I was in tears by the end of this. What an amazing video. You are really articulate, as well as handsome! Your mom should be so proud of you. Estrangement is her loss more than yours.
It can be rough, and congrats on six years of being out. Sorry about your mom but I’m glad you’re still doing alright. Thanks for sharing your story man!
@@asiannarcissist5481 hi my name is chetan from England your video was great amazing video wow 🤩 it takes courage and determination to come out there is a saying never be afraid no matter what appect your self before others accept you I am gay too wow you have a boyfriend that’s great 😃 when I came out to my parents I was horrible and very nasty ℹ you 💯 percent I support all LGBTq 🏳🌈 community I am part of it many congratulations on your success on your relationship I am so happy 😀 for you very proud of you god bless you
Hello, I’m so sorry to hear that about your mother, but what a remarkable man your father is. Even though your coming out story was not perfect, it was important to show others just how difficult it is for individuals to accept, even when they are family. I pray that one day she comes around before it is too late. My own parents got ill and passed away one year apart. The family was so busy dealing with hospitals and sorting their personal items together I never got around to telling them. It hurts me to this day that they left not knowing...I wish you well and please post a vlog should things change ? Be well and take care. Alex from LA.
What a great reaction from your dad! You are so lucky to have such a dad. Unfortunately your mom’s reaction was hurtful. At least you had him to help you & her.
So sorry that your mom hasn’t come around yet & even aren’t together with your dad any longer. Their breakup is not due to your being gay - that would be more the trigger of something bigger.
Deep story men. And congrats on 6 years on coming out . Your mom all she needs is time she'll come around you'll see.your story is kinda like my story .keep your head up and time will heel all the pain. And thanks for sharing your story:)♥
Congratulations on coming out at least you told your parents I was too scared to! Now there both gone and wish I could have the balls to come out when they were living! Your Mom raised a handsome guy your amazing 😉 why can’t she see that? It’s NOT a choice being gay we are born this way !! I pray she comes around .. AWSOME video by the way 👏👏❤️
That sucks that your mom does accept you, but it's awesome that your dad does and is proud of you. I was outed to my parents in 1976 and both my parents were very accepting, in fact they joined PFLAG and took in kids thrown out of their homes because they were gay.
Very intense story and brings a lot of my personal memories to the Forefront about when I came out. I think I came out to my family about four years after I came out to my friends because I didn't live at home. I think I came out around 26 years old to my father and mother and stepmother. I never actually talked to my father about coming out but I have never heard from him since telling my stepmom. . My stepmom was okay with it my real mom on the other hand I have not talked to you for a very long time . That made me feel like I could never go home again unfortunately. I am so sorry to hear that your mother did what she did. A good mother should never want to abandon her child under any circumstance or even leave mementos have you growing up in your past behind. She does not deserve the love that you give her. That being said I hope she does come around in the future and work for your forgiveness. Your dad sounds like a great person. Understand family is not always blood especially for a gay person. Family could be the close-knit friends that you make. I'm lucky and that even before I came out to my family I had a good group of friends something that I still have almost 24 years later. I have a husband that I've been with almost nineteen years and been married to for four of those. He is the most wonderful person in the world and I would do anything for him. His family also makes me feel like part of them. Even though I don't have my own blood family I feel very lucky with what I do have.
Thanks for sharing your story! You describe the moments in a way that I can directly relate and visualize the experience you had. I am so sorry you became distant with your mother. I only hope at some point she can eventually accept who you are! Thanks for sharing this story!
Thank you for sharing your experience. I can relate as I went through a similar experience just a few months ago. In my case, my sister has been very supportive whereas my mom is still in resistance mode (trying to pray for me to change in that way).
That’s crazy about your mom. Sorry about that but she’ll probably come around one day. When I first came out, my dad didn’t take it well at all. But years later he became very supportive. It was definitely a long process for him. Hang in there.
Your mom dosent know what she's missing ! My dad tried to poison me when he acidently outed me at that time my life was rough but I made it through have forgiven my dad it took years but we are buddys and he is one of my biggest suporters love wins everytime just love your mom & forgive her the rest is on her shoulders as for your what a truly awesome dad he seems to have raised an awesome son he should be proud hang in there let love lead you
I wouldn’t trust anyone who had tried to poison me. That’s the same as attempted murder. You just don’t know what else could trigger them to do these things.
