Front seat or side chick ??the answer is shocking!!! | Nicola Melhado | Fast Lane Lifestyle

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  • Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2024

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  • @MarvCam42
    @MarvCam42 Год назад +83

    As a Counsellor, I tell my clients that all the time. No one "completes" anyone, it should be 2 complete people coming together to create a healthy union. Spouses complement, not complete each other. Also, happiness is a choice; a choice you make for yourself, your partner cant make you happy. People love chat bout my "other half" as I guess it sounds good, but in this equation, 2 halfa persons nuh meck 1. What works is 2 complete, emotionally healthy human beings coming together to share their lives with each other.

    • @davedonaldson6213
      @davedonaldson6213 Год назад +4

      So well said an so true blessings

    • @terahsmith4762
      @terahsmith4762 Год назад +2

      Thats really really so so true... Bless u both and the reast of family. Let no one put u both assunder or tear u both apart, thats the words and way of the Lord God Almighty.

  • @tedserrant3536
    @tedserrant3536 Год назад +9

    “No two relationships look alike but love and happiness look the same.” Word!!

  • @naturallivingbyenovi
    @naturallivingbyenovi Год назад +41

    I think every young woman who has Mrs. Melhado as a friend is very fortunate and blessed for the opportunity to be mentored by her ❤

    • @mooreflava
      @mooreflava Год назад +5

      I agreed 💯. She dropped so many little gems and I was like oh boy it's like 3things in an argument I'm definitely doing wrong 😂

    • @marciaheadley9933
      @marciaheadley9933 Год назад +4

      Absolutely correct. Blessings

  • @kevinlawrence239
    @kevinlawrence239 Год назад +17

    We need more conversations like this with Nicola......her messaging is solid....good mentor

  • @azeleahsmith772
    @azeleahsmith772 Год назад +41

    I commend nicola's raw and blunt honesty and motivation to encourage others in their everyday life relationships and marriages i love alyshia and asafa and the fact that they understood, communicates and encourage each other and not just in their marriage but around their kids , peers , family and ofcourse us their followers this union is blessed abundantly 😍

  • @mellinktv3127
    @mellinktv3127 Год назад +21

    Love her energy, and vybz. She needs her own channel.

  • @sandramccall4598
    @sandramccall4598 Год назад +6

    Please bring back this lady and her husband..great conversation.

  • @izlandsisterztv8792
    @izlandsisterztv8792 Год назад +8

    “You alone can make you happy” A word! Wisdom

  • @chontaewhyte6217
    @chontaewhyte6217 Год назад +21

    We need to have more of these conversations.

  • @prudencewellington2956
    @prudencewellington2956 Год назад +10

    This lady needs to come back 💯👌👍👏.real talk 💯

  • @krgkreations3414
    @krgkreations3414 Год назад +9

    So true, I do not use profanity and will not tolerate anyone using it towards me. We have our disagreement, but still must remain respectful.

  • @randaleestanbury
    @randaleestanbury Год назад +12

    I love how Mrs. Melhado is insightful and I definitely enjoyed every minute of this episode. I listened attentively and I took away some gems from this amazing conversation. I would love to be married for over 30 years and more 1 day. Also I have to say that Asafa you married an eloquent and beautiful wife and I have watched all your videos on RUclips. I wish nothing but the best for your family and continue to portray your love so that others can be encouraged to do the same ❤

    • @AsafaAlyshiaPowell
      @AsafaAlyshiaPowell  Год назад +2

      💗

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 Год назад +3

      It's not the years of marriage but the quality of marriage. I know people married for 40 plus years who are together and the outside world admired them but they don't know the reason they are staying together is because they would be in the poor house if they are divorced but they live in separate wings of the house. Some people live in long marriages until one dies but it was an unhealthy relationship.
      Never look at the length of someone's marriage with desire or envy. Develop the person you want to become and choose a person who is fulfilled but willing to grow with you. What that looks like will be your own individual relationship.

