I Caught My Mom Cheating And Hid It, Believing It Was Her Only Mistake, And Did Not Want To Ruin ...

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  • Опубликовано: 5 янв 2025

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  • @QrincessQri
    @QrincessQri 23 дня назад +97

    S1 hurts because I get the why of their conflicted feelings. You don’t want anyone getting hurt… but you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t. It’s infuriating that parents put their children in such difficult situations like this where they have to be the bearer of bad news. Remember hearing a similar story where OP was basically put in a position of having to tell their father about their mother’s affair… he took his own life a week after OP told him everything. Everyone blamed OP for the father’s death and OP ended up taking their own life a month later. I honestly haven’t cried that hard for someone on Reddit before.

    • @eeveerox4612
      @eeveerox4612 23 дня назад +1

      Do you have a link to that story or maybe a title? I’d like to read it.

    • @mariahahsam8477
      @mariahahsam8477 23 дня назад

      I hope the bastards who blamed that poor kid for telling the truth will live with the guilt of knowing they drove that person to leave this world early when they should have blamed the mom n even the dad for putting that kinda pain on everyone else suicide is never the answer nobody is worth that level of control over you just saying

    • @paragsaini7284
      @paragsaini7284 23 дня назад +1

      Link

    • @mazharimam6827
      @mazharimam6827 23 дня назад +1

      Damn it...

    • @savannahhague4989
      @savannahhague4989 20 дней назад +1

      That’s the thing with social media.

  • @RobertBishop-xt6yq
    @RobertBishop-xt6yq 23 дня назад +21

    This is why you can't stay silent when you know something that important and not telling the truth.

    • @nicoleajobo3415
      @nicoleajobo3415 18 дней назад

      Well it’s a bit more complicated than that when it’s your parents. Damned if you do, damned if your don’t. These parent have to realize they can’t put their children in an uncomfortable situation. The marriage vows don’t apply to the children. The dad is so messed up. His daughter didn’t cheat on him his slutty wife did and taking it out on his daughter is really messed up. I understand feeling betrayed for keeping the secret, but they are children not ur partner. Screw the dad.

  • @Babidi111
    @Babidi111 23 дня назад +43

    - You loved your dad so much you wanted him to stay with a cheater? Your dad can't trust you anymore because you are not trustworthy and what he needs after his wife and your betrayal is people in his life that he can trust. You don't qualify.

  • @kgunitkeese17
    @kgunitkeese17 23 дня назад +93

    Story 1: OP, remember this: your parents’ divorce IS NOT your fault, because your mother’s actions destroyed the family. However, the deterioration of your relationship with your father IS your fault. You are not the victim. You were complicit and knew that what your mother did was wrong. You did have a choice. The choices were either you be loyal to the truth and tell your father, or you continue the lie and suffer dire consequences for it. You picked the latter, so it’s no one’s fault but your own. Also, remember one more thing: it was not the first time your mom cheated. It was just the first time you caught her.
    Edit: A lie is like cancer: the more it’s ignored, the more it spreads until there is no way to cure it.

    • @rekslegiune6004
      @rekslegiune6004 22 дня назад +1

      Nothing to add. 👍

    • @UnderworldTalesss
      @UnderworldTalesss 21 день назад +2

      You’ve got a point about lies spreading like cancer. I wish I’d understood that back then, but hindsight is 20/20. Still, isn’t it unfair to put the burden of fixing everything on a child? My mom’s actions caused the damage, not me.

  • @Walhor
    @Walhor 23 дня назад +42

    A YEAR?! No wonder the dad hated your guys for a while...

  • @berserker135
    @berserker135 23 дня назад +16

    I don't understand people who hide the truth because they want to keep the peace and don't want to break their family apart.

    • @ianesgrecia8568
      @ianesgrecia8568 9 дней назад

      Its simple: The other option would actually affect them so they prefer the option that is more convinient for themselves

  • @jameslyons6655
    @jameslyons6655 23 дня назад +76

    OP knew what they saw, knew it continued, knew the trip was a rendezvous, and kept quiet. OP betrayed their dad. No other way about it.

  • @Whitneypyant
    @Whitneypyant 23 дня назад +43

    I can’t blame the dad. OP kept it a secret for a year

    • @Solkard
      @Solkard 23 дня назад +3

      Neither OP or dad are at fault. They both put themselves first. It’s a very normal position that lots of people take.

