Nodding. I can relate to your rationale. I was afraid to have a daughter because the world is primed for males to thrive and females to chase the male glory in social contract privileges and employment rewards. And because of gender violence on the street and domestically. It's like the moment your daughter is born until death she is playing catch-up without opting in. A son can be aloof and opt-out without consequences.
Speaking of#2. I have a fear of my life being cut short unexpectedly so I also instantly asked the OBGYN if I can make #2 immediately. She said nope, wait 6 Months due to my csection. Would you consider trying immediately after delivery if your OBGYN agrees and your body can handle it?
@@SekaSetswana I initially thought I would tray as soon as we got the go ahead but now I'm thinking of waiting for after 6months and that's just because I want to enjoy just her for a bit. But I would wait longer than a year. That's a long time. I haven't spoken to my doctor about it I was planning on doing so closer to the birth cause I hear from friends they usually give a contraceptive shot after delivery and I don't want that.
@@HeyGabsterSD nodding. I remember I was asked what contraceptive I wanted and I said I'm okay. I completely understand how you feel about enjoying her. It's important to be ready. I remember Takkies crying that she felt guilty her pregnancy with #2 meant she couldn't pick up #1 and do things she used to do with #1. It was a raw emotion that I understand. Because I've got my own issues of having lost 3 immediate family members in 18 months. I am scared I'm next as there was no cause of death identified for my siblings. Hence I decided to speed things up just in case. So I definitely understand the importance of enjoying to satisfaction before pursuing #2. I look forward to witnessing your journey whatever you choose to share. Signed, Another geriatric
I hear you girl... But as an eldest girl yes nurturer is the expectation, and from the boys judging from our folks, financier is the expectation... Either way unfair expectation as I believe I just think siblings should be siblings and not be expected to be "responsible" for each other.. Of course they'll look out for each other naturally, but I think these "substitute parent" roles are unfairI think a bigger age gap makes things worse...So in my rationale I decided that I'd have a small age gap... Not more than 2years God willing so they can just be siblings and friends more than anything else.
You are right def right this expectations are really not fair. I also think a smaller gap would help to not create that too much.. As parents we need to work towards not putting those on our kids in all the ways we engage with them.
Totally share the same sentiments. I would definitely love it if being each others keeper came naturally for my children but I don't want any of they to feel the obligation to be the other's carer. And I feel the same way with me as a parent. I don't want my kids to ever feel obliged to take care of me by default as if that's what they are here for.
It was very interesting to hear your sentiments on this topic. On the contrary I really wanted a girl as a first born. I remember the feeling of disappointment when they told me it was a boy but now I am happy it worked out that way. Even if at the end of the day when you want a child it really doesn't matter. But back to your views, it depends a lot on personality too. My daughter who is younger is more firm, assertive and is actually the one who 'protects' his big brother. The first born (boy) is the softer one. In my own family, the females are the 'stronger' ones regardless of birth order.
Oh a lovely change to the norm💕💕yes I think birth order can be a big factor but also personality and environment can turn those things around. I was just worried that the birth order would lay on those responsibilities despite who they are and I didn't want that for them.. But now it's my job to make sure it doesn't happen same as the last born shouldn't be allowed to get away with murder just because😂😂😂
I told you it would happen eventually Gabster! Now look at you GLOWING🤗🤗🤗 Congrats to you and the hubby❤ Enjoy the journey to motherhood dear. God is great, you are blessed👏👌
A moment of silence for the glow ☺️🥰.
#ahopefilledjourney 🌻🍃
Nodding. I can relate to your rationale.
I was afraid to have a daughter because the world is primed for males to thrive and females to chase the male glory in social contract privileges and employment rewards. And because of gender violence on the street and domestically. It's like the moment your daughter is born until death she is playing catch-up without opting in. A son can be aloof and opt-out without consequences.