  • @leonietaylor7054
    @leonietaylor7054 Год назад +27

    I can tell you first hand what "WIVES "!!!! (not sketells ) bring to the table.Carrying your babies for 9 months with morning sickness ,swollen face and ankles ,hypertension and suffer like an animal to push the kid out.She also breast feeds ,pump milk all day long ,change diapers and get very little sleep.She has periods every month and suffers cramps,cravings and moodiness.She also cooks for the family,does the laundry while keep the home neat and clean.She keeps the kids clean,takes them to the dentist,take them for their shots and love on them.She reads to the kids,prays with them,read the bible with them and instill good morals. She helps with home work and piano pratice or violin lessons.She also brings love,respect and honour for her husband to the table. She also encourages the husband and is his confidante and his best friend .She also brings to the table sleeping with the husband whenever he demands.There is waaay more that a WIFE brings to the table but we could go on all day.REMEMBER MOST WIVES TOOK CARE OF THEMSELVES BEFORE MEN ASKED FOR THEIR HAND IN MARRIAGE.Marrige is a beautifull institution if entered into with God,counseling and love and respect for each other.❤❤❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 Год назад +2

      No dear, if I could I would show you how some wives keep their homes. It's a pig sty. The type of wives you described are few these days. Women aren't learning how to cook and maintain house anymore and the modern men have no standards. They will lay up in a house with a slob. Some leave and the women never tells that her house was a pig sty.
      These women are different.

    • @sclarke869
      @sclarke869 Год назад

      I second this: some women are extremely nasty to say the least. Their environment is always chaotic and dirty,and their children lazy -right here in Jamaica.

  • @EARTHAOSBOURNE
    @EARTHAOSBOURNE Год назад +12

    Love the ending of this conversation. Two people in a intimate relationship particularly "marriage" should be comfortable with each other, comfortable enough to be able to flirt i.e., pinch caress, kiss, hug, hold hands anywhere whether at home or publicly; that is important in a relationship. Trust and understanding, forgiveness, caring, liking and loving, accepting bad habits and flaws because no one is perfect and just being friends looking out and caring for each other is important.

  • @carlenejohnson2823
    @carlenejohnson2823 Год назад +12

    I remember when people were bashing u for calling Alyshia bro,like they don't understand that type of friendship in a relationship is so necessary to have, I enjoyed this episode very informative ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kayann1366
    @kayann1366 Год назад +4

    had the pleasure of meeting Mrs. Melhado. She is absolutely lovely! Very down to earth and real! Loved all the gems 💎 she gave!!

  • @nadinelowden545
    @nadinelowden545 Год назад +7

    Fast Lane
    Nailed it again
    Love the vibes

  • @patriciacampbell9780
    @patriciacampbell9780 Год назад +18

    Love Nichola's information regarding her relationship. She spoke about what works for her. I found gems and validation listening to her. Thanks Asafa and Alyshia

  • @jennifersmart4070
    @jennifersmart4070 Год назад +21

    One can only make you happier. Happiness depends on oneself. Love this discussion ❤

  • @ag1260
    @ag1260 Год назад +12

    Wow I could sit and listen this discussion all day again u guys started something really amazing

  • @AriAnnaMommyWorld
    @AriAnnaMommyWorld Год назад +1

    I've often seen Nicola on varied social media stories or videos just dancing, laughing and living and been drawn to her. Now to hear her talk I'm just wowed......her words are indeed words of wisdom.

  • @amarshawilliams6127
    @amarshawilliams6127 Год назад +5

    Your guest is so amazing.do get her back on the show I DO LOVE HER🥰

  • @monicamclean2906
    @monicamclean2906 Год назад +12

    Alyshia looks so extra pretty today.

    • @AsafaAlyshiaPowell
      @AsafaAlyshiaPowell  Год назад

      Thank you

    • @marjoriewright
      @marjoriewright Год назад

      Why does of you women are always exposing your body.The Muslim women don’t why are her thighs so exposed

  • @enelracllebpmac5356
    @enelracllebpmac5356 Год назад +4

    Love this podcast. Nicola nails it. Bring her back.