Warm Hugz lil bro... always leave the door open to unsuportive ppl / fam. You had a lot of time to process who you are, they need at least a while to also. Someday the pain of not having you in their life will outweigh the fading bad feelings of the diff life dream she had for you. #1Life
Thankfully you have a Dad with a backbone of steel and unconditional love for his children! The hard part is knowing that a mother is willing to erase her own child from her life over something that has NOTHING to do with her and to be able to do that you have to be selfish, heartless and without a conscience, at least in my universe. Good luck to you and maybe someday this all works itself out. Please thank your father on behalf of some of us who never really had one because he's a perfect example of what a parent should be...
You are a fine man and your dad is on your side. Your mom however is not a very kind person, but that is not a reflection on you. We live in a world of deep prejudice. Sad that she can't (yet) see beyond all that and recognise the amazing young man she brought into the world. Her loss really. I admire your spirit,
So sorry you've had to live through this twice. This is what unaccepting people, especially parents don't understand. You have already lived through this up to this point: Everything they are thinking you have gone over and over for years. You have asked yourself why me, prayed for change, gone through denial and played straight. At some point one has to be honest with one's self and realize that you're in order to achieve any sibilance of happiness you're going to have to go through life being you and not pretending someone else in order to please the narcissistic desires of others. Hopefully, she will come to understand and realize it isn't about her and has nothing to do with her. The only choice you made was to stop pretending and be you. Good on you and good on your dad, he sounds like an amazing person
I`m HAPPY for you...tell your mom to read "The God Box" or "Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe"...both might ease her into acceptance...hopefully?!
Congratulations. You look and sound ok. Keep going and enjoy your life the way you want it. With regards to your mom? Well she can deal with her own issues in life. Shes not your problem anymore. She chose to get rid of you, her choice not yours. She will carry that burden until she realize that being gay is not a choice. Good luck. Enjoy your freedom.
Peace be upon you, as a good person like other people, you must to listen to me, I just want to say that:- If you got anybody in your life that ever speak to you ''how did it come to this'' in the wrong ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you just look at straight into their eyes and you says: 1. Either we're good person or we're the type of a person who put a barriers, why should there need to be a barriers to loves between one another. 2. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God. 3. I believe that God will please, and embraces with ours' kind and loving spirits. 4. God loves us beyond any and everything else, and He is that's who we should love first.
I know this is about your mom...but my takeaway is how freakin’ AMAZING you DAD is!!! Your dad sounds like mine...my dad grew up on a farm in Hawai’i, always worked blue collar jobs, raised my bro and I fishing and crabbing...but when I came out to him, his one question was, “are you happy?” And when I said “yes”, he said, “that’s all any parent wants for their child” and we went back to watching The Big Bang Theory! My mom? She asked me who was top and who was bottom between my boyfriend (at the time) and I...and then if it hurt to bottom! Yeah, she took it EXCEPTIONALLY well. LOL. Well wherever you are and whatever you’re doing...I hope you’re thriving and that your dad is still your biggest supporter. 😍🏳️🌈🤙🏽
God...I love that ending!! Thanks for sharing a part of your life with us. CHEERS TO YOUR DAD! Some day I would love to share my life's story with you, but being that I'm already 70, it is too long! (More than a video, it would be a Full length movie___an interesting one at that). Sadly though, I still can't find a way to come out! I'm living more of a "Hermit's Life". All alone and super unhappy!! No friends, and hardly any family; no one to talk to...THAT BAD!! So, again, thanks....Un fuerte abrazo, mi amigo. (Google it, LOL)
Thank you Asian Narcissist [what a strange name] for your COstory. What an extraordinary father son relationship you have and enjoy. Your father is really courageous and true to himself and what he feels. A true supporter of yours. I like that a lot. Best wishes Martin
For the those who think being gay, lesbian or trans “is a choice” we should consider how difficult the drug addict, alcoholic, and over eater struggle. These outside influences are minimal compared to being born into a physical body with the inclination to be gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans-gender. It is not impossible to change sexual orientation, but almost impossible. When you watch coming out videos you see how many have prayed and tried to be straight, but couldn't. Your mother may be basing her behavior on anti-gay bible verses. If so I hope she will think on the following. Many anti-gay people quote Leviticus 20: 13 “If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” The problem for these people is that they are not putting people to death as directed in verse 9 for cursing their mother or father and in verse 10 for adultery. They’re not performing animal sacrifice per chapters 1-9, nor are they breaking dishes when someone has a venereal disease per chapter 15. When we look at the one called Jesus we find that he spent time with prostitutes, tax collectors and Roman soldiers. He was a friend to everyone and gave a new commandment, “to love one another”. Those who are quoting anti-LGBTQ verses are not following Jesus’s example or teaching and should admit that they don’t follow the whole bible. Thank you for your video and for your supportive father and friends.