    • @abednego_1254
      @abednego_1254 23 дня назад +10

      ​@@Solkard OP is pretty much an accomplice.

    • @Solkard
      @Solkard 23 дня назад +2

      @ In effect, yeah. His motivation was to not to help his mom, but to avoid inconvenience for himself though. You see it all the time these days.

    • @STB-jh7od
      @STB-jh7od 23 дня назад +1

      Damn Skippy

    • @STB-jh7od
      @STB-jh7od 23 дня назад +5

      ​@Solkard OP is at fault, she allowed the affair for over a year.

  • @MizzShortai
    @MizzShortai 21 день назад +3

    Not wanting to break up the family is a cop out. It's selfish. You'd want to know if it was you. He deserved to know as soon as she saw what she saw.

    • @Vipershadow1
      @Vipershadow1 20 дней назад

      I get it but that’s not a reason to hid the truth at all it’s always gonna be found out at some point. this was a “let me not rock the boat if I don’t feel like I need to” moment and she ruined her relationship with her father betrayal is not something to take lightly.

  • @rugr82day
    @rugr82day 23 дня назад +24

    Story 2: OP was as delusional as her sister. That was not the type of stuff to explain away while making excuses for her sister.

    • @RobDaCajun
      @RobDaCajun 23 дня назад +5

      Amen to that. My sister would be dead to me after that.

    • @FrostLordOni
      @FrostLordOni 23 дня назад +6

      Exactly. This woman left your child with a man she had just broken up with and who had just threatened their dog. But this smooth brain got her dog out of that situation and decided “My dog is no longer in harms way, that’s everyone I care about. Hopefully he’s not going to do this EXACTLY SAME THING with my nephew, but if he does lol not my baby.” She jumped out of the car and left your child there to be killed, I don’t think that’s anything you can come back from

  • @markanthony1004
    @markanthony1004 22 дня назад +4

    Putting kids in the middle of this is crazy work
    Holy hell story 2. I’m a parent my God man!

  • @butternaan.
    @butternaan. 23 дня назад +133

    i know op in story 1 is an idiot, but i can’t blame them, idk. they shouldn’t have lied to their father, but, i also understand that breaking news like that is so hard and the fallout is even harder.

    • @Knives7777
      @Knives7777 23 дня назад +1

      Op is scum

    • @laquietagray9323
      @laquietagray9323 23 дня назад +37

      Oop is a doormat I would've took pictures and sang like a canary to my dad.

    • @Zs-Amy
      @Zs-Amy 23 дня назад

      So you are a coward too

    • @ASAP-ZAY
      @ASAP-ZAY 23 дня назад

      @@laquietagray9323😂💯 be out here in my church clothes sanging l

    • @Khasym
      @Khasym 23 дня назад

      There's no replacement for truth. However well intentioned OP might have been, they destroyed their father's trust. No apology, no act, no gesture will ever change that

  • @navajanoir68
    @navajanoir68 19 дней назад +1

    Everytime I hear "keeping the peace," it always seems to be at the expense of someone innocent for the sake of the guilty to keep things "neat."

  • @vanzy01
    @vanzy01 23 дня назад +8

    Last story: op sister is one of those people who keeps getting themselves in trouble and dragging other people around her into the mud with her.

  • @augustrnning7823
    @augustrnning7823 23 дня назад +19

    For people yelling that OP should have told her father everything that was happening, do you even know how hard that is?
    When someone you know and love betray someone else, and you’re caught in the middle of it. It’s the same premise where parents protect their R*pist/criminal children… even though the mother is a bad person, she might not have been that to her daughter before, cementing a deep bond of love between them thats hard to break.
    The mother is 100% at blame here, firstly for cheating, then manipulating her daughter into losing her dad, then having the gall to be angry at her? Thats despicable! The daughter should have told her dad yes, but i guarantee that if you were put in her position, you would have done something similar!

