I'm a teacher under training and I literally felt what Aparna said .... It is the fault of our society that we judge children instead of understanding and motivating them. Educational Psychology says that 'education should be according to a child's need. Every child is different and unique . If he/she is unable to read properly it is the fault of the teachers,school and the system and family ,society. A child should be treated with affection.Let your child explore himself ,talk to him what he feels about himself. Open other doors and methods by which your child explores his abilities and interest . Discuss about his fears and help him to overcome them one by one!
im a med student, watching this at 2;05 am while ive my finals at hand. And this made me cry so much. Being a topper student who topped in board exams overall and now as someone whos below average, and is just stuck and depressed I totally feel those words. Shattered my heart to pieces i swear!
@@adnanalive1873 she is having chronic ibs. For 4 years daily loose motions . This disease caused mental torture n depression n stomach pain daily 24hrs
This ís a very powerful message for one and all. I hope you gained all the confidence and is still building yourself up. more power and love to you. keep shining and keep doing your great work. all the very best. ❤💐
This video is really one of the best videos I've seen in my entire life. I am truly inspired by this girl. She is so confident and by looking at her in this kind of condition I felt so bad. This girl literally proves that every person on earth must be treated equally. Despite all the hardships she had faced in her life, she never lost hope. She is a true example of a determined girl. I am a boy and I've never cried in my entire life(except in childhood), but by watching the condition of this girl, I felt emotional for the first time. Truly admired by you 'DIDI'. You are an inspiration to all the students out there who have other talents besides studies. I was also not good in my studies and today I got a hope to do something in life by watching you. I think I may not say enough words to admire you. You are a girl of inspiration. Lots of well wishes from Jaipur(Rajasthan).
Its so hard to share pain with parents for me, theyy don't even try to listen. My dad once caught my dairy and read the page where i wrote about my stress/depression and he was like "jab mai tumhari umar ka tha to mujhe padhna, khelna aur sona bas aata tha" they don't even allow me to keep diary idk why :) you're so lucky to have a mom that listens and understand you.
Mere ghar ka v same halat hai... I feel worst when this happened.. Parents don't understand , they are not ready to listen anything at all... I have tried to communicate with them but neither mum nor dad wants to sit and talk. They have made me feel worst, they have tried to insult me and feel me low intentionally which I can never digest but had to accept .... Sad that parents doing the relatives' job
Childhood trauma are tragic, it can leave you broken for the rest of your life. I've had problems with my mom when I was a kid. I didn't know that time, what was going on. After hitting maturity, I realised everything and here's my story. First of all, most of the times, your parents want the best for you but sometimes the ways to do that get toxic. So I was like 11 years old and extremely introverted. It was hard for me to make a convo work, especially with my brother. I didn't know what to talk. I've a huge age gap with my brother. I don't know when it started but I remember my mom telling me to speak, talk, laugh and in no time she got forceful. She used to yell at me for not talking like a normal person or in my world like an extroverted person. I was naturally introverted. Everyday she started saying that. I remember I was having dinner with my family and my mom started saying that how quiet I'm. I kept quiet. Then she stared calling me "gungi! bola nhi jata hai" like the convo wasn't even about me. I started crying and she kept calling me that, and poking me with her finger. I was literally having a mental breakdown. Things like this continued for 6-7 years. Until I grew up and started to become self aware. I started learning about mental health. Nobody stopped her, maybe they didn't know what was going on. I don't blame other family members. This all affected me badly. I'm so short tempered now. Being the smallest kid, nobody listened to me until I yelled or cried. My mom was very toxic back then. I'm still an introvert and I like staying quiet, she's not a bad person. She's just toxic. I'm better now. I like her ok ok now. But I can never forget this, it's something that always stays in back of my head. Now whenever she says something I get defensive. But it's fine, I guess. Things are better but I wish I could have done something for the younger me.
After watching this vlog 🥺 I must say that all the parents should seriously look after their children and must address the problem they facing both physically and mentally.
This vlog reminded me of the " school gave me depression" vlog i cried my eyes out there and that was my first vlog of you and i instantly feel in love with your persona.......but see didi you have grown so much....you are in much better place now. May God bless you 💞
Me my self preparing for my neet exam from past 2 years and it's now my third attempt .. everything you said in that pain and sorrow and weeping Soo hard 🥺 was damm relatable as mine...like I was an average students but being an average one with your younger siblings who always have good marks always made me feel sooo dumb useless...and still I share some of my sorrow with my sister but not with my mother coz deep down I know if I would be sharing this that I can't remember any thing at a time ..I always make you feel low in front of others parents who always show offs there chindrens grades..and compare me as the dumbest with the toppers..still hurts the most.....but once my mother told me that for a parent there Child is always there loving once.the only thing iss just keep working hard and nothing else for your dreams and doo whatever iss good for you..
me too mine also this is third attempt..... and m so tensed ...... but the truth is people only see success not the hard work........ the pain behind the hard work..... and everyone jst strt taking us for granted it feel so bad 😪
"People don't appreciate your efforts" these words are so true , I scored 90.17 %in my board and my family and relatives said is that all u could do ,i felt so sad and cried all by myself Truly people please appreciate the efforts
Dear Aparna, my mom dropped dead on 29 Nov last month. I saw all infront of my eyes. Sudden pain in chest she screamed and in 5 secs her soul left. So remember loved those who love you. Live in present.Your empathy for animals and nature is your POWER. Day you acknowledge this power,all your dis-ease will leave ur being. Mere pass MBBs DpH and dermatology ki degree. But sab jhod diya. Now I do vipassana and Shamanism.
I lost two of my relatives the same way..not infront of my eyes but nowadays there are so many cases of heartattacks..I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you live a happy life keeping her in your heart, may God bless you 💜
This conversation u had here is so deep Aparna. People are not even ready to understand what the kid is going through. I have also experienced this in life. People told that i am lazy and i am not working hard etc but I faced the issue. And those traumas i faced in school haunts me till date. I become so angry and hurtful when those memories come to me. I don't know, it does not matter now but healing is not completed. Though i am doing things according to my wish now, still those memories ask me qns like why did i suffer in that young age, it was not necessary and all. I could only watch this video with tears in my eyes. I pray for you, may you recover fully and have an awesome life ahead.
@@bts.stan_07_4 bachoan m jb kisi bache koi danta ya mara jata hai zyada to wo depression (in urdu ehsas-e-kamtari = mayusi) men chala jata hai inko bhi wahi hua hai... ab sari life inko wahi yaad aayega aur ek normal life jine m bohot problems aayenge.... jaise aarahe hain...
I was an above average student still I have faced many issues...people used to not believe in me.Even sometimes I felt my parents lost faith in me but somehow I proved them and now everyone who used to look down upon me is coming closer to me because I have somewhere proved myself....I just felt that for few students it's always a validation that society wants for them to prove they are not dumb....just came across your channel recently and I am in love with it
Aparna words can't describe you . And what you mean to us. When you smile we smile, you laugh we laugh when you get sad it just breaks our heart and when you cry world seems upside down.. you said you won't cry anymore because they say it makes you look bad and leave a wrong impression on them but for me it doesn't seem like that .. when you cry I cry with you and my heart pray for your betterment, crying with you feels like as if am a really good person bcz it makes me feel your pain, and give me time to reflect on myself. I can't imagine what you are going through but still it makes me feel a little bit of your pain and suffering.. You are an extraordinary girl on this planet. God always have better plans for his people. " You'll be fine again" my last words and pray for you QUEEN 💗
Hey Aparna! I am Simran 20 years old and i am a primary teacher and when you are sharing your experience of studying i really feel ki ajj kal bacho pe bhot pressure hai padahi ka and itne chotte bacho ko bhi datna padta hai.... But after listening to you i will try my best to be more kind with my students so no one can go through any childhood trauma due to studies thanks for sharing ❣️ more power to you
Daatna kyu padhta hai, madam ??? Asa to koi compulsion nahi ki aap daanto bacho ko ... If you are really understanding that a child suffers due to this pressure or uske baad bhi aap daant te ho ya punish krte ho bachon ko to ye bahut confusing hai, madam ...
