@Denisha Garrett you're so right!! I know now my recent ex girlfriend is "damaged" and I can't fix her. I've tried so hard to help her see things differently...we would argue n fight alot. Even when I showed her the truth about something, she still would not believe me. Instead she would believe and say the opposite all the time. She has manipulated me so much and broke me heart. I know now who she really is! :-(
You got to run past them let them go... Give them what they want let them have their own life.... Be nice but just go off.... At this point in life being nonchalant is the way to go...
Their options are either blame you or blame themselves. And rarely are they able to see themselves as the cause, so the only other option is you. Be blessed dear.
I needed to hear this today. I’ve met this guy and he told me he didn’t want a relationship with me but then made me video of how much he missed me thinking about me more than I’ll ever know. I just walked away
Im kinda in the same situation but im the guy in this case. Its because he has been so hurt before and when he tries to be in a relationship and move on he thinks that he is going to get hurt again so he holds back. Hes scared thats all. But he does miss you when he says he does. Its hard to explain but in my situation i told the girl to go and be happy with someone because i feel like i am holding her back with me not being ready yet. But she insists on trying to wait around for me but i feel bad i wish she would just move on because idk how long its gonna be until i am ready
@@drewvalenz2721 why wouldn’t you pursue the girl, how could you let her go be with someone else if you like her? I don’t get that. I could bear to see the person I love be with someone else
I understand where you are coming from totally. I pray as we release those not qualified...GOD will bring the real ones...Straight up! This message is on time.
Never rescue a snake,it's their nature to bite u.. I learn the hard way. Thank you Trent may God continue to bless and keep you to inspire us broken ppl.
Guard your heart. Protect your peace! 2021... Change is necessary! Sometimes people have hidden agendas. Watch, listen and learn. They will always show you.
Straight up! I've had unfair expectations of a person in my life. I see, now, that this person isn't capable of being in the position I have placed them in. That's on me, not them, because even though I see their potential; they are either unwilling or incapable of changing.
I’m teaching myself that as well with some relatives and some friends too. When people show you who they are, it’s best to trust your gut feeling when something isn’t right. That’s why you gotta cut them off and do you
I'm in that situation right now 😔 I'm emotionally and mentally tired!! I can never do or say anything right. I try so hard but it's not good enough. I'm a prisoner in my own home 💔 I choose to not go anywhere without him or my little girls cause when I would leave by myself to go to the store I'd come back to him having an attitude with me and talking to me like a dog. He lives in my home and pays for nothing smh I'm going through so much and have been for over 3 years now. He's very disrespectful to me especially when he doesn't get his way. I wanna believe he'll change, I wanna believe he truly loves me, etc.. but I'm still waiting to feel those things from him.
I'm an empath and tend to overthink, when someone says or does something hurtful to me with or without intent I feel it, whether I know them or not. I'd be hurt for like a minute or two. I realized that it doesn't hurt, that's just the feeling of disappointment from me thinking that you'd know better than to do or say something of that nature. So its never hurt I feel, just disappointment.
@@moonsbeautifulsoul9666 Facts, just learning to innerrstand that however someone makes me feel most likely how they feel about themselves or whatever caused them to feel that way. It's always deeper than what it appears. Im glad you can relate 👍
@@BuddaGheeski Very well said!! Just last month I was the recipient of some very harsh & unnecessary words, from a person I've been nothing but kind to. After the situation exploded on a group text simply because I was asking clarifying questions about an upcoming girls trip. I quickly realized that what took place was way deeper & had to do with something I had no knowledge of.
This is exactly what I'm going through. I've been with this guys for five years. Did everything for him. Gave him support. Gave him a child. This guy has cheated on me multiple times and when I find out about the things he does. He never stops. He just continues cheating. Now I see I've been giving him chances to hurt me again and again. It's all on me. I've been expecting him to be the person he's not. He's a serial cheater . That's all. I'm about to stand up and stop him from hurting me. Thanks Trent. Your videos are building me.
U go precious 💖 lov U and yur baby first afta GOD run from that cheater dont let him hurt u anymore im soo proud of u it starts n yur Mind then u speak it now just do it BOOM 💥💥💥
I always try to remember the saying - ‘when someone shows you who they are, believe them’. Sometimes we see the potential in people that they don’t see in themselves. - straight up! -
Please pray for my daughter! She was sexually abused when she was little and told the family when she outted the person at 23. She's now 52 and has been married 5 times and they ALL still love her and she just can't be with anyone. She is so damaged and hurt it's difficult to watch her every day! She's the sweetest person and is so hurt and can't handle anyone trying to love her. Please pray for my child, thank you so much!
@articia harrington Well that sounds all good n heartfelt but you missing one important key factor.....with all due respect you ain't Jesus! But you will need to call Him when you get bit. Js🤷🏽♀️
@articia harrington First off this is my post so dont comment if you cant handle facts. I don't know why you feel judged by my comment, that must be something internal going on. Anywho I'm not here to chop you down, that was not the intent. Secondly.....well good luck with that, I wish you all the best 🙏🏽
Been in a two years old relationship thought me to love myself. It’s hurt for me to walk away cause I still love him, but at the end of the day, am glad I choose my peace over everything.
I needed to hear this The person I believed who was a decent was not worthy of my respect. I got betrayed because of my poor judgement. Putting him in a position that he didn't deserve.
