Modern Relationships are Failing: Self-Preservation, Cheating & Submission vs. Oppression

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  • Опубликовано: 4 фев 2025

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  • @Bawdybybee
    @Bawdybybee Год назад +17

    Whew! The conviction was toooo realllllll! Being in a relationship will show your WORST flaws too (if you decide to be accountable) and yes we don’t fear God bc we treat peopl who we claim we want to be with forever as trash!

  • @Pandas0918
    @Pandas0918 Год назад +31

    Y'all did that! This convo was a friendly reminder that I'm NOT ready to be married because I'm about ME right now. Learning more about my purposes, gifts and talents. I deserve to enjoy the fruits of my labor since finishing university--even if it has been 5 years since graduating! Keep these convos coming, Ladies! This transparency is necessary for the sake of my future relationship/marriage--when the time comes!

  • @halyssagreene5677
    @halyssagreene5677 Год назад +21

    Whew. This episode was so Biblically and intellectually sound. My goodness!! You two ladies are amazing 👏🏾. First just want to thank you for addressing one of my pet peeves. As a licensed therapist the talk around narcissism aggravates my nerves. What people are describing is just selfishness and arrogance. Not actually the personality disorder!! But in regards to relationships as you ladies so elegantly put it. It comes down to a heart issue. I love that you all reflect Christ. He is the first one who loved us. He is the author of what love is. Without Him as your foundation "love" will continue to be fickle and surface.

  • @tacrewgirl
    @tacrewgirl Год назад +19

    35:00 Thanks for speaking on the Moroccan footballer news and how the majority of the articles failed to mention his sexual assault charges.

  • @aakshi.
    @aakshi. Год назад +43

    Moment of silence for how pretty they both look - the hair looks amazingggg Miss Renee! :)

  • @saadisayves
    @saadisayves Год назад +15

    Another, wonderful episode! I am from the US, so please tell me what “knacking?” means? Lol I am only 27, twice married and now on my second divorce process with a 7 and 4 year old, abandoned and traumatized in CA away from all friends and family on the East Coast now for a year and a half (being unable to leave due to legal proceedings, being originally brought here on military orders in 2020 but ex service member spouse left us here 2021). You all are SPOT ON without having to go through these horrible experiences about how men will marry for pure benefit and how many of us as a “Christian feminine fool” will EAT up the facade of “but I’ve got a ring, I’m being “provided for”, and I’m not shaking up!”…I’ve never seen a healthy relationship, never had a father figure, or any positive male figures all my life due to the system. All I had was the church saying what was “right and wrong” to God once you become sexually metamorphic (13,14). Having to go through another marital undoing with another spiteful, controlling and evil hearted misogynist is unfortunate for myself and my children, but your mentioning hope just gave me the strength to go though these unrepresented court proceedings, while the other side continues to hire counsel but leaves us financially despaired. I am also disabled, which as you all stated, will mean nothing at the end of the day when the heart posture of your foreseen “partner” was being cannabalized by all the hidden skeletons in the closet that should have been surrendered to the Most High prior to a DIVINE union. I so deeply wish I would have had you all as a resource long, long ago, especially due to every woman in my life not being able to advise me of any better, as they too had no better and ofc didn’t want anyone to “upstage” their lapsed potential. I pray you all reach MASSES of young women of color such as myself, because these topics are SO SO needed in order to not only continue to survive these spiritually war-fared times but to continue with courage to keep growing and glowing. Love you both so much, I wish you nothing but the BEST. 💌

    • @b4dbiitches
      @b4dbiitches Год назад +1

      Just sending you soo much love and light hun. It is well and you got this 💛💛

    • @Dee___..
      @Dee___.. Год назад +1

      Knacking means s£x lol. Sending you love and light sis. You can and will get through this and GOD will see you through it all sis

    • @IAm_Significant
      @IAm_Significant Год назад

      Woow sending you soo much love! Just know that you are wiser now because you are at a point of acknowledgement with all experiences that will secure you to a beautiful future that is destined for YOU ❤

