I understand what Shelly is saying. I also think it’s giving another person too much power by saying “they ghosted you” and “they hurt you”. I don’t remember who said this but we hurt ourselves by the meaning we assign to someone else’s actions. Suffering comes from the mental replay. 🌸
Yesss, that is so true & is a HUGE part of the problem.. not realising our power.. not understanding that love comes from within.. forgetting that the external is always a reflection of the interior.. that is *the core* of the problem.. the root of evil/pain to be fixed/worked on.. and the person's behaviour is just a trigger for the wound to be healed by showering it with love, empathy & understanding.. 💎👌
You command reality. You can block people, things, events, time. You're powerful. Use the knowledge to your advantage. You are perfection. You are not left ❤
People are acting from their wounded self. Hurt people hurt people is so true. This is definitely lower vibration. Higher vibration and energy doesn't vibrate with lack. Showing up for myself is very important. Creating a story I want to live in my life.
Happened to me week ago, met really great down to earth guy on an app, we had almost 100% of things in common. He was fully engaged in conversations with me on the phone everyday. Then we went on a date at a restaurant, it seemed to go well until he said he had to go after the meal as his car park ticket would expire in 2 hrs. He said he enjoyed our date and thanked me for coming, he even told me to text him when i got back home. Then day after, i heard nothing from him. My mind started coming up with all sorts of excuses why he wouldnt, i felt tempted to contact him but i just didnt want to chase anyone anymore. He just stopped communicating with me and 2 days later i felt like my heart was breaking it was horrible even though i only knew him for 2 weeks. Same thing happened on my last date in December last year. Now im just fed up of it all
Thank you so much for answering my question, this has been a wondering circle for me. It’s been a pattern but I am officially DONE. It’s not acceptable to tolerate any of these behaviors from others. And the door is open not only if they want to come back! But it is widely OPEN if they want to go. You are the best Shelly Love
I have the same dress 😍 I have unfollowed a number of coaches through the years but I am still with you!! You are amazing. Thank you Shelly. My life has drastically changed for the better over the past few months and I am now so excited to see what comes next!!
I totally get it now.Ive been ghosted WAY too many times ! I took it to my heart entirely :/ i was very young back then,didnt have the greatest concept ...but Now ? I dont have that issue anymore .I understood that I have had a pattern (but also ,i will not whiten them ...I think they also had their struggles ) Being ghosted is one of the things that you will never forget,It actually has a lot of triggers itself.Its hard ,aint gonna lie. When I created better concept,but also cut bad people from my life ,everything has shifted
This is so true, when i actually thought that why did i get ghosted by multiple people that i attracted, i started to feel something in my chest. I need to work on shifting my beliefs❤. Also this goes somewhere with my work aswell, i always leave my work or projects midway througj completion even though i like it, so maybe thats whats reflecting in my relationships as well.
Posted in the nick of time! I’m surprised this topic wasn’t done sooner? 🤔 Had an event like this tonight. But… it made me finally see a pattern of being less worthy than a bf’s best male friend. Even if that friend is 100% wrong, I still get “abandoned”. As I’m reliving the bad past, this video showed up 😱 I still remember from the crumbs video to make myself not available for crumbs. And it worked within 24h! I see it’s a similar concept here on working on the self first. Now that I see the pattern, I can rewrite it faster.
Thank you for this. I feel like this video was super insightful. I feel like a lot of coaches put the blame on the person ghosted and say its only because you caused it. It's refreshing to hear that sometimes it is about the other person and has nothing to do with you! Thank you.
You can show up for yourself in a relationship, and request your partner to also show up. But if they’re not prepared to do that, they will either ghost you or breakup with you. It’s the risk you take in any relationship. It can still be very painful because you find out exactly who your partner is, and sometimes it’s very disappointing and heartbreaking.
Thank you Shelly for your work ❤ these days I watched some older videos from you about different topics. I’m so grateful for your contents. And I have to say, I resonate so much with your personal path, from psychology to spirituality, to the simple teachings of Neville. I never graduated in psychology but my whole life from the beginning I analyzed people, I’m often in the observer mode and I look at what people do and why they do it. I always thought about and learned about topics like identity, philosophy and psychology, but me too, I knew that it wasn’t all, something was missing. Many years ago I read my first book about the law of attraction. And I “knew” instantly that people attract things in their lives. I knew that it is not a coincidence that some people are luckier or healthier than other. And we all “know” that there is a placebo effect. For years my learning about the LOA was really slow. I read the Secret books, only later I found Abraham Hicks and I started watching a lot of videos about the Law of Attraction, Abraham tapes, and at some point I found Scovel Shinn Neville. Also with Neville I instantly “knew” that he was like an explanation and the missing piece of the Law of Attraction teachings. I did not found your channel here on YT because I was searching for my SP or a relationship. Actually for me, creating my perfect partner at some point was pretty easy. I think it’s because I’m a rather introvert and solitary person and I never freak out about relationships. I only freak out when I don’t have my silence, peace or space. But I never push someone or stalk or chase. My topics that were more difficult for me to create were money, success, material things. I then realized that I had to work on self-love, confidence, general inner peace. I wanted to have more clarity and explanation about Neville. This is how I found you through the YT algorithm. And I watched a lot of your videos in the last 2 years. Thank you so much 😊. You gave me so much clarity and simple explanation of Neville, of the general meaning of spirituality, of who and what we actually are. I learned and continue learning a lot. With you I fully understood what “we are our inner world pushed out” really means. Thank you 🙏🏼❤
This has happened to me before. I was in a relationship with someone and they just kind of stopped replying to my messages and disappeared. I didn't have any idea where he was. It's really painful. I decided that this was not the kind of treatment I deserve and I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who behaves like this.