You know what hurts me the most, is that we all could have lived a happy life if only those people around us stopped mocking us and making us feel insecure about ourselves. This hits so fucking hard that only if they were a little gentle with the kid, understood them and their issues, talked with them instead of questioning them and made us feel a little proud for ourselves for our little efforts, it would have been enough for us to get rid of depression, anxiety, adhd and what not!! It just takes few words like "I am proud of you for trying this" "I am happy that you are doing whatever you are doing" It takes such a little to make us feel confident about ourselves, and letting us know are value but all the want is 99% on that sheet of paper
Sometimes not even 99 they want 100% from us like are we computer that could answer it from Google 🤣 we are humans and we can't probably make 100% but we can make those computers ryt?!
everyone has suffered these traumas di 🙂 every child suffers these states in childhood or teenage, but you're an inspiration for all the children and teens
@@aaradhyasingh227 jyada toh nhi pta ek toh ye hai ki di ko apne hairs katne thee kyuki unko kafi problem hoti thi but kisi ne katne nhi diye and ulta bola ki fashion ke liye kaat rhi hai and jisse di ko bhut pain hota tha and bad posture jaise issues hone lage thee
Aap failure nahi ho . Failure wo hain jinhone aapko failure bola hai. They failed to see your potential and your heart. Aap mei insaniyat hai duniya ki har ek cheez ke liye aur wo log ye success kabhi hasil nahi kar payegy. Im so proud of how far you've come. Your kindness, compassion and will power has inspired me a lot to become a better version of myself. Keep growing and fighting queen! Sending you lots of love and positivity 💗💗💗
Nothing can change your past.... Heal your feminine energy aparna... Your relatives made you sad and hurted you but now when your life is completely in your hands... When God showers you with love and loving people ... Now be thankful and try to read more & more self healing books.. Love ya:) You are inspiring.✨
ap jab apne duk share karte hain toh mujhe apke liye bora lagta hain lekin apki bataye bore nahi karti you are the best or ap roti ho toh mujhe ye nahi lagta ke ap har video main roti ho mujhe lagta hai ke ap apne duk share kar ho or jisko asa lagta hai ke har video main roti ho un ki baat mat suna karo
@@zainabbhat8438 She has cervical issues. There is no issue with the mental abilities.. she was just not good at studies and has some childhood traumas related to it.
Iss video k through aap bohot achha message bhej rhe society ko, we need influencers like u. Mujhe esa lagta hai bachpan ka trauma har kisi ko reh jata he jivan bhar k liye, par hum kuch kar nahi sakte, bus life goes on!! 😊
I am a neurodivergent, and this hits home. My story is soo similar to yours. I used to be a brilliant child, a class topper. Then my developmental disorder hit and I lost interest in my studies. Everyone used to mock me and insult me with 'oh you are so stupid', 'why don't you study hard', ''just study, don't waste time' and whatnot. If I could have, I would be able to do it. Instead on understanding what was happening with me, they just formed their own harsh opinions and attacked me with it. Today my mother blames herself that she was not there for her children. But it's not her entire fault. Even if she was there full time for me, could she protect me from my teachers, my peers and other people's shitty actions? Could she have protected me from teachers who thought they could beat the stupid out of me? This is our society's fault that we believe and perpetuate these outdated and harmful things, still. I am really thankful that you are educating others regarding this by bringing this to light. Unless we are educated about this, many more innocent children will emerge with these traumas.
I just begin crying when you said I was having no friends ....Same I have no one to share my feelings with It's very difficult when so many thoughts are hiting you and You have no one to share with You are too strong Ishu dii You are overcoming all these ♥️After watching your vlog somehow I feel like I'm not alone you are always there with me ....♥️Keep uploading vlogs dii💕
More power to you and the kids who face such situations 🤎 it's beyond our imagination what kids go through.. People judge kids by their age but even small kids go through a lot and aparna is a witness of that!!
Hey di.....I can really relate with all you have said...like I'm in 12th...and in 11th i felt soo lonely..... teachers are soo rude...upto 10th I'm like topper of my class...but in 11th due to soo lonely feeling...nd everyone made me feel soo low...like in 1st day of 11th i cried a lot...and later on my marks goes down...and started getting lowest marks in my class....and I'm almost depressed....till now...i don't wanna talk to my teachers...and my class mates....and after passing from school...I wish I'll never meet all these...as they made me sooo depressed...and underestimated me... Thanks a lot...you spare your precious time to read mine story.... ❤️❤️
I came here after someone talked about this video on quora. This is the first time I'm watching her videos. I just wanna say by no means she was and she is 'nalayak'. She is naturally so entertaining. Her accent, her ability to come up with what should be spoken next to make something sound interesting and entertaining, her dress sense, her lack of ego, is so on point. If you judge a fish by its ability to climb tree, it will spend its whole life thinking it was worthless. Classic Einstein's quote. Sadi ka smartest insan, ye kaha, and teachers and parents to their kids are like 'tum nalayak ho'.
so i'm currently a mathematics student and i do well in my examinations. my problem was that i expect a lot from me, my parents are chill with everything. it's me who pressurise myself and push myself to the limits like i have to do best in everything. so last year, i didn't get selected in my favorite university and that somehow left me complete traumatized. i'm currently under medications for anxiety and it's really hard for me too. i just want to say that no matter what you are, what you do, life sucks at some point and you lose hope. but we shouldn't give up. we need to keep moving forward. good luck 💓
Hi Aparna, I am Devika and too from Jammu but staying in Delhi for my studies. I too have seen that in Jammu it's difficult for some people to understand that there are other field to explore other than academics but I just want to say to be from Jammu i am extremely proud and more than happy to see you growing day by day. Just feel very strong even when you alone. Just prove yourself the strongest and achieve every height of success. Love from a Jammuite💟💟💟💟✨✨
Im also from jammu in 12th I hope I pass this class successfully and move out of city to do something else and work on my dream.. Obviously my family will oppose but I won't listen to them anymore..
@@devikagupta8721 yess I will tell them my plans, my dreams and everything they need to know Understanding me is upto them.. Its upto them if they choose me or society
Yeh baccha ek dum dil ka saaf hai jo maan mai hai woh muh pe hai...plus she is so pure ki emotions control hi nai hote iske ,excited hai toh pura sad hai toh pura 🧡🧡 haaye!! But that doesn't mean she is not mature ehsaas hone ko hi maturity bolte hai ❣️ god bless you! Kiddo 🧿
Salute to your confidence, you are so strong that even with all the hurdles you are growing with flying colours. Just wait the people who made fun of you will now come and try to get associated with you as you are on your path to do something really big and famous ❤️❤️ God bless you
Kids who have dyslexia or like you are so artistic. They have so much talent that put book smart to shame. I can see through the talent you have. Great communicator. We all are born with some kind of talent It’s just family and friends need to recognize. In western counties there is so much of help and special classes for these kids. Hope you find some kind of trade that you like and practice that. Wish you the best in life.
Each and every line u said is 200% right.....u know backbenchers are the only ones who makes there family proud....i m with u....not even me everyone is with u...u just chill enjoy ur life...make urself proud...#respect di💙
Mera bhi childhood aisa tha ,health issues, marne ki bate sochna ,abhi tak wo sb trauma ghumte h mind me ,i can understand all the situation u r going through 😊 be strong ♥️
So many students face this pace.. 🥺 please don't burden them... Let them live their lives peacefully... Everyone have some flaws no one is perfect... If someone is not good in studies, maybe they've some other talent.. Praise them... 😇
Love this video and the topic it covered. More Indian parents needs to understand this issue and so many other issues that children’s never talk about to their parents. It’s not the parent’s fault though as no one taught them parenting and they just became parents one day still growing up as human themselves and humans make mistakes unknowingly which is totally fine. Whats more important for our generation is to take these lessons from our parents mistake and learn parenting skills before actually becoming a parent and raising a child. Or learning about it and choosing not to be a parent if we know we can’t be a good one. Choosing to be a parent or remain childless should be normalised at this point I think.
This type of trauma was happed with me also 1 yr before in class 5 i m now 12yrs old but when i saw this video i started crying .... any teacher is not having this right ki voh ek chote bacche ko puri class ke samne jalel kare 😢😥😭😭🤧...... Sorry I also felt so emotional but I support u didi ❤️ 💗 💖
Don't be sad. My mom is having an IBS problem as well. This problem will not go permanent but yes you can improve this by making your life happy and by eating healthy food. IBS starts when you start taking stress or overthinking. I will suggest stop taking stress and try to delete your past from your mind. Start interacting with new people, try to make friends, make yourself busy with the things you love to do.
Your video reminded me of my disorder which was diagnosed when I was in class 11th and I still remember all the traumas that led to it and all the severe effects ( cognition) that it had on me . Just know that believing in yourself and loving yourself will heal all your wounds. Figuring out the ways that helps you manage or avoid all the negativity will surely help you heal sooner. Know that there are people who are struggling with similar problems and have gone through traumatic situations in their lives . You are not alone. You are loved . You are courageous and beautiful. Stay positive and stay happy ❤️
Mere 10th board -52% 12th board -51% College bhi kuch esi tarah se complete kiya , bachpan se lekar college tak kuch ese he numbers aaye, logo ne kuch ese ke taane marte rahe hai , shayad yahi reason hai ki mai kuch jyada he introvet hu, abhi bhi logo se milne me derr lagta hai ki percentage na puch le ,aaj tumhara video deakh ke phir saari chije yaad aa gayi, aaj mai government exams ki tayari kar rha hu 2 attempts bhi de chuka hu ab derr lagta hai ki kuch hoga ya nahi.12:47 ye last attempt maan kar puri jaan laga dunga or ye line prove bhi karunga❤Thankyou Aparna
Hey Aparna! I also have a lot of childhood trauma kind of similar to yours which resulted in mental health issues when I grew up. I also resented the people who said and did hurtful things to me and didn’t even own up to them. The solution to this is to focus on yourself. Your recovery and health and peace. And if this means paying little or no attention to other people, then so be it. I personally found therapy quite useful. You may also try it to solve these past issues that hurt you. And never forget that you’re grown up now, and have the power to walk away and avoid negativity and negative people. We don’t have that as a child and that’s ok. All the very best and keep posting your amazing videos. Lots of love ❤️
I can feel u 😔.. During academic i struggle to pass But during my 11th n 12th I really worked hard n get good marks, n decided to Persued CA. N u know main reason to become CA is to inspire people that being bad at academic doesn't define your whole life. I don't know whoever is reading this please let your child find their own way bcoz they are way more capable of doing anything then you think. Don't let childhood trauma hit them whole life.
