Jill, you have your own family now . You and your husband ( who just idolizes you) will make the best decisions to suit your family’s needs . I’m proud of you two. Derek has helped you become the awesome person you are . Your parents have some control issues and that is their problem to work on. I think you guys need your own show . Xoxox
I have never agreed with the teachings and lifestyle of the Duggar family but I applaud how far you have come since breaking free from it. You can visibly see a relaxation of your body since starting therapy and beginning your new journey.
My husband comes from a large IBLP family. We have been estranged from his parents for 4 years now. It’s not going to change because the parents haven’t changed and are still treating the adult children the same way - emotional abuse and manipulation and using religion to guilt them all. My hubs had a horrific childhood and he’s overcome a great deal. He still has triggers and awful memories -It’s so very sad. Just remember you can’t heal where you were hurt. ❤️. His siblings still are in communication with us - well all but one - stay strong! I’m so proud of you guys for doing what you are doing!!
I notice in your Q & A's that you take turn answering rather than one answering or controlling the conversation. Truly speaks about how you manage your relationship.
I just wanted to say that I love that you have taken control of your own narrative. I think it’s great to hear how you all are doing without the conjecture of others. Also, thank you for your positive thoughts on therapy. Most adults have some things that they could use to work through. It’s great to be open minded about that.
Jill I have so much respect for you and Derrick for being so open and honest with us; the public at large. I absolutely loved 19 Kids & counting. I watched it religiously. (Sorry that was a bad “Pun” HAHAHA.… then the story about Josh molesting you and your sisters came out and we learned exactly what he did and in all interviews your parents said that he “Confessed” that he was inappropriately touching four of his sisters as well as a baby sitter but recently we learned that it was you who literally caught him in the act and of course you did the right thing by “Tattletale” to your parents and only then was. He removed from the home to protect you and all of your sisters from him.. I think it’s absolutely wonderful that you actually retained an attorney to sue your father for the tens of thousands of of dollars that you earned by continuously working on both shows since you yourself were a very young girl… your father he can only control the rest of your siblings with money because they need them for financial support especially since he apparently believes that none of you children should paid some of that $40,000 per episode that TLC was paying him for your forced participation into filming for you personally over a decade… it’s shameful what your father did and now The fact that he is ostracized you from your entire family for deciding to have your own set of morals and values and I think that you are so incredibly brave and I have deep admiration and respect for you.. especially because you are so honest.. your honesty about birth control.. you and your husband are absolutely doing the right thing by planning the timing when you both feel that your both financially stable enough to bring another child into the world that you will be responsible for… that is what responsible normal people do before having excessive amounts of children which they will have to support.. I am very disgusted by the treatment that you were receiving from your siblings and your parents just because some of your beliefs don’t align with their beliefs… you are an adult you are married and you have two children and you have the right to have a strawberry daiquiri with your dinner if you want and you have the right to wear pants and piercing your nose and cutting your hair much shorter.. THESE ARE NOT DECISIONS THAT SHOULD LABEL YOU IN THEIR EYES JILL.… I hope that you you realize that all of your siblings that no longer are in contact with you is THEIR PROBLEM NOT YOURS… It’s again your father needing to control his adult children’s lives by either withholding money or giving them money which is theirs in the first place because they are the ones that are working long hours shooting the darn show to begin with!! Your parents at first we’re rarely if ever on “Jill and Jessa Counting on” series until just this past year or so they do cameos, yet Jim Bob continued to keep 100% of their/ your earnings…. Why your siblings don’t see this I don’t know… you should be so proud of yourself for finding your voice and standing up to your father and winning!! Good for you both!! I wish you both happiness and love.. you are the bomb Jill… just wonderful
So proud of your Jill and Derek. You answered some very confronting questions. I am so sorry that your not on good terms with some of your family, but honestly that’s okay. Not everyone deserves a seat at your table. Look after you and your family first. They are what matters now. Your family, your rules, your rights xoxoxo
You can see the heartbreak in Jills eyes when she talks about not being on the best terms with her family, I hope they sort it out, nothings more important than family xx
I think this was an awesome video even if it wasn't full of new information because with Jill answering the questions, it shows everyone how strong Jill has become, how she's growing into herself, how much thesorry has helped her. I also loved how Derick lent Jill his silent support, allowing her to answer the questions, never interrupting her, but being there for her. It shows what a strong, supportive, husband he is and what a great marriage they have. I'm so happy that their marriage has worked out, that they loved each other enough to grow together and that Derick was there for Jill when it was time to leave the show and he has stood by her while she has worked to grow into the woman she was meant to be.
Thank you for sharing this in your own words. I know this is not easy & you handled this with class. There are so many people supporting you from a distance. Keep on your path to recovery. You will get there. Thanks for allowing comments
Proud of you, Jill. It’s not easy taking a step back from those you love. I’m glad you’re healing and I hope things continue work in your favor, you deserve it. ❤️
GIRL! You hit some hard questions! Great job! That takes a lot of emotional strength! I'm so proud of you! You've worked so hard on yourself and we can see it! You guys are always in our prayers!
I applaud you, Jill. It must be hard to feel you are not pleasing your family but as an adult, you have to walk your own path and find your own way and its ok if that is different from what your folks want. We cannot live for our parents.