"If I cut you off, chances are you handed me the knife". I've got to say goodbye to someone who has stolen from me.....she has changed over the past 3 months. I have to let her go, even though it is hard.
This message was like a hard slap in the face.. But I NEEDED it to stop giving toxic people chance after chance and giving them a top place in my life ! 🙏✨❤
My husband died a few months ago at 44. I’m young with two kids and my expectation was that people would support me. Guess what? Very few people were there for the long haul. What a great video and thank you for spreading this message. I could have saved myself a world of hurt. My husband was always there for me and I can’t expect someone else to replace him.
When I had everything i had lots of friends ..when I had nothing they were long gone .When my life fell apart with loss \pain \suffering only God was there..
Same... Im stuck at my parents with a 2 month old, 1year old, 2 year oldand an 8 year old and have no support. My mom doesn't live here she is a travel nurse and mydad can't handle the kids. Im actually a nurse, an lpn, and trying to find child care because honestly my friends and family cant help. I'll figure it out I did before when it was just me and my oldest child on our own in a new city....just takes time...
I’m so sorry for your loss! You will get through this. The people who love you the most will be there for you, the rest will fade like video says. God Bless you and your family, God will send the right people to help you, pray 🙏🏼
BADLY NEED THIS ADVICE AT THIS MOMENT. I KEPT GIVING CHANCES TO PEOPLE THAT CONSTANTLY HURTING ME OVER AND OVER AGAIN. AND AFTER FORGIVING, THEY DO IT AGAIN. AND THE CYCLE JUST REPEATING.
Spend time alone like take a walk think about God how he can do what our true hearts desires I know haters will never win don't let people get in your mind. Feel it 100%
He is SO RIGHT!!! I do this all the time...put unfair expectations on people and keep going back and getting hurt again...walking around bitter and broken so I get it and i'm going to do my best to change course...thank you Trent( much love for the post)
I've had to disconnect from my sisters because of them taking advantage of me. I was born a giver and they knew it. The chosen one is looked at as the black sheep in the family.
Some of my friends and family members are toxic . i am done , Lord knows i tried . i have to stop being giving to ppls that are not worthy of my time and energy . i hear im your family , yea , ok , but i been selfless . im done , time to move on , guard self at all costs . sometimes strangers are more kind then family . Respect urself , love ur self , push on . Stop ths blame game . 💯
Relatable, each time I cry bc I feel hurt in my heart. Right now once more I'm so angry again holding myself back other wise I will rent him he's an asshole and being dismissive to me bc I told him I wanted to hug him. He replied: you can't now, I am tested positive for Corona. Okay I understand his point but my pain is the rejecting attitude as if he dislikes me. I replied: I just said it bc I care about you, u will hug you in my thoughts.. His reply : Please my leg is hurting bad I'm not in a good mood. Me: I'm just being sweet to you take it as a medicine. I will leave you alone then. His: thanks I'm going to cry under the shower and move on. Removed his number. I feel pain bc he tends to reject me in a rude way without any feeling but he also doesn't want to lose me. I have to make up my mind now. I mean I understand if he's ill and concerned needs some space but it's the way you communicate it. I can't change him and the way he interacts. Anger is often a sign that we are mistreated. Emotions have a function. How do you switch of the flow of love in your heart It feels like he's attached to me like a siamese twin. I'm so angry 😡and hurt. Confused as well if it's me. No. He's simply on another level but I would never tell someone I like to leave me alone when I would feel bad or had a situation. I'm also feel he treats me like the last important person in his life. Enough is enough. I have to let it, him go. I ever chased him. He normally contacts me. I just spoke to him from my heart bc I missed him. I'm writing it here bc I need to get it out other wise I will send him an angry test.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 your better than that and you can and will find a friend who vaules you those kind of people have no place in our lives,those kind don't deserve to be in your presence, God bless you always
i’ve tried many of days and nights thinking my pain they were causing would end, that one day i would see happiness in life again, but i’m going to start accepting that’s who they are
GOD brought me here too, I live with a narcissist that is upset that I am getting stronger. But it still is no walk in the park putting up with this type of person.
BRUH!!! You speaking TRUTH! I did the exact same thing for YEARS! Once I finally let go of the expectations, forgave them, but mostly forgave MYSELF. Once that happened, I found inner peace and have been able to have fair, balanced friendships. It has changed my life and my relationships FOREVER!!! Thanks for this video
I'm an old lady. It took me so long to learn that, like 56 years! I've been practicing this for about 3 years. You're so far ahead of the game Trent. Thank you for this video, it's wonderful to have validation to how I feel & what I've been doing. Those kinds of people won't let go easy. 'Make the world accept your greatness!' I LOVED THAT!
We are responsible for letting people treat us that way, we already know who they are but we still expect a lot from them and give them that opportunity to run over us.
Trent this video made me cry. I'm going through a break up and I was lied to, spoken down to, disrespected and still had hope for this person to change. And nothing changed. It brought tears to my eyes because I grew mad at myself and said " I allowed it" so now I have to forgive myself. It just sucks so bad when someone says they love you but yet they aren't showing you they do by changing their poor habits. Thanks for this video. Pray for me. 🙏🏻
Very relatable. I let my ex hurt me... I ignored the signs of who she really was and only looked at the potential. Not her fault for who she was at the time, I should have known better!