  • @DrNR-pw6co
    @DrNR-pw6co Год назад +9

    I'm Jamaican born raised living in the US for a number of years and my husband and I raised our son to understand it's not just a man's responsibility to bring something to the table. It is just as important for a woman to brings something to the table; values, normals, her drive, vision and purpose. Though we live in another country we hold to our Jamaican roots and we both bring something to the table that is what i grew up seeing to my yound adult years. In turn our son has seen us achieve in many ways as well as he has seen us both stretch beyond our comfort zone as we grew. It is key to know you and your partner as you evolve individually as the years go you are still committed to a vision and purpose for your relationship and family.
    Points to know: your marriage is only a piece of the puzzle in God's plan for you....( it's not the whole picture)
    In arguments never go below the belt. Wounds created by the words you speak take longer to heal.
    Say what you mean and mean what you say.
    Love is not an emotion.
    Keep God at the foundation of all you do and go through. He knows the beginning and the end of everything.
    Having martial/ marriage mentors do help.

  • @barbarahylton1869
    @barbarahylton1869 Год назад +7

    Such a profound discussion You need a part 2 If Couples of all ages listen attentively ,they will get nuggets that will enhance (spice) up their relationship

  • @catherinejohnson9500
    @catherinejohnson9500 Год назад +3

    I like the space concept with Nicola. She is honest, unpretentious and real in her approach to relationships. Love the conversation.

  • @gracetennant4982
    @gracetennant4982 Год назад +5

    Front seat or side chick. Am a front seat person. Enjoyed this! Keep up the good work.

  • @krgkreations3414
    @krgkreations3414 Год назад +4

    The kingdom of happiness and satisfaction lies within ourselves. Nobody else is responsible for your happiness, but you. Blessings 🙏🏾 ❤️

  • @jacquelinejones8395
    @jacquelinejones8395 Год назад +11

    Oh my God Nicola is married for 31 year she looks good that's what's love do to you Alyshia and Asafa well done so much information I learn a lot today thanks for inviting us into your space can't wait for part with Nicola I love the part she said only you can make yourself happy because you have to be happy and be in love with yourself before you can love anyone else so thanks again guys for this episode 👍👍👏👏

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 Год назад +1

      Nicola, takes care of herself. It's self love and maintaining her identity while married.
      More women should take care of themselves. Men should too. There are some men who won't even buy new clothes or go to a doctor or dentist. That's so unattractive.

  • @fleurgreen635
    @fleurgreen635 Год назад +19

    Very good conversation and lesson for the next generation thumbs up guys 💓

  • @bernicecooper5272
    @bernicecooper5272 Год назад +5

    Heart warming conversation, needs a part two.Thanks guys.

  • @pathall9757
    @pathall9757 Год назад +9

    I love this conversation so homest , raw, and to the point, you guys touch on most things without and it's enlightening, as women we must be independent for more than one reason, Nicola was really blunt love it❤️❤️

  • @valtimoll8838
    @valtimoll8838 Год назад +16

    Great podcast. Hope a lot of couples watch this segment. Great conversations, i can relate to a lot of what was said. Being best friends make the relationship grow as you can say anything to each other with respect of course. Another is never go to bed vexed and not speaking to each other.
    Love the variety of your podcast. You both have a lifetime in front of a happy and rewarding marriage. Keep working at it.

  • @dalleshaful
    @dalleshaful Год назад +6

    This was so good!🎉 values doesn’t have a age:hence values are timeless and you hold on to your values and standards. Love this 💗

  • @delroyparkins2390
    @delroyparkins2390 Год назад +1

    Dah lady deh boss, she is like medicine, I would sit down and talk to her all day, big her up, you guys are awesome too.

  • @kevinlawrence239
    @kevinlawrence239 Год назад +3

    Love Nicola....strong woman....Peter married a real woman who brings strength

  • @Nivek457
    @Nivek457 Год назад +1

    Mrs Melhado real talk … Having a job is very important in life .. substance over hype … Proper development of a individual begins with having a job no matter what kind of work it is …,

  • @gman5342
    @gman5342 Год назад +6

    Like the video, i hhave been married going to be 29 years this year September. Our "guidlines/ rules" are respect yourself, respect your spouse, respect the relationship and dot put yourself in a compromising situations.

  • @trulysensitive5620
    @trulysensitive5620 Год назад +2

    Congratulations. 31 years WOW.
    Great program Fast lane.