I'm sorry your mom choose not to come to the rable. Your a fine young man, I'm a lesbian. My mom a is wonderful. I'm always open to having online children. So if you need a momish, person in your life for hugs .I'm game. 😊
Wow, one of the worst I've heard; no one deserves to be treated the way you have been by your mother. You did not mention her parents? They must have been very conservative/traditional.
Wow... what a great, well-told coming out story. It would be great to hear an update and know whether or not things ever improved with his mother....
I was in tears by the end of this. What an amazing video. You are really articulate, as well as handsome! Your mom should be so proud of you. Estrangement is her loss more than yours.
Thanks for sharing! I'm still struggling with the passive non acceptance of my mom. But I'm trying to be my true self.
It can be rough, and congrats on six years of being out. Sorry about your mom but I’m glad you’re still doing alright. Thanks for sharing your story man!
Thank you for the support!
@@asiannarcissist5481 hi my name is chetan from England your video was great amazing video wow 🤩 it takes courage and determination to come out there is a saying never be afraid no matter what appect your self before others accept you I am gay too wow you have a boyfriend that’s great 😃 when I came out to my parents I was horrible and very nasty ℹ you 💯 percent I support all LGBTq 🏳🌈 community I am part of it many congratulations on your success on your relationship I am so happy 😀 for you very proud of you god bless you
Hello, I’m so sorry to hear that about your mother, but what a remarkable man your father is. Even though your coming out story was not perfect, it was important to show others just how difficult it is for individuals to accept, even when they are family. I pray that one day she comes around before it is too late. My own parents got ill and passed away one year apart. The family was so busy dealing with hospitals and sorting their personal items together I never got around to telling them. It hurts me to this day that they left not knowing...I wish you well and please post a vlog should things change ? Be well and take care. Alex from LA.
*i don´t know what it feels like to come out..?*
You are amazing!
What a great reaction from your dad! You are so lucky to have such a dad. Unfortunately your mom’s reaction was hurtful. At least you had him to help you & her.
So sorry that your mom hasn’t come around yet & even aren’t together with your dad any longer. Their breakup is not due to your being gay - that would be more the trigger of something bigger.
Thank you for sharing your story. Hugs from Colorado.
Deep story men. And congrats on 6 years on coming out . Your mom all she needs is time she'll come around you'll see.your story is kinda like my story .keep your head up and time will heel all the pain. And thanks for sharing your story:)♥
Congratulations on coming out at least you told your parents I was too scared to! Now there both gone and wish I could have the balls to come out when they were living! Your Mom raised a handsome guy your amazing 😉 why can’t she see that? It’s NOT a choice being gay we are born this way !! I pray she comes around .. AWSOME video by the way 👏👏❤️
That sucks that your mom does accept you, but it's awesome that your dad does and is proud of you. I was outed to my parents in 1976 and both my parents were very accepting, in fact they joined PFLAG and took in kids thrown out of their homes because they were gay.