I agree with this comment so much! You are 💯 percent correct. As you grow up you find and create your own path, as a parent you “SHOULD” allow your children to become their own individual. As a parent I see nothing wrong with guidance along the course of adult hood but to demand that, they as well as, their partner follow in the footsteps of Jills parents is wrong. But to be quite frank Jill‘s parents has not always been there in standing up for those children in ways that they should have been. Like for instants when the brother was doing things to his own siblings they took it upon themselves to say no that is wrong but did nothing further. I believe that there has been much more that went on behind closed doors in that family and there’s a reason why so many of their children are partying their ways from the parents. I pray whatever course you feel you and your husband have to take for your beautiful little family is and will be the light and guidance you need for so long. Your a beautiful and talented woman Jill Dillard & I believe that you and your husband have already moved that mountain that caused you so much hurt for far to long. I commend you for your strength I. Our lord and the faith that he brings you.
I don't want this to sound condescending, but I am proud of both of you. Everyone has to go through the transition of separating from our parents and stepping forward into adulthood. I can't imagine how difficult it would be when the transition is so abrupt. The two of you are the A team, and are handling it admirably. Sometimes it takes a bit for the B teams in our lives to understand the new dynamics. Go Dillard's!!!!!!!
Out of your whole family.... I enjoy you two... You're becoming enlightened and just really turning into a true, wholesome Christian family. Much love from me!
Jill, you are a pillar of strength and very confident! You made a huge leap, learning your opinion is valuable and warranted is awesome👍 You learned boundaries and keeping them. You learned effective communication. It is through learning we become even more worthy, we become teachers to those who feel unworthy. Its a power you have and now you have become that role model and teacher to inspire others❤💪Atta girl, you are doing great! From my experience with my Dad, some things cannot be forgiven, things like lifetime deceit, disrespect, harmful words, gross actions that were 'jokes' when told uhhh that's not right, then it shifted to "Daddy was kidding, can't you take a joke?" Gaslighting. Narcissism. DoctorRamani has a huge series here on YT, she is excellent at teaching healing✌ Severing such a toxic relationship was freeing, I had to forgive and leave it in the past. My Dad was found dead, coroner said 4 days before he was discovered. I had healed so well, I didn't cry, had zero regrets and realized I made the right decision. Parents and siblings don't get free passes to abuse us and there is consequence to it. God will lead your journey as He led mine. Trust the process and this is 'your'decision. Never allow words to guilt you to choosing against your guided gut feeling. Never be a people pleaser, you will get steamrolled by family. Be YOU!!!! ❤🙏 Abusers knewwww they were abusing. We. OWE. NO ONE. NOTHING, regardless of title. Even the person who gave us life. Abuse takes away any rights they feel they have. Abuse is never, ever OK. Relationships are a CHOICE, a privelege, not a 'given' because of bloodline. They are not to be because its 'expected'. No. They are earned by respect, kindness, trust, relationships are not FREE, they are delicate. We can terminate toxic ones💪
You left comments on!! JILL and Derrick we are all very proud of the strides you made! Keep putting your health happiness and your little families well being! We are allowed to be different and have respect for one another! Xoxo.
Your honesty is refreshing and humble and mature. Nobody around us likes change or boundaries. But i am setting them anyway. We only get one life. Keep inspiring.
I have to say... I’m quite impressed at your growth as people. Being on a TV series, especially as long as Jill was, can give people a serious imposter complex. It’s nice to see you allowing yourself to evolve into your own person.
I’ll be praying for you Jill. I could see the pain in your eyes when you spoke about the distance between your family. It’s very hard to go through something like this especially when you were always so close. Hold onto the Lord he will get you through it. ❤️🙏
I can hear and see the sadness in your voice when you talk about the distancing with your family. 😢 I pray you find peace with that situation, however that may look. ❤️
Derek looks so much healthier since returning to the states. Thank you for this video and your channel so we can still up with your sweet little family. God bless you all
I hope this doesn’t sound crazy I just wanted to say that I’m really proud of you for “breaking away” and becoming more open minded and being able to not only have your own opinions, but voice them like you can on this platform xo
Jill I have watched you grow into a strong beautiful women, be proud of who you have become and the amazing role model you are for your sons. Derrick, as a counting on watcher at the time, I was super reserved about you at first(now see how wrong the show presented you) the strength of character you have displayed in recent years supporting your beautiful little family has blown me away. Together your marriage has been tested more than most and yet you both stand tall, proud & strong. On your family, it’s okay to not restore relationships that are toxic and damaging, healing takes both sides, I have experienced this and although I forgave, I have not restored that relationship because the other party continues with toxic and damaging behaviour. I love your you tube channel and look forward to watching your family grow and see what is to come for you both xxx your Aussie friends
Jill, I am really proud of you. You are putting in the hard work to better yourself, and not only does that make YOU stronger, but it makes you a better mom and wife. Be true to yourself sweet girl, you deserve it. (And please know the disparaging comments are truly ridiculous and unwarranted)
I just want to thank you both for your candor. You’re not avoiding hard topics. Your honesty and grace is so refreshing in this space. I’m so happy for your family and look so forward to watching you grow. ❤️
Yay, comments are open! I love when your videos pop up. Your little family is so sweet. Jill, you are amazing and such a wonderful example to others about how to learn about yourself and how to find your voice. Derek, your support and love for your wife and family really shines! I pray you have continued healing and are able to develop the relationship with your family you desire. 💙
Once again, appreciate your honesty and the grace with which you handle such personal questions and public curiousity in what is essentially a very private part of your lives. Wishing you both blessings as you continue on your journey as a couple and as individuals.