    • @mizal321
      @mizal321 23 дня назад +12

      As a college student shouldn't it be common sense at that age that cheating is bad

    • @mizal321
      @mizal321 23 дня назад +10

      What adult thinks it better for their dad to be cheated on and lied to for a year to "protect" him

    • @PhilipJFry58598
      @PhilipJFry58598 23 дня назад +4

      No I would of did the right thing not all of us are weak

    • @maatssun6713
      @maatssun6713 23 дня назад +11

      @@augustrnning7823 Almost everything you said before the mother is wrong, is also wrong. The fact is, the mother wronged her entire family. The child found out and kept her secret. That means they chose the side of the wrong parent by doing so. And then when crap hit the fan, the situation simply became worse. By the childs own statement, their father is a good man. If they came clean when they should have, their relationship with father wouldnt have suffered. Just like the brothers didnt. In the end, the childs choice ruined the relationship with both parents, instead of just the bad parent.

    • @abednego_1254
      @abednego_1254 23 дня назад +2

      skill issue. it's easy.

  • @Tekirai
    @Tekirai 23 дня назад +34

    Story 1: OP was a fool like I get it the dilemma but he stewed and should have told immediately or at some point

  • @maatssun6713
    @maatssun6713 23 дня назад +19

    Story 1 op, at which point do you tell your mother the business? You wanna beg your daddy to forgive your betrayal, but you still aint telling your mom the truth? Why dont you grow a spine and set her straight 1st, before expecting your dad to do all the work youre responsible for?

  • @alwaysright3943
    @alwaysright3943 4 дня назад

    S1: This is what you get for being an immoral coward. "I didn't wanna hurt him by stopping him from living a lie." lmao

  • @ajivesboi
    @ajivesboi 23 дня назад +7

    Aye in story 2 did she just admit that her sister cares more about a dog than her own nephew

  • @devhxh1558
    @devhxh1558 23 дня назад +25

    STORY 1:
    You are not the victim, you are the accomplice in hiding his mom affairs.. not 1 week or a month... But for a year

  • @red6093
    @red6093 20 дней назад +1

    You can hide your mom's infidelity from your family, but are happy to share it with the world? Nice one, anon.

  • @stefanharris659
    @stefanharris659 22 дня назад +4

    Damn people in the comments are ridiculous. Parents shouldn’t ever do this to their children.

  • @ianesgrecia8568
    @ianesgrecia8568 9 дней назад

    Story 1: Love how OP 'loved' his father so much to let him stay with a cheater for that long. They are as much trash as the mother

  • @champslim
    @champslim 12 дней назад

    Story 1: Ok sooo this is tough. I had read a reddit story where the OP did tell the other parent, and it went horribly. Like the mom turned everyone against the OP. And the parents stayed together. Smh

  • @sheepphees3350
    @sheepphees3350 19 дней назад

    people that now that somoene is cheating or cheated in the past. Please put urself in the person that was cheated on, and tell the truth

  • @alecmoon8895
    @alecmoon8895 23 дня назад +1

    S1 that kids mother gaslit and emotionally manipulated him to the maximum but damn if you knew it was wrong you gotta buck up and and still say something better to be seen as honest then deceptive

  • @zacklynch1249
    @zacklynch1249 9 дней назад

    She was put in a tough spot mom lied to her and put it on her as if she would be the one destroying the family. Her dad should hear her out and forgive her it’s his ex fault not hers.

  • @glackinator_0459
    @glackinator_0459 4 дня назад

    S1: while you shouldn’t have ever hid it period, once you realized it was no longer a “one time mistake” there should’ve been no question about telling your dad. I know that’s probably insensitive for me to say, that’s not an easy thing to do, and you shouldn’t have to be in the middle. However, for the sake of everyone, including yourself, you should’ve told your dad once you realized the affair was ongoing

  • @Mrwillie95
    @Mrwillie95 23 дня назад +2

    Op should have told her dad the truth about her mom cheating story 1

  • @jsullivan649
    @jsullivan649 23 дня назад +4

    You were in college… you’re old enough to know right from wrong… you are sleeping in the bed you made.

  • @kingyunamissesgfriend8715
    @kingyunamissesgfriend8715 23 дня назад +11

    i feel like people are being way too harsh on first OP. Like yeah they messed up, but that is a super difficult position to be in.