All good things in time, she will come around. You're a beautiful person
Very intense story and brings a lot of my personal memories to the Forefront about when I came out. I think I came out to my family about four years after I came out to my friends because I didn't live at home. I think I came out around 26 years old to my father and mother and stepmother. I never actually talked to my father about coming out but I have never heard from him since telling my stepmom. . My stepmom was okay with it my real mom on the other hand I have not talked to you for a very long time . That made me feel like I could never go home again unfortunately. I am so sorry to hear that your mother did what she did. A good mother should never want to abandon her child under any circumstance or even leave mementos have you growing up in your past behind. She does not deserve the love that you give her. That being said I hope she does come around in the future and work for your forgiveness. Your dad sounds like a great person. Understand family is not always blood especially for a gay person. Family could be the close-knit friends that you make. I'm lucky and that even before I came out to my family I had a good group of friends something that I still have almost 24 years later. I have a husband that I've been with almost nineteen years and been married to for four of those. He is the most wonderful person in the world and I would do anything for him. His family also makes me feel like part of them. Even though I don't have my own blood family I feel very lucky with what I do have.
Thanks for sharing your story! You describe the moments in a way that I can directly relate and visualize the experience you had. I am so sorry you became distant with your mother. I only hope at some point she can eventually accept who you are! Thanks for sharing this story!
Feels man, sure your mum will come around one day. Have it the other way round, barely spoken to my father since, but hopefully one day..!
Thanks for sharing your touching story. I hope your mother changes her mind some day. All the best! ❤️
I appreciate the love :)
I hope you give your Dad lots of hugs.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I can relate as I went through a similar experience just a few months ago.
In my case, my sister has been very supportive whereas my mom is still in resistance mode (trying to pray for me to change in that way).
Congrats on coming out. It is truly the most difficult thing any of us will do, and I’m so sorry your mom made it harder for you. Much love to you!
That’s crazy about your mom. Sorry about that but she’ll probably come around one day. When I first came out, my dad didn’t take it well at all. But years later he became very supportive. It was definitely a long process for him. Hang in there.
Your mom dosent know what she's missing ! My dad tried to poison me when he acidently outed me at that time my life was rough but I made it through have forgiven my dad it took years but we are buddys and he is one of my biggest suporters love wins everytime just love your mom & forgive her the rest is on her shoulders as for your what a truly awesome dad he seems to have raised an awesome son he should be proud hang in there let love lead you
I wouldn’t trust anyone who had tried to poison me. That’s the same as attempted murder. You just don’t know what else could trigger them to do these things.
Warm Hugz lil bro... always leave the door open to unsuportive ppl / fam. You had a lot of time to process who you are, they need at least a while to also. Someday the pain of not having you in their life will outweigh the fading bad feelings of the diff life dream she had for you. #1Life
Great video.
great video! CONGRATS ON COMING OUT! :D
Great video. You are really a smart guy. Best of wishes to you.
Thankfully you have a Dad with a backbone of steel and unconditional love for his children! The hard part is knowing that a mother is willing to erase her own child from her life over something that has NOTHING to do with her and to be able to do that you have to be selfish, heartless and without a conscience, at least in my universe. Good luck to you and maybe someday this all works itself out. Please thank your father on behalf of some of us who never really had one because he's a perfect example of what a parent should be...
I love this. Please make more videos. Subscribed!
Thanks! I'll try to upload more content!
You are a fine man and your dad is on your side. Your mom however is not a very kind person, but that is not a reflection on you. We live in a world of deep prejudice. Sad that she can't (yet) see beyond all that and recognise the amazing young man she brought into the world. Her loss really. I admire your spirit,
So sorry you've had to live through this twice. This is what unaccepting people, especially parents don't understand. You have already lived through this up to this point: Everything they are thinking you have gone over and over for years. You have asked yourself why me, prayed for change, gone through denial and played straight. At some point one has to be honest with one's self and realize that you're in order to achieve any sibilance of happiness you're going to have to go through life being you and not pretending someone else in order to please the narcissistic desires of others. Hopefully, she will come to understand and realize it isn't about her and has nothing to do with her. The only choice you made was to stop pretending and be you. Good on you and good on your dad, he sounds like an amazing person
I`m HAPPY for you...tell your mom to read "The God Box" or "Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe"...both might ease her into acceptance...hopefully?!