Currently, I'm pursuing CA Inter.. But I'm going through some issues like I overthink a lot... Extremely because of which I'm not able to concentrate on my studies properly.. And some family problems are also going on related to my uncle's health.. An unknown fear I'm feeling... Sometimes I'm panicking so much..
I can really feel you Dear. I was never been a student "up to the mark", always scored low, and scolded by teachers and calmly insulted by family and parents. The most annoying thing is that people always judge you according to the marks you get in exams, whereas there is a huge difference between texual reading and knowledge. The most difficult thing i faced as a child was that my parents were unable to understand the sufferings i was going through, they were never there when i needed them the most to speak for myself and to calm me down , wholeheartedly i wished to hear from them "Dear , you are no less than anyone, you can". Often my father used to say that for me he can't even talk to my friends's parents, for my low marks he used to feel shameful to join the conversation about the "intelligent students". But still i knew and i know that they love me from the core of their heart.. Coming to friends ,i really feel they were just "classmates" who don't deserve to be recognized as "friends".All of them were good score holders rather excellent score holders and so in some way or the other they made me feel so low, they criticized, made a mock out of myself, and used to flaunt their marks, ignored me, insulted me in various ways. Even teachers also play a very crucial role on this demotivating system. A true teacher always tries to elevate the level of student who is educationally downtrodden.In my case, all the teachers i have met in my life, was always so sympathetic and appreciative only for the students who scored well nd these teachers used to scold me very badly nd i was so helpless. After my 10th result came out , i witnessed my friends behaving like strangers, ignored me and there was something so bad in their behaviour i can't explain,but at that time , that particular vibe from everyone shattered me. I decided and promised myself to score well in my h.s and that was only because i wanted to see myself smiling. I wanted to make my parents proud of myself , wanted to show my friends that hey i am no less than you guys. I did as i promised. But no matter how far i travel, how far i have crawled, those things can never be erased from my mind. The visual perceptions we had as a child is embedded in our mind forever and ever. I cry hard whenever i think of those days. But above all i do believe that it's only you who can set your worth, nobody else can decide how far you can climb the stairs in your future. Best wishes for you from me(kheya). ❤
I can relate to you. Literally, I'm into tears. I have been through the worst. It's hard for me to come out of my childhood traumas. I still break down. I have 0 friends, my teachers were like villains, and my parents had never understood what I'm into. Still in a depression situation, 0 confident, and I stuck while doing any activity. I'm still fighting to get rid of the situations.
She is so innocent,pure , and very childish i don't know how can someone hurt her little soul 😭❤️ I love her so muchh and have been watching her vlogs from a long time now and trust me she is so Down to earth and very considerate at heart 💖💖💖
I've been watching your videos for almost a year now , but I never comment and express my thoughts, I just watch the video like it and leave. But today I'm commenting to appreciate you Aparna. You're literally the best example of being a real human. We love you and hope you'll recover very very soon . Love you Ishu didi ❣️❣️❣️
O my God I think she is Angel 😇 , I don't know how I came here. But so happy to watch you. Padai Wale baccho can you see how awaken soul she is. Auntiji you are so ❤ loving. Lots of love and regards.
You are saying some of the things that usually people felt during their childhood but are not able to express..It's okay to be not okay sometimes..But now at this moment, you have everything that many people don't have(like family, mother, doing good with vlogs) ..You are beautiful and cute,, cherish your present and rone me v koi burai nhi :) take care. :)
Her voice made me cry yrr....being an aspirant I can totally make it relatable with me. How you make everything as a joke but we know it's not laughable. Stay strongly dear you already achieved a lot just look at your subscribers. You had huge fan base. Keep yourself strong try meditation and youg just live as you're comfortable. Don't force yourself do whatever your heart says don't listen your toxic relative and forget that okhali vala idiom. Dropping this comment just make u little strong. Not your subscriber just a random video for me and yt recommended me this. Stay healthy stay strong. ❤️
I can feel your emotions... pain... Your words inspire me. sabka life ek jaisa nai hota. Sometimes I also feel very low. This is life... and life must goes on. I love you girl.❤ stay happy
Mai v aapki mama ki student hu...mai aapko b school tym sai janti hu.....ur mother was so loyal to her job kuch teacher toh sirf tym pass k liye class mai aatai the but aapki mama bohot achai sai math ki class laitai the.. She is a very gud person by heart.
Your mom is sooo sweet.. she's a blessing in your life and you're a blessing to your mom and us! ♥️✨ Btw you are not nalayk.. you're talented and a good soul ! We all need people like you in our lives ! ♥️😍
Every child is unique in their own way. I'm lucky that my parents never pressurized me for studies that much. I just went with the flow. As an adult I'm struggling to get a job, but it's been easy for me to handle this situation because of my parents support. Nowadays, children are forced to study and get marks on exams. It's like they're pushed to be someone they're not, specifically they're always being compared with other kids. I wish the parents, society and teachers could understand how these kids actually feel.
Hey Aparna!idk if you are going to read this or not but you really inspired a lot of people out there and I am doing something for such children and parents in the field of mental health. I would love to connect with you and actually discuss how we both can make a difference. Please feel free to reply to this comment. I am a mental health advocate and reiki healer. With love Kashish
Didi sach me koi nalaayak nhi hota......... I know what you were feeling coz I went through the same thing...... everyone was almost ready to tear me apart due to my bad results but thank God I never lost belief in myself and today I am studying in IIT Madras (not a very huge achievement but still it's a very big thing for a child who was always underestimated and was called curse and disgrace 🥺🥺) .........may god bless you with lots of good health and happiness 🥰🥰
Stress affect your mental health and mental health affect our physical health.. it's a circle. And parents should never compare their kids with others..Hey ishu i would suggest you to forgive your parents or grandparents who hurt you. You're lucky that atleast you have your mother to listen. Words can stay forever in a child's mind. For parents it must be a normal Tuesday but for us we remember date and time when they said it.
Aparna, you could have dyslexia (which is pretty normal amongst kids). Please read about it, it will help you a lot understanding that the condition is pretty normal. I know a lot of people who went through this as kids but their parents/teachers never understood it and forced things on them.
Can't relate more with your childhood trauma.... 😭 I also cry whenever i remember my old days...but I am doing well today...so are you...ngl it still comes back sometimes.
You are so intelligent dear……u are so confident full of life,u are so brave than rest if girls,u know south delhi girls😂😂,i have never seen a girl like u,with so kany gratitude,fun and live nature….may god bless u with all love and prosperity.don’t think ur alone
Aparna please never ever thrash at your mother .. ek maa hi hai jo itna Sunti hai ...duniya toh tamasha bana kar chali jati hai ...ask your mom what you are to her ❤️... Bear hug to you aap thik ho jaoge don't worry ... I understand your situation is not that easy but remember you are sunshine 🌻🌻
Aparna yaar! It doesn't depend ki aap kitne number late ho .. average ho ki brilliant ho ... Agar aap kuch chizo mein logo se aage ho toh aapse log jalte hai... underestimate krte hai... criticise krte hai... Aur agar aapke dost nhi h toh aap bilkul sahi track pe ho.... Since school till today m in govt service nobody ever liked me... Always demotivate me... criticised me... Pure school mein 1st aayi thi mein distinction leke 10th 12th ki fir bhi kabhi kisi ne appreciate nhi kiya nahi kabhi dost mile... Humesha logo ne isolate krke rakha... Ab Jake pata chala ki agar dusra kuch acha krta h toh ppl act as a crab they just wanna pull them down..very few vl help u climb the ladder of success bt most of them act as a crab .. so don't feel disheartened it's oki... Grow through wat u go through... Bhagwan ji kuch sikh Dena chahte h aapko unka motive samjh jaogi kis din sab bimariyan aapne aap khatam ho jaegi...B's khud pe vishwas rakho aur apne karma pe vishwas rakho... God bless you dear
Irrespective how words like depression and anxiety are miss used nowadays but it has given space to people like you come out and speak about their traumas depression.