Theyre either scared cos not ready to be with someone else fully ie not worked through feelings of past etc. Then when u notice theyv pulled back and u confront them they pull back further particilarly if an avoidant style so u then feed into their pattern but if u break it by not confronting theh they come closer. However u have to decide if tjay person is worth this effort can u hold space while they work through their own issues or move on to someone who has and is ready for commitment
Weired enough (or luckily enough 😅🍀) life brings us the exact opposite of our wound/trigger so that we can both heal from it .. Like the chaser/runner Avoidant/atttached Personality in relationships.. Always a mirror to reflect & magnify 🔎🔍to us our weaknesses So that we can work from them & heal & reach our ultimate stattus of 🤴🏻 & 👸🏻
Thank you Shelly this felt really helpful. I felt so heavy because of the feelings it's really a physical very heavy thing. Can you manifest the ghoster back after years? Why? Because i still love him and i need answers.
The only place to look for answers are within.. not from someone else. The world is just a mirror. Unless you think the seemingly other has power over you
With toxic and manipulative people I have to do that ,becuase they disrespacted me and I can't talke to them because they blame me all the time so I chose to ghost this people.
Does it make sense to interact with the ghoster and be like "It's really shitty and disrespectful you're ghosting me right now" or is it better to just focus on oneself and do inner work? Something in me wants to express to them that I'm not up for such shitty behaviour!
Hi Shelly. Is it in 100% cases that you are triggered? What about you stop reacting to a person which hurts you often, creates conflicts ect. and you just don't want to deal with them? Because any response would be a start of another possible fight.
Do "I AM" affirmations work if it's not really about me but the SP? For example I like this one but it's more about her-"I AM the man she has been waiting for her whole life". She's the one doing the waiting and feeling I'm the man not me.
Shelly can you explain how your sp is responding from their wounded self when they are everyone is pushed out? How does this tie into we create our SPs how can they have a trigger inside of them if we create them?
Ok but how does this connect with everyone is you pushed out? It seems like it’s completely the opposite of it, which is fine but if shelly doesn’t resonate with eoiypo she needs to make it clear. Because according to law of assumption people dont have their own “triggered story” im so tired of coaches constantly giving mixed information.
Agreed. If if it's a pattern that new and old people in your life keep reflecting, then it's you. Even if you see it as "attracting" those types of people, it's still EIYPO. And seeing them as "hurt" perpetuates how they keep showing up for you. This video in itself is conflicting not even compared to some of her other videos.
Yeah, this is definitely not law of assumption. Ghosting (as a pattern) stems from low sc - not feeling good enough, prioritized, important, shown up for, chosen, etc.
I don't believe that other people are robots and "don't have their own triggered story." Of course they do! What i'm saying aligns with EIYPO... you are going to attract/interact with the version of other people that is congruent with the version of yourself you are being (self concept) and your beliefs about them.
Is it normal to be doing inner child work all day when you start? Now that I know how to soothe myself I find myself needing to go within to calm myself down a lot during the day. I didn’t realize how bad it was affecting me until I started the inner child work.
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I understand what Shelly is saying. I also think it’s giving another person too much power by saying “they ghosted you” and “they hurt you”. I don’t remember who said this but we hurt ourselves by the meaning we assign to someone else’s actions.
Suffering comes from the mental replay. 🌸
Yesss, that is so true & is a HUGE part of the problem.. not realising our power.. not understanding that love comes from within.. forgetting that the external is always a reflection of the interior..
that is *the core* of the problem.. the root of evil/pain to be fixed/worked on.. and the person's behaviour is just a trigger for the wound to be healed by showering it with love, empathy & understanding.. 💎👌
Completely agree with this! ❤
You command reality. You can block people, things, events, time. You're powerful. Use the knowledge to your advantage. You are perfection. You are not left ❤
I wish that was true!