    • @saadisayves
      @saadisayves Год назад

      @@b4dbiitches thank you so much. 🤍

    • @saadisayves
      @saadisayves Год назад

      @@IAm_Significant I receive that sis. Thank you so much. Love always. 💌

  • @semmi98
    @semmi98 Год назад +12

    Love this. Well, let's invite Adella Afadi as she has been married for some years. That would be an epic episode. ;)

  • @carofantastic
    @carofantastic Год назад +12

    Yall were preaching today! i unsubscribed to aa lot of relationship accounts on social media because they were being so negative. this video has made me look at things in a different perspective and i have hope that i will find my person and now i have to think about the way i will show up in relationships. i've been single for three years and im scared to date lol

  • @melmupariwa5718
    @melmupariwa5718 Год назад +24

    This was so good! It definitely left me with some things to think about regarding myself and how I view relationships. This sisterhood is helping me in so many ways ❤

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  Год назад

      We love to see it! Thank you for stopping by ♥️

  • @nnoyeolisa5191
    @nnoyeolisa5191 Год назад +29

    So much love from South Africa

  • @aohamer
    @aohamer Год назад +4

    Yall betta PREACH!!! 👏🏾 So many great gems in this episode that I strongly agree with. The other relationship advice online is maddening 🤯 I've been married to my husband for 7 years and we've been together over 15 years (since high school). I love that man through & through ❤ I think in a relationship communication is key, but for the world, silence is golden 🤫

  • @mihlaalie
    @mihlaalie Год назад +8

    Wow, you ladies are full of wisdom😭❤ This episode really spoke to me, made me evaluate my heart and soul as I'm engaged to be married this year. This has really made me reflect on how I view relationships and how influenced I am by society's definition of what marriage should be...

  • @nyambolillie4284
    @nyambolillie4284 Год назад +1

    I'm here to say that I listen to you guys while jotting notes down. Yes the conversations are that good! God bless you!!

  • @faylasmith5578
    @faylasmith5578 Год назад +10

    Soooo good! I had to keep pausing the podcast because I was being shook every 15 seconds. Wonderful conversation and biblical interpretation!

  • @Janus10001
    @Janus10001 Год назад +17

    Happy birthday, Courtney, and congratulations to you both on the book!

  • @melissagitts
    @melissagitts Год назад +2

    Speaking from a place of purpose and not pain!!!!🤯

  • @PreciousAmaefule
    @PreciousAmaefule Год назад +3

    Love your hair sisters 🥰 Welcome to 26! We are happy to have you in the mix 😁

  • @xl6672
    @xl6672 Год назад +12

    such words of wisdom ! God bless you two sisters ❤

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  Год назад +1

      We appreciate it! Thank you and amen 🙏🏽 ♥️

  • @PreciousAmaefule
    @PreciousAmaefule Год назад

    Listened to this episode over on Apple Podcast but just ran back here to watch the Ads because this episode is EVERYTHING! The last 20 minutes>>>>

  • @Stoneybv
    @Stoneybv Год назад

    You ladies are very educated and informative. One love 💙

  • @OleratoPharasi
    @OleratoPharasi Год назад

    South African sister marking attendance. Have a blast!! Make sure you make it to Cape Town xx

  • @lydiamoraa92
    @lydiamoraa92 Год назад +4

    This was the best thought provoking and heart changing episode!!❤ From Kenya

  • @jadaw7819
    @jadaw7819 Год назад +2

    Enjoyed this episode so much! Self preservation is definitely killing the girlies and the men!

  • @tomysisters
    @tomysisters  Год назад +7

    Ladies we want to know what you think! Why are the dating streets in the pits? Why are we so hopeless in love? Are the genders at war?
    Also, please see further context for our discussion today below ♥👇
    1. Achraf Hakimi's divorce: www.theafricareport.com/301896/ashraf-hakimis-divorce-the-swift-misogynist-journey-of-fake-news/
    2. Viral clip on 'rebellious' modern day women - ruclips.net/video/ll3ut-io64g/видео.html

    • @jadaw7819
      @jadaw7819 Год назад +7

      I think everyone is operating out of fear honestly

    • @melissagitts
      @melissagitts Год назад

      ​@@jadaw7819 So profound, cos i never thought of it like this. You absolutely have a point

    • @theunknownloverof
      @theunknownloverof Год назад

      @@jadaw7819 and ego!!