The things she brought up today is very important i am also suffering from this being a neet repeater no one asked me about efforts but result including my own family being compared off being called by family members u bring up tension in our house is worst.
Don’t worry dear Aparna Stop thinking about all this dear You are very intelligent ,smart and bold. Don’t let the people who don’t understand you define you ♥️ You’re amazing You’re great You’re progressing Life is good when you are a better version of what you were yesterday 🌻 You’re not a failure ,you’re an inspiration
bhn apko sunne k bad mujhe aj bhut achha lg rha hai ki mai ksi ko dukhi hone se bacha pai , bo mere chhota bhai hai childhood se bo bilkul bhi nhi padhta tha mne bhut try kiya but sunne kbhi bhi try nhi kiya achhe no lane ki ,but bo kosis krta tha bhle hi bo ek din exam k phle ho hr class bs usne pass kiya , lekin bo dimak se bhut tej tha bhle hi padhai me achha nhi tha , mne hmesa uske future ki tension li ki ky krega e ky kru mai ki mera bhai kuchh kr kr , but fir mne apne bhai ko photo pr kuchh din k interest dekha ,bo kuchha din k hi tha bhut bo mujhe ek rasta dikh gya tha ,mne pta lagay ,phle usne mana kr diya taki use entrance exam ki preparation n krni pde but mne bhut binti ki ki tu bs ek bar admission le le fir tujhe jo mrji ho kr lena , exam k din tk usne kha ki nhi krna e sb but mai janti thi ki ky hoga iska future isiliye sbkuchh kraya , aur ab bo bdhiya se exam nikal k 1 sal bad se hi college k khud k photography business start kr diya ab use khud pta hai ky krna hai ky nhi ab mai free hu responsibility aur tension se .... so bachcho k future bs padhai se hi nhi bhut kuchh se bn skta hai but apko fir dhyan dena hoga n ki bachche ko , hr bchche ko ias ,pcs hi bne yhi mt sochie bachh ki capability ko dekhiye aur ap kuchh achha fix kijie jb tk uska jisme mn nhi lgta ,jb uska mn lg jaye ap free ho jayenge apni responsibility se bachche k future ko lekr .
I just saw your video today . My friend suggested me your channel because at some level I can relate to you . I have also faced the same type of problem in my childhood. I can literally feel you my relatives even my family does the same with me . I also have anxiety issues and all of that . I still feel the pressure of society exists all over us . I can completely agree no one is failure and every failure does a miracle 🌟.
You are most talented girl with beauty, your way of creating content, facing camera, love for animals, everything is awesome, as every individual is different, everyone has different qualities, if one is good at studies, the other one must be good at other skill,we can not put all people in one frame of judgment. This vlog is very good msg to all parents who force children to get higher numbers. Love from Pakistan❤
I totally relate your story I don't know why parents are not understand and support their child...I'm suffering depression because of my teachers and family issues... You Will be a good mother who understands and support their child 🚸 ...The person who does not get love and importance gets boarded like this and people think that he is a scoundrel.... don't worry Aparna everything will be fine...Just ignore these problems and focus to enjoy your life...I'm also doing these things...I have no family relatives nor friends but I'm happy because if they're with me they abuse and hurt physically and mentally...I'm great full for God and U should also Dear...thank god you have RUclips to tell your problem but i don't have anything like that ....I love you Aperna we always with you Dear don't be Sad keep always Smile 😊 😍 🙂💞
God bless you..iss topic par discuss karna bahut jaruri tha..aap hi nhi aap jaise aur bhi bacche hain..jinke sath ye sab ho raha hai...aapne bahut humiliation jhela hai..❤️❤️
You made me to change my way of treating my daughter... I'll be treating her more humbly and with love... Girl you are so awesome... You are so intelligent... Thank you so much ❤️
hey aparna,being a special child mom i can understand you & your mom too because society & family always compare child and pressure comes to child ,even teacher also wants perfect child...but now you are good in vlogging & video editing & people loves you & your vlogs too. start reading Bhagwat Geeta & it will relief you a lot .mea bhi phale ase hi roti rahti thi kyu itni problems hui meri beti ko .... After I started reading Bhagwat Geeta mujhe bhut peace mila.
It was sad to hear about whatever you're going through in ur life but also really felt nice to see you that you were able to share it with all of us. Really hats off to you dear! As well you r also inspiring many people who r going through like this! I hope you recover very soon! and achieve whatever you've dreamed for! good luck and lots of love ♥️
Lots of love to Little Aparna ❤️ You are right..koi bhi NALAYAK nahi hota khud se.. relatives and society bol bol kr feel krate hain. To Aunty, do not see yourself responsible for this...yes you are human and we make some mistakes only to realise it later. Also it's not you who is solely responsible because as a parent you have to have strict with your children since you are aware of the brutal and competitive world waiting for them ahead specially when one belongs to middle class family and education is the only way out. It's the people around her who had no business ,are responsible for her trauma. We all make mistakes so it's okk. ❤️ And a big fan of Gitu Ji's WOWWWWW😅
Aparna tu kitni strong hai re … kitna accha kr rhi h zindagi me… bs bachpan ki jo b cheeze ab ho chuki hain unse khud ko heal kr… or sbse best part h “delete the story for your peace”… apne dimag me ratta mtt lga past ka usko cheeze bhulne de ❤
I'm a teacher under training and I literally felt what Aparna said .... It is the fault of our society that we judge children instead of understanding and motivating them. Educational Psychology says that 'education should be according to a child's need. Every child is different and unique . If he/she is unable to read properly it is the fault of the teachers,school and the system and family ,society. A child should be treated with affection.Let your child explore himself ,talk to him what he feels about himself. Open other doors and methods by which your child explores his abilities and interest . Discuss about his fears and help him to overcome them one by one!
This 🙌🏼
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@@pihusharma8390 🙁ok
Exactly!
Kon se State se hoo aap
im a med student, watching this at 2;05 am while ive my finals at hand. And this made me cry so much. Being a topper student who topped in board exams overall and now as someone whos below average, and is just stuck and depressed I totally feel those words. Shattered my heart to pieces i swear!
I can feel u girl😮💨
Same situation buddy 🙂 ...i mean it's hurts a lot ...like where I was a topper and now can't even explain my situation
You should express your heart with someone who is close to you🙃
Same situation I'm also a med student there was a time when I used to top in my class now I just want to pass my exams 🥲
@@Chaoswithtani same
Childhood trauma hurts deeply.
Agree
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can you tell me what is she suffering from??
@@shayna.ansari dyslexia, probably
@@adnanalive1873 she is having chronic ibs. For 4 years daily loose motions . This disease caused mental torture n depression n stomach pain daily 24hrs
This ís a very powerful message for one and all.
I hope you gained all the confidence and is still building yourself up.
more power and love to you.
keep shining and keep doing your great work. all the very best. ❤💐
Luv u remedy di😘😘😘😘
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This video is really one of the best videos I've seen in my entire life. I am truly inspired by this girl. She is so confident and by looking at her in this kind of condition I felt so bad. This girl literally proves that every person on earth must be treated equally. Despite all the hardships she had faced in her life, she never lost hope. She is a true example of a determined girl. I am a boy and I've never cried in my entire life(except in childhood), but by watching the condition of this girl, I felt emotional for the first time. Truly admired by you 'DIDI'. You are an inspiration to all the students out there who have other talents besides studies. I was also not good in my studies and today I got a hope to do something in life by watching you. I think I may not say enough words to admire you. You are a girl of inspiration. Lots of well wishes from Jaipur(Rajasthan).
Aap pdkr jitna successful hote aaj aap usse jyada successful ho aparna... Kyuki sayad pdkr job lgne ke baad itne log sath nhi hote jitne aapke aaj 450k log sath h ❤️ sayad job lgkr aap apna dukh kisi ke sath share nhi kr pate jitne aap 4 lac logo ke beech share kr paate ho... Aap bahut success ho aparna... We always love you ❤️❤️
Yes! we are with you nd most imp. is almighty is always with you.
Absolutely true.. love you Aparna ❤
Or job ki bja sa koi bhar bi nhi nikl sakte.
Right 💯
Soo true degree Sab hi karte Hain follower sabke Nahi hotte
Its so hard to share pain with parents for me, theyy don't even try to listen. My dad once caught my dairy and read the page where i wrote about my stress/depression and he was like "jab mai tumhari umar ka tha to mujhe padhna, khelna aur sona bas aata tha" they don't even allow me to keep diary idk why :) you're so lucky to have a mom that listens and understand you.
Yaa
But keep writing it.make us stress free
Mere ghar ka v same halat hai...
I feel worst when this happened..
Parents don't understand , they are not ready to listen anything at all...
I have tried to communicate with them but neither mum nor dad wants to sit and talk.
They have made me feel worst, they have tried to insult me and feel me low intentionally which I can never digest but had to accept ....