Speaking of#2. I have a fear of my life being cut short unexpectedly so I also instantly asked the OBGYN if I can make #2 immediately. She said nope, wait 6 Months due to my csection. Would you consider trying immediately after delivery if your OBGYN agrees and your body can handle it?
Excellent analysis sis👌
@@SekaSetswana I initially thought I would tray as soon as we got the go ahead but now I'm thinking of waiting for after 6months and that's just because I want to enjoy just her for a bit. But I would wait longer than a year. That's a long time. I haven't spoken to my doctor about it I was planning on doing so closer to the birth cause I hear from friends they usually give a contraceptive shot after delivery and I don't want that.
Exactly 🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾😞💕
@@HeyGabsterSD nodding. I remember I was asked what contraceptive I wanted and I said I'm okay. I completely understand how you feel about enjoying her. It's important to be ready. I remember Takkies crying that she felt guilty her pregnancy with #2 meant she couldn't pick up #1 and do things she used to do with #1. It was a raw emotion that I understand. Because I've got my own issues of having lost 3 immediate family members in 18 months. I am scared I'm next as there was no cause of death identified for my siblings. Hence I decided to speed things up just in case. So I definitely understand the importance of enjoying to satisfaction before pursuing #2. I look forward to witnessing your journey whatever you choose to share.
Signed,
Another geriatric
I hear you girl... But as an eldest girl yes nurturer is the expectation, and from the boys judging from our folks, financier is the expectation... Either way unfair expectation as I believe I just think siblings should be siblings and not be expected to be "responsible" for each other.. Of course they'll look out for each other naturally, but I think these "substitute parent" roles are unfairI think a bigger age gap makes things worse...So in my rationale I decided that I'd have a small age gap... Not more than 2years God willing so they can just be siblings and friends more than anything else.
You are right def right this expectations are really not fair. I also think a smaller gap would help to not create that too much.. As parents we need to work towards not putting those on our kids in all the ways we engage with them.
Totally share the same sentiments. I would definitely love it if being each others keeper came naturally for my children but I don't want any of they to feel the obligation to be the other's carer. And I feel the same way with me as a parent. I don't want my kids to ever feel obliged to take care of me by default as if that's what they are here for.
Daughters are the best - I have two. Once you hold that baby girl - I promise you the disappointment goes out the window😊❤️
Awww baby girls🤗🤗💕😍
It was very interesting to hear your sentiments on this topic. On the contrary I really wanted a girl as a first born. I remember the feeling of disappointment when they told me it was a boy but now I am happy it worked out that way. Even if at the end of the day when you want a child it really doesn't matter. But back to your views, it depends a lot on personality too. My daughter who is younger is more firm, assertive and is actually the one who 'protects' his big brother. The first born (boy) is the softer one. In my own family, the females are the 'stronger' ones regardless of birth order.
Oh a lovely change to the norm💕💕yes I think birth order can be a big factor but also personality and environment can turn those things around. I was just worried that the birth order would lay on those responsibilities despite who they are and I didn't want that for them.. But now it's my job to make sure it doesn't happen same as the last born shouldn't be allowed to get away with murder just because😂😂😂
Female strength is unbelievable and beautiful😍😍
#ahopefilledjourney coming to fruition more and more with each video. I am soooooo elated for you guys!! 💛☺️🐥🐣
🌻🍃
Thank yoh so very much. It is such a joy to see how each step makes it that much more real and possible🙏🏾💕
I told you it would happen eventually Gabster! Now look at you GLOWING🤗🤗🤗
Congrats to you and the hubby❤
Enjoy the journey to motherhood dear. God is great, you are blessed👏👌
God is trully great🙏🏾🙏🏾 as for glowing 😍😍😍thank you soo much for this and all the previous support and encouragement they really did help🤗💕
I'm so happy for you Gabby and Jimmy. ❤❤❤
Siyabongaaaaa🤗🤗💕☺️☺️❤️
😊This video had me smiling the entire time. I'm so happy and excited for your guys.
🤗🤗☺️☺️☺️Thank you