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 Год назад

      Nobody wants to take accountability & want to point a finger at the other. But don't worry the clock will just reset & everyone will get into arranger relationships/ marriages

  • @refilwematshego9188
    @refilwematshego9188 Год назад +1

    My favourite episode this year😭🥹 so many beautiful gems spilled here! Thank you! (All the way from the land of amapiano 🤣)

  • @melissadacostacaturichi8249
    @melissadacostacaturichi8249 Год назад

    One of my favourite episodes ❤

  • @Denise_Cocoa
    @Denise_Cocoa Год назад

    You ladies are both so beautiful 😍 Courtney I always loveee your natural makeup look 💛

  • @hobbyphotographystudio
    @hobbyphotographystudio Год назад +3

    Stay Strong Sisters. Keep spreading the good news! Buying the book soon.

  • @IAm_Significant
    @IAm_Significant Год назад

    Purposeful conversations that need to be all over my feeds right now! ❤

  • @kfa6830
    @kfa6830 Год назад

    40:18 onwards was fire! Wow! Spot on...

  • @money4life4eva35
    @money4life4eva35 Год назад +3

    Once again an amazing podcast discussion that hit the nail on the head. ❤❤❤

  • @jifunzekiingerezanadorothy
    @jifunzekiingerezanadorothy Год назад +2

    This was so so good sisters

  • @tinapatini
    @tinapatini Год назад +3

    Thank you for your wisdommmm💞

  • @pristinepaperie
    @pristinepaperie Год назад

    Wow. This episode.

  • @MoselineBertil
    @MoselineBertil Год назад

    Happy belated birthday Renee!! 🎉❤🎉 you look so beautiful!!

  • @TukooTjivikua
    @TukooTjivikua Год назад +2

    Yeeeaaassss!!!! Go off on em.

  • @gloriakanani1026
    @gloriakanani1026 Год назад

    Happy birthday Courtney❤❤❤❤ May God continue to bless you darling

  • @jad3ruby_
    @jad3ruby_ Год назад

    Love how you expanded on Ephesians 5. Submission is never mentioned when referring to all men and women. But clearly when talking about relationships between father and daughter and husband and wife. Wives submit to your HUSBANDS as unto the Lord~ Eph 5:22

  • @rocklynax5580
    @rocklynax5580 Год назад

    All I have to say is I love you both so much ❤️

  • @Elainebabey
    @Elainebabey Год назад

    This episode has blessed me

  • @jasmine27564
    @jasmine27564 Год назад +3

    Whole conversation? ATE 🤌🏽

  • @Nelle163
    @Nelle163 Год назад

    So timely! Thank you so much for your wisdom 🤍 God bless! 🙏🏻

  • @manelleq
    @manelleq Год назад

    This was so amazing to watch! You both are so insightful!

  • @Cryonic7740
    @Cryonic7740 Год назад

    When are you guys coming to Dallas? So excited to have you in the states

  • @misspurplerain
    @misspurplerain Год назад

    This episode 😭🤝
    Thank you sisters💜💜

  • @lastman2090
    @lastman2090 Год назад

    you guys do so much thanks for always doing the work and pushing people to grow.. love from Uganda

  • @ntamieborty
    @ntamieborty Год назад

    We love you, Courtney!!!💖

  • @notanotherjasmine
    @notanotherjasmine Год назад

    Courtneyyyy this button down corduroy shirt!! 😍

  • @hlelsilethwala9934
    @hlelsilethwala9934 Год назад

    Commotion Commotion for a new video!!happy new week sisters❤

  • @tivertonlove850
    @tivertonlove850 Год назад

    So proud of you guys 🎉

  • @tirelo_Mag
    @tirelo_Mag Год назад

    Wait did you say you are coming to South Africa?????? I'm ready 💃💃💃💃

  • @zainabgolden1777
    @zainabgolden1777 Год назад

    You ladies were dropping jams (as always) *snap snap snap*

  • @thandokajobe
    @thandokajobe Год назад +3

    SPEAK ON IT!!!!

  • @Tonibel20
    @Tonibel20 Год назад

    Love the book advert. It looks great!