Sad that parents doing the relatives' job
exactly they think we have no problems
Parents bacche paida hi investment ke taur pe karte hain...aaj paida karo aage kaam ayenge...sahara banege...
Really in the same situation...😭
I swear I'm crying rn, it's too damn relatable I hope you get everything you desire 🥺💜
Don't worry dear you will be also get successful in your life...
don't find success in money, find success in happiness.
And just be happy☺
God bless you ❤️
Inko kya hua hai
What happened to her?
dont be cry aparna u r so cute always be smile i.m.from.pakistan
Childhood trauma are tragic, it can leave you broken for the rest of your life. I've had problems with my mom when I was a kid. I didn't know that time, what was going on. After hitting maturity, I realised everything and here's my story.
First of all, most of the times, your parents want the best for you but sometimes the ways to do that get toxic.
So I was like 11 years old and extremely introverted. It was hard for me to make a convo work, especially with my brother. I didn't know what to talk. I've a huge age gap with my brother. I don't know when it started but I remember my mom telling me to speak, talk, laugh and in no time she got forceful. She used to yell at me for not talking like a normal person or in my world like an extroverted person. I was naturally introverted. Everyday she started saying that. I remember I was having dinner with my family and my mom started saying that how quiet I'm. I kept quiet. Then she stared calling me "gungi! bola nhi jata hai" like the convo wasn't even about me. I started crying and she kept calling me that, and poking me with her finger. I was literally having a mental breakdown. Things like this continued for 6-7 years. Until I grew up and started to become self aware. I started learning about mental health. Nobody stopped her, maybe they didn't know what was going on. I don't blame other family members. This all affected me badly. I'm so short tempered now. Being the smallest kid, nobody listened to me until I yelled or cried. My mom was very toxic back then. I'm still an introvert and I like staying quiet, she's not a bad person. She's just toxic.
I'm better now. I like her ok ok now. But I can never forget this, it's something that always stays in back of my head. Now whenever she says something I get defensive. But it's fine, I guess. Things are better but I wish I could have done something for the younger me.
After watching this vlog 🥺 I must say that all the parents should seriously look after their children and must address the problem they facing both physically and mentally.
This vlog reminded me of the " school gave me depression" vlog i cried my eyes out there and that was my first vlog of you and i instantly feel in love with your persona.......but see didi you have grown so much....you are in much better place now. May God bless you 💞
Me my self preparing for my neet exam from past 2 years and it's now my third attempt .. everything you said in that pain and sorrow and weeping Soo hard 🥺 was damm relatable as mine...like I was an average students but being an average one with your younger siblings who always have good marks always made me feel sooo dumb useless...and still I share some of my sorrow with my sister but not with my mother coz deep down I know if I would be sharing this that I can't remember any thing at a time ..I always make you feel low in front of others parents who always show offs there chindrens grades..and compare me as the dumbest with the toppers..still hurts the most.....but once my mother told me that for a parent there Child is always there loving once.the only thing iss just keep working hard and nothing else for your dreams and doo whatever iss good for you..
all the best buddy. See you as a doctor soon. lots of love😎
If u facing this type of problem then u should study alone . It will help u to improve your performance.
me too mine also this is third attempt..... and m so tensed ...... but the truth is people only see success not the hard work........ the pain behind the hard work..... and everyone jst strt taking us for granted it feel so bad 😪
"People don't appreciate your efforts" these words are so true , I scored 90.17 %in my board and my family and relatives said is that all u could do ,i felt so sad and cried all by myself
Truly people please appreciate the efforts
Dear Aparna, my mom dropped dead on 29 Nov last month. I saw all infront of my eyes. Sudden pain in chest she screamed and in 5 secs her soul left. So remember loved those who love you. Live in present.Your empathy for animals and nature is your POWER. Day you acknowledge this power,all your dis-ease will leave ur being.
Mere pass MBBs DpH and dermatology ki degree. But sab jhod diya. Now I do vipassana and Shamanism.
I would have loved to have such empathetic daughter like you. Be a vet or vet assistance.
More power to u 💕
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I also lost my mother in Aug 2022😭💔 I miss her so much😭😭😭life is so hard without Mom 💔
I lost two of my relatives the same way..not infront of my eyes but nowadays there are so many cases of heartattacks..I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you live a happy life keeping her in your heart, may God bless you 💜
This conversation u had here is so deep Aparna. People are not even ready to understand what the kid is going through. I have also experienced this in life. People told that i am lazy and i am not working hard etc but I faced the issue. And those traumas i faced in school haunts me till date. I become so angry and hurtful when those memories come to me. I don't know, it does not matter now but healing is not completed. Though i am doing things according to my wish now, still those memories ask me qns like why did i suffer in that young age, it was not necessary and all. I could only watch this video with tears in my eyes. I pray for you, may you recover fully and have an awesome life ahead.
Your mom is pure soul as every mom is. ❤
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Use kya bimari he ???
@@bts.stan_07_4 bachoan m jb kisi bache koi danta ya mara jata hai zyada to wo depression (in urdu ehsas-e-kamtari = mayusi) men chala jata hai inko bhi wahi hua hai... ab sari life inko wahi yaad aayega aur ek normal life jine m bohot problems aayenge.... jaise aarahe hain...
I was an above average student still I have faced many issues...people used to not believe in me.Even sometimes I felt my parents lost faith in me but somehow I proved them and now everyone who used to look down upon me is coming closer to me because I have somewhere proved myself....I just felt that for few students it's always a validation that society wants for them to prove they are not dumb....just came across your channel recently and I am in love with it
A girl who makes u cry and laugh at the same tym....a mom who understands and listens everything...just the best youtuber ever ♥️
Aparna words can't describe you . And what you mean to us.
When you smile we smile, you laugh we laugh when you get sad it just breaks our heart and when you cry world seems upside down.. you said you won't cry anymore because they say it makes you look bad and leave a wrong impression on them but for me it doesn't seem like that .. when you cry I cry with you and my heart pray for your betterment, crying with you feels like as if am a really good person bcz it makes me feel your pain, and give me time to reflect on myself. I can't imagine what you are going through but still it makes me feel a little bit of your pain and suffering.. You are an extraordinary girl on this planet.
God always have better plans for his people. "
You'll be fine again" my last words and pray for you QUEEN 💗
Hey Aparna! I am Simran 20 years old and i am a primary teacher and when you are sharing your experience of studying i really feel ki ajj kal bacho pe bhot pressure hai padahi ka and itne chotte bacho ko bhi datna padta hai.... But after listening to you i will try my best to be more kind with my students so no one can go through any childhood trauma due to studies thanks for sharing ❣️ more power to you
Thnku🥹❤️
Daatna kyu padhta hai, madam ??? Asa to koi compulsion nahi ki aap daanto bacho ko ... If you are really understanding that a child suffers due to this pressure or uske baad bhi aap daant te ho ya punish krte ho bachon ko to ye bahut confusing hai, madam ...
@@thebraves8672 mujhe to yhi smjh nhi aaya ki ye 20year ki teacher h,(maybe private sector me ho)
mtlab khud to bdi ho jao phle
@@MonikaSharma-mp5bb absolutely
@@MonikaSharma-mp5bb ryt I am also thinking same😂
You know what hurts me the most, is that we all could have lived a happy life if only those people around us stopped mocking us and making us feel insecure about ourselves. This hits so fucking hard that only if they were a little gentle with the kid, understood them and their issues, talked with them instead of questioning them and made us feel a little proud for ourselves for our little efforts, it would have been enough for us to get rid of depression, anxiety, adhd and what not!! It just takes few words like "I am proud of you for trying this" "I am happy that you are doing whatever you are doing" It takes such a little to make us feel confident about ourselves, and letting us know are value but all the want is 99% on that sheet of paper
Sometimes not even 99 they want 100% from us like are we computer that could answer it from Google 🤣 we are humans and we can't probably make 100% but we can make those computers ryt?!
everyone has suffered these traumas di 🙂 every child suffers these states in childhood or teenage, but you're an inspiration for all the children and teens
Kya hua h inhe please bata do
@@handlepaste yes pls
@@aaradhyasingh227 health issue and bachpan mai trauma kuch things ko leke
@@dracula09953 like?
@@aaradhyasingh227 jyada toh nhi pta ek toh ye hai ki di ko apne hairs katne thee kyuki unko kafi problem hoti thi but kisi ne katne nhi diye and ulta bola ki fashion ke liye kaat rhi hai and jisse di ko bhut pain hota tha and bad posture jaise issues hone lage thee
Aap failure nahi ho . Failure wo hain jinhone aapko failure bola hai. They failed to see your potential and your heart. Aap mei insaniyat hai duniya ki har ek cheez ke liye aur wo log ye success kabhi hasil nahi kar payegy.
Im so proud of how far you've come. Your kindness, compassion and will power has inspired me a lot to become a better version of myself. Keep growing and fighting queen! Sending you lots of love and positivity 💗💗💗
Nothing can change your past....
Heal your feminine energy aparna...