@@ashleysays3389 yes and no. People can only change if they see their ways aren't healthy or right. But you can't change someone. I've learn to accept people as is. It's nice to hope that people will change into someone you want them to be but you'll just get hurt if you try
You gotta meet people where they are and not where you think they can be. It's taken many years but I've come to accept this about 8 years ago. Still rings true. If they say "I'm toxic.... I'm a heart breaker... I've lost so many friends." etc.... believe them. You can still stand by them and support them to be a better person but you don't have to have them be an active participant in your life on your level when they haven't reached it yet!
Nobody can hurt your heart without your permission that has happened to me too many times for trusting people I should have never trusted! Straight up!!!
Thank you for this. I try to give my all in friendships and family-ships. Someone once said stop crossing oceans for folks who would not cross a puddle for you. Love the comment "stop putting people in roles that they are not capable of filling". No truer words spoken.
One of the most powerful statements I've ever heard is exactly what you quote here, "When someone consistently shows you who they are, you better believe them." Well put. Thank you for that reminder.
What an incredible young man you are. I’m 73, and I totally appreciate your message. I’m so happy I found this message today! Thank you dear. Amazing, and you have a beautiful day. Beautiful message! You be Blessed. 🕊🙏♥️🙋♀️
This is all facts! I recently was forced to end a six year relationship due to her lying and cheating. I knew she wasn't right for me from the beginning cause God was giving me signs but my heart was at war with my mind and I refused to see her for who she was until this last time where I finally ended it. It's heartbreaking to know people you love can do you so badly and then move on as if they never cared to begin with but in the end it's a blessing in disguise.
I FEEL YOU MY FRIEND! I LEFT MY EX FOR CHEATING AND LYING AS WELL! HIS LOST NOT MINE, AND SAME FOR YOU IT'S HER LOST! MAY GOD BLESS US ALL AND LEAD US TO OUR TRUE HAPPINESS WITH THE RIGHT PERSON! BEST WISHES TO YOU! ✌♥️
I tried to help someone and it hurt me so bad that they walked all over me. I needed to see this I won’t stop helping people but I need to work on my expectations this helped me SO MUCH thank you thank you!!
This just made me realize,, If we could ever get past the point of just looking at the cover of the book and actually start looking at the content sooner. We get so caught up in looks, clothes, hobbies, etc. that we are so blinded to their internal characteristics. Then we can't see the reality until it's too late. Then it's our own fault. Stereotypes and expectations!! Thank you for this. I really needed it.
Needing this loosing friendships left and right. Friends I’ve been with since elementary school. I’m done being hurt by others currently running to my highs solo.
Amen, I am proud enough to say that I am looking towards and my faith is the Lord Jesus Christ because no one, not even myself can shift the whole situation in my life. So, I am here to say Thank you Lord For Everything And Everyone Else To Be A Little Bit Better Than The The Yesterday.
Wow! Straight up. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I just went through a divorce and on the up and up. I experienced a lot of disappointment and pain but this video helps me take responsibility for allowing unacceptable behavior. God is good. Living with God standards now. This video is on point! Thank you. God bless you!
@@melissasteinbok8565 my relationship didn't work. I made a bad choice and learned a lot but I know a lot of people in great relationships. Saying they never work simply isn't true. If you chose to stay single then great, as long as you are happy.
Mine is my oldest sister. Every time I try again I get burned for the last 30 years! I kept giving her another chance then another...... We can't get along because she is "always right" even when she's in the wrong and she has a narcissistic personality. My psychologist told me this year to not ever let her in my life again. She will never change and will always be toxic to me. Ever since I broke off I've been at peace. No more BS! Thank you for this video. It really helped clarify everything.
So true. The sooner everyone demands the respect they deserve, the sooner others can be held to be accountable for whom they are or aren't. Blessings, love & peace 🙏💗🌍
Gotta keep your guard up. Thank you for the reminder I know we need to be told that time and time again because as humans we tend to let people hurt us over and over and don't even realize what we're doing 😥
This popped up out of nowhere, but it's like you've looked into a part of my life and told me exactly how to handle it. Subscribed. Thanks my dude 🙌🏾💛🥺
Wow I don't know what to say. I'm in a very messed up situation and I know its Gods way of letting me know its not meant to be. I love this person so so much. There's nothing I wouldn't do for him. But at the end of the day I'm left feeling empty,sad,confused,hurt,unloved and so angry. I cried today so hard a couple of yes from hurt feelings and a broken heart and I had to deal with it on my own because that's how off our relationship has got. What do I do?
If someone shows you who they are believe them!!
Amen
....every bit of the 365 24/7 to view
I totally agree.
Amen💯
🌻⭐🥀shame on you.. shame on me🤗🐎🐎🐎
Damage people , hurt people ......you can’t fix someone who’s broken !!!!
Only they can as you have to yourself were all broken on some level but some will never change until life breaks them they get angry and change
Period
Jesus Christ can fix you🙏🙏
Amen
@Denisha Garrett you're so right!! I know now my recent ex girlfriend is "damaged" and I can't fix her. I've tried so hard to help her see things differently...we would argue n fight alot. Even when I showed her the truth about something, she still would not believe me. Instead she would believe and say the opposite all the time. She has manipulated me so much and broke me heart. I know now who she really is!