Jill and Derrick you guys are a young beautiful family. Keep putting your trust in God and each other . I'm blessed to see such strong young couples like the two of you making your own choices .
We love you Jill and your family. So proud of you!!! Hope some of your siblings follow in your footsteps. Be happy and proud of your decisions. Im sure your family members will come around. You are an Inspiration!!!
I am so proud of Derrick...I was a little unsure of him but I think he's turning out to be a really good guy...not perfect but I like the way he stands up for his family.
Jill, I grew up in this belief system, and it’s hard to find yourself after leaving home. When you do and you can not let those voices in your head, you’ll feel so much better. I’m proud of both of you! Continue to move forward in Christ and remember that he can take your burdens upon himself. I’m still a very strong Christian, not perfect by any means, but I have found my views on the wearing pants, music, TV, etc. don’t align with what I was taught as a child. I’m a Theology major and after time, healing and communication my mom is very proud of me. Again, I’m very proud of y’all!
I admire your strength even if I don't agree with you on your thoughts about homosexuals. Keep up this honest and vulnerable attitude! It is very rare these days
Derick, I just read your mom's book as my mom is currently fighting her own battle with cancer. It gave me and my mom so much courage to keep fighting and trusting in God! Your mom is awesome for sharing her testimony! You and Jill did what was best for your family and that is the most important thing!
I am sorry that you are hurting, it cannot be easy to reject or be rejected by family members. I am glad that you have each other and are working to overcome or work through the pain and am glad that you have a therapist to help. Wishing you both a peaceful life. Thanks much for sharing the questions. One word of advice share only what you want, when you want to, avoid those you tubers that only want to profit from your pain, they make their living by exploiting and analyzing every comment, look and gesture while not really giving a caring thought about you as people.
I'm cheering so hard for you, Jill!!! Look at how far you have grown, establishing your own family belief systems. It is so sad that others in your family cannot accept it, because you deserve all the happiness and peace there is. Keep going, create the best life for you two and your adorable boys! They are going to be so proud of you when they are older and hear your whole story!
Your videos are so much better than Counting On!! I am so proud of the way you two took control of your lives!! Both of you are doing a great job with raising Israel and Sam!! Keep those videos coming!!
Praying for restoration in a healthy way. I can tell that you are wide open to mending relationships, but you are standing firm in your position to put your family first. Coming from someone who felt cast out for doing this same thing, healing can happen in God's time. If everyone is truly seeking God and allowing Him to work in their hearts, it will happen. Excited to see what God has in store for you guys as Derrick finishes school and you start new chapters.
I am not a conservative, but have followed your family. I like to learn and listen to other perspectives...I admire your honesty and transparency...as I I’m sure it took a lot of courage...I am glad to hear that you’re also open to people with differing beliefs!!!
It’s refreshing and rare to see a liberal that is tolerant of people who don’t think the same way they do. I have a lot of respect for people like you who are willing to hear other people and be okay with someone different than you. 😊
R. M. I’m also a liberal and am proud of Jill and Derick. Most liberals don’t attack people For different beliefs. It’s quite opposite of that. We accept people of all backgrounds and faith. Our country is just divided with so much hate and anger right now. I’m hoping things will change November 3rd. So we can start healing and uniting again. 💙
Mr. and Mrs. Dillard I truly respect your honesty and sincerity during your Q & A videos. I am glad you are speaking your truth in a respectful way. I hope other Dugger family members will learn from your strength. God bless.
Very hard questions to face but I applaud ye for approaching the elephants in the room and opening up to us watching. Good luck with yer path in life!!
I feel for the family issue. My parents walked away from me and I’m their only child and my daughter their only grandchild. It doesn’t feel great, but We’re no doormat. I’ve taken the abuse from them over the years, but the buck stops at my daughter. I am angry right now and God is working on that so I may find restoration and peace with the finality of it all. I love my family, but o cleave to God and my husband who supports me as your husband supports you. So glad we have strong men to stand against it! ❤️🙌🏻
REALLY loved that you opened up on these Q&As... I always got the feeling so many people associated with "the show" were either bound by NDAs or felt like they weren't allowed to speak their truth and ABSOLUTELY you have a right to speak your truth and talk about your own lives and experiences. So glad to hear your authentic answers to some VERY direct and challenging questions! I would love to hear about Samuel's birth as the rumour mill was alive with gossip that there were serious complications and so many fans were wishing you well at that time. I am glad you are all doing well and recovering from what seemed like a very unpleasant situation. Living well is not only the best revenge, but just good overall as you deserve to be happy and healthy and thriving.
So happy for you guys. You seem so healthy and well balanced. All families have their ups & downs. Our God is in the business of restoring relationships.
WOW read some of your last comments from viewers !!! I am so sorry for the snarky of others. I just want to say thank you for being brave and answering questions you don't have to answer. They are personal and your choosing to answer the masses questions is your choice. I can see your hurt from the things they brought up. NOT asking why. It's family and it's hard sometimes. I think you two are awesome and I love your video's. This one I appreciated your honesty but felt it was too personal. You guys deserver to just say " I heard this question BUT it's too personal and I will not be answer it". Adulting is hard I'm sure even more with everyone watching. You two are doing great! Much love and support.