Your relatives made you sad and hurted you but now when your life is completely in your hands...
When God showers you with love and loving people ...
Now be thankful and try to read more & more self healing books..
Love ya:)
You are inspiring.✨
Can u plz tell me inko kya issue ha..
@@zainabbhat8438 kindly watch the complete video to know about her.
ap jab apne duk share karte hain toh mujhe apke liye bora lagta hain lekin apki bataye bore nahi karti you are the best or ap roti ho toh mujhe ye nahi lagta ke ap har video main roti ho mujhe lagta hai ke ap apne duk share kar ho or jisko asa lagta hai ke har video main roti ho un ki baat mat suna karo
@@shilpa99 They're not even asking about the video. You could have been nicer.
@@zainabbhat8438 She has cervical issues. There is no issue with the mental abilities.. she was just not good at studies and has some childhood traumas related to it.
POV: Taare Zameen Par femal version got real :)))))🥰💞🤗
Iss video k through aap bohot achha message bhej rhe society ko, we need influencers like u. Mujhe esa lagta hai bachpan ka trauma har kisi ko reh jata he jivan bhar k liye, par hum kuch kar nahi sakte, bus life goes on!! 😊
I am a neurodivergent, and this hits home. My story is soo similar to yours. I used to be a brilliant child, a class topper. Then my developmental disorder hit and I lost interest in my studies. Everyone used to mock me and insult me with 'oh you are so stupid', 'why don't you study hard', ''just study, don't waste time' and whatnot. If I could have, I would be able to do it. Instead on understanding what was happening with me, they just formed their own harsh opinions and attacked me with it.
Today my mother blames herself that she was not there for her children. But it's not her entire fault. Even if she was there full time for me, could she protect me from my teachers, my peers and other people's shitty actions? Could she have protected me from teachers who thought they could beat the stupid out of me?
This is our society's fault that we believe and perpetuate these outdated and harmful things, still.
I am really thankful that you are educating others regarding this by bringing this to light.
Unless we are educated about this, many more innocent children will emerge with these traumas.
Anxiety hurts
I just begin crying when you said I was having no friends ....Same I have no one to share my feelings with It's very difficult when so many thoughts are hiting you and You have no one to share with You are too strong Ishu dii You are overcoming all these ♥️After watching your vlog somehow I feel like I'm not alone you are always there with me ....♥️Keep uploading vlogs dii💕
Please mjy b support kry
Don't worry, I mean if I who's in depression and have no frnds can understand much better, so just one sentence, himmat rakhni pedegi😌
Aprna you make me cry yr
More power to you and the kids who face such situations 🤎 it's beyond our imagination what kids go through..
People judge kids by their age but even small kids go through a lot and aparna is a witness of that!!
I hope your cousin sees this vlog and realises how wrong she was ! Wish you more success ♥️
Love from Kashmir 🤗
Same story I have i hate my cousins ...they all r so proudy
@@geetmystical6003 i also hate my all relatives they just expect marks from us nobody has ever gave motivation they just know how to taunt
Hey di.....I can really relate with all you have said...like I'm in 12th...and in 11th i felt soo lonely..... teachers are soo rude...upto 10th I'm like topper of my class...but in 11th due to soo lonely feeling...nd everyone made me feel soo low...like in 1st day of 11th i cried a lot...and later on my marks goes down...and started getting lowest marks in my class....and I'm almost depressed....till now...i don't wanna talk to my teachers...and my class mates....and after passing from school...I wish I'll never meet all these...as they made me sooo depressed...and underestimated me...
Thanks a lot...you spare your precious time to read mine story....
❤️❤️
I came here after someone talked about this video on quora. This is the first time I'm watching her videos. I just wanna say by no means she was and she is 'nalayak'. She is naturally so entertaining. Her accent, her ability to come up with what should be spoken next to make something sound interesting and entertaining, her dress sense, her lack of ego, is so on point.
If you judge a fish by its ability to climb tree, it will spend its whole life thinking it was worthless. Classic Einstein's quote. Sadi ka smartest insan, ye kaha, and teachers and parents to their kids are like 'tum nalayak ho'.
Meeee tooooooo.......................
Me tooo...
Me too
Can u share the quora link
@@addict4165 I did not bookmark it, it will be extremely hard to find the post again.
so i'm currently a mathematics student and i do well in my examinations. my problem was that i expect a lot from me, my parents are chill with everything. it's me who pressurise myself and push myself to the limits like i have to do best in everything. so last year, i didn't get selected in my favorite university and that somehow left me complete traumatized. i'm currently under medications for anxiety and it's really hard for me too. i just want to say that no matter what you are, what you do, life sucks at some point and you lose hope. but we shouldn't give up. we need to keep moving forward. good luck 💓
Hi Aparna,
I am Devika and too from Jammu but staying in Delhi for my studies.
I too have seen that in Jammu it's difficult for some people to understand that there are other field to explore other than academics but I just want to say to be from Jammu i am extremely proud and more than happy to see you growing day by day.
Just feel very strong even when you alone.
Just prove yourself the strongest and achieve every height of success.
Love from a Jammuite💟💟💟💟✨✨
Im also from jammu in 12th
I hope I pass this class successfully and move out of city to do something else and work on my dream.. Obviously my family will oppose but I won't listen to them anymore..
@@o-o2619 it's not like it that you don't have to obey your parents but make them understand your point sensibly
@@devikagupta8721 yess I will tell them my plans, my dreams and everything they need to know
Understanding me is upto them..
Its upto them if they choose me or society
Your relationship with your mother is priceless 💞
Yeh baccha ek dum dil ka saaf hai jo maan mai hai woh muh pe hai...plus she is so pure ki emotions control hi nai hote iske ,excited hai toh pura sad hai toh pura 🧡🧡 haaye!! But that doesn't mean she is not mature ehsaas hone ko hi maturity bolte hai ❣️ god bless you! Kiddo 🧿
Guys what's her dob? Real one pata hai kisi ko?
My mother is a teacher and she is so patient with her late learner students, really makes me appreciate her work.
I respect auntiji so much. I love how strong she is!
The way she accepts everything and try to live with that trauma shows how powerful she is and capable. 👍
Salute to your confidence, you are so strong that even with all the hurdles you are growing with flying colours. Just wait the people who made fun of you will now come and try to get associated with you as you are on your path to do something really big and famous ❤️❤️ God bless you
Is she sick, what is the sickness she keeps referring to
@@Bh70399 She has cervical and IBS, but she is coping up and soon will get rid of this.
Kids who have dyslexia or like you are so artistic. They have so much talent that put book smart to shame. I can see through the talent you have. Great communicator. We all are born with some kind of talent It’s just family and friends need to recognize. In western counties there is so much of help and special classes for these kids. Hope you find some kind of trade that you like and practice that. Wish you the best in life.
Not only mother but a teacher also play a huge role so please never underestimate your Students 🙏
Each and every line u said is 200% right.....u know backbenchers are the only ones who makes there family proud....i m with u....not even me everyone is with u...u just chill enjoy ur life...make urself proud...#respect di💙
Mera bhi childhood aisa tha ,health issues, marne ki bate sochna ,abhi tak wo sb trauma ghumte h mind me ,i can understand all the situation u r going through 😊 be strong ♥️
From a good student to a below average student
Class 11th and 12th were the most depressing year of my life.
So many students face this pace.. 🥺 please don't burden them... Let them live their lives peacefully... Everyone have some flaws no one is perfect... If someone is not good in studies, maybe they've some other talent.. Praise them... 😇
I can totally relate aparna,but the way your mother supports you and try to make you happy ,heads off to her❤️🧿
Love this video and the topic it covered. More Indian parents needs to understand this issue and so many other issues that children’s never talk about to their parents. It’s not the parent’s fault though as no one taught them parenting and they just became parents one day still growing up as human themselves and humans make mistakes unknowingly which is totally fine. Whats more important for our generation is to take these lessons from our parents mistake and learn parenting skills before actually becoming a parent and raising a child. Or learning about it and choosing not to be a parent if we know we can’t be a good one. Choosing to be a parent or remain childless should be normalised at this point I think.
This type of trauma was happed with me also 1 yr before in class 5 i m now 12yrs old but when i saw this video i started crying .... any teacher is not having this right ki voh ek chote bacche ko puri class ke samne jalel kare 😢😥😭😭🤧......
Sorry I also felt so emotional but I support u didi ❤️ 💗 💖
Don't be sad. My mom is having an IBS problem as well. This problem will not go permanent but yes you can improve this by making your life happy and by eating healthy food.
IBS starts when you start taking stress or overthinking. I will suggest stop taking stress and try to delete your past from your mind. Start interacting with new people, try to make friends, make yourself busy with the things you love to do.