:-(
Lord, he's speaking DIRECTLY to ME!!!! I take full accountability for letting ppl hurt me!!!
Amen
You got to run past them let them go... Give them what they want let them have their own life.... Be nice but just go off.... At this point in life being nonchalant is the way to go...
So do I !!!! 🙌🏽👌🏽🔥💯 AMEN PRAISE THE LORD !!!
Same 💯
"Nobody can break your heart twice without your permission". I had never heard that before but that struck a chord with me. Very wise words
I agree with you 100%
Can't give permission when you've seen the first time guard that heart💯❤️
@@Summerrains67 it make me wonder what is wrong with me to except having my heart broken over and over and over again. Smh
Awesome
I agree 💯💯 sure
The same person that broke you cannot fix you. I love you all. Stay strong.
Facts! Never let someone show you more than once they don't love you anymore... 37 yrs, just .... gone....
Depend on yourself because at the end of the day yourself cannot let you down. Trust yourself and only yourself.
Yes
Actually we can let ourselves down, I’ve done it. There’s one who never disappoints me His name is Jesus
Well said✌
💯
Correct
I wish someone told me this decades ago. Let people earn more trust, one level at a time.
Strength up bro
Aman,Aman, Aman
Amen to that.
@@andreabarnes5879 yes
Foreal tho
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them"
Maya Angelou
Show me who you are please!!! R.I.PMaya Angelou
This is probably the wisest thing Angela mayu has ever said. Not a big fan of her new age beliefs but she got this one right!
@@roseasher9487 I haven't read her new beliefs. I'm afraid of NEW peeerrriiiaatt these days.. 😳
i needed this comment♡︎♡︎♡︎
I look at how people
treat other's, it an
indicator on how they
will treat me.
Facts
Well said
Very well said
Exactly!!
That's good idea. Cos they might do it to you if they gossip to you or bad behaviour
Nobody can break your heart twice without your permission
FACTS
💯💯💯💯💯
True
Thats real
AMEN TO THAT!👍✌
Guard your heart, protect your peace, protect your life
So tired of forgiving and waiting for someone to change themselves and blaming me for their toxic behaviour.
Their options are either blame you or blame themselves. And rarely are they able to see themselves as the cause, so the only other option is you. Be blessed dear.
I agree honey keep going you smart god got you remember that
Girl you better say it. I’m with you on that.
god says to forgive them. he will be your defender.keep been sweet and do not tarnish your soul. let them go its the best revenge!
@@kittygatotv3885 Amen... You definitely said a mouth full. Letting them go is the best revenge.
That’s Maya Angelou. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. That is so much easier said than done, but it’s FACTS.
Yes
AMEN!SORIGHT! YES INDEED!! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
It's only hard because you making it hard.
Yep, yep, yep!
Yeah…I tried that 6 times and all I got was betrayal when someone showed me who they were I believed them but it didn’t work out…🖤
I needed to hear this today. I’ve met this guy and he told me he didn’t want a relationship with me but then made me video of how much he missed me thinking about me more than I’ll ever know. I just walked away
Kudos!
Run Queen 👸🏼✅
Aww, it's tough but so are you!
Im kinda in the same situation but im the guy in this case. Its because he has been so hurt before and when he tries to be in a relationship and move on he thinks that he is going to get hurt again so he holds back. Hes scared thats all. But he does miss you when he says he does. Its hard to explain but in my situation i told the girl to go and be happy with someone because i feel like i am holding her back with me not being ready yet. But she insists on trying to wait around for me but i feel bad i wish she would just move on because idk how long its gonna be until i am ready
@@drewvalenz2721 why wouldn’t you pursue the girl, how could you let her go be with someone else if you like her? I don’t get that. I could bear to see the person I love be with someone else
Observe How people treat themselves 🔑 .
Exactly! 💯 The way they treat themselves, is how they're gonna treat others.
1000%
Yesssss so true Amen
Facts
came in just in time..i’ve literally been experiencing this with friendship and relationships..ppl are so cruel and full of themselves now..
I understand where you are coming from totally. I pray as we release those not qualified...GOD will bring the real ones...Straight up! This message is on time.
@@themilkaint4free thank you so much !!
That’s a fact. @Ciara B
Stumbled across this at a time when I really needed to hear this the most ♥️😭.thank you
👋me to love👋
Honestly me too. I’m not sure why or how this was “recommended to me”, but I’m so grateful that it was.
Me too
"Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes." Ephesians 6:11
Amen 🙇♀️
Amen 🙏
Amen
Praise god ❤️
I pray that every day 🙏
When someone shows you who they are believe them
~Mya Angelou
You got that right
Amen. Amen.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE2021
Exactly!! 👏
Never rescue a snake,it's their nature to bite u.. I learn the hard way. Thank you Trent may God continue to bless and keep you to inspire us broken ppl.
Fact 👑🔥
Guard your heart. Protect your peace! 2021... Change is necessary! Sometimes people have hidden agendas. Watch, listen and learn. They will always show you.
@nlr rln I Will Most Definitely Keep My Eye's & Ears Open , Take Care Be Safe & Stay Blessed❤️
@@bettabelieveit34 Thank you! I appreciate your kindness! Be Blessed!❣️
Your definitely right I'm going through a heartbreak
@@madannanoble3986 I've been there. Distract yourself with things you like to do and time will do the rest for you.