I agree, you are divine perfection and more powerful than you may remember. ✨
People ghost when they are in over their head… it’s hurtful but a blessing in disguise’s BYE 👋
People are acting from their wounded self. Hurt people hurt people is so true. This is definitely lower vibration. Higher vibration and energy doesn't vibrate with lack.
Showing up for myself is very important. Creating a story I want to live in my life.
Happened to me week ago, met really great down to earth guy on an app, we had almost 100% of things in common. He was fully engaged in conversations with me on the phone everyday. Then we went on a date at a restaurant, it seemed to go well until he said he had to go after the meal as his car park ticket would expire in 2 hrs. He said he enjoyed our date and thanked me for coming, he even told me to text him when i got back home. Then day after, i heard nothing from him. My mind started coming up with all sorts of excuses why he wouldnt, i felt tempted to contact him but i just didnt want to chase anyone anymore. He just stopped communicating with me and 2 days later i felt like my heart was breaking it was horrible even though i only knew him for 2 weeks. Same thing happened on my last date in December last year. Now im just fed up of it all
Thank you so much for answering my question, this has been a wondering circle for me. It’s been a pattern but I am officially DONE. It’s not acceptable to tolerate any of these behaviors from others. And the door is open not only if they want to come back! But it is widely OPEN if they want to go. You are the best Shelly
Love
I have the same dress 😍 I have unfollowed a number of coaches through the years but I am still with you!! You are amazing. Thank you Shelly. My life has drastically changed for the better over the past few months and I am now so excited to see what comes next!!
Where is it from? I love it!
I totally get it now.Ive been ghosted WAY too many times ! I took it to my heart entirely :/ i was very young back then,didnt have the greatest concept ...but Now ? I dont have that issue anymore .I understood that I have had a pattern (but also ,i will not whiten them ...I think they also had their struggles ) Being ghosted is one of the things that you will never forget,It actually has a lot of triggers itself.Its hard ,aint gonna lie.
When I created better concept,but also cut bad people from my life ,everything has shifted
This is so true, when i actually thought that why did i get ghosted by multiple people that i attracted, i started to feel something in my chest. I need to work on shifting my beliefs❤. Also this goes somewhere with my work aswell, i always leave my work or projects midway througj completion even though i like it, so maybe thats whats reflecting in my relationships as well.
Posted in the nick of time!
I’m surprised this topic wasn’t done sooner? 🤔
Had an event like this tonight. But… it made me finally see a pattern of being less worthy than a bf’s best male friend. Even if that friend is 100% wrong, I still get “abandoned”. As I’m reliving the bad past, this video showed up 😱
I still remember from the crumbs video to make myself not available for crumbs. And it worked within 24h! I see it’s a similar concept here on working on the self first. Now that I see the pattern, I can rewrite it faster.
Shelly, you are such an amazing person and healer. The perspectives you teach are always thought provoking and full of insights. Thank you.
The best explanation on ghosting I've EVER seen on RUclips and at this point I feel I'm an expert on watching them 😂💯
Thank you for this. I feel like this video was super insightful. I feel like a lot of coaches put the blame on the person ghosted and say its only because you caused it. It's refreshing to hear that sometimes it is about the other person and has nothing to do with you! Thank you.
Oh Shelly! You are such a breath of fresh air. The cosmic consciousness brought me to this channel and I know I’m on the right path!
You’re right Shelly. This is work you simply cannot bypass. I know because I’ve tried
I needed this, this morning and it came at the right exact time
You can show up for yourself in a relationship, and request your partner to also show up. But if they’re not prepared to do that, they will either ghost you or breakup with you. It’s the risk you take in any relationship. It can still be very painful because you find out exactly who your partner is, and sometimes it’s very disappointing and heartbreaking.
Thank you Shelly for your work ❤ these days I watched some older videos from you about different topics. I’m so grateful for your contents.
And I have to say, I resonate so much with your personal path, from psychology to spirituality, to the simple teachings of Neville.
I never graduated in psychology but my whole life from the beginning I analyzed people, I’m often in the observer mode and I look at what people do and why they do it. I always thought about and learned about topics like identity, philosophy and psychology, but me too, I knew that it wasn’t all, something was missing. Many years ago I read my first book about the law of attraction. And I “knew” instantly that people attract things in their lives. I knew that it is not a coincidence that some people are luckier or healthier than other. And we all “know” that there is a placebo effect.
For years my learning about the LOA was really slow. I read the Secret books, only later I found Abraham Hicks and I started watching a lot of videos about the Law of Attraction, Abraham tapes, and at some point I found Scovel Shinn Neville.
Also with Neville I instantly “knew” that he was like an explanation and the missing piece of the Law of Attraction teachings.