    • @MONKEYDZETS
      @MONKEYDZETS 22 дня назад +2

      They knew for a year what mom was doing that's effed up u woke up every day and allowed that man to be lied to

    • @reedergrant6108
      @reedergrant6108 22 дня назад

      No it’s not. Protect your father from being blindsided. Case closed.

    • @Vipershadow1
      @Vipershadow1 20 дней назад

      I get what you saying but for men it’s a rather know than not situation if things are gonna fall apart which they always do cause it always gets found out eventually I need someone I can trust and if you hid the affair instead of telling me I’m gonna feel betrayed and like you took your mothers side by hiding it from me thus now there’s no reason I should bother keeping those who betrayed me in my life. best believe you no longer have a place with me and it’s not wrong of him to feel like that at that point it’s mental and emotional self preservation.

    • @ianesgrecia8568
      @ianesgrecia8568 9 дней назад

      I feel people let them off easy.

  • @KikoGarcia-e8w
    @KikoGarcia-e8w 23 дня назад +23

    This is op's fault

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 23 дня назад +2

      Agreed. OP made his bed, now, he has to lie in it.😒

    • @CBNM1
      @CBNM1 23 дня назад +1

      Agree

  • @cameron765
    @cameron765 23 дня назад +29

    Story 1:
    I mean, logically, OP is in the wrong for not telling his dad, but on the other hand, if you have a good relationship with both your parents and you found out one was doing something wrong against the other, it would really be hard to expose that parent to the other one. I highly doubt anyone who has a close relationship with both of their parents would say they would make the easy, logical choice to expose one parent to the other because, in the back of their mind, they will always think they have to be loyal to both of them. That’s why I can understand why OP made that decision.

    • @farhaanali5311
      @farhaanali5311 23 дня назад +19

      Nah, no amount of loyalty would make me lie about something so heinous. Birthed me or not, scum is scum.

    • @RepellentJeff
      @RepellentJeff 23 дня назад +12

      Not to mention how manipulative the mother is.
      It can be very hard to have any real defenses against manipulation like that when you’ve been living with it from birth.

    • @cloudyboy1756
      @cloudyboy1756 23 дня назад +4

      Ironically my parent taught me to do the right thing even when nobody’s looking,so snitching on my mom wasn’t even a conflicting thought ,because aside from them teaching me honesty,they made it clear if I fucked up with the law they’d wouldn’t bail me out and would let me rot in jail as long as I deserved , I took that to mean if you fuck up expect consequences.

    • @AA-ed6ek
      @AA-ed6ek 23 дня назад +1

      @@farhaanali5311 Agreed.

    • @scrcrwninja
      @scrcrwninja 23 дня назад +7

      By not telling his father he chose his mother, he didnt even give an ultimatum to his mom to come clean or he'd tell. This is like an eyewitness to a crime not comming forward until 5 years after an innocent person has been in jail.

  • @HeruUrAusar
    @HeruUrAusar 20 дней назад

    Her mother has always been cheating.

  • @Nicholem718-1
    @Nicholem718-1 19 дней назад

    Omfg… op should’ve been calling her mother all types of wh*res. She would’ve been AFRAID of coming to me with any accusations.

  • @michaelalanbaker7339
    @michaelalanbaker7339 23 дня назад +1

    "And nothing of value was lost."
    Oh dear, how sad; nevermind.

  • @teramccorvey1989
    @teramccorvey1989 13 дней назад

    Instead of wanting to go out you should’ve stayed at home you knew sister’s boyfriend was abusive

  • @Mrwillie95
    @Mrwillie95 23 дня назад +2

    I would go no contact with the sister and anyone who side with the sister

  • @skitzouk
    @skitzouk 7 дней назад

    S2 what kind of idiot breaks up with someone, knows they are volatile and still lets them babysit their siblings kid? got to be fake

  • @salim9463
    @salim9463 20 дней назад

    The dad forgave her too quickly (my personal opinion)
    My opinion might change as i grow older though

  • @goatkiller666
    @goatkiller666 23 дня назад

    So far, there are only a few good things about being an adult. But one of those is not having to improvise places for doing stuff. No more “back seat of the car” sex, or the stairwell of the dorms, because we both have roommates. I have an apartment, with actual furniture in it. Don’t even have to fit two people onto a narrow-ass mattress, either. I can sprawl out, whomever I’m with can sprawl out, and there’s still room for the cats. Even if I got a room for the night, it’d be a hotel, not a motel. Big-ass jacuzzi tub. Valet parking. And I’ll get some loyalty points when I’m done.