Love this
Straight up! I've had unfair expectations of a person in my life. I see, now, that this person isn't capable of being in the position I have placed them in. That's on me, not them, because even though I see their potential; they are either unwilling or incapable of changing.
I’m teaching myself that as well with some relatives and some friends too. When people show you who they are, it’s best to trust your gut feeling when something isn’t right. That’s why you gotta cut them off and do you
Same here.
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You said that so very very well. You spoke my mind.
I'm in that situation right now 😔 I'm emotionally and mentally tired!! I can never do or say anything right. I try so hard but it's not good enough. I'm a prisoner in my own home 💔 I choose to not go anywhere without him or my little girls cause when I would leave by myself to go to the store I'd come back to him having an attitude with me and talking to me like a dog. He lives in my home and pays for nothing smh I'm going through so much and have been for over 3 years now. He's very disrespectful to me especially when he doesn't get his way. I wanna believe he'll change, I wanna believe he truly loves me, etc.. but I'm still waiting to feel those things from him.
When they ain't qualify for the position don't give them the promotion. I hear you brother👏
I'm an empath and tend to overthink, when someone says or does something hurtful to me with or without intent I feel it, whether I know them or not. I'd be hurt for like a minute or two. I realized that it doesn't hurt, that's just the feeling of disappointment from me thinking that you'd know better than to do or say something of that nature. So its never hurt I feel, just disappointment.
So true. ❤️
I'm the same way, so your comment resonates deeply with me..
@@moonsbeautifulsoul9666 Facts, just learning to innerrstand that however someone makes me feel most likely how they feel about themselves or whatever caused them to feel that way. It's always deeper than what it appears. Im glad you can relate 👍
@@BuddaGheeski Very well said!! Just last month I was the recipient of some very harsh & unnecessary words, from a person I've been nothing but kind to. After the situation exploded on a group text simply because I was asking clarifying questions about an upcoming girls trip. I quickly realized that what took place was way deeper & had to do with something I had no knowledge of.
True
This is exactly what I'm going through. I've been with this guys for five years. Did everything for him. Gave him support. Gave him a child. This guy has cheated on me multiple times and when I find out about the things he does. He never stops. He just continues cheating. Now I see I've been giving him chances to hurt me again and again. It's all on me. I've been expecting him to be the person he's not. He's a serial cheater . That's all. I'm about to stand up and stop him from hurting me. Thanks Trent. Your videos are building me.
Get into Derrick Jaxn work!! He is on RUclips.
U go precious 💖 lov U and yur baby first afta GOD run from that cheater dont let him hurt u anymore im soo proud of u it starts n yur Mind then u speak it now just do it BOOM 💥💥💥
Going through the same thing.
Going through same thing....
Yes ma'am. Leave that situation because you will suffer in the end. Take care of yourself first and then your child.
His eyes are staring into my Soul
He's speaking facts. Having high expectations of others is imprudent and unwise.
Yesss cuzo 🗣
I always try to remember the saying - ‘when someone shows you who they are, believe them’. Sometimes we see the potential in people that they don’t see in themselves. - straight up! -
Straight up 1
💯❤
Yesssssss!💛
Straight up...don't put unfair expectations on people
Please pray for my daughter! She was sexually abused when she was little and told the family when she outted the person at 23. She's now 52 and has been married 5 times and they ALL still love her and she just can't be with anyone. She is so damaged and hurt it's difficult to watch her every day! She's the sweetest person and is so hurt and can't handle anyone trying to love her. Please pray for my child, thank you so much!
@linda lambert Prayers for your daughter 🙏 ❤ 💓 💗
May the almighty heal your daughter from the inside out in the name of Jesus
I pray your daughter gets better
🙏🕯️🛐📿🤲😢
Ima pray for her
We have to change ourselves and take our power back.
Yes
Exactly!
Can I get a WITNESS? We always trying to change someone, we need to change self!!! Speak the truth brother!
Never rescue a snake...its in his nature to bite you!
Whew Lord
Amen! Not qualified
@articia harrington Well that sounds all good n heartfelt but you missing one important key factor.....with all due respect you ain't Jesus! But you will need to call Him when you get bit. Js🤷🏽♀️
@articia harrington First off this is my post so dont comment if you cant handle facts. I don't know why you feel judged by my comment, that must be something internal going on. Anywho I'm not here to chop you down, that was not the intent. Secondly.....well good luck with that, I wish you all the best 🙏🏽
I’m xcj
Been in a two years old relationship thought me to love myself. It’s hurt for me to walk away cause I still love him, but at the end of the day, am glad I choose my peace over everything.
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Your strength is empowering
I am dealing with the same thing
@@jesulapierre9185 it’s gonna take time but things will fall into place gradually. Sending you hugs 🤗
I needed to hear this
The person I believed who was a decent was not worthy of my respect. I got betrayed because of my poor judgement. Putting him in a position that he didn't deserve.
"If I cut you off, chances are you handed me the knife". I've got to say goodbye to someone who has stolen from me.....she has changed over the past 3 months. I have to let her go, even though it is hard.
This message was like a hard slap in the face.. But I NEEDED it to stop giving toxic people chance after chance and giving them a top place in my life ! 🙏✨❤
Me too!!!
They cannot have the VIP seat view in your life, they must be sent back to the regular seat with other outsiders.
I did this mistake hoping to see dem changed but at each time I was their prey if someone shows you his real face trust him.