Literally i am a Muslim and in my every prayer to god i always pyay for you and your health 🥺♥️
Very nice inshallah She is healthy now inshaallah ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤲🤲🤲
God ka g capital lekhen .thanks
Thanks dear
Chii muslim🤣🤣
@@adityarawat2788 ye kya batamizi hai...aise comments kon karta hai
dont cry koko dii..stay strong....u will get well soon....u r a super woman seriously😌
Your video reminded me of my disorder which was diagnosed when I was in class 11th and I still remember all the traumas that led to it and all the severe effects ( cognition) that it had on me . Just know that believing in yourself and loving yourself will heal all your wounds. Figuring out the ways that helps you manage or avoid all the negativity will surely help you heal sooner. Know that there are people who are struggling with similar problems and have gone through traumatic situations in their lives . You are not alone. You are loved . You are courageous and beautiful. Stay positive and stay happy ❤️
How cares?
Soo sweet of you
Mere 10th board -52%
12th board -51%
College bhi kuch esi tarah se complete kiya , bachpan se lekar college tak kuch ese he numbers aaye, logo ne kuch ese ke taane marte rahe hai , shayad yahi reason hai ki mai kuch jyada he introvet hu, abhi bhi logo se milne me derr lagta hai ki percentage na puch le ,aaj tumhara video deakh ke phir saari chije yaad aa gayi, aaj mai government exams ki tayari kar rha hu 2 attempts bhi de chuka hu ab derr lagta hai ki kuch hoga ya nahi.12:47 ye last attempt maan kar puri jaan laga dunga or ye line prove bhi karunga❤Thankyou Aparna
Hey Aparna! I also have a lot of childhood trauma kind of similar to yours which resulted in mental health issues when I grew up. I also resented the people who said and did hurtful things to me and didn’t even own up to them. The solution to this is to focus on yourself. Your recovery and health and peace. And if this means paying little or no attention to other people, then so be it. I personally found therapy quite useful. You may also try it to solve these past issues that hurt you. And never forget that you’re grown up now, and have the power to walk away and avoid negativity and negative people. We don’t have that as a child and that’s ok. All the very best and keep posting your amazing videos. Lots of love ❤️
Same my problem is same
Couldn't agree more. Nicely written 😊
Your mom is so sweet 💕
Stay blessed Aparna.
You are so real and straight up actually I’m feeling u I literally cried 👏🏻👏🏻♥️♥️♥️ all love to you this world and ppls are v cruel 😿
I can feel u 😔..
During academic i struggle to pass
But during my 11th n 12th I really worked hard n get good marks, n decided to Persued CA.
N u know main reason to become CA is to inspire people that being bad at academic doesn't define your whole life. I don't know whoever is reading this please let your child find their own way bcoz they are way more capable of doing anything then you think. Don't let childhood trauma hit them whole life.
Your parents must be proud of you!😊🙏
🥺🥺❤️❤️
Your story matches with mine
Currently, I'm pursuing CA Inter.. But I'm going through some issues like I overthink a lot... Extremely because of which I'm not able to concentrate on my studies properly.. And some family problems are also going on related to my uncle's health.. An unknown fear I'm feeling... Sometimes I'm panicking so much..
@@shrabonipolley8824 don't worry focus on your exams..
Try to calm yourself
I can really feel you Dear. I was never been a student "up to the mark", always scored low, and scolded by teachers and calmly insulted by family and parents. The most annoying thing is that people always judge you according to the marks you get in exams, whereas there is a huge difference between texual reading and knowledge. The most difficult thing i faced as a child was that my parents were unable to understand the sufferings i was going through, they were never there when i needed them the most to speak for myself and to calm me down , wholeheartedly i wished to hear from them "Dear , you are no less than anyone, you can". Often my father used to say that for me he can't even talk to my friends's parents, for my low marks he used to feel shameful to join the conversation about the "intelligent students". But still i knew and i know that they love me from the core of their heart..
Coming to friends ,i really feel they were just "classmates" who don't deserve to be recognized as "friends".All of them were good score holders rather excellent score holders and so in some way or the other they made me feel so low, they criticized, made a mock out of myself, and used to flaunt their marks, ignored me, insulted me in various ways. Even teachers also play a very crucial role on this demotivating system. A true teacher always tries to elevate the level of student who is educationally downtrodden.In my case, all the teachers i have met in my life, was always so sympathetic and appreciative only for the students who scored well nd these teachers used to scold me very badly nd i was so helpless.
After my 10th result came out , i witnessed my friends behaving like strangers, ignored me and there was something so bad in their behaviour i can't explain,but at that time , that particular vibe from everyone shattered me. I decided and promised myself to score well in my h.s and that was only because i wanted to see myself smiling. I wanted to make my parents proud of myself , wanted to show my friends that hey i am no less than you guys. I did as i promised. But no matter how far i travel, how far i have crawled, those things can never be erased from my mind. The visual perceptions we had as a child is embedded in our mind forever and ever. I cry hard whenever i think of those days.
But above all i do believe that it's only you who can set your worth, nobody else can decide how far you can climb the stairs in your future. Best wishes for you from me(kheya). ❤
I read all the things u written n its pretty much my story too
I can relate to you. Literally, I'm into tears.
I have been through the worst. It's hard for me to come out of my childhood traumas.
I still break down.
I have 0 friends, my teachers were like villains, and my parents had never understood what I'm into.
Still in a depression situation, 0 confident, and I stuck while doing any activity.
I'm still fighting to get rid of the situations.
She is so innocent,pure , and very childish i don't know how can someone hurt her little soul 😭❤️
I love her so muchh and have been watching her vlogs from a long time now and trust me she is so Down to earth and very considerate at heart 💖💖💖
I've been watching your videos for almost a year now , but I never comment and express my thoughts, I just watch the video like it and leave. But today I'm commenting to appreciate you Aparna. You're literally the best example of being a real human. We love you and hope you'll recover very very soon . Love you Ishu didi ❣️❣️❣️
I can understand childhood trauma..its not easy to forget and share...but u r sharing that is good thing..god bless you
O my God I think she is Angel 😇 , I don't know how I came here. But so happy to watch you. Padai Wale baccho can you see how awaken soul she is. Auntiji you are so ❤ loving. Lots of love and regards.
bht bht sukriya ye video dalne k liye bht logo ko trauma me Jane se bachayega ye video ❤️
You are saying some of the things that usually people felt during their childhood but are not able to express..It's okay to be not okay sometimes..But now at this moment, you have everything that many people don't have(like family, mother, doing good with vlogs) ..You are beautiful and cute,, cherish your present and rone me v koi burai nhi :) take care. :)
So sweet ❤️
I cried so much aftr watching this vlog…
So relatable…hope all parents undrstd pain of their respective kids.
Her voice made me cry yrr....being an aspirant I can totally make it relatable with me. How you make everything as a joke but we know it's not laughable. Stay strongly dear you already achieved a lot just look at your subscribers. You had huge fan base. Keep yourself strong try meditation and youg just live as you're comfortable. Don't force yourself do whatever your heart says don't listen your toxic relative and forget that okhali vala idiom. Dropping this comment just make u little strong. Not your subscriber just a random video for me and yt recommended me this. Stay healthy stay strong. ❤️
Ulta aap lucky ho itne aap bol rhe ho..
Humara dil to bahut bhara hua hey
I can feel your emotions... pain... Your words inspire me. sabka life ek jaisa nai hota. Sometimes I also feel very low. This is life... and life must goes on. I love you girl.❤ stay happy
Mai v aapki mama ki student hu...mai aapko b school tym sai janti hu.....ur mother was so loyal to her job kuch teacher toh sirf tym pass k liye class mai aatai the but aapki mama bohot achai sai math ki class laitai the.. She is a very gud person by heart.
Your mom is sooo sweet.. she's a blessing in your life and you're a blessing to your mom and us! ♥️✨ Btw you are not nalayk.. you're talented and a good soul ! We all need people like you in our lives ! ♥️😍
Ap sahi keh rehe ho ak din dekhna ye kitni zada success ho gi life main.......
@@pihusharma8390 sorry I can't understand hindi
Every child is unique in their own way. I'm lucky that my parents never pressurized me for studies that much. I just went with the flow. As an adult I'm struggling to get a job, but it's been easy for me to handle this situation because of my parents support. Nowadays, children are forced to study and get marks on exams. It's like they're pushed to be someone they're not, specifically they're always being compared with other kids. I wish the parents, society and teachers could understand how these kids actually feel.
Hey Aparna!idk if you are going to read this or not but you really inspired a lot of people out there and I am doing something for such children and parents in the field of mental health. I would love to connect with you and actually discuss how we both can make a difference. Please feel free to reply to this comment. I am a mental health advocate and reiki healer.
With love
Kashish
Help
@@tsul4533 r u okay?
@@baby_sharktutududu thank you for asking ❤️
@@tsul4533 r u?