  • @MillenniaRincon
    @MillenniaRincon 21 день назад

    If I was OP, I would’ve told my parent what I saw the fact that you hold that in for a whole year and even though I know like kids don’t wanna see their parents divorce even though I know that you’re not a kid you’re like a young adult, but stillis easier to tell the truth because eventually it’s gonna come out and then it’s gonna come out that you knew like for a whole year that’s just that hurts and that hurts anybody so I think that this is like one of OP’s lessons in life not if you see it just say it it’s just better in the long-term

  • @cal5000
    @cal5000 13 дней назад

    Betrayer.

  • @Vipershadow1
    @Vipershadow1 20 дней назад

    S1 I’m on your dad side you did a very bad thing and in his eyes and mine that is seen as a betrayal. And thus we no longer share any sort of connection. I don’t take betrayal well from anyone doesn’t matter who they are, you betray me your out. I’d rather be told then not

  • @grahn3878
    @grahn3878 23 дня назад +8

    Story 1 Op is the scapegoat

    • @STB-jh7od
      @STB-jh7od 23 дня назад +3

      No she knew and didn't tell father.

    • @ianesgrecia8568
      @ianesgrecia8568 9 дней назад +1

      No. they were the acomplice. They let father stay with a cheater for a whole year.

  • @user-me7iw6ft8z
    @user-me7iw6ft8z 23 дня назад

    Story 2: sister is a coward and not a real woman

  • @Munthegun
    @Munthegun 6 дней назад

    Who needs to even listen/watch the video when you already have the entire thing written out in the thumbnail?? Just kiddinnnnnggg

  • @dm9078
    @dm9078 22 дня назад

    Of course he’s staying in contact with bro. Bro isn’t a backstabbing see you next Tuesday!

  • @pewdiepie_1232
    @pewdiepie_1232 23 дня назад

    Story 1 is way too similar to my own situation
    Except I found out my dad was / propably is cheating on my mom
    First found out when I was in 5 grade it fucked with my head so bad I went from laughing and joking to a kid who barely talks with anyone
    Mom found out when I was in 7 grade and I couldn't tell her that I knew until I was getting ready to leave for college one day . They never got divorced but they were damn close to it , I found the text chains both deleted a few days later about hiring lawyers .
    I never could stay in a relationship for long because I always punished myself thinking I shouldn't.
    My college life is about to come to an end they both are happy and still together but deep down I know that dad is still with other woman and mom knows about it
    Cheating doesn't just fuck with your partner but it does worse for your kids idk how many times I went on top of my school thinking about ending it all but couldn't

    • @pewdiepie_1232
      @pewdiepie_1232 23 дня назад

      Also it's not like dad is the bread winner in this dynamic
      My mom earns a lot more than him but he still cheated

  • @msichanahuzuni
    @msichanahuzuni 23 дня назад +5

    Story 1... what horrible parents.

  • @zacklynch1249
    @zacklynch1249 9 дней назад

    St2 only ? I have is did her x always abuse her ? Or was this new. I don’t think your sister intentionally left her nephew I think she was full I need help now and didn’t think he would take off again. I mean he kept saying if you break up with me I will kill him and she just kept taking the abuse while he was asking that.

  • @hhMexicanJoker
    @hhMexicanJoker 23 дня назад

    Story 1 has been posted here before

  • @sdev88
    @sdev88 23 дня назад +12

    OP1 is a moron, shouldve told him immediately, but atleast at some point jesus.
    EDIT: Nvm definitely a fake story

    • @Echo_9
      @Echo_9 23 дня назад +5

      Fake or not op still a coward

    • @Whitneypyant
      @Whitneypyant 23 дня назад +1

      We don’t know if it fake or nor

  • @cj_.44._cf
    @cj_.44._cf 23 дня назад +1

    Please teach your kids to own their screw ups and be better. Thus preventing shit like this before it starts and wondering “what went wrong”

  • @juanpabloobregoncastillo1451
    @juanpabloobregoncastillo1451 23 дня назад +6

    I get Op's father was hurt but cut all contact with one of his children and keep it with the other sounds hard to swallow, If I had been Ops father, I would had put the entire fault on his ex-wife.