  • @nadinehamilton3719
    @nadinehamilton3719 Год назад +4

    One of my favorite vlog mr and mrs Powel thanks you guys bring her back for part two🥰🥰🥰

  • @venclarke5178
    @venclarke5178 Год назад +1

    Purposely didn't watch this until I know I'd have some quiet, reflective time. All em words need peace n quiet in order for them to hit full effect! Great episode! Keep em coming!

  • @abbabee3957
    @abbabee3957 Год назад +1

    Mrs. Powell the thought of sharing everything is oh so much a blessing. Definitely clears my space and by extension clear the space for both of us.

  • @kleonjennings772
    @kleonjennings772 Год назад +1

    One of the best not-interview podcasts session makes me look at things on a broader spectrum...thanks for this one....

  • @Agnesrich
    @Agnesrich Год назад +4

    This conversation is smooth in the ears, nice flow.

  • @MarvCam42
    @MarvCam42 Год назад +8

    Comprehensive interview. All I would add is not to try to make your relationship what you see from other people's relationships, as that may not be what works for you. Ensure that your relationship is what works for both of you, not what you think it should be, because you see other people doing it.

    • @AsafaAlyshiaPowell
      @AsafaAlyshiaPowell  Год назад +1

      Always

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 Год назад +2

      So true. I was dating someone who kept comparing a couple's relationships to ours and he wish we were like them. I told the guy" that man makes his woman a priority, something you don't do. That man has a job, something you don't have, that man keeps company with men who have a purpose, something you don't do." The women feels safe and secure with him, something I don't feel with you.
      That was the end. I had to tell him so he could improve himself for the next woman.
      When two people are living out their purpose. It brings value to a relationship but the one who is just existing will just be a drag.

  • @maricaplummer5418
    @maricaplummer5418 Год назад +3

    I love relationship and life changing topics , 👍 great job Mr. & Mrs. Powell ... keep the conversation going... blessings

  • @tajah_mae
    @tajah_mae Год назад +1

    I love this episode the most. My relationship is very fresh and I’ll definitely be adding some of these values!

  • @kimberleybarrett4814
    @kimberleybarrett4814 Год назад +2

    This discussion is WHAT I needed.. 34 with 1 child and a husband. But this perspective is greatttt

  • @tripleesspencer1551
    @tripleesspencer1551 Год назад

    I strongly agree with you, Nicola. Watch the words you use when there is a disagreement. They get worse rather than better and the disrespect devalues the relationship.

  • @corlettahamilton3174
    @corlettahamilton3174 Год назад +1

    Very insightful and honest conversation. Excellent topic and guest.

  • @marciamiller5660
    @marciamiller5660 Год назад +3

    I love ❤️ this conversation very informative 👏. It also helps with self evaluation. Please make a part 2 follow up. 🙏 Thanks 😊

  • @zookid4
    @zookid4 Год назад +2

    I would sit down and listen to this queen talk again, it was a great listen thanks again for this episode it was a fantastic 👍🏽💯

  • @denisehopkins4885
    @denisehopkins4885 Год назад +1

    Nicola drop a lot of gems. I never liked the phrase my other half. I am a whole person and must be whole to offer any type of value to myself and by extension some else. Love this discussion. My philosophy now is be true to self and be happy. Keep these discussions coming!

  • @DionneNWest
    @DionneNWest Год назад +4

    I always like hearing Nicola's perspective on things. Always so open wise and insightful. I do think though that being a Home Maker is a job in itself. I appreciate that Alyssa said that she doesn't understand not wanting to work but not everyone is in a situation with work that they enjoy or is suited for the 9 to 5 in the traditional sense. Sone people are just suited to nurturing from a Home Maker perspective. I think there should be room for each person or couple to do what is best and works for them. I do agree that there are situations where the man doesn't want the wife to work and then ends up not liking the dynamic in which case there has to be open and honest conversation. This though can be tricky if this was what both parties were happy with and agreed to at the start. At the end of the day the Home Maker experience is what you make of it. You can be at home and still be productive and impactful. Society sees is generally as lazy. Unfortunately some people fall into that group. At the end of the day if it's for you then it's for you if not not. You also need to be willing to change so if you're Home Maker experience isn't what you though it would be then again a conversation re expectations etc needs to be had. I think we need to be open to people having different experiences and wanting different things. Again I appreciate that Alyssa and Nicola did say that they don't understand it. Great conversation.