@@torokopita2763 I made the same mistake
I am with you on behalf of your statement.
Took me 10 years with a family member. I miss them. Life is less stressed
Don’t expect nothing from others and keep moving ..if you have to be alone to do so then let it be
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Exactly
Its because you really want to believe in others goodness. And your heart always pays the price.
😢❤
Very, true it always haeto me 😢
My husband died a few months ago at 44. I’m young with two kids and my expectation was that people would support me. Guess what? Very few people were there for the long haul. What a great video and thank you for spreading this message. I could have saved myself a world of hurt. My husband was always there for me and I can’t expect someone else to replace him.
I'm sorry to hear that my dear, all will be well.
When I had everything i had lots of friends ..when I had nothing they were long gone .When my life fell apart with loss \pain \suffering only God was there..
Same... Im stuck at my parents with a 2 month old, 1year old, 2 year oldand an 8 year old and have no support. My mom doesn't live here she is a travel nurse and mydad can't handle the kids. Im actually a nurse, an lpn, and trying to find child care because honestly my friends and family cant help. I'll figure it out I did before when it was just me and my oldest child on our own in a new city....just takes time...
Good luck with everything 🙏
I’m so sorry for your loss! You will get through this. The people who love you the most will be there for you, the rest will fade like video says. God Bless you and your family, God will send the right people to help you, pray 🙏🏼
I cried so hard watching this...., I really needed to listen to this message :(
Me too
Me too
I really needed to hear this also..I jus experience a situation n trust me huh...god u no I needed to hear this tonight
I'm not expecting anything from anyone.
I just keep my distance and go about my own life✌
I can say that you are absolutely right I did exactly just that, accepting someone who constantly cheated. Happy single 2 1/2 yrs
BADLY NEED THIS ADVICE AT THIS MOMENT. I KEPT GIVING CHANCES TO PEOPLE THAT CONSTANTLY HURTING ME OVER AND OVER AGAIN. AND AFTER FORGIVING, THEY DO IT AGAIN. AND THE CYCLE JUST REPEATING.
Spend time alone like take a walk think about God how he can do what our true hearts desires I know haters will never win don't let people get in your mind. Feel it 100%
Just stop. Cut ties
Stay strong and keep your head on swivel you will be OK I promise
Me too I seem to hurt myself this way straight up ty
@@prettykee6467 keep your head up you are worthy
So true they're not your true friends. I asked God to remove toxic ppl from my life. But I knew I had to change my ways also.
He is SO RIGHT!!! I do this all the time...put unfair expectations on people and keep going back and getting hurt again...walking around bitter and broken so I get it and i'm going to do my best to change course...thank you Trent( much love for the post)
I've had to disconnect from my sisters because of them taking advantage of me. I was born a giver and they knew it. The chosen one is looked at as the black sheep in the family.
Yes ma'am
I can definitely relate to your situation...its sad when your family do this.
I can relate
Can totally relate
The story of my life
Some of my friends and family members are toxic . i am done , Lord knows i tried . i have to stop being giving to ppls that are not worthy of my time and energy . i hear im your family , yea , ok , but i been selfless . im done , time to move on , guard self at all costs . sometimes strangers are more kind then family . Respect urself , love ur self , push on . Stop ths blame game . 💯
Yes i agree totally
Yesssssss.
Relatable, each time I cry bc I feel hurt in my heart. Right now once more I'm so angry again holding myself back other wise I will rent him he's an asshole and being dismissive to me bc I told him I wanted to hug him.
He replied: you can't now, I am tested positive for Corona.
Okay I understand his point but my pain is the rejecting attitude as if he dislikes me.
I replied: I just said it bc I care about you, u will hug you in my thoughts.. His reply :
Please my leg is hurting bad I'm not in a
good mood.
Me: I'm just being sweet to you take it as a medicine. I will leave you alone then.
His: thanks
I'm going to cry under the shower and move on. Removed his number.
I feel pain bc he tends to reject me in a rude way without any feeling but he also doesn't want to lose me.
I have to make up my mind now. I mean I understand if he's ill and concerned needs some space but it's the way you communicate it. I can't change him and the way he interacts.
Anger is often a sign that we are mistreated.
Emotions have a function.
How do you switch of the flow of love in your heart It feels like he's attached to me like a siamese twin.
I'm so angry 😡and hurt.
Confused as well if it's me. No. He's simply on another level but I would never tell someone I like to leave me alone when I would feel bad or had a situation.
I'm also feel he treats me like the last important person in his life.
Enough is enough.
I have to let it, him go.
I ever chased him.
He normally contacts me. I just spoke to him from my heart bc I missed him.
I'm writing it here bc I need to get it out other wise I will send him an angry test.
Yep
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 your better than that and you can and will find a friend who vaules you those kind of people have no place in our lives,those kind don't deserve to be in your presence, God bless you always
i’ve tried many of days and nights thinking my pain they were causing would end, that one day i would see happiness in life again, but i’m going to start accepting that’s who they are
Facts💯. I needed to hear this right now! Coincidence is Gods way of remaining anonymous
Ur phone is a form of a I. It listens it feeds u things
GOD brought me here too, I live with a narcissist that is upset that I am getting stronger. But it still is no walk in the park putting up with this type of person.