    • @LAOCHPadre
      @LAOCHPadre 23 дня назад +4

      Yeah I thought that as well. Like I know she fucked up big time, but the father could probably have understood the terrible position OP's mom put her in if he gave her a chance to explain. I feel like OP would have turned into a great support system for him if he gave her the chance.

    • @RobinSiwula-w4h
      @RobinSiwula-w4h 23 дня назад +6

      Op knows right from wrong they screwed up I don't blame the dad he was justified

    • @LAOCHPadre
      @LAOCHPadre 23 дня назад

      @RobinSiwula-w4h it's not that black and white though. I've seen stories where a child willingly and maliciously aids a parent in an affair, and if that were OP, then obviously she would be beyond forgiveness to any reasonable person. OP in this story doesn't fit that, though. There's no malice in what she did; only cowardice. She was afraid of hurting her dad, of breaking the family apart, and of retaliation from her mom. I get being pissed that it took a year to come forward, but she still came forward. She concealed it because she was afraid, not because she supported it. That's where I see some nuance.

    • @MONKEYDZETS
      @MONKEYDZETS 22 дня назад

      A year I'd a bit much like this is a college student not a child

  • @RobertBishop-xt6yq
    @RobertBishop-xt6yq 23 дня назад

    S2 what the hell is this mother leaving
    Her baby just to have a FUN night
    What is that, damn someone needs to
    Call CPS YESTERDAY

  • @rekslegiune6004
    @rekslegiune6004 22 дня назад

    Story 1. Is me me me and me, selfish person as her mom.

  • @grayblack7506
    @grayblack7506 22 дня назад

    Yeah, if it was the other way around, he or she would have snitch on him. I'm not saying what he did is good, I'm saying it's the double standards for me.

  • @maggy-d9j
    @maggy-d9j 23 дня назад +13

    story1, smh, a grown man with less maturity than a child. he has every right to be upset but he's putting the same exact amount of blame on OP that her mom is putting too, they are equally bad in this scenario with relation to OP

    • @johnnyhall9154
      @johnnyhall9154 23 дня назад +7

      Nah, if I found out my wife got my child involved and that child kept it from me for months, I'd be done too

    • @maggy-d9j
      @maggy-d9j 23 дня назад

      @johnnyhall9154 that says a lot about you as a person. you'd have a child, who you are expected to put yourself on the line for, but abandon them over something that has nothing to do with them? they are a child, they did not ask to get into the middle of that situation, and its their every right to stay out of their parents relationship. he chose his own feelings over the feelings of his child

    • @johnnyhall9154
      @johnnyhall9154 23 дня назад +9

      @maggy-d9j OP is in college, a legal adult probably around 20 to 21 based on when they graduated and got a job. They had every oppurtunity to help their father. Says more about you that you are trying to blame the victim instead of an accomplice. And op was an accomplice

    • @maatssun6713
      @maatssun6713 23 дня назад +1

      Youre dead wrong. The father alone is the victim. The child, an adult mind you, is an accomplice. The father has every right to feel betrayed by his child. I cannot believe how you think the child is blameless and the father is at fault. You must be a woman. Cause only women in the western world would think like that. They cheat and the victim should pay too. Wow.

    • @jamesmurray3253
      @jamesmurray3253 23 дня назад +6

      Women taking accountability challenge: impossible

  • @tabicat.puccino7425
    @tabicat.puccino7425 23 дня назад

    1) YTA op i hope you find no love, and if you did i hope you are cheated on as karma, you betrayed him, by allowing your father, a good and kind man, husband, and father, to be used and cheated on, you were on her side, you knew she was cheating, for a YEAR, even though you said it was a one time thing? what is your definition of one time? when they stop? who knows how long and thought it wouldn't destroy the family, her actions may have cause a divorce you only delated the inevitable letting your father be cheated on, you are horrible
    2) if any of my blood family did that, they would lose the family part then the blood, don’t defend her actions, cut contact, you are delusional, even a doormat for believing this

  • @bilal21sheikh39
    @bilal21sheikh39 14 дней назад

    I can't believe the first story op is so pathetic in it and a stupid coward and pushover