Didi sach me koi nalaayak nhi hota......... I know what you were feeling coz I went through the same thing...... everyone was almost ready to tear me apart due to my bad results but thank God I never lost belief in myself and today I am studying in IIT Madras (not a very huge achievement but still it's a very big thing for a child who was always underestimated and was called curse and disgrace 🥺🥺) .........may god bless you with lots of good health and happiness 🥰🥰
Stress affect your mental health and mental health affect our physical health.. it's a circle. And parents should never compare their kids with others..Hey ishu i would suggest you to forgive your parents or grandparents who hurt you. You're lucky that atleast you have your mother to listen. Words can stay forever in a child's mind. For parents it must be a normal Tuesday but for us we remember date and time when they said it.
Ryt beta sbhi parents plz apne bcho ko kbhi torcher mat kro nalayak duffer mat bolo apne bcho ko plz hurt hote hai bche 😢😢❤❤
Aparna, you could have dyslexia (which is pretty normal amongst kids). Please read about it, it will help you a lot understanding that the condition is pretty normal. I know a lot of people who went through this as kids but their parents/teachers never understood it and forced things on them.
I was searching for this exact comment. There is a possibility like the way she is explaining she could have dyslexia from her description.
Same .. the way she described it shows that she could have dyslexia. She should get assessed for dyslexia.
@Health Up ibs and servical
Can't relate more with your childhood trauma.... 😭 I also cry whenever i remember my old days...but I am doing well today...so are you...ngl it still comes back sometimes.
This is something people have to understand. But hardly people talk about such topics. Hats off. 🙌
You are so intelligent dear……u are so confident full of life,u are so brave than rest if girls,u know south delhi girls😂😂,i have never seen a girl like u,with so kany gratitude,fun and live nature….may god bless u with all love and prosperity.don’t think ur alone
Aparna please never ever thrash at your mother .. ek maa hi hai jo itna Sunti hai ...duniya toh tamasha bana kar chali jati hai ...ask your mom what you are to her ❤️... Bear hug to you aap thik ho jaoge don't worry ... I understand your situation is not that easy but remember you are sunshine 🌻🌻
That's she kept saying sorry..a mother is the most precious person in our lives🥺💞
Aparna yaar! It doesn't depend ki aap kitne number late ho .. average ho ki brilliant ho ... Agar aap kuch chizo mein logo se aage ho toh aapse log jalte hai... underestimate krte hai... criticise krte hai... Aur agar aapke dost nhi h toh aap bilkul sahi track pe ho.... Since school till today m in govt service nobody ever liked me... Always demotivate me... criticised me... Pure school mein 1st aayi thi mein distinction leke 10th 12th ki fir bhi kabhi kisi ne appreciate nhi kiya nahi kabhi dost mile... Humesha logo ne isolate krke rakha... Ab Jake pata chala ki agar dusra kuch acha krta h toh ppl act as a crab they just wanna pull them down..very few vl help u climb the ladder of success bt most of them act as a crab .. so don't feel disheartened it's oki... Grow through wat u go through... Bhagwan ji kuch sikh Dena chahte h aapko unka motive samjh jaogi kis din sab bimariyan aapne aap khatam ho jaegi...B's khud pe vishwas rakho aur apne karma pe vishwas rakho... God bless you dear
These words are so true… every parents should understand the capability of there child ❤😊
Irrespective how words like depression and anxiety are miss used nowadays but it has given space to people like you come out and speak about their traumas depression.
The things she brought up today is very important i am also suffering from this being a neet repeater no one asked me about efforts but result including my own family being compared off being called by family members u bring up tension in our house is worst.
Don’t worry dear Aparna
Stop thinking about all this dear
You are very intelligent ,smart and bold.
Don’t let the people who don’t understand you define you ♥️
You’re amazing
You’re great
You’re progressing
Life is good when you are a better version of what you were yesterday 🌻
You’re not a failure ,you’re an inspiration
Last verse ❤️🔥💯
U r truly outstanding AD 👍, u r a fighter
No one can beat you in vlogging content 💯
bhn apko sunne k bad mujhe aj bhut achha lg rha hai ki mai ksi ko dukhi hone se bacha pai , bo mere chhota bhai hai childhood se bo bilkul bhi nhi padhta tha mne bhut try kiya but sunne kbhi bhi try nhi kiya achhe no lane ki ,but bo kosis krta tha bhle hi bo ek din exam k phle ho hr class bs usne pass kiya , lekin bo dimak se bhut tej tha bhle hi padhai me achha nhi tha , mne hmesa uske future ki tension li ki ky krega e ky kru mai ki mera bhai kuchh kr kr , but fir mne apne bhai ko photo pr kuchh din k interest dekha ,bo kuchha din k hi tha bhut bo mujhe ek rasta dikh gya tha ,mne pta lagay ,phle usne mana kr diya taki use entrance exam ki preparation n krni pde but mne bhut binti ki ki tu bs ek bar admission le le fir tujhe jo mrji ho kr lena , exam k din tk usne kha ki nhi krna e sb but mai janti thi ki ky hoga iska future isiliye sbkuchh kraya , aur ab bo bdhiya se exam nikal k 1 sal bad se hi college k khud k photography business start kr diya ab use khud pta hai ky krna hai ky nhi ab mai free hu responsibility aur tension se .... so bachcho k future bs padhai se hi nhi bhut kuchh se bn skta hai but apko fir dhyan dena hoga n ki bachche ko , hr bchche ko ias ,pcs hi bne yhi mt sochie bachh ki capability ko dekhiye aur ap kuchh achha fix kijie jb tk uska jisme mn nhi lgta ,jb uska mn lg jaye ap free ho jayenge apni responsibility se bachche k future ko lekr .
I just saw your video today . My friend suggested me your channel because at some level I can relate to you . I have also faced the same type of problem in my childhood. I can literally feel you my relatives even my family does the same with me .
I also have anxiety issues and all of that .
I still feel the pressure of society exists all over us .
I can completely agree no one is failure and every failure does a miracle 🌟.
You are most talented girl with beauty, your way of creating content, facing camera, love for animals, everything is awesome, as every individual is different, everyone has different qualities, if one is good at studies, the other one must be good at other skill,we can not put all people in one frame of judgment.
This vlog is very good msg to all parents who force children to get higher numbers.
Love from Pakistan❤
I totally relate your story I don't know why parents are not understand and support their child...I'm suffering depression because of my teachers and family issues... You Will be a good mother who understands and support their child 🚸 ...The person who does not get love and importance gets boarded like this and people think that he is a scoundrel.... don't worry Aparna everything will be fine...Just ignore these problems and focus to enjoy your life...I'm also doing these things...I have no family relatives nor friends but I'm happy because if they're with me they abuse and hurt physically and mentally...I'm great full for God and U should also Dear...thank god you have RUclips to tell your problem but i don't have anything like that ....I love you Aperna we always with you Dear don't be Sad keep always Smile 😊 😍 🙂💞
God bless you..iss topic par discuss karna bahut jaruri tha..aap hi nhi aap jaise aur bhi bacche hain..jinke sath ye sab ho raha hai...aapne bahut humiliation jhela hai..❤️❤️
You made me to change my way of treating my daughter... I'll be treating her more humbly and with love... Girl you are so awesome... You are so intelligent... Thank you so much ❤️
Yaar aparna aap jab bhi rote ho n hum sabko bhi Rola dete ho... I can parsonally related with u sooo so so much 🥺❤️....
Hatts off to your mom.. she's been your spine ❤️❤️
Love and Respect for her❤️☮️
the part where her mother starting blaming herself actually made me cry !!
hey aparna,being a special child mom i can understand you & your mom too because society & family always compare child and pressure comes to child ,even teacher also wants perfect child...but now you are good in vlogging & video editing & people loves you & your vlogs too. start reading Bhagwat Geeta & it will relief you a lot .mea bhi phale ase hi roti rahti thi kyu itni problems hui meri beti ko .... After I started reading Bhagwat Geeta mujhe bhut peace mila.
It was sad to hear about whatever you're going through in ur life but also really felt nice to see you that you were able to share it with all of us. Really hats off to you dear! As well you r also inspiring many people who r going through like this! I hope you recover very soon! and achieve whatever you've dreamed for! good luck and lots of love ♥️
Lots of love to Little Aparna ❤️
You are right..koi bhi NALAYAK nahi hota khud se.. relatives and society bol bol kr feel krate hain.
To Aunty, do not see yourself responsible for this...yes you are human and we make some mistakes only to realise it later.
Also it's not you who is solely responsible because as a parent you have to have strict with your children since you are aware of the brutal and competitive world waiting for them ahead specially when one belongs to middle class family and education is the only way out. It's the people around her who had no business ,are responsible for her trauma.
We all make mistakes so it's okk. ❤️
And a big fan of Gitu Ji's WOWWWWW😅
Aparna tu kitni strong hai re … kitna accha kr rhi h zindagi me… bs bachpan ki jo b cheeze ab ho chuki hain unse khud ko heal kr… or sbse best part h “delete the story for your peace”… apne dimag me ratta mtt lga past ka usko cheeze bhulne de ❤