the wagon." ADHD can be exhausting. I've learned a lot about how I can better work and live from people like you. I hope the break gives you an even stronger reset.
P.S. My laundry pile is worse than yours, lol!
Hi Stuart you’re content has helped me a with whole a range of things and Actually your videos were a big part of my understanding of myself and actually getting diagnosed last October my whole life has changed drastically with the Medication but most of all the education that you and others have provided to work off and I owe it to you for the dedication that you put into your videos I have actually achieved so much in between this time and I could say that it is possibly the best time in my life so far I am sure other people find your content as informational and insightful as I have and you deserve to be thanked for It !
Nice to see you, to see you nice!
Thanks as always x
Great video 😊
I just found your channel. Thank you!
Just one thing. I refuse to let myself think that falling off the wagon is a failure. I try to think of these as learning experiences instead because I refuse to beat myself up over not being perfect. Instead I analyze what went wrong and decide if I need to change anything.
My house is a disaster area right now. I don’t like it, but I know I’ll get it pulled back together, so I try to be patient with myself.
I’m working towards more of a minimalist life to help in the long run.
Thank you friend. Yes fuck ups are in some way or another
Glad your back I've missed your videos
Nice to see you back 😎
It is allways nice to hear you. How it is going on with your meds?
Haven't taken Meds in almost a year mate
@@ADHDMastery how are you finding it without meds ? And did you notice your blood pressure really increases with concerta ?
Good to see you’re doing good man. I check in periodically and was wondering if you saved up for your house. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 8. I was always made fun of as a kid and into my early twenties, not included (partially my fault), and always felt different. I was made fun of for being in “special classes” and dropping out of college. I am 28 now and I’ve owned my house for 3 years and I just landed my first 6 figure job. I can’t help but find satisfaction, knowing I am doing better than most of people the people that made fun of me.
thx man
Great video, thanks! And you're looking good, congratulations.
😆 my my place looks like this right now because I just moved. But it's slowly getting back into some order. 😄 Also with starting a new job just this past month and a half ago also as a housekeeper at a local college where the atmosphere is way better for me my supervisors are better my coworkers I work with are better and I am accommodated well. Plus they have a very generous sick day policy and holiday pay, benefits are not the best but are better than what I had before. So things are looking up for me also man. I'm forming new routines and better ones because of it.
Its always good to see your videos and the walk and talk. So informative and insightful, and u have a wonderful way of getting our your message in a clear and consise way. Yes, I guess I do beat up on myself, and feel I should be doing better. I do want to know why I feel like I do and why I go through what I go through. And I am truly grateful for channels like yours that give insight and hope for a better me. Thank you so much for sharing your expertise. Stay well. PS love the background.
This is a honest good video, i feel so depressed and lost i quit nicotine last summer i got shocked how it messed me up,stopped regular alcohol too, i developed eczema and whats depressing is i was told i dont have adhd 15 years ago and now i found out i got adhd went to psychiatrist and get diognised currently on meds for 35 days and i realised i self medicated with weed for my emptional dysregulation and stresa and tobacco for 10 12 years and coffeee now i just use meds and coffeee 2 3 glass a day, i am having hard time like emotions on a rollercoaster, my academic career ruined and i always worked in relatively free jobs wqitering etc but now i dont even know if i can do that anymore ,im so tired of feeling noverwhelmed and nobody apart from professionals or people without adhd will understand me :( if your out there with a severe adhd wher3 you cant function like a responsible adult do not be afraid and judge yourself harshly,you arent alone and you just need to learn and observe. I feel sad
... cuz all adhd videos mostly made by achiever adhd dudes and they mostly are having mild adhd so it makes us severe adhd people look even worse ...
Thanks for the video. It's been a while.
Any advice on how to (self) reflect about things in my mind, talking to others or even in written form?
I've lost 2 years from my life cause of ADHD am still in my last year of high school my family doesn't believe me and no one cares
Am trying I really am trying but I just can't do it sometime,am 20 years old and I've already lost everything my family my self respect my future everything is destroyed
Am stuck,scared and have no idea on what to do
You are an inspiration jooo all the meds that I take includen vyvens SUCKS
Back on the wagon!
Hi! Do you still take meds? I watched your other videos and I’m curious. Thanks in advance!
Nope!
@@ADHDMastery thanks for responding!
Wait am I supposed to stay on the horse or the wagon
I liked this😊.. 🤔probably because it's more directed to problem solving and solutions..
well, i know its not what you said, but felt like... even if you don't have the motivation, strength or so one and you fall down for whatever reason, you eventually get back up, if you don't give up on trying..
oh, but I also liked the part that you're not that perfect😅 just to know that Mr perfect has some flaws aswell😆
*waves from the Wirral * Newly diagnosed here. Just wanted to ask do you (or anyone reading this) recommend telling work about having ADHD? Cos I'm not sure what accomodations they could make, unlike say dyslexia where colored paper could help.
First, TW, I guess (really dark and depressed thoughts).
Thanks, came at the right time for me also. But I for my part seem to have so little stuff that makes it worth picking myself up. Been fighting for so long, feeling so unloved, as if I am the sole problem of my family and so on that sometimes, I wonder why I still do this. That life would be no different without me. I'll see if smth picks me up again since without a reason, I don't see why I should do it with everyone beating me down again and again over the last years. I'm 28 now, got treatment and my diagnosis with 10 (Hyperactive-Impulsive or C) and meds wrecked me at first, so we quit them and now I try to get help again. No support, though, no free spots, nobody caring in my family or giving me the feeling they don't. No ideas where to go from here. I hate ADHD :( Sorry for the rant. Actually just wanted to say thanks for the video, but as always, I impulsively write and cry too much.
Seriously hoping it gets better for you and everyone else. Not sure about me :(
EDIT: My issue is not being a victim, my issue is ME causing issues ALL THE TIME and bothering other people who would be better off without me/my existence. So that's the issue :(
I DO make mistakes and am too crappy and all that. I'm not a victim, I'm someone who fought all of their life , but everyone mostly makes me feel like they'd be better off without me, so D:
Me at the age of 8 or 18 or 28 or 38: "I cause issues. Everybody is bothered by me. They´ll do better without me." Me at the age of 58: "They cause issues. Everybody bothers me. I´ll do better without them." - Don´t blame yourself all the time. Let THEM do their things and do you do your things. Maybe it´s not YOU not fitting into this society, maybe it´s the society not fitting to you. And have a closer look on all the good things in you - creativity, humour, empathy,.....
How are you? What's with the hiatus?
Life 😅
Optimistic and solution oriented that's what I want to be like
It's okay to fail [ which i do very often]
But quitting is not an option
Give a fuck about only those things which are actually going to make you better [ imp things only]
Keep working even if you don't want to
Working gives you confidence
Your work is the only thing which can lean upon ,when noone is there with you.
This is _to myself
Keep _ working_fuck_people
Wait, so you can just walk through someone else's sheep field over there? Are they community sheep? How does that work. Yes, I was super distracted on this video lol.
Are you still affected to ADHD medicine?
Are you still not drinking coffee?
nop notch!