I am so proud of you for not dodging the tough questions and sharing with so much dignity! Praying for healing with your family and their understanding of your life choices! God is first in your lives so I know his will will prevail! Much love!!❤️
It's hard to break free and see the Lord in a different light when you've been fed legalism your whole life. Congratulations to you. Our family is coming out as well. It's not an overnight change in your beliefs. It's a "slow fade" to quote an awesome song. You give yourself away a little at a time. The healing is hard as well and can take longer. Best of luck to you.
I have SO much admiration and respect for you and Dereck... I know living your lives in the public eye isn’t easy at ALL to start with .... but to then , have in the mix.. living your lives under a “microscope “ of many judgmental people who think they know what is best for you lives .. I cannot even imagine going through everything you have gone though... I do know , your past has made you who you are today... You have such a wonderful platform to use as your personal testimony to quite possibly help hundreds if not thousands of lives. I wish you and your family the best. You are so much braver and stronger Jill than you even realize. #yougotthis 💪💪👏👏👏👏
I love that sam doesn't act comfortable in front of the camera! Good parenting you two . It honestly shows great things about the life you are providing. 😊
Glad you are making your way as a family unit. Your immediate family is the 5 of you, not the families you grew up with. They are an extension. God bless you for making your own family story.
I'm surprised that Jill is being so open and honest. I guess being on the show really restricted their "freedom of speech" and expression to maintain that squeaky clean Christian view. I am Christian too(probably more conservative than people my age) and I appreciate the "realness". Maybe when the show ends we will see the real personalities of more Duggars.
I love these videos so much! I feel like I’ve learned more about you in these few videos than I did in all those years of you on the show. Thanks for answering real questions 👍🏻
Y’all are now so real & so open. It’s amazing to watch how far you both as a couple have come along. It’s a brave thing speaking out about mental health & healthy. ♥️
Glad to see that you're living your adult life on your terms. Your parents raised you with a great foundation & they lived their lives. I knew it would only be a matter of time before you & your sisters would have husbands and raise families. I'm truly proud of your growth.
It was good hearing y’all tackle the tough questions. Rumors have been circling for years about the strained relationship your extended family has with your family. It can’t be easy having so much of your life exposed on camera from your youth on up.
Thank you both for sharing details for the first time about why you left the show, even though I understand why most of your answers had to be vague and non-specific. I will pray for your relationships with family and praise God you all are working toward restoration and seeking the Lord through it all! (And Samuel is SO adorable!!) God bless and thanks for still sharing your lives through social media! So thankful therapy is helping you, too, Jill...I also recommend it for everyone! 😉❤
I’m so proud of you for making all the changes needed to better yourself and doing what’s best for your family. Freedom looks good on you! Lots of love and prayers!
I remember watching you be interviewed by Megyn Kelley and being so so worried about you girls. I am SO HAPPY you have gotten to a place of healing. I love how you are both honest and honoring about where you are at with family. You are brave and courageous. To have grown up in the spotlight and having to have so much buzz around your lives...and then to speak with such candor and respect...I’m seriously excited for what is going on in your life. The grace of God that’s allowing you to go under the surface to face things without fear and heal is so amazing. Way to go Jill and Derek. Keep shining!
Good for you guys doing what’s best for your family. The Bible says to “leave and cleave...”, and that includes decision making, traditions, standards within your marriage.
I much prefer watching Jill and Derrick here on RUclips than I ever did on TLC
I love the way he looks at Jill when she's talking. The pride in his eyes is beautiful.
He's such a supportive husband. I'm so happy for Jill
I'm glad Jill is finding her voice and her way. I'm glad that Derrick is so loving and supportive
Jill, you have your own family now . You and your husband ( who just idolizes you) will make the best decisions to suit your family’s needs . I’m proud of you two. Derek has helped you become the awesome person you are . Your parents have some control issues and that is their problem to work on. I think you guys need your own show . Xoxox
Agree!!!
I have never agreed with the teachings and lifestyle of the Duggar family but I applaud how far you have come since breaking free from it. You can visibly see a relaxation of your body since starting therapy and beginning your new journey.
Yay, the comments are actually open! Love seeing you grow into your own and finding your voice.
Agreed 💯💯💯💯💯
It makes my heart happy to see Jill love on her kids the way a mom should. Snuggly and genuine. That side hug stuff is sad.
She’s turning into a normal Person.
@@sheteg1 she probably always was and wasn’t able to express it.
My husband comes from a large IBLP family. We have been estranged from his parents for 4 years now. It’s not going to change because the parents haven’t changed and are still treating the adult children the same way - emotional abuse and manipulation and using religion to guilt them all. My hubs had a horrific childhood and he’s overcome a great deal. He still has triggers and awful memories -It’s so very sad. Just remember you can’t heal where you were hurt. ❤️. His siblings still are in communication with us - well all but one - stay strong! I’m so proud of you guys for doing what you are doing!!
I notice in your Q & A's that you take turn answering rather than one answering or controlling the conversation. Truly speaks about how you manage your relationship.