I did not found your channel here on YT because I was searching for my SP or a relationship. Actually for me, creating my perfect partner at some point was pretty easy. I think it’s because I’m a rather introvert and solitary person and I never freak out about relationships. I only freak out when I don’t have my silence, peace or space. But I never push someone or stalk or chase. My topics that were more difficult for me to create were money, success, material things. I then realized that I had to work on self-love, confidence, general inner peace.
I wanted to have more clarity and explanation about Neville. This is how I found you through the YT algorithm. And I watched a lot of your videos in the last 2 years.
Thank you so much 😊. You gave me so much clarity and simple explanation of Neville, of the general meaning of spirituality, of who and what we actually are. I learned and continue learning a lot. With you I fully understood what “we are our inner world pushed out” really means. Thank you 🙏🏼❤
This has happened to me before. I was in a relationship with someone and they just kind of stopped replying to my messages and disappeared. I didn't have any idea where he was. It's really painful. I decided that this was not the kind of treatment I deserve and I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who behaves like this.
What a really great video and so well explained
I am so happy you liked it! 😊
Theyre either scared cos not ready to be with someone else fully ie not worked through feelings of past etc. Then when u notice theyv pulled back and u confront them they pull back further particilarly if an avoidant style so u then feed into their pattern but if u break it by not confronting theh they come closer. However u have to decide if tjay person is worth this effort can u hold space while they work through their own issues or move on to someone who has and is ready for commitment
So well explained, and I love your dress!
🎉 beautiful psicotip for how to feel better 🎉
Off topic, your room is beautiful ❤️
Weired enough (or luckily enough 😅🍀) life brings us the exact opposite of our wound/trigger so that we can both heal from it ..
Like the chaser/runner
Avoidant/atttached
Personality in relationships..
Always a mirror to reflect & magnify 🔎🔍to us our weaknesses
So that we can work from them & heal & reach our ultimate stattus of 🤴🏻 & 👸🏻
Exactly
Gold ✨ bdw love that dress!
😊 Thanks!
Thank you so much for this 💕
Thank you Shelly ❤
Thank you Shelly this felt really helpful. I felt so heavy because of the feelings it's really a physical very heavy thing. Can you manifest the ghoster back after years? Why? Because i still love him and i need answers.
The only place to look for answers are within.. not from someone else. The world is just a mirror. Unless you think the seemingly other has power over you
With toxic and manipulative people I have to do that ,becuase they disrespacted me and I can't talke to them because they blame me all the time so I chose to ghost this people.
Does it make sense to interact with the ghoster and be like "It's really shitty and disrespectful you're ghosting me right now" or is it better to just focus on oneself and do inner work? Something in me wants to express to them that I'm not up for such shitty behaviour!
Thanks x
Hi Shelly. Is it in 100% cases that you are triggered? What about you stop reacting to a person which hurts you often, creates conflicts ect. and you just don't want to deal with them? Because any response would be a start of another possible fight.
Then they're not ghosting you. You are simply not engaging with them anymore.
It's true 😌
Do "I AM" affirmations work if it's not really about me but the SP? For example I like this one but it's more about her-"I AM the man she has been waiting for her whole life". She's the one doing the waiting and feeling I'm the man not me.
Shelly can you explain how your sp is responding from their wounded self when they are everyone is pushed out? How does this tie into we create our SPs how can they have a trigger inside of them if we create them?
Can you please explain more of the somatic element you mentioned.
Does that mean breath work or exercise to stabilize your thoughts?
I've never been ghosted.
Well lucky you. 🎉
@@LisaF777 Not lucky when some guy is chasing you that you that you don't want to be chased by. 😂
@Juanita Thomas ONLY its not your turn YET 🤫
Ok but how does this connect with everyone is you pushed out? It seems like it’s completely the opposite of it, which is fine but if shelly doesn’t resonate with eoiypo she needs to make it clear. Because according to law of assumption people dont have their own “triggered story” im so tired of coaches constantly giving mixed information.
Agreed. If if it's a pattern that new and old people in your life keep reflecting, then it's you. Even if you see it as "attracting" those types of people, it's still EIYPO. And seeing them as "hurt" perpetuates how they keep showing up for you. This video in itself is conflicting not even compared to some of her other videos.
Yeah, this is definitely not law of assumption. Ghosting (as a pattern) stems from low sc - not feeling good enough, prioritized, important, shown up for, chosen, etc.
I don't believe that other people are robots and "don't have their own triggered story." Of course they do! What i'm saying aligns with EIYPO... you are going to attract/interact with the version of other people that is congruent with the version of yourself you are being (self concept) and your beliefs about them.
Is it normal to be doing inner child work all day when you start? Now that I know how to soothe myself I find myself needing to go within to calm myself down a lot during the day. I didn’t realize how bad it was affecting me until I started the inner child work.
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