    • @AsafaAlyshiaPowell
      @AsafaAlyshiaPowell  Год назад +3

      Yes to each is their own for sure , being a home maker is not easy at all when I am not working that’s my “other job” lol it’s a lot of work . So all due respect to home makers

  • @faroukabubakari4675
    @faroukabubakari4675 9 месяцев назад

    Came across your channel through Wode Maya and I have been soaking your beautiful and insightful contents back to back

  • @drummie1099
    @drummie1099 Год назад +4

    Great podcast! This episode was fantastic! Special thanks to Nicola for sharing. Can we have a part two?

  • @gracetennant4982
    @gracetennant4982 Год назад +5

    Love this.good show. Thats to your guess and yourselves. Two wholes makes and complete a marriage. Thats the motto.❤🙏🏽

  • @DrSevTalksMoney
    @DrSevTalksMoney Год назад +3

    Another great session. Thanks you. Some of this I wish I knew in my younger years. Trying to each my daughter some of this.

  • @nicolesvlog4272
    @nicolesvlog4272 Год назад +1

    ❤ the real, raw and honest conversation

  • @sarnathkerala8160
    @sarnathkerala8160 Год назад +1

    Lovely thoughts, life n love is great around the Mulberry bush x 🇹🇹

  • @keishensimms369
    @keishensimms369 Год назад +1

    Enjoy this conversation guys keep them coming.

  • @candicebennett7123
    @candicebennett7123 Год назад +2

    I honestly enjoyed this conversation. Thanks for the advice.

  • @susanbeckford7302
    @susanbeckford7302 Год назад

    This is the best podcast yet!!!

  • @kimonee
    @kimonee Год назад

    Another AWESOME episode! This wS exceptional--excellent job!

  • @judithwilliamson626
    @judithwilliamson626 Год назад +6

    I love love this podcast. I will certainly take some of the advice given here cause it’s real . Only YOU can make YOU happy. Ty guys for this great podcast and channel. Stay blessed #numberonefan

  • @RampinWonderland
    @RampinWonderland Год назад +5

    Loved this conversation!

  • @janettbell3509
    @janettbell3509 Год назад +2

    I just love this ....i feel absolutely awesome just watching this!!!!❤❤❤❗

  • @marlened8997
    @marlened8997 Год назад +1

    HAPPY 2023 Asafa and Alisha! Wishing you and yours good health and many more successes throughout the year. Another one! Another interesting vlog - spurring deep thoughts and conversations. KUDOS! Thanks for sharing Nicola with us.

  • @elishaloretta1833
    @elishaloretta1833 Год назад +1

    Fuljoying every moment of this podcast is just authentic/intriguing n edifying n thnx alway'z for sharing these contact'z.

  • @patwill26
    @patwill26 Год назад +1

    I love working and contributing to growth

  • @Agnesrich
    @Agnesrich Год назад +2

    Real talk, nobody can make you happy, it's on you

  • @nickym4828
    @nickym4828 Год назад +1

    Gem "13in between"... what is in that space? I have never thought of about it that way. Love it.
    I also think as individuals we have mistaken the value of tangible assets to define "loving ourselves" but never really assessing strip away all the trimmings you afforded yourself and ask do I like this person call "me", who am I? Who am I showing as? Self discovery is a great thing to embrace as individual leading to enhanced "coupling".

  • @bennerwalter9355
    @bennerwalter9355 Год назад

    Beautiful conversation need more of those and you guys made such good points 🤝

  • @TheDelaveaus
    @TheDelaveaus Год назад

    Though i have so much catching up to do i am loving these sit downs.

  • @dioneewbank4379
    @dioneewbank4379 Год назад +1

    I'm in love with da Christmas Tree". 🎄

  • @carltonchristie1467
    @carltonchristie1467 Год назад +2

    👍👍👍👍love the conversations guys, keep it up. Really appreciate the positive talk

  • @EnchantedStringsToronto
    @EnchantedStringsToronto Год назад

    Waiting patiently for tomorrow's podcast. Please and thanks.