I just wanted to say that I love that you have taken control of your own narrative. I think it’s great to hear how you all are doing without the conjecture of others. Also, thank you for your positive thoughts on therapy. Most adults have some things that they could use to work through. It’s great to be open minded about that.
Jill in regards to not being on the best terms with family - it’s their loss ! Praying for peace and happiness for u ❤️❤️
Jill I have so much respect for you and Derrick for being so open and honest with us; the public at large. I absolutely loved 19 Kids & counting. I watched it religiously. (Sorry that was a bad “Pun” HAHAHA.… then the story about Josh molesting you and your sisters came out and we learned exactly what he did and in all interviews your parents said that he “Confessed” that he was inappropriately touching four of his sisters as well as a baby sitter but recently we learned that it was you who literally caught him in the act and of course you did the right thing by “Tattletale” to your parents and only then was. He removed from the home to protect you and all of your sisters from him.. I think it’s absolutely wonderful that you actually retained an attorney to sue your father for the tens of thousands of of dollars that you earned by continuously working on both shows since you yourself were a very young girl… your father he can only control the rest of your siblings with money because they need them for financial support especially since he apparently believes that none of you children should paid some of that $40,000 per episode that TLC was paying him for your forced participation into filming for you personally over a decade… it’s shameful what your father did and now The fact that he is ostracized you from your entire family for deciding to have your own set of morals and values and I think that you are so incredibly brave and I have deep admiration and respect for you.. especially because you are so honest.. your honesty about birth control.. you and your husband are absolutely doing the right thing by planning the timing when you both feel that your both financially stable enough to bring another child into the world that you will be responsible for… that is what responsible normal people do before having excessive amounts of children which they will have to support.. I am very disgusted by the treatment that you were receiving from your siblings and your parents just because some of your beliefs don’t align with their beliefs… you are an adult you are married and you have two children and you have the right to have a strawberry daiquiri with your dinner if you want and you have the right to wear pants and piercing your nose and cutting your hair much shorter.. THESE ARE NOT DECISIONS THAT SHOULD LABEL YOU IN THEIR EYES JILL.… I hope that you you realize that all of your siblings that no longer are in contact with you is THEIR PROBLEM NOT YOURS… It’s again your father needing to control his adult children’s lives by either withholding money or giving them money which is theirs in the first place because they are the ones that are working long hours shooting the darn show to begin with!! Your parents at first we’re rarely if ever on “Jill and Jessa Counting on” series until just this past year or so they do cameos, yet Jim Bob continued to keep 100% of their/ your earnings…. Why your siblings don’t see this I don’t know… you should be so proud of yourself for finding your voice and standing up to your father and winning!! Good for you both!! I wish you both happiness and love.. you are the bomb Jill… just wonderful
So proud of your Jill and Derek. You answered some very confronting questions. I am so sorry that your not on good terms with some of your family, but honestly that’s okay.
Not everyone deserves a seat at your table.
Look after you and your family first. They are what matters now. Your family, your rules, your rights xoxoxo
You can see the heartbreak in Jills eyes when she talks about not being on the best terms with her family, I hope they sort it out, nothings more important than family xx
Mental health and boundaries are more important than family.
Sometimes it’s best to cut out toxic family members. My life is way better without some of the family I’ve cut out of my life.
I think this was an awesome video even if it wasn't full of new information because with Jill answering the questions, it shows everyone how strong Jill has become, how she's growing into herself, how much thesorry has helped her. I also loved how Derick lent Jill his silent support, allowing her to answer the questions, never interrupting her, but being there for her. It shows what a strong, supportive, husband he is and what a great marriage they have. I'm so happy that their marriage has worked out, that they loved each other enough to grow together and that Derick was there for Jill when it was time to leave the show and he has stood by her while she has worked to grow into the woman she was meant to be.
He just looks so proud of her 😊
Wow she admitted it all she’s not on best terms w her fam. She is amazing and looks great
Thank you for sharing this in your own words. I know this is not easy & you handled this with class. There are so many people supporting you from a distance. Keep on your path to recovery. You will get there. Thanks for allowing comments
How is your relationship with your sisters? are they supporting you?
Such a strong and admirable woman. Always so well spoken and classy. Derick seems so supportive and caring as well. Powerful couple right here.
Proud of you, Jill. It’s not easy taking a step back from those you love. I’m glad you’re healing and I hope things continue work in your favor, you deserve it. ❤️
It’s amazing to see how much Jill has grown as a person. ❤️❤️❤️
GIRL! You hit some hard questions! Great job! That takes a lot of emotional strength! I'm so proud of you! You've worked so hard on yourself and we can see it! You guys are always in our prayers!
I applaud you, Jill. It must be hard to feel you are not pleasing your family but as an adult, you have to walk your own path and find your own way and its ok if that is different from what your folks want. We cannot live for our parents.
I agree with this comment so much! You are 💯 percent correct. As you grow up you find and create your own path, as a parent you “SHOULD” allow your children to become their own individual. As a parent I see nothing wrong with guidance along the course of adult hood but to demand that, they as well as, their partner follow in the footsteps of Jills parents is wrong. But to be quite frank Jill‘s parents has not always been there in standing up for those children in ways that they should have been. Like for instants when the brother was doing things to his own siblings they took it upon themselves to say no that is wrong but did nothing further. I believe that there has been much more that went on behind closed doors in that family and there’s a reason why so many of their children are partying their ways from the parents. I pray whatever course you feel you and your husband have to take for your beautiful little family is and will be the light and guidance you need for so long. Your a beautiful and talented woman Jill Dillard & I believe that you and your husband have already moved that mountain that caused you so much hurt for far to long. I commend you for your strength I. Our lord and the faith that he brings you.