  • @sandyboss6748
    @sandyboss6748 Год назад

    SOO GOOD!!

  • @kalina4999
    @kalina4999 Год назад

    Happy birthday!!!

  • @alooobala8958
    @alooobala8958 Год назад +2

    This episode.... whew chile!😅

  • @phumzilebuta8243
    @phumzilebuta8243 Год назад

    Hope you guys don't experience load shedding when you get here in South Africa😅. But it's definitely gonna be fun, fun, fun.❤

  • @bangibabs
    @bangibabs Год назад

    Marriage is such a beautiful union, especially when both parties are God fearing.

  • @GabrielleNsambu
    @GabrielleNsambu Год назад

    "Glory be..." i burst out laughing 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @deborahbell-theobservantch3759
    @deborahbell-theobservantch3759 Год назад +1

    Ladies, your skins are popping Jeeeee!! 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
    In terms of relationships, ego, gender wars and those dating apps make for a hot hot mess currently...not positive!
    Also emotional intelligence is sooo paramount in relationships of all sorts...

  • @barrborrah
    @barrborrah Год назад

    Amazing episode!! But who is Melanie King? Im a bit lost at the end you guys😭

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  Год назад +1

      Haha, we’ve shared some context links our comment above sis 😂♥️

    • @barrborrah
      @barrborrah Год назад

      @@tomysisters okay thank youuu 😭😂😂❤️ ill check it out

  • @Meanermina
    @Meanermina Год назад +4

    Nah, because you better preach, my kind sisters. This podcast is sizzling.

  • @mirandancube9441
    @mirandancube9441 Год назад

    Amazing amazing as always ❤ thank you sisters ! Just a quick question, to the other sisters around the globe ! I am looking for start something creative (not sure what yet). Is there/are there any sisters who would be interested to collaborate with me ? Thank you ❤

  • @unathi2012
    @unathi2012 Год назад +1

    Nobody brings up the conversation of men and money than men with no money. Why?!

    • @janetameyaw_gh
      @janetameyaw_gh Год назад

      Yes why.
      And men who didn’t use to have money but now do and their stinking attitude amplified

  • @eo-lp8lbch
    @eo-lp8lbch Год назад

    Can someone tag the tiktok video or who the person it 😢😢😢

  • @christinea.a.a
    @christinea.a.a Год назад

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @Emc2ky
    @Emc2ky Год назад +1

    not quite the balanced take you parade it to be, but i understand why this pod is so popular among women.

  • @Nafs851
    @Nafs851 Год назад

    The transfer to his mothers account was a fake news apparently

  • @hobbyphotographystudio
    @hobbyphotographystudio Год назад

    ❤ 📢

  • @simplified_love7934
    @simplified_love7934 Год назад +2

    Courtney anaongeasana. Couldn't help forwarding Na kila place anaongea shiish😕😞 let Reneaa (so) sijui spelling, but let her 🗣️ speak 👻🥹

  • @martinen4017
    @martinen4017 Год назад +2

    Looooved this episode, might even watch it again soon 🫶🏾

  • @guercie1
    @guercie1 Год назад +2

    Online Sisters, wow this podcast was a wonderful one! Honestly one of my favorite ones, thank you for this real conversation 🤍

  • @que_fela
    @que_fela Год назад +11

    I have to be there when you guys come to SA! 🥹😍

  • @gl0hen
    @gl0hen Год назад

    SISTERSSSSS!!!! this episode was so good!!! & so freaking timely. there’s so much i could comment on but i’ll just say this… MY HOPE HAS BEEN RESTORED! thank you for this work 🫶🏿 also lmk if you’re looking for a couple in dallas to interview, my brother and his wife would be perfect! lol they married young and are still going strong. they’re the first example i’ve been able to see up close of an authentic, healthy relationship. 🫶🏿

  • @gl0hen
    @gl0hen Год назад

    come to Dallas for Chief’s Allure Vol. III! it’s a fashion show experience that i’m helping produce. july 8 🫶🏿

  • @nyambolillie4284
    @nyambolillie4284 Год назад +1

    I'm here to say that I listen to you guys while jotting notes down. Yes the conversations are that good! God bless you!!