BRUH!!! You speaking TRUTH! I did the exact same thing for YEARS! Once I finally let go of the expectations, forgave them, but mostly forgave MYSELF. Once that happened, I found inner peace and have been able to have fair, balanced friendships. It has changed my life and my relationships FOREVER!!! Thanks for this video
Amen
Amen
Family will hurt, you over and over again, when you cut them of you are the bad one, so be it let them go.
He is so correct. I’m so hurt in this moment.
Same here. It’s cool tho we will get pass this amen
Praying for your healing
@@sb1234ist me to but its light at the end of the tunnel 🙏🏽
Me too
Lord heal your child in Jesus name amen
I'm an old lady. It took me so long to learn that, like 56 years! I've been practicing this for about 3 years.
You're so far ahead of the game Trent.
Thank you for this video, it's wonderful to have validation to how I feel & what I've been doing. Those kinds of people won't let go easy.
'Make the world accept your greatness!' I LOVED THAT!
Awesome!
And Nobody is gonna protect your neck better than you. Straight up
We are responsible for letting people treat us that way, we already know who they are but we still expect a lot from them and give them that opportunity to run over us.
Facts! If we ignore what we continually see in others, we choose to be fools on purpose. Guard your heart at all cost!!!! Walk away if necessary.
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Straight up! I am done with people saying they enjoy me in the community and then kicking me out. People keep lying to me
Wise words brother Shelton 💪 💯
It’s like the old adage “Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me”
Precisely know when to bow out
Amen,, there's another old saying "fool me once shame on U,, fool me twice it ain't gonna happen ",, BOOM!! 💘
Trent this video made me cry. I'm going through a break up and I was lied to, spoken down to, disrespected and still had hope for this person to change. And nothing changed. It brought tears to my eyes because I grew mad at myself and said " I allowed it" so now I have to forgive myself. It just sucks so bad when someone says they love you but yet they aren't showing you they do by changing their poor habits. Thanks for this video. Pray for me. 🙏🏻
God Bless you! Keep moving forward to better things. I wish you the best! 😊✌
You have such a beautiful heart; make sure to guard it... continuously. Sending a prayer up for you.
@@tiffanyarguello7655 thank you so much for that. I appreciate you. ❤🙏🏻
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
True Talk! “When people show you who they are the first time BELIEVE them!”
I use to allow and tolerate alot but now I put my faith into the Lord and myself to be better by not putting up with nobodys bullshit.
I agree 100% 😊✌
I finally realized that if a person shows you who they are believe them
FACTS
Straight up ...i watch you gives me strength
I Receive this message in the name of Jesus Amen
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Amen with love ❤️
I do too. Whew!
Amen 😊💛
Amen it never gets old.
Message 💯 no one can hurt you twice without your permission! The realest thing yet Guard your heart and peace #Straight-up ✊🏽✊🏽❤️❤️
Maybe there is second time, because the person has learning disability
You are right brother, don't waste your time, wasting your time trying to repair someone who's already broken.
Very relatable. I let my ex hurt me... I ignored the signs of who she really was and only looked at the potential. Not her fault for who she was at the time, I should have known better!
Do you think she’s capable of change? Is that why u said “at the time”?
I was in the same predicament too. We failed that test on character development because we expected them to change but they will never change.
@@ashleysays3389 yes and no. People can only change if they see their ways aren't healthy or right. But you can't change someone. I've learn to accept people as is. It's nice to hope that people will change into someone you want them to be but you'll just get hurt if you try
I always pay attention to how one treats the mom in the family.
Step, adopted or blood.
That's a game changer.
You gotta meet people where they are and not where you think they can be. It's taken many years but I've come to accept this about 8 years ago. Still rings true. If they say "I'm toxic.... I'm a heart breaker... I've lost so many friends." etc.... believe them. You can still stand by them and support them to be a better person but you don't have to have them be an active participant in your life on your level when they haven't reached it yet!
We fall in love with people for whom we expect them to be or wish them to be, but look past what they really are.
Right allowing a person to further damage your heart after they hurt it once
Nobody can hurt your heart without your permission that has happened to me too many times for trusting people I should have never trusted! Straight up!!!
Thank you for this. I try to give my all in friendships and family-ships. Someone once said stop crossing oceans for folks who would not cross a puddle for you. Love the comment "stop putting people in roles that they are not capable of filling". No truer words spoken.
@@bertiehobbs1563 Same Here I Agree as Well❤️
Straight up, I finally got it after 11 year's... Finally walked away from the toxicity...
One of the most powerful statements I've ever heard is exactly what you quote here, "When someone consistently shows you who they are, you better believe them." Well put. Thank you for that reminder.
What an incredible young man you are. I’m 73, and I totally appreciate your message.
I’m so happy I found this message today! Thank you dear. Amazing, and you have a
beautiful day. Beautiful message! You be Blessed. 🕊🙏♥️🙋♀️
This message came to me in perfect time in my life. I've been so sad and heartbroken for several days. Thank you. God bless you
I’ve been this way lately, hope you are doing better
You RESPONDED to the right one he will help you through what ever you going through
WE LOVE YOU TRENT SHELTON..SO TRUE AS ALWAYS..YOU ARE SO RIGHT... AWESOME JOB 👍
This hit home so hard . 😔. It’s crazy I said something regarding this today to my ex .