I don't want this to sound condescending, but I am proud of both of you. Everyone has to go through the transition of separating from our parents and stepping forward into adulthood. I can't imagine how difficult it would be when the transition is so abrupt. The two of you are the A team, and are handling it admirably. Sometimes it takes a bit for the B teams in our lives to understand the new dynamics. Go Dillard's!!!!!!!
Out of your whole family.... I enjoy you two... You're becoming enlightened and just really turning into a true, wholesome Christian family. Much love from me!
Jill, you are a pillar of strength and very confident! You made a huge leap, learning your opinion is valuable and warranted is awesome👍 You learned boundaries and keeping them. You learned effective communication. It is through learning we become even more worthy, we become teachers to those who feel unworthy. Its a power you have and now you have become that role model and teacher to inspire others❤💪Atta girl, you are doing great! From my experience with my Dad, some things cannot be forgiven, things like lifetime deceit, disrespect, harmful words, gross actions that were 'jokes' when told uhhh that's not right, then it shifted to "Daddy was kidding, can't you take a joke?" Gaslighting. Narcissism. DoctorRamani has a huge series here on YT, she is excellent at teaching healing✌ Severing such a toxic relationship was freeing, I had to forgive and leave it in the past. My Dad was found dead, coroner said 4 days before he was discovered. I had healed so well, I didn't cry, had zero regrets and realized I made the right decision. Parents and siblings don't get free passes to abuse us and there is consequence to it. God will lead your journey as He led mine. Trust the process and this is 'your'decision. Never allow words to guilt you to choosing against your guided gut feeling. Never be a people pleaser, you will get steamrolled by family. Be YOU!!!! ❤🙏 Abusers knewwww they were abusing. We. OWE. NO ONE. NOTHING, regardless of title. Even the person who gave us life. Abuse takes away any rights they feel they have. Abuse is never, ever OK. Relationships are a CHOICE, a privelege, not a 'given' because of bloodline. They are not to be because its 'expected'. No. They are earned by respect, kindness, trust, relationships are not FREE, they are delicate. We can terminate toxic ones💪
You left comments on!! JILL and Derrick we are all very proud of the strides you made! Keep putting your health happiness and your little families well being! We are allowed to be different and have respect for one another! Xoxo.
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Your honesty is refreshing and humble and mature. Nobody around us likes change or boundaries. But i am setting them anyway. We only get one life. Keep inspiring.
I have to say... I’m quite impressed at your growth as people. Being on a TV series, especially as long as Jill was, can give people a serious imposter complex. It’s nice to see you allowing yourself to evolve into your own person.
I feel like your family is more relatable since you're finding the path right for you and you talk more openly about your struggles
I’ll be praying for you Jill. I could see the pain in your eyes when you spoke about the distance between your family. It’s very hard to go through something like this especially when you were always so close. Hold onto the Lord he will get you through it. ❤️🙏
I can hear and see the sadness in your voice when you talk about the distancing with your family. 😢 I pray you find peace with that situation, however that may look. ❤️
I am happy that jill was able to recognize the toxicity that comes from her family and is now living her truth
Derek looks so much healthier since returning to the states. Thank you for this video and your channel so we can still up with your sweet little family. God bless you all
I hope this doesn’t sound crazy I just wanted to say that I’m really proud of you for “breaking away” and becoming more open minded and being able to not only have your own opinions, but voice them like you can on this platform xo
Jill and Derick keep making those good choices for you guys. I'm proud of you all.
Jill I have watched you grow into a strong beautiful women, be proud of who you have become and the amazing role model you are for your sons. Derrick, as a counting on watcher at the time, I was super reserved about you at first(now see how wrong the show presented you) the strength of character you have displayed in recent years supporting your beautiful little family has blown me away. Together your marriage has been tested more than most and yet you both stand tall, proud & strong.
On your family, it’s okay to not restore relationships that are toxic and damaging, healing takes both sides, I have experienced this and although I forgave, I have not restored that relationship because the other party continues with toxic and damaging behaviour.
I love your you tube channel and look forward to watching your family grow and see what is to come for you both xxx your Aussie friends
Jill, I am really proud of you. You are putting in the hard work to better yourself, and not only does that make YOU stronger, but it makes you a better mom and wife. Be true to yourself sweet girl, you deserve it.
(And please know the disparaging comments are truly ridiculous and unwarranted)
I just want to thank you both for your candor. You’re not avoiding hard topics. Your honesty and grace is so refreshing in this space. I’m so happy for your family and look so forward to watching you grow. ❤️
Yay, comments are open! I love when your videos pop up. Your little family is so sweet. Jill, you are amazing and such a wonderful example to others about how to learn about yourself and how to find your voice. Derek, your support and love for your wife and family really shines! I pray you have continued healing and are able to develop the relationship with your family you desire. 💙
Once again, appreciate your honesty and the grace with which you handle such personal questions and public curiousity in what is essentially a very private part of your lives. Wishing you both blessings as you continue on your journey as a couple and as individuals.