Well done! And is it just me or does he look like the guy in icarly
Congratulations. You look and sound ok. Keep going and enjoy your life the way you want it. With regards to your mom? Well she can deal with her own issues in life. Shes not your problem anymore. She chose to get rid of you, her choice not yours. She will carry that burden until she realize that being gay is not a choice. Good luck. Enjoy your freedom.
I love your vids
Peace be upon you, as a good person like other people, you must to listen to me, I just want to say that:-
If you got anybody in your life that ever speak to you ''how did it come to this'' in the wrong ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you just look at straight into their eyes and you says:
1. Either we're good person or we're the type of a person who put a barriers, why should there need to be a barriers to loves between one another.
2. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God.
3. I believe that God will please, and embraces with ours' kind and loving spirits.
4. God loves us beyond any and everything else, and He is that's who we should love first.
I know this is about your mom...but my takeaway is how freakin’ AMAZING you DAD is!!! Your dad sounds like mine...my dad grew up on a farm in Hawai’i, always worked blue collar jobs, raised my bro and I fishing and crabbing...but when I came out to him, his one question was, “are you happy?” And when I said “yes”, he said, “that’s all any parent wants for their child” and we went back to watching The Big Bang Theory! My mom? She asked me who was top and who was bottom between my boyfriend (at the time) and I...and then if it hurt to bottom! Yeah, she took it EXCEPTIONALLY well. LOL. Well wherever you are and whatever you’re doing...I hope you’re thriving and that your dad is still your biggest supporter. 😍🏳️🌈🤙🏽
God...I love that ending!! Thanks for sharing a part of your life with us. CHEERS TO YOUR DAD! Some day I would love to share my life's story with you, but being that I'm already 70, it is too long! (More than a video, it would be a Full length movie___an interesting one at that). Sadly though, I still can't find a way to come out! I'm living more of a "Hermit's Life". All alone and super unhappy!! No friends, and hardly any family; no one to talk to...THAT BAD!! So, again, thanks....Un fuerte abrazo, mi amigo. (Google it, LOL)
Thank you Asian Narcissist [what a strange name] for your COstory. What an extraordinary father son relationship you have and enjoy. Your father is really courageous and true to himself and what he feels. A true supporter of yours. I like that a lot. Best wishes Martin
your a good son
For the those who think being gay, lesbian or trans “is a choice” we should consider how difficult the drug addict, alcoholic, and over eater struggle. These outside influences are minimal compared to being born into a physical body with the inclination to be gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans-gender. It is not impossible to change sexual orientation, but almost impossible. When you watch coming out videos you see how many have prayed and tried to be straight, but couldn't.
Your mother may be basing her behavior on anti-gay bible verses. If so I hope she will think on the following.
Many anti-gay people quote Leviticus 20: 13 “If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.”
The problem for these people is that they are not putting people to death as directed in verse 9 for cursing their mother or father and in verse 10 for adultery. They’re not performing animal sacrifice per chapters 1-9, nor are they breaking dishes when someone has a venereal disease per chapter 15.
When we look at the one called Jesus we find that he spent time with prostitutes, tax collectors and Roman soldiers. He was a friend to everyone and gave a new commandment, “to love one another”. Those who are quoting anti-LGBTQ verses are not following Jesus’s example or teaching and should admit that they don’t follow the whole bible. Thank you for your video and for your supportive father and friends.
I'm sorry your mom choose not to come to the rable. Your a fine young man, I'm a lesbian. My mom a is wonderful. I'm always open to having online children. So if you need a momish, person in your life for hugs .I'm game. 😊
?,,, why do these guys feel they must "come out."
even in 2022 there are still alot of homophobic ppl who would rather hurt someone for being gay rather than treat them like an actual human being.
Sorry to hear about your mom. She's made herself the big loser here.
Wow, one of the worst I've heard; no one deserves to be treated the way you have been by your mother. You did not mention her parents? They must have been very conservative/traditional.
This felt staged / acted out.
well I am retelling an event so yes it is "acted out". But it is authentic story about my experience and perspective.
GAY AND REPUBLICAN, WHAT A CONTRADICTION.