  • @Garric210
    @Garric210 Год назад +4

    This was a very informative podcast I truly enjoyed listening to the great vision and insight from you all.
    Thanks to you all I’ve learned a lot today.

  • @viviennecyrus7487
    @viviennecyrus7487 Год назад +1

    I enjoy this! And most of all I learn from this conversation and I so much agree on what was said! pure truth! Real facts! U all done a great job! I was telling one of my co-workers the same thing few days ago! That she can't depend on on one to make her happy! She said her husband! I tell her find happiness for ur self! Yes he can contribute to ur happiness! But don't depend on him!

  • @byfieldbyfield8877
    @byfieldbyfield8877 Год назад

    Thank you Mr. And mrs Powell for this Podcast I love it

  • @bever-leighwisdom5157
    @bever-leighwisdom5157 Год назад

    This was great! Nicola was awesome! A part two is definitely needed with her and her husband ❤️

  • @deloreparnell2841
    @deloreparnell2841 Год назад +2

    I love this conversation. Great job !

  • @sandratomlinson2633
    @sandratomlinson2633 Год назад

    It is a great pleasure to watch your interviews may the good lord continue to bless you all

  • @DonnaJScott
    @DonnaJScott Год назад

    A list of physical attributes is shallow and inconsequential. Outlining the moral values you expect are tangible attributes one should seek after.
    This was an enlightening conversation.

  • @Celia1293
    @Celia1293 Год назад +2

    Wowwwww, love love this interview!!!🤲🏽🤲🏽❤️

  • @anne-mariegayle5410
    @anne-mariegayle5410 Год назад

    All the fast lane you have had this is my favorite....wow awesome 👍 you could please have part two with Mrs melhado..well done

  • @patwill26
    @patwill26 Год назад +2

    Great conversation to stir up ppl thinking.

  • @Yazette
    @Yazette Год назад

    While another person can’t make you happy, it’s important to understand that the other person can take away from your happiness. It’s important to associate yourself with positive non toxic people.

  • @latoyabaker6302
    @latoyabaker6302 Год назад +2

    I love this new format. Both of you guys are good at this.

  • @abbabee3957
    @abbabee3957 Год назад +2

    Nicole, it would be so nice if your knowledge could be shared our young girls in a mentorship kind if way. I tell you, if I had heard some of the things you offered when I was younger some mistakes would have been averted/avoided. However, I don't live in regret. I take the bruises and learn from them. Thanks guys

    • @marjoriewright
      @marjoriewright Год назад

      No she won’t she favours the well off.Would she sit in a yard in say Trench Town.I hope she doesn’t think she isn’t Negro

  • @blakeyp884
    @blakeyp884 Год назад +1

    Awesome, episode….intelligent and beautiful Guest. One love to y’all. ❤❤❤

  • @marvajohnson1955
    @marvajohnson1955 Год назад +2

    Wow I love this video, eye opened .

  • @kevinlawrence239
    @kevinlawrence239 Год назад +1

    Nicola made this session very interesting....I was focused.

  • @nnsawyers9212
    @nnsawyers9212 Год назад +1

    Knowing one's self is most important.... love you learn to appreciate you.... so intern you can love the other person as a whole..#selflove

  • @kanikamcclymont4855
    @kanikamcclymont4855 Год назад +2

    Great conversation guys . And I will keep those tips from Nicola for a lifetime, very simply put but effect. 🙏

  • @victoriabrown302
    @victoriabrown302 Год назад +1

    I love Mrs melhado Vybz she speaks from a true heart before you people get in relationships can get a view of this video you will learn something good from it

  • @shellycasey6847
    @shellycasey6847 Год назад +1

    This was very interesting guys, I would like more conversations like this.

  • @karendouglas2096
    @karendouglas2096 Год назад +3

    Good morning Powells and family 🙏🏼❤

  • @michellegayle356
    @michellegayle356 Год назад

    💯 very encouraging never a dull moment watching 🥰