Amen!
Jill and Derrick you guys are a young beautiful family. Keep putting your trust in God and each other . I'm blessed to see such strong young couples like the two of you making your own choices .
Good for you Jill! I hope you can help some of your siblings as well. ❤️ And bravo Derick for supporting your wife
Love yalls Q&As. Yalls candor and openness is really great and encouraging!
We love you Jill and your family. So proud of you!!! Hope some of your siblings follow in your footsteps. Be happy and proud of your decisions. Im sure your family members will come around. You are an Inspiration!!!
I can see the upset in Jills eyes when talking about the friction with her family big hugs 🤗 xx
I am so proud of Derrick...I was a little unsure of him but I think he's turning out to be a really good guy...not perfect but I like the way he stands up for his family.
Jill, I grew up in this belief system, and it’s hard to find yourself after leaving home. When you do and you can not let those voices in your head, you’ll feel so much better. I’m proud of both of you! Continue to move forward in Christ and remember that he can take your burdens upon himself. I’m still a very strong Christian, not perfect by any means, but I have found my views on the wearing pants, music, TV, etc. don’t align with what I was taught as a child. I’m a Theology major and after time, healing and communication my mom is very proud of me.
Again, I’m very proud of y’all!
The 2 of you have become my favorite. I love that you listen to each other and are not sheep. I love that you acknowledge Christ and live like him.
I admire your strength even if I don't agree with you on your thoughts about homosexuals. Keep up this honest and vulnerable attitude! It is very rare these days
Thank you for answering the actual questions people have, and for doing so so candidly.
Derick, I just read your mom's book as my mom is currently fighting her own battle with cancer. It gave me and my mom so much courage to keep fighting and trusting in God! Your mom is awesome for sharing her testimony!
You and Jill did what was best for your family and that is the most important thing!
I am sorry that you are hurting, it cannot be easy to reject or be rejected by family members. I am glad that you have each other and are working to overcome or work through the pain and am glad that you have a therapist to help. Wishing you both a peaceful life. Thanks much for sharing the questions. One word of advice share only what you want, when you want to, avoid those you tubers that only want to profit from your pain, they make their living by exploiting and analyzing every comment, look and gesture while not really giving a caring thought about you as people.
I'm cheering so hard for you, Jill!!! Look at how far you have grown, establishing your own family belief systems. It is so sad that others in your family cannot accept it, because you deserve all the happiness and peace there is. Keep going, create the best life for you two and your adorable boys! They are going to be so proud of you when they are older and hear your whole story!
Your videos are so much better than Counting On!! I am so proud of the way you two took control of your lives!! Both of you are doing a great job with raising Israel and Sam!! Keep those videos coming!!
Praying for restoration in a healthy way. I can tell that you are wide open to mending relationships, but you are standing firm in your position to put your family first. Coming from someone who felt cast out for doing this same thing, healing can happen in God's time. If everyone is truly seeking God and allowing Him to work in their hearts, it will happen. Excited to see what God has in store for you guys as Derrick finishes school and you start new chapters.
I am not a conservative, but have followed your family. I like to learn and listen to other perspectives...I admire your honesty and transparency...as I I’m sure it took a lot of courage...I am glad to hear that you’re also open to people with differing beliefs!!!
It’s refreshing and rare to see a liberal that is tolerant of people who don’t think the same way they do. I have a lot of respect for people like you who are willing to hear other people and be okay with someone different than you. 😊
R. M. I’m also a liberal and am proud of Jill and Derick. Most liberals don’t attack people For different beliefs. It’s quite opposite of that. We accept people of all backgrounds and faith. Our country is just divided with so much hate and anger right now. I’m hoping things will change November 3rd. So we can start healing and uniting again. 💙
Mr. and Mrs. Dillard I truly respect your honesty and sincerity during your Q & A videos. I am glad you are speaking your truth in a respectful way. I hope other Dugger family members will learn from your strength. God bless.
Very hard questions to face but I applaud ye for approaching the elephants in the room and opening up to us watching. Good luck with yer path in life!!
When the comments are finally turned on 🙌 We all want to show your family support! Keep up the great work!
I feel for the family issue. My parents walked away from me and I’m their only child and my daughter their only grandchild. It doesn’t feel great, but We’re no doormat. I’ve taken the abuse from them over the years, but the buck stops at my daughter. I am angry right now and God is working on that so I may find restoration and peace with the finality of it all. I love my family, but o cleave to God and my husband who supports me as your husband supports you. So glad we have strong men to stand against it! ❤️🙌🏻
Well done guys for making a stand and realising how important your family is.
TEAM JILL!!
Good for you. You're running you're family instead of others telling you what to do.
This was DOPE!!! Thank you for sharing yourselves with YOUR community.
REALLY loved that you opened up on these Q&As... I always got the feeling so many people associated with "the show" were either bound by NDAs or felt like they weren't allowed to speak their truth and ABSOLUTELY you have a right to speak your truth and talk about your own lives and experiences. So glad to hear your authentic answers to some VERY direct and challenging questions! I would love to hear about Samuel's birth as the rumour mill was alive with gossip that there were serious complications and so many fans were wishing you well at that time. I am glad you are all doing well and recovering from what seemed like a very unpleasant situation. Living well is not only the best revenge, but just good overall as you deserve to be happy and healthy and thriving.