This is all facts! I recently was forced to end a six year relationship due to her lying and cheating. I knew she wasn't right for me from the beginning cause God was giving me signs but my heart was at war with my mind and I refused to see her for who she was until this last time where I finally ended it. It's heartbreaking to know people you love can do you so badly and then move on as if they never cared to begin with but in the end it's a blessing in disguise.
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Hallelujah
I FEEL YOU MY FRIEND! I LEFT MY EX FOR CHEATING AND LYING AS WELL! HIS LOST NOT MINE, AND SAME FOR YOU IT'S HER LOST! MAY GOD BLESS US ALL AND LEAD US TO OUR TRUE HAPPINESS WITH THE RIGHT PERSON! BEST WISHES TO YOU! ✌♥️
Been there done that. Where are the people who dont play games with your heart? Somebody tell me please.
I'm trying to do the same
I tried to help someone and it hurt me so bad that they walked all over me. I needed to see this I won’t stop helping people but I need to work on my expectations this helped me SO MUCH thank you thank you!!
I feel this! This year has been such an eye opener for me.💔God take the wheel please. I wish I heard this years ago.
Girl me too. I wish I would’ve knew that in middle school would’ve saved me a lot of heartache & pain. 😭
hi ! i'm Irvin. Where are you located ?
Am telling u I always see these videos too late
@@irvinjr41 Florida
"Start trusting people for -who -they -are"
Oh my Lord!!! You are so right!! It's my son and his family!!! Thank you young man!! This is so true!! Stay blessed!!!
This just made me realize,, If we could ever get past the point of just looking at the cover of the book and actually start looking at the content sooner. We get so caught up in looks, clothes, hobbies, etc. that we are so blinded to their internal characteristics. Then we can't see the reality until it's too late. Then it's our own fault. Stereotypes and expectations!! Thank you for this. I really needed it.
Needing this loosing friendships left and right. Friends I’ve been with since elementary school. I’m done being hurt by others currently running to my highs solo.
Me too. Down to none😥
losing**
Same, girl. Same.
Here too.
Today’s friend is tomorrow’s enemy. Never tell people anything that can get you in trouble. Keep it to yourself.
We are in THE LAST DAYS... PERILOUS TIMES! LOOK TO GOD ALONE!!!
Amen, I am proud enough to say that I am looking towards and my faith is the Lord Jesus Christ because no one, not even myself can shift the whole situation in my life. So, I am here to say Thank you Lord For Everything And Everyone Else To Be A Little Bit Better Than The The Yesterday.
Not alone baby Kk
I have the entire ALPHABET to work with tho ;)
I don't think you love her?!
@@sandravaughan7830 beautiful said
Wow! Straight up. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I just went through a divorce and on the up and up. I experienced a lot of disappointment and pain but this video helps me take responsibility for allowing unacceptable behavior. God is good. Living with God standards now. This video is on point! Thank you. God bless you!
Why did you get married these relationships just don't work im never getting married to much stress
@@melissasteinbok8565 my relationship didn't work. I made a bad choice and learned a lot but I know a lot of people in great relationships. Saying they never work simply isn't true. If you chose to stay single then great, as long as you are happy.
Im sorry for saying that I hope remarry but with everything I have gone through im staying by myself
@@melissasteinbok8565 embrace being single and being happy alone and if you meet the right guy then great. ❤
Thanks same to you
Mine is my oldest sister. Every time I try again I get burned for the last 30 years! I kept giving her another chance then another...... We can't get along because she is "always right" even when she's in the wrong and she has a narcissistic personality. My psychologist told me this year to not ever let her in my life again. She will never change and will always be toxic to me. Ever since I broke off I've been at peace. No more BS! Thank you for this video. It really helped clarify everything.
This is one of the hardest lessons in life to learn... Thank you!! ❤️🐾
Dealing with this my whole life with my sister. No more.
You can say that AGAIN!! Enough is ENOUGH!!
Me TOO 😥
Me too...what is messed up is that she is my only sister. I don't want anything to do with people like these...they are super toxic.
@@madelynnazario8361 same here. But we can only deal with people as they are, not what we wish them to be.
STRAIGHT UP! YOU SPEAK THE TRUTH & NOTHING BUT FACTS AND GENUINE TRUTH.
So true. The sooner everyone demands the respect they deserve, the sooner others can be held to be accountable for whom they are or aren't. Blessings, love & peace 🙏💗🌍
Gotta keep your guard up. Thank you for the reminder I know we need to be told that time and time again because as humans we tend to let people hurt us over and over and don't even realize what we're doing 😥
This popped up out of nowhere, but it's like you've looked into a part of my life and told me exactly how to handle it. Subscribed.
Thanks my dude 🙌🏾💛🥺
Yeah I Just got Attacked From A Stranger (verbally), I'm Strong, But It Still Made Me Cry. Prayers
Straight up this was a perfect video in perfect timing
Wow I don't know what to say. I'm in a very messed up situation and I know its Gods way of letting me know its not meant to be. I love this person so so much. There's nothing I wouldn't do for him. But at the end of the day I'm left feeling empty,sad,confused,hurt,unloved and so angry. I cried today so hard a couple of yes from hurt feelings and a broken heart and I had to deal with it on my own because that's how off our relationship has got. What do I do?
@@tabithan.pentecost9252 leave asap ....he's draining you and your draining your spiritual energy picking yourself up and it's not going to stop