I think this is so brave of you to speak about these things and taking the time you need to heal! You should be incredibly proud of yourself!
So happy for you guys. You seem so healthy and well balanced. All families have their ups & downs. Our God is in the business of restoring relationships.
We all love your whole family as I'm sure you do...but you seem like the most relatable/real out of them.
This series has been amazing. I have so much respect for your level of transparency. Y'all have been and will continue to be used by God.
Jill you have grown up to be a wonderful young woman ❤
Sa Ra Yes she has. Very proud of her.
WOW read some of your last comments from viewers !!! I am so sorry for the snarky of others. I just want to say thank you for being brave and answering questions you don't have to answer. They are personal and your choosing to answer the masses questions is your choice. I can see your hurt from the things they brought up. NOT asking why. It's family and it's hard sometimes. I think you two are awesome and I love your video's. This one I appreciated your honesty but felt it was too personal. You guys deserver to just say " I heard this question BUT it's too personal and I will not be answer it". Adulting is hard I'm sure even more with everyone watching. You two are doing great! Much love and support.
I am so proud of you for not dodging the tough questions and sharing with so much dignity! Praying for healing with your family and their understanding of your life choices! God is first in your lives so I know his will will prevail! Much love!!❤️
It's hard to break free and see the Lord in a different light when you've been fed legalism your whole life. Congratulations to you. Our family is coming out as well. It's not an overnight change in your beliefs. It's a "slow fade" to quote an awesome song. You give yourself away a little at a time. The healing is hard as well and can take longer. Best of luck to you.
Thank you for allowing comments so that we can offer supportive comments!
I have SO much admiration and respect for you and Dereck... I know living your lives in the public eye isn’t easy at ALL to start with .... but to then , have in the mix.. living your lives under a “microscope “ of many judgmental people who think they know what is best for you lives .. I cannot even imagine going through everything you have gone though... I do know , your past has made you who you are today... You have such a wonderful platform to use as your personal testimony to quite possibly help hundreds if not thousands of lives. I wish you and your family the best. You are so much braver and stronger Jill than you even realize. #yougotthis 💪💪👏👏👏👏
I love that sam doesn't act comfortable in front of the camera! Good parenting you two . It honestly shows great things about the life you are providing. 😊
I’m so proud of you. Of how you have grown as a person. I’m glad you are putting family first.
Glad you are making your way as a family unit. Your immediate family is the 5 of you, not the families you grew up with. They are an extension. God bless you for making your own family story.
I'm surprised that Jill is being so open and honest. I guess being on the show really restricted their "freedom of speech" and expression to maintain that squeaky clean Christian view. I am Christian too(probably more conservative than people my age) and I appreciate the "realness". Maybe when the show ends we will see the real personalities of more Duggars.
I love these videos so much! I feel like I’ve learned more about you in these few videos than I did in all those years of you on the show. Thanks for answering real questions 👍🏻
We love you Jilly Muffin, stay strong. You are on the right path.
Y’all are now so real & so open. It’s amazing to watch how far you both as a couple have come along. It’s a brave thing speaking out about mental health & healthy. ♥️
Love your honesty Jill
I feel so sorry for you guys, having to deal with the people that have a problem... You are doin'g nothing wrong Jill!!!
So glad that you are moving forward with what is best for your own family!
I’m so proud of these two! I love seeing them grow as a couple and as individuals.
Glad to see that you're living your adult life on your terms. Your parents raised you with a great foundation & they lived their lives. I knew it would only be a matter of time before you & your sisters would have husbands and raise families. I'm truly proud of your growth.
You made the right choice. Family goals always trump everything else.
I love that you're doing what's best for your family! Even the Bible says that you leave your mother and father and cling to your spouse.
I was thinking about that scripture too
I'm so thankful that you are sharing on You Tube !!
Your vulnerability is to be admired while at the same time protecting your family and confidences.
It was good hearing y’all tackle the tough questions. Rumors have been circling for years about the strained relationship your extended family has with your family. It can’t be easy having so much of your life exposed on camera from your youth on up.
Thank you both for sharing details for the first time about why you left the show, even though I understand why most of your answers had to be vague and non-specific. I will pray for your relationships with family and praise God you all are working toward restoration and seeking the Lord through it all! (And Samuel is SO adorable!!) God bless and thanks for still sharing your lives through social media! So thankful therapy is helping you, too, Jill...I also recommend it for everyone! 😉❤
I’m so proud of you for making all the changes needed to better yourself and doing what’s best for your family. Freedom looks good on you! Lots of love and prayers!
Absolutely! I couldn’t agree more 🥰
I remember watching you be interviewed by Megyn Kelley and being so so worried about you girls. I am SO HAPPY you have gotten to a place of healing. I love how you are both honest and honoring about where you are at with family. You are brave and courageous. To have grown up in the spotlight and having to have so much buzz around your lives...and then to speak with such candor and respect...I’m seriously excited for what is going on in your life. The grace of God that’s allowing you to go under the surface to face things without fear and heal is so amazing. Way to go Jill and Derek. Keep shining!
Good for you guys doing what’s best for your family. The Bible says to “leave and cleave...”, and that includes decision making, traditions, standards within your marriage.
I just love the way he looks at her. 💕
You are so strong Jill .